Relationship Advice

Sexual fantasy can play a large role in a relationship and individual sexuality. However, there's often a fair amount of shame around sexuality and sexual fantasies. Listen to today's show to learn how to explore your own fantasies and share them with your partner. You just might learn a few fun new things about each other and perhaps your fantasy will turn to reality! Today's show topics include: How to work on feeling less shameful about your sexual fantasies Communication tools to share your fantasies with your partner The deeper meaning of your sexual fantasies (Threesomes might be a need to feel desired, ect..) Learn if it's ever a bad thing to fantasize too much Examining your fantasies and peak sexual experiences And much more! Xanet Pailet is an intimacy educator, coach and author of Living An Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself And Awaken Your Pleasure. She works with individuals and couples to empower them around their sexuality and strengthen relationship and intimacy skills. Xanet is a certified Somatica® Sex and Intimacy Coach, Sexological Body Worker, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, Tantra Educator and Somatica Experiencing Trauma Practitioner. She has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Brides, Sex with Emily, SheKnows, and Elephant Journal. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/178 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Storyworth: StoryWorth makes it easy and fun for your loved ones to share their stories, with weekly emailed story prompts - questions you’ve never thought to ask. At the end of the year, they’ll get their stories bound in a beautiful hardcover book. Strengthen your family bonds, and get to know your loved one in a whole new way. For $20 off, visit Storyworth.com/ido If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Each individual has a role in a relationship. Maybe you take out the trash and your partner handles the dishes, or you're the primary caretaker of the kids while your partner is the primary income earner. Whatever your relationship roles, sometimes they get out of balance and create points of stress and conflict. Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate these issues and rebalance your relationship. How to address the issue of an imbalance through productive communication. Why learning about yourself and your own insecurities is often a solution to relationship issues. The importance of sitting down to discuss your needs and expectations. How to address issues at the source and when you initially feel them arise. And much more! Lynn Reilly is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Master Energy Therapist and the author of the self development book, 30 Days to Me. Her expertise in understanding human behavior drives her passion to educate people on how to understand and support themselves to live a serendipitous life. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/177 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Audible: Audible has the largest selection of audiobooks on the planet including best sellers, motivation, mysteries, thrillers, memoirs, and more. Get 3 months of Audible for just $6.95 a month. Go to audible.com/IDO or text IDO to 500500 If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

ADHD is a mental health condition that can negatively impact your relationship and often goes undiagnosed in adults. Distractability, poor listening and disorganization are just a few signs of adult ADHD. It's important to understand the mental condition and its affects on your relationship. Whether or not you or your partner has ADHD, you'll find many useful relationship tips in this episode. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to know if you or your partner has ADHD Treatments for ADHD The pitfalls of the parent-child dynamic in a relationship Finding common ground to solve the issues in your relationship Learning who your partner is and respecting that person And much more! Melissa Orlov is a marriage consultant who specializes in working with couples impacted by adult ADHD. She is the author of two award-winning books, The ADHD Effect on Marriage, and The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/176 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Songfinch: Songfinch brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. Visit Songfinch.com and enter the promo code IDO to get $20 off! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ahhhhh! STRESS. If you've never been stressed out you are either, not human, or you've achieved an extreme level of enlightenment and your brain should be studied in a lab. Stress is a natural survival response from millions of years of evolution. It serves us well in some situations, and in others it can be quite destructive. In particular, stress can put a huge damper on the relationships in your life. Use the tips in this episode to deal with stress in a way that does not negatively affect your relationships. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to slow things down so you can think rationally and not say or do things you'll later regret. Staying mindful to avoid reactivity. Broadening your view to think of the bigger picture as a tool for dealing with your stress. Realizing that stress is a part of life and finding the right mindset to move forward with it. And much more! Melanie Greenberg Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist specializing in stress and relationships. She is also the author of The Stress-Proof Brain and The Mindful Self-Express blog on Psychology Today. An expert on relationships, Melanie counsels individuals and couples on issues like communication, dating, building intimacy, and finding secure attachment, Melanie provides keynotes and workshops to mental health professionals nationally and internationally. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/175 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Go to Babbel.com and offer code IDO​ to get 50% off your first 3 months! Simple Contacts: lets you renew your contact lens prescription from anywhere with our online renewal test and delivery service. To save $20 on your contact lenses, just go to simplecontacts.com/IDO or enter the code IDO at checkout. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve all felt rejected and down in the dumps. It sucks. I mean it really sucks. But there’s hope! Maybe you’re dating and can’t seem to find the right partner, or you’re in a relationship and feel rejected every time your partner turns you down for sex. Feelings of rejection are human and normal! We’re here to help you navigate these dark and stormy feelings and come out the other side to the bright sunshine that awaits! Listen to today’s episode and learn. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding that you are not alone in your rejection. It happens to everyone! The negative effects of social media on your feelings of rejection and overall happiness. Quick hint: Want to immediately feel better? Stop following (stalking) your ex’s on social! How to navigate feelings of rejection from your partner or spouse. And much more! Dr. Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist and author who helps millions calm their anxiety and be their authentic selves through her award-winning podcast, Savvy Psychologist, and in the clinic at Boston University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/174 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Go to Babbel.com and offer code IDO​ to get 50% off your first 3 months! Green Chef: Green Chef is a USDA certified organic company that includes everything you need to easily cook delicious meals that you can feel good about. For $50 off your first box of Green Chef, go to GreenChef.us/IDO. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes it feels like we live in the most narcissistic time in history. Selfies are a ‘thing’, social media encourages us to always share how great we are and reality TV thrives off of self promotion. What do you do when narcissistic traits appear in you or your partner? There’s hope on the way and it’s in the form of this podcast! Listen and learn how to deal with narcissistic habits in your partner or yourself. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Communicating with a partner who exhibits narcissistic traits. Understanding the degrees of narcissistic habits and how to deal with various levels. The value of having “yes” conversations instead of “but” conversations. This tip is a great tool for EVERY kind of relationship. Examining where narcissistic traits come from and ways to manage them. How narcissistic habits can reveal themselves as a listening disorder. And much more! Dr. Susan Heitler is a Denver clinical psychologist, author of five books plus a popular blog on Psychology Today that has had over 16 million reads. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/173 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Songfinch: Songfinch brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. Visit Songfinch.com and enter the promo code IDO to get $20 off! Warby Parker: Warby Parker makes buying glasses online easy and risk-free. Find your perfect pair! Get started with a free home try-on kit by visiting warbyparker.com/ido If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Getting in touch with our feelings and emotions is much easier said than done. If we can learn to understand our emotions and where they come from, then we can begin to improve the relationship with our self and our partner. Childhood trauma and neglect are the root causes of many personal and intrapersonal relationship issues. Listen to today’s amazing show for valuable tips on navigating the minefield of our emotions. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to pay attention, understand and communicate your emotions and feelings with your partner The importance of validating your partner’s feelings and how to do it properly Why you should not argue over who’s ‘right’ or ‘wrong’. Childhood emotional neglect and why it’s likely impacting your relationship The dead end of arguing about facts and events rather than the root issues in your relationship And much more! Jonice Webb, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist, speaker, blogger and best-selling author. Dr. Webb wrote the first book ever written about Childhood Emotional Neglect and is recognized worldwide as the pioneer of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN). Dr. Webb created the first and only online Childhood Emotional Neglect Recovery Program. She has been interviewed about her topic on CBS Boston Evening News, NECN Morning News, and NPR. Her work has been cited by The Chicago Tribune, Psychology Today, Psychcentral.com and The Elephant Journal. Dr. Webb also provides professional trainings for licensed therapists in identifying and treating Childhood Emotional Neglect in their clients. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/172 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Go to Babbel.com and offer code IDO​ to get 50% off your first 3 months! Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To start your free wedding website or registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/ido. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Communication and smart conflict resolution are extremely important in any relationship. You know this! Yet we all struggle with these things too often (at least Sarah and I do). This episode is a gold mine of valuable information for navigating communication and conflict resolution. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Is honesty always the best policy? The importance of making your partner feel that the conversation is important. Arguing about silly things and how to resolve it. Communication techniques for productive conflict resolution. How to avoid blaming and criticizing language with your parter. And much more! Ed Callirgos is the owner of The Bridge CCM, an independently licensed marriage and family therapist and trained Mediator. He has been featured on the Arizona Republic, Professional publications, Podcasts, Internet/Radio shows and is a recipient of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy Minority Fellowship award. He is well known for working with high conflict couples, working with difficult cases such as couples where there is a potential for domestic violence, cases involving infidelity, pornography addiction, pre/post divorce, co parenting and suicidal ideations and trauma. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/171 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Simple Health: Simple Health uses technology to provide simple, convenient & affordable care at home - starting with online birth control prescriptions & delivery. Get the $20 prescription fee waived by going to simplehealth.com/IDO. Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just be yourself. Easier said than done in this mixed up and sometimes crazy world. Gender roles, stereotypes, expectations and culture all shape how we see ourselves. The search for your authentic self can help improve your relationship in ways you never thought imaginable. Listen to today's episode and learn! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding how gender roles and stereotypes can shape how we perceive ourselves and negatively affect relationships. Tools to explore 'inner space' and work toward the most authentic version of yourself. Pushing yourself to go outside your comfort zones to explore your identity. How to talk to your partner about authenticity in each other and the relationship. Asking yourself, "what parts of myself am I too shy to share?", and how this exercise can lead to relationship breakthroughs. How the LGBT community is leading the way in authenticity and acceptance and what heterosexual's can learn from them. And much more! Ken Page, LCSW, is a renowned psychotherapist, popular Psychology Today blogger, and author of the bestseller Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy. He's also the host of the new Deeper Dating Podcast. He has been featured in O, The Oprah Magazine, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Fox News, WPIX-TV News, Match.com, ChristianMingle, JDate and more. Page has led hundreds of workshops on intimacy and spirituality for thousands of participants. His work has been highly acclaimed by numerous top thought leaders, including Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Arielle Ford, Edward Hallowell, MD, Chip Conley, Judith Orloff, MD. and Katherine Woodward Thomas Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/170 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors J.J. Virgin’s 7-Day Stop, Drop & Swap Challenge: The 7-Day Challenge is designed to help you stop classic symptoms of food intolerance and drop up to 7 pounds in 7 days by swapping out 7 problem foods for healthy, tasty alternatives. Join here! Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's easy to lower our self worth in a relationship. Maybe it's because you are so madly in love you'll do just about anything for your partner — no matter how bad they treat you. Maybe they don't treat you terribly, but you have this itch that makes you think they should be treating you better. Listen to today's show to learn how to communicate and get the love you deserve! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to not lose your identity in your relationship or in your life in general. The importance of putting yourself first. Understanding your needs and communicating them to your partner. Why you should not be 'keeping score' in your relationship. Using "I" statements instead of "you" statements. And much more! Marisa Peer is a world renowned speaker, Rapid Transformational Therapy trainer and best-selling author. She has nearly three decades of experience as a therapist and has been named Best British Therapist by Men's Health magazine and featured in Tatler's Guide to Britain's 250 Best Doctors. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/169 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors J.J. Virgin’s 7-Day Stop, Drop & Swap Challenge: The 7-Day Challenge is designed to help you stop classic symptoms of food intolerance and drop up to 7 pounds in 7 days by swapping out 7 problem foods for healthy, tasty alternatives. Join here! Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dollars and cents don't sound like the most romantic relationship topic for your next date night. However, properly communicating about finances in committed relationships is a key tool for relationship happiness. Listen to today's show to learn how and why you need to talk finances with your partner. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How communicating about your budget can create more intimacy. Why it's a good thing that finances force us to adapt and change within our relationship. Understanding your individual emotional connections to money. How to communicate your core principles around money and why it's so important. Steps to have constructive arguments surround finances and other relationship issues. And much more! Russell Baxter is a Licensed Professional Counselor that runs Foundations Counseling in Grapevine, TX. He has created a specific curriculum for both couples and counselors to navigate finances in relationships. He is currently finishing his new book "Sharing Your Heart, Sharing Your Treasure", which will be released by the end of 2018. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/168 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors J.J. Virgin’s 7-Day Stop, Drop & Swap Challenge: The 7-Day Challenge is designed to help you stop classic symptoms of food intolerance and drop up to 7 pounds in 7 days by swapping out 7 problem foods for healthy, tasty alternatives. Join here! Spark My Relationship Course:Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode is the most honest and open conversation we've had on this podcast to date. We're no different than any other couple when it comes to relationship issues. We've dealt with control issues in our relationship, and we were happy to talk through our struggles with the help of today's guest, Wendi Dumbroff. Listen to today's show if you want an honest and useful conversation about how to deal with control issues in your relationship. Topics from this episode include: How to identify the cycle of control in your relationship. Does this sound familiar? Your partner tells you to do something, and it makes you want to do it less. Identifying the triggers that occur when your partner is being controlling. Importance of recognizing that we cannot help how we feel, but can help what we do. Dropping below surface communication in your relationship and examining the roots of an issue. And much more! Wendi L. Dumbroff, MA, LPC, is a Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice in Madison, NJ, where she specializes in individual, family, couple and sex therapy. She is a highly trained couple and sex therapist who provides a safe, non-judgmental and sex-positive environment. Additionally, Dumbroff is a teacher and practitioner of mindfulness and meditation which are skills she brings into her therapy practice. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/167 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors J.J. Virgin’s 7-Day Stop, Drop & Swap Challenge: The 7-Day Challenge is designed to help you stop classic symptoms of food intolerance and drop up to 7 pounds in 7 days by swapping out 7 problem foods for healthy, tasty alternatives. Join here! Spark My Relationship Course:Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Life is busy. Work, kids, Netflix, your phone. There are more things than ever pulling us away from our partners. Maintaining connection is a key component of a happy and healthy relationship. Use the actionable tips from today’s episode to stay connected and nurture your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the importance of greeting your partner when you leave or enter the house and how to do it Creating and implementing a going to bed ritual How to avoid letting technology negatively affect your relationship. Fun games to play to engage with your partner and keep things new and exciting The importance of asking your partner on a date and how to do it right And much more! Dr. Jennifer Lagrotte, DMFT, LMHC, LMFT, a therapist in practice in Parkland, FL, specializes in working with couples. She is an expert on showing couples how to stop fighting and start communicating. Her passion is couples, and she has dedicated her work to exclusively working with couples. Her speciality is affair recovery and uses the Atone/Attune/Attach Method, learned from in-person training with Julie and John Gottman. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/166 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors J.J. Virgin’s 7-Day Stop, Drop & Swap Challenge: The 7-Day Challenge is designed to help you stop classic symptoms of food intolerance and drop up to 7 pounds in 7 days by swapping out 7 problem foods for healthy, tasty alternatives. Join here! Spark My Relationship Course:Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are relationships so damn hard!? Simply put: We weren’t born with all of the tools to live, love and create a life with another human. It takes practice and hard work. Like any good tool box, the more variety of solid tools you have, the better you’ll be able to repair things (your relationship). Listen to this episode’s value bomb of a show to learn key tools to start applying to your relationship today. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the importance of making your partner feel understood Why we should not try to fix our partners problems and instead just listen and show empathy The critical ability to be accountable and show genuine remorse when you make a mistake Understanding the perspective of your partner to create compromises Communicating with positive statements to empower your partner And much more! Dr. Erin Leonard has been a practicing psychotherapist for over 20 years. She is a writer for Psychology Today, award winning author of 3 books, TV contributor and mom. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/165 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors JJ Virgin’s 7-Day Stop, Drop & Swap Challenge: The 7-Day Challenge is designed to help you stop classic symptoms of food intolerance and drop up to 7 pounds in 7 days by swapping out 7 problem foods for healthy, tasty alternatives. Join the challenge here. Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sound too good to be true? Well...depending on the state of your relationship, you may not fix EVERYTHING in 15 minutes, but this episode will put you well on the path to a happier relationship. Listen and learn the steps to Dr. Black’s 15 minute relationship fix exercise. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the 15 minute relationship exercise that guides you and your partner through an ‘emotional conference’ to share your emotions and better understand each other How to examine your emotions and understand any links to your childhood The importance of listening to your partner and demonstrating an understanding through validation Learn why agreement is optional, but understanding is necessary in your relationship How to walk into a restaurant and immediately tell who is having great sex Understanding that intimacy is not about getting the response you want, but handling the response you get And much more! Dr. Joel Block is a clinical psychologist specializing in treating couples and author of the 15 Minute Relationship Fix. Dr. Block is also a diplomate of the American Board of Professional Psychology and an assistant clinical professor of psychology and psychiatry at the Zucker School of Medicine at Hofstra/Northwell. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/164 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Online Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s easy to become complacent in our relationship. The longer we’ve been with someone, the more we often take them for granted. This can feel terrible for both partners and can lead to relationship dissatisfaction and worse. Don’t let feelings of monotony and under appreciation seep into your relationship. Use the simple tips in this episode to make a lasting and positive impact on your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to compliment your partner so they feel appreciated The importance of letting go of the small things sometimes Avoid long term relationship boredom with fresh new ideas like a mystery date surprise and more How to give your partner an unexpected compliment, and why that can be so impactful The incredible impact of greeting your partner when departing or arriving your house And much more! Fran Greene a licensed clinical social worker, author, and a nationally renowned relationship expert. Flirting is her hobby, love is her passion, and her dream is for you to have a loving relationship. She has a private practice working with singles who want to find their perfect match and couples who want to improve their relationships. She is also a sought-after online dating coach. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/163 Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Online Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Who doesn’t want to have better sex in their relationship!? The path to better sex doesn't have to be confusing and difficult. You have the power to initiate the changes you want for better, hotter more intimate sex. Listen to today’s episode to learn the exact steps to make these changes. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to ask what you want in bed and how to tolerate sometimes not getting it Understand that it’s your job to share what’s on your mind, not your partner’s job to read your mind How to practice communicating about your sexual desires to get what you want The importance of saying no when you need to say no And much more! Jessa Zimmerman is a certified sex therapist and couples counselor in Seattle as well as the host of the Better Sex Podcast and author of the new book Sex without Stress. She focus's on helping couples who have a good relationship but who struggle with sex. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/162 Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: Babbel is the new way to learn a foreign language. The comprehensive learning system combines effective communication methods with state-of-the-art technology. Go to Babbel.com or download the app and enter the promo code ido to try it for free! Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Taking out the trash, washing the dishes and cleaning the room all sound like pretty normal household tasks. However, when you share a house with a partner, these tasks can lead to arguments, resentments and problems in your relationship. Listen to today’s episode to learn how to best communicate and navigate the division of labor in your household. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why you need to be clear about each partner’s roles in the household Being honest about your needs and how to share with your partner How to use “I” language to productively communicate with your partner. The importance of negotiating roles throughout the relationship. And much more! Dr. Marisa T. Cohen is an Associate Professor of Psychology, relationship coach, and relationship scientist. Her research focuses on peoples’ perceptions of first date success and consensual non-monogamy. Dr. Cohen is the author of two books, a Psychology Today blog and Love Lessons, a Long Island Weekly newspaper column. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/161 Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: Babbel is the new way to learn a foreign language. The comprehensive learning system combines effective communication methods with state-of-the-art technology. Go to Babbel.com or download the app and enter the promo code ido to try it for free! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are we ever really ready to get married or have kids? It’s a big question! There are some key things we need to ask ourselves in order to make a well informed, smart decision regarding these big life decisions. Listen to today’s show to learn how to ask the right questions. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why it’s important that you not seek a partner to ‘complete you’ Falling for the narrative of your life rather than the reality The importance of aligned values with your partner Debunking the myth that love is all you need to make a relationship work What to do when one partner wants one thing and the other something else And much more! Jonathan Decker is a husband, father, family therapist, actor, and author. He is the clinical director of Your Family Expert, offering relationship coaching, counseling, and online courses to help you wherever you are. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/160 Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: Babbel is the new way to learn a foreign language. The comprehensive learning system combines effective communication methods with state-of-the-art technology. Go to Babbel.com or download the app and enter the promo code ido to try it for free! LOLA: A modern approach to feminine care. LOLA is a female-founded company offering a line of organic cotton tampons, pads, and liners. They now offer sex products, too! For 40% off all subscriptions, visit mylola.com and enter IDO when you subscribe! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Understanding our romantic personality can help us find the love of our lives or better navigate an existing relationship. In today’s episode, Dr. Alex Avila takes Chase and Sarah through exercises to determine their own personality types, and show how they match (or don’t!). Listen to today’s show to better understand yourself and your current or future partner. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The four personality types and how to determine which is yours and what it means Fun and practical questions to ask current or future partners to learn more about them What to do if you are an extrovert and your partner’s an introvert or vice-versa Understanding our true nature in order to have better relationships And much more! Dr. Alex Avila is a licensed clinical psychologist and holds various graduate degrees, including a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. He is also a respected educator, researcher, author and popular media personality. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/159 Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: Babbel is the new way to learn a foreign language. The comprehensive learning system combines effective communication methods with state-of-the-art technology. Go to Babbel.com or download the app and enter the promo code ido to try it for free! Songfinch: Songfinch brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. Visit Songfinch.com and enter the promo code IDO to get 10% off! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Conflict is an inevitable and necessary part of every relationship. It can eat away at the love or it can help your relationship flourish. Knowing the key tools for conflict resolution can help us all navigate arguments in a way that will be productive and positive. Listen to today’s show to learn valuable conflict resolution tips. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to get a partner who is not willing to work on your relationship to care and put in the work Understanding that relationships change and what used to work may no longer be the case The very important ‘rules for fighting’ to apply in your relationship Conflict resolution tips and understanding that some things don’t work for everyone And much more! Steve Ing is reframing an important conversation in society one about the intelligent management of human sexuality. He is a sought-after trainer, speaker and therapist, bringing nearly three decades of experience to his audiences and clients. His book, We’re All Like This (2015, Giant Publishing), is used as a text in Human Sexuality classes in university classrooms. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/158 Updated Link: Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you need to,earn more conflict resolution tools for your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: Babbel is the new way to learn a foreign language. The comprehensive learning system combines effective communication methods with state-of-the-art technology. Go to Babbel.com or download the app and enter the promo code ido to try it for free! Intelliwhite: Intelliwhite is the fastest, clinically shown, at-home teeth whitening system in the world. For 10% off Intelliwhite’s Cool Blue Whitening Kit visit shopintelliwhite.com and enter the promo code ido. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Research consistently found that it takes four positive comments to recover from one negative comment from a partner. That ratio means that criticism is a highly ineffective way of communicating in your relationship with your partner. In this episode, Dr. Julie Colwell teaches how to shift out of toxic relationship patterns such as reactive brain, blame and criticism and instead, show appreciation for our partner. Dr. Julie Colwell is a psychologist based in Boulder, CO. She has spent her career developing and refining methods for individuals, couples, families, groups, and organizations to shift out of energy-draining power struggles into reconnection, innovation and flow. Her methods are clear, research-based and powerful. Dr. Colwell also hosts workshops and classes and is the author of the bestseller, The Relationship Skills Workbook and The Relationship Ride. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/157 If you're looking to create more passion, improve communication, deepen your intimacy and connection and start having fun again with your partner, then we hope you check out our new online course, Spark My Relationship. Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Sign up for our FREE 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to build trust back into your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Haven Life Term life insurance is the easiest, most cost-effective way to cover your family for the years they’ll need it most. To get your free quote with Haven Life by visiting https://welcome.havenlife.com/ido P.volve P.volve’s streaming service offers a large library of videos, including structured workout plans and new videos updated weekly. Users can stream to sculpt, tone and define anytime, anywhere from any device! Interested in trying the P.Ball? To buy a P.Ball and receive 2 months of free streaming, visit Pvolve.com/ido and enter ido at checkout. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Exciting Announcement: Our new online course, Spark My Relationship, has launched! Learn more and enroll here: SparkMyRelationship.com Spark My Relationship is designed to infuse your life and relationship with fresh passion, skills and wisdom. This self-paced journey is perfect for turning up the heat, having some fun together and revolutionizing your intimacy and communication. We’ve collaborated with 15 psychologists and therapists to create a comprehensive relationship course that not only teaches you the skills needed to create a successful and lasting relationship, but the tools to execute it. In this episode, we interview Dr. Debra Campbell about four important ways to keep the spark alive in our realtionship. What Dr. Deb teaches us in this episode is just a glimpse of what is covered in the course. :-) In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of eliminating unhelpful old habits that can lead to friction and unhappiness Healthy and successful communication tools The biggest struggles couples have when reigniting their sex life, plus tips to spice things up The importance of mindfulness to improve stress management Why having shared dreams and desires can be so beneficial for celebrating our “couple culture” now and in the future. And much more! Dr Debra Campbell is a author, psychologist, university lecturer and couple therapists based in Melbourne Australia. Dr. Debra has consulted on everything from panic to depression, parenting, grief and relationships. Her book Lovelands has become an Amazon bestseller, combining self-help with the deeply personal memoir of a psychologist. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/156 Updated Link: Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to learn more ways to spark your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Intelliwhite: Intelliwhite is the fastest, clinically shown, at-home teeth whitening system in the world. For 10% off Intelliwhite’s Cool Blue Whitening Kit visit shopintelliwhite.com and enter the promo code ido. Haven Life Term life insurance is the easiest, most cost-effective way to cover your family for the years they’ll need it most. To get your free quote with Haven Life by visiting https://welcome.havenlife.com/ido If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trust is one of the hardest things to earn and easiest to lose in a relationship. If you’ve been lied to or if you have lied to your partner, this episode is for you. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why trust is so hard to get back in a relationship The three important stages for rebuilding trust How to create accountability in your relationship Forgiving your partner and moving forward in the relationship White lies and the negative effects they can have And much more! Paul holds two Masters degrees and has worked with hundreds of men, women, and couples for the last 14 years as a professional counselor. Paul and Shannon have enjoyed 25 years of marriage and have successfully raised 4 kids together. They’ve lived in Portland, Oregon most of their married life. They're the founders of SecureMarriage.com, an online library of marriage tools that will show you how to fight less, feel understood, and enjoy a deeper connection with your spouse. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/155 Interested in learning more about our new online course, Spark My Relationship? Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to build trust back into your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Intelliwhite: Intelliwhite is the fastest, clinically shown, at-home teeth whitening system in the world. For 10% off Intelliwhite’s Cool Blue Whitening Kit visit shopintelliwhite.com and enter the promo code ido. Grove Collaborative makes it easy to discover amazing natural home and personal care products. Grove selects only the best non-toxic products, so you can shop with confidence knowing that everything on their site is good for you, your family, and the planet. For your FREE Mrs. Meyer's Gift Set (Mrs. Meyer's Hand Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Dish Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Multi-Surface Spray, Free Grove Walnut Scrubber Sponges) visit grove.co/chasesarah. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Forgiveness is a key skill for all of the relationships in our lives. Our ability to forgive has a direct impact on our personal happiness and the success of a relationship. Listen to today’s episode to learn how to forgive and reconcile with others. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why forgiveness is an individual process The four key steps to forgiveness Letting go of a transgression that continues to nag at you The amazing health benefits of not holding a grudge How to apologize and why it’s a key component to a healthy relationship And much more! Dr. Ryan Howes is a clinical psychologist in Pasadena, California who writes for Psychology Today and Psychotherapy Networker Magazine. He is also the founder of National Psychotherapy Day. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/154 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to forgive your partner? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Songfinch: Songfinch brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. Visit Songfinch.com and enter the promo code IDO to get 10% off! Babbel: Babbel is the new way to learn a foreign language. The comprehensive learning system combines effective communication methods with state-of-the-art technology. Go to Babbel.com or download the app and enter the promo code ido to try it for free! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Addiction is a disease that can be incredibly difficult on a relationship. It’s hard to know when you are enabling or helping your partner. Navigating the world of addiction is a difficult prospect for even the strongest individuals. Listen to today’s show to learn how to deal with the addict in your life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The key distinction between supporting or enabling and addict Allowing the addict to experience the consequences of their addiction The importance of seeking professional support as the partner of an addict Avoiding manipulation from an addicted partner And much more! Sherry Gaba, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist, author and life coach who helps people cope with addictions, trauma and mental health issues. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/153 Hood River Couples Retreat: Join us in Hood River, Oregon for our Couple's Retreat July 28 - August 2, 2018. Strengthen your relationship in just 5 days while vacationing in the majestic Columbia River Gorge. Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you or a loved one struggling with addiction? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Grove Collaborative makes it easy to discover amazing natural home and personal care products. Grove selects only the best non-toxic products, so you can shop with confidence knowing that everything on their site is good for you, your family, and the planet. For your FREE Mrs. Meyer's Gift Set (Mrs. Meyer's Hand Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Dish Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Multi-Surface Spray, Free Grove Walnut Scrubber Sponges) visit grove.co/chasesarah. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

No relationship or marriage is perfect. You probably already knew this. However, you might not know which of the four phases of marriage you’re in, and what it means for you and your partner. Listen to today’s show to create a thriving marriage by understanding the importance of each phase you might go through! This show is worth listening to even if your single or dating! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The thriving, working, detached and conflictual stages of marriage How to determine which phase of marriage you’re in and how to change phases The importance of doing things together to create a ‘couple culture’ How to ‘act’ your way to being in love What to do if you feel like you’re always at war with your partner And much more! Dale is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a private practice in White House, TN. He specializes in marriage, parenting and men's issues. Dale is an author, online curriculum consultant, and a trained Prepare/Enrich provider for couples looking to get married or for those who want to strengthen their relationship. He believes you are never too far gone in your marriage if you're willing to make the journey back. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/152 Hood River Couples Retreat: Join us in Hood River, Oregon for our Couple's Retreat July 28 - August 2, 2018. Strengthen your relationship in just 5 days while vacationing in the majestic Columbia River Gorge. Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to take steps to improve your marriage? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Foreplay Radio Sex Therapy helps committed couples keep it hot! Their podcast features nationally-acclaimed sex therapist, author, and podcast host Laurie Watson and co-host, couples counselor, Dr. Adam Mathews. They talk about the vital topics of sexuality, marriage and committed partnership. Check them out! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you really know what you or your partner likes in the bedroom? Many of us have not asked key questions around sexuality in our relationships. Understanding you and your partners sexual personality type can help take your relationship and sex life to the next level. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Questions to ask in order to understand your sexual personality type How to avoid a ‘vanilla’ sexual relationship — Learn how to spice it up The details of monogamish relationships and how to know if they’re right for you How to make a non-monogamous relationship work The BDSM checklist and why you should go through it with your partner today How to communicate with your partner about sexuality And much more! Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb is an Alternative Sexuality Specialist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Clinical Sexologist with her PhD in clinical sexology. She is an author, teacher, public speaker and has been counseling and consulting with individuals and couples in the area of human sexuality for over 25 years. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/151 Hood River Couples Retreat: Join us in Hood River, Oregon for our Couple's Retreat July 28 - August 2, 2018. Strengthen your relationship in just 5 days while vacationing in the majestic Columbia River Gorge. Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to communicate more with your partner about sexuality? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Grove Collaborative makes it easy to discover amazing natural home and personal care products. Grove selects only the best non-toxic products, so you can shop with confidence knowing that everything on their site is good for you, your family, and the planet. For your FREE Mrs. Meyer's Gift Set (Mrs. Meyer's Hand Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Dish Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Multi-Surface Spray, Free Grove Walnut Scrubber Sponges) visit grove.co/chasesarah. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

No one wants to think about divorce or death. Deny it all we want, one happens 50% of the time and the other 100%! Understanding the legal financial side of relationships is an important part of creating a successful relationship or marriage. Listen to today’s episode to learn how to get your finances in order! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding a prenup and it’s legal details Avoiding the unromantic stigma of prenups and doing what is practical for a successful relationship How to communicate about prenups and other important financial hurdles. Creating a post-nup if you married without a prenup Using separate bank accounts in your relationship And much more! Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/150 Hood River Couples Retreat: Join us in Hood River, Oregon for our Couple's Retreat July 28 - August 2, 2018. Strengthen your relationship in just 5 days while vacationing in the majestic Columbia River Gorge. Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling to navigate finances in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors ModCloth: ModCloth is the fun, friendly online store that has styles as unique as you. ModCloth’s mission to empower women to be the best version of themselves and that’s why their signature line of apparel is offered in a full-size range, from XXS to 4X. To get 15% off your purchase of $100 or more, go to ModCloth.com and enter code IDO at checkout. Hurry this offer expires on August 4th, (2018)! Foreplay Radio Sex Therapy: FOREPLAY – Radio Sex Therapy helps committed couples keep it hot! Their podcast features nationally-acclaimed sex therapist, author, and podcast host Laurie Watson and co-host, couples counselor, Dr. Adam Mathews. They talk about the vital topics of sexuality, marriage and committed partnership. Check them out! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do so many good people end up in bad relationships? Today’s episode will help answer that and give you the tools to improve yourself to attract the right kind of partner, find love, or help determine if you're currently with the right partner. Whether you are single or in a relationship, this episode will give you great relationship advice with topics that include: How to use practical spirituality to maximize your current or future relationship Why our partner should be a catalyst for our own personal growth Avoiding a chemical dependency on your partner Why are there so many good people in bad relationships!? Questions to ask yourself when considering a potential partner And much more! Dr Ali Binazir is an author, speaker and clinical hypnotherapist and Happiness Engineer. He is the author of 4 books, including "The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible", the highest-rated dating book on Amazon for 4 years. He holds an honors degree from Harvard College, an M.D. from UC San Diego School of Medicine, and an M.Phil. from Cambridge University. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/149 Hood River Couples Retreat: Join us in Hood River, Oregon for our Couple's Retreat July 28 - August 2, 2018. Strengthen your relationship in just 5 days while vacationing in the majestic Columbia River Gorge. Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you keep finding yourself dating the wrong person? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Grove Collaborative makes it easy to discover amazing natural home and personal care products. Grove selects only the best non-toxic products, so you can shop with confidence knowing that everything on their site is good for you, your family, and the planet. For your FREE Mrs. Meyer's Gift Set (Mrs. Meyer's Hand Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Dish Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Multi-Surface Spray, Free Grove Walnut Scrubber Sponges) visit grove.co/chasesarah. FabFitFun – FabFitFun is a seasonal subscription box with full­ size beauty, fitness, fashion and lifestyle products. #fabfitfunpartner Use promo code IDO for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve all been in a situation where we’ve let our emotions get the better of us. We snap at our partner, stress ourselves out and react negatively to the smallest transgressions. Worry no more. Today’s episode will give you amazing actionable tips to help control your emotions, feel better and improve the relationship with yourself and your partner. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to take control of your mood and emotions Finding an emotional grounding to avoid being controlled by the events of your day How to respond rather than react Creating a buffer period to decompress and interact positively with your partner Body scan exercises to help control your emotions and create happier relationships. And much more! Kongit is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Sex Therapist in the state of California. She's the founder of the Inspired Journey Counseling Center in the heart of Downtown Los Angeles. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/148 Hood River Couples Retreat: Join us in Hood River, Oregon for our Couple's Retreat July 29 - August 4, 2018. Strengthen your relationship in just 5 days while vacation in the majestic Columbia River Gorge. Learn more details here: Hood River Couples Retreat Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you struggle to control your emotions? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors FabFitFun – FabFitFun is a seasonal subscription box with full­ size beauty, fitness, fashion and lifestyle products. #fabfitfunpartner Use promo code IDO for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cuddling on the couch is a favorite activity of many healthy relationships. Cuddling is very much in mainstream culture, and yet it can be complicated and filled with nuance. Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate the comfy, cozy and sometimes sexual world of cuddling. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understand the general differences between male and female desires from cuddling. Find out if cuddling should always lead to sex? Learn the science of cuddling and why it can feel so good and be such a positive element of a healthy relationship. How to cuddle in a way that is best for your partner. And much more! Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray is a sex researcher and relationship therapist. She is passionate about challenging norms and stereotypes about men and women's sex lives in order to promote stronger and more intimate relationships. She is a blogger for Psychology Today and Lifehack and is regularly sought after by media outlets, including Men's Health, Elle and Today's Parent for her expertise on sex, intimacy and romantic relationships. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/147 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you love to cuddle but your partner doesn't or vice versa? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Grove Collaborative makes it easy to discover amazing natural home and personal care products. Grove selects only the best non-toxic products, so you can shop with confidence knowing that everything on their site is good for you, your family, and the planet. For your FREE Mrs. Meyer's Gift Set (Mrs. Meyer's Hand Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Dish Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Multi-Surface Spray, Free Grove Walnut Scrubber Sponges) visit grove.co/chasesarah. FabFitFun – FabFitFun is a seasonal subscription box with full­ size beauty, fitness, fashion and lifestyle products. #fabfitfunpartner Use promo code IDO for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you caught your partner looking at porn? Maybe browsing pictures of scantily clad women or men on Instagram or Facebook? This doesn't need to be an issue in your relationship if you know how to talk and deal with it! Our culture largely creates a negative narrative around these issues that can hurt our relationships. Listen to today's episode to learn how to talk to your partner about porn, social media 'stalking' and your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why we aren't really facing what some call a 'porn health crisis'. Understand that it's not the porn, it's the lack of healthy conversations around porn. Is it OK that your partner is 'stalking' the opposite sex on social media? Communicating with your partner about their deepest fantasies and where they came from. The erotic differences between individuals and sexes. Why porn elicits a disgust response in some individuals. And much more! Dr. Joe Kort is the author of four books on gender and male sexuality. He specializes in couples therapy, sex therapy, mixed orientation relationships, and out of control sexual behaviors. He is starting an LGBTQ certification program in the spring. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/146 Hood River Couples Retreat: Join us in Hood River, Oregon for our Couple's Retreat July 29 - August 4, 2018. Strengthen your relationship in just 5 days while vacation in the majestic Columbia River Gorge. Learn more details here: Hood River Couples Retreat Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to talk to your partner about porn? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors FabFitFun - FabFitFun is a seasonal subscription box with full­ size beauty, fitness, fashion and lifestyle products. #fabfitfunpartner Use promo code IDO for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our lives our busier than ever. It's easy for one partner in the relationship to feel like they no longer are a priority to the other partner. Work, hobbies and technology are just a few things that can begin to take priority over a partner. Listen to today's episode to navigate the emotions of not feeling like a priority in your relationship, and learn how to proactively make your partner feel important. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of understanding that no one is a priority all of the time. Exercises to remind your partner that they are important. How to talk about feelings of unimportance and neglect. Navigating priorities in relationships with blended families and family dynamics. Communicating our feelings in a productive and positive way. And much more! Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 40 years’ experience in counseling individuals and couples. Dr. Tessina is the author of 15 books in 17 languages appears frequently on radio, TV, video and podcasts. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/145 Hood River Couples Retreat: Join us in Hood River, Oregon for our Couple's Retreat July 29 - August 4, 2018. Strengthen your relationship in just 5 days while vacation in the majestic Columbia River Gorge. Learn more details here: Hood River Couples Retreat Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you or your partner no longer feel like a priority in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Grove Collaborative makes it easy to discover amazing natural home and personal care products. Grove selects only the best non-toxic products, so you can shop with confidence knowing that everything on their site is good for you, your family, and the planet. For your FREE Mrs. Meyer's Gift Set (Mrs. Meyer's Hand Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Dish Soap, Mrs. Meyer's Multi-Surface Spray, Free Grove Walnut Scrubber Sponges) visit grove.co/chasesarah. Care/of is a monthly subscription vitamin service made from effective, quality ingredients personally tailored to your exact needs. For 25% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit takecareof.com and enter the promo code IDO. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Want to learn how practicing mindfulness can lead to better sex? Instead of thinking about the emails you need to respond to or the kid's lunches that need to be packed — think about the amazing orgasm you're about to have! Sex with your partner should be incredible, and mindfulness can help with just that. Listen and learn for a better sex life full of passion, connection and mindfulness. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to put your head and body in the same place to practice mindfulness. Practicing mindfulness in daily life so it's easier to do in the bedroom. Understanding the myths surrounding female pleasure to help improve your sex life. Century's-old vibrators and how women have been using them for years to improve their sex life. Communicating about sex in your relationship. How to avoid 'spectator sex' so that you can be more present for real amazing sex. And much more! Dr. Laurie Mintz is a professor at the University of Florida, where she teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality. She is also a licensed psychologist in private practice, and the author of two books, both aimed at empowering women sexually: A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex and Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How To Get It. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/144 Hood River Couples Retreat: Join us in Hood River, Oregon for our Couple's Retreat July 29 - August 4, 2018. Strengthen your relationship in just 5 days while vacation in the majestic Columbia River Gorge. Learn more details here: Hood River Couples Retreat Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Songfinch: Songfinch brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. Visit Songfinch.com and enter the promo code IDO to get 10% off! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family! There's a reason this cliche exists, but it doesn't have to be that way. Going over to the in-laws doesn't have to be the excruciating experience it is for so many. Listen to today's episode to learn how to navigate the minefield that is family! Whether it's getting along with the in-laws or your own family, this is the episode to help you end the family discomfort. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The culture shock we experience when interacting with a new family. Being supportive for your partner when visiting your own family. How to be proactive in cultivating or fixing your relationship with the in-laws or other family members. Managing expectations during family visits. Steps to offering an olive branch to end old family feuds. How to have honest communication about family. And much more! Robert Taibbi has served as adjunct professor at several universities. He provides trainings nationally and internationally in the areas of relationship issues, family therapy, brief therapy and clinical supervision. He has 44 years experience, is the author of 11 books, 300 articles, and is a contributor to PsychologyToday.com. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/143 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you have issues with your in-laws? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jealousy is a common feeling that many of us have or will experience. With the pervasive use of the internet flooding our brains with sexual images, past lovers and other temptations, jealousy is an important issue to address in relationships. Learn how to deal with your own or your partner's jealousy in today's episode. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the difference between emotional and sexual jealousy and how each sex may experience them differently. How to talk about jealousy with your partner. The importance of 'striking when the iron is cold' when communicating about sensitive relationship issues. Online emotional infidelity and how it can hurt your relationship. And much more! Dr. Suzanne Degges-White is a professor and chair of the Department of Counseling, Adult and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University in DeKalb. She is a licensed counselor and has experience working with couples and families dealing with concerns related to communication difficulties, developmental transitions, addiction, and abuse. Suzanne’s academic research explores transitions and development over the lifespan with a strong focus on intimate family relationships and friendships. Her Lifetime Connections blog on PsychologyToday.com explores relationships in families and friendscapes. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/142 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you or your partner have issues with jealousy? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors RXBAR Kids: RXBAR Kids is a clean label snack bar made with high - quality, real ingredients designed specifically for kids. With egg whites, fruit and nuts as the base, RXBAR Kids contain 7 grams of protein and have absolutely zero added sugar and no gluten, soy, dairy, or bad stuff. They are a delicious, clean and convenient snack kids love. For 25% off your first order, visit RXBAR.com/IDO and enter the promo code IDO at checkout. Audible: Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at audibletrial.com/idopodcast. Audible.com is the premier provider of digital audiobooks. Audible has over 180,000 titles to choose from in every genre: thrillers, business, romance, comedy, sci-fi and more. Audible titles play on iPhone, Kindle, Android and more than 500 devices for listening anytime, anywhere. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We've all felt the need to blame our partner for something going wrong in the relationship. Why do we retreat to negative emotional habits so easily? Dr. Steven Stosny explains how our toddler brain takes over and can cause us to react with blame, denial and avoidance during conflict. Listen to today's show to avoid falling into that trap, and learn how to better react to improve your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why we retreat to our 'toddler brain' of emotional reactivity and how to avoid this. How to create new positive emotional responses that will benefit your relationship. The importance of communicating at least 5 positives for every negative communication. How to prevent defensiveness from your partner and communicate in the most productive manner. Focusing on how you want to feel to help create the emotional changes you need. And much more! Steven Stosny, Ph.D., is the founder of CompassionPower. His current book is Empowered Love and he has published over five others. He has treated over 6,000 clients for various forms of anger, abuse, and violence. He has appeared on “The Oprah Winfrey Show,” “The Today Show,” “CBS Sunday Morning,” many CNN shows, and in the New York Times, Washington Post, U.S. News & World Report, WSJ, Esquire, Cosmopolitan, O, Psychology Today, USA Today. He has taught at the University of Maryland and at St. Mary’s College of Maryland. His blog on Psychologytoday.com. has nearly 12 million views. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/141 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you react with negative emotional responses that hurt your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Lola: LOLA is a monthly subscription that delivers a fully customizable box of ORGANIC cotton tampons, pads and liners right to your doorstep. For 40% off your first order, visit mylola.com and enter the promo code IDO when you subscribe! Audible: Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at audibletrial.com/idopodcast. Audible.com is the premier provider of digital audiobooks. Audible has over 180,000 titles to choose from in every genre: thrillers, business, romance, comedy, sci-fi and more. Audible titles play on iPhone, Kindle, Android and more than 500 devices for listening anytime, anywhere. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Intimacy is an area of our relationships that can often be overlooked, especially if you've been together for a long time. The spark does not have to fade! There are simple and easy steps to take to create more intimacy and have more satisfaction in our relationships. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why checking in with your partner on a daily basis is a profoundly simple way to greatly improve your relationship. How to create and maintain the new and novel feelings we have early in our relationships. Understanding and communicating our attachment styles to help create more intimacy in our relationship. How our attachment styles can be changed for the better. Learning the different intimacy needs of your partner and how to communicate your own needs. And much more! Tim Cole is an Associate Professor at DePaul University where he studies how differences in people’s need for intimacy can lead to a betrayal of trust. He’s also the author of Broken Trust: Overcoming an Intimate Betrayal. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/140 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you or your partner struggling with making lasting, positive changes in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Songfinch: Songfinch brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. Visit Songfinch.com and enter the promo code IDO to get 10% off! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There can be many areas in our lives and relationships that can cause frustration and disappointment. Your sex life shouldn't be one of them. Learning how to communicate your needs and desires, understanding your partner's sex drive and confronting sex life negativity are just a few ways to prevent some of the common troubles many couples run into. Listen to today's show to prevent these common sex life pitfalls from wreaking havoc on your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to talk about sex, your desires and fantasies with your partner. Avoid getting distracted during sex and become more present for a better experience. Navigate the desire discrepancies in your relationship. Do you or your partner want to have sex more often? There are ways to compromise around this! Understanding your partners sex drive and what 'gets their motor going'. Confronting any negativity surrounding your sex life. And much more! Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed sex therapist whose work focuses on helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it's become stressful, negative, disappointing or pressured. She teaches, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 9-phase experiential process that allows them real world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life. She is the host of the Better Sex podcast and will be releasing her first book later this year. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/139 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Does your sex life need some help? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors YogaGlo: YogaGlo is yoga and meditation website that you can use anywhere. You can practice in your own space, on your own time, for just eighteen dollars per month! That’s less than a single class at most yoga studios! They have thousands of classes, at all levels, taught by some of the best teachers in the world. Get your first two weeks of YogaGlo FREE when you sign up on YogaGlo.com/IDO. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Creating the change you want in your relationship starts with one person: YOU! Don't wait around for your partner to change (hint: you won't be able to change them on your own anyway). Listen to today's episode and use these actionable tips to get your relationship out of a rut or to take it from good to great! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to pay more attention to your partner with some simple exercises. How to express gratitude toward your partner to help your relationship flourish. Honoring the differences between you and your partner to keep everyone happy. Prioritizing your time together for maximum relationship happiness. How to express love in small ways. It's the little things that add up. And much more! Dr. Kathy McCoy is a psychotherapist and award-winning journalist and author of more than a dozen books including the recently published "We Don't Talk Anymore". She is a contributing writer for PsychologyToday.com and has been a frequent guest on national television including numerous appearances on The Today Show and two on Oprah. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/138 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you or your partner struggling with making lasting, positive changes in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors RXBAR Kids: RXBAR Kids is a clean label snack bar made with high - quality, real ingredients designed specifically for kids. With egg whites, fruit and nuts as the base, RXBAR Kids contain 7 grams of protein and have absolutely zero added sugar and no gluten, soy, dairy, or bad stuff. They are a delicious, clean and convenient snack kids love. For 25% off your first order, visit RXBAR.com/IDO and enter the promo code IDO at checkout. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feeling anxious? Anxiety can manifest itself in many ways that prove detrimental to our own personal health, as well as our relationships. That sense of uneasiness, worrying about the future and the general demands of life are all forms of anxiety. Don't let anxiety bog you down and negatively affect the relationship with yourself and your partner any longer! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How anxiety can manifest as reactivity to your partner and how to change this to responsiveness. Why some anxiety can be good and how to best channel this energy. Becoming aware of your anxiety and taking steps to manage it. How to slow things down rather than approaching everything with a sense of urgency. How anxiety lives in the body and the physiological responses we can create to cope with our anxiety. And much more! Dr. Denise Fournier is a mindfulness-based psychotherapist and coach in Miami, FL. Through her practice, Evergreen Therapy, she works with individuals and couples using an approach that blends modern research and Eastern philosophy. In addition to her work with clients, Denise is also an adjunct professor at Nova Southeastern University and a regular contributor to the Psychology Today. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/137 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you or your partner struggling with anxiety? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors YogaGlo: YogaGlo is yoga and meditation website that you can use anywhere. You can practice in your own space, on your own time, for just eighteen dollars per month! That’s less than a single class at most yoga studios! They have thousands of classes, at all levels, taught by some of the best teachers in the world. Get your first two weeks of YogaGlo FREE when you sign up on YogaGlo.com/IDO. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the benefits of being in a relationship is helping your partner become their best self. We can achieve this by empowering our partner through words of affirmation, validating their feelings and many other simple exercises. Listen to today's show to learn how to help your partner become the best version of themselves! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How creating a 'best self' nickname for your partner can give them a huge boost and benefit your relationship. Validating your partner to help them heal childhood wounds. The importance of assuming your partner wants to come through for you. Creating an affirmation of your deepest desires that you can live into. Acting as if you're having an affair with your partner. And much more! Dr. Diana Kirschner was a frequent guest on The Today Show and starred in a PBS TV Special on love. She is the best-selling author of Love in 90 Days and 30 Days to Love: The Ultimate Relationship Turnaround Guide. Dr. Diana has helped thousands all over the world to find passionate lasting love. Her free Dating Tips & Relationship Advice newsletter is available at lovein90days.com. Free Gift: Get Dr. Diana's free gift of a 40 minute Love Mentor Coaching session by visiting her website Love In 90 Days and enter referred by I DO on the form. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/136 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you or your partner struggling boosting each other up? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Lola: LOLA is a monthly subscription that delivers a fully customizable box of ORGANIC cotton tampons, pads and liners right to your doorstep. For 40% off your first order, visit mylola.com and enter the promo code IDO when you subscribe! Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have weird pet peeves that our partner's seem to always break the 'rules' on. Chewing too loud, not squeezing the toothpaste out of the tube correctly, leaving dirty clothes on the floor....the list goes on. These little things can create conflict in a relationship, especially over time. Listen to today's show to learn how to communicate with your partner, and not let small things annoy you. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to step back and ask ourselves why we're having little fights, and what's really going on underneath. Why every communication is a negotiation with our partner that we must understand. The importance of active listening and validation in communication with your partner. How to deescalate an argument so that it can be more productive for your relationship. Decompressing to help manage communication when you or your partner is stressed. And much more! David Ludden is a professor of psychology at Georgia Gwinnett College in Altanta. He is the author of the textbook "The Psychology of Language: An Integrated Approach." His also maintains the blog "Talking Apes" on the "Psychology Today" website. Much of his writing focuses on the role of communication in building and maintaining relationships. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/135 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you or your partner becoming irritated with each other because of annoying behaviors? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To sign up with Zola and receive a $50 credit towards your registry, go to ZOLA.com/ido. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Want to have better sex!? If you answered, YES!, then this episode is for you. It turns out that as relationships mature, the sex tends to become less frequent and less passionate. Don't despair. There are simple steps to help improve your sex life right here in this episode. Listen and learn! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why being aware of when you're aroused and what that feels like is the first step to better sex. Dumb and happy arousal and why it's important in your relationship. Why women are increasingly less satisfied in bed and what to do about it (hint: smartphones and porn). The importance of taking your time during sex and not simply having the goal of climaxing. Why you should 'simmer' and not only get aroused when you are going to have sex. Understanding that everyone is responsible for their own arousal. Learn what 'lazy sex' is and how it can help your relationship. And much more! Stephen Snyder, M.D. is a sex and couples therapist, psychiatrist, and writer in New York City. He is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai in New York City, and chairman of the Consumer Book Award Committee for the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). He has treated patients at his practice for 25 years, is a guest on major media outlets nationwide, and writes for Psychology Today and Huffington Post. He lives with his wife and children in New York City. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/134 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you and your partner struggling with having great sex in your long-lasting relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors YogaGlo: YogaGlo is yoga and meditation website that you can use anywhere. You can practice in your own space, on your own time, for just eighteen dollars per month! That’s less than a single class at most yoga studios! They have thousands of classes, at all levels, taught by some of the best teachers in the world. Get your first two weeks of YogaGlo FREE when you sign up on YogaGlo.com/IDO. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that well over half of the communication you have in your relationship is nonverbal? We all know that feeling when your partner 'needs to talk'. They may touch your shoulder, or their tone or facial expressions change. These are nonverbal communications that are most recognizable, but there are hundreds of nonverbal cues we give and receive in our relationship each day. The way in which we give positive or negative nonverbal communication is a key to creating a successful relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn more about the importance of nonverbal communication in your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how nodding, leaning and tilting with your head can create positive non-verbal cues for your partner. Understand the gender differences in how men and women give and receive non-verbal communication. Why the tone of your voice can be a critical component of successful non-verbal communication. How reading body language can affect your relationship. Why something as simple as placing your hand on your partners shoulder can help your relationship. And much more! Vanessa Van Edwards is a published best selling author and behavioral investigator. Vanessa is lead investigator at her human behavior research lab, the Science of People. She designs original research experiments to crack the code of human behavior. Her unique work has been featured on NPR, the Wall Street Journal, the Today Show and USA Today. She has written for CNN, Fast Company and Forbes. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/133 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you and your partner struggling understanding each other's nonverbal communication? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Barkbox: For humans, BarkBox is a delivery of 4 to 6 natural treats and super fun toys curated around a surprise theme each month. For dogs, BarkBox is like the joy of a million belly scratches. Whether it’s your partner, daughter or friend who wants a monthly surprise for their beloved pup, BarkBox is the perfect gift for your loved one! For a FREE month of BarkBox, visit BarkBox.com/IDO when you subscribe to the 6 or 12 month plan! Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We've all been in an argument where we are so sure we're right. We'll go to great lengths to stand our ground and prove that we are right and our partner is wrong. News flash, this is not helpful for our relationships. Learn the tools to defuse a situation where you or your partner thinks they are right and an argument begins. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Recognizing that when we argue we often go away from the content of the argument and go toward feelings. How to go beneath the content of an argument to discover the trigger for the conflict. Why arguments often begin with the relationship we have with ourselves and not our partner. How to wait and have a productive conversation when we're not in an escalated emotional state. Validating your partners feelings to have a productive conversation and create a stronger relationship. And much more! Ellen Gendelman is a psychotherapist and professional coach who specializes in working with relationships. She cherishes her own roles as wife, mother and grandmother. A veteran educator and motivational speaker, she has a passion for helping people grow and maximize their potential. Ellen is excited to have recently authored her second book ‘When Ice Cream Is Not Enough.’ Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/132 Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you and your partner struggling with always being right? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors RXBAR Kids: RXBAR Kids is a clean label snack bar made with high - quality, real ingredients designed specifically for kids. With egg whites, fruit and nuts as the base, RXBAR Kids contain 7 grams of protein and have absolutely zero added sugar and no gluten, soy, dairy, or bad stuff. They are a delicious, clean and convenient snack kids love. For 25% off your first order, visit RXBAR.com/IDO and enter the promo code IDO at checkout. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is talking about sex in our relationships so hard sometimes? Not satisfied in bed? Unhappy with the frequency of sex in your relationship? Do you want to simply spice up your sex life? Sex is a huge part of relationships, and it's often not talked about at all, or in a productive way. Listen to today's episode to learn how to talk about sex with your partner and ignite your sex life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to avoid a 'sexless' relationship (having sex less than 10 times per year - 1/3 of couples are actually 'sexless'). Get the tools to have a productive conversation about sex with your partner. The importance of giving your partner a warning that you want to have a sex talk. Understand why it's critical that the 'sex talk' is an ongoing conversation. Learn how to communicate the change in your sex life you want to see in a positive manner. Find out the steps to having the who, what, where, when, why conversation about sex in your relationship and learn how it can help tremendously. Laurie Watson is a certified sex therapist, author, speaker, and educator on sexuality, intimacy and relationships. Laurie also co-hosts a podcast with Dr. Adam Matthews where they talk easily and frankly about the challenges of monogamy, and how couples can have an exciting, meaningful sex life in marriage. Full show notes and episode links at http://idopodcast.com/131 Download this episode's freebie: Step By Step Guide to Having A Successful Sex Talk with Your Partner Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with infidelity in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Songfinch: Songfinch brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. Visit Songfinch.com and enter the promo code IDO to get 10% off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you struggling to achieve a healthy work-life balance in your relationship? Do you feel like your partner is focusing more on work and less on you and the relationship? It's easy for our relationships to take a back seat to a busy job or a new business venture. There are only so many hours in a day, and much of the time is spent working. Don't let work ruin your relationship. Listen to today's show to find out the key tools to balance your work life with your romantic life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to manage your time between work and your relationship. Creating weekly agreements to manage expectations and avoid conflicts. How to be present with your spouse and forget about work while at home. Setting boundaries on when to talk about work and when to 'keep it at the office'. The importance of checking in with your partner and letting them know you care about their work, while not letting it overshadow the relationship. Using shared calendars to help manage time, expectations and work-relationship balance. Dorcas Cheng-Tozun is an award-winning writer and author of Start, Love, Repeat: How to Stay in Love with Your Entrepreneur in a Crazy Start-up World. She is a columnist for Inc.com and has written for dozens of other publications. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her entrepreneur husband and their two young boys Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/130 Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with achieving a work-relationship balnce? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To sign up with Zola and receive a $50 credit towards your registry, go to ZOLA.com/ido. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Infidelity is unfortunately a huge part of the modern marriage. If we can understand why men and women cheat then we are halfway towards solving the problem. Once a partner has committed physical or emotional infidelity, it is important to learn how to heal the relationship. Listen to today's show to learn about healing from a cheating spouse or how to avoid it altogether! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to heal the broken trust from a cheating spouse. Why men tend to cheat more because of opportunity and women for a larger variety of reasons. How a man can earn back trust and heal the relationship. Why a man's desire to 'fix things' can be detrimental to healing after infidelity. And much more! Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S, is a digital-age intimacy and relationships expert specializing in infidelity and addictions—in particular sex, porn, and love addiction. He is the author of several highly regarded books, including “Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating,” and “Sex Addiction 101. Currently, he is Senior Vice President of National Clinical Development for Elements Behavioral Health, creating and overseeing addiction and mental health treatment programs for more than a dozen high-end treatment facilities. Full show notes and episode links at http://idopodcast.com/129 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with infidelity in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. Audible: Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at audibletrial.com/idopodcast. Audible.com is the premier provider of digital audiobooks. Audible has over 180,000 titles to choose from in every genre: thrillers, business, romance, comedy, sci-fi and more. Audible titles play on iPhone, Kindle, Android and more than 500 devices for listening anytime, anywhere. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices