ManTalks Podcast

Purpose (especially now) can feel elusive for so many men. And when purpose goes missing, meaning isn't far behind. This week, some thoughts on where to find meaning, how to regain a sense of purpose, and why both are critical components of any man's journey. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This was such a good conversation! Dr. Krug has to be one of the most engaged and informative guys I've had on when it comes to sexual health. We cover the mind's role in healthy sex, balancing what you can and can't control in your sexual health, the surprisingly critical role of uncertainty and anxiety in sex, the physiology of erections and orgasm, how porn addiction works, the list goes on. Dr. Shy Krug is a Clinical Psychologist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist on the Upper West Side of Manhattan. He specializes in sex therapy and sexual health in addition to sexual addiction. He also specializes in trauma, depression, anxiety, and couples counseling. His work has also led to a deep understanding of how mental illness can impact changes in arousal or sexual function Dr. Krug mainly utilizes a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and mindfulness. He is also trained in Gottman’s Method of Couples Counseling, Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT), and Prolonged Exposure (PE). To ensure that an individual’s sexual dysfunction is not being caused by a medical issue, Dr. Krug takes a team-oriented approach and works closely with a team of medical providers. When working with a client who has a history of trauma, he also discusses the challenges of trauma-focused work and lets them know that it is common to feel more distress in the beginning of treatment to ensure they are ready to start talking about their traumatic experience(s). He has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Fairleigh Dickinson University and a B.A. in psychology with a minor in biology from Yeshiva University. Connect with Dr. Krug -Website: https://www.blueanchorpsychology.com/ -Psychology Today Profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/shy-krug-new-york-ny/400264 Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It goes without saying that the more informed you are on the nature of addiction, the easier it is to see and break the patterns that trap you or the people you care about—addiction can be a LOT more subtle and nuanced than you think. So this week, I asked Dr. Carl Erik Fisher to dig into his new book, The Urge: Our History Of Addiction. It's a profoundly empathetic, personal, and intelligent book, and if you like this episode you'll want to check it out. We cover how addiction was perceived by ancient cultures and philosophers, how societies and communities have responded from Ancient Grecians to Native Americans, why community plays a huge role, the difficulty of boundaries and interventions, and a lot more. Carl Erik Fisher is an addiction physician and bioethicist. He is an assistant professor of clinical psychiatry at Columbia University, where he works in the Division of Law, Ethics, and Psychiatry. He also maintains a private psychiatry practice focusing on complementary and integrative approaches to treating addiction. His writing has appeared in Nautilus, Slate, and Scientific American MIND, among other outlets. Connect with Carl: -Website: https://www.carlerikfisher.com/ -Book: The Urge: Our History Of Addiction: https://www.carlerikfisher.com/book -Podcast: https://podcast.carlerikfisher.com/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/drcarlerik -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcarlerik/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrCarlErik Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all crave meaning, purpose, and feeling like we're needed. It's deeply important for anyone's mental health. But for a significant number of men, it simply isn't happening. There are all sorts of reasons for this, and there's no easy answer, but it's something that genuinely worries me. This week, I'm thinking out loud about what's going on for younger men and what they can do to find that purpose and meaning for themselves. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do I sum up this conversation? Because we could have talked for days. Dr. Shaw's work is incredibly powerful, so get ready for a very depth-oriented and intense conversation. For example, Dr. Shaw and I cover the real meaning of blessing and the importance of being defeated—not winning. The power of story and myth, comfort versus shelter, and how it all relates to how we're living now. Martin Shaw is widely regarded as one of the most exciting teachers of the mythic imagination. Author of the award-winning Mythteller trilogy (A Branch from the Lightning Tree, Snowy Tower, Scatterlings), he founded the Oral Tradition and Mythic Life courses at Stanford University, and is director of the Westcountry School of Myth in the UK. He has introduced thousands of people to mythology, and for twenty years, Shaw has been a wilderness rites of passage guide, working with at-risk youth, those who are unwell, returning veterans as well as many women and men seeking a deeper life. His translations of Gaelic poetry and folklore (with Tony Hoagland) have been published in Orion Magazine, Poetry International, and Poetry Magazine. Dr. Shaw's work has received top praise from the likes of Malidoma Somé, Stephen Jenkinson, Coleman Barks, Robert Densmore, and Robert Bly. His essay and conversation with Ai Weiwei on myth and migration was released by the Marciano Arts foundation. Connect with Dr. Shaw -Website: https://drmartinshaw.com/ -Substack, The House of Beasts & Vines: https://martinshaw.substack.com/ -Westcountry School of Myth: https://schoolofmyth.com/ -Books at Cista Mystica Press: https://cistamystica.com/ -Latest Book, Smoke Hole: https://cistamystica.com/shop/smoke-hole/ Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A huge of my job is digging into the twists and turns of modern dating. The landscape men and women are facing in the world of sex and relationships is always shifting, and can leave you more than a little frustrated. So this week, I'm sharing a compelling article from David M. Buss: "The Mating Crisis Among Educated Women". There is a growing discrepancy here that deserves our full attention. Listen in and let me know your thoughts. Read the article here: https://www.edge.org/response-detail/26747 Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week isn't so much an interview. Instead, a long-ranging conversation with an old friend focused around some of the more, uh, volatile aspects of modern masculine culture. The functionality of incel ideology, redpill rhetoric, the rise of victimhood narratives on all sides. In short, we're talking about some heavy stuff. Expect an open dialogue and frank opinions. Traver Boehm knows men. How they think, what’s behind their behavior, and most importantly — their unique challenges in the modern landscape. Traver is the the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, the fastest growing men’s movement in the world. He is the author of Today I Rise, and Man UNcivilized as well as a two time TEDx speaker, men’s coach and podcaster. Drawing upon an eclectic background ranging from professional bodyguard and Mixed Martial Arts to a Master’s Degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and meditation, Traver counsels men, women, and couples on how to better understand men’s mental health and relationship difficulties. Although he’s not quite sure how to feel about the title, he has been dubbed, “The Man Whisperer” as he has the unique ability to speak to men in a way they can hear and understand. Connect with Traver -Website: https://www.manuncivilized.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm/ -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAoPi5PeZKBcBb07yqdeOwQ -UNcivilized Nation: https://www.manuncivilized.com/thenation -See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Yes, that is a borderline clickbait title, and it's for good reason. It's easy to learn but takes years to master, and so many things in a man's life build off and are enhanced by this one crucial practice, even though it's something you're not really taught anymore in school. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Halfway Monk Creative ServicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tons of men know how their body changes, adapts, or grows throughout their teenage years and their 20s. Not so many know how the natural aging process affects things in the late 30s and onward into their 50s. Speaking as a new father myself, I've got a lot to learn about how to maintain my fitness while being a parent and heading quickly towards 40, which is why I brought back Dr. Anthony Balduzzi. Anthony's an expert at providing pragmatic, actionable advice for men of all stripes and fitness levels. We covered building muscle, the effects of fasting, hormonal changes as men age, the effects of stress and working from home, insulin resistance and its effects on our brains, and just how easy it is to become very unhealthy very quickly. Dr. Anthony Balduzzi is a naturopathic doctor, national champion bodybuilder, and founder of the Fit Father Project and Fit Mother Project – online health and fitness communities aimed at empowering busy parents to get healthy, lose weight, and build muscle through practical nutrition and exercise plans. Connect with Dr. Balduzzi -Website: https://www.fitfatherproject.com/ -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKvJ_vxZZoN5yeWBU2CVGcQ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fitfatherproject/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fitfatherproject/ -LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthonybalduzzi/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when you don't feel worthy of the person you're with? I recently got this fantastic question from a follower on Instagram, and wanted to give it extra attention, because worthiness, success, and all those other buzzwords can get pretty vague. Listen in. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do men of all kinds say (or do) the most insane things for validation? Why do so many men abuse their power? Why are there so few decent male role models? My guess is a lack of initiation. But what is "initiation"? How does it work? This week, a deep dive into the what, how, why, and consequences of initiation for men. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Coming to you from the comfort of my car, some thoughts on how current cultural trends push men away from what actually matters to them and towards the means and ends of others. It's imperative that each of us takes time to notice the things, thoughts, and practices we're attached to that maybe aren't serving us anymore. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's more important than ever to ground healing work with expertise, careful research, and study. Otherwise, it's basically just cheerleading. This is why I brought on one of Canada's best social psychologists, Lara Aknin. Lara's work centers on not just what makes people happy, but what keeps them happy: gratitude, reminding yourself and others of shared connections and community, and more. Obviously, the pandemic shut out a lot of ways we cultivate connection and community—at least physically. So I wanted Lara to share some scientific grounding on how covid has affected anxiety and depression rates, stress levels, and mental resiliency in general. Lara Beth Aknin is a Canadian social psychologist. She is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at Simon Fraser University and a Distinguished University Professor. After earning her Ph.D. from the University of British Columbia, Aknin joined the faculty of psychology at Simon Fraser University in 2012. That year, she published Giving Leads to Happiness in Young Children with J. Kiley Hamlin and Elizabeth Dunn, which supported the idea that humans may have evolved to find giving rewarding. In 2014, Lara and her colleagues Michael Norton and Elizabeth Dunn co-published a Social Sciences and Humanities Research Council and CIHR funded review of whether spending money had a positive effect on people's happiness. The following year, her contributions to the field of social psychology earned her the President’s New Researcher Award from the Canadian Psychological Association and a fellowship at the Canadian Institute for Advanced Research. By 2019, she received an SSHRC grant for her project, Can Repeated and Reflective Giving Nurture Canada's Next Generation of Philanthropists? She was also honored by the university for her research and contributions to social Psychology with the title of Distinguished SFU Professor. During the pandemic, she has served as Chair of the Mental Health and Wellbeing Task Force of the Lancet COVID-19 Commission. She also serves as an associate editor of the World Happiness Report. Connect with Lara: -Website: https://www.sfu.ca/psychology/about/people/profiles/laknin.html -Twitter: https://twitter.com/lbaknin -Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=6a21v6wAAAAJ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What an honor (and what great timing) to have Peter Crone—the Mind Architect himself—on the show for my final conversation of 2021. This was such an engaging and enjoyable conversation! We delve into the nature of language and the subconscious, how to tackle things like anxiety, and some of the strategies Peter has used to help athletes with the same. Peter Crone is a thought leader in human potential and performance as well as an Ayurveda practitioner and the Founder/Chief Inspirer of Be Alive, Inc. Peter devotes his life to sharing deep insights, distinctions, and strategies for people to live an inspired life and thrive by awakening new levels of awareness that transcend old and limiting mental constructs. He helps reveal the subconscious narratives that drive behavior, and ultimately all results, and he uses the wisdom of Ayurveda to help people find balance through diet and lifestyle. Whilst most people go through life as prisoners of their own mind, Peter helps dissolve the mental shackles that hold us back so that we can experience true freedom and discover an entirely new experience of being human. Peter has worked with numerous VIPs in the entertainment industry, more than 200 professional athletes across multiple sports, as well as leaders of global organizations. He is committed to sharing his pioneering mental constructs that inspire the realization of a new type of existence that shifts from a life of stressful surviving to one of joyful thriving. Connect with Peter -Website: https://www.petercrone.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/petercroneofficial/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The majority of hardship you and I will experience in life comes from things completely beyond our control. That being said, there are always ways of tempering or blunting some of their impact, and there are also ways we make things even harder. Our job—and my message for today—is to get out of your own way. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sleep. It takes up about a third of your life—or at least it should if you want to stay healthy. After having a child, both I and my wife's sleep patterns were obviously pretty hard hit, and so began a search for some straightforward, actionable advice on how to restore healthy sleep. Dr. Breus is an almost limitless source of exactly that, so if you're having trouble, have a listen. We dig into sleep, maintaining energy levels, different body types, developing habits and routines that work with our bodies instead of against them, and how it all works together. Michael J. Breus, Ph.D., is a Clinical Psychologist and both a Diplomat of the American Board of Sleep Medicine and a Fellow of The American Academy of Sleep Medicine. He is one of only 168 psychologists in the world to have passed the Sleep Medical Speciality board without going to Medical School. Michael was recently named the Top Sleep Specialist in California by Reader’s Digest, and one of the 10 most influential people in sleep science. His latest book is Energize! Go from Dragging Ass to Kicking It in 30 Days, which he co-authored with the founder of SoulCycle, Stacey Griffith. Dr. Breus has also authored of The Power of When, a bestseller on Amazon for Time Management and Happiness, a bio-hacking guide book based on your genetic biological chronotype, The Sleep Doctor’s Diet Plan: Lose Weight Through Better Sleep, on the science and relationship between quality sleep and metabolism, and GOOD NIGHT: The Sleep Doctor’s 4-Week Program to Better Sleep and Better Health is a do-it-yourself guide to better sleep. Dr. Breus has supplied his expertise with both consulting and as a sleep educator/spokesperson to brands such as Hastens Beds, Ebb Therapeutics, Princess Cruise lines, Six Senses Hotel and Spa, Lighting Science Group, Advil PM, Breathe Rite, Crowne Plaza Hotels, Dong Energy, Merck, iHome, and many more. Dr. Breus lectures all over the world for organizations such as YPO (Young Presidents Organization), AT&T, on stage for Tony Robbins, hospitals, and medical centers, financial organizations, product companies, and many more. For over 14 years, Dr. Breus served as the Sleep Expert for WebMD. Dr. Breus also writes The Insomnia Blog and can be found regularly on Psychology Today, and Sharecare. Dr. Breus has been interviewed on CNN, Oprah, The View, Anderson Cooper, Rachel Ray, Fox and Friends, The Doctors, Joy Behar, The CBS Early Show, The Today Show, and Kelly and Michael. Connect with Dr. Breus: -Website: https://thesleepdoctor.com/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/thesleepdoctor -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesleepdoctor/ -NEW Book - Energize!: Go from Dragging Ass to Kicking It in 30 Days: https://amzn.to/32lLjBm -Book - The Power of When: https://thepowerofwhen.com/buy-the-book/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

About a year ago, I came across an incredible quote by Albert Schweitzer, and it fundamentally changed my approach to debating anyone, whether that's on or offline. I'm sharing my thoughts behind it today in the hopes that others will be inspired to take the time and solidify what it is they actually value and stand for before automatically reacting to everything. Vain hope? Maybe, but it's worth a shot. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This was one hell of a conversation. Steve and I cover wide ground, but the central hub of our talk is the state of modern masculinity. What are men asking about? What are they rejecting? What are they loving, losing, and leaving behind? What are men choosing? So yeah. Only light questions in this episode. Listen in for some brilliant insight from a brilliant guest. Steve James travels internationally teaching somatic practices, meditation, as well as leading explorations in contemplative & relational realms. Known for his direct, grounded approach and his inquiry-based ethos, he has extensive experience in elite athletic performance, contemplative and spiritual disciplines, the arts, extreme outdoor survival, and human behaviour. Steve’s unique range of experiences and understanding of human behaviour, elite performance, spirituality, and interpersonal relationships is highly sought after by leading figures at the highest levels of the arts, entertainment, and business. In his private client practice, he specialises in the unique interpersonal and strategic challenges faced by very successful and highly visible individuals. Ongoing clients include Oscar-winning actors, multi-Grammy-winning musicians, CEOs, and multi-billion dollar fund managers. In addition to private client work and international public workshops, Steve designed the ground-breaking teacher training programs for Michaela Boehm Inc, including comprehensive training in the area of intimacy and relationships, coaching skills, and the original Non-Linear Movement Method®. These programs have trained over 100 practitioners internationally. Graduates have applied the methods in psychotherapy practice, refugee counselling, sexual abuse counselling, as well as workshop and general life enhancement contexts. Steve has taught at the Esalen Institute and 1440 Multiversity, is a regular speaker at the Science and Nonduality Conference (San Jose) and Radiant Intimacy (Scotts Valley), and has lectured at The Summit Series and Summit at Sea. In 2022, Steve will also teach at the Omega Institute (New York) and the Mandali Retreat Centre (Italy). Steve’s work has been featured in international media such as the BBC, Channel 5, The Times, CP24, the Netflix series ‘(Un)Well‘, and the Netflix series ‘Sex, Love & goop‘. Connect with Steve -Website: https://www.guruviking.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guruviking/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/guruviking/ -Meditation Club: https://www.guruviking.com/guru-viking-meditation-club/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The title says it all, my friends. For me, this is one of the best and most informative questions you can ask before taking the more serious steps in a relationship. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I do my best to bring on guests who have taken their lived experience and transmuted it into unique expertise and insight. Happy to tell you Nick Carmody has done this in some incredible ways. We cover a ton of ground: brain injury, abuse, overcoming false narratives, the impact of fathers, what kills nuance, and the weird ways masculinity gets tangled and hijacked for political gain. Listen in! Nick Carmody’s life shifted dramatically in 2010, when he experienced two life-changing traumatic brain injuries only eight months apart. On top of ending a 12-year relationship with a narcissist. The changes in brain function, personality, and emotional processing as well as navigating the divorce and being bled out financially in courts led Nick to rock bottom and near suicide, but also gave him an intense desire to understand and confirm what he was experiencing and became Nick’s motivation to work in the psychology field. It soon became apparent to Nick that his lived experience—combined with his studied expertise—allowed for unique insight into the modern political climate, and a honed ability to help others who have endured similar trauma. He has a bachelor of arts in criminal justice from Concordia University, a Juris Doctor from The John Marshall Law School in Chicago, and a Masters of Science degree from Tiffin University in Ohio. He has a private practice based in Denver, and works with children from low-income families who have experienced trauma (many of whom are currently in foster care). Nick is in the process of writing Putting My Worst Foot Forward. He writes prolifically on the dangers of Cluster B Personality Disorders in American Politics, and is considering publishing his writings about the psychology of American politics during the Trump era as a collection of essays titled, Trickle Down Pathology. Most recently, he’s gotten attention for a theory on the intersection of addiction and tribalism. Connect with Nick -Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/NickCarmody -Twitter: https://twitter.com/nick_carmodySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you'd known me in university—even as late as my early 30s—you never would have seen this coming. This episode is about some of the wildly surprising things that happened after a year of intentionally and consciously cutting out weed, alcohol, even psychedelics. I've been asked a number of times to share how it's changed me, so here we go. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Modern relationships face some pretty unique challenges, and sometimes it seems like those challenges are only growing. Thankfully, there are people out there like Liz Earnshaw! This was such an enjoyable discussion, and we go heavy on modern dating and marriage problems, "pathologizing" your partner, the shifting meaning of things like marriage and partnership, the need for flexibility, even the changes in gender roles. If you're with someone currently, dive in together! Over the last decade, Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT has become one of today’s most trusted relationship teachers. Elizabeth is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy. She is the Head Therapist at Actually, where she is working to make relational wellness mainstream & accessible. She also owns A Better Life Therapy in Pennsylvania & New Jersey, where she supports clinicians who are helping couples every day. She trains and supervises therapists as an Approved AAMFT Supervisor. In addition to making couples therapy more accessible, she is the author of “I Want This To Work”. Elizabeth is also the host of Hash it Out on Good Risings where she offers advice to everyday relational conundrums. She is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like Mind Body Green and The Huffington Post and has been featured on numerous podcasts. Connect with Liz -Website: https://www.elizabethearnshaw.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lizlistens -Book; I Want This To Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age: https://amzn.to/3lh0T7W Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Coming in hot after Keith Yackey's episode is another good friend, Jayson Gaddis. This guy has a CV a mile long, so it's always a pleasure to have him on the show. We go deep into relational conflict, looking at the unique blueprint each person brings to any relationship, how it informs the conflict we can (and can't!) handle, and some tips and tricks on approaching conflict in a healthy way. Relationship expert and sought-after coach Jayson Gaddis is the founder of The Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping people work out their differences and have fulfilling long-term partnerships. Jayson is considered a world leader in love, conflict resolution, and interpersonal relationships. He’s the host of an extremely successful podcast with almost 3 million downloads (and over 250 episodes) and has interviewed the very best in the world including Dr. Dan Siegel, Dr. Gabor Mate, Dr. Stan Tatkin, Dr. John Demartini, The Gottmans, Pat Ogden, and Bessel VanDerKolk. Jayson founded The Relationship School® and leads the most comprehensive relationship training in the world on intimate relationships and partnership, called The Deep Psychology Of Intimate Relationships or (DPIR). DPIR is the ONLY curriculum on how intimate relationships work and how to do them well. Currently, Jayson has graduated over 100 students through his nine-month training. DPIR’s main focus is to help people become relational leaders and interpersonally intelligent. Jayson the creator of Interpersonal Intelligence® or i2. Interpersonal Intelligence® is a comprehensive map and system specifically designed to create a secure long-term partnership. i2 is informed by human development, transpersonal psychology, polyvagal theory, adult attachment theory, neuroscience, interpersonal neurobiology, axiology, psychotherapy, coaching, gestalt theory, and Vajrayana Buddhism. Jayson also founded The Relationship School’s Relationship Coaching Training Program. The RC program has 3 levels of certification. Level one is about learning how to “be with” people and upgrade old habits around enabling and rescuing others so you can be a more effective and efficient helper. Level 2 is about learning to work with couples. Level three is about mastery. Thus far Jayson has certified over 40 people from around the world in his coaching modality called Present Centered Relationship Coaching™. Connect with Jayson -Website; The Relationship School: https://relationshipschool.com/ -Website; Personal: https://www.jaysongaddis.com/ -NEW Book; Getting to Zero: https://amzn.to/3qZguN6 -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/JayGaddis -Podcast: https://www.jaysongaddis.com/podcast/ Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m in a cabin on a beautiful piece of property, holed up and finishing off my upcoming book. It’s given me a chance to look back on an incredibly difficult, incredibly fulfilling journey. It’s also allowed me a lot of humility, and I felt called to share some of this reflection with you all. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cliches happen for a reason, and “keeping the spark alive” in a long-term relationship or a marriage is no exception. It’s a challenge for anyone. So this week I’ve brought on Keith Yackey, an old friend who specializes in exactly that: maintaining and building intimacy, sex, vibrancy, and excitement. You’ll hear about Keith’s own journey with marriage, his frameworks and strategies for keeping the fire lit, and maintaining connection in all its forms. Connect with Keith -Website: http://keithyackey.com/ -Married Game: https://www.marriedgame.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/keithyackey/ -Podcast: https://rockstarrelationship.libsyn.com/website Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Something I’ve noticed in the majority of men I work with is a habitual hunt for whatever might be going wrong in a relationship, a business venture, or, well, anything. There are a number of reasons for this. But arguably the biggest reason is what we’re talking about this week. Listen in. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After some great feedback from October's "Reclaiming the King" episode, I decided to re-release its companion piece about the Warrior archetype. Is the Warrior in us as men to blame for the division we see in today’s society? Yes...and no. This is a dive into the modes and shadow of the Warrior archetype and why—and this might surprise you—it’s one of the best archetypes we have. From the warrior, we can light the fires of focus, develop clean anger instead of unhealthy aggression, set boundaries instead of borders, and leverage our unique capabilities to bring about positive change inside and outside. At the end, I detail several actionable steps you can take to cultivate and reclaim the warrior. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Someone reached out to me last week asking for my opinion on men having OnlyFans accounts, and what it means in the context of either relationships or being single. There's obviously a lot to unpack, so expect a more in-depth followup episode. But I wanted to share some initial thoughts with you on the potential effects of something like OnlyFans on a man. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. As the saying goes, your pain has its own intelligence. This intelligence is the shadow. Recognize your disowned parts, redefine your strengths, and reclaim wholeness with the Shadow Course. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This was the last of four incredible conversations in a series titled The Wisdom of Elders. Elder Nii speaks his message with a simplicity that cuts through the rationalizations and justifications we all sometimes hold on to, and he does it with kindness and sincerity. I encourage you to check out the work he’s doing in Canada and globally, and listen in as we discuss the challenges all of us face, the needs of the earth beneath our feet, and role of initiation, elders, women, and men in the days to come. Elder Dr. Dave Courchene — Nii Gaani Aki Innini (Leading Earth Man) — is a respected elder and knowledge keeper of the Anishinaabe Nation who has devoted his life to sharing Indigenous knowledge, carrying a message of hope, peace, and environmental stewardship. From lighting the sacred fire at the United Nations Earth Summit in 1992, to sharing the stage with spiritual leaders including the Dalai Lama, Elder Dr. Courchene’s leadership has had a global influence. In 2002, he founded the Turtle Lodge International Centre for Indigenous Education and Wellness, a sacred lodge recognized internationally and by the Assembly of First Nations and the Assembly of Manitoba Chiefs as one of the most important gathering places for Indigenous peoples in Canada. Individuals from around the world gather at the Turtle Lodge to facilitate intergenerational knowledge sharing, language revitalization, youth leadership training, and environmental solutions to climate change. Courchene has built alliances with institutions, academics, and policymakers across the Canada. His work has been recognized with many prestigious honours, including the INDSPIRE National Aboriginal Achievement Award in Culture, Heritage, and Spirituality; an Honorary Doctor of Laws by the University of Winnipeg, the Volunteer Manitoba Award for Outstanding Community Leadership; the International Award of Excellence; the Aboriginal Circle of Educators Award; and the International Indigenous Leadership Award. He is a deeply respected elder, known for his ability to inspire dialogue and cross-cultural understanding between Indigenous knowledge keepers and western-trained scientists. His leadership is rooted in generosity, kindness, and a desire for peace and sustainability. Connect with Elder Nii -Website: http://www.turtlelodge.org/ -Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TurtleLodge -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theturtlelodge/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/TurtleLodge -The 7 Sacred Laws of the Anishinaabe People: http://www.turtlelodge.org/what-are-the-7-sacred-laws/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're all aware that Perfect is the enemy of Good, but why? What's underneath your desire to get it right 100% of the time? Let's look at the not-so-secret relationship between perfectionism and punishment. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. As the saying goes, your pain has its own intelligence. This intelligence is the shadow. Recognize your disowned parts, redefine your strengths, and reclaim wholeness with the Shadow Course. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Leadership, respect, duty, structure, legacy, service, praise. All of these are embodied in the archetype of the King—the foremost (and arguably most difficult) energy to cultivate. But like everything, the King’s got a dark side we need to understand. To celebrate the re-launch of the ManTalks Shadow Course, I’ve been covering all things shadow, including the dark sides of two important archetypes to masculinity: the Warrior and the King. This episode was originally released in 2019, and it was one of my favorites to research and record. As the saying goes, "your pain has its own intelligence". This intelligence is the shadow. Recognize your disowned parts, redefine your strengths, and reclaim wholeness with the Shadow Course. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gotta be honest: success is kind of weird! It's a goal, part of the process, and also the mirror that forces you to evaluate your goals, anxieties, and direction. Listen in. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’ve been running ManTalks for almost a decade and I’ve met a ton of amazing people who can speak truthfully and bluntly. But no one speaks carries their truth as authentically as Stephen Jenkinson. I find a lot of what Stephen says is medicinal: you might not think it tastes great, but damn if it isn’t what you need to hear. This is a deep dive into why things are the way they are. Fear of submission, love of consumption, death-phobia, the commodification of trauma, endings, what the pandemic tried to tell us, and so much more. This is from a series I produced recently called The Wisdom of Elders, featuring experts on elderhood and culture to discuss what an “elder” actually is, where we are as a species, how we got here, and where we’re headed. Basically, what the f*** happened? Culture activist, teacher, and author, Stephen Jenkinson teaches internationally and is the creator and principal instructor of the Orphan Wisdom School, co-founded with Nathalie Roy in 2010, convening semi-annually in Ontario, and in northern Europe. He has a Masters degree in Theology from Harvard University and a Masters in Social Work from the University of Toronto. Apprenticed to a master storyteller when a young man, he has worked extensively with dying people and their families, was a program director in a major hospital, and an assistant professor in a prominent medical school. He is also a sculptor and traditional canoe builder, whose house won a Governor General’s Award for architecture. Since co-founding Nights of Grief and Mystery with Gregory Hoskins in 2015, he has toured across North America, the U.K., Europe, Australia, and New Zealand. His new book, A Generation’s Worth: Spirit Work While the Crisis Reigns, sets out to learn liveable answers. Dying and death, love and matrimony, money and soul, aging and elderhood, drawn through the eye of a pestilential needle: this is the spirit work, and that is the crisis. https://orphanwisdom.com/a-generations-worth-spirit-work-while-the-crisis-reigns He is also the author of Come of Age: The Case for Elderhood in a Time of Trouble, the award-winning Die Wise: A Manifesto for Sanity and Soul, Homecoming: The Haiku Sessions, How it All Could Be: A Workbook for Dying People and Those Who Love Them (2009), Angel and Executioner: Grief and the Love of Life (a live teaching from 2009), and Money and The Soul’s Desires: A Meditation. He is contributing author to Palliative Care – Core Skills and Clinical Competencies. Stephen Jenkinson is also the subject of the feature-length documentary film Griefwalker, a portrait of his work with dying people, and Lost Nation Road, a shorter documentary on the crafting of the Nights of Grief and Mystery tours. Connect with Stephen: -Website: https://orphanwisdom.com -Latest book: https://orphanwisdom.com/a-generations-worth-spirit-work-while-the-crisis-reigns -Books: https://orphanwisdom.com/shop/ -Griefwalker documentary: https://www.nfb.ca/film/griefwalker/ Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Regret itself isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but how we deal with regret has deep effects on how we deal with who we were, who we are, and who we want to be. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A few months ago I had the privilege of interviewing this incredible man over Zoom, and it's with a lot of thankfulness that I share that conversation with you now. James' experience working with elders and mentors across multiple continents and cultures, his life growing up on the streets of Chicago, and his work with inmates at Folsom Prison, all of it has given him an unparalleled understanding of what men need to grow, change, lead, build, endure, and most of all, help themselves and the world around them. James is a deeply experienced wisdom holder and expert facilitator whose leadership has been a critical force driving the growth and success of programs at both Folsom State Prison and San Quentin State Prison. He is the executive producer of the documentary, THE WORK, detailing Inside Circle’s program in Folsom Prison. He brings deep expertise in group process work and its application in varied settings. As a member of the Elder Council, James guides our vision for incarcerated and released men. Connect with James -Inside Circle: https://insidecircle.org/ -The Bravery: https://www.thebravery.org/ -Trailer for THE WORK: https://youtu.be/cca5QWdSTMQ Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Men: your ability to navigate uncertainty has a direct effect on your overall confidence, and who doesn't want a little more of that? In this mini-episode, three straightforward ways to better your relationship to uncertainty. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I work with a man who’s been married for 42 years. He wants to be more assertive and provide more direction in his relationship, but is struggling with long-held feelings of low self-worth, fear of failure, and more. What’s behind all of it? Listen through to the end. Every so often, I bring on an anonymous guest for a completely free shadow work session. I make this part of the podcast to help destigmatize mental health work and give back to my community. If you or someone you know would be interested in being an anonymous guest, DM me @mantalks on Instagram, or send an email to [email protected]. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Open social media, confrontation. Open your browser, confrontation. Look out the window, probably some more confrontation. You're not going to get away from conflict, so it's time to learn how to repair your relationship with it, whether you're caught in the trap of avoiding it or the trap of being way too into it. Dig in. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Francis and I discuss the role of community in processing grief, the cult of specialness, our addiction to progress, using beauty and ritual to stay mentally healthy, and how obsession with individualism has crippled our ability to feel like we belong. That’s just the tip of the iceberg with a man like Francis, and it’s a great honor to hear him speak with such depth and clarity on these complex subjects. Francis Weller, MFT, is a psychotherapist, writer, and soul activist. He is a master of synthesizing diverse streams of thought from psychology, anthropology, mythology, alchemy, indigenous cultures, and poetic traditions. Author of The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief, The Threshold Between Loss and Revelation, (with Rashani Réa), and In the Absence of the Ordinary: Essays in a Time of Uncertainty, he has introduced the healing work of ritual to thousands of people. He founded and directs WisdomBridge, an organization that offers educational programs that seek to integrate the wisdom from indigenous cultures with the insights and knowledge gathered from western poetic, psychological, and spiritual traditions. As a gifted therapist and teacher, Francis has been described as a jazz artist, improvising and moving fluidly in and out of deep emotional territories with groups and individuals, bringing imagination and attention to places often held with judgment and shame. Francis received a B.A. from the University of Wisconsin Green Bay and two Master’s Degrees from John F. Kennedy University in Clinical Psychology and Transpersonal Psychology. His writings have appeared in anthologies and journals exploring the confluence between psyche, nature, and culture. His work was featured in The Sun magazine (October 2015) the Utne Reader (Fall 2016) and the Kosmos Journal. (Winter 20201) He is a frequent presenter and keynote speaker at conferences, bringing insight, poetry and a breath of humor to his talks. Francis is currently on staff at Commonweal Cancer Help Program, co-leading their week-long retreats with Michael Lerner. He has taught at Sonoma State University, the Sophia Center in Oakland, and has been the featured teacher at the Minnesota Men's Conference. He is currently completing his third book, A Trail on the Ground: The Geography of Soul. He has created three CD sets, two focusing on healing shame and one on “Restoring the Soul of the World.” His latest offerings are a 10-session audio series on "Living a Soulful Life and Why It Matters." and ​"The Alchemy of Initiation: Soul Work and the Art of Ripening." Connect with Francis: Website: https://www.francisweller.net/ Books: https://www.francisweller.net/books.html Programs: https://www.francisweller.net/programs--workshops.html Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the most popular questions I get from both men and women revolves around intimidation. Women ask me why men perceive them as intimidating, and men ask me how to handle an intimidating woman. If you want to know what to do, start by reading the title of this episode, and listen in. We’ve got a lot to talk about: the responsibilities, the challenges, and what might be underneath it all. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It often feels like there is a massive gap between where we are and where we want to be. What’s more, we can spend so much time working to GET somewhere that we lose sight of what we’ve gained along the way. This is what organizational psychologist Dr. Benjamin Hardy and I dove into this episode. I loved this conversation, and I’m thrilled to share it with you, so don’t forget to spread it around. Dr. Benjamin Hardy is an organizational psychologist and bestselling author of Willpower Doesn’t Work, Personality Isn't Permanent, and most recently, The Gap And The Gain. He is a prolific blog writer, and his work has been read by over 100 million people, and featured on Harvard Business Review, New York Times, Forbes, Fortune, CNBC, Cheddar, and others. He is a regular contributor to Inc. and Psychology Today, and from 2015-2018, he was the #1 writer in the world on Medium.com. He and his wife Lauren adopted three children through the foster system in February 2018 and, one month later, Lauren became pregnant with twins, who were born in December of 2018. They live in Orlando. Connect with Ben -Website: https://benjaminhardy.com/ -Articles: https://benjaminhardy.com/articles/ -Book: The Gap And The Gain: -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/benjaminhardy88/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/benjamin_hardy_phd/ -LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/benjaminhardy88/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/BenjaminPHardy -Book: The Gap And The Gain: https://amzn.to/3zodzxS -Book: Personality Isn’t Permanent: https://amzn.to/3zodzxS -Book: Willpower Doesn’t Work: https://amzn.to/3AoEg6N Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ugh. Self-sabotage. Something I'm sure everyone is familiar with. How does it show up? Why does it happen? Where does it come from? This is what we're diving into this week, with some clear tips on how to end it. And as always, I'd love to hear from you. If you've got followup questions on self-sabotage, the unconscious, or anything else, DM me @mantalks on Instagram. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From your nervous system's view, our culture is swimming in dopamine. Porn, binging junk food, video games, "retail therapy"—things from the innocent to the insidious light our brains up with dopamine, and we often wind up with more than one addiction. But how does it all work, and how do we detox? Addiction to anything is never easy to unpack, so I sat down with the amazing Dr. Anna Lembke for a deep dive into dopakine; how our brain balances pleasure and pain, how it relates to trauma, and how we need to acknowledge the fact that we living in a "drugified" world. Anna Lembke is professor of psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine and chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic. A clinician scholar, she has published more than a hundred peer-reviewed papers, book chapters, and commentaries. She sits on the board of several state and national addiction-focused organizations, has testified before various committees in the United States House of Representatives and Senate, keeps an active speaking calendar, and maintains a thriving clinical practice. In 2016, she published Drug Dealer, MD – How Doctors Were Duped, Patients Got Hooked, and Why It’s So Hard to Stop (Johns Hopkins University Press, 2016), which was highlighted in the New York Times as one of the top five books to read to understand the opioid epidemic (Zuger, 2018). Dr. Lembke recently appeared on the Netflix documentary The Social Dilemma, an unvarnished look at the impact of social media on our lives. Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence (Dutton/Penguin Random House, August 2021) explores how to moderate compulsive overconsumption in a world where feeling good is the highest good. Connect with Dr. Lembke -Website: https://www.annalembke.com/ -Book: Dopamine Nation: https://www.annalembke.com/dopamine-nation -Book: Drug Dealer, MD: https://www.annalembke.com/drug-dealer-md Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I try not to wrestle too much with political topics on the show, but there have been a number of men—many of them former military—who asked me to at least say something about the US withdrawal from Afghanistan and the extreme range of reactions to what happened. So here is what came up. If you (or someone you know) served, is struggling, and needs support, please DM me @mantalks on Instagram. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Creating a healthy relationship as an adult requires a fine balance of intimacy and sovereignty. This can be really tough for men who grew up with maternal enmeshment issues—they've got to untangle a maladaptive relationship with their mother. Dr. Kenneth Adams is an expert on helping people do exactly this. We dive deep into what enmeshment looks like, the kinds of confusion and chaos it creates in relationships, and how to break free. Dr. Kenneth M. Adams began his professional career in 1981 treating children, adolescents, and their families. In 1985 he began private practice with the Children of Alcoholic Parents program, an outpatient program for the treatment of adults who had grown up in alcoholic families. It was there that he began to notice that many of these clients had addictions and enmeshment issues, two of his primary specialties today. He wrote his first professional article in 1987 on covert incest and sex addiction in alcoholic families and has since written three books and numerous peer-reviewed articles. He is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), a CSAT supervisor, and CSAT training facilitator as well as an EMDR practitioner. Connect with Dr. Adams -Website: https://www.overcomingenmeshment.com/ -Book: When He's Married to Mom - How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment: https://amzn.to/3h8woyP -Book: Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners: https://amzn.to/3DSi5Z6 Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this mini-episode, I unpack how there's a kind of resilience and reliability that only shows up when you face what you're afraid of. When you don't, you're unconsciously learning you can't rely on you when things get difficult. Thanks to those of you on Instagram who asked me to clarify this, and don't forget to share this mini-episode with someone you feel will benefit. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is real power? Where does yours come from, and what does it serve? Gary and talk about his latest book, his early life as Green Beret, how to create authentic power and alignment, and expanding your emotional awareness to impact yourself and the world around you. He's been in this space for a very long time, and I'm excited to share his wisdom with you. Gary is the author of four consecutive New York Times bestsellers, including the legendary #1 New York Times bestseller The Seat of the Soul. This book led the way to seeing the alignment of the personality and the soul as the fulfillment of life, and captured the imagination of millions. He is also the author of The Dancing Wu Li Masters: An Overview of the New Physics, which plumbed the depths of quantum physics and relativity, winning The American Book Award for Science. His books have sold six million copies and are published in thirty-two languages. Over and over, he challenges us to see the depth of our potential in the world, and act on that awareness. Gary's newest book, Universal Human, is about the new era of human evolution and offers a vision of what a world based on love could be, and an invitation to begin bringing such a world into being now. Gary grew up in the Midwest, graduated from Harvard, and became a Special Forces (Green Beret) officer with Vietnam service before writing his first book. His gentle presence, humor, and wisdom have endeared millions of viewers through appearances on The Oprah Winfrey Show. Gary gives talks and facilitates programs on authentic power with his spiritual partner, Linda Francis. Connect with Gary -Website: https://seatofthesoul.com/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gary_zukav/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GaryZukav/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/gary_zukav -New Book - Universal Human: https://www.amazon.com/Universal-Human-Creating-Authentic-Consciousness/dp/1982169877 Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I've been asked about this a lot, and I think it's time to answer: how did I move from a high-paying job with one of the biggest companies ever to starting a business helping men be better men? Also, why? Here's what happened. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a long-awaited reunion! Jason has been a guiding light and inspiration to multitudes of boys and men, and it's an honor to reconnect with him. We talk about the struggles men face in silence, the culture of "grind", intergenerational trauma, and the need for men to develop a comprehensive masculinity. Jason Wilson is the founder and CEO of the Yunion (pronounced union), a non-profit youth development organization in Detroit Michigan. Since 2003, the Yunion has effectively reached more than 15,000 youth and young adults through innovative prevention programming, trauma-informed care, parental engagement, and counseling. In 2008, Mr. Wilson’s heart for fatherless and misguided black boys inspired him to create and direct the Cave of Adullam Transformational Training Academy (CATTA).As an expert in Emotional Stability Training®, Wilson’s leadership has garnered the CATTA numerous acknowledgments and awards for his work teaching males how to introspectively confront and conquer their negative emotions with composure. In 2016, one of the CATTA’s videos went viral with over 80 million views worldwide. As a result, Mr. Wilson was invited to be a guest on the Dr. Oz Show and to present the CATTA at President Obama’s ‘My Brother’s Keeper’ Showcase at the White House. Later that year, NBC’s hit TV show ‘This Is Us’ was so inspired by Wilson’s work, that they featured the CATTA’s initiation ceremony in one of their most viewed and award winning episodes. In 2018, Mr. Wilson signed with actor/producer Laurence Fishburne’s film company Cinema Gypsy to produce a documentary film on Jason’s work with the CATTA. It is scheduled to be released in 2021. Mr. Wilson has over 25 years of martial arts experience, in addition to over 16 years of training and developing young black males. Mr. Wilson is a man of the Most High, a faithful husband of over 22 years and a proud father of two beautiful children. Connect with Jason -Website: https://mrjasonwilson.com/ -UPCOMING book, "Battle Cry": https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400226996 -The Yunion: https://theyunion.org/ -The Cave of Adullam Transformational Academy: https://mrjasonwilson.com/catta/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjasonowilson/ -Twitter: https://twitter.com/mrjasonowilson -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mrjasonowilson -Book, "Cry Like A Man": https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07G1YJ7DZ/ Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Accountability is a bit of a buzzword right now, and I’ve been getting a ton of questions on how men can become more accountable to themselves and to others. As someone who used to suck at accountability, here’s what I’ve learned on how it ties into self-esteem, confidence, confrontation, boundaries, and the path to betterment. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they’re looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The TechSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices