Tapping Q & A - Getting the most out of tapping and EFT

Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. I like to check in with my email newsletter readers to find out what struggles they are facing with tapping so that I can create the most useful resources possible. The majority of the responses I've received describe a similar problem, described in one of two ways. They are "I never remember to tap" and "I forget to tap in the moment of distress". There are two reasons why this happens. First, building a habit takes time and just because we want to do something regularly doesn't mean we automatically start to do it. In Podcast 201 I teach you easy ways to make tapping a habit. The second reason we don't tap is because there is a subconscious part of us that resists healing. It isn't that we want to suffer, but on some level we believe that the safest option is to stay stuck exactly where we are. It doesn't have to be this way. This week's podcast covers why we don't tap, even when we know it will be helpful, and how to start tapping more regularly. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Personally, I think one of the most important discoveries in the study of trauma is the recognition that trauma has the ability to be passed from generation to generation through our genetic code. In the most basic terms it means that if one of our parents has a fear of water because of a traumatic instance in their life it is very likely we will have the same fear because it is in our DNA. The good news is, just because it is in our DNA doesn't mean we are stuck with it forever. It just requires a different approach for the transformation because we don't have a memory to tap on. In my first interview with Mark we talked about how trauma can be passed down through our epigenetics. This time we talk about how to identify if something is a generational trauma or an attachment trauma (something that has happened to us) through recognizing what he calls "trauma language". The language we use to describe our trauma will help us to tell which type it is. Take the time to dive into this one. I would recommend listening to it twice. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora Guest: Mark Wolynn Contact: web @ MarkWolynn.com; facebook @ Mark Wolynn About: Mark Wolynn, director of The Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, is a leading expert in the field of inherited family trauma. A sought-after lecturer, he has taught at the University of Pittsburgh, the Western Psychiatric Institute, Kripalu, The Omega Institute, The New York Open Center, and The California Institute of Integral Studies. Mark specializes in working with depression, anxiety, obsessive thoughts, fears, panic disorders, self-injury, chronic pain and persistent symptoms and conditions. His book IT DIDN'T START WITH YOU: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle (Viking/Penguin) is the winner of the 2016 Nautilus Book Award in psychology. His articles have appeared in Psychology Today, Mind Body Green, MariaShriver.com, Elephant Journal, and Psych Central.

Especially for beginners, and sometimes for more skilled tappers, knowing what to say and where to start is often the part of tapping that trips people up. Just because we recognize the fact that the words themselves aren't magic and that there is no such thing as the perfect tapping phase, does not mean it's easy to start when we are experiencing a lot of mixed emotions all at once. In this conversation Nancy Forester and I talk about a number of approaches and tools that you can use to start your tapping. These will ease you into tapping when you don't know where to begin and also help you to get more out of your tapping sessions each time you sit down. If you enjoy this conversation, you should check out Nancy's Conscious EFT 101 which is a free five-part series introducing you to her trauma informed approach to safe and effective EFT. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora Guest: Nancy Forrester Contact: web @ neftti.com About: Nancy Forrester is a retired clinical psychotherapist, coach, international speaker, corporate consultant and Canada's only Accredited Master Trainer and Trainer of Trainers in Emotional Freedom Techniques (often referred to as EFT or Tapping). Since discovering the enormous power of Energy Psychology in the late 90's, Nancy has been a passionate student, teacher and advocate of this advanced approach to transformation. Nancy blends a variety of research-based tools and modalities to maximize impact and is internationally recognized as a leading expert in integrating the most cutting-edge mind-body-spirit strategies for health and personal development into therapy and coaching work. Nancy founded the National EFT Training Institute in 2012 out of a desire to bring EFT to a broad audience of professionals. NeftTI offers professional-level training, mentoring and certification to active psychotherapists, medical professionals, social workers, personal and business coaches, holistic practitioners as well as to people looking to transition to being transformational coaches. NeftTi's trainings are renowned for their high standards, trauma-informed approach, high level of warmth and personal engagement as well as post-training involvement in a closely held community of like-minded practitioners.

Receive 50% off Mastering the Art of Delivery by using the coupon code "podcast" http://TappingArtOfDelivery.com The two most common questions asked by those new to tapping are "Does tapping work?" and "How do we know tapping works?" As someone who loves tapping, it's great that I can share my personal first hand experience of tapping, but for some people it just isn't enough. In this conversation David Feinstein and I talk about six criteria to determine whether or not tapping works. Then we move on to what the scientific research has shown as to why tapping works. I believe this information is useful for a couple of reasons. First, when we know how something works, it makes it easier for us to get the most out of the tool. Second, when we know how and why it works, it makes it much easier to explain to others. I think this is an essential conversation for anyone who taps and would like to share tapping with others. Support the podcast! [player] Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora Guest: David Feinstein, PhD Contact: web @ Eden Energy Medicine About: David Feinstein is a clinical psychologist and a pioneer in developing innovative therapeutic approaches, leading to nine national awards for his books on consciousness and healing. He and his wife, Donna Eden, have built the world's largest and most vibrant organization teaching energy medicine. Their latest award-winning book, The Energies of Love, achieved best-seller status on the NY Times Relationship List. David has served on the faculties of The Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, Antioch College, and the California School of Professional Psychology. David received the 2002 "Outstanding Contribution" Award from the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology (and again in 2012), the U.S. Book News Award for the Best Psychology/Mental Health Book of 2007, the 2015 "Outstanding Leadership" Award from the Canadian Association for Integrative and Energy Therapies, and the Infinity Foundation's 2013 "Spirit Award" (with Donna) for their contribution to "the evolution of consciousness" and its "impact on society." A licensed psychologist (Oregon), he has contributed more than 100 articles to the professional literature.

One of my favorite parts of the tapping community is people's willingness to share their experience and expertise. A few months ago I sent an email to a number of practitioners I admire and asked them if they would be willing to share their wisdom about the following: What lessons have clients taught you about healing? What is something you have changed your mind about when it comes to healing, working with clients, or your own transformation process? If you were to start your own healing journey over again, what would you do differently? What is one thing you wish your clients believed about themselves? What is one thing you wish your clients believed about the healing process? I received some wonderful responses from Kim D'Eramo, Alan Davidson, Jondi Whitis, Robin Bilazarian, Kris Ferraro, Gwyneth Moss, Deborah D Miller, Jake Khym, Tania A Prince, Ange Finn, Nancy Forester, Peta Stapleton, Julie Schiffman, Steve Wells, and Mary Ayers. You can read all their answers (and soak up their wisdom) right here. Reading through all of these amazing answers gave me the opportunity to reflect on those questions myself. In this week's podcast I share my own answers to the five questions. These lessons are just a taste of what I will be teaching in my Mastering the Art of Delivery training. If you join us, you will get more out of your tapping while working with clients and while tapping on your own. Use the coupon code "podcast" for 50% off the registration. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. When we take an action we usually have an expectation about how it will work out. When I order lunch, my expectation is that the food will be tasty. When I launch a new product in my business, I expect to reach certain sales goals. In addition to the outcome, we also have expectations of how we should feel when we are doing something. On one level it's not enough just to give a good presentation at work, because a part of us wants to feel completely in control and confident while giving that presentation. This situation gives rise to a great deal of negative self-talk. We beat ourselves up in the moment for not doing well enough AND we beat ourselves up after the fact for not meeting our expectations. As well as feeling bad in the moment this means that we are also less likely to take action in the future. Here is a simple way to quiet negative self-talk. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

As someone who knows a lot about tapping, it's natural to want to share that knowledge with others, but sometimes we don't have the opportunity. This is especially true when dealing with a crisis in the moment, when we are working with children, or both. In this podcast Jondi Whitis and I talk about how to approach either of these situations and she shares strategies to avoid over-explaining or attempting to do too much, plus a simple formula for how we can be most helpful in the moment. The conversation is based on the book [Emotional First-Aid For Children}(https://amzn.to/3eaFesl) that Jondi co-wrote with Deborah Miller. If you spend time with children, this book is a must-have! Support the podcast! [player] Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora Guest: Jondi Whitis Contact: Web @ JondiWhitis.com; email @ [email protected]; YouTube @ Jondi Whitis About:Jondi Whitis is an Accredited, Certified EFT Master Trainer, Practitioner, Mentor and Training Board member of EFT International. She delights in teaching others how to become EFT practitioners of excellence, and has a passion for producing modern, creative resources for practitioners and trainers worldwide. She is known for her deeply personal, hands-on training and mentoring, and is especially interested in using those skills to serve children, veterans, Native Americans, and healthcare professionals interested in modern, holistic approaches to wellness. She describes herself as an 'integration specialist', enthusiastically guiding clients and professionals to find authentic ways of integrating EFT into their lives. Her outreach efforts include the first TapFest, now called the Spring Energy Event gathering, which she hosts each year with a team of friends, and activities for the Humanitarian Committee of ACEP, an ambassador for the EFT Guild, and has authored 3 resource books on AMAZON, How to Be a Great Detective, Creating Great Introductory Groups, and Compassion in Action: Emotional First-Aid for Children. A fourth resource book, on facing serious health challenges, is in the works.

Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. One of the human experiences that cuts us the deepest is being ignored or dismissed as unimportant by whose attention we most want. The pain can come from being ignored by our friends, our family, or any one important in our life. On one level, it taps into the primitive fear of being excluded from the safety of our tribe. And on another level, it pushes against our desire to be seen as worthy by others. This week's podcast explores: Why this experience is so painful What story we tell ourselves on an emotional level when we perceive that we are being ignored or dismissed How to tap to manage this experience As you will hear, there are often multiple aspects to this issue, which makes tapping for it tricky. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

The murder of George Floyd and the ongoing protests at centuries of racial injustice have galvinized many to speak truth more forcefully in their daily lives. One of those people is my friend J Nycole Ralph. As J Nycole was processing her own emotions, she realized that she was being more impacted by the death of another black American AND she wasn't standing up in as powerful a way she wanted to. To that end, she created a process called The CREATE Method. It stands for C – Claim that you feel something R – Recognize the feeling E – Embrace the feeling A – Address the feeling T – Take action E – Educate and Engage In today's podcast, J Nycole walks me through these six steps. As someone who has helped people process their emotions for over a decade, I learned a number of new ideas in this conversation. It is well worth your time. Listen to this. Take notes. Implement the ideas as you are working on and tapping for your issues and struggles. This is timely for this moment, but it is a tool you can use always. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora Guest: J Nycole Ralph Contact: email @ [email protected]; Instagram @jnycoleralph; Instagram @wokseries; Schedule a free CREATE Strategy Session with J Nycole About: J Nycole Ralph teaches the C.R.E.A.T.E. process and helps entrepreneurs, artists, and personal development junkies to implement it into their lives so that they can make an impact on the world and get paid well to do it! She does this via life coaching through the world-renowned company, Inner Access, as well as via independent life coaching for actors & performers. J Nycole has been living her dream of performing on Broadway and touring around the world for the past several years, telling the heartwarmingly impactful yet hilarious story, The Book of Mormon (written by Matt Stone & Trey Parker, writers of South Park). She has also created her own comedic series called Working Out the Kinks that not only makes you laugh but also uses hair as a vehicle to explore and educate on the differences between black and white culture. Additionally, J Nycole is an executive producer on the upcoming feature film, Lola, the first African-American female boxing movie, starring Taja V. Simpson of The Bold and the Beautiful and Tyler Perry's Boo 2. J Nycole's mission is to carry out the legacy of entertaining while empowering and educating, a legacy left to her by her mother and grandparents to whom she gives thanks and honor for, without them, she would not be the woman she is today.

The phrase "sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me" is often taught to us as children. As adults, we know this isn't true. It would be great if what other people said about us didn't have the power to hurt us, but we are doing ourselves a disservice by pretending it doesn't. Here is a simple 3-step process to tease out the reason why certain words hurt more than others and help you to identify the source of the hurt. Is it the words themselves, who is saying them, or who is hearing the words when they are spoken? All three of those possibilities can add to the feeling of hurt. When you are able to recognize the different components causing the hurt, it will be much easier to tap to gain relief. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Before doing this I didn't understand the difference between compassion fatigue and burnout. I thought compassion fatigue was just a specific type of burnout experienced by helpers and healers. In reality, compassion fatigue is not only different, but can be much more serious than burnout. To understand compassion fatigue more I interviewed licensed mental health professional Robin Bilazarian. Robin has experience of working with countless clients who are in danger of being traumatized by working with people who are in trouble. In this podcast Robin and I talk about: The difference between compassion fatigue and burnout The signs of compassion fatigue Why at this moment in history we are more susceptible to it How to prevent and how to heal compassion fatigue At one point in the conversation we discuss how a forgiveness practice can be helpful in combating compassion fatigue. You can find that resource here. Even if you are not a professional helper, if you are a person who helps others in your personal life, I strongly recommend you listen to this episode. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora https://cdn.shortpixel.ai/client/to_webp,q_lossless,ret_img/https://tappingqanda.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/RobinBilazarian-269x300.png Guest: Robin Bilazarian LCSW, DCSW, DCEP Contact: Web @ RobinEFT.net About: Robin Bilazarian is a licensed mental health professional who has been tapping with her clients for 24 years. In addition to her private practice, she worked 20 hours a week serving the staff of an urban hospital, frequently assisting with compassion fatigue and other issues with the hospital staff, physicians and medical students. In her hospital work Robin regularly helps people who have NOT come to her because she is a tapping practitioner. In fact, most of her clients at the hospital and in her clinical practice have never heard of tapping before walking into her office. She has also toured the USA teaching other psychotherapists how to bring EFT and tapping into their clinical practice.

Do you sometimes hold yourself back from making choices because of concern about how they may impact those around you? It is good to be thoughtful about how your actions affect others, but we can't allow this to dictate our choices. If we put everyone else's needs first, we will never be able to take care of ourselves, and chances are that nobody else will do that for us. This tapping is a simple guide to help us to be thoughtful about how our choices impact others, but without allowing that thought to control how we make choices and move through our lives. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. Wanting to fit in and belong is a basic human desire, not a failure. It's natural to want others to like and accept us and to appreciate the work that we do. Because of this fundamental desire to belong, part of us is always on the lookout for slights and judgments, which we may imagine even when they're not there. That makes us prone to mistaking someone's evaluation that something we're offering is not a good fit for them for a negative judgment of us or our worth. This week's podcast examines: The difference between evaluation and judgment How we can mistake one for the other Why we respond so emotionally to judgment How to tap for a better understanding of evaluation vs. judgment You can find the full tapping script from the end of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

In May 2014 I was lucky enough to be invited to join the group Empowering The Philippines in teaching EFT Tapping to the residents of Tacloban City and the surrounding areas. Six months earlier the region had been ravaged by Super Typhoon Haiyan (called Yolanda in the Philippines), displacing four million people and leaving one million homes damaged or destroyed. Our days in the Philippines were split between teaching local people how to use tapping to deal with their experience of the typhoon, and teaching teachers, doctors, and mental health professionals how to use tapping in their work. After the experience my friend Helen McConnell (bio below) interviewed me about the work we did, my experience, and what we can all learn from this type of work. I also wrote a daily diary with my personal reflections while in the Philippines, which you can read on on my personal blog. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora About Helen McConnell: Helen McConnell is a Certified EFT Practitioner, trained in clinical and advanced EFT. She specializes in helping people release the limiting beliefs that stand in the way of the success they desire – whether its business, finances, health, weight release, love, or creating their legacy.

I often hear my clients say "I should have known better" OR "I know better, but for some reason I keep making the same choice" when they are judging their actions. Just knowing what the right choice is doesn't mean we will make it, because information alone is not enough. Most of the reasons we don't make the right choice or take the right action, even though we know intellectually what we want to do, have to do with our emotional state. In almost every case, emotions will win out over reason. This week's podcast explores: Why our emotions win How dealing with regret for poor choices in the past is key to making better choices in future How to use EFT Tapping to make better choices more often Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

In response to everything that is going on the world my friends Jennifer Carey and Dayna Wood have been doing a video show three times a week called "Connected and Conscious". On the show they ask their friends and colleagues how they are staying healthy, focused, and happy during this time of great upheaval and uncertainty. In addition to talking about how the guests are taking care of themselves, they also offer a gift in every episode in the shape of a tool that the audience can use right away. As they say when talking about the focus of the show, "We all have something to offer!" I was lucky enough to be a guest on the show on May 13th. Dayna and Jennifer have graciously allowed me to share the audio here. You can check out the full video series on Integrative Counsel. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora Dayna Wood: Dayna is known for her approachable, honest, and non-judgmental style. She applies creativity, mindfulness, and neuro-leadership principles to counsel and coach busy professionals, business leaders, and corporations to achieve their full potential. She combines out-of-the-box thinking with solid scientific research, so her clients get the best of both worlds. You can contact her and learn more about her work at IntegrativeCounsel.com. Jennifer H. Carey EdS, LMHC: Jennifer's experience in psychotherapy, mindfulness, and interpersonal communication are highly-valued skills that she applies to working with individuals, couples and groups. Jennifer holds a Master's and Specialist degrees in Counselor Education from the University of Florida, as well as a Reiki Master Practitioner certification. She has experience in the profit, nonprofit and educational sectors. Her clinical work included running a Dialectical Behavior Therapy group where she learned how to teach and apply mindfulness. Her own passion for personal growth is evident in her work. She loves any opportunity to cook and share a meal with family and friends. You can contact her and learn more about her work at http://jenniferhcarey.com/.

Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. A significant amount of my time tapping with clients is spent looking into the past. We identify and examine the past experiences and beliefs that have shaped the way that the subconscious influences present action. Tapping and EFT excel at this task! Human beings are not usually good at seeing the past clearly. We end up judging our past choices based on current beliefs. You have experienced this if you have ever thought, "I should have known better!" It is particularly hard because we find it almost impossible to remember what it is like to not know something. Once we have learned a lesson, it feels as if we have always known it. When we judge ourselves harshly in this way, it slows the healing process. This week I have a simple tapping process to help you to be gentler with your past self and past choices, which will speed the healing process. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

New York City is a wacky place. One of the things that I have encountered firsthand is how amazingly different the dating scene is here compared with other cities. First, there are millions of people, many of whom are single, which vastly increases the pool of potential dates. Second, everyone is very busy so dates can be short (and feel a bit rushed) because everyone seems to have less time. Third, because of the first two points, people move on to the next prospective suitor more quickly than I have experienced other places. Because of this I have met some fascinating and wonderful women, I have consumed lots of really good food and drink on these dates, and I have been on more first dates in my short time in NYC than most people go on in their entire life. In this process I've learned two major lessons that have impacted my entire life: Say yes more. Making sure your yes means yes and your no means no. Embracing these two lessons in all parts of life, not just dating, has made my life richer and my relationships stronger. In this episode I have included a tap-along audio for each lesson. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Note: This podcast is a part of the Fundamental Disposition series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series. Last week a client asked me, "Why do you make me tap on that phrase all the time? Is it something you see in me that makes you think we need to tap on it?" I reassured her that it had nothing to do with her in particular, but something I tapped on with all of my clients. And then, right on cue, two other clients this week asked me about the same tapping phrase! The phrase is: "I give myself permission to be easy and gentle with myself." This is the phrase my clients tend to resist the most AND I believe it is one of the most important topics for us to address with tapping. This week's podcast explores why it is so hard for us (me included) to tap on the idea of being gentle with ourselves and why it is important for us to do so. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Just because we have a to-do list filled with useful tasks doesn't mean that we will actually have a productive day. Sometimes we waste our time on tasks that aren't even on our list, or we complete tasks on our list that are not the most valuable ones. Being busy is not necessarily the same thing as being productive. Here is a simple tapping tool I use every morning to ensure that I actually do the tasks on my to-do list AND I do the most valuable ones. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Recently I was working with a client on the grief she was feeling at missing so many experiences she loves during quarantine. As we were debriefing after a round of tapping she said: "While we were tapping on the grief I noticed all of these other pools of grief that were inside me from the past. As we tapped it was almost as if the wall between those pools of grief broke, the grief combined, and they all released together." Even though this was the first time I had heard this experience described in this particular way, with pools of emotions connecting, the experience itself is common. When we experience an emotion it reminds us of the other times we have experienced that same emotion. If those past emotions are not fully processed, it can feel like we're being hit by a wave of past emotions all at once. In the moment, we may feel worse because the emotions are getting stronger, but in reality it is a great opportunity to heal. We can clear not only what we are feeling in the moment, but also unprocessed emotions from the past. In this week's podcast learn a simple five-step process to clear past emotions that bubble up during a tapping session. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

The world is a very big place and when we think of how we can make an impact on the world and everything going on in it, we can feel awfully small. In reality, our small gestures and ways of being in the world and how we interact with others can have a significant impact. Recognizing that our choices do make a difference make those helpful choices easier. This tap-along will help you to be a peacemaker in your world, which will ripple outwards and make a bigger impact. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Most choices aren't black and white, so being of two minds is a common experience. There are pros and cons to both outcomes. On the finale of this season's Project Runway (US version), one of the contestants, Victoria Cocieru, was struggling with which direction to take with her designs. She said, "In my brain I have a thousand little brains and they are fighting with each other." I find that a very evocative way of thinking about the problem. This week's podcast explores and taps for struggling with being of two (or more) minds when trying to make decisions. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! [player] Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Most of us spend at least half of our day at work. Because work consumes so much of our time and attention, stress from the working day can easily spill over into the rest of our lives. This week's podcast provides a tool that will help you to leave work at work. This tool applies to all types of work, no matter how many hours you work, and whether you travel to a workplace or work from home. It takes less than three minutes to do and will not only ensure you leave work stress at work, but will also make it easier to return to work the next day. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Family is complicated. Because they are family we want what is best for them. But at the same time we put up with more from them than we'd put up with from others because they are family. We will allow our family to say and do things that we would not tolerate from anyone else in our lives. This can cause an internal conflict. How can we be a loving family member whilst at the same time not want to be around the person? This week's podcast explores and taps for: family relationships how to want what is best for them how to claim the space we need for our safety and well-being Even if you have a great relationship with your family, there will be some parts of the relationship you find frustrating. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

One of the most difficult parts of the healing process is being able to forgive ourselves. It's common to believe that if we forgive ourselves, we are letting ourselves off the hook and failing to take responsibility for our past choices. Self-forgiveness is actually the opposite of this. Being able to move to a place of forgiveness means we are taking responsibility for the past and making sure it stays in the past. When we don't forgive, we're just reliving the past over and over again. This tap-along audio is a recording of one of my client sessions where we were tapping on the idea of self-forgiveness. I was given permission by my client to use this recording and I have also removed his voice from the audio. This will allow you to tap along as if I were tapping with you. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

These uncertain times mean that our emotional guidance system is on overdrive. It is working nonstop to keep us safe because it's dealing with the unknown. That means we're expending energy all day long in the background as our emotional system tries to protect us. It's like we are starting off every day paying a 20% emotion tax, meaning that we only have 80% of our usual reserves and resilience. This podcast explores: the impact of the 20% emotion tax how to structure your work and to-do lists accordingly what are reasonable expectations at this time how to tap to manage this situation I also share the tapping I have been doing first thing in the morning to get the most out of each day. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

One of the most common issues I uncover in my client sessions is the feeling of not being worthy to be here. It's seldom the main issue my clients present when we start working together, but as we work we find instances from their past where they felt dismissed or ignored by the people who were important to them. This creates a feeling of not believing you are worthy to be here at this moment. Here is a simple tap-along that will help you to recognize that you are worthy and valuable! You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

The most primitive part of our emotional guidance system is our fear response. Fear's primary goal is to keep us from dying. I know that sounds like an overstatement, but this is exactly how it functions. Of course it's good that part of our internal guidance is on alert and doesn't want us to die, but in the modern word just because we fear something doesn't mean there are fatal consequences. Because of this, our fear can often get out of proportion. When we are acting out of fear we don't make the best choices. Sometimes we just freeze and don't do anything at all. At the same time, we don't want to be so casual that we become careless. When I am in a pressured situation my goal is to move from fear to urgency. When I am feeling a sense of urgency I understand that I need to act decisively. While fear makes us feel stuck, urgency gives us focused energy to take action. Here is a simple tap-along to help move you from a state of fear to one of urgency. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

While past choices may have contributed to your present, they do not mean that what comes next is predetermined. It is all too easy to feel trapped by both past choices and your current situation BUT they do not define who we are or who we can choose to be. In this short tapping audio we place ourselves at a fresh starting point. This audio is lifted directly from a client session, with my client's permission. I have also edited out my client's voice so that you can tap along as if you are working one-on-one with me. This is the perfect type of audio to use to start your day! Try using it daily for a week or two and see what shifts you notice. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Grief is a much more common emotion than we might think. It is obvious that we feel grief when a loved one dies, or when an important relationship or job ends. In reality, grief shows up any time we experience a loss. This could be for an opportunity, an ability, or even something as simple as a predictable daily routine. For the large changes it is easy to recognize grief. For smaller changes it is much harder. We often dismiss the feelings of grief as agitation, tiredness, or just being off kilter. As our daily lives have changed so radically with the COVID-19 pandemic, it's likely that we are feeling much more grief than we realize. Last year I interviewed Lynne Staley, an expert on grief, on how to identify grief and I think that now would be a great time to revisit that podcast. Use this week's simple tap-along audio and script to help you deal with the grief you are feeling right for your loss of normalcy. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

When I was younger I had a hard time accepting the idea that God could love me unconditionally. I believed that I had to earn God's unconditional love. Meaning that I wasn't understanding that unconditional means unconditional, aka it doesn't have to be earned! Here's an audio from a client session where we tapped for accepting unconditional love. My client gave me permission to use this recording and I have removed his voice so you can tap along as if you were tapping one-on-one with me. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Sometimes we find inspiration in the strangest places. A few weeks ago I attended the On Air Fest, an event for podcast creators and podcast fans. One of my favorite presentations was given by Shima Oliaee who was one of the producers for Dolly Parton's America. During the presentation Shima shared a number of lessons she learned from interviewing Dolly and working on the project. Dolly is clearly a woman who feels deeply. When talking about how she deals with positive and negative emotions she said, "When I feel an emotion I am fully committed to it." This week's podcast explores what being "fully committed" to our emotions means and how we can use this idea to get more out of our tapping. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Our initial emotional response to a major crisis like the COVID-19 pandemic is with feelings of shock, worry, and overwhelm. At a certain point, the initial shock wears off and we move on to what I call second wave emotions that arise as we contemplate what is next and the future. Here are 7 tap-along audios for second wave emotions. They are: Going stir-crazy (4:42) Not having any personal space (7:44) Feeling isolated and alone (10:40) Mourning the loss of many activities we love (14:52) Not feeling motivated to do anything (18:24) Frustrated with all the extra steps we have added to our daily routine (23:06) Tired of everyone only wanting to talk about COVID-19 (26:33) If you'd like to jump to the tapping for one particular issue listed, you can go directly to that section by using the timestamp above. For example, if you wanted to tap for the second issue, not having any personal space, you would find it at 7 minutes and 44 seconds in the player below. Make sure you check out the full list of tapping resources from around the web, which is being updated all the time. Currently I am adding many resources for second wave emotions. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

After sharing 40 minutes of tapping on Friday I asked my listeners and readers what other topics would be useful for me to cover. In today's new audio we tap for the following topics: Fear of the unknown (4:13) Fear about how long this will last (7:24) Fear for our most vulnerable loved ones (10:24) Feeling like life is out of control (13:17) Sorrow over the loss of normalcy (17:04) The physical and emotional fatigue from the constant worry (21:35) Worry about not having enough supplies (25:43) Negative thoughts that are distracting us from our work and our creativity (29:37) If you'd like to jump to the tapping for one particular issue listed, you can go directly to that section by using the timestamp above. For example, if you wanted to tap for the second issue, fear about how long this will last, you would find it at 7 minutes and 24 seconds in the player below. Make sure you check out the full list of tapping resources from around the web. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

You might not know that I am the lead coach in a program called the Transformational BizClub (BizClub for short) which is a program run by my friend Pamela Bruner. The BizClub is setup to help business owners grow their business through strategic help and mindset work (lots of tapping). Friday morning in our Facebook group there were a number of members who were, rightly, sharing their concerns about what is going on in the world and with their businesses. I asked Pamela if it was okay if we did a bonus group call Friday afternoon to do some tapping. That is exactly what we did. AND I asked Pamela if it was alright if I shared the audio with you. She immediately said "Yes!" We tapped on: Worry about our personal health Worry about our loved ones health Being overwhelmed by the news Thinking about doing work is being insensitive to others Thinking that our work and day to day is unimportant in troubled times Not knowing what to do because our plans have had to change Trying to be thoughtful without making everything into a catastrophe Having to deal with the overwhelming fear of others It is close to 40 minutes of tapping. The audio is from a Zoom recording so it doesn't sound like the normal podcast, but it is still a great tool for you to tap along to. For more information about the BizClub visit http://coachwithpamela.com Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

At the time of the recording of this podcast the COVID-19 virus is starting to impact daily life around the world. The number of cases is spreading. Sporting events are being canceled. People are being encouraged not to travel. Because of the constant stream of news and information on our social media feeds, it is easy to feel panicked. This panic is rooted in two factors. The first is the fear about getting sick. The second is the fear caused by knowing we can't do anything about the big picture problem. It's as if it is something that is slowly creeping towards us and we are powerless to stop it. This week I have for you a simple tap-along audio and script to help you to feel calm in the face of a global problem that we don't feel like we can do anything about. [Note: Here is a tap-along audio and script to help you to stay healthy. If you are feeling sick, make sure you reach out to your primary care provider. Tapping is a great tool to augment and support your health, but should not be the only tool you use.] You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

The most common question I hear about tapping is "Will tapping work for [insert issue]?" The second most common question is "What are the right tapping phrases to use for [insert issue]?" I understand why that question is so often asked. In most tapping trainings you are taught that your tapping phrases need to be as specific as possible to get the most out of tapping. This concern is compounded when you hear an experienced tapper effortlessly come up with what seem to be the perfect phrases. In reality, there is no such thing as the "exactly right words" to tap along to. The words themself aren't magic. In this short audio I explain how best to approach the words and phrases that you can tap to AND the most effective way to come up with the perfect phrases for you. The good news is that it's much easier than you would think. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Pride is on the list of the seven deadly sins and whether explicitly and implicitly, our culture discourages us from displaying pride or egotism. Instead, we are taught to do our work and keep our heads down. It is true that some people have outsized egos that cause them (and others) problems, but just because there are egomaniacs in the world doesn't mean that we shouldn't feel pride. Feeling a sense of pride in our work and our capabilities is healthy. It helps us to stay motivated and continue to do good work and it allows others to see what we can do, what is possible and how we can help them. Tap along with this week's podcast to cultivate a healthy sense of pride in who you are, what you can do, and what you have accomplished. [Note: Here is the youtube video for K-OS's song Crabbuckit which is referenced in the podcast] You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

Multiple studies have shown that stating clear goals makes it more likely that we will be successful. They help us to stay on track and maintain our focus. But simply having goals is not enough. At one extreme it is easy to become disconnected from our goals because they are too abstract. At the other, we can find ourselves in a situation where we are so focused on our exact goals that we miss other opportunities. This week's podcast explores the one simple idea that you can add to any named goals that will increase your likelihood of success AND in many cases in a much easier way than planned. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

One of the keys to effective tapping is having an emotion to tap for, but sometimes we aren't able to feel anything deeply. We may feel numb or ambivalent and even though these two experiences are not the same, they have much in common. This week's podcast will give you strategies for tapping when you find yourself in a state where you feel disconnected from your emotions. It includes two separate tap-alongs for each of these sensations. You can find both tapping scripts as downloadable pdfs over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

One of the most difficult ideas that my clients wrestle with is that of forgiveness and I have found that they often lack a clear understanding of what forgiveness is and what it is not. When we forgive someone else it can feel like we are saying it is okay, that they don't have to take responsibility for their actions, or that they are allowed to hurt us again. This is NOT what forgiveness is! Instead forgiveness is the process of choosing no longer to be stuck in the past emotionally. In this episode I define what I understand forgiveness is and what it is not. This will help you to embrace forgiveness in a healthier way. I also demonstrate how I tap for this idea of forgiveness to make it even easier to integrate. You can find the full tapping script as a pdf of this audio over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcripts. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

The tool that I use the most often from my hypnosis training while doing tapping and EFT is metaphor. The subconscious mind often works in imagery as a way of presenting struggle, trauma, and limiting beliefs. Since this is the language of the subconscious mind, it makes sense that when we are doing work on this level that we would use metaphor as well. In this episode I share with you: How I understand metaphor How our subconscious mind uses it How we can use metaphor to create faster transformation How to integrate it into tapping I have also included some of my favorite metaphors to use when doing inner child work. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

The majority of the issues that I work on with my clients have something to do with the people in their lives. Sometimes the issue concerns someone we interact with now, and at other times it is about the limiting beliefs people have given us in the past. The struggle with issues that have to do with someone else is that we can't change another person and we can't take responsibility for their transformation. And even if someone else wanted us to take on their transformation and we were willing to do so, it can't be done. To that end I have created a tool called Talk About, Talk To, Talk As If. It is a framework for tapping that allows us to look at a relationship from three different vantage points, giving us the ability to tap on any issue from each of these points of view. Two important notes: First, I think this tool is so powerful and useful that it's the very first tool I teach people after I have taught them the basics of tapping. Second, this is also the tool I teach people when they ask about surrogate tapping. It is not surrogate tapping, but understanding this tool will help you to understand my approach to surrogate tapping. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

When I am asking my clients why they have made certain past choices, they often say something like, "I don't know. I just had this gut feeling." OR "I just had this sense of intuition that it was the right thing to do." I know exactly what this sensation feels like because I experience it all the time when I am working with clients and also when I am making decisions about my life. But I don't believe in intuition – well, at least not in the way most people understand it. When we define our intuition as something mysterious or magical that's somehow beyond our understanding, I believe we undermine what is really happening and prevent ourselves from getting the most out of these feelings. This week I share with you: What I believe intuition actually is How to get the most out of it How to cultivate it so that is even more powerful I realize that I am flying in the face of convention on this one and I'd love to hear your thoughts on my interpretation of intuition in the comments below. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

[Note: This is part 10 of a 10-part series on using EFT/Tapping for weight release with a new article or podcast being added every 10 days. The complete series can be found @ weight release series.] Tapping can be used to help manage the functions and systems of our bodies where our systems can often be over- or under-functioning. Here is a great little tool I use to help tune into the body to gain a sense of how it is working and how we can tap to improve its function. It is called a scoreboard. In this audio I demonstrate the tool using the example of metabolic function, but the same technique can be used for any of the body's functions or systems. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

I have always found the law of attraction's teaching of "visualizing a positive outcome and somehow the universe will just magically make it happen" a little suspect. My doubt was a prompt for me to do some research and when looking into visualizing an outcome without action, this is what I found: During the course of four experiments, Kappes and Oettingen demonstrated that conjuring positive fantasies of success drains the energy out of ambition. When we imagine having reached what we want, our brains fall for the trick. Instead of mustering more energy to get "there", we inadvertently trigger a relaxation response that mimics how we would feel if we'd actually reached the goal. Physiologically, we slide into our comfy shoes; blood pressure lowers, heart rate decreases, all is well in the success world of our mind's making. The research also uncovers that the more pressing the need to succeed, the more deflating positive visualization becomes. via Forbes.com This is not to say that visualization doesn't have its place. It can be a useful tool that can become even more powerful when combined with tapping. This week I share four ways in which you can use visualization to supercharge your tapping (and vice versa). Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

One of the great things about tapping is that we can jump right into doing work any time and anywhere. Even though we can start a tapping session without any preparation, I have found that if we give some thought to how we begin a session, then we will get more out of it. Here are five easy things to do at the beginning of a tapping session to make sure that you are grounded in your body and in the moment AND that you are fully present to the work you are going to do. You don't have to do all five, so you can mix and match to the ones that make the most sense to you. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

When we sit down to tap we are doing it because we want to feel better. It is easy to fall into the trap of feeling like the only way our tapping will be successful is if we feel absolutely wonderful when we have finished. In truth, that isn't always possible but there are many times when we can gain relief without achieving total relief. If we set the standard for tapping that it is only successful if we gain total relief and we only have partial relief, then we will be disappointed with our tapping even though we feel better. In this podcast I talk about a simple four-step process that you can use to get the most out of your tapping and feel satisfied with your results. Using a process like this means you will get more out of an individual tapping sessions, have a better sense of your transformation, and feel encouraged to tap again in the future. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora

There is an interesting phenomenon that crops up as we become more experienced tappers and more experienced with healing and change work. We start to recognize what is possible with healing! There are two sides to this. On one hand we can become excited about having such useful tools, while on the other hand it can feel daunting to recognize how much we actually have to do. Feeling daunted can prevent us from wanting to tap because it feels like we have too much to do and it's too big a task even to begin. The good news is we don't have to do all the work at once AND even only doing a small amount of work on a big issue can make a useful difference in how we feel. This week I share a simple tap-along to help you to start the healing process when it feels too big. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple | iPhone | Android | Google | Spotify | Pandora