Less Drama More Mama

Conflict is a normal part of being a human. And sometimes the conversations we have about our conflicts can evoke strong emotions. Learning how to navigate those conversations in an effective way can actually bring people closer together and strengthen relationships. Join me for today's episode where I share steps to making "hard" conversations easier. https://lessdramamoremama.com/107

This episode is dedicated to my amazing clients (past, present, and future). Join me to hear about the kinds of moms I serve, what they struggle with, what makes them so special, and why I love them. Also, find out how to get started with me as your life coach now. https://lessdramamoremama.com/106

It's natural -- from the time our kids are born, we compare ourselves (and them) to others. But often our comparisons cause us to feel inadequate, embarrassed, and envious. Join me for today's episode as I share how we can think about our differences in ways that lift each other up, show us what's possible for our lives, and help us feel good about ourselves. https://lessdramamoremama.com/105

We've all been conditioned to believe that we should feel happy most of the time. So when we or our kids are unhappy, we think something's gone terribly wrong. But what if that's not true? Tune in for today's episode to learn why "negative" emotions are nothing to fix. https://lessdramamoremama.com/104

Usually around this time of year, I'm talking to parents about back-to-school routines, transitions, and schedules. But this year, the conversations are about whether to go back to school at all. With so much changing day-to-day regarding COVID-19 and schools giving parents the option of whether and how to return to school, parents are struggling to make their decisions. Join me for this episode to learn my 3-step process for making the best decision for you and your family. https://lessdramamoremama.com/103

Do you feel like there's a dark cloud hanging over you? Do you feel unmotivated, uninspired, despondent, lonely, or sad? If so, you might be in a "funk." Tune in to today's episode to learn how to get out of it. Please note: If you're feeling anxious, depressed, or are considering suicide, please get professional help. This podcast is not a substitute for personal treatment by a mental health care provider. Remember — you are not alone. Others are here to help you get through this difficult time. Hotlines that are available 24/7: The National Suicide Prevention Hotline 800-273-8255 Parental Stress Hotline – Help for Parents 800-632-8188 Alcohol & Drug Abuse Hotline 800-729-6686 National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-7233

We all know this year's been one heck of a doozy. But what if THIS is the summer that you turn everything around and finally find yourself again? What if THIS summer you learn the secrets to feeling more calm and patient? More energized and inspired? More energized, organized, and productive? More free? Tune into today's episode where I share about an exciting new opportunity to make that a reality and make this one of the BEST summers of your life! https://lessdramamoremama.com/101

It's episode 100!!! To celebrate, I decided to feature my podcast listeners as guests, so they could share how they've taken ideas and concepts from the show and applied them to their own lives. Tune in for this very special episode to hear moms just like you talk about how listening to the podcast has helped them feel better about themselves, their kids, and their parenting. https://lessdramamoremama.com/100

In last week's episode, I talked about what self-care is, what it isn't, and the role of pleasure when it comes to self-care. This week, I discuss the excuses (a.k.a. LIES) moms use that prevent them from taking better care of themselves. Tune in to hear what they are, and which ones you're using that hold you back from living your best life. https://lessdramamoremama.com/099

Summer has officially begun. And while things are super HOT outside, my goal as a life coach is to help you keep your cool on the inside. Over the past 3.5 months, you've likely taken care of everyone else and put your own needs last. Now it's time to start taking care of YOU and your own well-being. I'm declaring this the Summer of Self-Care and invite you to join me for a free online self-care challenge for moms, starting Monday, July 6. https://lessdramamoremama.com/098

When I was a sophomore in college, I took a course called, The Psychology of Death and Dying. One particular homework assignment taught me more about living than it did about dying. Join me for today's episode where I tell you about the assignment and what I've since learned from it. I also suggest an assignment for you to complete so that you can create the legacy and life you want, starting today. https://lessdramamoremama.com/097

While I don't go around making racist remarks or consciously thinking racists thoughts, I know that just by being a white person in America, I'm unwittingly contributing to the racism that exists. And I now know that being non-racist isn't the same as being anti-racist. Over the past week, I did a lot of reading, listening, and thinking about my own beliefs and thoughts about race. In today's episode, I share some of what I've discovered so far. https://lessdramamoremama.com/096

Even though the number of Coronavirus cases keeps rising, many states have started to re-open and lift their lockdown restrictions. As moms, we have a lot of decisions to make in the coming months, not only for ourselves but for our kids. Join me for today's episode, where I talk about how to make those decisions from a feeling of empowerment, rather than from a victim mentality. https://lessdramamoremama.com/095

You want your kids to see you as an authority figure -- as someone who's strong and brave and infallible. You fear that if you show your flaws and fears and mistakes, they'll lose their trust in you and you'll lose your connection with them. But what if the opposite is true? Join me for today's episode, where I talk about how being vulnerable with your kids can actually create more connection, trust, and influence, not less. https://lessdramamoremama.com/094

Do you sometimes feel afraid of your own child? In today's podcast episode, you'll learn the secret to taking back your power and feeling UNafraid. This show is a must-listen, especially if you consider your child to be challenging, defiant, or oppositional. https://lessdramamoremama.com/093

Working from home is a challenge for many moms right now. Are you trying to balance being a good mom with being a good employee, boss, or colleague? Do you feel like you can't be as productive at work or as attentive to your kids as you want to be -- and you're losing at both? Tune in for today's episode to shift your mindset around working from home with kids and feel more in control of your time and productivity. https://lessdramamoremama.com/092

Is it just me, or is everyone using the word 'pivot' lately? Well, I decided to join them and talk about how we can pivot our parenting right now. I even came up with a clever acronym and free download to help you remember how to do it. Be sure to listen til the end to find out how to get personalized help from me with your Parenting Pivot Plan. https://lessdramamoremama.com/091

Jim Rohn said, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." Who are those people in your life? Do they lift you up and inspire you to become the best version of yourself? Today on the podcast, I interview the members of the Unstoppable Six Mastermind: the five people I know I can turn to in any situation. Tune in to hear them share about how our Mastermind has benefited them both personally and professionally, what to consider when starting a Mom Mastermind of your own, and the incredible work they do to help other moms like you. So many good takeaways from this episode...a must-listen! https://lessdramamoremama.com/090

The novel Coronavirus doesn't feel so novel anymore. Being quarantined at home no longer feels new or different. And now that you've gotten used to homeschooling the kids, wearing a mask when you go outside, and attending virtual birthday parties via Zoom, you might be left feeling a bit...bored. Join me for today's episode, where I talk about feeling bored and what you can do about it. https://lessdramamoremama.com/089

There's no problem that coaching can't solve. If you believed this (like I do), you'd be crazy not to have a life coach of your own. In part two of Real Client Stories, Cici talks about how coaching improved her relationships with her husband, her two adult children, and herself. She also gives you the low-down on what's it's really like to work with me as a coach. You don't want to miss this one! https://lessdramamoremama.com/088

If there was ever a time to hire a Life Coach, this is it. With so much happening in the world right now, and so many heightened emotions, life coaching not only helps you GO through your challenges but GROW through them, too. My former client, Jacki, joins me on today's episode to share about how coaching transformed her experience as a mother and a wife. If you need support right now to help you be the mom you most want to be, sign up for a free mini-session with me. As Jacki says, "you have nothing to lose!" https://lessdramamoremama.com/087

With the number of confirmed Coronavirus cases in the United States surpassing China and Italy last week, more and more families are being told to shelter in place. But what are you supposed to do with all of your time now that everyone's at home? Tune into this episode, where I share my thoughts about how to structure your days so that everyone can get their needs met during this time of social distancing, isolation, and quarantine. https://lessdramamoremama.com/086

The reality of Coronavirus is sinking in. And while it's normal to feel sad, scared, and stressed at a time like this, you also have an amazing opportunity before you. Now, more than ever is the perfect time to become more conscious and intentional about the way you think, feel, and act. Imagine being able to say that this moment in history was the turning point for your mental and emotional health, relationships, and personal achievements. When you can learn to manage your mind in a situation like this, there will be nothing you can't handle moving forward. Tune into today's episode to hear about how others are turning obstacles into opportunities and how you can, too. https://lessdramamoremama.com/085

It always bothers me when people refer to kids as "bad." When kids believe they're bad, they act in ways to prove their belief true. Tune in to this episode as I explain why there's no such thing as a "bad" kid and how to help kids break out of their self-fulfilling prophecies. https://lessdramamoremama.com/084

I'm excited to bring you this special edition of the Less Drama More Mama podcast. Due to the widespread panic over COVID-19, there's no better time to get a handle on your emotional and mental health. Just because other people around you may be in a panic doesn't mean you need to be. You get to decide exactly how you want to think and feel about Coronavirus and how you want to show up as a mom now. Tune into this bonus episode to learn how to stay calm in the chaos and get support from me on an open coaching call. https://lessdramamoremama.com/panic-is-optional/

How many times do you answer the question, "How's it going?" with "I'm having a really bad day." You think you're just sharing the news, when in fact, "bad days" don't actually exist. If you're wondering, "What the heck is Pam even talking about?" tune in to today's episode to find out. https://lessdramamoremama.com/083

Did you know that you're supposed to experience negative emotions? Most likely, you were raised to believe that negative emotions are to be avoided at all costs. Join me for this episode as I explain why this is untrue, and discuss the importance of negative emotions for you and your child. https://lessdramamoremama.com/082

This week, I'm doing something different. I'm sharing the questions and answers from my recent webinars, so everyone can benefit from them. If you have a question I didn't answer on this episode, send it to me at [email protected]. And don't forget to sign up for your free mini-session with me at www.lessdramamoremama.com/mini to discover how coaching can change your life forever. https://lessdramamoremama.com/081

My guest today is Shira Gura, a well-being coach who's on a mission to create an emotionally healthy world. She talks about her first client -- herself -- and how she learned to recognize when she was "stuck." Eventually, her awareness and consistent daily journal practice led her to create a tool to help her get unstuck. Shira walks us through examples from her own life and how she's used her unSTUCK Method to get out of feeling negative emotions, such as resentment, disappointment, anger, and guilt. https://lessdramamoremama.com/070

Your brain is designed to protect you from painful thoughts and emotions by keeping them out of your conscious awareness. Sigmund Freud first identified nine psychological defense mechanisms, also called ego defenses, and many psychoanalysts have added more over time. Tune in to today's episode, where I talk about four common defense mechanisms that can impact your relationships, how to become more aware of them in your own life, and what to do the next time you feel defensive. https://lessdramamoremama.com/079

If you're wondering what Life Coaching can do for you or how it works, you're in the right place. Every mom could benefit from working with a Life Coach to help her reach her fullest potential. Join me for today's episode, where I share what life coaching is, how it's different from therapy, and why it's so valuable for moms. https://lessdramamoremama.com/078

Do you ever wonder how much more joy you'd experience if you just got out of your own way? As humans, we're actually wired to self-sabotage. But when we learn to recognize the signs, we have the ability to change our patterns. Tune in to today's episode to learn 3 common ways moms self-sabotage. https://lessdramamoremama.com/077

If I asked you to choose the top three emotions you'd want to feel on a daily basis, what would they be? Happiness? Patience? Excitement? I'd like to suggest Curiosity. Curiosity is open and inviting. It doesn't judge or evaluate. It just notices what is. When you're curious, you have a genuine interest in the who, what, when, where, why, and how of things. And being curious often leads to other emotions, including happiness, patience, and excitement ;) Join me for today's episode where I share how to generate more curiosity in your parenting and in your life. https://lessdramamoremama.com/076

Do you have a favorite child? According to research, nearly 75% of moms do. Whether you think you do or don't have a favorite, join me for this episode as I explore the concepts of favoritism and fairness, as well as the importance of examining your thoughts about your kids. https://lessdramamoremama.com/075

You've tried changing your habits and behavior many times, but the changes never seem to stick. You reason that there must be something wrong with you or that change is just impossible. But neither of those conclusions is true. Change is hard, and requires you to reinvent yourself from the inside out. Join me for today's episode, where I talk about practical steps to help you do that, as well as a new opportunity for you to work with me in the new year. https://lessdramamoremama.com/074

If you've ever looked at your child and thought, "I love you, but I don't like you," you're not alone. Thoughts like this are common, and yet no one ever talks about them. Join me for today's episode to learn how to feel better about yourself and your child when these types of thoughts appear. https://lessdramamoremama.com/073

Is your life full of drama? Do you sometimes feel like you could be on reality TV? Join me for today's episode, where I talk about what drama is, why you have it, and how to have less of it. https://lessdramamoremama.com/072

How many times have you thought, "My kids really know how to push my buttons" or "My kids always trigger me? In today's episode, I share why believing those lies will always make you feel powerless as a mom. I'll also discuss 5 steps to taking your power back and disabling your "buttons." https://lessdramamoremama.com/071

You want your kids to be good students. You want them to be good friends. But at the end of the day, you just want them to be good humans. My guest on today's podcast is Hunter Clarke-Fields, aka The Mindful Mama Mentor. Join us as we talk about her new book, Raising Good Humans, and what it takes to do it. https://lessdramamoremama.com/070

Is there someone in your family you consider to be difficult? If so, this episode is a must. Family can bring out the worst in people, but with these tips, you can be at your very best. https://lessdramamoremama.com/069

We can train our kids to say "thank you" and act grateful. But what we really want is for them to feel grateful, so their expression of gratitude is authentic. Join me for this episode as I share some of the ways I cultivate gratitude in my own family, and offer suggestions for how to do it in yours. https://lessdramamoremama.com/068

No one loves your kids as much as you do. And you want to shout from the rooftops how special and amazing they are. You want them to feel good about themselves and proud of their accomplishments. But too much praise can actually cause problems you might not have considered. Tune in to today's episode to better understand the problems with praise and how to avoid them. https://lessdramamoremama.com/067

Rewards. Kids love them. Adults love them. How could there possibly be a problem with them? Join me for this episode, where I share how rewards, like punishments, are not only ineffective, but counterproductive when it comes to solving behavior problems and motivating kids. https://lessdramamoremama.com/066

How did people describe you as a kid? Were you "the shy one," "the sensitive one" or "the wild one?" Were you "athletic," "nerdy," or "gifted?" Now your kids are being labeled, too -- by you, their teachers, and their peers. Join me for this episode, as I share how labels impact kids, and how they shape the way you (and others) interact with them. https://lessdramamoremama.com/065

"We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." -- Anais Nin I find the human brain fascinating. When we think a negative thought, our brains go to work looking for (and creating) evidence to prove it true. When we think a positive thought, our brains go to work looking for (and creating) evidence to prove that true, too. When we give ourselves evidence to prove a thought, the neural pathways in the brain get stronger and the thought becomes more ingrained in our minds. If you want to think new thoughts, you need to seek new evidence. Join me for this episode as I explain how to create your own Evidence File and deliberately program new thoughts. https://lessdramamoremama.com/064

Do you have quiet moments throughout your day? Or are you always filling your head with the sounds of podcasts, music, news, and energetic kids? Turn off your notifications and tune in for today's episode to learn about the benefits of quiet time and how to incorporate more of it into your day. https://lessdramamoremama.com/063

As people get older, they tend to look back at where they've been, rather than ahead to where they're going. They just ride out their lives re-creating their past over and over again. Living from the past is a very predictable, safe, and comfortable way to live. But if you're yearning for more and wish to create a future that's different from your past, this episode is for you. Join me as I share tools to help you create your 2020 Vision. https://lessdramamoremama.com/062

If you want your kids to take responsibility for their actions, handle mistakes with grace, and apologize with sincerity, this episode is for you. Many parents force their kids to apologize when they've made a mistake, rather than help them learn from it and understand another person's point of view. Join me for this episode, where I talk about how to help your kids make amends after they've made a mistake, and how to model a genuine apology. https://lessdramamoremama.com/061

Are you ready to stop losing your sh*t with your kids? Today on the podcast, I interview Carla Naumburg, PhD. about her most recent book on that very topic. Carla is funny, relatable, and knowledgeable about helping moms learn how to feel better about themselves, get the support they need, and manage the hardships of motherhood. Join us for this fun conversation, in which Carla shares some highlights from her book and gives valuable advice. https://lessdramamoremama.com/060

I've coached so many moms who harbor resentment toward their husbands that I wanted to dedicate an entire episode to it. If you don't have a husband or you don't feel resentment toward yours, feel free to substitute someone else. All of the concepts will apply if you're feeling resentful towards anyone. Join me as I talk about what resentment is, what causes it, and how to let it go. https://lessdramamoremama.com/059