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Bonus: Wondery Presents Dying For Sex

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When host Nikki Boyer’s best friend Molly is diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer, she decides to do something bold. She leaves an unhappy marriage and embarks on a series of sexual adventures to feel alive. Over this six-part miniseries, Molly shares the details of her hilarious escapades in a story about friendship, death, and what you do with the time you have left. From Wondery, the creators of Dirty John and The Moment comes Dying For Sex. Listen now at https://wondery.fm/DFS20. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feb 12, 20208 min

Ep 236236: The Amazing Expanded Orgasm

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What if we told you that a woman is capable of having an hour-long orgasm? Sounds too good to be true right!? Well, there are techniques that can make this happen. Listen to today's show to learn about the expanded orgasm practice and its benefits for both men and women. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The practice of expanded orgasm and how to begin your journey to become an erotic master Spirituality and expanded orgasm as meditation Meaning making through sexual experience with your partner The value of no male expectation for sexual reciprocity And much more! Susan Bratton is an advocate and champion of all who desire passionate intimacy. She is a best-selling author of 34 books and online programs that teach passionate lovemaking, bedroom communication skills and restorative sexual wellness techniques. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/236 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feb 6, 202044 min

Ep 235235: How To Create The Relationship You Want

Want to feel empowered? How about realizing that YOU have the power to create the relationship of your dreams and find your own happiness. Many of us look to our partners to make us happy in our relationships. Listen to today's show to understand why that's the wrong approach and how to switch that mindset. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Getting rid of the expectation that our partner will make us happy Self reflection practices to understand your contribution to creating conflict Realizing that relationship issues don't always get solved Using conflict for growth in your relationship Developing positive characteristics in yourself And much more! As an author and public speaker with 40 years of experience in psychotherapy, Larry Shushansky has written a book called Independent Enough and is looking to share his theory with as many people as possible. Larry turns his theories on relationships into achievable day-to-day practices for his audiences through engaging, conversational-style presentations. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/235 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Baked By Melissa: This Valentine’s Day, send your loved ones the perfect gift - Baked by Melissa. Go to BakedByMelissa.com/ido and use promo code IDO to get 15% off your order! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 29, 202054 min

Ep 234234: Brain First Approach To Relationships

The brain — Sometimes we take it for granted, and don't realize its importance as an organ in shaping our relationships. The better we understand and take care of our brain, the better chance we'll have for relationship success. Listen to today's show to learn how to optimize your brain for a better relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding our brains drive our behavior How to optimize brain health through nutrition, movement, sleep and breath The importance of play as an adult in relationship How to avoid 'fight or flight communication' And much more! Dave Kenney is the Co-Founder and Executive Director at Emergo Recovery, along with Susan Kenney, who is the Co-Founder and Director of Therapeutic Wellness at Emergo Recovery. Emergo Recovery is a private, residential recovery and wellness center focused on a brain-first approach. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/234 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO20 during checkout! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 23, 202045 min

Ep 233233: Setting Emotional Boundaries In Your Relationship

Do you feel like you're constantly on the receiving end of your partner's emotions? In relationships we want to be emotionally available for our partners and maintain healthy communication. However, sometimes emotional boundaries need to be set to help protect your personal mental health and to benefit your relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn how to set healthy emotional boundaries. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why 'keeping the peace' by not standing up for yourself can lead to unhealthy relationship dynamics Pausing to understand what it is that you really need for yourself and for the relationship Is there such a thing as over communication in relationships? Understanding that you don't always need to accommodate your partner's needs Why conflict is OK in your relationship and how to better navigate it And much more! Dana McNeil is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist and is the founder of a group practice called The Relationship Place located in San Diego, California. Dana’s practice specializes in couples’ therapy and utilizes an evidence-based type of couples’ therapy which is known as the Gottman Method. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/233 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Zola: Zola makes wedding planning so much easier and less stressful with their wedding websites, registry, invites, and a guest list manager all in one place. Sign up at Zola.com/IDO today to get your FREE personalized paper sample. Then use code SAVE50 to get 50% off your save the dates. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 17, 202043 min

Ep 232232: Non-Monogamy And Open Relationships Deep Dive

The best estimates are that 1 in 5 people have participated in some kind of non-monogamous relationship. These kinds of relationship structures are gaining wider awareness and acceptance in today's society. Learning about non-monogamy can be valuable whether it's appealing to you or not. Listen to today's show to learn all about non-monogamy and open relationships! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the different forms of non-monogamy Polyamory vs swinging vs open relationships Why debating whether non-monogamy or monogamy is most 'natural' is unproductive How to talk to your partner about non-monogamy Questions to ask yourself if you want to be non-monogamous Importance of educating yourself before you start non-monogamy Time management in open relationships New relationship energy and what it can do for you And much more! Jase Lindgren is a non-monogamous dating coach, healthy masculinity educator and sex-positivity advocate. He has trained in positive psychology, Emotional Freedom Technique, consent education, and Buddhist mindfulness practice. He has worked with the government and celebrities on HIV public awareness in Russia, is a long-time fan of podcasts. As one of the hosts of the Multiamory podcasts he enjoys teaching people how to suck less at communication and grow in their relationships, especially the one with themselves. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/232 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Atlantis: Dreaming of a Bahamas destination wedding? Visit atlantisbahamas.com and mention "I Do Podcast" to receive the best room rates and up to 10% off your wedding package. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 10, 20201h 0m

Ep 231231: Understanding The Menstrual Cycle Will Improve Your Relationship!

Attention men and women! Do you know the menstrual cycle and how hormones ebb and flow throughout this 4 week time period? Maybe your answer is yes. But, if you're like us, the answer is no. Even if you do know the details of hormone changes and how that affects a woman's body and brain, do you know your own or your partners exact day on the cycle right now? Knowing all of this information can be incredibly helpful for relationships! Listen to today's episode to learn why and how to keep track of the cycle. The importance of understanding the entire span of the menstrual cycle How each week of the cycle is different and what mood changes to expect during each one Which weeks women are more likely to have a higher libido Men's 24-hour hormone cycle Apps to help both men and women in relationship track the menstrual cycle And much more! Gabrielle Lichterman is the founder of Hormonology, creator of the Hormone Horoscope App for women and Female Forecaster App for men, and author of 28 Days: What Your Cycle Reveals About Your Moods, Health & Potential. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/231 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp:Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Zola: Zola makes wedding planning so much easier and less stressful with their wedding websites, registry, invites, and a guest list manager all in one place. Sign up at Zola.com/IDO today to get your FREE personalized paper sample. Then use code SAVE50 to get 50% off your save the dates. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 1, 202046 min

Ep 230230: Avoiding Fatigue In A Long Term Relationship

Let's face it, being in a relationship is HARD WORK! Long term relationships are even harder. It's not a walk in the park to live with the same person for years and communicate, love, fornicate and just live a life. The more tools you have to continually do the work on your journey, the more successful and happy you'll be in your long term relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn how to avoid long term relationship fatigue. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of keeping your expectations in check What to do when one partner is a 'seeker' Cultural myths surrounding marriage and the importance of recognizing them Letting go and accepting the humanity of ourselves and our partner The importance of realizing your partner will not be your everything Avoiding criticism of the same thing in your partner over and over And much more! Josh Gressel, Ph.D, is a clinical psychologist and couple’s counselor in private practice with over 32 years experience. He has also been married 38 years. He is the author of Embracing Envy: Finding the Spiritual Treasure in Our Most Shameful Emotion and has just finished a new book on masculinity. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/230 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido and get 50% off your subscription and start a free 60-day trial. Atlantis: Dreaming of a Bahamas destination wedding? Visit atlantisbahamas.com and mention "I Do Podcast" to receive the best room rates and up to 10% off your wedding package. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 25, 201949 min

Ep 229229: Conceiving With Love And Chinese Medicine

Trying to conceive with your partner is a big deal. The process of baby making can be fun, but it can also be very stressful on the relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn the best ways to approach the process through both western and Chinese medicine perspectives. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to avoid conceiving as a job and take the pressure off both partners Taking care of your body in preparation for conceiving How to have deep and honest communication about the process Using Chinese medicine for conceiving and lifestyle improvement Timing of sex when trying to conceive And much more! Denise Wiesner, LAc, FABORM, founder of the Natural Healing and Acupuncture Clinic in West Los Angeles, is an internationally recognized traditional Chinese medicine practitioner, specializing in the Whole Systems Chinese medicine approach to women’s health, sexuality, and fertility and author of the new book Conceiving with Love: A Whole-Body Approach to Creating Intimacy, Reigniting Passion, and Increasing Fertility. Full show notes and episode links at: https://idopodcast.com/229 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Pill Club: Birth control that actually gives you control. Get the care that you deserve. Visit thepillclub.com/ido to get your first birth control care package. BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 19, 201941 min

Ep 228228: Psychedelics, Dance and Breathing: How Ecstatic Practices Can Improve Your Relationship

When was the last time you experienced ecstasy? This feeling is fundamental to being human, and yet we don't get it nearly enough — if at all in our lives. You don't have to use psychedelic medicine, although they can be a viable choice, to have an ecstatic experience. Listen to today's show to learn other ways to produce ecstatic experiences, and how they can produce profound impacts on your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Exploring the mind-body connection through ecstatic dance practices Psychedelic research and it's application to improving relationships Holotropic breathework and how it can produce ecstasy How eastern practices are penetrating western society and how we can benefit from them How to get unstuck when you feel stuck And much more! Alex Belser, Ph.D., is a Clinical Research Fellow and therapy supervisor at Yale University. At Yale he is a Co-Investigator of two trials exploring psilocybin-treatment for OCD and depression. He also teachers in the master's program in the Department of Applied Psychology at New York University. He previously studied at Columbia University, Georgetown University, and Cambridge University. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/228 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. To get 30% off your invites and paper order visit ZOLA.com/ido. Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido and get 50% off your subscription and start a free 60-day trial. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 12, 201955 min

Ep 227227: Getting Off Without Checking Out

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Mindfulness is having a much deserved moment in the world of podcasting and popular culture. Learning how to bring mindfulness into the bedroom is a skill that can improve your relationship and sex life — something most of us can benefit from. Learn how to get off without checking out in today's episode. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to get out of a state of fear and judgement around sex in your relationship How to bring attention to what feels good during sex and communicating this with your partner Becoming more embodied and familiar with our sensuality Loving and accepting your own body Micro-practices for more sexuality in your life Asking for what you want in bed And much more! Jessica Graham is a meditation teacher, sex, relationship and spiritual guide for couples and individuals, speaker and author of Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out. She is a contributing editor of the meditation blog, Deconstructing Yourself and co-founded The Eastside Mindfulness Collective. Jessica also founded Wild Awakening, to help people become more human through psycho-spiritual evolution using meditation and self-inquiry. Jessica is also an award-winning actor and filmmaker. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/227 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Away: Luggage for the modern traveler—lightweight, premium features, and a lifetime warranty. For $20 off a suitcase, visit awaytravel.com/IDO and use promo code IDO during checkout. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 2, 201954 min

Ep 226226: Tapping Into Your Intuition

Have you ever had a 'gut feeling' about something? This feeling can also be know as our intuition or inner self. Listening to our intuition can help us make better decisions and improve our relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how to tap into your intuition. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How the noise of modern life blocks out our intuition Learning from our mistakes and listening to our intuition How to get out of our minds and thinking about the past Listening to your intuition to improve your relationship Tools to improve your ability to tap into your intuition And much more! Victoria Shaw is a psychologist and licensed professional counselor who combines her training in counseling and psychology with her intuitive gifts. Victoria specializes in working with highly intuitive, empathic and sensitive souls to help them leverage their gifts and maximize their potential. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/226 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido you can start a free 60-day trial. Pill Club: Birth control that actually gives you control. Get the care that you deserve. Visit thepillclub.com/ido to get your first birth control care package. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 27, 201948 min

Ep 225225: Being a Man, Or Loving One, In Today's Society

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Today's cultural narratives have significant impacts on how we view ourselves, our relationships and gender roles. Listen to today's show to understand how culture may be influencing the male narrative and what that can mean for men and women alike. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Male dominance throughout history and how that has changed and impacted relationships The impact that narratives around male sexuality have on both men and women Setting the conditions to cultivate desire in your relationship Stephen's myths of modern male and female sexuality Understanding you don't have to 'be' something in particular according to what culture tells you And much more! Dr. Stephen Snyder is a sex and relationship therapist in Manhattan, and author of the award-winning new book, "Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long Lasting Relationship," and host of the “Relationship Doctor” podcast on Macmillan Publishers’ QDT Network. He's a regular contributor to Huffington Post, Psychology Today, and The Times of London, and a frequent guest on national media. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/225 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido and get 50% off your subscription and start a free 60-day trial. BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 20, 201947 min

Bonus: Introducing Detective Trapp

Anaheim investigator Julissa Trapp is not like other detectives. She’s the only woman on the homicide squad, and a skilled chameleon: undercover cop in vice stings, crime-scene commander, patient confidante of killers. A master interrogator, she invokes her personal experience – and deepest griefs -- as a tool to elicit confessions. When a young woman’s body is found at a trash-sorting plant, Trapp learns the murder may be linked to the disappearance of three other women in nearby Santa Ana. Trapp embarks on a dark journey that brings her face to face with a man who takes “a little piece of her soul.” Listen now at Wondery.fm/TrappIdo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 19, 201910 min

Ep 224224: Exploring Your Sexuality

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There are many ways to approach improving your relationship and sex life. One approach would be trying new things and seeing what works. Lucky for us, Pam Costa has done a lot of exploration herself and has beautifully shared her journey through her writing and interviews. We're happy to have Pam on the show to explore the work she does as a sex therapist and to share her personal journey. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to explore your body sexually and take ownership of it How group work can help you in your relationship Experimenting with bondage and 'erotic dinners' How to know and learn what you're in to sexually Open relationships and what monogamists can learn from them How to have deep conversations about sexuality with your partner And much more! After a decade-and-a-half at Apple and Facebook, Pam Costa left her career in high tech and found Down To There to share her real-life stories of challenges and successes around sexuality in her marriage. Through her writing, speaking and coaching, she hopes to inspire individuals and couples to find ways to renew and deepen desire and intimacy in their own relationships. Pam is also passionate about raising awareness within the medical and mental health communities about the positive impact of peer support on female sexual health, recently presenting her research on this topic at the 2018 International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health conference and TEDx Palo Alto. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/224 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. To get 30% off your invites and paper order visit ZOLA.com/ido. Pill Club: Birth control that actually gives you control. Get the care that you deserve. Visit thepillclub.com/ido to get your first birth control care package. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 13, 201943 min

Ep 223223: Stop Arguing, Start Connecting

No one wants to be wrong. Two individuals often feel they can't both be 'right' when resolving conflict. Learning to hold the needs and feeling of both partners at the same time is a key element to relationship success. Listen to today's show to learn how to stop arguing and take your relationship from 'me' to 'we'. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to prevent moments of disconnect from accumulating and creating a toxic relationship Understanding that 'you don't know what you don't know' when it comes to what you need to work on in your relationship Why we argue with our partner How to empathize with your partner to move from 'me' to 'we' Key promises to make your partner to take ownership of your relationship and move forward with positivity And much more! Maureen Hosier is a licensed psychologist, specializing in the troubled dynamics of individuals in their romantic relationships and in their family and work place relationships. Maureen and her sister, Berta Hosier Conger, co-authored two books titled, You’ll Do Anything for Her and You’ll Do Anything for Him. They look at a common issue for many in relationship, both men and women, who give up themselves to make the relationship work. They have developed a framework for understanding the dynamics of individuals who find themselves stuck in an emotionally reactive and emotionally painful situation with their partner and who are frightened that they are destroying their relationship. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/223 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Feals is premium CBD delivered straight to your door. Become a member today by going to Feals.com/ido and get 50% off your first order with free shipping. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 6, 201957 min

Ep 222222: Create More Sexual Intimacy In Your Relationship

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Do you feel deeply connected to your partner sexually? Some couples have a sexual spark from the beginning, some build it over time, some never address it and others find it unimportant. Wherever you fall on that spectrum, there are tools to help create more sexual intimacy in your relationship. Listen to today's show to improve your overall relationship and long term relationship satisfaction. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how sexual intimacy permeates all areas of your relationship How to ask for what you need in your relationship through direct communication Five amazing steps to create more sexual intimacy (some of our favorite actionable tips to date!) Parallels between sex and overall relationship intimacy And much more! Dr. Judy Scheel is an expert in the treatment of eating and related disorders and author of a book on eating disorder recovery. She is trained by NYU Medical Langone in Human Sexuality and Sex Therapy. She maintains two blogs on Psychology Today, and is currently finishing up Certification at John Jay College of Criminal Justice in Forensic Psychology. Dr. Scheel maintains a private practice in Charlotte, NC and New York, and is a national and regional speaker. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/222 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Away: Luggage for the modern traveler—lightweight, premium features, and a lifetime warranty. For $20 off a suitcase, visit awaytravel.com/IDO and use promo code IDO during checkout. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 30, 201942 min

Ep 221221: Learn How To Deal With Your Partner's Annoying Behaviors

You know that thing your partner does that just annoys the hell out of you!? Chewing too loud, eating your leftovers, leaving the kitchen a mess, making the 'ahh' noise after taking a sip of water. You know what we're talking about. Well, you don't have to let those behaviors annoy you so much. Listen to today's show to learn how to deal with your partner's annoying habits. Learn the important difference between annoying behaviors and toxic relationship behaviors The importance of assuming good intentions from your partner Understanding the underlying reasons you are annoyed with your partner's behavior How to have a real conversation with your partner to make progress when it comes to annoying behaviors Learning to change yourself before trying to change you partner And much more! Dr. Seth Gillihan is a clinical psychologist, author, blogger and host of the Think Act Be podcast. His therapy practice focuses on mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapy for a range of issues, with in-person and video conference appointments available. Seth is the author of The CBT Deck and A Mindful Year, co-written with Dr. Aria Campbell-Danesh. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/221 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido you can start a free 60-day trial. Mint: Get your new wireless plan for just $15 a month, and get the plan shipped to your door for FREE. Visit mintmobile.com/ido Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 23, 201942 min

Ep 220220: Finding Clarity On Your Relationship's Health

Sometimes relationships are bad and need to end. Whether you're dating or married, there can be a point where you are struggling to find clarity on what you should do in the relationship and if you should allow it to continue. Listen to today's show to give yourself the tools for a relationship checkup and find clarity on if it's a relationship you should stay in. Specific questions to ask yourself to help determine the health of your relationship The importance of asking yourself if you've actually made efforts to sustain the relationship Looking within to see if you have unrealistic expectations for your relationship How to decide if you should break up, separate or divorce Understanding what is specifically troubling you in the relationship and the underlying issues And much more! Ann Gold Buscho, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist who specializes in family issues and issues related to divorce, parenting, parenting planning and co-parenting counseling. She has professional and personal experience in nesting, co-parenting, step-parenting and single-parenting issues. She has presented widely at state and national conferences for attorneys, mental health professionals, and financial professionals on collaborative divorce, forgiveness practices, nesting during divorce, and consensual dispute resolution. She is currently writing a book about nesting. Buscho is also a co-founder of a residential treatment program for traumatized emergency responders and their families at which she volunteers regularly. A graduate of Stanford University, she lives in San Rafael, California. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/220 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. To get 30% off your invites and paper order visit ZOLA.com/ido. Eyeconic: Where you can shop name brand glasses, contacts and sunglasses for the best possible price. Get free shipping and returns, price matching and a complimentary frame adjustment by visiting Eyeconic.com/IDO. Use the code IDO to get 10% off your entire order. Eyeconic is looking out for your eyes! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 17, 201942 min

Ep 219219: Negotiating Frequency of Sex

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If you're in a relationship, there's a likelihood you've dealt with a mismatch is sexual desire. This mismatch can be caused by a variety of factors that can often lead to unhappiness in one or both partners. It doesn't have to be this way! Listen to today's show to learn how to negotiate the frequency of sex in your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding that there is no such thing as a 'normal' frequency for how much you should be having sex Should you schedule sex on the calendar? How culture impacts our views on sex and gender roles in the relationship Communicating with your partner about your sexual desires How our sexuality and relationship styles have evolved And much more! David Ludden, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at Georgia Gwinnett College. He received his Ph.D. in cognitive psychology from the University of Iowa, and is the author of The Psychology of Language: An Integrated Approach and author of the blog "Talking Apes" on Psychology Today. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/219 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Plan to Eat: Simplify your life using our recipe clipper, meal planning calendar and automated grocery shopping list maker. Visit plantoeat.com/ido you can start a free 60-day trial. Pill Club: Birth control that actually gives you control. Get the care that you deserve. Visit thepillclub.com/ido to get your first birth control care package. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 9, 201948 min

Ep 218218: Mindfully Dating For Singles And Married Couples

Dating can be tricky in today's 'swipe right' online dating world. Approaching your dating life mindfully will help save you heart break and frustration. Whether you are single or married, mindfully dating your partner will bring more relationship success and happiness. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to date better. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Becoming consciously aware of your relationship needs and triggers Information on the new Facebook dating platform Understanding the negative internal stories we tell ourselves and changing this habit Dealing with rejection and ghosting when dating Managing dating anxiety And much more! Dr. Paulette Sherman is a psychologist, a relationship expert and the author of the new book, ‘Facebook Dating: From 1st Date to Soulmate,’ available on Amazon. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/218 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Eyeconic: Where you can shop name brand glasses, contacts and sunglasses for the best possible price. Get free shipping and returns, price matching and a complimentary frame adjustment by visiting Eyeconic.com/IDO. Use the code IDO to get 10% off your entire order. Eyeconic is looking out for your eyes! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 3, 201942 min

Ep 217217: Essential Elements Of Happiness

There are a lot of myths surrounding the attainment of happiness. Understanding these myths and moving toward a better path will improve your relationship and your life. Listen to today's show to learn how get on a path toward more happiness! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Examples for how we look for happiness in all of the wrong places Developing rituals with your partner to increase relationship satisfaction Using chocolate to develop mindfulness and become more attuned with your partner The importance of not personalizing our partners actions Looking at our partner in a new light without or predetermined labels And much more! Diane R. Gehart, Ph.D., is an author, an award-winning professor of Counseling and Family Therapy at California State University, Northridge, and a practicing psychotherapist. Her new book is Mindfulness for Chocolate Lovers: A Lighthearted Way to Stress Less and Savor More Each Day (Rowman & Littlefield, Sept. 15, 2019). Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/217 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Mint: Get your new wireless plan for just $15 a month, and get the plan shipped to your door for FREE. Visit mintmobile.com/ido Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 25, 201943 min

Ep 216216: Reconnecting and Dealing with Impossible Relationship Moments

Do you ever feel disconnected from your partner? Well, don't worry — at one point, all relationships will face various levels of disconnect. Listen to today's show to learn how to reconnect with your partner, and get through what might feel like an impossible relationship moment. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how attachment theory helps explain some of the relationship stress we experience when we become parents How to go from threatened to empathetic in our relationship conflicts Dealing with the feeling of being in an 'impossible place' in a relationship Sharing your vulnerability with your partner And much more! Fiachra “Figs” O’Sullivan, is the Founder and Chief Empathy at Empathi, which provides step-by-step guidance for couples and individuals who care about their relationships. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, who is certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples an dindividuals, and a passionate entrepreneur, driven to change lives for the better. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/216 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. To get 30% off your invites and paper order visit ZOLA.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 18, 201955 min

Ep 215215: Your Partner Will NOT Fulfill All Your Needs

It's easy to look to our partner to make us happy and fulfill our needs. However, instead of looking on the outside, we often need to look within. Listen to today's show to understand how to be in a healthy relationship with the understanding that our partner will not fulfill all of our needs. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Deconstructing the myth that our partner will fulfill all our needs Using the hard times in a relationship and turning them into breakthrough moments rather than breakdowns or breakups Circumstances where you could be looking toward your partner for fulfillment rather than within Understanding codependent relationships and breaking away from this type of relating The importance of regular relationship check ins And much more! Charlie and Linda Bloom have been married since 1972. Trained as psychotherapists and relationship counselors, they have worked with individuals, couples, groups and organizations since 1975. They have lectured and taught at learning institutes throughout the USA, including the Esalen Institute, the Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, the California Institute for Integral Studies, the Meridian University, John F. Kennedy University, the Crossings, Omega institute, the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology, University of California at Berkeley Extension Program, the Hoffman Institute and the World Health Organization. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/215 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 11, 201948 min

Bonus: Introducing Imagined Life Season Two

What is it like to be famous before you’re famous? What is it like to walk in the shoes of another person? Each episode of Imagined Life takes you on an immersive journey into the life of a world-famous person. It’ll be someone you may think you know, even admire -- or maybe the opposite. You’ll get clues to your identity along the way. But only in the final moments will you find out who “you” really are. So sit back, let go, and -- imagine your life, with our hosts, Oscar nominated Virginia Madsen and celebrated voice actor Robbie Daymond. From Wondery, the network behind Dirty John. Listen now at wondery.fm/idoido Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 6, 201912 min

Ep 214214: Do You Know Your Partner's Love Language?

We all receive love in different ways based on how we grew up, our culture, gender and potentially many other factors. Knowing your partner's love language is a great way to improve your relationship. Listen to today's show to learn the importance of truly loving your partner. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn what the five love languages are and why each is important The surprising reason why it's NOT crucial to know your partner's love language according to Mort The importance of asking yourself how you can be an overall more loving person How to express to your partner that you don't feel loved Rebuilding love after months or years of not being loved And much more! Mort Fertel is the creator of Marriage Fitness, a relationship renewal system that’s been used by millions of people in marital crisis. In addition to his success with couples, he pioneered the “Lone Ranger Track,” which offers people with an obstinate spouse a path to reconciliation. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/214 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Eyeconic: Where you can shop name brand glasses, contacts and sunglasses for the best possible price. Get free shipping and returns, price matching and a complimentary frame adjustment by visiting Eyeconic.com/IDO. Use the code IDO to get 10% off your entire order. Eyeconic is looking out for your eyes! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 4, 201939 min

Ep 213213: Supporting A Partner Who Is Managing Depression

Depression affects people from all walks of life and can occur at anytime. It's a mental health issue that can have a profound impact on the person whom it's affecting, as well as on their loved ones and friends. Listen to today's show to learn how you can help and support a partner who is depressed. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the difference between clinical depression, mood swings and personality disorders How you can help your partner through a difficult day The differences between men and woman with depression Steps in getting your partner help if they have not yet been diagnosed How to navigate the relationship if one partner is in denial or unaware of their depression The importance for the non-depressed partner to have their own support system And much more! Kristen Scarlett is the co-founder of Octave, a mental health startup in NYC. She launched the mental health services at Overlook Cancer Center and One Medical before opening Octave's doors in October 2018. She's a CBT therapist and teaches CBT at NYU medical school. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/213 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Mint: Get your new wireless plan for just $15 a month, and get the plan shipped to your door for FREE. Visit mintmobile.com/ido Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. To get 30% off your invites and paper order visit ZOLA.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 28, 201941 min

Ep 212212: Avoiding Newlywed and Long Term Relationship Pitfalls

Relationships can be relatively easy when you're in the early stages and all the happy chemicals are flowing. However, things can get quite difficult as time rolls on. Listen to today's show to learn the conversations you need to have to set your new marriage or long term relationship up for success. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to communicate about finances, sex and work-life balance for long term relationship success The importance of discussing your relationship expectations Warning signs that early relationship issues can carry into the long term Maintaining a couple identity and personal identity in your relationship How to communicate around what you like in bed and frequency of sexual relations And much more! Jenn Belus has a PhD in Clinical Psychology from the University of North Carolina. Both her research and clinical work has focused on understanding healthy intimate relationships and working with couples when one or both partners is struggling with mental or physical health problems. She is currently a postdoctoral fellow at the University of Maryland. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/212 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To start your free wedding website or registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/ido. Eyeconic: Where you can shop name brand glasses, contacts and sunglasses for the best possible price. Get free shipping and returns, price matching and a complimentary frame adjustment by visiting Eyeconic.com/IDO. Use the code IDO to get 10% off your entire order. Eyeconic is looking out for your eyes! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 21, 201947 min

Ep 211211: How To Resolve Built Up Resentment In Your Relationship

Feeling resentful can be one of the loneliest and toxic feelings in a relationship. If left unchecked, it can easily lead to a miserable life with your partner and separation. Listen to today's show to learn how to prevent resentment and deal with it if it already exists. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to prevent resentment from arising in the first place Once resentment is present, understand how to communicate with your partner to get over these feelings How to show empathy for your partner to prevent resentment Tools to tackle resentment in your relationship and end any toxic cycles And much more! Lucia Giovannini is a former Italian supermodel turned best-selling author, spiritual teacher, transformational coach, environmental & animal activist, and author of 13 books. Her best-selling book, “A Whole New Life”, was first published in Italian and is now translated into eight languages, including an English version published by Hay House India. Her book has sold thousands of copies around the world and will be debuting in the US in March 2019. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/211 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Audible: Audible has the largest selection of audiobooks on the planet including best sellers, motivation, mysteries, thrillers, memoirs, and more. Try it free for 30 days by visiting audible.com/IDO or text IDO to 500500 Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 14, 201944 min

Ep 210210: I Love You, But I Hate Your Politics

It can feel a bit overwhelming to discuss politics with a significant other, friends or family in today's politically charged world. Unfortunately, with the 2020 presidential election looming, the political divide in media and culture will likely be more apparent than ever. Listen to today's show to learn how to constructively talk politics and love someone with different political beliefs. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Hear the real life story of a successful long term marriage between two individuals on the opposite ends of the political spectrum Communication tools for talking about politics with your partner, friends and family Why it's OK to disagree with your partner politically Deciding if political differences are too hard to overcome in a relationship And much more! Jeanne Safer, Ph.D., a psychotherapist in New York City, is the author of The Golden Condom, Beyond Motherhood, The Normal One, and several other books. Dr. Safer has appeared on The Daily Show and Good Morning America as well as numerous NPR broadcasts. Her work has been the subject of articles in the New York Times and the Wall Street Journal. She is the host of the I Love You, But I Hate Your Politics podcast. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/210 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Eyeconic: Where you can shop name brand glasses, contacts and sunglasses for the best possible price. Get free shipping and returns, price matching and a complimentary frame adjustment by visiting eyeconic.com/ido. Use the code IDO to get 10% off your entire order. Eyeconic is looking out for your eyes! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 8, 201953 min

Ep 209209: How To Listen To Your Emotions And Understand Your Needs

Getting in touch with our emotions to determine what it is that we want out of our relationship and life is not always easy. 'Finding oneself' is a journey, not a destination. Listen to today's show to learn how to tap into our emotions so we can learn our needs. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Finding the deeper meaning in our emotions How to identify our emotional response to something in the relationship How to navigate feeling responsible for your partners happiness The 3 steps to process emotions — Recognize, organize and communicating emotions with your partner. And much more! Dr. Marni Feuerman is the author of Ghosted and Breadcrumbed. She is a licensed social worker and marriage and family therapist with a private practice counseling those with relationship issues. She also trains therapists to do couples therapy and writes about love relationships for a number of online media. She lives in Boca Raton, Florida. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/209 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 31, 201942 min

Ep 208208: Emotional Manipulation In Your Relationship

Emotional manipulation by your partner is a powerful tool that can have negative impacts on your relationship and well being. Listen to today's show to learn how your partner might be emotionally manipulating you and how to deal with it. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to recognize emotional manipulation and its various forms that include stonewalling, shutting down and gas lighting How to communicate with your partner regarding their emotional manipulation Recognizing that your partner has an agenda with their use of emotional manipulation How to deal with the 'silent treatment' And much more! Nancy F. Lee, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Beverly Hills, California. Dr. Lee is a leading practitioner of cognitive behavior therapy and specializes in a wide range of behavioral health issues ranging from depression and anxiety to male/female psychosexual desire and functioning. Her independent research has been published in the prestigious Journal of Affective Disorders and the International Journal of Eating Disorders, among others. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/208 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app. BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 24, 201945 min

Ep 207207: Alcohol and Relationships

Sharing a glass of wine with your partner can be a fun ritual and a great way to relax with someone you love. However, alcohol abuse and dependence can have toxic effects on individuals and relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how alcohol might be negatively effecting your relationship and how to fix it. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the differences between alcohol use, abuse and dependence Addressing alcohol dependence with your partner Determining if even a few drinks can be negatively impacting your relationship Holding each other responsible to avoid negative alcohol relationship impacts How to avoid enabling drinking behavior in your partner And much more! April Eldemire is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Bringing Baby Home Educator, and marriage and couples expert in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. She is passionately devoted to helping couples achieve thriving relationships and is a regular contributor for Psychology Today and The Gottman Institute, the most research-based center for marital health and stability. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/207 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app. Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples’ lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To start your free wedding website or registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 17, 201937 min

Bonus: Introducing The Moment

Wondery’s The Moment, hosted by comedian Ingrid Haas, explores some epic real life romances to find the answers to our toughest relationship questions. From a Taylor Swift intervention, to getting betrothed by a horse, this podcast is your real life Rom-Com. Listen now at Wondery.fm/advice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 10, 201910 min

Ep 206206: When Your Partner Won't Do The Work

Relationships take work. That's why you're here listening to this podcast. One thing you may be running into is an issue with your partner not wanting to work on the relationship with you. They may be resistant, indifferent or simply too busy. Listen to today's show to learn what to do when your partner is not putting in the relationship work with you. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn the importance of not trying to change your partner and instead make the changes yourself The value of scheduling 'protected time' to discuss issues with your partner The three big emotions we deny ourselves from expressing and how to communicate them How to communicate with your partner surrounding your desires to improve the relationship And much more! Laura Dabney, MD has made a career of taking on psychiatry's toughest challenges—from treating complex, combined medical and psychological conditions, to ensuring the absolute privacy of powerful, high-profile patients. Dr. Dabney's patients come to her for many reasons: depression and anxiety, recent break-ups or a lifetime of toxic relationships. Yet, despite the problems that brought them through her door, they describe her in the same terms again and again, calling her warm, knowledgeable, and committed to their success. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/206 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 10, 201946 min

Ep 205205: More Empathy = More Love

Not feeling loved and connected with your partner? You may not be receiving or giving enough empathy in your relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how to give or receive more empathy and create more love in the relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to be present to the feelings of your partner and empathically listen to them Understand the importance of coming to your partner's trouble with curiosity instead of judgement Why you don't need to try to 'fix' all of your partners problems How to get in touch with our own feelings to better connect with our partner The importance of setting an intention for what we want from our partner And much more! Anna Osborn, LMFT, owner of Life Unscripted Counseling, focuses her work on inspiring individuals and couples to be more intentional and connected in their love relationship. She works with folks on improving communication, deepening intimacy, healing from betrayal and changing negative patterns of disconnection in their relationships. She hosts an annual women’s retreat in Laguna Beach, CA. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/205 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app. Native creates safe, simple, effective products that people use in the bathroom everyday, including some amazing deodorant! For 20% off your first purchase, visit nativedeodorant.com and use promo code IDO during checkout! Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 3, 201943 min

Ep 204204: Rethinking Female Sexuality

There's a certain cultural narrative we follow about our sexuality. Female sexuality, in particular, has been largely misunderstood. New research is showing a deeper truth about female sexuality that has the ability to set both men and women free. Listen to today's show to better understand female sexuality and how it can improve your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why it's untrue that women have a lower libido than men, and men are more promiscuous than women The differences in men and women's sexual desires and how each is triggered Unpacking the myth that monogamous relationships are easier for women How to feel more sexually comfortable in your skin And much more! Dr. Wednesday Martin is a #1 New York Times bestselling author and cultural critic. She has written on female experience and female sexuality for the New York Times, The Atlantic, Psychology Today, Time, The Daily Beast, The Hollywood Reporter, and more. She lectures across the country and around the world on female sexuality. Kirkus Review named UNTRUE one of the best books of 2018, and called it "an indispensable work of popular psychology and sociology." Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/204 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app. Audible: Audible has the largest selection of audiobooks on the planet including best sellers, motivation, mysteries, thrillers, memoirs, and more. Try it free for 30 days by visiting audible.com/IDO or text IDO to 500500 Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 26, 201950 min

Ep 203203: Loving Through Your Differences

Breaking News! You're different from your partner. Sometimes we love our partner for their differences, other times differences create extraordinary conflict. Listen to today's show to learn the relationship tools to navigate the personal differences in your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of understanding that many of our differences come from how we individually perceive things How to share your feelings instead of judgments Communication skills to compromise on your differences Learn an AMAZING exercise to help problem solve in your relationship And much more! James L. Creighton, Ph.D., is the author of Loving through Our Differences and several other books. He has worked with couples and conducted communications training for nearly 50 years around the world. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/203 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app. BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 19, 201938 min

Ep 202202: Functional Medicine, CBD And Sexual Health

A solid foundation of health can be one of the first steps to improving your sex life. Functional medicine provides many 'non-traditional' ways to improve this foundation from a holistic and innovative perspective. Listen to today's show to learn about the medicine and techniques you can explore to improve your overall sexual health. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The benefits of CBD oil for sexual and overall health and stress reduction Why a low inflammation diet is a key component to sexual health How nitric oxide improves erections and female sexual health and where to get more of it Alternative therapies for erectile dysfunction The importance of sleep for your sexual health And much more! Dr. Amy Killen MD is an anti-aging and regenerative physician specializing in sexual optimization and aesthetics. An international speaker, teacher, author and clinical practice owner, Dr. Killen is an outspoken advocate for empowering patients to look and feel their best by merging lifestyle modification, hormone optimization, personalized medicine, and regenerative therapies. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/202 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Babbel: The #1 selling language learning app in the world. Try Babbel for free by visiting Babbel.com or downloading the app. BetterHelp: Get help on your own time and at your own pace. Get 10% off your first month by visiting BetterHelp.com/IDO. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 13, 201944 min

Ep 201201: You Cook, I'll Clean

You take the kids to soccer, I'll do the laundry. We all have roles in our relationships, however, we don't often talk about them in the most productive way. Listen to today's show to learn about relationship roles, and how to find a balance that works for you and your partner. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding where our ideas of realtionship roles come from What to do if you feel there's an unfair balance of roles in your relationship How to communicate about what you'd like your relationship roles to be The importance of checking in with your partner regarding relationship roles Gender roles and cultural influences on relationships And much more! Dr. Ilene S. Cohen, is a psychotherapist, professor, blogger and author of the popular self-help books "When It's Never About You" and "Its Within You." Her work regularly appears in top psychology publications like Psychology Today. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/201 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Indochino: Our listeners can get any premium Indochino suit for just $359 at indochino.com when entering IDO at checkout. That’s 50% off the regular price for a made-to-measure, premium suit. Plus, shipping is FREE. Incredible deal for a premium made to measure suit! Once you go custom you don't go back. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jun 5, 201942 min

Ep 200200: Parent And In-Law Relationships

For some of us our relationships with our parents and in-laws is relatively easy. For others it can be an absolute nightmare. No matter which end of the spectrum you find yourself, it's important to learn how to communicate with family in a productive way. Listen to today's episode to learn how to create better relationships in your family life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to communicate with your partner when you have an issue with their parents Learn how to create and communicate boundaries with parents and in-laws What to do if you can't stand your in-laws How to communicate with your partner about extended family issues to create a better primary relationship And much more! Diane Barth is a clinical social work psychotherapist in private practice in NYC where she also teaches and consults with other therapists. Besides her own books, she has written numerous articles and chapters in books. Her popular blog for Psychology Today called ‘Off the Couch’ which explores issues of self-awareness, self-esteem, and relationships. Her most recent book is I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL: The joy and heartbreak of friendship in women’s lives. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/200 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Indochino: Our listeners can get any premium Indochino suit for just $379 at indochino.com when entering IDO at checkout. That’s 50% off the regular price for a made-to-measure, premium suit. Plus, shipping is FREE. Incredible deal for a premium made to measure suit! Once you go custom you don't go back. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 29, 201951 min

Ep 199199: Food For Thought

We eat multiple times, everyday — by our self, with friends, family and partners. The ways in which food affects our daily lives and relationships goes deeper than we realize. Listen to today's show to better understand your relationship with food and its ties to your romantic relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of understanding your personal relationship with food How food can become a control issue within your relationship Eating with purpose and mindfulness Communicating about food in your relationship And much more! Dr. Dara is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Rapid Resolution Therapist, Board Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Author who appears on numerous media outlets. Dr. Dara grew up as a collegiate competitive tennis player. She chose the field of psychology because she is passionate about the specific areas of peak performance, peace of mind and accelerated healing coaching. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/199 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Lively: Lively offers bras and undies that provide the perfect combination of high-style and ultimate comfort. For a limited time, get $10 off your first order by visiting wearlively.com/ido and enter the promo code IDO at checkout. Indochino: Our listeners can get any premium Indochino suit for just $379 at indochino.com when entering IDO at checkout. That’s 50% off the regular price for a made-to-measure, premium suit. Plus, shipping is FREE. Incredible deal for a premium made to measure suit! Once you go custom you don’t go back. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 22, 201949 min

Ep 198198: #RelationshipGoals Getting In The Way Of Your #SquadGoals?

The connection we have with our friends can be just as important as our connection with a partner. However, balancing our friendships with our romantic relationships can be difficult. Listen to today's show to learn how to communicate with all parties and balance our friendships with our romantic relationships. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How are friendships can change as we enter new stages of life and how to deal with this. Stepping away from your romantic relationship for restoration and time to nurture friendships. Balancing the guilt about being away from your romantic partner and/or kids. Friendships with other couples. And much more! Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/198 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors ForHers: Get you first month of birth control for just $5 right now while supplies last (and subject to doctor approval). See website for full details. Go to ForHers.com/ido. Restrictions apply, see website for full details and safety information. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 15, 201947 min

Ep 197197: Tech And The Future Of Relationship Skills

We often talk about how technology can negatively impact your relationship. Well it's not all bad news! There are somethings that can help your relationship. Today's guest tells us how we can use tech and knowledge from this show to improve our relationships. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to stay emotionally connected to your partner through open ended questions Creating traditions and rituals for better connection and a happier relationship Checking in with your partner to see what you're doing right and wrong. How to accommodate our individual desires to really feel seen and like we truly know our partner And much more! Liz Colizza is in private practice as a psychotherapist and parenting educator in the Saint Louis area. She is also a researcher and program designer for Lasting Labs, and is passionate about helping couples and individuals to build healthy relationships. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/197 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Indochino: Our listeners can get any premium Indochino suit for just $379 at indochino.com when entering IDO at checkout. That’s 50% off the regular price for a made-to-measure, premium suit. Plus, shipping is FREE. Incredible deal for a premium made to measure suit! Once you go custom you don't go back. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 10, 201946 min

Ep 196196: The New Science Behind Men's Sexuality

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Men are horny all of the time, and all they want is sex! At least this is what popular culture tells us. Our guest today is here to tell us why that's not true, and how this common narrative is negatively impacting our relationships. Listen to today's show to learn the research behind this and how we can use this knowledge to improve our relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The myth that men always want to simply have sex for primarily sexual reasons How sex can be a bid for connection What to do if there is mismatched sexual desire in your relationship Why feeling desired can be a large part of men's sexual lives And much more! Sarah Hunter Murray is a relationship therapist with a PhD in Human Sexuality. She is the author of the new book "Not Always in the Mood: The New Science of Men, Sex, & Relationships." Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/196 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! Openfit: Right now during the Openfit 30-day challenge, our listeners get a special extended 30-day free trial membership to Openfit. You will get full access to Openfit – all the workouts and nutrition information, TOTALLY FREE by texting IDO to 303030. Standard Message and data rates may apply. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

May 1, 201952 min

Ep 195195: The Value of Tantric Sex and Tantric Relating Practices

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If you're like us, Tantra is a practice we don't know much about. In fact, up until now, our misconceptions had prevented us from exploring this ancient practice. Our guest today enlightens us on the benefits of incorporating Tantra into your daily relationship routine and how Tantra can help your relationship in the bedroom and interpersonally. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of sitting with your partner in the moment and how Tantric practices can help us do this. Establishing sexual rituals in your relationship. Why the goal of sex should not simply be orgasm. Easy tips to introduce Tantric sex techniques into your relationship. And much more! Catherine Auman, LMFT, is a spiritual psychotherapist and the Director of The Transpersonal Counseling Center in Los Angeles, California. She has advanced training in traditional psychology, as well as the wisdom traditions. Catherine lived for a year at the Osho ashram in India - a full-time immersion in tantra and meditation - and she has studied and practiced tantra, love, sex, intimacy and seduction with numerous teachers. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/195 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Lively: Lively offers bras and undies that provide the perfect combination of high-style and ultimate comfort. For a limited time, get $10 off your first order by visiting wearlively.com/ido and enter the promo code IDO at checkout. Zola: Zola is the wedding company that will do anything for love. They are reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in our couples' lives even happier. From engagement to wedding and decorating your first home, Zola is there, combining compassionate customer service with modern tools and technology. All in the service of love. To start your free wedding website or registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/ido. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Apr 24, 201951 min

Ep 194194: Not Feeling Loved and Connected In Your Relationship?

We all have a basic human desire to feel loved and connected to others. Our needs and expectations can often get projected onto our partner, and we may become disappointed when these needs aren't met. Listen to today's show to learn how to communicate better with your partner and get back that loving feeling! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The big mistake individuals make when trying to get more love and connection with their partner. Becoming aware of your expectations from your partner. Establishing a clear need and proactively asking for it from your partner. Creating habits to love our partners better. And much more! Dr. Samantha Smithstein is a clinical psychologist in San Francisco who specializes in relationships and intimacy and living your best life. She has been in practice for over 20 years. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/194 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors ForHers: Get you first month of birth control for just $5 right now while supplies last (and subject to doctor approval). See website for full details. Go to ForHers.com/ido. Restrictions apply, see website for full details and safety information. Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Apr 19, 201952 min

Ep 193193: Anatomy of a Money Argument

Money — it's the number one cause of marital stress. It can lead to terrible arguments, resentment and even divorce. Don't let your relationship suffer from the common affliction of money arguments. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to talk with your partner about money in a productive way that won't hurt your relationship. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why money is such a personal issue for people and can lead to feelings of being attacked or controlled by our partner. Learn how you and your partner personally relate to money to better talk about it with each other and come up with money compromises. How to prevent financial infidelity. The importance of completing a 'needs analysis' each month and how it can save your relationship. And much more! Scott and Bethany Palmer, The Money Couple, have dedicated their lives to helping others strengthen their relationships with the 5 Money Personalities. With 43 years of combined financial planning experience, they launched The Money Couple and are regulars on national TV and radio and speak internationally about love and money. Scott and Bethany enjoy an active lifestyle in Colorado with their two young sons, Cole and Cade. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/193 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: For a limited time, get access to our bonus, Mastering Money Talk In Your Marriage! Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Apr 10, 201956 min

Ep 192192: Don't Worry, Be Happy

Happiness is all the rage these days. Top 10 lists for things to do to live a happier life are abundant in our social media feeds and online articles. So why do we feel so unhappy sometimes? Relationships and how you're navigating them hold a huge key to living a happier life. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to work toward a happier relationship and happier life. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How our addiction to screen time is fueling loneliness, disconnection and unhappiness in our lives. How reminders, repetition and ritual can help fuel the changes we want in our lives. The importance of embracing painful emotions. Becoming aware of the fact that you're comparing your life to that of others. And much more! Tal Ben-Shahar, PhD, taught the largest course at Harvard, Positive Psychology, and the third-largest, The Psychology of Leadership, attracting 1,400 students per semester—approximately 20 percent of all Harvard undergraduates. For the last fifteen years, he has taught leadership, happiness, and mindfulness to audiences around the world. He is the co-founder of the Happiness Studies Academy and author of six books, including the international bestsellers Happier and Being Happy, which have been translated into more than twenty-five languages. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/192 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Apr 6, 201950 min

Ep 191191: Rebound Relationships

Breakups suck. Whether you've been dumped or you broke off the relationship, feelings of shame, sadness, desperation and loss can arise. Along comes the 'rebound' relationship and we're back on the crazy love train again. Listen to today's episode as we debunk some of the myths surrounding rebound relationships and how to best navigate them. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How the desire to be attached affects our desire for a new rebound relationship Is it wrong to get into a rebound relationship right after a breakup? Learn the healthy response to a break up and establishing a new relationship Why the cliche, 'time heals all wounds', is a bit mistaken Gaining new perspectives and experiences through a new relationship And much more! Dr. Mary Lamia is a clinical psychologist and professor in the San Francisco Bay Area. She is the author of five books, and blogs for Psychology Today and Therapy Today websites. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/191 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Join our 5 Day Couples Appreciation Challenge here: idopodcast.com/appreciation Do you want to hear more on this topic? Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Hourglass Cosmetics: Get free shipping with your purchase of a full-sized Caution Mascara! Experience unparalleled, next-generation performance by visiting HourglassCosmetics.com/IDO, and use promo code IDO at checkout. Spark My Relationship Course: Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mar 27, 201950 min