Stuck Not Broken

We already know that the environments we spend time in are filled with cues of danger and safety. The workplace is no different. But what about how our coworkers, the work culture and work hierarchies? Justin & Mercedes take a look at a couple new aspects to the workplace that might be affecting your place on the polyvagal ladder. Your homework assignment - Go out of your way to greet someone new at work. MORE POLYVAGAL PODCAST CONTENT for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Polyvagal Podcast merchandise - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

The work isn't done FOR us or TO us. It's on us though. Get even more Polyvagal Podcast content, including the rest of this livestream, for $5 a month here - justinlmft.com/members

More in depth show notes are available here - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/jillmiller Check out the Coregous Ball for yourself here - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VRXJ9BB/?cv_ct_id=amzn1.idea.3EFKO87WPMGD9&cv_ct_pg=storefront&cv_ct_wn=aip-storefront&ref=exp_cov_justinlmft_dp_vv_d Buy her yoga tune up balls for yourself! - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01DJN1V48/?cv_ct_id=amzn1.idea.3EFKO87WPMGD9&cv_ct_pg=storefront&cv_ct_wn=aip-storefront&ref=exp_cov_justinlmft_dp_vv_d Website: www.tuneupfitness.com Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/TuneUpFitness Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/yogatuneup YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/TuneUpFitness Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/tuneupfitness/ The koshas/gunas article she referenced - Yoga Therapy & the Polyvagal Theory: the Convergence of Traditional Wisdom and Contemporary Neuroscience for Self-Regulation and Resilience - https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fnhum.2018.00067/full The Matthew Remski book she mentioned - Practice and All is Coming: Abuse, Cult Dynamics, And Healing In Yoga And Beyond (links to Amazon, where I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you) - https://amzn.to/2QapcqO Jill’s book - The Roll Model: A Step-by-Step Guide to Erase Pain, Improve Mobility, and Live Better in Your Body (links to Amazon, where I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you) - https://amzn.to/32MbyMf Vagus Voyage video from Jill - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ag3SQBFHKes&t= Breath and Bliss Immersion November 8-10 Los Angeles - https://www.tuneupfitness.com/classes/breath-and-bliss-immersion-9 Roll Model Practitioner Training December 4, 5 London, UK - https://ytu.io/2LishB2 International Association of Yoga Therapists - https://www.iayt.org/

More in depth show notes are available here - https://www.justinlmft.com/jillmiller Check out the Coregous Ball for yourself here - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VRXJ9BB/?cv_ct_id=amzn1.idea.3EFKO87WPMGD9&cv_ct_pg=storefront&cv_ct_wn=aip-storefront&ref=exp_cov_justinlmft_dp_vv_d Buy her yoga tune up balls for yourself! - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01DJN1V48/?cv_ct_id=amzn1.idea.3EFKO87WPMGD9&cv_ct_pg=storefront&cv_ct_wn=aip-storefront&ref=exp_cov_justinlmft_dp_vv_d Website: www.tuneupfitness.com Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/TuneUpFitness Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/yogatuneup YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/TuneUpFitness Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/tuneupfitness/ The koshas/gunas article she referenced - Yoga Therapy & the Polyvagal Theory: the Convergence of Traditional Wisdom and Contemporary Neuroscience for Self-Regulation and Resilience - https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fnhum.2018.00067/full The Matthew Remski book she mentioned - Practice and All is Coming: Abuse, Cult Dynamics, And Healing In Yoga And Beyond (links to Amazon, where I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you) - https://amzn.to/2QapcqO Jill’s book - The Roll Model: A Step-by-Step Guide to Erase Pain, Improve Mobility, and Live Better in Your Body (links to Amazon, where I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you) - https://amzn.to/32MbyMf Vagus Voyage video from Jill - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ag3SQBFHKes&t= Breath and Bliss Immersion November 8-10 Los Angeles - https://www.tuneupfitness.com/classes/breath-and-bliss-immersion-9 Roll Model Practitioner Training December 4, 5 London, UK - https://ytu.io/2LishB2 International Association of Yoga Therapists - https://www.iayt.org/

We talk in depth about why it's not necessarily helpful to ask "why" to someone you're listening to. We also talk about eyes and eyebrows when it comes to communication and what you may be signaling. PLUS we talk about the fact that you don't need to listen to someone if you aren't ready. Maybe it's best to wait until you're in your safe/social state! Great episode for friends, family and therapists. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Polyvagal Podcast merchandise - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

If you need even more Polyvagal Podcast content, we got it for you! https://www.justinlmft.com/members Contact either of us at - https://www.justinlmft.com/contact

You really try to understand me, even if I’m not making much sense. You grasp my point of view, even when it’s against your own sincere convictions. You realize the hour I took from you has left you a bit tired and a bit drained. You allow me the dignity of making my own decisions, even though you think they may be wrong. You do not take my problem from me but allow me to deal with it in my own way. You hold back the desire to give me good advice. You do not offer me religious solace when I am not ready for it. You give me enough room to discover for myself what is really going on. You accept my gratitude by telling me how good it makes you feel to know that you have been helpful. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Polyvagal Podcast merchandise - https://society6.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

We look back on the 4 ways to express love that your child will experience as love and apply it to teens. Yes, they need your love too! the 4 Ways to Express Love episode - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode27 More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Polyvagal Podcast merchandise - https://society6.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

7 ways that you are not listening: You say you understand. You say you have an answer before you've heard the problem. You cut someone off before they finish speaking. You finish someone's sentences. You're dying to tell me something while I am talking. You share your experiences instead. You refuse my thanks. Your homework assignments - Notice when you are not listening. Accept gratitude. Connect with Harry Poliak, Life Coach - http://www.connectedconsciously.com/ Parents by Choice presentation is available to watch here - https://www.justinlmft.com/parentsbychoice Even more Polyvagal Podcast content in the Members Section for $5 a month - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Watch the “Safe & Social” music video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ql2TGMRDh7k&feature=youtu.be Miles Irving Website - https://www.milesirving.com/ Forager - https://www.forager.org.uk/wild-food-blog/19-ideas-philosophy/140-worldwild-podcast More Polyvagal Podcast content in the Members' Area - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

All about consequences in this episode: Why they are important When they mean nothing Positive consequences vs gift/reward/bribe Natural consequences Your homework assignment - Plan out your consequence structure and discuss with everyone that needs to be a part of it. More detailed show notes on justinlmft.com/post/episode28 SUPPORT the Polyvagal Podcast and get access to exclusive BONUS EPISODES - http://www.justinlmft.com/members CONTACT either of us - http://www.justinlmft.com/contact Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeat --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Deb Dana - one third of my Polyvagal Trinity. Deb Dana is called "the Pied Piper of the Polyvagal Theory," and honestly someone I want to be like when I grow up. She does the stuff I do, but better and first. I gotta be honest. We talk in depth about: "Story follows State" Climbing the Polyvagal Ladder Diagnosing DEB DANA - http://www.debdanalcsw.com/ (these next two links will take you to Amazon, where I get a portion of the sale as an Amazon Affiliate.) The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy - https://amzn.to/3409v8z Clinical Applications of the Polyvagal Theory - https://amzn.to/322IZK3 Intro/Outro music by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

You're not you're diagnosis. It's a label - a shorthand system for professionals to use - to collect "symptoms" that typically occur together. It makes communication among therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists easier. And that's the point of diagnoses. And insurance building. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

We go in depth into each of these four ways to express love. It's not enough to just love your kiddos, you also need to express it. And express it in ways they will be able to get. 1. Say it out loud 2. Write it down 3. Physical affection 4. Play DETAILED SHOW NOTES - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode27 JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum CONTACT either of us at http://www.justinlmft.com/contact Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

We answer two questions from our amazing Listeners. We originally answered these on our weekly Instagram Live segment, which you can be a part of every Sunday at 915pm PST. Consider supporting the podcast - $5/mo will give you access to the Bonus section and the exclusive episodes inside. This section is updated every 1-2 weeks! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Lots of co-regulation ground covered in this episode: Kids neurocepting danger cues your state vs your empathy your empathy vs your compassion face to face interaction self-regulation (for you, parent) DETAILED SHOW NOTES - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode26 JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum SUPPORT the podcast at - http://www.justinlmft.com/support Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

We answer two more questions from our Dear Listeners about parenting - 1. "How can parents avoid creating a trauma with their kids?" 2."How do you approach a parent who is stuck?" Support the podcast here - justinlmft.com/support --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Self-regulation is built upon co-regulation. Kids aren't born able to self-regulate, but they are born ready to receive a parent's co-regulation. DETAILED SHOW NOTES - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode25 JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum CONTACT either of us at http://www.justinlmft.com/contact Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

We answer two questions submitted by two of our amazing listeners: 1. How to best overcome a parental state shift? 2. Do toddlers experience defensive states more often than adults? Join us on Sunday nights on Instagram Live! We go live around 915pm PST. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Two big ideas discussed in this episode: 1. Strengthening the vagal brake as a fundamental purpose of parenting and why. 2. You don't control your kids. And you can't. And neither do we. No one does. DETAILED SHOW NOTES - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode24 JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum CONTACT either of us at http://www.justinlmft.com/contact Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Taken from an Instagram Live on July 21, 2019. we discuss the function of "Stories" or "Narratives" that a survivor of sexual assault may be living with. Join us on Instagram every Sunday night around 915pm PST. We answer questions and let people listen to a bit of what we're recording! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

We apply the polyvagal theory to the process of psychotherapy. DETAILED SHOW NOTES on - http://www.justinlmft.com/blog JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum CONTACT either of us at http://www.justinlmft.com/contact Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats Placebo https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6003660/ https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0165032706000395 https://psychiatrypodcast.com/psychiatry-psychotherapy-podcast/2018/11/19/understanding-placebo --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Mercedes and I break down some real life examples of #badtherapy for the final time! Plus we share our own bad therapy and a couple of good therapy examples too. more detailed show notes on justinlmft.com/post/episode22 TREATMENT ABANDONMENT - https://www.apa.org/monitor/2009/09/ethics https://www.aamft.org/Legal_Ethics/Code_of_Ethics.aspx JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum CONTACT us at justinlmft.com/contact --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

We look at more listener submissions of their #badtherapy experiences. And believe it or not, there's many more we haven't gotten to. More detailed show notes on justinlmft.com/post/episode21 JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum JUSTIN Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Website - http://www.justinlmft.com Email - [email protected] MERCEDES Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mercedeslmft/ Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/mercedeslmft Email - [email protected] Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

We continue the Bad Therapy series, this time with real examples submitted to us by listeners and Instagram followers. We dissect the therapeutic issues at play here, discuss what is and isn't therapy and share our own thoughts based on how we practice therapy. More in-depth show notes are available here - http://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode20 JUSTIN Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Website - http://www.justinlmft.com Email - [email protected] MERCEDES Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mercedeslmft/ Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/mercedeslmft Email - [email protected] Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Welcome to the first installment of the Bad Therapy series. We need to first understand some basics of what therapy is and how it works. Clients are walking into sessions with a combination of hope and desperation - this is easily taken advantage of by a "therapist" that isn't up to snuff. We want you to be able to enter your sessions with some clarity on what YOU want out of your time/money as well as some clarity on what is SUPPOSED to be happening. JOIN THE TRAUMA NERDS Forum - http://www.justinlmft.com/forum LICENSING BOARD RESOURCES: https://www.aamft.org/Directories/MFT_Licensing_Boards.aspx THERAPEUTIC ALLIANCE AS a PREDICTOR of SUCCESS: http://cleostudies.lecture.ub.ac.id/files/2015/03/Goldfried-2014-What-to-expect-from-psychotherapy.pdf https://societyforpsychotherapy.org/evidence-based-therapy-relationships/ https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2002-01390-002 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/28936692 https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2016-30467-001 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/figure/10.1080/10503307.2010.518635?scroll=top&needAccess=true\ JUSTIN Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Website - http://www.justinlmft.com Email - [email protected] MERCEDES Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mercedeslmft/ Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/mercedeslmft Email - [email protected] Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

We tackle the issue directly - you're normal, you survived, your body is awesome and is probably working fine. Plus a whole lot more. More detailed show notes are available here - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode18 You can also join the discussion on the Trauma Nerds forum here - https://www.justinlmft.com/forum/episode-discussion/18-top-down-thoughts-to-change-your-state JUSTIN Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Website - http://www.justinlmft.com Email - [email protected] MERCEDES Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/mercedeslmft Email - [email protected] Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Mercedes & I discuss how we personally use different bottom-up techniques to climb the polyvagal ladder and reach a more safe & social state - music, dance, play, breathing and more. We also discuss what it means to "allow" the process to happen in simple day to day application. JUSTIN Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/justinlmft/ Website - http://www.justinlmft.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/ Email - [email protected] MERCEDES Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/mercedeslmft Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mercedeslmft/ Email - [email protected] Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Full show notes are available on https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode16 We got some Listener submissions for how they use the polyvagal theory to climb their ladders! Thanks to Carla-Jo, Theresa and Emily! JUSTIN Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Website - http://www.justinlmft.com Email - [email protected] MERCEDES Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/mercedeslmft Email - [email protected] Music & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Full show notes are available on justinLMFT.com/post/episode15I had the distinct pleasure of being able to talk in-depth with Dr Porges about the Polyvagal Theory and how it applies to various things, such as clinical disorders, the role of psychiatry, empathy vs compassion and much more.  It's a jam-packed 50 minutes.  Thanks to all my listeners that submitted questions for Dr Porges.DR PORGESWebsite -  https://www.stephenporges.com/Books - https://www.stephenporges.com/booksJUSTINInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmftWebsite - http://www.justinlmft.comEmail - [email protected] & Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0✅ Crisis resources:National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms.  Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

This is part 5 of 5 of the Polyvagal Schools series. Full show notes are on justinlmft.com/blog. We hear about students being "ready to learn," but what about teachers being "ready to teach"? Mercedes and Justin look in depth at danger cues for teachers, specifically how to recognize what's happening internally on a cognitive, emotional, behavioral and physical level. JUSTIN Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/justinlmft/ Website - http://www.justinlmft.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/ Email - [email protected] MERCEDES Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/mercedeslmft Email - [email protected] TED Talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/jane_mcgonigal_the_game_that_can_give_you_10_extra_years_of_life?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare Sounds from soundbible.com Intro music “Aspire” by Scott Holmes. (Podcoin) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

This is the Polyvagal Schools series, part 4 of 5 - A slew of trauma-informed ways for educators to improve relationships with their students. After the relationship is improved, with safety being the priority, things like motivation and behavior will improve. JUSTIN Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/justinlmft/ Website - http://www.justinlmft.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/ Email - [email protected] MERCEDES Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/mercedeslmft Email - [email protected] Sounds from soundbible.com Intro music “Aspire” by Scott Holmes --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Polyvagal Schools episode part 3 of 5 - The Polyvagal Theory applied to the classroom structure. We look at suspensions, fidgets, quiet zones in the classroom, suspensions, consequences and a lot more. Also, learn how my hands turned orange during a meeting at work! JUSTIN Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/justinlmft/ Website - http://www.justinlmft.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/ Email - [email protected] MERCEDES Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/mercedeslmft Email - [email protected] Sounds from soundbible.com, Intro music “Aspire” by Scott Holmes --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Part 2 of 5 of the Polyvagal School series - Danger cues in the classroom: the environment, the teacher and peers! And we give you some unique ways to problem-solve around these. JUSTIN Twitter - https://twitter.com/justinlmft Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/justinlmft/ Website - http://www.justinlmft.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/ Email - [email protected] MERCEDES Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/mercedeslmft Email - [email protected] Sounds from soundbible.com Intro music “Aspire” by Scott Holmes --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/polyvagalpodcast/message

Mercedes Corona, LMFT joins me to talk in depth about what the Path of Transition is and how it applies to the school environment.  Part 1 of our Polyvagal School Series!Polyvagal 101 Virtual Class - https://www.justinlmft.com/pvt101 Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa Website - https://www.justinlmft.com Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeatsNational Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx.  Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California (#99147).

Attachment is integral to the mechanics of how generational trauma is actually passed on.  I take a look at this through the lens of the amazing polyvagal theory (but you probably know that by now).My Polyvagal 101 online course will teach you the Polyvagal Theory accurately and simply in under 2 hours and connect it to trauma. You'll have the knowledge necessary to reduce your self-shaming, blaming and judging and be able to build yourself a new narrative that is normalizing and validating. Click the link below to learn more.https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarityWebsite - http://www.justinlmft.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/Email - [email protected] http://www.d2l.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/all_statistics_20150619.pdf https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-freedom-change/201502/the-keys-rewarding-relationships-secure-attachment🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0✅ Crisis resources:National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms.  Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

I cover the other Fs that I've been seeing, like "flop," "friend" and "fawn."  Plus an in depth look into why I don't think these are primary autonomic responses to danger or life threat. And more, much  more.My Polyvagal 101 online course will teach you the Polyvagal Theory accurately and simply in under 2 hours and connect it to trauma. You'll have the knowledge necessary to reduce your self-shaming, blaming and judging and be able to build yourself a new narrative that is normalizing and validating. Click the link below to learn more.https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarityBuilding Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa Website - https://www.justinlmft.com Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeatsMore Fs / https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-4690778/Researchers-reveal-SIX-responses-stress.html"Cash me ousside" Dr Phil / https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R8l2Ga3_wvU🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0✅ Crisis resources:National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms.  Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

We've covered the primary states (Safe, Flight, Fight & Freeze), now let's look at a couple of state combos: play & stillness.My Polyvagal 101 online course will teach you the Polyvagal Theory accurately and simply in under 2 hours and connect it to trauma. You'll have the knowledge necessary to reduce your self-shaming, blaming and judging and be able to build yourself a new narrative that is normalizing and validating. Click the link below to learn more.https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarityBuilding Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa Website - https://www.justinlmft.com Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0✅ Crisis resources:National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms.  Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

A look at the vagus, the vagal brake, the window of tolerance AND co-regulation.My Polyvagal 101 online course will teach you the Polyvagal Theory accurately and simply in under 2 hours and connect it to trauma. You'll have the knowledge necessary to reduce your self-shaming, blaming and judging and be able to build yourself a new narrative that is normalizing and validating. Click the link below to learn more.https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarityBuilding Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa Website - https://www.justinlmft.com Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0✅ Crisis resources:National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms.  Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

A way way in-depth look into how trauma works plus what shame and disgust have to do with it.  From Justin Sunseri, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist 99147.My Polyvagal 101 online course will teach you the Polyvagal Theory accurately and simply in under 2 hours and connect it to trauma. You'll have the knowledge necessary to reduce your self-shaming, blaming and judging and be able to build yourself a new narrative that is normalizing and validating. Click the link below to learn more.https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarityBuilding Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa Website - https://www.justinlmft.com Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeatsInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinlmft/Email - [email protected] Lyon and shame - https://healingshame.com/articles/2017/8/21/shame-and-traumaTI SHARK - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NErt6zP2MBITI Rats - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/1687864TI Lizards - https://paperity.org/p/59862983/tonic-immobility-as-a-fear-response-in-lizards-anolis-carolinensisPolar Bear - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmJDkzDMllcShame & Trauma - https://healingshame.com/articles/2017/8/21/shame-and-traumaPeter Levine on Shame - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i2CN5nhmfxk&vl=en🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0✅ Crisis resources:National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms.  Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

I got this wrong. I ended up speaking with Dr Porges (episode 15) and got some clarity on the use of the words "freeze" and "shutdown". There's a big difference. Listen to the "Shutdown" episode in episode 104 for more. I'm leaving this here because I think it's still valuable, just like all of 101-109; also for posterity, I suppose. But this information has been updated.My Polyvagal 101 online course will teach you the Polyvagal Theory accurately and simply in under 2 hours and connect it to trauma. You'll have the knowledge necessary to reduce your self-shaming, blaming and judging and be able to build yourself a new narrative that is normalizing and validating. Click the link below to learn more.https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarityBuilding Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa Website - https://www.justinlmft.com Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0✅ Crisis resources:National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms.  Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

I dive into the sympathetic autonomic nervous system and how flight/fight arousal can become chronic and affect our day to day lives.My Polyvagal 101 online course will teach you the Polyvagal Theory accurately and simply in under 2 hours and connect it to trauma. You'll have the knowledge necessary to reduce your self-shaming, blaming and judging and be able to build yourself a new narrative that is normalizing and validating. Click the link below to learn more.https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarityBuilding Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa Website - https://www.justinlmft.com Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0✅ Crisis resources:National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms.  Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

We start at the top of the Polyvagal Ladder with the Safety & Social Engagement autonomic nervous system, the face to heart connection!My Polyvagal 101 online course will teach you the Polyvagal Theory accurately and simply in under 2 hours and connect it to trauma. You'll have the knowledge necessary to reduce your self-shaming, blaming and judging and be able to build yourself a new narrative that is normalizing and validating. Click the link below to learn more.https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarityBuilding Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/bsa Website - https://www.justinlmft.com Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0✅ Crisis resources:National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms.  Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

Welcome to the Stuck Not Broken podcast! This is technically the start of the podcast, especially the first 9 episodes. BUT this entire first 9 stretch was redone starting in episode 101 and I actually recommend you start there. This is an intro to the Polyvagal Theory from Dr Stephen Porges.  Autonomic state shifts, creating narratives, neuroception and more!My Polyvagal 101 online course will teach you the Polyvagal Theory accurately and simply in under 2 hours and connect it to trauma. You'll have the knowledge necessary to reduce your self-shaming, blaming and judging and be able to build yourself a new narrative that is normalizing and validating. Click the link below to learn more.https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagalclarityWebsite - https://www.justinlmft.com Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0✅ Crisis resources:National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms.  Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).