Still A Part of Us

Despite how awkward the conversation may be, mom Jen likes it when others talk about her daughter Jordan, who passed away from a heart defect. She was born full term and died one day after her birth. She also encourages loss parents to accept help when it's offered. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Mom Jen tells us of how her daughter Jordan was born and had 5 minutes where everything was perfect. Bur Jordan quickly declined and passed away one day after she was born due to a heart defect that was not caught earlier on ultrasounds. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Author and grief coach Patricia Sheveland walks us through her book "How Do I Survive? 7 Steps to Living After Child Loss" and what we can do to process the grief we are experiencing after losing our children. Visit her at https://www.healingfamilygrief.com/ for more information and a free copy of her book. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Today, October 15, is the International Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Let's take a moment to remember to our babies and to remember this journey we're going through. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes and transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

In honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, we interview Julie Card, vice-president of Share Parents of Utah. She talks about the loss of her son Isaac when he was 2 days old, how she started volunteering for Share Parents, a national organization to help loss parents, and some things she's seen recently volunteering in group meetings, such as grieving during COVID. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

After his daughter Paige was stillborn, dad Adam recommends talking to other people and a therapist. He also advises to try and find something or someone that helps you be happy after a child loss. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Dad Adam recounts how his wife Liza gave birth to their daughter Paige, who was stillborn at 36 weeks and 4 days due to a placental abruption and HELLP syndrome. HELLP syndrome is characterized by hemolysis (H) (breaking down of red blood cells), elevated liver enzymes (EL), and low platelet count (LP). Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Liza gives advice about how she allows herself grace to feel all the feelings following the stillbirth of her daughter Paige, how she and her husband Adam navigated the birth of their next child via surrogacy, and how she's learned to be more present every day. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Mom Liza recounts the birth story of her daughter Paige, who was stillborn at 36 weeks and 4 days due to a placental abruption and HELLP syndrome. HELLP syndrome is characterized by hemolysis (H) (breaking down of red blood cells), elevated liver enzymes (EL), and low platelet count (LP). Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Lili describes all the things she created to honor her daughter Leia after she was stillborn at 32 weeks due to a nuchal cord accident. She also talks about being pregnant with her 2nd child, her son Indiana, and navigating all the issues that comes with pregnancy after loss. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Mom Lili recounts her pregnancy with first child and daughter Leia, when they discovered that Leia didn't have a heartbeat, and the subsequent birth of Leia at 32 weeks. Leia died due to a nuchal cord accident. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

On this advice episode about her stillborn son Thomas, mom Ashley talks about how grief comes with you, how she needed structure to get back on her feet, and how she appreciates not getting "the look" of pity from others and appreciates when they allow her talk about Thomas. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Mom Ashley tells the birth story of her son Thomas. He passed away at 17 weeks, but they didn't discover it till Ashley's 20-week appointment. He was stillborn at 20 weeks for unknown reasons Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Lee and Winter Redd recount how the last 2 years have been, after the birth of their son, Brannan, after he was stillborn at 38 weeks. They share the big and little things that people have done to help them and what they've done to remember Brannan on a daily basis. Happy birthday, dear Brannan boy! Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

We, Lee and Winter Redd, are happy to celebrate our son's 2nd birthday today, by finally telling his birth story. Brannan Chan Redd was born still on July 23, 2018 at 38 weeks. Happy birthday, our sweet Brannan boy! We love and miss you! Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

We, Lee and Winter Redd, are happy to celebrate our son's 2nd birthday today, by finally telling his birth story. Brannan Chan Redd was born still on July 23, 2018 at 38 weeks. Happy birthday, our sweet Brannan boy! We love and miss you! Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

We chatted with Dr. Jessica Page, a Maternal Fetal Medicine specialist doctor at the University of Utah Health and Intermountain Healthcare in Utah, about stillbirth and the research surrounding stillbirth. She also discusses the many options when performing an autopsy after stillbirth or infant loss. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Dad Sam talks about life after his son Collin's stillbirth and how much he appreciates when others acknowledge his son, no matter how small that acknowledgement is. He also realizes people aren't trying to be mean or insensitive in their comments, and to let these comments roll. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

In this episode, Sam shares his experience of how he and his wife Stephanie discover that their son Collin would be stillborn at 39 weeks. They find out that he likely passed away due to an umbilical cord accident. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Stephanie tells how she took the full 12 weeks of FMLA to heal, how she is navigating talking with her doctor about Collin's cord accident, and that acknowledging Collin, even through a simple text message, makes such a difference to her. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Stephanie tells how she took the full 12 weeks of FMLA to heal, how she is navigating talking with her doctor about Collin's cord accident, and that acknowledging Collin, even through a simple text message, makes such a difference to her. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Stephanie shares her heartbreaking story of discovering her son Collin didn't have a heartbeat and how incredulous she still is that he didn't come with them. Collin was stillborn at 39 weeks due to an umbilical cord accident. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Dad Alfonso shares about the pregnancy and the birth story of his and his wife's daughter Vanessa, who was stillborn at 37 weeks and 6 days. Alfonso talks about his sadness, anger, and sense of needing to connect with someone who has gone through a similar situation. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Mom Kaitlyn tells of how a fellow loss mom validated all her feelings and told her that the pain never leaves you, but days get easier, how she was recommended by her therapist to feel all her feelings and grieve for short amounts of time regularly, then to move forward with her day, and that her friends are sad and mourning for them and their loss of Vanessa. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Mom Kaitlyn shares about her pregnancy and the birth story of her daughter Vanessa, who was stillborn at 37 weeks and 6 days. They would find out that Vanessa died due to a placental abruption. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

In this podcast episode, dad Jackson talks about how grieving takes time and it also changes with time. He observes how his grief and his wife Sydney's grief is sometimes similar and other times, different. They find ways to celebrate and remember their daughter Charley. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Dad Jackson tells his personal account of the birth story of his first child, Charley Mae, and how she was stillborn at 37 weeks, possibly due to a cord accident. He also tells of how he and his wife Sydney had to plan for Charley's funeral afterward and all the support they received. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Mom Sydney reflects on the last 8 months after the stillbirth of her daughter Charley, how everyone has moved on, though it feels like yesterday. She also talks about how much she appreciates a friend who told Sydney that she could talk as much or as little as she wants to. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Mom and nurse Sydney shares how she suspected something was wrong and tried to find her daughter's heartbeat with a stethoscope. She and her husband Jackson were devastated when they discovered that their first daughter Charley had died and would be stillborn at 37 weeks. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

After his daughter Henley is stillborn, dad Scott tells us of things that he doesn't like people to say to him about his daughter and tells of how much he appreciates it when people say her name and acknowledge that she was a person. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Dad Scott tells about finding out that his daughter Henley would be born still at his wife Meghan's, 36-week appointment, and describes her being born by C-section, and the time after with his daughter. After they decide to have her cremated, Scott finds a castle urn, because she's "his princess". Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes & transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

We're Going on a Bear Hunt by Helen Oxenbury and Michael Rosen Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes and transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Because of her experience with her stillborn daughter Henley, mom Meghan tells of how she always warns other pregnant mothers to watch for large, erratic, unusual movements from their baby, which may be a sign of distress. She also encourages other loss parents to do what is best for them when it comes to the time they spend with their baby after birth. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Mom Meghan tells about her textbook pregnancy and the birth story and with her first child, daughter Henley, who was stillborn. At her 36-week checkup, she and her husband Scott heard the words every parent hopes to never hear: I'm sorry. She has no heartbeat. Become a patron: https://ko-fi.com/stillapartofus Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

In this advice episode, dad Ben tells of how he was given advice about how he and his wife Brooke will mourn differently, how saying "I'm sorry" goes a long way, and how taking the initiative when helping a family mourning the loss of their child will be appreciated by that family. Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Dad Ben of the @DonutCritic tells of the details of his pregnant wife Brooke getting a blood clot at 35 weeks, then finding out at 36 weeks that their son Tommy didn't have a heart beat. Ben describes the waiting for labor to progress, Tommy's birth, and his funeral. #stillmychild Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

In this advice episode, mom Brooke tells of the past year, grieving the stillbirth of her son Tommy and how it's looked for her family, how she acknowledges her sadness and anger, but tries not to stay on those feelings, and that she feels that Tommy is taking care of her along the way through this process. Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Mom Brooke tells of how she got a massive clot in her leg at 35 weeks pregnant and it was decided that they wouldn't deliver her son Tommy at that time. Tommy didn't have a heartbeat at 36 weeks, and she recounts his still birth story with us on this touching episode. #stillmychild Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

In this advice episode, mom Chrissy tells how the grief process has looked the last 12 years since her son Zyler died of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) or sudden unexpected infant death (SUID), and how she loves talking about him and having other bring him up because loss parents "don't get to forget" their babies. #dontgettoforget Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Mom Chrissy tells of the birth of her healthy and happy son Zyler and how at 6 months, he died suddenly. His death was ruled a Sudden Unexpected Infant Death (SUID) or Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), and she tells of the events after his death, including the investigation, his funeral, and her grieving. #stillmychild Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

In this advice episode, mom Georgette of the Dynamic Life gives us more details of her daughter Amanda's birth and how the stillbirth may have been caused by a cord accident, how stillbirth and infant loss were not discussed in the 70s, and how she's been able to process her grief in the last few years. #sayhername Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

In this powerful storytelling-style account, mom Georgette of the Dynamic Life tells of the birth of her daughter in the 1970s. Her daughter was stillborn due to a possible cord accident. Georgette didn't name her daughter until a few years ago while she was processing her grief. #stillmychild Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Winter and Lee have a chat about what is helping them survive the holidays, how they're celebrating and remembering their son Brannan who was stillborn, and a couple of tips to family and friends who are supporting loss moms and dads during the holidays. If you have any tips on how to survive AND enjoy the holidays after your stillbirth or infant loss, send us an email at [email protected]. Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or wherever you listen to podcasts! Find the complete show notes at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music (www.Joshwoodward.com).

Dustin gives advice on giving people the benefit of the doubt after the loss of his daughter Margaret, who was stillborn at 37 weeks. He also encourages other couples to communicate openly with your partner or spouse, to help each other through this difficult time. #stillmychild Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Dad Dustin tells of the birth of his daughter, Margaret, after his wife Emily found out at her 37-week appointment that Margaret's heart was no longer beating. Emily and Dustin write at the blog Still Our Maggie about their grief journey. #stillmychild Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

On this episode of Advice from a Loss Mom, mom Emily of Still Our Maggie, tells us how meals that were dropped off at their doorstep helped immensely, how she and her husband Dustin go to grief support and counseling together to talk about Margaret, and how she is actively participating in fundraising, writing on her blog, and organizing her local Walk of Remembrance to feel close to her daughter. #stillmychild Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Mom Emily of the blog Still Our Maggie, shares about her "perfect" pregnancy with her first child Margaret, how shocked and confused she was at her 37 week appointment when she couldn't hear Maggie's heartbeat, and her subsequent birthing experience. #stillmychild Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

After the stillbirth of his daughter Sadie, dad Matt talks about how working helped him a lot, how counseling helped his relationship with his wife get stronger, and how having friends who take initiative to do small things made such a difference for him. #counselingworks #sayhername Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Dad Matt tells when they discovered, while living in Abu Dhabi, that their daughter Sadie would be stillborn. He and his wife Lindsay would travel back to the United States to deliver Sadie, who died of a cord accident at 32 weeks. #stillmychild Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.

Lindsay shares with us on this Advice episode what NOT to say to a parent who has experienced a loss, doing the little things like including her daughter Sadie means the world to her, and how you can become bitter or you can can become better after such tragedy. #betternotbitter #stillmychild Find the complete show notes and interview transcriptions at www.stillapartofus.com. Thanks to Josh Woodward for the use of his music. Find him at www.Joshwoodward.com.