Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Megan Barella loves to help parents unlock their parenting powerthrough her classes and coaching programs. As a Certified PositiveDiscipline Parent Educator, she brings a holistic approach to helppeople live and parent in connection with their highest selves."The Getting to Gold Project" is the program Megan is developingfor parents who are trauma survivors. Megan loves to cook, dance,do art projects, and spend time in the woods with her 7 year oldson in the Portland, OR area. Highlights from the conversation: - The stress response systemtakes over- Through awareness we can bring what ishappening internally into the open- Parenting is incredible,courageous work- Dan Siegel, Parenting From the Inside Out- We want our kids tothrive!- BeckyBailey of Conscious Discipline – “Awareness is the first agentof positive change”- Be a gentle observer –awareness + self compassion ((you tubevideo))- Hand over Heart- Mistakes are opportunities tolearn- Power of Repair- Showing up the best we canwith the tools we have- Our mistakes are notus!! Our patterns are what we have taken on to survive…- Narrative therapy- “I am not defined by mymistakes”- Our body reads stress ASfear- The power of our positiveintent Join the Parenting for the Next Generation community at https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingfortheNextGeneration/ And follow Megan at: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingForTheNextGenerationPinterest: https://uk.pinterest.com/MamaMegan1/Instagram: @mama_meganTwitter: @MamaMeganBlog Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Raffi Cavoukian is well known for the music he makes for young children... Many parents today were brought up with that music and are now sharing it with their kids. I spent many a day in the car singing Baaaaaaby Baluuuuuga to my littles and am so completely THRILLED to have the chance to talk to him on this podcast!! It was so much fun getting to know Raffi! He candidly shares his story of singing folk music to adults, to sharing songs with children - learn more about him by clicking here. He talks about the deep respect he has for young people, and the fun he has when he gets to entertain them. Raffi is a social activist, and shares about the Center For Child Honouring he founded near his home on Salt Springs Island. The mission of the centers invites people to "be a part of the global movement that views honouring children as the best way to create sustainable, peacemaking societies." And of course, we talk about some of my favorite songs! I am so grateful he took the time to talk to me. Resources mentioned on the show: Center for Child Honouring PDF of the Child Honouring Covenant and Principles FREE download of Take A Breath - a song about self regulation You can find and follow Raffi on his website l facebook l twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome! Today’s guest is Ryan Hamilton, one of the co-founders of the “Life of Dad,” a social media network for dads. He is changing how dads are represented in the parenting arena and is helping moms be more effective at sharing parenting tools and tips with their male partners. Let’s jump into conversation with Ryan! What you’ll hear in this episode: Ryan has been a computer geek/tech guy all of his life; he now sees his son following in his footsteps in those interests. Ryan works full-time in the advertising industry, but runs his business on the sides for dads. Ryan shares how “Life of Dad” evolved from a heart-wrenching personal story of one of the co-founders. The purpose of “Life of Dad” is to enable a father to share his story via social media. Ryan became involved in the endeavor during a tumultuous time in his life, when he was going through a divorce, job loss, financial collapse, and depression. Ryan began blogging about the darker side of parenting. Ryan discusses how trends and parental role expectations have shifted as dads have pushed for change. Many new resources and dad communities are making change and allowing dads to have a voice. Co-parenting has changed in today’s culture of divorce; Ryan shares how he and his ex-wife make it work for them. Ryan decided to make the journey to veganism about two years ago, when he was depressed and suicidal. He began with being vegetarian, but then transitioned on to veganism. The “cleaning up” of his diet branched out to affect all other areas of his life. Ryan’s advice to other dads is to stay in touch, never feel alone, and reach out to your peer groups. Check out the resources below! :::::::::: Resources: Life of Dad - Website I Twitter I Facebook I IG I You Tube Ryan E. Hamilton - Twitter I Facebook Dad 2.0 Summit National At Home Dad Network City Dads Group Dad Bloggers on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so excited to offer a monthly podcast episode that is dedicated to answering questions from the community. Today, I speak about situations that were shared by April and Sarah, both members of the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Facebook Community... From April:My 7 year old is the youngest of three girls. She gets plenty of attention but seems to constantly be begging for more. What is a healthy amount of attention and how I do I limit it? She constantly interrupts her dad and I whenever we are talking to her other sisters. It's as if she can't handle them getting any attention. I don't know how to phrase a question. She is the youngest child who has gotten spoiled with attention because she was the only one home with me while the other girls were at school. Now she expects all the attention all the time and it isn't fun for anyone. From Sarah:Ok, here is a hot topic at our house! How can I help my kids get along (or many how can I help my son deal with jealousy)? I have an almost 8 yo son who is much more introverted and independent and a 5 yo daughter who is a bubbly, outgoing people person. She gets lots more attention from people in general just because she is outgoing and comfortable talking to people. But my son is also in school all day and she is not yet so we are having some struggles with jealousy (being purposefully mean to his sis) and defiance. It will still be one more year before she is in school all day like he is. I give him 1-1 time but there just aren't enough hours in the day to give him the same amount of time. I have a feeling that their stories, their challenges will resonate with the whole community. Please listen in and let me know what you think!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome! Today’s guest is Nicole Schwarz, who wrote an article recently that caught my attention. Her blog is www.imperfectfamilies.com, and the article was about Helping Kids Deal with Negative Self-Talk. Nicole is the mother of three daughters, and is a parent coach with a license in family therapy. She now devotes her work to online coaching and writing her blog. She loves working with families on positive, respectful parenting techniques. What you’ll hear in this episode: The two things in kids’ lives that bring the most negative self-doubt How two kids can be doing the same thing, but one will have negative self-doubt and one will be fine How you may think you are supporting your kids in their negative self-doubt, but you may be doing THREE KEY THINGS wrong! All parents face the question of how much to push them and how much to support them. Nicole has tips to help you connect with your kids in moments of frustration; the key is to find ways to connect with them. As a parent, you have opportunities to help your kids through their negative self-doubt; the key is to help them with important life skills. Links and Resources: Connect with Nicole: Website | Facebook | Twitter The blog post that started it all... How to Respond to Your Child's Negative Self Talk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dina Emser is on the podcast today digging into what encouragement is really all about… Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so so excited to share this conversation with listeners!! Dr. Laura Markham is one of the leading voices in the parenting arena and full of easy to digest tips and tools for parents with kids of all ages! I was beyond honored when she agreed to come on my show... Listen in as we talk all about how to create space for our kids to get along, explore what keeps kids from connecting, and dig into how one on one time with each of our kids actually helps the sibling bond grow. Dr. Laura's bio from her website: Dr. Laura Markham trained as a Clinical Psychologist, earning her PhD from Columbia University. But she's also a mom, so she translates proven science into the practical solutions you need for the family life you want. The founding editor of AhaParenting.com, Dr. Laura also serves as a parenting expert for Mothering.com, Psychology Today, The Natural Parent Magazine, Pregnancy.org, Girlie Girl Army, SheKnows.com, and several other websites. She makes frequent TV and radio appearances and has been interviewed for hundreds of articles by publications as diverse as The Wall Street Journal, Real Simple, Newsday, Men's Health, Redbook and Parents Magazine. Dr. Laura's relationship-based parenting model has helped thousands of families across the U.S. and Canada find compassionate, common-sense solutions to everything from separation anxiety and sleep problems to sass talk and cell phones. She lives in Brooklyn, New York, with her husband and two terrific kids -- now 20 and 24! Resources mentioned:Peaceful Parents, Happy KidsPeaceful Parents, Happy SiblingsJohn Gottman's work with couples and marriage Where to find/follow Dr. Laura's work:www.ahaparenting.comFacebookTwitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so excited to have Margit Crane on the podcast today! She is fun and hopeful and full of really helpful information for ADD/ADHD children and the grown ups who love and work with them. From Margit's bio: Confused and frustrated, people are drawn to Margit’s bright-eyed optimism, her natural communication style, and her no-nonsense, real-world solutions. They fall in love with her humor and compassion, realizing that she is their strongest advocate and biggest fan. Clients feel heard and understood, and they trust her to support each of them, together as a family and, separately, as individuals. She blends an uncanny and authentic understanding of children and teens with adult wisdom and experience, and a long career as a trailblazer in the field of Attention Deficit Disorder, school success, and child-parent dynamics. Margit and I spend time discussion what ADD/ADHD is and what it isn't, when to consider if our child is a ADD/ADHD, and what the steps are to connect and hold space for these special kids. Resources mentioned: Getting Schooled - a free ebook from Margit that helps parents navigate their child's school experiencewww.wrightslaw.com - articles, legal resources. support How to find and follow Margit: http://margitcrane.com/Facebook - Gifted with ADDTwitter - BrilliantADHDPinterest - Gifted with ADD Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So excited to share today's show with you! Dr. Jen O’Ryan provides guidance for parents to help them navigate their child’s coming out process, as well as questions about sexuality and gender. She completed her doctorate in Human Behavior with a focus on environmental factors during childhood and adolescence for sexual minorities. Dr. Jen also works closely with other caring adults on developing more inclusive, safe spaces for LGBTQ individuals in the workplace and community. Through years of research and advocacy, Jen brings an extensive background on factors contributing to healthy development during childhood and adolescence for LGBTQ youth. Jen and I talk about the experience kids are having as they come to understand gender and sexual orientation. We discuss the biggest challenges for the kids and their parents, and how we can all be a part in supporting all kids, in celebration of differences, being advocates and allies. Resources mentioned: Jen's website My Kid Came OutJen's local workshop So your kids came out, now what? - listeners will get $5 off with promo code "joyful"Recent posts on sexuality and supporting LGBTQ youthPFLAG - Parents, Families and Allies of LGBTQ Where to find Jen: Her website - www.mykidcameout.comTwitter - @pagingdrjenFacebook - Paging Dr. Jen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am super excited about this BONUS episode!! I have the privilege of being in conversation with Brandie Weikle from thenewfamily.com and host of The New Family Podcast. Part of my mission for creating this podcast is to expose listeners to parenting resources that I find inspirational and valuable, and Brandie is in total alignment with that mission. We spend time today talking about The New Family, the 1,000 Family Project, and Brandie's experience with podcasting. Mentioned: The New Family WebsiteThe 1,000 Families ProjectThe New Family PodcastPositive CoParenting After Divorce Facebook GroupMentioned New Family Podcast Episodes: Eps 50: The Ex Next Door Eps 20: Seizing the Day With Your FamilyEps9: Conscious Uncoupling with Katherine Woodward ThomasEps 3: Parenting a Transgendered Child Where to find Brandie and The New Family: www.thenewfamily.comTwitterFacebookInstagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Amy Knobler is on the podcast! Amy is a personal chef, mama and Positive Discipline Parent Educator from Pasadena, California. In candid conversation, she shares her passion for bringing kids into the kitchen… Do you love dinner preparation? Are you like me, feeling annoyed and resentful each day when it comes time to create a meal for your family? Listen in as Amy spins a new perspective around meal prep and how it can be a relationship builder AND a time for life skill development. From young kids to our teens, the kitchen can be a place for connection… A place where we can all increase our sense of belonging and significance. :::::::::: Resources: Click here to get your own pack of Positive Discipline Parenting ToolcardsSeven Easy Ways to Include Your Kids in the Kitchen by Sarah RemmerCheck out the PDF from Amy with concepts and a yummy kid friendly recipe on the Joyful Courage website! Where to find and follow Amy: [email protected] to Connect Facebook Group :::::::::: Also - be sure to check out the Calm and Connected Parenting Program through Mazlo.Click here for more information! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So grateful to have Kelly Bos on the show today! Kelly is a psychotherapist focusing on individual, marriage, and family relationships. She helps people find meaning and joy in their relationships - with themselves and others. Today we are talking about navigating parenting styles in our family. As I say on a regular basis, parenting is a journey, right? Have you started to notice that when we say "yes! I want to be with you forever!" we are also saying yes to the journey of relationship??? And it's not always easy. We show up with baggage - we show up with our own lens that has been developed through the experiences of our life... AND we sometimes forget that we aren't all looking through the same lens... Listen in as I talk with Kelly about how to be more proactive and forwarding in our conversations with our partners, and build stronger connections with them in the process!! Where to find Kelly: Her website: http://www.kellybos.com/And on Facebook Articles for further reading: What to do When Your Parenting Styles Don't Mesh by Kelly BosWhen Parents Disagree on Discipline by Amy McCreedy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I love Emily Roberts!! There is a good reason she is called "Guidance Girl" - this woman has so many gifts and wisdom to share... She knows tweens and teens - she has an inside perspective and sharing it on the show. Listen in and broaden your perspective around the online social life of your children. Emily and I have a candid conversation about what parents should be thinking about and how we can be building relationship through navigating this online social world with our kids.... This is a looooooong podcast because I just can't stop talking to Emily!! Resources mentioned: American Girls: How Social Media is Disrupting the Lives of TeenagersExpress Yourself: A Teen Girls Guide to Speaking up and Being Who You Are Other articles and interview with Emily: An interview about social media addictionWhat Every Parent Needs to Know about Cyberbullying Follow Emily's work: One her websiteOn FacebookOn TwitterOn PinterestOn InstagramOn YouTube Let me know what you are thinking!! Join the conversation on the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Facebook group - a crowd of like minded parents do the best they can to be their best on the parenting journey! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sarah is a social worker, a compassion coach, a play promoter and warrior for kindness... How can an interview with her be anything BUT amazing??? We discuss limit setting, brain development and how to navigate our kids emotional outbursts in a way that is helpful and not hurtful. Resources mentioned: Dan Siegel: - Whole Brain Child - Brian in the Palm of the Hand video Where to find Sarah: - www.sarahmaclaughlin.com - Facebook - Twitter - Pinterest - Instagram Helpful articles by Sarah: Easing the Stress of Power Struggle Why I Praised My Son for Threatening to Throw a Bowl at Me How to Set Limits with Kids Without Harshness, Fear or Shame Thank you for listening!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I find it so empowering to explore parenting styles with moms and dads. It seems as though once we become more aware of our style, our pattern, we become ever more able to move in the direction of who we WANT to be. Listen in as Sarina Behar Natkin, from GROW Parenting, digs into the different styles, their history, and how to maintain a more balanced, connected approach to parenting. It was a fun and informative conversation that listeners are sure to relate to!! Find out more about Sarina and her offers:www.growparenting.comwww.facebook.com/GrowParentinghttps://twitter.com/GrowParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So grateful and honored to have Leisha on the podcast today to puzzle out the rub she is feeling around bedtime with her two young daughters. Do you ever feel like things spin out of control at the end of the day? Do you feel like you swing between too kind to too firm and back again? You aren't alone! Listen in to this live parent coaching and notice where the conversation is resonating with you... We are on a collective journey - lets learn from the learning of others!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cathy Kawakami is on the show today and we are talking all about the ways we can encourage our youngest kids to explore their capabilities. Sorry folks, the bad news in a lot of the reason our kids don't believe they can do things is because we spend so much time and effort telling them that - and they're getting the message!! Then we get frustrated that our kids are uncooperative or don't want to contribute - it's crazytown!! Cathy and Casey offer a bunch of ideas around how to set up an environment that is designed for kids to grow and thrive, to gain life skills and the belief that they can have healthy control over their life. You can find Cathy at:her website www.middlegroundparenting.comAnd on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MiddleGroundParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Oh friends - this is a good one!! My new friend (and someone we should all have on speed dial), Susan Stiffelman is on the show today talking about the Parenting in the Digital Age Telesummit. THIS IS AN INCREDIBLE OPPORTUNITY for all of us to learn from some of the most AMAZING speakers and thinkers of our time. Dr. Dan Siegel, author of Whole Brain Child and creator of Brain in th ePalm of Your Hand Byron Katie, developer of The Work Rachel Macy Stafford, author and blogger behind the Hands Free Revolution (she has been on the show and is super fabulous) Glennon Doyle Melton. author and founder of online community Momastery Roasalind Weisman, author of Queen Bees and Wanna Bees and amazing human And there are MOREand they are ALL amazing humans - and ALL amazing humans with SO MUCH WISDOM TO SHARE!!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Amy Lang of birdsandbeesandkids.com is back on this show and THIS time we are going next level.... We are talking about dating and middle school. You all know that as a mother of a 13 year old, this topic is near and dear to my heart... Amy breaks it down for us, offers insights to contemplate, and may make a few of you a wee bit uncomfortable with her no-nonsense talk about what it developmentally appropriate at this age. The result is a fun, informative and candid conversation that may take you back to your own middle school dating years.... ---------------- 1985..... Awkward boy, "Uh, do you want to go with me?" Me, "Sure." My mom, "Where are you gonna GO???" ----------------- Bwahahahaaaa --- listen in!! Enjoy!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so EXCITED to share this BONUS podcast with you all!! I had the honor of talking to Alison Soracchi from Carry the Future about the incredible work they are doing, providing baby carriers to refugees in Greece. This conversation is an emotional one, and really highlights how meaningful a small gesture from one human being to another can be... Alison shares stories about the work volunteers are engaged in here in the states, and paints a picture of how the volunteers on the ground in Greece are living the vision. Just listen. No doubt you will be inspired :) You can find out more about Carry the Future at www.carrythefuture.orgYou can find out more about Operation Refugee Child at https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/operation-refugee-child-carry-the-future-mission#/Find Carry the Future on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/carrythefutureOn twitter at https://twitter.com/carry_thefuture Joyful Courage will be teaming with Grow With Me Boutiqueto run a baby carrier drive in February Locals can drop off new or gently used carriers to Grow with Me Boutique here in Monroe any time during the hours of operation. OR listeners can send carriers or supplies for Operation Refugee Child to the drop off center through Carry the Future (click here for details on where to send - and click "donate") Be sure to write a little note that you are participating in the Joyful Courage Baby Carrier Drive so we can keep track of the impact of our community!! Thank you for listening!!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ahhhh, babies. We spend so much time preparing for their arrival and then BAM - they totally turn our world upside down and we can't remember WHY we ever though parenthood was a good idea. Hahaha, well, maybe that wasn't exactly your experience. Ariadne Brill, parent educator, writer and the force behind the insanely helpful and popular website, Positive Parenting Connection, has returned to the podcast this week to dig into raising babies with a healthy attachment. This conversation is so useful for parents who are living and loving the smallest and newest among us... Listen in for tips on connecting and creating the very beginnings of a foundation for empathy and compassion. If you have friends or family that are expecting a new baby, or have recently been blessed with one, pass this show on to them - they will thank you!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It was so fun to have the chance to speak one on one with a listener about the challenges she is facing with your your son. Listen in and notice how universal some of the feelings and thoughts are that you hear Stephanie speak into... The parenting journey is a collective experience. You are not alone! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Who doesn't get into power struggles with their kids??? Listen in as Debbie Zeichner, LCSW and parent coach, and I discuss the triggers for power struggles and how to navigate them in a way that leaves your kids with MORE skills and MORE likely to cooperate. Sound good? Check out Debbie's website : www.debbiezeichnerlcsw.comAnd like her facebook page: www.facebook.com/debbiezeichnerlcsw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This podcast interview is a long one, because the conversation was just that good. Listen in as I talk with Denise Dryden, integrative coach, about how we can shed the stories and emotional baggage we show up to parent with so that we can be conscious and available to the child we find in front of us. One of my favorite quotes from the conversation is Denise encouraging parents to think about in regards to their children, "what do I see that is unique and different, and how do I let them lead me into the future?" She is a wise woman and it is my honor to know her! Here are some links mentioned in the podcast: Brandy Carlile - The EyeDenise's website - www.denisedrydencoaching.comDenise's Ecourse - Parenting the New Earth's ChildrenFollow Denise on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I love you people!!! Thank you so much for all you have given me in 2015. This show is short and sweet today, as I know you have things to do and people to see (as do I). I announce the winners of the Subscribe-A-Thon Giveaway (finally)!! I share a poem from Danielle LaPorte's Desire Map. I invite you to let go of what brought you down in 2015 and invite in what you want for 2016. Enjoy!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hellooooooo Friends!!! Merry, merry, happy, happy... Hoping this podcast finds you well and joyful. Listen in to hear some exciting news about the year to come, details about how to be a part of the giveaway, and inquiry about how YOU will make e2016 the BEST YEAR for YOU! Big huge love to all of you.... Honored you are out there listening and supporting and celebrating all we can do to make the world better!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Amanda Rue, the force behind the popular blog, Dirt and Boogers, is on the podcast today. She has created a FABULOUS resource for parents around how to bring more calm and connection to the holiday season. I don't know about you, but this came at the perfect time for me! Resources mentioned: Check out Amanda's Ebook, Take the Chaos out of Christmas, by clicking here. Mama's Anger Management cCourseThe Stop Yelling Challenge on Facebook Where to follow Amanda: Her blog/website www.dirtandboogers.com Dirt and Boogers on Facebook Dirt and Boogers on Instagram Dirt and Boogers on Pinterest Dirt and Boogers on Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Such a great conversation! Jessica Lahey is smart and funny and real when it comes to talking straight up about how we rob our kids of their future when we protect the from failure... It doesn't matter if they are in the sandbox or a high school classroom, our kids only learn the tools for relationship, empathy and resiliency when we (parents) allow them the gift of discomfort, making mistakes and yes, failure. Listen in to this candid conversation and consider where you could pull back a bit, where you could allow your kids a little bit more room to learn from their missteps, to own when they've hurt someone, to problem solve it when they've left their homework or lunch at home (again!)... We all love our kids, we want them to grow into the fullest, best versions of themselves, sometimes that requires us to back off and let them figure some things out... You may be surprised by just how capable they are! Mentions: The book: The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey The article in the Atlantic that started it all: Why Parents Need to Let Their Children Fail Why Back to School Night Made Me Feel Like a Bad Mom Glennon Doyle Melton on momastry.com How to Raise and Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims The Price of Priviledge by Madeline Levine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

OMG. I can't believe how great it is to be a podcaster!! For today's show, I interviewed one of my oldest friends!! How lucky am I??? This conversation, with Jessica Prentice, is all about her book The Duck With No Legs and all of the underlying themes and messages that show up in the sweet, heart warming story. We get into all sorts of discussions in this show - from spirituality, to overcome perceived disabilities, to living with the discomfort of not being the child we think our parents want us to be (not to mention parenting a child who marches to the beat of his own drum)... You are going to love this show! I do say "asshole" one time, so I marked the episode as explicit - sorry about that. :) Mentions/Resources: I bring up Nick Vujicic - a parapalegic motivational speaker who has an incredible spirit and message for the world. You can find him at www.lifewithoutlimbs.org or watch his youtube video about Never giving up by clicking here. Click here to get a copy of The Duck with No Legs from Amazon. Check out Jessica's graphic design work at www.sillybird.com Find Jessica on Instagram @sillybird Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hey hey!!! Thank you so much for playing and being willing to subscribe to the show - I value you and am honored that you find value in what I put out into the world!! Here are the deets of the giveaway: I have super cute Joyful Courage SWAG to give away!! I can't figure out how to post pics here, but I will put them up on the Live and Love with Joyful Courage facebook group page. I have FOUR shirts and FOUR hats to giveaway - The shirt is baseball style with red arms and the Joyful Courage logo on the front. The hat is a trucker style green hat with a white front and the JC logo. I have TWO Center Parenting Ecourses to giveaway - This is an online course that you receive over the course of five weeks. Included each week are videos, audio meditation and workbooks that teach the positive Discipline concepts and guide you towards finding your most centered, authentic self while on the parenting journey. It's awesome! Learn more here. And finally, I am giving away a 3 month coaching package - This is the GRAND PRIZE and I am super excited to offer it up to one lucky winner! The 3 month coaching package is two hours of coaching a month, which can either be broken up into 2 monthly one hour sessions, or four monthly half hour sessions. You will have access to me via text and email between sessions as well... This offer is a POWERFUL way to really deepen your practices and accountability towards being the parent and the human you want to be. Learn more here. To qualify for ALL of the offers, please head on over to itunes and write a review for the podcast. This link will help you figure out how to do it from your iphone or ipad: http://www.imore.com/how-rate-or-review-podcast-your-iphone-or-ipad If you use an android device, you will need to access itunes through your computer and directions for doing that can be found here: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/joyful-courage-parenting-podcast/id996079418?mt=2 To qualify for the swag (shirts and hats) and the ecourse, please leave a FIVE STAR RATING on iTunes. Use the link above to do this, the difference being that you don't write a review - just leave the stars :) To qualify simply for the swag, shoot me an email at [email protected] and let me know what your favorite episode of the podcast is and why OR why you LOVE the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast!! Oh man, hopefully that isn't too complicated --- let me know if you have any troubles and I will be happy to help! Big love to each of you and THANK YOU for being on the journey with me!! xoxo - Casey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are a few things that are tough to talk about with our kids. One of the toughest, I think, is talking about the violent things that happen in the world... My guest today on the podcast is Dr. Monica Holliday Sherman. Monica is a psychotherapist in private practice in Chicago, and she completed her doctorate in clinical psychology at The Adler School of Professional Psychology, with a concentration in childhood and adolescence. She is a Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, and she regularly facilitates parenting classes in the Chicago community. You can find her on Psychology Today here. She is also my friend, and someone I trust to speak to this topic from a very thoughtful, experienced place... As tough as this conversation is, it is important for parents to be talking to their kids about the state of the world. AND, as a community of parents, it is equally as important to get support from each other about how to best support our kids. My hope is that this show does just that. Resources mentioned in the interview: Video of father reassuring his young son that France is their home.Purple Wagon - "A site for people interested in parents and children, and their explorations and discussions around war, terrorism and peacemaking." Loads of resources for parents here.Helping Children Feel Safe in an Unsafe World by Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD Other resources: Talking With Children About Disaster also by Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhDTalking with Children About Tragic News Stories by Ariadne Brill of Positive Parenting ConnectionTerrorism and children:Tough Conversations that Matter by Marilyn Price-Mitchell, PhD or Roots of ActionExplaining Terror to Kids is a NY Times article that covers a French newspaper for kids and how they are engaging in real conversations with kids about the attacks And more suggestions from Monica: Books are my go-to when I'm wanting to extend any of these "big" topics into ongoing conversations with my kids. Here are a few to read WITH your kids, relevant to what's going on in the world today: Finding heroes amidst terrorism. I Am Malala by Malala Yousafzai (there is also a Young Reader's edition) Multicultural competency. The Cow of No Color: Riddle Stories and Justice Tales from around the World, Nina Jaffee Explaining refugees. Sometimes it helps to look to history for examples -- one of the most written about examples of children fleeing war zones is the Operation Pied Piper of 1939, when children were evacuated from London during WWII. The beloved Paddington character is even based upon these events. --The Sky Is Falling, Kit Pearson --Visitors from London, Kitty Barne (out of print) --Lion, Witch, and the Wardrobe and Bedknobs and Broomsticks are both storylines based on children having to evacuate. --If your kids are American Girl fans, the book Happy Birthday, Molly! incorporates a story of a British refugee coming to live with the family after being traumatized by living through bombing raids. Please get in touch with any thoughts or feedback on this discussion or any of the other podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This conversation landed close to my heart... While my kids are now sleeping in their OWN beds, in their OWN rooms, ALL NIGHT LONG, that was not always the case. And while my nighttime parenting choices weren't always the same as everyone else, they didn't follow the mainstream advice, I did the best I could for my babies... The thing I really love about Alanna and her approach to supporting parents with sleep, is her willingness to meet parents where they're at. She really believes in the idea that there is a right approach for each family, and that it is going to be related to what works in each family... As any parent knows, there is no one size fits all here... AND it is possible to help your child, and yourself, get better sleep. Listen in! Where to find Alanna - www.goodnightsleepsite.comwww.facebook.com/goodnightsleepsitewww.twitter.com/GNSleepSitehttp://pinterest.com/gnsleepsite Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What a great time I had talking to Bonnie Harris of Connective Parenting! She is so full of wisdom and insight... Which wasn't surprising AT ALL to me :) I have been following Bonnie's work for years - drawn to her gentle, logical style and advice. I subscribed to her newsletter list and read her books and often am known to quote her in my parenting classes. This lady is for real. AND I am honored to share our conversation with you!! Click on the links below to follow Bonnie: www.bonnieharris.com www.connectiveparenting.com facebook.com/connectiveparenting twitter.com/harrisparenting Big love to you all and happy parenting!!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This solo show is my own download around how resistance has been showing up in my life and what I am learning from it. We all have those voices, right? The one that says to us, "who cares, do what you want..." and the other that speaks from our soul and reminds us of who we really are.... Yeah, I dig into that. I talk about my friend, Molly Knight Forde who is BRILLIANT and my guest on Episode Seven... I mention the book, Seven Thousand Ways to Listen by Mark Nepo (its super fabulous). It's the world according to me, and I invite you to come on in and stay awhile. Let me know what you think, and if you are enjoying these solo rambles or not (I hope you are, because they are really fun to record). Big huge love to you all!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How much do I love this week's guest???? TRUCK LOADS! She is my friend and teacher, she inspires and coaches people all over the planet, AND she has taken time to sit down and puzzle out the self care challenges that SO MANY parents face. I know you know what I'm talking about because you share it with me all the time - there is no time to take care of myself... I feel guilty... time for me is at the bottom of the list.... I am telling you - not only have I HEARD it all, I have also EXPERIENCED all of these limiting thoughts and beliefs and allowed them to keep me from engaging in what is one of the most important pieces of parenting - SELF CARE. You will love the conversation I had with Krista. Listen in and let me know what you think!!! You won't be able to get enough of her!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Inspired by the mamas currently enrolled in the Raising Siblings Ecourse - this is a deep dive into why I always begin my work with parents by inviting them to pay more attention to how they respond physically and emotionally to their kids behavior. Once we recognize the way our body responds, we can begin to do the work of teaching it a new way of being. Listen in! ** This is marked explicit because I say "pissed" and "bullshit" - so heads up for that! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I was introduced to Emily Roberts on a Facebook group for parent educators that I belong to... I knew right away that I wanted to know more about her when she introduced herself and shared about her work with tween and teen girls... I bought her book, Express Yourself, and quickly realized that this woman is LEGIT! This book, which I am currently reading out loud to me seventh grade daughter is PACKED with so many nuggets of wisdom for our girls... Not only that, I am finding that I am learning so much from the tips and advice that Emily shares... In this podcast interview, Emily and I discuss her book, plus the importance of supporting our girls in growing their assertive muscles... We touch on friend drama, social media dos and don'ts, as well as why knowing the outcome you want is the first step to actually getting there. Emily is a dream. I think you will enjoy the conversation as much as I did! Follow Emily: On her website at theguidancegirl.comOn Facebook at Guidance GirlOn Twitter at @GuidanceGirlEmOn Instagram at @GuidanceGirlEmOn Pinterest at Guidance GirlOn You Tube at The Guidance Girl Channel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I had an amazing experience with 49 other women at a workshop in New York... When I shared about it on social media, the request was made that I share more on the podcast. So here you go. I am so grateful for the journey I am on... So grateful to be alert and alive and awake to all the possibilities that exist in my life. So grateful for the teachers and the opportunities that have come my way.... Thank you for listening in. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It was such a pleasure to have Katie Hurley on the show! I have been sharing her work on the Joyful Courage Facebook page for a long time and speaking to her about her new book confirmed what I had come to believe as a reader of her writing; she is a thoughtful, brilliant voice in the parent education community. Katie's new book, The Happy Kid Handbook is an amazing tool for parents to learn how to meet their kids where they are at, temperamentally. Her work reminds us that the need to get to know our kids is vital in creating an environment where they can excel, both socially and emotionally. Being an extrovert raising kids that fall across the extrovert/introvert spectrum, I was excited to dig into this with Katie. I know that you are going to love listening in to the conversation too!! Visit her website: www.practicalkatie.com Follow Katie: Instagram: @katiefhurleyFacebook: Practical Parenting by KatieTwitter: @katiefhurley Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am really excited to have Andy Smithson, of TRU Parenting, back on the podcast! He was my very first guest and a parent educator that I have been following for a while now. There are a lot of things I like about Andy, I think it is so refreshing to have a Dad's voice speaking into the parenting experience. His blog posts and articles are always so helpful and full of tips and tools that can be put into action right away. He has lots of kids so I KNOW he is in the practice of walking his talk, and that always scores a lot of points with me... Today we are talking about yelling. Ugh. Yelling is the worst - it makes our kids feel bad and it leaves US feeling bad and so unskilled. Andy has an ecourse that is starting the beginning of October... I have so much faith in this program that I am an affiliate of the program (meaning: I get a kickback when you sign up through me). So listen up and soak in the zen vibes of Andy Smithson. Here are some links to the resources mentioned on the show: Boundaries by Henry Cloud Andys Quick Calm Technique - FREE DOWNLOAD Super Better by Jane McGonigal 21 Day Stop Yelling Coaching Course - Sign up now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

“I am an ordinary person living in the same distracted culture that everyone else is living in…” And that is exactly what is so inspiring about Rachel Macy Stafford. She is an ordinary person whose work is making an extraordinary impact on parents from around the world. Most of us found her through her blog, www.handsfreemama.com - her writing drew us in and touched our soul. We also joined her Hands Free Revolution on Facebook, to be even more connected to her and the community space she has created. Because there is something really special about this ordinary person. I am thrilled to be interviewing her on the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast. Honored that she was willing to take the time to talk to me and share her journey, her vulnerability and her wisdom. Her new book, Hands Free Life: 9 habits for overcoming distraction, living better & loving more is full of nuggets that will bring you to your knees. So, so good. Listen in… Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Andy's the man!! He has helped so many parents find their calm and move forward in solid relatinship with their family. This "solo promo" is designed to get the word out about his latest offer for parents. Click on this link to go straight to the sales page for more INFO and to REGISTER :) bit.ly/stopyelling21daysjc Knowledge is power, people!! Empower your parenting!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

August 11th Amy's latest book cam out, The Me Me Me Epoidemic: A Step by Step Guide to Raising Capable, Grateful Kids in an Over Entitled World Amy McCready is a Parent Education MACHINE! She has an amazingly popular Facebook community, and offers so many Inspired by the work of Alfred Adler… “The biggest difference comes when we change ourselves.” Certified in Positive Discipline Shout out to the recovering yellers!! “...I love working with parenting and helping them bring out the best in themselves.” Adlerian theory- strategies are based on respect, respect for the child and respect for the parent… All human being have a hardwired need for belonging and significance. We need to feel connected – to family, classroom, community. I need to make a difference, feel like I matter… Behavior is goal directed – always take it back to the child’s sense of belonging and/or significance.. Getting to the bottom of this is what lasts long term. Get below the surface! Connection without Entitlement?? It’s messy…. The book begins with Mind, Body, Soul Time… Spending one on one time and attention with your kids, where you are fully present, mind, body and soul. You are fully present. Can be 10 or 15 minutes – this contributes “buckets” to belonging and significance to our kids. Powerful opportunity for connection. Create an environment that allows kids to learn that their actions and choices have outcomes - some positive, some negative. Entitled kids aren’t connected to outcomes. Focus on - What went wrong? What can we do different next time? Natural Vs Logical Consequences… “Solutions are always consequences, consequences are not always solutions.” - Jody McVittie They’re not helpless!! Take a step back – what are you currently doing for your kids that they are perfectly capable about doing for themselves? There is a balance between helping each other out and when you are consistently doing things for them that they could be doing themselves… Back off, little by little. Biggest mistake that is feeding into the entitlement epidemic? Smoothing their way --- smoothing out all their potential obstacles to keep out kids from experiencing discomfort. Does not give them the opportunity to develop resiliency. What is a baby step for creating change for parents who recognize their have been contributing to the entitlement of their kids? Shift responsibility for one or two things…. Thank you Amy!! Find Amy and her offers online: www.amymccready.comwww.positiveparentingsolutions.comPositive Parenting Solutions on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Such a great conversation with Marcille Smith Boyle!! Solving problems with our kids is no joke and such an important way to teach life skills. Marcille breaks down the task in a way that gets parents excited to practice!! She is full of information and real life stories that I know will be inspiring and helpful to you – Enjoy! Marcille studied the work of Ross Green –Lost at School The Explosive Child He writes and teaches about Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) – involving kids in solving their own behavior challenges Parents tend to think it’s our job to solve our children’s behavior challenges… Truth is, our kids can be awesome problem solvers – yay! The brain likes it’s own ideas best!! David Rock – Neuro Leadership Group CPS has 3 main steps – - Empathize gather info from child – from their point of view- Define the problem- Brainstorm solutions together with your child. Most powerful part --- not necessarily the process, but how we shift perspective about how we look and think and feel about behavior challenges…. Recognizing that behavior is a sign of something deeper that is going on. “Most helpful when we can focus that deeper thing, rather than just the behavior itself.” Your child’s behavior is not the problem – What’s the problem, THE PROBLEM! (I love that) The problem is always underneath the surface… “Kids do well if they can.” – Ross Green Example: Child won’t turn in his homework. What’s the problem? Lacking organization skills and some auditory challenges… The solution is brainstormed with child and addresses these problems and the homework situation shifts (solutions arehelpful) Consequences don't necessarily teach skills… What are the lacking skills behind the behavior? P.E.S.O.S. (Marcille's Problem Solving Recipe) Combines principles of Ross Green’s work, with Positive Discipline and How to Talk so Kids will Listen and How to Listen so Kids will Talk Prerequisite: You and your child must be level headed - calm, in a good place emotionally When intensity is high, communication and problem-solving skills are low… P – Permission… Giving yourself permission to engage and getting child’s permission E – Empathize… Understanding problem from child’s perspective –stay neutral and specific – “Tell me about…. (the problem)” then validate their concern S – State your concern… Short and sweet “My concern is…” O – Options… Brainstorm options for solutions that are a win/win for you both S – Select and idea to try… Must be realistic and mutually satisfactory Try it out, make a date to review and see how it’s going… Seeing our kids as a person who wants to do well, but have something in their way towards that success…. Watch the video below -- Click here for Marcille's handout on the steps of P.E.S.O.S. Marcille Smith BoyleWebsite - www.workingparenting.com – blog, free gift, newsletterFacebook – Working ParentingEmail - [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What a GIFT to have the opportunity to interview Amy Lang of Birds+Bees+Kids! We had a great time discussing what to be talking about with our kdis when it comes to bodies and sex and staying safe... Nothing is off limits here - from where babies come from to blow jobs to birth control --- listen in and get informed and then TALK TO YOUR KIDS! Like Amy says, being INFORMED is being EMPOWERED to make smart choices! LISTEN IN NOW!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Listen in on this great conversation that I had with Molly Knight Forde about the journey to meditation and how it can change everything when it comes to the parenting journey... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Podcast with Kim Estes Intro – music feedback? Mention speakpipe Kim Into with Family – two daughters, middle/high schoolers Savvy Parents Safe Kids www.savvyparentssafekids.com Patty Fitzgerald - Safely Ever After Lots of strategies… not just “this is what you do in the moment” Being home alone… 2 tips: Don't open the door, acknowledge the door – In a strong voice: “Who is it?” followed by, “I can’t help you…” and walk away. Know what to do if there is a fire – Get out of the house and use a neighbors phone to call 911 Practice!! Talking about having an “out” for sticky situations… Teach your kids language to use and practice the language… Free range in the world is safer than free range online. The internet is a place, not a thing…. Safety radar isn’t quite as tuned in…. PDF of Super 10 Rules For Safety Don’t scare them, it's not helpful “Family” safety rule Check in – make it a family thing Lead by example Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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This was such a fun conversation with my dear friend and colleague, Julietta Skoog. She is such a powerful model for what it looks like to parent small children with Positive Discipline - I love watching her in action! PLUS, she has been doing Family Meetings with her girls since the youngest was in a highchair!!! Listen in and let me know what you think! You can find more information on Julietta at www.juliettaskoog.com You can find more about the Family Meeting Ecourse I mention at the end of the course by clicking here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is a solo show, meaning, it's just me. Listen in as I share what my purpose is and how I want to make a difference in YOUR world! Get an inside look at why I am passionate about this work and what fuels me to keep sharing it with you.... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices