Pivot Parenting: Expert Tips for Navigating Teen and Tween Challenges

In this episode of Pivot Parenting, we tackle a tough but crucial question: Why do teens do drugs? You might think there are countless reasons, but it all boils down to one clear core reason. By understanding this reason, you'll gain clarity on your teen's behavior and learn how to better address substance use with empathy and effectiveness. Join me as I reveal powerful parenting techniques to support your teen without pushing them away, offering the tools you need to build a stronger relationship and guide them towards healthier choices. Don't miss this essential episode for parents looking to understand and help their teens in the face of substance challenges. What You'll learn in this episode: Why teens use substances: there is only one reason, and when you know it you can better understand the situation for greater peace and clarity amidst the storm. How parents can best help their teens struggling with substance abuse. (And what isn't helpful.) To book a free call and troubleshoot your specific situation, click HERE. In 30 minutes you'll walk away knowing your next best step and the exact process to get you to your parenting and family goals. xoxo

In this episode, I'm diving into the five common misunderstandings about trust that can trap parents and harm their relationships with their teens. Trust is a big issue, especially when teens engage in risky behaviors like lying, sneaking out, using substances, and other reckless actions. But what if we're looking at trust all wrong? Here's what we'll cover: Why teens break our trust: Understanding the reasons behind lies, sneaking, and other unwanted behaviors. What trust really is (and isn't): Clarifying misconceptions about trust in parenting. What builds trust and what breaks it: Key actions that can either strengthen or damage your relationship. Why trust and love are separate—and why this is great news: How separating trust from love can change your perspective and improve all of your parenting interactions. How trust isn't necessary to parent well: Discover why trust isn't the foundation of effective parenting you might think, and what to focus on instead for best results. Join me as we unpack these points and learn how to navigate trust issues with confidence, keeping your relationship with your teen strong and resilient.

In this high-value episode of Pivot Parenting, we explore the concept of "Pick Me" parenting and its impact on your relationship with your teen. Are you unknowingly seeking your teen's approval by trying to be the "cool parent" or competing for their attention? While it might seem like a way to connect, this approach can lead to common parenting pitfalls and undermine your authority. Join host, Heather Frazier as she uncovers the signs of "Pick Me" parenting and offers practical strategies to avoid it. Learn how to set clear boundaries, maintain your parental authority, and build genuine respect with your teen. Discover effective communication techniques and parenting strategies to foster a healthy, balanced relationship. We'll explore how these dynamics play out, the long-term impact on both you and your teen, and provide actionable strategies to shift from approval-seeking to fostering a truly connected relationship. Learn how to stop seeking validation from your child and start building a bond based on mutual respect and understanding. Don't let the need to be liked get in the way of being the parent your teen truly needs. What you'll learn in this episode: How to identify harmful parenting habits of seeking validation from your kids Recognize the harm these habits are causing Learn what to do instead to have an authentic, healthy relationship with your teen To implement what you learn with more efficiency and effectiveness, book a free 30 minute consultation HERE and we can discuss your situation and your next best step in building the relationship you want with them. xoxo

In this episode of Pivot Parenting, we tackle the pervasive "always right" parenting trap. Are you finding yourself interrupting, being impatient, and insisting on things being done your way? Do you feel judged while also judging others, struggle to understand your teen, or face challenges with authentic engagement from your kids and spouse? The need to always "be right" can disrupt your happiness and hinder your ability to connect with your kids and partner. It's a common issue, yet many don't realize how their need to be right negatively affects their family dynamics. It creates angry, apathetic and stubbornly silent teens. It promotes lying and arguing. It kills necessary vulnerability to connect on more than a surface level, and keeps the "right" parent on everyone's "wrong" side. In today's episode, I delve into: Understanding "Always Right" Parenting: What it truly means and why it's problematic. Identifying the Signs: How to recognize "always right" behaviors in yourself. (this doesn't make you bad or wrong, just human like the rest of us) Effective Solutions: Practical steps to overcome this mindset and improve your relationships. Gain REAL control: No more nagging and micromanaging your teens to feel good. We both know they don't like to play along. I'll show you control in the best way that you and your family will love. By mastering these key points, you can foster more peace and fun within your family. Be prepared to discover surprising insights that could transform your parenting approach and enhance your family's well-being. To book a free 30 minute call with me where we discover your next best parenting move, book at heatherfrazier.com

Divorce is a common pain point for many parents. It can feel like your life is out of your control, your kids are suffering, and everything is turned upside down. Divorce expert, Karin Nelson and I will discuss the guilt portion of that today. Whether you're divorced, in the process, or are happily married, you'll get valuable info from the conversation. We cover being unable to protect your kids from harmful parents, blaming yourself for their suffering, if you made the right decision, "broken home" sigmas, and sneaky, unseen ways that guilt plays out that you probably aren't even aware of but it's negatively impacting your family. To book a free 30 minute call with me, come to Heatherfrazier.com About my guest: Karin Nelson is a mom, a Taylor Swift enthusiast, and a trauma-informed divorce grief specialist, that specializes in helping women move through the grief and pain of their divorce by reconnecting with themselves, create lasting emotional resilience and stepping into their power as an independent woman to live a life even better than when they were married. You can find out more about Karin and the work she does through her podcast 'Becoming You Again'. Here are the links you can find Karin at: Website Becoming You Again Podcast Instagram

You'd think they're kept top secret… but nobody is gatekeeping the ways parents of teens sabotage connection without ever knowing it. In today's episode of Pivot Parenting, I outline the three most effective parenting tips for improving family relationships. We'll overcome regret, discuss how to build connection with your teen, and find parenting peace. You've never met parenting solutions more effective and simple to implement before. The often unseen mistakes parents make that we'll discuss are the key to reversing disappointment and heartache, even if mental health issues, discipline struggles, or undesired behavior issues are at play. Teens are wonderful and fun. They just need a very specific approach to bring out their best and forge bonds that are unbreakable. In this episode: -You'll gain actionable tips for effective teen discipline, improving communication, and building trust. -You'll understand 3 hidden mistakes for more clarity and confidence in your role as a parent. -You'll know simple and clear ways to stop behaviors you don't want happening any more. -Fear will dissipate and you'll gain peace around your teens future. -You'll know how to best approach any situation with control of your emotions and love for all. -You'll feel so confident that regret and disappointment will be a thing of the past. And... Is your specific family situation stressing you out? I would love to help you with your struggles ASAP. I'll give you peace of mind and your next best step to resolve the issue. Book your free 30 minute strategy call at heatherfrazier.com Peace of mind is 30 minutes away, my friend. xoxo

Julia is worn out from meeting the emotional and physical needs of her kids and even her husband. She feels lonely and sad because her husband is so unavailable and parents in such a "black and white" manner, that there is little room for understanding and connection. Parenting her teen and dealing with a spouse who isn't showing up how she needs is taking a toll. Listen in as she's coached to discover what's holding her back from having the parenting relationship she wants- it's not what you might guess it is. Being able to be on the same page as coparents can be a struggle, and I often coach on it. Once you see things clearly, how to bridge the gap becomes clear. To learn more about parenting your teen and joining "drop-in" coaching, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Paul and his wife have 3 kids. Their middle child is playing too much Fortnite and it's not going well... Tech is a huge issue for most parents, and with good reason. You've got a teen brain that loves the high which games provide and parents who want their kids to see the wisdom in playing less, while feeling good about it all. In this episode we discuss how parents that want their teens to like them are disempowering themselves and not helping their teen as well as they could. Paul needs to mange his "worry freeze" and the need for a teenager to agree with him. Listen in to hear how it all plays out. To learn more about parenting your teen and join "drop-in" coaching, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Kat is experiencing a very common parenting struggle: She wants to keep her daughter happy. And so she apologizes when she's not done anything wrong, does more than she wants to to keep the house running, and generally walks on eggshells to manage a 13 yr olds emotions. As you can imagine, she isn't very successful at this, because we've all been in her shoes. "Fix it" energy feels like the solution to a grumpy teen but is often fuel to the fire. Listen in as we discover what the real cure to a grumpy teen is and how much relief it can provide to you, right now. (And no, it's not getting a new mom. You and Kat are the perfect parents for your teens.) To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

In today's Pivot Parenting episode I coach Madeleine. She has two daughters that fight and she just wants it to stop. We all get this- and we are often times in the same trap that she's in. Listen to learn how she can find the peace of mind she wants even though nothing has worked to stop them from arguing. There is more that can be done than either joining in the argument or withdrawing altogether. To learn more about parenting and get your copy of, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

This episode of Pivot Parenting is dedicated to that parent who is second guessing all of their life decisions: Marriage, career, having all the kids, giving their whole life to something and someone all for nothing. Having teens who act like they don't care, a partner who never appreciates us, a career that isn't what we'd thought, and a list of to-do's that breeds overnight with no help in site can drive anyone to wishing for another path.... many, many decisions ago. If you're in the middle of a "throw my hands up and quit" kinda moment, you're not alone (I see lots of clients in this predicament) and this one's for you. xoxo To book a free 30 minute strategy call with me or get my best selling book, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

All talk (or complain) and nothing changes. We might get louder, we might be more miserable and frustrated, but the teens are still teening and the parents are still parenting... as the months pass but the unbearable moments we want to avoid are just on repeat. WHY!? It can be maddening when you don't understand the reason behind the chaos. Listen in, because I'm going to make sense of the madness and then explain what actually fixes the issue so that when you see something that needs improvement, you're all set. (Spoiler: It's only a couple of steps and they aren't what you think.) For a free 30 minute "best next step" conversation about your situation, book at HeatherFrazier.com

Mental health is on the forefront of most parents brains. Anxiety being a frontrunner. Did you know that negative self-talk plays into anxiety and other mental health struggles? Listen in as Monica and I discuss: 1- What role self-awareness plays in managing anxiety, and how to help teens develop this skill. 2- Common negative self-talk patterns among teens and how these patterns contribute to their anxiety. 3- What strategies are recommended for parents to help their teens become more aware of and challenge their negative self-talk. 4- Positive changes can parents expect to see as teens improve their inner dialogue. 5- Practical tips and strategies parents can engage with to foster a positive and supportive environment at home. To learn more about parenting your teen and to grab a strategy call with me, visit heatherfrazier.com About my guest: Monica is a Certified Life & Wellness Coach who helps teens overcome feelings of overwhelm and anxiety that interfere with their daily life. Whether they're drowning in schoolwork, having difficulty overcoming a break-up or are unsure of their career path, Monica ensures teens receive the support they need to create visionary change. Drawing from her personal journey, she understands the crippling effects of anxiety and the overwhelming challenges it presents. Motivated by her desire to break free from this mindset, she has utilized her educational background and ongoing self-growth journey to acquire a wealth of tools and resources, to support teens in navigating and alleviating the stressors of anxiety. Social Media Links - IG - @__consciouscoach Website - www.consciouscoach.biz Email - [email protected]

We all want the instant solution, "magic wand" kind of get-what-I-want-quick resolution. Parents try to come at this in so many directions... perhaps you've tried a few? Coulda, woulda, shoulda: "If I had known", "if I had said that differently", "if they hadn't been dating that person", "if their dad wouldn't have lost his temper... THEN we wouldn't be here." That's the "magic wand" we missed out on perspective. Be everywhere, know everything, do all the things right: This one feels ultra productive, in control, and frenzied! We run around, chasing fires and putting them out, until we realize that we can't be/do/know everything and our pipe dream comes to an abrupt end that leaves us exhausted with very little to show except an angry teen. This is the, after all I've done, I deserve a "magic wand" approach. Bookworm approach: Read books, listen to podcasts, learn, learn, learn and nothing seems to provide the big shift that's so desperately needed. It can feel like so much knowledge is gained but there's not much to show for it, kinda "magic wand". Avoid approach: We blame someone like our spouse, their friends or even our kid. We stay busy, hoping that the issue will take care of itself. We might talk about it, but can't think of any step to take towards resolution. This is the "too confused, burnt out, and busy to deal" kind of "magic wand". We simply hope it will disappear with time. These are only a few examples of ineffective "magic wands" that parents wave around, hoping to feel better, ease the household tension, and help their kid feel happy and respond more favorably to them. If you've tried any, you know that they don't work so well. Listen in to this week's Pivot Parenting episode to learn why they don't work and what to do instead. To grab a free strategy call with me, please visit me at Heatherfrazier.com

One of the most common points of contention parents and teens have: Screens. Video games, phones, vegging out for hours... while chores, school work and people are neglected. Listen in as I explain the simple two step process of prying your teen off their device and back into the real word. Psychologically founded and sure to be "do-able" for all families, my process is one that feels good for everyone and fosters emotional health and love. It's not impossible and it's not too late. To grab 30 minutes of fine-tuning what you learn on this episode, book a free consult. xoxo

While I'm not saying parents have complete control over what their teens do (they don't), they DO have influence- and age old psychology does a pretty good job of predicting how the human brain will respond to certain parenting behaviors. Knowing what I teach in this Pivot Parenting episode will better help you understand and utilize proven psychology methods while interacting with your kids to give you the best odds for their behaviors you're hoping for, and the ones you really don't want. You could be self sabotaging and not even know it. To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

When our kids know who they are, independent from accomplishment, others opinions, and other external details, they have more confidence, happiness and success. So how do we help them work this out during the typically hardest 'identity' years they'll have? Listen in as Traci and I go over all the details you need to know! To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com About my guest: Traci Peterson is an international speaker, highly sought after trainer, has spoken to over 23,000 people, performed in front of 100,000 in sports audiences. She's been a board-certified family nurse practitioner, founder/CEO of Elevate Wellness & Aesthetics, she's treated over 6,000 female patients, is co-founder of The Butterfly Campaign and the #1 Top Team Builder in 50 Countries with Amare, for outstanding leadership and long-term team retention. Her latest project is BE: A Mother Daughter Movement grounded in connection and protection. She cites that her greatest accomplishment is being a mother to 3 very active children! She prides herself in mastering her roles as a mother, wife and woman of faith and leading by example in all of her leadership roles. With collective medical, wellness, aesthetics and leadership experience of 15+ years, Traci is widely regarded by her male and female peers, patients, clients, entrepreneurs and mom's alike. She helps high-performing women and their daughters conquer self-criticism and comparison through identifying your unique and divine gifts. And finding validation is learning to love yourself and lean on God. She helps people practically, remember who they are so they can confidently raise the next generation of leaders. You can find Traci at: www.tracipeterson.com [email protected] @motherdaughtermovement @tpete

The role of mother can be very lonely. We don't want to blab our teen's struggles to our friends, we are pulled in every direction, trying to be there for everyone, all while the list of things to do grows by the day. Why is it important to have friends amidst the chaos and how does one go about fostering meaningful friendships amongst everything else? This is exactly what Jody and I discuss today in Pivot Parenting. Women need each other and this isn't a selfish thing. Listen in as we break it down and Jody gives us the one hack to remember in friendly interactions. To learn more about parenting your teen and order my best seller, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com About my guest: After having her first two kids, Jody Moore struggled with work/life balance, embracing motherhood, and liking herself. As an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints she felt guilty for not loving the role of mother and wife, and turned to life coaching for help. The transformation she experienced not only helped her at work and at home, it strengthened her testimony of Christ leading her to dive into learning the tools of coaching and to leave her position as a corporate leadership coach to launch her own coaching practice. Jody is certified through The Life Coach School and completed Master Coach Certification in 2018. Today, as an LDS Life Coach, Jody has helped tens of thousands of people through her top-rated podcast Better Than Happy as well as her coaching membership program Be Bold. She has 4 children ages 7 – 17 and resides in Spokane, Washington with them, her husband, and their French bulldog Finn, mini cavapoo Milo, and cat Oscar. Website: https://jodymoore.com/masterclass/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodymoorecoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jodymoorecoaching/

Today I have Jennifer on to talk about all things consent, self- abandonment, teaching healthy sexuality, and advocacy. I get that talking about such topics can feel awkward, intimidating, and confusing as to how to go about it. Stress no more! One of my favorite things Jennifer said was, "if you want someone's approval it puts you at a disadvantage." She was referencing the story of my first kiss, which I tell in my book, How I Fixed My Teen, and how I really wanted him to like me and how I let things go too far in an effort to win his approval... and also because I totally froze. We talk about that as well. You don't want to miss listening in as we spill all the tea in the best of ways. To order the book that we reference, and learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com About Jennifer: I am a relationship and sexuality educator and coach, as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois with a Ph.D in Counseling Psychology from Boston College. I wrote my dissertation on LDS women and sexuality, and have taught college-level courses on human sexuality. I currently teach online courses and live workshops to individuals and couples seeking to develop their capacity for deeper emotional and sexual intimacy. Additionally, I offer limited private and group coaching services to individuals and couples who have benefitted from my podcasts and courses and are looking for more direct input on improving their lives and relationships. I am a frequent contributor on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, and spirituality to LDS-themed blogs, magazines, and podcasts, including the "Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist" podcast series. My husband and I are the parents of three children and are active members of the LDS church. You can find Jennifer at: finlayson-fife.com

Many parenting issues boil down to one specific struggle: Confidence. Advocating for our kid, standing up to them, following through with consequences, loving unconditionally, having peace, and so many other things all have this common root struggle. Today, Tony and I discuss the details and help you find more confidence and therefore less struggle and more joy. To learn more about parenting and order best seller, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com About my guest, Tony: So, you may be asking yourself…How did this guy become so interested in Women's Confidence? My path to standing here, in front of you right now, is 100% because of my daughter…my amiga…my best buddy…Rachel. Our story begins when she was about one. That's when Rachel's mom and I parted ways and circumstances led to me being a single dad at the age of 27. Here I was raising a daughter on my own. A daughter…a gender of the human species that I thought I knew about, but in reality, had absolutely no clue! Although I didn't know it at the time, it was the beginning of 'girl's world' bootcamp for this guy and it changed my life. For the better. That epiphany led me to lean into my passion for helping others through therapy and coaching. I went back to grad school at 30 to get my Psych degree. Then my doctorate. In 2011, I opened my own counseling and coaching company, which in turn led to the "She Talks Confidence" podcast, YouTube channel (Tony Dufresne, PhD), and the book (Surrounded by Idiots). My podcast, speaking engagements, and online True Confidence program are labors of love that have come from three decades of success, failure, setbacks, challenges, breakthroughs, and comebacks. Find all things Tony at tonydufresne.com

There are a few specific key ingredients to effectively correcting and guiding our kids and they may not be what you think they are. Discipline is a necessary part of parenting and greatly influences the trajectory of their self-esteem, confidence, emotional skill level and general life satisfaction. Too little talked about, but a giant portion of parental responsibility, I'm taking the bull by the horns in showing you that discipline is not scary, impossible or even has to be a negative experience. Listen in as I share the "why", "what" and "how" of discipline. To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Routine is shown to help manage stress and anxiety, help in productivity and make life feel generally better. Enter, a parents morning routine. Helping teens get out the door each day, fitting in time for ourselves while doing all of the other things on the list can feel daunting. In todays Pivot Parenting episode, I chat with morning routine expert, Ahna Fulmer. We discuss all of the things: why it can be helpful, how it can work for everyone, when one should begin a routine and everything in between. To learn more about parenting your teen, and ordering my best seller, How I Fixed my Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com About my Ahna Fulmer: am passionate about helping women Rise Well A dual-certified nurse practitioner with 10 years of emergency medicine experience, I want to empower you with practical, data-driven strategies to rise emotionally, mentally, physically, socially, and spiritually well, fulfilling your God-given purpose with more confidence and joy – one imperfect day at a time. Whether you join me in the Early Morning Habit™, a premier virtual program helping busy women rise well with a morning routine that starts each day with God's Word and a workout while offering hope to a child waiting to be adopted into a forever family, on my top-rated health & fitness podcast, imPERFECTly emPOWERed™, or on the blog here at ahnafulmer.com, you will be inspired to embrace imperfection as perfectly beautiful and mistakes as part of your unmistakable uniqueness. Because your story matters and YOU ARE LOVED. Get Ahna's free guide: Busy Woman's Morning Guide

"Time heals all wounds." "If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!" "Blood is thicker than water." We've all heard antidotal phrases that sound nice but may not feel as good. The truth is, within families we wound each other. Sometimes unknowingly, sometimes with the best of intentions to be helpful, and sometimes out of our own anger and emotions to hurt another. Maybe time alone isn't going to heal what we said. Perhaps our teen doesn't think their painful family ties are thicker than friend ties. Maybe mom's feelings shouldn't be the object of everyones efforts... In todays Pivot Parenting episode I break down the pain caused within family relationships and how we can work to repair them better than ignoring, spending time and money to win favor back, or otherwise manipulating them into forgiveness. The good news is, you don't need to be perfect- never upsetting them or getting it wrong. (Even when it's out of anger and we meant to lash out in the moment.) Listen in as I explain the very simple, one step process of how to effectively repair relationship wounds. To learn more about parenting your teen, or to order my Amazon best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

It's common that our kid's teen years intersect with loss. The passing of our parents (their grandparents), their peers, pets, and even loss that isn't death- loss of friendships, anticipated futures (like making the team or getting the part) and other hoped for expectations that never become realized. Grief is a hard time for us and our kids. It can feel awkward and we may not know how to approach it or help them, so we often do nothing. There is a better way to help our kids and ourselves through inevitable dark times. Tune in as I talk with grief expert, @lifecoachkrista about grief myths, what is helpful, what isn't, and what is normal for grief as a family. To learm more about parenting your teen and ordering my best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at Heatherfrazier.com About my guest: Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her unfurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. Krista's website: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com The Widowed Mom Podcast: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/podcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkrista Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/

When they say... "I know, I know" "Thats not what you said..." "It wasn't because of me, they caused it" "WHY ARE YOU SO MAD! you hate me, I can never do anything right!" There are many ways our teens justify, deny and avoid being wrong. Why? This drives parents crazy and then it just gets worse. Fighting, us refusing to be wrong, nit-picking details, and causing strain on our relationship. But did you know, that when we approach our never-in-the-wrong teen properly, we can foster connection and strengthen our love? Tune-in to find out how. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen or order my best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

It can feel like our teens are a shrouded mystery of hormones and hoodies... until now! Today I have a teen therapist, Ashley Hudson, on Pivot Parenting to discuss how their behavior makes sense and what they mean when they say things like, "I Hate you!", give you the silent treatment, lie, or coddle your feelings. You don't want to miss our informative conversation! To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com About my guest: Ashley Hudson is a mother of 3 boys, licensed teen therapist, and parent coach, with over 12 years of experience. Her group private practice, Ashley Hudson Therapy, is based in Orange County, CA, focusing on empowering adolescents and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, sport performance anxiety, grief, and parent-child relational conflicts. Drawing from her extensive experience working with thousands of teenagers, Ashley loves working with parents of teenagers and helping them reconnect with their teens. Ashley has created online parenting courses: The Connected Parent and Social Media & Your Teen designed to help parents establish open communication and build meaningful connections with their teens. You can follow her on instagram @ashleyhudsontherapy or the links below. https://www.illuminateyourconnection.co/connectedparent https://www.illuminateyourconnection.co/social-media-and-your-teen

When you're stuck and feel like it's never enough, you try and try, but end up exhausted with little to show for it. When you feel like you're holding on sooo tight but still feel unstable. When everything is so obiviously one thing or another but also nothing will conform to your way of seeing it... You may be getting in your own way of parental happiness with a "check-the-box" parenting approach. Listen in as I describe how and why we have boxes and what to do when they're pretty in theory but causing a huge problem in reality. xoxo To learn more about parenting and order my best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

It's infuriating when our teens yell, swear, rant, take it out on us and their siblings... Having an angry teen is one of the common complaints I hear from parents. Listen to this weeks episode of Pivot Parenting as I break it down: Why this happens and what to do about it. There are better solutions then yelling back, cowering from them, or jumping through hoops trying to avert their wrath and win their favor. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen and to order my book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

We invest in real-estate, the stock market, cryptocurrency, NFT's and other forms of business.. but what about our kids? Parenting isn't a vending machine, its a charity, and education, and in invitation to evolve. Listen in as I break down some unexpected returns when we think of our kids as something we deserve a return on. To learn more about parenting your teen and order my book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Tune in as I highlight 10 common tricks our brains pull on us that sabotage our best parenting. We all do them, but don't worry, once you learn to recognize them you'll never unwittingly fall victim to them again. Knowing whats what is the biggest hurdle to overcome in being your best parenting self. I've got you. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Being wrong is bad, right? nope, it's magic. Come with me on a journey of finding peace and freedom in the simple embrace of one basic truth. It will immediately and forever positively effect the way you interact with your children and self. If things aren't shifting and you're about to throw in the towel when it comes to your teens, this could be exactly what's missing. I've got you. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at Heatherfrazier.com

Feeling triggered? Life and teens have a way of lighting up our nervous systems. Our brains are very complex beautiful helps to life- until they aren't. In today's episode I break down how we can use our brain's instincts to help us rather than leave us in the, post-yelling (or passive aggressive, or totally avoiding them and everyone) slump of shame. If you've ever thought: "why did I just do that? Why couldn't I have responded better, what's going on that I can't be the parent I want to be?!" Then this episode is your key to understanding so that you can feel like you're back in the drivers seat of how you behave, see things, and parent. I've got you. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen, and check out my book, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

All of the things we don't want our teens doing: Drugs, sex, porn, suicidal ideation, cheating, lying, vaping.... there's a common thing parents tend to say. Repeatedly. "How did I NOT know!??" There are specific reasons parents do this and effects this has. Tune in to understand and therefore have more power and peace in your parenting. To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

With kids, a spouse, a household to run, work, friends and family, it's easy to feel like there isn't enough of us to go around. We want to be there for our teens, we also have so much going on that we don't want to drop the ball on. We're falling into bed, dead on our feet, not having done it all, feeling defeated. Tune in to todays Pivot Parenting episode as I talk about coaching so many parents on this tired, lonely spot that we all find ourselves in. There's a two step fix to the issue, and I'm here to help you with it. To preorder my book, How I Fixed my Teen, and check out all of my parenting resources, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Is modesty a key player in your home? Is it what they're wearing? Is it how they act? Are modesty and sexuality linked together? Let's discuss all things teens, modesty, sexuality, appearance, and how to parent through all of it. It can be tricky, as many adults are uncomfortable around these topics, but they're important to help our teens navigate. I never shy away from an awkward discussion, so lets go! To preorder, How I Fixed My Teen, and learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Parents like to help. Sometimes it's helpful and sometimes it's not. Want to know what makes the difference? Listen to this weeks episode to find out. It's the deciding factor for if the help will actually help or hinder. To learn more about parenting your teen and to preorder my book, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com xoxo

We say we want one thing- Love, kindness, quality relationships... But sometimes our behaviors give us away. It's easy to prioritize chores, grades, and obedience above what we think we want. There's an easy explanation as to why we do this. There's also a simple fix. I've got a simple exercise for you that will expose if your parenting actions align with your values. Want to make 2024 your best year? The one where you feel calm, in control and at peace? Let me show you how. Ready to align your values and your parenting? Tune in to this weeks Pivot Parenting episode to learn how. xoxo To preorder my book, How I Fixed my Teen, and learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

We want them there. It won't be the same, plus it's awful to have to tell Grandma that they didn't want to come. But they didn't and now there's contention. Nobody wins in this situation, but it doesn't have to be like this. Today I'll walk you through other options, offer you better understanding around this common phenomenon, and generally help make the holidays a little better when it comes to herding our families everywhere. To preorder my book, How I Fixed my Teen, or learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

We all know that our money has limits, so why do we think we should have limitless emotional strength and spending? Today I want to teach you a new way of looking at budgets. It's got nothing to do with money and everything to do with having reasonable expectations for yourself. Lost your cool? Have no emotional bandwidth by the end of the day? Feeling drained and hating yourself for not being at your best ALL. THE. TIME...? Good news in this episode. I love you, and want to share with you this most powerful secret. If you'd like to preorder my book, How I Fixed my Teen, or learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Family life is wonderful, and that includes times where we want to cry, scream, and throw in the towel. Mental health, physical health, and tough situations can happen to everyone. In Today's episode I'll walk you through the three most common mistakes parents add needless pain and suffering on top of a hard situation. I will also talk you through the only two places you need to be in for maximum relief and progress through whatever rough waters you're navigating. Life can be a challenge. Parenting can be a wild time, and I'm here to help you with all of it. To preorder my book, How I Fixed My Teen, learn more about parenting your teen, or search by topic exactly what you're struggling with, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Parent's find out what I do and ask me how to get their teen to: like cleaning their room, turn in homework, help out, be nice, stop lying... they want to know how to fix the problem that is their teen's choices. I get it. I was that parent several years ago. When we see our teen's as something to be fixed, we parent in a very specific way, and it's not so helpful. Tune in to learn more and how to help your teen in a more powerful way. To preorder my book, How I Fixed My Teen and learn more about parenting, please visit me at Heatherfrazier.com

The holidays are wonderful and also we're so glad when the busy, chaotic hum is over. But what if we could enjoy them at a more measured pace so that we didn't have to take that exhausted sigh of relief when they're over? It's possible, and Kristen is here to tell us exactly how! If you're feeling the holiday overwhelm, this episode is for you. No more snipping at the kids because they don't want to play along. No more forcing family traditions that you think you should keep. Let's create the perfect family holiday season together. To check out Family Connection Design Course (discount code: 100off valid until 12/1/23) and preorder my book, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com About my guest: Kristen Mattison is founder of the blog This Routine Life. Kristen is passionate about spreading the word that motherhood doesn't have to feel so hard and daunting, and it IS possible to enjoy the years with your kids without feeling overwhelmed and like you're always behind. When she's avoiding her To-Do list, you'll find her watching Bravo TV, reading, or working on her latest cross-stitch project. She has her master's in counseling and is a Certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School. You can find her at thisroutinelife.com

A special surprise for you, today! I'm writing a book, How I FIxed My Teen, and this is the trailer! I'm so excited to introduce you to my baby that I've been working on this past year. We're set to publish in early 2024 and you'll want to preorder. Visit me at heatherfrazier.com to get on the list. I'll be mailing out signed copies from my website, and even giving you a book club deal if you get +8 books. Also, if you're in the area, or I'm in yours, I'd love to come to your book club! All the details are at heatherfrazier.com so I'll see you there. xoxo

Is it a sneaky hack like, the magic words that get them to like chores? Could it be how to never be ruffled by their harsh words? Perhaps we're missing the key to understanding teen behavior? What if it's a secret consequence that they actually respond favorably to? A way of saying it that they don't get mad at? So many confused, exhausted parents ask me what they're missing, why it's so exhausting, and how they can get their teen to: turn homework in, get up on time, stop lying, start liking family time, stop yelling and swearing at them, help out without the drama, and everything else... Well- Here's the magic episode that helps you see it all more clearly- after all, seeing is believing, right? To learn more about parenting, and check out Family Connection Design Course, visit me at heatherfrazier.com

In today's episode I speak with marriage expert, Aimée Gianni. We discuss how to be on the same side of the table with your partner on several pointed struggles parents often face: - how to see eye to eye when you disagree on phone/video game/curfew/dating rules -how to 'fight' in front of your kids (show them healthy ways of disagreeing) -how to be a unified force in your parenting when you don't agree -how to deal with a spouse who doesn't support your rules, goes around your consequences, undermining behaviors It all boils down to one simple truth, and it may surprise you... To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com To join my 2 week, Stop Arguing with Your Teen challenge, click HERE About my guest: Aimée Gianni, MS, is a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Master Coach Instructor specializing in Love Relationships. She teaches her clients The Art of Intimate Connection and helps them create strong, loving, joyful relationships and meaningful lives that they love, full of authenticity, connection, passion, fulfillment, and physical well-being. It's her favorite thing to do! As a Master Coach Instructor she trains relationship coaches how to do this important work with their clients. You can learn more about her work at AimeeGianni.com and follow her on Instagram @aimeegiannims To sign up for Aimée's love notes, click HERE

"And the truth shall set you free..." It's applicable to parenting as well. I've got two formulas that teach us how truth in parenting is the best way forward to where we want to be. Having a poker face for your family isn't the best approach if you want a close relationship. Vulnerability + Truth = Intimacy/connection Knowledge + Skilled application = Wisdom I'm going to walk you through 4 points to help you navigate exactly how honesty will guide you to be the best, most loving parent possible. To join my two week challenge, How to Stop Arguing With Your Teen, click HERE. To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

"I'm over it." "I give up!" "I have no idea what I'm doing, so I make it worse." "I can't keep doing this." "They're killing me." "I'm just avoiding them until they move out." "I just want to run away/disappear/hide all day..." Its burnout, and there's a logical explanation and fix for it. Raising kids is so wonderful and terrible and the best opportunity to grow ourselves. And sometimes we're ready for it to be over. Listen in as I shed some light on what's going on. You're not alone and it's not a lost cause. Things can get better... and before they move out. To learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

We've heard words like enmeshment or codependency within a peer to peer relationship, but did you know that they can also be at play with us and our teens? It messes with us when they don't want to play along with our ideas of what the family should be like, or how they should lead their lives. When we misattribute who's responsible for creating our feelings and who needs to change before they can be resolved, what can already be difficulties get 10x bigger. Add fuel to the fire, no more! In today's episode I talk about a couple of key ways to be a cohesive, interdependent family. One that's emotionally intelligent. So that you can deescalate situations with love, rather than melting down. xoxo Here's the course I mention, Family Connection Design Course, in this episode. To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at Heatherfrazier.comhttps://heatherfrazier.com/

"You can have it all", we're told, as if it were the best prize ever. So we shoot for it and try to hold all the balls in the air and beat ourselves up when we discover that it's hard to live up to society's standards. Today, Monica and I talk about perfectionism in our parenting, how it affects our kids, how to identify unhealthy tendencies in our kids, and when they point out our mistakes. (Sometimes in very harsh ways). Our approach to such struggles makes all the difference in our level of parenting happiness, and today's episode will help you pivot where you may not have even seen needs. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com About my guest: My name is Monica Packer. I'm a recovering perfectionist, podcaster, and Progress Coach. I save women from themselves, by helping them ditch perfectionism, step into their gifts, and move towards real progress. Welcome to a community who knows life is about progress, not perfection! To get Monica's free value exercise, click HERE You can also find Monica at her website and instagram @aboutprogress

Okay, in today's episode I keep it real with the fact that sometimes we just want to be on vaca, far from everyone... including our kids. (Ohh! I said it. And without feeling any mom guilt or shame, to boot.) We all have human monents, and I'm here to normalize that fact. So sit back, push play, and prepare to feel better about not loving parenting your kids every second of every day- no guilt attached. It's possible, and even ideal, as the end result is being a better parent. To get my 4 simple strategies on how to negotiate phone rules, curfews, chores, cars, etc.. with your teen, click HERE. To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com