Tapping Q & A - Getting the most out of tapping and EFT

Support the podcast! This is Part 5 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. There is a part of us that wants to everything in exactly the right order, and that's because there are times in which the order we do tasks really matters, such as when baking a cake. But for most tasks or projects, there isn't an exact right order. There may be an overarching plan that needs to be followed, but it doesn't have to be done in exact steps. This concern about the right order of tasks can be a stumbling block to taking action because on some level we are worried about wasting energy and having to redo actions because we did them in the wrong order. This tap-along audio (with printable tapping script) will help you to trust the order in which you think you need to act, as well as helping you to get comfortable with the idea that taking actions one at a time will add up to success and that success isn't dependent on any one thing. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! This is Part 4 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. There are times when we have a clear vision of what we wish to do, but we are held back by our emotions. This part of us may be worried that our vision isn't right for us, that others don't believe in our vision, or we are mistrustful of our own inner guidance. This tap-along audio (with a printable tapping script below) will help you to trust in your inner guidance, trust your vision, and help you to take action even when those around you just don't get it. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! This is Part 3 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate  self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. When we are faced with doing something that we don't know how to do or that we don't have a great of experience with it is common that we won't take the action we what. This is because there is a part of us that want to protect us from failure AND when we don't know how to do something failure is much more likely. This tap-along audio (and script below) will help you to take action when you are feeling dumb, struggling because you don't know where to start, and that others will judge you because you don't know what action to take. Tapping to this will make it easier for you to trust yourself when you don't feel comfortable or competent with the tasks in front of you. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! This is Part 2 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate  self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. Allowing distractions, such as email or social media notifications, is one of the easiest ways to be unproductive. Distractions also come in the form of unruly thoughts rattling around in our heads. This tap-along audio (with a full printable script below the audio player) will help to calm your mind before you begin working, helping you to stay focused. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! This is part 1 of the 7 part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. It is difficult to take action when we don't have a clear vision for exactly what we want. When we are unclear we have to deal with both practical and emotional blocks to taking action. On a practical level it is difficult to take action where we don't know what because we aren't exactly sure what is the best action. A clear vision create a tangible goal, which leads to concrete steps to take and the order to take them. Without that we can struggle to know what the best most constructive actions are. On a subconscious level we prevent ourselves from taking action as a way of saving energy and effort. When we don't have a clear vision the subconscious worries that we might choose to take a action that isn't useful. It see that we don't know exactly what we want and know that any action we take is just a guess as to if it is a useful action. Therefore the subconscious prevents us from taking any action as way of making sure we don't to the wrong action. In this week's tap-along audio (and tapping script found below) we tap for being able to take action when we don't know exactly what we are moving towards. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Betrayal is unlike other emotions because it creates problems beyond the immediate pain we feel when we realize we have been betrayed. Betrayal also sows seeds of doubt at a subconscious level, which can create lasting physical and emotional problems. This week I have a conversation with Dr. Debi Silber who has dedicated her research and work to understanding how betrayal impacts us physically and emotionally. More importantly, she has also developed a process (Post Betrayal Transformation) to help heal those wounds. In this conversation we discuss the conditions required for betrayal to happen, how it impacts us, and the first steps towards healing. During the interview Debi refers to a short quiz that you can take to see if you are being impacted by a past betrayal. You can take the quiz here. Guest: Dr. Debi Silber Contact: web @ PBTInstitute.com About: Dr. Debi Silber, founder of PBT Institute is a Transformational Psychologist, and a health, mindset, empowerment and personal development expert. She is also a speaker, a coach and the author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis. Debi has contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, TEDx, The Huffington Post, Shape, Self, Health, Working Mother, Forbes, Psychology Today, WebMD, Yahoo Shine, Ladies Home Journal, MSN, Woman's World and Glamour. Her doctoral study led to two discoveries around how women experience and heal from betrayal. Based on her findings, along with 27 years of health, mindset and lifestyle coaching, she has created a multi-faceted approach to help women heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from the trauma of betrayal.

Support the podcast! I often hear from frustrated clients because they have tapped for an issue, but they haven't made any progress. When this happens they question whether tapping can help. The reality is that in many of these cases the issue isn't whether tapping will work, but instead what is the best way to tap for an issue. This week I have for you a simple four-step process to ensure you are tapping in the most effective way to get to the root cause of an issue. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! (For me) one of the hardest feeling is the feeling of being an outsider. When you are standing in a room full up people and you just don't feel like you belong. In side of your head your mind is spinning as you are imagining what all the other people in the room are thinking about you. AND none of it is good! In most cases, almost everyone is more worried about other think of them than they are thinking of you. Last weekend I found myself feeling exact this way. Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script for when you find yourself in the same situation.

Support the podcast! It can difficult when we see our loved ones making choices that aren't serving them. Because we have distance on the situation we are able to see the bigger picture in that way that they can't. What can be even more difficult is the fact that they aren't able to hear us (and hear our advice) because they are so deep in the weeds with the issue there is nothing we can say that they are going to hear. This week I have for you a simple process that you can tap to when wanting better for someone in your life. It is a process that is going to change them. They are responsible for their own change, but what it can do is create the space which will allow them to see the situation more clearly and allow them to make new choices. Not only do I have the simple step by step to do this process in the audio, but I have also included a link where you can download this process and 13 other tools for free.

Support the podcast! Sometimes I put off tapping because I don't feel I have enough time for an in-depth tapping session. But often you don't need much time to make a huge difference to how you are feeling. Recently I had a small physical issue that was more of an inconvenience than the cause of any great pain. I never thought to tap for it because it was so small. Eventually I got around to tapping for it, which was really effective and I couldn't believe I'd waited so long! Here's the simple three-step process I used. Give it a try!

Support the podcast! Many of our beliefs are held at a subconscious level and some of them do not serve us well. They may be inaccurate in the way we describe ourselves, our relationships, and the world and this inaccuracy causes us problems in daily life because subconsciously we believe them to be true. Once we identify these beliefs we can then use tapping to transform them into a clearer reflection of the way the world works. Beliefs that have been passed on to us by our loved ones are particularly hard to change. This is because part of us fears that if we let go of the belief, we will also be letting go of the person who gave it to us. Logically we know this isn't the case, but because this perception exists at a subconscious level it can slow or even halt our progress. This week I have a simple process you can use to transform the beliefs that have been passed on by others, with a tap-along section at the end. In the audio I also share with you how you can get a free written version of this tool, the tapping script, and 13 other great tapping tools.

Support the podcast! For some reason, certain situations and certain people just push our buttons, despite knowing logically that our response is irrational and shouldn't elicit as much emotion as we feel. In this week's podcast I share with you a simple 7-step process you can use when you are having your buttons pushed. In the audio I also share with you how you can get a free printed version of this tool (and 13 others).

Support the podcast! Our relationships are living, breathing organisms, alive with the constant dynamic of give and take. At times there is a lot more give than take. This can affect our feelings about the relationship, about the other person in the relationship, and can even have a detrimental effect on our other relationships At this year's Spring Energy Event, held just outside NYC, I shared how our relationships impact us and 5 simple tools you can use to cultivate healthier, stronger relationships. This podcast is a recording of my 35 minute presentation. We would love to see you at next year's event. You can sign up to receive recordings from past events and information about next year's SpringEnergyEvent.com.

Support the podcast In last week's podcast I talked about (and shared the scientific evidence) as to why it can be useful to swear while tapping. Even if we accept that swearing is useful, it doesn't necessarily mean that we are comfortable doing it. When I say uncomfortable I don't mean in terms of using swear words. Instead, we may feel bad because we are angry at all. Anger feels like such a strong and primitive emotion that we may believe that we should be above it and feeling angry represents some sort of personal failing. Feeling angry from time to time is both natural and healthy. This week we are going to tap for being OK with the fact that we sometimes feel anger. (As always, the full tapping script can be found below the audio player.) Subscribe in : Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast Did you know that swearing is good for you? And I don't mean just swearing for the sake of it, but there are a number of contexts in which scientific research has shown it is actually good for you. It can help to manage pain, build comradery, and release stress. It can also be a powerful tool in helping you to tune into your emotions while tapping. Recently Emma Byrne combined her own research into the power of using curse words with the large body of other research on the same subject into a new book Swearing Is Good for You: The Amazing Science of Bad Language. I have taken all of the pertinent information as it relates to tapping and have included it in this week's podcast. I explain why swearing is good for you and how you can get the most out of tapping by swearing while you tap. Apple | Android | Spotify

Win a free one-on-one session with Gene! Support the podcast One of the situations that my clients struggle with the most is dealing with the expectations of their loved ones. Our loved ones want what is best for us, but they want what is best of us in terms of what they think will make us happy. Often what they think will make us happy and what will actually make us happy are totally different. Difficulties arise when going against the expectations of our loved ones feels like a violation of the relationship and the trust inside it. When we fear hurting people in this way, either we do what they want OR we don't follow through on what we want, and remain stuck. This means that we fail to move forward AND we can end up feeling resentful towards the people we love for holding us back. This week I have a simple tap-along that will help you to respect and honor what others want while also being able to make the choices that are right for you based on what you want or need. The full tapping script can be found below the player. Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast We all know that tapping is a powerful tool when we are in pain, distress, and discomfort. Did you know it can also be a useful tool when we are celebrating success? The reason for this is because it is common to feel a number of negative emotions at the exact same time as feeling happy and successful. It is possible to feel: That we are not worthy of success Uncomfortable in the spotlight of attention that success can bring Under pressure to always be successful Anxious that our success was just down to luck and people will find out that we are an imposter That it's greedy or immodest to crave success and we should keep our head down and work harder If any of these feelings are present, when we feel successful we will subconsciously want to avoid success in the future. Here is a simple tap-along audio that will help you get comfortable with feeling successful and allow for more success in future. A full tapping script of the audio can be found below the player. Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast Recently I was listening to the actor and comedian Dan Van Kirk being interviewed on Kevin Pollak's Chat Show podcast. Dan told the story of his career path, moving from rural Illinois to LA, then to Chicago, and finally back to LA where he ultimately found success. Dan described the choices he made early in his career and why he made them: I have this thing, if it's not true north, get the arrow going that direction as much as you can. Conan O'Brien was on Charlie Rose...and he said "Identify the thing you want to do with your life and go to the place they make that, whether it is crayons or kool aid. It doesn't matter. When you get there, do whatever you can to be around that, whether that is making coffee or taking out the trash." Because he just believed in the proximity to molecules. And if you're a good person and you work and you can get the arrow in the direction of north as much as possible, it's gonna work out. There is nothing that is going to say you're going to get to be on stage at the Golden Globes, but you probably won't hate your life either." I love the idea that if there isn't an obvious path to your goal, find the path to the place that is closest to your goal and follow it. The problem is that taking action in the direction of something that isn't our goal and isn't certain can be scary. This week I have a tap-along to help you to take action in the direction of your goal, even when you aren't sure it is the right step. You can find the full tapping script below the audio player. Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast Sharing EFT/Tapping with our loved ones can be a difficult task, mostly because it is kind of weird. Talking about tapping in a way that others will listen to is a skill. This week I have a conversation with someone who has mastered this conversation. Robin Bilazarian is a licensed mental health professional who has been tapping with her clients for over 20 years. In addition to her private practice she currently works 20 hours a week serving the staff of an urban hospital. Because of the challenging nature of the work, the staff are required to see one of the mental health professionals. That means Robin works regularly with people who have NOT come to her because she is a tapping practitioner. In fact most of her clients at the hospital have never heard of tapping before walking into her office. In our conversation Robin and I talk about the best ways to share tapping. If you are interested in sharing the good word of tapping with others, this podcast is a must listen. Apple | Android | Spotify Guest: Robin Bilazarian Contact: web at RobinEFT.net About Robin: Robin is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker(LCSW), a Diplomat of Clinical Social Work ((DCSW), a Diplomate of Energy Psychology (DCEP) and an AAMET International EFT Trainer. She obtained her BA from The University of Massachusetts and her MSW from the University of Pennsylvania and University of North Carolina/Chapel Hill Schools of Social Work. Her internships were at Duke University Psychiatric Outpatient Clinic and Philadelphia State Hospital. Robin has years of experience in working with all aspects of mental health, family and EAP counseling. She is a psychotherapist in private practice and with an EAP in a regional trauma hospital. For the past 10 years she has been passionate about running workshops to share the knowledge obtained from a productive career in counseling others.

Support the podcast! As much as we would like to share tapping with our friends and family, it is not something that we can share with young children. Young children do not have the focus and ability to tap, and infants are clearly unable. This does not mean that they can't benefit from tapping because it is possible for us to tap on their behalf, which is known as "surrogate tapping". In this conversation Dawn Pensack and I talk about the fundamentals of surrogate tapping and best ways to do it for the children in our lives. Apple | Android | Spotify Guest: Dawn Pensack Contact: web @ DawnPensack.com; facebook @ DawnPensackEFT/ About Dawn: Dawn combined her years of working with children as a math teacher, her strong desire to bring happiness to families, and her love of spreading emotional management into a wellness business that helps her fulfill her true purpose on a daily basis. Dawn works with parents who are struggling to have it all – a life, a career or business, and a family in the midst of a chaotic world. She reminds her clients that while it may not be easy, it's possible to be the parent you want to be with the right tools and support. She teaches her clients that you have to first love yourself and each other before you can have happy, healthy kids. To create the family of your dreams, you have to light the fire with inner peace and sustain it with the kindling of peaceful parenting. Her step-by-step method is research based and proven to work, and the support that she offers makes implementing feel possible.

Support the podcast In our modern world it is so easy to become disconnected from our bodies, especially as most of us spend our days seated at desks, rather than engaged in any kind of physical labor. When we take the time to tune into our bodies, we can access a wealth information that we can use to improve our health and wellbeing. In this conversation Deborah Miller and I talk about how we can better tune into our physical bodies, how to interpret physical sensations, and then how to respond with tapping to this information to become healthier and happier. Everything we share is easy to understand and simple to implement, so you can feel better right away. Apple | Android | Spotify Where is the pain located? Be as specific as possible when describing the location. For example don't write "my right knee" but "on the front of my right knee on the knee cap." The more specific the better. What type of pain is it? Is it dull, sharp, achy, pulsing, itchy, or hot? The more detailed the description the better. What is the Subject Unit of Distress lever? This is a rating from 0–10 of the pain. 0 is no pain at all and 10 is the worst pain you have ever felt. Don't get too hung up on coming up with exactly the right number. What is the 3D shape of the pain? Is it flat on the surface of the skin, does it feel like a ball of pain, is it a long strip of tightness that runs the length of the muscle, or does it have a round center with tentacles of pain spreading out in all directions? Again, the more detail you can provide the better. Is there an epicenter to the pain and where is it located? Is the pain evenly distributed? Does it have more than one center with the rest fanning out? How much does the pain weigh? If you were to guess and pretend that you could hold the pain in your hand, how much would it weigh? You don't need to know exact pounds, but does it weigh as much as a grapefruit, a steel rod, or is it as light as a feather? If you were to paint a picture of the pain to show to someone else what color or colors would you use? Be specific. Don't just write red. Is it fire truck red or rust red? Is it red in the middle and fading to light blues as you get to edge of the pain? Describe the color in as much detail as possible. If you were to make a model of this pain what material would you use to make it? Would it be a ball of hard rubber, burning lava, metal wire, or does it feel like a mass of cotton candy? Image a little cartoon face on the front of the pain. If it could talk, what would it say? It might say something specific, it might scream in pain, or it might just stick its tongue out at you. Give it a voice and what would it say? What does the pain remind you of? Just write the first thing that comes to mind. It could be a person, a place, or a situation. What emotion is associated with the pain? Again, don't give this a lot of thought, just the first thing that comes to mind. What memory is associated with the pain? There may not be one, but when you read that question, what is the first thing that came to mind? Is the pain associated with someone? Don't think about this too much, but who comes to mind and why? What does the pain need? Does it need to be heard? Does it need you to do something? Just ask the pain, what does it need, and write the answer down. What does the pain want you to learn? It might not want you to learn anything, but ask the pain what it needs. Guest: Deborah D. Miller PhD Contact Deborah: website and Tapping Guides @ DeborahMiller.org About Deborah: Deborah D. Miller, Ph.D. in Cell and Molecular Biology is passionate about helping people feel empowered and capable of maintaining a healthy state of mind and body. Deborah is an EFT Expert and Trainer, Deeksha Giver, Reiki Master, Nutritional Guide, Personal Motivation Guide and internationally recognized author. She understands the necessity of working with the emotional aspects underlying 'dis-ease' within the body and the need to cleanse and nourish the physical body. Her personal journey of improving her own immune system gives her hands-on experience of the requirements for improving one's energy levels and health. Deborah volunteers at a children's cancer wing in Oaxaca, Mexico, applying EFT and energy techniques to the children, parents and nurses helping them reduce stress, fear and anxiety while improving their mental and emotional health in a way that is complementary to the treatments given at the hospital. Helping these children has led Deborah to a heart-felt, passionate and inspired goal. She is dedicating herself to helping at least 1,000,000 men, women and children prevent future illness (mental, emotional or physical) using the simplest, easiest and most economical methods. Tap, eat and drink your way to health! Deborah is the author of the beautifully illustrated book "Tap It ... ALL Better Now!", (English: book | kindle; Español: libro | Kindle en Español; Français: livre) which is dedicated to empowering parent

Support the podcast Recently I made a mistake and I hurt my friend "Dave". That mistake caused him a lot of trouble. In addition to being mad at me for making the mistake (which he had every right to be), Dave was also mad at me because he thought I had taken advantage of him. Because I knew him so well, he thought I'd used that knowledge against him to get what I wanted. It simply wasn't true. I had made a mistake, but I hadn't done anything malicious or intentional. Dave didn't give me a chance to explain myself and left thinking I was a selfish, mean person. This week's audio is the tapping I did after this happened. This is me in real time dealing with my emotions because a friend thought ill of me. Even if this isn't an issue you are dealing with right now, you might find it instructive to hear me dealing with something in real time, and it just might be useful in future. There is also a text version of the tapping script below the audio player. Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! A few weeks ago in Podcast 299 I shared with you a simple way to use intentions at the beginning of every day as gentle way of taking more positive action throughout the day. I heard from a number of clients who tried the process and struggled to use it. One described how when she sat down to tap, she completely went blank. Not just for the tapping phrases, but she couldn't remember the type of progress she wanted to achieve. As unbelievable as it might seem, our system can put up resistance to our progress because on some level it believes it is unsafe for us to change and move forward. If there is a subconscious belief that progress is dangerous, it will do everything in its power to hold us back. In this audio I demonstrate how to tap when there is a part of us that thinks progress is unsafe. (I have included the text version of the tapping script under the audio player below.) Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the Podcast Sometimes we tap with the aim of just feeling better, without a clear focus for our tapping. We might feel unsettled or out of sorts, but not in a precise way. From a tapping point of view this can pose a problem because often the best results come when we are very specific about an issue. When this happens to me, I have a simple way to tap for peace, calm, and tranquility. Here is a tap-along audio that's perfect for those times and will help bring you peace. (Full tapping script below the audio player.) Apple | Android | Spotify I recognize the fact that I am not at peace...I have thoughts buzzing in my head...I have tension in my body...I have the distraction of all of the things I need to do...I appreciate the fact that I live in the modern world...And there is busyness...I also acknowledge the modern world is not my enemy...Busyness is not my enemy... But they do make it difficult for me to find peace...They do make it difficult for me to find calm...I give my system permission to release and let go of any tension held in my body...Knowing that whatever information is in that tension is information that I can understand in another way...When that tension melts away...I am fully grounded in my body...I can respond to what I need to respond to...In an easy and effective way...I give myself permission to be fully present in my body...To know that it is safe for me to be fully present in my body...I give myself permission to relax...I give myself permission to be in my body in this moment...I also acknowledge that my mind is buzzing...Filled with ideas and thoughts that are trying to get my attention...Part of me doesn't want to let these go...Because if I let them go I will forget...I know that if something is important...It will come back...It will be fully present in my mind...In this moment I am allowed to be calm...I'm allowed to be still...I'm allowed to be mentally fully present in this moment...As I reach for this stillness...There is no other goal than being still in this moment...I'm not trying to achieve something at this time...Other than letting go...That will allow me to be at peace...That will allow me to be calm...That will allow me to relax and let go...I give myself permission to relax in this moment...And in doing so to be at peace.

Support the podcast! Quit has become a dirty word. American football coach Vince Lombardi is credited with saying that "Winners never quit and quitters never win!" Early in the movie "Molly's Game" (based on the life of Molly Bloom) there is a flashback to Molly's childhood and a session training to be a competitive skier. After hours of training she asks her father (who is also her coach) if she can quit because she is tired. Her father replies that she can quit only after she gives him a synonym for tired. She thinks about it for a moment and says "weak". Feeling defeated she heads back up the hill to keep training. There is a deeply ingrained mentality in our culture that honors pushing through, in working hard, in overcoming difficult times. The problem is that there are many tasks, activities, and commitments that we should quit. Sometimes the projects we start aren't what we thought they would be, do not give us the returns we expected, take way longer than we planned, or we have just plain outgrown them. It is OK to let go of commitments that no longer serve us! More than likely you felt some resistance as you read that last line. If that is the case, this is the perfect tap-along for you. Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! The beginning of a new year provides a great opportunity to reset and refocus. Even though I am not the biggest fan of New Year's resolutions, I have found a way to make a small commitment to tapping each day that is making huge changes in the way that I behave and feel. In this audio I share with you how I have used tapping for a simple intention at the beginning of my day to create this change. The reason I love this process so much is because it doesn't require a complicated plan. It simply unfolds right in front of you, day by day. This recording is of me doing the process to start the new year. Subscribe to the podcast: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Recently my friend Jake Khym was being interviewed on a podcast and he brought up the idea of "the art of love." He talked about how being loving is a not only a skill, but a skill at which we can get better. There wasn't the time in that particular interview for him to go into detail about this idea, but I was fascinated and needed to hear more. So this week's podcast is exactly that. Jake takes the time to explain how he approaches love as a skill, the four parts of the skill that we can improve, and specifically how we can improve at loving. I know this topic isn't exactly about tapping, but most people are drawn to tapping because they want to live a fuller and richer life. Being better at loving is one of the ways to improve our lives AND the skilled tapper will find a number of tappable issues related to the conversation. Guest: Jake Khym, BA, MA, RCC, CCC Contact: web @ Life Restoration; twitter @jakekhym About Jake: Jake offers inspiring and practical presentations throughout North America on many topics including the practical application of Christian psychology. Jake holds a BA in Theology and a Masters in Counselling Psychology. After working for almost 10 years in lay ministry, Jake has his own counselling practice and co-directs Life Restoration, a Catholic ministry offering restoration through counselling, workshops, and conferences. Jake and his wife Heather with their three children, Maria, Judah, and Eva, live in British Columbia, Canada.

Support the podcast! One of my favorite ways to use tapping is to remove whatever is standing in the way of taking action towards creating the life we desire. In this conversation with my friend Kris Ferraro, we go through a simple step-by-step process she has created to help you get clarity about what you want, how to identify the emotional blocks you have to taking action, and how to tap for those blocks. Kris has also created a handout you can use to follow the process. Download it here. Interview with Linda Woods mentioned by Kris. Guest: Kris Ferraro Contact: web @ KrisFerraro.com/; email @ [email protected] About: Kris Ferraro is an Energy Coach, speaker and teacher based in northern NJ. She is the creator of Spiritual Freedom Techniques, a series of practices that combine ancient wisdom with EFT for transformation. Kris is a "true believer" in our innate ability to heal and helps clients step into their power and purpose.

Click here to support the podcast Tapping for pain and distress is easy. You can name exactly what is wrong (the pain) and you have a clear idea of what you want (relief). Tapping to create a life that we love can be a little bit tricker because we are often unsure of exactly what we want that life to be like. My friend Gregg Levoy refers to this idea of creating the life we were made for as a calling, as if our soul is calling us towards fulfilment. Once we have a clear idea of our calling, we can use tapping to help us work towards it. In this conversation Gregg and I talk about what exactly a calling is and how to get clarity about it in your own life. In addition, I have added four easy ways in which you can use tapping to gain clarity about your calling by clearing the blocks standing in the way of taking positive action. Guest: Gregg Levoy Contact: web @ GreggLevoy.com About Gregg: Gregg Levoy is the author of Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion, and the bestselling Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life rated among the "Top 20 Career Publications" by the Workforce Information Group. He has presented lectures and seminars for the Smithsonian Institution, Environmental Protection Agency, Microsoft, National Conference on Positive Aging, American Counseling Association, National Career Development Association, and others, and been a frequent guest of the media, including ABC-TV, CNN, NPR and PBS. A former adjunct professor of journalism at the University of New Mexico, and former columnist and reporter for USA Today and the Cincinnati Enquirer, he has written for the New York Times Magazine, Washington Post, Omni, Psychology Today, Reader's Digest, and many others.

Support the podcast! One the main reasons that we don't do the tapping we know would be useful is that we don't know where to begin. We have a general idea that something isn't right, but we can't quite put our finger on it. When we are in this situation tapping feels like a giant waste of time. This week I have a conversation with EFT Founding Master Gwyneth Moss about what to do when we don't know what to tap on or where to start. If you follow her simple advice, you will make great progress with your tapping! Guest: Gwyneth Moss Contact: web @ EFThelps.com; email @ contact form; web @ Annual EFT Gathering About Gwyneth: Gwyneth Moss is one of the original EFT Masters and the founder of the EFT Gathering annual community conference which has run since 2009. With a degree in Physics and an MBA she is known for the clarity and depth of her teaching style and for her innovative techniques which include EFT Imagineering; Protective Distancing; Projection Tapping; The Surrogate EFT Protocol and more. Gwyneth teaches EFT in the glorious countryside of Yorkshire and at Esalen, Big Sur, CA.

Support the podcast by clicking here Taking action can be very difficult when we aren't exactly sure of our direction or what we think should be happening next. The problem is that it is hard to tap for clarity because we aren't trying to remove a feeling of discomfort or a block that is in the way. We are just missing something we want. In this conversation with EFT Master Carol Look we talk about how to tap for more clarity and its power. We even do a little tapping for clarity in the interview, which makes taking action much easier. Guest: Dr. Carol Look Contact: web @ CarolLook.com; twitter @CarolLookEFT; About Carol: A pioneer in the Energy Psychology field, Dr. Carol Look has brought unprecedented innovations to the application of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), and has produced outstanding results for her clients around the world. Don't forget to check out all of Carol's other podcast interviews

Support the podcast! Almost daily I receive an email asking something along the lines of, "What is the best way to tap for [insert issue]?" It's great that people are looking for the most effect ways to clear an issue, but sometimes I think this question can be problematic. In this audio I explore the question of the best way to tap. What I share here will help even the most experienced tapper to tap in a more effective way.

Support the podcast When working with my clients one-on-one, we usually spend a lot of time tapping for the world views and beliefs that have been passed along from parents. It makes good sense that we pick up the beliefs of our parents because they are usually our closest relationships. Mark Wolynn's work looks at how we inherit our parents' beliefs, not through the day-to-day of living with them, but genetically as a result of the trauma experienced by past generations. This idea emerged just over a decade ago and there is now a large body of scientific evidence in support of it. In the interview Mark explains how trauma is passed on genetically in our DNA, how we can identify the traumas that have been passed down, and what we can do to clear them. If you find this topic interesting, check out Mark's book IT DIDN'T START WITH YOU: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle, which contains a much more comprehensive conversation on how you can identify and clear inherited traumas. It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle Paperback Guest: Mark Wolynn Contact: web @ MarkWolynn.com; facebook @ Mark Wolynn About: Mark Wolynn, director of The Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, is a leading expert in the field of inherited family trauma. A sought-after lecturer, he has taught at the University of Pittsburgh, the Western Psychiatric Institute, Kripalu, The Omega Institute, The New York Open Center, and The California Institute of Integral Studies. Mark specializes in working with depression, anxiety, obsessive thoughts, fears, panic disorders, self-injury, chronic pain and persistent symptoms and conditions. His book IT DIDN'T START WITH YOU: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle (Viking/Penguin) is the winner of the 2016 Nautilus Book Award in psychology. His articles have appeared in Psychology Today, Mind Body Green, MariaShriver.com, Elephant Journal, and Psych Central.

Support the podcast! EFT and tapping are powerful tools in the face of strong emotions in the moment. It is amazing how quickly we can feel better just by tapping without words as we are experiencing difficult or overwhelming feelings. Some events are so big, however, that they bring emotions that need be dealt with both before and afterwards and for these a more strategic plan is needed. Recently, Gwenn Bonnell and her family lived through a major hurricane. Knowing that the hurricane was coming meant they had to deal with the anxiety of the unknown ahead of time. They then lived through it and also had to deal with the aftermath. In this conversation Gwen talks about how she tapped before, during, and after the hurricane. The tools she shares can be used for anything that uproots your life either directly (like a natural disaster) or indirectly (a mass shooting in another part of the world). Guest: Gwenn Bonnell Contact Gwenn: web @ TapIntoHeaven.com; web @ TapAwayPain.com; email @ [email protected]; phone @ 954 370 1552 About Gwenn: Gwenn is a writer, teacher and lecturer. She offers private sessions and training and workshops at Heaven On Earth in Davie, Florida. A graduate of the College of Health and Human Development, Penn State University, she is a member of ACEP, the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology, and has trained personally with Gary Craig (developer of EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques), Dr. Larry Nims (BSFF, Be Set Free Fast), Tapas Fleming (TAT, Tapas Acupressure Techniques), Donna Eden and David Feinstein (Energy Medicine), Sandi Radomski (Allergy Antidotes), Alan Handelsman (Muscle Testing), Paul Burdelski (Touch for Health), and Piilani (Huna Kane).

Support the podcast! Back in April I talked with Dr. Peta Stapleton about the scientific research that she has done over the last decade on the efficacy of tapping. In our last interview Peta talked about how she and her team had just been given access to an fMRI (functional magnetic resonance imaging) machine for their research. Using an fMRI machine allows them to see the impact that tapping and EFT have on the brain. In this interview we get an update on how they are using the fMRI machine, what they have learned so far, and what they will be testing in the future. Make sure you check out our original conversation about the research around tapping. Also, at the bottom of this page you will find links to many of the scientific papers that Peta has published with evidence that tapping works. Guest: Dr. Peta Stapleton Contact: web @ PetaStapleton.com; twitter @PetaStapleton; instagram @petastapleton About: Dr. Peta Stapleton has 22 years of experience as a registered Clinical and Health Psychologist in the State of Queensland, Australia and has completed a Bachelor of Arts, Postgraduate Diploma of Professional Psychology and Doctor of Philosophy. Peta held academic positions at Griffith University for 14 years, teaching and coordinating psychological research trials into new therapies in the area of obesity and weight management and is now Associate Professor in Psychology at Bond University. Peta regularly contributes to the academic field with publications in the areas of nursing, morale, communication, psychological interventions and eating disorders. She regularly reviews for academic journals and offers supervision for new and existing Psychologists as well as students. Here is a list of published research papers which Peta has authored or co-authored about EFT: Emotional freedom techniques in the treatment of unhealthy eating behaviors and related psychological constructs in adolescents: A randomized controlled pilot trial Food for Thought: A randomised controlled trial of emotional freedom techniques and cognitive behavioural therapy in the treatment of food cravings The effectiveness of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Emotional Freedom Techniques in reducing depression and anxiety among adults: A pilot study Depression Symptoms Improve after Successful Weight Loss with Emotional Freedom Techniques Quitting Smoking: How to Use Emotional Freedom Techniques Practical application of Emotional Freedom Techniques for food cravings

Did you know you can support the podcast to make it better? It is a little known fact that there are approximately 40,000 neurons in the human heart and around 500 million in our stomachs. Together these neurons are sometimes referred to as "little brains". The heart and stomach are connected to each other and to our brains via the vagus nerve. 80% of the information traveling on this path goes from the stomach and heart to the brain. This means that a huge amount of information comes from the neurons of the stomach and heart to the brain, helping us to make choices all day long. On some level we already know this because we use phrases like "I have this gut feeling that..." or "My heart is tell me to…" The process of mBraining uses this information in a deliberate way to create healing and transformation. Andy Bryce and his wife Maxine are certified in mBraining and are the first people in the world to combine it with tapping. In this interview Andy talks about mBraining, how it can be combined with tapping, and he gives a demonstration where he works with me on an issue I am struggling with. Guest: Andy Bryce Contact: Web @ TappingThrough.com; Email @ [email protected]; Twitter @eftandybryce; Facebook @ EFTAndyBryce About Andy: Andy Bryce has been working with personal growth, well being and emotional resilience for over thirty years. For the last seventeen years, his primary toolkit has been Emotional Freedom Techniques. In 2006, Andy was certified as one of only 30 EFT Master Practitioners worldwide. Andy is also a certified mBraining Coach and P.E.T. practitioner. Andy is a past Director of Training for AAMET, and has trained EFT practitioners in Belgium, France, Canada, USA, Mexico, Australia, Italy, Greece, South Africa and the UK as a Trainer of Trainers.

My friend Pamela Bruner often says that "Small business ownership is the master's degree of personal development." The reason she says this is because when we own a business, we are constantly being pushed to do tasks that make us uncomfortable. And because we are constantly in these situations, we have many opportunities to lean head on into the underlying issues that hold us back from taking action. Pamela is a firm believer that mindset work is essential and fundamental to being successful in business. In this conversation we talk about the most common mindset issues experienced by small business owners, and the easiest ways to address them with tapping. Support the podcast! Guest: Pamela Bruner Contact: web @ MakeYourSuccessReal.com, twitter @ PamelaBruner, facebook @ MakeYourSuccessEasy; phone @ 888-403-4057 About Pamela: Pamela Bruner is a Business Success Coach, author, speaker, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) expert. After removing her own marketing fears to grow her business from \(375/month to a \)1,000,000 in less than three years, Pamela specializes in working with conscious entrepreneurs to build six- and seven-figure businesses by removing their fears and blocks around marketing and sales. She is co-author of 'EFT and Beyond – Cutting Edge Techniques for Personal Transformation', and is the co-author of the book and DVD 'Tapping into Ultimate Success' with Jack Canfield, author of 'Chicken Soup for the Soul'.

Support the podcast! One of the phrases that my clients find hardest to use in their tapping is, "I give myself permission to be easy and gentle with myself". The reason they find it difficult is because it feels as if it's giving themselves permission to do less work, not to try, or to be satisfied with something that is less than. Recently I had conversation with one of my clients who reported struggling with using that phrase, even though she recognized it would be useful. Below is the recording of that conversation, used with her permission. In the conversation we cover why it is useful to use the phrase and the many reasons why we resist doing so, as well as how we can position ourselves for great healing by tapping with the phrase. As an added bonus, you have the opportunity to hear me working one-on-one with a client in real time, which I hope you will find instructional.

Support the podcast! Money Event! It is amazing how effective our system is at finding ways to feel better. When something is wrong (even when we aren't consciously aware of it), the system starts to take steps to feel better. The problem is that our system is geared to react with short term solutions. Its only concern is to stop the discomfort right now, so it isn't motivated to make good long term choices. For example, when I am highly stressed I start to crave ice cream (particularly cookies and cream flavor). When I eat the ice creamy goodness, my body is flooded with all the biochemicals that come along with digesting a lot of sugar. In the short term, I stop feeling overwhelmed. If I keep making these choices in the long term, it becomes very unhealthy. In this conversation with Manal Khalife we talk about why we make self-medicating choices, the surprising types of self-medicating choices we can make, and how we can stop them. Guest: Manal Khalife Book: Food, Drugs & Love: How to Stop Escaping & Start Living Contact: Web @ ManalKhalife.com/; twiter @ iammanalk; facebook @ iammanalk; About: Manal Khalife is a Stress and Emotions Coach, helping women who want to learn how to handle stress, let go of emotional pain, make peace with past experiences, and move forward with confidence. She specializes in working with postpartum depression.

Uncomplicate Your Relationship With Money Support the podcast! Dealing with money is a fact of life. We can't live without it. In the best of all possible worlds money would be perceived just as a tool that helps us to fulfill our daily needs. The problem is that on an emotional level we don't perceive money as simply a tool. Instead, we write stories about ourselves in terms of our relationship with money. Not having money can mean that we don't feel worthy. If do have money, we feel like we are being greedy. It is as if we can't win. No matter how much money we do or don't have, we write a negative story about ourselves. This week I have a conversation with Brad Yates about how we can uncover the past experiences responsible for the conscious and unconscious stories we tell around money. We also talk about the first steps we can take to tap for these stories. Guest: Brad Yates Contact: twitter @EFTWizard; web @ TapWithBrad.com; facebook @ facebook.com/BradYatesTapping About Brad: Brad has had the privilege and pleasure of working with a diverse group of clients, from CEOs to professional and NCAA athletes, from chiropractors and psychiatrists to corporate and federal attorneys, from award-winning actors to residents at a program for homeless men and women in Santa Monica. For several years he taught a weekly class using EFT and guided imagery at Sacramento Drug Court. He has also been a presenter at a number of events, including several International Energy Psychology Conferences and the Walk On Water (WOW) Fest in Los Angeles. He has presented at Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success event, and has done teleseminars with "The Secret" stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale. He is also the co-author of the best-seller "Freedom at Your Fingertips," a featured expert in the film "Try It On Everything" (along with Jack Canfield, Bob Proctor, Dr. Norman Shealy and Dr. Bruce Lipton), and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows.

There is a very common struggle that caregivers have. It is that they are notoriously bad taking care of themselves. If you have been around the self-help world for any amount of time, this is not going to come as a surprise to you. What might be surprising is that one of the places that this lack of self care shows up in the way that caregivers struggle with money. In this conversation with Melissa Lester we talk about why caregivers struggle with self care and struggle with their relationships to money and what we can do about it. Melissa is one of the hosts of the event Improve Your Relationship With Money which is happening in November in Orlando. I am going to be one of the speakers at this event and I would love to see you there. Full details. Support the podcast! Guest: Melissa Lester Olson, LCSW Contact:* Web @ melissalesterlcsw.com; Email @ here; Phone @ 770-313-7768; Bio: Melissa Lester is a therapist and EFT Practitioner in Atlanta, GA. Melissa specializes in working with women issues especially Binge Eating Disorder, LGBTQ Issues, Coming Out Later in Life, Family of Origin issues, Relationship issues, Anxiety, Depression and Stress.

Support the podcast! I might seem counter intuitive, but there are three good reasons to why our loved ones don't want us to heal and transform. This can even be true for the people in our lives who are vocally supportive of us. In most cases this lack of support from our loved ones is happening on a subconscious level. This week in the podcast I talk about the three reasons why our loved ones don't want us to change and I provide a tap along audio for each of the reasons. You can also find the tapping scripts written out below the audio player. (Did you know that you can take many of the tapping script with you through the free Tapping Q&A app? Download it here: Apple App | Google/Android App)

Join me at "Uncomplicate Your Relationship With Money" Support the podcast! Desire can be a double edged sword. When we want something that we don't have, but see others with it we feel left out. In some cases we even feel as if we are not as worthy or not as valuable as others because they have it and we don't. On the other hand we can feel bad for having desires as all. When we have desires we can beat ourselves up for being ungrateful and unappreciative for what we have. What I find most amazing is the fact that we can feel both of these emotions at the same time. We can feel bad for not having what we want AND we can feel bad for wanting more. This week I have a tap-along audio and script to respond to both ends of the emotional struggle with desire.

Join me at "Uncomplicate Your Relationship With Money" Support the podcast! Tapping for negative past experiences is often the easiest kind of tapping because we know the details of the past experience. While tapping we have the opportunity to state exactly what happened, how we interpret those events, how we felt about them back then, and how we feel now. No matter how long we have to tap to find relief, the tapping itself is straightforward. Tapping for the emotion of dread can be much less straightforward. Dread is a worry about the future and, since the future is unknown, it is much harder to find specific details to tap for. Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script to help you to tap for dread. I recorded the audio while I was in the grip of feeling dread myself, so you have the opportunity to experience the way I tap when dealing with an issue firsthand.

Support the podcast! Why do you tap? It seems like such a silly question to consider. Obviously (!) we tap to make ourselves feel better, remove pain, to be healthier, and to create a more enjoyable life. I don't disagree with any of those ideas. In a global way that is why I use Emotional Freedom Techniques as well. But it doesn't get to the heart of the reason why we tap. For me, there is a simple underlying principle that informs how I understand change, where to start when working with an issue, and how I can evaluate the long term success of tapping. I am always trying to get better at what I do. In order to do that I need constantly to re-evaluate and challenge my own assumptions. I would love to hear your thoughts on this idea in the comments below. Your feedback will make me a better practitioner.

Support the podcast! One of the first techniques that any good tapper learns is the "movie technique". In the movie technique you replay the details of a past event in your mind, as if you are watching them in a film. As you replay the past events, the moment you get to an emotion in the memory, you stop and tap for the emotion. This is a very effective way of clearing the emotions from a past event. The problem is that there are often more emotions that need to be cleared than just the ones that show up while you are replaying the past memory. Not only do we need to deal with what happened, but we also need to clear the emotions we feel today as we think about that past event. Here is a simple technique to make sure you are clearing the emotional baggage from the past memory AND also clearing your relationship to the past.

Support the podcast! People with a kind heart and helping disposition are often those who have the hardest time reaching out for help. This can happen for reasons ranging from not wanting to be a burden to others, to believing that since we possess the tools of healing, we are responsible for taking care of ourselves. Everyone (and I mean everyone) needs help from the outside. We can't and aren't meant to go it alone. This week I have a tap-along audio and tapping script for those who find it difficult to ask for help or to accept help when it is offered.

Support the podcast! It would be great if we could find a solution for every problem. But that is simply not possible. Some illness can't be cured. Death is inevitable. There are even times when solutions are available, but for a variety of complex reasons our loved ones aren't willing or able to choose change. Whether there is no clear solution or the solution isn't being chosen, it can leave you feeling helpless and heartbroken.

Support the podcast! There is a huge difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it. Just because tapping is a powerful tool doesn't mean that you will always remember to reach for it in times of emotional distress. When my clients are recounting something from the previous week that was hard, I ask them if they tried tapping for the issue. They usually reply somewhat sheepishly, "No… I forgot." My aim is not to try to shame them by asking that question. I just want to know what happened so we can do the best work in the moment. We set amazingly high standards for ourselves. Part of us believes that if we know how to do something, then we must be perfect at it every time. That is simply not the case. It takes time for new skills to become a habit. But we are human beings and we simply aren't perfect, meaning that we don't always reach for the right tool. Below you will find a tap-along audio and tapping script to help you to be easier with yourself when you aren't doing the action you want to take perfectly. When tapping like this we are not excusing ourselves from not making the best choices, but instead making sure that we understand why we don't always make the best choices. Right now, think of an area in your life where you are beating yourself up because you aren't doing it well enough, and tap for it. Not only will you feel better, but it will be easier to take positive action.

Unfortunately, death is an unfortunate fact of life. Even with the passing of a loved one is expected it is an emotionally difficult experience. When we are facing the emotions that come after the death of a loved one, the goal is not to eliminate all of our emotion. Sadness is appropriate. Sadness is healthy. Instead we can tap to make sure that we are have proportional well informed emotions. The tap-along audio and script that you can find below is perfect any time you are feeling the pain of the death of a loved one. It could be right when it happened, on the anniversary of their death, or on a random day that you are reminded of them.