Relationship Advice

Intimacy is an area of our relationships that can often be overlooked, especially if you've been together for a long time. The spark does not have to fade! There are simple and easy steps to take to create more intimacy and have more satisfaction in our relationships. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why checking in with your partner on a daily basis is a profoundly simple way to greatly improve your relationship. How to create and maintain the new and novel feelings we have early in our relationships. Understanding and communicating our attachment styles to help create more intimacy in our relationship. How our attachment styles can be changed for the better. Learning the different intimacy needs of your partner and how to communicate your own needs. And much more! Tim Cole is an Associate Professor at DePaul University where he studies how differences in people’s need for intimacy can lead to a betrayal of trust. He’s also the author of Broken Trust: Overcoming an Intimate Betrayal. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/140 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you or your partner struggling with making lasting, positive changes in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Songfinch: Songfinch brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. Visit Songfinch.com and enter the promo code IDO to get 10% off! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There can be many areas in our lives and relationships that can cause frustration and disappointment. Your sex life shouldn't be one of them. Learning how to communicate your needs and desires, understanding your partner's sex drive and confronting sex life negativity are just a few ways to prevent some of the common troubles many couples run into. Listen to today's show to prevent these common sex life pitfalls from wreaking havoc on your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to talk about sex, your desires and fantasies with your partner. Avoid getting distracted during sex and become more present for a better experience. Navigate the desire discrepancies in your relationship. Do you or your partner want to have sex more often? There are ways to compromise around this! Understanding your partners sex drive and what 'gets their motor going'. Confronting any negativity surrounding your sex life. And much more! Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed sex therapist whose work focuses on helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it's become stressful, negative, disappointing or pressured. She teaches, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 9-phase experiential process that allows them real world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life. She is the host of the Better Sex podcast and will be releasing her first book later this year. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/139 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Does your sex life need some help? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors YogaGlo: YogaGlo is yoga and meditation website that you can use anywhere. You can practice in your own space, on your own time, for just eighteen dollars per month! That’s less than a single class at most yoga studios! They have thousands of classes, at all levels, taught by some of the best teachers in the world. Get your first two weeks of YogaGlo FREE when you sign up on YogaGlo.com/IDO. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Creating the change you want in your relationship starts with one person: YOU! Don't wait around for your partner to change (hint: you won't be able to change them on your own anyway). Listen to today's episode and use these actionable tips to get your relationship out of a rut or to take it from good to great! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to pay more attention to your partner with some simple exercises. How to express gratitude toward your partner to help your relationship flourish. Honoring the differences between you and your partner to keep everyone happy. Prioritizing your time together for maximum relationship happiness. How to express love in small ways. It's the little things that add up. And much more! Dr. Kathy McCoy is a psychotherapist and award-winning journalist and author of more than a dozen books including the recently published "We Don't Talk Anymore". She is a contributing writer for PsychologyToday.com and has been a frequent guest on national television including numerous appearances on The Today Show and two on Oprah. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/138 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you or your partner struggling with making lasting, positive changes in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors RXBAR Kids: RXBAR Kids is a clean label snack bar made with high - quality, real ingredients designed specifically for kids. With egg whites, fruit and nuts as the base, RXBAR Kids contain 7 grams of protein and have absolutely zero added sugar and no gluten, soy, dairy, or bad stuff. They are a delicious, clean and convenient snack kids love. For 25% off your first order, visit RXBAR.com/IDO and enter the promo code IDO at checkout. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feeling anxious? Anxiety can manifest itself in many ways that prove detrimental to our own personal health, as well as our relationships. That sense of uneasiness, worrying about the future and the general demands of life are all forms of anxiety. Don't let anxiety bog you down and negatively affect the relationship with yourself and your partner any longer! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How anxiety can manifest as reactivity to your partner and how to change this to responsiveness. Why some anxiety can be good and how to best channel this energy. Becoming aware of your anxiety and taking steps to manage it. How to slow things down rather than approaching everything with a sense of urgency. How anxiety lives in the body and the physiological responses we can create to cope with our anxiety. And much more! Dr. Denise Fournier is a mindfulness-based psychotherapist and coach in Miami, FL. Through her practice, Evergreen Therapy, she works with individuals and couples using an approach that blends modern research and Eastern philosophy. In addition to her work with clients, Denise is also an adjunct professor at Nova Southeastern University and a regular contributor to the Psychology Today. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/137 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you or your partner struggling with anxiety? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors YogaGlo: YogaGlo is yoga and meditation website that you can use anywhere. You can practice in your own space, on your own time, for just eighteen dollars per month! That’s less than a single class at most yoga studios! They have thousands of classes, at all levels, taught by some of the best teachers in the world. Get your first two weeks of YogaGlo FREE when you sign up on YogaGlo.com/IDO. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the benefits of being in a relationship is helping your partner become their best self. We can achieve this by empowering our partner through words of affirmation, validating their feelings and many other simple exercises. Listen to today's show to learn how to help your partner become the best version of themselves! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How creating a 'best self' nickname for your partner can give them a huge boost and benefit your relationship. Validating your partner to help them heal childhood wounds. The importance of assuming your partner wants to come through for you. Creating an affirmation of your deepest desires that you can live into. Acting as if you're having an affair with your partner. And much more! Dr. Diana Kirschner was a frequent guest on The Today Show and starred in a PBS TV Special on love. She is the best-selling author of Love in 90 Days and 30 Days to Love: The Ultimate Relationship Turnaround Guide. Dr. Diana has helped thousands all over the world to find passionate lasting love. Her free Dating Tips & Relationship Advice newsletter is available at lovein90days.com. Free Gift: Get Dr. Diana's free gift of a 40 minute Love Mentor Coaching session by visiting her website Love In 90 Days and enter referred by I DO on the form. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/136 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you or your partner struggling boosting each other up? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Lola: LOLA is a monthly subscription that delivers a fully customizable box of ORGANIC cotton tampons, pads and liners right to your doorstep. For 40% off your first order, visit mylola.com and enter the promo code IDO when you subscribe! Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have weird pet peeves that our partner's seem to always break the 'rules' on. Chewing too loud, not squeezing the toothpaste out of the tube correctly, leaving dirty clothes on the floor....the list goes on. These little things can create conflict in a relationship, especially over time. Listen to today's show to learn how to communicate with your partner, and not let small things annoy you. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to step back and ask ourselves why we're having little fights, and what's really going on underneath. Why every communication is a negotiation with our partner that we must understand. The importance of active listening and validation in communication with your partner. How to deescalate an argument so that it can be more productive for your relationship. Decompressing to help manage communication when you or your partner is stressed. And much more! David Ludden is a professor of psychology at Georgia Gwinnett College in Altanta. He is the author of the textbook "The Psychology of Language: An Integrated Approach." His also maintains the blog "Talking Apes" on the "Psychology Today" website. Much of his writing focuses on the role of communication in building and maintaining relationships. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/135 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you or your partner becoming irritated with each other because of annoying behaviors? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To sign up with Zola and receive a $50 credit towards your registry, go to ZOLA.com/ido. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Want to have better sex!? If you answered, YES!, then this episode is for you. It turns out that as relationships mature, the sex tends to become less frequent and less passionate. Don't despair. There are simple steps to help improve your sex life right here in this episode. Listen and learn! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why being aware of when you're aroused and what that feels like is the first step to better sex. Dumb and happy arousal and why it's important in your relationship. Why women are increasingly less satisfied in bed and what to do about it (hint: smartphones and porn). The importance of taking your time during sex and not simply having the goal of climaxing. Why you should 'simmer' and not only get aroused when you are going to have sex. Understanding that everyone is responsible for their own arousal. Learn what 'lazy sex' is and how it can help your relationship. And much more! Stephen Snyder, M.D. is a sex and couples therapist, psychiatrist, and writer in New York City. He is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai in New York City, and chairman of the Consumer Book Award Committee for the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). He has treated patients at his practice for 25 years, is a guest on major media outlets nationwide, and writes for Psychology Today and Huffington Post. He lives with his wife and children in New York City. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/134 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you and your partner struggling with having great sex in your long-lasting relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors YogaGlo: YogaGlo is yoga and meditation website that you can use anywhere. You can practice in your own space, on your own time, for just eighteen dollars per month! That’s less than a single class at most yoga studios! They have thousands of classes, at all levels, taught by some of the best teachers in the world. Get your first two weeks of YogaGlo FREE when you sign up on YogaGlo.com/IDO. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that well over half of the communication you have in your relationship is nonverbal? We all know that feeling when your partner 'needs to talk'. They may touch your shoulder, or their tone or facial expressions change. These are nonverbal communications that are most recognizable, but there are hundreds of nonverbal cues we give and receive in our relationship each day. The way in which we give positive or negative nonverbal communication is a key to creating a successful relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn more about the importance of nonverbal communication in your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how nodding, leaning and tilting with your head can create positive non-verbal cues for your partner. Understand the gender differences in how men and women give and receive non-verbal communication. Why the tone of your voice can be a critical component of successful non-verbal communication. How reading body language can affect your relationship. Why something as simple as placing your hand on your partners shoulder can help your relationship. And much more! Vanessa Van Edwards is a published best selling author and behavioral investigator. Vanessa is lead investigator at her human behavior research lab, the Science of People. She designs original research experiments to crack the code of human behavior. Her unique work has been featured on NPR, the Wall Street Journal, the Today Show and USA Today. She has written for CNN, Fast Company and Forbes. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/133 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you and your partner struggling understanding each other's nonverbal communication? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Barkbox: For humans, BarkBox is a delivery of 4 to 6 natural treats and super fun toys curated around a surprise theme each month. For dogs, BarkBox is like the joy of a million belly scratches. Whether it’s your partner, daughter or friend who wants a monthly surprise for their beloved pup, BarkBox is the perfect gift for your loved one! For a FREE month of BarkBox, visit BarkBox.com/IDO when you subscribe to the 6 or 12 month plan! Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We've all been in an argument where we are so sure we're right. We'll go to great lengths to stand our ground and prove that we are right and our partner is wrong. News flash, this is not helpful for our relationships. Learn the tools to defuse a situation where you or your partner thinks they are right and an argument begins. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Recognizing that when we argue we often go away from the content of the argument and go toward feelings. How to go beneath the content of an argument to discover the trigger for the conflict. Why arguments often begin with the relationship we have with ourselves and not our partner. How to wait and have a productive conversation when we're not in an escalated emotional state. Validating your partners feelings to have a productive conversation and create a stronger relationship. And much more! Ellen Gendelman is a psychotherapist and professional coach who specializes in working with relationships. She cherishes her own roles as wife, mother and grandmother. A veteran educator and motivational speaker, she has a passion for helping people grow and maximize their potential. Ellen is excited to have recently authored her second book ‘When Ice Cream Is Not Enough.’ Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/132 Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you and your partner struggling with always being right? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors RXBAR Kids: RXBAR Kids is a clean label snack bar made with high - quality, real ingredients designed specifically for kids. With egg whites, fruit and nuts as the base, RXBAR Kids contain 7 grams of protein and have absolutely zero added sugar and no gluten, soy, dairy, or bad stuff. They are a delicious, clean and convenient snack kids love. For 25% off your first order, visit RXBAR.com/IDO and enter the promo code IDO at checkout. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is talking about sex in our relationships so hard sometimes? Not satisfied in bed? Unhappy with the frequency of sex in your relationship? Do you want to simply spice up your sex life? Sex is a huge part of relationships, and it's often not talked about at all, or in a productive way. Listen to today's episode to learn how to talk about sex with your partner and ignite your sex life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to avoid a 'sexless' relationship (having sex less than 10 times per year - 1/3 of couples are actually 'sexless'). Get the tools to have a productive conversation about sex with your partner. The importance of giving your partner a warning that you want to have a sex talk. Understand why it's critical that the 'sex talk' is an ongoing conversation. Learn how to communicate the change in your sex life you want to see in a positive manner. Find out the steps to having the who, what, where, when, why conversation about sex in your relationship and learn how it can help tremendously. Laurie Watson is a certified sex therapist, author, speaker, and educator on sexuality, intimacy and relationships. Laurie also co-hosts a podcast with Dr. Adam Matthews where they talk easily and frankly about the challenges of monogamy, and how couples can have an exciting, meaningful sex life in marriage. Full show notes and episode links at http://idopodcast.com/131 Download this episode's freebie: Step By Step Guide to Having A Successful Sex Talk with Your Partner Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with infidelity in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Songfinch: Songfinch brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. Visit Songfinch.com and enter the promo code IDO to get 10% off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you struggling to achieve a healthy work-life balance in your relationship? Do you feel like your partner is focusing more on work and less on you and the relationship? It's easy for our relationships to take a back seat to a busy job or a new business venture. There are only so many hours in a day, and much of the time is spent working. Don't let work ruin your relationship. Listen to today's show to find out the key tools to balance your work life with your romantic life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to manage your time between work and your relationship. Creating weekly agreements to manage expectations and avoid conflicts. How to be present with your spouse and forget about work while at home. Setting boundaries on when to talk about work and when to 'keep it at the office'. The importance of checking in with your partner and letting them know you care about their work, while not letting it overshadow the relationship. Using shared calendars to help manage time, expectations and work-relationship balance. Dorcas Cheng-Tozun is an award-winning writer and author of Start, Love, Repeat: How to Stay in Love with Your Entrepreneur in a Crazy Start-up World. She is a columnist for Inc.com and has written for dozens of other publications. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her entrepreneur husband and their two young boys Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/130 Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with achieving a work-relationship balnce? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To sign up with Zola and receive a $50 credit towards your registry, go to ZOLA.com/ido. Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Infidelity is unfortunately a huge part of the modern marriage. If we can understand why men and women cheat then we are halfway towards solving the problem. Once a partner has committed physical or emotional infidelity, it is important to learn how to heal the relationship. Listen to today's show to learn about healing from a cheating spouse or how to avoid it altogether! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to heal the broken trust from a cheating spouse. Why men tend to cheat more because of opportunity and women for a larger variety of reasons. How a man can earn back trust and heal the relationship. Why a man's desire to 'fix things' can be detrimental to healing after infidelity. And much more! Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S, is a digital-age intimacy and relationships expert specializing in infidelity and addictions—in particular sex, porn, and love addiction. He is the author of several highly regarded books, including “Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating,” and “Sex Addiction 101. Currently, he is Senior Vice President of National Clinical Development for Elements Behavioral Health, creating and overseeing addiction and mental health treatment programs for more than a dozen high-end treatment facilities. Full show notes and episode links at http://idopodcast.com/129 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with infidelity in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every area of your life. Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible. Audible: Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at audibletrial.com/idopodcast. Audible.com is the premier provider of digital audiobooks. Audible has over 180,000 titles to choose from in every genre: thrillers, business, romance, comedy, sci-fi and more. Audible titles play on iPhone, Kindle, Android and more than 500 devices for listening anytime, anywhere. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's face it, getting old sucks! As we age, we may also face daily obstacles of intimacy along the way. Whether you're 25 or 55, these obstacles can be increased if you suffer from a chronic illness, depression or any other health issues. Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate the relationships intimacy issues involved with getting older or living with a chronic illness. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how unrealistic relationship depictions can shape how we feel and act in our own relationships. How to deal with sexual functioning issues, fatigue and the insecurities surrounding these issues. Tips for communicating effectively about intimacy issues and other relationship areas. The importance of being willing and ready to hear about changes from your partner. How to be honest with the people in our lives. And much more! Logan Levkoff, Ph.D., is a nationally recognized expert on sexuality, sexual health, relationships, intimacy, parenting, and sexual politics. She is also a TV personality and best-selling author of three books, and is a contributor to online resource Arthritis.com. Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/128 Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling intimacy in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To sign up with Zola and receive a $50 credit towards your registry, go to ZOLA.com/ido. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The next time you want to shout, "Hey, you a**hole!", at the person who cut you off, try practicing some compassion. No really, it's the single greatest tool to help you navigate rush hour traffic, a screaming child or a partner who has been getting on your nerves. It can sound a bit 'woo woo', but learning to practice more compassion toward ourselves and others can have a profound impact on our relationships and overall well being. Listen to today's show to get the tools and tips to bring more compassion into your life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understand the balance involved in creating a truly compassionate life. The tools and tips to become more compassionate to yourself and others on a daily basis. Learn how to be curious about what the other person is experiencing in order to become more compassionate. How understanding that everybody has a life story will help you be more compassionate. The tips to realizing that kindness is always possible. And much more! Laura Jack, author of #1 best selling book, The Compassion Code: How to say the right thing when the wrong thing happens, teaches compassionate communication and how we can relate to one another more effectively during the challenging moments in life. Her mission is to cultivate a culture of compassion, starting with self, and to create a better understanding of loss and its accompanying grief. Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/127 Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling practicing compassion in your life? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. HelloFresh: HelloFresh is a meal kit delivery service that shops, plans, and delivers your favorite step-by-step recipes and pre- measured ingredients so you can just cook, eat, and enjoy. For $30 off your first week of HelloFresh, visit hellofresh.com and enter the promo code: ido30 If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Relationships are hard — add your drunk uncle, traveling with kids, buying presents and everything that comes with the holidays, and you have a recipe for a mental meltdown. No need to worry! Today's episode will give you the tools and advice to manage stress around the holiday's and in everyday life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to tolerate each others differences and not try to fix them. Find out what 'speed arguing' is and how it can be a valuable tool for your relationship. Learn why it's important not to take your partner's mood personally. Tips to create rules that will help you navigate stressful situations. And much more! Winifred Reilly is a marriage and family therapist, with a private practice in Berkeley, CA. In her thirty-five years of clinical practice she has treated hundreds of couples—many who were convinced they were headed for divorce. Winifred has been a guest lecturer on marriage and sexuality, and her writing has appeared on The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, xoJane, and on her relationship advice blog, Speaking of Marriage. Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/126 Episode Freebie download: Managing Stress In Your Relationship Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with dating and parenting? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Storyworth: StoryWorth makes it easy and fun for your loved ones to share their stories, with weekly emailed story prompts - questions you’ve never thought to ask. At the end of the year, they’ll get their stories bound in a beautiful hardcover book. Strengthen your family bonds, and get to know your loved one in a whole new way. For $20 off, visit Storyworth.com/ido If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Being a single or divorced parent and dating can be difficult. Whether you are dating someone with kids, or you yourself have kids from a previous relationship, these circumstances present all kinds of potential problems. Learn how to navigate these issues with a world's leading expert on resilience and family dynamics. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to create structure for your kids to help ease the transition of divorce and dating. Find out if it's OK for your kids to stay in touch with an ex who is not their parent. Understand the importance of being genuine with your child when dating new people. Learn why it's important to not feel guilty about dating. And much more! Dr. Michael Ungar is the Canada Research Chair in Child, Family and Community Resilience at Dalhousie University, and the founder and Director of the Resilience Research Center. He is among the best known writers and researchers on the topic of resilience in the world. As both a family therapist and professor of Social Work, he has helped to identify important factors that influence the resilience of children and families during periods of change and stress. He is the author of 14 books that have been translated into five languages, numerous manuals for parents, educators, and employers, as well as more than 150 scientific papers. Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/125 Interested in learning more about our Costa Rica Couples Retreat? The retreat is built to be the ultimate vacation for couples looking to have fun, try new things and build a stronger relationship in paradise. Click here to learn more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with dating and parenting? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To sign up with Zola and receive a $50 credit towards your registry, go to ZOLA.com/ido. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Navigating the complexities of an inter-faith relationship can be difficult, especially during the holiday season. Forty-nine perfect of unmarried relationships and 39% of marriages are inter-faith, and the numbers continues to grow. Today's episode will help you learn how to communicate with your partner during the holiday's and beyond. Don't be the Grinch this holiday season, listen this episode to get the tools to maintain a happy and healthy relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to communicate about your differences and establish rules to operate under in your relationship. Understand why our needs are not always met in a relationship, and why that's OK. How to deal with parents who might be pushing their religious views on you or your partner. Remembering that you got together because of your differences and this is what should be appealing about your partner. It would be pretty boring if you agreed on everything! And much more! Diane Barth is a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst in New York City where she works with individuals, couples, and families and leads private study groups. She also offers workshops for therapists around the country. Her articles have been published in numerous professional journals and books. Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/124 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with your partner spending too much time at work or on their phone? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Storyworth: StoryWorth makes it easy and fun for your loved ones to share their stories, with weekly emailed story prompts - questions you’ve never thought to ask. At the end of the year, they’ll get their stories bound in a beautiful hardcover book. Strengthen your family bonds, and get to know your loved one in a whole new way. For $20 off, visit Storyworth.com/ido If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Technology and work are an integral part of living in the 21st century. While both can be great, they can also create a huge strain on our relationships. It's common for a person to have feelings of betrayal when their partner is always working, talking on the phone or browsing social media. Learning to create awareness around these issues and communicate through them is critical to having a successful relationship in today's world. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How using 'I' statements can be the difference between successfully solving a relationship problem and a full-scale blowup. Why getting out of the house can be the key to a productive conversation within your relationship. How to discuss and create boundaries between work, technology and your home relationship life. Forming a contract and schedule for when your partner will take off work to spend time on the relationship. Why it's important to remember that we cannot change our partner. The 10-minute rule and how it can help your relationship flourish. And much more! Dr. Terri Orbuch (aka The Love Doctor®) is a world renowned relationship expert, author, speaker, therapist and professor. She is also the director of a landmark study, funded by National Institutes of Health (NIH), where she has been following the same couples for almost 3 decades. Dr. Orbuch is widely published in scientific journals and the author of “5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great.” and “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.” Dr. Orbuch has been featured in such publications as The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Reader’s Digest, USA Today, Women’s Health, Cosmopolitan and TIME magazine and has appeared on The Today Show, MSNBC, The Katie Couric Show, ESPN, HuffPost Live, and CNN. Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/123 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with your partner spending too much time at work or on their phone? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. HelloFresh: HelloFresh is a meal kit delivery service that shops, plans, and delivers your favorite step-by-step recipes and pre- measured ingredients so you can just cook, eat, and enjoy. For $30 off your first week of HelloFresh, visit hellofresh.com and enter the promo code: ido30 If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There is nothing harder than being madly in love with someone and not being able to see them everyday. Whether you live in another state or your partner works a lot, finding success in a long distance relationship can be hard. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to create a successful long distance relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to gauge if your long distance relationship is going to last. Find out why you should avoid texting your partner too often. How to create novelty and passion to keep the relationship alive and thriving. How simply having kid's can make a relationship feel like it's long distance. Why it's important not to skip over uncomfortable relationship conversations. And much more! Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is an award-winning author and relationship expert. She is the founder and director of Paulette Sherman Group, a psychotherapy and relationship coaching practice and home of numerous award-winning books, including Dating From the Inside Out published by Simon & Schuster. For more than 20 years, Paulette changed the lives of thousands of clients, and shared insight with millions more through expert commentary on over 30 media outlets including MSN, USA Today, The New York Post, The New York Times and many more. She lives in Brooklyn, NY with her husband and two children and works in Manhattan. Full Show Notes and episode links at http://idopodcast.com/122 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with a long distance relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To sign up with Zola and receive a $50 credit towards your registry, go to ZOLA.com/ido. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Managing and communicating around the subject of finances can be a critical part of any relationship. If you're dating, how do you decide who picks up the bill? Recently engaged? Will you combine or keep your finances separate? Financial disagreements in long term relationships and marriage can become a huge problem. Listen to today's show and learn how to navigate the ins and outs of finance in your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to communicate about spending habits and how you view money in your relationship. Find out the best ways to manage your money in a long term relationship. How to decide on whether or not to combine bank accounts. Learn how to decide who will pick up the bill for dinner on your next date. This is not the 19th century, women are working and making money too! And much more! Stefanie O'Connell is a millennial money expert, speaker and author of the book, “The Broke and Beautiful Life". Stefanie's website, StefanieOConnell.com, is a destination for millennials who want to feel as much clarity with their money as they do confidence in their lives. Her work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Forbes, SUCCESS magazine, MONEY.com and many more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/121 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with finances in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Casper: Casper is a sleep brand that continues to revolutionize its line of products to create an exceptionally comfortable sleep experience, one night at a time. Start sleeping ahead of the curve with Casper. Get $50 toward any mattress purchase by visiting Casper.com/ido and using the promo code ido at checkout. Terms and conditions apply. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Infidelity is something that can affect both unhappy, and seemingly happy relationships. That's right, research has shown a significant number of partners are cheating while in a happy relationship. Esther Perel breaks down how to deal with infidelity and a range of other relationship topics that we know you'll enjoy. Esther is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships, and we couldn't have been happier to have her on the show to share her extensive knowledge. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How the rulebooks for marriages and relationships are being reinvented. Why people cheat in a happy relationship. How to avoid the trap of becoming a narrow version of yourself while in a relationship. What to do when there has been cheating in your relationship. Talking about non-monogamy with your partner, and why it's important even if you don't want to explore an open relationship. How to cultivate the healthiest relationship possible. And much more! Belgian psychotherapist, Esther Perel, is the New York Times bestselling author of The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered nearly 20 million views, and she is also the host of the popular Audible original podcast Where Should We Begin? Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/120 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with infidelity in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The human condition of loneliness is one that everyone experiences. Feeling lonely is common even for those in relationships. Learning how to deal with loneliness is important whether it's your own or your partners. Listen to today’s show to learn how to overcome loneliness in your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to look inward, rather than outward to your partner, to help deal with loneliness. Why it’s important to accept your own, or your partners loneliness. How to frame loneliness as a necessary stage before we make a big change in our lives. How to talk about loneliness with your partner and discuss from a place of acceptance. Mirror meditation as a tool to deal with loneliness. And much more! Dr. Tara Well is a professor of psychology at Barnard College of Columbia University in New York City. She has over 20 years of experience in conducting research on what motivates us and influences our perceptions as well as extensive training in meditation, yoga, and other mind-body healing modalities. Her research has been funded by the National Institute of Mental Health and the National Science Foundation and has been published in the top professional journals in psychology. She teaches classes in personality, motivation, health, and women's leadership. Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/119 Our goal is to create content that will help make your relationship great. Please take just 5 minutes to tell us how we can help you in your relationship. Take Survey here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with loneliness in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. HelloFresh: HelloFresh is a meal kit delivery service that shops, plans, and delivers your favorite step-by-step recipes and pre- measured ingredients so you can just cook, eat, and enjoy. For $30 off your first week of HelloFresh, visit hellofresh.com and enter the promo code: ido30 If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chances are you've been through a breakup at some point in your life. Whether it was a recent and difficult breakup, or a high school sweetheart from years ago, these events shape who we are and how we form new relationships. Learning how to accept and validate your feelings is critical to moving on and forming a new happy and healthy relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how to examine your past relationships to improve where you are now. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to accept and validate your feelings surrounding a breakup. The steps to completing a through investigation of your beliefs so that they do not negatively affect your current or future relationships. Examining your fears surrounding relationships so they do not have power over you. How to deal with a partner who has a past breakup that is affecting your current relationship. Writing therapy to help process your past. And much more! Rachel Dack is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC), Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC) and Relationship Coach. Rachel is the owner of Rachel Dack Counseling LLC, a private psychotherapy, relationship coaching and consulting practice located in Bethesda, Maryland. With a Master’s degree in Clinical Counseling from Johns Hopkins University, Rachel specializes in supporting individuals and couples in achieving healthy mindsets, decreased stress, satisfying relationships, positive wellbeing and love. Her areas of expertise include relationships, dating, anxiety, self-esteem, mindfulness and depression. Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/118 Click here for this episode’s freebie: The Bad Breakup Blueprint – Learn how to accept and validate your feelings while preparing yourself for a new happy and healthy relationship. Our goal is to create content that will help make your relationship great. Please take just 5 minutes to tell us how we can help you in your relationship. Take Survey here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling with feelings from a breakup or relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! There are a tons of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's easy to rationalize the negative ways we talk or act toward our partner. In fact, rationalizing bad behavior often leads to conflict and the eroding of a relationship. Listen to this episode to learn why excuses and rationalizations creep into even the best of marriages, and how help couples identify and eliminate them. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why it's so hard to be self aware when emotions are high and how to change this. Defending yourself versus being defensive and the important distinction between each. Why using "I" statements instead of "You" can make a huge improvement in the communication in your relationship. How to become self aware in order to avoid rationalizing bad behavior. Why we have negative reactions to being accused and how to change this communication on both sides. And much more! Jason Whiting, Ph.D., is a professor at Brigham Young University who studies deception, conflict, and abuse in relationships, with the goal of helping couples become more loving and authentic. His book, Love Me True: Overcoming the Surprising Ways We Deceive in Relationships, looks at how partners can be more honest with themselves and each other. In addition to teaching, studying, and writing about relationships, Whiting is a licensed marriage and family therapist who works with couples in a clinical context. Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/117 New Blog Post: The 4 Big Relationships Don'ts Our goal is to create content that will help make your relationship great. Please take just 5 minutes to tell us how we can help you in your relationship. Take Survey here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you or your partner struggle with rationalizing bad behavior in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. FindYourTrainer.com: Today’s show is sponsored by FindYourTrainer.com, America’s largest personal trainer network that matches you with your perfect personal trainer. Train anywhere, anytime. Get $50 off your first session when you visit FindYourTrainer.com/IDO with Promo Code: IDo If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The incidence of infidelity in the United States is greater than 50%. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to realize that we're doing something wrong. A huge part of preventing infidelity is communication with your partner. For example, have you communicated your deepest sexual desires to your partner without fear of judgement? Today's show will outline the steps to share feelings like this and to affair proof your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to come to terms with the fact that we are all sexual beings, and will find people other than our partner attractive. Avoiding the irrational belief in your relationship that, "we love each other and therefore will never stray." Facing your own fears of your partner being attracted to someone else. Learn to know the person you love on the deepest level possible. How to talk about these deep emotional feelings with your partner. Why the more you talk about your weaknesses, the stronger you and your relationship will become. And much more! Steven Ing is reframing an important conversation in society one about the intelligent management of human sexuality. He is a sought-after trainer, speaker and therapist, bringing nearly three decades of experience to his audiences and clients. His book, We're All Like This" (2015, Giant Publishing), is used as a text in Human Sexuality classes in university classrooms. Download this episode's freebie here! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/116 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you struggle with communicating your desires with your partner? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. FindYourTrainer.com: Today’s show is sponsored by FindYourTrainer.com, America’s largest personal trainer network that matches you with your perfect personal trainer. Train anywhere, anytime. Get $50 off your first session when you visit FindYourTrainer.com/IDO with Promo Code: IDo If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When expectations in your relationship don’t meet reality, disappointment is bound to happen. Whether you find yourself struggling with too high or too low expectations, finding the balance is key to being happier and more satisfied in your relationship. Listen to today’s show with Dr. Sarah Vannier to learn how to manage expectations and avoid disappointment in your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How creating false romantic expectations can hurt your relationship. Finding a balance in your relationship expectations so they aren't too high or too low. Examining your expectations to determine which are the most realistic. Learn if you have a growth romantic belief system or a destiny romantic belief system and how this will affect your relationships. How to keep intimacy for couples who are new parents. And much more! Dr. Sarah Vannier is a Postdoctoral Fellow working at Dalhousie University in Halifax, Nova Scotia. Her research tends to focus on the ways that we think about our sexual and romantic relationships and she recently published two papers looking at the link between violated romantic expectations (e.g., love at first sight, destiny) and relationship outcomes in young adults dating relationships. Right now Sarah is doing research looking at the ways to help new parents cope with the sexual and relationship challenges that come with early parenthood. Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you struggle with disappointment in your relationship from too high or too low expectations? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/115 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. FindYourTrainer.com: Today’s show is sponsored by FindYourTrainer.com, America’s largest personal trainer network that matches you with your perfect personal trainer. Train anywhere, anytime. Get $50 off your first session when you visit FindYourTrainer.com/IDO with Promo Code: IDo If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know our relationships would benefit from limiting the amount of time we spend on our phones. So, why is it so damn hard to put the phone down!? The average person spends about 4 hours each day on their phone - 4 HOURS! What if we spent 10% of that time nurturing our relationship? That's 10 full hours a month that can be dedicated to date nights. Yes, please! Listen to today's show to learn how to put your phone down and reconnect with yourself and your partner. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How a smart phone can ruin your relationship and the steps to prevent this. How our brains react to phone use in the same way as cocaine. Why creating awareness of an addiction to technology is the first step in treatment and improving your relationship. Tips to put your phone down and reconnect with yourself and your partner. How to have a serious conversation about dealing with technology in your relationship. And much more! Nancy Colier is a psychotherapist, interfaith minister, mindfulness teacher, relationship expert, blogger for psychology today and huff post, and the author of the new book, The Power of Off: The Mindful Way to Stay Sane in a Virtual World. Download this episode's freebie here! Join Our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/114 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. FindYourTrainer.com: Today’s show is sponsored by FindYourTrainer.com, America’s largest personal trainer network that matches you with your perfect personal trainer. Train anywhere, anytime. Get $50 off your first session when you visit FindYourTrainer.com/IDO with Promo Code: IDo If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

John Kim LMFT, The Angry Therapist, pioneered the online life coaching movement seven years ago after going through a divorce which led to his total re-birth. He quickly built a devoted following of tens of thousands of fans who loved the frank and authentic insights that he freely shared on social media. John became known as an unconventional therapist who worked out of the box, and when he built out a coaching team of his own, launched an entire movement to change the way we change. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why mutual respect should be a foundation of your relationship. How to address your partner in a non-blaming way for conflict resolution. Why it's important to respond and not react in your relationship. How to accept your partner for maximum relationship happiness. Why self awareness is one of the most valuable tools in a successful relationship. And much more! Download this episode's freebie here! Join Our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe The Love Tribe community is made up of I Do Podcast listeners and was created to help support you in making your relationship {even} better. We encourage you to share your success stories, tips and heartache. Although every relationship is DIFFERENT – be each other’s inspiration. We hope you join our group here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/113 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Megan Murray is the Senior Content Strategist and Editor-in-Chief at Zoosk, an online dating site and app. She splits her time between product management and writing and managing Zoosk's online publication, The Date Mix. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the top tools and insights to navigate the world of online dating. Find out how to send better messages to attract the right relationship match online. The counterintuitive reason removing your online dating filters can help you find true love. How to set up your online dating profile to attract the best partner. Find out how to time your messages for maximum response rates and interaction. Understand the biggest mistakes people make when online dating so you can avoid them. And much more! Download today's freebie here: The Ultimate Cheat Sheet to Online Dating - 5 Tips That Will Help You Meet Interesting People and Go On Great Dates Join Our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Want to hear more from us about this topics? We'll be doing a Facebook Live tomorrow (Thursday, September 14th) at 2pm on our Love Tribe group page! The Love Tribe community is made up of I Do Podcast listeners and was created to help support you in making your relationship {even} better. We encourage you to share your success stories, tips and heartache. Although every relationship is DIFFERENT – be each other’s inspiration. We hope you join our group here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/112 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Bernard Golden, the founder of Anger Management Education in Chicago, has been a practicing psychologist for almost forty years. He is the author of Overcoming Destructive Anger: Strategies That Work, Unlock Your Creative Genius and Healthy Anger: How to help children and teens manage their anger. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how you and your partner can manage your anger for a happier relationship. Understand that unless you are the ultimate enlightened being, you will experience some form of anger in your life. How to take a mental pause to scan your body and deal with anger appropriately. Why keeping an anger log can help you manage knee-jerk reactions and unnecessary anger. Using compassionate words with yourself and your partner to dissolve an angry situation. Why the ability to apologize is a critical element in dealing with angry blowups. And much more! Download today's freebie here: Step-by-Step Guide to Help Couples Manage Conflict Join Our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe The Love Tribe community is made up of I Do Podcast listeners and was created to help support you in making your relationship {even} better. We encourage you to share your success stories, tips and heartache. Although every relationship is DIFFERENT – be each other’s inspiration. We hope you join our group here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/111 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relationships and codependency. Shes counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books include Conquering Shame and Codependency, Codependency for Dummies, 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, How to Beat Perfectionism and many more. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How unrealistically high standards can hurt your relationship. Why becoming aware of self-talk and beliefs is important in dealing with perfectionism. Learn the type of perfectionist you or your partner are in order to improve the relationship. How to work with your inner critic. Learn how you or your partner can become a healthy perfectionist that does not damage the relationship. Why challenging your beliefs can be a valuable exercise in improving your relationship. And much more! Housekeeping Notes: We’ve created a Facebook Group: Love Tribe The Love Tribe community is made up of I Do Podcast listeners and was created to help support you in making your relationship {even} better. We encourage you to share your success stories, tips and heartache. Although every relationship is DIFFERENT – be each other’s inspiration. We hope you join our group here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/110 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D., M.P.P. researches and writes about decision-making from the origins of life to everyday life. He has written over 1100 articles on practical decision-making for his Psychology Today blog: Ambigamy: Insights for the deeply romantic and deeply skeptical and has a book coming out with Columbia University Press this October: Neither Ghost Nor Machine, the emergence and nature of selves. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to avoid escalating a disagreement into a fight in your relationship. Determining where the fight is coming from by asking, "Is it stemming from you, me or us?" Mirroring your partner to help talk your way through a disagreement. How going meta and thinking about how you are thinking can help resolve conflict in your relationship. Why it's important to not become the 'judge' of the disagreement with your partner. And much more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/109 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Zack Carter is an assistant professor of communication at Taylor University. His teaching and research efforts are conducted through the lens of social psychology. His areas of expertise are marriage fidelity, relationship development/management, the self, nonverbal communication, persuasion, social influence, and social media. Specifically, Dr. Carter is passionate about helping married couples, and those looking to marry, avoid blind spots in their communication with the opposite sex, face-to-face, online, and through texting, that could devastate their marriage relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to monitor social media use for a healthy marriage or relationship. Why online emotional infidelity can be just as damaging as an actual affair. How 'carefronting', rather than confronting, your partner is a more productive way to problem solve. Learn what Zach thinks about one-on-one friendships with the opposite sex when you are married or in a relationship. Find out if you should create a joint Facebook account with your partner. And much more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/108 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Vicki Larson is an award-winning journalist in the San Francisco Bay Area and Susan Pease Gadoua is a licensed therapist based in the San Francisco Bay Area and author of "Contemplating Divorce, A Step-by-Step Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go" and "Stronger Day by Day: Reflections for Healing and Rebuilding After Divorce ." Together they wrote "The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels". In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the many interesting alternatives to traditional marriage. Why it's important to be clear on what you want in your marriage or relationship. Why matching your expectations with your partner's is a key to a successful marriage. Open marriages and how they can be structured. Creating a contract for your relationship in order to find success. And much more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/107 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association and Senior Editor for the mental health website PsychAlive.org. She is the author of numerous articles and chapters and the co-author of several books including Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice, Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion, Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships and most recently The Self under Siege. Dr. Firestone is international trainer and speaker on: couple relationships, parenting, suicide, and violence prevention. She expert in the areas of suicide and violence and was involved in clinical training and applied research with her father Dr. Robert Firestone. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How vulnerability will help your relationship by creating more intimacy. Cultivating vulnerability in yourself and your partner. Why it's important to ask for what you DO want rather than what you DON'T want. How to get in touch with your real feelings underneath anger. Creating an atmosphere of safety in your relationship to talk about feelings. And much more! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/106 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah e72d9uh5 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Ilene S. Cohen, Ph.D., is a psychotherapist and blogger, and teaches in the Department of Counseling at Barry University. Shes a regular contributor to Psychology Today, and her work has appeared in Psych Central and Tiny Buddha. Her practice is fueled by her passion for helping people achieve their goals, build a strong sense of self and lead fulfilling and meaningful lives. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why commitment is the baseline and foundation of a relationship. Why it's important to think separately from your partner in a relationship. How to manage your own functioning and avoid trying to manage your partner. Why we become emotionally triggered and how to deal with it. How to take an objective approach to a triggered response. Why it's important to not judge yourself for becoming triggered. And much more! 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge starts TODAY! Sign up at our website here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/105 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gal Szekely is the founder of The Couples Center, a rapidly growing hub for relationship counseling and education in San Francisco area. He is an adjunct faculty at CIIS and JFK universities where he teaches couples counseling and an instructor in the Hakomi experiential therapy method. His work is especially effective since it integrates mindfulness and the wisdom of the body-mind connection. Gal and his wife, Liron, lead popular weekend premarital workshop for couples called Love Made Simple. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why commitment is the baseline and foundation of a relationship. How intimacy can be created simply by putting your hand on your partners back and why this is so important. Why individuality is an important component of a successful relationship. How to create a win-win resolution to your relationship conflicts. Actionable tips to create more passion in your relationship. How to manage life together and work like a team. Why growing together and becoming better people is so valuable to a relationship. And much more! 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge starts next Wednesday, July 26th! Sign up at idopodcast.com. Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/104 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kristen Holbrook is a Registered Clinical Counsellor based in Coquitlam, BC. Kristen offers both individual and couples counseling in her private practice. She has specialized training in the area of trauma and has been trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). In addition to her private practice work, Kristen provides counseling to women who have experienced historical and domestic abuse in an agency setting. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How past trauma affects how we see ourselves and our partners. Why trauma does not have to be a big thing. Trauma can have an impact whenever something exceeds are ability to cope with it. How trauma can come from early childhood experiences and past relationships. Why self-work is important to dealing with trauma in order to improve your relationship. Why it's important that you come from a place of empathy if you're dealing with a partner who is addressing a traumatic experience. And much more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/103 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Maureen Hosier is a licensed psychologist, specializing in the troubled dynamics of individuals in their romantic relationships and in their family and work place relationships. Maureen and her sister, Berta Hosier Conger, co-authored two books titled, You'll Do Anything for Her and You'll Do Anything for Him. They look at a common issue for many in relationship, both men and women, who give up themselves to make the relationship work. They have developed a framework for understanding the dynamics of individuals who find themselves stuck in an emotionally reactive and emotionally painful situation with their partner and who are frightened that they are destroying their relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How we are emotionally triggered and how to deal with an emotionally reactive position. Why it's important to interrupt your emotional reactions. Understanding that you cannot change the other person in your relationship. Why both partners have to want to change who they are emotionally. How to avoid the impossible situation of trying to take care of your partner. And much more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/102 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Zev Halpern is a licensed psychotherapist and marriage coach practicing from his office in the Metro DC Area. In addition, Zev also coaches couples virtually on line across the country and world. He is a TV show and podcast host, author and speaker with over 25 years of experience. With the divorce rate climbing, Zev Halpern has turned his attention to helping couples find mutual paths to marital fulfillment and family stability. His laid back, yet straight shooting approach is the perfect combination to help couples deal with the issues that have been driving them apart. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Key ingredients to creating a lasting marriage. Why it's important to create novelty in your marriage. How acting like a kid can be valuable for creating lasting love. Why you sometimes must change yourself in order to change your relationship. Why having difficult conversations is important for a strong marriage. And much more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/101 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

John Amodeo PhD, MFT, has been a licensed marriage and family therapist for over thirty-five years in the San Francisco Bay Area. He is the author of Dancing with Fire: A Mindful Way to Loving Relationships. His other books include The Authentic Heart and Love & Betrayal. He is a former writer and contributing editor for Yoga Journal, and has conducted workshops and lectured internationally on relationships and couples therapy. He has appeared as a featured guest on programs that included CNN, Donahue, and New Dimensions Radio and he is a popular blogger for Psychology Today. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to develop mature love in our life. How to speak from the heart. How to be authentic and practice authentic relating. How to improve emotional awareness. Best ways to begin mindfulness. How nature, yoga and meditating can improve mindfulness. How to get out of the young love mindset. Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/100 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Laura Doyle is a New York Times bestselling author whose books have been translated into 16 languages and published in 27 countries. Over 50,000 women credit her with not only saving their relationships, but also showing them how to become desired, cherished and adored for life. She has appeared on CBS Evening News, Dateline NBC, The Today Show and The View. Articles about Laura have appeared in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post, The London Telegraph, and The New Yorker. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to have more and better sex in your relationship or marriage. Why respect is a strong aphrodisiac. How emotional safety can create more intimacy in your relationship. The key to expressing your sexual desires. How women can use men's 'hero gene' to get what they want in the relationship. And much more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/99 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thea & Duane Harvey are marriage and family therapists specializing in Imago Relationship Therapy. They have been married 10 years and have a thriving couples therapy practice in Santa Monica, California. They believe that novelty, pleasure and romance are the keys to creating a lasting joyous connection. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: Why success in your relationship can be measured by the number of difficult conversations you have. The value of an organizational approach to communication in your marriage or relationship. Three valuable tools to manage anxiety so it doesn't affect your relationship. Learn how to not be controlled by your emotions. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As a licensed marriage and family therapist, Robert Jameson focuses on helping clients understand and overcome issues, such as anger, hurt, depression, anxiety, love, relationships, boundaries and limiting beliefs, to name a few. Mr. Jameson is also the author of Thoughts of Pomery, an entertaining book of pictures and thoughts that guides the reader to expand their perceptions of life and relationships with others, Dont Lose Weight Give It Away, which explores the emotional aspects of weight loss, and The Pocket Oasis, a fun and useful pocket-sized book that can be used as a tool to help center anyone during a hectic day. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Creating intimacy through trust. How trust is established and destroyed. How to use words of appreciation to create more intimacy in your relationship. The importance of a 'house meeting' once a month. How to get your partner to do what you want through loving communication. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Jane Greer is a nationally renowned marriage and sex therapist, radio host of the Doctor on Call show, and creator of 'SHRINK WRAP'. Her book, What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship, is available nationwide. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: How to evaluate your relationship the right way. The questions to ask before making a big step in your relationship like moving in together or becoming exclusive, ect... Why it's important to make lists when moving in with your partner. The signs that you should be taking the next step in advancing your relationship. Why it's important that both individuals in a relationship feel their needs are being considered. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Winifred Reilly is a marriage and family therapist, with a private practice in Berkeley, CA. In her thirty-five years of clinical practice she has treated hundreds of couples, many who were convinced they were headed for divorce. Winifred has been a guest lecturer on marriage and sexuality, and her writing has appeared on The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, xoJane and on her relationship advice blog, Speaking of Marriage. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: How to stop focusing on your partner's contribution to the relationship and start making the changes on your own. Why working on your own destructive behaviors will help improve your relationship. How you can take the lead and create positive change in your relationship. Why talking to a therapist can create a safe space to help work through your relationship issues. Why it's important not to wait around for your partner to create the change that you want to see and how you can do it yourself! And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Suzanne Degges-White, PhD, is professor and chair of the Department of Counseling, Adult and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University. She earned her PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. She is a licensed counselor and has over 15 years of experience working with children, adolescents and adults, including couples and families. Her research interests include the development of identity and intimate relationships including family relationships, romantic relationships and friendships. She has authored several books addressing relationships including Friends Forever: How Girls and Women Forge Lasting Relationships; Toxic Friendships: Knowing the Rules and Dealing with the Friends who Break Them; Mothers and Daughters: Living, Loving, and Learning over a Lifetime; and Sisters and Brothers for Life: Making Sense of Sibling Relationships in Adulthood. She also is a featured blogger for Psychology Today. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: Why it's important to develop rituals as a couple. How to develop a unique relationship identity and why it's important. How binging on Netflix can actually be a good thing for your relationship. Learning to preserve your relationship's identity and that of your own. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Valerie Greene is a unique relationship mentor who helps women inspire their man to fulfill their deepest needs and desires. A highly successful alternative to relationship therapy, Valerie helps women and couples create a secure emotional connection--not just problem-solving or communication skills. Valerie has been coaching for over 12 years and holds numerous certifications in coaching, NLP, and emotional healing modalities. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: How to stop fighting and fall in love again. Getting clarity on your feelings and relationship desires. Why getting in touch with your feelings is key to a successful relationship. How to realize your relationship dreams and create the changes needed to obtain them. Creating the can-do attitude necessary to get in touch with your feelings. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stephen Marche is the author of The Unmade Bed (2017), The Hunger of the Wolf (2015), Love and the Mess We’re In (2013), How Shakespeare Changed Everything (2012), Shining at the Bottom of the Sea (2007) and Raymond and Hannah (2005). He currently writes “A Thousand Words About Our Culture,” a monthly column for Esquire magazine, in addition to opinion pieces for The Atlantic Monthly, The New York Times Magazine, The New Republic, Salon.com, The Globe and Mail and The Toronto Star. He received a doctorate in Early Modern Drama in 2005 from the University of Toronto. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: Gender norms and how they affect modern relationships. Why housework is where gender politics comes to a head in our lives. The conversation around biological and cultural mechanisms at play in gender roles and relationships. The modern rise of marriage and the great transition culturally. Why women are a driving force in global economics. Why men are doing more housework than ever before. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stacey Gorlicky is a registered Psychotherapist and author of the book "Food, Sex and You". She was also the former host of a live call in show "Mind Matters". Her areas of specialization are addiction, trauma, anxiety and depression. As an Addictions Counselor, Stacey studied at Ontario's McMasters University (CCACCF). She also studied in Transformational Arts College, graduating with honors as a Certified Psychotherapist and Spiritual Director. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: The similarities between our relationships with food and sex. How to avoid 'emotional eating'. Reaching out to your partner to help them in a non-threatening way. Practicing self love and forgiveness. How trauma in early life affects our current relationships. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices