Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Welcome! My guest for today’s show is Tracy Cutchlow, the author of Zero to Five: 70 Essential Parenting Tips Based on Science (and What I’ve Learned So Far). The book fulfills Tracy’s passion to help new parents with information and support as they embark on the parenthood journey. Tracy also writes a blog and articles for the Washington Post and Huffington Post. Tracy and her husband, Luke, live in Seattle, where they enjoy life with their four-year- old daughter, Geneva. Unbelievably, Tracy wrote her book during the first 18 months of Geneva’s life! We’ll talk about the tools and wisdom in her book and the topic of helping our youngest children develop a growth mindset. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: The unusual format in her book that makes it helpful for busy, new parents Development challenges of very young children “How many times do I have to tell you?” Why children follow their desires (even when they don’t follow OUR desires) Our expectations vs. normal development Why parenting education should be included in well-child visits to the pediatrician Behaviors: Why they meet the child’s innate needs of experience, power, and connection Why children seek connection, but will settle for attention Look at their behavior through the lens of their needs. Growth mindset: What is it? Acknowledgement vs. praise: What’s the difference? How empathy fits naturally into the growth mindset What it takes is small tweaks in our language Why our kids NEED to make mistakes The power of teaching kids about their brains What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “It means taking action, but having a lightness and a playfulness—looking for the good instead of the bad.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Excited to dig into sibling rivalry today on the Ask Casey episode!! A listener wrote in: My kids - particularly my 8 and 9 yo - feel like they have to compete with each other all the time. Every time one does something/gets something different from the other, they tend to mention to the other almost like a taunt. I think on one hand they want their sibling to be happy for them (like mom or dad would be), and on the other hand, I think they want to show how much more special they are. Even if it is innocent, the other kid will still take it as a put down as if it's expected and react with shock, become grudgingly upset, and whining. It is so annoying and constant. It even goes so far as every question I ask has to be directed at one individual bc they will get upset over who answers first. They will even just smile in a nonverbal taunting sort of way to get the other one upset. This happens anytime of day from when they first get up to evening. It happens at home, in the car, in the store. They don't usually do it if there are other kids their age or a little older around - I think bc they get embarrassed. I've seen them snap out of it instantly. It seems to happen less at bedtime maybe because of routine and parent led family time? When it happens my physical response is to get tense in my face and jaw, my breath gets short, and then I feel tension in my shoulders. Emotionally, I start to feel exasperated. Yes, this is all probably normal on some level and we are working deliberately to include special/individual child led time with each kid. Bugs and wishes has helped bc they feel like others hear them and respect them more. Just looking for the next step to take it to the next level. We don't want to foster competition in our family we value working together and supporting one another. I want them to be able to be happy for their sibling without feeling less. I feel like just writing this out is helping form some ideas to try, but I would love to hear yours as I'm sure mine are not the only kids who tend to do this. (I was fiercely and painfully competitive with my sister growing up). Resources for parenting siblings: Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen Siblings Without Rivalry by Faber and Mazlish Peaceful Parent, Happy Sibling by Dr. Laura Markham Eps 37: Dr. Laura Markham on holding space for siblings to get along:::::::::: Listeners!!! Chime in!! What are your tips/thoughts/experiences around sibling rivalry?? Join the conversation on the live and love with joyful courage page If you have questions for an Ask Casey episode, fill out the form and send it my way!! :::::::::: THANK YOU!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kate Orson is on the podcast today, and I absolutely love where our conversation went!! Kate's bio from her website: KAte is a Hand in Hand parenting instructor, and author of Tears Heal: How To Listen To Children. Originally from the UK she now live in Basel, Switzerland, with her husband, author Toni Davidson, and our four year old daughter Ruby. Kate has written articles for a number of different parenting magazines including The Green Parent, Juno and Smallish. Kate offer parenting workshops, consultations, both online via skype or in person. I reached out to Kate to talk about getting children's cooperation around chores. In talking to her, and learning more about the Hand In Hand parenting approach, our conversation lead us down the road to understanding how intentional listening and presence with children can invite the very cooperation we are looking for. Kate wrote an article titled 25 Tips for Having Fun While Cleaning Up Here is the Montessori list of age appropriate chores ((super helpful!)) Things to remember when we are hoping for cooperation: set limits lightness play show faith and trust your child's ability listen practice special time More about "stay listening" :::::::::: Where to find Kate: website i facebook i twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome! Today’s episode features TWO guests, Amy Lang and Dr. Jen O’Ryan. Amy is a sexuality educator who helps parents have conversations with kids about healthy sexuality; she previously joined us for Episodes 8 and 33. Jen holds a PhD in human behavior and specifically works with children and adolescents in gender minorities, especially LGBTQ kids. She joined us for Episode 35. These conversations were prompted by the important talking points which emerged from two recent news stories: the Stanford rape case and the Orlando nightclub shooting. Join us for these important conversations! What you’ll hear in this episode: From Amy: The Stanford case boils down to consent: How do we help our kids be smarter than that? Bad decisions and entitlement: a dangerous mix Teach kids about consent: Use the words permission, asking and giving, and agreement. When everyone is “out of their heads,” there is NO CONSENT! Yes means YES. No means NO. Stop means STOP! With young kids, respect their right to say no to unwanted hugs/kisses; as adults, ASK for a hug/kiss. How to use transition phrases to awkward moments “Tricky people” Be explicit with kids about family rules. Plant seeds about sexuality conversations. Teach them NOT to expect entitlement. Amy’s book about dating, to help kids figure out their dating values (See Resources below) Why we need to model conflict resolution for our kids “Yes” girls and red flags in dating—Are you ready for sex? Be open, available, and neutral for your kids. From Jen: With news of any tragedy, it’s better to give kids small pieces of information that they can process rather than overwhelm them with ALL the details. How to “check in” with your LGBTQ kids Jen’s experience in London this week with a drag queen show paying tribute to the Orlando victims Adults have communities and support systems in place, but most kids don’t. The human element of these victims: brother, sisters, sons, daughters, mothers, fathers, etc. Social change is a product of humanization. The verbage to use? LGBTQ, queer, etc. Remember that kids process information at different speeds than adults. Have conversations with kids about safety, dangers, reassurance, and empowerment. The best response is always unity and solidarity. With 5-7 year olds: listen and watch how they play, and make space for them to express feelings. With older kids: create safe spaces for them to talk, and check for signs of depression or social withdrawal. It’s OK to talk about it! Resources: Dating Smarts: What Every Teen Needs to Know to Date, Relate, or Wait by Amy Lang www.birdsandbeesandkids.com www.birdsandbeescourse.com (Amy’s new online course for parents!) www.savvyparentssafekids.com Tea Consent video (on youtube!) www.mykidcameout.com (Jen’s website with resources, blog, and email info. Find her on Facebook, too!) Healthy Sex Talk: Teaching Kids Consent, ages 1-21 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So happy to welcome Maria Dismondy to the show for my June BONUS episode!! Maria is an award winning author and has written many books for children that engage and inspire them to consider the skills needed to be a good friend and problem solver. She spent time in the classroom before having her own children, and uses her time in schools to inform what she writes about in her books. :::::::::: Maria's books: The Littlest Linebacker - A Story of Determination Chocolate Milk Por Favor - Celebrating Diversity with Empathy Spoonful of Sweetness - and Other Delicious Manners Pink Tiara Cookies for ThreeSpaghetti in a Hot Dog Bun - Having the Courage to be Who You Are The Juice Box Bully - Empowering Kids to Stand Up for Others The Potato Chip Champ - Discovering Why Kindness Counts :::::::::: Find Maria on You TubeFollow her on InstagramCheck out her websiteConversation starters from Pinterest Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome! My guest today is a dear friend, Julietta Skoog, who is a positive discipline trainer. She joined us as a guest on Episode 4 about Family Meetings. It’s hard to believe that we’re here at Episode 48 now! I’m so thrilled to have Julietta back again so that we can all benefit from her wealth of parenting knowledge. She teaches many classes and workshops for parents, in addition to being a school counselor and psychologist in Seattle, where she works with hundreds of students. Her most important parenting work, however, is at home with her children, ages 4 and 7. Today’s topic is all about Toddlers—raising them and dealing with those around us who might not agree with our parenting methods. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Toddlers are biologically driven to explore the world through visual learning and touch. We need to find a way to bridge between our world and their world. They need to know that you hear them and understand them. Connect with them, see them, and hear them. With 2-3 year olds, redirection and distraction can be effective tools to move them on to what they need to do next. What it means to “get them to the second location” With older toddlers, use curiosity questions and give them a wait time. With younger toddlers, limit their choices to ones that you’re ok with. Mutual respect is essential—even with toddlers! Help them get excited about the next step with PLAY. Use deep firmness and structure. How should we handle destructive behaviors? Speak consistently Model connection and firmness Supervise! Model and help them learn empathy Transitions cause anxiety for kids, so do your prevention work! In dealing with others’ opinions, remember that we’re all challenged as parents; we’re all doing the best we can with the tools we have. Resources: www.besproutable.com (Julietta has video examples and other parenting resources.) Julietta's website l Facebook Join the Joyful Courage Facebook group: Live and Love with Courage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome! My guest today is Kris Prochaska, a former therapist who uses her intuition, diagnostic skills, and ability to read people’s energy. Her desire is to coach women in how to embody sacred leadership at home and at work to listen and live according to their inner voice. Kris was a 2015 TEDxBend speaker and is the author of Life Well Spoken: Free Your Inner Voice and Prosper. She is a busy mom to Anja, 7, and Eli, 11, and is happily married to—and still in love with—her hubby, Mike. What you’ll hear in this episode: Kris began her career journey as a therapist, but tired of focusing on what’s “wrong.” She wanted to discover what’s “right”! Kris approaches her coaching sessions under the premise that the client really does know best. Kris discusses her TED talk experience and the responses she received to her topic: Why don’t we see our kids as equals? Kris shares the irony in her TED talk in that she was not in alignment with her natural energy and truth. The goal in parenting is NOT to control our kids, but to teach them to use their tools to become their very best. Our kids are equally deserving of dignity and respect, but that doesn’t mean there are no limits or boundaries. The parenting attitude should be, “What’s in the highest and best good for our family in the long term?” We should listen to the voice of our kids and let them be a part of decision-making. We’re afraid if we teach them to listen to themselves that they will run rampant. The “little voices,”—do YOU hear them? They seek to make you look good, stay safe, and fit in-- -no matter what. How do you tell the difference between your “little voices” and your intuition? The “little voices” will make you feel small, constricted, and pressured. Your true inner voice is expansive, calm, and peaceful. Your energy shift can affect those around you. What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “When we have the courage to step into that inner voice place and what we know, it takes courage to do that over and over again. The returns are infinite. That’s the blessing we give to the world.” Resources: www.krisprochaska.com Find her on Facebook and Instagram: MessyMysticMama. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Here is what I got from a listener: Hey lady! As I said in my post, Sheane (my teacher ;)) is really volatile right now, and so much of what she's saying is full of disrespect and sass. Oh, and often high volume. It's driving me nuts. I suspect it's because summer is upon us, and she is worried about the transition, having to say goodbye to her teacher, etc., as she's so sensitive so it's freaking her out. If I say, "Please sit down and finish your breakfast" (she gets up several times during mealtimes, mostly to cartwheel), she'll yell, "MOM! Stop telling me that! I was going to!!!" Or, she's started to respond, "I don't care!" or "I don't have to!" Shaun and I have really been working on our tone with each other and the kids, so I feel like we're really modeling ways to disagree, ask questions, etc., without being disrespectful. And, we've been working on our connection with her, each of us committing to ensuring that she is feeling that sense of belonging and significance. So, I'm somewhat stumped now as to where to go with this. Often she's outright saying, "NO!" or is moaning and groaning about every situation, even when choice and inviting language is used. I did just take the "is your child sensitive" quiz that was posted on the FB page, and she scores off the charts. Thoughts? This child is teaching the hell out of me. So grateful for parents who reach out for support!! Enjoy this episode of Ask Casey as I do my best to share advice and feedback on this behavior that drives us ALL mad!! Back talk video Article on consent – good man project “Our kids are doing the best they can with the skills they have.” What/How questions Connect before correct Get curious about your child’s experience too Offer the opportunity for a redo They need to have the space for you to say “that wasn’t the best way to handle this situation, let’s try it again.” Practice being non-attached (don’t take it personally) “Tell me about that…” and then LISTEN DEEPLY The goal is to help our kids build skills to navigate disappointment in a way that isn’t hurtful to others, themselves or the environment around them. Soothing basket PDF Hold space for them to be uncomfortable and trust them to get to the other side :::::::::: Listeners!!! Chime in with your thoughts!! What are your tips/thoughts/experiences around setting limits for screen time?? Join the conversation on the live and love with joyful courage page If you have questions for an Ask Casey episode, fill out the form and send it my way!! :::::::::: THANK YOU!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome! My guest today is Dr. Michele Borba, a globally-recognized educational psychologist and parenting, bullying, and character expert. Her aim is to strengthen children’s empathy and resilience to break the cycle of youth violence. She has delivered keynotes and workshops to over 1 million participants on 5 continents and authored 24 books translated into 14 languages. Her latest book is out on June 7, and is titled Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World. Parents and educators will benefit greatly from Dr. Borba’s wisdom and insights. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Michele has experience as a special education teacher and working on school shooting prevention and bullying prevention programs. Much of the world’s violence narrows down to the primary need of empathy. What is empathy? The ability to “feel” with someone, to step in and understand where another person is coming from. Empathy has emotional and cognitive components. In researching her book, Michele learned from Holocaust rescuers that empathy was modeled for them by their parents, so it was natural for them to care about helping others. In the last 30 years, empathy in children has dropped by 40%, while narcissism has increased by 58%. Michele explains “The Selfie Syndrome” and how it kills empathy. Michele shares the following about learning empathy: It’s a “womb-to-tomb” scenario, so you can start learning at any age. Children are hard-wired for empathy at birth. Infants go through the first step of empathy when they attach to their mothers. Around age 1, emotional literacy begins when a child understands another’s clues to sadness or hurt. The problem today is that children are learning to tune in to digital devices and not to each other. #1 Tip: Teach your child to look at the color of the eyes of the person speaking to learn to “tune in.” Michele’s book teaches activities to cultivate empathy, to listen better, and to stand up to a bully. How to teach children the A, B, C’s of recognizing stress The “empathy gap” of overwhelmed kids Many “self-regulation” techniques are recommended in the book. Why we MUST teach coping strategies to our kids! How to teach them to take care of someone else’s heart Why saying “I’m sorry” is NOT the best option Michele gives some baby steps that parents can take as a starting point to increase empathy in their kids. “Think Big, Start Small”---choose ONE thing to do Michele has “Bully Buster” techniques and skills in the book. What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “Joyful Courage is the most wonderful concept you can imagine. Having courage brings real joy. We need to build kids from the inside out. It’s the real miracle point of your heart opening to another.” Resources: www.commonsensemedia.org www.micheleborba.com Find Dr. Borba on Facebook and Twitter and find her books on Amazon.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Deborah MacNamara is a brilliant voice in parent education and if was so fun to get to know her on the podcast! Dr. Deborah MacNamara is on Faculty at the Neufeld Institute and author of Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (or anyone who acts like one) She presents, teaches, and writes on all facets of child and adolescent development based on the relational-developmental approach of Gordon Neufeld. She is also in private practice where she offers counselling services to parents and professionals in making sense of learning, behavioural, and developmental issues in kids. Deborah is a dynamic teacher and experienced counsellor who makes developmental science come to life in the everyday context of home and classroom. She was an amazing guest and I KNOW you will be left is awe of all you have learned while listening to our conversation!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this bonus episode, I talk with my friend, Victoria Sexton all about how to use aromatherapy for wellness. She breaks down what essential oils are, how to use a diffuser, and how to handle it when theres loads of snot and a cough (thats when I typically cross over to the over the counter stuff). I know you will find value in this show and walk away feeling super excited about using aromatherapy in your home. My diffusers been ordered. From Victoria - Antibacterial Essential oils: Orange Eucalyptus Rosemary Frankincense Lavender Peppermint Note: Do not apply essential oils to infants. Use a diffuser instead. For kids years 2 and above use a dilution of 1% of essential oils (6 drops per ounce). How to follow Victoria: www.naturalgoodnessskincare.com Facebook Pinterest <3 THANK YOU FOR LISTENING!!! I am so honored to have you out there, appreciating the conversations happening here. Please reach out, check in, let me know what you love about the podcast. Let me know your questions. I am here for you!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so honored to have Rebecca Eanes on the podcast this week!! Rebecca Eanes is a best selling author, the founder of positive-parents.org, creator of Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond, and a contributing editor to Creative Child Magazine where she does most of her writing currently. Her books are The Newbie's Guide to Positive Parenting which has been a #1 best seller in it's category on Amazon, and a co-authored book, Positive Parenting in Action: The How-To Guide to Putting Positive Parenting Principles in Action in Early Childhood, which has also been an Amazon best seller internationally. Her new book, Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide, will be released on June 7, 2016. You can preorder it now at Amazon. Blog posts and articles by Rebecca mentioned during the podcast: Parenting the Highly Sensitive Boy Disciplining the Sensitive Child Create A Calm Down Area Does Time-In Reward Children? Books mentioned on the podcast: The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine Aron The Strong Sensitive Boy by Ted Zeff Parenting Without Power Struggles by Susan Stiffleman Pre - Order Rebeccas new book - Positive Parenting: The Essential Guide NOW With your preorder you will receive exclusive access to her Facebook Book Club experience where you will get support from Rebecca, complimentary PDF for each chapter, support and accountability for lasting change, AND be entered to win books, ecourse and parent coaching sessions with top parenting coaches!! Follow Rebecca: www.positive-parents.org Positive Parenting Toddlers and Beyond Facebook Page Positive Parents on Pinterest @BeckyEanes on Twitter @RebeccaEanes on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome! My guest today is Jiovann Carrasco, a psychotherapist in Austin, TX. Jiovann is the owner of the Austin Mindfulness Center, a meditator, and the author of an online mindfulness program called Follow your Breath. He is an engaged and connected father to two young kids and worked as a stay-at-home dad for two years! Let’s jump into this topic of mindfulness with Jiovann! What you’ll hear in this episode: How Jiovann began practicing meditation in 2008, as a result of the anxiety and panic attacks from his stressful job as a therapist at a group home How Zen meditation changed Jiovann and allowed him to connect with himself like never before How does Jiovann define mindfulness? “Attending to whatever arises in the present moment without trying to change it or judge it.” Jiovann explains the benefits to mindfulness in parenting. Why Jiovann took a popular course on Positive Discipline and became a certified parent educator Jiovann explains how to bring mindfulness to even the everyday mundane tasks required in parenting. How Jiovann structures his early morning meditation practice and time with his kids How kids already know how to be mindful and present WAY more than adults Fearful thoughts and worries are what our minds naturally focus on; mindfulness finds ways to shine the spotlight on anything else in the present moment. Jiovann recommends two books: Planting Seeds by Thich Nhat Hanh and Sitting Still Like A Frog by Eline Snel. Jiovann explains the basics of his 6-week, on-demand, online course. See details below! What does joyful courage mean to Jiovann? “Mindfulness is one of the most courageous things to do. It’s intentionally moving toward the fears, and joy and happiness are natural by-products.” Connect with Jiovann: www.austinmindfulness.org (Find information on the course, Follow Your Breath, including meditation audio, downloadables, journals, practice logs, videos, and access to the Facebook group. The normal price is $299, but through the end of 2016, the course is available for 50% off. But wait, it gets better! FOLLOW YOUR BREATHE MINDFULNESS COURSE: For JCP listeners, take an additional 35% off, which brings the price UNDER $100!) --- CLICK HERE FOR THE DISCOUNT! Facebook l Twitter l Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A question from Maria… My 6yo loves his ipad and tv, like I'm sure they all do. I don't allow him to play non-stop and he's generally ok with boundaries. My issue is he's always asking. ALWAYS. I'm forever saying no, or later, or ok for half an hour, or after you do this or that. I'm the bad guy when he really wants to and I'd rather he do something more constructive. I'd like to put the power in his hands, instead of mine, but how. I thought about giving him a weekly limit and letting him go free, when his limit is met, no more screens. But how, he's 6 and doesn't really get time management. Plus, school days vs weekends (and now summer) are different. Right now he doesn't have homework, but when he does, screens should be very limited (I'd imagine) and I don't want to break a habit when that starts. On the weekends, in the morning, he gets to play/watch until dad and I get up and make breakfast. Than maybe more later, but it depends on what we're doing. Ugh this is only going to get worse when he gets older. I'd like to set some limits he can follow on his own, so I'm not the dictator. One that won't allow him to be on it for hours. His attitude is awful if he's been playing a long time, shoot that happens to me too! I am not an expert on screen time – we are first generation of parents parenting kids with crazy access to screens, also we are the first parents to ALSO have this access. We are the models Time on the screens is time not connecting with other human beings in our life Root of the problem is disconnection No perfect answer No screens Vs No Limits Lots of room in the middle for skill development, self regulation practice, time management exploration Have a conversation about what you are noticing and invite him to speak into his experience Look at the week and the days – then decide what could work for you, what he would like, whiddle it down to a place where you are both satisfied Blog posts: Earning Privileges Earning Privileges, Revisited No magic number of miutes Comes down to provide an opportunity for your six year old to be a part of the problem solving process We must give them experience for practicing negotiating, offer/counter offer Notice rigidity Showing up with your plan in mind will not be helpful Go into the conversation to deeply listen and be open minded Use visuals so that he knows when screen time is Give opportunities to be autonomous Try the solution for a week and revisit – tweak if necessary Our children are full of creative ideas When we are a part of the problem solving, we are more likely to follow through with the solution Use daily special time to connect and continue to strengthen relationship When we strengthen relationship with our kids we are increasing our kids sense of belonging and significance When you notice things are challenging, turn your lens towards the relationship Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome! My guest today is Sarah Remmer, a registered dietitian and pediatric nutrition expert. She blogs at Stork to Fork, sharing ideas, advice, and easy recipes for real parents who want their kids to grow into healthy relationships with food. Let’s jump right into this topic with Sarah! What you’ll hear in this episode: Sarah is the mother of three young kids, so she knows the struggle! In her client work, Sarah noticed that the common denominator was the way they were raised in dysfunctional relationships with food. She rebranded and turned her specialty to helping parents raise kids with healthy habits and positive, functional relationships with food for life. Her practice has been thriving, as she is now recognized as a top pediatric nutritionist. Sarah discusses the biggest challenges in feeding kids; if you’re a parent, then you’ve experienced one or more of these! How a recent blog post by Sarah focuses on the “role reversal” that takes place between parents and kids at mealtimes Why kids should NOT stick exclusively with their favorite snacks, like yogurt or bananas Boundaries are important and help create structure. Sarah advises NO short order cooking, NO special meals, and NO snacking after meals. Desserts are tricky! Why you should NOT require “3 more bites of broccoli” before dessert! Why kids are naturally drawn to energy-rich foods like sweets and carbs Eating a wide variety of foods as a toddler will broaden your child’s palate! Ask your child, “How can I make this food yummier for you?” Bad habits CAN be changed! How to involve kids in meals and meal planning Sometimes, kids are truly NOT hungry! Sarah explains your “long-term feeding lens” vs. the short term. What does “joyful courage” mean to you? “Having the courage to start fresh. Forgive yourself for unhealthy habits. Be kind and end mealtime power struggles. Connect with Sarah: www.sarahremmer.comFacebook Twitter Follow Sarah on the Yummy Mummy Club site! The Super Healthy Kids Blog Feeding Kids: How Parents and Kids Often Have Their Roles Mixed Up (and how to fix it) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Megan Barella loves to help parents unlock their parenting powerthrough her classes and coaching programs. As a Certified PositiveDiscipline Parent Educator, she brings a holistic approach to helppeople live and parent in connection with their highest selves."The Getting to Gold Project" is the program Megan is developingfor parents who are trauma survivors. Megan loves to cook, dance,do art projects, and spend time in the woods with her 7 year oldson in the Portland, OR area. Highlights from the conversation: - The stress response systemtakes over- Through awareness we can bring what ishappening internally into the open- Parenting is incredible,courageous work- Dan Siegel, Parenting From the Inside Out- We want our kids tothrive!- BeckyBailey of Conscious Discipline – “Awareness is the first agentof positive change”- Be a gentle observer –awareness + self compassion ((you tubevideo))- Hand over Heart- Mistakes are opportunities tolearn- Power of Repair- Showing up the best we canwith the tools we have- Our mistakes are notus!! Our patterns are what we have taken on to survive…- Narrative therapy- “I am not defined by mymistakes”- Our body reads stress ASfear- The power of our positiveintent Join the Parenting for the Next Generation community at https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingfortheNextGeneration/ And follow Megan at: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingForTheNextGenerationPinterest: https://uk.pinterest.com/MamaMegan1/Instagram: @mama_meganTwitter: @MamaMeganBlog Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Raffi Cavoukian is well known for the music he makes for young children... Many parents today were brought up with that music and are now sharing it with their kids. I spent many a day in the car singing Baaaaaaby Baluuuuuga to my littles and am so completely THRILLED to have the chance to talk to him on this podcast!! It was so much fun getting to know Raffi! He candidly shares his story of singing folk music to adults, to sharing songs with children - learn more about him by clicking here. He talks about the deep respect he has for young people, and the fun he has when he gets to entertain them. Raffi is a social activist, and shares about the Center For Child Honouring he founded near his home on Salt Springs Island. The mission of the centers invites people to "be a part of the global movement that views honouring children as the best way to create sustainable, peacemaking societies." And of course, we talk about some of my favorite songs! I am so grateful he took the time to talk to me. Resources mentioned on the show: Center for Child Honouring PDF of the Child Honouring Covenant and Principles FREE download of Take A Breath - a song about self regulation You can find and follow Raffi on his website l facebook l twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome! Today’s guest is Ryan Hamilton, one of the co-founders of the “Life of Dad,” a social media network for dads. He is changing how dads are represented in the parenting arena and is helping moms be more effective at sharing parenting tools and tips with their male partners. Let’s jump into conversation with Ryan! What you’ll hear in this episode: Ryan has been a computer geek/tech guy all of his life; he now sees his son following in his footsteps in those interests. Ryan works full-time in the advertising industry, but runs his business on the sides for dads. Ryan shares how “Life of Dad” evolved from a heart-wrenching personal story of one of the co-founders. The purpose of “Life of Dad” is to enable a father to share his story via social media. Ryan became involved in the endeavor during a tumultuous time in his life, when he was going through a divorce, job loss, financial collapse, and depression. Ryan began blogging about the darker side of parenting. Ryan discusses how trends and parental role expectations have shifted as dads have pushed for change. Many new resources and dad communities are making change and allowing dads to have a voice. Co-parenting has changed in today’s culture of divorce; Ryan shares how he and his ex-wife make it work for them. Ryan decided to make the journey to veganism about two years ago, when he was depressed and suicidal. He began with being vegetarian, but then transitioned on to veganism. The “cleaning up” of his diet branched out to affect all other areas of his life. Ryan’s advice to other dads is to stay in touch, never feel alone, and reach out to your peer groups. Check out the resources below! :::::::::: Resources: Life of Dad - Website I Twitter I Facebook I IG I You Tube Ryan E. Hamilton - Twitter I Facebook Dad 2.0 Summit National At Home Dad Network City Dads Group Dad Bloggers on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so excited to offer a monthly podcast episode that is dedicated to answering questions from the community. Today, I speak about situations that were shared by April and Sarah, both members of the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Facebook Community... From April:My 7 year old is the youngest of three girls. She gets plenty of attention but seems to constantly be begging for more. What is a healthy amount of attention and how I do I limit it? She constantly interrupts her dad and I whenever we are talking to her other sisters. It's as if she can't handle them getting any attention. I don't know how to phrase a question. She is the youngest child who has gotten spoiled with attention because she was the only one home with me while the other girls were at school. Now she expects all the attention all the time and it isn't fun for anyone. From Sarah:Ok, here is a hot topic at our house! How can I help my kids get along (or many how can I help my son deal with jealousy)? I have an almost 8 yo son who is much more introverted and independent and a 5 yo daughter who is a bubbly, outgoing people person. She gets lots more attention from people in general just because she is outgoing and comfortable talking to people. But my son is also in school all day and she is not yet so we are having some struggles with jealousy (being purposefully mean to his sis) and defiance. It will still be one more year before she is in school all day like he is. I give him 1-1 time but there just aren't enough hours in the day to give him the same amount of time. I have a feeling that their stories, their challenges will resonate with the whole community. Please listen in and let me know what you think!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome! Today’s guest is Nicole Schwarz, who wrote an article recently that caught my attention. Her blog is www.imperfectfamilies.com, and the article was about Helping Kids Deal with Negative Self-Talk. Nicole is the mother of three daughters, and is a parent coach with a license in family therapy. She now devotes her work to online coaching and writing her blog. She loves working with families on positive, respectful parenting techniques. What you’ll hear in this episode: The two things in kids’ lives that bring the most negative self-doubt How two kids can be doing the same thing, but one will have negative self-doubt and one will be fine How you may think you are supporting your kids in their negative self-doubt, but you may be doing THREE KEY THINGS wrong! All parents face the question of how much to push them and how much to support them. Nicole has tips to help you connect with your kids in moments of frustration; the key is to find ways to connect with them. As a parent, you have opportunities to help your kids through their negative self-doubt; the key is to help them with important life skills. Links and Resources: Connect with Nicole: Website | Facebook | Twitter The blog post that started it all... How to Respond to Your Child's Negative Self Talk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dina Emser is on the podcast today digging into what encouragement is really all about… Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so so excited to share this conversation with listeners!! Dr. Laura Markham is one of the leading voices in the parenting arena and full of easy to digest tips and tools for parents with kids of all ages! I was beyond honored when she agreed to come on my show... Listen in as we talk all about how to create space for our kids to get along, explore what keeps kids from connecting, and dig into how one on one time with each of our kids actually helps the sibling bond grow. Dr. Laura's bio from her website: Dr. Laura Markham trained as a Clinical Psychologist, earning her PhD from Columbia University. But she's also a mom, so she translates proven science into the practical solutions you need for the family life you want. The founding editor of AhaParenting.com, Dr. Laura also serves as a parenting expert for Mothering.com, Psychology Today, The Natural Parent Magazine, Pregnancy.org, Girlie Girl Army, SheKnows.com, and several other websites. She makes frequent TV and radio appearances and has been interviewed for hundreds of articles by publications as diverse as The Wall Street Journal, Real Simple, Newsday, Men's Health, Redbook and Parents Magazine. Dr. Laura's relationship-based parenting model has helped thousands of families across the U.S. and Canada find compassionate, common-sense solutions to everything from separation anxiety and sleep problems to sass talk and cell phones. She lives in Brooklyn, New York, with her husband and two terrific kids -- now 20 and 24! Resources mentioned:Peaceful Parents, Happy KidsPeaceful Parents, Happy SiblingsJohn Gottman's work with couples and marriage Where to find/follow Dr. Laura's work:www.ahaparenting.comFacebookTwitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so excited to have Margit Crane on the podcast today! She is fun and hopeful and full of really helpful information for ADD/ADHD children and the grown ups who love and work with them. From Margit's bio: Confused and frustrated, people are drawn to Margit’s bright-eyed optimism, her natural communication style, and her no-nonsense, real-world solutions. They fall in love with her humor and compassion, realizing that she is their strongest advocate and biggest fan. Clients feel heard and understood, and they trust her to support each of them, together as a family and, separately, as individuals. She blends an uncanny and authentic understanding of children and teens with adult wisdom and experience, and a long career as a trailblazer in the field of Attention Deficit Disorder, school success, and child-parent dynamics. Margit and I spend time discussion what ADD/ADHD is and what it isn't, when to consider if our child is a ADD/ADHD, and what the steps are to connect and hold space for these special kids. Resources mentioned: Getting Schooled - a free ebook from Margit that helps parents navigate their child's school experiencewww.wrightslaw.com - articles, legal resources. support How to find and follow Margit: http://margitcrane.com/Facebook - Gifted with ADDTwitter - BrilliantADHDPinterest - Gifted with ADD Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So excited to share today's show with you! Dr. Jen O’Ryan provides guidance for parents to help them navigate their child’s coming out process, as well as questions about sexuality and gender. She completed her doctorate in Human Behavior with a focus on environmental factors during childhood and adolescence for sexual minorities. Dr. Jen also works closely with other caring adults on developing more inclusive, safe spaces for LGBTQ individuals in the workplace and community. Through years of research and advocacy, Jen brings an extensive background on factors contributing to healthy development during childhood and adolescence for LGBTQ youth. Jen and I talk about the experience kids are having as they come to understand gender and sexual orientation. We discuss the biggest challenges for the kids and their parents, and how we can all be a part in supporting all kids, in celebration of differences, being advocates and allies. Resources mentioned: Jen's website My Kid Came OutJen's local workshop So your kids came out, now what? - listeners will get $5 off with promo code "joyful"Recent posts on sexuality and supporting LGBTQ youthPFLAG - Parents, Families and Allies of LGBTQ Where to find Jen: Her website - www.mykidcameout.comTwitter - @pagingdrjenFacebook - Paging Dr. Jen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am super excited about this BONUS episode!! I have the privilege of being in conversation with Brandie Weikle from thenewfamily.com and host of The New Family Podcast. Part of my mission for creating this podcast is to expose listeners to parenting resources that I find inspirational and valuable, and Brandie is in total alignment with that mission. We spend time today talking about The New Family, the 1,000 Family Project, and Brandie's experience with podcasting. Mentioned: The New Family WebsiteThe 1,000 Families ProjectThe New Family PodcastPositive CoParenting After Divorce Facebook GroupMentioned New Family Podcast Episodes: Eps 50: The Ex Next Door Eps 20: Seizing the Day With Your FamilyEps9: Conscious Uncoupling with Katherine Woodward ThomasEps 3: Parenting a Transgendered Child Where to find Brandie and The New Family: www.thenewfamily.comTwitterFacebookInstagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Amy Knobler is on the podcast! Amy is a personal chef, mama and Positive Discipline Parent Educator from Pasadena, California. In candid conversation, she shares her passion for bringing kids into the kitchen… Do you love dinner preparation? Are you like me, feeling annoyed and resentful each day when it comes time to create a meal for your family? Listen in as Amy spins a new perspective around meal prep and how it can be a relationship builder AND a time for life skill development. From young kids to our teens, the kitchen can be a place for connection… A place where we can all increase our sense of belonging and significance. :::::::::: Resources: Click here to get your own pack of Positive Discipline Parenting ToolcardsSeven Easy Ways to Include Your Kids in the Kitchen by Sarah RemmerCheck out the PDF from Amy with concepts and a yummy kid friendly recipe on the Joyful Courage website! Where to find and follow Amy: [email protected] to Connect Facebook Group :::::::::: Also - be sure to check out the Calm and Connected Parenting Program through Mazlo.Click here for more information! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So grateful to have Kelly Bos on the show today! Kelly is a psychotherapist focusing on individual, marriage, and family relationships. She helps people find meaning and joy in their relationships - with themselves and others. Today we are talking about navigating parenting styles in our family. As I say on a regular basis, parenting is a journey, right? Have you started to notice that when we say "yes! I want to be with you forever!" we are also saying yes to the journey of relationship??? And it's not always easy. We show up with baggage - we show up with our own lens that has been developed through the experiences of our life... AND we sometimes forget that we aren't all looking through the same lens... Listen in as I talk with Kelly about how to be more proactive and forwarding in our conversations with our partners, and build stronger connections with them in the process!! Where to find Kelly: Her website: http://www.kellybos.com/And on Facebook Articles for further reading: What to do When Your Parenting Styles Don't Mesh by Kelly BosWhen Parents Disagree on Discipline by Amy McCreedy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I love Emily Roberts!! There is a good reason she is called "Guidance Girl" - this woman has so many gifts and wisdom to share... She knows tweens and teens - she has an inside perspective and sharing it on the show. Listen in and broaden your perspective around the online social life of your children. Emily and I have a candid conversation about what parents should be thinking about and how we can be building relationship through navigating this online social world with our kids.... This is a looooooong podcast because I just can't stop talking to Emily!! Resources mentioned: American Girls: How Social Media is Disrupting the Lives of TeenagersExpress Yourself: A Teen Girls Guide to Speaking up and Being Who You Are Other articles and interview with Emily: An interview about social media addictionWhat Every Parent Needs to Know about Cyberbullying Follow Emily's work: One her websiteOn FacebookOn TwitterOn PinterestOn InstagramOn YouTube Let me know what you are thinking!! Join the conversation on the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Facebook group - a crowd of like minded parents do the best they can to be their best on the parenting journey! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sarah is a social worker, a compassion coach, a play promoter and warrior for kindness... How can an interview with her be anything BUT amazing??? We discuss limit setting, brain development and how to navigate our kids emotional outbursts in a way that is helpful and not hurtful. Resources mentioned: Dan Siegel: - Whole Brain Child - Brian in the Palm of the Hand video Where to find Sarah: - www.sarahmaclaughlin.com - Facebook - Twitter - Pinterest - Instagram Helpful articles by Sarah: Easing the Stress of Power Struggle Why I Praised My Son for Threatening to Throw a Bowl at Me How to Set Limits with Kids Without Harshness, Fear or Shame Thank you for listening!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I find it so empowering to explore parenting styles with moms and dads. It seems as though once we become more aware of our style, our pattern, we become ever more able to move in the direction of who we WANT to be. Listen in as Sarina Behar Natkin, from GROW Parenting, digs into the different styles, their history, and how to maintain a more balanced, connected approach to parenting. It was a fun and informative conversation that listeners are sure to relate to!! Find out more about Sarina and her offers:www.growparenting.comwww.facebook.com/GrowParentinghttps://twitter.com/GrowParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So grateful and honored to have Leisha on the podcast today to puzzle out the rub she is feeling around bedtime with her two young daughters. Do you ever feel like things spin out of control at the end of the day? Do you feel like you swing between too kind to too firm and back again? You aren't alone! Listen in to this live parent coaching and notice where the conversation is resonating with you... We are on a collective journey - lets learn from the learning of others!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cathy Kawakami is on the show today and we are talking all about the ways we can encourage our youngest kids to explore their capabilities. Sorry folks, the bad news in a lot of the reason our kids don't believe they can do things is because we spend so much time and effort telling them that - and they're getting the message!! Then we get frustrated that our kids are uncooperative or don't want to contribute - it's crazytown!! Cathy and Casey offer a bunch of ideas around how to set up an environment that is designed for kids to grow and thrive, to gain life skills and the belief that they can have healthy control over their life. You can find Cathy at:her website www.middlegroundparenting.comAnd on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MiddleGroundParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Oh friends - this is a good one!! My new friend (and someone we should all have on speed dial), Susan Stiffelman is on the show today talking about the Parenting in the Digital Age Telesummit. THIS IS AN INCREDIBLE OPPORTUNITY for all of us to learn from some of the most AMAZING speakers and thinkers of our time. Dr. Dan Siegel, author of Whole Brain Child and creator of Brain in th ePalm of Your Hand Byron Katie, developer of The Work Rachel Macy Stafford, author and blogger behind the Hands Free Revolution (she has been on the show and is super fabulous) Glennon Doyle Melton. author and founder of online community Momastery Roasalind Weisman, author of Queen Bees and Wanna Bees and amazing human And there are MOREand they are ALL amazing humans - and ALL amazing humans with SO MUCH WISDOM TO SHARE!!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Amy Lang of birdsandbeesandkids.com is back on this show and THIS time we are going next level.... We are talking about dating and middle school. You all know that as a mother of a 13 year old, this topic is near and dear to my heart... Amy breaks it down for us, offers insights to contemplate, and may make a few of you a wee bit uncomfortable with her no-nonsense talk about what it developmentally appropriate at this age. The result is a fun, informative and candid conversation that may take you back to your own middle school dating years.... ---------------- 1985..... Awkward boy, "Uh, do you want to go with me?" Me, "Sure." My mom, "Where are you gonna GO???" ----------------- Bwahahahaaaa --- listen in!! Enjoy!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so EXCITED to share this BONUS podcast with you all!! I had the honor of talking to Alison Soracchi from Carry the Future about the incredible work they are doing, providing baby carriers to refugees in Greece. This conversation is an emotional one, and really highlights how meaningful a small gesture from one human being to another can be... Alison shares stories about the work volunteers are engaged in here in the states, and paints a picture of how the volunteers on the ground in Greece are living the vision. Just listen. No doubt you will be inspired :) You can find out more about Carry the Future at www.carrythefuture.orgYou can find out more about Operation Refugee Child at https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/operation-refugee-child-carry-the-future-mission#/Find Carry the Future on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/carrythefutureOn twitter at https://twitter.com/carry_thefuture Joyful Courage will be teaming with Grow With Me Boutiqueto run a baby carrier drive in February Locals can drop off new or gently used carriers to Grow with Me Boutique here in Monroe any time during the hours of operation. OR listeners can send carriers or supplies for Operation Refugee Child to the drop off center through Carry the Future (click here for details on where to send - and click "donate") Be sure to write a little note that you are participating in the Joyful Courage Baby Carrier Drive so we can keep track of the impact of our community!! Thank you for listening!!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ahhhh, babies. We spend so much time preparing for their arrival and then BAM - they totally turn our world upside down and we can't remember WHY we ever though parenthood was a good idea. Hahaha, well, maybe that wasn't exactly your experience. Ariadne Brill, parent educator, writer and the force behind the insanely helpful and popular website, Positive Parenting Connection, has returned to the podcast this week to dig into raising babies with a healthy attachment. This conversation is so useful for parents who are living and loving the smallest and newest among us... Listen in for tips on connecting and creating the very beginnings of a foundation for empathy and compassion. If you have friends or family that are expecting a new baby, or have recently been blessed with one, pass this show on to them - they will thank you!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It was so fun to have the chance to speak one on one with a listener about the challenges she is facing with your your son. Listen in and notice how universal some of the feelings and thoughts are that you hear Stephanie speak into... The parenting journey is a collective experience. You are not alone! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Who doesn't get into power struggles with their kids??? Listen in as Debbie Zeichner, LCSW and parent coach, and I discuss the triggers for power struggles and how to navigate them in a way that leaves your kids with MORE skills and MORE likely to cooperate. Sound good? Check out Debbie's website : www.debbiezeichnerlcsw.comAnd like her facebook page: www.facebook.com/debbiezeichnerlcsw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This podcast interview is a long one, because the conversation was just that good. Listen in as I talk with Denise Dryden, integrative coach, about how we can shed the stories and emotional baggage we show up to parent with so that we can be conscious and available to the child we find in front of us. One of my favorite quotes from the conversation is Denise encouraging parents to think about in regards to their children, "what do I see that is unique and different, and how do I let them lead me into the future?" She is a wise woman and it is my honor to know her! Here are some links mentioned in the podcast: Brandy Carlile - The EyeDenise's website - www.denisedrydencoaching.comDenise's Ecourse - Parenting the New Earth's ChildrenFollow Denise on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I love you people!!! Thank you so much for all you have given me in 2015. This show is short and sweet today, as I know you have things to do and people to see (as do I). I announce the winners of the Subscribe-A-Thon Giveaway (finally)!! I share a poem from Danielle LaPorte's Desire Map. I invite you to let go of what brought you down in 2015 and invite in what you want for 2016. Enjoy!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hellooooooo Friends!!! Merry, merry, happy, happy... Hoping this podcast finds you well and joyful. Listen in to hear some exciting news about the year to come, details about how to be a part of the giveaway, and inquiry about how YOU will make e2016 the BEST YEAR for YOU! Big huge love to all of you.... Honored you are out there listening and supporting and celebrating all we can do to make the world better!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Amanda Rue, the force behind the popular blog, Dirt and Boogers, is on the podcast today. She has created a FABULOUS resource for parents around how to bring more calm and connection to the holiday season. I don't know about you, but this came at the perfect time for me! Resources mentioned: Check out Amanda's Ebook, Take the Chaos out of Christmas, by clicking here. Mama's Anger Management cCourseThe Stop Yelling Challenge on Facebook Where to follow Amanda: Her blog/website www.dirtandboogers.com Dirt and Boogers on Facebook Dirt and Boogers on Instagram Dirt and Boogers on Pinterest Dirt and Boogers on Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Such a great conversation! Jessica Lahey is smart and funny and real when it comes to talking straight up about how we rob our kids of their future when we protect the from failure... It doesn't matter if they are in the sandbox or a high school classroom, our kids only learn the tools for relationship, empathy and resiliency when we (parents) allow them the gift of discomfort, making mistakes and yes, failure. Listen in to this candid conversation and consider where you could pull back a bit, where you could allow your kids a little bit more room to learn from their missteps, to own when they've hurt someone, to problem solve it when they've left their homework or lunch at home (again!)... We all love our kids, we want them to grow into the fullest, best versions of themselves, sometimes that requires us to back off and let them figure some things out... You may be surprised by just how capable they are! Mentions: The book: The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey The article in the Atlantic that started it all: Why Parents Need to Let Their Children Fail Why Back to School Night Made Me Feel Like a Bad Mom Glennon Doyle Melton on momastry.com How to Raise and Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims The Price of Priviledge by Madeline Levine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

OMG. I can't believe how great it is to be a podcaster!! For today's show, I interviewed one of my oldest friends!! How lucky am I??? This conversation, with Jessica Prentice, is all about her book The Duck With No Legs and all of the underlying themes and messages that show up in the sweet, heart warming story. We get into all sorts of discussions in this show - from spirituality, to overcome perceived disabilities, to living with the discomfort of not being the child we think our parents want us to be (not to mention parenting a child who marches to the beat of his own drum)... You are going to love this show! I do say "asshole" one time, so I marked the episode as explicit - sorry about that. :) Mentions/Resources: I bring up Nick Vujicic - a parapalegic motivational speaker who has an incredible spirit and message for the world. You can find him at www.lifewithoutlimbs.org or watch his youtube video about Never giving up by clicking here. Click here to get a copy of The Duck with No Legs from Amazon. Check out Jessica's graphic design work at www.sillybird.com Find Jessica on Instagram @sillybird Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hey hey!!! Thank you so much for playing and being willing to subscribe to the show - I value you and am honored that you find value in what I put out into the world!! Here are the deets of the giveaway: I have super cute Joyful Courage SWAG to give away!! I can't figure out how to post pics here, but I will put them up on the Live and Love with Joyful Courage facebook group page. I have FOUR shirts and FOUR hats to giveaway - The shirt is baseball style with red arms and the Joyful Courage logo on the front. The hat is a trucker style green hat with a white front and the JC logo. I have TWO Center Parenting Ecourses to giveaway - This is an online course that you receive over the course of five weeks. Included each week are videos, audio meditation and workbooks that teach the positive Discipline concepts and guide you towards finding your most centered, authentic self while on the parenting journey. It's awesome! Learn more here. And finally, I am giving away a 3 month coaching package - This is the GRAND PRIZE and I am super excited to offer it up to one lucky winner! The 3 month coaching package is two hours of coaching a month, which can either be broken up into 2 monthly one hour sessions, or four monthly half hour sessions. You will have access to me via text and email between sessions as well... This offer is a POWERFUL way to really deepen your practices and accountability towards being the parent and the human you want to be. Learn more here. To qualify for ALL of the offers, please head on over to itunes and write a review for the podcast. This link will help you figure out how to do it from your iphone or ipad: http://www.imore.com/how-rate-or-review-podcast-your-iphone-or-ipad If you use an android device, you will need to access itunes through your computer and directions for doing that can be found here: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/joyful-courage-parenting-podcast/id996079418?mt=2 To qualify for the swag (shirts and hats) and the ecourse, please leave a FIVE STAR RATING on iTunes. Use the link above to do this, the difference being that you don't write a review - just leave the stars :) To qualify simply for the swag, shoot me an email at [email protected] and let me know what your favorite episode of the podcast is and why OR why you LOVE the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast!! Oh man, hopefully that isn't too complicated --- let me know if you have any troubles and I will be happy to help! Big love to each of you and THANK YOU for being on the journey with me!! xoxo - Casey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There are a few things that are tough to talk about with our kids. One of the toughest, I think, is talking about the violent things that happen in the world... My guest today on the podcast is Dr. Monica Holliday Sherman. Monica is a psychotherapist in private practice in Chicago, and she completed her doctorate in clinical psychology at The Adler School of Professional Psychology, with a concentration in childhood and adolescence. She is a Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, and she regularly facilitates parenting classes in the Chicago community. You can find her on Psychology Today here. She is also my friend, and someone I trust to speak to this topic from a very thoughtful, experienced place... As tough as this conversation is, it is important for parents to be talking to their kids about the state of the world. AND, as a community of parents, it is equally as important to get support from each other about how to best support our kids. My hope is that this show does just that. Resources mentioned in the interview: Video of father reassuring his young son that France is their home.Purple Wagon - "A site for people interested in parents and children, and their explorations and discussions around war, terrorism and peacemaking." Loads of resources for parents here.Helping Children Feel Safe in an Unsafe World by Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD Other resources: Talking With Children About Disaster also by Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhDTalking with Children About Tragic News Stories by Ariadne Brill of Positive Parenting ConnectionTerrorism and children:Tough Conversations that Matter by Marilyn Price-Mitchell, PhD or Roots of ActionExplaining Terror to Kids is a NY Times article that covers a French newspaper for kids and how they are engaging in real conversations with kids about the attacks And more suggestions from Monica: Books are my go-to when I'm wanting to extend any of these "big" topics into ongoing conversations with my kids. Here are a few to read WITH your kids, relevant to what's going on in the world today: Finding heroes amidst terrorism. I Am Malala by Malala Yousafzai (there is also a Young Reader's edition) Multicultural competency. The Cow of No Color: Riddle Stories and Justice Tales from around the World, Nina Jaffee Explaining refugees. Sometimes it helps to look to history for examples -- one of the most written about examples of children fleeing war zones is the Operation Pied Piper of 1939, when children were evacuated from London during WWII. The beloved Paddington character is even based upon these events. --The Sky Is Falling, Kit Pearson --Visitors from London, Kitty Barne (out of print) --Lion, Witch, and the Wardrobe and Bedknobs and Broomsticks are both storylines based on children having to evacuate. --If your kids are American Girl fans, the book Happy Birthday, Molly! incorporates a story of a British refugee coming to live with the family after being traumatized by living through bombing raids. Please get in touch with any thoughts or feedback on this discussion or any of the other podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This conversation landed close to my heart... While my kids are now sleeping in their OWN beds, in their OWN rooms, ALL NIGHT LONG, that was not always the case. And while my nighttime parenting choices weren't always the same as everyone else, they didn't follow the mainstream advice, I did the best I could for my babies... The thing I really love about Alanna and her approach to supporting parents with sleep, is her willingness to meet parents where they're at. She really believes in the idea that there is a right approach for each family, and that it is going to be related to what works in each family... As any parent knows, there is no one size fits all here... AND it is possible to help your child, and yourself, get better sleep. Listen in! Where to find Alanna - www.goodnightsleepsite.comwww.facebook.com/goodnightsleepsitewww.twitter.com/GNSleepSitehttp://pinterest.com/gnsleepsite Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What a great time I had talking to Bonnie Harris of Connective Parenting! She is so full of wisdom and insight... Which wasn't surprising AT ALL to me :) I have been following Bonnie's work for years - drawn to her gentle, logical style and advice. I subscribed to her newsletter list and read her books and often am known to quote her in my parenting classes. This lady is for real. AND I am honored to share our conversation with you!! Click on the links below to follow Bonnie: www.bonnieharris.com www.connectiveparenting.com facebook.com/connectiveparenting twitter.com/harrisparenting Big love to you all and happy parenting!!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This solo show is my own download around how resistance has been showing up in my life and what I am learning from it. We all have those voices, right? The one that says to us, "who cares, do what you want..." and the other that speaks from our soul and reminds us of who we really are.... Yeah, I dig into that. I talk about my friend, Molly Knight Forde who is BRILLIANT and my guest on Episode Seven... I mention the book, Seven Thousand Ways to Listen by Mark Nepo (its super fabulous). It's the world according to me, and I invite you to come on in and stay awhile. Let me know what you think, and if you are enjoying these solo rambles or not (I hope you are, because they are really fun to record). Big huge love to you all!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How much do I love this week's guest???? TRUCK LOADS! She is my friend and teacher, she inspires and coaches people all over the planet, AND she has taken time to sit down and puzzle out the self care challenges that SO MANY parents face. I know you know what I'm talking about because you share it with me all the time - there is no time to take care of myself... I feel guilty... time for me is at the bottom of the list.... I am telling you - not only have I HEARD it all, I have also EXPERIENCED all of these limiting thoughts and beliefs and allowed them to keep me from engaging in what is one of the most important pieces of parenting - SELF CARE. You will love the conversation I had with Krista. Listen in and let me know what you think!!! You won't be able to get enough of her!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices