Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Have you ever been totally into someone and then suddenly… you get the ick? One minute you’re feeling the spark, the next you’re questioning everything over something as small as flip-flops. Getting the ick can feel like a dealbreaker, but does it really mean your relationship is doomed - or is it pointing to something deeper inside of you? In this episode, I talk with therapist and journalist Matt Hussey about what the ick really is, why it shows up, and how to handle it without panicking or shutting down. We’ll look at the biology of disgust, the ways old hurts and perfectionism can shape our reactions, and how curiosity can transform that “ugh” moment into an opportunity for growth and connection. Matt also points out (as he shared in Vogue) that sometimes the ick is less about your partner and more about self-protection. Instead of working through discomfort or vulnerability, we latch onto surface-level quirks. Understanding that difference between a fleeting ick and a real red flag can help you respond with clarity instead of fear. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 What Is the Ick? 03:00 Getting the Ick in Modern Relationships 11:13 Why Curiosity Matters More Than Snap Judgments 22:07 Self-Protection, Trauma, and the Ick 29:15 How to Handle the Ick in Relationships 38:29 Avoidant Attachment and the Ick 44:10 Fantasy vs. Reality in Love Reflect with me for a moment: What has triggered the ick for you in the past? Did it reveal something about your partner, or did it say more about what was happening inside of you? And how might curiosity change the way you respond the next time those feelings come up? If you’d like more support around communication and connection, check out my Communication That Connects Free Training and take the How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz for a clear snapshot of what’s working and what could use care. And let’s stay connected - join me on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube, where I share more tools to help you grow in love and life. If this episode sparked a question or an idea you’d like me to explore next, I’d love to hear from you. Let’s talk! I also want to thank today’s sponsor, Headway. As much as I love books, finding time to read isn’t always realistic. That’s why I use the Headway app - it gives me key takeaways from incredible books in minutes. I use it almost every day as part of my own growth. You can save 25% when you go to makeheadway.com/lhs and use promo code LHS. Let’s keep learning and growing together. 🌱 xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

Have you ever felt stuck between knowing what you should do and actually following through? That gap between intention and action isn’t a character flaw - it’s your brain running old programs. What if you could rewrite them? That’s exactly what I explored with Dr. David Spiegel, pioneer in clinical hypnotherapy research, author, and founder of the Reveri self-hypnosis app. He breaks down how hypnosis isn’t mind control or stage tricks, but a focused state of attention that helps you get out of your own way and create real change in your sleep, eating, weight, pain, stress, and habits. We talk about the science of self-hypnosis, why it works when insight alone doesn’t, and how technology is making it accessible to everyone. Dr. Spiegel also guides me (and you) through a live mini-session so you can feel what it’s like yourself. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome: Dr. David Spiegel 02:00 What Hypnosis Really Is (and Isn’t) 07:30 How Hypnosis Rewires the Brain and Reduces Pain 13:00 Self-Hypnosis for Smoking Cessation and Habit Change 20:00 Hypnosis vs. Meditation 26:00 The Reveri Self-Hypnosis App 33:00 Brain Science Behind Hypnosis 38:00 Using Hypnosis for Anxiety, Phobias, and Pain 47:00 Final Thoughts and Dr. Spiegel’s Mission What would change if you stopped relying on willpower alone and started using your brain’s own hidden tools for healing and growth? If you’ve been feeling stuck and aren’t sure why, my What’s Holding You Back? Quiz can help you uncover the hidden patterns, beliefs, or behaviors that might be silently sabotaging your progress. It’s a quick, eye-opening way to gain clarity and take the first step forward. And let’s stay connected beyond the podcast - I’m sharing new tools and insights every week on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube. If this episode sparked a question or an idea you’d like me to cover in the future, I’d love to hear from you. Let’s talk! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self P.S. Before we wrap up, I want to thank the sponsor of today’s episode, Headway. We’ve been talking about the power of self-hypnosis to rewire your mind, and for me, reading is another way I open myself up to new perspectives. But life is busy, and I don’t always have the time to curl up with a full book. That’s why I love Headway. It takes the best books on psychology, personal growth, and beyond, and distills them into bite-sized insights I can actually fit into my day. I use it every morning, and it’s such a simple way to keep growing. And the best part? You can save 25% when you go to makeheadway.com/lhs and use code LHS. Here’s to learning, healing, and creating the kind of change that lasts. 🌱

Have you ever said you’re “anxious” or “burned out,” only to realize those words don’t really capture what’s happening inside you? The way we label our emotions shapes how we experience them — and when the language is off, so is our path to healing. In this episode, I’m joined by author, creator, and mindfulness expert Case Kenny to talk about how mindfulness becomes powerful and practical when it’s rooted in language. Case shares how guided journaling and emotional vocabulary can help you move past vague “forest words” into precise truths that open the door to optimism, self-trust, and more authentic connections. We also dig into how so-called “negative” emotions — what I like to call dark emotions — aren’t obstacles to avoid but important signals that can strengthen your growth and your relationships. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Introduction to Intentional Living and Mindfulness 01:06 The Power of Emotional Vocabulary 06:01 Guided Journaling for Emotional Clarity 15:22 Rethinking Settling Down in Relationships 20:05 Emotional Priming and How Language Shapes Experience 23:04 Building Self-Trust and Emotional Resilience 33:02 Embracing Dark Emotions for Growth 35:16 Communication and Emotional Connection in Love If this conversation left you thinking, “I want to do this work in my own life,” I’d love to help. You can schedule a free consultation with me or a member of my team, and we’ll match you with the right expert for your goals. Whether you’re ready to deepen your self-awareness, work through old patterns, or create more authentic connections, we’ll give you the guidance and resources to start moving forward with clarity and confidence. And let’s keep the conversation going: join me on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube for weekly tools and encouragement. If this episode sparked a question or idea you’d love me to cover in the future, let’s talk! Before we wrap up, I want to share something that’s been such a great companion to the kind of mindful growth we talked about today. You know I’m all about finding practical ways to keep learning, but with a busy life it can be hard to carve out quiet hours with a book. That’s why I’ve been loving the Headway app. It distills the big ideas from some of the best books into quick, actionable insights you can take with you right away. I’ve made it part of my own morning routine, and it’s such an easy way to keep stretching your mind every day. And here’s the best part — you can try it for yourself and save 25%. Just head to makeheadway.com/lhs and use code LHS. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

Have you ever had a boss who left you walking on eggshells, never sure what mood they’d bring into the office? Maybe they humiliated people in meetings, lashed out without warning, or drained you so much that you came home with nothing left for yourself. A bully boss can affect far more than your workday. In this episode, I’m talking with Mita Mallick, speaker, workplace strategist, coach, and bestselling author. She’s sharing stories from her own career and what she’s learned about surviving toxic leaders - from executives who throw shoes to managers who use “toxic positivity” as a weapon. Mita also offers strategies for spotting warning signs in an interview, building an exit plan that protects your career, and regaining your confidence once you’ve left. We also explore the patterns that keep people stuck in unhealthy workplaces: how old experiences can shape what we tolerate, why many of us think we can “outwork” a bad boss, and what it really takes to reclaim your well-being. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 How Toxic Jobs Affect Your Life 00:43 Meet Mita Mallick: Speaker, Strategist, and Author 01:22 Surviving Abuse from a Bully Boss 07:16 Workplace Trauma and Mental Health 18:02 How to Spot Red Flags in Job Interviews 28:34 Types of Toxic Bosses and Their Behaviors 38:25 Exit Strategies and Rebuilding Confidence If you’d like more support beyond this conversation, you’re welcome to schedule a free consultation with me or a member of my team. We can help you make thoughtful career decisions, strengthen boundaries, and protect your mental health at work. I also encourage you to check out Mita’s new book, The Devil Emails at Midnight: What Good Leaders Can Learn from Bad Bosses. You can connect with her directly on LinkedIn and Instagram to keep learning from her insights on leadership and workplace culture. And of course, you can always stay connected with me on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube, where I share weekly tips and encouragement. I’d love to hear your thoughts - your questions and feedback always help shape future episodes. Let’s talk! I also want to extend a big thank-you to Headway for sponsoring this episode. Headway helps me keep growing, even on the busiest days, by making it possible to learn from the world’s top books in just minutes. I use it every day. I truly love it, and I think you will too. Save 25% when you go to ⁠⁠makeheadway.com/lhs⁠⁠ and use the promo code LHS. Let’s keep learning and growing together. 🌱 xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

Have you ever found yourself thinking, “I don’t know if I should stay, and I don’t know if I should go”? That painful in-between is called relationship ambivalence, and it can quietly drain years of your life if you don’t get clarity. In this episode, I’m joined by relationship researcher Dr. Merideth Thompson, who knows that limbo all too well. After staying stuck for nearly a decade, she created Partner Lab, a research-based company focused on improving relationships as a cornerstone of overall wellness. Together we’ll explore what the science says about relationship health, the “Clarity Matrix” she developed to cut through the fog, and the real-life questions that matter most when deciding whether to stay or leave. We also talk openly about staying “for the kids,” how familiar but unhealthy dynamics keep us hooked, and why actions, not words, show you whether your partner is really invested. Our goal isn’t to tell you whether to stay or go. It’s to give you the clarity and confidence to trust yourself again. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Should I Stay or Leave My Relationship? 01:43 Dr. Merideth Thompson’s Story and the Birth of Partner Lab 03:34 Research Insights on Relationship Health 09:51 The Clarity Matrix: Influence, Control, and Deal Breakers 14:06 Communication, Conflict Resolution, and Commitment 18:31 Discernment Counseling: Knowing If Change Is Possible 20:24 Actions Speak Louder Than Words in Relationships 28:02 Finding Clarity and Validation in Ambivalence 36:06 Parenting, Divorce, and Protecting Children 44:11 The Clarity Circle: Community and Support Want more support as you practice these skills? My free Communication That Connects Training will give you tools to shift out of conflict loops and into deeper connection, along with a workbook to help you put them into practice. You can also take my How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz for a clear picture of what’s working and what needs care. I’d love to stay connected beyond the podcast - join me on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube where I share more tools to help you grow together. And if this episode sparked a question or idea you’d like me to explore in the future, let’s talk! I'd also like to give a very special thank you to the sponsor of today’s episode: Headway. I love reading and learning, but finding the time to sit down with a book can feel impossible. That’s why I’m a huge fan of the Headway app. I use it almost every day, and it’s been a true game-changer for my personal growth. If you want to keep learning and growing right alongside me, I have an exclusive offer for you! Save 25% when you go to ⁠⁠makeheadway.com/lhs⁠⁠ and use the promo code LHS. Let’s keep learning and growing together. 🌱 xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

Do you ever feel like life is harder for you than it is for everyone else? On the outside you’re smart, capable, and creative. But inside you feel overwhelmed, scattered, and constantly behind. That could be a sign of undiagnosed ADHD. In this episode, I’m talking with Shanna Pearson, Founder and President of Expert ADHD Coaching, about how ADHD often shows up in women, why it’s so frequently mistaken for anxiety or depression, and the lifelong impact of being misunderstood. We also share practical tools to help you externalize the chaos in your mind and stay present with the people you love. As you listen, reflect on this: 🌱 Have you carried a quiet sense of being “different” without knowing why? 🌱 How often do you feel overwhelmed by things that seem easy for others? 🌱 What would shift if you saw those struggles through the lens of ADHD? If you’ve ever thought, “What’s wrong with me?” - nothing is wrong with you. Understanding your brain is the first step toward compassion, clarity, and lasting change. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Undiagnosed ADHD in Women 01:36 Shanna Pearson’s ADHD Story 09:26 Inattentive vs Hyperactive ADHD 13:24 ADHD Misdiagnosis: Anxiety & Depression 17:17 What a Real ADHD Assessment Looks Like 22:05 Managing Overwhelm and Prioritizing 48:47 Pills Don’t Teach Skills If you’d like more support beyond this episode, you’re welcome to schedule a free consultation with me or a member of my team. Many of our coaches have completed advanced ADHD training, so you’ll be matched with someone who understands these challenges and can provide tailored strategies to help you thrive. And if today’s conversation resonated with you, I highly recommend Shanna Pearson’s new book, Invisible ADHD. It’s filled with over a hundred practical tools and strategies to help you navigate life with more ease and confidence. You can also stay connected with me between episodes on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube, where I share weekly tips and encouragement. And I’d love to hear from you - your questions and feedback always help shape future episodes. Let’s talk! I'd also like to give a very special thank you to the sponsor of today’s episode: Headway. I love reading and learning, but finding the time to sit down with a book can feel impossible. That’s why I’m such a fan of the Headway app. I use it almost every day, and it’s been a true game-changer for my personal growth. With Headway, I’m able to absorb the key insights from incredible books in minutes, instead of weeks. If you want to keep learning and growing right alongside me, I have an exclusive offer for you! Save 25% when you go to ⁠makeheadway.com/lhs⁠ and use the promo code LHS. Let’s keep learning and growing together. 🌱 xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

Have you ever had a blow-up with your partner and then sat in that heavy silence wondering what to do next? This episode is your guide to how to make up after a fight—and the real skill that keeps love strong: repair. Happy couples don’t avoid conflict; they learn how to come back to each other with intention, humility, and care. We’ll look at why “never go to bed angry” is a myth (your brain actually needs space to calm down), how self-reflection helps you share your feelings without blame, and why small repair bids—like saying, “Yesterday was rough, can we talk tomorrow?”—can open the door to understanding. I’ll also share ways to use your couple strengths, whether it’s touch, shared rituals, or humor, to restore warmth and connection. Repair takes practice, and each attempt adds another layer of strength to your relationship. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Introduction: How to Make Up After a Fight 02:00 Why Relationship Repair Matters 06:07 The Anatomy of a Repair Attempt 12:07 Repairing After a Bad Fight 21:05 Communicating Effectively With Your Partner 28:07 Using Strengths to Reconnect 37:12 Humility, Growth, and Mindset Shifts 41:08 Free Resources & Next Steps Reflect with me: 🌱 When do you know it’s time to pause instead of pushing through? 🌱 What do you wish your partner understood about your feelings in that moment? 🌱 Which strengths could you lean on to reconnect after hard moments? Want more support as you practice these skills? My Free Communication That Connects Masterclass gives you tools to shift out of conflict loops and into conversations that bring you closer, along with a workbook to help you put them into practice. You can also take my How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz for a clear picture of what’s working and what needs care. I’d love to stay connected beyond the podcast. Join me on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube, where I share more tools to help you grow together. And if this episode sparked a question or idea you’d like me to explore in the future, I’d love to hear from you—let’s talk! I'd also like to give a very special thank you to the sponsor of today’s episode: Headway. I love reading and learning, but finding the time to sit down with a book can feel impossible. That’s why I’m such a fan of the Headway app. I use it almost every day, and it’s been a true game-changer for my personal growth. With Headway, I’m able to absorb the key insights from incredible books in minutes, instead of weeks. If you want to keep learning and growing right alongside me, I have an exclusive offer for you! Save 25% when you go to ⁠makeheadway.com/lhs⁠ and use the promo code LHS. Let’s keep learning and growing together. 🌱 xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

Have you ever felt like you just can’t win? If you’re too nice, people don’t take you seriously. If you’re too direct, suddenly you’re “too much.” For so many women, this double bind — rooted in gender double standards — is exhausting. My guest, Dr. Kate Mason, calls this out for what it is: a trap. We’ve been sold the lie that you can either be likable or powerful, but not both. And we’re here to burn that old playbook and create something better. Kate shows us how likeability isn’t weakness at all — it’s actually a form of power. But when it tips into people-pleasing and what she calls “imposing syndrome,” we start shrinking ourselves, downplaying our ideas, and apologizing for existing. On the flip side, many women hold back for fear of being labeled aggressive, bossy, or difficult. So how do you walk that tightrope without losing yourself? That’s what we’re unpacking in this conversation. You’ll learn how to recognize the subtle ways you undermine your own authority, how to communicate with both warmth and strength, and how to create a personal style of relating that feels authentic to you. Because the truth is, you don’t have to choose between being liked and being respected. As you listen, I’d love for you to reflect: 🌱 When do you catch yourself softening your words so you won’t “impose”? 🌱 Where are you still carrying old stories about what power “should” look like? 🌱 And what might change if you gave yourself permission to claim both likability and authority on your own terms? Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Likability Trap and Gender Double Standards 01:54 Kate Mason’s Story and the Myth of Two Options 05:01 Likability as Power vs. People-Pleasing 06:05 Imposing Syndrome and How We Minimize Ourselves 13:05 Practical Tools: Personal Audits and Self-Awareness 20:00 Breaking the Binary: Authentic Relating Beyond Gender Roles 34:01 Case Study: Transforming Voice, Posture, and Confidence 43:05 How to Develop Likable Power in Everyday Life If you’d like more support beyond this episode, you’re welcome to book a free consultation with me or a member of my team. We’ll connect you with the right expert for your goals and send you a personalized set of free resources to help you move forward in your career, relationships, or personal growth. You can also stay connected with me between episodes on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube, where I share new tips and encouragement every week. And I’d love to hear from you — your questions, feedback, and ideas for future episodes always help shape these conversations. Let’s talk! And if you’d like to connect with Dr. Kate Mason, you can find her on Instagram and LinkedIn. Be sure to check out her new book, Powerfully Likeable, coming September 9th — you can pre-order your copy now to dive even deeper into the ideas we explored today. I'd also like to give a very special thank you to the sponsor of today’s episode: Headway. I love reading and learning, but finding the time to sit down with a book can feel impossible. That’s why I’m such a fan of the Headway app. I use it almost every day, and it’s been a true game-changer for my personal growth. With Headway, I’m able to absorb the key insights from incredible books in minutes, instead of weeks. If you want to keep learning and growing right alongside me, I have an exclusive offer for you! Save 25% when you go to makeheadway.com/lhs and use the promo code LHS. Let’s keep learning and growing together. 🌱 xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

This episode originally aired on April 3, 2023 (Episode 343), and we’re bringing it back because it resonated with so many of you. Whether you’re reflecting on a past relationship, navigating one right now, or supporting clients through these dynamics, the lessons are worth revisiting. Why are people with anxious attachment styles and avoidant attachment styles drawn to each other? Can anxious-avoidant relationships work, and most importantly, can they be healthy and satisfying? Yes, they can. But the key is through your understanding of yourself, and of your partner. When you develop true understanding and empathy for your differences, you can create profound connection, and a genuinely secure and healing relationship for both of you. This episode is going to show you how. If you’re in an anxious-avoidant relationship, or have been in one before, I hope it helps you understand these dynamics from a new perspective, and empowers you to move toward greater connection and security. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Attachment Styles Matter 02:42 Core Conflict: Desire for Closeness vs. Space 07:04 The Push-Pull Dynamic of Anxious and Avoidant Partners 11:08 Can Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Be Healthy? 16:09 Finding Compatible Partners & Building Security 17:02 Strategies for Anxious Attachment 18:06 Strategies for Avoidant Attachment 33:04 Why Anxious and Avoidant Partners Are Drawn Together 42:05 Avoidant Discomfort with Closeness & Anxious Pursuing Behaviors 45:06 Doing the Work: Self-Awareness and Self-Management 49:04 Practical Tools for Avoidant Partners 55:00 True Love as a Conscious Choice Want to know where your relationship stands today? Try my free How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It gives you quick insights into what’s working well and where you might want to focus your growth together. If this resonated with you, let’s keep it going. I share more relationship advice and tools on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube, and I’d love to hear your thoughts too, whether it’s feedback on the show, questions about past episodes, or ideas for what you’d like me to cover next. Let’s talk! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

“Am I falling behind in life?” If you’ve ever looked around and thought everyone else is getting married, buying houses, and having babies while you’re still figuring things out, you’re not alone. In this episode, we’re getting real about that sinking, lonely feeling that comes when your life stage doesn’t match your friends’. We’ll talk about why there’s no one “right” timeline, how to get out of the comparison trap, and ways to reconnect with your sense of self-worth no matter where you are right now. I’ll share five steps to help you make peace with your path, let go of judgment (yours and theirs), and create the kind of connections that actually feel good. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why You Might Feel Behind in Life 03:36 Feeling Out of Sync With Life Stages 05:00 Escaping the Comparison Trap 10:00 How Values and Circumstances Shape Life Timelines 18:00 Grieving Changes in Friendships 26:00 Overcoming Self and External Judgment 41:00 How to Cultivate New Relationships as an Adult 49:00 Keeping Old Friends Without Losing Yourself What would change if you stopped measuring your life against someone else’s milestones? How might it feel to find friends who truly get you in this season? And what old connections might be worth keeping in a different way? If you’re ready for more support beyond this episode, you can book a free consultation with me or a member of my team. We’ll match you with the right expert for your goals and send you a tailored set of free resources to help you start creating the changes you want in your relationships, your career, or your personal growth. I’m also sharing new tips, insights, and encouragement every week on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube to help you feel confident in your path and connected in your relationships. And I’d love to hear from you. Your feedback, your questions about past episodes, and the topics you’d like me to cover next are always welcome. Let’s talk! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self 🌱

Have you ever looked at your partner and thought, “I love you… but right now, I really don’t like you”? It doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. It simply means you’re human. In this episode, we’re getting real about what happens when the warm fuzzies fade and the little things like how they breathe, chew, or leave their glass next to the sink suddenly feel huge. Can you love someone and not like them? Absolutely. But how you handle those moments will decide whether they pull you apart or bring you closer. I’ll walk you through how to tell the difference between harmless quirks, patterns that need attention, and true deal breakers. You’ll learn why 70% of relationship conflicts are about unchangeable differences, how emotional disconnection can make every annoyance feel bigger, and what it actually takes to shift from criticism to curiosity. We’ll talk about building the emotional intelligence skills that help you stay grounded, see each other’s perspective, and communicate in a way that leads to connection instead of a fight. Episode Breakdown 00:00 The Myth of Effortless Relationships 03:07 Dr. John Gottman’s Research on Conflict & Compatibility 05:47 Turning Friction Points Into Opportunities for Relationship Growth 07:10 Daily Annoyances vs. Deal Breakers: A Clarity Exercise 10:35 How Positive Connection Reduces Relationship Frustration 14:22 The Emotional Intelligence Skills That Lead To Better Relationships 22:03 Understanding Your Partner’s Perspective with Empathy 24:45 Effective Communication Strategies That Actually Work 31:00 Discernment Counseling: Is This Relationship Fixable? You can have a great relationship with someone who occasionally drives you up the wall, and this episode shows you how. If you’re ready to stop spinning in communication loops and finally feel heard without starting a fight, check out my free Communication that Connects 2-Part Training. It gives you the exact skills and tools to handle these moments differently, plus a workbook to help you put them into practice. You can also take my free How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz for a clear snapshot of what’s working, what’s not, and where you can start building a more connected partnership today. And if this episode struck a chord, let’s stay in touch. I’m always sharing more tips and resources on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube to help you turn those little friction points into deeper connection. I also want to hear from you. Your feedback, your questions about past episodes, and the topics you’d love me to cover next are always welcome. Let's talk! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

Have you ever stared at your phone, rereading a text that ended with a period and spiraled into, “Oh no… are they mad at me?” Or maybe someone didn’t heart your Instagram story, and suddenly your nervous system is in full red alert mode. If so, you’re not alone. And you’re definitely not broken. I’m joined by psychotherapist and author Meg Josephson to talk about the fawn response, a lesser-known trauma response that shows up as people-pleasing, overthinking, and needing to manage how others feel about you. We’re digging into where this comes from, why it’s so common (especially if you grew up walking on eggshells), and how to start untangling yourself from it. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 What Is Relational Hypervigilance? 02:22 Meg Josephson’s Journey With People-Pleasing 10:37 Understanding Complex Trauma and Emotional Safety 17:05 What Is the Fawn Response? 23:23 How Hypervigilance Disconnects You From Yourself 31:15 How People-Pleasing Impacts Boundaries 36:27 Why “Negative” Emotions Like Resentment Matter 41:11 Reassurance vs. Emotional Validation 46:07 Letting Go of Control and Reclaiming Your Energy 49:37 Healing Through Self-Awareness and Discomfort 51:13 Where to Find Meg Josephson’s Work If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I always feel like I’m in trouble?” or “Why is it so hard to set boundaries without guilt?” – this episode will help you understand what’s really going on beneath those feelings and what healing can actually look like. Ready to stop twisting yourself into knots trying to keep everyone else happy? My Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program can help you reconnect with you – your voice, your boundaries, your sense of calm. If you’re done second-guessing and ready to start showing up authentically, this is your next step. 🌱 Let’s stay connected! Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube for free resources and updates on new episodes of Love, Happiness & Success. Together, we’re building healthier, happier relationships – one conversation at a time. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self P.S. Meg’s book “Are You Mad at Me?” comes out August 5th – and it is SO GOOD! You can also follow her on Instagram and TikTok. Check out her Substack, Peace of Mind. Highly recommend.

Trust: It's the glue of secure attachment that holds a relationship together. If it's broken, everything changes. How do you repair trust once it's been damaged? The fantasy is that we can say "sorry" and the trust switch will flip back on... But it's not that easy. In fact, for trust to be restored, it requires a very specific process that both partners need to engage in. This is such a common and important part of the work for many couples seeking to repair their bond, so I'm putting this re-issued episode back in front of you. You'll learn why "Sorry" isn't good enough, and you'll also learn the worst mistake you can make if you're trying to repair the trust in your marriage. I'll also teach you the five action-steps you must take to mend trust for real, and how to use them to restore the security to your marriage. I sincerely hope these ideas help you heal the trust in your relationship. xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com PS: Changes are on the way here at Love, Happiness, and Success. For starters, you'll get more episodes... but you'll also start hearing promos on the show from time to time. Let's stay connected through this transition. Compliments? Complaints? Questions? Let's Talk.

“Why doesn’t my partner want me?” — If that question has ever kept you up at night, this one’s for you. Lately, I’ve been hearing from so many of you that this topic — what to do when your partner rejects you sexually — is really on your hearts and minds. And I get it. It’s such a vulnerable, tender pain point that touches on self-worth, connection, and love. Whether it’s happened once or it’s become a painful pattern, feeling sexually rejected can stir up everything from shame and anxiety to resentment and loneliness. That’s why I wanted to bring back this powerful episode — because the guidance here is so helpful, and it’s something I want you to have access to when you need it most. In this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success Podcast, I’m joined by my brilliant colleague and sex therapist Dori to talk openly (and compassionately!) about what’s really going on behind those “not tonight” moments — and what you can do to heal the hurt, reconnect with your partner, and bring intimacy back into your relationship in a way that feels good for both of you. We’ll walk you through the emotional impact of rejection, common myths about sex and desire, how to communicate with love and honesty, and actionable strategies to reconnect both emotionally and physically. You’ll leave this episode with insight and tools to navigate sexual rejection with grace, strength, and clarity. Timestamps: 01:13 – Why Rejection Feels So Personal 02:29 – Understanding the Emotional Fallout 05:57 – Gender, Expectations, and Sexual Scripts 13:16 – The Body Image Trap 18:09 – When It’s Not Really Rejection 21:33 – Why Planning for Intimacy Matters 24:21 – Nonsexual Touch: A Game-Changer 24:53 – Talking About Sex Without Shame 25:18 – What “Responsive Desire” Means 25:45 – Designing a Sex-Positive Life Together 30:12 – Hug Me, Don’t Just Want Me 32:24 – Loving Boundaries & Body Autonomy 35:40 – The Avoidance Spiral 38:25 – Intimacy Beyond Intercourse 44:54 – When It’s Time to Get Help If you're feeling disconnected, uncertain, or hurt in your relationship — especially around intimacy, I totally get it. It’s hard to talk about these things, and even harder to know what’s really going on beneath the surface. I created a free research-backed tool to help you get some clarity: How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It’s a thoughtful, science-backed assessment designed to give you clarity on your strengths, your growth areas, and what to focus on for a more connected, satisfying partnership. I hope you check it out! Let’s stay connected! You can find me here on Instagram and YouTube for more free resources and updates on new episodes of Love, Happiness & Success. Together, we’re creating healthier, happier relationships — one conversation at a time. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com

I have something personal to share. This podcast — this weekly connection with you — is one of my favorite parts of my work. It's not even fair to call it work. If I won the lottery and never had to work for money again, I'd still be here with you, every week. (Recording from my penthouse in Copenhagen, but still). And... I have not won the lottery, sadly. And producing a well-done podcast is expensive. And after 10 years of offering this freely (and with joy!), I’ve realized that growing it further and making it better means accepting help, and trying new things. Yep, I need to practice what I preach to you! Here's the deal: I’m partnering with a media company that’s doing things differently, giving creators like me opportunities to earn money from their podcasts while also ensuring this is a really nice experience for you. This move will help support the podcast while still making it free for you, always. (So if you were wondering if this was going to a paywall/Patreon situation the answer is NEVER.) What it does mean is that you will start to hear promotions on the show. No sleazy ads. Nothing gross or tone deaf. Just me, reading sponsorship messages for products and services I genuinely like and trust. Behind the scenes, I want you to know I'll be saying NOPE to promo requests for anything and everything that is not congruent with our shared values. I'm doing this as a way to serve you better — to bring in new voices, create richer content, and stay sustainable. But this is new for me. I'm a little nervous about it. I hope it will be good for both of us, but as with all new things, you never really know what's going to happen until you do it. That's why we need to stay connected as we head into this new era together. Seriously. I'm going into this knowing that this isn’t just my podcast. It’s ours. Like any relationship, we need to communicate! Starting immediately (like, right now 👇) you will have access to me from every episode, to let me know how this is going for you, and what I can do to be an even better growth partner for you. Look for the “Let’s Talk” link in the show notes of every episode. Please use it — to share thoughts, give feedback, share ideas, ask questions, or just say hi. Thank you for being part of this journey. Here’s to the next beautiful chapter. Your partner in growth, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby PS: What do you think about all this? Let's talk!

Have you ever had one of those mornings where you're prepping for an important work meeting, juggling a million to-dos and chores, and trying to get the kids out the door with lunches packed and shoes on the right feet? Yeah… same. We often associate burnout with our jobs, but the reality is that we can get burned out on LIFE. Hey. It's a lot. Just being a reasonably functional adult can feel like one big game of Whac-a-Mole leaving us further drained each day, with no end in sight. In this episode, I’m sitting down with Sarah Armstrong — author of The Art of the Juggling Act — to talk about what’s really going on with life related burnout, and how you can create realistic, sustainable strategies to manage it all without losing your mind, your health, or your joy. We’re diving deep into personal stories, hard-won wisdom, and super-practical ideas to help you break the cycle of exhaustion and start thriving — not just surviving. So grab that cup of lukewarm coffee you forgot you made, and let’s dig in. Timestamps: 00:00 – Understanding Life Burnout 01:13 – Introducing Sarah Armstrong and Her Mission 02:01 – Personal Struggles and Validation 02:54 – The Juggling Act of Parenting and Career 11:21 – Setting Boundaries and Protecting Time 22:43 – The Importance of Self-Care and Recharging 27:29 – Exploring the Meta Message 27:52 – Balancing Ambition and Ability 28:35 – Personal Choices and Career Decisions 31:57 – Volunteering and School Involvement 37:32 – Defining Real Mom If you’re nodding your head, wiping a tear, or mentally reviewing your massive to-do list right now—here’s what I want you to know: You don’t have to figure this all out on your own. My Clarity and Confidence Coaching is designed to help amazing humans like you create sustainable change. If you’re feeling burned out, exhausted, and stretched to your limit, this is your sign to get support. Our next cohort is starting very soon and space is limited. You’ll work with a therapist trained in evidence-based coaching psychology who gets the struggle of where you are and who can help you make real changes that stick. 👉 Reserve your spot now at GrowingSelf.com/clarity. We’d love to help you get to thriving again. And if this episode spoke to your heart, let’s keep the conversation going. Come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube. I share a ton of resources, in-depth interviews with experts, and evidence-based strategies to help you create a life you love—even in the chaos. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who’s stuck in the burnout blender? Send them this article. Share the wisdom. Be the friend who says, “Hey, you need to read this.” They’ll thank you later.

Have you ever been in the middle of a therapy session and found yourself silently (or loudly 😂) begging for advice from your therapist? You lay it all out — the overthinking, the relationship questions, the confusion… and they smile gently and say, “Hmm... what do you think you should do?” 😵‍💫 This is an all too common occurrence that can result in confusing, frustrating, and disappointing experiences with therapy. So on this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, we’re going to talk about why your therapist won’t give you advice, what therapists can help you with, and what kind of support will give you the guidance you’re looking for. Traditional therapy isn’t designed to tell you what to do or how to do it, and if you’re someone who wants clarity, structure, and movement forward… it might be time for a different kind of support. If you’re in therapy and wondering why you still feel stuck, this is an episode you won’t want to miss. Timestamps 00:00 – Why therapists don’t give advice (and why that’s intentional) 05:21 – Understanding different types of therapy 15:19 – What coaches do differently (and why it works) 21:52 – How to know what kind of support you need 24:05 – When therapy helps… and when it doesn’t 25:49 – Coaching vs. therapy: what’s right for your goals? 29:44 – Watch out: unqualified “coaches” are everywhere 33:34 – The honest truth about what will actually help you 34:21 – Finding clarity, confidence, and direction 36:38 – Questions to ask before hiring a therapist or coach 45:02 – Feeling stuck in therapy? Say this to your therapist 48:05 – It’s not you, you just need the right support If you’ve been nodding along while listening to this and thinking, "YES. I need a plan. I need movement. I need someone who gets it", I created Clarity and Confidence Coaching just for you. To meet you where you are right now, help you find clarity for your path forward, and to guide you step-by-step through transformation. Right now, you can work with a brilliant therapist trained in coaching psychology for a fraction of what coaching usually costs. You’ll get expert support and a solid framework to actually create meaningful change in your life. And these spots go fast. 👉 Come visit growingself.com/clarity and snag your spot before the cohort fills up. And hey, if this conversation resonated with you? Come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube. I share interviews with experts, evidence-based tools that actually work, and lots of free resources to help you create love, happiness and success in your life. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. Know someone who’s been stuck in therapy wondering where the heck to go from here? Share this episode with them and support them on their journey.

You might look like you’ve got it all together. You show up. You work hard. You smile, you joke, you say you’re “fine.” But inside? You might be carrying more than anyone knows. This is especially true for men. You’d never guess it by looking at them, but so many—maybe even someone you love—are silently carrying a weight that feels too heavy to bear. They’re suffering in silence, quietly fighting battles they don’t feel safe talking about. Not because they’re weak—but because the world taught them that real strength means not showing emotion, not needing help, not breaking down. In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I’m joined by Steve Kramer—host of the Certified Mama’s Boy Podcast and the Kramer & Jess Morning Show—for a very important conversation about the epidemic of men suffering in silence. Steve opens up about the private pain he hid behind a public smile, how disconnection and emotional isolation nearly overwhelmed him, and what helped him begin to heal. We’re shedding light on the emotional experiences so many men keep hidden—because they’ve never been taught how to talk about them, or even how to recognize what they’re feeling. We’ll talk about the real risks of going it alone, the quiet ways people often show they’re not okay even when they say they are, and how men can get the support they need. If you or someone you care about has ever felt overwhelmed, stuck, or like you’re barely holding it together behind the scenes, this conversation is for you. Timestamps: 00:00 – When Life Feels Too Heavy: Steve’s Breaking Point 01:46 – Why Are So Many Men Suffering in Silence? 03:34 – Public Smiles, Private Struggles: The Pressure to Perform 04:21 – When It’s All Too Much 08:17 – The Call That Changed Everything 15:39 – Check On Your “Happy” Friends 23:35 – How to Tell When It’s More Serious Than They’re Saying 35:39 – Loneliness vs. Depression: Understanding the Difference 37:23 – Making Friends as an Adult Is Hard—But Necessary 38:53 – Why Men Struggle With Emotional Intimacy 48:06 – What Emotional Intelligence Really Means (and How to Build It) 55:58 – The Personal Work That Keeps Steve Grounded Today 01:00:35 – How to Support a Loved One Who’s Struggling 01:05:50 – Steve’s New Definition of Happiness If this hit close to home, it’s time to take a breath and check in—with yourself, or maybe with a man you care about. Struggles that stay hidden don't just go away—they weigh you down over time, and it can start to take a toll on your health, your relationships, your life. You don’t have to figure it out all on your own. There is space for you to be honest. To get support. To be human. There is help that meets you where you are. If you’re ready to find your way again, come check out my Clarity and Confidence Coaching. You’ll learn how to reconnect with yourself, get unstuck, and create real momentum in your life. Plus, you’ll pay just a fraction of the cost of other coaches. It’s truly such an amazing value. 👉 Get on the list to join. Together, we’ll help you build a life that feels more connected, meaningful, and joyful. I hope you check it out! Also, I’d love to stay connected! Follow me on Instagram and YouTube for more insight, encouragement, and authentic conversations that support your growth. I’d love to connect with you there. 💛 Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobbywww.growingself.com P.S. If you know a man in your life that could use some support, send this podcast over to them. It could be exactly what they need to take the first step to get support.

What if the “therapist” you’re pouring your heart out to… isn’t a therapist at all? In this jaw-dropping episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I’m joined by investigative journalists Rebecca Ruiz and Lauren Krause to expose the shocking truth behind Seven Cups Therapy and the dark world of therapy fraud—including unlicensed “helpers,” fake reviews, and predatory chatrooms masquerading as support. This isn’t just about bad advice or unqualified "virtual counselors." It’s about real people being misled, emotionally exploited, and sometimes even preyed upon while they’re at their most vulnerable. We dive into how this happens, how to protect yourself (or someone you care about), and how to tell the difference between a real therapist and a clever imposter. If you've ever Googled "online therapy" late at night and clicked on what looked like a trustworthy, affordable platform, you NEED to hear this. Timestamps: 01:43 - What’s Really Going On with Online Therapy Platforms 03:44 - Seven Cups Therapy: Behind the Curtain 05:21 - Why You Shouldn't Trust Those Awards and Reviews 07:52 - "Virtual Counselors" vs. Actual Therapists 10:45 - How to Spot Therapy Fraud in the Wild 12:50 - Ethical Gray Zones in the Coaching Industry 14:56 - Red Flags of Fake Support Services 18:48 - The Danger of Marketing Funnels Masquerading as Help 21:22 - How Fake Therapy Can Harm Real People 23:02 - The Truth About Licensing, Credentials & Oversight 25:48 - Behind the Scenes at Seven Cups: A Reporter’s Story 28:32 - Inappropriate Chatroom Behavior and No Accountability 37:16 - Free Resources to Help You Make Empowered Choices If you're looking for actual therapy or coaching from trained, licensed professionals—not a chatbot or a mystery stranger in Timbuktu—you can always find help here at Growing Self. We offer real free consultations so you can find a great fit and know exactly what you're signing up for. No pressure, no weird bait-and-switch. Just ethical, expert support that actually works. 👉 Click here to schedule! We’d love to hear from you! And if this episode struck a nerve, or opened your eyes, or made you yell “WAIT, WHAT?!”—come join me on Instagram or YouTube. I break down big topics like this every week. You’ll get expert insights, practical tools, and compassionate advice to help you create love, happiness and success in your life. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who needs to hear this episode, share it with them today. Let’s look out for one another. 💛

Ever feel like no matter how hard you try, you’re still not good enough? Like you're outrunning a wolf that lives inside you, always whispering, “You’ve got more to prove”. But what if fear isn’t your enemy? What if it's actually pointing you toward your purpose? In this deeply transformative conversation with bestselling author Mary Marantz, we explore how the experiences that once made us feel underestimated—and the relentless drive to overachieve—can keep us stuck in cycles of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and fear-fueled productivity. Mary and I unpack the myths of not-enoughness, talk about the parts of ourselves that try to protect us from failure, and offer a new path forward: one where your gifts and your story become your superpowers. Get ready to look at fear differently, reclaim your confidence, and learn to move forward—not from a place of proving, but from a place of purpose. Timestamps: 00:00 – Why You're Still Not Enough (Even After All the Achievements) 02:01 – Mary’s Story: From Single-Wide Trailer to Yale Law 03:55 – Why Fear Isn’t the Villain You Think It Is 06:14 – The Power of Owning Your Hard Story 14:15 – When Fear Shows Up, You're Closer Than You Think 18:06 – Creativity, Fear, and the Impostor Trap 24:27 – What To Do With Fear When It Gets Loud 29:23 – Catching Fear in the Act 30:35 – A Totally Different Kind of Coaching 36:01 – Your Inner Critic Isn’t Evil—It's Trying to Protect You 39:24 – Procrastination, Perfectionism, and Productivity Traps 45:55 – Underestimated: When They Miss Your Magic (and You Do, Too) 55:58 – Make Art Anyway: Excellence Without Validation 57:02 – Finding Clarity and Confidence If you feel like you’re hustling for your worth—trying to prove something to someone, maybe even to yourself—it might be time for a new approach. I created Clarity and Confidence Coaching for exactly this purpose—to support brilliant, driven people just like you in shedding their limiting beliefs, getting clear on their direction, and moving forward into their dream life with confidence. Clarity and Confidence Coaching is an incredible 8-week journey led by my team of trained therapist-coaches. It’s evidence-based, transformational, and wildly affordable — just $49/session right now as part of our practicum program. You’ll be guided with depth and care and use life changing coaching strategies to rewrite your inner script and start taking action — from your strengths, not your fear. 👉 Book a free consultation to learn more and reserve your spot: Schedule Here And hey — let’s stay connected. Follow me on Instagram or subscribe on YouTube for more empowering content to help you grow. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who feels like they’re not enough, even though they’re secretly incredible? Share this with them. You might be the reason they finally see what’s been true all along. 💛

What if the secret to living your best life... is remembering that it won’t last forever? In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m joined by author and mindset coach Karen Salmansohn to explore how the ancient principle of memento mori—remembering that you will die—can radically transform the way you live right now. Together, we unpack how mortality awareness isn’t morbid at all—it’s deeply motivational. When you get clear on what truly matters, you can stop spinning your wheels and start living for meaning with clarity, courage, and joy. We’ll explore identity-based habits, reverse-engineering your values, and how writing your own eulogy (yep, really!) can actually help you build a life you’re proud to live. This isn’t about bucket lists or productivity hacks—it’s about being intentional and making sure your time, energy, and love are going exactly where you want them to. Timestamps: 0:00 – The Problem With To-Do Lists 3:12 – Facing the Funeral Test: What Will They Say About You? 6:38 – Memento Mori: Mortality as a Motivator 15:05 – Identity-Based Habits and Core Values 20:44 – Who Do You Need to Become? 24:18 – A Ripple Effect That Lasts Generations 27:35 – Aristotle’s Happiness Formula 32:10 – The Near-Life Experience We Must Escape 36:42 – Your “To-Die” List vs Your To-Do List 40:55 – Creating Daily Habits That Reflect Who You Want to Be 44:00 – What Happens When You Align With Your Core Values 47:26 – The Marble Ritual: Measuring Time With Intention 53:18 – Monthly Reflections and Making This Summer Count 58:01 – Why Fun and Gratitude Are Core Values Too 1:02:20 – It’s Not About Death—It’s About Life 1:07:08 – How to Start Living for Meaning Now Don’t wait for a crisis to wake you up. Choose to wake up now. Live for meaning. Be intentional. Remember that life is short, and that’s what makes it beautiful. And if you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed by where to begin, I’d love to help. My Clarity and Confidence Coaching was made for moments just like this one. In this powerful work, you’ll reconnect with your deepest values, rediscover your purpose, and learn how to make intentional choices that move you toward the life you truly want. Whether you’re navigating a big life transition or simply ready to stop running on autopilot, coaching gives you tools, insight, and support to create lasting, meaningful change. Curious if it’s right for you? You can schedule a free consultation with our team. We’ll talk about where you are, where you want to go, and how clarity and confidence coaching can help you bridge the gap. Also, come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube — I’m always sharing tips, inspiration, and behind-the-scenes real talk to help you stay connected to what really matters. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If this message resonated with you, think of someone in your life who might need to hear it too. Forward this article to them. Let’s keep the ripple going. That’s living for meaning, too.

Ever looked around and thought, “I hate my life… I don’t want to do this anymore”? If that’s where you are right now—first of all, I’m giving you a big virtual hug. Second of all, you’re not broken, you’re not failing, and you’re on the right track. This moment could be the best thing that’s happened to you in a long time. Why? Because that awful, burn-it-all-down energy can also be your launchpad to something way, way better. In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I’ll walk you through my step-by-step process to help you stop spiraling, get clear, and create a life you’re genuinely excited to wake up to. It’s time to harness the power of that personal meltdown and turn it into the catalyst for a total life upgrade. Timestamps: 0:00 – The “I Hate My Life” Moment: Why It’s Actually a Gift 2:36 – Your Inner Flare Gun: Pain as Your Wake-Up Call 5:20 – Step 1: Get Honest About What’s Not Working 8:12 – Step 2: Define What You Do Want (With Real Specifics) 12:47 – Step 3: The Real Reason You’re Stuck—Obstacles and Skills Gaps 17:09 – Step 4: Ask the Power Question That Changes Everything 21:42 – Step 5: Build Your Action Plan (One Small Step at a Time) 25:33 – When It’s More Than Frustration: Signs of Depression & What To Do 30:55 – What Comes Next: From Stuck to Strategy If you’re sitting there thinking, "Yes. This is exactly where I am and I’m ready to change," I want you to know: you don’t have to figure this out alone. My Clarity and Confidence Coaching is designed for moments just like this. We’ll help you get unstuck, gain clarity on what you really want, identify obstacles (including sneaky internal ones), and create a plan that actually works. The best part? You can book a free consultation call right now to save your seat in the next coaching cohort and see if this program is a good fit for your hopes and goals. You’ll get to work with one of our expert therapists trained in coaching psychology at a fraction of the normal cost. Because money should never be the thing that keeps you stuck. Oh! And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram or subscribe on YouTube. I share interviews with experts, motivational tips, and evidence-based strategies to create love, happiness, and success in your life. I’d love to see you there. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone else who's silently thinking “I hate my life”? Be their light today. Share this video with them. You might just change everything. 💫

Let’s be honest: if overthinking were an Olympic sport, I would’ve medaled by age ten. And attempts to stop overthinking often never work or they unintentionally make it worse. You too? Then friend, you’re in the right place. As a therapist and coach, I’ve worked with thousands of thoughtful, high-achieving, big-hearted humans who are amazing at thinking things through—but sometimes that superpower turns into a mental trap. The good news? You can absolutely re-train your brain to work for you instead of against you. In this episode, we’ll talk about what overthinking really is, how it’s different from anxiety, and the science-backed skills you can start using today to stop overthinking so you can finally find peace, trust yourself, and move forward with clarity and confidence. Timestamps: 00:00 – Understanding Overthinking: The Basics 01:23 – When Caring Becomes Overthinking: Personality Traits That Fuel It 03:06 – Is It Anxiety or Just Overthinking? Here’s How to Tell 06:11 – 3 Steps to Stop Overthinking and Rewire Your Brain 09:52 – Overthinking in Relationships: How to Stop the Spiral 14:53 – Mastering Emotional Intelligence to Calm Your Mind 16:43 – When to Get Help: Coaching, Therapy, and Real Solution If you're not totally sure why you're stuck in your head all the time, my free quiz What’s Holding You Back? is the perfect next step. It’ll help you uncover the mental and emotional patterns that might be fueling your overthinking—and give you personalized insight to start shifting out of it. Think of it like a flashlight for your inner world. And if you’re ready for real change, you don’t have to figure this out alone. At Growing Self, our team of expert therapists and coaches offers support that’s actually effective. Whether you need therapy to tackle deeper anxiety or evidence-based coaching to build confidence and emotional intelligence, schedule a free consultation with us to get matched with someone who’s a great fit for you. No pressure. Just help. Lastly, let’s stay connected! I’m always sharing new tools, insights, and behind-the-scenes goodies on Instagram and YouTube. Follow me there for weekly insights and support on your growth journey. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone whose brain just won’t shhh lately? Be a good friend and share this episode with them. It might be exactly what they need today. 💛

There are few questions more terrifying, more soul-shaking, or more likely to keep you awake at 3 a.m. than this one: How to know when your marriage is over? I mean… whew. Just saying that out loud makes my stomach flip. As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I’ve walked this path with many people, and in this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I’ll help you walk through it too—with clarity, compassion, and courage. Today we’re unpacking the hidden signs, hard truths, and hopeful possibilities around one of life’s biggest crossroads. We’ll talk about the difference between a rough patch and a dead end, what to do if your partner won’t engage, and how to get the real support you need to move forward confidently—whether that means healing your relationship or letting it go. Timestamps: 00:00 – Is It Over? The Emotional Toll of Not Knowing 02:47 – When Your Relationship Lives in the Gray Zone 10:40 – Why "Couples Counseling" Often Doesn’t Work—and What Does 31:02 – What Is Discernment Coaching, and How Can It Help? 49:41 – Free Resources + Your Next Right Step I’ve put together a free resource that might help you take the next step: my How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It’s a quick and insightful tool that can help you see where things are strong, where they’re struggling, and what might be possible. You’ll also get a custom report with suggestions you can actually use. You can find the quiz right here on my website. If you're ready to talk to someone about your relationship — whether you're hoping to repair it or just looking for clarity — my team and I are here. You can book a free consultation call and we’ll help you find the right next step, whether that’s discernment coaching, relationship therapy, or support just for you. And hey — I’d love to stay connected. You can find me on Instagram and YouTube where I’m always sharing tips, tools, and a little bit of love to help you create the life and relationships you deserve. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who’s going through this exact same thing? Maybe they’re stuck in the gray zone too, or quietly suffering through something they haven’t told anyone about. Please send this their way. You never know — sharing this episode might be the first step toward their healing.

Ever feel like your ex is living rent-free in your head, even though the relationship is so over? Whether it’s been weeks, months, or (gulp) years since your breakup, if you’re wondering “Why do I keep thinking about my ex?” and you’re still caught in a loop of thoughts, memories, or even fantasies about them, I made this episode just for you. I know firsthand — both as a therapist and from my own experience — that getting stuck on an ex is exhausting. But there is a path forward. In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I’m walking you through exactly why this happens (spoiler alert: it’s not your fault — it’s biology), and more importantly, how to finally break free so you can move forward into peace, clarity, and emotional freedom. Timestamps: 00:00 – Why Do I Keep Thinking About My Ex? 06:30 – Love and Addiction: Your Brain on Heartbreak 14:58 – The Truth About Breakup Recovery 28:17 – Emotional Loose Ends: The Silent Saboteur 38:05 – Rebuilding Your Self & Reclaiming Your Future 48:14 – You’re Not Doomed to Keep Thinking About Your Ex If your ex is still living rent-free in your mind, please know you don’t have to stay stuck here. The first step to getting your power back is understanding exactly where you are in your healing process. That’s why I created a free tool just for you. 👉 Take the Breakup Quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You? In just a few minutes, this quiz will show you which stage of healing you’re in — and what specific steps will help you move forward. Whether you're still in emotional withdrawal or starting to let go, you'll get personalized insight and a roadmap for what to do next. And, if you're tired of spinning in circles, overthinking every memory, every mistake, every what-if — you don’t have to navigate this alone. Sometimes, the fastest way to start feeling better is simply talking to someone who truly gets it. Our team at Growing Self includes licensed therapists and breakup recovery coaches who specialize in this kind of healing work. 👉 Schedule a Free Consultation — to talk to one of the experts on our team and take the next brave step toward peace, healing, and freedom. You deserve to feel like yourself again. And yes, it’s absolutely possible to stop thinking about your ex — not because you forced yourself to forget, but because you’ve grown into someone who no longer needs to hold on. And you can start your healing today. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who keeps spiraling over their ex, share this with them. Forward the link, post it on your story, or send them a little nudge. Be the friend who helps them start healing.

Ever wake up at 3am thinking, “What am I doing with my life?” If so, you are not alone—and you are definitely not lost. In this inspiring episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m joined by bestselling author, NYU professor, and former editor-in-chief of the Harvard Business Review, Suzy Welch, to help you get the career clarity and alignment that you deserve. Suzy shares her personal journey of reinvention and introduces her life-changing methodology from her new book, Becoming You. This isn’t just motivational fluff. We’re talking concrete tools and research-backed frameworks to help you get clarity around your path, stop second-guessing yourself, and make empowered choices about your life and career—without burning it all down. Timestamps: 00:00 – “What Am I Doing With My Life?" 02:20 – Suzy Welch’s Story 05:55 – Discovering Your Real Values 14:57 – What to Do When the Lighthouse Goes Dark 29:35 – The 3-Part Framework That Changes Lives 35:23 – The Value of “Scope”: Big Life vs. Little Life 40:13 – Eudemonia and Generational Differences 43:35 – Aptitudes, Personality, and the Enneagram 47:23 – Don’t Quit the Job Yet: Is It the Role or the Culture? 52:45 – Conclusion and Final Thoughts I hope this episode inspired you as much as it did me. And I want you to know you don’t have to figure this out on your own. Our Clarity and Confidence Coaching pairs you with an expert therapist trained in coaching psychology to help you uncover your purpose, break through fear and confusion, and take decisive steps toward a fulfilling career. You can schedule a free consultation to talk to an expert on our team. No pressure, just a warm, judgment-free conversation with someone who truly understands. This is your moment to stop second-guessing and start moving forward — with clarity, courage, and real support. And hey — if you’re not already following me on Instagram or YouTube, come say hi! I’m always sharing bite-sized wisdom, clips from interviews with experts, and free resources to support you on your journey to love, happiness, and success. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you thought of someone while listening to this—someone who’s been feeling lost or unclear about their career path—share this episode with them. It might be exactly the breakthrough they need.

Have you ever caught yourself reaching for a glass of wine, scrolling endlessly, or obsessively organizing your to-do list… and thought, Wait, why am I doing this again?! You might not think of yourself as "addicted" — but what if you’re using these “fixes” to soothe something deeper? In today’s episode, I’m sitting down with the incredible Ian Morgan Cron — bestselling author, psychotherapist, and spiritual teacher — to unpack a radical idea: We’re all a little bit addicted. Whether it’s people-pleasing, overworking, or that toxic relationship you just can't quit, we’re diving deep into why we get stuck, how the 12-step process can change your life (even if you don’t have a “capital A” addiction), and how to truly heal from the inside out. You’ll walk away with a totally new roadmap for transformation — and trust me, by the end of this episode, you’re going to feel empowered, enlightened, and ready to love yourself and your life in a whole new way. Let’s do this! Timestamps: 00:00 – Why You Keep Going Back to Your "Fix" 01:21 – Meet Ian Morgan Cron: Author, Therapist, Spiritual Teacher 01:45 – The 12 Steps: Not Just for “Addicts” Anymore 07:55 – What the Enneagram Reveals About You 11:46 – Applying the 12 Steps to Everyday Life 24:57 – The Freedom in Admitting You're Powerless 40:40 – Feeling “Not at Home” in Yourself? 41:36 – The Dangerous Myth of the "Quick Fix" 44:37 – The Paradox of Letting Go and Taking Responsibility 53:13 – Addictions, Trauma, and the Road to Compassion 56:51 – Real Stories of Radical Transformation 59:50 – You Are Not Alone: Why Community Heals 1:11:19 – Next Steps for Your Healing Journey If you found yourself nodding along today — realizing that maybe, just maybe, there’s a “fix” that’s been holding you back — I've got the perfect next step for you. Take my free What's Holding You Back? Quiz! It’s designed to help you get crystal clear on the hidden patterns, habits, or beliefs that might be quietly running the show in your life. Once you see what’s really going on beneath the surface, it becomes so much easier to break free and move forward with confidence, clarity, and strength. And if you're ready for even deeper growth, let’s talk! Schedule a free consultation with one of the talented coaches or therapists at Growing Self. We'll help you put everything you’re learning into action — so you can finally create the joyful, thriving life you deserve. Oh, and don’t forget — let's stay connected! Come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube for more real talk, fresh inspiration, and plenty of support. We're in this together. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobbywww.growingself.com P.S. If you thought of someone while listening to this episode — maybe a friend who’s been struggling or could just use a little love and insight — Please share this episode with them. A little encouragement can change everything.

What if your anxiety, brain fog, or mood swings aren’t in your mind... but in your mitochondria? I know—that sounds wild. But in this jaw-dropping episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I’m talking with Dr. Bret Scher about something that completely changed the way I think about mental health: Metabolic Psychiatry. We dive into the cutting-edge (but surprisingly old!) science behind mind and energy psychiatry that connects mental health challenges like depression, anxiety, ADHD, and even serious psychiatric conditions with how your body uses energy. Spoiler alert: your brain runs on fuel, and what you eat matters a lot more than we were taught in grad school. Together, Dr. Scher and I unpack how ketogenic therapy is helping people reclaim their mental clarity, lift mood disorders, and, in some cases, experience complete transformation. If you’ve been “doing the work” and still not feeling like yourself, this conversation might be the missing piece you’ve been searching for. Timestamps: 00:00 The Link Between Metabolism and Mental Health 01:17 Dr. Brett Scher and Metabolic Psychiatry 02:39 The History and Science Behind Ketogenic Therapy 10:36 Exploring the Ketogenic Diet and Its Benefits 17:59 Implementing a Ketogenic Diet 30:32 Patient Transformations and Success Stories 32:23 Impact of Ketogenic Diet on Mental Health 33:35 Inflammation and Brain Function 34:46 Ketogenic Therapy vs. Traditional Approaches 39:11 GLP-1 Drugs and Metabolic Health 42:42 Implementing Dietary Changes in Families 46:01 Ketogenic Diet for Autism Spectrum Disorders 49:27 Comparing Ketogenic and Plant-Based Diets 52:23 Resources and Final Thoughts I learned SO much from chatting with Dr. Scher. I hope you did too. If you're ready for a more personalized approach to start feeling like yourself again—clear, focused, calm, and energized—I’d love for you to check out my Clarity & Confidence Coaching. It’s a powerful way to build self-awareness and make meaningful changes in your life while getting expert support and structure from a licensed therapist trained in coaching psychology. You can book a free consultation call to take the next step. We’ll answer all of your questions and help you get started. And hey, let’s stay connected! You can find me sharing more science-meets-heart insights over on Instagram and YouTube—where I drop fresh content every week to help you grow, thrive, and live your best life. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you thought of someone while listening to this—someone who’s been struggling, or who’s always trying to "fix their mindset" but nothing’s working—share this episode with them. It might be exactly the breakthrough they need.

Ever feel like you’ve been in therapy forever and nothing’s actually changing? Or maybe you have a life coach that loves to just hang out and vibe instead of actually helping you reach your goals? In this eye-opening episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on something that has been driving me absolutely bonkers for years—and might be costing you time, money, and progress. If you’ve ever felt stuck in therapy, underwhelmed by coaching, or just totally confused about which path is right for your growth, this one’s for you. I’m talking about the real difference between coaching versus counseling, why one might be the wrong fit for what you actually need, and how to finally choose the right support system that gets results (without wasting another minute or dollar). Whether you're working on your relationship, your career, or your confidence, this episode will help you get clarity around your path forward. Timestamps: 00:00 Unveiling a Hidden Industry Secret 01:35 The Therapy Gap: Why Traditional Methods Fall Short 06:18 Understanding the Different Types of Therapy 23:34 The Rise of Coaching: A New Solution? 24:26 The Wild West of Coaching: Risks and Realities 34:31 Finding the Right Help: Therapy vs. Coaching 38:29 Evidence-Based Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program 45:54 Conclusion and Next Steps If you’re nodding along and thinking, “Yes, this is what I’ve been missing,” I’d love to invite you into our Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program. This is a results-driven, action-oriented coaching experience designed for people who are ready to make real changes—not just talk about them. What makes it different? It’s led by licensed therapists who are trained in evidence-based coaching psychology—so you get both the depth and the direction. No fluff. No therapy traps. Just growth that actually sticks. Schedule a free consultation call to see if it’s a good fit. We’ll talk about what you’re working on, where you feel stuck, and how we can help you move forward with clarity and confidence. If you want to keep learning and growing, I’d love to connect with you on Instagram and YouTube! Come hang out with me and get tons of free insights and encouragement every week. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who’s stuck in therapy, overwhelmed by coaching options, or just craving something real? Share this video with them. You might just be the reason they finally find what works.

Ever feel like you're stuck in molasses with zero motivation, energy, or sparkle? Me too, friend. Let’s talk about how to get out of a slump. In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, we’re diving deep into that “meh” space we all land in from time to time. Maybe your house is a mess, your energy is flatlined, and your dinner for the third night in a row is fried takeout. Here’s the thing, slumps happen. And they are 100% resolvable. I’ll be unpacking why these slumps sneak in, what they really mean, and most importantly—how to actually get out of them. I’m sharing science-backed strategies, personal stories, and the little mindset and habit shifts that truly move the needle. By the end of this episode, you’ll have your very own slump-busting plan—and you’ll know exactly where to start, whether you need a mindset shift, a behavior reboot, or both. Timestamps: 00:00 — Slumps are normal (but let’s not stay there) 06:18 — How to spot your personal “uh-oh” signs 10:32 — Slump vs. Depression: What you really need to know 24:44 — Why slumps happen: burnout, transitions, and mystery fogs 31:55 — Lifestyle habits that quietly wreck your vibe 33:17 — Why trying to “feel better” first doesn’t work 34:24 — What to do instead (this changes everything) 42:51 — Create your personalized slump-busting strategy 52:28 — Quick wins: tiny shifts that make a big impact 57:54 — Your next steps to get back to YOU If you’re ready for a real, lasting reset—come join me and my amazing team in the Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program. This is where the magic happens. Together, we’ll help you reconnect with your sense of purpose, build habits that actually support the life you want, and shift the unhelpful thoughts that have been keeping you stuck. It’s not about a temporary mood boost—it’s about creating true, sustainable transformation from the inside out. Schedule your free consultation now and let’s start building your breakthrough together. And, I’d love for us to stay connected! Each week, I drop a new podcast episode and share resources to help you create love, happiness, and success in your life. I also go live every Thursday on Instagram and Youtube to talk about the topic of the week and answer all of your questions. So check out the full podcast episode and join me on Thursday at 12pm MT / 2pm EST. I’d be so glad to see you! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com

Ever leave a conversation feeling like your brain’s been scrambled and you’re not sure why? Maybe you’re suddenly questioning your own reality, feeling guilty, or bending over backwards for someone who... let’s be real, might not deserve it? If that sounds familiar, pull up a chair, my friend. Today, we’re pulling back the curtain on manipulation—not to teach you these tactics (please don’t use them!), but so you can spot them, disarm them, and never get played again. In this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I’m breaking down the five most common manipulative tactics, why they work so well, and how to protect yourself—with confidence, clarity, and maybe even a little compassion. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Welcome to the dark side (just kidding... kind of) 01:28 – Why manipulation works on good people 04:51 – Awareness is your superpower 06:01 – Guilt-tripping 101: How they hook you 09:07 – How to disarm a guilt trip like a boss 18:03 – Playing the victim: When empathy is used against you 31:36 – Love bombing: It’s not just for dating apps 33:01 – Healthy relationships take time (and boundaries) 36:55 – Narcissists, splitting, and people who come on way too strong 43:22 – Withdrawal + passive aggression = manipulation in disguise 54:11 – Let’s talk about gaslighting (finally!) 01:01:18 – What to do if you have vulnerabilities that get you caught in this stuff If you’re realizing that certain relationships in your life are way more complicated than they should be—or if you’ve been stuck in a cycle of guilt, confusion, or second-guessing yourself—you don’t have to stay there. You deserve support. You deserve clarity. You deserve healthy connections. Come connect with me and my amazing team at Growing Self and schedule your free consultation. Whether you’re looking for therapy or coaching, we’re here to help you break free from toxic patterns and build the life and relationships you actually want. And hey—don’t be a stranger! You can find me on Instagram and YouTube for even more real-talk, tools, and live Q&A sessions. Let’s grow together. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who’s been struggling with manipulation in their relationships? Be a good friend—share this with them. It might be the lightbulb moment they’ve been waiting for. 💡❤️

Tired of being your own worst critic? What if I told you that positivity isn’t something you’re born with—it’s a skill you can learn? ✨ In this powerful episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I sit down with Dr. Nick Holton of the Anti-Fragile Academy to explore how to be a more positive person—without ignoring your difficult emotions or pretending everything is fine when it’s not. Because here’s the truth: toxic positivity isn’t helpful, and sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is feel your feelings and grow from them. We’re diving deep into the science of positive psychology, how to stop gaslighting yourself with "just think positive" advice, and practical mindset-shifting tools that can help you feel stronger, more resilient, and yes—more joyful, too. Timestamps: 00:00 – Why ‘just be positive’ backfires 01:12 – Meet Dr. Nick Holton 03:18 – What positive psychology actually is 04:38 – The real role of emotions in your wellbeing 06:33 – How to start changing your mindset 08:09 – Growth vs. Fixed Mindsets 10:32 – Why acceptance is the missing piece in positivity 21:25 – The power of gratitude 31:24 – You don’t control performance (and why that’s great news) 33:10 – Visualizing failure? Yep—it’s a secret to resilience 34:41 – What elite athletes know about mindset that you should too 40:16 – Turning trauma into growth: How to bounce forward 42:51 – Want to feel better? Expand your emotional vocabulary 48:32 – What passion + perseverance have to do with great relationships 54:20 – Access real growth tools If you're craving more clarity, joy, and empowerment in your life—or if you’re just feeling a little stuck and unsure how to shift your mindset—this episode is filled with practical wisdom that can help. And if you’re ready to take the next step, we’re here for you. Book a free consultation at Growing Self, and we’ll help you get matched with the right therapist or coach for you. Whether you want to work on your mindset, your relationships, your career, or all of the above, our team of warm, experienced experts can help you start moving forward with confidence and clarity. I’d also love to connect with you beyond the podcast! Subscribe to my channel on YouTube for weekly videos packed with insights on love, happiness, and success—and follow me on Instagram for expert advice, bite-size interviews, and daily encouragement. We’re building a community of growth-minded, big-hearted humans, and you belong with us. Thanks for being here with me today. Sending you so much love—and I’ll see you in the next one! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who could use a positivity boost today, send this episode over to them. Let’s help each other grow. 🌱

Ever wonder why your relationship with money feels so complicated? It’s more than just dollars and cents—it’s emotional, it’s psychological, and it deeply affects your life and relationships. Today, I'm talking with a marriage and family therapist who specializes in financial therapy, Jillian Knight. We're diving into why understanding your relationship with money can be a total game-changer for your finances, career, and relationships. From unconscious money beliefs to how your upbringing shapes your financial habits, we cover it all. Whether you're struggling with debt, feeling anxious about spending, or having money-related conflicts with your partner, this conversation is for YOU. In this episode, we’ll discuss: What happens when we’re not self-aware about our relationship with money How money scripts influence our behaviors and decisions Why it’s crucial to approach money with empathy—not shame And most importantly, how to shift your money mindset to build a healthier, more balanced financial life Timestamps: 00:00 – Exploring Your Relationship with Money 00:49 – Introducing Jillian Knight: Financial Therapy Expert 01:21 – Understanding the Impact of Money Beliefs 04:49 – The Cultural Ideals of Financial Management 06:39 – Challenging Authoritarian Financial Advice 08:07 – Personal Stories and Financial Therapy Insights 10:53 – The Importance of Compassion in Financial Health 19:31 – Identifying Your Money Scripts 23:13 – Exploring the Enneagram and Money 24:46 – Couples and Money Dynamics 28:39 – Understanding Money Stories 33:30 – Identifying Core Needs and Triggers 36:55 – Building Bridges and Shared Goals 42:12 – Conclusion and Resources I know talking about money can feel uncomfortable. That’s why conversations like this one are so important! I also created something to help you navigate those tough financial conversations with love, empathy, and understanding—without the stress or conflict.. Check out my Communication That Connects 2-part training. You’ll learn how to approach money talks in a way that strengthens your relationships, rather than creating distance. I hope you check it out! Also, let’s connect on Instagram and Youtube! I drop a new podcast every week with interviews just like this one so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I also go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms. I chat about the topic of the week and answer any questions you might have live. This week, I’ll be digging into your relationship to money! Let’s break free from old financial patterns together and build a future where money feels like a source of freedom, not stress. See you there! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobbywww.growingself.com P.S. If this episode was helpful for you, share it with a friend or family member who could use the info too!

Ever wonder why your child melts down over the tiniest thing—or how to actually help them navigate big emotions? Today, we’re diving into the world of Child-Centered Play Therapy, an evidence-based approach that helps kids build confidence, self-regulation, and emotional resilience… all through PLAY. I’m joined by the amazing Dr. Brenna Hicks, a specialist in helping parents use these techniques at home to create a happier, calmer family environment. Whether you have a preschooler, a strong-willed school-age kid, or a moody teen, this conversation will give you powerful tools to understand your child’s emotional world—and strengthen your bond in the process. We’re covering: What makes Child-Centered Play Therapy different from other approaches How play can help kids process emotions (even when words fail!) What really causes tantrums and dysregulation Simple therapist-approved parenting strategies you can start using today How to know if your child might need therapy—and how to find the right therapist Timestamps: 03:29 - What is Child-Centered Play Therapy (and why does it work?) 09:27 - The parent’s role in play therapy (and why it’s a game-changer!) 16:03 - Why kids “act out” and what’s really going on 23:09 - The surprising science behind play as therapy 34:41 - How therapy transforms kids from anxious to confident 36:27 - What to do if your child is struggling emotionally 43:20 - How to tell if a therapist is actually qualified to help your child 47:58 - Parenting tips: What to say (and what not to say) to your kid 53:11 - When to seek professional help & what to look for in a therapist 01:02:49 - Resources, next steps & final thoughts I know how much you love your child and want the absolute best for them. Parenting is one of the most rewarding—and challenging—jobs in the world, and sometimes, we all need a little extra guidance and encouragement. That’s why I created the Happy Families Collection—a curated set of expert tips, strategies, and insights designed to help you build a stronger, more connected, and emotionally healthy family. ✨ 👉 Access the Happy Families Collection here! And if you loved this episode, let’s stay connected! Find me on Instagram for daily inspiration and expert-backed advice, and don’t forget to subscribe on YouTube for even more deep-dive conversations so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. You’re doing an amazing job, and I’m so honored to be on this journey with you! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know a parent who could benefit from this episode, share it with them! I know personally that us parents really appreciate the love and support.

Ever felt like you completely lost yourself in a relationship? Like one day you woke up and thought, Wait… who even am I anymore? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and, spoiler alert, it’s not just in your head. There’s real science behind why we fuse our identities with our partners and why breakups can feel like more than just heartbreak—they can feel like an identity crisis. In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with relationship scientist Dr. Morgan Cope to break down the psychology behind losing yourself in a relationship, why it happens, and most importantly—how to rebuild your identity after love. Whether you're freshly single, in a relationship that feels too enmeshed, or just curious about how relationships shape our sense of self, this episode is packed with insights, humor, and practical strategies to help you come back to YOU. Timestamps: 00:00 - Is Losing Yourself in a Relationship a Real Thing? 00:35 - Meet Dr. Morgan Cope & Her Research on Relationships & Identity 01:00 Understanding Identity in Relationships 03:07 - Attachment Styles and Identity 07:30 - Impact of Breakups on Identity 24:42 - Mental and Physical Effects of Breakups 30:27 - Fear of Being Single 32:02 - Changing the Environment vs Changing Yourself 36:56 - Rebounding and Self-Expansion 39:14 - Identity and Values Assessment 44:11 - Cult Psychology and Group Identity 51:21 - Personal Growth Through Relationship Challenges Feeling lost after a breakup? I know how hard it can be to find yourself again, so I created something to help you out on your healing journey. Check out my FREE Breakup Recovery Quiz to get personalized insights on where you are in your healing journey & how to move forward so you can begin to feel like yourself again. And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! You can find me on YouTube or Instagram. Every week, I drop a new podcast episode dedicated to your personal growth and healing so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I hope to see you there! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who might need to hear this? Share this video with a friend who’s struggling in their relationship or going through a tough breakup. 💕

Ever feel like therapy is supposed to help you move on after a breakup… but instead, you’re just rehashing your pain over and over again? The truth is that most therapists are not actually trained in breakup recovery—which means traditional therapy for breakups might be keeping you stuck instead of helping you move forward. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why therapy for breakups doesn’t always work, and what actually does. If you’re tired of feeling like you’re trapped in an endless loop of overthinking, heartbreak, and emotional pain—definitely give this a listen. I break down: The missing pieces in traditional therapy for breakups The 8 essential stages of breakup recovery (skip one and you stay stuck!) Why your brain reacts to breakups like a drug withdrawal (and how to cut the cords) The biggest myths about healing after a breakup that keep you spinning in circles Timestamps: 00:00 - The Problem With Therapy For Breakups (Nobody Talks About This!) 00:51 - Why Therapists Aren’t Trained in Heartbreak Recovery 02:47 - My Journey: From Therapist to Breakup Specialist 15:49 - How Your Biological Attachment System Keeps You Stuck 24:10 - The Real Path to Moving On (hint: it’s NOT what you think!) 26:25 - The Eight Stages of Heartbreak Recovery (Which one are you stuck in?) 34:23 - For You: Heartbreak Recovery Resources I know how hard this is. If you’ve been feeling stuck, like no matter what you do, you just can’t seem to move on—please know that it’s not your fault. Healing from heartbreak is a process, and if you don’t have the right map, it’s so easy to stay lost in the pain. That’s exactly why I created the Breakup Recovery Quiz—to help you get clarity on where you are in your healing journey and what might be holding you back from truly letting go. It’s completely free, and I made it just for you, so you can finally start moving forward. And if today’s conversation resonated with you, I really encourage you to check out my other podcast episodes and follow me on Instagram and Youtube. Every week, I share my years of expertise and interviews with experts so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success you deserve! Here’s to your healing and growth. 🌱 Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who could use a little bit of support today as they navigate their breakup, share this episode with them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear today. ❤️

That moment when you see your ex looking happier than ever with someone new—while you're still crying in the bathroom at work? Yeah… it’s brutal. You might be wondering to yourself, “Why did my ex move on so fast? Did they care about me AT ALL?” But before you spiral, let's talk about what’s really happening here and dig into how you can finally move on too. In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I'm breaking down the psychology behind why some people seem to bounce back instantly (spoiler: it’s not always what it seems). You’ll also learn why your path—however slow and painful it may feel—is actually the healthiest, strongest, and most transformational. By the end of this podcast, you’ll understand: Why your ex seems to be over it (and why that may not be the whole story) The biggest mistake people make when they rush into something new What avoidant attachment has to do with it (and why it’s not about you) How to turn your pain into fuel for real growth and healing Grab a cup of tea and get cozy. This one is for YOU. Timestamps: 00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?! 01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind 02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go 06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In? 16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!) 21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure 29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD 34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You I know how hard this is. Going through the breakup recovery process can be long and grueling, but you don’t have to figure this all out on your own. As a licensed therapist and psychologist specializing in relationships and heartbreak, I’ve seen people grow and thrive after a breakup time and time again. And you can do it too. I took all of the information I’ve learned over the years and created a free Heartbreak Recovery Quiz to help you on your journey to reclaim your heart and your life. By taking this quiz, you’ll be able to figure out exactly where you are in your healing journey—and what steps to take next. You’ll get a personalized roadmap to moving forward with clarity and confidence. I hope this helps. ❤️ Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who needs a little extra support today, send this podcast episode over to them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear.

Ever feel like your ex is still haunting you? You’re living your best life, maybe even in a happy, healthy relationship—so WHY do they keep popping up in your head, completely uninvited? If you've ever caught yourself late-night stalking their Instagram (oops), wondering what if?, or feeling like you just can’t shake the past, don’t worry. There are steps you can take to move forward. In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I dive deep into why you still think about your ex—even when you don’t want to. We’ll talk about the science of attachment, why your brain keeps looping back, and—most importantly—how to finally break free. Timestamps: 00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?! 01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind 02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go 06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In? 16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!) 21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure 29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD 34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You I know how hard it can be to feel stuck in the past when all you really want is to move forward and feel at peace. If today’s conversation resonated with you, I have some resources that can help. First, if you’re wondering why this is happening to you and what you can do about it, I invite you to take my Heartbreak Recovery Quiz. It’s a free tool designed to help you understand where you are in the healing process and what specific steps you can take next to finally be free of the past. Healing is possible, and you will get through it. And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! Come join my live stream this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube or Instagram. We’ll be talking more about why you still think about your ex—and I’ll be answering your questions live. Whether you need advice, reassurance, or just a supportive space, come chat with me. Sending you warmth and support, always. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who could use this advice? Share this video with them—it might be exactly what they need to hear today. ❤️

What if the secret to transforming your relationships wasn’t about saying more, but saying it better? I know how hard it can be when communication in your relationship just isn’t working. Those moments when you’re trying so hard to connect, but it feels like you’re speaking two different languages—they’re exhausting and heartbreaking. I’ve seen so many people struggling with this, and I want you to know it doesn’t have to be this way! This week on the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sat down with Charles Duhigg, New York Times bestselling author of Supercommunicators, to dive into how to be a better communicator. We talk about the importance of knowing what kind of conversations you’re having, how to ask better questions to unlock deeper connections, and steps to actually hearing and understanding each other. Whether you’re trying to connect with a partner, a friend, or even a coworker, this conversation is packed with eye-opening insights and actionable tips to help you truly get and be gotten. Chapters: 00:00 - Why communication is the ultimate relationship glue 00:35 - Meet Charles Duhigg, your new favorite communication guru 07:38 - Game-changing tips to up your communication game 08:57 - The art of asking deep, meaningful questions 17:31 - What really works in tough conversations 28:30 - Identifying what people really need from you 31:58 - Building trust through listening and understanding 36:02 - Redefining the goal of conversations 37:49 - Resources for communication skill building My favorite takeaway from this episode was that you don’t have to be born a “supercommunicator.” These are skills that you can learn and improve with practice. So if you’re thinking “Heck yes! I’m ready for some growth!”, check out my free Communication That Connects 2-Part Training. It’s a step-by-step guide to help you understand what’s really going on beneath the disconnect, and how to rebuild the trust and emotional safety that can get lost along the way. Together, we’ll explore tools and strategies to stop the cycle of conflict, restore your connection, and start creating a more positive chapter for your relationships. Also, let’s connect on Instagram or YouTube! I go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms, diving deeper into topics just like this one and answering all of your personal questions. So check out this episode, and then come chat with me! I’m here to help. 🩵 Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. Know someone who could use this guidance? Maybe a partner or a bestie struggling to communicate? Share this with them! Because better communication makes the world (and your group chats) a much better place.

How are you really sleeping these days? Be honest—are you waking up feeling refreshed, or is it more like dragging yourself out of bed and powering through the day on fumes? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Sleep is a huge part of feeling like your best self, but it’s so easy to overlook. In this podcast episode, I’m sitting down with my friend, Dr. Michelle Okun, a health psychologist and sleep scientist. We’re talking about how sleep impacts literally everything—your mood, your stress levels, your health, and even your energy. We’re diving into the science of why sleep matters and the simple things you can do to feel like your best self again. Don’t worry, your sleep helpline is here! So, grab a cup of tea, cozy up, and let’s talk about how to get the rest you need to feel amazing. You deserve this! 💖 Timestamps: 00:00 – Tired and Stressed? Let’s Fix That! 00:41 – Meet Dr. Michelle Okun 02:12 – The Surprising Ways Sleep Impacts Your Life 06:48 – Stress, Cortisol, and Sleep 09:56 – How Stress Keeps You Awake (and How to Fix It) 19:42 – Common Causes of Sleep Issues 23:40 – When to Consider a Sleep Study 32:09 – Practical Sleep Tips That Actually Work 50:08 – Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia 53:50 – Resources to Improve Your Life I hope this podcast was as helpful for you as it was for me. I learned so much from Dr. Okun! If you’re ready to take the next step or just curious about what might be holding you back—whether it’s sleep-related or just something in your overall wellness—check out my free What’s Holding You Back? Quiz. Gaining clarity and self-awareness around the places in my life where I needed some extra love and attention was a huge game changer for me. This quiz will give you the same insights so you can start taking steps to thrive in your life. If you have questions or want to chat with me more about this, I’d love for you to join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 PM MT on Instagram and YouTube! I’m diving even deeper into how to improve your sleep and answering your questions live. Oh, and don’t forget to subscribe and hit the bell! I’m here every week sharing insights and resources with you so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success that you deserve. Let’s figure this out together, friend! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com PS: If you know someone who’s running on empty and could use this advice, send this podcast their way. Sleep is life-changing, and we all deserve to wake up feeling amazing! 😴✨

Recently diagnosed with adult ADHD (or thinking that you probably should be?) Well friend, welcome to the club, and I'm glad you're here to learn all about the upside of ADHD superpowers! In this episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast, I sit down with my colleague and fellow therapist, Jesse S., to talk about the ups and downs of ADHD—especially when you’re diagnosed as an adult. Together, we share our personal stories (and some laughs!) about what it’s like to navigate life with ADHD—before and after diagnosis. We dive deep into the challenges, relationship struggles, and unexpected upside of ADHD superpowers, while offering practical tools to help you thrive. Timestamps: 00:00 Is This You? Recognizing ADHD as an Adult 00:42 Meet Jesse S.! 02:12 The “Aha!” Moment That Changed Everything 03:49 How to Get Diagnosed: Jesse’s Journey 05:07 Life Before and After Diagnosis 17:06 ADHD and Relationships 23:42 Struggles, Self-Esteem, and Stigma 26:39 Thriving in School and Work 28:29 Finding Your Zone 30:18 Structure for ADHD Success 39:46 Boosting Brainpower: Sleep, Nutrition, and Hydration 42:20 Resources and Words of Hope Living with ADHD can feel like a whirlwind—your creativity and energy can light up a room, but staying organized or focused might sometimes feel like an uphill battle. And let’s be real: when ADHD gets in the way of meeting expectations (yours or others'), it can take a toll on your self-esteem. The good news? Self-esteem isn’t a fixed trait—it’s something you can strengthen with the right insights and support. Take my How Healthy is Your Self-Esteem? quiz to discover where you’re thriving and where you could use a little extra love and support. It’s quick, eye-opening, and might just be the first step toward embracing the amazing person you are, ADHD and all. And don’t forget to stay connected with me on social media! I’m always sharing tips, insights, and inspiration on Instagram and YouTube. I also host regular live streams on both platforms where we can dive deeper into topics like ADHD, relationships, and personal growth. See you there! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Share this podcast with someone who needs a little ADHD inspo today! Let’s thrive together. 💖

Do you ever feel like “working” on your relationship just drains the joy out of it? You’re not alone— that “work on it” narrative is so common and in my experience as a marriage counselor…. some of the worst advice ever. Of course you want a better relationship, but there are much more effective ways of making that happen: Especially when you start prioritizing the parts that you enjoy. In this podcast, I’ll show you why the idea that “relationships are hard work” might actually be sabotaging your connection and what to do instead. Learn how to bring more fun, positivity, and love into your relationship with simple, actionable steps. We’ll explore everything from changing your mindset to building better communication and adding joy to your everyday life. Timestamps: 00:00 – The Worst Relationship Advice Ever 00:38 – Why Relationships Should Be Fun 01:34 – Shifting Your Mindset from Work to Joy 02:40 – Bringing Fun Back into Your Relationship 03:30 – How Personal Growth Improves Love 04:53 – Mastering Positive Communication 06:12 – Focus on What’s Good (And Watch it Grow!) 07:51 – Making Your Relationship Pleasurable Again 09:31 – Leading with Love 12:35 – Turning Mundane Tasks into Meaningful Moments If you’ve been feeling like your relationship is more work than it should be, I’ve got something for you. My free 2-part video training, Communication That Connects, will help you shift out of that "hard work" mindset and give you tools to build a relationship that feels fun, loving, and easy again. Check it out here: https://www.growingself.com/communication. 💕 💬 Got questions? Join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube. Submit your questions anonymously ahead of time here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who could use this advice, share this video with them! Let’s create stronger, happier relationships together. 💕

Ever feel like you’re at war with yourself? This might change everything… In this heartfelt and transformative episode, I had the honor of sitting down with Dr. Richard Schwartz, founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), to explore how understanding and working with your “parts” can unlock profound healing and self-growth. 🌟 We all have parts of us—the inner critic, the procrastinator, the overachiever. These parts aren’t flaws; they’re doing their best to protect us, even if their methods aren’t helpful. Dr. Schwartz explains how we can connect with these parts, heal the pain behind them, and step into the calm, confident Self that’s been there all along. Plus, we’ll dive into practical tools from his new workbook, discuss how trauma impacts your inner world, and even demonstrate how to start connecting with your parts. This conversation is packed with insights you don’t want to miss. Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction: Why You Feel Stuck 01:15 Meet Dr. Richard Schwartz: Founder of IFS 03:40 What Are “Parts” and Why Do They Matter? 08:20 The Healing Power of Your Self 12:45 Live Demo: Working with Your Parts 20:00 Balancing Inner Conflicts 30:50 When and How to Seek Professional Help 38:15 Insights from IFS 40:56 Final Thoughts and Next Steps Ready to take the first step? Check out my free What’s Holding You Back? quiz to help you gain personal insights and self-awareness around your inner world. This will shed a light on hidden obstacles within yourself so you can move forward into your best year yet with clairity and confidence. I hope you check it out. After you listen to this episode, join me LIVE this Thursday at 12 pm MT for an open Q&A on personal growth and Internal Family Systems. Submit your anonymous questions here, and I’ll answer them live on Thursday: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Don’t forget to share this podcast with someone who could use a little encouragement today. Let’s grow together! 💕

Ever feel stuck, like you're trying SO hard to change, but somehow end up back in the same place? You're not alone, and guess what—it's not your fault. In this episode, we'll unlock the secrets to reprogramming your subconscious mind to finally get the life you want. 🙌 Whether you're aiming to nail your New Year's resolutions or just break free from old patterns, this episode will give you the tools to make it happen. ✨ Timestamps to Transform Your Mindset: 00:00 – Why “Wanting It” Isn’t Enough 03:05 – Mind Wars: Conscious vs. Subconscious Goals 05:07 – Aligning Goals with Subconscious Needs 10:08 – How to Identify Limiting Beliefs 24:03 – Brain Rewiring 101 41:14 – Building Self-Trust: Small Steps, Big Shifts 45:51 – Your Roadmap to Lasting Change Ready to take the first step? Check out my free What’s Holding You Back? quiz for personalized insights into your subconscious blocks! This will help you start your new year off with clarity and confidence so you can achieve what matters most to you. Wishing you all the best in this new chapter! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growingself.com P.S. Don’t forget to share this episode with a friend who’s so ready to make a change—you might just change their life, and get an accountability partner in the process. Let’s do this together! 💪

Friend, this topic is SO important I'm putting it back in front of you again. Here's the deal: Even people in strong, satisfying relationships can develop feelings of attraction for another person. It's part of the human experience. These feelings can be transient and meaningless... OR they could destroy your life, if you follow them. Are crushes innocent, or on-ramps to an affair? Can you be "friends" with someone you have a crush on, without risking your relationship? What should you do when you're married, but have a crush on someone else? Oh, the questions! It happens: people in happy, healthy, committed relationships can still develop crushes on others. However, smart, self-aware people in committed relationships that they care about need to handle these maturely and with wisdom. That's what you'll learn how to do on today's show. We'll discuss: The mechanics of a crush; how and why crushes develop The difference between a crush and a platonic friendship Why happy, committed married people can have crushes on others How crushes can turn into something more serious How to use self awareness, integrity, and honesty to protect your marriage How to use your crush experience in order to add energy and intimacy into your relationship Warning signs that your crush is developing into something else Why extramarital affairs are always a bad idea, and rarely end well How to stop having a crush on someone else How to avoid embarrassment and professional ruin if you have a crush on a coworker How to protect your relationship and stay true to your values even when you're having feelings for another. All this and more on today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com Ps: As we discussed in this episode, part of your action plan needs to be leaning towards your partner in an authentic and emotionally intimate way, and that calls for excellent communication skills. To support you in this, please help yourself to my free two part communication skills training, "Communication That Connects." I made this for you! ... LMB

How often do you say "yes" when you really want to say "no"? If you've ever felt that way, you're not alone! Today, we're diving into what happens when you stand up to someone in all areas of life—work, relationships, even healthcare. My guest is the incredible Dr. Sunita Sah, an award-winning professor at Cornell and author of Defy: The Power of No in a World That Demands Yes. Dr. Sah's research focuses on why so many of us feel pressured to go along with things we don't believe in and how we can cultivate the courage to say "no" when it matters most. In this episode, you'll learn how social norms and "insinuation anxiety" hold us back from standing up for our true selves. You’ll walk away with the confidence to take small, powerful steps toward defiance in a way that feels authentic and empowering. Timestamps 00:22 - Meet Dr. Sunita Sah: Her Story of Transformation 00:47 - The Psychology of Compliance and Defiance 01:31 - Defying Social Pressures: Real-Life Stories 02:07 - Why Compliance in the Workplace Hurts Us All 07:37 - A Fresh Take on Defiance: It’s Not What You Think 10:11 - The Social Roots of Compliance 17:51 - Facing the Inner Blocks to Standing Up for Yourself 25:32 - Practical Steps to Strengthen Your Defiance Muscle 33:23 - Living Authentically: The Real Benefits of Saying No 45:02 - Wrapping Up: Your Takeaways and Resources Having low self esteem can make it hard to stand up for yourself. Is this true for you? Find out by taking my free Self Esteem Quiz! You’ll find out where your self esteem thrives and discover new areas for growth. Take it here. And, join me for a live Q&A this Thursday at 12 pm MT on YouTube, where we'll be talking all about self-advocacy. Want to submit a question anonymously? Use this link PS: Think of someone who could use a boost in self-advocacy? Share this episode with them, and let’s help each other live authentically! ❤️

Is pornography addiction taking a toll on your life or relationship? You’re not alone, and real help is here! 🙌 In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I sit down with the incredible Sathiya Sam, founder of the Deep Clean program, to discuss what recovery from porn addiction actually looks like. Together, we dive into tough (but crucial) questions: How do you spot the signs of addiction? What does true healing look like for both individuals and couples? And, most importantly, how can you support a partner without losing yourself along the way? 🎥 Ready to learn practical strategies for growth, connection, and positive change? Listen now and find actionable steps to help you or your loved one break free from pornography addiction, once and for all. Timestamps: 00:00 – The Hidden Impact of Porn Addiction 01:03 – Meet Sathiya: From Personal Struggle to Lifelong Mission 06:21 – Spotting the Warning Signs 10:46 – The Toll on Relationships and Intimacy 13:48 – Physical and Emotional Consequences 18:35 – Healing Betrayal Trauma Together 21:13 – Steps Toward Lasting Recovery 22:53 – Three Core Steps to Heal 23:41 – Building Self-Awareness 26:40 – How Trauma Shapes Addiction 30:56 – Supporting Your Partner’s Recovery (Without Losing Yourself) 36:41 – Long-Term Transformation If you or a loved one are ready to break free from porn addiction, I have something to share with you. Recovery starts with connection—and connection starts with communication. My free video training series, Communication That Connects, is here to help you open up, ask for support, and rebuild trust with those who matter most. You don’t have to do this alone. Your partner in growth, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com P.S. Don’t miss this week’s live stream on Thursday at 12 pm MT here on YouTube, where we'll dive deeper into porn addiction recovery. Submit your anonymous questions in advance – I’d love to help you find your way forward. 💬

Are you walking on eggshells, questioning your sanity, and starting to wonder if your partner’s behavior is actually...narcissism? In this episode, we’re diving deep into the challenging and often painful question of whether you might be married to a narcissist. Narcissism isn’t a one-size-fits-all diagnosis; it has shades, nuances, and layers, which can make it tough to recognize and even harder to deal with. Chapters: 00:45 - The Signs You’re Married to a Narcissist 10:47 - The Two Types of Narcissists: Wounded vs. Malignant. 19:12 - Inside the Narcissistic Relationship Cycle 27:00 - Can a Relationship with a Narcissist Work? 44:42 - Strategies to Navigate Conflicts. If you're in a relationship with someone who might be a narcissist, I know how exhausting and frustrating communication can be. That's why I created my free 2-part video training, Communication That Connects. You’ll learn practical tools to de-escalate arguments, protect your emotional well-being, and build healthier patterns of connection, even with difficult personalities. I hope you check it out. ❤️ And don’t forget to join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 pm MT / 2pm ET on YouTube, where we’ll chat all about being married to a narcissist. You can ask an anonymous question in advance at https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. If you know someone else who could benefit from this episode, send it over to them! Let’s keep looking out for each other. Xo, Dr. Lisa GrowingSelf.com

Are You Exhausted Trying to Help Someone Who Won’t Change? Here’s What Actually Works! Have you ever bent over backward trying to help someone you love, only to feel like you’re getting nowhere? You’re not alone—and I’ve got good news: people can change. But here’s the kicker: they’ll only do it when it comes from within. In this episode, I’m breaking down the psychology of change, the stages people go through, and the surprising reason why trying to force change never works (spoiler alert: it usually backfires). You’ll also learn powerful, actionable strategies to: ✅ Set healthy boundaries (without guilt). ✅ Protect your emotional well-being (because you matter too!). ✅ Provide the kind of support that actually encourages growth. If you’re ready to stop feeling stuck and frustrated, and instead discover the most effective way to empower someone on their journey—this is for you. 🎧 Timestamps You’ll Love: 00:00 – Why It Feels Impossible to Change Someone Else 01:15 – Can People Really Change? (Yes, But Here’s the Secret) 03:45 – The Real Power of Intrinsic Motivation 06:20 – The Stages of Change: Where Your Loved One Might Be 12:40 – Setting Boundaries That Encourage Growth 18:55 – Avoiding the Trap of Enabling 23:15 – Free Tools to Help You and Your Loved One BONUS GOODIES! 👉 Want to help a loved one uncover what’s really holding them back? Share my free What’s Holding You Back? Quiz with them—it’s designed to uncover hidden obstacles, subconscious blocks, and personal strengths to help them move forward with confidence. 👉 Don’t miss this week’s YouTube Livestream: How to Help Someone Who Doesn’t Want to Help Themselves (Thursday, 12 pm MT). You can even submit an anonymous question ahead of time here: www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. This conversation could change everything. See you there! 🎥

Are political differences with people you love threatening to tear your relationships apart? You’re definitely not alone! Today, we’re diving deep into the delicate dance of keeping relationships healthy across political divides. In this episode, I’m sharing the strategies to help you navigate tricky conversations with grace, keep your cool, and protect your own happiness along the way. By the end, you’ll know exactly how to preserve the connections you care about most, even when politics threaten to tear you apart. Stick around to the end—I’ve got some free resources to help you practice these skills and share them with your loved ones. Let’s jump in! Timestamps: 00:00 - Are Political Differences Threatening Your Relationships? 04:22 - Assess the Importance of Each Relationship 07:32 - Radical Acceptance (It's Tough, But Worth It!) 11:12 - Emotional Regulation - How to Stay Cool 16:49 - Focus on the Positives (Yes, Really!) 23:09 - Set & Maintain Healthy Boundaries 32:18 - Advanced Skills: Radical Curiosity and Empathy 39:06 - Free Resources + Final Thoughts If you loved this episode, don’t miss the next video in this series! Let’s keep building those relationship skills. P.S. Need a little more support? Check out my free Communication That Connects 2-Part Video Series. Also, join me Thursday at 12 pm MT for a live session right here on YouTube on this very topic, how to navigate political differences in relationships. You can even submit an anonymous question right here.