Tapping Q & A - Getting the most out of tapping and EFT

Support the podcast! Because of all of the conversations around the law of attraction and manifesting in the self help community, I often hear the concern "I don't want to say any negative phrases when I am tapping because I'm worried I'll manifest negative outcomes in my life." Given the way that manifestation in this world view is taught, I can understand how this might be a concern. To help you understand how to get the most out of your tapping, this week's podcast covers: The scientific research on visualization What happens when we say only positive phrases when tapping How to get the most out of tapping to create change in your life I also teach you a bonus method that I use when I am trying to create a new way of acting and being in the world. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) focuses on challenging and changing thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors, improving emotional regulation, and the development of personal coping strategies that target solving current problems. That sounds a lot like what we are trying to do with tapping. This week I have a conversation with Joan Kaylor who uses both tapping and CBT with her clients. She compares and contrasts the two approaches, highlights where they overlap, and how one can inform the other. Understanding other modalities, tools, and techniques is a great way for us to improve the tools we are using. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! With each passing year there is more and more research being done in to how tapping works and what results can be expected. Dr. Peta Stapleton is one of the researchers who is on the forefront of this work. Peta recently completed writing The Science Behind Tapping (which will be released April 16th). The book provides a brief history of tapping, a comprehensive overview of the scientific research done on tapping, and a clear set of recommendations on how to get the most out of tapping depending on the issues you are address based on scientific research. In this conversation Peta give a preview to the information that is found in The Science Behind Tapping as well as ways you can get greater results from your tapping practice. Knowing the latest scientific research about tapping will make it easier for you to share tapping with your sceptical friends and loved ones. If you want to share tapping with others then you must listen to this conversation. You can pre-order it today! Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! As Dr. Rick Henson shared with us back in Podcast 349, it is important that we spend time not just feeling positive emotions, but reveling in them. By doing this we can do more than enjoy feeling good in the moment, we can turn it into a habit for life. For most of us, including me, spending a lot of time feeling celebratory isn't the most natural experience. Celebration can feel embarrassing. It can feel boastful. It can even feel egotistical. This week we talk and tap about how celebration can make us feel uncomfortable AND tapping in the spirit of celebration. All the tapping scripts from this audio can be found below the audio player. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Even though tapping is such a powerful tool, at times it feels as if it is just taking too long to get the results we want. In this week's podcast we are talking about: Why healing sometimes needs to happen as part of a process How to make the healing process as quick as possible (when it doesn't feel quick at all) How to deal with the frustration of slow transformation In the last step we will tap for the frustration around our healing not happening as fast as we would like, and why healing has to be process. (The tapping script is also included below the player.) Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! In my conversation with Brad Yates he shared the Zig Ziglar quote "You cannot consistently perform in a manner which is inconsistent with the way you see yourself." The reason this quote came up is because we were talking about why we don't get the results we want with tapping that we are seeking. Often times we tap because we want something to change in our life. But if we don't believe we are the type of person who can have the outcome we want, then we are going to sabotage ourselves to make sure we don't get it. For example: If we can't see ourselves as successful business owner then we are going to sabotage our business growth. If we don't believe we are worthy of love then finding lasting romantic relationships are going to be hard. If we think it is too late for change then finding time to do tapping isn't going to happen. In this conversation we talk about four ways in which we can find the beliefs about ourselves that are incongruent with what we want and how to tap for them. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Fear, worry, and anxiety are some of our most primitive emotions. Their main goal is to keep us safe and in some cases, alive. Because of their vital function, these emotions will override all our other emotions, ensuring that they are heard first. For the most part, this is a good thing and these emotions truly do keep us safe. Problems arise when our feelings of worry and anxiety are too intense for what is actually going on. In this week's podcast Julie Schiffman and I talk about how to figure out the root cause of our fear, and how to tap effectively for it. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Listen to both Kim and Gene in this year's Tapping World Summit. Supporters of the podcast have access to a bonus interview with Dr. Kim. Become a supporter today to have access the this and all the bonus podcast. Dr. Kim D'Eramo was frustrated that she wasn't getting the results that she wanted in her medical practice. Then she discovered tapping. Using tapping with her clients made a huge difference, but she still wasn't getting the results she wanted. Because of this she spent a considerable amount of time thinking about why there were issue that weren't clear and why symptoms where still lingering. In this interview we talk about the two main reasons why issue don't clear with tapping. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify Guest: Dr. Kim D'Eramo Contact: web @ DrKimDeramo.com; instagram @drkimderamo; youtube @YouAttractWellness; facebook @DrKimDeramo About: Kim graduated medical school in 2002 from University of New England College of Osteopathic Medicine, where she also completed a Fellowship in Osteopathic Medicine and Medical Gross Anatomy, as well as an undergraduate Fellowship in Neuroanatomy. She completed her Emergency Medicine residency at Emory University in 2005, and is board certified in Emergency Medicine. Dr. Kim and her husband Dr. Mario Torres-Leon produced a Top-10 podcast "The Thrive Doctors" featuring the latest in MindBody healing. In 2012 she published The MindBody Toolkit, which was a #1 Amazon Bestseller. Dr. Kim founded The American Institute of Mind Body Medicine(AIMBM) to train other doctors and health practitioners how to activate the body's ability to heal itself. Through AIMBM, she conducts live workshops and retreats, and assists clients online internationally.

Support the podcast! In podcast #249 I talked to Rick Hanson about our three basic needs of safety, satisfaction, and connection. Most of the unconscious, subconscious, and conscious actions we make are motivated by one of these three needs. Tapping can be a powerful tool in helping us to make sure that we meet these needs in a healthy way. This week in the podcast I share with you how you can first, identify which one of these needs we are trying to meet and second, how to tap for each of these needs (because each need requires a different approach). If you didn't listen to the interview I did with Rick I would encourage to you to listen to it first before diving into the application. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! When people are looking for long term results with tapping they commonly run into one of two problems. Either they are working on the wrong issue for their desired outcome OR they are only working on a symptom and not the root cause. If you are making either of these mistakes, chances are that you're not getting as much as you can out of your tapping practice. New York Times bestselling author Rich Hanson has done a masterful job in breaking down the types of problems in relation to our sense of safety, satisfaction, and connection. He has also developed a clear set of tools which can help us to bring about transformation and healing in each area. When we know the right issues and we are using the right tool, transformation comes more quickly and is much longer lasting. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Often times parenting can feel like it is a struggle. As a parent you have a clear idea of what needs to be done over the course of day. There are meals to be served, errands that need to ran, getting the kids to school, and all of the other tasks that fill daily life. Kids on the other hand don't have the same sense of priority or understanding of what needs to be done. Because of this it can feel like a struggle to get through the day. This week I have a conversation with parenting specialist Carrie Contey about how parents can move through the day getting done what they need to get done while still helping the kids to grow in a happy and healthy way. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify Guest: Carrie Contey, Ph.D. Contact: web @ carricontey.com; email @ [email protected]; Instagram @carrieconteyphd About: Carrie Contey, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized coach, author, speaker and educator. Her work offers a new perspective on human development, parenting and family life. She guides, supports and inspires her clients to live with wide-open and courageous hearts so they can approach family life with skill and spaciousness. Carrie received her doctorate in clinical psychology with an emphasis on prenatal and perinatal psychology and is masterful at synthesizing and articulating the science, psychology and spirituality of humanhood. She is the creator of Evolve, a year-long "personal growth through parenting" program which ran from 2011-2017. She is also the co-founder of the Slow Family Living movement and the co-author of CALMS: A Guide To Soothing Your Baby.

Support the podcast! One of the best parts about tapping is how easily it can be combined with other tools and modality. Recently, Steve Well has been working use the power of intention combined with tapping to get deeper healing and longer lasting results. In the case the idea of intention is about the outcome we want (for example "my intention is to be confident speaking in public") but instead holding specific intentions about the healing process. He calls his new approach Intention-based Energy Process (IEP) or Intention Tapping for short. In the conversation Steve shares how he came to use intention in this way as well as teaching you the entire process. Note: For the first time since 2013 Steve is running live training in North America. There is a 3 hour workshop on April 4th and three day advanced training April 5th - 7th in Toronto. Here are details Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! In this conversation we talk about how tapping can be used to: * Remove the one part that is making it harder * How to find the right part to focus on * How to let go of wrong part to focus * How to deal with extreme nerves - often called the [yips](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/yips/symptoms-causes/syc-20379021) in sports No matter what level or what setting you need to perform in, Tom will how you how to use simple tapping to get the most out each opportunity. Making mistakes can be frustrating, but it is even more frustrating when it is something that you know you can do, have done before, but in the moment, when it is most important that you get it right that you mess up. Athletes deal with problem all of the time. There are actions that they can do over and over again in practice, but when they get in to a game setting they mess up. Often times when we think of the mental game of performance we are only thinking athletic terms, but the same thing can happen with any task we are going to take. The moment the stakes are raised it is easy for the pressure of the moment to get the best of us. This week in the podcast I have a conversation with performance coach Dr. Tom Hanson. Over the last three decades Tom has worked with countless professional athletes and top level collegiate athletes. When it comes to performance it doesn't matter if you in a stadium in front of tens of thousands of people or you are making a small presentation to your co-workers, if you are worried about the outcome your nerves can get the best of you. This also means that the tools and techniques that Tom uses with top level athletes are also going to help us when we need to perform at our best. In this conversation we talk about how tapping can be used to: Remove the one part that is making it harder How to find the right part to focus on How to let go of wrong part to focus How to deal with extreme nerves - often called the yips in sports No matter what level or what setting you need to perform in, Tom will how you how to use simple tapping to get the most out each opportunity.

Support the podcast! I can't imagine not being a thoughtful, kind person in the world. I am glad that at least some of the time I am able to respond to other people's wants, needs, and suffering. But one of the consequences of being known to be thoughtful is that other people often come for help. In extreme cases, they aren't looking for help, they just want us to solve their problems. At some point it can become too much and just because someone we love it having a hard time, it doesn't mean we are responsible for solving all their problems. We can be thoughtful, helpful, and caring without taking on everyone's burdens. In this week's audio I have a story about how I was able to change the dynamics of a relationship where I had let a boundary down to the point that it was making my life difficult. There is also a tap-along that will make it easier for you to be the kind and thoughtful person that you are without having to take care of every burden of everyone you know. (A printable tapping script can be found below the audio.) Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call "pro-you choices". These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 3 of 4. You can find all four parts in the Pro-You Choices Series. For those of us who are of a thoughtful and caring disposition, it is natural to want to care for others. The problem comes when we spend so much time taking care of everyone else, we don't spend the time and attention that we need to take care of our own needs. The simple truth is: If we don't put ourselves first, no one else is going to. This week I have a tap-along audio (with printable tapping script below the audio player) to help to manage the guilt we may feel when we decide to take care of ourselves. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call "pro-you choices". These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 2 of 4. You can find all four parts in the Pro-You Choices Series. I find that "I don't know!" is one of the hardest phrases to say. When I say it, it is easy for me to feel disempowered, incompetent, and less than. In a recent interview, actor and director John Krasinski talked about how the most powerful thing you can say is that you don't know. It is an interesting idea. When we are able to acknowledge that we don't fully understand what we are supposed to do or how to do it, we are actually putting ourselves in a place of power. Our honesty means we can make the best possible choice, without fooling others or ourselves. This week I have a tap-along audio (with printable script below the player) that will help you to be comfortable with not knowing. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! The month of December is a super busy time of year. There are work parties, holiday parties, meals with friends, family obligations, performances, recitals...the list goes on and on. In a vacuum, going to any one of these events is fine, but when they stack up on top of each other they can just become too much. Actor and comedian John Hodgman wrote last week in his newsletter: ALL SOCIAL PLANS ARE OPTIONAL. Especially HOLIDAY PARTIES. Everyone will understand if you can't make it. They probably won't even notice you're not there (sorry, narcissists!). And if it's a one-on-one thing, that's OK too. Your friend will forgive you if you cancel. They will probably be relieved, too. There is a part of you that knows this, and there is a part of you that feels like you are failing if you follow through and actually do this. Â This week I have a tap-along audio (with script below the player) that will help you to give yourself permission to say "no" to at least one invitation so that you are happier and healthier this holiday season. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Sometimes we make choices that hurt others. Sometimes our emotions get the better of us, or we act thoughtlessly and cause someone else pain. Either way, it's easy to beat ourselves up for the pain we have caused. Even when we apologize and do what we can to make amends, we may still feel bad. This week's podcast covers how to tap for those times when we have unintentionally hurt others with our words or actions. We tap for feeling bad because we have caused someone else pain, for feeling like a failure because of the mistakes we have made, and to create space to learn from the experience so that we make better choices in the future. I have also included a printable version of the tapping script below the audio player. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Tapping is great because it can be used on so many different issues, both physical and emotional. It works for issue from the past and worries about the future. Because the tool is so flexible, sometimes it is hard to know just where to start. You want to get the most out of your tapping and you don't want to waste your effort. When we are worried that we are going to do something wrong, such as picking the issue to tap on, it's easy for us not to take action at all. This week's podcast will teach you three ways to tap when you don't know where to start. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Note: This is Part 4 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. Often our harshest critic is the one living inside our own head. It points out everything we are doing wrong, all the expectations we are not living up to, and how we are destined to fail in the future. As hard as it is to believe, our critical voice exists because it's supposed to help us! By pointing out what we have done wrong in the past, it wants us to act differently in the future. The problem is that it doesn't work out that way. Instead it just beats us and makes us feel bad. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Gratitude and thanksgiving are powerful tools in helping us to be present in the moment and to help us to be even more aware of the blessings we have. But giving thanks isn't always the easiest of tasks because our lives aren't perfect. There is pain, struggle, and disappointment. This week I have a tap-along audio (and script below the player) to help us to be more thankful without being pollyannaish about the realities of our lives. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Note: This is Part 3 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. Attempting to tame clutter can feel like an overwhelming task. There have been times when I've spent hours trying to clean up... I work and work and work, but somehow it doesn't feel like I am getting anywhere. When clutter persists and you just can't seem to get a handle on it, it's usually because there is an emotional issue underlying your resistance to cleaning up. This week I share with you a simple process that you can do to start getting rid of your clutter. The process will help you to uncover the underlying emotional resistance AND it will show you how to tap to resolve it. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Note: This is Part 2 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. It can often feel like we are dealing with the same issues over and over again and when that happens, it can feel like tapping is just a giant waste of time. Our reasoning tells us that if tapping was working, the issue would be taken care of. There are three main reasons behind why it can feel like we aren't making any progress with our tapping. This week I explore these reasons and what we can do to recognize the true progress we are making. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! When someone joins my mailing list, one of the two questions I ask them is, "What is the biggest issue you have when it comes to tapping?" When I started asking this question I expected to receive lots of answers about specific topics or issues that are particularly hard to deal with. I do get a lot of these types of responses, but a good 25% of the responses say something along the lines of, "I know tapping works, but I just don't do it." This week I have for you three simple steps you can take that will transform tapping from this thing you beat yourself up for not doing, into something you reach for every day. (Full transcript of the audio can be found below the player.) Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! One of the main reasons that people say they don't tap is because of the belief that tapping is not going to work. This is a reasonable concern. Tapping is weird. It seems unreasonable that tapping on our body would be able to provide healing and relief. When I have encountered this resistance in the past I have asked the person who doesn't believe in tapping if they would be willing to tap on the fact that they don't believe it is going to work. A funny thing happens...they are willing to tap on their disbelief in tapping. You will notice in the first paragraph above I wrote "the reason that people say". I used the word say very deliberately. Sometimes people don't tap because they don't believe it will work and sometimes they say that as a mask for the real reason they don't tap. This week we explore why you don't tap and how to tap for not tapping. (Trust me it will make sense and it will work.) Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Recently I have been asked by a number of my clients about what type of daily tapping I do. My own tapping falls into three main categories: The first is a practical approach where I do some tapping for every task on my to-do list. I covered this process back in Bonus Pod #46 Second, when I have a clear idea of the exact issue, emotion, or limiting belief I'm experiencing, I use one of the 13 tools that can be found in Advanced Anger Management. As I have stated before, the book isn't really about anger, but working towards good emotional health. Download a free copy via the link above. Third, every morning, right after I have made my first cup of coffee, I spend some time tapping using the Set-Up Phrase Generator. The Set-Up Phrase Generator is a little piece of software that you can access free of charge from any web browser. Access the Set-Up Phrase Generator here: http://EFTSetupPhraseGenerator.com/ BUT before you do that, listen to this week's audio where I explain how it works, why I use it and hear me tap in real time, and then you will be ready to use it most effectively for your issues. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Back in podcast 292 I chatted with Mark Wolynn about how we are starting to recognize the way that trauma can be passed on from one generation to the next through our genes. Recognizing that some of our issues have nothing to do with our own experience is useful because it offers us a new way to approach the work we are doing with tapping. In addition to the genetic component of trauma, our emotional understanding of our issues is also influenced by the generations before us. I have seen this time and again with my clients where they feel it is unsafer for them to heal these family patterns. The thinking goes like this: the trauma we are feeling unites our family and if we choose to heal this trauma, then we are abandoning our family. Healing our trauma means risking breaking an important family connection. This week we look at how we understand generational trauma and the sense of family connection it creates, helping us to recognize when we are sabotaging our healing. I have also included a tap-along audio that will help you to recognize that it's possible to heal these generational issues AND do honor to your family. As always, there is a printable version of the tapping script below the audio player.

Support the podcast! It makes sense that we would feel grief and sadness after the death of a loved one. But this is not the only time that we experience grief. The emotion of grief is our system telling us that we are missing or disconnected from something or someone that is important to us. This could be the end of a relationship, a missed opportunity, or when we realize that we have wasted valuable time by not acting sooner. These experiences create genuine grief, but because our definition of grief may be too narrow, we can miss the opportunity to tap for it. An emotion that goes unaddressed can simmer beneath the surface and cause us problems later on in life. This week we are going to tap for the shades of grief we experience that aren't related to death and dying. As always, below the audio player is a script that you can print out and use anywhere. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Recently I was talking with one of my clients. She has been doing an amazing amount of transformational work in her life. Personally, professionally, and emotionally everything was better, but she was struggling. The basic thrust of our conversation was "I know everything in my life is getting better, so why do I feel worse?" On the surface this might seem like an odd situation, but it happens a lot more than you would think. Much of it comes down to the fact that there are different types of problems and not all of those problems are created equally. We always start with the most pressing problem first. For example, if you think terms of Maslow's hierarchy of needs, we will worry about food and shelter before we worry about living a life of purpose or a fulfilling career. The same is true when we are dealing with our emotional life. We start with the most pressing needs, such as feeling safe in the world, and then we move on to higher level needs, such as issues of self-esteem and self-worth. As we move up the levels of needs, the more abstract the problems become. There are practical steps towards the basic need of trying to make myself feel safe, whereas the path to loving and accepting myself is less clear. Because this is the case, as we move up (as in my client's case where her life is getting better), the issues become more abstract and we have less control, so it can feel like things are getting worse. This week I have for you a deeper dive into these concepts, which will make it easier for you to recognize when you are experiencing this in your own life. I have also included a tap-along to help you to move through the feeling that your life is getting worse, when in truth it is improving. As always, I have included a printable tapping script below the audio player. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Jealousy is such corrosive emotion. It makes us think ill of others. It makes us feel bad for ourselves. I don't know about you, but it leads me to make poor and rash decisions. The worst part of jealousy is feeling the emotion about someone else, but having to deal with its negative consequences. Recently, I was at a professional training event and was so overcome with jealousy of the person presenting on stage that I could barely think straight. I was able to do some tapping in the moment to clear my head, but I realized that it was a big enough issue that I needed to deal with it in a deeper way. Over the next few weeks I spent some time every single day tapping for jealousy and all the other feelings around it. This week's tap-along audio is one of those tapping sessions, with the tapping script also available in a text version. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! One of the reasons that the human species survives is because of our innate ability to learn. Every time we experience something new, we have the opportunity to learn how the world works and how our fellow humans react to a certain set of circumstances. With each new experience, we are able to make subconscious comparisons with prior experiences. New information means we are able to update our understanding of ourselves and of the world we inhabit. There are two problems with the way that we learn. First, we sometimes learn the wrong lesson. Because we may not fully understand a situation, we draw inaccurate conclusions. Second, at times we are presented with new information that conflicts with our old lessons and beliefs, so we choose (consciously or unconsciously) to ignore the new information. This conflict means that sometimes not only do we not accept new information about ourselves and the world, but it actually gets in the way of our transformation. In this week's podcast I share with you: How we build our understanding of who we are and how the world works The pitfalls that this creates in the moment as we take action How this slows or halts our ability to heal How you can tap with this knowledge so you are no longer hindering your progress Below the audio player I have included a tapping script for the tapping that we do at the end of the audio. I encourage you to listen to the full audio before tapping to the script because an understanding of the context for the tapping will make the tapping itself more powerful. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! It can be difficult to remain focused on doing the work to improve your life. Sometimes you are pushing forward without seeing any progress. Sometimes the goal seem so far away that it is impossible. AND sometimes we just feel alone on the journey. When we are trying to improve our lives it's common to feel that the people around us are unwilling to do the same, and may even be resistant to the fact that we are changing and growing our own. This can make the work of transformation to feel lonely. This week I have words of encouragement to keep you going, even when you feel alone. Because the truth is you are not alone. It might feel like it, but there are many thousands of people who are on healing journeys, just like you. This week we tap to know that we aren't alone AND that the work we are doing in our own lives makes it easier for others, and the work others are doing is clearing a path for us. (Below the audio player you will also find a text version of the tapping script.) Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! This is Part 7 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we have been tapping for a specific emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. Being successful is hard enough. It becomes even harder when we are worried about others judging our success. Others may judge our dreams as being foolish. They may be jealous when they see us chasing our dreams and being successful. They may even feel that we are judging them because they aren't experiencing the same success as we are enjoying. Worrying about these types of judgments makes us less likely to take action because being judged isn't any fun. In this week's tap-along (with a printable tapping script below audio player) we tap for taking action in spite of what others might think of our success. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! This is Part 6 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. One of the difficulties with being successful is that success is not an all-or-nothing proposition. Success usually comes in stages as part of a process. When we are doing the work and taking action we are often too close to what is going on to see the progress we are making. This can be discouraging and slow down our progress because it doesn't feel like the effort we are putting in is paying off. This week's tap-along audio (and printable script below the player) will help you to recognize the progress you are making and to regain your momentum. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! This is Part 5 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. There is a part of us that wants to everything in exactly the right order, and that's because there are times in which the order we do tasks really matters, such as when baking a cake. But for most tasks or projects, there isn't an exact right order. There may be an overarching plan that needs to be followed, but it doesn't have to be done in exact steps. This concern about the right order of tasks can be a stumbling block to taking action because on some level we are worried about wasting energy and having to redo actions because we did them in the wrong order. This tap-along audio (with printable tapping script) will help you to trust the order in which you think you need to act, as well as helping you to get comfortable with the idea that taking actions one at a time will add up to success and that success isn't dependent on any one thing. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! This is Part 4 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. There are times when we have a clear vision of what we wish to do, but we are held back by our emotions. This part of us may be worried that our vision isn't right for us, that others don't believe in our vision, or we are mistrustful of our own inner guidance. This tap-along audio (with a printable tapping script below) will help you to trust in your inner guidance, trust your vision, and help you to take action even when those around you just don't get it. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! This is Part 3 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate  self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. When we are faced with doing something that we don't know how to do or that we don't have a great of experience with it is common that we won't take the action we what. This is because there is a part of us that want to protect us from failure AND when we don't know how to do something failure is much more likely. This tap-along audio (and script below) will help you to take action when you are feeling dumb, struggling because you don't know where to start, and that others will judge you because you don't know what action to take. Tapping to this will make it easier for you to trust yourself when you don't feel comfortable or competent with the tasks in front of you. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! This is Part 2 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate  self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. Allowing distractions, such as email or social media notifications, is one of the easiest ways to be unproductive. Distractions also come in the form of unruly thoughts rattling around in our heads. This tap-along audio (with a full printable script below the audio player) will help to calm your mind before you begin working, helping you to stay focused. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! This is part 1 of the 7 part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. It is difficult to take action when we don't have a clear vision for exactly what we want. When we are unclear we have to deal with both practical and emotional blocks to taking action. On a practical level it is difficult to take action where we don't know what because we aren't exactly sure what is the best action. A clear vision create a tangible goal, which leads to concrete steps to take and the order to take them. Without that we can struggle to know what the best most constructive actions are. On a subconscious level we prevent ourselves from taking action as a way of saving energy and effort. When we don't have a clear vision the subconscious worries that we might choose to take a action that isn't useful. It see that we don't know exactly what we want and know that any action we take is just a guess as to if it is a useful action. Therefore the subconscious prevents us from taking any action as way of making sure we don't to the wrong action. In this week's tap-along audio (and tapping script found below) we tap for being able to take action when we don't know exactly what we are moving towards. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Betrayal is unlike other emotions because it creates problems beyond the immediate pain we feel when we realize we have been betrayed. Betrayal also sows seeds of doubt at a subconscious level, which can create lasting physical and emotional problems. This week I have a conversation with Dr. Debi Silber who has dedicated her research and work to understanding how betrayal impacts us physically and emotionally. More importantly, she has also developed a process (Post Betrayal Transformation) to help heal those wounds. In this conversation we discuss the conditions required for betrayal to happen, how it impacts us, and the first steps towards healing. During the interview Debi refers to a short quiz that you can take to see if you are being impacted by a past betrayal. You can take the quiz here. Guest: Dr. Debi Silber Contact: web @ PBTInstitute.com About: Dr. Debi Silber, founder of PBT Institute is a Transformational Psychologist, and a health, mindset, empowerment and personal development expert. She is also a speaker, a coach and the author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis. Debi has contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, TEDx, The Huffington Post, Shape, Self, Health, Working Mother, Forbes, Psychology Today, WebMD, Yahoo Shine, Ladies Home Journal, MSN, Woman's World and Glamour. Her doctoral study led to two discoveries around how women experience and heal from betrayal. Based on her findings, along with 27 years of health, mindset and lifestyle coaching, she has created a multi-faceted approach to help women heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from the trauma of betrayal.

Support the podcast! I often hear from frustrated clients because they have tapped for an issue, but they haven't made any progress. When this happens they question whether tapping can help. The reality is that in many of these cases the issue isn't whether tapping will work, but instead what is the best way to tap for an issue. This week I have for you a simple four-step process to ensure you are tapping in the most effective way to get to the root cause of an issue. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! (For me) one of the hardest feeling is the feeling of being an outsider. When you are standing in a room full up people and you just don't feel like you belong. In side of your head your mind is spinning as you are imagining what all the other people in the room are thinking about you. AND none of it is good! In most cases, almost everyone is more worried about other think of them than they are thinking of you. Last weekend I found myself feeling exact this way. Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script for when you find yourself in the same situation.

Support the podcast! It can difficult when we see our loved ones making choices that aren't serving them. Because we have distance on the situation we are able to see the bigger picture in that way that they can't. What can be even more difficult is the fact that they aren't able to hear us (and hear our advice) because they are so deep in the weeds with the issue there is nothing we can say that they are going to hear. This week I have for you a simple process that you can tap to when wanting better for someone in your life. It is a process that is going to change them. They are responsible for their own change, but what it can do is create the space which will allow them to see the situation more clearly and allow them to make new choices. Not only do I have the simple step by step to do this process in the audio, but I have also included a link where you can download this process and 13 other tools for free.

Support the podcast! Sometimes I put off tapping because I don't feel I have enough time for an in-depth tapping session. But often you don't need much time to make a huge difference to how you are feeling. Recently I had a small physical issue that was more of an inconvenience than the cause of any great pain. I never thought to tap for it because it was so small. Eventually I got around to tapping for it, which was really effective and I couldn't believe I'd waited so long! Here's the simple three-step process I used. Give it a try!

Support the podcast! Many of our beliefs are held at a subconscious level and some of them do not serve us well. They may be inaccurate in the way we describe ourselves, our relationships, and the world and this inaccuracy causes us problems in daily life because subconsciously we believe them to be true. Once we identify these beliefs we can then use tapping to transform them into a clearer reflection of the way the world works. Beliefs that have been passed on to us by our loved ones are particularly hard to change. This is because part of us fears that if we let go of the belief, we will also be letting go of the person who gave it to us. Logically we know this isn't the case, but because this perception exists at a subconscious level it can slow or even halt our progress. This week I have a simple process you can use to transform the beliefs that have been passed on by others, with a tap-along section at the end. In the audio I also share with you how you can get a free written version of this tool, the tapping script, and 13 other great tapping tools.

Support the podcast! For some reason, certain situations and certain people just push our buttons, despite knowing logically that our response is irrational and shouldn't elicit as much emotion as we feel. In this week's podcast I share with you a simple 7-step process you can use when you are having your buttons pushed. In the audio I also share with you how you can get a free printed version of this tool (and 13 others).

Support the podcast! Our relationships are living, breathing organisms, alive with the constant dynamic of give and take. At times there is a lot more give than take. This can affect our feelings about the relationship, about the other person in the relationship, and can even have a detrimental effect on our other relationships At this year's Spring Energy Event, held just outside NYC, I shared how our relationships impact us and 5 simple tools you can use to cultivate healthier, stronger relationships. This podcast is a recording of my 35 minute presentation. We would love to see you at next year's event. You can sign up to receive recordings from past events and information about next year's SpringEnergyEvent.com.

Support the podcast In last week's podcast I talked about (and shared the scientific evidence) as to why it can be useful to swear while tapping. Even if we accept that swearing is useful, it doesn't necessarily mean that we are comfortable doing it. When I say uncomfortable I don't mean in terms of using swear words. Instead, we may feel bad because we are angry at all. Anger feels like such a strong and primitive emotion that we may believe that we should be above it and feeling angry represents some sort of personal failing. Feeling angry from time to time is both natural and healthy. This week we are going to tap for being OK with the fact that we sometimes feel anger. (As always, the full tapping script can be found below the audio player.) Subscribe in : Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast Did you know that swearing is good for you? And I don't mean just swearing for the sake of it, but there are a number of contexts in which scientific research has shown it is actually good for you. It can help to manage pain, build comradery, and release stress. It can also be a powerful tool in helping you to tune into your emotions while tapping. Recently Emma Byrne combined her own research into the power of using curse words with the large body of other research on the same subject into a new book Swearing Is Good for You: The Amazing Science of Bad Language. I have taken all of the pertinent information as it relates to tapping and have included it in this week's podcast. I explain why swearing is good for you and how you can get the most out of tapping by swearing while you tap. Apple | Android | Spotify

Win a free one-on-one session with Gene! Support the podcast One of the situations that my clients struggle with the most is dealing with the expectations of their loved ones. Our loved ones want what is best for us, but they want what is best of us in terms of what they think will make us happy. Often what they think will make us happy and what will actually make us happy are totally different. Difficulties arise when going against the expectations of our loved ones feels like a violation of the relationship and the trust inside it. When we fear hurting people in this way, either we do what they want OR we don't follow through on what we want, and remain stuck. This means that we fail to move forward AND we can end up feeling resentful towards the people we love for holding us back. This week I have a simple tap-along that will help you to respect and honor what others want while also being able to make the choices that are right for you based on what you want or need. The full tapping script can be found below the player. Apple | Android | Spotify