Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

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This week’s episode is a live coaching session with the Joyful Courage host, Casey O’Roarty. Takeaways from the show: What ARFID looks like, coming off ADHD meds, navigating body image and body health, growing body positivity, unintentionally projecting childhood trauma onto teens, having open and honest conversations; every talk is worth it, tending to your inner child, sitting inside of curiosity without judgment; becoming vulnerable with your teen; tuning into bodily cues. Resources Eps 230: BRACHA KOPSTICK ON RAISING KIDS TO HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH FOOD See you next week!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to the BECOMING SPROUTABLE limited podcast series, where your hosts, Julietta Skoog and Casey O’Roarty, parent coaches and Positive Discipline Trainers take you through the biggest tools and concepts of parenting with positive discipline – no matter your kids age. Takeaways from the show Introducing the show Casey’s Positive Discipline story Julietta’s story The creation of Sproutable Navigating what Positive Discipline looks like in adolescence The merge of Joyful Courage and Sproutable The 5 criteria for Positive Discipline Get the show notes at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/becoming-sproutable-5-criteria-Positive-Discipline Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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My guest this week is Ericka Sóuter. Ericka is a nationally recognized voice in parenting news and parenting advice. She has over 20 years of journalism experience and is a frequent contributor on Good Morning America and other national broadcast outlets, where it’s her job to speak to parents across the country about the issues, controversies, and trends most affecting families today. Her new book is How to Have a Kid and a Life: A Survival Guide. Ericka’s work appears on the Bump, What to Expect, CafeMom, and Mom.com, all high-traffic parenting sites that reach millions of moms each month. Her writing has also been featured in People magazine, Us Weekly, Essence, Cosmopolitan, Self and WebMD. She received her bachelor’s degree from Georgetown University and master’s degree from the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism. For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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My guest today is Jayson Gaddis. Jayson is an author, a relationship coach, a relationship expert who teaches people the one class they didn’t get in school, which is how to do relationships. Jayson leads one of the most in-depth and comprehensive relationship education programs and trains relationship coaches all over the world. He has thousands of fans and followers across multiple channels and is the host of the Relationship School podcast with over 5 million downloads and over 330 episodes. He is the visionary behind The Relationship School. His first book, Getting to Zero, will be out in October. Takeaways from the show: Jayson’s story The inspiration for Getting to Zero High stakes relationships 4 categories conflicts that come up in relationships “Standing for 3” Having control over your expectations Being willing vs willful Becoming a deeper human What “getting to zero” means The relational blueprint Broadening your perspective Making a safe space at home What does Joyful Courage mean to you? I picture myself being more upright and expanding my chest to meet all the challenges of my life. That feels like a really good feeling in my body right now and a good inspiration for me Where to find Jayson: Book: Getting to zero | Instagram | Podcast | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING! Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups: Live and Love with Joyful CourageJoyful Courage for Parents of Teens :::: My guest today is Alana Carvalho. Alana is a licensed mental health counselor who focuses on helping parents, couples and individuals build balanced relationships by releasing old patterns and becoming more authentic. She is especially passionate about helping individuals see how healing codependency and perfectionism can lead to a more joy filled life. Alana has lectured on child development at The College of Staten Island. Her first book Raising Empowered Children: The Codependent Perfectionist’s Guide to Parenting is now available on amazon.com. Alana maintains her private practice in Midtown Manhattan and is currently seeing clients virtually. You can connect with her through her website, Instagram, podcast or you can email her at [email protected] Takeaways from the show: Alana’s story Codependency in the context of parenting Developing community outside of family members Being supportive vs controlling Creating a safe space for your kids Validation and support coming into play Empowering your children by asking if they want your help Being in relationship with kids who are in resistance Example moving through hard things for your child How you respond is where your influence lies Building resilience What does Joyful Courage mean to you? For me it’s exactly what we’re talking about. It’s pushing yourself to grow in these uncomfortable ways and doing it knowing that’s what brings joy into life and relationships, by pushing out of your comfort zone and taking a look at yourself. Where to find Alana: Instagram | Book | Website See you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is a live coaching session! Takeaways from the show: Challenges in the sibling dynamic Owning your peace Learning about relationships Remembering our kids are still developing their skills Flexing resiliency muscles during conflict Belonging and significance Becoming more secure in relationships = more easy going Practice asking if your kids need help Highlight tools your kids use in the heat of the moment What does Joyful Courage mean to you? (Giselle) Joyful courage is riding out the journey, being open to the ups and downs and understanding that there is a meaning to everything that happens to us. Only when we show up and we lean into those challenges is where we become courageous. See you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s guest is DJ Johnson. DeAntwann “DJ” Johnson is a husband, father, author, mentor, coach, counselor, and sports statistician. He grew up in the Indiana foster care system and yet despite that, has gone on to lead a successful, and fulfilling life. Before spending nine years in the foster care system, DJ suffered child abuse, domestic abuse, and emotional trauma. At one point, he wanted to end his life, but he realized that he was on this earth for a purpose. DJ fulfills that purpose by using his experiences not only to help establish relationships with the students he serves, but he helps parents better connect with their teenagers. DJ specializes in helping parents bridge the communication gap between them and their child to ensure that their child has room to be the best versions of themselves. Takeaways from the show DJ’s story Adverse childhood experience Using your experience to help others Old school parenting way going out the window Getting the hang of the new school parenting Balancing being kind and firm Different parenting styles fit different children Foundation of respect and dignity with your kids Conditioning coming to the surface Let teens learn through experiences Repairing relationships For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is a SOLO show!! Takeaways from the show: Parenting group School trouble The uncertainty of COVID Feeling powerless Questioning traditional school system Emotional honesty Getting to the root of your fears Getting curious with your kids Notice when you become dysregulated You get to set boundaries Letting your kids feel the tension of life Love, accept, and be available Eps 242 with Ned Johnson | Eps 21 with Jessica Lahey See you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest this week is Julia Glowinski. Julia is a registered social worker, a certified sleep consultant, and a cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia clinician. She’s an expert in all things related to sleep and how to achieve optimal sleep. Julia is passionate about working with individuals and families experiencing sleep difficulties. Her focus is on building a strong foundation for healthy sleep to promote long lasting sleep improvements. Julia uses an integrative approach to uncovering the many factors that affect sleep quality. This includes paying close attention to emotional well being, diet, physical activity, sleep hygiene, stress and overall mental health. As the relationship between mental health and sleep is significant, Julia’s strategies incorporate mindfulness and relaxation techniques to help quiet the mind. Takeaways from the show: Julia’s journey of becoming a sleep specialist Sleep quality affecting mental health Healthy sleep analytics Sleep science in the adolescent brain Circadian rhythms Challenges of getting good sleep The root of sleep deprivation Routines before bed Strategies for getting optimal sleep Healthy screen habits during the pandemic Resources from Julia: Website | Clinic | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parenting for The Season You’re In Parenting for The Season You’re In is a program for parents who are looking for deeper understanding of the challenges they are facing, how they may be contributing to the challenges, and tools and strategies for not only problem solving, but also experiencing more joy on the parenting journey. It’s a funky season of parenting. You may be still anticipating the change you know is coming in your child, or perhaps you are witnessing it, and at a loss for how to be there in a way that is helpful and forwarding. Screen time drama takes on a new intensity, peer influence increases, the mood swings that show up when our kids are trying to figure out who it is they are…. Everything is SUCH A BIG DEAL. And we are on the sidelines, unsure of what boundaries to hold - when to be flexible, when to be firm…. Feeling so connected and confident one minute, only to spiral into worries and “what ifs” the next. Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons The six sessions start Thursday, September 23rd and run Thursdays for 6 weeks from 5:30-7:30pm PDT ::::: The Book, The Coaching Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey. READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching ::::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I am revisiting my conversation with Dr. Traci Baxley from the Parenting for a Brave New World Mini Summit that went live January of 2021. Dr. Baxley is a mother, cultural coach for parents, she’s a speaker, an educator, and a diversity inclusion and equity consultant. She is passionate about supporting families with intentional parenting. Traci is the founder of Social Justice Parenting, a philosophy that is rooted in radical love and activism. In her work with parents, Dr. Baxley discusses new ideas in parenting for our current social climate that moves families away from fear-based parenting styles. Social Justice Parenting guides parents in raising independent, compassionate, and socially conscious children. Takeaways from the show: Belonging advocate Social justice parenting Breaking down anti-racism Performative social justice vs. active social justice ROCKS acronym Sitting with being uncomfortable Start at home Normalize black excellence Looking at privilege from multiple identities Radical love Seeing humanness in others Resources from Traci: Social Justice Parenting TedX | Instagram | Website | LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I am revisiting my conversation with Dr. Elizabeth Milovidov from the Teens and Screens Mini Summit that went live in the fall of 2020. Dr. Milovidov is an internationally known digital parenting coach, author, lawyer, and law professor. She is the founder of DigitalParentingCoach.com and provides information and support to caregivers, parents, and anyone who is looking for the best practices when it comes to social media, internet laws, and the internet at large. Elizabeth’s publications include: The Parent’s Guide to Parenting in the Digital Age, The Parent’s Guide to Youtube and Youtube Kids, and The Parent’s Guide to Digital Detox and Disconnect. Takeaways from the show: Elizabeth’s story Recommendations for screen time App limits Mistakes parents make with phones Children’s right to privacy Parenting common sense Curiosity is natural Handling uncomfortable conversations Family media agreements Privilege without responsibility is entitlement Cyberbullying Resources from Elizabeth: CyberBully Research Center | FaceBook Group | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I am revisiting my conversation with Alyson Schafer from the Risky Behavior and Teens Mini Summit that went live in the summer of 2020. Alyson is one of Canada’s most notable parenting experts. She’s a family counselor with a private practice in Toronto and has presented to audiences all around the world. She has regular media sports, is the author of three best selling books; Breaking the Good Mom Myth, Honey I Wrecked the Kids, and Ain’t Misbehavin’. All three of these books have been translated to multiple languages. Alyson recently launched a podcast called Parenting the Adlerian Way, which you can find on most major podcast platforms. Takeaways from the show: Fear around risky behaviors Framework for the teen years Children’s behavior doesn’t reflect how you’re doing as a parent Holding a safe place for mistakes Non-attachment to outcome Allowing teens to have compassion for our experience Acknowledge your kids might need space from you How risky behavior looks in boys vs girls Letting go of the reins Winning cooperation vs forcing compliance Motivational interviewing Resources from Alyson: Brainstorm by Dan Siegel | Website | Podcast | Instagram | FaceBook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I am revisiting my conversation with Amy Lang from the Sex Ed for Parents of Teens Mini Summit in the spring of 2020. Amy has been a guest on the podcast and is a super great friend of mine. She is my go to person when I have questions about my teen’s sexual development. Amy has been a sex health educator for over 20 years and helps parents of all beliefs talk with their kids of any age about the birds and bees. She is the author of an award-winning book, Birds and Bees and your kids- a guide to sharing your beliefs about sexuality, love, and relationship. As well as Dating Smarts- what every teen needs to know to date, relate, or wait. Takeaways from the show Family values Your kids are going to have sex The importance of communication with your teens Sex safety Stop filtering for your kids Broader ways of looking at sexuality Have conversations about values Don’t be afraid to prepare before a conversation For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s guest is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart. Dr. Lockhart is a pediatric psychologist and board-certified in clinical child and adolescent psychology. You may know her from her amazing content and reels she puts out daily on Instagram. Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart is passionate about serving families in her local community in the state of Texas and beyond. Takeaways from the show: How ADHD shows up in the teen years ADHD in boys vs. girls Rejection sensitive dysphoria Diagnosis of ADHD Task initiation Choose the relationship with your teen Openings for talking about tools and strategies For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is a SOLO show! Takeaways from the show The adventure of parenting teens Brain development in teen years Private logic Nurturing teen relationships Influence around how we show up for our kids Fiercely committed, lovingly detached Looking for solutions Communicate with your child Privilege and responsibility The importance of individuation For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Liza Blas. Lisa is the host of the Very Happy Stories podcast. She brings hope, empowerment, and inspiration to her audience by shining light on complex topics impacting many families today. Liza’s stories are inspired by her own experiences raising two kids, both suffering from conditions like depression, anxiety, ADHD, OCD and even Lyme disease. Takeaways from the show: Liza’s family story of Lyme disease Struggles of your kids get you where you need to be Being in difficult times with peace and acceptance Speaking to acceptance Ways to use gratitude Forgiveness Self care as a non-negotiable For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Sarah MacLaughlin. Sarah is a social worker, parent educator, and author of the award winning best-selling book: What Not to Say: Tools for Talking with Young Children. She is a writer, trainer, and content expert for Zero to Three, a national nonprofit dedicated to ensuring that all babies and toddlers have a strong start in life. Sarah maintains a blog, writes the parenting toolbox column for Portland Main’s Parent and Family, and has been featured many places online including the Huffington Post and this podcast: eps 30 & eps 52 Her latest book is called Raising Humans with Heart and is an invaluable resource for moms, dads, and caregivers everywhere. Takeaways from the show: Sarah’s new book Getting curious about behavior Parenting manual we all have Trusting maturity will come around Mistakes are the primary learning tool for humans Stay current with your own emotional process Fiercely committed and lovingly detached Being supportive without being suffocating Separating our regrets from our kid’s lives You have control over the narrative Willingness vs. willfulness Conflict is a relationship builder For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is a SOLO show! Takeaways from the show: PNW heatwave Moving into July Unsettled energy Feelings around covid regulations being lifted Stress with going back to normal 4 questions to support in creating the experience you want Creating ease For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Leslie Priscilla. Leslie is a first generation non-Black Chicana mother to three biracial children ages 8, 3, and 2. She is a descendant of Indigenous Tarahumara Rarámuri and Spanish lineages who has resided on occupied Tongva (ton-va) and Acjachemen (hash-i-men) land, also known as Orange County, CA, all of her life. Leslie shares her medicine by offering coaching, workshops, support and advocacy for Latinx/Chicanx families locally, nationally, and internationally both in-person and online via the Latinx Parenting organization. Formerly an early childhood teacher and 1:1 behavioral coach, Leslie has worked with children and families for over 13 years. She has a dual degree in Child Development & Family Studies as well as Family Life Education from CSULB, and attended the Masters in Social Work program at Cal State Fullerton before pausing to focus on her babies and the Latinx Parenting movement. Leslie is trained as a facilitator in various parent education curricula including Trauma-Informed Nonviolent Parenting, Positive Discipline, Supporting Fatherhood Involvement (SFI), Community Parent Education (C.O.P.E) and others. She has facilitated groups in both Spanish and English for hundreds of parents in schools, transitional homes, teen shelters, drug rehabilitation centers, and family resource centers throughout Orange County, CA. Over the years, Leslie has long worked within mental health agencies in positions serving as Interim Director of Parent Education for the Child Abuse Prevention Center in Orange County, Youth & Professional Programs Manager for NAMI Orange County, and as a Consultant for the Dads Matter Program of Children's Bureau. Takeaways from the show: La chancla culture History of oppression showing up in parenting Treating children with the same respect as adults How conditioning shows up in parenting Parenting for the long term Awareness in your relationship with your children Decolonization Patriarchal value in latinx culture Dealing with negative opinions on Instagram Respect is valuable You cannot parent your children without reparenting yourself For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s episode is a SOLO show! Takeaways from the show Making agreements with your kids Creating a win win Brainstorming solutions that are related, reasonable, respectful, and HELPFUL Keeping things simple and concise Iceberg metaphor Handling peer pressure Letting go of your kids having the same priorities as you Reign in your criticism Take a break when things get heated For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Jessica Lahey. Jessica is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence. Over twenty years, Jess has taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools, and spent five years teaching in a drug and alcohol rehab for adolescents in Vermont. She writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Washington Post, New York Times, and The Atlantic, is a book critic for Air Mail, and wrote the educational curriculum for Amazon Kids’ award-winning The Stinky and Dirty Show. She co-hosts the #AmWriting podcast with bestselling authors K.J. Dell’Antonia and Sarina Bowen from her house in Vermont, where she lives with her husband, two sons and a lot of dogs. Takeaways from the show Secrecy and shame around substance abuse Jessica’s story The process of recovery The normalization of adult drinking Pluralistic ignorance Authoritative parenting Knowledge about raising kids and substances Teaching kids why they shouldn’t be using substances Knowing risk factors of substance abuse can help you protect your kids Understanding the teen brain Scripts to give your kids to get out of situations Relationship matters For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s podcast is a SOLO show!! Takeaways from the show: Life updates The power of the tension of life Getting out of the way so your kids can feel the tension of life Pushback against traditional education Get curious about what’s important to your kids Being an unconditional parent Kids who have the opportunity to decide for themselves are the kids that thrive Teens need to have space to feel out what they want Resources: Dr. Hina Talib | Brave New World Summit See you next week!! :) :::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Rae McDaniel. Rae is a non-binary gender and sex therapist-turned-coach who works with transgender/non-binary/questioning folks feeling lost while transitioning their gender identity. They are the creator of GenderFck: The Club, a one-of-a-kind, research-based online group coaching community of transgender/non-binary/questioning folks who are on a mission to transition with less suffering and more ease. Rae is the founder of Practical Audacity, a gender and sex therapy practice in Chicago. They also provide training for medical and mental health professionals wishing to uplevel their knowledge in trans-affirming care. Rae holds a Master's of Education in community counseling. Takeaways from the show: Ray’s story Gender spectrum Expanding and exploring gender Deep dive into pronouns Gender shakes people’s fundamental ideas of the world How parents can support their kids coming out Gender dysphoria Tips for parents to support and accept their child in a scary world Safety within the trans/non binary world Celebrating gender expression The world needs people who are their most authentic selves For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Michele Borba. Dr. Borba is the author of Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All About Me World, and is an internationally renowned educational psychologist and an expert in parenting, bullying, and character development. She is a regular NBC contributor who appears regularly on Today, and has been a featured expert on Dateline, the View, Dr Phil, NBC Nightly News, Fox and Friends, Dr. Oz, and the Early Show, among many others. She lives in Palm Springs California with her husband and is the mother of three growns sons. Dr. Borba was a guest wayyyy back in 2016 on the podcast, eps 46, and I am thrilled to have her back to talk about her NEW book: Thrivers: the surprising Reasons why some kids struggle and others shine. Takeaways from the show: Nature vs nurture Addressing parenting guilt Helping your teens find coping skills Resilience skills Mental health always comes first Using the “too” phrase to check in on your kids Hitting the covid wall Kids need hobbies Reengaging with your teens What does Joyful Courage mean to you? It means having that brave, brave inner sense to go for it. As soon as I do it I get so excited with myself because it’s like as soon as I get to the other side, there is joy. I love that term. Where to find Dr. Michele Borba: Thrivers the book | Twitter | Instagram See you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s show should have been a solo show BUT I had the amazing opportunity to be a part of a book launch event last week, and was interviewed by Mindy Duff - one of the authors of the new book, Motherhood diaries. We had such a good time during the interview that I asked Mindy if she would share it with me so that I could turn it into a podcast! Mindy Duff is a certified holistic health and nutrition coach, speaker and published author. Her mission is to help individuals uncover their best selves through the power of nutrition, self care and self love. Takeaways from the show: Evolution is endless The gifts of hard situations Practicing not taking it personal Navigating the teen world Holding space for self-expression How we are holding learning and public education What self care looks like Your kids are NOT a projection of you Important things to remember when parenting teens Relationship is always first See you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Alyssa “Twist” Light is a professional speaker who helps businesses grow by utilizing the power of storytelling in every aspect of their operations, especially marketing. Twist believes it’s her responsibility to make event planners look like superheroes and the attendees feel like rockstars. Despite not having her own children, Twist happens to have fostered children, loves to be a field trip “mom” for local schools, and was the executive director of a camp that supported more than 400 underprivileged / at-risk kids. She believes that the toughest moments are the biggest learning opportunities, especially for teens. Takeaways from the show: Fostering and mentoring teens Being open to the foster system Love doesn’t cure everything Having difficult, deep conversations can be impactful Support systems Tip of the iceberg Asking for help How kids change in the environment they’re in Reminding your partner you’re on the same team Meet kids where they’re at, not where you want them to be Being a parent Having healthy adults for kids to open up to Being unconditional and non judgemental Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

:::: This week’s episode is a solo show! Takeaways from the show: Grounding meditation Awareness of what’s happening in the world Ways to support dismantling systemic racism Support your kids on how to make a difference Living in an anti-racist society Armoured vs. daring parenting Parenting from the heart See you next week!! :) :::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Aprile Andelle! Dr. Andelle is a black woman licensed psychotherapist with over 9 years and 10,000+ hours of experience in "deep dive healing" work with amazing clients all around the world. She hosts the ‘Do I Need Therapy™? Podcast Show available on Apple and Google Podcasts, Spotify, and Stitcher, and speaks to her community openly, loudly, and proudly about mental health, love and life, PLUS the process of therapy, and the strength found in asking for help. She teaches amazing, highly ambitious women, and women of color, the skills of *long-lasting* positive mental health in overcoming stress, overwhelm, anxiety, depression, and trauma, including her "Every April" psychological spring cleaning course offered every springtime, in April to support the fierce, yet sensitive woman achieve positive mental health all year long. She specializes in online and virtual therapy and offers mental wellness support for all through her mental health masterclasses, courses, and meditations. She is a world traveler currently based in Miami, loves all things declutter and minimal lifestyle---except plants… She says, "you can never have too many plants and green stuff" --- is described as "that unique kind of person who makes lifelong friends in 24 hours or less", and can often be found on Instagram watching endless reels of laugh-out-loud, therapy memes and reenactments or enjoying a "deep, campfire-style" conversation on Clubhouse. Takeaways from the show: Aprile’s journey to becoming a therapist Psychological cleaning program Maintaining a positive, steady state of mental health Feelings are temporary Think before you speak Responsive vs. reactive Inner voice Being inside of possibility vs. drowning in uncertainty 3 steps of psychological spring cleaning Vulnerability is what makes you brave Marie Kondo your mind Recommit to your goals For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week is a solo show! Takeaways from the show: Mistaken goals Belonging and significance feelings live under the surface Learn to pay attention to your inner experience Review of undue attention, misguided power, and revenge Assumed inadequacy Belief behind inadequacy Teens long for connection Ways to restore your child’s adequacy Being vulnerable pays off Take time to own your behavior with your child Previous shows about mistaken goals: Eps 261 | Eps 263 | Eps 265 | Eps 267 | Mistaken Goal Chart See you next week!! :) :::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guests today are Ted Bunch and Anna Marie Johnson Teague. Ted and Anna Marie are friends, parents, and anti-violence educators. They work for A Call to Men, helping men and boys promote healthy manhood and prevent violence and discrimination. Ted works with professional athletes, business leaders, activists, and boys just like the ones you have. Anna Marie is a storyteller at heart and a devoted boy mom. She is nationally recognized for creating and executing award-winning, multi-platform campaigns to advance critical social issues like improving education and ending violence against women. Takeaways from the show: Prevention of violence and discrimination against women and girls How the book of dares are changing people’s lives Making an effort to talk about emotions with your boys Socialization of masculinity Being vulnerable is a strength How to support the men and boys in your life Messages men are getting from society Peer influence in middle school Developing a critical lens on how women are treated What healthy manhood looks like The danger women/people are in because of the ways we are raising our boys Treat your kids like an adult Having conversations with your boys that aren’t always in your face Raise boys to value girl’s experiences just as much as they value their own Where to find Ted and Anna Marie: The Book of Dares | Website | FaceBook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s episode is a solo show! Takeaways from the show: Beliefs about belonging and significance Overview of mistaken goals Third mistaken goal: Revenge Tune into your experience as a parent Signs your child’s mistaken goal is revenge How adults contribute to our child’s belief of not belonging The coded message behind revenge Uncertainty of the world right now playing a part in our kid’s lives Revenge isn’t lashing out, it's passing on the hurt Tools to support you and your child in their mistaken goals Your job as parents to make your kids feel like they belong Let your child know you see them Eps 263 | Eps 265 | Mistaken Goal Chart See you next week!! :) :::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Jud Brewer. Dr. Jud is a thought leader in the field of habit change and the “science of self-mastery”, having combined over 20 years of experience with mindfulness training with his scientific research therein. He is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in Behavioral and Social Sciences and Psychiatry at the Schools of Public Health & Medicine at Brown University. He is also the executive medical director of behavioral health at Sharecare Inc. and a research affiliate at MIT. A psychiatrist and internationally known expert in mindfulness training for addictions, Brewer has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for habit change, including both in-person and app-based treatments for smoking, emotional eating, and anxiety. Takeaways from the show: Jud’s journey with anxiety Number needed to treat Where anxiety comes from Why anxiety has increased in the past year Tools to help parents stay calm The benefits of mapping habit loops How our brains are wired for reward value The power of fear and worry in parents Becoming disenchanted by your behaviors Bigger better offer The reward value of worrying vs. being curious Mindfulness of emotions Cause and effect relationship For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is a SOLO show!! Takeaways from the show: Adlerian theory Our perception of belonging and significance colors the lens we see the world out of Undue attention review Honor your kids beliefs Second mistaken goal: Misguided power Notice how your child’s behavior makes you feel Power struggles Ways adults add to this behavior The importance of teaching your kids to contribute in ways for them to use their power You are not in control of your kids Teens want the acknowledgement of how capable they are Acknowledge your part in the stuff that’s gone down with your teens House rules audit The importance of practicing follow through How to make your child feel a greater sense of belonging and significance Coaching Page | Eps 261 | Eps 129 | Eps 177 | Eps 218 | Eps 261 | Eps 263 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Michelle Icard. Michelle is a member of the Today show parenting team and NBC News Learn. The author of Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen and Middle School Makeover, her work has been featured in the Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, The Christian Science Monitor, Redbook, Time, and People. Her leadership curriculum for middle schoolers, Athena's Path and Hero's Pursuit, have been implemented at schools across the U.S., and her summer camp curriculum is offered at more than twenty camps each summer. She lives with her family in Charlotte, North Carolina. Takeaways from the show: Being the leader and designer of your life Michelle’s new book: 14 talks by age Fourteen How lots of little conversations are more helpful than one big conversation BRIEF acronym Conversation crashers Be specific with your kids Isolation is a part of exploring independence Sitting inside of having tough conversations with your child Having trust in your kids that they will learn from their mistakes Having a neutral expression while talking to your kids For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices