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Ep 102102: Controlling the Emotional Freight Train

Maureen Hosier is a licensed psychologist, specializing in the troubled dynamics of individuals in their romantic relationships and in their family and work place relationships. Maureen and her sister, Berta Hosier Conger, co-authored two books titled, You'll Do Anything for Her and You'll Do Anything for Him. They look at a common issue for many in relationship, both men and women, who give up themselves to make the relationship work. They have developed a framework for understanding the dynamics of individuals who find themselves stuck in an emotionally reactive and emotionally painful situation with their partner and who are frightened that they are destroying their relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How we are emotionally triggered and how to deal with an emotionally reactive position. Why it's important to interrupt your emotional reactions. Understanding that you cannot change the other person in your relationship. Why both partners have to want to change who they are emotionally. How to avoid the impossible situation of trying to take care of your partner. And much more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/102 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 5, 201752 min

Ep 101101: Refresh, Reconnect and Recharge Your Marriage

Zev Halpern is a licensed psychotherapist and marriage coach practicing from his office in the Metro DC Area. In addition, Zev also coaches couples virtually on line across the country and world. He is a TV show and podcast host, author and speaker with over 25 years of experience. With the divorce rate climbing, Zev Halpern has turned his attention to helping couples find mutual paths to marital fulfillment and family stability. His laid back, yet straight shooting approach is the perfect combination to help couples deal with the issues that have been driving them apart. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Key ingredients to creating a lasting marriage. Why it's important to create novelty in your marriage. How acting like a kid can be valuable for creating lasting love. Why you sometimes must change yourself in order to change your relationship. Why having difficult conversations is important for a strong marriage. And much more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/101 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 28, 201743 min

Ep 100100: Young Love vs Mature Love

John Amodeo PhD, MFT, has been a licensed marriage and family therapist for over thirty-five years in the San Francisco Bay Area. He is the author of Dancing with Fire: A Mindful Way to Loving Relationships. His other books include The Authentic Heart and Love & Betrayal. He is a former writer and contributing editor for Yoga Journal, and has conducted workshops and lectured internationally on relationships and couples therapy. He has appeared as a featured guest on programs that included CNN, Donahue, and New Dimensions Radio and he is a popular blogger for Psychology Today. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to develop mature love in our life. How to speak from the heart. How to be authentic and practice authentic relating. How to improve emotional awareness. Best ways to begin mindfulness. How nature, yoga and meditating can improve mindfulness. How to get out of the young love mindset. Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/100 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 22, 201744 min

Ep 9999: Why Married Sex Is Better Sex

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Laura Doyle is a New York Times bestselling author whose books have been translated into 16 languages and published in 27 countries. Over 50,000 women credit her with not only saving their relationships, but also showing them how to become desired, cherished and adored for life. She has appeared on CBS Evening News, Dateline NBC, The Today Show and The View. Articles about Laura have appeared in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post, The London Telegraph, and The New Yorker. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to have more and better sex in your relationship or marriage. Why respect is a strong aphrodisiac. How emotional safety can create more intimacy in your relationship. The key to expressing your sexual desires. How women can use men's 'hero gene' to get what they want in the relationship. And much more! Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/99 Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you love the show, please subscribe in iTunes and leave a review! It really helps, and allows us to keep bringing you these episodes each week! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 14, 201748 min

Ep 9898: Turning Conflict Into Passion

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Thea & Duane Harvey are marriage and family therapists specializing in Imago Relationship Therapy. They have been married 10 years and have a thriving couples therapy practice in Santa Monica, California. They believe that novelty, pleasure and romance are the keys to creating a lasting joyous connection. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: Why success in your relationship can be measured by the number of difficult conversations you have. The value of an organizational approach to communication in your marriage or relationship. Three valuable tools to manage anxiety so it doesn't affect your relationship. Learn how to not be controlled by your emotions. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 7, 201743 min

Ep 9797: Create More Intimacy In Your Relationship

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As a licensed marriage and family therapist, Robert Jameson focuses on helping clients understand and overcome issues, such as anger, hurt, depression, anxiety, love, relationships, boundaries and limiting beliefs, to name a few. Mr. Jameson is also the author of Thoughts of Pomery, an entertaining book of pictures and thoughts that guides the reader to expand their perceptions of life and relationships with others, Dont Lose Weight Give It Away, which explores the emotional aspects of weight loss, and The Pocket Oasis, a fun and useful pocket-sized book that can be used as a tool to help center anyone during a hectic day. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Creating intimacy through trust. How trust is established and destroyed. How to use words of appreciation to create more intimacy in your relationship. The importance of a 'house meeting' once a month. How to get your partner to do what you want through loving communication. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 31, 201738 min

Ep 9696: Taking The Next Step In Your Relationship

Dr. Jane Greer is a nationally renowned marriage and sex therapist, radio host of the Doctor on Call show, and creator of 'SHRINK WRAP'. Her book, What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship, is available nationwide. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: How to evaluate your relationship the right way. The questions to ask before making a big step in your relationship like moving in together or becoming exclusive, ect... Why it's important to make lists when moving in with your partner. The signs that you should be taking the next step in advancing your relationship. Why it's important that both individuals in a relationship feel their needs are being considered. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 24, 201738 min

Ep 9595: Don't Wait Around, Make the Change YOU Want

Winifred Reilly is a marriage and family therapist, with a private practice in Berkeley, CA. In her thirty-five years of clinical practice she has treated hundreds of couples, many who were convinced they were headed for divorce. Winifred has been a guest lecturer on marriage and sexuality, and her writing has appeared on The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, xoJane and on her relationship advice blog, Speaking of Marriage. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: How to stop focusing on your partner's contribution to the relationship and start making the changes on your own. Why working on your own destructive behaviors will help improve your relationship. How you can take the lead and create positive change in your relationship. Why talking to a therapist can create a safe space to help work through your relationship issues. Why it's important not to wait around for your partner to create the change that you want to see and how you can do it yourself! And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 17, 201744 min

Ep 9494: How Netflix Can Improve Your Relationship

Suzanne Degges-White, PhD, is professor and chair of the Department of Counseling, Adult and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University. She earned her PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. She is a licensed counselor and has over 15 years of experience working with children, adolescents and adults, including couples and families. Her research interests include the development of identity and intimate relationships including family relationships, romantic relationships and friendships. She has authored several books addressing relationships including Friends Forever: How Girls and Women Forge Lasting Relationships; Toxic Friendships: Knowing the Rules and Dealing with the Friends who Break Them; Mothers and Daughters: Living, Loving, and Learning over a Lifetime; and Sisters and Brothers for Life: Making Sense of Sibling Relationships in Adulthood. She also is a featured blogger for Psychology Today. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: Why it's important to develop rituals as a couple. How to develop a unique relationship identity and why it's important. How binging on Netflix can actually be a good thing for your relationship. Learning to preserve your relationship's identity and that of your own. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 10, 201739 min

Ep 9393: Creating The Relationship Of Your Dreams

Valerie Greene is a unique relationship mentor who helps women inspire their man to fulfill their deepest needs and desires. A highly successful alternative to relationship therapy, Valerie helps women and couples create a secure emotional connection--not just problem-solving or communication skills. Valerie has been coaching for over 12 years and holds numerous certifications in coaching, NLP, and emotional healing modalities. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: How to stop fighting and fall in love again. Getting clarity on your feelings and relationship desires. Why getting in touch with your feelings is key to a successful relationship. How to realize your relationship dreams and create the changes needed to obtain them. Creating the can-do attitude necessary to get in touch with your feelings. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 3, 201746 min

Ep 9292: Dividing Housework In A Modern Relationship

Stephen Marche is the author of The Unmade Bed (2017), The Hunger of the Wolf (2015), Love and the Mess We’re In (2013), How Shakespeare Changed Everything (2012), Shining at the Bottom of the Sea (2007) and Raymond and Hannah (2005). He currently writes “A Thousand Words About Our Culture,” a monthly column for Esquire magazine, in addition to opinion pieces for The Atlantic Monthly, The New York Times Magazine, The New Republic, Salon.com, The Globe and Mail and The Toronto Star. He received a doctorate in Early Modern Drama in 2005 from the University of Toronto. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: Gender norms and how they affect modern relationships. Why housework is where gender politics comes to a head in our lives. The conversation around biological and cultural mechanisms at play in gender roles and relationships. The modern rise of marriage and the great transition culturally. Why women are a driving force in global economics. Why men are doing more housework than ever before. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Apr 26, 201749 min

Ep 9191: Food, Sex and You

Stacey Gorlicky is a registered Psychotherapist and author of the book "Food, Sex and You". She was also the former host of a live call in show "Mind Matters". Her areas of specialization are addiction, trauma, anxiety and depression. As an Addictions Counselor, Stacey studied at Ontario's McMasters University (CCACCF). She also studied in Transformational Arts College, graduating with honors as a Certified Psychotherapist and Spiritual Director. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: The similarities between our relationships with food and sex. How to avoid 'emotional eating'. Reaching out to your partner to help them in a non-threatening way. Practicing self love and forgiveness. How trauma in early life affects our current relationships. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Apr 12, 201748 min

Ep 9090: Six Steps For More Love In Your Life

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: The 6 step process to heal false beliefs and love yourself. Why it's so important to ask, "How am I treating myself?" How we can reduce self-judgement and show more self-compassion. Why loving ourselves will help our relationship flourish. How to take responsibility for your feelings. And much more! Dr. Margaret Paul holds a PhD in psychology, is a relationship expert, public speaker, consultant and artist. She has successfully worked with thousands and taught classes and seminars for over 48 years. Dr. Paul is also a bestselling author, popular Huffington Post and MindBodyGreen writer and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing process, and the related SelfQuest® self-healing software program - recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Apr 5, 201737 min

Ep 8989: How to Find A Quality Partner

Marni Battista has a Masters in Education and is a Certified Life Coach by the International Coaching Federation. She is also a Master Practitioner at administering an Energy Assessment, “The D-Factor,” that helps clients pinpoint exactly why they are, or are not date-able, and what types of messages they are unconsciously broadcasting to others based on their thoughts, feelings, actions and attitudes. Marni is also trained as a Facilitator and Mentor Trainer by the Hoffman Institute, a world-renowned leader in personal development. In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: How to take responsibility for the bad relationships you continue to encounter. Why 'Power Posing' is a valuable tool to help you find the right partner. The importance of realizing we are most disappointed when our expectations don't meet our reality. Focusing on the process and not on the outcome to get more out of your dating life. How to practice listening to your intuition. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mar 22, 201735 min

Ep 8888: Avoiding The Relationship Comfort Zone

Mirel Goldstein is an expert marriage therapist in New Jersey who has been successfully lecturing and writing about marriage, as well as helping couples reignite the spark in their relationships, for the past 15 years. Her popular blog can be found on her website goldsteintherapy.com. Her YouTube video called, "How to recognize dismissive attachment behaviors in yourself and others", has inspired thousands of couples to address attachment issues that may be getting in the way of deeper closeness in their relationships. In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: How to balance emotional risk with emotional safety in a relationship. Avoiding the long term relationship 'comfort zone' and keeping the passion in your relationship. Why you can never fully know your partner and why that's a good thing. Learning to be more vulnerable with your partner. The importance of not holding your emotions inside. And much more! Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mar 15, 201742 min

Ep 7887: What Straight Couples Can Learn From Gay Relationships

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In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: The importance of recognizing the gender expectations we project onto our partners. How straight couples can learn from gay men's greater openness toward sexuality. The key to arguing in a productive manner. Working to become more empathetic toward your partner. How looking at your partner as an 8-year-old child can improve your relationship. Why it's important to work on what you personally want in your relationship. And much more! Dr. Greg Cason is best known as Dr. Greg from the Bravo series LA Shrinks. He appears regularly as a psychological expert on The Nancy Grace Show and has also appeared on a large variety of other TV programs. His expertise was also featured in documentaries such as The Butch Factor, The Adonis Factor and most recently, The Secret Tapes of the O.J. Case. He writes the psychology column for Frontiers magazine and has been featured in The Huffington Post, The Advocate, People, and several others. Dr. Cason currently teaches at UCLA and is a licensed psychologist in Los Angeles specializing in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and relationship issues. Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mar 8, 201747 min

Ep 8686: Building Loving Relationships 101

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: What her students love about her 17-year old college course, Marriage 101. How our life experiences affect how we love. Learning to be less reactive and appreciate our partner more. Why it can be valuable to have the difficult conversations with a therapist. The importance of making time and space to look within ourselves. And much more! Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, and the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. She received her PhD in Counseling Psychology and a graduate certificate in Gender Studies from Northwestern University in 2001. In addition to teaching and training marriage and family therapy graduate students, Solomon teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. Solomon is a frequent speaker and media commentator on relationship topics and you can visit her online at dralexandrasolomon.com. Click here to for this episode's show notes page: Dr. Alexandra Solomon Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mar 1, 201744 min

Ep 8585: Give Yourself A Break

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: How to calm your partner's or your own fierce inner critic. The tools to help your partner, or yourself, practice more self-compassion. Why it's important to simply 'be with' your partner sometimes and not try to fix every situation. The 3 steps to practicing more self-compassion. How practicing more self-compassion can help your relationship. And much more! Kristy Arbon is the founder and CEO of HeartWorks Training LLC, a business set up to support women in their practice of mindfulness, self-compassion and shame resilience using the practices of mindful self-compassion, Internal Family Systems, Brene Brown's shame resilience model, Buddhist philosophy and exploration of archetypes. Kristy is a qualified social worker, a certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and has completed Internal Family Systems Level 1 training. She is passionate about supporting women in taking care of themselves so that they can go out into the world and courageously do the important work they are called for. We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : ) When you contribute you will also get awesome exclusive benefits for our patrons. You can sign up to donate as little as $2 per month to support the podcast. Any little bit helps! Sign up to support the podcast today. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information ,but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feb 22, 201748 min

Ep 8484: Raise Your Low Self-Esteem To Improve Your Relationship

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: How to deal with our own, or our partner's, insecure attachment style. What to do if you or your partner has a low self-esteem. How to work on changing your attachment style to a secure attachment. Creating habits as a couple that will help the an insecure partner feel secure. How to improve your self-esteem to make your relationship better. And much more! Amanda Carver is a psychotherapist who lives and works in Ottawa, Ontario. She has worked many years with adolescents and families struggling with trauma and mental health challenges. She works heavily from an attachment perspective, understanding how early relationships with our parents and other important people in our lives affects how we connect with people later in our lives. Amanda is a mother of two young children and a partner in a 13 year relationship. She now runs her own private practice. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audibletrial.com/idopodcast If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feb 15, 201740 min

Ep 8383: Stop Picking The Wrong Partner

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: How to get out of the cycle of habitually picking the wrong partner. Where insecure attachment is formed and how to deal with it. Why learning about yourself can help you find the right partner. What to do if you or the person you are with has a low self esteem. Why it's important to think of yourself as a 'gift' to whoever you are in a relationship with. And much more! Kristen Craren lives and works as a relationship therapist in Saint Louis, Missouri. Her life's work has been devoted to learning about relationships and helping clients improve theirs. Kristen's clients consistently say they love coming to see her because she goes above and beyond to help them reach their goals. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feb 8, 201736 min

Ep 8282: Invest In Your Relationship

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why it’s important to know your value and that you are deserving of love. The importance of trust and respect in relationships. How the Myers Briggs assessment can help you if you are single or in a relationship. Challenging what we are socialized to believe about relationships. The importance of investing in yourself and your relationship and how to do it. And much more! Sandra Fischer is the creator of Relationship Reveal™: 64 Cards for discovery, skill-building, and growth, a new card game that gets to the heart of what matters in happy, healthy relationships. Using Relationship Reveal is an active, engaging way to explore fears and provides a language to allow for greater vulnerability. Sandra writes for businesses, creates fiction and consults specializing in communications, people development and optimizing organizational effectiveness. With 25 years of experience working for companies including Microsoft, Amazon and AT&T, her experiences have been as unique and broad as managing the homepage for Amazon to developing an online marketing campaign for a literary novel launch. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feb 1, 201747 min

Ep 8181: Communicating About Sex And Affection

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In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why you should not assume your partner wants affection. The value of asking this about your relationship, "What would I ask for if I had no fear or judgement?". How to communicate about sex in a relationship. Changing the culture of sex negativity. Treating your sexuality as a gift. And much more! Mike Domitrz is one of the leading experts for transforming our sexual culture to one being built on consent and respect. For over two decades, educators, military, families, colleges and individuals of all have sought out Mike and his impactful programs and speaking engagements. You may have seen him as the featured expert on Dateline NBC's "My Kid Would Never Do That." He is also the founder of the globally recognized "The DATE SAFE Project." I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 26, 201746 min

Ep 8080: Online Dating And Attracting The Right Partner

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to set up an online dating profile that will attract the right kind of partner. Why it's important to just 'observe' online profiles of potential matches and not 'create a story' of who that person is. Why you cannot draw to you what you don't already have within. Dating right after a breakup. How to recognize the patterns of your failed relationships and fix them to create a successful relationship. Exercises to discover the qualities that you truly want and need from a relationship partner. And much more! Lisa Copeland is a leading internationally recognized expert and dating coach for women over 50. She is also the author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 on Amazon and is a regular contributor to The Huffington Post and The Huffington Post Women. Her website, FindAQualityMan.com was named One of the Top 5 Online Dating Service by The Examiner and One of the 10 Best Senior Dating Blogs by DatingAdvice.com. She hosts the weekly, You Can Find Love After 50 Show on Going Solo Network Radio. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 19, 201747 min

Ep 7079: Save It For The Morning

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The power dynamics involved in relationships. Some of the most interesting findings Dr. Gordon has uncovered in her relationship research and how they can help you. Why we stop seeing the good in a relationship and how to prevent this. How sleep deprivation affects relationships and how to deal with a lack of sleep besides simply sleeping more. How to focus on what you can do for your partner. And much more! Amie M. Gordon, PhD, is a social psychologist who researches romantic relationships. For over a decade, Dr. Gordon's work has helped shed light on the factors that help and harm romantic relationships. Currently she is working at the University of California, San Francisco where she is tackling questions about the role of sleep in relationships. Dr. Gordon's work has been published in over a dozen research articles focused on relationship topics such as perspective-taking, gratitude, conflict, sacrifice, depression and sleep. She also writes the blog, Between You and Me, for Psychology Today and provides relationship advice via short podcasts for Mindsail, a personal growth app. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 17, 201752 min

Ep 7878: Evolved To Love

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The evolutionary processes that make us have empathy and love for others. Social brain theory and what it means for relationships. Tuning into your body to become more connected and improve your relationship. Recognizing the nature of your experience to improve yourself and your relationship. And much more! Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley and New York Times best-selling author. His books are available in 26 languages and include Hardwiring Happiness, Buddhas Brain, Just One Thing and Mother Nurture. He edits the Wise Brain Bulletin and has numerous audio programs. A summa cum laude graduate of UCLA and founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom, hes been an invited speaker at Oxford, Stanford, Harvard and other major universities, and taught in meditation centers worldwide. His work has been featured on the BBC, CBS and NPR, and he offers the free Just One Thing newsletter with over 120,000 subscribers, plus the online Foundations of Well-Being program in positive neuroplasticity that anyone with financial need can do for free. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 12, 201749 min

Ep 7777: Balancing Work, Kids And A Relationship

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of creating ground rules for a working relationship. Tools for couples who work together. Separating areas of responsibility with your spouse. Balancing work, kids and a relationship. Managing your energy to help create a strong marriage or relationship. And much more! Malini Bhatia is Founder & CEO of Marriage.com, a community of experts that acts as your advisors by providing information and support for healthy, happy marriages. Her passion for supporting people through the journey of building and sustaining positive, healthy relationships, combined with her business acumen, inspired the creation of Marriage.com. She has past experience in the PR and communications industries and has worked with companies in the tech, healthcare and non-profit sectors. Malini is a postgraduate in international business management and holds a bachelor's degree in Economics. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband and two daughters. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 10, 201737 min

Ep 7676: Tools For A Happy Relationship

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The top actionable tools for a happy relationship. Understanding the unique ways to connect with your partner. Valuable communication breakdown tools. Getting on the same relationship team. Dealing with when your expectations don't meet reality. Taking responsibility for yourself in the relationship. And much more! Tripp and Alyson Lanier have both made it their mission to help individuals improve their relationships and lives. Tripp is the host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which has been listened to millions of times by men all around the world and is an iTunes top 10 podcast in the Self Help category. Alyson has spent the last 20 years training and educating herself in the psychology of attachment and relationships. She is a counselor, mentor, teacher, coach, old world midwife and mother. Her training and perspective helps men and women get out of their own way and create the amazing relationships, families and sex lives they truly want. I Do Podcast is also supported by: If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 5, 201756 min

Ep 7575: Improve Yourself To Improve Your Relationship

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to improve yourself individually to benefit your relationship. Correcting a lack of balance in your life. How to have trust in your relationship. Tools to help find meaning in your life. Why you can only be as healthy as the most unhealthy person in your relationship. The value of talking in front of a therapist as a couple. And much more! Daryl Cioffi and Jennifer Weaver-Breitenbecher are licensed psychotherapists who own a private practice (Polaris Counseling & Consulting) in Rhode Island. They specialize in general mental health, relationships, life adjustments, and overall wellness. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 3, 201743 min

Ep 7474: Let's Talk About Sex

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In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to deal with mismatched sexual desires in a relationship. (#1 reason couples struggle sexually in relationships) Reducing sexual anxiety in oneself and in a relationship. The importance of sexual knowledge. Sex to reduce headaches and why you should 'Just Do It'. Communication skills related to your sexual relationship. And much more! Dr. Diana Wiley is a licensed marriage and family therapist and board certified sex therapist. Dr. Wiley has been providing talk therapy to individuals and couples for more than thirty years with an emphasis on sexual issues and their effect on relationships. People describe her as warm, knowledgeable, forthright and very caring. She is a wealth of knowledge and experience in the field of relationship therapy, particularly as a sex therapist. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 29, 201649 min

Ep 7373: How To Make A Good Relationship Great

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In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to make a good relationship great. Why it's important to tell your partner why you love them. How the depth of intimacy sets the good relationships apart from the great relationship. How to create more depth of intimacy in a relationship. Creating balance in your relationship. And much more! Charlie and Linda Bloom have been married since 1972. Trained as psychotherapists and relationship counselors, they have worked with individuals, couples, groups and organizations since 1975. They have lectured and taught at learning institutes throughout the USA, including the Esalen Institute, the Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, the California Institute for Integral Studies, the Meridian University, John F. Kennedy University, the Crossings, Omega institute, the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology, University of California at Berkeley Extension Program, the Hoffman Institute and the World Health Organization. They have offered seminars throughout the world, including China, Japan, Indonesia, Denmark, Sweden, India, Brazil, and many other locations. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 27, 201658 min

Ep 7272: How To Talk Politics

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to talk about politics in a productive manner with friends, family and other relationships. The tools to have a constructive political debate that will not end in shouting matches. Navigating the tough conversations you might have with those of opposing political views. Moving forward in a positive direction no matter what your political affiliation. And much more! Daniel Ellenberg, PhD is a seminar leader, licensed therapist, leadership coach and conversation adviser. He is a principal in Rewire Leadership and co-founder of Relationships That Work. He is a board member of the Wellspring Institute of Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom and is currently involved with two research projects: interpersonal courage in the workplace and the relationship between the traditional male role and emotional resilience. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 22, 20161h 0m

Ep 7171: What's Yours Is Mine, And Mine Is Mine

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Whether or not you should have separate or joint accounts with your partner. The importance of communicating about your finances. How to form the right financial plan for your relationship. Financial infidelity and it's impact on relationships. And much more! Laurie Itkin is a financial advisor and wealth manager at Coastwise Capital Group, an award-winning boutique money management firm in La Jolla, California, where she serves clients throughout the country. Through her separate company, The Options Lady, she serves as a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) and provides analysis of the financial and tax impacts of proposed settlement options being considered by divorcing couples. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 20, 201643 min

Ep 7070: 10 Signs You've Found The Right Partner

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Loving your partner unconditionally. The importance of respect in a relationship. Creating boundaries for your relationship. Considering what is best for 'us' and not 'I'. Determining if your arguments are productive. And much more! Justin Stenstrom is a nationally acclaimed life coach, author, entrepreneur and speaker. He is the founder of EliteManMagazine.com and the host of the Elite Man Podcast and The Justin Stenstrom Show on iTunes. Once anxious, insecure, depressed and unhappy, Justin has overcome many of life's greatest obstacles and loves nothing more than helping others do the same! I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 15, 201643 min

Ep 6969: Why We Fight The Ones We Love

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How conflict in a relationship manifests in different ways. Why we fight in relationships and how to prevent it. Creating a mission statement for your relationship. Moving away from the fight or flight mindset. The importance of naming your feelings. And much more! Erik Newton is a former family law attorney who describes himself as someone who has been through a thousand divorces and still believes in love. Erik has a unique, real-world comprehension of what makes one marriage thrive and another fall apart. Ultimately, his calling to help couples build healthy relationships superseded his legal career, and he is now podcasting and publishing an online magazine about relationships that you can find at www.together.guide I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 13, 201652 min

Ep 6868: Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to be mindful and practice emotional intelligence in a relationship. Tools to be present with your partner. The importance of emotional intelligence for personal and relationship growth. Tips and resources for meditation. And much more! In today's episode we are joined by Dr. Debra Campbell. Dr. Campbell is a psychologist and author and has worked in private practice consulting on everything from panic to depression and parenting problems. For a number of years she worked as a couple therapist and university lecturer in marriage and relationships. Prior to psychology, Dr. Campbell taught yoga and meditation, so mindfulness has always been a cornerstone of her work in mental health and couple relationship rehab. She was the Director of Hobsons Bay Yoga and Natural Health and Newport Yoga Centre for over a decade. Dr. Campbell's psychological research on couple relationship satisfaction, emotional intelligence and spirituality in mental health has been published in psychological journals in Australia and the USA. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 8, 201644 min

Ep 6767: Treat Your Partner How They Want To Be Treated

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How Darek's experience as a Navy Seal helped him write his new book. Treat your spouse how they would like to be treated. How we can become blind to the things that need to be done to help fix a relationship. And much more! In today's episode we are joined by Senior Chief Darek Laviolette US Navy SEAL (ret). Darek served 24 years of active duty, 9 combat deployments and received the Bronze Star with Valor. However, Darek's most proud work is helping men and women through rough spots in their marriages. His book A Seal to Heal Your Marriage helps with just that. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven’t already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! – Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 6, 201638 min

Ep 6666: Build A Deeper Relationship

In today's episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Communication strategies for better communication with your partner. Understanding your partner on a deeper level. Accepting without judgement. Communicating with your actions. Practicing sincere awareness in your relationship. And much more! On today's episode we welcome Shawn Schweier to the show. Shawn is a personal development expert specializing in Neuro-Linguistic Programming. He runs the largest active NLP community in Denver and is focused most on helping others create successful relationships. He has been called the inner mind mentor and is a master at communicating, but he hasn't always been successful. Before he was in a place of loneliness and he had trouble communicating with others. This led him on a path of self-discovery. In uncovering himself he found the best version of him. He learned how to communicate in ways he didn't know were possible and this led to developing the most incredible relationships. Today he looks forward to business growth, travel, and finding the woman of his dreams. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven't already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! - Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 1, 201633 min

Ep 6565: Own Your Neediness

In today's episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How attachment styles affect relationships. How to identify your attachment style. How to deal with the anxious-avoidant downward spiral. Tools to become more secure in your relationship. How to own your neediness. And much more! On today's episode we welcome Kyle Benson. Kyle writes at the KyleBenson.net, where he uses science and life experiences to help those in troubled relationships get the love, respect and passion they dream of. I Do Podcast is also supported by: If you haven't already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! - Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 29, 201644 min

Ep 6464: Know Your Deal Killers

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: Determining your relationship deal killers and why it's important for a successful relationship. How to set boundaries and implement consequences if broken. Why it's important to be clear on your values. Determining the type of love you give and receive on the 'love scale'. And much more! David Essel is a business, relationship, and success coach, TV/Radio Host, author of 9 books and inspirational speaker. He has helped thousands of people from around the world achieve their greatest goals in every area of life from increasing their income to freedom from addictions, preparation for deep love, repairing relationships and more. I Do Podcast is also supported by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven't already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! - Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 24, 201647 min

Ep 6363: Love and Money

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: Determining your money personality to help avoid relationship conflicts. How to deal with a partner with a different money personality. The 5 money personalities: Spender, Saver, Security Seeker, Flyer and Risk Taker. How to make a budget that works for both partners. And much more! Scott and Bethany Palmer, The Money Couple, have dedicated their lives to helping others strengthen their relationships with the 5 Money Personalities. With 43 years of combined financial planning experience, they launched The Money Couple and are regulars on national TV and radio and speak internationally about love and money. Scott and Bethany enjoy an active lifestyle in Colorado with their two young sons, Cole and Cade. I Do Podcast is also support by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven't already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! - Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 22, 201643 min

Ep 6262: Understanding Your Relationship Boundaries

In today's episode we discuss relationship topics that include: How to determine your N.U.T.S. How to cultivate self reliance for a healthy relationship. Choosing your partner each morning to create more love. How to avoid the cliche, "They are not the person I married." And much more! Join us as Steve Horsmon breaks down why it's important to hold onto your N.U.T.S (non-negotiable unalterable terms) both individually and within a relationship. Steve is the founder of Goodguys2Greatmen.com, a company with the mission to educate, mentor and transform smart guys into confident, skilled and authentic men of purpose and passion. I Do Podcast is also support by: Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. If you haven't already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! - Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 17, 201633 min

Ep 6161: How to Save Your Relationship Featuring Dr. Julie Colwell

If you're struggling in a relationship, don't waste another day without listening to today's podcast. With the help of Dr. Julie Colwell, we outline all of the steps to find out if your relationship or marriage is worth saving and how to fix it if you want to work it out. In today's episode we discuss relationship topics that include: How to know when relationship problems are fixable or not? The telltale signs of a stuck relationship or marriage. Methods to shift from conflict and suffering to connection and flow. The relationship between emotions and our bodies. How to shift from a reactive brain to an open-focus brain. And much more! Dr. Julia Colwell, a Psychologist, teacher, relationship expert and author of Relationship Ride and The Relationship Skills Workbook. We are excited to announce the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website like Kickstarter or GoFundMe where you can support creatives! We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : ) When you contribute you will also get awesome exclusive benefits for our patrons. You can sign up to donate as little as $2 per month to support the podcast. Any little bit helps! Sign up to support the podcast today. I Do Podcast is also support by: If you shop on Amazon, you can use this link, and we will get a small percentage of everything you buy! Don't worry, this money is coming from Amazon, and you will not pay any extra, and you'll help us out along the way! Click the link here and it will automatically save on your computer for 30 days. After 30 days you can just click again and it will redo it for another 30! Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information ,but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don't like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast We don't like asking our listeners for handouts, so we aren't! The last two options won't cost you any money that you aren't already spending and you can support us on Patreon for less than the cost of a cup of morning Joe! If you haven't already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! - Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 15, 201639 min

Ep 6060: What Should I Do After A Breakup?

Breaking up is never easy and can take a huge emotional and physical toll on people. Today we talk with Chris Seiter who specializes in helping individuals decide if they should breakup, get back together with their ex or simply move on. Chris is the mastermind behind exboyfriendrecovery.com and exgirlfriendrecovery.com. Chris has been able to put thousands of couples back together through his knowledge and relationship guidance techniques. In today's episode we talk all things breaking up. We answer these questions and more in our discussion. What do you do after a breakup? How do you decide if you should give your relationship another shot and get back with your ex? How long should you wait after a breakup to try to get back with your ex? Are some relationships not worth trying to save? If you have experienced heartache or are thinking about breaking up with a significant other, consider listening to this episode today. We are excited to announce the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website like Kickstarter or GoFundMe where you can support creatives! We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : ) When you contribute you will also get awesome exclusive benefits for our patrons. You can sign up to donate as little as $2 per month to support the podcast. Any little bit helps! Sign up to support the podcast today. I Do Podcast is also support by: Amazon.com If you shop on Amazon, you can use this link, and we will get a small percentage of everything you buy! Don't worry, this money is coming from Amazon, and you will not pay any extra, and you'll help us out along the way! Click the link here and it will automatically save on your computer for 30 days. After 30 days you can just click again and it will redo it for another 30! Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information ,but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don't like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast We don't like asking our listeners for handouts, so we aren't! The last two options won't cost you any money that you aren't already spending and you can support us on Patreon for less than the cost of a cup of morning Joe! If you haven't already subscribed to I Do Podcast and left us a review on iTunes, that helps us a ton as well Thanks! - Chase and Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 8, 201636 min

Ep 15959: When the Past Affects Your Relationship

Dr. David Richo explains why the way we were raised and how our past experiences affect our relationships. Dr. Richo gives relationship advice on how to deal with our past both individually and with your partner. You will lean the tools to examine your past and the past of your partner to improve your relationship or marriage. Take note of the 5 A's - Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection and Allowing, and how they will help you work through your past and build a strong relationship or marriage. Today's episode is brought to you by Audible.com. Get a free audio book by signing up for a FREE 30-day trial at audibletrial.com/idopodcast Check out our YouTube channel for post-show recaps and to see us live and in the flesh! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsur4cKEwqv9Y-Axcf2lgkQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 3, 201627 min

Ep 5858: Make Love, Not Conflict

Do you want more love and less conflict in your relationship? Learn how as we talk with psychotherapist and best-selling author, Jonathan Robinson. Listen to today's episode as Jonathan gives us the tools and practices to communicate well and create a strong relationship. Learn about the Acknowledgement Formula and how it can help you understand your partner better and improve your relationship. Find out how pausing during an argument can help you better resolve conflict in your relationship. We all want to feel understood and to have our feelings acknowledged in our relationships. Listen to today's episode to learn how to make this happen! Today's episode is brought to you by Audible.com. Get a free audio book by signing up for a FREE 30-day trial at www.audibletrial.com/idopodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 1, 201633 min

Ep 5757: Fun Fall Dating Ideas For a Stronger Relationship Featuring Samantha Burns

Join us as we talk with the Millennial Love Expert, Samantha Burns, about fun ideas for fall dates, and why dating your partner is so important for a healthy relationship. Samantha is a licensed counselor and dating coach who works with couples and individuals across the country to provide relationship, marriage and dating advice. Samantha has been featured as an expert contributor on sites such as Huffington Post, Women's Health, Brides, Elite Daily and on media such as Inside Edition, Today Show and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 28, 201637 min

Ep 5656: Porn and Your Relationship with Dr. David Ley

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Dr. David Ley provides valuable insight and advice on how porn can positively and negatively affect a relationship. 90% of couples never talk about porn use in their relationships. Listen to find out the keys navigating porn use within a relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 25, 201642 min

Ep 5555: Are You Dating the Wrong Types of People? Learn More from Melissa Leger

Melissa is the author of the upcoming book, Gumball Love. We talk about how to filter out the bad guys or girls in dating and relationships. We also cover how to know if the person you are dating is right for you and much more! Don't waste your time dating the wrong people over and over. Listen and learn from our interview with Melissa. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 18, 201653 min

Ep 5454: Darya Haitoglou on 6 Tips to Enrich Your Relationship

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Join us as Darya Haitoglou shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Darya gives relationship advice on 6 Tips to Enrich Relationships in long-term marriage! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 11, 201639 min

Ep 5353: We're Back!

After a two year break, Chase and Sarah Kosterlitz are back - married and with a baby! Join us as we continue to share expert advice on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 7, 201625 min