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Ep 248248: Co-Parenting and Sexuality
The new normal family dynamic is evolving and co-parenting plays a big role in many of these new situations. In today's episode, Dr. Lis tells us how to co-parent better and how to reduce the shame around sexuality for ourselves in our kids. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to co-parent more effectively Dating new people when you have kids How to talk about sexuality with your kids starting at a young age Cognitive re-framing exercises when thinking about your own sexual story And much more! Dr. Lea Lis, M.D. “The Shameless Psychiatrist," is on a mission to help children and parents live without shame about their sexuality. Dr. Lis is a double board-certified adult and child psychiatrist who has worked with non-traditional family arrangements throughout her career and considers these families “the new normal.” Widespread social changes, along with a sex-saturated media and ongoing debates about the meaning of gender and sexuality, generate new challenges for parents of all kinds. Dr. Lis helps parents, children, and adolescents face these challenges and develop healthy, sex-positive attitudes and practices. During her training and residency at St. Vincent’s Hospital in New York and New York University, as well as in her private psychiatric practice, Dr. Lis has developed expertise in working with modern families of all types. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/248 NEW! Access Love Under Quarantine here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Objective Wellness: Objective Wellness offers targeted solutions for you to stay healthy and strong. Visit ObjectiveWellness.com and use the code IDO to get 20% off your first order! Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 247247: The Seasons Of Your Relationship
Our relationships go through natural rhythms and cycles just as the rest of nature does. If you can understand that your relationship will go through different seasons, you can better navigate the changes. Listen to this episode to learn about the different seasons of your relationship and life. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Becoming aware of the patterns in nature and working with them in your relationship Understanding that whatever is happening in your life will change How we can personally change with the seasons of the year and throughout our lives Why we shouldn't change too many things at once in our relationship And much more! John G. Cottone, Ph.D., is a psychologist in private practice; a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the Renaissance School of Medicine at Stony Brook University; and a researcher with peer-reviewed publications in psychology, psychiatry and neuroscience. He is also the author of a personal growth book entitled "Who Are You? Essential Questions for Hitchhikers on the Road of Truth." Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/247 NEW! Access Love Under Quarantine here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Policy Genius is America's leading online insurance marketplace. Compare and buy in just a few minutes. We all get things wrong from time to time. At least we can get life insurance right with Policy Genius. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 246246: How To Create Meaning, Purpose And Happiness In Your Relationship
Access our new Love Under Quarantine series here: Love Under Quarantine This show's title sounds like a big project, huh? Well, we believe it's definitely one worth pursuing! Listen to today's show to get the tools and information to start creating more meaning, purpose and happiness in your relationship today! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to create meaning and reach goals in your relationship Importance of not looking to your partner to make you happy Building something bigger in your relationship The two phases of our realities and the key to understanding each How to keep things fresh in a long term relationship And much more! For more than 13 years, Peter Lynn and Tod Jacobs have been helping their students develop a mature and idealistic vision of marriage as the primary vehicle to create wholeness, meaning, purpose and happiness in their lives, and on working to perfect the character issues that lie at the core of a successful spouse -- giving, empathy, focus, staying power and a strong desire to help build the other. Their work combines practical and mystical Jewish wisdom with modern theory and techniques, and with experience accrued through years of real-world implementation and practice. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/246 NEW! Access Love Under Quarantine here! Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Dipsea is an audio app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions that are designed to turn you on and help you get in touch with yourself. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 245245: Managing Stress & Anxiety During COVID-19
Access our new Love Under Quarantine series here: Love Under Quarantine You're not alone if the current crisis is causing you to feel stressed and anxious. Anxiety can manifest itself in many ways that prove detrimental to our own personal health, as well as our relationships. The sense of uncertainty, worrying about the future and the general demands of life are all forms of anxiety. Don’t let anxiety bog you down and negatively affect the relationship with yourself and your partner. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How anxiety can manifest as reactivity to your partner and how to change this to responsiveness Why some anxiety can be good and how to best channel this energy Becoming aware of your anxiety and taking steps to manage it How to slow things down rather than approaching everything with a sense of urgency How anxiety lives in the body and the physiological responses we can create to cope with our anxiety And much more! Dr. Denise Fournier is a mindfulness-based psychotherapist and coach in Miami, FL. Through her practice, Evergreen Therapy, she works with individuals and couples using an approach that blends modern research and Eastern philosophy. In addition to her work with clients, Denise is also an adjunct professor at Nova Southeastern University and a regular contributor to the Psychology Today. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/245 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO20 during checkout! Feals is premium CBD delivered straight to your door. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/ido and get 50% off your first order. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 244244: Love Is Not Enough
Mark Manson is a NYT bestselling author who has written books about hope, living a good life and now an audible original about love and relationships. Listen to today's show to hear Mark's perspective on relationships through his own personal experiences and through putting together an audiobook about them. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of recognizing the false 'Disney narrative' about love and relationships Learning to be skeptical of yourself as a tool for living a good life How to decide who you should date Why Mark believes love is not scarce What Mark has learned from his own relationships and from putting together this audiobook And much more! Mark Manson is an OG super blogger turned best-selling author. His international smash hit, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck, has sold millions of copies, inspiring a generation of no fucks given. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/244 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 243243: Understanding Personalities for Better Relationships
Our personality is created by a multitude of complex factors to create a way in which we view the world and relate with others. One theory on the dimensions of our personality comes from the 19th-century spiritual philosopher George Gurdjieff. Today's guest, John Cottone, Ph.D., walks us through Gurdjieff's personality theory and shows us how we can apply it to ourselves and our relationships. Gurdjieff believed that personality types can be divided into physical, emotional and intellectual categories and that each person would be well-served by following the spiritual path that resonates with her respective personality orientation. We really enjoyed this conversation and hope you do too! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn about the physical, emotional and intellectual personality dimensions How to determine which personality dimension you and your partner align with the most Understanding if some personality dimensions are incompatible? How to work with your partner's personality Why understanding you and your partner's personality type can be valuable during these difficult times And much more! John G. Cottone, Ph.D., is a psychologist in private practice; a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the Renaissance School of Medicine at Stony Brook University; and a researcher with peer-reviewed publications in psychology, psychiatry and neuroscience. He is also the author of a personal growth book entitled "Who Are You? Essential Questions for Hitchhikers on the Road of Truth." Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/243 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Feals is premium CBD delivered straight to your door. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/ido and get 50% off your first order. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 242242: The Coronavirus And Your Relationship
The Coronavirus pandemic is on everyone's minds, and is likely adding stress to your life and relationships. Listen to today's show with Dr. Melanie Joy as we discuss how to navigate your personal and relational life specifically during these difficult times. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to help yourself and your partner feel secure during times of insecurity What to do if your partner does not care about the health situation as much as you do Why it's important to understand innate personal views on hygiene How to communicate in the most productive way when discussing important decisions and views Making decisions that are good for your relationship during stressful times And much more! Melanie Joy, PhD, is a Harvard-educated psychologist specializing in relationships, communication and social change. She is the award-winning author of five books, including Getting Relationships Right: How to Build Resilience and Thrive in Life, Love, and Work. Dr. Joy is also an international speaker, trainer and organizational coach. Her work has been featured by media outlets around the world, including The New York Times, BBC, and ABC Australia; and she has been granted a number of international awards. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/242 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO20 during checkout! Dipsea is an audio app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions that are designed to turn you on and help you get in touch with yourself. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 241241: Financial Planning and Your Relationship
Personal finances and insurance are not the most sexy topics when it comes to working on your relationship. However, these things can pull two people apart and even end relationships all together. Listen to today's show to learn how to get your financial and relational life in order with your partner. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn a recommended route to a more financially responsible partnership Where to start when talking about insurance and financial responsibilities with your partner How does a financial planner budget for his wedding? Contributing to investments for retirement And much more! Patrick Hanzel is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ on the advanced planning team at Policygenius. He has eight years of industry experience and previously worked as an advisor and associate at Northwestern Mutual. He has a degree in Business Administration from Nebraska Wesleyan University. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/241 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Zola: Zola makes wedding planning so much easier and less stressful with their wedding websites, registry, invites, and a guest list manager all in one place. Sign up at Zola.com/IDO today to get your FREE personalized paper sample. Then use code SAVE50 to get 50% off your save the dates. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 240240: Coercive Control In Relationships
Coercive control is a seriously negative strategy introduced in some relationships. Listen to today's show to understand if you are in a coercive control relationship, and how to navigate this territory. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Coercive control as a strategy for your partner to dominate others through manipulation, isolation and other toxic behaviors How to stand up to a coercive controlling partner How to determine if your partner exhibits coercive controlling behavior Changing the negative patterns and seeking professional help And much more! Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD is the author of Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship. With a PhD in Psychology, she has spent 25 years as a researcher, advocate and teacher on topics related to violence against women and children. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/240 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Thrive Causemetics: Start thriving and help women in need today by going to ThriveCausemetics.com/IDO and use code IDO for 15% off your first purchase! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 239239: Is Love Best When It's Fresh?
Our romantic lives with our partners will inevitably change over time. How can we navigate these changes in long term relationships? Listen to today's show to learn some tools and insights into this thing we call LOVE. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Experiences of early intense love contrasted with longer term profound love How can we make love and sexual desire last long term? The importance of focusing on the profound aspects of your partner Options for relationship styles depending on age and life circumstances Answers to the BIG question: Is love best when it's fresh? And much more! Aaron Ben-Ze’ev is a Professor of Philosophy at the University of Haifa. His most recent book is The Arc of Love: How Our Romantic Lives Change Over Time. (University of Chicago Press, 2019). He is a former President of the University of Haifa, and he is the Founding and Former President of the European Philosophical Society for the Study of Emotions. Professor Ben-Ze'ev is considered one of the world's leading experts in the study of emotions. Most recently, his research has centered on love and the impact of time on romantic love. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/239 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Feals is premium CBD delivered straight to your door. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/ido and get 50% off your first order. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 238238: When Sorry Isn't Enough
Much of a successful relationship involves properly apologizing to your partner and repairing the relationship. Relationships are not necessarily about preventing disagreements and arguments, but apologizing and moving forward positively. Listen to today's show to learn how to apologize the right way! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why simply saying you're sorry is usually not enough The five apology languages that you and your partner will likely fall into Blame and its role in apologizing How to communicate if you are desiring an apology from someone not giving it How to make your apology sincere And much more! Dr. Jen Thomas is a TED speaker, psychologist and author. She enjoys teaching what to say when challenging conversations arise at work or at home. Today’s world requires that you know the essentials of successful apologies. Simply saying you’re sorry is usually not enough. Dr. Jen helps people like you turn bad situations into good outcomes based on your love and apology languages. She is one of a handful of approved presenters for Gary Chapman’s #1 New York Times best-selling book series “The Five Love Languages.” Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/238 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO20 during checkout! Dipsea is an audio app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions that are designed to turn you on and help you get in touch with yourself. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 237237: Pitfalls of Using Others to Manage Your Anxiety
Relationship partners and friends can offer valuable support for managing stress and anxiety in our lives. However, sometimes relying on others to manage our emotions can create negative effects in our lives and relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how to balance this sometimes complicated dynamic. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding if you are automatically pulling in a third person to help manage your relationship anxiety The negative effects of relying too much on others How to sit with your own anxiety before projecting it onto others Writing things down to help process your problems Becoming curious about how you function when you become anxious And much more! Dr. Kathleen Smith is a licensed therapist and mental health writer who lives in Washington, DC. She is the author of the new book, Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down. She is an associate faculty member at the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family and hosts the show Family Matters, a production of the University of the District of Columbia. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/237 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bonus: Wondery Presents Dying For Sex
EWhen host Nikki Boyer’s best friend Molly is diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer, she decides to do something bold. She leaves an unhappy marriage and embarks on a series of sexual adventures to feel alive. Over this six-part miniseries, Molly shares the details of her hilarious escapades in a story about friendship, death, and what you do with the time you have left. From Wondery, the creators of Dirty John and The Moment comes Dying For Sex. Listen now at https://wondery.fm/DFS20. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 236236: The Amazing Expanded Orgasm
EWhat if we told you that a woman is capable of having an hour-long orgasm? Sounds too good to be true right!? Well, there are techniques that can make this happen. Listen to today's show to learn about the expanded orgasm practice and its benefits for both men and women. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The practice of expanded orgasm and how to begin your journey to become an erotic master Spirituality and expanded orgasm as meditation Meaning making through sexual experience with your partner The value of no male expectation for sexual reciprocity And much more! Susan Bratton is an advocate and champion of all who desire passionate intimacy. She is a best-selling author of 34 books and online programs that teach passionate lovemaking, bedroom communication skills and restorative sexual wellness techniques. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/236 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 235235: How To Create The Relationship You Want
Want to feel empowered? How about realizing that YOU have the power to create the relationship of your dreams and find your own happiness. Many of us look to our partners to make us happy in our relationships. Listen to today's show to understand why that's the wrong approach and how to switch that mindset. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Getting rid of the expectation that our partner will make us happy Self reflection practices to understand your contribution to creating conflict Realizing that relationship issues don't always get solved Using conflict for growth in your relationship Developing positive characteristics in yourself And much more! As an author and public speaker with 40 years of experience in psychotherapy, Larry Shushansky has written a book called Independent Enough and is looking to share his theory with as many people as possible. Larry turns his theories on relationships into achievable day-to-day practices for his audiences through engaging, conversational-style presentations. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/235 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Baked By Melissa: This Valentine’s Day, send your loved ones the perfect gift - Baked by Melissa. Go to BakedByMelissa.com/ido and use promo code IDO to get 15% off your order! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 234234: Brain First Approach To Relationships
The brain — Sometimes we take it for granted, and don't realize its importance as an organ in shaping our relationships. The better we understand and take care of our brain, the better chance we'll have for relationship success. Listen to today's show to learn how to optimize your brain for a better relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding our brains drive our behavior How to optimize brain health through nutrition, movement, sleep and breath The importance of play as an adult in relationship How to avoid 'fight or flight communication' And much more! Dave Kenney is the Co-Founder and Executive Director at Emergo Recovery, along with Susan Kenney, who is the Co-Founder and Director of Therapeutic Wellness at Emergo Recovery. Emergo Recovery is a private, residential recovery and wellness center focused on a brain-first approach. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/234 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO20 during checkout! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 233233: Setting Emotional Boundaries In Your Relationship
Do you feel like you're constantly on the receiving end of your partner's emotions? In relationships we want to be emotionally available for our partners and maintain healthy communication. However, sometimes emotional boundaries need to be set to help protect your personal mental health and to benefit your relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn how to set healthy emotional boundaries. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why 'keeping the peace' by not standing up for yourself can lead to unhealthy relationship dynamics Pausing to understand what it is that you really need for yourself and for the relationship Is there such a thing as over communication in relationships? Understanding that you don't always need to accommodate your partner's needs Why conflict is OK in your relationship and how to better navigate it And much more! Dana McNeil is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist and is the founder of a group practice called The Relationship Place located in San Diego, California. Dana’s practice specializes in couples’ therapy and utilizes an evidence-based type of couples’ therapy which is known as the Gottman Method. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/233 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Zola: Zola makes wedding planning so much easier and less stressful with their wedding websites, registry, invites, and a guest list manager all in one place. Sign up at Zola.com/IDO today to get your FREE personalized paper sample. Then use code SAVE50 to get 50% off your save the dates. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 232232: Non-Monogamy And Open Relationships Deep Dive
The best estimates are that 1 in 5 people have participated in some kind of non-monogamous relationship. These kinds of relationship structures are gaining wider awareness and acceptance in today's society. Learning about non-monogamy can be valuable whether it's appealing to you or not. Listen to today's show to learn all about non-monogamy and open relationships! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the different forms of non-monogamy Polyamory vs swinging vs open relationships Why debating whether non-monogamy or monogamy is most 'natural' is unproductive How to talk to your partner about non-monogamy Questions to ask yourself if you want to be non-monogamous Importance of educating yourself before you start non-monogamy Time management in open relationships New relationship energy and what it can do for you And much more! Jase Lindgren is a non-monogamous dating coach, healthy masculinity educator and sex-positivity advocate. He has trained in positive psychology, Emotional Freedom Technique, consent education, and Buddhist mindfulness practice. He has worked with the government and celebrities on HIV public awareness in Russia, is a long-time fan of podcasts. As one of the hosts of the Multiamory podcasts he enjoys teaching people how to suck less at communication and grow in their relationships, especially the one with themselves. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/232 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Atlantis: Dreaming of a Bahamas destination wedding? Visit atlantisbahamas.com and mention "I Do Podcast" to receive the best room rates and up to 10% off your wedding package. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 231231: Understanding The Menstrual Cycle Will Improve Your Relationship!
Attention men and women! Do you know the menstrual cycle and how hormones ebb and flow throughout this 4 week time period? Maybe your answer is yes. But, if you're like us, the answer is no. Even if you do know the details of hormone changes and how that affects a woman's body and brain, do you know your own or your partners exact day on the cycle right now? Knowing all of this information can be incredibly helpful for relationships! Listen to today's episode to learn why and how to keep track of the cycle. The importance of understanding the entire span of the menstrual cycle How each week of the cycle is different and what mood changes to expect during each one Which weeks women are more likely to have a higher libido Men's 24-hour hormone cycle Apps to help both men and women in relationship track the menstrual cycle And much more! Gabrielle Lichterman is the founder of Hormonology, creator of the Hormone Horoscope App for women and Female Forecaster App for men, and author of 28 Days: What Your Cycle Reveals About Your Moods, Health & Potential. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/231 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Zola: Zola makes wedding planning so much easier and less stressful with their wedding websites, registry, invites, and a guest list manager all in one place. Sign up at Zola.com/IDO today to get your FREE personalized paper sample. Then use code SAVE50 to get 50% off your save the dates. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 230230: Avoiding Fatigue In A Long Term Relationship
Let's face it, being in a relationship is HARD WORK! Long term relationships are even harder. It's not a walk in the park to live with the same person for years and communicate, love, fornicate and just live a life. The more tools you have to continually do the work on your journey, the more successful and happy you'll be in your long term relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn how to avoid long term relationship fatigue. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of keeping your expectations in check What to do when one partner is a 'seeker' Cultural myths surrounding marriage and the importance of recognizing them Letting go and accepting the humanity of ourselves and our partner The importance of realizing your partner will not be your everything Avoiding criticism of the same thing in your partner over and over And much more! Josh Gressel, Ph.D, is a clinical psychologist and couple’s counselor in private practice with over 32 years experience. He has also been married 38 years. He is the author of Embracing Envy: Finding the Spiritual Treasure in Our Most Shameful Emotion and has just finished a new book on masculinity. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/230 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido and get 50% off your subscription and start a free 60-day trial. Atlantis: Dreaming of a Bahamas destination wedding? Visit atlantisbahamas.com and mention "I Do Podcast" to receive the best room rates and up to 10% off your wedding package. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 229229: Conceiving With Love And Chinese Medicine
Trying to conceive with your partner is a big deal. The process of baby making can be fun, but it can also be very stressful on the relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn the best ways to approach the process through both western and Chinese medicine perspectives. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to avoid conceiving as a job and take the pressure off both partners Taking care of your body in preparation for conceiving How to have deep and honest communication about the process Using Chinese medicine for conceiving and lifestyle improvement Timing of sex when trying to conceive And much more! Denise Wiesner, LAc, FABORM, founder of the Natural Healing and Acupuncture Clinic in West Los Angeles, is an internationally recognized traditional Chinese medicine practitioner, specializing in the Whole Systems Chinese medicine approach to women’s health, sexuality, and fertility and author of the new book Conceiving with Love: A Whole-Body Approach to Creating Intimacy, Reigniting Passion, and Increasing Fertility. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/229 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Pill Club: Birth control that actually gives you control. Get the care that you deserve. Visit thepillclub.com/ido to get your first birth control care package. BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 228228: Psychedelics, Dance and Breathing: How Ecstatic Practices Can Improve Your Relationship
When was the last time you experienced ecstasy? This feeling is fundamental to being human, and yet we don't get it nearly enough — if at all in our lives. You don't have to use psychedelic medicine, although they can be a viable choice, to have an ecstatic experience. Listen to today's show to learn other ways to produce ecstatic experiences, and how they can produce profound impacts on your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Exploring the mind-body connection through ecstatic dance practices Psychedelic research and it's application to improving relationships Holotropic breathework and how it can produce ecstasy How eastern practices are penetrating western society and how we can benefit from them How to get unstuck when you feel stuck And much more! Alex Belser, Ph.D., is a Clinical Research Fellow and therapy supervisor at Yale University. At Yale he is a Co-Investigator of two trials exploring psilocybin-treatment for OCD and depression. He also teachers in the master's program in the Department of Applied Psychology at New York University. He previously studied at Columbia University, Georgetown University, and Cambridge University. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/228 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. To get 30% off your invites and paper order visit ZOLA.com/ido. Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido and get 50% off your subscription and start a free 60-day trial. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 227227: Getting Off Without Checking Out
EMindfulness is having a much deserved moment in the world of podcasting and popular culture. Learning how to bring mindfulness into the bedroom is a skill that can improve your relationship and sex life — something most of us can benefit from. Learn how to get off without checking out in today's episode. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to get out of a state of fear and judgement around sex in your relationship How to bring attention to what feels good during sex and communicating this with your partner Becoming more embodied and familiar with our sensuality Loving and accepting your own body Micro-practices for more sexuality in your life Asking for what you want in bed And much more! Jessica Graham is a meditation teacher, sex, relationship and spiritual guide for couples and individuals, speaker and author of Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out. She is a contributing editor of the meditation blog, Deconstructing Yourself and co-founded The Eastside Mindfulness Collective. Jessica also founded Wild Awakening, to help people become more human through psycho-spiritual evolution using meditation and self-inquiry. Jessica is also an award-winning actor and filmmaker. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/227 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Away: Luggage for the modern traveler—lightweight, premium features, and a lifetime warranty. For $20 off a suitcase, visit awaytravel.com/IDO and use promo code IDO during checkout. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 226226: Tapping Into Your Intuition
Have you ever had a 'gut feeling' about something? This feeling can also be know as our intuition or inner self. Listening to our intuition can help us make better decisions and improve our relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how to tap into your intuition. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How the noise of modern life blocks out our intuition Learning from our mistakes and listening to our intuition How to get out of our minds and thinking about the past Listening to your intuition to improve your relationship Tools to improve your ability to tap into your intuition And much more! Victoria Shaw is a psychologist and licensed professional counselor who combines her training in counseling and psychology with her intuitive gifts. Victoria specializes in working with highly intuitive, empathic and sensitive souls to help them leverage their gifts and maximize their potential. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/226 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido you can start a free 60-day trial. Pill Club: Birth control that actually gives you control. Get the care that you deserve. Visit thepillclub.com/ido to get your first birth control care package. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 225225: Being a Man, Or Loving One, In Today's Society
EToday's cultural narratives have significant impacts on how we view ourselves, our relationships and gender roles. Listen to today's show to understand how culture may be influencing the male narrative and what that can mean for men and women alike. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Male dominance throughout history and how that has changed and impacted relationships The impact that narratives around male sexuality have on both men and women Setting the conditions to cultivate desire in your relationship Stephen's myths of modern male and female sexuality Understanding you don't have to 'be' something in particular according to what culture tells you And much more! Dr. Stephen Snyder is a sex and relationship therapist in Manhattan, and author of the award-winning new book, "Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long Lasting Relationship," and host of the “Relationship Doctor” podcast on Macmillan Publishers’ QDT Network. He's a regular contributor to Huffington Post, Psychology Today, and The Times of London, and a frequent guest on national media. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/225 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido and get 50% off your subscription and start a free 60-day trial. BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bonus: Introducing Detective Trapp
Anaheim investigator Julissa Trapp is not like other detectives. She’s the only woman on the homicide squad, and a skilled chameleon: undercover cop in vice stings, crime-scene commander, patient confidante of killers. A master interrogator, she invokes her personal experience – and deepest griefs -- as a tool to elicit confessions. When a young woman’s body is found at a trash-sorting plant, Trapp learns the murder may be linked to the disappearance of three other women in nearby Santa Ana. Trapp embarks on a dark journey that brings her face to face with a man who takes “a little piece of her soul.” Listen now at Wondery.fm/TrappIdo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 224224: Exploring Your Sexuality
EThere are many ways to approach improving your relationship and sex life. One approach would be trying new things and seeing what works. Lucky for us, Pam Costa has done a lot of exploration herself and has beautifully shared her journey through her writing and interviews. We're happy to have Pam on the show to explore the work she does as a sex therapist and to share her personal journey. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to explore your body sexually and take ownership of it How group work can help you in your relationship Experimenting with bondage and 'erotic dinners' How to know and learn what you're in to sexually Open relationships and what monogamists can learn from them How to have deep conversations about sexuality with your partner And much more! After a decade-and-a-half at Apple and Facebook, Pam Costa left her career in high tech and found Down To There to share her real-life stories of challenges and successes around sexuality in her marriage. Through her writing, speaking and coaching, she hopes to inspire individuals and couples to find ways to renew and deepen desire and intimacy in their own relationships. Pam is also passionate about raising awareness within the medical and mental health communities about the positive impact of peer support on female sexual health, recently presenting her research on this topic at the 2018 International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health conference and TEDx Palo Alto. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/224 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. To get 30% off your invites and paper order visit ZOLA.com/ido. Pill Club: Birth control that actually gives you control. Get the care that you deserve. Visit thepillclub.com/ido to get your first birth control care package. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 223223: Stop Arguing, Start Connecting
No one wants to be wrong. Two individuals often feel they can't both be 'right' when resolving conflict. Learning to hold the needs and feeling of both partners at the same time is a key element to relationship success. Listen to today's show to learn how to stop arguing and take your relationship from 'me' to 'we'. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to prevent moments of disconnect from accumulating and creating a toxic relationship Understanding that 'you don't know what you don't know' when it comes to what you need to work on in your relationship Why we argue with our partner How to empathize with your partner to move from 'me' to 'we' Key promises to make your partner to take ownership of your relationship and move forward with positivity And much more! Maureen Hosier is a licensed psychologist, specializing in the troubled dynamics of individuals in their romantic relationships and in their family and work place relationships. Maureen and her sister, Berta Hosier Conger, co-authored two books titled, You’ll Do Anything for Her and You’ll Do Anything for Him. They look at a common issue for many in relationship, both men and women, who give up themselves to make the relationship work. They have developed a framework for understanding the dynamics of individuals who find themselves stuck in an emotionally reactive and emotionally painful situation with their partner and who are frightened that they are destroying their relationship. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/223 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Feals is premium CBD delivered straight to your door. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/ido and get 50% off your first order with free shipping. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 222222: Create More Sexual Intimacy In Your Relationship
EDo you feel deeply connected to your partner sexually? Some couples have a sexual spark from the beginning, some build it over time, some never address it and others find it unimportant. Wherever you fall on that spectrum, there are tools to help create more sexual intimacy in your relationship. Listen to today's show to improve your overall relationship and long term relationship satisfaction. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how sexual intimacy permeates all areas of your relationship How to ask for what you need in your relationship through direct communication Five amazing steps to create more sexual intimacy (some of our favorite actionable tips to date!) Parallels between sex and overall relationship intimacy And much more! Dr. Judy Scheel is an expert in the treatment of eating and related disorders and author of a book on eating disorder recovery. She is trained by NYU Medical Langone in Human Sexuality and Sex Therapy. She maintains two blogs on Psychology Today, and is currently finishing up Certification at John Jay College of Criminal Justice in Forensic Psychology. Dr. Scheel maintains a private practice in Charlotte, NC and New York, and is a national and regional speaker. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/222 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Away: Luggage for the modern traveler—lightweight, premium features, and a lifetime warranty. For $20 off a suitcase, visit awaytravel.com/IDO and use promo code IDO during checkout. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 221221: Learn How To Deal With Your Partner's Annoying Behaviors
You know that thing your partner does that just annoys the hell out of you!? Chewing too loud, eating your leftovers, leaving the kitchen a mess, making the 'ahh' noise after taking a sip of water. You know what we're talking about. Well, you don't have to let those behaviors annoy you so much. Listen to today's show to learn how to deal with your partner's annoying habits. Learn the important difference between annoying behaviors and toxic relationship behaviors The importance of assuming good intentions from your partner Understanding the underlying reasons you are annoyed with your partner's behavior How to have a real conversation with your partner to make progress when it comes to annoying behaviors Learning to change yourself before trying to change you partner And much more! Dr. Seth Gillihan is a clinical psychologist, author, blogger and host of the Think Act Be podcast. His therapy practice focuses on mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapy for a range of issues, with in-person and video conference appointments available. Seth is the author of The CBT Deck and A Mindful Year, co-written with Dr. Aria Campbell-Danesh. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/221 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido you can start a free 60-day trial. Mint: Get your new wireless plan for just $15 a month, and get the plan shipped to your door for FREE. Visit mintmobile.com/ido Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 220220: Finding Clarity On Your Relationship's Health
Sometimes relationships are bad and need to end. Whether you're dating or married, there can be a point where you are struggling to find clarity on what you should do in the relationship and if you should allow it to continue. Listen to today's show to give yourself the tools for a relationship checkup and find clarity on if it's a relationship you should stay in. Specific questions to ask yourself to help determine the health of your relationship The importance of asking yourself if you've actually made efforts to sustain the relationship Looking within to see if you have unrealistic expectations for your relationship How to decide if you should break up, separate or divorce Understanding what is specifically troubling you in the relationship and the underlying issues And much more! Ann Gold Buscho, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist who specializes in family issues and issues related to divorce, parenting, parenting planning and co-parenting counseling. She has professional and personal experience in nesting, co-parenting, step-parenting and single-parenting issues. She has presented widely at state and national conferences for attorneys, mental health professionals, and financial professionals on collaborative divorce, forgiveness practices, nesting during divorce, and consensual dispute resolution. She is currently writing a book about nesting. Buscho is also a co-founder of a residential treatment program for traumatized emergency responders and their families at which she volunteers regularly. A graduate of Stanford University, she lives in San Rafael, California. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/220 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. To get 30% off your invites and paper order visit ZOLA.com/ido. Eyeconic: Where you can shop name brand glasses, contacts and sunglasses for the best possible price. Get free shipping and returns, price matching and a complimentary frame adjustment by visiting Eyeconic.com/IDO. Use the code IDO to get 10% off your entire order. Eyeconic is looking out for your eyes! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 219219: Negotiating Frequency of Sex
EIf you're in a relationship, there's a likelihood you've dealt with a mismatch is sexual desire. This mismatch can be caused by a variety of factors that can often lead to unhappiness in one or both partners. It doesn't have to be this way! Listen to today's show to learn how to negotiate the frequency of sex in your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding that there is no such thing as a 'normal' frequency for how much you should be having sex Should you schedule sex on the calendar? How culture impacts our views on sex and gender roles in the relationship Communicating with your partner about your sexual desires How our sexuality and relationship styles have evolved And much more! David Ludden, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at Georgia Gwinnett College. He received his Ph.D. in cognitive psychology from the University of Iowa, and is the author of The Psychology of Language: An Integrated Approach and author of the blog "Talking Apes" on Psychology Today. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/219 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido you can start a free 60-day trial. Pill Club: Birth control that actually gives you control. Get the care that you deserve. Visit thepillclub.com/ido to get your first birth control care package. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 218218: Mindfully Dating For Singles And Married Couples
Dating can be tricky in today's 'swipe right' online dating world. Approaching your dating life mindfully will help save you heart break and frustration. Whether you are single or married, mindfully dating your partner will bring more relationship success and happiness. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to date better. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Becoming consciously aware of your relationship needs and triggers Information on the new Facebook dating platform Understanding the negative internal stories we tell ourselves and changing this habit Dealing with rejection and ghosting when dating Managing dating anxiety And much more! Dr. Paulette Sherman is a psychologist, a relationship expert and the author of the new book, ‘Facebook Dating: From 1st Date to Soulmate,’ available on Amazon. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/218 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Eyeconic: Where you can shop name brand glasses, contacts and sunglasses for the best possible price. Get free shipping and returns, price matching and a complimentary frame adjustment by visiting Eyeconic.com/IDO. Use the code IDO to get 10% off your entire order. Eyeconic is looking out for your eyes! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 217217: Essential Elements Of Happiness
There are a lot of myths surrounding the attainment of happiness. Understanding these myths and moving toward a better path will improve your relationship and your life. Listen to today's show to learn how get on a path toward more happiness! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Examples for how we look for happiness in all of the wrong places Developing rituals with your partner to increase relationship satisfaction Using chocolate to develop mindfulness and become more attuned with your partner The importance of not personalizing our partners actions Looking at our partner in a new light without or predetermined labels And much more! Diane R. Gehart, Ph.D., is an author, an award-winning professor of Counseling and Family Therapy at California State University, Northridge, and a practicing psychotherapist. Her new book is Mindfulness for Chocolate Lovers: A Lighthearted Way to Stress Less and Savor More Each Day (Rowman & Littlefield, Sept. 15, 2019). Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/217 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Mint: Get your new wireless plan for just $15 a month, and get the plan shipped to your door for FREE. Visit mintmobile.com/ido Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 216216: Reconnecting and Dealing with Impossible Relationship Moments
Do you ever feel disconnected from your partner? Well, don't worry — at one point, all relationships will face various levels of disconnect. Listen to today's show to learn how to reconnect with your partner, and get through what might feel like an impossible relationship moment. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how attachment theory helps explain some of the relationship stress we experience when we become parents How to go from threatened to empathetic in our relationship conflicts Dealing with the feeling of being in an 'impossible place' in a relationship Sharing your vulnerability with your partner And much more! Fiachra “Figs” O’Sullivan, is the Founder and Chief Empathy at Empathi, which provides step-by-step guidance for couples and individuals who care about their relationships. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, who is certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples an dindividuals, and a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/216 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. To get 30% off your invites and paper order visit ZOLA.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 215215: Your Partner Will NOT Fulfill All Your Needs
It's easy to look to our partner to make us happy and fulfill our needs. However, instead of looking on the outside, we often need to look within. Listen to today's show to understand how to be in a healthy relationship with the understanding that our partner will not fulfill all of our needs. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Deconstructing the myth that our partner will fulfill all our needs Using the hard times in a relationship and turning them into breakthrough moments rather than breakdowns or breakups Circumstances where you could be looking toward your partner for fulfillment rather than within Understanding codependent relationships and breaking away from this type of relating The importance of regular relationship check ins And much more! Charlie and Linda Bloom have been married since 1972. Trained as psychotherapists and relationship counselors, they have worked with individuals, couples, groups and organizations since 1975. They have lectured and taught at learning institutes throughout the USA, including the Esalen Institute, the Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, the California Institute for Integral Studies, the Meridian University, John F. Kennedy University, the Crossings, Omega institute, the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology, University of California at Berkeley Extension Program, the Hoffman Institute and the World Health Organization. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/215 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bonus: Introducing Imagined Life Season Two
What is it like to be famous before you’re famous? What is it like to walk in the shoes of another person? Each episode of Imagined Life takes you on an immersive journey into the life of a world-famous person. It’ll be someone you may think you know, even admire -- or maybe the opposite. You’ll get clues to your identity along the way. But only in the final moments will you find out who “you” really are. So sit back, let go, and -- imagine your life, with our hosts, Oscar nominated Virginia Madsen and celebrated voice actor Robbie Daymond. From Wondery, the network behind Dirty John. Listen now at wondery.fm/idoido Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 214214: Do You Know Your Partner's Love Language?
We all receive love in different ways based on how we grew up, our culture, gender and potentially many other factors. Knowing your partner's love language is a great way to improve your relationship. Listen to today's show to learn the importance of truly loving your partner. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn what the five love languages are and why each is important The surprising reason why it's NOT crucial to know your partner's love language according to Mort The importance of asking yourself how you can be an overall more loving person How to express to your partner that you don't feel loved Rebuilding love after months or years of not being loved And much more! Mort Fertel is the creator of Marriage Fitness, a relationship renewal system that’s been used by millions of people in marital crisis. In addition to his success with couples, he pioneered the “Lone Ranger Track,” which offers people with an obstinate spouse a path to reconciliation. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/214 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Eyeconic: Where you can shop name brand glasses, contacts and sunglasses for the best possible price. Get free shipping and returns, price matching and a complimentary frame adjustment by visiting Eyeconic.com/IDO. Use the code IDO to get 10% off your entire order. Eyeconic is looking out for your eyes! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 213213: Supporting A Partner Who Is Managing Depression
Depression affects people from all walks of life and can occur at anytime. It's a mental health issue that can have a profound impact on the person whom it's affecting, as well as on their loved ones and friends. Listen to today's show to learn how you can help and support a partner who is depressed. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the difference between clinical depression, mood swings and personality disorders How you can help your partner through a difficult day The differences between men and woman with depression Steps in getting your partner help if they have not yet been diagnosed How to navigate the relationship if one partner is in denial or unaware of their depression The importance for the non-depressed partner to have their own support system And much more! Kristen Scarlett is the co-founder of Octave, a mental health startup in NYC. She launched the mental health services at Overlook Cancer Center and One Medical before opening Octave's doors in October 2018. She's a CBT therapist and teaches CBT at NYU medical school. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/213 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Mint: Get your new wireless plan for just $15 a month, and get the plan shipped to your door for FREE. Visit mintmobile.com/ido Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. To get 30% off your invites and paper order visit ZOLA.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 212212: Avoiding Newlywed and Long Term Relationship Pitfalls
Relationships can be relatively easy when you're in the early stages and all the happy chemicals are flowing. However, things can get quite difficult as time rolls on. Listen to today's show to learn the conversations you need to have to set your new marriage or long term relationship up for success. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to communicate about finances, sex and work-life balance for long term relationship success The importance of discussing your relationship expectations Warning signs that early relationship issues can carry into the long term Maintaining a couple identity and personal identity in your relationship How to communicate around what you like in bed and frequency of sexual relations And much more! Jenn Belus has a PhD in Clinical Psychology from the University of North Carolina. Both her research and clinical work has focused on understanding healthy intimate relationships and working with couples when one or both partners is struggling with mental or physical health problems. She is currently a postdoctoral fellow at the University of Maryland. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/212 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To start your free wedding website or registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/ido. Eyeconic: Where you can shop name brand glasses, contacts and sunglasses for the best possible price. Get free shipping and returns, price matching and a complimentary frame adjustment by visiting Eyeconic.com/IDO. Use the code IDO to get 10% off your entire order. Eyeconic is looking out for your eyes! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 211211: How To Resolve Built Up Resentment In Your Relationship
Feeling resentful can be one of the loneliest and toxic feelings in a relationship. If left unchecked, it can easily lead to a miserable life with your partner and separation. Listen to today's show to learn how to prevent resentment and deal with it if it already exists. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to prevent resentment from arising in the first place Once resentment is present, understand how to communicate with your partner to get over these feelings How to show empathy for your partner to prevent resentment Tools to tackle resentment in your relationship and end any toxic cycles And much more! Lucia Giovannini is a former Italian supermodel turned best-selling author, spiritual teacher, transformational coach, environmental & animal activist, and author of 13 books. Her best-selling book, “A Whole New Life”, was first published in Italian and is now translated into eight languages, including an English version published by Hay House India. Her book has sold thousands of copies around the world and will be debuting in the US in March 2019. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/211 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Audible: Audible has the largest selection of audiobooks on the planet including best sellers, motivation, mysteries, thrillers, memoirs, and more. Try it free for 30 days by visiting audible.com/IDO or text IDO to 500500 Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 210210: I Love You, But I Hate Your Politics
It can feel a bit overwhelming to discuss politics with a significant other, friends or family in today's politically charged world. Unfortunately, with the 2020 presidential election looming, the political divide in media and culture will likely be more apparent than ever. Listen to today's show to learn how to constructively talk politics and love someone with different political beliefs. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Hear the real life story of a successful long term marriage between two individuals on the opposite ends of the political spectrum Communication tools for talking about politics with your partner, friends and family Why it's OK to disagree with your partner politically Deciding if political differences are too hard to overcome in a relationship And much more! Jeanne Safer, Ph.D., a psychotherapist in New York City, is the author of The Golden Condom, Beyond Motherhood, The Normal One, and several other books. Dr. Safer has appeared on The Daily Show and Good Morning America as well as numerous NPR broadcasts. Her work has been the subject of articles in the New York Times and the Wall Street Journal. She is the host of the I Love You, But I Hate Your Politics podcast. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/210 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Eyeconic: Where you can shop name brand glasses, contacts and sunglasses for the best possible price. Get free shipping and returns, price matching and a complimentary frame adjustment by visiting eyeconic.com/ido. Use the code IDO to get 10% off your entire order. Eyeconic is looking out for your eyes! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 209209: How To Listen To Your Emotions And Understand Your Needs
Getting in touch with our emotions to determine what it is that we want out of our relationship and life is not always easy. 'Finding oneself' is a journey, not a destination. Listen to today's show to learn how to tap into our emotions so we can learn our needs. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Finding the deeper meaning in our emotions How to identify our emotional response to something in the relationship How to navigate feeling responsible for your partners happiness The 3 steps to process emotions — Recognize, organize and communicating emotions with your partner. And much more! Dr. Marni Feuerman is the author of Ghosted and Breadcrumbed. She is a licensed social worker and marriage and family therapist with a private practice counseling those with relationship issues. She also trains therapists to do couples therapy and writes about love relationships for a number of online media. She lives in Boca Raton, Florida. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/209 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 208208: Emotional Manipulation In Your Relationship
Emotional manipulation by your partner is a powerful tool that can have negative impacts on your relationship and well being. Listen to today's show to learn how your partner might be emotionally manipulating you and how to deal with it. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to recognize emotional manipulation and its various forms that include stonewalling, shutting down and gas lighting How to communicate with your partner regarding their emotional manipulation Recognizing that your partner has an agenda with their use of emotional manipulation How to deal with the 'silent treatment' And much more! Nancy F. Lee, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Beverly Hills, California. Dr. Lee is a leading practitioner of cognitive behavior therapy and specializes in a wide range of behavioral health issues ranging from depression and anxiety to male/female psychosexual desire and functioning. Her independent research has been published in the prestigious Journal of Affective Disorders and the International Journal of Eating Disorders, among others. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/208 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app. BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 207207: Alcohol and Relationships
Sharing a glass of wine with your partner can be a fun ritual and a great way to relax with someone you love. However, alcohol abuse and dependence can have toxic effects on individuals and relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how alcohol might be negatively effecting your relationship and how to fix it. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the differences between alcohol use, abuse and dependence Addressing alcohol dependence with your partner Determining if even a few drinks can be negatively impacting your relationship Holding each other responsible to avoid negative alcohol relationship impacts How to avoid enabling drinking behavior in your partner And much more! April Eldemire is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Bringing Baby Home Educator, and marriage and couples expert in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. She is passionately devoted to helping couples achieve thriving relationships and is a regular contributor for Psychology Today and The Gottman Institute, the most research-based center for marital health and stability. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/207 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app. Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To start your free wedding website or registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bonus: Introducing The Moment
Wondery’s The Moment, hosted by comedian Ingrid Haas, explores some epic real life romances to find the answers to our toughest relationship questions. From a Taylor Swift intervention, to getting betrothed by a horse, this podcast is your real life Rom-Com. Listen now at Wondery.fm/advice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 206206: When Your Partner Won't Do The Work
Relationships take work. That's why you're here listening to this podcast. One thing you may be running into is an issue with your partner not wanting to work on the relationship with you. They may be resistant, indifferent or simply too busy. Listen to today's show to learn what to do when your partner is not putting in the relationship work with you. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the importance of not trying to change your partner and instead make the changes yourself The value of scheduling 'protected time' to discuss issues with your partner The three big emotions we deny ourselves from expressing and how to communicate them How to communicate with your partner surrounding your desires to improve the relationship And much more! Laura Dabney, MD has made a career of taking on psychiatry's toughest challenges—from treating complex, combined medical and psychological conditions, to ensuring the absolute privacy of powerful, high-profile patients. Dr. Dabney's patients come to her for many reasons: depression and anxiety, recent break-ups or a lifetime of toxic relationships. Yet, despite the problems that brought them through her door, they describe her in the same terms again and again, calling her warm, knowledgeable, and committed to their success. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/206 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 205205: More Empathy = More Love
Not feeling loved and connected with your partner? You may not be receiving or giving enough empathy in your relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how to give or receive more empathy and create more love in the relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to be present to the feelings of your partner and empathically listen to them Understand the importance of coming to your partner's trouble with curiosity instead of judgement Why you don't need to try to 'fix' all of your partners problems How to get in touch with our own feelings to better connect with our partner The importance of setting an intention for what we want from our partner And much more! Anna Osborn, LMFT, owner of Life Unscripted Counseling, focuses her work on inspiring individuals and couples to be more intentional and connected in their love relationship. She works with folks on improving communication, deepening intimacy, healing from betrayal and changing negative patterns of disconnection in their relationships. She hosts an annual women’s retreat in Laguna Beach, CA. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/205 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app. Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 204204: Rethinking Female Sexuality
There's a certain cultural narrative we follow about our sexuality. Female sexuality, in particular, has been largely misunderstood. New research is showing a deeper truth about female sexuality that has the ability to set both men and women free. Listen to today's show to better understand female sexuality and how it can improve your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why it's untrue that women have a lower libido than men, and men are more promiscuous than women The differences in men and women's sexual desires and how each is triggered Unpacking the myth that monogamous relationships are easier for women How to feel more sexually comfortable in your skin And much more! Dr. Wednesday Martin is a #1 New York Times bestselling author and cultural critic. She has written on female experience and female sexuality for the New York Times, The Atlantic, Psychology Today, Time, The Daily Beast, The Hollywood Reporter, and more. She lectures across the country and around the world on female sexuality. Kirkus Review named UNTRUE one of the best books of 2018, and called it "an indispensable work of popular psychology and sociology." Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/204 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app. Audible: Audible has the largest selection of audiobooks on the planet including best sellers, motivation, mysteries, thrillers, memoirs, and more. Try it free for 30 days by visiting audible.com/IDO or text IDO to 500500 Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 203203: Loving Through Your Differences
Breaking News! You're different from your partner. Sometimes we love our partner for their differences, other times differences create extraordinary conflict. Listen to today's show to learn the relationship tools to navigate the personal differences in your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of understanding that many of our differences come from how we individually perceive things How to share your feelings instead of judgments Communication skills to compromise on your differences Learn an AMAZING exercise to help problem solve in your relationship And much more! James L. Creighton, Ph.D., is the author of Loving through Our Differences and several other books. He has worked with couples and conducted communications training for nearly 50 years around the world. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/203 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app. BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices