Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor "It Happened To Me" is a feature of the Save Your Sanity podcast. Guests tell their real life stories of life with Hijackals. Whether they loved on, lived with one, left one, or were raised by one, you'll relate to their experiences, and hear how they found ways to move positively forward.Today, it's Dr. Shaler's own story.Would you like to come on air and tell your "It Happened To Me" story? I'd love to have you as my guest. Use this guest form: ForRelationshipHelp.com/guestsWant to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \ I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals®from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor Have you ever wanted to stay home from work to avoid someone, or to not have to deal with conflicts? You are not alone.Stress in the workplace caused by unresolved conflicts takes a large toll on everyone. It's exhausting.Dr. Shaler discusses conflict in the workplace, and why it is essential to address it. Of course, having the right communication and conflict management strategies is important. That's why training is valuable. Too many businesses and companies could do a better job of offering this kind of help to their people.What happens when conflict continues? That's the subject of today's podcast...and what happens when it's not addressed.Want skills and strategies right away?Buy your copy of Wrestling Rhinos: Conquering Conflict in the Wilds of Work now from Amazon HEREValuable chapters on communication, conflict, negotiation, anger management, and more.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 --------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorWant to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 #workplaceconflict #organizationalconflict #don'twanttogotowork #workconflict #nastycoworkers#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #systemicabuse #sexualabuse #physicalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Boundaries are what keep us feeling safe, secure, protected, in control of our own lives. When you give up your boundaries because you are in relationship with a person who does not respect them, you leave yourself open to a world of potential pain.In this segment, we discuss how and why we end up giving up boundaries, and what we need to do to reset and STICK to them.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \ I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes, you get so used to being talked at, and talked to, in disrespectful, dismissive ways that you don't actually think of it as verbal abuse. Then, you tend to think that either it's just the way some folks are, or, you somehow deserve it.No. No one deserves verbal abuse.So, let's look at what verbal abuse really is, and how it sounds. I share some startling statistics about verbal abuse, too.It's way to common, and it's time to recognize it for what it is AND say NO MORE!Want help from Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 --------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor#verbalabuse #stoppingverbalabuse #verballyabusive #deserverespect#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A member asked about what to do because her mother was constantly finding fault with her.#Hijackal parents constantly either find fault or turn a blind eye to fault. One or the other, usually. I offer some insights on how to view this fault-finding, and how to respond.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \ I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm asked so many times, "Am I going against spiritual principles to keep myself safe from my abusive spouse?" So, I wanted to answer that in an episode for you, to share my thoughts on this matter.Some people are paralyzed by their indecision about staying or going. They have an eternal argument in their minds about "what's right" and how to reconcile their spiritual beliefs with the abuse they see and feel.It is never right to be abused, or to allow someone to be continuously abusive towards you. That is nothing like love!!!If you want my thoughts on figuring out how spirituality fits into your decision to leave a #Hijackal--a relentless difficult, toxic person--listen in.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 --------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorWant to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #systemicabuse #sexualabuse #physicalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \ I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

LOVE-BOMBING!When a #Hijackal--a relentlessly difficult, toxic person--wants to impress you and win you over, s/he will use love-bombing.That means s/he will be everything you ever wanted and more.Promise everything you ever wanted and more.Love-bombing is too good to be true.And, you know what they say about things that are too good to be true? They aren't!Learn to recognize the signs of love-bombing. Not only will #Hijackals love-bomb you at the beginning of the relationship, but they'll do it when they really, really want something, or are really, really afraid of losing you....sometimes.You'll want to recognize these patterns quickly. Listen in.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 --------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor#lovebombing #toomuchtoofast #narcissistslovebomb #recognizelovebombing#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #systemicabuse #physicalabuse #sexualabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Big question. Knowing the answer takes a whole lot of thinking…unless, of course, there is physical or sexual abuse.Then, there is only one answer: GO. Go to the police. Go to the court. Go to any lengths you need to protect yourself and your children. GO.For most of you, though, going or staying is not black or white. It’s a whole lot of grey that travels from close to white some days, to too close to black others.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Host, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, discusses boundaries, narcissism, entitlement and sexual predators with Christine Baumgartner, owner of ThePerfectCatch.comHarvey Weinstein might have thought that power made abuse OK. Maybe, he's a sociopath. Certainly, he has narcissistic tendencies. A diagnosis doesn't matter. We know he is an abuser.How does this kind of systemic abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, and sexual abuse go under the radar? Why?What's going on in our world that people don't believe women?Why do people turn a blind eye to sexual abuse? Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TranformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#systemicabuse #physicalabuse #sexualabuse #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Questions relating to: Filed for divorce - now what? My Hijackal partner is now, magically, doing everything right, everything that I'd begged for for year. Can I trust these changes??Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes you're speaking up about something you believe in. Other times, you want to fight and use a topic to make it happen. Can you tell the difference?Don't be "that person" who is always gunning for an argument, or purposefully trying to get a rise out of their partner. That is bad behavior and totally un-loving.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

High-conflict people - there's always drama but you can't pin it down. I talk about my term, #Hijackals, for these relentlessly difficult people, these toxic people. It's important to be able to recognize them as soon as possible, whether you've been with one for ten years or ten hours! Listen to this episode of For Relationship Help and learn the other signs that signal a high-conflict person.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Anger is a challenging feeling AND something you can manage. In ANY relationship, it's super-important to be capable of recognizing and managing your anger while still acknowledging your feelings and getting to the real source of the issue.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Blame can be destructive to your relationships. If you find yourself blaming your partner, listen to this podcast episode with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Listeners can submit questions. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD answers many common questions in these videos.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 --------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!Learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships.Join my Optimize Circles now.Discussion groups safely off social media + videos + articles + webinars + 21 Steps to Empowering Emotional Savvy personal home study program delivered by email + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS®with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorIS NAME-CALLING EVER OK? EVEN IN AN ARGUMENT?You lose it. You're angry, out of control, and maybe, even a little out of your mind. You want to win. You want to be heard. You want to be acknowledged.You want to feel validated. So, some words you hate hearing from others come bellowing out of your mouth. Then, all those nasty names from the playground, and maybe sadly from your early life at home, force themselves upon another person.It feels good. Finally, you told the truth. Finally, you let loose.PROBLEM: What now? You're calm, and the thrill of thinking "I showed them what was up!" is gone. You know you've damaged the relationship. Now, what?Name-calling gets you a one-way ticket to regret...if you have much emotional intelligence at all, and you want the relationship to continue.If you never want to see the person again, and simply don't care, you might be fine for awhile. But, what happens when others hear about your rampage? Is that OK with you?You know about Hijackals®, those relentlessly difficult, toxic, disturbing--and often dangerous--people we talk about here on Save Your Sanity. They will definitely push you, screaming, right up to the edge. It's up to you whether or not you leap over and have your say in a damaging way.Is it damaging to the Hijackal? Likely not. That person will soon weaponize it and use it against you.But, what does it do to your image of yourself? That's what really matters.Listen to today's episode to see how you're thinking about name-calling, and how it works for--and against--you. And, both can be true whether you're the giver or receiver!Name-calling. Did you like it as a child? Do you like it coming at you now? Good questions to ask yourself if you're the one who's doing it now.Want more topics to help you create the life and relationships you most want? I've done a few videos on my YouTube channel to help you learn more. Subscribe to it HERE.Anger getting the best of you? You can make that stop. Do it because you matter. You want to feel good about the way you handle things.Anger coming at you from someone else. It's SO not all right for them to be spewing out horrible names at you, either. That has to stop. Unfortunately, that's not something you can stop, but you don't have to stand still for it.Let's talk soon. I can help. I hope this empowers you to make positive changes.Talk soon.RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help Doctor--------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!Learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships.Join my Optimize Circles now.Discussion groups safely off social media + videos + articles + webinars + 21 Steps to Empowering Emotional Savvy personal home study program delivered by email + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorWant to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Anger can impact your relationships in negative ways. Every now and again, everyone experiences anger, but it's what you do with it that matters.You can express anger in ways that are healthy. Or, you can express anger in ways that are damaging to all concerned.In this short episode, I am talking about a few key ways to think about anger and aggression...and, make better choices!Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 --------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!Learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships.Join my Optimize Circles now.Discussion groups safely off social media + videos + articles + webinars + 21 Steps to Empowering Emotional Savvy personal home study program delivered by email + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor#anger #aggression #flyingintoarage #raging #angerdamagesrelationships#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My friend and colleague, Robert Imbriale, interviewed me recently about what it means to be trapped by a #Hijackal.We had a great talk as Robert had some fundamental questions, and insightful questions, about being in a relationship with a #narcissist or someone with narcissistic tendencies, and behaviors.Are you feeling always blamed?Are your thoughts feelings dismissed?You may be dealing with a relentlessly difficult, toxic person. I call them "Hijackals®." You can find them in the workplace but they are more likely to be difficult at home where there's a captive audience.Listen to Dr. Shaler being interview about identifying these people who are not just "having a rough day" - they're difficult, chronically.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 --------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!Learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships.Join my Optimize Circles now.Discussion groups safely off social media + videos + articles + webinars + 21 Steps to Empowering Emotional Savvy personal home study program delivered by email + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Feel like something is lurking in the subtext of your communication with your partner?Is a breakup on the horizon?Is it appropriate?Is it your choice?Or, is a #Hijackal always using breaking up as a threat to keep you in uncertainty?Decipher the cues and listen to this week's episode of Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 --------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!Learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships.Join my Optimize Circles now.Discussion groups safely off social media + videos + articles + webinars + 21 Steps to Empowering Emotional Savvy personal home study program delivered by email + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did you do something that you were blamed for?Did someone else do something you were blamed for? Are you just blamed for everything going wrong in a #Hijackal's universe? Big differences! Learn some skills for dealing with blame that's aimed at you incorrectly. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler discusses the blame game.Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 --------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!Learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships.Join my Optimize Circles now.Discussion groups safely off social media + videos + articles + webinars + 21 Steps to Empowering Emotional Savvy personal home study program delivered by email + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com  Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor#blamed #blamedfornothing #blamingothers #Hijackalblame #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.