Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

My guest this week is Janae Young, and I’m so excited that she’s here to share her wisdom as a college admissions coach with us. Janae shares why she’s so passionate about college admissions, and we talk about what the admissions process looks like now, including what the common application system is. Janae shares what’s challenging about college application essays for adolescents, tips to help, and her two archetype essay writers. I ask Janae what best practices are for parents who are helping their kids through the college application process, and she shares where we can support and when we need to back off. We hit on missed deadlines & natural consequences and how to best list awards & activities. I ask Janae what kids can be doing in 9th, 10th, and 11th grade to help prepare for college applications, and we briefly touch on ACTs and SATs. Takeaways from the show What’s the college application process look like now? Common application system College application essays “Perfectionist Polly” and “Rushed Ryan” How can parents best support their teen during this process? Week-by-Week college application calendar College applications are their job, not yours Missed deadlines & learning through mistakes What teens can do in 9th, 10th, and 11th grades to help the college admissions process Best time to take SATs For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me today as I explore what motivates our teens, parenting that gets in the way, and how to dismantle the armor they create over time. It's a brand new solos show! See full show notes at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-420:-Encouragement-Motivation-Teens-Armor/ Find info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/teens/sponsors/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m so excited that Michelle Icard is back today to chat about her newest book: 8 Setbacks That Can Make a Child a Success. Michelle shares with me how parents can best support their adolescents through setbacks and why we can’t swoop in to fix everything for them. She explains her three steps to take when dealing with a problem: contain, resolve, & evolve, and we touch on where consequences show up. Kids are always going to make more mistakes, and it’s critical that we allow children to learn from those mistakes. Michelle and I tease apart how much credit we take for our kids’ behavior - good and bad, and we talk about how hard it can be to balance staying “fiercely committed & lovingly detached” to our teens. Michelle has an awesome analogy about how toughening up our teens & encouraging grit is like a greenhouse keeper hardening their plants. We agree that we don’t need to create a tough environment for our kids though - that already exists, and we end sharing a few successes & outcomes that can follow the hard times. Takeaways from the show Setbacks and failures make us smarter and better How to best support your adolescent through setbacks Mistakes are opportunities to learn 3 steps to take while dealing with failure Kids & teens must learn through their own experiences Kids are going to continue to make mistakes - that doesn’t mean they aren’t learning Your kids aren’t part of your brand “Fiercely committed, lovingly detached” Children shouldn’t be burdened by our emotions How can teens toughen up & build resiliency For more show notes, including transcripts, see our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me in chapter NINE of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Get the full show notes and find out more about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-418-joyful-courage-book-chapter-nine/. Get the book and the companion guide at https://www.besproutable.com/joyful-courage-calming-the-drama-and-taking-control-of-your-parenting-journey-book/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Sapna Rad, and we’re getting into back-to-school season with teens. First, Sapna shares about herself & what kicked off her path to conscious parenting. We talk about the shift from our small kiddos wanting to be attached to us 24/7 to the teen years when they start individuating and lean away. Sapna helps me define what conscious parenting is and we discuss how that complements Positive Discipline. I ask Sapna what parents need to remember as kids head back to the classroom, then I bring up teens who don’t want to talk & share with their parents and ask what behaviors might manifest when teens are feeling anxious. Sapna shares what “getting hooked” looks like and how we can start noticing our triggers. We get into how routines look different with teens and how getting routines dialed in can help reduce stress all around. We wrap talking about how parents can practice mindfulness. Takeaways from the show Anxiety in children Individuation happens in all teens What is conscious parenting? How does that fit with Positive Discipline? What to remember as kids head back to school When your teen doesn’t want to talk to you Behaviors that manifest when teens are feeling anxious When to use silence as a tool with adolescents Tools to notice your triggers Redefining what routines look like for teens Clues you might be missing a routine Practicing mindfulness For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me in chapter eight of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Erica Whitfield. I don’t have many episodes about sibling dynamics, so I’m very excited to have Erica here to dig into scapegoated siblings. Erica explains what exactly a scapegoated sibling is and why some kiddos may feel disconnected from their parents. We get into other roles that siblings may fall into and how we, as parents, can make sure we’re there to hold & support all of our kids. Erica talks about how past trauma can affect our parentings and how we can recognize if we’re starting to scapegoat. I ask Erica what to do if we notice that we’re in that dynamic, and we touch on how neurodivergence, birth order, & your own relationships and history can affect these roles. Erica explains what to do to start repair - asking for feedback, negotiating, and finding balance, & justice, and we explore a few different ways to ask for that feedback. Takeaways from the show What is a scapegoated sibling? Nurturing communication between siblings Resentment between siblings Other roles that kids can fall into How to communicate to your child that you can handle their challenges & journey Signs you may be scapegoating one child How to correct when you see yourself in this dynamic Neurodivergence, birth order, & your own relationships playing into these roles “Dynamics play out until they get healed” Inviting & preparing for feedback from your teens about their experience For more details, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me in chapter seven of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Matthew Lederman, and he’s here today to talk about connection and nonviolent communication. Dr. Lederman explains what nonviolent communication really means and what being resourced looks like. We talk about how so much plays into communication, including your intention & tone. He shares common unmet needs in children: autonomy, wanting to be heard, and knowing that their needs matter. Dr. Lederman shares his tip for staying connected with his kids when he’s triggered and how to involve kiddos in problem solving. We get into how to rebuild trust, how to find empathy, welcoming feedback, identifying underlying needs, and meeting our own needs for health & safety. We wrap up with some baby steps that you can bring into practice today. Takeaways from the show What is nonviolent communication? Being resourced Communicating with adolescents Common unmet needs in children Staying connected when you’re triggered Rebuilding trust Welcoming feedback from our kids Why teens pull away from their parents Meeting our own needs for health & safety For more details, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me in chapter six of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m so excited about my guest today, Rowan O’Roarty, my daughter! Rowan is back and shares updates on what’s been going on since last time she was on, like working as an esthetician and moving out & living on her own. We talk about how often we check-in with each other, how Rowan’s anxiety & depression are showing up recently, and how she manages them. She shares her thoughts on how parents can best support their adolescents and young adults when they’re struggling with depression. Rowan ends by sharing a poem about motherhood that resonated with her recently. Takeaways from the show Job interviews Moving out How frequently should we check-in with each other? Managing anxiety & depression Supporting adolescents & young adults with depression What emerging adults need/want from their parents For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me in chapter five of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. For more show notes and info on our advertisers, go to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-five Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Kristan Rodriguez. Dr. Rodriguez shares a bit about her background in education & parenting and how that drives her to work on transforming education. We touch on many different methodologies: world schooling, homeschooling, unschooling, and IB & AP programs. Dr. Rodriguez shares some things that need to be taught aside from academics like financial literacy, art & music, and entrepreneurial skills. I ask if she sees that schools are willing to make changes and try less traditional methodologies - do kids need to know and regurgitate “The Canterbury Tales” more than they need authentic real-life learning experiences? I also ask what parents can do to help sway their administrators to make changes (spoiler: get involved & participate!). We agree that checking-in and setting goals with your teen before a new school year starts is a good plan, as well as empowering our kids to see where they have control. We touch on how to scaffold and facilitate hard conversations for your adolescent (while not having those tricky conversations for them). Dr. Rodriguez and I end by discussing how schools are supporting mental health for their students. Takeaways from the show Meeting individual needs in a school setting AP & IB programs, world schooling, homeschooling, & unschooling What should be taught in addition to traditional academics? Are we adequately preparing adolescents for careers? Schools are more willing to try less traditional methodologies What life-skills actually need to be taught in 2023? How can parents encourage their administrators to make changes? Checking-in and goal-setting with teens before a new school year Facilitating hard conversations for your adolescent How are schools supporting mental health? Engaging students outside of academia For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me in Chapter Four of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Get the full show notes and find out more about our sponsors by visiting our website: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-four/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Wendy Snyder. I’m so excited to have her here because our stories are so similar, especially the “early-years overwhelm,” leading us to find something that does work. Wendy shares her background and what “raising strong-willed children with integrity” means to her. We agree on so much around kids being our teachers and the importance of childrens’ dignity. Wendy and I talk about what happens when we can start letting go of expectations and focus on creating the best environment for our kids instead while still being the leader of our home. I ask Wendy what’s been surprising to her about navigating the teen years with her own kiddos, and that leads us to identifying missing life skills, modeling sobriety, and harm reduction. Wendy shares her thoughts on some starter steps to mend and nurture our relationships with older kids, how to establish firm boundaries, and how to respond when those boundaries are crossed. Takeaways from the show Raising strong-willed children with integrity Firm kindness Creating the best environment for your child Inviting collaboration, cooperation, and contribution Teens experimenting with drugs & alcohol Identifying missing skills Starter steps to mend and nurture relationship with older kids Moving away from punishment Viewing mistakes as opportunities to learn Establishing boundaries (and what happens when they do not adhere to those boundaries) For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me in Chapter Three of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Find out more and learn about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-three/ Learn more about your ad choices - visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Krissy Pozatek, and she’s here to teach us all about her parallel process method of parenting. Krissy starts by sharing how she found herself working with teens in the woods. I ask Krissy how parents decide on wilderness therapy and what it’s really like there. Next, we get into what Krissy’s four foundational principles of parallel process are, including what the adults’ roles are, valuing emotions, keeping & holding boundaries for safety, and how much struggle we allow for our adolescents to experience. I ask Krissy where in her process parents can discover their teen’s belief behind their behavior. We discuss accountability & teaching skills, why we don’t use punishment, and how hard it can be to resist rescuing our adolescents. We wrap up circling back to enmeshment patterns and how it can backfire when you’re fixing everything for your child. Takeaways from the show: What is parallel process? What is wilderness therapy? Enmeshment between teens & their parents The four foundational principles of parallel process Emotional attunement (connection) Uncovering the feeling (belief) behind the behavior The differences between accountability, teaching skills, & punishments The skills learned & benefits that come from safe struggles Resisting the urge to rescue our adolescents Grounding & awareness For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me in Chapter Two of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Find out more and learn about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-two/ Learn more about your ad choices - visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest this week is friend of the podcast, Hunter Clarke Fields. Hunter and I discuss her new book, raising teens, and how to lean into more presence and less action. This is a simple yet profound shift and makes such a profound impact on our relationships with our teens. Read the show notes and get the resources mentioned at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-403-Hunter-Clarke-Fields-practice-raising-good-humans/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me in Chapter One of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Find more info and links to sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-one/. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dianne Kosto. Dianne starts off by introducing herself and explaining what neurofeedback is, who it’s for, and what benefits people see. We dig into when talk therapy isn’t working for your kid, finding the right fit, and the benefits of measurable results. I ask Dianne how personality, temperament, environment, and buy-in play roles in neurofeedback, and we wrap up with some of Dianne’s biggest success stories. Takeaways from the show What is neurofeedback? Benefits of neurofeedback Who’s neurofeedback for? When therapy isn’t working for your child or adolescent The value of measurable results For more show notes, including transcripts, visit out website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me in reading Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I've learned during the wild years since it came out. Full show notes and sponsor info at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Joyful-Courage-Book-Club-Intro. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guests today are Jeremy Grater and Zach Tucker, and they’re sharing tons of info and tips for making small changes for our health and well-being. First, Jeremy & Zach share how they kicked off their podcast, The Fit Mess, then offer tips on how to successfully make changes as well as their insight about what mindsets get in people’s way. We get into moving from negative thoughts about ourselves towards self-love and self-acceptance. I ask about diet culture and how to talk about bodies and food with tweens and teens. We talk about how we can reframe and find more time in the day by questioning our beliefs, then Jeremy explains the difference between transformation and evolution. Takeaways from the show To make change, start today and start small What mindsets get in people’s way Questioning our own beliefs & underselling ourselves Self-love & self-acceptance Diet culture and talking about bodies & food Reframing our time by questioning our beliefs Establishing a morning routine & ritual The power of evolution Celebrating along the way For more episode information, including show notes, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week my solo show teases apart empowering vs enabling parenting and really asks listeners to sit with the question of which type of parenting they have been stepping into. To see all the show notes go to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/398-difference-between-enabling-vs-empowering-teens. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Andee Martineau. We kick our conversation off today with Andee sharing how a “baby powder blizzard” completely shifted her parenting style from correction to connection. Andee and I talk about how cool it is to watch your teens carve out their own path and how we show up for our kids. Andee shares her STEAR framework for compassionate & kind self-reflection as well as tips for broadening your emotional vocabulary. We connect over how hard & relentless it can feel when you’re trying to change your parenting style, how to start with curiosity, celebrating the journey, and getting buy-in from your adolescent. Andee and I agree that the teen years are hard, even when you’re doing all the things, and she reminds me that our childrens’ behavior does not validate our parenting. We end our conversation touching on natural consequences, screen time, parenting for the year ahead, & how much control we actually have over our older kids. Takeaways from the show: Andee’s Connect Method Parenting & STEAR framework Positive Discipline & connection-based parenting is a daily choice & effort Kind and compassionate self-reflection Broadening your emotional vocabulary Changing your parenting style can feel hard & relentless “Sometimes things get worse before they get better” - Dr. Jane Nelsen The teen years are hard for everyone (even when you’re doing all the things!) Childrens’ behavior does not validate your parenting Watching your teen or young adult make decisions & choices Teens need room for natural consequences Parenting for the year ahead For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me today as I play with AI and tease apart the top 10 tips for parenting teens according to Chat GPT. Crazy thing is... the tips are pretty spot on!! It's a good time and useful info - check it out! Find the full show notes at: www.besproutable.com/podcasts/10-Tips-Parenting-Teens-2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Rae McDaniel. Rae is back to share about their new book, Gender Magic. They share what hurdles they see in advocacy for trans & non-binary people like vocal habits and making assumptions. We talk about how transitioning isn’t the point, but living authentically, shamelessly, and joyfully is. I ask Rae to share more about their personal experience as a nonbinary person, and they tell me about dismantling the idea that being transgender is a burden to others. We get into gender norms, exploring gender in a lighter way, intimacy, and freedom for trans folks. I ask Rae what parents should know and for best practices in supporting their teens while they define their gender and discover their sexuality. We wrap up our chat talking on advocacy and supporting the trans community. Key Takeaways Rae’s new book: Gender Magic: Live Shamelessly, Reclaim Your Joy, & Step into Your Most Authentic Self Hurdles for advocacy like vocal habits & not making assumptions Transitioning isn’t the point: living authentically, shamelessly, & joyfully is Mental health and messaging for transgender teens and the importance of supportive family environment The barrier of gender looking one particular way Dismantling the idea that being transgender is a burden to others Everybody has some fluidity and feminine & masculine energy Gender norms don’t always fit cis people either Play, pleasure, and possibilities for trans folks Best practices and tips for parents of teens discovering more about their gender and sexuality Finding your people and community Being a partner to and advocate for your teen For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Showing up today to tease apart an email from a mama of an older teen. How do we maintain relationship, AND expectations, AND room for independence and practice with our older teens? I dig into all of it in this week's solo show. Check it out! Full show notes here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Ann Garcia, and this episode is full of resources & advice you can use right now. Ann is an expert on paying for college and has two kids in college right now, so she really gets it. Ann starts with an explanation of why some college educations are so expensive, what other options are available, and why you need to define your budget for college. Ann shares tips for staying focused on goals & how to talk to your teen about college. Ann tells me when it could be right to take student loans and gives lots of info on how to get scholarships. We also touch on financial aid, FAFSA, CSS Profile, & institutional merit aid. Takeaways from the show Not all kids are college bound Why is college so expensive? Finding college at every price point Figuring out your college budget How and when to talk to your teen about your college budget Focusing on goals, not constraints Scholarships for every student Student loans FAFSA, CSS Profile, & institutional merit aid Financial planning & parenting For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join me this week as I dig into the ways that our human-ness can get the better of us, even when we are the parenting coach!! I share about a recent interaction that I didn't love with. my own son, why it is hard to hold our teens in their light, and how to do better. See full show notes at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-392-SOLO -importance-holding-teens-capable Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is AJ Crabill. AJ and I have a great conversation this week about school boards and the education system. AJ explains why adults are hesitant & sometimes resistant to changing the way schools operate and why we need to teach resilience (not just make things easier for our kids). AJ shares exactly what student-led restorative practices are and the benefits that come with them. I love hearing all the overlap between AJ’s work and Positive Discipline: the sense of belonging, classroom meetings, a focus on repair, and teaching life skills. We dig into why student behavior will not and cannot change until adult behavior changes. I ask AJ exactly what school boards do, how members get elected, and how parents can get involved effectively and usefully with the board. AJ finishes up by inviting parents to stand up and be the difference maker at their children’s schools. Takeaways from the show Student-led restorative practices Why adults are resistant to changing the way schools operate The importance of students feeling of belonging Teaching & parenting in a way that builds resiliency The overlap between student-led restorative practice & Positive Discipline Student outcomes don’t change until adult behavior changes How can parents get involved usefully with the school board & school leadership? What exactly does the school board do? For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parents are often drawn to "do something" when their kids are making mistakes - but tough love (and by tough love I mean punitive consequences and punishment - taking things away, grounding our kids, isolation, yelling, blaming, silent treatments) doesn't typically deliver what you may intend for it to deliver. There is another way to frame it, another way to think about what our teens need to thrive into young adulthood. Listen in as I tease it apart during today's solo show! Find out more at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts//3-myths-tough-love-what-teens-need Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Emily Kline. Dr. Kline shares all kinds of useful information this week around why and how we can communicate with our adolescents with the best results. We touch on relinquishing control and asking curiosity questions, then we dig in deep into what motivational interviewing is and why it’s so helpful. I ask Dr. Kline what motivational interviewing might look like when a teenager is using marijuana, and we agree that the best tool we have to influence our adolescents is relationship. Dr. Kline shares tips on how to start tricky conversations and what you can learn in the first 10 seconds. She tells me what limits, consequences, boundaries, etc. look like to her, what we do when teens disregard those limits, and listening for motivation to change. Takeaways from the show Relinquishing control Motivational interviewing Teens trying marijuana The best tool for influence is relationship Staying respectful & curious How to deliver advice & why we listen first Staying neutral & consistent around hard conversations Expectations & limits without punishments Avoiding socially isolating consequences Listening for motivation for change For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's solo shows explores the iceberg and the belief behind our teens behavior in a new way. We have been here before and I am bringing you back to get ever better and teasing apart what it is your teen needs, and how you a can meet them there. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m really excited to introduce Dr. Norrine Russell to you all. Dr. Russell has truly walked the walk with her own complex children which has changed her parenting & professional paths. Dr. Russell shares what she loves about her work, what hurdles complex kids face in traditional schooling, and what parents can do to help support their atypical kids as learners. She talks on why teens need to figure out what they’re good at and how important it is to tell your teens how much you love them and the strengths you see (empowering encouragement, anyone?). I ask Dr. Russell how families can scaffold to support their complex kids, and we discuss how important it is to listen and observe your own teen, as well as how much individualizing you can do in your home to support your adolescent. We talk about how to reframe it when your kids look like “they don’t care” and whether or not “trying their best” is a reasonable and helpful expectation. Dr. Russell also shares her thoughts on motivation, laziness, ADHD, rewards, & consequences. We finish up talking about how to get teens to buy-in to coaching and what Dr. Russell wishes parents knew about complex teens. Takeways from the show: School angst & school struggles for complex kids Lack of flexibility, training, & resources in schools Helping teens figure out what they are good at The importance of “I love you” & encouraging atypical kids Listening to & observing your teen Individualizing things at home Watch & wait before jumping in to help Are “doing their best” and “trying their hardest” helpful & reasonable expectations? When teens “don’t care” & what teens do care about Appearing lazy, ADHD, & motivation Getting adolescents to buy-in to coaching For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Another intimate exploration of what it means to be human WHILE raising teenagers. We are deep diving (yet again) into our own stuff. This week focusing on the limiting beliefs we may be holding that keeps our kids small, and the war between our two selves. Join me for some personal growth and discovery! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so glad that you are back with me and my amazing guest, Jayne Demsky. So many of you have talked to me about school avoidance and how to navigate this, and we’re digging in deep this week! The good thing - there is hope! Jayne shares her story & why she’s so passionate about school avoidance, and why we can’t just “make them go.” Jayne talks about different therapy options like CBT & exposure therapy, the school’s role, underlying causes, & advocating for your child. We discuss how hard school refusal is on the parents & adults and why punitive consequences do not help. I ask Jayne what parents should do first when they start seeing school avoidance or refusal, and we finish by chatting about education reform & improving schools for kids and how parents can self-care during challenging times. Takeaways from the show What is school avoidance & school refusal? What are the signs? CBT & exposure therapy The school’s role Underlying causes Advocating for your child Why punitive consequences don’t work When to intervene & what to do first Self-care for parents For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Emotional Freight Train is REAL and can take us on wild rides - especially during the teen years, There is no better way to shut down communication with a young person than to come at them with all the emotion of the EFT. Listen to this week's solo show for solidarity, communication skills, and tips for staying off that train! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest this week is Dr. Shefali Tsabary, and we’re having a special conversation to celebrate Mother’s Day! Dr. Shefali tells me all about writing her book, “A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free” and how her divorce freed her up for a phenomenal, liberating transformation. Dr. Shefali shares about how we’re conditioned and indoctrinated from childhood and how women can lead the way away from that. We dig into owning your part of the dynamic in different relationships and how much work & courage accountability actually takes. I share a story about my marriage and my expectations, and we compare the difference between letting go and giving up. Dr. Shefali shares her wisdom on how we can challenge our obedience to culture and belief systems. Takeaways from the show Dr. Shefali’s book: “A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free” Pain & grief from divorce Seeing the life experiences that interrupt your plan as opportunities Conditioning & indoctrination from childhood Accountability & owning your part in relationship dynamics Letting go of expectations for others you’re in relationship with Giving up versus letting go Obedience to cultural standards Challenging your belief systems For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today is a solo show! Coming out you with a deep dive into the practice of being with what the universe throws your way. I share my own experience of this work and offer listeners tools and tips for personal growth and you move through what's hard. For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Nikita Burks-Hale. Listen in on this fascinating conversation with Nikita! She tells me a bit about her company, Headphones and Crayons, and how she integrates voice and color. We talk about how voice isn’t just what you’re saying, but your vibe and energy, too. Nikita shares about how she uses coloring to amplify voice & calm at home, and how we need home to be a safe-space for kids to express themselves. Nikita shares a dark moment that and how that sparked her path to Headphones and Crayons. We dig into how coloring can be contemplative, meditative, and a great conversation starter, especially with teens. We wrap up our conversation talking about coloring as a family and/or during a family meeting, and Nikita tells us where we can get some of her coloring sheets and audio. Takeaways from the show Hearing & seeing voice Voice isn’t just what you say The power of using your voice Home as a safe-space Using coloring to amplify voice & calm at home Positive Discipline, connection, & accepting self-expression at home Coloring as meditation Creating and holding the space your child needs Coloring as a family and/or during a family meeting For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today is a solo show. I explore the practice of surrender, what it means to me, and how it fosters more room for our teens to show up as their fullest selves. Takeaways include: Gratitude for the journey Surrender as being with life as it unfolds What it means to let go of our narrative Trusting our teens are growing through what they're going through Letting our kids take the lead For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dana Kay, a board-certified holistic health and nutrition practitioner, best-selling author, and the CEO & founder of the ADHD Thrive Institute. Dana shares about her son’s ADHD diagnosis and how it launched her business & book, “Thriving with ADHD.” Dana talks about her ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids & reducing inflammation (which is beneficial for everyone, not just those with ADHD). She touches on the gut-brain connection, antibiotics, & your immune system. Dana suggests foods families should consider cutting out, time-saving tips for cooking, and how to pace these changes. Takeaways from the show Pros, cons, & side-effects of ADHD meds Dana’s “Thriving with ADHD” book & her ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Reducing inflammation in the body The gut-brain connection, antibiotics, & your immune system ADHD diet suggestions Time-saving cooking tips Making gradual changes For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s show is a solo show- the fifth of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. Takeaways include: Navigating big behavior Searching for support The process of getting help for Rowan Holding energy of confident authority Novelty seeking Brain science behind risk taking Staying curious, connected, and calm Prioritizing taking care of yourself For more notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Brenda Zane, and we are digging deep into teen substance abuse. Brenda shares about her son’s drug misuse & what got her started in this work. We talk about teens who are exploring risky behavior and teens who are using drugs regularly/daily. Brenda shares tips for having uncomfortable (and ongoing) conversations about drug use with your adolescent and how to come from a place of curiosity (not judgment). We talk about why the confrontational, punitive approach does not work & to consider drug use as a solution for a problem you don’t know about. Brenda and I also dig into how to share information about drugs with your kids & how to stay calm when you’re freaked out. Brenda finishes up teaching me about fentanyl & when overdoses don’t look like what you’d expect. Takeaways from the show Novelty seeking as part of teenage brain development Substance use & responding as a parent Alcohol & marijuana use Covid, anxiety, isolation, & devices affecting drug use Experimenting vs. problematic use Uncomfortable conversations & coming from a place of curiosity Drug use as a solution for a problem you don’t know about Confrontational, punitive approach does not work Information as harm reduction Information about fentanyl & overdoses For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s show is a solo show- the fifth of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. Creating space for your teens Raising capable kids Baggage from relationship with your parents Working towards doing better for your kids Being curious and neutral Unconditional love does not equal being permissive Power struggle when saying no Treating teens with dignity and respect Holding an encouraging container For more notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest this week is Nancy Albright, a friend and fellow Positive Discipline Parent Educator. Nancy and I go way back, and I’m thrilled to chat with her today about deepening our curiosity with our teens. She tells me about her new book, “My Teen and me: 20 meaningful questions to ease your frustration, build trust, communicate, and connect with your teen.” We talk about how to stay curious with love & presence, and how to pull back on your fear & worries. We cover the importance of pausing & explicitly asking your teen what they need - advice, help problem solving, or just someone to listen, as well as what to do when you’re met with irritation or withdrawal. We wrap up touching on giving yourself love, compassion, & grace in your parenting and the power of presence. Takeaways from the show Deepening our curiosity with our teens Curiosity with love and presence Pulling back on your fear and worries Pausing & asking our teens what they need - advice, help problem solving, or just someone to listen Your needs vs. your teen’s needs Staying curious when your teen is withdrawn or irritated Creating a safe space for your kids Giving yourself love, compassion, & grace The power of presence Your story is not your child’s story For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s show is a solo show- the fourth of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. Takeaways from the show Teen years are messy Reframing trust Mistakes as opportunities to learn Reviewing kind and firm parenting Brain development in adolescence Exploring feelings from when you were a teen Unwanted results of punishment Showing up with curiosity Opportunities to learn important life skills For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Sabrina Shaheen Cronin, and we’re digging deep into co-parenting teens. Sabrina shares her wisdom and expertise on all-things related to divorce, custody, co-parenting, & step families. We get into the legalities of co-parenting & custody agreements and how to move forward while keeping the well-being of your child(ren) at the forefront. Sabrina and I talk about looking at divorce as an opportunity for personal growth (which can be so hard) and how co-parenting is not a one-size-fits-all thing. We discuss how to navigate your teens preferences and rights when it comes to custody, and I ask Sabrina for tips on getting on the same page with an ex partner. Takeaways from the show What does healthy co-parenting look like? Divorce as an offering for personal growth Legalities of co-parenting & custody arrangements The rights & preferences of teens during divorce & regarding custody Family therapy How to get on the same page with an ex partner New partners & step families “Remember you love your child more than you hate your ex” Co-parenting with difficult & toxic exes For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s show is a solo show- the third of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. We get into kindness and firmness and explore an experiential activity that invites listeners into their teen's shoes. See more shownotes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/alternatives-to-punishment-part-3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices