Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Our relationships are priceless. They can’t be bought, they can only be built. Without them, our lives would be empty. But all of that is easy to forget when you’re in the midst of a furious argument with your partner, or anyone you love. When we’re emotionally elevated, we say and do things that damage our connections with others. But it doesn’t have to be that way — conflict can be an opportunity for deeper connection and better relationships. On today’s episode, internationally recognized marriage counselor and author Terry Real shares how to get past "you and me" to build your "we." Tune in for advice on shedding the individualist mindset and bringing more love into your life. Made with love, for you! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

On today’s episode we’re discussing the unwelcome territory we all have to navigate eventually: life after loss. Whether you’ve lost a loved one, a dream, a job, or a relationship, adjusting to your new reality requires a grieving process. Giving yourself permission to fully mourn heals you, and fosters new growth too. In this episode, I'm speaking with two expert grief counselors about coping with grief and loss, finding peace, and moving forward when it feels like you can’t. If you've experienced a loss, I'm sorry... and this one is for you. With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Should you be friends with your ex? After a divorce or breakup, being friends with an ex can seem appealing, especially if you're co-parenting. Making the transition from partners to pals is possible. But without radical self-honesty and clear intentions, it can be challenging — and may even create new problems. Can you be friends with your ex? If so, how do you go about this transition in a healthy way? That's what we're exploring, in this episode. Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Every committed couple begins with the best of intentions, believing they’ll love each other forever. But we all know it doesn’t always work out that way. The truth is that people often accidentally damage their relationships beyond the point of repair... without even realizing it. Today, we’re talking about the real, hidden reasons why relationships fail, so you can take positive action now to keep yours healthy and strong. With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Why do we react the way we do? Attachment styles in relationships are a powerful force. Understanding your attachment style, as well as that of your partner, can help you create a more compassionate partnership. In this episode, you'll learn about attachment patterns, identify yours and your partner's, and how to develop healthy and secure relationship systems. With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Confidence is sexy. But when you're dating —and dealing with the rejection modern dating involves — it takes a toll on your confidence. Oh the irony. Fortunately, building confidence in dating is possible, if you know how. On this episode, we’re discussing how to build your self-confidence, bounce back from rejection, and continue to put yourself out there until you find the love you want and deserve. All for you, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

We all use stories to make sense of the world and our place in it. But what happens when the stories we tell ourselves hold us back, make us feel bad about ourselves, or force us into boxes that don’t fit who we truly are? When you change your story, you change your life. In this episode, you'll learn how to tap into your unconscious narratives, challenge them, and then rewrite your story to create the life you want. Here's to your empowerment! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

A happy, loving, healthy relationship is the most valuable thing you can have. But so many people struggle in this area, and without understanding the signs of a healthy relationship, it’s hard to know how to begin making it better. This podcast will teach you all about the fundamentals of healthy relationships. FYI, this comes in two parts: First, listen to the podcast. Then, take the "How Healthy is Your Relationship" quiz, to discover the strengths and growth opportunities in yours. All the best, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.GrowingSelf.com

Commitment: I know the word alone is enough to send a shiver up the spine of many a listener. And for the partners of the commitment-adverse, it’s not any easier. If commitment issues are present in your relationship, it’s likely to become a sore subject. You’re probably feeling a bit rejected, and you may be wondering if there’s any way forward. On today’s episode of the podcast, we’re going to be exploring the path of dealing with commitment issues, so you can get unstuck! xoxo, Dr. Lisa GrowingSelf.com

We all know that procrastination is a recipe for disaster leading to stress, rushing around, and disappointing people (including yourself.) Yet the little voice that says “let’s do it later” can be hard to resist. On today’s show I’m sharing new ideas and a fresh perspective that will help you use your natural strengths to focus on (and do!) the most important things… and stop beating yourself up about the rest. Stop procrastinating! Listen now! ;) Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

If you find yourself with partners who mistreat you again and again, it’s time to explore that pattern, so you can find a healthy relationship. On today’s episode of the podcast, we’re talking about why you keep dating jerks, and the steps you can take to break free from bad relationships and find real, healthy love. You deserve it! xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Wonderful, healthy and fun relationships can seem magical. But the truth is that awesome relationships don't happen "magically." Not at all. Long-term couples who love their relationships are simply reaping the rewards of the intentional effort they've put in to their partnerships. Sounds easy, right? In theory, it is. But here's the issue: No one teaches you how to have a fantastic relationship. So even though many people would love to have a stronger, more satisfying connection with their partner and would be very happy to do the working of making their good relationship great... they literally do not know what, exactly, to do differently. The intention is there, but the knowledge is not. To fill this knowledge gap, award-winning documentary film director Roger Nygard spent over seven years sitting down with the thought leaders in the fields of marriage counseling and couples therapy to get ALL THE ANSWERS. The result is his film, The Truth About Marriage. And he's here on the podcast with me today to share all his insights and discoveries with YOU. For love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Recognizing that the life you’ve created is not the one you actually want is an uncomfortable experience. But, believe it or not — it’s good. Why? It allows you to reflect, and recalibrate. Whether you're in your 20s or your 30s having a “quarter-life crisis” is your chance to reconnect with who you are now, reimagine your future, and pivot in the direction of the life you want. On this episode of the podcast, we’re talking about how you can use a quarter-life crisis as a launchpad for a new chapter of growth and success. Here's to you! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Was that a compliment, or a jab? Did they really “not see” your text, or are they punishing you? On this episode of the podcast, we’re talking about how to deal with passive-aggressive people, so you can stand up for yourself with compassion and confidence. With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Ready to make a big, positive change in your career? This may just be your moment. On this episode of the podcast I'm discussing the Great Resignation with a master career coach, who's sharing ALL kinds of tips and ideas to help you seize this opportunity to create a career you love — whether or not you decide to quit your job. All for you! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Secret spending or hidden debts are a unique type of infidelity that is not often discussed. This kind of financial betrayal creates major relationship issues, and takes a special healing process to mend. Fortunately, it is possible to save your marriage after financial infidelity, and to come through it together, stronger and more solvent than ever before. In this episode of the podcast, I’m discussing how to heal after financial infidelity, with an expert in financial counseling for couples. I hope you listen, or share this episode with someone in your life who should! xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

We all carry around at least a little emotional baggage from past relationships. But by seeking out new, healthy experiences with safe people, we have the power to help ourselves heal and grow. Today, we’re talking about healing relationships, and how you can create positive experiences with others that help you become a happier, healthier version of you. Join me! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Do you have a hard time saying no? Do you feel guilty when you can’t do what others want? If so, you may struggle with people pleasing, a habit that can add a lot of stress to your life and resentment to your relationships. Never fear — this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast is full of tips for how to stop saying yes to everything, and start prioritizing your own authentic wellbeing.

Do you ever look at your teen and wonder, who is this person? Your child is on the path to adulthood, and they are bound to do some confounding things along the way. If you’re parenting a teen, this episode of the podcast is for you. We’re talking about keeping your bond with your child strong, while being the parent your teen needs. xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

If you’re navigating the pandemic dating scene, you know how many minefields it contains. But if you're like many singles, the past two years have been a time of inner expansion and self-development as well. Of course, your inner transformation shows up in your love life too — often in very positive and empowering ways. Join me and my pal, OK Cupid's resident dating expert Damona Hoffman, for a conversation about how to bring this authentic "new you" into your new relationships in 2022 — as well as timeless advice on creating true and lasting love in every phase of life. xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

George Floyd’s murder in 2020 sparked an outpouring of grief, and a renewed motivation to change the world for the better. But to truly fight racism we first have to look inside ourselves. In honor of Martin Luther King Jr. Day, I'm re-releasing this episode about antiracism, and the steps you can take to create a more just, peaceful world. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Worried about how divorce will affect your kids? On today’s episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast, we’re talking about divorce with kids, and the best way to support your children if you're navigating the end of your marriage (or thinking about it). I hope this episode helps you find clarity and confidence about the next best steps for you and your family. xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

I want you to be successful at creating the change you desire in this new year. So for that reason, today's episode is all about how to find and lovingly cultivate one solid keystone habit. This surprisingly simple technique launches a chain of successes that will carry you forward. Join me and learn how to make great things happen — the easy way! With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.GrowingSelf.com

Ready to turn the page and create a bright new reality for yourself? Whether you're ready for a new era in your career, your relationships, or a new sense of ownership in your personal narrative... today's episode is for you. My guest today is a Jedi-caliber therapist and career counselor, on a mission to teach you how to write a new story for yourself. Ready to start your next chapter? Join us! There's so much in store for you, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Sometimes, it all seems like a losing battle: Everywhere you look, there's a new challenge or adversity that seems too big for any one of us to fix. But the universe has an odd way of working on our side, even when we're not aware of it. Listen to this episode for a reminder of how much power you have to create positive things for yourself and others — even when you don't feel like you do. You're already amazing. Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

We’ve all heard that phrase, “Do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life.” It may sound like a fantasy, but it really is possible to build a career that’s so in line with your true self that it doesn’t feel like work at all. But how exactly do you do that? On this episode of the podcast, I'm chatting with an expert career coach about finding your passion, and cultivating the mindset that leads to work you truly love. Join us! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

It’s common to fantasize about reconnecting with an Ex: either rekindling the romance, or as friends. But should you? Couples get back together. Past partners can be wonderful friends. But sometimes longing to reconnect with an Ex just keeps you stuck in an unhealthy attachment. Is getting back with an Ex a good idea? Is being friends with an Ex healthy for you? When to lean in, and when to let go — listen to this episode for clarity and direction. For you! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Having issues with each other's family of origin is one of the most common things that couples fight about, particularly around the holidays. It’s challenging to set healthy boundaries while also maintaining relationships with each other's "first family” — particularly if your in-laws are controlling or intrusive. (Or just very different from your family). On this episode of the podcast I’m sharing tips for how to deal with in-laws to help you navigate sticky situations with diplomacy and grace, so you can enjoy your time together. Happy Thanksgiving! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Do you wish you knew what’s really going on in your partner’s head, or how your coworkers actually feel about you? (Even if they aren’t consciously aware of it themselves?) Learning how to read people gives you a real advantage at work, in love, and beyond. You can learn how to understand other’s true feelings and motivations — even if they’re different from what's being said. My guest, Dr. Dan Hill, is an expert on the art of reading people and is here today to explain how. Join us! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Have you ever wondered why you lose it sometimes, and say things you regret later? Or why you get to a certain point where you just cannot talk anymore, and shut down? These are both examples of emotional flooding: Lashing out and withdrawing are two sides of the same coin. Both can be disastrous for your relationship. On today’s episode we’re talking about the reality of emotional flooding, and how to manage it effectively when you’re “coming in hot.” Join me! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Feeling invalidated is at the core of communication issues. When couples fight, they're usually fighting to be heard. Feeling shut down, or bulldozed by your partner is not just frustrating — if it happens routinely it can damage your relationship. Today, learn why emotional invalidation happens and what you can do to stop it. By the end of the episode, you’ll have some actionable takeaways to help you feel heard, valued, and understood. With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

What you believe about yourself holds so much power. You have the power to create a really wonderful life for yourself. Or, you can be tricked into believing the devil inside: Your self-limiting beliefs. Self-limiting beliefs are so dangerous because they often masquerade as "truth." But buying into them only creates pain, and damages your self-esteem, your career, and your relationships. On this episode of the podcast, I'm teaching you how to identify your limiting beliefs and overcome them, so you can get back in control. Happy Halloween! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Your mind-body connection is powerful. Sometimes the most direct path to improving your emotional wellbeing isn't through therapy — it’s through lifestyle changes. Other times your physical health suffers because of the way you’re thinking or feeling. The way you think, feel emotionally, and your physical wellness are all interconnected. Tune in today to gain insight into your mind-body connection, and get actionable strategies to support every aspect of your wellness. Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

It's great to work on your relationship, but sometimes people can get so over-focused on relationship problems they stop appreciating their partner’s positive qualities... to the detriment of the dynamic. In contrast, feeling love and appreciation for your partner — as they are — is the royal road to growth and happiness for both of you. When do you advocate for change? When do you lean into “appreciative acceptance?” That’s what we’re discussing on today’s episode! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

How to love your body? Although your body is a miraculous engine of life that supports everything you do, it’s easy to get judgy about the way your body looks. Or whether or not it’s as “good” or worthy of love as someone else’s body. These unhelpful ideas crush your self-esteem, and can lead to truly unhealthy diet and exercise habits. Let’s all stop. Today, learn how to stop feeling bad about your body, and start moving towards self-compassion, appreciation for your body, and health at any size. Join me! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Dealing with stress at work? Whether you’re working from home or back in the office, burnout and career ambivalence are rampant right now. Help is here: On today's episode I’m visiting with an expert career coach who can help you advocate for yourself, set healthy boundaries on the job, manage work related stress and anxiety, make empowered career decisions, and, if you’re an employer, learn how to keep your people happy and healthy. All for you! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Still stuck on your ex? Like, no matter what you do — they’re still there — in your head, in your heart, maybe even in your dreams? I see you. And more importantly, I understand why. In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I’m getting real about something that so many people secretly struggle with: how do you get over your ex when it feels absolutely impossible to let go. Whether your breakup was recent or it’s been way too long and you're still stuck, this episode will help you understand what's really happening in your brain, your body, and your heart — and what to do about it. From the neuroscience of love and loss, to the emotional addiction that keeps you craving contact, I’m diving into the real reasons it’s hard to move on — and the powerful, research-backed steps you can take to finally feel free. Timestamps: 00:00 - How to Get Over Your Ex 05:05 - Understanding the Obsessive Phenomenon 06:55 - Biological Basis of Love and Addiction 11:26 - The Psychological and Emotional Basis of Obsession 13:35 - Accepting the End of a Relationship 21:06 - Strategies to Let Go and Move On 27:01 - Mindfulness and Thought Replacement Techniques 30:16 - Heal from Heartbreak If you resonated with this podcast episode, that tells me something important: You’re not just hurting — you’re trying. You’re searching for answers, hoping for relief, and longing for a way to finally stop feeling so consumed by the past. You’re already on the path forward — even if it doesn’t feel like it yet. Healing doesn’t happen by accident. It happens when you start making intentional choices — to understand yourself more deeply, to process what happened, and to take meaningful steps toward letting go. That might sound like a tall order right now, but the first step is easier than you think. 👉 Start by taking my Heartbreak Recovery Quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You?This quiz is a research-informed tool that will show you exactly where you are in your healing process and what you need to do next. Whether you're stuck in obsessive thoughts, overwhelmed with grief, or just beginning to feel ready to move on, your quiz results will give you clarity and direction. 👉 If you’re ready to talk to someone who truly gets it, schedule a free consultation with a coach on our team. Sometimes you just need a safe space to say what’s on your heart — especially when friends are tired of hearing about your ex. At Growing Self, our breakup recovery coaches are licensed therapists who specialize in helping people heal from heartbreak. We know how to guide you from this place of pain into the peace and self-confidence you deserve. You can do this— and your next chapter starts now. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who is struggling to move on, I invite you to share this episode with them to remind them that they’re not alone and healing is possible.

What is your love language? What’s your partner’s? If you don’t know, you may be accidentally hurting each other’s feelings, creating disconnection, and stoking resentment without even realizing it. Understanding love languages — and acting accordingly — can change everything in your relationship for the better. Discover both of your love languages (and practical steps for unleashing all their positive power!) in this info-packed episode. Love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

If you’re going through a particularly dark time, today’s episode is for you. While nobody chooses tragedy as a vehicle for growth, meaning making through adversity can lead not just to hope and healing — but to incredibly positive personal transformation. Just ask my guest Jennifer Sands, a 9/11 widow. If you or someone you love could use a little “light in the darkness” right now, I hope you tune into this very special episode to hear her message (and be the messenger!) With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Are you getting pressured, guilted, or blamed into taking responsibility for other people's problems? Understanding where your sphere of personal responsibility stops, and where someone else’s starts is vital to setting healthy boundaries with clarity and confidence. So, what is your problem? And what is someone else’s problem? Let's figure it out together, on today’s episode. Your partner in growth, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Today: Learn how to strengthen your relationship at the deepest level using the principles of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. This evidence-based approach helps you repair your attachment bond, and actually transforms the way you both feel about each other. It's powerful stuff, and on today's episode you'll learn how to use EFT principles to stop negativity, and increase emotional connection in your relationship. All for you! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Do you ever struggle with self-doubt, compare yourself to others, and wish you were more confident? These feelings block growth — and damage self-confidence too. Today’s podcast is going to help you stop that, and learn a more effective way to build confidence in yourself — through building a healthy, emotionally safe and supportive relationship with… you. Self confidence through self compassion: Tune in and learn how! Your partner in growth, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

How Premarital Counseling Works Whether you’ve been married for 30 years or are just starting out, premarital counseling strategies can help you strengthen your relationship. Why? Because it’s positive: Premarital counseling works by helping couples have productive conversations proactively: before things become issues that need to be “fixed.” It’s brilliant! You can learn how to use the principles taught in premarital counseling to strengthen your relationship — starting today. Tune in to learn how. -Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com

If you’re feeling overdue for a personal overhaul, I’m here to help. On today’s episode of the podcast I’m doing a deep dive into the psychology of personal reinvention to give you some actionable strategies for releasing your old stuff and attaining your aspirations. We'll be discussing the secret forces that make personal reinvention easier, and the ones that will sabotage you and snap you back if you're not careful. Most of all, I'll be sharing how to use your strengths to stay motivated, and move forward — forever. Your partner in growth, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.GrowingSelf.com

Feeling "meh" lately? If so, join me today to learn: What the current "science of happiness" has to say about what moves the happiness needle… and what does not. The biggest hidden culprit getting in between you and a joyful life Simple strategies to get reconnected with the real you (who IS still in there!) Why you can't buy happiness, but where to invest your resources to cultivate more joy Life hacks to make more space in your life for fun and play I hope this discussion helps you reconnect with your joy. You deserve it. All the best, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.GrowingSelf.com

Who you work with really matters when it comes to outcomes in therapy. How do you tell a good therapist from a bad one? What are the subtle signs that your therapist might be nice, but ineffective or even unqualified? What are the red flags that your therapist is behaving unethically? Spilling *all* the beans on this episode, so you can make informed and empowered choices. Warmly, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.GrowingSelf.com

Ever feel like your breakup didn’t just end a relationship — it wrecked your self-worth too? If you've been left feeling like a shell of yourself after love falls apart, this episode is for you. I’m Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, and today on the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I’m diving deep into one of the most painful and overlooked parts of breakup recovery: low self esteem after a breakup. I’m sharing the real-deal truth about what happens to your brain, your emotions, and your sense of identity when someone you loved — and maybe bent over backwards for — couldn't (or wouldn’t) love you back. Through stories, science, and a whole lot of heart, I’ll walk you through the five essential steps to take your power back, stop the self-betrayal spiral, and start rebuilding the self-respect you absolutely deserve. And yes, I answer a powerful listener question that might just be the one you’ve been too afraid to ask out loud. Listen and learn how to stop tying your worth to someone who walked away — and start writing a better story for yourself. Timestamps: 00:00 - The Real Reason You Feel So Broken After a Breakup 06:43 - How I became and Accidental Breakup Expert 10:20 - Why It Feels So Hard to Let Go 32:29 - 5 Steps to Rebuild Self-Esteem After a Breakup 52:10 - "I Can't Stop Checking My Ex's Instagram" 1:02:00 - The One Thing That Will Truly Heal You Struggling with self-love and low self-esteem after a breakup is incredibly painful—but it’s not the end of your story. It’s actually just one piece of a much bigger healing journey. If you’re wondering where to begin, or whether you’re truly making progress, I have a free resource that can help. 👉 Take the Breakup Quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You?This quick, insightful quiz will show you what stage of healing you’re in right now—and, more importantly, what your next step needs to be. Whether you're still caught in the swirl of emotions or starting to feel ready for what’s next, this quiz offers compassionate clarity and personalized guidance to help you move forward. No judgment. Just support. And if you’re ready to talk with someone who truly understands what you’re going through… 👉 Schedule a Free Consultation with a Growing Self Breakup Recovery Expert Our team of warm, experienced therapists and coaches specialize in helping people navigate the aftermath of heartbreak and rediscover their sense of self. In your free consultation, you can share what you’ve been going through, ask questions, and explore how we might support your healing process—whether you’re struggling with obsessive thoughts about your ex, self-doubt, guilt, or just want to stop feeling stuck. You're not alone in this, and you don’t have to figure it out all by yourself. Because healing is possible. Confidence is reclaimable. And love—real, healthy love—including love for yourself—is absolutely within reach. And you can start today. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who’s struggling with low self-esteem after a breakup? Be a friend — share this episode with them. You never know how much they need to hear it.

Release Anger + Reclaim Yourself There are many different types of anger that often impact our life coaching, therapy, and couples counseling clients here at Growing Self. All are different in some way, and similar in others. All are important, and deserve attention. On this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I'm going to be sharing my best advice for how to let go of anger. We'll be discussing: Different types of anger How holding on to anger harms you, ultimately Strategies to work through anger, productively Ways to maintain a more positive emotional equilibrium How to find forgiveness (and still have boundaries) I hope this podcast helps you on your path of growth and healing. Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com