Stuck Not Broken

This episode is for you if you want to know how you can support the work that I have been putting into the podcast.  I've got 10 ways, 7 of them free free free and extremely helpful.  10 ways you can support the podcast:1. Subscribe/follow to the podcast2. Just share the podcast3. Leave a review4. Share a social media post5. Send me a message! - [email protected]. Join my email list - https://www.justinlmft.com/signup7. Use and share the resources in the file share - https://www.justinlmft.com/fileshare8. Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft9. Open Letters album - https://www.justinlmft.com/openletters10. Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/This week’s Patreon episode - We Are Gears in the Family System Machinery - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeatsNational Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis podcast is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx.  Nothing in this podcast should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

My thoughts on a listener's question about relationships and supporting someone who is stuck in a severe defensive state. Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - The Importance of Having a New Narrative - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This podcast is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing in this podcast should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Mercedes graces our ears once again to discuss another "Bad Therapy" story. This one goes into role clarification and is a good example of how power can be manipulated. Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This podcast is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing in this podcast should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing in this should be construed as specific advice for therapists or clients in therapy, it is simply the initial thoughts of the hosts. The hosts do not guarantee the complete accuracy or comprehensiveness of what is discussed. Justin Sunseri and Mercedes Corona are both Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists in the State of California (Justin #99147 and Mercedes #47786)

I answer a listener question about using multitasking as a way to cope with being overwhelmed with wellness demands. Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - Do We Have Free Will? https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats A Mom Reviews Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/a-mom-reviews-building-safety-anchors Overwhelmed With Wellness - https://www.justinlmft.com/podcast/episode/274e28eb/overwhelmed-with-wellness Freeze vs Shutdown - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/shutdownvsfreeze National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This podcast is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing in this podcast should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Overwhelmed with Wellness - https://www.justinlmft.com/podcast/episode/274e28eb/overwhelmed-with-wellness

If you're a creative person, you've got a great opportunity to get unstuck. And imo, everyone is a creative person. Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - When is Your S*** Together? https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This podcast is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing in this podcast should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

I answer a listener question - "How to heal as an adult in the same environment and relationship that you became broken in?" I honestly don't think you can, but it's worth discussing further... Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode: Bad Therapy - Abortion Count https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233 LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386 National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673 Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741 Call 911 for emergency This podcast is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health sx. Nothing in this podcast should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

I share a personal example of when I was dysregulated for an entire week and how I was able to re-regulate myself using some safety anchors. This is a good example of what climbing your polyvagal ladder might look like. It's also a good illustration of how might course might be of benefit to you if you're interested in purchasing. Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - You're Not Failing / Open Letter 10 https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Were Your Parents Capable of Doing Better? - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/didtheirbest Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

This is a short list of how we keep ourselves stuck. Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - One New Stress on Top of the Others https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Is it possible to be in a traumatic state without there being a traumatizing event? Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - Bad Therapy - Teen Advising Therapist on Parenting - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Original blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/traumatized-without-a-traumatizing-event Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

alternate your speed journal from your feelings alternate among mindful experiences process over outcome don't use a journal Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - Trust / Open Letter 9 - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats original blog article - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/5-tips-for-journaling

We focus on the end result of what we think life is going to be like once we make the change we want to. And that's important. But we miss out on the process of change, which I think is where the value is. Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

5 thoughts on how you might be able to improve your mindfulness practice. Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - Self-Harm and Strength https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

One of the opening scenes of "Soul" from Pixar has a lot of polyvagal implications to it: self-regulation, co-regulation, energy discharge and using music as an anchor. Lots of stuff in this one! Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - Build the Vagal Brake for Freeze Energy https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

This is an in-depth reaction and discussion about a real life Bad Therapy story from two licensed psychotherapists. Mercedes Corona and Justin Sunseri are both Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists in the state of California. Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - Bad Therapy - Scientific Study Interruptions https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats This is shared for the purposes of education, information and entertainment. This is not intended to be advice. The reality of the situation is ultimately unknown and the story is treated as a narrative.

Pets can make fantastic co-regulators. But before you go and adopt 20 of them, give this episode a listen! Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - Your True Self / Open Letter 8 https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

The vagal brake is a little more difficult of a concept from the Polyvagal Theory. I describe what it is and why it's important. Based on this blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/why-your-vagal-brake-strength-is-important Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - Managing Under the Baseline https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

A return to some polyvagal fundamentals in this episode, discussing the difference between autonomic responses and behavioral adaptations. My course, Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - Safety Bank Account (and lots more actually) https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Taking on a larger theme of stuckness in this one as well. Still pertains to the individual, but more on the level of a career and "purpose." I discuss what purpose is on a much larger level, then drill down to the individual. Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - Self Harm and Strength - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Something different, delving into a mechanism that keeps us stuck on a more social level - echo chambers. Specifically, the function of belief within an echo chamber and the impact on the individual. Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - You Have the Power to Choose Differently / Open Letter 7 - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

What polyvagal, mental health and relationship themes are there in "Mood" by 24kGoldn? Mercedes joins me to discuss! Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - Washing Machine of Life - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Big thank you to @Kunzyl from Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/junzyl Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

When we shift up and down the polyvagal ladder, we lose or gain access to different feelings... Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - Therapy With Unmotivated Kids https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Anger isn't just something we feel. There's a psychophysiology to it. Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - It's Okay to Feel What You Feel - Open Letter 5 - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft The Anger blog entry - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/anger Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Mercedes joins me to discuss the number 2 song at the time we recorded this episode - "Blinding Lights" by the Weeknd. We look for some polyvagal and mental health stuff. Check out my course, Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/

Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - Therapist Modality Influence on Session https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Porges' concept of "behavioral adaptations" and what they have to do with the polyvagal theory Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - Okay and Then Falling Apart https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Original blog - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/the-mind-body-connection-and-trauma Building Safety Anchors course - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/ This week’s Patreon episode - "Nightmares Years After What Happened" - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

This week’s Patreon episode - Open Letter 4 - You Are Not Who You Think You Are - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenges Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

An interview that Mercedes and I did on a short-lived podcast called "Single Parenting - Staying Sane" from Carla-Jo Geraghty. She was kind enough to donate this audio to us. This week's Patreon episode - I Am Allowed to Have Boundaries - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Building Safety Anchors course - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenges

Learning is great, but we have to put it into practice also! Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenges New this week on Patreon - I Am Allowed to Have Boundaries - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

I have a new course called "Building Safety Anchors" and this is the first lesson. The course is 30 days of learning and practicing about your personal safety anchors - things that keep you anchored in the present moment. Buy the course here - www.justinlmft.com/challenges

A response to a Bad Therapy story from a listener. Yeah, this is a bad one. Become a $5 Patreon member - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft

Natasha asks how to work with kids when their parents are not supportive. This is a huge question and I contribute my initial thoughts. I work with kids from pretty extreme situations where "not supportive" can be drastic. This week’s Patreon episode - Caring About What Others Think of Me - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft SnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

A response to an email which is in response to this episode - https://www.justinlmft.com/podcast/episode/27030d9c/big-t-vs-little-t-trauma This week’s Patreon episode - Panic Attacks and Not Thinking Clearly (17min) Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft SnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft SnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

In blog form - https://www.justinlmft.com/post/do-you-need-to-have-a-goal-in-therapy This week’s Patreon episode - You Want More (Open Letter 3) Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft SnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Way off of our normal path here, but I wanted to try a new direction. Hope you don't mind something very different for this week's episode. Lots more stuff on my Patreon - www.patreon.com/justinlmft SnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Podcast friends Karena Heyward and Mercedes Corona return to do an exercise on our stories around race. And a lot more. A lot. Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Karena - https://karenajheyward.com/bio Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

I put out an invitation for messages of compassion to the people that disagree with you. Bethany took me up on the offer. Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft SnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

A response to a listener question about possible mixed messages in the wellness arena of ideas.Polyvagal Patrons is now the "Stuck Not Broken: Total Access Membership" - https://www.justinlmft.com/totalaccessSnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmftDownload my free ebook - https://www.justinlmft.com/booksIntro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Not as egregious as the other bad therapy examples, but worth going into. More Bad Therapy on my Patreon podcast! Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

My response to a listener question, delving deeper into whether or not we can listen to one another. Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft SnB merchandise - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

Mercedes and I return to an old topic - introversion vs shutdown. Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Stuck Not Broken merchandise - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

An old IG Livestream where Mercedes and I discuss rumination in general, but also through the lens of being a man. I keep coming up with Mercedes episodes! It's like she never left the podcast! Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

My Present Moment Present to you, a guided open-eyed meditation for you to ground yourself in the present moment. Big thanks to my Patrons for giving me feedback as I worked to refine and improve this Present Moment Present. Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft SnB Merch - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books

A reply to a Listener voice message. This is my opinion on the question based on my understandings and experience. I've got a companion episode to this on my Patreon where I discuss a recent dental visit for my son, co-regulation and the Peter Levine concept of "molding." Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft Mugs & more from Justin - https://society6.com/justinlmft Recommended reading - https://www.justinlmft.com/books Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

A discussion that was originally constrained to Rage vs Anger and quickly became something else. We go into many things around race. Shyla Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/growhealchange Shyla Website - https://www.shylacash.com Polyvagal Patrons access for $5/mo - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft