Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Ever leave a conversation feeling like your brain’s been scrambled and you’re not sure why? Maybe you’re suddenly questioning your own reality, feeling guilty, or bending over backwards for someone who... let’s be real, might not deserve it? If that sounds familiar, pull up a chair, my friend. Today, we’re pulling back the curtain on manipulation—not to teach you these tactics (please don’t use them!), but so you can spot them, disarm them, and never get played again. In this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I’m breaking down the five most common manipulative tactics, why they work so well, and how to protect yourself—with confidence, clarity, and maybe even a little compassion. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Welcome to the dark side (just kidding... kind of) 01:28 – Why manipulation works on good people 04:51 – Awareness is your superpower 06:01 – Guilt-tripping 101: How they hook you 09:07 – How to disarm a guilt trip like a boss 18:03 – Playing the victim: When empathy is used against you 31:36 – Love bombing: It’s not just for dating apps 33:01 – Healthy relationships take time (and boundaries) 36:55 – Narcissists, splitting, and people who come on way too strong 43:22 – Withdrawal + passive aggression = manipulation in disguise 54:11 – Let’s talk about gaslighting (finally!) 01:01:18 – What to do if you have vulnerabilities that get you caught in this stuff If you’re realizing that certain relationships in your life are way more complicated than they should be—or if you’ve been stuck in a cycle of guilt, confusion, or second-guessing yourself—you don’t have to stay there. You deserve support. You deserve clarity. You deserve healthy connections. Come connect with me and my amazing team at Growing Self and schedule your free consultation. Whether you’re looking for therapy or coaching, we’re here to help you break free from toxic patterns and build the life and relationships you actually want. And hey—don’t be a stranger! You can find me on Instagram and YouTube for even more real-talk, tools, and live Q&A sessions. Let’s grow together. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who’s been struggling with manipulation in their relationships? Be a good friend—share this with them. It might be the lightbulb moment they’ve been waiting for. 💡❤️

Tired of being your own worst critic? What if I told you that positivity isn’t something you’re born with—it’s a skill you can learn? ✨ In this powerful episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I sit down with Dr. Nick Holton of the Anti-Fragile Academy to explore how to be a more positive person—without ignoring your difficult emotions or pretending everything is fine when it’s not. Because here’s the truth: toxic positivity isn’t helpful, and sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is feel your feelings and grow from them. We’re diving deep into the science of positive psychology, how to stop gaslighting yourself with "just think positive" advice, and practical mindset-shifting tools that can help you feel stronger, more resilient, and yes—more joyful, too. Timestamps: 00:00 – Why ‘just be positive’ backfires 01:12 – Meet Dr. Nick Holton 03:18 – What positive psychology actually is 04:38 – The real role of emotions in your wellbeing 06:33 – How to start changing your mindset 08:09 – Growth vs. Fixed Mindsets 10:32 – Why acceptance is the missing piece in positivity 21:25 – The power of gratitude 31:24 – You don’t control performance (and why that’s great news) 33:10 – Visualizing failure? Yep—it’s a secret to resilience 34:41 – What elite athletes know about mindset that you should too 40:16 – Turning trauma into growth: How to bounce forward 42:51 – Want to feel better? Expand your emotional vocabulary 48:32 – What passion + perseverance have to do with great relationships 54:20 – Access real growth tools If you're craving more clarity, joy, and empowerment in your life—or if you’re just feeling a little stuck and unsure how to shift your mindset—this episode is filled with practical wisdom that can help. And if you’re ready to take the next step, we’re here for you. Book a free consultation at Growing Self, and we’ll help you get matched with the right therapist or coach for you. Whether you want to work on your mindset, your relationships, your career, or all of the above, our team of warm, experienced experts can help you start moving forward with confidence and clarity. I’d also love to connect with you beyond the podcast! Subscribe to my channel on YouTube for weekly videos packed with insights on love, happiness, and success—and follow me on Instagram for expert advice, bite-size interviews, and daily encouragement. We’re building a community of growth-minded, big-hearted humans, and you belong with us. Thanks for being here with me today. Sending you so much love—and I’ll see you in the next one! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who could use a positivity boost today, send this episode over to them. Let’s help each other grow. 🌱

Ever wonder why your relationship with money feels so complicated? It’s more than just dollars and cents—it’s emotional, it’s psychological, and it deeply affects your life and relationships. Today, I'm talking with a marriage and family therapist who specializes in financial therapy, Jillian Knight. We're diving into why understanding your relationship with money can be a total game-changer for your finances, career, and relationships. From unconscious money beliefs to how your upbringing shapes your financial habits, we cover it all. Whether you're struggling with debt, feeling anxious about spending, or having money-related conflicts with your partner, this conversation is for YOU. In this episode, we’ll discuss: What happens when we’re not self-aware about our relationship with money How money scripts influence our behaviors and decisions Why it’s crucial to approach money with empathy—not shame And most importantly, how to shift your money mindset to build a healthier, more balanced financial life Timestamps: 00:00 – Exploring Your Relationship with Money 00:49 – Introducing Jillian Knight: Financial Therapy Expert 01:21 – Understanding the Impact of Money Beliefs 04:49 – The Cultural Ideals of Financial Management 06:39 – Challenging Authoritarian Financial Advice 08:07 – Personal Stories and Financial Therapy Insights 10:53 – The Importance of Compassion in Financial Health 19:31 – Identifying Your Money Scripts 23:13 – Exploring the Enneagram and Money 24:46 – Couples and Money Dynamics 28:39 – Understanding Money Stories 33:30 – Identifying Core Needs and Triggers 36:55 – Building Bridges and Shared Goals 42:12 – Conclusion and Resources I know talking about money can feel uncomfortable. That’s why conversations like this one are so important! I also created something to help you navigate those tough financial conversations with love, empathy, and understanding—without the stress or conflict.. Check out my Communication That Connects 2-part training. You’ll learn how to approach money talks in a way that strengthens your relationships, rather than creating distance. I hope you check it out! Also, let’s connect on Instagram and Youtube! I drop a new podcast every week with interviews just like this one so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I also go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms. I chat about the topic of the week and answer any questions you might have live. This week, I’ll be digging into your relationship to money! Let’s break free from old financial patterns together and build a future where money feels like a source of freedom, not stress. See you there! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobbywww.growingself.com P.S. If this episode was helpful for you, share it with a friend or family member who could use the info too!

Ever wonder why your child melts down over the tiniest thing—or how to actually help them navigate big emotions? Today, we’re diving into the world of Child-Centered Play Therapy, an evidence-based approach that helps kids build confidence, self-regulation, and emotional resilience… all through PLAY. I’m joined by the amazing Dr. Brenna Hicks, a specialist in helping parents use these techniques at home to create a happier, calmer family environment. Whether you have a preschooler, a strong-willed school-age kid, or a moody teen, this conversation will give you powerful tools to understand your child’s emotional world—and strengthen your bond in the process. We’re covering: What makes Child-Centered Play Therapy different from other approaches How play can help kids process emotions (even when words fail!) What really causes tantrums and dysregulation Simple therapist-approved parenting strategies you can start using today How to know if your child might need therapy—and how to find the right therapist Timestamps: 03:29 - What is Child-Centered Play Therapy (and why does it work?) 09:27 - The parent’s role in play therapy (and why it’s a game-changer!) 16:03 - Why kids “act out” and what’s really going on 23:09 - The surprising science behind play as therapy 34:41 - How therapy transforms kids from anxious to confident 36:27 - What to do if your child is struggling emotionally 43:20 - How to tell if a therapist is actually qualified to help your child 47:58 - Parenting tips: What to say (and what not to say) to your kid 53:11 - When to seek professional help & what to look for in a therapist 01:02:49 - Resources, next steps & final thoughts I know how much you love your child and want the absolute best for them. Parenting is one of the most rewarding—and challenging—jobs in the world, and sometimes, we all need a little extra guidance and encouragement. That’s why I created the Happy Families Collection—a curated set of expert tips, strategies, and insights designed to help you build a stronger, more connected, and emotionally healthy family. ✨ 👉 Access the Happy Families Collection here! And if you loved this episode, let’s stay connected! Find me on Instagram for daily inspiration and expert-backed advice, and don’t forget to subscribe on YouTube for even more deep-dive conversations so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. You’re doing an amazing job, and I’m so honored to be on this journey with you! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know a parent who could benefit from this episode, share it with them! I know personally that us parents really appreciate the love and support.

Ever felt like you completely lost yourself in a relationship? Like one day you woke up and thought, Wait… who even am I anymore? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and, spoiler alert, it’s not just in your head. There’s real science behind why we fuse our identities with our partners and why breakups can feel like more than just heartbreak—they can feel like an identity crisis. In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with relationship scientist Dr. Morgan Cope to break down the psychology behind losing yourself in a relationship, why it happens, and most importantly—how to rebuild your identity after love. Whether you're freshly single, in a relationship that feels too enmeshed, or just curious about how relationships shape our sense of self, this episode is packed with insights, humor, and practical strategies to help you come back to YOU. Timestamps: 00:00 - Is Losing Yourself in a Relationship a Real Thing? 00:35 - Meet Dr. Morgan Cope & Her Research on Relationships & Identity 01:00 Understanding Identity in Relationships 03:07 - Attachment Styles and Identity 07:30 - Impact of Breakups on Identity 24:42 - Mental and Physical Effects of Breakups 30:27 - Fear of Being Single 32:02 - Changing the Environment vs Changing Yourself 36:56 - Rebounding and Self-Expansion 39:14 - Identity and Values Assessment 44:11 - Cult Psychology and Group Identity 51:21 - Personal Growth Through Relationship Challenges Feeling lost after a breakup? I know how hard it can be to find yourself again, so I created something to help you out on your healing journey. Check out my FREE Breakup Recovery Quiz to get personalized insights on where you are in your healing journey & how to move forward so you can begin to feel like yourself again. And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! You can find me on YouTube or Instagram. Every week, I drop a new podcast episode dedicated to your personal growth and healing so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I hope to see you there! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who might need to hear this? Share this video with a friend who’s struggling in their relationship or going through a tough breakup. 💕

Ever feel like therapy is supposed to help you move on after a breakup… but instead, you’re just rehashing your pain over and over again? The truth is that most therapists are not actually trained in breakup recovery—which means traditional therapy for breakups might be keeping you stuck instead of helping you move forward. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why therapy for breakups doesn’t always work, and what actually does. If you’re tired of feeling like you’re trapped in an endless loop of overthinking, heartbreak, and emotional pain—definitely give this a listen. I break down: The missing pieces in traditional therapy for breakups The 8 essential stages of breakup recovery (skip one and you stay stuck!) Why your brain reacts to breakups like a drug withdrawal (and how to cut the cords) The biggest myths about healing after a breakup that keep you spinning in circles Timestamps: 00:00 - The Problem With Therapy For Breakups (Nobody Talks About This!) 00:51 - Why Therapists Aren’t Trained in Heartbreak Recovery 02:47 - My Journey: From Therapist to Breakup Specialist 15:49 - How Your Biological Attachment System Keeps You Stuck 24:10 - The Real Path to Moving On (hint: it’s NOT what you think!) 26:25 - The Eight Stages of Heartbreak Recovery (Which one are you stuck in?) 34:23 - For You: Heartbreak Recovery Resources I know how hard this is. If you’ve been feeling stuck, like no matter what you do, you just can’t seem to move on—please know that it’s not your fault. Healing from heartbreak is a process, and if you don’t have the right map, it’s so easy to stay lost in the pain. That’s exactly why I created the Breakup Recovery Quiz—to help you get clarity on where you are in your healing journey and what might be holding you back from truly letting go. It’s completely free, and I made it just for you, so you can finally start moving forward. And if today’s conversation resonated with you, I really encourage you to check out my other podcast episodes and follow me on Instagram and Youtube. Every week, I share my years of expertise and interviews with experts so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success you deserve! Here’s to your healing and growth. 🌱 Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who could use a little bit of support today as they navigate their breakup, share this episode with them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear today. ❤️

That moment when you see your ex looking happier than ever with someone new—while you're still crying in the bathroom at work? Yeah… it’s brutal. You might be wondering to yourself, “Why did my ex move on so fast? Did they care about me AT ALL?” But before you spiral, let's talk about what’s really happening here and dig into how you can finally move on too. In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I'm breaking down the psychology behind why some people seem to bounce back instantly (spoiler: it’s not always what it seems). You’ll also learn why your path—however slow and painful it may feel—is actually the healthiest, strongest, and most transformational. By the end of this podcast, you’ll understand: Why your ex seems to be over it (and why that may not be the whole story) The biggest mistake people make when they rush into something new What avoidant attachment has to do with it (and why it’s not about you) How to turn your pain into fuel for real growth and healing Grab a cup of tea and get cozy. This one is for YOU. Timestamps: 00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?! 01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind 02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go 06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In? 16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!) 21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure 29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD 34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You I know how hard this is. Going through the breakup recovery process can be long and grueling, but you don’t have to figure this all out on your own. As a licensed therapist and psychologist specializing in relationships and heartbreak, I’ve seen people grow and thrive after a breakup time and time again. And you can do it too. I took all of the information I’ve learned over the years and created a free Heartbreak Recovery Quiz to help you on your journey to reclaim your heart and your life. By taking this quiz, you’ll be able to figure out exactly where you are in your healing journey—and what steps to take next. You’ll get a personalized roadmap to moving forward with clarity and confidence. I hope this helps. ❤️ Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who needs a little extra support today, send this podcast episode over to them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear.

Ever feel like your ex is still haunting you? You’re living your best life, maybe even in a happy, healthy relationship—so WHY do they keep popping up in your head, completely uninvited? If you've ever caught yourself late-night stalking their Instagram (oops), wondering what if?, or feeling like you just can’t shake the past, don’t worry. There are steps you can take to move forward. In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I dive deep into why you still think about your ex—even when you don’t want to. We’ll talk about the science of attachment, why your brain keeps looping back, and—most importantly—how to finally break free. Timestamps: 00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?! 01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind 02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go 06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In? 16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!) 21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure 29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD 34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You I know how hard it can be to feel stuck in the past when all you really want is to move forward and feel at peace. If today’s conversation resonated with you, I have some resources that can help. First, if you’re wondering why this is happening to you and what you can do about it, I invite you to take my Heartbreak Recovery Quiz. It’s a free tool designed to help you understand where you are in the healing process and what specific steps you can take next to finally be free of the past. Healing is possible, and you will get through it. And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! Come join my live stream this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube or Instagram. We’ll be talking more about why you still think about your ex—and I’ll be answering your questions live. Whether you need advice, reassurance, or just a supportive space, come chat with me. Sending you warmth and support, always. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Know someone who could use this advice? Share this video with them—it might be exactly what they need to hear today. ❤️

What if the secret to transforming your relationships wasn’t about saying more, but saying it better? I know how hard it can be when communication in your relationship just isn’t working. Those moments when you’re trying so hard to connect, but it feels like you’re speaking two different languages—they’re exhausting and heartbreaking. I’ve seen so many people struggling with this, and I want you to know it doesn’t have to be this way! This week on the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sat down with Charles Duhigg, New York Times bestselling author of Supercommunicators, to dive into how to be a better communicator. We talk about the importance of knowing what kind of conversations you’re having, how to ask better questions to unlock deeper connections, and steps to actually hearing and understanding each other. Whether you’re trying to connect with a partner, a friend, or even a coworker, this conversation is packed with eye-opening insights and actionable tips to help you truly get and be gotten. Chapters: 00:00 - Why communication is the ultimate relationship glue 00:35 - Meet Charles Duhigg, your new favorite communication guru 07:38 - Game-changing tips to up your communication game 08:57 - The art of asking deep, meaningful questions 17:31 - What really works in tough conversations 28:30 - Identifying what people really need from you 31:58 - Building trust through listening and understanding 36:02 - Redefining the goal of conversations 37:49 - Resources for communication skill building My favorite takeaway from this episode was that you don’t have to be born a “supercommunicator.” These are skills that you can learn and improve with practice. So if you’re thinking “Heck yes! I’m ready for some growth!”, check out my free Communication That Connects 2-Part Training. It’s a step-by-step guide to help you understand what’s really going on beneath the disconnect, and how to rebuild the trust and emotional safety that can get lost along the way. Together, we’ll explore tools and strategies to stop the cycle of conflict, restore your connection, and start creating a more positive chapter for your relationships. Also, let’s connect on Instagram or YouTube! I go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms, diving deeper into topics just like this one and answering all of your personal questions. So check out this episode, and then come chat with me! I’m here to help. 🩵 Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. Know someone who could use this guidance? Maybe a partner or a bestie struggling to communicate? Share this with them! Because better communication makes the world (and your group chats) a much better place.

How are you really sleeping these days? Be honest—are you waking up feeling refreshed, or is it more like dragging yourself out of bed and powering through the day on fumes? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Sleep is a huge part of feeling like your best self, but it’s so easy to overlook. In this podcast episode, I’m sitting down with my friend, Dr. Michelle Okun, a health psychologist and sleep scientist. We’re talking about how sleep impacts literally everything—your mood, your stress levels, your health, and even your energy. We’re diving into the science of why sleep matters and the simple things you can do to feel like your best self again. Don’t worry, your sleep helpline is here! So, grab a cup of tea, cozy up, and let’s talk about how to get the rest you need to feel amazing. You deserve this! 💖 Timestamps: 00:00 – Tired and Stressed? Let’s Fix That! 00:41 – Meet Dr. Michelle Okun 02:12 – The Surprising Ways Sleep Impacts Your Life 06:48 – Stress, Cortisol, and Sleep 09:56 – How Stress Keeps You Awake (and How to Fix It) 19:42 – Common Causes of Sleep Issues 23:40 – When to Consider a Sleep Study 32:09 – Practical Sleep Tips That Actually Work 50:08 – Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia 53:50 – Resources to Improve Your Life I hope this podcast was as helpful for you as it was for me. I learned so much from Dr. Okun! If you’re ready to take the next step or just curious about what might be holding you back—whether it’s sleep-related or just something in your overall wellness—check out my free What’s Holding You Back? Quiz. Gaining clarity and self-awareness around the places in my life where I needed some extra love and attention was a huge game changer for me. This quiz will give you the same insights so you can start taking steps to thrive in your life. If you have questions or want to chat with me more about this, I’d love for you to join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 PM MT on Instagram and YouTube! I’m diving even deeper into how to improve your sleep and answering your questions live. Oh, and don’t forget to subscribe and hit the bell! I’m here every week sharing insights and resources with you so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success that you deserve. Let’s figure this out together, friend! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com PS: If you know someone who’s running on empty and could use this advice, send this podcast their way. Sleep is life-changing, and we all deserve to wake up feeling amazing! 😴✨

Recently diagnosed with adult ADHD (or thinking that you probably should be?) Well friend, welcome to the club, and I'm glad you're here to learn all about the upside of ADHD superpowers! In this episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast, I sit down with my colleague and fellow therapist, Jesse S., to talk about the ups and downs of ADHD—especially when you’re diagnosed as an adult. Together, we share our personal stories (and some laughs!) about what it’s like to navigate life with ADHD—before and after diagnosis. We dive deep into the challenges, relationship struggles, and unexpected upside of ADHD superpowers, while offering practical tools to help you thrive. Timestamps: 00:00 Is This You? Recognizing ADHD as an Adult 00:42 Meet Jesse S.! 02:12 The “Aha!” Moment That Changed Everything 03:49 How to Get Diagnosed: Jesse’s Journey 05:07 Life Before and After Diagnosis 17:06 ADHD and Relationships 23:42 Struggles, Self-Esteem, and Stigma 26:39 Thriving in School and Work 28:29 Finding Your Zone 30:18 Structure for ADHD Success 39:46 Boosting Brainpower: Sleep, Nutrition, and Hydration 42:20 Resources and Words of Hope Living with ADHD can feel like a whirlwind—your creativity and energy can light up a room, but staying organized or focused might sometimes feel like an uphill battle. And let’s be real: when ADHD gets in the way of meeting expectations (yours or others'), it can take a toll on your self-esteem. The good news? Self-esteem isn’t a fixed trait—it’s something you can strengthen with the right insights and support. Take my How Healthy is Your Self-Esteem? quiz to discover where you’re thriving and where you could use a little extra love and support. It’s quick, eye-opening, and might just be the first step toward embracing the amazing person you are, ADHD and all. And don’t forget to stay connected with me on social media! I’m always sharing tips, insights, and inspiration on Instagram and YouTube. I also host regular live streams on both platforms where we can dive deeper into topics like ADHD, relationships, and personal growth. See you there! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Share this podcast with someone who needs a little ADHD inspo today! Let’s thrive together. 💖

Do you ever feel like “working” on your relationship just drains the joy out of it? You’re not alone— that “work on it” narrative is so common and in my experience as a marriage counselor…. some of the worst advice ever. Of course you want a better relationship, but there are much more effective ways of making that happen: Especially when you start prioritizing the parts that you enjoy. In this podcast, I’ll show you why the idea that “relationships are hard work” might actually be sabotaging your connection and what to do instead. Learn how to bring more fun, positivity, and love into your relationship with simple, actionable steps. We’ll explore everything from changing your mindset to building better communication and adding joy to your everyday life. Timestamps: 00:00 – The Worst Relationship Advice Ever 00:38 – Why Relationships Should Be Fun 01:34 – Shifting Your Mindset from Work to Joy 02:40 – Bringing Fun Back into Your Relationship 03:30 – How Personal Growth Improves Love 04:53 – Mastering Positive Communication 06:12 – Focus on What’s Good (And Watch it Grow!) 07:51 – Making Your Relationship Pleasurable Again 09:31 – Leading with Love 12:35 – Turning Mundane Tasks into Meaningful Moments If you’ve been feeling like your relationship is more work than it should be, I’ve got something for you. My free 2-part video training, Communication That Connects, will help you shift out of that "hard work" mindset and give you tools to build a relationship that feels fun, loving, and easy again. Check it out here: https://www.growingself.com/communication. 💕 💬 Got questions? Join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube. Submit your questions anonymously ahead of time here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. If you know someone who could use this advice, share this video with them! Let’s create stronger, happier relationships together. 💕

Ever feel like you’re at war with yourself? This might change everything… In this heartfelt and transformative episode, I had the honor of sitting down with Dr. Richard Schwartz, founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), to explore how understanding and working with your “parts” can unlock profound healing and self-growth. 🌟 We all have parts of us—the inner critic, the procrastinator, the overachiever. These parts aren’t flaws; they’re doing their best to protect us, even if their methods aren’t helpful. Dr. Schwartz explains how we can connect with these parts, heal the pain behind them, and step into the calm, confident Self that’s been there all along. Plus, we’ll dive into practical tools from his new workbook, discuss how trauma impacts your inner world, and even demonstrate how to start connecting with your parts. This conversation is packed with insights you don’t want to miss. Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction: Why You Feel Stuck 01:15 Meet Dr. Richard Schwartz: Founder of IFS 03:40 What Are “Parts” and Why Do They Matter? 08:20 The Healing Power of Your Self 12:45 Live Demo: Working with Your Parts 20:00 Balancing Inner Conflicts 30:50 When and How to Seek Professional Help 38:15 Insights from IFS 40:56 Final Thoughts and Next Steps Ready to take the first step? Check out my free What’s Holding You Back? quiz to help you gain personal insights and self-awareness around your inner world. This will shed a light on hidden obstacles within yourself so you can move forward into your best year yet with clairity and confidence. I hope you check it out. After you listen to this episode, join me LIVE this Thursday at 12 pm MT for an open Q&A on personal growth and Internal Family Systems. Submit your anonymous questions here, and I’ll answer them live on Thursday: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com P.S. Don’t forget to share this podcast with someone who could use a little encouragement today. Let’s grow together! 💕

Ever feel stuck, like you're trying SO hard to change, but somehow end up back in the same place? You're not alone, and guess what—it's not your fault. In this episode, we'll unlock the secrets to reprogramming your subconscious mind to finally get the life you want. 🙌 Whether you're aiming to nail your New Year's resolutions or just break free from old patterns, this episode will give you the tools to make it happen. ✨ Timestamps to Transform Your Mindset: 00:00 – Why “Wanting It” Isn’t Enough 03:05 – Mind Wars: Conscious vs. Subconscious Goals 05:07 – Aligning Goals with Subconscious Needs 10:08 – How to Identify Limiting Beliefs 24:03 – Brain Rewiring 101 41:14 – Building Self-Trust: Small Steps, Big Shifts 45:51 – Your Roadmap to Lasting Change Ready to take the first step? Check out my free What’s Holding You Back? quiz for personalized insights into your subconscious blocks! This will help you start your new year off with clarity and confidence so you can achieve what matters most to you. Wishing you all the best in this new chapter! Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growingself.com P.S. Don’t forget to share this episode with a friend who’s so ready to make a change—you might just change their life, and get an accountability partner in the process. Let’s do this together! 💪

Friend, this topic is SO important I'm putting it back in front of you again. Here's the deal: Even people in strong, satisfying relationships can develop feelings of attraction for another person. It's part of the human experience. These feelings can be transient and meaningless... OR they could destroy your life, if you follow them. Are crushes innocent, or on-ramps to an affair? Can you be "friends" with someone you have a crush on, without risking your relationship? What should you do when you're married, but have a crush on someone else? Oh, the questions! It happens: people in happy, healthy, committed relationships can still develop crushes on others. However, smart, self-aware people in committed relationships that they care about need to handle these maturely and with wisdom. That's what you'll learn how to do on today's show. We'll discuss: The mechanics of a crush; how and why crushes develop The difference between a crush and a platonic friendship Why happy, committed married people can have crushes on others How crushes can turn into something more serious How to use self awareness, integrity, and honesty to protect your marriage How to use your crush experience in order to add energy and intimacy into your relationship Warning signs that your crush is developing into something else Why extramarital affairs are always a bad idea, and rarely end well How to stop having a crush on someone else How to avoid embarrassment and professional ruin if you have a crush on a coworker How to protect your relationship and stay true to your values even when you're having feelings for another. All this and more on today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com Ps: As we discussed in this episode, part of your action plan needs to be leaning towards your partner in an authentic and emotionally intimate way, and that calls for excellent communication skills. To support you in this, please help yourself to my free two part communication skills training, "Communication That Connects." I made this for you! ... LMB

How often do you say "yes" when you really want to say "no"? If you've ever felt that way, you're not alone! Today, we're diving into what happens when you stand up to someone in all areas of life—work, relationships, even healthcare. My guest is the incredible Dr. Sunita Sah, an award-winning professor at Cornell and author of Defy: The Power of No in a World That Demands Yes. Dr. Sah's research focuses on why so many of us feel pressured to go along with things we don't believe in and how we can cultivate the courage to say "no" when it matters most. In this episode, you'll learn how social norms and "insinuation anxiety" hold us back from standing up for our true selves. You’ll walk away with the confidence to take small, powerful steps toward defiance in a way that feels authentic and empowering. Timestamps 00:22 - Meet Dr. Sunita Sah: Her Story of Transformation 00:47 - The Psychology of Compliance and Defiance 01:31 - Defying Social Pressures: Real-Life Stories 02:07 - Why Compliance in the Workplace Hurts Us All 07:37 - A Fresh Take on Defiance: It’s Not What You Think 10:11 - The Social Roots of Compliance 17:51 - Facing the Inner Blocks to Standing Up for Yourself 25:32 - Practical Steps to Strengthen Your Defiance Muscle 33:23 - Living Authentically: The Real Benefits of Saying No 45:02 - Wrapping Up: Your Takeaways and Resources Having low self esteem can make it hard to stand up for yourself. Is this true for you? Find out by taking my free Self Esteem Quiz! You’ll find out where your self esteem thrives and discover new areas for growth. Take it here. And, join me for a live Q&A this Thursday at 12 pm MT on YouTube, where we'll be talking all about self-advocacy. Want to submit a question anonymously? Use this link PS: Think of someone who could use a boost in self-advocacy? Share this episode with them, and let’s help each other live authentically! ❤️

Is pornography addiction taking a toll on your life or relationship? You’re not alone, and real help is here! 🙌 In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I sit down with the incredible Sathiya Sam, founder of the Deep Clean program, to discuss what recovery from porn addiction actually looks like. Together, we dive into tough (but crucial) questions: How do you spot the signs of addiction? What does true healing look like for both individuals and couples? And, most importantly, how can you support a partner without losing yourself along the way? 🎥 Ready to learn practical strategies for growth, connection, and positive change? Listen now and find actionable steps to help you or your loved one break free from pornography addiction, once and for all. Timestamps: 00:00 – The Hidden Impact of Porn Addiction 01:03 – Meet Sathiya: From Personal Struggle to Lifelong Mission 06:21 – Spotting the Warning Signs 10:46 – The Toll on Relationships and Intimacy 13:48 – Physical and Emotional Consequences 18:35 – Healing Betrayal Trauma Together 21:13 – Steps Toward Lasting Recovery 22:53 – Three Core Steps to Heal 23:41 – Building Self-Awareness 26:40 – How Trauma Shapes Addiction 30:56 – Supporting Your Partner’s Recovery (Without Losing Yourself) 36:41 – Long-Term Transformation If you or a loved one are ready to break free from porn addiction, I have something to share with you. Recovery starts with connection—and connection starts with communication. My free video training series, Communication That Connects, is here to help you open up, ask for support, and rebuild trust with those who matter most. You don’t have to do this alone. Your partner in growth, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com P.S. Don’t miss this week’s live stream on Thursday at 12 pm MT here on YouTube, where we'll dive deeper into porn addiction recovery. Submit your anonymous questions in advance – I’d love to help you find your way forward. 💬

Are you walking on eggshells, questioning your sanity, and starting to wonder if your partner’s behavior is actually...narcissism? In this episode, we’re diving deep into the challenging and often painful question of whether you might be married to a narcissist. Narcissism isn’t a one-size-fits-all diagnosis; it has shades, nuances, and layers, which can make it tough to recognize and even harder to deal with. Chapters: 00:45 - The Signs You’re Married to a Narcissist 10:47 - The Two Types of Narcissists: Wounded vs. Malignant. 19:12 - Inside the Narcissistic Relationship Cycle 27:00 - Can a Relationship with a Narcissist Work? 44:42 - Strategies to Navigate Conflicts. If you're in a relationship with someone who might be a narcissist, I know how exhausting and frustrating communication can be. That's why I created my free 2-part video training, Communication That Connects. You’ll learn practical tools to de-escalate arguments, protect your emotional well-being, and build healthier patterns of connection, even with difficult personalities. I hope you check it out. ❤️ And don’t forget to join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 pm MT / 2pm ET on YouTube, where we’ll chat all about being married to a narcissist. You can ask an anonymous question in advance at https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. If you know someone else who could benefit from this episode, send it over to them! Let’s keep looking out for each other. Xo, Dr. Lisa GrowingSelf.com

Are You Exhausted Trying to Help Someone Who Won’t Change? Here’s What Actually Works! Have you ever bent over backward trying to help someone you love, only to feel like you’re getting nowhere? You’re not alone—and I’ve got good news: people can change. But here’s the kicker: they’ll only do it when it comes from within. In this episode, I’m breaking down the psychology of change, the stages people go through, and the surprising reason why trying to force change never works (spoiler alert: it usually backfires). You’ll also learn powerful, actionable strategies to: ✅ Set healthy boundaries (without guilt). ✅ Protect your emotional well-being (because you matter too!). ✅ Provide the kind of support that actually encourages growth. If you’re ready to stop feeling stuck and frustrated, and instead discover the most effective way to empower someone on their journey—this is for you. 🎧 Timestamps You’ll Love: 00:00 – Why It Feels Impossible to Change Someone Else 01:15 – Can People Really Change? (Yes, But Here’s the Secret) 03:45 – The Real Power of Intrinsic Motivation 06:20 – The Stages of Change: Where Your Loved One Might Be 12:40 – Setting Boundaries That Encourage Growth 18:55 – Avoiding the Trap of Enabling 23:15 – Free Tools to Help You and Your Loved One BONUS GOODIES! 👉 Want to help a loved one uncover what’s really holding them back? Share my free What’s Holding You Back? Quiz with them—it’s designed to uncover hidden obstacles, subconscious blocks, and personal strengths to help them move forward with confidence. 👉 Don’t miss this week’s YouTube Livestream: How to Help Someone Who Doesn’t Want to Help Themselves (Thursday, 12 pm MT). You can even submit an anonymous question ahead of time here: www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. This conversation could change everything. See you there! 🎥

Are political differences with people you love threatening to tear your relationships apart? You’re definitely not alone! Today, we’re diving deep into the delicate dance of keeping relationships healthy across political divides. In this episode, I’m sharing the strategies to help you navigate tricky conversations with grace, keep your cool, and protect your own happiness along the way. By the end, you’ll know exactly how to preserve the connections you care about most, even when politics threaten to tear you apart. Stick around to the end—I’ve got some free resources to help you practice these skills and share them with your loved ones. Let’s jump in! Timestamps: 00:00 - Are Political Differences Threatening Your Relationships? 04:22 - Assess the Importance of Each Relationship 07:32 - Radical Acceptance (It's Tough, But Worth It!) 11:12 - Emotional Regulation - How to Stay Cool 16:49 - Focus on the Positives (Yes, Really!) 23:09 - Set & Maintain Healthy Boundaries 32:18 - Advanced Skills: Radical Curiosity and Empathy 39:06 - Free Resources + Final Thoughts If you loved this episode, don’t miss the next video in this series! Let’s keep building those relationship skills. P.S. Need a little more support? Check out my free Communication That Connects 2-Part Video Series. Also, join me Thursday at 12 pm MT for a live session right here on YouTube on this very topic, how to navigate political differences in relationships. You can even submit an anonymous question right here.

Are you feeling stuck in a cycle of conflict and misunderstanding with your partner? You're not alone—and you're not powerless to fix it! In today’s episode, I’m breaking down how to fix a broken relationship by exploring the underlying patterns that keep couples locked in negative cycles. Plus, I’ll share my own story (yes, I’ve been there too) and reveal the key strategies and mindset shifts that can help bring you and your partner back together. If you’ve been trying to make things better but feel like you’re swimming against the tide, tune in for some essential insights and actionable steps to get your relationship back on track In this video, we’ll cover: 0:32 – The Toxic Spiral of Negative Communication 3:15 – Uncovering the Hidden Patterns 6:48 – How Negative Cycles Shape Perception 10:25 – Breaking Free and Finding Real Solutions 15:45 – When to Seek Help Want more guidance on fixing your relationship? Check out my free resource, How Healthy Is Your Relationship Quiz. Using this quiz, you’ll be able to decipher strengths and growth points in your relationship. If you want to ask me a question about your relationship, join me this Thursday at 12 pm MT on YouTube for my Livestream about how to fix a broken relationship. Submit your question anonymously here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. See you there!

"This wasn't supposed to happen!" Have you ever felt life throw you a curveball so big it knocked you flat? It’s that gut-punch moment when plans unravel, your candidate didn't win, dreams dissolve, and you’re left wondering, “Now what?” In this episode, I’ll take you through the tools and mindset shifts needed to transform disappointment into personal growth. We’ll talk about the power of radical acceptance, why it’s okay to feel all the feels, and how to find the hidden opportunities in setbacks. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro: Life’s Unexpected Curveballs 01:22 Embracing Disappointment: Feel All the Emotions 05:46 Finding the Lesson in Loss 15:23 Radical Acceptance and Moving Forward 18:36 Steer Clear of Destructive Reactions 21:16 What Does This Make Possible? 24:15 Conclusion and Free Resources PS: Get free access to my Emotional Wellness Collection, a personally curated podcast and blog collection designed to help you grow and stay well emotionally. Also, don’t miss our live Q&A this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube, where we’ll dive even deeper into this topic. Submit an anonymous question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa See you there!

How strong is your intuition? Do you trust your inner wisdom? More importantly… can you tell the difference between intuitive thoughts and anxiety? Today you’re going to learn how to trust your gut! In this episode, I’m thrilled to sit down with Brittney Carmichael, intuitive healer and founder of Shine School, as we dig into how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety, the subtle cues of inner wisdom, and ways to strengthen this instinct into a true superpower. Whether you’re an intuitive veteran or someone just starting to listen to that quiet inner voice, this conversation will give you the practical tools you need to better understand, trust, and strengthen your intuitive thought. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro: Intuition or Anxiety? 02:23 - Intuition vs. Fear: Brittany’s Insights 05:14 - Building Intuitive Strength 10:39 - Brittany’s Journey to Inner Wisdom 20:24 - Understanding Your Inner Voice 29:54 - Self-Love as a Foundation for Intuition 33:02 - Power of Positive Self-Talk 49:17 - How to Trust Your Inner Wisdom *P.S.* Want to dig even deeper? Take the free "What's Holding You Back?" quiz and get clarity on what might be standing in your way. Plus, join me for this week’s Livestream Q&A on Intuitive Thought, Thursday at 12 pm MT,on Instragram, Facebook, or Youtube. Submit an anonymous question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.

Ever feel like the love, support, or security you needed growing up was just… missing? And now, you’re feeling the effects in your relationships, your self-esteem, or even your ability to create the life you *really* want? If this hits home, don’t worry—you’re not stuck! This week I’m joined by THE legendary Dr. Dan Siegel, and we’re diving deep into the powerful process of reparenting yourself. Together, we’re going to show you how to rewire your brain for emotional healing, break free from past patterns, and build healthy, fulfilling relationships. ✨ In this episode, you’ll learn: - How childhood experiences shape your adult life (but don’t define it!) - The healing power of contingent communication in relationships - Practical strategies like the *Wheel of Awareness* for personal growth - The importance of presence over perfection in parenting—and in life! Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Emotional Healing 02:41 The Importance of Childhood Development 06:29 Understanding Contingent Communication 13:55 The Impact of Early Experiences on Adult Life 14:31 Healing from the Past 20:12 Developing Healthier Relationship Patterns 21:19 Understanding Temperament and Personality 23:35 The Enneagram and Attachment Insecurity (Really!) 27:09 Practical Techniques for Personal Growth 30:25 The Role of Agency, Bonding, and Certainty 35:33 Achieving Wholeness and Integration 38:26 Resources and Final Thoughts 🌟 Want more? Grab this free resource I created for you: a curated collection of all my best articles and podcasts on attachment, emotional healing, and healthy relationships at https://www.growingself.com/connections/. And… drumroll please! Join me for this week’s live Q&A on Thursday at 12 pm MT on Youtube, Instagram, and/or Facebook where I’ll be talking about emotional healing and reparenting yourself! Got a question? Ask me anonymously in advance using this link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa Let’s grow together! 🌱 Love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Ever feel like your friendship is taking more out of you than it gives? If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that feels draining, toxic, or just plain bad, you’re in the right place. In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I’m sitting down with Dr. Marisa Franco, a brilliant psychologist and bestselling author of Platonic, to talk about one of the toughest aspects of relationships—knowing when a friendship is no longer serving you. Together, we’ll dive into the signs of toxic friends, how attachment styles play a role in our friendships, and whether or not these kinds of relationships can be saved. You’ll learn practical strategies to spot the red flags, approach difficult conversations with kindness and clarity, and—if it comes to it—find the courage to end friendships that have run their course. Here’s what we cover: [00:00] The Friendship Trap: Why difficult friendships are harder to leave than romantic ones. [03:57] Attachment Styles in Friendships: How your past impacts your present friendships. [11:40] Making Positive Changes: How to recognize toxic patterns and start healing. [17:34] Conflict or Goodbye? How to assess if this friendship can be saved. [28:21] Deciding to End a Friendship: When enough is enough, and how to let go with grace. If you’ve ever wondered whether a friendship is worth fighting for or it’s time to walk away, this episode is for you. Ready to dig deeper? Take my free self-esteem quiz to see how your self-worth might be impacting your relationships: How Healthy is Your Self-Esteem? Also, I’d love for you to join me for this week’s YouTube Livestream on Thursday at 12 pm MT, where we’ll talk even more about navigating toxic friendships. Submit an anonymous question in advance right here: Dear Lisa. I’ll see you there! — Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Does your therapist talk too much about themselves during YOUR sessions? This is a common issue, and it can really get in the way of your work. They’re on your dime, and your time with them should be all about you—not an outlet for them. Frankly, knowing too much about your therapist can even be a barrier to positive outcomes. The reality is, we therapists are human, and we have our own personal and professional growth trajectories. That’s why I’ve created a new side project: Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists. In one of my latest episodes, I had a big sister-style heart-to-heart with therapists about how to contain their own "stuff"—because if we don’t, it can splash onto our clients. And I wanted to share this episode with you so you could share it with them. Here ya go: https://www.growingself.com/self-disclosure-in-therapy-how-much-is-too-much/ Use it as a way to start a courageous conversation with your therapist about what you need, what you want, and what’s working—or not working—in your relationship. Plus, you’ll be providing them with a resource that supports their growth. Win, win, win! If you’re a therapist reading this, I have so much for you! Connect with me at growingself.com/therapists to access this episode and many more on how to flourish and thrive in this career we all love. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Breakups are brutal. I know you're wondering, “How long will it take before I finally feel like myself again?” Trust me, you’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving deep into the million-dollar question: How long does it really take to get over a breakup? And, even more importantly, what do you need to DO in order to move forward and not get stuck in the past? I'm joined by Kendra Allen, the amazing host of Breakup Bestie, and together we unpack the factors that impact your healing timeline. Spoiler alert: it’s different for everyone! But we’ve got insights, personal stories, and actionable advice to help you make sense of your own process and feel more empowered as you heal. We’re covering everything from how long it takes to feel "okay" again, to why some relationships hurt more than others, and how to know if you’re truly moving on. Plus, Kendra shares her journey of transformation after addiction and abusive relationships, offering you hope that growth is possible—even when it feels like the pain of heartbreak will never end. Join us to learn about: 00:00 – The Hardest Question After a Breakup: How Long Will This Take? 05:40 – Kendra’s Story: From Addiction to Empowerment 12:19 – Why Some Breakups Take Longer to Heal Than Others 19:32 – The Emotional Rollercoaster: What Healing Really Looks Like 29:00 – Handling Triggers: Holidays, Anniversaries & More 37:15 – How to Know if You’re Truly Healing or Just Surviving 45:20 – Next Steps: Tools and Advice for Moving On If you’re hurting after heartbreak, this one’s for you. Thanks for tuning in, and/or for sharing this episode with a friend or loved one who is feeling stuck in heartbreak, and needs some direction for how to move forward. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby PS: Want to see how far along you are in your breakup recovery? Take my free quiz, How Over Your Ex Are You? 👉 Take the Quiz Join me for a live Q&A this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube, where we’ll tackle the topic of Getting Over Your Ex. Submit your questions anonymously in advance ( Ask Here) Or just jump into the conversation on Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. See you there!

Friend, partner, or job said "thanks but no thanks"? Well, the joke's on them: If you know how to mine the gold in this opportunity it could wind up being the best thing that’s ever happened to YOU. And... Rejection sucks. Whether it’s from a friend, a romantic partner, or a job you really wanted, it can leave you feeling bruised and wondering, “Is it just me?” Guess what? It’s not just you, and it’s not the end of the world (promise!). 🌟 In fact, rejection can be the key to unlocking your most resilient, powerful self. Yeah, I said it! Join me as I break down the very real emotions behind rejection and share how you can use it as a springboard for serious personal growth. We’ll cover how rejection shows up in your personal, professional, and social life—and how to cope, heal, and come out stronger on the other side. Ready to transform those “no’s” into growth? Let’s do this! 🙌 What We’ll Cover: 00:00 - Rejection Feels Awful, But... Why rejection hits so hard and why it’s universal. 02:42 - Resilience & Growth: Your New Best Friends - Turning setbacks into setups for your future self. 12:47 - Friendship Rejection: Why Does This Hurt So Much? Handling the emotional sting of being ghosted or left out by friends. 20:28 - Heartbreak Hotel: Dealing with Romantic Rejection Why getting dumped can hurt on a primal level and how to come out of it stronger. 43:42 - Career Flops: Professional Rejection and What to Do Next Didn’t get the job? Fired? Here’s how to bounce back like a boss. 💼 51:45 - Your Rejection Recovery Plan: Next Steps Actionable strategies to heal and grow from any kind of rejection. 🔥 Bonus: Want to chat about your own experiences with rejection? Jump into this week’s live stream where we’ll be swapping stories, getting advice, and supporting each other! 🗓️ Submit your questions in advance right here. Want to start doing the work we're discussing today? Book a free consultation for coaching at GrowingSelf.com. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby #RejectionRecovery #EmotionalResilience #LoveHappinessSuccess #PersonalGrowth

Let’s get real for a minute—have you ever found yourself thinking, "I have no sex drive," and feeling completely stuck about what to do next? You’re not alone. So many people are struggling with this exact issue, and today, I’m diving deep into why that happens, how it affects your relationship, and most importantly—what you can do about it. In this episode, I’m joined by Allison Gilbert, co-author with the iconic Dr. Ruth Westheimer on her last book "The Joy of Connections." We’ll explore how a lack of intimacy in your relationship can leave you feeling lost, but we’re also unpacking Dr. Ruth’s brilliant “menu for connection.” It’s full of ways to reignite your bond—not just in the bedroom, but through shared activities, better communication, and ultimately, deeper self-reflection. We’ll tackle some tough love truths (like the role self-love plays in intimacy), and I’ll share actionable strategies to help you reconnect with your partner, starting today. Episode Breakdown: [00:00] – Where’s the Spark? Why so many people feel disconnected from their partners—and how it happens more often than you think. [00:47] – Dr. Ruth’s Secret Sauce The first thing to check when your sex drive is gone—your relationship dynamics! [02:09] – It’s Not Them, It’s You? The surprising role self-love plays in keeping intimacy alive. [03:47] – The “Menu for Connection” Five elements Dr. Ruth swears by to build a richer, more meaningful connection with your partner. [05:47] – Fun Outside the Bedroom How activities like pickleball (yes, pickleball!) could reignite the flames of passion. [08:06] – What’s Really Going On? Digging deeper: how emotional barriers like resentment might be blocking your connection. [12:41] – Therapy or Time to Move On? When it’s time to seek help—or even consider a bigger decision. [15:41] – You Deserve Better Dr. Ruth’s empowering message: You deserve happiness, fun, and great sex—don’t settle for less. [17:16] – Let’s Wrap This Up! Final thoughts and inspiration to help you take that first step toward a better, more intimate relationship. Tune in, share your thoughts, and let’s create a life full of love, connection, and fun together! Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. ⭐ Ready for more? ⭐ Download my free guide, "Communication that Connects," to start having meaningful conversations that build closeness in your relationship. And don’t forget to join me for this week’s live stream on Thursday at 12 PM MT—we’ll dive even deeper into intimacy and connection. Submit your anonymous questions ahead of time right here! P. P.S: Who else in your life needs to hear this message today? Forward this episode to them and feel good about being a positive “change agent” in the lives of others. You and I are on the same mission my friend! Xo, L

Where did everyone go?? At some point, many/most adults look up one day to realize that all their old friends have either moved to Austin or are completely buried in #babylife or never-ending home improvement projects… and they have nobody to spontaneously get a beer with on a Tuesday night. Can you relate? It's not just you. Did you know that, on average, most people lose more friends every year than they gain? Over time, your life can become increasingly lonely unless you’re actively working to build and maintain friendships. But here’s the thing: making new friends as an adult is harder than it sounds. 😅 In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, we dive deep into the complexities of adult friendships with journalist Kelly Stout, who spent a month trying to make just one new friend… and learned some important things that she’s sharing with YOU. From the unexpected emotional hurdles to the surprising lessons about vulnerability and connection, we explore what it really takes to form meaningful relationships in adulthood. 💛 If you’ve ever struggled with loneliness, wondered why your social circle shrinks as the years go by, or just feel stuck when it comes to making new friends, this episode is for you. 🙌 Chapters 00:00 Can Happiness Really Be Found Through Friendships? 00:19 Why Your Friendships Are More Important Than You Think 00:58 Meet Kelly Stout: Her One-Month Quest to Make a New Friend 02:30 What Happens When You Set a Deadline to Make a Friend? 04:58 The Hidden Challenges of Building Friendships as an Adult 12:55 What Actually Defines a True Friendship? 15:40 Friendship Experiments: What Works and What Doesn’t 18:32 Why Opening Up to Others Feels So Scary—And Necessary 22:33 The Biggest Lessons We Learned About Friendship 25:01 When Friendships Feel Fleeting: Why It Happens 25:45 Vulnerability Hangover: Ever Felt It? Here’s Why It Happens 25:56 Turning Points: When You Realize You’re Doing Friendship All Wrong 26:33 Can You Fast-Track Emotional Intimacy? Let’s Find Out 27:18 Why We Gravitate Toward People Just Like Us—And What to Do About It 27:45 Discovering the Power of Friendships with People Who Are Different 28:19 The Comfort and Complexity of Long-Term Friendships 29:53 Bumble for Friends: Can You Really Make Friends on an App? 32:01 How Internalized Shame is Holding You Back from Friendship 34:03 The Reality of Keeping Friendships Alive as an Adult 43:57 Why We Crave Community—and How to Build One 47:01 Modern Loneliness: Why Life is Designed to Keep Us Isolated 53:44 Final Reflections: How to Create Real Friendships That Last 💡 Learn how to overcome the struggles of making friends as an adult and build a community that brings joy and connection back into your life. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby PS: I think you and I should be friends! Come hang out with me on a Thursday live stream! Mark your calendar right now, it's at 12pm MT / 2pm ET on my Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook. This week we're talking about friendships. If you have a question or conundrum related to this, here's the link to ask in advance: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. Be sure to subscribe/follow so you get updates and recaps! P.P.S. As promised in this podcast, here's the link to grab your totally free and VAST collection of all my best articles and podcasts on the subject of healthy relationships. I made it for YOU.

Could you be accidentally and unintentionally DESTROYING your relationship? Pro tip from a marriage counselor: Many, many people are... and literally have no idea. I think I know why. Everyone with an Instagram account is posting things about what they think you should do to have a great relationship—communication tips, romantic date ideas, etc.—but let’s be real... sometimes, it's more important to know what NOT to do! And nobody talks about that!! That’s why today, we’re flipping the script on the usual relationship advice you hear. 💥 In this episode, we’re breaking down the 12 Most Effective Ways to Destroy Your Relationship (so you can avoid them like the plague). Trust me, as a marriage counselor, I’ve seen it all. Whether it’s neglecting your partner or constantly blaming your “issues” when you behave badly, even the strongest couples can unknowingly make these mistakes. But don’t worry, I’m not here to throw shade—I'm here to help you laugh, learn, and most importantly, grow! 🌱 By the end of this, you’ll not only recognize these pitfalls, but also walk away with actionable tips to make sure you’re NOT sabotaging your love life. 🙌 Here's what you'll learn: ⏱️ 00:00 Intro: The 12 Biggest Relationship Mistakes 02:36 Mistake #12: Making the Relationship ALL About You 04:36 Mistake #11: Blaming Everything on Your Issues 08:26 Mistake #10: Neglecting Your Partner (The Silent Killer) 11:20 Mistake #9: Too Much Togetherness (Yikes!) And all the way down... to the number one biggest relationship killer! 💬 Let’s talk: Have you fallen into any of these traps? What’s one mistake you’re guilty of? Drop a comment on Instagram @drlisamariebobby —I’d love to hear from you! AND if you want to get my perspective on some not-so-fantastic things that might be happening in your relationship (and how to make it stop) join me on Thursday for a live stream on this topic! Use this link to ask your Q and get reminders to join on Thursday at 12 pm MT / 2pm ET. https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa If you're feeling like, "uh oh" after hearing this... you're not alone! I’ve helped thousands of couples turn things around, and you can too. 🌟 Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 💡 PS: If you're ready to start working on some positive new communication tools after hearing about the not great ones, check out my FREE training, “Communication That Connects” — it’s packed with tools to help you strengthen your connection and communicate like a pro!

Forget Everything You Knew About Anxiety – This Changes Everything! Ever feel like anxiety has a grip on your life? Here’s the game-changing truth: You can heal anxietyy, not just manage the symptoms. In this transformative episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Nicole Cain, a holistic anxiety expert and author of the upcoming book Panic Proof, to discuss a revolutionary approach to healing anxiety from the inside out. 👉 Imagine freeing yourself from anxiety by nurturing your body, mind, and soul. Together, we dive into practical strategies that blend psychology and holistic medicine to uncover the root causes of anxiety and address them at the deepest level. We even explore how anxiety shows up in relationships and, yes, even in the bedroom! What You'll Learn Today: 00:00 The Truth About Healing Anxiety, Naturally 00:18 Dr. Nicole's Story 12:28 Understanding Anxiety and Its Roots 19:22 Esme’s Story: A Powerful Case Study 33:54 Anxiety in Relationships & Sexuality 42:43 Dr. Nicole's Three-Minute Hack for Instant Anxiety Relief 50:39 How the Salience Network Impacts Anxiety 54:30 VERY Generous Offer from Dr. Nicole! ✨ And... I'm so thrilled to share that Dr. Nicole will be my guest host on this week's live stream, and available to answer YOUR questions. Join us Thursday 9/5 at 12 PM MT on my YouTube, Instagram, or Facebook. Want a reminder or to ask a Q in advance? Get that set up right here: www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. 🙌 If you missed the chance to hop on with us LIVE you can catch the recap video right here starting 9/6: https://www.growingself.com/natural-anxiety-relief 🎥 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with anyone you know who’s struggling with anxiety—this could be the breakthrough they’ve been waiting for! Your partner in growth, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Wondering why your therapist acts a little... strange? What are all those long, awkward silences about? Why won't they follow you on social media? You made DIRECT EYE CONTACT with them at the grocery store but they didn't acknowledge your presence. Why?? In this episode, we’re diving into the surprising truth behind therapist boundaries and why they matter for your personal growth. In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m pulling back the curtain on some of the “weird” things therapists do (like, why won’t they just give you a hug already?!), and why those boundaries are actually super important for your healing journey. We’ll also break down the difference between therapy and coaching, why therapists never give direct advice, and how these boundaries create a safe, effective space for you to thrive. Plus, I’m sharing insights that will help you build a strong, healthy relationship with your therapist. If you're in therapy, you’ll walk away with some major a-ha moments! Timestamps: 00:00 - Let’s Get Real: Why Do Therapists Have Such Weird Boundaries? 02:25 - The Surprising Power of Therapist Boundaries 06:43 - Why Your Therapist Won’t Steer the Conversation (Hint: It’s for YOU) 09:10 - Therapist vs. Coach: Which One Do You Really Need? 12:35 - The Ethics Behind the Scenes: How Good Therapists Keep You Safe 24:25 - Why Your Therapist Stays Neutral (Even When It Feels Weird) 31:55 - Session Time Limits & Contact Rules—What’s Up with That? 35:51 - The Secret to a Healthy Therapist-Client Relationship 45:44 - Wrap Up: Final Thoughts and Takeaways Wanna Learn More? Signs You Have a Bad Therapist How to Find a Good Therapist Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the bell so you never miss an episode on all things therapy, coaching, and personal growth! Let’s keep this conversation going! 💖

Ready to shake off low self esteem for good, and grow into the confident, competent person you want to be? Good news: Confidence isn't born, it's BUILT, meaning you have more control over how you feel about yourself than you might think. On today’s podcast you’ll learn the essence of authentic self-worth, and how to grow into the kind of person that exudes confidence (in a good way). As a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and board-certified coach, I’m sharing why confidence isn’t just a feeling you magically have—it’s something you build through consistent, value-driven actions. Together, we’ll explore practical ways to develop self-respect, trust your judgment, and foster a deep-rooted belief in your worth. Whether you're looking to overcome self-doubt or grow into the confident person you aspire to be, this episode offers steps you can start taking today. Here’s what you’ll learn: 00:00 Introduction to Authentic Confidence 01:43 Understanding Authentic Confidence 04:23 Building Confidence Through Actions 06:12 Overcoming Misconceptions About Confidence 07:53 Identifying and Aligning with Your Values 13:26 Personal Story: The Journey to Self-Respect 17:10 Developing a Growth Mindset 34:50 Practical Tips for Exuding Confidence 44:42 Conclusion and Free Resources Want more guidance? Join me LIVE on Thursday for a Q&A, where I’ll answer your questions about building confidence and self-esteem. Submit your questions in advance through https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa for personalized advice! Don’t forget to take our free "How Healthy Is Your Self-Esteem?" quiz at https://www.growingself.com/self-esteem-test/ to see where you stand and discover next steps for boosting your self-worth. See you there! 👏💪 #Confidence #SelfEsteem #ExudeConfidence #PersonalGrowth #LiveQandA #GrowingSelf

Anger can destroy a relationship, but it can also be the doorway to deeper connections and the emotional intimacy you want and deserve. In this episode of 'Love, Happiness, and Success,' we’re not just talking about managing anger in relationships—we’re transforming it into a tool for deepening emotional intimacy and strengthening your connection. Join me, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, as we explore the roots of anger, its impact, and practical strategies to use it constructively. Learn how to manage anger, communicate effectively, build emotional intelligence, and turn conflict into meaningful connection. Plus, I’ve got some incredible free resources for you! 00:00 Introduction 01:58 Roots of Anger 08:36 Communication Strategies 18:23 Problem Solving & Emotional Intelligence 28:34 Free Resources & Final Thoughts Ready to transform your relationship? Tune in now! 💬❤️ #LoveHappinessSuccess #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipGoals #TransformYourLove Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby PS: Grab that FREE two part “Communication That Connects” training right here! P.P.S. I’m going LIVE this Thursday to answer your relationship questions. Want to submit your question in advance and/or get a recap of this video? Here’s the link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa Otherwise, set a reminder and I’ll see you soon!

Feeling trapped in a high-paying job you hate? 😔💸 Welcome to the golden handcuffs dilemma, where financial success comes at the expense of your happiness and mental well-being. In today's episode, we dive deep into the emotional and practical challenges of breaking free from a lucrative but unfulfilling career. You'll learn how to reclaim your freedom, reignite your passion, and find true fulfillment without sacrificing financial security. 🚀✨ Specifically, we’re discussing: 00:00 Breaking the Chains: Intro to Escaping Golden Handcuffs 00:20 The Golden Cage: Understanding Why High Pay Can Trap You 05:08 Real Stories, Real Struggles: Listener Questions and Insights 08:02 The Silent Suffering: Emotional and Psychological Costs 14:26 Conquering Fears: How to Tackle Anxiety and Doubt 32:06 Roadmap to Freedom: Practical Steps for a Career Transition 46:36 Your Next Chapter: Actionable Takeaways and Final Thoughts It's time to escape the golden cage and design a life that truly makes you happy! Don't miss this transformative journey—hit play now! 🎥🔓 #GoldenHandcuffs #CareerChange #FindYourPassion #WorkLifeBalance Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com P.S. Want MORE expert career advice to help you move forward with clarity and confidence? I have so much for you! Sign up to get access to my ENTIRE “Career Clarity” content collection, full of articles and a curated podcast playlist featuring the best advice from the world-class career counselors of Growing Self. Totally free, all for you! Get it here...

7 WEIRD Things That Will Improve Your Relationship Are you wondering, "How can I improve my relationship?" 🤔 You're in the right place! In this episode of "Love, Happiness, and Success," I’m sharing the most surprising and counterintuitive tips to dramatically enhance your relationship. From giving each other more space to embracing healthy anxiety, these strategies are strange - but they are based on research… and they are game-changers! 🌟 What we’re discussing: 00:00 Introduction: Improving Your Relationship 02:00 Counterintuitive Tip #1: Give Each Other Space 04:07 Counterintuitive Tip #2: Embrace Healthy Anxiety 05:53 Counterintuitive Tip #3: Embrace the Daily Grind 07:45 Counterintuitive Tip #4: Focus on Yourself 11:58 Counterintuitive Tip #5: Prioritize Sexuality 14:30 Additional Tips: Shared Mission and Empathy 17:20 Be an Activist for Your Relationship 21:18 Conclusion and Free Resources 🔗 But wait, there’s more! Join my community and start transforming your relationship today! 👉 FREE Communication Skills Training: Master the art of healthy communication and avoid common pitfalls with my 100% free two-part communication skills training, which Includes a 30-page workbook packed with exercises to help you and your partner connect on a deeper level. Sign up for FREE right now at https://www.growingself.com/communication. 👉 Book a Free Consultation: Ready for personalized help? Schedule a free consultation with one of our expert relationship coaches. We’re here to support you every step of the way. Visit growingself.com to book your first meeting, to discuss your hopes and goals for your relationship and how we can help. 📅 Live Stream: Have questions or need advice? Just want to say hi? I’m here! Join me for a live stream this Thursday (and every Thursday) at 12 p.m. Mountain, 2 p.m. Eastern. Submit your questions in advance at https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa and get personalized tips to improve your relationship. Let's create love, happiness, and success together! 💖✨ #HowToImproveYourRelationship #RelationshipAdvice #LoveHappinessSuccess #DrLisaMarieBobby #GrowingSelf #CouplesCounseling #RelationshipTips #HealthyRelationships #FreeCommunicationTraining #RelationshipCoaching After you tune in and learn about these WEIRD strategie to improve your relationship, be sure to let me know in the comments which strategy you'll try first! (Or which one you’ll NEVER do - it’s all good! I’d also love to hear how this goes for you. Stay in tuch with me! Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe! 💬💞 Xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

Was your marriage a MISTAKE? Today we’re diving into a question I hear a lot: "Did I marry the wrong person?" If your relationship feels hard and you're starting to wonder if you made the right choice, you’re in the right place. We’ll tackle four essential areas to help you gain clarity: compatibility, communication, alignment, and growth opportunities. By the end of this episode, you’ll have some fresh ideas, free resources, and a clear plan to create positive change, whether with your partner or on your own. Specifically, we’re discussing: 0:00 Introduction: Are You Married to the Wrong Person? 00:39 Understanding Relationship Challenges 06:46 The Importance of Compatibility 14:02 Communication: The Key to Connection 17:46 Emotional Connection and Alignment 22:27 Steps to Clarity and Growth 29:03 Discernment Counseling: Finding the Right Path 33:21 Free Resources and Final Thoughts Thanks for tuning in! Until next week, take care — and keep growing. Xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S.To take advantage of that free two-part communication skills training I mentioned in this episode, head over to growingself.com/communication. P.P.S. And don’t forget, if you’re listening to this the week it’s released, join me this Thursday at 12 PM Mountain, 2 PM Eastern on Instagram and YouTube for a live stream where I’ll be answering your questions about whether you married the wrong person. Submit your questions in advance at growingself.com/dear-lisa.

🔥 STOP PLAYING SMALL! 🔥 Discover the secrets to growing more confident and comfortable with putting yourself out there. 🌟 Are you constantly minimizing yourself, feeling guilty for setting boundaries, or believing that good things are meant for others but not for you? If so, it's time to break free from these limiting beliefs and start living unapologetically! In this powerful episode, we dive deep into why we play small and how to overcome it, empowering you to step into your greatness. Today I'm sharing actionable strategies and inspiring insights to help you become your own hero. Whether it's in your relationships, career, or personal growth, it's crucial to stop playing small and start believing in your worth. Today's episode will help you do that! 💪✨ Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com PS: Is this an issue for you? Want to talk about it?? Join me on this week’s livestream to share your story and get advice for how to STOP feeling guilty about being your awesome self. Jump in at 12 pm MT on 7/18, or submit your question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa #StopPlayingSmall #SelfEmpowerment #Confidence #SelfLove #PersonalGrowth #GrowingSelf Timestamps / Chapters 02:15 – Signs You’re Playing Small 10:45 – Overcoming Limiting Beliefs 20:30 – Strategies for Self-Empowerment 30:00 – Free Resources and Next Steps

One of my listeners wrote in saying, "Dear Lisa, https://www.growingself.com/feeling-unheard-in-relationship right now. I try to talk about how I feel, but I'm just not getting through. It seems like my partner is either not hearing me or not understanding me, and I feel so lonely. How do I change this situation?" Honestly: This is one of the most common issues I hear about as a marriage counselor. In today’s podcast, I’m diving into why you might feel unheard in your relationship and sharing practical strategies to change that dynamic. If this resonates with you, stick around because here’s what you’ll learn today: The common reasons behind feeling unheard. The impact of emotionally invalidating communication. How to engage in communication that fosters emotional intimacy. Practical tips and strategies to improve listening and being heard. For even more insights, read the full article here. 💬 Also, Join the Conversation! Let's talk about YOU! 💬 I’m hosting a live Q&A session every Thursday at 12 PM Mountain (2 PM Eastern) where I'll answer your questions about feeling heard in your relationship. Join me live on YouTube, Facebook, or Instagram. You can submit your questions in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa 📘 Free Resource Alert! 📘 As I discussed in this episode, to help you even more, I’ve created a free two-part training series called “Communication that Connects.” This series includes: Two 45-minute training sessions A 30-page workbook filled with exercises and activities Sign up for FREE at growingself.com/communication I made this for you! Thank you so much for tuning in today. If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe. I look forward to helping you create more love, happiness, and success in your life! xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Is your relationship emotionally enmeshed? If it is... you probably don't realize it! So how can you know? And what can you do about it? Tune into this one to find out! On this episode, we're talking about what emotional enmeshment is, and how you can untangle your heart strings and create a better relationship in the process. When couples are struggling with communication or conflict, emotional enmeshment is often the root issue. Once you address the enmeshment, your entire relationship can feel lighter and more enjoyable. But first you have to recognize enmeshment for what it is, and this episode will show you the way! Tune in to learn: What an emotionally enmeshed relationship looks like (the answer may surprise you!) The difference between emotional enmeshment and emotional intimacy Why emotional enmeshment is a big problem in relationships How to fix an enmeshed relationship and build a healthier connection. And more! If you're wondering about enmeshment in your relationship, you can take my free "How Healthy Is Your Relationship Quiz" and learn more: https://www.growingself.com/relationship-quiz/ I hope you'll join me! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. There is NO Thursday live stream on this topic this week. But I'll be back LIVE on Thursday 7/11 to address your questions about next week's podcast topic: What to do if you're feeling unheard in your relationship. Have questions already? Let me know and we'll discuss IRL on 7/11!

Traveling with your partner can be so fun, but it can also be stressful and lead to conflict. Whether you're wondering why vacations sometimes lead to arguments or how to navigate different travel styles, this episode is packed with insights and practical strategies to help you have a great time adventuring with your partner — or apart! Main Takeaways: Understand the common conflicts that arise on trips and how to address them constructively. Learn how to appreciate and respect your partner's travel preferences. Discover how to plan trips that satisfy both you and your partner. Explore the benefits of solo travel for a healthy relationship. Gain tools to turn travel challenges into opportunities for growth and connection. Tune in, learn, and let's make your next trip the best one yet. xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com PS: After listening, I invite you to join the conversation live this Thursday at 12 PM Mountain Time (2 PM Eastern) on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook. Bring your questions about travel and relationships, and let's dive deeper into creating harmony and fun in your journeys together. Submit your questions in advance at growingself.com/dear-lisa and get reminders about the live stream so you won't miss a thing. If you can't make it, you can check out the recap at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2y1LGVrpRfY&t=687s

Have you ever listened to an episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast and thought, "I wish I could talk to Dr. Lisa about this"? Now you can! When: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time) Where: Live on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook Each week, after dropping a new podcast episode on Monday, I'll host a live stream on Thursday to discuss that week's topic, answer your questions, and give you personalized advice. How to Participate: Live: Tune in on any of my social channels: YouTube, Instagram, Facebook. Submit Questions in Advance: Visit growingself.com/dear-lisa to ask questions ahead of time and get a reminder before the live stream starts. Recap: If you can't make it live, sign up through the link to receive a recap video via email. I love making the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast for you, but live streaming adds a special touch by allowing me to interact with you directly. I can't wait to chat about your life and your unique situation. Mark Your Calendar: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time). See you there! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Have you been thinking about getting back together with your ex? It's completely natural to wonder if getting back together with an ex is a mistake, or if it might be the beginning of a beautiful new chapter in your relationship. In this episode, I'm here to offer you the clarity you need. We'll walk through FOUR ESSENTIAL QUESTIONS that you must ask yourself and your ex before getting back together. These questions are designed to help you understand whether giving your relationship another chance is the right move. Doing this introspective work will either set you up for a successful reunion or save you from investing time and energy into a relationship that may not have a future. So, make yourself a cup of tea, grab your journal, and let's dive deep into these pivotal questions together. By the end of this episode, you'll feel empowered and equipped with the insights needed to make the best decision for your heart and your future. Let's get started! 🌟 xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com P.S. Let's talk! Every week on Thursdays at 12pm MT / 2pm ET I'm hosting a live stream on Monday's podcast topic to answer YOUR questions. If you're wrestling with this "should we get back together or not" dilemma, I hope you join me!! Submit your question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa, and then tune in on the socials: Instagram, YouTube or Facebook. See you Thursday! P.P.S. In the meantime, take advantage of the free resources I mentioned on today's show including tons of insightful articles and a curated podcast playlist all about how to get "relationship clarity." They're all for you! https://www.growingself.com/stay-or-go

If your heart is hurting and your confidence is MIA after a breakup or divorce, I see you. That stripped-down, shell-of-yourself feeling? It’s real. But here’s the truth that can change everything: You can take your power back after a breakup—and in this episode, I’m going to show you how. On today’s episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, we’re diving deep into what it really means to reclaim your sense of power after a breakup. Whether you were left, or you were the one who walked away, breakups can leave you feeling helpless, obsessively stuck on your ex, and questioning your self-worth. This episode is your permission slip to start choosing something better for yourself. Timestamps: 01:48 – Why Breakups Feel So Disempowering 03:44 – How to Reclaim Your Power (Starting Today) 13:30 – Self-Love as a Rebellion 18:11 – Rewriting Your Story for Good 22:00 – Transforming Pain Into Growth 29:24 – How to Move Forward If this episode resonated with you, I want you to take a deep breath — because that in itself is proof of your strength. You’re not hiding from the pain. You’re facing it, seeking to heal, and learning along the way. That’s what taking your power back looks like. 👉 Take the next step with my free Breakup Recovery Quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You?It’s an insightful tool to help you understand what stage of healing you’re in — and what specific actions will move you forward. You’ll walk away with a clearer sense of what’s going on emotionally, and a personalized roadmap for reclaiming your energy, confidence, and future. And if you’re realizing that this heartbreak is bigger than you expected — that it’s shaken your sense of self, made you question your worth, or left you feeling stuck— come talk to one of the expert breakup recovery therapists and coaches on my team. 👉 You can schedule a free consultation with someone who truly gets it. Together, we’ll explore how breakup recovery coaching or counseling can help you process your grief, rebuild your confidence, and start feeling like yourself again — or even the version of you that you’ve always hoped to become. You deserve to move forward — not with bitterness, but with strength, insight, and genuine emotional freedom. And friend? That next chapter you’ve been longing for? It starts now. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobbywww.growingself.com P.S. If someone you care about is stuck in heartbreak too, forward them this episode. Help them take their power back, too.💛

Will you be single forever? If you've been dating for a while and struggling to find your person, then I'll bet this thought has crossed your mind at some point. Maybe it's something you think about a lot. And the prospect of being single forever can be scary! We all crave deep connection and true, enduring love. The possiblity of never finding the relationship we desire is daunting, especially if your dating experiences have been grinding you down. But facing the fear of being alone may just be the key to not only loving your life as a single person, but also dating successfully. On this episode, we're talking about the fear of being single, how it holds you back, and how you can stop feeling afraid and choose to love your life — no matter what. Tune in to learn: 03:11 Understanding the Fear 05:28 Working on Healthy Relationships 06:28 Impact of Fear on Relationships 09:17 Impact on Mental and Emotional Wellbeing 10:43 Behaviors Driven by Fear 13:31 Overcoming the Fear 14:01 Making Peace with Being Single 15:02 Shifting Mindset 16:00 Growth Mindset and Personal Development 17:24 Identifying Obstacles and Making Changes 22:36 Challenging Core Beliefs 25:01 Developing Meaningful Connections 27:46 Finding Fulfillment in Other Areas of Life 29:34 Building a Fulfilling Life 31:22 How Authenticity Makes You Attractive All of that and more on this episode for you. I hope you'll join me! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. — Ready to stop spinning your wheels and start dating with intention? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/

How do you have a healthy sexual relationship with your partner after the trauma of infidelity? It's possible, and in fact, going through the process of healing your relationship together can bring you closer in unexpected ways. But the road to recovery is not an easy one, especially when it comes to sex. Many couples struggle to heal, reconnect, and feel safe again after feeling violated by an affair. But there is a path to repair — for your relationship and your sex life — and that's what we're talking about on today's episode. Tune in to learn about: 04:32 The Mental and Emotional Well-being of the Injured Party 06:00 Moving Through a Structured Healing Process 07:51 Stages of Sex After Infidelity 12:34 Managing Trauma Triggers During Sexual Encounters 19:16 The Desire for Detailed Sexual Information 29:45 Positive Growth and Conversations About Sexuality 34:37 Educating Yourself and Making Informed Decisions And more. If you are struggling with sex after infidelity, I hope this episode gives you hope and direction. You deserve it. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. — Want support with healing from infidelity? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/

Are you tired of all the drama that surrounds money conversations in your relationship? This is an issue that so many couples deal with. Money is a highly emotional topic, and it can be very triggering, especially when we don't feel respected or understood. It takes a high degree of empathy and intention to communicate about a hot-button topic like money and create a financial plan with your partner that both of you can feel good about. But that is a key to long-term success and satisfaction in your relationship. On today's episode, I'm going to tell you how to talk about money without fighting, so you and your partner can get on the same page and grow together in both money and love. Tune in to learn about: 01:30 The Root Cause of Money Fights in Relationships 03:26 Money as a Symbol of Deeper Problems 04:47 The Emotional Significance of Money 07:39 Respecting Differences Around Money 08:05 The Limitations of Standard Advice 12:50 The Rider and the Elephant Metaphor 16:33 The Structured Process of Financial Counseling 18:39 Unpacking the History and Family Culture Around Money 19:37 Understanding the Value Systems Attached to Money 24:22 Creating a Shared Vision for Managing Finances 26:44 Talking About Finances Productively And more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll find this episode helpful. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. — If you'd like support from an expert couples counselor specializing in financial counseling for couples, schedule a free consultation.

Introverts are the unsung heroes of the workplace. They're thoughtful, analytical, and they excel at working independently. Still, if you have an introverted personality type, getting ahead at work can be a challenge. This podcast episode is going to tell you how to leverage your introvert superpowers (because I promise, you have them) and WIN in the workplace as an introvert. Although introverts can be assets to a team, they struggle with visibility. They may hesitate to speak up in meetings and spend lunch hours munching a salad in their car rather than socializing with coworkers. Unfortunately, upper management might mistake your introverted personality for disengagement or even disagreeableness. But there are steps you can take to make your voice heard, highlight your accomplishments, and connect with your colleagues, all while staying true to YOU. Tune in to learn about: 05:42 Career Paths for Introverts 09:21 Tapping into Your Introvert Superpower 12:09 Signs of a Mismatched Career 16:23 The Impact of Negative Feedback 21:40 Finding Balance as an Introvert 24:19 Why Introverts Kick a$$ in the Workplace 26:30 The Value of Introverted Leaders 30:05 How to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone 31:29 Self-Acceptance vs. Functioning in the World 38:23 Normalizing the Introvert Experience And more! I hope you'll join me and my Growing Self colleague Susan for this conversation! She's an experienced career counselor and she has so many excellent career tips for introverts that you won't want to miss! All of that and more on today's show! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. — If you want support building a thriving career, schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/

Do you want to feel happier, have more success, and live your full potential? The key is your mindset. Specifically, whether you've cultivated an abundance mindset, or whether you're living with a scarcity mindset. On this week's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, we're talking about what the abundance mindset is, and how you can put it to work for you in every domain of life. When you have an abundance mindset, you see possibilities everywhere you look. You're aware of your incredible power to make good things happen in your life, and you can maintain motivation to work toward your goals because you know you're ultimately bound to succeed. But many of us get stuck in a scarcity mindest, or believing that your opportunities to create the life you want are limited. This mindset makes obstacles feel insurmountable, and keeps you from being and having everything you're capable of. You deserve better! Tune in to this episode to learn how to shake off your sense of scarcity (which you may not even be aware of) and start embracing an abundant life. You'll learn: 00:00 What Is an Abundance Mindset? 05:08 Why Mindset Matters 09:44 The Abundance Mindset vs Scarcity Mindset 13:06 Abundance Mindset in the Workplace 20:01 Abundance Mindset and Money 23:14 Abundance Mindset in Relationships 29:07 Internal Benefits of Abundance Mindset 32:00 Developing an Abundance Mindset 37:21 Challenging Your Perspective And so much more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll find this episode helpful. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. — Want support in radically shifting your mindset and getting more out of life? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/