Make Your Damn Bed

Optimizing your space takes time, self awareness, and it means getting comfortable rearranging as often as you need to to ensure that your space continues working for you as you grow and change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The more you consciously DECIDE to feel excited about your healthier choices, the more your brain associates these healthy things with dopamine too. This is how people get addicted to working out and eating right. It starts with small, consistent changes, which we all know and hear about regularly but to me, the most important piece comes from the intentional choice of good feelings surrounding those healthy routines. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jumping around searching desperately for a purpose is a lot more difficult than honing one based on the shit you’ve already got going for you - but that’s not to say, your next favorite thing isn’t right around the corner. Don’t be afraid to try out the new shit and rehash the old shit. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Be conscious of your purchases because it is too often, too simple for us to go full Ariana grande and “I want it I bought it” ourselves into the cumbersome nightmare of amazon boxes and useless shit that didn’t actually feel good when you got it, had to unload it, or when you finally decided to get rid of it six years later and realized the tags were still on it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’re like me and you struggle to limit your spending in any capacity - next time you want to buy something new, ask yourself this: Can I afford this? And Do I need this?If the answer is yes to both -great. Buy it! No hesitation. If you say nah I don’t need it and it’s worth it to you to buy it anyway - great. Buy the shit. And if you can’t afford it - that’s a case by case basis. But at least you’ve asked yourself the shit you were supposed to ask first so your purchase in itself - became a conscious practice. Which is really the only thing I ever really preach. Conscientiousness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Because when you’re too busy analyzing what the other person might mean you’re not being present with what they actually said or did. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are so many versions of reality - often with substantiated evidence that coincides with it - that if you don’t perpetually do valuable research on the research you’re using to support your argument - you’re at the mercy of whatever bozo knows how to type. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what would the younger version of you think about your life right now? Pretend they came for a visit- what would they want to do with you? What cool stuff could you show them to make them excited about growing up? Would you eat the same way or would you change your daily routine when they were in town? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Children don’t like being bored - and neither do adults. It’s our job to make sure we’re having the best possible time, just like it’s a parents job to make sure that their three year old will be entertained for the entirety of the flight. You are your own three year old. Prepare yourself for the best possible outcome by integrating and promising yourself consistent fun. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Remember that there is not enough time in the day to connect deeply with every person you’ve ever known or loved, commit yourself to every project you’ve ever felt inspired by, or accomplish everything you’ve ever wanted to accomplish. So when the universe moves someone or something out of your life - take it as a reminder that everything changes and sometimes the best is yet to come. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s not easy to admit you have these problematic beliefs lying dormant inside of you - but the sooner you address them - the sooner you can free yourself of them. It’s not your fault for having toxic beliefs, or even making mistakes under their hold, but it is your responsibility to fix them before anyone gets hurt by the after math of said toxic beliefs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You should never go after something simply because you want to be the best you should go after things because you want to feel your best. Doing your best and being your best are all fine and dandy goals, but if you’re not enjoying the journey, you’ve wasted a very valuable ride. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When people criticize us or call us out on our bullshit - it’s because they believe in us. They know we can do better and expect better and trusted us enough to tell us we slipped up. Be gracious. Be kind. Be patient. And understand it’s not a personal attack on your character. It’s a comment on your behavior which can be changed for the better. Focus on growth and developing so you don’t have to feel these same feelings of defensiveness in the future. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’re worried they may spread rumors that hurt your reputation in the long run. Don’t. Your real life actions and character choices are far more valuable than the made up attributes a person claims to believe about you. People who believe unsubstantiated rumors and gossip aren’t people you should want to surround yourself with anyway. Let the trash take itself out and move on to the people who use discretion, empathy, and understand that everyone in this world is nuanced and worth getting to know before making snap judgements. If people are committed to misunderstanding you - let them commit. You know who you the fuck you are and that is more than enough. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The better you get at communicating openly and vulnerably and clearly, the better everyone around you can get with understanding you where you are now - and the less confrontations you’ll be stuck with. You simply add more stress, more chance for confusion, and a higher potential for confrontation when you avoid discussing things openly and honestly. Instead of using coded language to communicate - say it once and say it right. Never shrink yourself to make others comfortable if it’s safe enough to speak up. And notice how you feel when you do stand up for yourself. Even before you receive a response - you’ll feel powerful. Channel that power in everything you do. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this very special extended episode Julie is joined by Adam Jones and Adam Ashton for a conversation about reading, self help, and their new book "The Sh*t They Never Taught You"Buy the book here and access their podcast catalog: https://www.whatyouwilllearn.com/Listen to the What Will You Learn podcast on Spotify here: https://open.spotify.com/show/1oQ6gWZqHHBgsrpIISZiArListen to their podcast on Apple here: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/what-you-will-learn/id1125635053 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You already are changing the world - by simply being in it. If you can easily make some choices that can directly improve the world around you - why wouldn’t you want to take full advantage of that? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Practice extreme optimism today. Look at everything that happens to you today as another opportunity to make your life the best possible life on this planet. Every decision you make today is a new opportunity to make your wildest dreams come true. Every surprise that hits you in the teeth is there to teach you a valuable lesson that will catapult you into your next incredible adventure that will change your life forever. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you believe it’s all hopeless, you are correct. It is hopeless. If you believe there is hope for a better tomorrow - you are correct, there is hope for a better tomorrow. You can’t see what you’re not looking for and if you’re not looking for the best possible outcome, you’ll never receive it.This is why I find it so incredibly deep and powerful to be able to address the most optimistic aspects of any given situation, regardless of how ridiculous that optimism may seem in the moment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sign up for a Vision Quest: the ideal workshop for those who are feeling stuck and want a little support in establishing a sense of direction in their lives. We collaborate to discover the next steps you should take to align with your highest timeline through a deep dive into your true passions and vision. We will identify your deepest wants, narrow down your options through assessing your red flags and create a short and long term plan that best aligns you with stepping out towards your dream life. Feel free to sign up for the newsletter on www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com to not miss a beat, you can also DM me @MYDBPodcast on instagram or shoot me an email at [email protected] for more details. Bookings will begin shortly for September workshop intensives. Spots will be limited. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mutual aid participants work together to figure out strategies and resources to meet each other's needs, such as food, housing, medical care, and disaster relief, while organizing themselves against the system that created the shortage in the first place. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Equality means everyone is treated the same exact way, regardless of need or any other individual difference. Equity, on the other hand, means everyone is provided with what they need to succeed. Equity takes into account every person’s individual needs. It evens the playing field so that everyone has the same chance of succeeding, regardless of whatever potential hindrances may have originally served to hold them back. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Restricting doesn’t work. Live fully. At full volume. Intentionally. Be laid back in the results but don’t be afraid to voice what you really want. Because when you hold back — you’re only serving to hold yourself back in the process. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Try the restaurant. Book the vacation. Share the date if you’re really desperate for the company but fuck me if you don’t stop wasting your life in hopes that someday someone will want to live your IDEAL life with you. You already have that person who wants to experience your life with you - it’s you bitch. Go play. Go indulge. Stop putting it off. Use the expensive lotion. Book the nicer hotel. Stop waiting til next time to order the appetizer you want. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

if I’d do it for a man who betrayed me - I should definitely not hesitate to do it for me who would never betray me. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As you get more comfortable understanding what brings you that long term joy - you will also stop avoiding the things that can get you there faster - thus bringing in more and more opportunities for more and more joy. Having faith literally increases your ability to have more faith. So lean in - trust that the universe has your back - and take some risks for your highest good. You’re worth the risk even if it doesn’t work out the first time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you avoid people for fear they will make you deal with the bad shit once in a while you are gonna have to face the cold hard truth that you will miss out on all the good shit too. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Don’t limit yourself because you might get hurt by connecting with people - you will guarantee that hurt by avoiding connection. Be kind. Lead with love. Remember hurt people hurt people and your energy can diffuse a situation and really change people’s lives if you’re tactful with it. Be tactful. Protect your energy and show others how they can too. Take care of yourself and take care of others. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

While we definitely cant save the world if we put it all in our own hands - we should NEVER doubt our personal power. Stand up for the planet, the future, and yourself by becoming more conscious and less impulsive with your daily choices for the next few weeks and see how good it feels to take steps towards preserving this majestic planet. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Having an opinion about everything isn’t necessary all the time. Sometimes, we may just want to listen. Sometimes we are around people we don’t feel super comfortable sharing our opinions around, sometimes we may not have an opinion on the subject at all - it doesn’t matter what the reason - as long as we understand that it’s not our job to entertain, educate, or inform anyone of anything when we don’t want to. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Take advantage of the times when your energy is looking to serve a future you, as opposed to the now you - by leaning into the moments when you can delay your reward and create a longer window of enjoyment, peace and bliss for yourself. Find what feels good not only in the moment - but in the long term as well. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The system is programmed to steal your resources just as it is programmed to steal the earth’s resources. They’re fracking you for labor and consumerism. Start by protecting your own resources. Your energetic, creative, intellectual, conversational, financial, emotional, physical resources are all incredibly valuable just like your time - and all of those resources deserved to be treated as such. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Avoiding communication is one of the fastest ways to feel isolated in a room full of people. Bring yourself closer to the people in your life, by being honest with them and respecting them enough to trust them with knowing what is on your mind. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’re a good human regardless of if you’ve charmed the socks off of everyone around you or not. Stop exhausting yourself and those around you with this unspoken pressure to be the star of every experience. You can step up and ask questions - but if it’s not comfortable for either party - what is the damned point? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you have the energy - don’t be afraid to step up and fill needs before they need to be filled as long as you remember that it’s not your responsibility to be useful all of the time or ever, honestly. Instead of thinking you always have to be of use, allow yourself to simply be - and remember your worth remains unflinching - even when you aren’t the one to save the damned day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Just like a baby’s cry - we may not initially know what need needs tending to but the more we learn about an individual the more we may understand about their cries and appropriately be able to decipher between them. That said, it’s not our job to pick up for everyone else. The only person you are responsible for is yourself. Being the caretaker for everyone around you is not only taxing, but impossible. Knowing that everyone just wants to be seen but it’s not your job to ensure they feel seen is a fine balance that takes practice. With time it’ll get easier. But if you’re ever irritated with someone or confused on why a grown up is behaving in the way that they are - it typically comes from a place of lack and fear. If they didn’t feel so unheard - maybe they wouldn’t be so loud about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Even those people you truly believe have their shit together - don’t. Everyone is simply trying their best and there are certain things that every single human struggles with. No exceptions. Sure, some people have advantages that have set them ahead. Some people have good role models to show them the way. Some people have more time, money, and resources to get them ahead. But even still, with every fucking advantage known to man, people struggle with life. 99% of us are faking it at some capacity and some of us have successfully convinced ourselves that we’re really doing it - but in reality - our society is complicated. Getting it all done all the time and still staying mentally stable is nearly impossible without help. The fact of the matter is - we’re all just pretending because that’s what we're taught to do. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If all you want to do on vacation is eat sleep and read - start doing that shit now instead of waiting to spend all your money on that trip to Bali where youre gonna end up doing the same shit. I have talked about the importance of finding the vacation in your day to day but now I am encouraging you to create it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When was the last time you detoxified your energy from other humans? When was the last time you went into the woods or the beach or the lake or the park all by your damn self? When was the last time you were in charge of all of your decisions? When was the last time you were in control and actually TOOK control with your best interest at heart? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do that shit for yourself. What would make you feel the best coming from another person? You’re not by yourself, you get to be with yourself for yourself. Do that shit for yourself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There shouldn’t be shame around breaking up with a person at any age - what there should be shame around is choosing and settling for a person you are completely unsatisfied and unhappy with just because you have a deadline to fill.Heartbreaks suck so bad because the joy that lies in sharing your heart with someone is so fuckin’ amazing. Why would you want to miss out on the magic just because you may have to do some crying and healing and growing after?? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Heartbreaks suck so bad because the joy that lies in sharing your heart with someone is so fuckin’ amazing. Why would you want to miss out on the magic just because you may have to do some crying and healing and growing after?? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I trust that my path is aligning with my best interest and that includes aligning me with a partner that is an appropriate match for me. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

All of the following information is taken directly from StopLine3.Org and I highly recommend checking that out after the episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I have learned over the years that my problem is rarely my inability to finish things - it’s actually my resistance to beginning them that holds me back. An unfinished project is far less discouraging than a project you have yet to begin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Stay present in the good times for sure, but don’t forget to stay grateful and present for the normal times too. The fact of the matter is - normal can be pretty dope - and if you lean into the not so normal shit with the right attitude - that can be pretty damn cool too. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Follow your mistakes. If you make a wrong turn - honor it. See where that takes you! The point of the process is to remain to as present and as mindful as you can as you allow your intuition to pull you in whatever direction it aligns with. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There will be times that everything feels like it’s falling apart around you, like you can’t catch a break and the universe is out to get you but if you trust and have faith that things aren’t happening to you they are happening for you - you will not need to feel so burdened by them when they come and you can remember that it may have been a redirection you were waiting for all along. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Stop waiting for the other shoe to drop when good things are happening to you. You deserve good things to happen to you and they are happening because of your commitment to yourself. Just don’t forget to continue that commitment by honoring what you really need in each present moment. You are allowed to take breaks especially if the upgraded problems feel a bit heavier at first. Then you can come back realigned and excited about all these new amazing experiences in your life without feeling burdened by their newness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your mind is powerful and you can create anything you want. We have so much time and so many resources around us to make our literal dreams a reality if we’re willing to work towards them. @MYDBpodcast is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed every morning. Build momentum - better your life.Each season is 66 days long to encourage long term healthy habit integration into your daily life.Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained on or available through this web site is for general information purposes only.This content is presented on an "as-is" basis. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.