Rewrite the Mother Code with Dr. Gertrude Lyons

In this episode, I speak with Meka Hemmons, one of my favorite portrait photographers, about her artistic journey, disrupting the beauty industry and living her purpose every day.Meka beautifully shares her life journey and the importance of learning from rock bottom moments when they come along. Following a long depression in her career, she was able to completely turn her path around by engaging with the hard questions about her life purpose that lay in her heart. These intuitive messages are now source material for an exciting upcoming digital course that she is creating. Meka discusses how knowing our purpose is only half the battle. Trusting ourselves to actually do something about it is where the magic happens. For Meka, this includes rewriting the beauty industry, including representation, how women are taught to value themselves, and their self-image. Part of rewriting these codes is the integral work of learning to believe in ourselves and our inner knowing again. From her experiences as a portrait photographer primarily capturing women, Meka shares what makes women hesitate when they look at their photos and how being photographed can be such a liberating experience. We discuss how beauty and power are interchangeable and the dire need for a mindset shift across society to realize our full human potential. You’ll also hear about: (04:37) Meka’s expansive life journey and rock bottom moments (13:40) Launching a book and digital courses(17:52) Rewriting the beauty industry(22:17) Knowledge from the mind vs the body(31:02) Photographing women(40:07) Why isn’t society further along yet?(45:02) The joy of pain(50:56) Learning to value and share our desiresMeka’s message and light are not to be missed!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts! Connect with Meka HemmonsLearn more on Meka’s websiteConnect with Meka on LinkedInFollow Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter

In this episode, I speak with Rebecca Dekker, the Founder and CEO of Evidence Based Birth® (EBB), about her experiences of obstetric care and homebirth. You will learn how to navigate the obstetric system, advocate for yourself, and understand the implications of hospital policies on maternal health.After a disempowering birth experience, Rebecca sought answers to improve not only her future births but those of every woman. This research became the foundation for EBB. She shares the fascinating history of midwifery in the U.S. as well as the conscious decision to turn birthing into a business, eradicating the generations of knowledge passed between midwives, doulas, and communities of women. This is a cycle most of us are still very much inside of!Rebecca discusses how fear-based hospital practices and language around birth can unnecessarily be and what we can do about it. In parts of the world that still have midwives, the maternity care is dramatically better, making this topic more important than ever. Rebecca details specific red flags too look out for with obstetric providers, and suggests if you see one or more of them to find a new provider. It’s never too late, or too early, to advocate for yourself!You’ll also hear about: (03:44) Rebecca’s birth experience (19:33) Knowledge gaps between midwives and hospitals (21:35) “The midwife problem”(28:04) The state of hospital hierarchy(32:45) Birth is the top hospital admission(36:40) Red flags for birth providers(45:10) Shifting birth culture for future generationsDon’t miss Rebecca’s tips to overcome traumatic childbirth experiences and evidence-based labor alternatives.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts! Resources mentioned in the episode: LeapfrogFollow Rebecca DekkerLearn more on Evidence Based Birth®’s websiteCheck on tons of free articles on Evidence Based Birth®’s blogFollow Evidence Based Birth® on InstagramFollow Evidence Based Birth® on FacebookConnect with Rebecca Dekker on LinkedInFollow Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter

Coming to you live from Iceland! In this solo episode, I share what I’ve been learning from the whales, invite you into the harvest season with me, and open the doors to play. August is truly the season of harvest, and in this episode, I invite you to really step back and consider what you are harvesting, how it aligns with your visions of the year, and how you can take an honest inventory full of compassion. I share how the harvest season is unfolding in my life, which has brought me to Iceland, and what I’ve learned from the year’s many ups and downs. I share what I’ve discovered through honoring whales alongside the Sonar Summit in Iceland and the parallels between honoring the feminine and any other group or body that has consistently had its agency taken away from it, not unlike midwives in the birthing space. I am a passionate advocate for the release of whales from captivity worldwide and hope the empathy we collectively share for animals can extend to each other. August is truly the perfect time to fearlessly check in to everything we’re in relationship with as a way of forwarding momentum and rewriting our mother codes. You’ll also hear about: (01:22) Surrendering to the energy of a new place(05:57) Invitation to a season of harvest(10:56) The wisdom of the Sonar Summit(17:41) Honoring whales and the feminine(21:58) Celebrating collective wins (27:01) Learning to relax(29:30) The August reviewBe sure to download Dr. Gertrude’s free Summer Self-Discovery Download!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts! Resources mentioned in the episode: Sonar SummitFollow Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterSign up for the Lunar Embrace: Self-Mothering RetreatSecure your spot in my exclusive VIP 1:1 Fall Equinox Immersive Experience

I’m delighted to welcome back Elizabeth Tuazon to celebrate seven months postpartum. In this episode, we discuss returning to work, community support, and the value of shared experiences. After a full update on her daughter’s 7-month life journey, Elizabeth shares how difficult it is to prepare to go back to work, from the emotional toll to the mountain of logistics. Though Elizabeth has been hesitant to join mom groups, she has found the support of her mom friends invaluable and is considering opening up to more adult-child communities. Continuing to improve how we self-nourish is a lifelong commitment, and being open to new relationships is part of that. There are many ways to measure how healthy you are that don’t include wishing the baby weight would disappear. Elizabeth measures how much she is walking or sleeping on a daily basis over counting pounds. She shares how much, admittedly to her surprise, she enjoys witnessing the new shapes of her body as she continues along her motherhood journey. Long may it continue! She hopes her daughter escapes the body issues she navigated but also realizes it’s not up to her. Lastly, Elizabeth updates us on how she is continuing to level up the partnership with her husband, from identifying breakdowns to communication upgrades. Both as co-parents and as a couple, there’s always something to learn together. You’ll also hear about: (01:14) Welcome back, Elizabeth!(06:10) Logistics and emotions of returning to work(14:41) Mom groups, mom friends, and community(22:20) Baby weight, self-worth, and body image(28:14) Wanting better for her daughter(33:32) Forever improving partnership(40:08) Disentangling the thread of myselfThere’s so much to learn from and be grateful for in these transition moments. I hope you will join me in learning from Elizabeth’s journey!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts! Resources mentioned in the episode: PoleTheatre USA 2024 | Semi-Pro Pole Drama | Elizabeth TuazonElizabeth Tuazon | CPC 2024 | Artistic Level 5 | 2nd Place  The Nurturer RevolutionMotherhood The Musical97. Conversations with Elizabeth Tuazon: Pregnancy and Embracing Discomfort102. Conversations with Elizabeth Tuazon: Homebirth, Midwifery and Speaking Up107: Embracing the Divine Journey of Motherhood: A Conversation with Elizabeth112: Part 1 – Birth’s Sacred Dance: The Power of Wisdom and Song with Elizabeth Tuazon112: Part 2 – Birth’s Sacred Dance: The Power of Wisdom and Song with Elizabeth Tuazon118: Co-Regulation and Authentic Expression in Early Motherhood with Elizabeth Tuazon124: Navigating Separation Pain & Family Dynamics with Elizabeth Turazon 129: Transitioning into the Fourth Trimester with Elizabeth TuazonConnect with Elizabeth TuazonConnect with Elizabeth on LinkedIn Follow Elizabeth on Instagram Follow Wonder Play Coaching on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter

In this episode, Dr. Gertrude speaks with Kristen McGuiness, author of ‘Live Through This’ and founder of Rise Writers, about being an entrepreneur mom, being honest about the parenting experience, and working with transformational healing opportunities. While Kristen wasn’t always sure she wanted to be a mother, she knew she would never sacrifice her work or parenting life. Both can exist side by side! She shares her joy with having two “really short friends she loves taking care of.” As entrepreneurs, she and her husband are able to integrate their children into their lives much more than when they worked traditional office jobs. We discuss being a good role model for your children, prioritizing fun even when life feels stressful, and deciding to have children later in life.Kristen’s experiences of fearing for her children’s future and the realities of gun violence inspired her critically acclaimed novel, ‘Live Through This.’ She speaks to how she wrote her way through the pain, anxiety, and fear with her book as a transformational healing opportunity. There’s a lot of creation energy that comes from being a mother and being a writer. Learning to create boundaries around those wellsprings is vital. You’ll also hear about: (02:19) Welcome Kristen McGuiness!(06:03) Uncertainty about becoming a mother(13:56) Inviting your children into your life (16:54) Benefits of entrepreneurship for parents (23:50) Intentionally having kids later in life(29:39) How motherhood and gun violence inspired ‘Live Through This’(39:09) Movement to end gun violence (44:39) Transformational healing opportunity(59:00) Motherhood as an act of freedom Kristen’s work is so potent, and there are many gems to take away from this episode!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts! Follow Kristen McGuinessFollow Kristen on InstagramBuy Kristen’s book Live Through ThisJoin Kristen’s course, Five Moths to MemoirJoin Kristen’s coaching program, Book MagicLearn more on Rise Writers' websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter

In this episode, I’m delighted to speak with Madeline Reeves, a mother, community builder, and the CEO and Founder of Fearless Foundry. In our conversation, Madeline reflects on her journey to rewrite her mother codes and the importance of self-prioritization for individual and collective healing. In sharing about how she got to where she is today, Madeline speaks candidly about the painful experiences she’s largely kept hidden from her outward, professional persona. As she expands her definition of mothering, she’s more comfortable owing every part of her identity and challenging assumptions made at first glance. Madeline is a deeply service-oriented leader, and like so many women, will pour into her family, business, and community before giving back to herself. We discuss how prioritizing yourself shows others that it’s not selfish, and in fact, sets an example for how to mother yourself through the transitions of girlhood to menopause. However, Madeline brings up that not everyone will cheer for you when you start to expect more for yourself. She shares what happened inside her lineage when she started to break this paradigm and navigate divorce. Her response was to make more space for the people who uplift and empower her, creating a beautiful ripple effect for the girls and women in her life. We also share recent stories of finding joy and freedom in putting ourselves out there in vulnerable ways. Madeline outlines a helpful mindset shift she leans on when she’s up against her edges, especially as it relates to posting on social media and moving her body. I’m so honored to share Madeline’s story with you and I can’t wait to have her back on for part two (and more!). You’ll also hear about: (04:59) Recovery, motherhood, and entrepreneurship(24:01) Expanding the definition of mothering (31:19) “Do it like other women are watching.”(37:30) Self-expression and authenticity on social media (51:56) Midwifery birthing research (54:41) Being the mother you wish you had (56:49) Dr. Gertrude’s wrap upDon’t miss out on Madeline inspiring story! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts! Connect with Madeline ReevesLearn more on the Fearless Foundry websiteListen to the Finding Fearless podcastFollow Madeline on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter

In this episode, Dr. Gertrude shares her journey of opening to receive and celebrating yourself. Many of the lessons came about through the birth of her book and the experience of receiving a lot of support from a community of meaningful female friendships.Receiving is an important facet of self-mothering and a space of self-nourishment that most women struggle with. Dr. Gertrude unpacks some of her own blocks for receiving love and support. Her impromptu decision to attend a celebration led by Clark Strand and Perdita Finn invited many unknowns, uncertainties, and opportunities for expansion. As she crossed this threshold while she was on the verge of turning in the final chapters of her book, her experiences brought her closer to herself, her friends, and the divine feminine than she ever would have imagined. Dr. Gertrude shares how an astrology reading at the time put words to her experience of moving through a core wound around being seen and how she integrated that information into action. She reflects on her writing journey, the editing process, and the many healing conversations along the way with gratitude and excitement.You’ll also hear about: (01:31) Dr. Gertrude’s struggles with receiving (04:30) Attending Clark’s annual celebration(09:59) Lessons of receiving while “birthing”(15:36) Continuous giving and receiving(20:02) A career-oriented birth experienceDon’t miss this invitation to widen your capacity for receivership! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts! Resources mentioned in the episode: Sign up for the Lunar Embrace Retreat November 14-16. Prepare to receive, be poured into, and energized like never before.Episode 84: Navigating the Way of the Rose with Clark Strand & Perdita FinnEpisode 121: Unlocking the Mysteries of the Divine Feminine: Insights from Perdita Finn and Dr. GertrudeWaking Up to the Dark by Clark StrandThe Way of the Rose by Perdita Finn & Clark StrandFollow Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter

In this episode, I’m delighted to be in conversation with Nina Mongendre. She is a coach and author of the Inner Child & Beyond Oracle Deck, which I personally love to work with. We discuss Nina’s unique experience of rewriting the mother code through her work with ancestral trauma and traumatic healing, how we can learn from our mothers, and mothering’s infinite capacity to teach.Nina’s mother codes are woven through the story of her upbringing. Raised in Hong Kong, meeting Mother Theresa at 3 years old, living in France then the U.S., the geography of her childhood was dramatically shaping. She often felt cut off from her feelings and creativity. As an adult she embraced yoga, meditation, and spiritual practice. Nina vulnerably shares how she consciously decided to have children of her own and that she wanted them to have a much different childhood than hers, she also realized she was using these healing tools to spiritually bypass her own feelings. We then discuss the paths her healing journey has taken after her mother’s passing. She reminds us that our relationships with our parents are ongoing, even if they are deceased. We always hold our parents with us, and they are always available to ask for help. As a mother of two, one of the most nourishing spiritual self-care practices for Nina is finding silence and space to be alone. As women, we too often do not prioritize ourselves and uphold only permeable boundaries. Motherhood has continued to peel back the layers of healing for Nina. The lessons learned are infused in Nina’s incredible oracle deck and her current coaching offerings. Her work beautifully integrates inner child healing, inherited trauma, and emotional processing. You’ll also hear about: (03:15) Welcome Nina Mongendre (06:45) Growing up spread apart and stifled (11:35) Moving the family to France (17:45) Becoming a mother(23:18) Healing after losing a parent(26:34) Mothering through dreams (33:30) Daily practices for moms (42:06) Nina’s deck and offerings(46:24) How Nina rewrites the mother code Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts! Resources mentioned in the episode: Perdita FinnEdieArtConnect with Nina MongendreLearn more on Nina’s websiteFollow Nina on InstagramBuy the Inner Child & Beyond Oracle Deck hereFollow Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter

In this episode, I’m honored to speak with Jane Clark. She is the author of ‘Story Carrier,’ a memoir that captures her experience of intentionally rewriting her mother code. We discuss how stories are a vehicle to enlightenment, healing, and transformation, the importance of women using their voices, and a powerful reframe for generational trauma. Jane began the mother code journey after her first baby was born. Wanting to be a different kind of mother than her own, she knew she had to understand the layers of the mother code in her lineage to move past them. She shares the secrets she uncovered from her family’s past and how they continue to live in her bones. One of the longest threads uncovered was of silence and shame around perceived trauma. Jane proposes we rewrite the shame of generational trauma stories to regain agency, step into our voice, and honor our family. Women especially have a long history of being silent and facing persecution if they weren’t. Her book investigates the stories of silence in her family, the irrepressible energy a story can carry, and the wisdom of a story that can’t be told but only experienced. This process of self-discovery through writing and story is truly revolutionary. Jane shares a poignant experience working as a journalist confronted with patriarchal narratives meant to silence women that she refused to be silent about. Jane’s work with stories is a powerful reminder of the force that arises when we consciously turn toward our stories, and I hope after this episode, you find a new way to turn toward yours. You’ll also hear about: (01:27) Welcome Jane Clark(04:47) Revisiting the family’s mother codes(13:54) A mother’s “neediness” for her children (20:39) Women’s fear remains (29:50) How the story can take over(36:34) Let the story tell itself (38:34) Women’s bodies are a battlefield (49:02) Ways to receive Jane’s support(51:16) How Jane is rewriting the mother codeRate, Review, and follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts! Connect with Jane ClarkLearn more on Story Carriers’ websitePurchase the Story Carrier bookFollow Jane on InstagramRead more on Jane’s Substack Follow Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter

In this episode, I’m honored to speak with Pastor Brenda K. Mitchel. She is a Fellow with Everytown Survivor Network, Co-Chapter Lead with Moms Demand Action, Founder of Purpose Over Pain, and an ordained minister. Brenda shares her story of losing her son Kevin to gun violence and how that changed her life and her family forever. Brenda’s work and focus shifted to helping her community through advocating for trauma-informed care and making resources available to move families and communities towards wholeness, utilizing the tools of mindfulness and meditation in the healing process. We speak about the shapes the mother code can take after such a life-changing event and how our resilience comes into play. Being exposed to gun violence every day, as well as the traumas of American life and history, has led to a loss of innocence, to say the least, and it’s easy to fall into a pattern of feeling unconnected to our communities, especially those experiencing loss. Brenda reminds us that as mothers, as people with compassionate hearts, we’re always on the front line. Self-care is paramount in her work and for moms in a similar position. Choosing joy each day is not simple, but it is a critical step in choosing life. Brenda names action steps listeners can take today to help change the reality of gun violence in the U.S. To think “this will never happen to me” is naive and the mindset we need to override with action. I hope you let Brenda’s story, her incredible advocacy work, and her message into your heart. You’ll also hear about: (00:33) Welcome Brenda Mitchell(03:29) When a mother loses a child, we all lose a child(11:42) Deeply feeling emotions, pain, and trauma as a mother (15:45) You can’t help others if you’re broken(24:33) Brenda’s relationship with her mom(33:35) Action steps to take today(39:33) What it means to choose life(46:37) May your heart forever guide Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts! Resources mentioned in the episode: Live Through This by Kristen McGuinnessConnect with Pastor Brenda K. MitchellFor grief support, call Brenda at 708-275-6418Learn more on Everytown Survivor NetworkText JOIN to 64433 for next steps with the Everytown Survivor NetworkLearn more on Moms Demand ActionLearn more on Purpose Over PainFollow Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter

I’m back! And so happy to be back. Lately, I’ve been inching closer to my book deadline while simultaneously processing the new ways I’ve been rewriting the mother code over the last six months. This most recent “trimester” of book writing has inspired a lot of change not only in my writing process but myself. I share how the transformation process coincides with all aspects of myself: the academic, the personal, the spiritual. Learning to alchemize these while working and growing new sides of myself, like my shamanic side, has been illuminating.I go into some of the questions that have been coming up in this work, such as: what are the implications for myself and the world as I rewrite the mother code? Once made, these connections must be constantly renewed and nurtured. I share some reflections on our most recent retreat and how truly meaningful it was to connect with this community. Especially in these times, the state of the world touches the state of my heart. Time feels different. Continuing the work to rewrite the mother code feels more critical than ever.  You’ll also hear about: (01:35) Book in progress(04:33) Chapters as pregnancy(07:09) Embracing my mystical medical woman(11:18) Time has a new meaning(14:54) Working with the soft feminine Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts! Follow Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter

Mothering isn't just a role—it's an energy, a transformative experience that transcends traditional definitions. Whether as a noun, a verb, or a profound force, mothering is accessible to everyone who embraces it. Dr. Gertrude Lyons' groundbreaking work celebrates this essence, providing the tools and support to lead more authentic, joyful, and fulfilling lives - whether you’re seeking greater intimacy, more job satisfaction, or something else, you’re in the right place. Dive into this revolution with the Rewrite the Mother Code podcast and awaken the mothering spirit within you. On Rewrite the Mother Code, Dr. Gertrude explores women’s development, parenting, self-love, and relationship fulfillment through storytelling, interviews with experts, and conversations with community members. Dr. Gertrude is having conversations about motherhood and mothering that no one else is having. She brings herself and her guests into alignment through the transformational opportunity in mothering.If you’re curious about what embarking on the journey of Rewriting YOUR Mother Code could feel like, interested in joining a community of open-hearted women, and learning to celebrate what makes you you, you’ve come to the right place. Follow Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter

Dr. Gertrude talks with Working Mom Balanced Podcast Host Nelly Alba about creating the life you want as a mother. As an ambitious, career-oriented person, Nelly found the typical work-life balance advice ineffective and negative. After suffering a breakdown living according to what moms “should do,” she consciously decided to live differently than the blogs suggested. She began her business of blogging, podcasting, and mentoring other working moms while also raising two children and being the director of a non-profit organization. Nelly and Dr. Gertrude discuss the importance of self-awareness and self-discovery before making huge life changes. If we don’t know how we want change to look, it's easy to fall into old habits and do what we think other people want, ignoring ourselves. Nelly shares her experiences rewriting the mother codes, including establishing healthier family boundaries and supporting her partner, who is a stay-at-home father. Nelly details some of the softer tools she uses to prevent stress and dispel negativity in the long term.Episode Outline:(00:48) Dr. Gertrude's life update(07:08) Nelly Alba’s journey to Working Mom Balanced (15:24) Balance is not found its created(20:41) Biggest mother codes Nelly rewrote(27:28) Connecting to your vision(32:36) Deciding to be a stay-at-home dad(39:33) Tools for stress management(45:24) What does rewrite the mother code mean for Nelly(46:35) Dr. Gertrude’s wrap-up Connect with Nelly Alba:Listen to Working Mom Balanced PodcastLearn more on Nelly’s websiteDownload Nelly’s free clarity journalConnect with Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterMentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

This special solo episode with Dr. Gertrude welcomes the upcoming winter solstice. Instead of fearing or avoiding the darker months ahead, Dr. Gertrude shares ways to embrace, learn from, and even look forward to this darker part of the year. Dr. Gertrude examines the solstice's inherent feminine power. Just as the womb nurtures, so do the dark months. These metaphors add layers of meaning to the winter as a time of deep introspection and an understanding that the lyrical mystery of the darkness is simple to embrace. The wisdom of the dark goddess is present across cultures, such as Kali, Morrígan, Persephone, and Ereshkigal, each symbolizing states of life, death, rebirth, and magic. Their archetypal energies are available to tap into at all times. Though it is easy to become swept up in the busyness of the holiday season, Dr. Gertrude reminds us to balance rest with activity. The longest night of the year ushers in a time to consider the year’s harvest, what’s worked and what hasn’t, rest, pause, and take stock of all we have accomplished. From this rested state, we can more clearly locate our dreams and consider our metrics for success. Dr. Gertrude concludes by encouraging listeners to sit and be still with the darkness. Meditate, let your intentions include excavating the dreams of your unconscious, honor the solstice, journal, listen in, and most importantly, rest.Episode Outline:(03:07) The darkness of winter solstice (09:31) The Solstice’s Feminine power  (13:49) Dark goddess: life, death, rebirth(17:09) Kali, Morrígan, Persephone, and Ereshkigal(22:12) Working with winter(28:37) What are my metrics for success?(32:33) Interplay of light and darkResources Referenced:Waking Up To The Dark by Clark Strand Irish Pagan School Connect with Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterMentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Dr. Gertrude welcomes back Elizabeth Tuazon for another coaching interview as Elizabeth reaches the three months of life milestone with her baby, Lyla Rose. As Lyla grows from newborn to infant, Elizabeth shares her process of marking this important transition with a ritual of her own making. The ritual ceremony unfolded organically one new moon weekend among family and included speeches, visualizations, intentions, a bonfire, and an impactful tarot reading. As her baby grows, Elizabeth realizes there are many transitions in her life unfolding at once. Now that she’s working again part time, she considers what going back to work full time will be like. Dr. Gertrude and Elizabeth then have a larger conversation about the American cultural need to be doing something and balancing one’s masculine and feminine sides in negotiating just how much one should be doing. They lastly discuss the difference between inviting a child into your life and making a child your whole life. The distinction is incredibly meaningful for a parent’s identity and how they behave around their friends when their children are with them, for example. This more expansive and adventurous perspective allows for more possibility and is exactly what Rewrite the Mother Code is all about!Episode Outline:(02:40) Three months of life milestone(04:56) New moon ritual to mark newborn to infant(17:28) Masculine and feminine feelings around returning to work(21:22) Becoming a person who likes babies(24:41) Inviting a child into your life (28:43) Projecting inner child stuff onto our kids(35:00) Learning through sharing(38:51) Dr. Gertrude’s conclusion: being with feelings Resources Referenced:The Fourth Trimester by Kimberly Ann JohnstonConnect with Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterMentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Dr. Gertrude speaks with Alexandra Ford, a former trafficking victim turned activist, who after 10 years of personal hardships, recognized her experiences were actually human trafficking.Alexandra tells Dr. Gertrude about the importance of understanding human trafficking whether or not you have children. Hollywood has muddled the public perception of what human trafficking actually is and most people think it is only some version of Taken. When it comes to teaching children about consent and trafficking, the work begins early but maybe not as you’d expect. Alexandra advises that a wider understanding and normalization of consent is crucial. Not only does no mean no, but yes also means yes and within very specific situations. Alexandra also advises closely monitoring a child’s phone usage and how they navigate the digital realm. Having strict rules around phones and actually teaching children phone safety are helpful practices for instilling lasting digital safety habits. These habits will form trust between you and them, which will better equip them to trust themselves in avoiding potentially dangerous online situations in the future.For Alexandra the early years of motherhood have been complex, more like surviving than thriving, which is something that she accepts and wishes other moms knew they are allowed to feel. Her past traumas returned in unexpected ways. Empowered by her own trafficking experience, legal education, and advocacy work, Alexandra brings awareness to the reality of trafficking and how to counter shame and stigma in victims. She co-founded the advocacy group, Uprising, in Wyoming and her personal brand, The Laughing Survivor, in British Columbia. She is passionate about educating mothers on the importance of safety for children.Episode Outline: (04:12) Human trafficking is important to understand whether or not you have children(06:52) Alexandra shares her addiction and trafficking story(18:30) Shame, victim blaming, coercion, and consent(26:08) #1 myth of how trafficking happens(27:63) Best way to protect yourself and community: talk about consent(29:01) Children’s online safety and building cell phone trust (40:19) 3 practical examples of teaching consent(48:25) What rewrite the mother code means for Alexandra (53:50) ConclusionConnect with Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterConnect with AlexandraLearn more about The Laughing SurvivorFollow Alexandra on InstagramSign up for updates on Alexandra’s memoir releaseMentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

The work of Ann-Preston Bosher is three-fold: she’s a pediatric physical therapist, medical advocate, and an emergence coach. On top of her practice as a physical therapist, Ann-Preston is uniquely skilled in helping families identity and process trauma. She also strives to transform the medical profession from the inside by advocating for emotional intelligence in the profession and coaches individual clients in her business, Hyphenate Coaching.In this episode, Ann-Preston shares her journey from working as a pediatric physical therapist inside family’s homes to realizing that in order to gain a deeper ability to help her patients, she needed additional training in emotional responses to trauma. Her work aims to help patients recognize and identify trauma so they can engage with the healing process.Dr. Gertrude and Ann-Preston explore some of the unexpected places trauma can manifest in young families and how to address it. From these tender experiences, Ann-Preston shares the many ways she sees mothering and motherhood unfold and her own story of being a mother without children. The depth of Ann-Preston’s work reminds us how important it is to disrupt and expand the limiting narratives of mothering.Episode Outline: (05:13) From physical therapist to opening Hyphenate Coaching(15:33) Family systems and medical trauma(21:52) Shapes of motherhood and mothering(25:49) Coming out as a mother without children(39:36) There can be trauma in healing too(46:07) What rewriting the mother code means to Ann-Preston(47:15) Dr. Gertrude wraps upResources Referenced:Women of Tomorrow podcastConnect with Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterConnect with Anne-Preston BosherLearn more on Ann-Preston’s coaching websiteFollow Hyphenate Coaching on InstagramAnd on Facebook! Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

𝐊𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐲 𝐍𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐫𝐨 is a highly trained and certified holistic health coach with a wealth of experience in empowering women to take control of their health and well-being. Her passion for helping clients transform their lives through personalized whole-person coaching has earned her a reputation as a sought-after expert in balancing hormones and addressing root causes of health issues.𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬Kelley explores the power of intuition in parenting, aiming to guide her children authentically.Rejecting societal norms, Kelley advocates for a self-care revolution, emphasizing its vital role in maternal well-being.Kelley recounts her journey in establishing firm boundaries, urging others to prioritize their needs without guilt.Embracing uncertainty, Kelley shares her shift towards trusting the unknown and letting intuition guide her choices.Kelley's emotional connection to rewriting the mother code lies in embracing intuition and navigating the unknown for herself and her children.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐀𝐝𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐬 is a writing coach and founder of The Book Incubator, a 12-month program to write, revise, and pitch your novel or memoir. She is the author of the novels When You Read This (Indie Next Pick, “Best Book of 2019” by Good Housekeeping and Real Simple), Privilege (Today.com “Best Summer Read,” New York Post “Best Book of the Week”), and Palm Beach (recently named one of the New York Post’s “Best Books of 2021”). Her books have been published in 13 countries, and her essays and reporting have appeared in the New York Times, The Atlantic, Slate, and more. A graduate of Yale Law School and Duke University, she helps aspiring authors finish their books with joy and clarity. You can apply for The Book Incubator by going to apply.maryadkinswriter.com. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬Creative Motherhood Unveiled: Mary Adkins shares profound insights on the intertwining realms of motherhood and creativity, emphasizing their symbiotic relationship.Choice and Empowerment: Exploring the empowerment found in choosing creative pursuits amid motherhood, Mary delves into the transformative process of carving out time and space for both.The Feminine Tapestry: Highlighting the fluidity between roles, Mary emphasizes that motherhood and creative endeavors are not distinct silos but a powerful, intertwined feminine force.The Art of Choice: Reflecting on personal experiences, Mary stresses the importance of choice in creative work, sharing how she navigated loss and chose to let go of a project that no longer resonated.The Ever-Changing Creative Landscape: Mary draws parallels between birthing a child and birthing a book, shedding light on the evolving nature of creativity and the importance of letting go during different stages of the process.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

New motherhood brings countless first encounters, giving joy, as well as pain, new meaning. Dr. Gertrude talks with new mom, Elizabeth Turazon, about her experience of separation pain, traveling with a baby, and how to include extended family on the journey. Dr. Gertrude checks in with Elizabeth Turazon about what’s new in her motherhood journey as she celebrates the 10-week postpartum milestone. A new child brings many firsts to move through as parents and as individuals, and this conversation untangles some of these challenges while also highlighting the joys present along the way, and the importance of holding all parts of the adventure at once. Elizabeth vulnerably shares a painful experience of separation from her baby that caught her off guard and how she is planning for a long trip away from home among family with her newborn. As her baby begins to slowly do things more independently and away from her, Elizabeth questions the essence of her role as a mother, and also how she can be a good model in the face of adversity for her daughter. Episode Outline: (06:50) Preparing for baby’s first road trip(10:45) The micorealities of separation, finding purpose through joy and pain(18:01) Mom guilt: am I doing enough? Finding levity through the doubt(26:09) Modeling what to do during frustration and pain for our children(30:05) Steering the adventure ahead towards delight(40:58) Preparing for the grand experiment of a family system(45:52) Moving through unresolved conflict to deepen relationships(50:26) Dr. Gertrude’s takeaways  Resources Referenced:Whole Brain Living by Jill Bolte Taylor Listen to the entire series with Elizabeth Tuazon: Episode 97: Conversations with Elizabeth Tuazon: Pregnancy and Embracing DiscomfortEpisode 112: Birth's Sacred Dance: The Power of Wisdom and Song with Elizabeth Tuazon​​Episode 118: Co-Regulation and Authentic Expression in Early Motherhood with Elizabeth TuazonConnect with Dr. Gertrude Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s website drgertrudelyons.com Follow Dr. Gertrude on Instagram: @drgertrudelyons Stay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletter: drgertrudelyons.com/newsletterMentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Jennifer Louden is a personal growth pioneer who helped launch the concept of self-care with her first bestseller, The Woman’s Comfort Book, published in 1992. Since then, she’s written eight additional books on well-being and creative living, including The Woman’s Retreat Book and The Life Organizer, with close to a million copies of her books sold in nine languages. Jennifer has spoken around the U.S., Canada, and Europe, and has written a national magazine column for Martha Stewart magazine. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬Embracing Change: Mother-child relationships change over time, necessitating adaptation to evolving roles and dynamics.Fostering Independence: Allowing children to make their own choices and learn from their mistakes is vital in supporting their individual journeys.The Power of Belief: Believing in the creative process is essential, as persisting through uncertainty and messiness leads to transformation.Freedom in Rewriting the Mother Code: Jennifer highlights that rewriting the mother code empowers mothers to live authentically and break free from societal expectations.Honoring Complexity: Motherhood is a multifaceted journey; recognizing and shaping our narratives is crucial for embracing our creative voices and leaving a lasting impact.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

In this episode, Dr. Gertrude Lyons reflects on the power of aligning with the seasons and cycles, particularly focusing on the midpoint of the fall season. She explores how different cultures celebrate this time as a way to honor their ancestors and connect with the spirit world. 𝐇𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬Dr. Gertrude's deep exploration of aligning with the seasons and cycles, revealing the profound guidance they offer for self-discovery and connection.Celebrating the significance of the fall season's midpoint, where ancient cultures like the Celts and Mexicans honored and celebrated the thinning of the veil between worlds.The importance of honoring and communicating with our ancestors during this season, with Dr. Gertrude sharing personal experiences of connecting with her father and grandmother in spirit.Exploring the emotion of joy and its connection to gratitude, wonder, and awe as a means of cultivating a deeper, more authentic experience of this powerful emotion.A call to action for listeners to reflect on their experiences of joy, the presence or absence of joy in their family of origin, and the role models for joyful living, and to intentionally cultivate joy during the Thanksgiving holiday season.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Perdita Finn is the co-founder, with her husband Clark Strand, of the non-denominational international fellowship The Way of the Rose, which inspired their book The Way of the Rose: The Radical Path of the Divine Feminine Hidden in the Rosary.𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬Perdita Finn and Dr. Gertrude discuss the power of the unseen world and the importance of reconnecting with the Divine Feminine.They share personal experiences and anecdotes about the transformative impact of mothering, not only in traditional maternal roles but also through ancestral connections.Perdita emphasizes the significance of collaborating with the dead and the wisdom they can offer, encouraging us to explore this uncharted realm.The Way of the Rose Foundation is introduced as a community focused on embracing the divine feminine and invoking prayers, with a special focus on the role of the ancestors.Perdita and Dr. Gertrude's conversation highlights the potential for healing, transformation, and empowerment by embracing the unseen world and embodying the qualities of the Divine Feminine.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Michelle Yu, MPH, is Co-founder & CEO of Josie. Named after her daughter, Josie’s vision is to transform the working parent experience.𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬Michelle Yu discussed alarming statistics regarding working parents' burnout and challenges, especially new mothers.The power of community and overcoming parental isolation was a key focus.Josie’s unique approach integrates coaching, education, and organizational support for working parents.Working parents offer transformational benefits to organizations, contrary to common misconceptions.The conversation highlighted self-mothering as a crucial theme for parents' well-being and work-life balance.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Lucy Handley is a freelance journalist and writer, covering topics from sustainability to the stock market. She also writes about her life via her newsletter, The Honesty Box https://thehonestybox.substack.com/ 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬Lucy Hanley's Unconventional Choice: Explore how Lucy courageously chose a child-free life, defying societal expectations.Embracing Self-Discovery: Discover how Lucy embarked on a journey of self-discovery, prioritizing personal growth and happiness.Breaking Free from Norms: Learn how Lucy challenged traditional norms and found fulfillment beyond motherhood.The Power of Choice: Understand the importance of making choices that align with your true desires, even if they differ from societal pressures.Inspiration for All: Lucy's story serves as an inspiration for anyone seeking happiness and purpose on their own terms, free from external expectations.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Elizabeth is a professional music and dance performing artist, teacher, and director. In this episode, we delve into the power of vulnerability as Elizabeth reflects on the emotional rollercoaster of early motherhood. Discover how embracing vulnerability allowed her to connect with her own feelings and the unspoken challenges many new mothers face. Learn how vulnerability becomes a source of strength and connection in the journey of nurturing a new life. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬Embracing Vulnerability: Elizabeth Tuazon shares her experiences as a new mother, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability and authentic expression in navigating the challenges of early motherhood.The Power of Co-Regulation: Tuazon explores the concept of co-regulation, highlighting how caregivers can join infants in their emotional states to provide support and comfort.Breaking Societal Expectations: The conversation challenges societal norms that encourage hiding struggles and only sharing the "good news" of motherhood, promoting a more open and honest dialogue about the postpartum experience.Support and Connection: Tuazon emphasizes the significance of support from friends and partners, illustrating how sharing one's emotional journey can deepen connections and foster understanding.Continuing the Journey: The discussion concludes with the idea that the journey of early motherhood is ongoing, suggesting that more insights and reflections are yet to come.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

As she began to contemplate her experience further, Dr. Lyons came to the realization that joy had been a relatively rare emotion in her life. This revelation prompted her to reflect on her family of origin and the scarcity of joy in her early years.𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬A Surprising Encounter: In this episode of "Rewrite the Mother Code," Dr. Gertrude Lyons shares her unexpected reaction when drawing a hummingbird oracle card during a retreat meant to explore joy.Reflecting on Joy: Dr. Lyons delves into her past, realizing that joy had been scarce in her family of origin. This prompts her to question her relationship with joy and its place in her life.The Neglected Emotion: Despite being recognized as one of our basic emotions, joy remains one of the least studied human emotions, making it a relatively unexplored aspect of psychology.Distinguishing Joy from Happiness: Dr. Lyons highlights the distinction between joy and happiness. While happiness is a general sense of well-being, joy is a spontaneous, momentary emotion often triggered by awe-inspiring or heartwarming experiences.A Call to Reflect: This episode invites listeners to contemplate their own relationships with joy, its significance in their lives, and how they can cultivate more of it on a daily basis.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Yann Dang is an Executive & Life Coach, who leverages over 15 years of international corporate experience integrated with her deep knowledge of Social and Emotional Intelligence as an International Coaching Federation (ICF) Certified Coach to support executives and leaders reach their potential. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬Empowering Femininity: Yann's journey of embracing her feminine power.Balancing Act: Navigating the challenges of motherhood and a career.Choosing Independence: Yann's decision to start her coaching business.Prioritizing Self-Care: Emphasizing self-care for mothers.Savoring Moments: Reflecting on treasured moments in motherhood.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Nikki Oden is a lawyer and mom mentor who helps working moms battle burnout by teaching them how to own their days and crush their goals—without the mom guilt. After walking away from a lucrative career as a commercial litigator for a prestigious, international law firm to become a stay-at-home mom. Nikki Oden kicks off our conversation by highlighting the significance of self-love in the context of Rewriting the Mother Code.𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬:Self-Love and Mom Life: Nikki Oden discusses how self-love is key to enhancing your mom-life, fostering better relationships with your family, friends, and coworkers.Overcoming Perfectionism: Discover how to break free from the shackles of perfectionism and learn to speak to yourself with kindness and love.The Power of Your Inner Circle: Nikki highlights the influence of the people you surround yourself with and the importance of intentional choices in nurturing your inner space.Balancing Motherhood and Self-Care: Learn how to prioritize self-care and regain a sense of self as a mother, even through small, sustainable steps.Translating Motherhood Skills to the Workplace: Nikki sheds light on the valuable skills acquired through motherhood and how they can be assets on your resume, changing the narrative around motherhood's impact on a career.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Elizabeth is a professional music and dance performing artist, teacher, and director. She is also a professional life coach. She is a PCC-certified coach with the International Coaching Federation and has been on a deep journey of personal growth. She also directs, designs, and manages a curriculum specializing in social-emotional intelligence.𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐇𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬:Breaking Motherhood Myths: The blog challenges traditional beliefs of selfless motherhood, emphasizing the importance of self-care and acknowledging personal needs and desires.Embracing Emotions: It encourages mothers to embrace their emotions as a natural part of motherhood, breaking the taboo of always needing to be calm.Learning and Growing Together: Motherhood is viewed as a journey of learning and growth, both for the child and the mother. The blog highlights the significance of being present in each moment of this transformative experience.Healing and Reparenting: The blog suggests that mothers can use motherhood as an opportunity for healing and reparenting themselves, revisiting past experiences and emotions to find new perspectives.A Higher Vision: The blog emphasizes the importance of having a higher vision or purpose in motherhood, allowing the challenges to have meaning and serving as opportunities for enrichment and healing.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Elizabeth is a professional music and dance performing artist, teacher, and director. She is also a professional life coach. She is a PCC-certified coach with the International Coaching Federation and has been on a deep journey of personal growth. She also directs, designs, and manages a curriculum specializing in social-emotional intelligence. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐇𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬:Breaking Motherhood Myths: The blog challenges traditional beliefs of selfless motherhood, emphasizing the importance of self-care and acknowledging personal needs and desires.Embracing Emotions: It encourages mothers to embrace their emotions as a natural part of motherhood, breaking the taboo of always needing to be calm.Learning and Growing Together: Motherhood is viewed as a journey of learning and growth, both for the child and the mother. The blog highlights the significance of being present in each moment of this transformative experience.Healing and Reparenting: The blog suggests that mothers can use motherhood as an opportunity for healing and reparenting themselves, revisiting past experiences and emotions to find new perspectives.A Higher Vision: The blog emphasizes the importance of having a higher vision or purpose in motherhood, allowing the challenges to have meaning and serving as opportunities for enrichment and healing.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Majka Burhardt is a professional climber, conservation entrepreneur, author, and filmmaker. She is the Founder and Executive Director of Legado and the author of the 2023 book More: Life on the Edge of Adventure and Motherhood, a Next Big Idea Club must-read, as well as Vertical Ethiopia: Climbing Toward Possibility in the Horn of Africa, which was short-listed for the Banff Book Award.𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐇𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬:In this candid conversation with Majka Burhardt, we delve into the multifaceted world of motherhood. 🌼Discover how Majka gracefully navigates the challenges and adventures of both motherhood and climbing, exploring the intersection of risk and resilience. 🌄Learn about the inspiring work of the Legato Initiative, where Majka and her team are actively building thriving futures in partnership with indigenous communities across the globe. 🌍Embrace the idea of redefining success by allowing space for the beautifully messy middle of life—a journey that often doesn't adhere to a pre-drawn roadmap. 🌟Join us in understanding the importance of creating safe spaces where we can authentically share our experiences and emotions, without the pressure of having all the answers. 🤝 #Motherhood #Adventure #Community #MessyMiddleMentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Elizabeth shared a remarkable part of her birth story that involved a prayer flag. At her garden party, friends and family were invited to write their wishes, inspirations, and words of wisdom on colored construction paper, which were then strung together as a flag. This beautiful act of co-creation was a way for her support team to send their intentions and love, knowing they would be present in spirit during the birth. Elizabeth's request for this flag, even during labor, revealed her unwavering commitment to creating a sacred and intentional birthing environment.𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐇𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬:Prayer Flag Magic: Discover the significance of Elizabeth's prayer flag, a tapestry of wishes, inspiration, and wisdom woven by loved ones.Trusting the Birthing Process: Explore how Elizabeth embraced the unexpected in her birth plan, finding strength in letting go and trusting the journey.The Flag's Power: Learn how the prayer flag infused the birthing room with love, encouragement, and spiritual connection, providing vital support during labor.Birth as a Partnership: Understand the importance of acknowledging both mother and baby as newcomers in the birthing experience and valuing each other's wisdom.The Birth Song: Experience the heartfelt song that celebrates the magic and wonder of birth, bridging the gap between the known and the unknown.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Elizabeth shared a remarkable part of her birth story that involved a prayer flag. At her garden party, friends and family were invited to write their wishes, inspirations, and words of wisdom on colored construction paper, which were then strung together as a flag. This beautiful act of co-creation was a way for her support team to send their intentions and love, knowing they would be present in spirit during the birth. Elizabeth's request for this flag, even during labor, revealed her unwavering commitment to creating a sacred and intentional birthing environment.𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐇𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬:Prayer Flag Magic: Discover the significance of Elizabeth's prayer flag, a tapestry of wishes, inspiration, and wisdom woven by loved ones.Trusting the Birthing Process: Explore how Elizabeth embraced the unexpected in her birth plan, finding strength in letting go and trusting the journey.The Flag's Power: Learn how the prayer flag infused the birthing room with love, encouragement, and spiritual connection, providing vital support during labor.Birth as a Partnership: Understand the importance of acknowledging both mother and baby as newcomers in the birthing experience and valuing each other's wisdom.The Birth Song: Experience the heartfelt song that celebrates the magic and wonder of birth, bridging the gap between the known and the unknown.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Dr. Lyons delves into the fascinating work of neuroscientist Jill Bolte Taylor and her discovery of the brain's interconnectedness. The brain's capacity to understand and experience oneness challenges the idea of separation. Dr. Lyons emphasizes that this isn't mere mysticism but a scientifically supported reality.𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬Embrace life as your ultimate teacher, allowing the world to impart wisdom and growth.Cultivate a mindful approach to everyday moments, recognizing the potential for learning in each experience.Seek guidance from the world around you, whether in your yoga practice or daily interactions.Trust the messages and guidance you receive, transcending preconceived agendas for a more authentic journey.Embody the role of a lifelong student, exploring the vast possibilities of growth through connection with the world.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

James Kawainui is a Native Hawaiian Healer, Mentor, and Teacher with family roots going back over 20 generations in Hawaii. His family is the "shaman" of his culture and he brings that ancient wisdom into the work he does. James’ awakening came over 20 years ago when he first heard his Kūpuna (ancestors). "It's time to go home," they said. He listened and walked away from a successful corporate career and moved back to Hawaii. Since then his journey has been to understand his gifts on deeper and deeper levels.𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬Energetic Boundaries: Understanding their importance for authentic connections.Self-Mothering: Prioritizing self-care for balanced, fulfilling lives.Generational Healing: Rewriting the mother code to break free from trauma.Conscious Choices: Transforming lives through awareness and choice.Embracing Balance: Finding equilibrium between self-care and nurturing relationships.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Caroline shares her journey from a conventional career path to becoming an herbalist and wellness advocate. We discuss the importance of listening to that inner voice that guides us toward our true purpose and passion. Caroline emphasizes that tuning into our inner wisdom is a powerful tool for making meaningful changes in our lives, from personal well-being to embracing holistic health practices.𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬Inner Calling: Caroline's transition from traditional career to herbalism guided by intuition.Holistic Harmony: Queen Tulsi products offer natural well-being by aligning with nature.Symbiotic Connection: Embracing nature's interdependence for enhanced health.Reimaging Paths: Defying norms, promoting self-care, and embracing authenticity.Empowerment Tools: Herbal remedies and mindfulness for daily self-nurturing.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

In this episode, Dr. Gertrude Lyons and Aine Rock discuss the transformative power of self-discovery and rewriting the mother code. Aine Rock discusses her journey of self-discovery and how she learned to embrace both the light and dark aspects of herself. She talks about the importance of recognizing duality within and finding balance between the shadow and the light. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐡𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬Aine Rock and Dr. Gertrude discuss self-discovery and motherhood.Aine embraces duality and shares insights on fear and healing.Motherhood becomes a path of self-realization and breaking patterns."Rewriting the mother code" involves understanding, unlearning, and empowerment.Aine's Instagram reflects authenticity and vulnerability.Personal transformation inspires positive change in others.An insightful episode on growth, motherhood, and authenticity.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

In this heartfelt episode, we join an intimate conversation between Elizabeth and Dr. Gertrude Lyons, delving deep into the transformative journey of pregnancy and birth. This conversation captures their candid discussion about breaking free from societal norms, embracing emotions, and redefining beliefs about pain and pleasure in the process of becoming a mother. 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐇𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬:Empowered Journey: Elizabeth's experience defies norms and highlights personal strength.Vulnerable Power: Embracing vulnerability fosters empowerment and connection.Transformative Perspective: Redefining pain as divine showcases the power of perspective.Community Impact: Elizabeth's story emphasizes the role of a supportive community in personal growth.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

In this episode Alexia and Dr. Gertrude Lyons dive into the concept of self-mothering and how it relates to motherhood. They discuss the importance of taking care of ourselves and nurturing our own well-being to be better mothers to our children and leaders in our fields.𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐇𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬Embrace self-mothering to better care for ourselves and be effective caregivers and leaders.Mindfulness and authenticity are powerful tools for impactful communication.Vulnerability and authenticity in public speaking can foster connection and personal growth.Discomfort can be a signal for self-expression; lean into it to find your voice.Give yourself permission to rewrite the traditional "mother code" and trust your intuition.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

On this episode of "Rewrite the Mother Code" Dr. Gertrude Lyons takes us on a journey through her recent experiences, reflections, and insights while traveling from Mexico, to her home in Chicago, then to Ireland. She shares profound wisdom about embracing transitions, creating space for exploration, and challenging long-held beliefs. Join her to explore the metaphor of birth, celebrate the Celtic holiday of Lughnasadh, and reconsider the triple goddess archetype.𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀Impact of childhood experiences on parenting.Breaking toxic food patterns.Encouraging positive eating habits.Nurturing healthy relationships with food.Valuable insights for better parenting.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

In Cari's book, she candidly shares her experiences with toxic parenting, shedding light on the struggles of many others. Her mission is to inspire other cycle breakers to turn their pain into power and shift toward positive parenting. By providing space for healing and self-awareness, Cari believes that small steps can lead to significant transformation and personal growth.𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀Awareness of childhood experiences' impact on parenting.Letting go of limiting beliefs and toxic patterns.Empowering children to take responsibility for eating habits.Creating a supportive, structured environment for positive food relationships.Valuable insights and practical tips for better parenting and promoting healthy eating habits.Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Jill Castle speaks to her unique perspective on what "Rewriting the Mother Code" means to her. She sees it as an opportunity for mothers to consciously assess their own experiences of motherhood and make intentional choices about what they want to carry forward and what they want to change. It involves letting go of patterns and dynamics that no longer serve them or their children, and reconstructing aspects of their childhood that may have influenced their parenting style. By rewriting the mother code, mothers can create a nurturing and empowering environment for their children and themselves. This journey allows for personal growth, self-care, and meaningful connections. Jill's own experiences serve as a reminder that we have the power to shape our motherhood journeys and make intentional choices that benefit our families.𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀Awareness of the impact of childhood experiences on parentingLetting go of limiting beliefs and patternsEmpowering children to take responsibility for their own eatingCreating a structured yet supportive environment for positive food relationshipsMentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

In a series of conversations with expectant mom Elizabeth Tuazon in this second episode, Gertrude and Elizabeth talk about recent events and developments in Elizabeth's pregnancy journey, as she is currently 32 weeks pregnant. They explore home birth, midwifery, speaking up, naming discomfort, and some "codes" around staying silent and "getting back" after birth. However, it's not all serious, as this episode offers plenty of light-hearted fun moments. Take a journey with the ladies as they have a serious conversation dotted with humor and courageous vulnerability.𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀Understanding you have choices in childbirthHow do we deal with discomfort and naming itCodes around silence and "getting back" after pregnancy Home Birthing, midwifery, and reading and researching your options. Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

For Heidi, rewriting the Mother Code means reimagining what is possible. Even now, Heidi realizes she has been working as a writer for the last 20 years, but she can also envision reimagining her future. The idea that there are no “rules” for her future still seems a little wild for her. Website helloheidifiedler.comLinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/heidi-fielder-74ab338a?originalSubdomain=uk Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heidifiedler/ Other Social Media https://www.pinterest.com/heidifiedler/ 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀Checking the boxesThe adoption processAttention is where you cross from indifference to caring. An invitation to pursue creative endeavors (doodling, watercolors, journaling) in your everyday routine and find joy in the processCreating with intention and your “values” in mindMentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

For Dr. Lyons, she can find many words, but to summarize in one word is more challenging.  Gertrude would love to hear your ONE word on this Independence day. What does it evoke in you? Also, what have you freed yourself from halfway through the year? What are some of the freedoms you enjoy that you often take advantage of? These topics can be great ponderings over the holiday or serve as great journal prompts. It’s a great time to reflect on the ups and downs of the first half of the year. It can be a few minutes, a conversation with others, or a meditation. Don’t forget to subscribe to the newsletter so you can hear more about the upcoming book and the upcoming fall retreat. This is a great way to reconnect with flow and form new ideas and claim ourselves and our independence. Don’t forget to find, follow, and share on all social media platformsGertrude is freeing herself from shyness and wants to share her blessings with as many people as possible! 𝗦𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀Dr. Gertrude on finding her voiceThe summer solstice and using summer as a catalyst of changeCelebrating July 4th, Independence DayAn exploration into the spiritual dynamic behind “freedom” Uncovering our dependenciesMentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

For Clara, rewriting the Mot(her) Code means having a white canvas in front of you, and having a choice of color, shape, and theme. It’s having this space for you to become and be whatever you want to be. It means challenging, questioning, and being curious. Take life and live it to the fullest with all its ups and downs. To live courageously and to choose to paint your white canvas every day. Website: https://startbreakingthrough.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/claracarrierInstagram https://www.instagram.com/startbreakingthrough/Other Social Media: https://twitter.com/ClaraCarrierShow highlightsThe Codes of Womanhood and Mothering in ColombiaGrowing up with an alcoholic parentThe complexity of the codes given to usEmbracing emotions Breakthroughs regarding parenting and self-love Starting with your blank canvas, dailyMentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

As the mother of a newborn, Dorsey is rewriting many codes and making decisions based on what serves her best. Her partner and she live by the philosophy that a happy mother can serve her children best. This means rewriting codes around when it is best to return to work. For Dorsey, she was ready to travel and start working relatively soon after giving birth. This is because she feels her work feeds her soul. Again, this decision was a challenging one. Tears were shed, but she felt a shift by the third time she left for work-related business. For Dorsey, rewriting the Mot(her) code means turning on the light and looking at the code, even when it’s uncomfortable, while drawing on resources of positive connection and inspiration to rewrite and reframe the codes that are our operating systems. It’s not about being perfect. The idea is to  slowly shift every day to show up as a more healed version of yourself. To be the woman she wants to be in the world rather than letting someone else dictate that. Show highlightsBurnout and the rat-raceStarting a meditation practiceThe unexpected twists and turns of pregnancy and learning to surrender Building new mindful habits Feeling grief and holding space for negative emotionsWorking with a newborn, hiring a nanny and a night nurse“It takes a village” mentalityMentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Elizabeth is rewriting the Mot(her) Code to find her own path in the birthing process. She grew up with the narrative “go for the epidural” and use whatever technology is available to avoid the pain. However, confronted with her pregnancy, she is now asking more questions. Having visited a birthing center, she encountered the philosophy that women are stronger and more resilient than they have been led to believe. This statement was a revelation. It rang true to her and she knew she wanted to be a part of that mindset. Consequently, she plans on taking as little intervention as possible during birth. In general, she wants to rewrite the code that pregnancy and birth is something to overcome: as if it’s a burden or like a bad diagnosis. To Elizabeth, rewriting the Mot(her) means redefining, rediscovering, and writing her own definition of what it means to be a woman and a feminine presence in the world today. She’s looking at things with love (even critical love) while discovering what she would like to create while asking what it is that she is hungry to express, to become. Elizabeth ends the podcast episode with a beautiful lyrical performance. “I’ve always thought that women were the source of all creation.” Show highlightsThere are more birthing options available than women have been led to believePregnancy is viewed as a “problem” or “diagnosis” by the medical profession instead of viewing it as a positive choiceThe importance of making decisions for oneselfThe concept of the fourth trimester and envisioning a birthing and newborn baby phase that resonates with you Breastfeeding and everyone’s unsolicited opinion, for better or worse.The idea that a good mother “just knows how to do this”Mentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24

Trigger Warning: This episode contains sensitive content and discussions surrounding suicide. It may be distressing or triggering for some individuals. Reader/Listener discretion is advised. If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts or needs immediate help, please contact Lifeline, a 24/7 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, at 988 or visit their website at https://988lifeline.org. Your mental health and well-being matter.One thought helped Elena gain clarity: it was better for her children to have a gay mom than a dead mom. Slowly, she began rebuilding her life and family and rewriting her mot(her) code. Today, she gives back to the LGBTQ+ community through the Pride and Joy Foundation, which aims to prevent suicides and homelessness in gay communities. She is a corporate consultant, leading companies to take actionable measures to enhance diversity and inclusion in the workplace. She is also a sought-after speaker; her TEDx talk went viral, gaining thousands of views online. She is giving hope to LGBTQ+ mothers worldwide through her brave story. Find out more about how you can work with Elena Joy Thurston here. Show highlightsThe pandemic’s effects on LGBTQ+ communities and the birth of the Pride and Joy Foundation, which aims to prevent suicides and homelessness in the LGBTQ+ communityElena’s journey into religion and the Mormon Church, with its inevitable conflict with her sexual orientation Her marriage and her biological mothering journey Her life is  chaotic when she comes out of the closet and finds a “therapist” that promises to convert her. 50 percent of participants become suicidal, and that’s where she found herselfThe fear of doing things “right” and “wrong” in motheringMentioned in this episode:Learn more about the 2024 Spring Equinox Self-Mothering Retreat at https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/spring-equinox-24