Pivot Parenting: Expert Tips for Navigating Teen and Tween Challenges

We've all felt it, it's no better when watch our kids experience it. let's discuss. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

With possibly multiple children and many responsibilities, we may often feel like we are running from fire to fire, putting them out as quickly as possible. This can be exhausting. As parents, we might feel that this is our job... let's take a closer look at what this creates for us, and if that is actually what we want to do. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

As our children grow, we get a new set of choices to make, and with some decisions, we just get to watch: Where to consider attending college, what their curfew should be, who they're dating, jobs, sports, friends, what age is appropriate for phones, the list goes on and on... It's on a whole new level from when they were little. In this episode I break down the art of decision making so that you can more clearly navigate what is yours to decide and help your teen navigate what is for them to decide. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Words and thoughts shift meaning through our definitions of them. Often times we subconsciously define them to our own detriment. In this episode I will go over some common sources of pain and how to redefine what isn't working in our parenting. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Our attitudes towards physical beauty, sex appeal, modesty, and how we both unconsciously and consciously teach our kids about it is the discussion in this episode. So much wisdom is discovered in our conversation- you don't want to miss this one! About my guest: Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a relationship and sexuality educator and coach, as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois with a PhD in Counseling Psychology from Boston College. To learn more, please visit www.finlayson-fife.com To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

In this episode, Tina and I have an honest conversation about when our children grow up and it doesn't play out how we thought it would. If you are struggling to accept the life your young adult children are living, this one's for you. About Tina: Tina Gosney is an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She specializes in coaching LDS parents who have a child that has left the church or a child that is LGBTQ. She has experienced both these circumstances in her own family, with a daughter who has left the church, and a gay son who married another man. As a certified coach through The Life Coach School, Tina has been able to help countless parents navigate and thrive in their relationships with their children and spouse as they adapt to a new normal. You can find Tina at Tinagosney.com

While working with my clients, disrespect and teens often go hand in hand. But focusing on what we think of their actions is not helpful. In this episode, I go over all the nitty gritty of disrespect, and It's not what you think it is. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

You know that nagging voice in the back of your head...? The one that leaves you feeling like a terrible parent? In this episode I will highlight some common beliefs that you're probably buying into that only cause pain. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Someone asks you about your child, your parenting, your home... What are the first thoughts that come to mind? How do you paint the picture of your life to yourself and others? Let's chat about what we choose to focus on, what that creates for us, and if we want to keep that point of view. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

As a mother, we often want to give everything we have to our child- leaves, branches, all. In this episode I look at parenting from this paradigm and how it plays out for the family. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Ever walk away from a conversation with your teen, scratching your head and wondering how that went so wrong? In this episode, I go over some of the most common mistakes we make when we talk with our kids. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Meet Mark, my bookkeeper, coach, and friend. I love my conversations with Mark because of his fresh perspective and ability to think outside of the box. In this episode we will chat about all things money, teens, and college. To learn more about Mark's money philosophy, you can find him at moneyschool.works To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Loss, grief, pain, and sadness are unavoidable as a human. When life does it's thing and we find ourselves mourning what was or what we wanted it to be, we don't usually want to be super upbeat and happy about it... and that's okay. My teens, my clients teens, and pretty much all teens, will cause parents to mourn. whether that's from decision making, illness, accident, or the impact of another's actions towards them. Let's talk about the process of mourning. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

When we make our teen's words and actions mean something about us, we suffer. Not only do we suffer, but then we parent from that unhappy place and that doesn't usually turn out so well for anyone.... Want help getting off of the hamster wheel of pain? In this episode I mix it up by guesting on another podcast. It was so much fun to talk to Nate and I think you'll love it, too. Nate Web is a speaker and professional school counselor who specializes in bullying and resiliency. From his own experiences being bullied as a kid, and from his studies as a professional school counselor, Nate founded Bullies Be Gone, a media platform to help empower kids to get over bullies, get off social media, and to love their lives. Nate is PASSIONATE about helping kids see their worth, and speaks all around to help save the kids. To learn more about Nate, you can visit him at Bulliebgone.com or on Instagram @bulliesbe.gone To learn more about working with me, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

We all know that you can "be in the red" with money, but did you know that we all have emotional bank accounts, too? In this episode I will talk about how to know when you're parenting in the "red", and how to become net positive when that's the case. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

You don't want to be happy that they're vaping (or insert anything that isn't what you'd call a "great choice"), and I get that... But you also don't need to be in a severe place of emotional suffering. Enter, peace. In this episode I teach you a four step process to access peace while in the storm. I've got you. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

You don't like where you're at, and you've caught the vision of where you could be... You see how much better things would be when you're parenting from 'that' place, but how do you get there? This is a common occurrence with parents as they learn information but are unsure of how that looks to implement and change old habits and old thoughts. I am here to help. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Socially, we are taught to believe certain things about parenting. Some of these things are helpful, others are not. In this episode I will expose a few of the unhelpful, yet subconsciously agreed upon lies that we all buy into. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Humans naturally look for enemies. When parenting, this isn't the most helpful approach. In this episode I will give you practical tips and tricks to overcome this habit and grow closer to your teen. Go teamwork! To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Hard things are a catalyst. They are unavoidable and a key player in creating both our home and our ideal self. How can we teach our kids to overcome challenges and come off as victor? Let's break it down. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Your teen makes a comment... and the hair on your neck stands up... You can feel the fight coming. What does this mean? Why do we do this? Why do we pick fights when that's not what we'd wanted? I go over all the fine details in this episode. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

I'm feeling kinda feisty right now, and so in this episode I will be sharing some of the things that society generally agrees upon and why I disagree. And guess what, it's okay if you disagree with me about disagreeing, I will still love you. xoxo To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

"I'm so stupid! I know better than that!" We've all thought something similar, yeah? Beating ourselves up for making a human mistake seems like it would prevent future mishap, but is that true? And what is the cost? In this episode I breakdown why we paint ourselves as the troll and the effect that this can have on ourselves and our kids. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

If you put dough into a pasta maker, you get noodles on the other side. Plant a tomato seed, and you can expect to harvest tomatoes. When parents apply the principle of "input = output" to their kids, like thinking that if we teach our kids to be honest and then expect them to always be honest, disappointment is never far behind. In this episode I cameo a few of my client's situations to show you how this line of thinking is not helpful, and I'll give you practical tools to drop the unnecessary suffering. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Substance abuse is a topic that affects many families. In this episode I will talk with Claire about her story of addiction and recovery, what to do when you discover substance abuse in your home, common misconceptions around this topic, and what teens wish their parents knew. About my Guest: Claire is an addiction specialist with a B.S. in psychology and has spent years working within family systems dealing with addiction. She can be found at clarityintervention.com or on instagram as Clarity Intervention. Direct contact can be made through [email protected] or (801)735-5755

As parents, one could easily assume that we have a part time job as worry warts. From stressing that they have never had a first date, to being worried that they go out too much, and then what about the friends that they are with?!? Are they learning everything that they need to before they move out, and will they actually ever move out? Will I survive without them? As they get closer to launching the fear tends to increase. In this episode I will address why this happens and how you can stop spinning out in confusion, fear, and overwhelm. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

If you feel like you're in constant opposition to your child, this episode is for you. I'll teach you how to play on the same team so that it's a win for everyone. Amazing. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Let's be honest.... Have you ever felt relief when they aren't in the room? Family vacations couldn't end soon enough? You feel super guilty when you run out of the house for an "errand" just to escape them? I have done all of these things and then some. In this episode I'll explain this phenomenon and the reasons for it. Once you know, the guilt can drop away and you can begin to find love for yourself and them once more. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Different kinds of questions will yield different kinds of answers. Teens can be flighty creatures, so it's important that parents know how to best approach their child when they've got questions. In this episode I will teach you everything you need to know about the art of posing a question. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Ah, the magical time of year where we review how we've done the previous year and look forward to changes we'd like to make. New Year's resolutions rarely stick for longer than a few weeks, but I've got a few tricks to teach that will help to sustain your parenting goals for lifelong improvement. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

So many of us find joy to be elusive- a goal we always talk about obtaining, but never more than, "it's what Christ offers us." While this is true, I am going to offer you specifics to how joy works and how to create it in your parenting. (Spoiler: once you can create joy one area of your life, you can create it in every area of your life. Brilliant.) To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Want to gift yourself with amazing insights to make 2021 your best parenting year yet? Monique and I keep it real. In this episode you will see parenting differently as we ask frank questions and reveal so much awesomeness. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com About my guest: Monique is a leadership coach and business mentor. She is passionate about helping people become their best. Those who have worked with her come away having overcome fear and feel empowered and equipped with the tools she teaches in her Elevate program. To learn more, visit moniquescrip.com

Are you one of those people who always needs to be busy? Who feel better the more that they get done? Do you define your parental success by your progress, and that of your teen? If it's a yes, I feel you. This is the work that I am doing in my life and see so many of my clients dealing with similar habits. There is a specific reason for this and I break it all down for you in this episode. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com To grab my digital parenting course, visit https://heatherfrazier.com/minic-sp/

Love feels amazing, so why do we as parents so often deny ourselves of that feeling? Too often we are waiting for our teen to behave how we want them to. Our Savior, Jesus Christ, teaches differently. In honor of His birth, I want to explore His way of loving- unconditionally. To grab Foundational Parenting, please visit https://heatherfrazier.com/minic-sp/ To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

If your teen opens up to you, what next? In this episode I will teach you how to be a good listener, what questions to both ask and avoid, and how to best guide your teen in those sensitive moments. To grab my digital parenting course, please visit https://heatherfrazier.com/minic-sp/ To learn about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Have you ever felt 'so much' that you couldn't even say what emotions you were feeling? Or how about going from frustrated to furious in seconds? As humans, we tend to layer, mix, and judge our feelings. In this episode I will discuss emotions on top of emotions and all the juicy details of it. To grab Foundational Parenting, digital course, please visit https://heatherfrazier.com/minic-sp/ To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

"Yeah, but..." It's a common phrase that we use. In this episode, I'll explain the "why we do," and "why we shouldn't," take this route of communication. I'll also provide you with a much more powerful alternative. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

In today's episode I will breakdown for you the "why" and "what now" of your teen deciding that church isn't for them anymore. Having experienced this myself, I know how much pain this can cause, and the collateral damage that can occur after they walk away. I want to give you new information and a fresh perspective- one that will work for everyone. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

John Donne taught that, "No man is an island". In this episode, I share my personal story of this concept. I will teach you how you can leave a family legacy with intention. One that will not only bless your present family, but continuing for generations to come. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

A common occurrence, but not a common conversation. When our child, or someone that we know and love comes out as LGBTQ, where do we go from there? Jenie and I talk about all of the thoughts and feelings that come up as she shares her journey. This is a must listen to better support the LGBTQ people you know and love. Jenie Hunter is a LCS Certified Life Coach and is currently working on an advanced certification in Faith based coaching with Jody Moore. She specializes in helping LDS parents and families who have an LGBTQ family member. Jenie helps them navigate from fear to understanding. She has six children (1 son and 5 daughters) Her son, Nicholas, came out as gay 8 years ago. She feels that the privilege of being Nicholas's mother has made her a better mom, disciple of Christ, and basically just a better a human being! You can contact her at JenieHunterCoaching.com

Happy fall! With the crisp air and caramel apples come midterms for our kids. Full disclosure: All of my kids at home have cried about school this week. I'm guessing that this might be happening in your house as well, so I'm going to teach you some awesome skills to use when the storm hits. And never fear- If you don't have midterm drama, you can use these techniques with anyone you love who is struggling. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

I remember seventh grade as being awful. I have seen three of my children also struggle as a new school, major friend changes, and puberty all collide. I feel for them, because I get it. Chatting with Kelly, she told me about how me and all the other mom's start going through changes that are like a second puberty. Throw that in with the fact that you've got kids going through puberty as well, and you've got the makings of a potential hormonal disaster. In our interview we unpack and explain it all. Knowledge is power, and this is powerful stuff that you don't want to miss. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com About my guest: Kelly Keelan knows first-hand the frustration that comes with trying to lose weight, especially as we get older. For the past 15 years, she has helped countless women over the age of 40 to reach their goal weight despite their hormonal imbalances, metabolic dysfunction, and overeating habits that often accompany perimenopause. She combines her nursing experience, life coach certification, as well as her own personal struggle with weight loss resistance, to help women shed pounds. Kelly owns her online coaching business, Kelly Keelan, RN, where she works one on one with clients. She believes that weight-loss during midlife requires a different approach that no one else is talking about. You can find out more about Kelly's weight loss program and how she helps clients by visiting www.kellykeelan.com

This episode's title could easily be my job description. As a coach, I see the stories my clients are buying into and point it out to them. We all hold on so tightly to our tale's, despite the pain that they can cause. Stories are what separate us from animals, and that's a good thing. In this episode, I break it all down for you, so that you can see more clearly your own stories and decide if you want to keep them. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

My oldest can give a death stare that will wither the tallest tree into oblivion. It used to crush me. I remember the exact moment when I heard confidence defined in a new and remarkable way. My mind was blown, and I haven't looked back since. Now, I find her most concerted stares adorable. I even laugh and tell her how cute she is... I found confidence. In this episode I break it down for you, so that you can also find your parental confidence. Are you ready to have your world rocked? If so, this episode is for you. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

We've all been taught that everything has an equal and opposite reaction, but did you know that this doesn't just apply to Newton's 3rd law of motion? This is also true in parenting, feelings, and every other aspect of our existence. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

When our kids struggle we try to resolve their discomfort for them. If you can't stand to see your child, spouse, or neighbor struggle, then this episode is for you. I break down the why's and how's so that you can see yourself clearly. Parenting with this information will pivot your home in an exceptional way. To learn more about working with me, please visit www.heatherfrazier.com

We can categorize all of the things in our life down to three "buckets". When we don't understand the bucket system, we create a great deal of unnecessary pain and suffering for ourselves. In this episode, I will discuss what the buckets are, and how you can use them to parent. It all starts with one thing- knowing what your responsibility is. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

Have you ever noticed that in the heat of the moment you may say or do things that you didn't mean? In this episode we will discuss this phenomenon in detail. This concept blew my mind when I learned it, and I never saw things the same again. Are you ready to pivot? To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

In this episode I will discuss three sneaky ways that criticism appears towards self and family, what it's effects are, and the results it creates in your life. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com

As a human, we are always trying to figure out if we are good enough. Parenting is a common place that we judge ourselves, and it's usually too harshly. Let's make sure that you're using the right metrics to measure your success. In this episode I will clear up some misconceptions and give you the perfect way to know how you are doing with your teens. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com