How Not To Suck At Divorce

Okay, WTF is a collabortive divorce and how would you know if you qualify for one? Today on our show, we have Austin attorney, Kris Algert, who is an EXPERT on collaborative divorces. A collaborative divorce is a dispute resolution process where both parties commit upfont that they will not go to court. Meaning, both parties are committed to being HONEST and WILLING to WORK TOGETHER to resolve issues. If you've wondered: Can I get a collaborative divorce? What's the difference between a collaborative divorce and regular divorce? Then this episode is for YOU! A collaborative divorce offers a unique way to resolve a divorce without spending a ton of money: less court fees, less time. HOWEVER, and this is BIG however, you need to understand that a collaboritve process is NOT for every divorcing couple. Make sure you listen to the episode to learn whether a collaborative divorce would be right for you. If you're interested in learning more about a collaborative divorce, make sure you ask a prosepctive divorce attorney these questions: 1) What percentage of your work is in doing collaborative divorces? 2) What do you view the benefits and the risks are for my case? 3) Ask what the likelyhood of success for their case to be resloved with a collaboritve divorce? To reach Kris Algert, please visit: Head here! Make sure you check out our private communites! Patreon: if you need to listen to our episodes privately http://www.patreon.com/hownottosuckatdivorce.com Facebook: if you need more support http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity And make sure you're following us on Instagram!! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Child Support. You know it, you love/hate it. But what if you need to modify it? How do you modify child support post divorce decree? How can you get more child support? How do you know if you're paying too much in child support? Well, friends, we've got your answers right here on How Not to Suck at Divorce. Here's what you need to consider: What has changed? (finanically, you need a 10% or more swing in either direction. Needs with the children also weigh in here. Consider the past/present and future! Get your facts STRAIGHT (see if it's worth it before you persue Get a full strategy (ask you attorney for guidance here!!) Let's lighten things up here with the link to Andrea's amazon sneakers!! Let's see these sneakers!! Remember friends, we are here for you and would love to support you in anyway we can. For more support, please check out our private communities. http://www.patreon.com/hownottosuckatdivorce.com Patreon is for listeners who want extra BONUS episodes with private listening options, you can listen to our show without it being traced to your device! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity Our Private Facebook community is for anyone who wants more support! We love you all! Please message us with any questions and follow up on IG! http:www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorceMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Let us start off by saying that we LOVE therapy. However, all therapists are NOT created equally and on this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce we are looking at the problem that some therapists create for their clients. Okay...stay with us... Dr Bill Doherty is joining us on this very special episode to shed light on a topic that needs more attention. We want you to listen to this episode to truly disgest the ideas discussed, but for the show notes, we will leave you this: Be aware of comments that your individual therapist makes regarding your spouse or ex spouse without ever meeting them. Be even more aware of personality disorders that your individual therapist might claim your spouse or ex spouse has. This episode has LOTS of controvesial ideas, so please listen with an open mind. To find Dr Doherty online, please visit : http://www.discernmentcounseling.com As always, we bring the information you need while navigating your divorce, the entertainment you deserve and the empathy you are craving. We are here for you every single step of the way. Pre divorce, during your divorce, and post divorce. We will guide you, maybe make you laugh, and hopefully help you feel less alone. For more community, please join our Patreon and Facebook groups. You've got this and we've got you!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

What is Nesting?? Nesting is when a divorced couple with children keep the children in the family home, or "nest", and the divorced parents spend their parenting time in the "nest" and their non parenting time outside of the "nest". The pros and cons to this lifestyle are varied, and that's exactly why we brought on Beth Behrendt, who's "nested" for many years and even wrote a book documenting not only her experience, but the experience of five other families. Listen to this episode to hear Morgan's legal questions regarding the topic and Andrea's slighty taboo questions on the sticky side of "nesting". This episode will open your eyes to a completley different approach to living with your children post divorce. This lifestyle is NOT for everyone. Please consult your attorney and therapist before venturing down the nesting road. To get your hands on a copy of Beth's book, Nesting After Divorce, head HERE! Beth also offers access to an exclusive group on Facebook to those who are "nesting curious" Facebook Group As ALWAYS, Morgan and Andrea are here to guide you, support you, and entertain you along your journey pre, during and post divorce. You've got this, and we've got you!!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This podcast episode is not meant to scare you. It's meant to INFORM you. Please pay attention to the insight given by Steven Bradley and take note of these action steps. 1) Download the Avast App to protect your phone from spyware that can EASILY be installed for someone to track you and listen to your messages. 2) Install a VPN on your phone 3) Download the Tile App to help you detect traker devices You can also hire Steven to help you walk through what you need to do to protect yourself: http//:www.bradleytrainingconsulting.com Our Family Wizard is a parenting app that helps protect you during and post divorce. More on that app later! And now, a word from our sponsor: Worthy helps you get the most money possible for your diamond jewelry or luxury watch, fast and risk-free. Their experts do all the work for you, and their competitive auctions get you up to 3X what a local jeweler might offer in as little as 2 weeks. With Worthy, you’re in control from start to finish. If your item doesn’t sell for the price you want, Worthy sends it back to you at no cost, fully insured. And now for a limited time you’ll get an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for over $1,500. All you have to do is register at https://worthy.com/notsuck. (See website for terms.) Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

"Self Care" can be MUCH easier than you think. Forget about the day at the spa or the daycation at the fancy hotels...those are great, but not everyone has the money and time!! Here's something that EVERYONE can do. Meditate. Stay with me. Meditation does not have to be so "woo woo" and for people who spend their afternoon hugging trees. Meditation is a really valuable way to help you get your sh$t together, for lack of a better expression! Listen to the calming voice and words from Lynne Goldberg, she's the co founder of the Breethe App, an app that's designed for the non meditator. You'll find quick and simple guided meditations that will help you reframe your mind and help you gear up for big moments in your divorce: signing agreements, mediation, etc. Just TRY it...what do you have to lose?? And you have EVERYTHING to gain! To download the Breethe App, head here: https://breethe.com And a note from our Sponsors: How Not To Suck at Divorce is sponsored by Worthy. Worthy helps you get the most money possible for your diamond jewelry or luxury watch, fast and risk-free. Their experts do all the work for you, and their competitive auctions get you up to 3X what a local jeweler might offer in as little as 2 weeks. With Worthy, you’re in control from start to finish. If your item doesn’t sell for the price you want, Worthy sends it back to you at no cost, fully insured. And now for a limited time you’ll get an extra $100 when your jewelry sells for over $1,500. All you have to do is register at https://worthy.com/notsuck. (See website for terms.) How Not To Suck at Divorce is also sponsored by Soberlink. Soberlink’s alcohol monitoring system is the simplest and most efficient way to prove sobriety during parenting time. As we always say, you’ve got this and we’ve got you, which is exactly why we’ve teamed up with Soberlink to give you $50 off your device. To sign up and claim your offer, visit www.soberlink.com/notsuck Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Okay, boys, this one's for you! But girls, you should listen, too. There's some really helpful information given that we could all use! It's not just women who need community during a divorce. And it's often harder for men to ask for help. On this episode we talk to Mike Rosen, who hosts a virtual support group,(that doesn't suck), weekly, through a non profit organization called Men Living. The power of knowing that you're not alone can help move somebody forward that's exactly why this group exists. Mike equates the group to an "umbrella in a rainstorm"...and we ALL could use an umbrella in a rainstorm. So what's stopping you from checking this group out??? You can just listen on your first call, if that makes you feel more comfortable. This group is guys, just like you, from all around the world, here to vent, share, and help eachother through an exhuasting process. Be proactive and start the process of feeling better. And don't worry, this group is completely FREE. NO strings, NO scams. Click the link below the calendar page on the Men Living site. The group is held on Tuesday nights. When you click on the "VIRTUAL CALL – SEPARATION/DIVORCE SUPPORTSUPPORT FOR THOSE WHO ARE TOUCHED BY SEPARATION/DIVORCE" there will be a place for you to register. https://menliving.org/calendar-now/ So if you are wondering: Is there a divorce support group for men? How can men get free therapy? Where can I find a virtual support group for divorce? LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE! And remember to add yourself to our PRIVATE communites: http://www.patreon.com/hownototsuckatdivorce http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity And follow us on Instagram! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorceMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Inspired by a listener email, we bring you: "Should I Change or Keep my Last Name?" It can be a tough decision, but here's our bottom line: YOU DON'T HAVE TO MAKE A DECISION RIGHT AWAY!! If you're struggling with: Is it okay if I have a different last name than my kids? Will keeping my spouse's last name prohibit me from moving on after my divorce? LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE!! And don't forget, you have the option to keep your martial last name professionally, if that's the best decision for you, and you can go back to your pre marraige last name socially! As always, we suggest that you run these thoughts about your last name by your therapist to get their opinion. And Andrea wants you all to remember to not forget YOU in this decision making process. So often, we are consumed by what's best for our children-which is clearly important-but don't forget about you. Whatever you decide to do, just know that there's no rush in this decision. And yes, Major Dick Zucker is a real story. I know...I know. Hope this episode gave you some insight and a little giggle. Remember to join our private communities!! Patreon (for private listening and extra information) Private Facebook Community (for community and relatable content) And remember friends, we are here for you, always. Please message us with any questions! DM us on IG! You've Got This and WE'VE GOT YOU, Morgan & Andrea Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Listen to this episode BEFORE you go into mediation. It IS possible to have a positive outcome from mediation, even if you feel like you your soon to be ex spouse agree on NOTHING. Here are 3 EXPERT tips (from a mediator herself) to help you reframe your mind before entering mediation: 1) You don't have to RESPECT your soon to be ex, but you still need to have some DIGNITY for them. In other words, treat them like a human who also has wants and needs (even if their wants and needs are questionable and they're acting like a total tool) 2)Start to think of the problem as something that's outside of you and your soon to be ex. Meaning, the issue is "who gets the kids this Christmas?" or "who gets the lake house?" or "who's going to get the collection of ketchup bottles?" (yes, that was an actual issue for one of Morgan's cases). The issue is not about YOU, and it's not about you soon to be ex, it's simply a "problem" that needs to be "solved". 3)Think about why you want what you say you want. This one is kinda about checking ego, and also just gaining some perspective on the situation. It's important to keep in mind that everyone loses something in a divorce. You're not gonna come of this thing with EVERYTHING you want, it just doesn't work like that. In fact, the old divorce joke goes, "if both parties are unhappy and feel they got cheated, then the attorneys did their job" I (Andrea) HATE that joke and it makes me want to scream, but that's the way it goes! And remember, mediaiton, divorce, all of this mess is just going to be ONE event that happened in your life. It's not your life, you have a lot more life to live when this is all behind you. To find Joy online (and if you're in the great state of NY and would like contact Joy, visit: www.joyrosenthal.com And to access her course, head here! https://courses.joyrosenthal.com/landing-on-your-feet We are here for you, and here to help you not suck at mediation. As always, please message us with questions! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce And join our private community! http://www.patreon.com/hownottosuckatdivorceMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Chew on this: It's not the divorce that hurts the children; it's the conflict. Coparenting can be REALLY hard, everybody knows that. But coparenting with someone who's really difficult, and someone who gave you hell during your divorce process is reaaaaallllly hard, believe me, we know. We have heard it all. So what the hell can you do to make this situation work? Well, we are going to tell you! Today, on the show we have Deb Conley, a therapist who specializes in high conflict coparenting. Here are three ways you can reframe your mindset to help you BEGIN to coparent with someone who's not easy to coparent with: 1) Don't live in the past. (Look, we know they sucked when you were married to them, but not EVERYTHING they do as a coparent is sucking. Try your best to separate.) 2)Speak to them the way you would speak to a boss or a coworker. Take the emotion out of it. (Easier said that done, we know, but you have to reframe your mind to view this as a business relationship: the relationship of being effective coparents. 3) Let IT GO (of control) This one sucks, but it's important. You can't control everything. You just can't. You've got help yourself determine the issues that are MAJOR that warrant bringing up your concern to your coparent and things that you need to just LET GO OF. (If you are rolling your eyes and you want to scream, Andrea is with you. Having control is probably her favorite hobby) But wait, there's more!! Deb Conley offers a course you can take to help you be a better coparent. It's done virutally and not both you and your ex have to take it! (Although it does work better if you both take it!) To sign up for the course, email: [email protected] Subject Line: CoParenting Course In the body of the text, mention you heard Deb speak on How Not to Suck at Divorce and they'll be extra nice to you! Course is available to everyone. BONUS EPISODE on this topic over on our PATREON channel- go listen NOW! Aside from that, Morgan loves girls' trips, Andrea does not. Andrea is heading to Vegas this weekend with her kids to teach them how to gamble and party all night. (THAT'S A JOKE love you guys! Hang in there!! Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Here are three action steps you can take to put you in the best position possible to keep your martial home. 1) Learn how to best refinance/look at a buyout 2) Get creative with negotiations 3) Remember to keep a business mindset (We go deep into all of these steps, so make sure you take a close listen to this episode!) If you've wondered: How can I refinace my home? How can I remove my ex spouse from my mortgage? How can I convince my ex to let me keep the house? How can I stay in my martial home? How can I pull equity out of my house to payback my ex? THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU! Also, we are doing two BONUS episodes for this topic, both of those will be available on our Patreon channel! www.patreon.com/hownottosuckatdivorce *one of our bonus episodes will be with a refinacing expert! aaaannnnnd Andrea is obsessed with the Target tank tops and they're only $8. So don't say we never nothin' for ya! Hang in there, friends. We know this process is hard, but you've got this, and we've got you. Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

The house. A hot topic during divorce. And for good reason; it's the house where you made lots of memories, especially if you have children together. But since the house is likely an asset that you have as a couple, now that you are divorcing, it's an asset that will need to be divided. So, what the hell should you do with the house?? If you've been googling: "Can I keep my house in my divorce?" "How can I figure out how much my house is worth?" "Do I have to split my house with my ex husband/wife?" Then this episode is for you! Let's break this down into three steps that you can take to help you through "the house" process: 1- Determine the value (either by getting it appraised or by getting a CMA- listen to the episode to learn what CMA stands for!) 2- Have a better understanding of what the court would decide to do with the house should you and your ex not reach a conclusion together (you will rely on your attorney heavily here) 3- Be prepared to negotiate with your ex. Kind of goes without saying, but keep in mind that house is something that can be used as leverage at some point in your divorce process. It's really difficult for a lot of us to view something as personal as our home as part of a business transaction, but that's exactly why we felt that this episode is so important. And stay tuned for part 2 of "The House" where we are going to give you some pro tips on what you can do if your wish is to keep the house! Oh, and Morgan is obsessed with Publix grocery stores...listen to episode to hear how she thought the name was pronounced when she was younger!! If you need Morgan or Andrea for more insight and guidance, please DM or email...or come find us at the nearest Publix in the bakery section!!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Attention: Andrea tried accupunture and she's OBSESSED. Did you know that accupunture can help with anxiety?? It can. I'm not lying. In you're in the Chicago area, PLEASE check out Chicago Family Accupunture in Northbrook, IL. 100% worth, tell them Andrea from How Not Suck at Divorce sent ya! http://www.instagram.com/chicagofamilyacu Okay, raise your hands if you're open to trying a new way of healing!! Apparently, talk therapy doesn't work for everyone who's stuggling with overcoming trauma. Today's guest, Carrie Holladay, is a trauma healing coach and she's giving us an overview on somanic healing and how it could possibly with for you. What is somantic healing? How to heal from trauma? How to heal from childhood trauma? How to heal from relationship trauma? This episode is leaning a little "woo woo", we know, but stay with us!! Healing doesn't look the same for everyone, and if you've tried everything else and it hasn't worked, why wouldn't you be open to something different?? Somatic healing works with your nervous system to help your body release the trauma that you're storing in your body. The process can happen in groups on in one on one sessions. And, it can be virtual! To find Carrie: IG: @healwithcarriejean https://www.instagram.com/healwithcarriejean/ IG: @healinghubclub https://www.instagram.com/healinghubclub/ TikTok: @healwithcarrie https://www.tiktok.com/@healwithcarrie?_t=8ZkIPxkaTL0&_r=1 https://www.myhealinghub.com/ Andrea is on board and ready to heal, Morgan is still shaking her head. Neither can pronounce "amygdala". Moral of the story: healing from trauma is possible and somatic healing is just one more tool to have in your toolbox on your healing journey. Got questions? Just ask us!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This episode is going to help you help your kids as you navigate your divorce. Meet Sara Olsher. She's the founder of a company called Mighty and Bright, a company dedicated to helping parents help their kids through difficult transitions, like a divorce. Mighty and Bright makes stylish coparenting calendars that are designed for your children! They are have books, games and tons of other resources!! And wise words from Sara: Here are three steps you can take to show your child EMPATHY: 1) Get on their level- physically. Speak to them eye to eye so you're not looking down to them when you're talking 2) Validate their emotions- refrain from using phrases like "don't cry". Let them cry. It's okay for your child to be upset. Validate their feelings by saying, "I know that you're feeling really upset right now. That's okay. I'm here for you" 3) When your child is hurt by the other parent's actions, you can tell them: "Mommy and Daddy love you very much. We do not mean to hurt your feelings and we are sorry that your feelings got hurt. Thank you for letting me know and I will make sure we do better." Go check out www.mightandbright.com to see how their resources can help you! And here's a special link to a book that Sara wrote to help talk to your kids about Divorce! Use CODE: DONTSUCKATDIVORCE for a special discount https://mightyandbright.com/products/ebook-how-to-talk-to-your-kids-about-divorce And a nugget of wisdom from Morgan from our Fan Mail segment: If you find an attorney whom you cannot afford long term, but you really liked them ...you might want to consider paying them for a consultation. If can give you good feedback on your case!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Can you get divorced without f@cking up your kids??? In short: yes. So, what can you do? If you are worried about screwing up your children by getting divorced, know this: 1) Your children are likely to sustain MORE damage by you NOT leaving an unhealthy marriage 2) There ARE things that you can do to help mitigate the pain your children experience during the divorce process! In order to not totally mess up your kids by getting divorced, we suggest you: 1) Get insight from a children's therapist on how to talk to your kids 2) Keep the information you give your kids age appropriate information 3) Assemble a community for them (Make sure you listen to this episode to hear why Andrea is so passionate about step #3!) Also, does anyone still watch the Real Housewives?? Andrea does, and make sure you listen to this episode to hear what Morgan thought of the hotel in Iceland that the Housewives cast stayed in a few years ago! And remember, you've got this...and we've got you! Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Are you worried about how much your divorce is costing you? Yeah, we bet you are. Well, lucky for you, listeners, we have you covered! Here are some helpful tips on how to save money and avoid a major headache in your divorce: *Have a PLAN (sounds obvious, but it's not) You and your attorney should have a plan in place- and know that it's likely that this plan will CHANGE *Be mindful with how and when you're communicating with your attorney (billable hours, friends!!) *Be prepared for the UNEXPECTED Avoid the "what the f#ck?!?" moments by ASKING your attorney what could possibly happen in your divorce case. And remember, it takes a team to help you through a tranisiton. If you are struggling with an alochol problem, Soberlink is here to help you. If your soon to be ex spouse is struggling with an alcohol problem and you're concern about their abilty to safely parent, Soberlink is here to help. Visit them: www.soberlink.com/notsuck You got this and we've got you. Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

You're getting divorced, which sucks. But now, you still have to temporarily live under the same roof as your EX!!!?? WTF. We know, we get it. On this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we are going to tackle the subject of what you can do to preserve your sanity while still living in the same house with your soon to be ex spouse. Questions like: Can I date other people before I get divorced? Can I spend money on myself and going out if I'm still living with my ex? How will my ex and I figure out kid time? How do I make sure my ex and I are splitting household chores evenly? Will all be answered! We are nearing the end of season 3 of our show and we are SO GRATEFUL for all of our listeners. We know that you have a lot going on in your life right now and we are honored that you carve out some time to spend with us. We know that divorce is hard. We know it's long and draining. We are here to help guide you, offer you information, entertainment, and empathy and ultimately, help you not SUCK at getting divorced. Please rate and reivew our show!! And message us on social, we would love to hear from you!!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

We know that you're tired of pretending that everything is okay. We know that your gut that your marriage is not going to work. So, now what? If you have wondered: "What do I do if I think I want a divorce?" - this episode is for you. If you're considering divorce but don't know where to begin, this episode is for you. If you're just miserable in your marraige, but feel stuck, this episode is for you. This podcast was designed to give you information, entertainment and empathy as you embark on the divorce process. We know that divorce is hard. We know that it's a long and draining process. We also know that life is so much better on the other side. Don't give up. Everyone deserves to be happy. You've got this and we've got you. Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

How do I pick the right mediator for my divorce? What does a mediator actually do? How long does mediation typically last? How do you know if you should even try mediation?? If you have ever wondered the above questions, this episode is MUST LISTEN! Morgan and Andrea discuss everything you didn't know that you need to know BEFORE embarking on the mediation process. Remembering that we are here to help you not SUCK at getting divorced! Mediation helps you step out of the court system to come to a more creative solution for disagreements in your divorce process. Keep that in mind. Take a listen to this episode and please message us with any questions! Hit us up on social media! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce You've Got This and We've Got You! Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

What do you need to lookout for towards the end of your divorce process?? Basically, that you aren't rushing the process. When we rush, we make mistakes. Here are a few PRO TIPS: 1) Print out your Martial Settlement Agreement and CIRCLE what doesn't make sense to you. CIRCLE to find a SOLUTION. Ask your attorney to go over all parts that you circled. 2) Understand all of the tax implications in your MSA. (Don't be caught by surprise) 3) If you're divorcing at the end of the year, evaluate whether it makes more sense (tax wise) to remained married until Jan 2nd of the following year. (could save you lots of money) And remember: The aggrevation is temporary. The terms of a MSA (Martial Settlement Agreement) are permanment. Please rate and review this show if it helped you! And follow us on Instagram! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce And Facebook! http://www.facebook.com/hownottosuckatdivorcepodcast TikTok http://www.tiktok.com/hownottosuckatdivorcepod And our website! http://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com Oh, and YouTube! http://www.youtube.com/hownotosuckatdivorceMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Stop texting your EX!! (about money) The Onward app was created with co-parents and children in mind. Every parenting situation is different. For families with divorced or separated parents, there are financial burdens and situations that need to be resolved. That's where the Onward App steps in! The Onward App was created to make tracking, sharing and settling expenses as easy as possible. That way, you and your co-parent don't have to spend as much time stressing about finances and who bought what for your child when, but rather using that time to focus on your children. Both easy to use and free, you can download the Onward App on both Apple and Android phones on the Apple App Store and Google Play Store. Start using the app to track, share and settle expenses. Divorce sucks, we know that. How Not to Suck at Divorce is here to offer you SOLUTIONS and guidance so that you won't suck at getting divorced, or suck at life post divorce. Download Onward here: CLICK HERE! Resolve you expenses with ease. Stop texting your Ex. Move ONWARD and upward. Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

What should you get your friends for Christmas or Hanukkah this year? What should you buy your divorced friends for Christmas or Hanukkah this year? Here's our "Oprah's" Favorite Things episode (Thanks to our FABULOUS guest, Bill Doherty, who once mentioned that we interviewed him better than Oprah did...we will forever think that we are in the same lane as the queen of daytime TV) This season, you FOR SURE want to get your hands on: 1. Chocolate Shakeology Protein Shake https://www.teambeachbody.com/shop/us/d/chocolate-plant-based-vegan-shakeology-SHKCHVegan?referringRepId=971096 2. Fresh Overnight Mask https://www.sephora.com/product/fresh-floral-recovery-redness-reducing-overnight-mask-P479841?country_switch=us&lang=en&skuId=2535417&om_mmc=ppc-GG_18525596383_139024248461_pla-1211245547446_2535417_626611912078_9021768_c&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIoq-LjKzX-wIV03NvBB1OagOrEAQYAyABEgIrv_D_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds 3. Rose Forever Roses www.roseforever.com 4. MomSquad Clothing "Diva" Leggings https://momsquadclothing.com/collections/bottoms/products/diva 5. Pura Home Fragrance https://www.trypura.com 6. Williams Sonoma Truffle Popcorn Salt https://www.williams-sonoma.com/products/regalis-black-truffle-popcorn-salt/ 7. Andrea's Giant Water Bottle https://a.co/d/34A4Pgc 8. Body Restore Shower Tabs https://a.co/d/fDF69VL 9. The Original Chicago Sauce https://hereheremarket.com/products/the-original-chicago-sauce?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI6pvUu63X-wIVt2xvBB2J_AmEEAAYASAAEgIqQvD_BwE 10. One Piece Onesie https://www.onepiece.com/us For forth and SHOP, folks! Wishing you a very merry/happy holiday shopping season!! Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

How do you cope with the pain of not having your kids over a holiday? Coparenting is hard. Managing the weekends, weeks, and holiday weekends without your kids is harder. Our guest, Lisa McGregor, of The Unplanned Chapter, helps divorced mom through the next phase of their life. We list out ACTION STEPS that all moms can take is they are without they're kids over a holiday. We know that's it's not easy, but it's doable and we are here to help. Please join Lisa's group for support, information, and entertainment. Lisa, along with Andrea from our show, will be providing entertainmnet ALL DAY LONG!! http://www.facebook.com/theunplannedchapter And if you want to try Andrea's FAVORITE protein shake, come check it out here: It's a GAME CHANGER!! https://www.teambeachbody.com/shop/us/d/chocolate-plant-based-vegan-shakeology-SHKCHVegan?referringRepId=2867305 Hang in there, friends. You've got this and We've Got YOU! Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This episode digs into the trauma, mental, emotional and sexual abuse that went on in the FLDS cult, led by Warren Jeffs, and how it relates to the trauma that goes on in many marriages and divorces. This episode has been produced to support KidSide Miami. A charity which enables families in the family court system to recieve FREE therapy in the Miami Day county. PLEASE visit our special link TODAY (11/17) to donate to KidSide. Every donation goes DIRECTLY to helping a family work towards happier and healthier relationships with their children in the family court system. Donate HERE! How hard is it to leave a cult? What happened in the FLDS? What kind of abuse went on in the FLDS? Can you get a divorce in a cult? Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

You read that correctly. I Bought My Husband's Mistress Lingerie. It's a brand new, emotional tell-all memoir, written by Stacey Freeman. This is a TRUE STORY, and yes, it's juicy. But it's also packed with hope and persceptive. PRE ORDER THIS BOOK HERE: Amazon This episode will leave you with your mouth and your heart open. Stacey's candor and transparency are inspiring. She waded her way through the nauesous feelings that come with a marriage that ends in infidelity. Have you wondered: How to get along with my ex husband's new girlfriend? How to help my kids get along their stepmother? How to heal from an affair? If so, this episode and book is EXACTLY what you've been looking for! And on OBSESSED: Skinny Pop Popcorn. Yes, Morgan is obsessed. And Andrea is currently eating out of bag of one right now...likely. Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

What happens if you die during your divorce process?? What happens to your children? What happens to your money? We are talking with Lauren Wolven, she’s a partner in Trusts and Estates with Levenfeld Pearlstein in Chicago, IL. Here’s the good news: There are several steps you can take to ensure that you’ve covered all of your bases, just in case you die during or soon after your divorce. We cover a lot of ground on this episode, including: 1. How do I change my power of medical attorney during a divorce? 2. How do I change my Life Insurance policy when going through a divorce? 3. How do I change my Will when I'm going through a divorce? **How Not to Suck at Divorce Pro Tip**: Don’t buy your Will template from Etsy. (this started as a joke, until we realized that it's actually possible) And remember, all roads lead back to hiring the RIGHT team to support you during your divorce process. The RIGHT divorce attorney, the RIGHT estate attorney, and the RIGHT podcast to help you along the way! Make sure you listen all the way to the end of the episode to hear some crazy stories about what some people leave as their final wishes! To get in touch with Lauren Wolven, please visit her at: LP Chicago Oh, and our OBESSION this week?? Andrea tells us all about her obsession with Mark and Graham! Their monogramed handbags are to die fo... nope, not gonna use that expression today! We love hearing from you! Email us at [email protected] or dm us at: @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago WE'RE ON YOUTUBE NOW! Check us out: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMSvrn9lrdJt8mY1i_1tFwg You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com Please rate and review so our little show can reach more people xo Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Parental Alienation is not a fun topic but it's an important one for everyone who is considering or going through a divorce to understand so they can avoid it. Because it harms children and none of us want that. It also harms both parents and their relationships with their kids, not just the parent being alienated. Dr. Malissa Tigges is back. If you missed episode 37, Dr. Tigges is a licensed clinical and forensics psychologist with over 10 years of experience working as a psychotherapist and an evaluator. Parental Alienation is a buzzword thrown around in family court but today Dr. Tigges, Andrea and Morgan are going to break it all down. They will answer: 1. What is parental alienation? 2. How can we avoid parental alienation? 3. What are the two different types of alienation and how are they different? 4. What are the three levels of alienation? 5. What are the 17 strategies of alienation? 6. How parental alienation harms the kids (if you're the one alienating the other parent, trust us...you don't want to miss this part) 7. How can I help my child heal from parental alienation? 8. How parental alienation harms both parents 9. Can kids be taken away from a parent who is committing parental alienation? Morgan also shares advice she gives her own clients who are on both sides of parental alienation. *************** Special Segments Obsessed: Now onto something a little more comfortable. This week Morgan is obsessed with OnePiece at onepiece.com. It's a one-piece sweatsuit for women, men and kids. It's so cozy and makes the best gift. It's like a luxury adult onesie. We're not affiliated with OnePiece, Morgan is just obsessed and has been wearing them for years. Let's Be Positive: Andrea shares some things you can do with your children to reconnect and strengthen your relationship. **************** Here is where you can connect with Dr. Tigges: @drmalissatigges on instagram, tiktok and facebook Dr. Tigges is licensed in Florida but if you're not in Florida, your state may allow you to do telehealth with Dr. Tigges so if you need guidance, reach out! We love hearing from you! Email us at [email protected] or dm us at: @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago WE'RE ON YOUTUBE NOW! Check us out: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMSvrn9lrdJt8mY1i_1tFwg You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com Please rate and review so our little show can reach more people xo The Podcast does not contain legal advice. The information provided on the Podcast and the resources available for download through the Podcast and/or in show notes is not intended as, and shall not be understood or construed as, legal advice.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today we have fan favorite Dr. Randy Heller to discuss how to heal from infidelity. Betrayal often has a huge impact on the divorce process because it adds fuel to an already raging fire. We want to help you move through the anger so you can make good decisions during your divorce. This is a heavy issue but we promise, by the end of the episode, you will feel better. If you're new here, Dr. Randy Heller is a licensed marriage and family therapist, licensed mental health counselor, certified Supreme Court family mediator, credentialed collaborative divorce family specialist and facilitator, parenting coordinator, certified hypnotherapist, and the founder and Clinical Director of The Family Network. Like, wow. Dr. Randy talks about the different types of infidelity. It's not just cheating. Infidelity can also be lying, stealing, and hiding money. Infidelity can be any type of betrayal. We talk about: Triggers after the betrayal How to trust your attorney after having your trust broken by your spouse How to deal with the pain of infidelity How to heal Because levity is important, we didn't skip our obsessed segment today. This week Morgan is obsessed with Meyers hand soap. Her fave scents are Rosemary, Rain, and Daisy (it doesn't smell like flowers). Post-pandemic Morgan is especially appreciative of how well it lathers and cleans. We're not affiliated with Meyers but if they want to slide into our dms, we won't be sad. You can find Dr. Randy Heller here: [email protected] 646-717-6718 mycollaborativeteam.com No matter what you're going through, we're here for you. We love hearing from you so don't be shy. Slide into our dms: @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago If you're liking our little show, it would mean the world to us if you rated and reviewed us right in your Apple podcast app or wherever you listen XOMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This is no episode for babies (no offense, babies). We're getting into some real, REAL stuff in this episode. This is one of the biggest concerns our listeners have so we wanted to dedicate an entire episode to how to put your kiddos first in your parenting agreement. Today, we have therapist Dr. Malissa Tigges with us to talk about how to create a parenting agreement that prioritizes the welfare of your kids. Dr. Tigges is a licensed clinical and forensics psychologist with over 10 years of experience working as a psychotherapist and an evaluator. She helps people make the best decisions possible when developing their parenting agreements. Dr. Tigges, Morgan and Andrea answer: What do divorcing couples need to understand when putting together their parenting agreement? How to design the parenting agreement so it's appropriate at each age of the children. The biggest mistake divorcing couples make when creating their parenting agreement. What is the main difference of a parenting plan that involves a younger child vs. a teenager? Can you modify a parenting agreement? Who should you consult with to ensure your parenting agreement is the best for your child? Should you open the parenting agreement email after having a few drinks? What is co-parenting therapy and is it necessary? What do you do when your rights are being violated during the divorce process when you're drafting the parenting agreement? What's the best schedule for co-parenting? 50/50? Week on, week off? Every other weekend? The answer may upset you, but it's important to understand. Is there wiggle room in a parenting agreement if there's a special trip or long weekend planned? Dr. Tigges also shares her absolute "must-dos". Here is where you can connect with Dr. Tigges: @drmalissatigges on instagram, tiktok and facebook Dr. Tigges is licensed in Florida but if you're not in Florida, your state may allow you to do telehealth with Dr. Tigges so if you need guidance, reach out! OBSESSED: This week Andrea is obsessed with a non-medicated inhaler that has been scientifically proven to calm anxiety. It's called CalmiGo. It measures how much air you exhale and will vibrate when you exhale properly to help you regulate your breathing. It helps Andrea feel more grounded and has made her realize how shallow she typically breathes during the day. It's genius. CalmiGo sent the inhaler to Andrea after she posted the instagram reel of the time she was in the hospital for a panic attack. But please know, we do not recommend products just because we got one free. We will only recommend products we truly love and use. And this is one of those, for sure. If you go to Andrea's IG and click the link in her bio, you'll get a $30 off coupon. Don't miss the very end of the episode because we talk about how it has just been discovered that honey bee venom can kill breast cancer cells. Amazing! There's also a new study on a possible cure for lupus and other autoimmune diseases AND, new developments on slowing the progression of Alzheimer's. We love ending the show with some positivity :) To our one listener in Honduras, we see you and adore you. Thank you for being here with us. xo We'd love to know what you think of the show! Please email us at [email protected] or dm us at: @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com We read every message and reply personally because our community means the world to us and we want you to know we're here for you. You got this and we got you.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Andrea and Morgan are back with best friend of the podcast and fan fave Rob Roseman! Rob is the host of the popular podcast WTF Divorce and a single dad who felt the very common feeling of isolation when he went through his own divorce 2.5 years ago. Rob shares his story and the three discuss how to avoid isolation and find your community so you can not just survive, but thrive. Morgan, Andrea and Rob discuss: Is it helpful to find others who are going through a divorce or does that make it even more difficult? Trauma bonding during divorce. How Rob and Andrea met. How finding divorce friends is like dating. How Andrea's painful divorce and isolation led her to the podcast and our wonderful community with the absolute best listeners. Why Morgan started this podcast with Andrea and what surprised Rob about her reason. *** Be sure to listen until the end because Andrea and Morgan get real about friendships during a divorce. If you're not already listening to Rob's podcast, following him on IG, and all over his website taking advantage of all his free resources (including a search tool to find divorce attorneys and therapists in your area), we highly recommend you do so now! Here is where you can find Rob: @wtfdivorce www.wtfdivorce.com WTF Divorce Podcast If you're struggling to find your community, please reach out to us and we will be here for you. Email us at [email protected] or dm us at: @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com By the way, we love that you love our new OBSESSED segment, because we love it too! This week Morgan is obsessed with Sand and Fog candles. If you like candles that actually do what they're supposed to, smell up your house and last, these are for you. They're pretty, smell incredible and they won't break the bank. They even have candles that are meant to clean up pet smell. This week Morgan is burning Juniper Mint, yum. She also highly recommends Clean Linen. We're not affiliated with Sand and Fog and they didn't pay us to review them...Morgan just truly adores them and wants to share the love. Sand and Fog website That's all for this week, friends. Don't forget, you got this and we got you xo.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This week we're talking about how to find the right divorce lawyer. It's like Tinder for Attorneys! To break it all down, we have Max Leinoff on the pod. Max is a family law attorney in Miami, Florida with Leinoff and Lemos, P.A. His firm was voted one of the Best Law Firms by U.S. News and World Report for 2021 and 2022. Max answers: What three things you must hear from your divorce attorney What should you do if your divorce lawyer disagrees with you? The importance of expressing your goals honestly with your divorce lawyer Who will you be working for when you hire an attorney? Is it a bad sign if they have other associates helping you? What questions should you ask divorce lawyers before deciding who to hire? These may surprise you. What is a no fault state when it comes to divorce? How can you work with your divorce attorney to move things along swiftly and smoothly? "When you're looking for an attorney, you don't want a yes man or a yes woman." - Max Leinoff If you're in Florida, here is where you can find Max Leinoff: [email protected] www.llpa.com (305) 661-1556 - office Also, Max shouts out his lovely wife, Katy, who is an incredibly talented, professional artist who has worked with Vans and was recenly featured on the Ralph Lauren website. You can see Katy's work on instagram @katyilana. We checked her out and now we're obsessed with her, too! We had so much fun with Max, we made him participate in Spin the Wheel, Andrea's favorite segment (Morgan hates it). What embarrassing thing will Max have to do? Stay to the end to find out. Don't missed our OBSESSED segment: This week, Morgan is obsessed with Portillos. We ordered Portillos during the photoshoot for this season, because Morgan and Andrea love nothing more than a great cheeseburger. The photographer kept shooting because watching the us chow on Portillos in fancy dresses was too good to miss. If you're not from Chicago, you may not know how amazing Portillos is. They are iconic. They're best known for hot dogs, burgers and Italian beef (and cheese fries and chocolate cake shakes). If you're not in Chicago, you can have their food shipped to your door. Life-changing. We're not affiliated (yet)....we're just obsessed. We'd love to know what you think of the show! Please email us at [email protected] or dm us at: @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com We read every message and reply personally, because our community means the world to us and we want you to know we're here for you. You got this and we got you.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Oh friends, you won't want to miss this episode. Morgan and Andrea are back this week with top Dallas family law attorney, Rebecca Armstong, talking about the things you SHOULD and SHOULDN'T do after you file for divorce. Rebecca, Morgan and Andrea answer: What 3 things should you do after you file for divorce? What 3 things should you absolutely NOT do after you file for divorce? Do I need a therapist if I'm going through a divorce? Can being in therapy be used against me if I'm going through a divorce? Why should I go to an annual checkup at the doctor during a divorce? Can I record my spouse during an argument and use it during divorce proceedings? Will my spending habits be scrutinized during a divorce? What advice did Oprah give Andrea about her own divorce? Texas friends! You can reach our fabulous guest Rebecca at: www.armstronglawtexas.com 214-741-9906 As always, we love hearing from you so feel free to slide into our dms: @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago You got this and we got you xoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Would you benefit from Discernment Counseling? This week, we find out. The founder of discernment counseling, Dr. Bill Doherty, joins us on the podcast. Not only did Dr. Doherty develop a specific type of counseling for couples where one is considering divorce, he's also been on Oprah not just once, but twice! From Harpo to How Not To Suck At Divorce, Dr. Doherty is moving up in the world, that's for sure. Discernment counseling is when one person is leaning OUT of the relationship and considering divorce and the other person is leaning IN and wants to try to make things work. This type of counseling gives people clarity and confidence based on a deeper understanding of what has happened in the marriage. Dr. Doherty answers the questions: What is discernment counseling? Does discernment counseling solve problems in the marriage? What are the differences between couples therapy and discernment counseling? How long is discernment counseling? What are the three paths of discernment counseling? How do I know if we should try couples therapy or discernment counseling? Stay until the end because Dr. Doherty blows the lid off traditional therapy and tells us he favorite type of wine (you won't believe his answer). You can find Dr. Bill Doherty and search for a local discernment counselor at discernmentcounselors.com. Please hit the 5 stars in your podcast app, we need the external validation, but more importantly, it helps our podcast show up in searches so we can help those who are struggling through the divorce process. Remember, you got this and we got you. Slide into our dms, we love hearing from you! @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Divorce and prenuptial agreements go together like champagne and charcuterie. The prenup queen Katie Post joins us. Katie is a family law attorney, like Morgan, and an expert on prenup agreements. Prenups can play a huge role in divorce settlements. But they are often a total mystery so we decided to break it all down for you. Katie answers: What are the three things EVERYONE needs to know about their prenuptial agreement? Should I get a prenup? Do I qualify for a prenup? Is it true only wealthy people get prenups? Does getting a prenup make me a gold digger? What does a prenup cover? Can a prenup impact my business? What is maintenance? How can I get a prenup thrown out? We'll also discuss the one huge mistake you should not make when writing up your prenup, divorce and prenup law in Illinois and other states, and the type of attorney you should use to draw up a prenup. Also, Andrea will share some wild prenup stories. Be sure to stay until the end for a really sweet story that will make your day. You can find the Prenup Queen, Katie Post, here: [email protected] You can also contact Katie at 312-621-9700 As always, we love hearing from you! Slide into our dms with questions, comments, grievances or love here: Morgan on IG @divorceattorneychicago Andrea on IG @theandrearappaport And don't forget to follow our show's new IG for more tips and divorce humor: @hownottosuckatdivorce You got this and we got you xoxo Please tag us on social, and send us your fave photos of Kanye West!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today we're talking about divorce when alcohol addiction is involved, with Soberlink's Chris Beck. Alcohol addiction is on the rise and it can exacerbate the already difficult process of divorce. We know how delicate and important this issue is so we want to remove the stigma and speak openly about how it impacts both parties and how to make navigating divorce with alcohol addiction a little easier. We talk about a device called Soberlink that Morgan has been using for several years in her family law practice. Soberlink combines a breathalyzer with facial recognition software and wireless connectivity to produce a confirmation report of sobriety that can be sent to anyone who is a part of the monitoring agreement (lawyers, coparent, rehab facilities, etc). This reduces conflict and gives the coparent assurance that their child is being cared for by a sober parent. It also gives the parent with the alcohol addition the opportunity to be in their child's life. It's truly a wonderful device for all involved. We loved our conversation with Chris because it's so clear how much he cares about keeping families together during divorce when one person struggles with alcohol addiction. Keeping families together during and after divorce is our mission as well so his words really resonated with us. Plus Chris made us laugh, and he made Andrea cry so it's very well-rounded just as we like it. Thank you, Chris! Tap here to go to soberlink.com to learn more about their tech, programs and examples of family law orders. You can also check out soberlink on: Twitter @soberlink Facebook @soberlink We'd love to hear from you! Are you divorcing someone with an alcohol addiction? Do you have an alcohol addiction and you're worried how it will play out? Have you used Soberlink? @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago Remember, you got this and we got you.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Listener fave Dr. Randy Heller is back with us today to discuss one of the most common questions we get: Is it my marriage that's making me miserable? Dr. Heller shares what people should do if they're feeling depressed, stressed and overwhelmed and an easy exercise to do to determine if it's the marriage that is the root of the problem. We also talk about how to start to feel better, regardless of the decision we make in our marriage. You can find Dr. Randy Heller here: [email protected] 646-717-6718 mycollaborativeteam.com No matter what you decide, you got this and we got you. We love hearing from you so don't be shy. Slide into our dms: @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

We're back with Season 3! We thought we'd kick off the best season yet by starting at the beginning of the end . . . when you know it's over. We welcome guest and retired husband Mike Draper to the show as he shares his story of when he knew it was over and what life after divorce is really like for a single dad. Check out Magic Mike, I'm sorry, I mean Mortgage Mike on IG @mortgage_mike As always we're keeping it real and keeping the levity because this process is tough enough. But you are never alone. You got this and we got you. We MISSED you and love when you slide into our dms so reach out! @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Season 3 drops next week! And it's so good. To get everyone back in the divorce game, we've decided to drop some of our most popular episodes from Season 1. (cue time travel music) Today we're talking about the parenting agreement. You won't want to miss this one. This is one of the toughest parts of divorce and Andrea gets really real and almost didn't want to record this episode. Anna helps make sense of this agreement and how to get through it in one piece. We'll talk about: What is a parenting agreement? What should I include in the parenting agreement? Should we get a mediator? Holidays during and after divorce Visitation during and after divorce Who pays for the kids' things when you get divorced Cohabitating during divorce We make it easy to understand. Be sure to stay until the end for our favorite segment: Wild divorce stories that are a lesson in what NOT to do. Hopefully we'll make you laugh and feel less alone. Remember, you got this and we got you. See you next week for an epic Season 3! Be sure to catch our little sneak peaks on IG: @divorceattorneychicago @theandrearappaport Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Season 3 drops in a few short weeks! To get everyone back in the divorce game, we've decided to drop some of our most popular episodes from Season 1. (cue time travel music) Today, we're talking about how to find a divorce lawyer. Andrea shares how it all went down when they decided to file and what it was like to find an attorney. It's overwhelming and emotional but we can help and make it less scary. What we talk about in this episode: How to find a divorce attorney What questions to ask a divorce attorney or a divorce lawyer Where do you find a divorce lawyer or attorney Should you google "tough divorce lawyer" How do you vet a divorce lawyer or divorce attorney What steps do you need to take if you don't have a financial advisor How much do divorce lawyers charge and what's included What is a divorce mediator This is a lot but we promise you, we make it easy to digest and we'll make you laugh. Be sure to stay until the end for our favorite segment - wild divorce stories that are a hilarious lesson on what NOT to do. Be sure to hit follow so you don't miss Season 3!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

We are ending season 2 with the beloved Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and continuing our discussion of high conflict divorces. Bill teaches us a simple tool that has the power to not only change the whole vibe of your high conflict divorce and how you deal with conflict with literally anyone....but we think it could heal the whole damn world. We are hard at work planning Season 3 and it's going to be a big one! Stay tuned, we'll be back soon. In the meantime, please slide into our dms and let us know what topics you'd like us to highlight in S3: @theandrearappaport Morgan's IG was hacked (she didn't leave law to sell "cloths") so send her an email here: [email protected] You can learn more about Bill Eddy and his work on high conflict divorce at www.highconflictinstitute.com and www.conflictplaybook.com where you'll find a parenting class and other resources for parents who are going through divorce. You can buy Bill's book "Calming Upset People with EAR" here: www.amazon.comMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today on How Not To Suck At Divorce, Morgan is recording from a beach, Andrea is learning kung foo, it's a typical day over here. We are so excited to have the legendary Bill Eddy on the show. Bill is a lawyer, therapist, mediator, keynote speaker and the author of over 16 books on divorce. Not only does he specialize in high-conflict divorces that involve people with personality disorders like narcissistic, borderline, anti-social, and histrionic, he has also trained over 500,000 professionals on managing high conflict disputes. Morgan is fan-girling big time. Today we're going to dive deep into high conflict divorce with the master himself and learn how to use Bill's BIFF technique if you're going through one of these messy divorces. Order Bill's books on Amazon here and here or at your favorite independent bookstore. His latest book has been #1 in the divorce category the last 18 months. It's a must-read-now. Connect with Bill at www.highconflictinstitute.com If you'd like to see a reel of Andrea doing her kung foo moves please flood her dms: @theandrearappaport Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today we're back with Dr. Meaghan Boston Daly to discuss if divorce can kill you. We'll talk about the impact of long term and short term stress when going through a divorce and what sex, drugs and tacos have to do with it. If this sounds heavy, don't worry, we know how to bring the levity. Be sure to stay until the end because we have roped Dr. Meg into playing the game you all love (we hope), Decline to Comment. Bonus...Morgan shares what your lawyers talk about when they go out for drinks together ;) You can find Dr. Daly here: www.harper-health.com And you can slide into our dms here: @divorceattorneychicago @theandrearappaportMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Andrea is in pain and Morgan got pooped on by an iguana in a palm tree. It's been quite an exciting week. But today all is right with the world because we're here with Dr. Meaghan Boston Daly to talk about divorce and physical wellness. Dr. Meg is a concierge internal medicine doctor in Chicago and has quite the resume. We're so excited to be able to pick her beautiful brain. We'll discuss how being in an unhappy marriage really wears us down. Dr. Meg will tell us all about the subtle physical symptoms of emotional stress, Morgan will answer if your spouse can find out if you're on medication for your mental health during the divorce process, and Andrea will share about the connection between her body pain and being in a toxic marriage. By the way, we're scouting closets across the world. If you have a closet we can record our podcast in AND you live in a climate with predictably warm weather patterns, please invite us to your home. We've had it up to here with Chicago "spring". We love you Wyoming, thanks for telling your friends! Where to find Dr. Meg: www.harper-health.com Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you. @divorceattorneychicago @theandrearappaport Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today, a dear listener is sharing her divorce story with us. Welcome to the show, Zoe! Zoe talks about how she stayed in her deteriorating marriage for 6 years. She recalls the control her ex had over her, how finances and religion played a role in her staying, and the moment she knew it was finally over. Morgan shares some great tips if you're overwhelmed by all the paperwork and Andrea talks about finding the humor in a family therapy session over zoom with her ex-husband. We know divorce is hard and draining, and that’s exactly why we are here. We are a part of your community now, and we got you. DM us your stories and questions, we are here to help you. @divorceattorneychicago @theandrearappaport Check out our shiny new website and let us know what you think! https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This week on How Not To Suck At Divorce, we're having wine at 2:00. We're also listening to you, the best audience ever. Many of you have asked us to break down the steps to get a divorce so today we are diving in. Listen in to find out about the 10 main steps needed to get divorced. We will answer: How many lawyers should you meet with before deciding to move forward with one? What information do you need for the financial affidavit? Who should you consult when filling out the parenting agreement? What's it like that final day in court when your divorce is finalized? Plus, Andrea shares her own story of getting divorced over zoom during the pandemic with her kids e-learning in the next room. Spoiler...it was bizarre. We LOVE hearing from you so please dm us with your questions, stories or if you just need to be seen and heard. Morgan on Instagram Andrea on Instagram You can also reach us on hownottosuckatdivorce.com You got this, and we got you.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Out of all the podcasts in all the world, we’re in the top 5%! What?! How did this happen?! Thank you so much to all of our listeners, especially the 6 of you in Wyoming. Today's episode is like divorce meets CSI as we welcome Tracy Coenen. You may have seen her on CNBC On the Money, CBS, NBC, and in the Wall Street Journal. Tracy is a certified public accountant, certified in financial forensics, a master analyst and fraud investigator. If you're wondering what all this means, Tracy finds money. Money that has disappeared that you want back. Tracy breaks down: -When is hiring a fraud investigator or forensics accountant necessary? -Common red flags like when a spouse is having an affair. -How to trust your gut during your divorce. -What to do if your spouse is telling you “we have no money”. -If you should be concerned about the spouse who is quiet about finances or has changed passwords. -If you should you confront your spouse about missing money or being suddenly locked out of accounts. -What is a lifestyle analysis? -Would Tracy rather wave a red flaeg or a white flaeg? You will also hear Tracy's story about the infamous Instagram investigation. This is a don't-miss episode for sure. Tracy knows not everyone can afford to hire a private forensic accountant or investigator so she has developed a tool people can use to do it themselves. Be sure to sign up to be notified when Tracy’s tool launches at sequenceinc.com You can also connect with Tracy on LinkedIn Slide into our dms and tell us what you thought of today's episode! Have you found red flags with your finances? @theandrearappapport @divorceattorneychicago Hownottosuckatdivorce.com I know anything having to do with finances during a divorce is scary, but remember, you got this and we got you.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today we’re doing something a little different; we’re answering listener questions. And they are good. This podcast is for you and so we love when you dm us your questions and stories. Thank you for being vulnerable with us. Just a few of the questions we answer are: How do you support a friend who is going through a divorce when you’re happily married? What’s the best way to organize your documents for divorce? How do you answer the dreaded question from acquaintances “how are you”? We’ll also hear one more way Andrea sucked at her divorce. Learn from her mistake-this is a don’t miss episode. Wyoming, are you out there? Slide into our dms! @divorceattorneychicago @theandrearappaportMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

We are back with part two with the fabulous Dr. Randy Heller. If you missed part one, you'll definitely want to listen to last week's episode first. Today we're talking about how to co-parent effectively and why co-parenting should be viewed as a business relationship. Dr. Heller answers: How is a family therapist different than a regular therapist? How can we co-parent effectively? How can we protect kids during a divorce? Will kids be ok if we get divorced? How can I get my spouse or ex to agree to family therapy? What if my spouse or ex is a narcissist or has bipolar disorder? How to find a family therapist in your area. The best ways to manage the business of co-parenting. We love hearing from you so slip into our dms! Andrea Rappaport Morgan L. Stogsdill Where you can find Dr. Randy Heller: familynetworkflorida.com familynetworknewyork.com 646-717-6718 (NY) 954-236-4490 (FL and CT)Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This week we are excited to welcome Dr. Randy Heller to the show. Dr. Heller is a licensed mental health therapist, collaborative divorce therapist and a mediator. A true unicorn. Today we're discussing the three conversations Dr. Heller recommends people have before filing for a divorce. We'll also be addressing the biggest concern parents have, "will the kids be ok?" We love hearing from you so feel free to slide into our dms @theandrearappaport and @divorceattorneychicago Where you can find Dr. Randy Heller: familynetworkflorida.com familynetworknewyork.com 646-717-6718 (NY) 954-236-4490 (FL and CT)Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Thank you for 10k downloads (11.8k to be exact)! Your support means the world to us. Today Morgan and Andrea are stuck in a snowstorm talking to wealth advisor Franco La Marca. Earlier this week Andrea posted on Instagram about financial abuse in a marriage and throughout the divorce process. So many people reached out sharing similar stories and many women said they didn't realize what they were experiencing was actually financial abuse. So they decided to have the financial expert himself, Franco La Marca, join in on the conversation and share 3 essential things everyone should be doing to protect their finances. We would love to hear from you after today's episode. Please feel free to message Morgan @divorceattorneychicago and Andrea @theandrearappaport. You can find Franco La Marca at: www.bernstein.com [email protected] in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles