Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Inspired by the mamas currently enrolled in the Raising Siblings Ecourse - this is a deep dive into why I always begin my work with parents by inviting them to pay more attention to how they respond physically and emotionally to their kids behavior. Once we recognize the way our body responds, we can begin to do the work of teaching it a new way of being. Listen in! ** This is marked explicit because I say "pissed" and "bullshit" - so heads up for that! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I was introduced to Emily Roberts on a Facebook group for parent educators that I belong to... I knew right away that I wanted to know more about her when she introduced herself and shared about her work with tween and teen girls... I bought her book, Express Yourself, and quickly realized that this woman is LEGIT! This book, which I am currently reading out loud to me seventh grade daughter is PACKED with so many nuggets of wisdom for our girls... Not only that, I am finding that I am learning so much from the tips and advice that Emily shares... In this podcast interview, Emily and I discuss her book, plus the importance of supporting our girls in growing their assertive muscles... We touch on friend drama, social media dos and don'ts, as well as why knowing the outcome you want is the first step to actually getting there. Emily is a dream. I think you will enjoy the conversation as much as I did! Follow Emily: On her website at theguidancegirl.comOn Facebook at Guidance GirlOn Twitter at @GuidanceGirlEmOn Instagram at @GuidanceGirlEmOn Pinterest at Guidance GirlOn You Tube at The Guidance Girl Channel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I had an amazing experience with 49 other women at a workshop in New York... When I shared about it on social media, the request was made that I share more on the podcast. So here you go. I am so grateful for the journey I am on... So grateful to be alert and alive and awake to all the possibilities that exist in my life. So grateful for the teachers and the opportunities that have come my way.... Thank you for listening in. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It was such a pleasure to have Katie Hurley on the show! I have been sharing her work on the Joyful Courage Facebook page for a long time and speaking to her about her new book confirmed what I had come to believe as a reader of her writing; she is a thoughtful, brilliant voice in the parent education community. Katie's new book, The Happy Kid Handbook is an amazing tool for parents to learn how to meet their kids where they are at, temperamentally. Her work reminds us that the need to get to know our kids is vital in creating an environment where they can excel, both socially and emotionally. Being an extrovert raising kids that fall across the extrovert/introvert spectrum, I was excited to dig into this with Katie. I know that you are going to love listening in to the conversation too!! Visit her website: www.practicalkatie.com Follow Katie: Instagram: @katiefhurleyFacebook: Practical Parenting by KatieTwitter: @katiefhurley Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am really excited to have Andy Smithson, of TRU Parenting, back on the podcast! He was my very first guest and a parent educator that I have been following for a while now. There are a lot of things I like about Andy, I think it is so refreshing to have a Dad's voice speaking into the parenting experience. His blog posts and articles are always so helpful and full of tips and tools that can be put into action right away. He has lots of kids so I KNOW he is in the practice of walking his talk, and that always scores a lot of points with me... Today we are talking about yelling. Ugh. Yelling is the worst - it makes our kids feel bad and it leaves US feeling bad and so unskilled. Andy has an ecourse that is starting the beginning of October... I have so much faith in this program that I am an affiliate of the program (meaning: I get a kickback when you sign up through me). So listen up and soak in the zen vibes of Andy Smithson. Here are some links to the resources mentioned on the show: Boundaries by Henry Cloud Andys Quick Calm Technique - FREE DOWNLOAD Super Better by Jane McGonigal 21 Day Stop Yelling Coaching Course - Sign up now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

“I am an ordinary person living in the same distracted culture that everyone else is living in…” And that is exactly what is so inspiring about Rachel Macy Stafford. She is an ordinary person whose work is making an extraordinary impact on parents from around the world. Most of us found her through her blog, www.handsfreemama.com - her writing drew us in and touched our soul. We also joined her Hands Free Revolution on Facebook, to be even more connected to her and the community space she has created. Because there is something really special about this ordinary person. I am thrilled to be interviewing her on the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast. Honored that she was willing to take the time to talk to me and share her journey, her vulnerability and her wisdom. Her new book, Hands Free Life: 9 habits for overcoming distraction, living better & loving more is full of nuggets that will bring you to your knees. So, so good. Listen in… Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Andy's the man!! He has helped so many parents find their calm and move forward in solid relatinship with their family. This "solo promo" is designed to get the word out about his latest offer for parents. Click on this link to go straight to the sales page for more INFO and to REGISTER :) bit.ly/stopyelling21daysjc Knowledge is power, people!! Empower your parenting!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

August 11th Amy's latest book cam out, The Me Me Me Epoidemic: A Step by Step Guide to Raising Capable, Grateful Kids in an Over Entitled World Amy McCready is a Parent Education MACHINE! She has an amazingly popular Facebook community, and offers so many Inspired by the work of Alfred Adler… “The biggest difference comes when we change ourselves.” Certified in Positive Discipline Shout out to the recovering yellers!! “...I love working with parenting and helping them bring out the best in themselves.” Adlerian theory- strategies are based on respect, respect for the child and respect for the parent… All human being have a hardwired need for belonging and significance. We need to feel connected – to family, classroom, community. I need to make a difference, feel like I matter… Behavior is goal directed – always take it back to the child’s sense of belonging and/or significance.. Getting to the bottom of this is what lasts long term. Get below the surface! Connection without Entitlement?? It’s messy…. The book begins with Mind, Body, Soul Time… Spending one on one time and attention with your kids, where you are fully present, mind, body and soul. You are fully present. Can be 10 or 15 minutes – this contributes “buckets” to belonging and significance to our kids. Powerful opportunity for connection. Create an environment that allows kids to learn that their actions and choices have outcomes - some positive, some negative. Entitled kids aren’t connected to outcomes. Focus on - What went wrong? What can we do different next time? Natural Vs Logical Consequences… “Solutions are always consequences, consequences are not always solutions.” - Jody McVittie They’re not helpless!! Take a step back – what are you currently doing for your kids that they are perfectly capable about doing for themselves? There is a balance between helping each other out and when you are consistently doing things for them that they could be doing themselves… Back off, little by little. Biggest mistake that is feeding into the entitlement epidemic? Smoothing their way --- smoothing out all their potential obstacles to keep out kids from experiencing discomfort. Does not give them the opportunity to develop resiliency. What is a baby step for creating change for parents who recognize their have been contributing to the entitlement of their kids? Shift responsibility for one or two things…. Thank you Amy!! Find Amy and her offers online: www.amymccready.comwww.positiveparentingsolutions.comPositive Parenting Solutions on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Such a great conversation with Marcille Smith Boyle!! Solving problems with our kids is no joke and such an important way to teach life skills. Marcille breaks down the task in a way that gets parents excited to practice!! She is full of information and real life stories that I know will be inspiring and helpful to you – Enjoy! Marcille studied the work of Ross Green –Lost at School The Explosive Child He writes and teaches about Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) – involving kids in solving their own behavior challenges Parents tend to think it’s our job to solve our children’s behavior challenges… Truth is, our kids can be awesome problem solvers – yay! The brain likes it’s own ideas best!! David Rock – Neuro Leadership Group CPS has 3 main steps – - Empathize gather info from child – from their point of view- Define the problem- Brainstorm solutions together with your child. Most powerful part --- not necessarily the process, but how we shift perspective about how we look and think and feel about behavior challenges…. Recognizing that behavior is a sign of something deeper that is going on. “Most helpful when we can focus that deeper thing, rather than just the behavior itself.” Your child’s behavior is not the problem – What’s the problem, THE PROBLEM! (I love that) The problem is always underneath the surface… “Kids do well if they can.” – Ross Green Example: Child won’t turn in his homework. What’s the problem? Lacking organization skills and some auditory challenges… The solution is brainstormed with child and addresses these problems and the homework situation shifts (solutions arehelpful) Consequences don't necessarily teach skills… What are the lacking skills behind the behavior? P.E.S.O.S. (Marcille's Problem Solving Recipe) Combines principles of Ross Green’s work, with Positive Discipline and How to Talk so Kids will Listen and How to Listen so Kids will Talk Prerequisite: You and your child must be level headed - calm, in a good place emotionally When intensity is high, communication and problem-solving skills are low… P – Permission… Giving yourself permission to engage and getting child’s permission E – Empathize… Understanding problem from child’s perspective –stay neutral and specific – “Tell me about…. (the problem)” then validate their concern S – State your concern… Short and sweet “My concern is…” O – Options… Brainstorm options for solutions that are a win/win for you both S – Select and idea to try… Must be realistic and mutually satisfactory Try it out, make a date to review and see how it’s going… Seeing our kids as a person who wants to do well, but have something in their way towards that success…. Watch the video below -- Click here for Marcille's handout on the steps of P.E.S.O.S. Marcille Smith BoyleWebsite - www.workingparenting.com – blog, free gift, newsletterFacebook – Working ParentingEmail - [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What a GIFT to have the opportunity to interview Amy Lang of Birds+Bees+Kids! We had a great time discussing what to be talking about with our kdis when it comes to bodies and sex and staying safe... Nothing is off limits here - from where babies come from to blow jobs to birth control --- listen in and get informed and then TALK TO YOUR KIDS! Like Amy says, being INFORMED is being EMPOWERED to make smart choices! LISTEN IN NOW!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Listen in on this great conversation that I had with Molly Knight Forde about the journey to meditation and how it can change everything when it comes to the parenting journey... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Podcast with Kim Estes Intro – music feedback? Mention speakpipe Kim Into with Family – two daughters, middle/high schoolers Savvy Parents Safe Kids www.savvyparentssafekids.com Patty Fitzgerald - Safely Ever After Lots of strategies… not just “this is what you do in the moment” Being home alone… 2 tips: Don't open the door, acknowledge the door – In a strong voice: “Who is it?” followed by, “I can’t help you…” and walk away. Know what to do if there is a fire – Get out of the house and use a neighbors phone to call 911 Practice!! Talking about having an “out” for sticky situations… Teach your kids language to use and practice the language… Free range in the world is safer than free range online. The internet is a place, not a thing…. Safety radar isn’t quite as tuned in…. PDF of Super 10 Rules For Safety Don’t scare them, it's not helpful “Family” safety rule Check in – make it a family thing Lead by example Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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This was such a fun conversation with my dear friend and colleague, Julietta Skoog. She is such a powerful model for what it looks like to parent small children with Positive Discipline - I love watching her in action! PLUS, she has been doing Family Meetings with her girls since the youngest was in a highchair!!! Listen in and let me know what you think! You can find more information on Julietta at www.juliettaskoog.com You can find more about the Family Meeting Ecourse I mention at the end of the course by clicking here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is a solo show, meaning, it's just me. Listen in as I share what my purpose is and how I want to make a difference in YOUR world! Get an inside look at why I am passionate about this work and what fuels me to keep sharing it with you.... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What a gift it was to spend time talking to Ariadne Brill of Positive Parenting Connection! We dug into how making agreements with our kids helps them to develop a sense of trust and capability - while strengthening our relationship with them along the way. Ariadne has some great ideas around how to bring more ease to mealtimes and shares some resources for parents for teaching and modeling self regulation. Resources for listeners: Check out Ariadne's book on Amazon - Twelve alternatives to time out From Positive Parenting Connection - A post about creating a Chill-Out Corner with your child The latest Joyful Courage post around making agreements - What was our agreement? Find Positive Parenting Connection on Facebook,Pinterest, and Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices