Stuck Not Broken

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2 responses to listener questions. This episode is challenging. I highly recommend you be in a state of being able to hold two conflicting viewpoints at the same time. At the end there is an invitation if you're willing to take me up on int. If you'd like to support me and get access to a whole other podcast of exclusive audio, it'd be greatly appreciated. It's $5 a month here - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

We choose who to give our attention to. Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

We don't do a very good job of listening to each other. This episode applies to a wide range of situations, including very divisive issues such as race. Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

An Open Letter and an invitation to you. Please do not hesitate to share your thoughts with me. I would like to share the thoughts of my listeners anonymously in a future episode. You can email me here - [email protected]

I'm joined by Dr Laura Oyer and Rachel Lewis-Marlow to discuss eating disorders and the PVT plus a lot of somatic stuff around ED. Must listen. Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Embodied Recovery - https://embodiedrecovery.org/about Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

I'm joined by Dr Laura Oyer and Rachel Lewis-Marlow to discuss eating disorders and the PVT plus a lot of somatic stuff around ED. Must listen. Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Embodied Recovery - https://embodiedrecovery.org/about Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

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Another episode I found with Mercedes! I swear I'm running out of these, though there's a lot more of her and I on Patreon. She and I look into why we try to change other people instead of ourselves based on a listener question. Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Karena Heyward is a therapist and teacher, both using online platforms and integrating the Polyvagal Theory. Karena Heyward, PhD., LPC, ACS, NCC Find Karena on Instagram - www.instagram.com/headtoheartllc Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Simple Practice Online Psychotherapy platform free trial and $50 credit for both of us when you sign up for a paid account - https://www.simplepractice.com/?p=c3efc89838 Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Read the original blog entry here, with links to sources cited - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/traumanarrative Links to all TCE1 entries here - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/therapeercontentevent1 Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

I asked my followers what they're stuck on and this is one of the responses - "How do I feel my feelings?" Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

(some links will take you to Amazon where I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you) The Polyvagal Wonder Woman (see interview 1) comes back to the Polyvagal Podcast to discuss her second book and our nervous systems during COVID-19. She's just the best. For in-depth show notes, times and quotes, go here - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/debdanainterview2 Order Deb’s new book - https://amzn.to/2JSUFbl And get book 1 also - https://amzn.to/39XvezW Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Deb's website - https://www.debdanalcsw.com Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Content/trigger warning - this is a heavy episode. Do not listen if you don't want this question answered. I appreciate you being a listener and want to give you the opportunity to not listen. Become a Polyvagal Patron on Patreon for access to my second podcast for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books The original blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/didtheirbest

Mercedes comes back for episode 53! She was such a big part of the podcast for so long, it just wouldn't be an anniversary episode without her. She and I get a little more personal for this episode, sharing our disappointments, surprises, hopes and more. Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

My thoughts on the intersection of PTSD and the Polyvagal Theory. There's a lot of polyvagal implications with this one. Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Peter Levine and Shame Interview - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i2CN5nhmfxk Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Honored to have been asked to provide my input into Jill Miller's incredible blog article, written by Suzanne Krowiak. They allowed me to record and publish the conversation Suzanne and I had; I think it goes some really interesting places and is worth the listen. Enjoy. Read the blog - https://tuneup.fit/the-vagus-nerve Polyvagal Patrons - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

The most requested DSM diagnosis! Please, when you listen, come from curiosity and learning, not from attempting to diagnose yourself or another. Polyvagal Patron access for $5/mo - www.patreon.com/justinlmft Detailed show notes - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode51 Polyvagal101 - https://www.justinlmft.com/polyvagal101 Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Mayo Clinic article - https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/personality-disorders/symptoms-causes/syc-20354463 Personality Functioning Criteria - https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/pmh.1434 Definition of “pathology” from APA - https://dictionary.apa.org/pathology Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

3 examples of Bad Therapy from listeners/followers. If you're in California and interested in working with me as your therapist, you can find out more here - https://www.justinlmft.com/therapy There's more audio content for members - https://www.justinlmft.com/members

Is the mixed Freeze state underlying the diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder? There are polyvagal implications aplenty in this one! Articles: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3494330/ https://ajp.psychiatryonline.org/doi/full/10.1176/appi.ajp.160.11.2018 More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

I think that OCD has an underlying high flight energy or freeze energy to it. I go in depth into how the polyvagal theory might apply to the diagnosis of OCD from the DSM-5. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members OCD - https://beyondocd.org/information-for-individuals/clinical-definition-of-ocd Depression co-morbidity with OCD - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3243905/ OCD examples - https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/obsessive-compulsive-disorder-when-unwanted-thoughts-take-over/index.shtml Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Some polyvagal thoughts about the coronavirus panic that we've all seen probably. I'm hoping this helps you to ground yourself. I highly recommend taking a conscious break from the updates and set aside a moment to do something that brings you a sense of safety. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5 Members - www.justinlmft.com/members

Join Mercedes and I in our final episode together. Her path of self growth is simply taking her in a different direction. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

I chat with a psychology undergrad from Dixie State University about what got me into being a therapist, the polyvagal theory paradigm shift and more. More Polyvagal Podcast content for Members - www.justinlmft.com/members

Looking at AD/HD in comparison to the Polyvagal Theory. 🤩 Ready to go deeper? Explore resources at every price point—from free content to 1-on-1 coaching. Whether you're just beginning or ready for transformation, there's something designed for where you are right now. 👉 Visit https://www.stucknotbroken.com/how-i-can-help-you😬 Need to catch up? Listen to the Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0✅ Crisis resources:National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyConnect on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/justinlmftFidgets Blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/fidgetsRecommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/booksAD/HD Criteria from the CDC - https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/adhd/diagnosis.htmlIntro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeatsThis and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms.  Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

A solo episode from Justin. He examines the DSM5 diagnostic criteria for PTSD in comparison to the polyvagal theory. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Individual Therapy with Justin (CA only) - https://www.justinlmft.com/therapy Therapeer Content Event - https://www.justinlmft.com/therapeercontentevent File Share - https://www.justinlmft.com/fileshare DSM Criteria - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK207191/box/part1_ch3.box16/ Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

No definitive statements being made here. These are things that Justin is wondering about, putting some potential puzzle pieces together. And some insight into the way he works with clients around dreams. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Compared to the anxiety and depression diagnoses, bipolar disorder was more difficult to break down into polyvagal terms. Seems like the issue is that there could be a few polyvagal paths to the behaviors of the disorder. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Therapy Interest List - https://www.justinlmft.com/therapyinterestlist APA Bipolar Disorders - https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/bipolar-disorders/what-are-bipolar-disorders Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Definitely a content warning on this one. Don't listen if you're not ready. No specific details of traumatic events, but definitely an emotionally triggering episode. Often a client will tell me that the moment their life changed is not when the original traumatic event occurred, but instead, from the stuff that follows. Mercedes and I discuss some of the traumas that take place after the initial trauma(s). Get more Polyvagal Podcast content here - https://www.justinlmft.com/members

Mercedes and I share our thoughts on GAD, discussing each criteria of the DSM diagnosis. This episode is not meant to diagnose! We aren't your therapist and we aren't diagnosing you. We're comparing the PVT to the DSM. Join the Therapeer Content Event no.1 - https://www.justinlmft.com/therapeercontentevent $5 a month for more Polyavagal Podcast content - https://www.justinlmft.com/members

Mercedes and Justin address a topic that has been brought up a few times: Justin's tendency to interrupt and the "tension" between the two. This is a segment from an Instagram Live. More Polyvagal Podcast content on https://www.justinlmft.com/members

A solo episode from Justin looking at the criteria to diagnose Major Depressive Disorder and comparing it to the shutdown autonomic state of the polyvagal theory. Finally! Embodied Trauma online conference - https://www.embodiedtrauma.com Sources: http://www.eatingwell.com/article/290811/can-losing-weight-slow-your-metabolism/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2948264/ https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/metabolic-syndrome/symptoms-causes/syc-20351916 https://www.health.harvard.edu/a_to_z/type-2-diabetes-mellitus-a-to-z

You can hear and download all 10 Open Letters for $20 when you purchase Stack 1. You will also receive a downloadable PDF of each letter that you can print out and read whenever you like. Buy Stack 1 here - https://www.justinlmft.com/openletters

Phrasing we use a lot, but what does it mean exactly? This is originally from an Instagram Livestream. More Polyvagal Podcast content - https://www.justinlmft.com/members

It will feel different day to day, including more capacity to handle your typical triggers. And it might be a noticeable discharge of energy. Hear even more Polyvagal Podcast content in the Members' section - https://www.justinlmft.com/members

This topic has me genuinely upset and concerned about my fellow parents. There is an incredible amount of pressure on parents to basically be perfect co-regulators and never ever use consequences, including time-outs. Mercedes and I talk about this, share our own experiences professionally and personally. BTW, done correctly, time-outs aren't harmful. More Polyvagal Podcast content here - https://www.justinlmft.com/members

A brief summary of this episode

Full show notes at https://www.justinlmft.com/post/episode42 Greater Good Magazine - https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/gratitude/definition#what-is-gratitude What is Gratitude and Why Is It So Important? By Courtney Ackerman - https://positivepsychology.com/gratitude-appreciation/ An Experiment in Gratitude - The Science of Happiness; SoulPancake - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHv6vTKD6lg More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Polyvagal Podcast merchandise - https://society6.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

We answer a listener question on how to better co-regulate a partner. Get more Polyvagal Podcast content on - https://www.justinlmft.com/members for only $5/mo!

Our week-long gift as a thank you to you. You and your fellow #traumanerds have been instrumental in the success of this podcast. And as a result, in helping thousands of people get unstuck or help others to get unstuck. Happy Holidays from Mercedes and Justin! Please enjoy a week of episodes :)

Prompted by a question about parenting from a listener. Turned into an interesting question about self care - what it is and what it isn't. Does it have to be alone? Does it have to be without your kids present? More Polyvagal Podcast for $5 Members - justinlmft.com/members

Protection is something we settle for. Safety is something we deserve. And more! Open Letters / Stack 1 - https://www.justinlmft.com/openletters Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

In episode 15, Dr Porges himself differentiated between empathy and compassion. We've mentioned this numerous times since then. We examine the difference between the two in this episode. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Polyvagal Podcast merchandise - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats What is Empathy? - Greater Good Magazine - https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/empathy/definition Importance and Benefits of Empathy, Kendra Cherry - https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-empathy-2795562 NPR Article - https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2019/04/26/717272708/does-taking-time-for-compassion-make-doctors-better-at-their-jobs

An audio clip originally from an Instagram Live we did. Join us every Sunday at 915pm PST on Instagram Live! Download the Polyvagal Ladder guide here - https://www.justinlmft.com/fileshare There is also MORE Polyvagal Podcast content for $5 Members - justinlmft.com/members

We've mentioned the difference between curiosity and evaluation a few times on the podcast before. In this episode, we drill down further than ever in search of a deeper understanding. Mercedes opens with curiosity and Justin closed with evaluation. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Polyvagal Podcast merchandise - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats Articles about curiosity: Six Surprising Benefits of Curiosity - Emily Campbell https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/six_surprising_benefits_of_curiosity 7 Reasons To Be Extremely Curious - Francisco Saez https://facilethings.com/blog/en/curiosity-and-productivity Using Curiosity To Find Your Best Self - Farrah Campbell https://www.stackery.io/blog/using-curiosity/ The Power of Curiosity - Todd Kashdan https://experiencelife.com/article/the-power-of-curiosity/ Dave Jackson & the School of Podcasting - http://schoolofpodcasting.com/

Part 2 of my chat with Irene Lyon! IRENE Website - https://irenelyon.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/irenelyon/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBkXgr0E9ZWUg4iSDEUKqVA Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/lyonirene Twitter - https://twitter.com/Irene_Lyon Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Show notes are available at https://www.justinlmft.com/post/irenelyon Links are to Amazon, where I get a portion of the sale at no extra cost to you. Gabor Mate, When The Body Says No - https://amzn.to/2VNe0Q3 Peter Levine, Trauma Through a Child’s Eyes - https://amzn.to/2WHc7Fj Bruce Perry, Born for Love - https://amzn.to/2PO3x6i Bruce Perry, The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog - https://amzn.to/2r6pJ0T The Story of Ryan - https://youtu.be/3WI3aUfsNxM The Story of Teddy - https://youtu.be/dNts7T8_Vig IRENE Website - https://irenelyon.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/irenelyon/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBkXgr0E9ZWUg4iSDEUKqVA Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/lyonirene Twitter - https://twitter.com/Irene_Lyon JUSTIN https://www.justinlmft.com

Another excellent question from a fellow Trauma Nerd - are shutdown and introversion the same thing? We don't have a crystal clear answer on that, but we've got an interesting discussion on it. We'd love to hear what you think - send an audio message via email or Instagram DM! More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

We look at jealousy and insecurity - how are they connected? Are they actually the same thing? And how do they tie into the Polyvagal Theory? Our response to a listener question. If you're new to the Polyvagal Theory, definitely listen to at least episodes 1-4 of this podcast. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Polyvagal Podcast merchandise - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

If you're stuck in shutdown, you're definitely not alone. Getting out of shut down and back up the polyvagal ladder might require less fighting than you think. More Polyvagal Podcast content for $5/mo - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books