Less Drama More Mama

Whether or not you like to admit it, judging others is something we all do. I've found that the more curious and open I've been about examining my judgmental thoughts, the better I've been able to understand myself and those thoughts, and ultimately change them. Judgement, negativity, and hate don't feel good -- and they don't drive behavior that serves us well. Releasing our judgment of others (and of ourselves) is some of the most powerful thought work we can do to help us become better moms. Join me for today's episode as I explain exactly how to do it. https://www.lessdramamoremama.com/023

Do you struggle with feeling impatient and irritable? Do you wish you could feel more tolerant and patient with your kids? Tune into this episode to learn about why moms find it so challenging to be patient, and how to feel patience more often. https://lessdramamoremama.com/022

Most of us have been taught to believe that being busy is a good thing. We think that being busy means we're important, valuable, successful, and productive. But what if that isn't true? What if being busy leads to feeling stressed out, overwhelmed, and less productive? Today's episode explores the concept of being busy in a whole new way and will help you quit being so busy in the new year. https://lessdramamoremama.com/021

Is your home a hot mess? I believe that an organized mind creates an organized life. That's why I invited Shira Gill to be today's guest. She's a Professional Organizer and a Certified Life Coach who has transformed the lives and homes of hundreds of women all over the world. Listen in on today's interview, as Shira shares the foundation of all of her work and her organization tips for moms. https://lessdramamoremama.com/020

Many of my clients and podcast listeners intellectually understand the idea that their thoughts create their feelings, actions, and results. But they have a hard time applying the concept in their own lives. They know they want to change their thoughts and beliefs, but they don't know HOW. In today's episode, I share the process of how to change your beliefs. https://lessdramamoremama.com/019

In all relationships, we have rules and expectations of how we think other people should operate. These make up our "manuals" (or instruction guides) for our relationships. Usually, we don't tell other people what's in our manuals. We think they should just know how we want them to behave. Often, we're not even aware ourselves that we have manuals or that they're causing us to suffer. Join me for today's episode to explore the relationship manuals in your life and what to do with them. https://lessdramamoremama.com/018

Do you know what your kids want more than anything? They might tell you it's the latest iPhone or a trip to Disney World. But that's not what they really want. What they really want is so much better than that. Listen in to today's episode and find out what it is and how you can get it in time for the New Year. www.lessdramamoremama.com/017

This week we're wrapping up our month-long series in NO-vember with an episode about how to say "no" to your kids. Many parents are so afraid of tantrums and power struggles that they'll do just about anything to avoid them -- including giving in and saying yes when they want to say no. If you or someone you know struggles with this, tune in to today's episode and learn why it's important for kids to hear "no" and how to say it with love. https://lessdramamoremama.com/016

Setting boundaries is an important part of establishing your identity and defining who you are. Most people are confused and misinformed about what boundaries are, when they're appropriate, and how to set them. They think of setting boundaries as a way to control someone else's behavior, rather than a way to protect themselves. Join me on today's episode of the Less Drama More Mama podcast as I discuss exactly what boundaries are as well as when and how to set them effectively. http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/015

We're in our second week of NO-vember and we're talking about priorities. Getting clear on your priorities will help you when it comes to saying no and spending your time in a much more deliberate way. Tune in to learn what I recommend you make your #1 priority, the difference between what's urgent and what's important, questions to ask yourself to figure out whether you're living in line with your priorities, and recommendations for things to stop doing that will free up more time. http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/014

Have you ever agreed to do something without really thinking about it and ended up feeling resentful? Do you feel like you're always busy, but not very productive? Do you agree to things you don't want to do because it just seems easier than dealing with conflict? Do you say yes because you want someone else's approval? Do you feel guilty when you say no or scared of the other person's reaction? If you answered yes to any of these, you're not alone. http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/13

Do you ever worry that you'll be exposed as a fraud when it comes to motherhood? Do you feel like everyone around you is doing a better job than you when it comes to raising kids? Do you find yourself acting one way in private and another way in public? Do you fear being "found out" that you don't have it all together (like it appears on social media)? If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, you might be hiding behind a social mask. In this episode, I discuss the reasons moms wear social masks and why these masks can be damaging to self-esteem and relationships. I talk about the benefits of vulnerability and authenticity, and how embracing them can lead to greater connection with yourself and others. http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/12

Most of us were never taught how to feel our feelings. We learned to deal with our emotions by watching how others deal with theirs -- by resisting, reacting, and avoiding. On today's episode, I share a fourth option that most people don't even know about, and take you through a 4-step process to truly experience any emotion. http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/011

Are you ready to take a break from drinking? Today on the podcast, I interview Master Coach Rachel Hart. Rachel coaches women who want to change their drinking habit and reduce their desire for alcohol once and for all. Rachel is poised, personable, and has a great sense of humor. She really understands the minds of women who turn to alcohol as a way to feel more relaxed, confident, and happy, but who want to feel that way without a drink. Join us today as we talk about how she was able to change her own drinking habit with life coaching tools.

Many people misunderstand the goal of coaching; they think it's to feel happy all of the time. But that's not the goal. The goal of coaching is to become more aware of the thoughts causing your feelings, and more intentional about the thoughts you choose to think. Creating what you want in your life requires a willingness to experience a balance of emotions, both positive and negative. In today's episode, I talk about the importance of your so-called negative emotions, and how to embrace them. Full show notes at http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/009

In this episode, I talk about the reasons it can be challenging to accept parenting help, and I explain all the reasons why signing up for a mini-session with me is a smart decision. Find out why many moms find it so difficult to accept help, why talking with a life coach can be more helpful than talking with a friend or family member, and the benefits of signing up for a free mini-session. Will you accept? Full show notes at http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/008

Are you a worrier? I have good news for you: worrying is a habit that can be broken! In today's episode, I discuss what worrying is, why it isn't useful, and what to do instead. http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/007

In today's episode, I introduce you to the Self Coaching Model, a tool you can use to solve any problem in your life. Knowing and understanding the model is seriously life changing. http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/006

Guilt is one of the most common feelings my clients experience. And it's one of those emotions that keeps us stuck in the past and unable to take action or behave in ways that move us forward. In this episode, I share some stories about my own experiences with guilt and how I overcame them. http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/005

Next week is Rosh Hashana, the Jewish New Year. It marks the beginning of a ten day period during which we reflect on our lives and think about where we may have "missed the mark" -- where we made mistakes or didn't behave in ways that were kind, loving, or honest. In this episode, I share why the process of self-reflection is so important, and give examples of some questions to ask yourself on a regular basis. http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/004

One of the questions I get asked most often as a parent coach is, "How do I stop yelling at my kids?" Every morning you wake up with the intention of keeping your cool, but somehow by dinnertime, all bets are off. You've lost all control of yourself and your kids, and you can't seem to get it back. This week on the podcast, I'm going to share why you feel so out of control and how to start responding, rather than reacting. http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/003

When Marissa was a toddler, I started yelling a lot because it seemed to be the only that "worked." It got me the short-term results I wanted, and it helped me feel powerful and in control. But I hated myself. I knew intellectually that I wasn't being the kind of mom I wanted to be. I knew that Marissa didn't deserve to be yelled at, but at the time I didn't know how to stop. In today's podcast, I share a little bit about my story and the insight that helped me regain my self-control and inner calm. http://www.lessdramamoremama.com/002

Welcome to the very first episode of the Less Drama More Mama podcast! Here's what you'll discover: Who is Pam Howard, anyway? Who this podcast is for Why you should listen to this podcast How this podcast is different from other parenting podcasts out there