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274: How To Repair Your Fractured Family Relationships Today
Over 25% of Americans are experiencing an estrangement with a loved one or family member. This can negatively impact your romantic relationship and overall well-being. After years of studying family estrangement and rigorous research, Dr. Karl Pillemer has been able to find the common reasons families become estranged, and how they successfully repair these fractures. Through interviews with over 100 families who have repaired an estranged relationship, Karl has unique insights and knowledge to help us repair fractured relationships, and live a happier, healthier life. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to deal with difficult and problematic in-law relationships Steps to take to repair a fractured relationship with a family member or loved one How to mend an estrangement and start having a better relationships with your family and friends Why fractured families can negatively affect your romantic relationship and how to prevent this Why coming to agreements and resolutions with estranged family members is not necessary to repair an estranged relationship And much more! Dr. Karl Pillemer is Professor of Human Development at Cornell University. A world-renowned family sociologist, he spent five years studying processes of estrangement and reconciliation in families. His just-published book, Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them, provides strategies and tips for healing family rifts. For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/274 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Get 10% off and free shipping when you use our code “IDo” at UberLube.com. Function of Beauty is the world’s first fully customizable hair care brand. Visit FunctionofBeauty.com/IDO to take your four part hair profile quiz and save 20% on your first order. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 273273: How Judgement Shapes Our Lives And Relationships
Judgement permeates our lives and we typically don't realize its large day-to-day impact. Listen to today's show to understand how judgement shapes our interactions with others, and how this understanding can improve our relationships. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How judgement shapes our lives and the interchanges we have with the people in our lives Judgements' role in our romantic relationships and the importance of fully understanding how we judge Why the closer we are to someone, the more we judge them How to communicate with your partner without negative judgements Why praise is a judgement that can sometimes be a negative remark for your partner How to praise your partner in the most productive ways And much more! Terri Apter is a psychologist and writer and Fellow Emerita at the University of Cambridge. Her work explores the secret worlds of family dynamics. She has authored many books including The Confident Child, which was awarded the Delta Kappa Gamma International Educator's Prize and Altered Loves, which was a New York Times Notable Book of the Year. Her most recent book, Passing Judgment: praise and blame in everyday life, highlights how daily exposure to praise and blame impacts on our relationships, from social media to marriage. For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/273 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Trivia Star: Trivia Star is offering you 2,500 coins and 500 gems when you download and play. Search Trivia Star in the Apple App Store or Google Store and download Trivia Star for FREE today! AndStillIVote.org: Join the fight for voting rights today! Paid for by The Leadership Conference Education Fund. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 272272: Understanding Our Sexual Needs For A Better Relationship
We all have ideal sexual ideas for what we'd like to see in our relationship. Often these ideals are not met, or understood, resulting in relationship issues. Listen to today's show to learn how to identify your sexual needs, communicate them with your partner and improve your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What to do when you're sexually dissatisfied in your relationship Why sexuality can disproportionately affect relationship satisfaction Understanding your sexual ideals and communicating them with your partner Learning about yourself as a sexual being in order to improve the sex in your relationship Why society sometimes minimizes our sexual needs And much more! Dr. David Ley is a psychologist and sex therapist who has appeared in the New York Times, The Daily Show, Playboy Magazine, as well as publishing numerous books and research articles on sexual issues. For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/272 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Help Support The Show! Donate Here. Sponsors Trivia Star: Trivia Star is offering you 2,500 coins and 500 gems when you download and play. Search Trivia Star in the Apple App Store or Google Store and download Trivia Star for FREE today! AndStillIVote.org: Join the fight for voting rights today! Paid for by The Leadership Conference Education Fund. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 271271: The 5 Core Conversations For Couples
When your husband is a divorce lawyer, and you're a family therapist, you learn a lot about relationship dynamics. Julie and David Bulitt share the knowledge they've learned through their personal and professional lives in order to help us create better relationships. Listen to today's show to learn the five core conversations couples can discuss in order to improve their relationship today! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of remembering why you connected with your partner in the first place How to handle conflicts around money and downsizing during tough financial times What Julie and David have learned about themselves as a couple parenting 4 daughters How we can take comfort in the struggles of other couples Why sex is one of the primary complaints they hear from couples in their professional lives The importance of making time for ourselves in a relationship And much more! A licensed clinical social worker, Julie Bulitt has spent more than 25 years working with individuals, couples and families. Her private practice focuses on family, couples and individual therapy, she also serves as in house therapist at The Discovery Channel in Silver Spring Maryland. David Bulitt is a partner in the Washington DC Metro law firm of Joseph, Greenwald & Laake, PA. For more than a decade, he has been chosen as one of the Washington area’s top divorce lawyers by multiple publications. He has particular interest in families with special needs children as a result of personal experiences in his own family. David and Julie have been married for 34 years. They have four daughters, two of whom are biological and two adopted, and three grandchildren. For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/271 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Function of Beauty is the world’s first fully customizable hair care brand. Visit FunctionofBeauty.com/IDO to take your four part hair profile quiz and save 20% on your first order. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 270270: Surrounded By Others And Yet So Alone
How is it that we can have a partner, friends and family, and yet still feel alone? Loneliness is a real issue for many people whether or not they have others in their lives. Listen to today's show to learn how to deal with loneliness personally, or to help your partner with the issue. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How we can feel lonely even if we have other people in our lives Combating loneliness based on your personality type The differences between loneliness and chronic loneliness Dealing with relationships that are unfulfilling The importance of connection in our lives and how to cultivate better connections And much more! J.W. Freiberg holds a PhD from UCLA and a JD from Harvard Law School. He is the author of the prize-winning book Four Seasons of Loneliness: A Lawyer’s Case Stories and its recently published sequel, Surrounded by Others and Yet So Alone. After a decade as Assistant Professor at Boston University, and his subsequent service as President of the Harvard Legal Aid Bureau, Freiberg held positions at several of Boston’s leading law firms, including serving for a decade as Chairman of Weston Patrick, Willard and Redding. For thirty years Freiberg’s law practice drew on his double training, enabling him to serve as Boston’s go-to attorney when interlinkage was needed between the law and psychiatric medicine, family law, victim services, and adoption / surrogacy practices. For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/270 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Get 10% off and free shipping when you use our code “IDo” at UberLube.com. Care/Of: Get 50% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit takecareof.com and enter the promo code IDO50. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 269269: Combining Eastern And Western Medicine To Improve Your Relationship
Developing the best possible approach to improving your relationship and health is not always simple. Dr. Narveen Dosanjh uses a holistic approach combining both eastern and western philosophy to provide the best possible solutions to her patients. Listen to today's show to better understand the various approaches you can take to improving your well being. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the biggest differences between eastern and western medicine How to approach improving your relationship holistically Working with a therapist who takes an intuitive healing approach How and why you should integrate a spirituality practice into your relationship And much more! Dr. Narveen Dosanjh, a highly regarded holistic psychiatrist in Manhattan, NYC treats a wide variety of psychiatric conditions including various forms of depression and anxiety, bipolar, insomnia, ADHD, lifestyle and personal development issues aiming to improve patients overall health. For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/269 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Trivia Star: Trivia Star is offering you 2,500 coins and 500 gems when you download and play. Search Trivia Star in the Apple App Store or Google Store and download Trivia Star for FREE today! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 268268: Understanding And Sharing Our Truth
Relationships take work in the best of times, and COVID-19 has put an incredible amount of stress on relationships around the world. Listen to today's show to learn how to better understand our feelings, and how we're individually being affected by the pandemic. With this understanding, Linda shares tools to communicate our truths with our partner. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to identify exactly what we're feeling and the tools to share it with our partner How to use journaling as a tool for introspection and growth The best way to invite our partner for a discussion Leading questions to engage your partner in check ins and why this can be extremely valuable And much more! Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W., is a psychotherapist and marriage counselors who teaches communication seminars and relationship workshops. She is the co-author of four books including 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married and Simple Lessons to Make Love Last. Linda and her husband, Charlie, offer educational and counseling services to individuals, couples, and organizations. They are regular teachers at Esalen institute and Kriaplu, and have 600 blogs on Psychology Today. They live and practice in Santa Cruz, California. For more information on our guest, and for the episode links visit: https://idopodcast.com/268 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Trivia Star: Trivia Star is offering you 2,500 coins and 500 gems when you download and play. Search Trivia Star in the Apple App Store or Google Store and download Trivia Star for FREE today! BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 267267: Think Critically...Because You Don't Know Everything!
Critical thinking is an important skill to develop both individually and with your partner. With our current social and political stage, learning to think critically is more important than ever before. Learn tools to think critically and to talk to your partner about developing the skill together. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The practice of thinking critically and how it can be developed Cultivating the idea that you don't know everything and can be wrong Talking to your partner about cultivating critical thinking in your relationship How to avoid reactivity and stay cool, calm and collected And much more! Dr. Christopher Dwyer is a post-doctoral researcher in the School of Health Sciences and Lecturer in the Center for Adult Learning and Professional Development at the National University of Ireland Galway. He is also the author of Critical Thinking: Conceptual Perspectives & Practical Guidelines, published by Cambridge University Press. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/267 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. EveryPlate: America's best value meal kit delivering filling, familiar, pre-measured ingredients with simple recipes. Get 3 weeks meals for only $2.99 per meal by going to EveryPlate.com and entering code ido3. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 266266: Setting Relationship Goals and Making Intimacy a Priority
Relationship goals are not only a hashtag used on your friend Becky's page every other day with her "amazing" boyfriend. Relationship goals are something that can be an important tool to help really improve your life. Listen to today's show to learn how to make intimacy a priority in your relationship and set those very important relationship goals. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to get from knowing what you want to do in a relationship to actually doing it Sharing your relationship goals with your partner Why you should sometimes have sex before doing the dishes Actionable tips to create more intimacy in your relationship Understanding and communicating about your sexuality And much more Dr. Lyndsey Harper is an ob/gyn and the Founder and CEO of Rosy. She created Rosy out of frustration when she couldn’t find modern and accessible resources to help her many patients with common sexual health concerns and issues. Launched on Valentine's Day in 2019, Rosy is a platform dedicated to empowering women on their journey to sexual wellness. Dr. Harper has started important conversations about sexual health, partnering with over 2,700 doctors and therapists on Rosy, and launching the first telehealth platform specifically for women’s sexual health. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/266 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Get 10% off and free shipping when you use our code “IDo” at UberLube.com. BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 265265: Addressing Our Shame
Shame can be an emotion that takes a toll on us personally and in a relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how to address our shame or the shame our partner has toward themselves. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understand the important distinction between guilt and shame How shame is formed and negatively affects our view of self Accepting our vulnerabilities to release shame and improve our lives Helping our partner navigate shame Communicating with our partner about shame And much more! Dr. Margaret Rutherford has been a psychologist in private practice for over twenty-five years and is the author of Perfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free from the Perfectionism That Masks Your Depression which was published in November 2019. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/265 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Trivia Star: Trivia Star is offering you 2,500 coins and 500 gems when you download and play. Search Trivia Star in the Apple App Store or Google Store and download Trivia Star for FREE today! BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 264264: Relationship Magic, Awareness And Self Discovery
Relationships can be a beautiful vehicle to discover who we are and the possibilities of our lives. Our guest, Guy Finley, has a wealth of knowledge from his own 40-year marriage and shares amazing relationship insights and advice. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How we can discover who we are through our relationship How Guy and his wife have never raised their voices at each other in their 40 year marriage The importance of recognizing the pain within ourselves before lashing out at our partner Communicating with our partner and how to handle constructive criticism Renewing your relationship through the years The importance of learning from our partner And much more! Guy Finley is the bestselling author of more than 45 books and audio albums on self-realization, including "The Secret of Letting Go," "The Essential Laws of Fearless Living," and his newest book "Relationship Magic: Waking Up Together." He is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit Center for Spiritual Discovery located in southern Oregon. Guy is a faculty member at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York and at 1440 Multiversity. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Super Lucky: Trivia Star is offering you 2,500 coins and 500 gems when you download and play. Search Trivia Star in the Apple App Store or Google Store and download Trivia Star for FREE today! Care/Of: Get 50% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit takecareof.com and enter the promo code IDO50. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 263263: Using Attachment Theory to Understand Ourselves and Our Partner
Become A Love Tribe Member Today — When you become a Love Tribe Member, you'll gain access to exclusive, ad-free content not available on our regular, free feed. The membership provides you even more amazing and actionable relationship advice from the world's leading experts. Sign Up Here! How we relate with our partner can be largely influenced by how we were attached to our parents as children. Listen to today's episode to better understand attachment theory, and how it can improve your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How attachment theory can help us understand our deepest feelings, needs, triggers and fears What the different attachment styles mean for you and your partner Healing how we attach with our partner How our wounds can cause us to not see each other and the reality of a situation Breaking negative cycles and exploring the underlying issues And much more! Jennifer Lehr is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the founder of WeConcile, an online program for committed couples seeking help, as well as an educator on the process of living, self-acceptance and stepping into your magic life. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/263 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 262262: Parent Like A Pro and Keep Your Relationship Strong
Become A Love Tribe Member Today — When you become a Love Tribe Member, you'll gain access to exclusive, ad-free content not available on our regular, free feed. The membership provides you even more amazing and actionable relationship advice from the world's leading experts. Sign Up Here! Parenting can create a lot of relationship stress even in the best of times. During a global pandemic, parenting can take on a whole other level of stress! Listen to today's episode to learn how to maintain your relationship, and parent like a pro during challenging times. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to communicate with your partner about parenting The important practice of family check-ins Managing screen time for your kids How to talk with your kids about the pandemic Helping your kids talk about their feelings Why we don't always have to fix everything for our kids or partner And much more! Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/262 Dr. Rebecca Hershberg is a clinical psychologist and the founder of Little House Calls, which specializes in helping kids and parents confronting a range of common early childhood challenges. She has held leadership positions at a national nonprofit organization serving children and a hospital-based infant and toddler preventive mental health program, as well as taught in the Department of Pediatrics at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine. Her first book, The Tantrum Survival Guide: Tune In to Your Toddler’s Mind (and Your Own) to Calm the Craziness and Make Family Fun Again was published in October, 2018. Dr. Hershberg currently lives in lower Westchester with her husband and two young sons. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Hily: Find best dates, make friends and start relationships. Hily makes it easy to find friends wherever you are. With more than 17 million users worldwide, Hily is the fastest growing dating app. Hily makes it easy to meet new people, find dates and form meaningful connections. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 261261: Tools For Spiritual Growth
Become A Love Tribe Member Today — When you become a Love Tribe Member, you'll gain access to exclusive, ad-free content not available on our regular, free feed. The membership provides you even more amazing and actionable relationship advice from the world's leading experts. Sign Up Here! Spirituality can be a valuable practice both individually, and in your relationship. Listen to today's show to understand how to cultivate a spiritual practice, and share it with your partner. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to use your relationship as a path to spiritual growth How to start a spiritual path The importance of not focusing on what's wrong in your relationship Sacred sexuality and how to practice it in your relationship Presence as a spiritual and sexual practice And much more! Catherine Auman, LMFT is a spiritual psychotherapist and the Director of The Transpersonal Counseling Center in Los Angeles, California. She has advanced training in traditional psychology, as well as the wisdom traditions. Catherine lived for a year at the Osho ashram in India, a full-time immersion in tantra and meditation, and studied and practiced tantra, love, sex, intimacy, and seduction with numerous teachers. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/261 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 260260: Taking Responsibility For Ourselves
Become A Love Tribe Member Today — When you become a Love Tribe Member, you'll gain access to exclusive, ad-free content not available on our regular, free feed. The membership provides you even more amazing and actionable relationship advice from the world's leading experts. Sign Up Here! It's easy to blame our partner or other external factors when dealing with relationship issues. However, we can only control ourselves and often need to look inward to address relationship issues. Listen to today's show to learn great relationship tips and how to take responsibility for ourselves. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to take responsibility for ourselves and not rely on our partners so much Balancing how much we communicate our issues with partners How to communicate with your partner who often puts their problems on to you How to respond instead of react when communicating in your relationship ++ BONUS++ round of questions for Love Tribe Members Dr. Kathleen Smith is a licensed therapist and author of the book Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/260 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Get 10% off and free shipping when you use our code “IDo” at UberLube.com. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 259259: Navigating Passive Aggressiveness In Relationships
Become A Love Tribe Member Today — When you become a Love Tribe Member, you'll gain access to exclusive, ad-free content not available on our regular, free feed. The membership provides you even more amazing and actionable relationship advice from the world's leading experts. Sign Up Here! Passive aggressiveness is a destructive behavior with negative relationship impacts. Those who use this behavior are often not even aware of it. Listen to today's show to learn how to deal with passive aggressive behavior in your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How and why individuals use passive aggressive behavior How to communicate and deal with a partner who is passive aggressive The importance of setting limits and boundaries with passive aggressive behavior How to change passive aggressive behaviors ++ BONUS++ round of questions for Love Tribe Members Dr. Marni Feuerman is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in South Florida. She is a nationally recognized relationship and marriage expert with specialized training in couples’ therapy. Dr. Marni is a frequently quoted expert in the media and content contributor. She has written for HuffPo, VeryWell.com, Dr. Oz’s ShareCare and The Gottman Institute among others. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/259 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Thrive Market: Join today and you’ll get up to twenty dollars in shopping credit toward your first order. Visit ThriveMarket.com/IDO BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 258258: Understanding Our Emotions For Better Relationships
Become A Love Tribe Member Today — When you become a Love Tribe Member, you'll gain access to exclusive, ad-free content not available on our regular, free feed. The membership provides you even more amazing and actionable relationship advice from the world's leading experts. Sign Up Here! Understanding our emotions is a fundamental requirement for personal and relationship growth. Listen to today's episode to learn how to better understand your emotions, share with your partner and connect more deeply. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding how emotions work in the mind and body How to work safely with our emotions and accept ourselves The importance of learning how to tune into our body's sensations How to deal with emotions like jealousy and process these emotions How to communicate your emotions with your partner in the most productive ways ++ BONUS++ round of questions for Love Tribe Members Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW, is author of the critically acclaimed and two-time award-winning book, It’s Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self (Random House, Feb. 2018). She is a certified psychoanalyst and AEDP psychotherapist and supervisor. She has published articles in The New York Times, TIME, Oprah, Salon, and professional journals. Hendel also consulted on the psychological development of characters on AMC’s Mad Men. Hilary’s blog on emotions and how to use them for well being is read worldwide. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/258 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Get 10% off and free shipping when you use our code “IDo” at UberLube.com. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 257257: Why Rocking The Relationship Boat Is Good
Become A Love Tribe Member Today — When you become a Love Tribe Member, you'll gain access to exclusive, ad-free content not available on our regular, free feed. The membership provides you even more amazing and actionable relationship advice from the world's leading experts. Sign Up Here! Many people in relationships think they should 'not rock the boat' to keep things steady and to avoid conflict. However, this conservative approach to relationships can actually backfire. Listen to today's episode to understand why rocking the relationship boat can sometimes be good and necessary for a happy and healthy relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why it's important to not sweep issues under the rug instead of dealing with them How we use distance and other negative behaviors to cope with relationships issues Working to find the underlying issues in your relationship How to create more intimacy in your relationship by communicating and rocking the boat Why the average time of divorce is 7.5 years into a marriage ++ BONUS++ round of questions for Love Tribe Members Robert Taibbi is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with 45 years experience, primarily in community mental health working with couples and families as a clinician, supervisor and clinical director. His work is grounded in cognitive-behavioral therapy and systems theory with a heavy emphasis on changing dysfunctional patterns and behaviors in everyday life. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/257 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Thrive Market: Join today and you’ll get up to twenty dollars in shopping credit toward your first order. Visit ThriveMarket.com/IDO If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 256256: The New Monogamy
Most of us have an understanding of what traditional monogamy in relationships and marriage means. What if we worked toward a new monogamy where the rules were negotiated and not simply followed by outdated societal standards? Listen to today's show to learn what the new monogamy is all about. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What are your assumptions about how a relationship will go? The specialness of a relationship and what it means Negotiating a new monogamy with your partner Collaboratively negotiating with your partner around the relationship and fidelity Understanding your own insecurities And much more! Dr. Catherine Aponte, author of “A Marriage of Equals: How to Achieve Balance in a Committed Relationship”, is a clinical psychologist who maintained a practice of clinical psychology for 30 years, emphasizing couples therapy. She also was Associate Adjunct Professor of Clinical Psychology at Spalding University where she taught graduate psychology courses and supervised clinical students. She earned her MS and Psy.D. at Duke University and Spalding University respectively. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/256 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 255255: Common Sexual Challenges And How To Overcome Them
Having sex is not as straight forward as it may seem, especially in long term relationships. Our personal sexual history, combined with another individual's personal sexual history, can make things quite complicated! Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate the sexual challenges that can arise in a relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to deal with desire discrepancy and communicate in the most productive ways possible Understanding the deeper reasons that you want sex in the first place Becoming embodied in order to have better, more enjoyable sex Experimenting with power dynamics in the bedroom How to deal with bad sex And much more! Dr. Marianne Brandon is a clinical psychologist, author, and certified sex therapist with over 20 years experience helping adults create more satisfying intimate relationships. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/255 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Get 10% off and free shipping when you use our code “IDo” at UberLube.com. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 254254: Money And Relationships
Finances can be a huge area of stress in your relationship. Now more than ever, it's important to understand your individual relationship with money, and how it can impact your relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how to deal with money, so it doesn't negatively affect your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to understand your personal relationship with money and communicate this with your partner Tools to have productive conversation about finances with your partner How to deal with the uncertainty and stress of COVID-19 on your finances and job Real tips to deal with job and/or income loss during these times And much more! Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/254 Adam H. Kol, J.D. is a Couples Financial Counselor. He helps couples make sure that the money conversation doesn't get in the way, leaving them with more peace, love, and cash! Adam draws on over a decade of experience as a Certified Mediator, Communication Coach, and a former Tax Attorney and Financial Advisor. Adam received his law degree from Duke and a Master's in Tax Law from NYU. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 253253: How To Have Better Sex Now!
Sex is an important part of any healthy relationship. Listen to this episode for some great new tips on how to improve your sex life, especially during these challenging times. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to improve your sex life if you're feeling anxious about the state of the world The importance of distinguishing between facts and the stories we tell ourselves about the facts Erotic triggers and how to use them to improve your sex life How to communicate properly around issues of sexuality in your relationship Using your imagination to play in the bedroom and create more eroticism And much more! Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/253 Sari Cooper LCSW-R is Founder & Director of The Center for Love and Sex in NYC, a private therapy and coaching group practice specializing in sexual issues for individuals and couples. Sari is a licensed individual, couples and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor who trains other therapists through online CE webinars and live workshops. She also runs Sex Esteem® groups for parents, women and men who are committed to developing more confidence and communication skills when it comes to dating, conscious coupling and parenting. She has been in private practice for over 25 years. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! New Podcast Series: Love Under Quarantine Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Get 10% off and free shipping when you use our code “IDo” at UberLube.com. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 252252: Everything You Need To Know About Couples Therapy
In this episode, we talk about the different skills you need to know to improve your relationship. And one of the best ways, no matter what state it's in, is through couples therapy. Listen to today's show to learn what goes on during couples therapy and why you should start going! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the importance of going to therapy before things are 'bad' How to work up the courage to start going to therapy or tell your partner that you want to start going What to do if your partner won't go to therapy Common misconceptions about couples therapy The main goal of couples counseling And much more! Fiachra “Figs” O’Sullivan, is the Founder and Chief Empathy at Empathi, which provides step-by-step guidance for couples and individuals who care about their relationships. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, who is certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and individuals, and a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/252 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. MANSCAPED: Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code IDO at Manscaped.com. It’s spring cleaning baby and your balls will thank you! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 251251: Strengthening Intimacy And Connection In Your Relationship
We all want to feel more connection and intimacy in our relationships. However, it's not always easy to understand how to make this happen. Listen to today's show for actionable tips to increase the connection and intimacy with your partner. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: What should intimacy look like in a relationship? What to do if your partner has difficulty opening up to you to create more intimacy Why we have different ideas of what intimacy is to us personally and the importance of understanding this Actionable tools to create more intimacy and connection How to discuss your desire for more intimacy with your partner And much more! Dr. Marisa T. Cohen is a relationship coach, relationship researcher, and teaches college-level psychology courses. She is the author of From First Kiss to Forever: A Scientific Approach to Love, a book that relates relationship science research to everyday experiences and real relationship issues confronted by couples. She is also the author of Finding Love: The Scientific Take, a Psychology Today blog and Love Lessons, a Long Island Weekly newspaper column. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/251 Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Get 10% off and free shipping when you use our code “IDo” at UberLube.com. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 250250: Dealing With Uncertainty
Life is uncertain. Now, more than ever, we're collectively feeling the uncertainty brought on by the COVID-19 pandemic. Listen to today's how to get great tips for dealing with uncertainty both individually and in your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of understanding that things are always uncertain How to cultivate an acceptance of the uncertainty Understanding how we process stress and uncertainty, and why you should share this with your partner Why behind every criticism of your partner there is an unmet personal need And much more! Dana McNeil is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist and is the founder of a group practice called The Relationship Place located in San Diego, California. Dana’s practice specializes in couples’ therapy and utilizes an evidence-based type of couples’ therapy which is known as the Gottman Method. Dana’s practice works with all types of relationship issues from pre-marital counseling, dealing with the aftermath of extra marital affairs, partners working through addiction recovery, military deployed families, parents of special needs children, LGBTQ, and polyamorous clients. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/250 NEW! Access Love Under Quarantine here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Objective Wellness: Objective Wellness offers targeted solutions for you to stay healthy and strong. Visit ObjectiveWellness.com and use the code IDO to get 20% off your first order! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 249249: All About Sex Therapy
Most of us have a rough idea what traditional couples therapy looks like. However, sex therapy for couples seems to be less well known. Listen to today's show to learn more about sex therapy and how it can help your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understand the key differences between sex therapy and regular couples therapy The most common reasons couples go to sex therapy Why all sex is group sex Redefining sex in your relationship Expanding your sexual menu Men and women's different approaches to sex in the relationship And much more! Wendi L. Dumbroff is a Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice in Madison, NJ, where she specializes in individual, family, couples and sex therapy. She is a highly trained couple and sex therapist who provides a safe, non-judgmental and sex-positive environment. Dumbroff has extensive experience counseling individuals, families, and couples, around many different matters including; infidelity, lack of communication, depression, anxiety and all aspects of sexual issues. Highly intuitive, she honors the perspectives of each person in the room. She deeply believes therapy is a very courageous choice and a key to understanding un-useful patterns, which repeat in relationships. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/249 NEW! Access Love Under Quarantine here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Get 10% off and free shipping when you use our code “IDo” at UberLube.com. Zola: Zola makes wedding planning so much easier and less stressful with their wedding websites, registry, invites, and a guest list manager all in one place. Sign up at Zola.com/IDO today to get your FREE personalized paper sample. Then use code SAVE50 to get 50% off your save the dates. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 248248: Co-Parenting and Sexuality
The new normal family dynamic is evolving and co-parenting plays a big role in many of these new situations. In today's episode, Dr. Lis tells us how to co-parent better and how to reduce the shame around sexuality for ourselves in our kids. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to co-parent more effectively Dating new people when you have kids How to talk about sexuality with your kids starting at a young age Cognitive re-framing exercises when thinking about your own sexual story And much more! Dr. Lea Lis, M.D. “The Shameless Psychiatrist," is on a mission to help children and parents live without shame about their sexuality. Dr. Lis is a double board-certified adult and child psychiatrist who has worked with non-traditional family arrangements throughout her career and considers these families “the new normal.” Widespread social changes, along with a sex-saturated media and ongoing debates about the meaning of gender and sexuality, generate new challenges for parents of all kinds. Dr. Lis helps parents, children, and adolescents face these challenges and develop healthy, sex-positive attitudes and practices. During her training and residency at St. Vincent’s Hospital in New York and New York University, as well as in her private psychiatric practice, Dr. Lis has developed expertise in working with modern families of all types. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/248 NEW! Access Love Under Quarantine here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Objective Wellness: Objective Wellness offers targeted solutions for you to stay healthy and strong. Visit ObjectiveWellness.com and use the code IDO to get 20% off your first order! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 247247: The Seasons Of Your Relationship
Our relationships go through natural rhythms and cycles just as the rest of nature does. If you can understand that your relationship will go through different seasons, you can better navigate the changes. Listen to this episode to learn about the different seasons of your relationship and life. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Becoming aware of the patterns in nature and working with them in your relationship Understanding that whatever is happening in your life will change How we can personally change with the seasons of the year and throughout our lives Why we shouldn't change too many things at once in our relationship And much more! John G. Cottone, Ph.D., is a psychologist in private practice; a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the Renaissance School of Medicine at Stony Brook University; and a researcher with peer-reviewed publications in psychology, psychiatry and neuroscience. He is also the author of a personal growth book entitled "Who Are You? Essential Questions for Hitchhikers on the Road of Truth." Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/247 NEW! Access Love Under Quarantine here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Policy Genius is America's leading online insurance marketplace. Compare and buy in just a few minutes. We all get things wrong from time to time. At least we can get life insurance right with Policy Genius. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 246246: How To Create Meaning, Purpose And Happiness In Your Relationship
Access our new Love Under Quarantine series here: Love Under Quarantine This show's title sounds like a big project, huh? Well, we believe it's definitely one worth pursuing! Listen to today's show to get the tools and information to start creating more meaning, purpose and happiness in your relationship today! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to create meaning and reach goals in your relationship Importance of not looking to your partner to make you happy Building something bigger in your relationship The two phases of our realities and the key to understanding each How to keep things fresh in a long term relationship And much more! For more than 13 years, Peter Lynn and Tod Jacobs have been helping their students develop a mature and idealistic vision of marriage as the primary vehicle to create wholeness, meaning, purpose and happiness in their lives, and on working to perfect the character issues that lie at the core of a successful spouse -- giving, empathy, focus, staying power and a strong desire to help build the other. Their work combines practical and mystical Jewish wisdom with modern theory and techniques, and with experience accrued through years of real-world implementation and practice. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/246 NEW! Access Love Under Quarantine here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Dipsea is an audio app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions that are designed to turn you on and help you get in touch with yourself. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 245245: Managing Stress & Anxiety During COVID-19
Access our new Love Under Quarantine series here: Love Under Quarantine You're not alone if the current crisis is causing you to feel stressed and anxious. Anxiety can manifest itself in many ways that prove detrimental to our own personal health, as well as our relationships. The sense of uncertainty, worrying about the future and the general demands of life are all forms of anxiety. Don’t let anxiety bog you down and negatively affect the relationship with yourself and your partner. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How anxiety can manifest as reactivity to your partner and how to change this to responsiveness Why some anxiety can be good and how to best channel this energy Becoming aware of your anxiety and taking steps to manage it How to slow things down rather than approaching everything with a sense of urgency How anxiety lives in the body and the physiological responses we can create to cope with our anxiety And much more! Dr. Denise Fournier is a mindfulness-based psychotherapist and coach in Miami, FL. Through her practice, Evergreen Therapy, she works with individuals and couples using an approach that blends modern research and Eastern philosophy. In addition to her work with clients, Denise is also an adjunct professor at Nova Southeastern University and a regular contributor to the Psychology Today. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/245 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO20 during checkout! Feals is premium CBD delivered straight to your door. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/ido and get 50% off your first order. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 244244: Love Is Not Enough
Mark Manson is a NYT bestselling author who has written books about hope, living a good life and now an audible original about love and relationships. Listen to today's show to hear Mark's perspective on relationships through his own personal experiences and through putting together an audiobook about them. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of recognizing the false 'Disney narrative' about love and relationships Learning to be skeptical of yourself as a tool for living a good life How to decide who you should date Why Mark believes love is not scarce What Mark has learned from his own relationships and from putting together this audiobook And much more! Mark Manson is an OG super blogger turned best-selling author. His international smash hit, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck, has sold millions of copies, inspiring a generation of no fucks given. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/244 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 243243: Understanding Personalities for Better Relationships
Our personality is created by a multitude of complex factors to create a way in which we view the world and relate with others. One theory on the dimensions of our personality comes from the 19th-century spiritual philosopher George Gurdjieff. Today's guest, John Cottone, Ph.D., walks us through Gurdjieff's personality theory and shows us how we can apply it to ourselves and our relationships. Gurdjieff believed that personality types can be divided into physical, emotional and intellectual categories and that each person would be well-served by following the spiritual path that resonates with her respective personality orientation. We really enjoyed this conversation and hope you do too! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn about the physical, emotional and intellectual personality dimensions How to determine which personality dimension you and your partner align with the most Understanding if some personality dimensions are incompatible? How to work with your partner's personality Why understanding you and your partner's personality type can be valuable during these difficult times And much more! John G. Cottone, Ph.D., is a psychologist in private practice; a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the Renaissance School of Medicine at Stony Brook University; and a researcher with peer-reviewed publications in psychology, psychiatry and neuroscience. He is also the author of a personal growth book entitled "Who Are You? Essential Questions for Hitchhikers on the Road of Truth." Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/243 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Feals is premium CBD delivered straight to your door. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/ido and get 50% off your first order. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 242242: The Coronavirus And Your Relationship
The Coronavirus pandemic is on everyone's minds, and is likely adding stress to your life and relationships. Listen to today's show with Dr. Melanie Joy as we discuss how to navigate your personal and relational life specifically during these difficult times. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to help yourself and your partner feel secure during times of insecurity What to do if your partner does not care about the health situation as much as you do Why it's important to understand innate personal views on hygiene How to communicate in the most productive way when discussing important decisions and views Making decisions that are good for your relationship during stressful times And much more! Melanie Joy, PhD, is a Harvard-educated psychologist specializing in relationships, communication and social change. She is the award-winning author of five books, including Getting Relationships Right: How to Build Resilience and Thrive in Life, Love, and Work. Dr. Joy is also an international speaker, trainer and organizational coach. Her work has been featured by media outlets around the world, including The New York Times, BBC, and ABC Australia; and she has been granted a number of international awards. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/242 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO20 during checkout! Dipsea is an audio app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions that are designed to turn you on and help you get in touch with yourself. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 241241: Financial Planning and Your Relationship
Personal finances and insurance are not the most sexy topics when it comes to working on your relationship. However, these things can pull two people apart and even end relationships all together. Listen to today's show to learn how to get your financial and relational life in order with your partner. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn a recommended route to a more financially responsible partnership Where to start when talking about insurance and financial responsibilities with your partner How does a financial planner budget for his wedding? Contributing to investments for retirement And much more! Patrick Hanzel is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ on the advanced planning team at Policygenius. He has eight years of industry experience and previously worked as an advisor and associate at Northwestern Mutual. He has a degree in Business Administration from Nebraska Wesleyan University. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/241 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Zola: Zola makes wedding planning so much easier and less stressful with their wedding websites, registry, invites, and a guest list manager all in one place. Sign up at Zola.com/IDO today to get your FREE personalized paper sample. Then use code SAVE50 to get 50% off your save the dates. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 240240: Coercive Control In Relationships
Coercive control is a seriously negative strategy introduced in some relationships. Listen to today's show to understand if you are in a coercive control relationship, and how to navigate this territory. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Coercive control as a strategy for your partner to dominate others through manipulation, isolation and other toxic behaviors How to stand up to a coercive controlling partner How to determine if your partner exhibits coercive controlling behavior Changing the negative patterns and seeking professional help And much more! Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD is the author of Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship. With a PhD in Psychology, she has spent 25 years as a researcher, advocate and teacher on topics related to violence against women and children. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/240 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Thrive Causemetics: Start thriving and help women in need today by going to ThriveCausemetics.com/IDO and use code IDO for 15% off your first purchase! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 239239: Is Love Best When It's Fresh?
Our romantic lives with our partners will inevitably change over time. How can we navigate these changes in long term relationships? Listen to today's show to learn some tools and insights into this thing we call LOVE. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Experiences of early intense love contrasted with longer term profound love How can we make love and sexual desire last long term? The importance of focusing on the profound aspects of your partner Options for relationship styles depending on age and life circumstances Answers to the BIG question: Is love best when it's fresh? And much more! Aaron Ben-Ze’ev is a Professor of Philosophy at the University of Haifa. His most recent book is The Arc of Love: How Our Romantic Lives Change Over Time. (University of Chicago Press, 2019). He is a former President of the University of Haifa, and he is the Founding and Former President of the European Philosophical Society for the Study of Emotions. Professor Ben-Ze'ev is considered one of the world's leading experts in the study of emotions. Most recently, his research has centered on love and the impact of time on romantic love. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/239 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Feals is premium CBD delivered straight to your door. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/ido and get 50% off your first order. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 238238: When Sorry Isn't Enough
Much of a successful relationship involves properly apologizing to your partner and repairing the relationship. Relationships are not necessarily about preventing disagreements and arguments, but apologizing and moving forward positively. Listen to today's show to learn how to apologize the right way! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why simply saying you're sorry is usually not enough The five apology languages that you and your partner will likely fall into Blame and its role in apologizing How to communicate if you are desiring an apology from someone not giving it How to make your apology sincere And much more! Dr. Jen Thomas is a TED speaker, psychologist and author. She enjoys teaching what to say when challenging conversations arise at work or at home. Today’s world requires that you know the essentials of successful apologies. Simply saying you’re sorry is usually not enough. Dr. Jen helps people like you turn bad situations into good outcomes based on your love and apology languages. She is one of a handful of approved presenters for Gary Chapman’s #1 New York Times best-selling book series “The Five Love Languages.” Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/238 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO20 during checkout! Dipsea is an audio app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions that are designed to turn you on and help you get in touch with yourself. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 237237: Pitfalls of Using Others to Manage Your Anxiety
Relationship partners and friends can offer valuable support for managing stress and anxiety in our lives. However, sometimes relying on others to manage our emotions can create negative effects in our lives and relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how to balance this sometimes complicated dynamic. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding if you are automatically pulling in a third person to help manage your relationship anxiety The negative effects of relying too much on others How to sit with your own anxiety before projecting it onto others Writing things down to help process your problems Becoming curious about how you function when you become anxious And much more! Dr. Kathleen Smith is a licensed therapist and mental health writer who lives in Washington, DC. She is the author of the new book, Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down. She is an associate faculty member at the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family and hosts the show Family Matters, a production of the University of the District of Columbia. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/237 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bonus: Wondery Presents Dying For Sex
EWhen host Nikki Boyer’s best friend Molly is diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer, she decides to do something bold. She leaves an unhappy marriage and embarks on a series of sexual adventures to feel alive. Over this six-part miniseries, Molly shares the details of her hilarious escapades in a story about friendship, death, and what you do with the time you have left. From Wondery, the creators of Dirty John and The Moment comes Dying For Sex. Listen now at https://wondery.fm/DFS20. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 236236: The Amazing Expanded Orgasm
EWhat if we told you that a woman is capable of having an hour-long orgasm? Sounds too good to be true right!? Well, there are techniques that can make this happen. Listen to today's show to learn about the expanded orgasm practice and its benefits for both men and women. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The practice of expanded orgasm and how to begin your journey to become an erotic master Spirituality and expanded orgasm as meditation Meaning making through sexual experience with your partner The value of no male expectation for sexual reciprocity And much more! Susan Bratton is an advocate and champion of all who desire passionate intimacy. She is a best-selling author of 34 books and online programs that teach passionate lovemaking, bedroom communication skills and restorative sexual wellness techniques. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/236 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 235235: How To Create The Relationship You Want
Want to feel empowered? How about realizing that YOU have the power to create the relationship of your dreams and find your own happiness. Many of us look to our partners to make us happy in our relationships. Listen to today's show to understand why that's the wrong approach and how to switch that mindset. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Getting rid of the expectation that our partner will make us happy Self reflection practices to understand your contribution to creating conflict Realizing that relationship issues don't always get solved Using conflict for growth in your relationship Developing positive characteristics in yourself And much more! As an author and public speaker with 40 years of experience in psychotherapy, Larry Shushansky has written a book called Independent Enough and is looking to share his theory with as many people as possible. Larry turns his theories on relationships into achievable day-to-day practices for his audiences through engaging, conversational-style presentations. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/235 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Baked By Melissa: This Valentine’s Day, send your loved ones the perfect gift - Baked by Melissa. Go to BakedByMelissa.com/ido and use promo code IDO to get 15% off your order! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 234234: Brain First Approach To Relationships
The brain — Sometimes we take it for granted, and don't realize its importance as an organ in shaping our relationships. The better we understand and take care of our brain, the better chance we'll have for relationship success. Listen to today's show to learn how to optimize your brain for a better relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding our brains drive our behavior How to optimize brain health through nutrition, movement, sleep and breath The importance of play as an adult in relationship How to avoid 'fight or flight communication' And much more! Dave Kenney is the Co-Founder and Executive Director at Emergo Recovery, along with Susan Kenney, who is the Co-Founder and Director of Therapeutic Wellness at Emergo Recovery. Emergo Recovery is a private, residential recovery and wellness center focused on a brain-first approach. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/234 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO20 during checkout! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 233233: Setting Emotional Boundaries In Your Relationship
Do you feel like you're constantly on the receiving end of your partner's emotions? In relationships we want to be emotionally available for our partners and maintain healthy communication. However, sometimes emotional boundaries need to be set to help protect your personal mental health and to benefit your relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn how to set healthy emotional boundaries. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why 'keeping the peace' by not standing up for yourself can lead to unhealthy relationship dynamics Pausing to understand what it is that you really need for yourself and for the relationship Is there such a thing as over communication in relationships? Understanding that you don't always need to accommodate your partner's needs Why conflict is OK in your relationship and how to better navigate it And much more! Dana McNeil is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist and is the founder of a group practice called The Relationship Place located in San Diego, California. Dana’s practice specializes in couples’ therapy and utilizes an evidence-based type of couples’ therapy which is known as the Gottman Method. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/233 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Zola: Zola makes wedding planning so much easier and less stressful with their wedding websites, registry, invites, and a guest list manager all in one place. Sign up at Zola.com/IDO today to get your FREE personalized paper sample. Then use code SAVE50 to get 50% off your save the dates. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 232232: Non-Monogamy And Open Relationships Deep Dive
The best estimates are that 1 in 5 people have participated in some kind of non-monogamous relationship. These kinds of relationship structures are gaining wider awareness and acceptance in today's society. Learning about non-monogamy can be valuable whether it's appealing to you or not. Listen to today's show to learn all about non-monogamy and open relationships! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the different forms of non-monogamy Polyamory vs swinging vs open relationships Why debating whether non-monogamy or monogamy is most 'natural' is unproductive How to talk to your partner about non-monogamy Questions to ask yourself if you want to be non-monogamous Importance of educating yourself before you start non-monogamy Time management in open relationships New relationship energy and what it can do for you And much more! Jase Lindgren is a non-monogamous dating coach, healthy masculinity educator and sex-positivity advocate. He has trained in positive psychology, Emotional Freedom Technique, consent education, and Buddhist mindfulness practice. He has worked with the government and celebrities on HIV public awareness in Russia, is a long-time fan of podcasts. As one of the hosts of the Multiamory podcasts he enjoys teaching people how to suck less at communication and grow in their relationships, especially the one with themselves. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/232 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Atlantis: Dreaming of a Bahamas destination wedding? Visit atlantisbahamas.com and mention "I Do Podcast" to receive the best room rates and up to 10% off your wedding package. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 231231: Understanding The Menstrual Cycle Will Improve Your Relationship!
Attention men and women! Do you know the menstrual cycle and how hormones ebb and flow throughout this 4 week time period? Maybe your answer is yes. But, if you're like us, the answer is no. Even if you do know the details of hormone changes and how that affects a woman's body and brain, do you know your own or your partners exact day on the cycle right now? Knowing all of this information can be incredibly helpful for relationships! Listen to today's episode to learn why and how to keep track of the cycle. The importance of understanding the entire span of the menstrual cycle How each week of the cycle is different and what mood changes to expect during each one Which weeks women are more likely to have a higher libido Men's 24-hour hormone cycle Apps to help both men and women in relationship track the menstrual cycle And much more! Gabrielle Lichterman is the founder of Hormonology, creator of the Hormone Horoscope App for women and Female Forecaster App for men, and author of 28 Days: What Your Cycle Reveals About Your Moods, Health & Potential. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/231 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Zola: Zola makes wedding planning so much easier and less stressful with their wedding websites, registry, invites, and a guest list manager all in one place. Sign up at Zola.com/IDO today to get your FREE personalized paper sample. Then use code SAVE50 to get 50% off your save the dates. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 230230: Avoiding Fatigue In A Long Term Relationship
Let's face it, being in a relationship is HARD WORK! Long term relationships are even harder. It's not a walk in the park to live with the same person for years and communicate, love, fornicate and just live a life. The more tools you have to continually do the work on your journey, the more successful and happy you'll be in your long term relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn how to avoid long term relationship fatigue. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of keeping your expectations in check What to do when one partner is a 'seeker' Cultural myths surrounding marriage and the importance of recognizing them Letting go and accepting the humanity of ourselves and our partner The importance of realizing your partner will not be your everything Avoiding criticism of the same thing in your partner over and over And much more! Josh Gressel, Ph.D, is a clinical psychologist and couple’s counselor in private practice with over 32 years experience. He has also been married 38 years. He is the author of Embracing Envy: Finding the Spiritual Treasure in Our Most Shameful Emotion and has just finished a new book on masculinity. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/230 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido and get 50% off your subscription and start a free 60-day trial. Atlantis: Dreaming of a Bahamas destination wedding? Visit atlantisbahamas.com and mention "I Do Podcast" to receive the best room rates and up to 10% off your wedding package. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 229229: Conceiving With Love And Chinese Medicine
Trying to conceive with your partner is a big deal. The process of baby making can be fun, but it can also be very stressful on the relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn the best ways to approach the process through both western and Chinese medicine perspectives. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to avoid conceiving as a job and take the pressure off both partners Taking care of your body in preparation for conceiving How to have deep and honest communication about the process Using Chinese medicine for conceiving and lifestyle improvement Timing of sex when trying to conceive And much more! Denise Wiesner, LAc, FABORM, founder of the Natural Healing and Acupuncture Clinic in West Los Angeles, is an internationally recognized traditional Chinese medicine practitioner, specializing in the Whole Systems Chinese medicine approach to women’s health, sexuality, and fertility and author of the new book Conceiving with Love: A Whole-Body Approach to Creating Intimacy, Reigniting Passion, and Increasing Fertility. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/229 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Pill Club: Birth control that actually gives you control. Get the care that you deserve. Visit thepillclub.com/ido to get your first birth control care package. BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 228228: Psychedelics, Dance and Breathing: How Ecstatic Practices Can Improve Your Relationship
When was the last time you experienced ecstasy? This feeling is fundamental to being human, and yet we don't get it nearly enough — if at all in our lives. You don't have to use psychedelic medicine, although they can be a viable choice, to have an ecstatic experience. Listen to today's show to learn other ways to produce ecstatic experiences, and how they can produce profound impacts on your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Exploring the mind-body connection through ecstatic dance practices Psychedelic research and it's application to improving relationships Holotropic breathework and how it can produce ecstasy How eastern practices are penetrating western society and how we can benefit from them How to get unstuck when you feel stuck And much more! Alex Belser, Ph.D., is a Clinical Research Fellow and therapy supervisor at Yale University. At Yale he is a Co-Investigator of two trials exploring psilocybin-treatment for OCD and depression. He also teachers in the master's program in the Department of Applied Psychology at New York University. He previously studied at Columbia University, Georgetown University, and Cambridge University. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/228 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. To get 30% off your invites and paper order visit ZOLA.com/ido. Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido and get 50% off your subscription and start a free 60-day trial. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 227227: Getting Off Without Checking Out
EMindfulness is having a much deserved moment in the world of podcasting and popular culture. Learning how to bring mindfulness into the bedroom is a skill that can improve your relationship and sex life — something most of us can benefit from. Learn how to get off without checking out in today's episode. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to get out of a state of fear and judgement around sex in your relationship How to bring attention to what feels good during sex and communicating this with your partner Becoming more embodied and familiar with our sensuality Loving and accepting your own body Micro-practices for more sexuality in your life Asking for what you want in bed And much more! Jessica Graham is a meditation teacher, sex, relationship and spiritual guide for couples and individuals, speaker and author of Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out. She is a contributing editor of the meditation blog, Deconstructing Yourself and co-founded The Eastside Mindfulness Collective. Jessica also founded Wild Awakening, to help people become more human through psycho-spiritual evolution using meditation and self-inquiry. Jessica is also an award-winning actor and filmmaker. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/227 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Away: Luggage for the modern traveler—lightweight, premium features, and a lifetime warranty. For $20 off a suitcase, visit awaytravel.com/IDO and use promo code IDO during checkout. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 226226: Tapping Into Your Intuition
Have you ever had a 'gut feeling' about something? This feeling can also be know as our intuition or inner self. Listening to our intuition can help us make better decisions and improve our relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how to tap into your intuition. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How the noise of modern life blocks out our intuition Learning from our mistakes and listening to our intuition How to get out of our minds and thinking about the past Listening to your intuition to improve your relationship Tools to improve your ability to tap into your intuition And much more! Victoria Shaw is a psychologist and licensed professional counselor who combines her training in counseling and psychology with her intuitive gifts. Victoria specializes in working with highly intuitive, empathic and sensitive souls to help them leverage their gifts and maximize their potential. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/226 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido you can start a free 60-day trial. Pill Club: Birth control that actually gives you control. Get the care that you deserve. Visit thepillclub.com/ido to get your first birth control care package. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices