Tapping Q & A - Getting the most out of tapping and EFT

Support the podcast! Music can be so powerful at setting our mood. So much so that experiments have shown that music can dictate our interpretation of events where images are accompanied by different kinds of music. For example, grave images with whimsical music were seen as humorous, and sad pictures with silly music were perceived as funny. We have a special connection to music in our teenage years for a number of reasons: It's usually the time in our lives in which we listen to music the most Teenagers are often most engaged in seeking out and listening to new music We experience the most emotional change in our teenage years (see podcast 373 on the adolescent brain) Hearing a song from your teenage years can instantly put you back in that time. It is more than a fleeting feeling of nostalgia, it's like you have been transported back in time. The strength of that connection means that music can be a great tool for clearing issues from the past that we are still carrying. This week I have one of my favorite tools for you on how music from our teen years can be used with tapping to effect powerful transformation. Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Support the podcast! Did you know that during adolescence the brain goes through more neurological changes that it does at any point in human development? That's even more changes than during the notorious "terrible twos" and one of the reasons why interacting with teenagers can be so complicated. Being around teens can be challenging because they constantly seem to be on a giant emotional rollercoaster! This week I have a conversation with Janey Downshire who is one of the co-authors of Teenagers Translated: A Parent's Survival Guide. I met Janey at the EFT Gathering a number of years ago and was instantly impressed with her work in helping parents to understand and support their teenagers. In the conversation we talk about: The difference between the settled and the unsettled brain (for teens and parents) How the adolescent brain is a work in progress Why teenage boys struggle to talk about their emotions Why teenage boys are risk seekers Why teenage girls struggle with fallout from friend groups Why parents often think something is a small deal when teens think it is a big deal Why the teenage years are harder than the "terrible twos" The goal we want for our teens: not calm, but good mental health habits that will stand them in good stead in later life How parents can avoid escalating conflict with their teenagers The best thing you can provide for your children What to tap on and when to tap as a parent How to introduce tapping to kids If you have a teenager, spend time with teenagers, or have children who will soon be teenagers, I urge you to listen to this one. Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora Guest: Janey Downshire Contact: Web @ TeenagersTranslated.co.uk; Facebook @ TeenagersTranslated; email @ [email protected]; Book @ Teenagers Translated: A Parent's Survival Guide About: Janey Downshire (Grad. Dip. Couns; Cert Emotional Literacy; MBACP) and her colleague Naella Grew are both qualified counsellors, specialising in teenage development. For over 10 years, they have worked together to design a unique range of courses for students, adults and teachers, which they deliver through their company Teenagers Translated. Their presentations distil the most current research in psychology, neuroscience, biochemistry and child development into practical, relevant strategies for their audiences. Their work aims to deepen understanding and awareness of the links between emotions, physiology, mental habits and behaviour in order to promote better communication and relationships and improve mental health, emotional regulation and wellbeing in families and schools. Janey and Naella are both parents, Janey has four children, now at university and working in London.

Support the podcast! A concept that I learned very early on in my training as a practitioner was: Our emotional response is dictated by how we describe the world, and not the way the world actually is. That's why I am constantly asking my clients for more details about how they understand what is going on in their lives. In many cases, when we are able to change the way they describe their situation, their emotions shift, even before we have started tapping. One of the words that always gets my attention, is when a client uses the word "should". Should, by its very nature, implies an expectation which may or may not be true. (In practice, it almost always implies an expectation that isn't true.) There are three parts to this week's podcast: We explore where our sense of "should" comes from and why it can cause emotional problems, which in turn lead us to not taking action, or taking actions that aren't right for us. I share a simple process that you can use to interrogate the actions that you feel you "should" be taking. This process will help you to pin down the origin of a specific should, and whether or not it serves you. A simple tap-along to do once you realize you can let go of something you believe you should be doing. Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Support the podcast! In Pod #370 last week we talked about how best to use tapping when contemplating or going through a divorce. This week I have a conversation with Melissa Beasley about abusive relationships. Between these two conversations you can see how hard it is to talk about relationships going badly. There is so much cultural and personal baggage around admitting that a relationship hasn't worked out. It becomes even more complicated when emotional and physical abuse is part of the equation. In this week's podcast Melissa Beasley and I talk about abusive and toxic relationships and cover: How to identify an abusive relationship (including why it is so difficult to identify a toxic relationship from the inside) The tools and tactics used by abusive partners Why people stay in abusive relationships The four stages of moving out of a toxic relationship and into a healthy post-relationship life Steps for getting out of a toxic relationship How to use tapping in all four stages of leaving a toxic relationship This is a resource that everyone needs to listen to. Here is a list of helpful resources if you find yourself in this situation: Domestic violence hotline: 1-800-799-7233 Domestic violence hotline website with tons of helpful info and a 24/7 chat: TheHotline.org Book: Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft Book: The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans Book: BIFF - Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns by Bill Eddy. It's about how to communicate with high conflict people Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder by Bill Eddy Christian Book: The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernik Christian Book: Divorce and Remarriage in the Church by David Instone Brewer Christian Book: Give Her Wings: Help and Healing After Abuse by Megan Cox Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify Guest: Melissa Beasley Contact: web @ MelissaDawnBeasley.com; web @ LoveEssentialSkinCare.com; facebook @Love Essential Skin Care; Instagram @loveessentialskincare About: Melissa is a natural skincare formulator and manufacturer. She started making skincare in her parents' kitchen as a way to support herself and her two boys after her divorce. She still manufactures her products for her own brand Love-Essential Skin Care, and she creates custom product lines for spas, salons and natural product companies. Melissa now uses the skills and knowledge she learned while growing her skincare business to help other moms create and grow their own businesses. She understands the unique challenges that mothers, and especially single mothers, face when trying to grow a business and helps them navigate those challenges so they can have a successful business without giving up their sanity or time with their precious babies. EFT was one of Melissa's most important tools when recovering from her divorce and growing Love-Essential Skin Care and is instrumental in helping her clients.

Support the podcast! Divorce is a tricky subject. One one level there is all the cultural pressure to find a way of making a success of a struggling relationship. On the other, there is the desire to keep yourself happy and healthy by ending a relationship that is no longer working. Because of these opposing desires, figuring out a divorce is seldom straightforward. This week I have a conversation with Kate Anthony, a coach and the author of the "Divorce Survival Guide". We talk about the emotions that come up with considering divorce: What will happen to my kids and how can I support them emotionally? How is it going to work out financially on my own? Isn't there one more thing I should try? How will my friends and family react if I get divorced? How will I face my faith community if I get divorced? What if I am just over reacting to something that could be fixed? If you are in an unfulfilling relationship, this is the perfect starting point to start sorting out (and tapping for) your emotions. ALSO, if you know someone who is going through difficulties in their relationship, this conversation will give you ideas for a starting point to asking them thoughtful questions and how to be emotionally support in such a difficult time. Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify Guest: Kate Anthony Contact: web @ KateAnthony.com; facebook @ CoachKateAnthony; instagram @thedivorcesurvivalguide About: Kate Anthony is a certified life coach who helps women decide if they should stay in or leave their marriages and then guides them through the divorce process should they choose to leave. Kate empowers women to find their strength, passion, and confidence, even in the most disempowering of circumstances and helps them move forward with concrete plans, putting their children at the center (not in the middle) of all decisions. In addition to her certification, Kate has also trained as a relationship coach and is an expert in communication, co-parenting, and emotional intelligence.

Support the podcast! Receive reminders via text message 3 times a week: http://tappingqanda.com/sms A common characteristic of people involved in personal development and self-help is that they are caring and thoughtful people. As well as trying to improve their own lives, they strive to make the world a better place. Because of this, they are sensitive to other people's needs and desires and they really want to make a difference. At the same time, they tend to put other people's needs before their own and sometimes their loved ones take advantage of this. They start to feel like doormats and begin to resent others. This week I have a tap-along audio and tapping script for those times when you feel like that you are too nice and that others are taking advantage of you. Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify

Support the podcast! Our internal critical voice is one of the key reasons we fail to take the action we want in life. This constant nagging voice in our heads points out all of our past failings, why we aren't capable of taking action now, and why we will fail in the future. When we have a voice inside of our head telling us this over and over again, it can become crippling. The stronger the critical voice is, the less likely we are to take action. In this podcast Jacqui Letran and I talk about why the critical voice exists (and there is a good reason), how we can tap for it, and a new analogy for how to think about it. The image that Jacqui shares for the critical voice is one I had never thought of and is just perfect. Her description completely changed the way I think of my own critical voice. We also talk about how best to tap in the moment to reduce the power of the critical voice. Note: During the conversation we talk about forgiveness, the pitfalls around being able to forgive, and how to approach forgiveness in a healthy way. Here is a more comprehensive reflection on how to achieve forgiveness of others and of self into your tapping work. Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify Guest: Jacqui Letran Contact: Web @ JacquiLetran.com; Amazon Author's Page @ Jacqui Lentran; Podcast @ Stop the Bully Within Instagram @Roving.Vegans About: Jacqui Letran is an Author, Speaker, Mindset Mentor and the Host of the Stop the Bully Within podcast. Jacqui's Words of Wisdom for Teens book series won multiple awards and is often regarded as "must read" books for teens and young adults struggling with low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. Through her one-on-one sessions, workshops, keynotes, as well as her books and podcast, Jacqui teaches that success and happiness are achievable by all, regardless of current struggles and circumstances. Jacqui is a gifted and energetic leader who dedicates her life's work to help her clients and students transform their inner critic into their best friend and cheerleader, so they can create that powerful and resilient mindset needed to be happy and successful in life.

Did you know that as a supporter of the podcast, you receive a number of bonuses? Learn about supporting the podcast! As much as I love tapping, it is not the only or best tool that we can use for our health and wellbeing. In her latest book "Energy Healing: Simple and Effective Practices to Become Your Own Healer" Kris Ferraro goes beyond the basic EFT tapping recipe and teaches many other tapping-type tools. They are all easy to learn, can be self-applied and each take less than a minute to perform. Kris shares three of those tools on this week's podcast, which you will be able to use right away. In the conversation we cover: Polarity switching How to calm the flight, fight, and freeze response How to clear governing vessel I recommend that you add all of these tools to your tapping tool box! Note: During the interview I talked about where I learned muscle testing. In case you are interested, this is the training I did from Quantum Techniques: Truth Techniques (aff) – DVDs | digital download As noted by the "aff" this is an affiliate link, but I would recommend this course even if it weren't. Just last week I bought more products from QT because I love their stuff so much. Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify Guest: Kris Ferraro Contact: web @ KrisFerraro.com; email @ [email protected] About: Kris Ferraro is an Energy Coach, Author, and Speaker based in northern NJ. She is the creator of Spiritual Freedom Techniques, a series of practices that combine ancient wisdom with EFT for transformation. Kris is a "true believer" in everyone's innate ability to heal. She helps clients release their debilitating emotional patterns so they can step into their power and purpose. Her book, "Energy Healing: Simple and Effective Practices to Become Your Own Healer", published by St. Martin's Press, introduces energy psychology to new audiences.

Support the podcast! In part one of "Getting Out Of My Own Way", the ten-part guide for using tapping to eliminate self-sabotage, I shared with you tapping to use at each end of your day. Tapping is a great way to start off your day on the right foot. Ending the day with tapping helps to let go any unresolved emotions from the day and helps us to get a better night's sleep. But tapping in the middle of the day is often overlooked and can be really helpful, providing the opportunity to: Release any disappointment about what you haven't achieved in the morning Catch your breath and re-ground yourself Set your intention for the rest of the day Tapping in this way is super easy! I have included a tap-along audio and tapping script to help you to reset at midday. Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify Download the free Tapping Q & A app which includes this and 50 other tapping scripts: Apple App | Google/Android App

Support the podcast! Feeling like we don't belong is tough. It might be because we don't feel we are smart enough, talented enough, have something offer the world, or that we just don't fit in. Feeling like a fraud means that we don't contribute or speak up, we hide in the background, or we don't even show up. All of these strategies are to keep us safe because we don't want to be found out. In most cases, feeling like a fraud has nothing to do with who we are, what we can do, and what we have to offer. Instead, it is because we are comparing what is going on inside our head with what we see on the outside of those around us. We know our intentions and when we don't live up to them. We know the fear or insecurity we feel when we are taking action. At the same time, we only see what others do and assume (wrongly) that they are acting with perfect confidence and calm. This means we aren't treating ourselves fairly! Below is a tap-along audio and tapping script that will help you to tap when you feel like a fraud. It will help you to see yourself for who you are and see those around you for who they are. Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify Download the Tapping Q & A app for free which include this and 50 other tapping scripts: Apple App | Google/Android App

Support the podcast! In Recovering Sell - A Healing Manifesto I share twelve thoughts on healing. Number six is: "There is always resistance to change because if there weren't resistance, you would have changed already." As a tapper, this means that one of our most important tasks is to find the root cause(s) preventing us from taking action or making change. Lori Lamont has developed an easy tool that you can use as a practitioner, or when you are tapping on your own to uncover these hidden resistances. In addition to showing you how to uncover resistance, we also talk about a new way to capture these underlying issues so you can come back to them again and again. This is a tool that every tapper needs to have in their tapping tool box. Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify

Support the podcast! Grief is a topic that we don't talk about much publicly. We talk about loss. We talk about moving on. But we don't talk about grief itself. When we don't talk about and process grief, it lingers and can cause problems for us in the future. This week I have a conversation with Lynne Staley. Lynne is a tapper and certified Grief Recovery™ Specialist. In this podcast episode we cover: Why we experience grief The difference between grief and mourning All of the experiences that can cause grief in addition to the death of a loved one (and the list is longer than you might think) Practical steps you can take to work through your own grief and how to help someone else through theirs How to use tapping while using these steps This interview is a must-listen because every single one of us has experienced grief and will experience it again. Our conversation is practical and you will be able to use what you learn right away. Note: Here is the the feelings inventory from the Center For Nonviolent Communication that we talked about in the interview. Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify Guest:Lynne Staley Contact: website @ Llife-After-Loss.com/; facebook @ LifeAfterLossCoach; email @ [email protected]; book @ In Death Is the Secret to Life: A Tribute Journal About: Lynne Staley has been a Companion to Grievers since 2002 and has a wealth of knowledge about grief, loss and life transitions. She is a Certified Emotional Freedom Techniques Practitioner and incorporates tapping in her work with clients to address grief-related stress. Lynne recognizes that grief is not just related to death; there are more than 40 losses identified by The Grief Recovery Institute, including health diagnoses, job loss, family estrangement, etc. In addition to Grief Integration, she teaches EFT to elders, hospice staff, school personnel, student athletes, student musicians, other "creatives", etc. She is the author of In Death Is the Secret to Life: A Tribute Journal.

Support the podcast! One the most important ideas that I try to convey to all of my clients is the fact that emotions are not the enemy. Emotions are not a problem that we need to fix. Instead, our emotions can provide us with useful information about how we are interpreting what is happening to us in the moment. The aim of tapping is not to get rid of our emotions. Instead, we are working towards understanding why we are feeling those emotions, which in turn enables us to transform our understanding so that our emotions show up in a proportionate, well-informed way. Here is a tap-along audio and tapping script to help you to recognize your emotions for what they are and stop feeling like you are caught in a battle with your emotional state. This is a great way to tap by itself and it also serves as a perfect way to set up a tapping session when you are working on a bigger issue. Download the free Tapping Q & A app that includes the above script: Apple App | Google/Android App Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify

Support the podcast! It is always encouraging to hear first-person success stories. Hearing about other people's success helps us in a couple of ways. First, it shows us what is possible. When we aren't making the progress we would like, and as quickly as we would like, it is easy to feel discouraged. Hearing about the success others have had gives us encouragement and inspiration. Second, other people's success stories offer us a great opportunity to learn. Hearing how they overcame obstacles and found their way to success gives us ideas on how we can do the same. In this week's podcast I have three stories of people who have used tapping successfully. This a great chance for all of us to learn and take encouragement! Over the next year I will be sharing more stories like these, so if you have your own stories about tapping you'd like to share, please let me know and I will follow up with you to see if it is a good fit. Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify

Support the podcast! Tapping is a powerful in helping us to find relief. It can reduce pain in the moment, it can diminish overpowering emotions, and it can even help us to see a problem more clearly. As wonderful as all of this is, I think we are missing half of the benefits that we can be getting from tapping by only focusing on the relief. What if it was possible for us to have more than relief with tapping? A few weeks ago at the Spring Energy Event I presented two tools which can me used to move not just from pain to relief but instead from pain to a feel or resource that is powerful. In this week's podcast I share with you one of those two tools. After you listen to the instruction all you will need to executes this simple but powerful tool is the following 5 steps. (And, yes, these instructions will make total sense after you listen to the audio.) Name the negative emotion that is being experienced Name the positive emotion would like to be experience Rate from -10 to +10 Do 3 rounds of tapping checking in each time with the new number and to gather more info Repeat process for step 2 redefining the emotion you are moving towards Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify

Support the podcast! In working with clients I have come to realize the most powerful fear that prevents us from taking action is the the fear that we are going to be rejected. The reason this fear is so powerful is because of our history as a species. Thousands of years ago, as humans, we were in the situation in which we needed our tribe to survive. Being in a tribe meant that we weren't facing the world alone and that we had others we could count on. Being pushed out of the tribe meant we have to the face the threats of the world alone and it most certainly meant death. Because of this history, when ever we feel like we are being rejected it stirs up this primitive fear. Since this is the case, the feeling of rejection on any level stops us in our track. This means that tapping on the fear of rejection is one of the most important types of tapping that we can do. This week I have for you three different tap-alongs that you can use to help you get past the fear of rejection. Tapping scripts for all three tap-alongs that are included in this audio can be found below the player. Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify

Support the podcast! Because of all of the conversations around the law of attraction and manifesting in the self help community, I often hear the concern "I don't want to say any negative phrases when I am tapping because I'm worried I'll manifest negative outcomes in my life." Given the way that manifestation in this world view is taught, I can understand how this might be a concern. To help you understand how to get the most out of your tapping, this week's podcast covers: The scientific research on visualization What happens when we say only positive phrases when tapping How to get the most out of tapping to create change in your life I also teach you a bonus method that I use when I am trying to create a new way of acting and being in the world. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) focuses on challenging and changing thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors, improving emotional regulation, and the development of personal coping strategies that target solving current problems. That sounds a lot like what we are trying to do with tapping. This week I have a conversation with Joan Kaylor who uses both tapping and CBT with her clients. She compares and contrasts the two approaches, highlights where they overlap, and how one can inform the other. Understanding other modalities, tools, and techniques is a great way for us to improve the tools we are using. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! With each passing year there is more and more research being done in to how tapping works and what results can be expected. Dr. Peta Stapleton is one of the researchers who is on the forefront of this work. Peta recently completed writing The Science Behind Tapping (which will be released April 16th). The book provides a brief history of tapping, a comprehensive overview of the scientific research done on tapping, and a clear set of recommendations on how to get the most out of tapping depending on the issues you are address based on scientific research. In this conversation Peta give a preview to the information that is found in The Science Behind Tapping as well as ways you can get greater results from your tapping practice. Knowing the latest scientific research about tapping will make it easier for you to share tapping with your sceptical friends and loved ones. If you want to share tapping with others then you must listen to this conversation. You can pre-order it today! Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! As Dr. Rick Henson shared with us back in Podcast 349, it is important that we spend time not just feeling positive emotions, but reveling in them. By doing this we can do more than enjoy feeling good in the moment, we can turn it into a habit for life. For most of us, including me, spending a lot of time feeling celebratory isn't the most natural experience. Celebration can feel embarrassing. It can feel boastful. It can even feel egotistical. This week we talk and tap about how celebration can make us feel uncomfortable AND tapping in the spirit of celebration. All the tapping scripts from this audio can be found below the audio player. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Even though tapping is such a powerful tool, at times it feels as if it is just taking too long to get the results we want. In this week's podcast we are talking about: Why healing sometimes needs to happen as part of a process How to make the healing process as quick as possible (when it doesn't feel quick at all) How to deal with the frustration of slow transformation In the last step we will tap for the frustration around our healing not happening as fast as we would like, and why healing has to be process. (The tapping script is also included below the player.) Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! In my conversation with Brad Yates he shared the Zig Ziglar quote "You cannot consistently perform in a manner which is inconsistent with the way you see yourself." The reason this quote came up is because we were talking about why we don't get the results we want with tapping that we are seeking. Often times we tap because we want something to change in our life. But if we don't believe we are the type of person who can have the outcome we want, then we are going to sabotage ourselves to make sure we don't get it. For example: If we can't see ourselves as successful business owner then we are going to sabotage our business growth. If we don't believe we are worthy of love then finding lasting romantic relationships are going to be hard. If we think it is too late for change then finding time to do tapping isn't going to happen. In this conversation we talk about four ways in which we can find the beliefs about ourselves that are incongruent with what we want and how to tap for them. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Fear, worry, and anxiety are some of our most primitive emotions. Their main goal is to keep us safe and in some cases, alive. Because of their vital function, these emotions will override all our other emotions, ensuring that they are heard first. For the most part, this is a good thing and these emotions truly do keep us safe. Problems arise when our feelings of worry and anxiety are too intense for what is actually going on. In this week's podcast Julie Schiffman and I talk about how to figure out the root cause of our fear, and how to tap effectively for it. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Listen to both Kim and Gene in this year's Tapping World Summit. Supporters of the podcast have access to a bonus interview with Dr. Kim. Become a supporter today to have access the this and all the bonus podcast. Dr. Kim D'Eramo was frustrated that she wasn't getting the results that she wanted in her medical practice. Then she discovered tapping. Using tapping with her clients made a huge difference, but she still wasn't getting the results she wanted. Because of this she spent a considerable amount of time thinking about why there were issue that weren't clear and why symptoms where still lingering. In this interview we talk about the two main reasons why issue don't clear with tapping. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify Guest: Dr. Kim D'Eramo Contact: web @ DrKimDeramo.com; instagram @drkimderamo; youtube @YouAttractWellness; facebook @DrKimDeramo About: Kim graduated medical school in 2002 from University of New England College of Osteopathic Medicine, where she also completed a Fellowship in Osteopathic Medicine and Medical Gross Anatomy, as well as an undergraduate Fellowship in Neuroanatomy. She completed her Emergency Medicine residency at Emory University in 2005, and is board certified in Emergency Medicine. Dr. Kim and her husband Dr. Mario Torres-Leon produced a Top-10 podcast "The Thrive Doctors" featuring the latest in MindBody healing. In 2012 she published The MindBody Toolkit, which was a #1 Amazon Bestseller. Dr. Kim founded The American Institute of Mind Body Medicine(AIMBM) to train other doctors and health practitioners how to activate the body's ability to heal itself. Through AIMBM, she conducts live workshops and retreats, and assists clients online internationally.

Support the podcast! In podcast #249 I talked to Rick Hanson about our three basic needs of safety, satisfaction, and connection. Most of the unconscious, subconscious, and conscious actions we make are motivated by one of these three needs. Tapping can be a powerful tool in helping us to make sure that we meet these needs in a healthy way. This week in the podcast I share with you how you can first, identify which one of these needs we are trying to meet and second, how to tap for each of these needs (because each need requires a different approach). If you didn't listen to the interview I did with Rick I would encourage to you to listen to it first before diving into the application. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! When people are looking for long term results with tapping they commonly run into one of two problems. Either they are working on the wrong issue for their desired outcome OR they are only working on a symptom and not the root cause. If you are making either of these mistakes, chances are that you're not getting as much as you can out of your tapping practice. New York Times bestselling author Rich Hanson has done a masterful job in breaking down the types of problems in relation to our sense of safety, satisfaction, and connection. He has also developed a clear set of tools which can help us to bring about transformation and healing in each area. When we know the right issues and we are using the right tool, transformation comes more quickly and is much longer lasting. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Often times parenting can feel like it is a struggle. As a parent you have a clear idea of what needs to be done over the course of day. There are meals to be served, errands that need to ran, getting the kids to school, and all of the other tasks that fill daily life. Kids on the other hand don't have the same sense of priority or understanding of what needs to be done. Because of this it can feel like a struggle to get through the day. This week I have a conversation with parenting specialist Carrie Contey about how parents can move through the day getting done what they need to get done while still helping the kids to grow in a happy and healthy way. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify Guest: Carrie Contey, Ph.D. Contact: web @ carricontey.com; email @ [email protected]; Instagram @carrieconteyphd About: Carrie Contey, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized coach, author, speaker and educator. Her work offers a new perspective on human development, parenting and family life. She guides, supports and inspires her clients to live with wide-open and courageous hearts so they can approach family life with skill and spaciousness. Carrie received her doctorate in clinical psychology with an emphasis on prenatal and perinatal psychology and is masterful at synthesizing and articulating the science, psychology and spirituality of humanhood. She is the creator of Evolve, a year-long "personal growth through parenting" program which ran from 2011-2017. She is also the co-founder of the Slow Family Living movement and the co-author of CALMS: A Guide To Soothing Your Baby.

Support the podcast! One of the best parts about tapping is how easily it can be combined with other tools and modality. Recently, Steve Well has been working use the power of intention combined with tapping to get deeper healing and longer lasting results. In the case the idea of intention is about the outcome we want (for example "my intention is to be confident speaking in public") but instead holding specific intentions about the healing process. He calls his new approach Intention-based Energy Process (IEP) or Intention Tapping for short. In the conversation Steve shares how he came to use intention in this way as well as teaching you the entire process. Note: For the first time since 2013 Steve is running live training in North America. There is a 3 hour workshop on April 4th and three day advanced training April 5th - 7th in Toronto. Here are details Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! In this conversation we talk about how tapping can be used to: * Remove the one part that is making it harder * How to find the right part to focus on * How to let go of wrong part to focus * How to deal with extreme nerves - often called the [yips](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/yips/symptoms-causes/syc-20379021) in sports No matter what level or what setting you need to perform in, Tom will how you how to use simple tapping to get the most out each opportunity. Making mistakes can be frustrating, but it is even more frustrating when it is something that you know you can do, have done before, but in the moment, when it is most important that you get it right that you mess up. Athletes deal with problem all of the time. There are actions that they can do over and over again in practice, but when they get in to a game setting they mess up. Often times when we think of the mental game of performance we are only thinking athletic terms, but the same thing can happen with any task we are going to take. The moment the stakes are raised it is easy for the pressure of the moment to get the best of us. This week in the podcast I have a conversation with performance coach Dr. Tom Hanson. Over the last three decades Tom has worked with countless professional athletes and top level collegiate athletes. When it comes to performance it doesn't matter if you in a stadium in front of tens of thousands of people or you are making a small presentation to your co-workers, if you are worried about the outcome your nerves can get the best of you. This also means that the tools and techniques that Tom uses with top level athletes are also going to help us when we need to perform at our best. In this conversation we talk about how tapping can be used to: Remove the one part that is making it harder How to find the right part to focus on How to let go of wrong part to focus How to deal with extreme nerves - often called the yips in sports No matter what level or what setting you need to perform in, Tom will how you how to use simple tapping to get the most out each opportunity.

Support the podcast! I can't imagine not being a thoughtful, kind person in the world. I am glad that at least some of the time I am able to respond to other people's wants, needs, and suffering. But one of the consequences of being known to be thoughtful is that other people often come for help. In extreme cases, they aren't looking for help, they just want us to solve their problems. At some point it can become too much and just because someone we love it having a hard time, it doesn't mean we are responsible for solving all their problems. We can be thoughtful, helpful, and caring without taking on everyone's burdens. In this week's audio I have a story about how I was able to change the dynamics of a relationship where I had let a boundary down to the point that it was making my life difficult. There is also a tap-along that will make it easier for you to be the kind and thoughtful person that you are without having to take care of every burden of everyone you know. (A printable tapping script can be found below the audio.) Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call "pro-you choices". These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 3 of 4. You can find all four parts in the Pro-You Choices Series. For those of us who are of a thoughtful and caring disposition, it is natural to want to care for others. The problem comes when we spend so much time taking care of everyone else, we don't spend the time and attention that we need to take care of our own needs. The simple truth is: If we don't put ourselves first, no one else is going to. This week I have a tap-along audio (with printable tapping script below the audio player) to help to manage the guilt we may feel when we decide to take care of ourselves. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Note: To get 2019 off on the right foot, we're going to end 2018 and begin the new year with a four-part series on how to make what I call "pro-you choices". These are choices that are all about taking care of yourself. This is Part 2 of 4. You can find all four parts in the Pro-You Choices Series. I find that "I don't know!" is one of the hardest phrases to say. When I say it, it is easy for me to feel disempowered, incompetent, and less than. In a recent interview, actor and director John Krasinski talked about how the most powerful thing you can say is that you don't know. It is an interesting idea. When we are able to acknowledge that we don't fully understand what we are supposed to do or how to do it, we are actually putting ourselves in a place of power. Our honesty means we can make the best possible choice, without fooling others or ourselves. This week I have a tap-along audio (with printable script below the player) that will help you to be comfortable with not knowing. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! The month of December is a super busy time of year. There are work parties, holiday parties, meals with friends, family obligations, performances, recitals...the list goes on and on. In a vacuum, going to any one of these events is fine, but when they stack up on top of each other they can just become too much. Actor and comedian John Hodgman wrote last week in his newsletter: ALL SOCIAL PLANS ARE OPTIONAL. Especially HOLIDAY PARTIES. Everyone will understand if you can't make it. They probably won't even notice you're not there (sorry, narcissists!). And if it's a one-on-one thing, that's OK too. Your friend will forgive you if you cancel. They will probably be relieved, too. There is a part of you that knows this, and there is a part of you that feels like you are failing if you follow through and actually do this. Â This week I have a tap-along audio (with script below the player) that will help you to give yourself permission to say "no" to at least one invitation so that you are happier and healthier this holiday season. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Sometimes we make choices that hurt others. Sometimes our emotions get the better of us, or we act thoughtlessly and cause someone else pain. Either way, it's easy to beat ourselves up for the pain we have caused. Even when we apologize and do what we can to make amends, we may still feel bad. This week's podcast covers how to tap for those times when we have unintentionally hurt others with our words or actions. We tap for feeling bad because we have caused someone else pain, for feeling like a failure because of the mistakes we have made, and to create space to learn from the experience so that we make better choices in the future. I have also included a printable version of the tapping script below the audio player. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Tapping is great because it can be used on so many different issues, both physical and emotional. It works for issue from the past and worries about the future. Because the tool is so flexible, sometimes it is hard to know just where to start. You want to get the most out of your tapping and you don't want to waste your effort. When we are worried that we are going to do something wrong, such as picking the issue to tap on, it's easy for us not to take action at all. This week's podcast will teach you three ways to tap when you don't know where to start. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Note: This is Part 4 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. Often our harshest critic is the one living inside our own head. It points out everything we are doing wrong, all the expectations we are not living up to, and how we are destined to fail in the future. As hard as it is to believe, our critical voice exists because it's supposed to help us! By pointing out what we have done wrong in the past, it wants us to act differently in the future. The problem is that it doesn't work out that way. Instead it just beats us and makes us feel bad. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Gratitude and thanksgiving are powerful tools in helping us to be present in the moment and to help us to be even more aware of the blessings we have. But giving thanks isn't always the easiest of tasks because our lives aren't perfect. There is pain, struggle, and disappointment. This week I have a tap-along audio (and script below the player) to help us to be more thankful without being pollyannaish about the realities of our lives. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Note: This is Part 3 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. Attempting to tame clutter can feel like an overwhelming task. There have been times when I've spent hours trying to clean up... I work and work and work, but somehow it doesn't feel like I am getting anywhere. When clutter persists and you just can't seem to get a handle on it, it's usually because there is an emotional issue underlying your resistance to cleaning up. This week I share with you a simple process that you can do to start getting rid of your clutter. The process will help you to uncover the underlying emotional resistance AND it will show you how to tap to resolve it. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Note: This is Part 2 of 5 in the Most Commonly Asked Questions series. Make sure you check out all 5 parts. It can often feel like we are dealing with the same issues over and over again and when that happens, it can feel like tapping is just a giant waste of time. Our reasoning tells us that if tapping was working, the issue would be taken care of. There are three main reasons behind why it can feel like we aren't making any progress with our tapping. This week I explore these reasons and what we can do to recognize the true progress we are making. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! When someone joins my mailing list, one of the two questions I ask them is, "What is the biggest issue you have when it comes to tapping?" When I started asking this question I expected to receive lots of answers about specific topics or issues that are particularly hard to deal with. I do get a lot of these types of responses, but a good 25% of the responses say something along the lines of, "I know tapping works, but I just don't do it." This week I have for you three simple steps you can take that will transform tapping from this thing you beat yourself up for not doing, into something you reach for every day. (Full transcript of the audio can be found below the player.) Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! One of the main reasons that people say they don't tap is because of the belief that tapping is not going to work. This is a reasonable concern. Tapping is weird. It seems unreasonable that tapping on our body would be able to provide healing and relief. When I have encountered this resistance in the past I have asked the person who doesn't believe in tapping if they would be willing to tap on the fact that they don't believe it is going to work. A funny thing happens...they are willing to tap on their disbelief in tapping. You will notice in the first paragraph above I wrote "the reason that people say". I used the word say very deliberately. Sometimes people don't tap because they don't believe it will work and sometimes they say that as a mask for the real reason they don't tap. This week we explore why you don't tap and how to tap for not tapping. (Trust me it will make sense and it will work.) Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Recently I have been asked by a number of my clients about what type of daily tapping I do. My own tapping falls into three main categories: The first is a practical approach where I do some tapping for every task on my to-do list. I covered this process back in Bonus Pod #46 Second, when I have a clear idea of the exact issue, emotion, or limiting belief I'm experiencing, I use one of the 13 tools that can be found in Advanced Anger Management. As I have stated before, the book isn't really about anger, but working towards good emotional health. Download a free copy via the link above. Third, every morning, right after I have made my first cup of coffee, I spend some time tapping using the Set-Up Phrase Generator. The Set-Up Phrase Generator is a little piece of software that you can access free of charge from any web browser. Access the Set-Up Phrase Generator here: http://EFTSetupPhraseGenerator.com/ BUT before you do that, listen to this week's audio where I explain how it works, why I use it and hear me tap in real time, and then you will be ready to use it most effectively for your issues. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Back in podcast 292 I chatted with Mark Wolynn about how we are starting to recognize the way that trauma can be passed on from one generation to the next through our genes. Recognizing that some of our issues have nothing to do with our own experience is useful because it offers us a new way to approach the work we are doing with tapping. In addition to the genetic component of trauma, our emotional understanding of our issues is also influenced by the generations before us. I have seen this time and again with my clients where they feel it is unsafer for them to heal these family patterns. The thinking goes like this: the trauma we are feeling unites our family and if we choose to heal this trauma, then we are abandoning our family. Healing our trauma means risking breaking an important family connection. This week we look at how we understand generational trauma and the sense of family connection it creates, helping us to recognize when we are sabotaging our healing. I have also included a tap-along audio that will help you to recognize that it's possible to heal these generational issues AND do honor to your family. As always, there is a printable version of the tapping script below the audio player.

Support the podcast! It makes sense that we would feel grief and sadness after the death of a loved one. But this is not the only time that we experience grief. The emotion of grief is our system telling us that we are missing or disconnected from something or someone that is important to us. This could be the end of a relationship, a missed opportunity, or when we realize that we have wasted valuable time by not acting sooner. These experiences create genuine grief, but because our definition of grief may be too narrow, we can miss the opportunity to tap for it. An emotion that goes unaddressed can simmer beneath the surface and cause us problems later on in life. This week we are going to tap for the shades of grief we experience that aren't related to death and dying. As always, below the audio player is a script that you can print out and use anywhere. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Recently I was talking with one of my clients. She has been doing an amazing amount of transformational work in her life. Personally, professionally, and emotionally everything was better, but she was struggling. The basic thrust of our conversation was "I know everything in my life is getting better, so why do I feel worse?" On the surface this might seem like an odd situation, but it happens a lot more than you would think. Much of it comes down to the fact that there are different types of problems and not all of those problems are created equally. We always start with the most pressing problem first. For example, if you think terms of Maslow's hierarchy of needs, we will worry about food and shelter before we worry about living a life of purpose or a fulfilling career. The same is true when we are dealing with our emotional life. We start with the most pressing needs, such as feeling safe in the world, and then we move on to higher level needs, such as issues of self-esteem and self-worth. As we move up the levels of needs, the more abstract the problems become. There are practical steps towards the basic need of trying to make myself feel safe, whereas the path to loving and accepting myself is less clear. Because this is the case, as we move up (as in my client's case where her life is getting better), the issues become more abstract and we have less control, so it can feel like things are getting worse. This week I have for you a deeper dive into these concepts, which will make it easier for you to recognize when you are experiencing this in your own life. I have also included a tap-along to help you to move through the feeling that your life is getting worse, when in truth it is improving. As always, I have included a printable tapping script below the audio player. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! Jealousy is such corrosive emotion. It makes us think ill of others. It makes us feel bad for ourselves. I don't know about you, but it leads me to make poor and rash decisions. The worst part of jealousy is feeling the emotion about someone else, but having to deal with its negative consequences. Recently, I was at a professional training event and was so overcome with jealousy of the person presenting on stage that I could barely think straight. I was able to do some tapping in the moment to clear my head, but I realized that it was a big enough issue that I needed to deal with it in a deeper way. Over the next few weeks I spent some time every single day tapping for jealousy and all the other feelings around it. This week's tap-along audio is one of those tapping sessions, with the tapping script also available in a text version. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! One of the reasons that the human species survives is because of our innate ability to learn. Every time we experience something new, we have the opportunity to learn how the world works and how our fellow humans react to a certain set of circumstances. With each new experience, we are able to make subconscious comparisons with prior experiences. New information means we are able to update our understanding of ourselves and of the world we inhabit. There are two problems with the way that we learn. First, we sometimes learn the wrong lesson. Because we may not fully understand a situation, we draw inaccurate conclusions. Second, at times we are presented with new information that conflicts with our old lessons and beliefs, so we choose (consciously or unconsciously) to ignore the new information. This conflict means that sometimes not only do we not accept new information about ourselves and the world, but it actually gets in the way of our transformation. In this week's podcast I share with you: How we build our understanding of who we are and how the world works The pitfalls that this creates in the moment as we take action How this slows or halts our ability to heal How you can tap with this knowledge so you are no longer hindering your progress Below the audio player I have included a tapping script for the tapping that we do at the end of the audio. I encourage you to listen to the full audio before tapping to the script because an understanding of the context for the tapping will make the tapping itself more powerful. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! It can be difficult to remain focused on doing the work to improve your life. Sometimes you are pushing forward without seeing any progress. Sometimes the goal seem so far away that it is impossible. AND sometimes we just feel alone on the journey. When we are trying to improve our lives it's common to feel that the people around us are unwilling to do the same, and may even be resistant to the fact that we are changing and growing our own. This can make the work of transformation to feel lonely. This week I have words of encouragement to keep you going, even when you feel alone. Because the truth is you are not alone. It might feel like it, but there are many thousands of people who are on healing journeys, just like you. This week we tap to know that we aren't alone AND that the work we are doing in our own lives makes it easier for others, and the work others are doing is clearing a path for us. (Below the audio player you will also find a text version of the tapping script.) Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! This is Part 7 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we have been tapping for a specific emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. Being successful is hard enough. It becomes even harder when we are worried about others judging our success. Others may judge our dreams as being foolish. They may be jealous when they see us chasing our dreams and being successful. They may even feel that we are judging them because they aren't experiencing the same success as we are enjoying. Worrying about these types of judgments makes us less likely to take action because being judged isn't any fun. In this week's tap-along (with a printable tapping script below audio player) we tap for taking action in spite of what others might think of our success. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify

Support the podcast! This is Part 6 of the 7-part Productivity Series. Each week we are going to tap for an emotional block to taking action. Check out the full series. Even when we know the right action to take, it can be difficult to do because we are so good at sabotaging ourselves. The Take Action Now program was created to eliminate self-sabotaging behavior so you can take decisive action towards achieving your goals. Full details here. One of the difficulties with being successful is that success is not an all-or-nothing proposition. Success usually comes in stages as part of a process. When we are doing the work and taking action we are often too close to what is going on to see the progress we are making. This can be discouraging and slow down our progress because it doesn't feel like the effort we are putting in is paying off. This week's tap-along audio (and printable script below the player) will help you to recognize the progress you are making and to regain your momentum. Subscribe in: Apple | Android | Spotify