Relationship Advice

Let's face it, getting old sucks! As we age, we may also face daily obstacles of intimacy along the way. Whether you're 25 or 55, these obstacles can be increased if you suffer from a chronic illness, depression or any other health issues. Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate the relationships intimacy issues involved with getting older or living with a chronic illness. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how unrealistic relationship depictions can shape how we feel and act in our own relationships. How to deal with sexual functioning issues, fatigue and the insecurities surrounding these issues. Tips for communicating effectively about intimacy issues and other relationship areas. The importance of being willing and ready to hear about changes from your partner. How to be honest with the people in our lives. And much more! Logan Levkoff, Ph.D., is a nationally recognized expert on sexuality, sexual health, relationships, intimacy, parenting, and sexual politics. She is also a TV personality and best-selling author of three books, and is a contributor to online resource Arthritis.com. Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/128 Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling intimacy in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To sign up with Zola and receive a $50 credit towards your registry, go to ZOLA.com/ido. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The next time you want to shout, "Hey, you a**hole!", at the person who cut you off, try practicing some compassion. No really, it's the single greatest tool to help you navigate rush hour traffic, a screaming child or a partner who has been getting on your nerves. It can sound a bit 'woo woo', but learning to practice more compassion toward ourselves and others can have a profound impact on our relationships and overall well being. Listen to today's show to get the tools and tips to bring more compassion into your life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understand the balance involved in creating a truly compassionate life. The tools and tips to become more compassionate to yourself and others on a daily basis. Learn how to be curious about what the other person is experiencing in order to become more compassionate. How understanding that everybody has a life story will help you be more compassionate. The tips to realizing that kindness is always possible. And much more! Laura Jack, author of #1 best selling book, The Compassion Code: How to say the right thing when the wrong thing happens, teaches compassionate communication and how we can relate to one another more effectively during the challenging moments in life. Her mission is to cultivate a culture of compassion, starting with self, and to create a better understanding of loss and its accompanying grief. Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/127 Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling practicing compassion in your life? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. HelloFresh: HelloFresh is a meal kit delivery service that shops, plans, and delivers your favorite step-by-step recipes and pre- measured ingredients so you can just cook, eat, and enjoy. For $30 off your first week of HelloFresh, visit hellofresh.com and enter the promo code: ido30 If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Relationships are hard — add your drunk uncle, traveling with kids, buying presents and everything that comes with the holidays, and you have a recipe for a mental meltdown. No need to worry! Today's episode will give you the tools and advice to manage stress around the holiday's and in everyday life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to tolerate each others differences and not try to fix them. Find out what 'speed arguing' is and how it can be a valuable tool for your relationship. Learn why it's important not to take your partner's mood personally. Tips to create rules that will help you navigate stressful situations. And much more! Winifred Reilly is a marriage and family therapist, with a private practice in Berkeley, CA. In her thirty-five years of clinical practice she has treated hundreds of couples—many who were convinced they were headed for divorce. Winifred has been a guest lecturer on marriage and sexuality, and her writing has appeared on The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, xoJane, and on her relationship advice blog, Speaking of Marriage. Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/126 Episode Freebie download: Managing Stress In Your Relationship Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with dating and parenting? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Storyworth: StoryWorth makes it easy and fun for your loved ones to share their stories, with weekly emailed story prompts - questions you’ve never thought to ask. At the end of the year, they’ll get their stories bound in a beautiful hardcover book. Strengthen your family bonds, and get to know your loved one in a whole new way. For $20 off, visit Storyworth.com/ido If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Being a single or divorced parent and dating can be difficult. Whether you are dating someone with kids, or you yourself have kids from a previous relationship, these circumstances present all kinds of potential problems. Learn how to navigate these issues with a world's leading expert on resilience and family dynamics. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to create structure for your kids to help ease the transition of divorce and dating. Find out if it's OK for your kids to stay in touch with an ex who is not their parent. Understand the importance of being genuine with your child when dating new people. Learn why it's important to not feel guilty about dating. And much more! Dr. Michael Ungar is the Canada Research Chair in Child, Family and Community Resilience at Dalhousie University, and the founder and Director of the Resilience Research Center. He is among the best known writers and researchers on the topic of resilience in the world. As both a family therapist and professor of Social Work, he has helped to identify important factors that influence the resilience of children and families during periods of change and stress. He is the author of 14 books that have been translated into five languages, numerous manuals for parents, educators, and employers, as well as more than 150 scientific papers. Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/125 Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with dating and parenting? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To sign up with Zola and receive a $50 credit towards your registry, go to ZOLA.com/ido. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Navigating the complexities of an inter-faith relationship can be difficult, especially during the holiday season. Forty-nine perfect of unmarried relationships and 39% of marriages are inter-faith, and the numbers continues to grow. Today's episode will help you learn how to communicate with your partner during the holiday's and beyond. Don't be the Grinch this holiday season, listen this episode to get the tools to maintain a happy and healthy relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to communicate about your differences and establish rules to operate under in your relationship. Understand why our needs are not always met in a relationship, and why that's OK. How to deal with parents who might be pushing their religious views on you or your partner. Remembering that you got together because of your differences and this is what should be appealing about your partner. It would be pretty boring if you agreed on everything! And much more! Diane Barth is a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst in New York City where she works with individuals, couples, and families and leads private study groups. She also offers workshops for therapists around the country. Her articles have been published in numerous professional journals and books. Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/124 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with your partner spending too much time at work or on their phone? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Storyworth: StoryWorth makes it easy and fun for your loved ones to share their stories, with weekly emailed story prompts - questions you’ve never thought to ask. At the end of the year, they’ll get their stories bound in a beautiful hardcover book. Strengthen your family bonds, and get to know your loved one in a whole new way. For $20 off, visit Storyworth.com/ido If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Technology and work are an integral part of living in the 21st century. While both can be great, they can also create a huge strain on our relationships. It's common for a person to have feelings of betrayal when their partner is always working, talking on the phone or browsing social media. Learning to create awareness around these issues and communicate through them is critical to having a successful relationship in today's world. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How using 'I' statements can be the difference between successfully solving a relationship problem and a full-scale blowup. Why getting out of the house can be the key to a productive conversation within your relationship. How to discuss and create boundaries between work, technology and your home relationship life. Forming a contract and schedule for when your partner will take off work to spend time on the relationship. Why it's important to remember that we cannot change our partner. The 10-minute rule and how it can help your relationship flourish. And much more! Dr. Terri Orbuch (aka The Love Doctor®) is a world renowned relationship expert, author, speaker, therapist and professor. She is also the director of a landmark study, funded by National Institutes of Health (NIH), where she has been following the same couples for almost 3 decades. Dr. Orbuch is widely published in scientific journals and the author of “5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great.” and “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.” Dr. Orbuch has been featured in such publications as The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Reader’s Digest, USA Today, Women’s Health, Cosmopolitan and TIME magazine and has appeared on The Today Show, MSNBC, The Katie Couric Show, ESPN, HuffPost Live, and CNN. Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/123 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with your partner spending too much time at work or on their phone? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. HelloFresh: HelloFresh is a meal kit delivery service that shops, plans, and delivers your favorite step-by-step recipes and pre- measured ingredients so you can just cook, eat, and enjoy. For $30 off your first week of HelloFresh, visit hellofresh.com and enter the promo code: ido30 If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There is nothing harder than being madly in love with someone and not being able to see them everyday. Whether you live in another state or your partner works a lot, finding success in a long distance relationship can be hard. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to create a successful long distance relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to gauge if your long distance relationship is going to last. Find out why you should avoid texting your partner too often. How to create novelty and passion to keep the relationship alive and thriving. How simply having kid's can make a relationship feel like it's long distance. Why it's important not to skip over uncomfortable relationship conversations. And much more! Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is an award-winning author and relationship expert. She is the founder and director of Paulette Sherman Group, a psychotherapy and relationship coaching practice and home of numerous award-winning books, including Dating From the Inside Out published by Simon & Schuster. For more than 20 years, Paulette changed the lives of thousands of clients, and shared insight with millions more through expert commentary on over 30 media outlets including MSN, USA Today, The New York Post, The New York Times and many more. She lives in Brooklyn, NY with her husband and two children and works in Manhattan. Full Show Notes and episode links at http://idopodcast.com/122 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with a long distance relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To sign up with Zola and receive a $50 credit towards your registry, go to ZOLA.com/ido. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Managing and communicating around the subject of finances can be a critical part of any relationship. If you're dating, how do you decide who picks up the bill? Recently engaged? Will you combine or keep your finances separate? Financial disagreements in long term relationships and marriage can become a huge problem. Listen to today's show and learn how to navigate the ins and outs of finance in your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to communicate about spending habits and how you view money in your relationship. Find out the best ways to manage your money in a long term relationship. How to decide on whether or not to combine bank accounts. Learn how to decide who will pick up the bill for dinner on your next date. This is not the 19th century, women are working and making money too! And much more! Stefanie O'Connell is a millennial money expert, speaker and author of the book, “The Broke and Beautiful Life". Stefanie's website, StefanieOConnell.com, is a destination for millennials who want to feel as much clarity with their money as they do confidence in their lives. Her work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Forbes, SUCCESS magazine, MONEY.com and many more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/121 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with finances in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Casper: Casper is a sleep brand that continues to revolutionize its line of products to create an exceptionally comfortable sleep experience, one night at a time. Start sleeping ahead of the curve with Casper. Get $50 toward any mattress purchase by visiting Casper.com/ido and using the promo code ido at checkout. Terms and conditions apply. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Infidelity is something that can affect both unhappy, and seemingly happy relationships. That's right, research has shown a significant number of partners are cheating while in a happy relationship. Esther Perel breaks down how to deal with infidelity and a range of other relationship topics that we know you'll enjoy. Esther is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships, and we couldn't have been happier to have her on the show to share her extensive knowledge. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How the rulebooks for marriages and relationships are being reinvented. Why people cheat in a happy relationship. How to avoid the trap of becoming a narrow version of yourself while in a relationship. What to do when there has been cheating in your relationship. Talking about non-monogamy with your partner, and why it's important even if you don't want to explore an open relationship. How to cultivate the healthiest relationship possible. And much more! Belgian psychotherapist, Esther Perel, is the New York Times bestselling author of The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered nearly 20 million views, and she is also the host of the popular Audible original podcast Where Should We Begin? Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/120 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with infidelity in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The human condition of loneliness is one that everyone experiences. Feeling lonely is common even for those in relationships. Learning how to deal with loneliness is important whether it's your own or your partners. Listen to today’s show to learn how to overcome loneliness in your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to look inward, rather than outward to your partner, to help deal with loneliness. Why it’s important to accept your own, or your partners loneliness. How to frame loneliness as a necessary stage before we make a big change in our lives. How to talk about loneliness with your partner and discuss from a place of acceptance. Mirror meditation as a tool to deal with loneliness. And much more! Dr. Tara Well is a professor of psychology at Barnard College of Columbia University in New York City. She has over 20 years of experience in conducting research on what motivates us and influences our perceptions as well as extensive training in meditation, yoga, and other mind-body healing modalities. Her research has been funded by the National Institute of Mental Health and the National Science Foundation and has been published in the top professional journals in psychology. She teaches classes in personality, motivation, health, and women's leadership. Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/119 Our goal is to create content that will help make your relationship great. Please take just 5 minutes to tell us how we can help you in your relationship. Take Survey here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with loneliness in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. HelloFresh: HelloFresh is a meal kit delivery service that shops, plans, and delivers your favorite step-by-step recipes and pre- measured ingredients so you can just cook, eat, and enjoy. For $30 off your first week of HelloFresh, visit hellofresh.com and enter the promo code: ido30 If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chances are you've been through a breakup at some point in your life. Whether it was a recent and difficult breakup, or a high school sweetheart from years ago, these events shape who we are and how we form new relationships. Learning how to accept and validate your feelings is critical to moving on and forming a new happy and healthy relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how to examine your past relationships to improve where you are now. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to accept and validate your feelings surrounding a breakup. The steps to completing a through investigation of your beliefs so that they do not negatively affect your current or future relationships. Examining your fears surrounding relationships so they do not have power over you. How to deal with a partner who has a past breakup that is affecting your current relationship. Writing therapy to help process your past. And much more! Rachel Dack is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC), Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC) and Relationship Coach. Rachel is the owner of Rachel Dack Counseling LLC, a private psychotherapy, relationship coaching and consulting practice located in Bethesda, Maryland. With a Master’s degree in Clinical Counseling from Johns Hopkins University, Rachel specializes in supporting individuals and couples in achieving healthy mindsets, decreased stress, satisfying relationships, positive wellbeing and love. Her areas of expertise include relationships, dating, anxiety, self-esteem, mindfulness and depression. Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/118 Click here for this episode’s freebie: The Bad Breakup Blueprint – Learn how to accept and validate your feelings while preparing yourself for a new happy and healthy relationship. Our goal is to create content that will help make your relationship great. Please take just 5 minutes to tell us how we can help you in your relationship. Take Survey here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with feelings from a breakup or relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! There are a tons of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's easy to rationalize the negative ways we talk or act toward our partner. In fact, rationalizing bad behavior often leads to conflict and the eroding of a relationship. Listen to this episode to learn why excuses and rationalizations creep into even the best of marriages, and how help couples identify and eliminate them. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why it's so hard to be self aware when emotions are high and how to change this. Defending yourself versus being defensive and the important distinction between each. Why using "I" statements instead of "You" can make a huge improvement in the communication in your relationship. How to become self aware in order to avoid rationalizing bad behavior. Why we have negative reactions to being accused and how to change this communication on both sides. And much more! Jason Whiting, Ph.D., is a professor at Brigham Young University who studies deception, conflict, and abuse in relationships, with the goal of helping couples become more loving and authentic. His book, Love Me True: Overcoming the Surprising Ways We Deceive in Relationships, looks at how partners can be more honest with themselves and each other. In addition to teaching, studying, and writing about relationships, Whiting is a licensed marriage and family therapist who works with couples in a clinical context. Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/117 New Blog Post: The 4 Big Relationships Don'ts Our goal is to create content that will help make your relationship great. Please take just 5 minutes to tell us how we can help you in your relationship. Take Survey here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you or your partner struggle with rationalizing bad behavior in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. FindYourTrainer.com: Today’s show is sponsored by FindYourTrainer.com, America’s largest personal trainer network that matches you with your perfect personal trainer. Train anywhere, anytime. Get $50 off your first session when you visit FindYourTrainer.com/IDO with Promo Code: IDo If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The incidence of infidelity in the United States is greater than 50%. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to realize that we're doing something wrong. A huge part of preventing infidelity is communication with your partner. For example, have you communicated your deepest sexual desires to your partner without fear of judgement? Today's show will outline the steps to share feelings like this and to affair proof your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to come to terms with the fact that we are all sexual beings, and will find people other than our partner attractive. Avoiding the irrational belief in your relationship that, "we love each other and therefore will never stray." Facing your own fears of your partner being attracted to someone else. Learn to know the person you love on the deepest level possible. How to talk about these deep emotional feelings with your partner. Why the more you talk about your weaknesses, the stronger you and your relationship will become. And much more! Steven Ing is reframing an important conversation in society one about the intelligent management of human sexuality. He is a sought-after trainer, speaker and therapist, bringing nearly three decades of experience to his audiences and clients. His book, We're All Like This" (2015, Giant Publishing), is used as a text in Human Sexuality classes in university classrooms. Download this episode's freebie here! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/116 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you struggle with communicating your desires with your partner? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. FindYourTrainer.com: Today’s show is sponsored by FindYourTrainer.com, America’s largest personal trainer network that matches you with your perfect personal trainer. Train anywhere, anytime. Get $50 off your first session when you visit FindYourTrainer.com/IDO with Promo Code: IDo If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When expectations in your relationship don’t meet reality, disappointment is bound to happen. Whether you find yourself struggling with too high or too low expectations, finding the balance is key to being happier and more satisfied in your relationship. Listen to today’s show with Dr. Sarah Vannier to learn how to manage expectations and avoid disappointment in your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How creating false romantic expectations can hurt your relationship. Finding a balance in your relationship expectations so they aren't too high or too low. Examining your expectations to determine which are the most realistic. Learn if you have a growth romantic belief system or a destiny romantic belief system and how this will affect your relationships. How to keep intimacy for couples who are new parents. And much more! Dr. Sarah Vannier is a Postdoctoral Fellow working at Dalhousie University in Halifax, Nova Scotia. Her research tends to focus on the ways that we think about our sexual and romantic relationships and she recently published two papers looking at the link between violated romantic expectations (e.g., love at first sight, destiny) and relationship outcomes in young adults dating relationships. Right now Sarah is doing research looking at the ways to help new parents cope with the sexual and relationship challenges that come with early parenthood. Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you struggle with disappointment in your relationship from too high or too low expectations? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/115 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. FindYourTrainer.com: Today’s show is sponsored by FindYourTrainer.com, America’s largest personal trainer network that matches you with your perfect personal trainer. Train anywhere, anytime. Get $50 off your first session when you visit FindYourTrainer.com/IDO with Promo Code: IDo If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know our relationships would benefit from limiting the amount of time we spend on our phones. So, why is it so damn hard to put the phone down!? The average person spends about 4 hours each day on their phone - 4 HOURS! What if we spent 10% of that time nurturing our relationship? That's 10 full hours a month that can be dedicated to date nights. Yes, please! Listen to today's show to learn how to put your phone down and reconnect with yourself and your partner. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How a smart phone can ruin your relationship and the steps to prevent this. How our brains react to phone use in the same way as cocaine. Why creating awareness of an addiction to technology is the first step in treatment and improving your relationship. Tips to put your phone down and reconnect with yourself and your partner. How to have a serious conversation about dealing with technology in your relationship. And much more! Nancy Colier is a psychotherapist, interfaith minister, mindfulness teacher, relationship expert, blogger for psychology today and huff post, and the author of the new book, The Power of Off: The Mindful Way to Stay Sane in a Virtual World. Download this episode's freebie here! Join Our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/114 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. FindYourTrainer.com: Today’s show is sponsored by FindYourTrainer.com, America’s largest personal trainer network that matches you with your perfect personal trainer. Train anywhere, anytime. Get $50 off your first session when you visit FindYourTrainer.com/IDO with Promo Code: IDo If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

John Kim LMFT, The Angry Therapist, pioneered the online life coaching movement seven years ago after going through a divorce which led to his total re-birth. He quickly built a devoted following of tens of thousands of fans who loved the frank and authentic insights that he freely shared on social media. John became known as an unconventional therapist who worked out of the box, and when he built out a coaching team of his own, launched an entire movement to change the way we change. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why mutual respect should be a foundation of your relationship. How to address your partner in a non-blaming way for conflict resolution. Why it's important to respond and not react in your relationship. How to accept your partner for maximum relationship happiness. Why self awareness is one of the most valuable tools in a successful relationship. And much more! Download this episode's freebie here! Join Our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe The Love Tribe community is made up of I Do Podcast listeners and was created to help support you in making your relationship {even} better. We encourage you to share your success stories, tips and heartache. Although every relationship is DIFFERENT – be each other’s inspiration. We hope you join our group here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/113 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Megan Murray is the Senior Content Strategist and Editor-in-Chief at Zoosk, an online dating site and app. She splits her time between product management and writing and managing Zoosk's online publication, The Date Mix. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the top tools and insights to navigate the world of online dating. Find out how to send better messages to attract the right relationship match online. The counterintuitive reason removing your online dating filters can help you find true love. How to set up your online dating profile to attract the best partner. Find out how to time your messages for maximum response rates and interaction. Understand the biggest mistakes people make when online dating so you can avoid them. And much more! Download today's freebie here: The Ultimate Cheat Sheet to Online Dating - 5 Tips That Will Help You Meet Interesting People and Go On Great Dates Join Our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Want to hear more from us about this topics? We'll be doing a Facebook Live tomorrow (Thursday, September 14th) at 2pm on our Love Tribe group page! The Love Tribe community is made up of I Do Podcast listeners and was created to help support you in making your relationship {even} better. We encourage you to share your success stories, tips and heartache. Although every relationship is DIFFERENT – be each other’s inspiration. We hope you join our group here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/112 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Bernard Golden, the founder of Anger Management Education in Chicago, has been a practicing psychologist for almost forty years. He is the author of Overcoming Destructive Anger: Strategies That Work, Unlock Your Creative Genius and Healthy Anger: How to help children and teens manage their anger. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how you and your partner can manage your anger for a happier relationship. Understand that unless you are the ultimate enlightened being, you will experience some form of anger in your life. How to take a mental pause to scan your body and deal with anger appropriately. Why keeping an anger log can help you manage knee-jerk reactions and unnecessary anger. Using compassionate words with yourself and your partner to dissolve an angry situation. Why the ability to apologize is a critical element in dealing with angry blowups. And much more! Download today's freebie here: Step-by-Step Guide to Help Couples Manage Conflict Join Our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe The Love Tribe community is made up of I Do Podcast listeners and was created to help support you in making your relationship {even} better. We encourage you to share your success stories, tips and heartache. Although every relationship is DIFFERENT – be each other’s inspiration. We hope you join our group here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/111 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relationships and codependency. Shes counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books include Conquering Shame and Codependency, Codependency for Dummies, 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, How to Beat Perfectionism and many more. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How unrealistically high standards can hurt your relationship. Why becoming aware of self-talk and beliefs is important in dealing with perfectionism. Learn the type of perfectionist you or your partner are in order to improve the relationship. How to work with your inner critic. Learn how you or your partner can become a healthy perfectionist that does not damage the relationship. Why challenging your beliefs can be a valuable exercise in improving your relationship. And much more! Housekeeping Notes: We’ve created a Facebook Group: Love Tribe The Love Tribe community is made up of I Do Podcast listeners and was created to help support you in making your relationship {even} better. We encourage you to share your success stories, tips and heartache. Although every relationship is DIFFERENT – be each other’s inspiration. We hope you join our group here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/110 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D., M.P.P. researches and writes about decision-making from the origins of life to everyday life. He has written over 1100 articles on practical decision-making for his Psychology Today blog: Ambigamy: Insights for the deeply romantic and deeply skeptical and has a book coming out with Columbia University Press this October: Neither Ghost Nor Machine, the emergence and nature of selves. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to avoid escalating a disagreement into a fight in your relationship. Determining where the fight is coming from by asking, "Is it stemming from you, me or us?" Mirroring your partner to help talk your way through a disagreement. How going meta and thinking about how you are thinking can help resolve conflict in your relationship. Why it's important to not become the 'judge' of the disagreement with your partner. And much more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/109 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Zack Carter is an assistant professor of communication at Taylor University. His teaching and research efforts are conducted through the lens of social psychology. His areas of expertise are marriage fidelity, relationship development/management, the self, nonverbal communication, persuasion, social influence, and social media. Specifically, Dr. Carter is passionate about helping married couples, and those looking to marry, avoid blind spots in their communication with the opposite sex, face-to-face, online, and through texting, that could devastate their marriage relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to monitor social media use for a healthy marriage or relationship. Why online emotional infidelity can be just as damaging as an actual affair. How 'carefronting', rather than confronting, your partner is a more productive way to problem solve. Learn what Zach thinks about one-on-one friendships with the opposite sex when you are married or in a relationship. Find out if you should create a joint Facebook account with your partner. And much more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/108 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Vicki Larson is an award-winning journalist in the San Francisco Bay Area and Susan Pease Gadoua is a licensed therapist based in the San Francisco Bay Area and author of "Contemplating Divorce, A Step-by-Step Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go" and "Stronger Day by Day: Reflections for Healing and Rebuilding After Divorce ." Together they wrote "The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels". In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the many interesting alternatives to traditional marriage. Why it's important to be clear on what you want in your marriage or relationship. Why matching your expectations with your partner's is a key to a successful marriage. Open marriages and how they can be structured. Creating a contract for your relationship in order to find success. And much more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/107 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association and Senior Editor for the mental health website PsychAlive.org. She is the author of numerous articles and chapters and the co-author of several books including Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice, Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion, Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships and most recently The Self under Siege. Dr. Firestone is international trainer and speaker on: couple relationships, parenting, suicide, and violence prevention. She expert in the areas of suicide and violence and was involved in clinical training and applied research with her father Dr. Robert Firestone. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How vulnerability will help your relationship by creating more intimacy. Cultivating vulnerability in yourself and your partner. Why it's important to ask for what you DO want rather than what you DON'T want. How to get in touch with your real feelings underneath anger. Creating an atmosphere of safety in your relationship to talk about feelings. And much more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/106 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah e72d9uh5 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Ilene S. Cohen, Ph.D., is a psychotherapist and blogger, and teaches in the Department of Counseling at Barry University. Shes a regular contributor to Psychology Today, and her work has appeared in Psych Central and Tiny Buddha. Her practice is fueled by her passion for helping people achieve their goals, build a strong sense of self and lead fulfilling and meaningful lives. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why commitment is the baseline and foundation of a relationship. Why it's important to think separately from your partner in a relationship. How to manage your own functioning and avoid trying to manage your partner. Why we become emotionally triggered and how to deal with it. How to take an objective approach to a triggered response. Why it's important to not judge yourself for becoming triggered. And much more! 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge starts TODAY! Sign up at our website here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/105 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gal Szekely is the founder of The Couples Center, a rapidly growing hub for relationship counseling and education in San Francisco area. He is an adjunct faculty at CIIS and JFK universities where he teaches couples counseling and an instructor in the Hakomi experiential therapy method. His work is especially effective since it integrates mindfulness and the wisdom of the body-mind connection. Gal and his wife, Liron, lead popular weekend premarital workshop for couples called Love Made Simple. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why commitment is the baseline and foundation of a relationship. How intimacy can be created simply by putting your hand on your partners back and why this is so important. Why individuality is an important component of a successful relationship. How to create a win-win resolution to your relationship conflicts. Actionable tips to create more passion in your relationship. How to manage life together and work like a team. Why growing together and becoming better people is so valuable to a relationship. And much more! 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge starts next Wednesday, July 26th! Sign up at idopodcast.com. Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/104 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kristen Holbrook is a Registered Clinical Counsellor based in Coquitlam, BC. Kristen offers both individual and couples counseling in her private practice. She has specialized training in the area of trauma and has been trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). In addition to her private practice work, Kristen provides counseling to women who have experienced historical and domestic abuse in an agency setting. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How past trauma affects how we see ourselves and our partners. Why trauma does not have to be a big thing. Trauma can have an impact whenever something exceeds are ability to cope with it. How trauma can come from early childhood experiences and past relationships. Why self-work is important to dealing with trauma in order to improve your relationship. Why it's important that you come from a place of empathy if you're dealing with a partner who is addressing a traumatic experience. And much more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/103 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Maureen Hosier is a licensed psychologist, specializing in the troubled dynamics of individuals in their romantic relationships and in their family and work place relationships. Maureen and her sister, Berta Hosier Conger, co-authored two books titled, You'll Do Anything for Her and You'll Do Anything for Him. They look at a common issue for many in relationship, both men and women, who give up themselves to make the relationship work. They have developed a framework for understanding the dynamics of individuals who find themselves stuck in an emotionally reactive and emotionally painful situation with their partner and who are frightened that they are destroying their relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How we are emotionally triggered and how to deal with an emotionally reactive position. Why it's important to interrupt your emotional reactions. Understanding that you cannot change the other person in your relationship. Why both partners have to want to change who they are emotionally. How to avoid the impossible situation of trying to take care of your partner. And much more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/102 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Zev Halpern is a licensed psychotherapist and marriage coach practicing from his office in the Metro DC Area. In addition, Zev also coaches couples virtually on line across the country and world. He is a TV show and podcast host, author and speaker with over 25 years of experience. With the divorce rate climbing, Zev Halpern has turned his attention to helping couples find mutual paths to marital fulfillment and family stability. His laid back, yet straight shooting approach is the perfect combination to help couples deal with the issues that have been driving them apart. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Key ingredients to creating a lasting marriage. Why it's important to create novelty in your marriage. How acting like a kid can be valuable for creating lasting love. Why you sometimes must change yourself in order to change your relationship. Why having difficult conversations is important for a strong marriage. And much more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/101 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

John Amodeo PhD, MFT, has been a licensed marriage and family therapist for over thirty-five years in the San Francisco Bay Area. He is the author of Dancing with Fire: A Mindful Way to Loving Relationships. His other books include The Authentic Heart and Love & Betrayal. He is a former writer and contributing editor for Yoga Journal, and has conducted workshops and lectured internationally on relationships and couples therapy. He has appeared as a featured guest on programs that included CNN, Donahue, and New Dimensions Radio and he is a popular blogger for Psychology Today. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to develop mature love in our life. How to speak from the heart. How to be authentic and practice authentic relating. How to improve emotional awareness. Best ways to begin mindfulness. How nature, yoga and meditating can improve mindfulness. How to get out of the young love mindset. Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/100 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Laura Doyle is a New York Times bestselling author whose books have been translated into 16 languages and published in 27 countries. Over 50,000 women credit her with not only saving their relationships, but also showing them how to become desired, cherished and adored for life. She has appeared on CBS Evening News, Dateline NBC, The Today Show and The View. Articles about Laura have appeared in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post, The London Telegraph, and The New Yorker. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to have more and better sex in your relationship or marriage. Why respect is a strong aphrodisiac. How emotional safety can create more intimacy in your relationship. The key to expressing your sexual desires. How women can use men's 'hero gene' to get what they want in the relationship. And much more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/99 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thea & Duane Harvey are marriage and family therapists specializing in Imago Relationship Therapy. They have been married 10 years and have a thriving couples therapy practice in Santa Monica, California. They believe that novelty, pleasure and romance are the keys to creating a lasting joyous connection. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: Why success in your relationship can be measured by the number of difficult conversations you have. The value of an organizational approach to communication in your marriage or relationship. Three valuable tools to manage anxiety so it doesn't affect your relationship. Learn how to not be controlled by your emotions. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As a licensed marriage and family therapist, Robert Jameson focuses on helping clients understand and overcome issues, such as anger, hurt, depression, anxiety, love, relationships, boundaries and limiting beliefs, to name a few. Mr. Jameson is also the author of Thoughts of Pomery, an entertaining book of pictures and thoughts that guides the reader to expand their perceptions of life and relationships with others, Dont Lose Weight Give It Away, which explores the emotional aspects of weight loss, and The Pocket Oasis, a fun and useful pocket-sized book that can be used as a tool to help center anyone during a hectic day. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Creating intimacy through trust. How trust is established and destroyed. How to use words of appreciation to create more intimacy in your relationship. The importance of a 'house meeting' once a month. How to get your partner to do what you want through loving communication. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Jane Greer is a nationally renowned marriage and sex therapist, radio host of the Doctor on Call show, and creator of 'SHRINK WRAP'. Her book, What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship, is available nationwide. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: How to evaluate your relationship the right way. The questions to ask before making a big step in your relationship like moving in together or becoming exclusive, ect... Why it's important to make lists when moving in with your partner. The signs that you should be taking the next step in advancing your relationship. Why it's important that both individuals in a relationship feel their needs are being considered. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Winifred Reilly is a marriage and family therapist, with a private practice in Berkeley, CA. In her thirty-five years of clinical practice she has treated hundreds of couples, many who were convinced they were headed for divorce. Winifred has been a guest lecturer on marriage and sexuality, and her writing has appeared on The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, xoJane and on her relationship advice blog, Speaking of Marriage. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: How to stop focusing on your partner's contribution to the relationship and start making the changes on your own. Why working on your own destructive behaviors will help improve your relationship. How you can take the lead and create positive change in your relationship. Why talking to a therapist can create a safe space to help work through your relationship issues. Why it's important not to wait around for your partner to create the change that you want to see and how you can do it yourself! And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Suzanne Degges-White, PhD, is professor and chair of the Department of Counseling, Adult and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University. She earned her PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. She is a licensed counselor and has over 15 years of experience working with children, adolescents and adults, including couples and families. Her research interests include the development of identity and intimate relationships including family relationships, romantic relationships and friendships. She has authored several books addressing relationships including Friends Forever: How Girls and Women Forge Lasting Relationships; Toxic Friendships: Knowing the Rules and Dealing with the Friends who Break Them; Mothers and Daughters: Living, Loving, and Learning over a Lifetime; and Sisters and Brothers for Life: Making Sense of Sibling Relationships in Adulthood. She also is a featured blogger for Psychology Today. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: Why it's important to develop rituals as a couple. How to develop a unique relationship identity and why it's important. How binging on Netflix can actually be a good thing for your relationship. Learning to preserve your relationship's identity and that of your own. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Valerie Greene is a unique relationship mentor who helps women inspire their man to fulfill their deepest needs and desires. A highly successful alternative to relationship therapy, Valerie helps women and couples create a secure emotional connection--not just problem-solving or communication skills. Valerie has been coaching for over 12 years and holds numerous certifications in coaching, NLP, and emotional healing modalities. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: How to stop fighting and fall in love again. Getting clarity on your feelings and relationship desires. Why getting in touch with your feelings is key to a successful relationship. How to realize your relationship dreams and create the changes needed to obtain them. Creating the can-do attitude necessary to get in touch with your feelings. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stephen Marche is the author of The Unmade Bed (2017), The Hunger of the Wolf (2015), Love and the Mess We’re In (2013), How Shakespeare Changed Everything (2012), Shining at the Bottom of the Sea (2007) and Raymond and Hannah (2005). He currently writes “A Thousand Words About Our Culture,” a monthly column for Esquire magazine, in addition to opinion pieces for The Atlantic Monthly, The New York Times Magazine, The New Republic, Salon.com, The Globe and Mail and The Toronto Star. He received a doctorate in Early Modern Drama in 2005 from the University of Toronto. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: Gender norms and how they affect modern relationships. Why housework is where gender politics comes to a head in our lives. The conversation around biological and cultural mechanisms at play in gender roles and relationships. The modern rise of marriage and the great transition culturally. Why women are a driving force in global economics. Why men are doing more housework than ever before. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stacey Gorlicky is a registered Psychotherapist and author of the book "Food, Sex and You". She was also the former host of a live call in show "Mind Matters". Her areas of specialization are addiction, trauma, anxiety and depression. As an Addictions Counselor, Stacey studied at Ontario's McMasters University (CCACCF). She also studied in Transformational Arts College, graduating with honors as a Certified Psychotherapist and Spiritual Director. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: The similarities between our relationships with food and sex. How to avoid 'emotional eating'. Reaching out to your partner to help them in a non-threatening way. Practicing self love and forgiveness. How trauma in early life affects our current relationships. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: The 6 step process to heal false beliefs and love yourself. Why it's so important to ask, "How am I treating myself?" How we can reduce self-judgement and show more self-compassion. Why loving ourselves will help our relationship flourish. How to take responsibility for your feelings. And much more! Dr. Margaret Paul holds a PhD in psychology, is a relationship expert, public speaker, consultant and artist. She has successfully worked with thousands and taught classes and seminars for over 48 years. Dr. Paul is also a bestselling author, popular Huffington Post and MindBodyGreen writer and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing process, and the related SelfQuest® self-healing software program - recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Marni Battista has a Masters in Education and is a Certified Life Coach by the International Coaching Federation. She is also a Master Practitioner at administering an Energy Assessment, “The D-Factor,” that helps clients pinpoint exactly why they are, or are not date-able, and what types of messages they are unconsciously broadcasting to others based on their thoughts, feelings, actions and attitudes. Marni is also trained as a Facilitator and Mentor Trainer by the Hoffman Institute, a world-renowned leader in personal development. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: How to take responsibility for the bad relationships you continue to encounter. Why 'Power Posing' is a valuable tool to help you find the right partner. The importance of realizing we are most disappointed when our expectations don't meet our reality. Focusing on the process and not on the outcome to get more out of your dating life. How to practice listening to your intuition. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mirel Goldstein is an expert marriage therapist in New Jersey who has been successfully lecturing and writing about marriage, as well as helping couples reignite the spark in their relationships, for the past 15 years. Her popular blog can be found on her website goldsteintherapy.com. Her YouTube video called, "How to recognize dismissive attachment behaviors in yourself and others", has inspired thousands of couples to address attachment issues that may be getting in the way of deeper closeness in their relationships. In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: How to balance emotional risk with emotional safety in a relationship. Avoiding the long term relationship 'comfort zone' and keeping the passion in your relationship. Why you can never fully know your partner and why that's a good thing. Learning to be more vulnerable with your partner. The importance of not holding your emotions inside. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: The importance of recognizing the gender expectations we project onto our partners. How straight couples can learn from gay men's greater openness toward sexuality. The key to arguing in a productive manner. Working to become more empathetic toward your partner. How looking at your partner as an 8-year-old child can improve your relationship. Why it's important to work on what you personally want in your relationship. And much more! Dr. Greg Cason is best known as Dr. Greg from the Bravo series LA Shrinks. He appears regularly as a psychological expert on The Nancy Grace Show and has also appeared on a large variety of other TV programs. His expertise was also featured in documentaries such as The Butch Factor, The Adonis Factor and most recently, The Secret Tapes of the O.J. Case. He writes the psychology column for Frontiers magazine and has been featured in The Huffington Post, The Advocate, People, and several others. Dr. Cason currently teaches at UCLA and is a licensed psychologist in Los Angeles specializing in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and relationship issues. Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: What her students love about her 17-year old college course, Marriage 101. How our life experiences affect how we love. Learning to be less reactive and appreciate our partner more. Why it can be valuable to have the difficult conversations with a therapist. The importance of making time and space to look within ourselves. And much more! Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, and the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. She received her PhD in Counseling Psychology and a graduate certificate in Gender Studies from Northwestern University in 2001. In addition to teaching and training marriage and family therapy graduate students, Solomon teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. Solomon is a frequent speaker and media commentator on relationship topics and you can visit her online at dralexandrasolomon.com. Click here to for this episode's show notes page: Dr. Alexandra Solomon Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: How to calm your partner's or your own fierce inner critic. The tools to help your partner, or yourself, practice more self-compassion. Why it's important to simply 'be with' your partner sometimes and not try to fix every situation. The 3 steps to practicing more self-compassion. How practicing more self-compassion can help your relationship. And much more! Kristy Arbon is the founder and CEO of HeartWorks Training LLC, a business set up to support women in their practice of mindfulness, self-compassion and shame resilience using the practices of mindful self-compassion, Internal Family Systems, Brene Brown's shame resilience model, Buddhist philosophy and exploration of archetypes. Kristy is a qualified social worker, a certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and has completed Internal Family Systems Level 1 training. She is passionate about supporting women in taking care of themselves so that they can go out into the world and courageously do the important work they are called for. We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : ) When you contribute you will also get awesome exclusive benefits for our patrons. You can sign up to donate as little as $2 per month to support the podcast. Any little bit helps! Sign up to support the podcast today. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information ,but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: How to deal with our own, or our partner's, insecure attachment style. What to do if you or your partner has a low self-esteem. How to work on changing your attachment style to a secure attachment. Creating habits as a couple that will help the an insecure partner feel secure. How to improve your self-esteem to make your relationship better. And much more! Amanda Carver is a psychotherapist who lives and works in Ottawa, Ontario. She has worked many years with adolescents and families struggling with trauma and mental health challenges. She works heavily from an attachment perspective, understanding how early relationships with our parents and other important people in our lives affects how we connect with people later in our lives. Amanda is a mother of two young children and a partner in a 13 year relationship. She now runs her own private practice. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: How to get out of the cycle of habitually picking the wrong partner. Where insecure attachment is formed and how to deal with it. Why learning about yourself can help you find the right partner. What to do if you or the person you are with has a low self esteem. Why it's important to think of yourself as a 'gift' to whoever you are in a relationship with. And much more! Kristen Craren lives and works as a relationship therapist in Saint Louis, Missouri. Her life's work has been devoted to learning about relationships and helping clients improve theirs. Kristen's clients consistently say they love coming to see her because she goes above and beyond to help them reach their goals. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why it’s important to know your value and that you are deserving of love. The importance of trust and respect in relationships. How the Myers Briggs assessment can help you if you are single or in a relationship. Challenging what we are socialized to believe about relationships. The importance of investing in yourself and your relationship and how to do it. And much more! Sandra Fischer is the creator of Relationship Reveal™: 64 Cards for discovery, skill-building, and growth, a new card game that gets to the heart of what matters in happy, healthy relationships. Using Relationship Reveal is an active, engaging way to explore fears and provides a language to allow for greater vulnerability. Sandra writes for businesses, creates fiction and consults specializing in communications, people development and optimizing organizational effectiveness. With 25 years of experience working for companies including Microsoft, Amazon and AT&T, her experiences have been as unique and broad as managing the homepage for Amazon to developing an online marketing campaign for a literary novel launch. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why you should not assume your partner wants affection. The value of asking this about your relationship, "What would I ask for if I had no fear or judgement?". How to communicate about sex in a relationship. Changing the culture of sex negativity. Treating your sexuality as a gift. And much more! Mike Domitrz is one of the leading experts for transforming our sexual culture to one being built on consent and respect. For over two decades, educators, military, families, colleges and individuals of all have sought out Mike and his impactful programs and speaking engagements. You may have seen him as the featured expert on Dateline NBC's "My Kid Would Never Do That." He is also the founder of the globally recognized "The DATE SAFE Project." I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to set up an online dating profile that will attract the right kind of partner. Why it's important to just 'observe' online profiles of potential matches and not 'create a story' of who that person is. Why you cannot draw to you what you don't already have within. Dating right after a breakup. How to recognize the patterns of your failed relationships and fix them to create a successful relationship. Exercises to discover the qualities that you truly want and need from a relationship partner. And much more! Lisa Copeland is a leading internationally recognized expert and dating coach for women over 50. She is also the author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 on Amazon and is a regular contributor to The Huffington Post and The Huffington Post Women. Her website, FindAQualityMan.com was named One of the Top 5 Online Dating Service by The Examiner and One of the 10 Best Senior Dating Blogs by DatingAdvice.com. She hosts the weekly, You Can Find Love After 50 Show on Going Solo Network Radio. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The power dynamics involved in relationships. Some of the most interesting findings Dr. Gordon has uncovered in her relationship research and how they can help you. Why we stop seeing the good in a relationship and how to prevent this. How sleep deprivation affects relationships and how to deal with a lack of sleep besides simply sleeping more. How to focus on what you can do for your partner. And much more! Amie M. Gordon, PhD, is a social psychologist who researches romantic relationships. For over a decade, Dr. Gordon's work has helped shed light on the factors that help and harm romantic relationships. Currently she is working at the University of California, San Francisco where she is tackling questions about the role of sleep in relationships. Dr. Gordon's work has been published in over a dozen research articles focused on relationship topics such as perspective-taking, gratitude, conflict, sacrifice, depression and sleep. She also writes the blog, Between You and Me, for Psychology Today and provides relationship advice via short podcasts for Mindsail, a personal growth app. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices