How Not To Suck At Divorce

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we dive deep into the dreaded parenting plans (also called custody agreements, parenting schedules, or allocation judgments). They break down what really matters in these complex documents, from decision-making on medical care and extracurricular activities to holiday schedules and the right of first refusal.Andrea shares her personal struggles with her own parenting agreement and offers tips on how you can avoid the mistakes she made. Morgan provides expert legal insight on how to negotiate a fair agreement that works for both parents and their kids.What You’ll Learn:The key components of a parenting plan: decision-making, holidays, medical care, and more.Why you need to be proactive and think about how decisions today will impact your future.How to work with your lawyer to create a flexible and fair plan for you and your kids.The importance of compassionate communication and why it's key when negotiating with your ex.Pro tips on how to handle tricky situations like school choice, summer camps, and the right of first refusal.Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we dive into the overwhelming fear that often accompanies divorce and its impact on decision-making because lets face it - when we're fearful or scared we are NOT in our right minds. We’re joined by transformational coach Annmarie Chereso, who shares her expertise on how fear affects the brain and behavior during such a challenging time. Annmarie provides practical tools to manage fear, including a four-step method that helps individuals move from a place of fear to empowerment.You will learn:How fear impacts decision-making during a divorce and how to recognize when it is taking controlPractical steps to shift out of fear and into empowerment, including breathing techniques, physical movement, and self-compassionWhy it's crucial not to make decisions when in a heightened emotional state and how to effectively manage fearHow embracing the right mindset can help individuals navigate the emotional challenges of divorce, leading to a more balanced and positive outcomeCLICK HERE to grab the Best Parenting Schedules Advice Workbook Connect with Annmarie:Website: www.annmariechereso.meFree Resource: Out of YOUR Mind and Into Your Body! 5 Day Challenge to reconnect with your intuition and trust yourself: https://annmariechereso.me/trust/Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we're talking about the often intimidating process of being deposed during a divorce. We break down what a deposition is, how it works, and the importance of preparation to ensure you present yourself as a strong witness. Morgan, a seasoned divorce lawyer, walks listeners through key strategies for handling a deposition, including how to answer questions succinctly, when to ask for a break, and why staying calm is crucial. They also discuss the role of the lawyer in preparing for the deposition, including the importance of honesty, not over-explaining answers, and how to keep your emotions in check, especially if you're feeling overwhelmed or manipulated!In this episode you'll learn:The purpose of a deposition in a divorce case and why it's crucial to the litigation processHow to prepare for a deposition, including working with your lawyer and understanding what questions might come upThe importance of staying calm, professional, and concise during a deposition.Why honesty and control over your emotions can make a significant difference in how you’re perceivedHow to navigate potential emotional triggers, and how to avoid major mistakes like over-sharing or losing your temperOur Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea opens up about her personal journey and how getting divorced legitimately saved her life. She shares her experiences of being in an unhealthy marriage, the physical toll it took on her, and the turning point that led her to take control of her life. Andrea also discusses the mistakes she made during her divorce process, including choosing the wrong lawyer and rushing into decisions without proper counsel. Despite these challenges, Andrea highlights the importance of having the right support and taking action to improve your life after divorce.In this episode, you'll learn:The emotional and physical toll an unhealthy relationship can take, and the importance of recognizing when it's time to make a changeHow to avoid common mistakes in the divorce process, such as rushing into decisions or hiring the wrong attorneyThe power of taking small steps toward healing, understanding that it takes time but can ultimately lead to a healthier and happier lifeThe importance of quality time with your children post-divorce and focusing on what truly mattersWhy finding the right legal representation and support system can make all the difference in navigating divorceThis episode is a raw, honest look at Andrea's experience and serves as a reminder that, though divorce is challenging, it CAN lead to personal growth and happiness.Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In this episode, we dive into the complex decision of whether to pause your divorce process and explore the possibility of reconciliation. We discuss why some couples might reconsider divorce, the emotional and practical aspects to consider before making a decision, and the importance of having real, lasting change before hitting pause. We also touch on the legal steps involved in pausing or halting the divorce process, including options like the reconciliation calendar, and the financial and emotional risks that come with this decision. This isn't easy friend - but we've got you covered. In this episode you'll learn:The reasons why some people file for divorce but later reconsider, and how to recognize if reconciliation is truly possibleWhat steps to take if you're considering pausing your divorce, including discussing it with your attorney and understanding the legal implicationsHow to distinguish between temporary emotional moments (like a spontaneous romantic night) and genuine, long-term changes that could save your marriageThe importance of being aware of the risks, both emotional and financial, that could arise when halting the divorce processHow working through these decisions with proper guidance, both legal and emotional, can help you make the best choice for your futureOur Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In this episode of How Not To Suck At Divorce, Andrea and Morgan talk about the tough question of whether to stay or go in your marriage. They walk you through the simple but powerful TALK acronym to help you gain clarity and confidence as you make this big decision in your life. They cover how therapy can help you unpack what's going on, the importance of understanding your emotional needs, how to assess the fun and love in your relationship, and why knowledge is key to moving forward. These steps are designed to guide you through this challenging time and help you make the best decision for yourself and your family. You deserve happiness, and we're here to help you get there.What you'll learn in this episode: How therapy can help unpack the underlying issues in your marriage and provide clarity on whether to stay or goThe importance of assessing your emotional needs and understanding if they're being met in your relationshipHow to evaluate the level of fun, love, and connection in your marriage, and what to do if those things are lackingWhy gaining knowledge about the divorce process and talking to professionals can empower you to make informed decisionsHow following the simple TALK acronym can help guide you through the tough decision-making process and lead to a healthier, happier outcome for you and your familyOur Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In this episode of How Not To Suck at Divorce, we are talking about what so many divorced parents struggle with—kids who resist going to the other parent’s house. We talk about why this happens and offer actionable tips for managing these tough transitions. It’s completely normal for kids to feel conflicted, and in this episode, we break it down and share ways to make those transitions smoother.We dig into the "EASE" acronym (you'll have to hit play to find out what this is if you don't know) to give you a simple framework for communicating with your child during these moments. We also talk about why setting boundaries is key and how to do it in a way that doesn’t make your child feel torn between parents.In this episode, you'll learn: How to show empathy for your child's feelingsThe importance of setting boundaries and maintaining a calm demeanor during difficult transitionsHow to document issues related to child transitions, especially if they become an ongoing concernHow to communicate clearly with your co-parent, and when it’s necessary to seek legal advice if the issues persistNo doubt, this sucks. But you got this, and we got you!Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In this episode of How Not To Suck At Divorce, we dive into handling the tough emotions that can arise during the holiday season when you're going through a divorce. We know it’s not easy, and we’ve got your back! In this episode, you'll learn how to:Embrace the sadness – Don’t fight it. We talk about why feeling sad is totally normal and how pushing those feelings down will only make them linger longer.Move your body – It doesn’t have to be anything intense, but a little walk can go a long way in helping clear your mind and improve your mood.Shift your focus – Find a project, something to get your hands on, like a craft or home project, to take your mind off the stress and give you a sense of accomplishment.Get out there – Even if it's just for a short time, saying yes to an invite and getting dressed can help break the isolation and give you a sense of normalcy.So, if the holidays are feeling heavy or you’re just struggling to cope, listen in for some practical tips and support to make it through. We get it – divorce is a marathon, not a sprint, and we’ve got you every step of the way.Links to the amazing products discussed in episodes:Jouer Under Eye BalmWomen's Heated VestMen's Heated VestFlameless Candle lighterVuori (how do you pronounce this?!)Spanx Air EssentialsMorgan’s Wreath Making YouTube Channel: (just kidding, but follow us on YouTube!)Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In today’s episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, we dive deep into the collaborative divorce process with Lucia Levias, a family law attorney specializing in this approach. We discuss what collaborative divorce is, how it differs from traditional litigation, and whether it might be the right choice for your situation. Lucia shares the benefits of this process, including cost savings and a more peaceful resolution, while also addressing who is best suited for this approach and the potential pitfalls to watch out for.In this episode, you'll learn:The basics of collaborative divorce and how it worksHow collaborative divorce can potentially save you money compared to traditional litigationWhat professionals are involved in a collaborative divorce and how they support the processWhen a collaborative divorce may or may not be right for youHow to approach your spouse about considering a collaborative divorceThe importance of being aligned with your spouse for this process to succeedReal-life examples of how collaborative divorce can help resolve tough issues like spousal support and parenting plansLucia's website: https://duboislaw.net/Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In this episode, we're joined by Sarah Armstrong, author of A Mom's Guide to a Good Divorce, to discuss the importance of compartmentalizing during the divorce process. Divorce is emotionally draining, and the ability to compartmentalize can help you navigate it more effectively—especially when emotions run SUPER high. Sarah shares her personal journey through divorce and how she learned to compartmentalize to keep her focus on what really mattered: her daughter, her career, and making the best decisions for the long term. And oh - she's the VP of global marketing operations, at Google...yep!What you'll learn:The importance of compartmentalizing during divorce and how it can help you make better decisionsHow to manage emotional triggers and not let them dictate your actionsPractical steps for compartmentalizing, such as taking a breath and giving yourself time to cool down before reactingThe power of focusing on the long game and making decisions that are best for you and your kidsHow Sarah used her compartmentalization skills to balance her career at Google, motherhood, and her personal life post-divorceIf you're feeling overwhelmed by the emotional rollercoaster of divorce, this episode will give you the tools to regain control and make decisions that serve YOU and your kids in the long run. Whether it's deciding when to show emotion or learning to take a step back during tense moments, Sarah’s insights are invaluable for anyone navigating the difficult journey of divorce and we're here for it - and we're here for you, too!Connect with Sarah:Sarah's website: https://www.gooddivorce.guideSarah's book: A Mom's Guide to a Good DivorceOur Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Yep, divorce confessions! We're talking real moments that often come up during divorce! We share anonymous confessions and are here to remind you that divorce can make you feel like you're losing your mind, but you're not alone.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why it’s totally normal to have wild, irrational thoughts during divorce (and you’re not crazy)How to protect yourself legally when things get out of controlThe importance of having a legal team you can trust, especially if criminal behavior is involvedWhy you should absolutely NOT write your kids a letter explaining your divorceWhy giving into the urge to stalk or harass your ex can make everything worseWhat to do when you’re overwhelmed and just want to pack your shit and leaveNo matter how crazy things feel right now, you’re not losing it. You'll feel that in this episode!Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today we welcome Hilary Rosenberg back to the show to dive into the topic of mental preparation for divorce. I know, I know - but hear is out. The emotional complexities that come with ending a marriage are so hard, terrible, overwhelming and more. Let us take a load off and share our insights and practical strategies to help you navigate your divorce with clarity and strength!In this episode, you'll learn:The critical importance of allowing yourself to grieve the end of your marriageActionable steps to support your mental well-being during the divorce processHow to create a nurturing and positive environment for yourself as you transition to this new chapterOur Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In this episode, we're diving into the difficult and emotional topic of creating a custody schedule. Whether you’re just beginning the divorce process or in the thick of it, figuring out the best arrangement for your children while managing your own emotions can feel overwhelming. We’re here to help you break it down, with guidance from family law attorney and mediator Rebecca Parra. Rebecca brings a wealth of experience in creating custody plans and offers practical tools to help you make the best decisions for your family.In this episode, we answer questions like:What are the biggest challenges parents face when creating a custody plan?How can the new Custody Navigator tool help visualize and plan your custody schedule?What creative custody arrangements can be used for non-traditional work schedules?How do factors like child support affect custody agreements?What can you expect from mediation, and how can it help you come to a peaceful resolution?Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In this episode, we explore the relationship between alcohol and divorce, diving into how exactly how drinking impacts your emotional state, decision-making, and overall well-being during one of life’s most challenging times. This episode IS NOT about giving up drinking completely; it’s about understanding when alcohol is helping or hurting as you navigate the divorce process.In this episode, you'll learn:-What actually happens in your brain when you drink to cope with stress?-How do you know if you're drinking for the wrong reasons?-What are the warning signs that you’re blowing past your emotional "stop signs"?-What action steps can you take to keep your relationship with alcohol in check during a divorce?Our guest, Colleen Kachmann, known as the "Hangover Whisperer," is a recovery-certified master coach and an expert in alcohol use awareness. She shares science-backed insights on the impact of alcohol on the body and mind during stressful periods and offers practical advice on mindful drinking.Remember, this episode is here to guide you without judgment—only support. Whether you decide to drink less, stay mindful, or seek more support, we’re here to help you navigate this journey in the healthiest way possible.Connect with Colleen: Website: https://www.colleenkachmann.com/Instagram: @thehangoverwhispererTiktok: @hangoverwhispererOur Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In today’s episode, we’re tackling one of the toughest realities of divorce: custody. Custody arrangements can feel unnatural, overwhelming, and emotional. Deciding when and how much time you spend with your children after a divorce is never easy, but it’s an unavoidable part of the process. In this episode, we break down how to handle custody agreements, how to mentally prepare for time away from your kids, and what you need to know to navigate this difficult terrain.We share personal insights and experiences, including the pain of feeling like you’re “having your cake and eating it too” and how to come to terms with these challenging decisions. Special guest Heather Quick, founder of the Florida Women’s Law Group, joins us to explain how custody laws have changed in Florida and what that means for parents.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why custody arrangements can feel so unnatural and how to start accepting this new reality.How the new Florida custody law that assumes 50/50 time-sharing affects parents.The importance of planning for holidays, summers, and unexpected changes in parenting plans.How to prioritize your children's needs while managing your own emotions and mental health.Why you need to think long-term when negotiating custody agreements.We answer the questions:What do you do when you just can’t agree to 50/50 custody?How do you plan custody arrangements for holidays and summers?What are some real-life examples of custody agreements that work (and don’t work)?Is it really possible to modify a custody plan later?How do you start emotionally preparing for time away from your kids?Whether you're in the middle of a custody battle, preparing for it, or just want more insight into how to handle this part of divorce, this episode will give you the perspective and tools you need to navigate this tough chapter with more clarity. You’ve got this, and we’ve got you!Connect with Heather:Website: https://www.floridawomenslawgroup.com/Tune in to learn how you can handle these difficult decisions without losing your sanity (or your dignity).Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In this episode, we dive into the difficult topic of feeling strung along in a marriage. Whether your spouse is coming and going as they please or avoiding making a decision about your future together, it can leave you feeling powerless. The hosts discuss how midlife changes like perimenopause and stress only make these dynamics more challenging, but the real focus is on how to take back your power by setting boundaries.Morgan shares a real-life story about a client stuck in this frustrating limbo, and they explore how setting boundaries—though scary—can be the key to getting clarity in your relationship. With humor and compassion, they tackle why it’s so important to reclaim control, even if it means being labeled the "bad guy."In this Episode, You’ll Learn:How to recognize if you're being strung along in your marriage.Why setting boundaries might be the healthiest move (even if it feels terrifying).How midlife changes like perimenopause can impact your emotional and mental well-being.What to do when your spouse seems to have one foot in and one foot out of the relationship.Why sometimes being the bad guy is the best thing you can do for yourself.How hair extensions may not save your marriage, but they sure can comfort you through tough times.Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In today's episode, it's REAL TALK as we tackle some of the biggest hurdles in divorce—financials, legal strategy, and emotional resilience. We talk about staying calm under pressure, understanding your finances, and working effectively with your attorney.Are you feeling overwhelmed by the flood of legal requests? Unsure whether you're working with the right attorney? Or maybe you're wondering what purchases to make before you file for divorce? These are just some of the questions we tackle in this episode.Key Questions Explored:Do you really have to respond to every demand from your ex immediately?What simple action can help you reset when you're overwhelmed?Why might a phone call or face-to-face meeting with your attorney be a smarter move than sending another email?What should you do if you're unsure your attorney is the right fit for you?Is there a smart time to make big purchases before your divorce?How can you protect what you brought into the marriage, financially?What red flags should you watch for during the divorce process?Can understanding tax implications actually help you negotiate better terms?Hit play for these practical tips and secrets to help you feel more confident and in control during your divorce.Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In today's episode, guess what we’re tackling today? Yep—money. Let’s be honest, talking finances is about as fun as doing taxes, but it’s one of the biggest reasons people hit pause on their divorce plans. Fear of the unknown can be paralyzing, but don’t worry, we’ve got you covered!Joining us is Phil Weiss, a certified CPA, CFA, and RLP (that’s fancy speak for financial wizard 🧙‍♂️), and he’s here to break down the scary stuff. Phil’s personal story is a reminder of why understanding your finances is key, and he’ll guide us through the basics—from budget apps to aligning your money with your values (yes, that’s a thing).We’re diving into how to plan financially before, during, and after your divorce, and why having the right attorney is as crucial as knowing how to log into your online bank account (don’t act like you haven’t forgotten!).Tune in for some straight talk, practical tips, and a whole lot of empowerment as you tackle those financial fears head-on.Schedule a free consultation with Phil HEREOur Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In today's episode, we talk to therapist Hilary Rosenberg for a candid conversation about the challenges of recognizing and addressing deep-rooted issues in marriage. We explore the psychological effects of denial, the toll pretense takes on personal well-being and children, and why it’s essential to speak out about relationship struggles. Hilary shares insights on attachment styles and the importance of self-awareness, offers practical steps for navigating emotional turmoil and contemplating divorce with clarity and mental well-being. You got this, friend!Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckAnd if you're looking for the link to the magical eyelid lifters...you're 100% not alone...Andrea tried them after this episode was recorded and is obsessed. Here's the amazon link: https://shorturl.at/pINWjFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Connect with Hilary: Website: https://www.millenniumhope.comInstagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

You are in for a juicy treat, friends! In today's episode, we bring on shareholder and family law attorney Kara Chrobak who specializes in high-net-worth divorce to talk about various infamous celebrity divorces! That's right- We touch on Jennifer Lopez & Ben Affleck, Channing Tatum & Jenna Dewan, and Billy Ray Cyrus & Fire Rose. We explore legal intricacies such as the lack of prenups, intellectual property disputes, and contested spending, equitable vs. community property states, importance of identifying intangible assets, and understanding alimony. You DON'T want to miss this one.Connect with Kara:Linked inOur Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

We're baaaack! And today we're talking about common divorce myths and you know how we do- we're providing practical advice for navigating high-conflict separations. The episode addresses misconceptions about co-parenting, alimony, legal advantages for moms, and the impact of infidelity. We also examine the realistic limitations of court intervention in cases of emotional abuse and share personal success stories to inspire hope for post-divorce happiness.Join our private Facebook community!Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseOur Family Wizard is another fantastic resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckFriends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Instagram: @hownotosuckatdivorceFollow Andrea: @theandrearappaportFollow Morgan: @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In this important re-air, we're here with Dr. Meaghan Boston Daly to talk about divorce and physical wellness. Dr. Meg is a concierge internal medicine doctor in Chicago and has quite the resume. We're so excited to be able to pick her beautiful brain. **And if you're already contemplating divorce, go check out our crash course. Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course We'll discuss how being in an unhappy marriage really wears us down. Dr. Meg will tell us all about the subtle physical symptoms of emotional stress, Morgan will answer if your spouse can find out if you're on medication for your mental health during the divorce process, and Andrea will share about the connection between her body pain and being in a toxic marriage. Where to find Dr. Meg: www.harper-health.com Our Family Wizard is another fantasitc resource for those who need help navigating the "fun" world of coparenting. Head to this landing page to see how we work closely with them to support our listeners! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Oh friends, you won't want to miss this episode. Morgan and Andrea are back this week (with an amazing re-air) with top Dallas family law attorney, Rebecca Armstong, find her here! talking about the things you SHOULD and SHOULDN'T do after you file for divorce. First off, do you have the DCC??? If not, you 100% need this tool so you don't totally screw up in your divorce process. It will save you THOUSANDS of dollars!! GET IT HERE! Rebecca, Morgan and Andrea answer: -What 3 things should you do after you file for divorce? -What 3 things should you absolutely NOT do after you file for divorce? -Do I need a therapist if I'm going through a divorce? -Can being in therapy be used against me if I'm going through a divorce? -Why should I go to an annual checkup at the doctor during a divorce? -Can I record my spouse during an argument and use it during divorce proceedings? -Will my spending habits be scrutinized during a divorce? -What advice did Oprah give Andrea about her own divorce? *************** Let's talk about co parenting, shall we?? Our Family Wizard is here to help you with your co parenting journey and we are HUGE fans of what they do. http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

How do you know if it's time to leave your marriage??​​ Is your marraige worth saving?? How the hell do you do that and who the hell is going to help you figure that out??? Ever wondered if you would benefit from Discernment Counseling? The founder of discernment counseling, Dr. Bill Doherty, joins us on the podcast to find out . Not only did Dr. Doherty develop a specific type of counseling for couples where one is considering divorce, he's also been on Oprah not just once, but twice! From Harpo to How Not To Suck At Divorce, Dr. Doherty is moving up in the world, that's for sure. (hahahhaa) Discernment counseling is when one person is leaning OUT of the relationship and considering divorce and the other person is leaning IN and wants to try to make things work. This type of counseling gives people clarity and confidence based on a deeper understanding of what has happened in the marriage. Dr. Doherty answers the questions: 1 What is discernment counseling? 2 Does discernment counseling solve problems in the marriage? 3 What are the differences between couples therapy and discernment counseling? 4 How long is discernment counseling? 5 What are the three paths of discernment counseling? 6 How do I know if we should try couples therapy or discernment counseling? Stay until the end because Dr. Doherty blows the lid off traditional therapy and tells us he favorite type of wine (you won't believe his answer). You can find Dr. Bill Doherty and search for a local discernment counselor at http://www.discernmentcounseling.com *Do you have our DCC?? If you're considering divorce, you should!! https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course And don't forget about Our Family Wizard. It's our #1 app for coparents who are looking to not suck at this process! Check them out here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Please hit the 5 stars in your podcast app, we need the external validation, but more importantly, it helps our podcast show up in searches so we can help those who are struggling through the divorce process. Remember, you got this and we got you. Slide into our dms, we love hearing from you! @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago @hownottosuckatdivorce Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

How do you know when your marriage is over? How do you know if it's just a phase or if something that was once there will never really come back? Did you "try hard enough" to "save your marraige" and what does that even mean??? At what point can you confident that divorce is the right decision for you??? What we have learned in our professional careers as a family law attorney and hosting this podcast is that sometimes hearing other people's stories help you relate more to your own. So today, we are re airing an episode from the second season of our show which features someone's personal story about when they knew their marriage was offically over. **** And if you're ready to begin the divorce process, you NEED the DCC! It's our one of a kind, Divorce Crash Course. This course literally holds your hand through all of your major decisions. You'll avoid MAJOR mistakes and save up to THOUSANDS of dollars because you're getting advice from one the most sought after divorce attorneys in the country!! For $97, this course will change your life. And we mean that. Check it out here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course We welcome guest and retired husband, Mike Draper, to the show as he shares his story of when he knew it was over and what life after divorce is really like for a single dad. Check out Magic Mike, (I'm sorry), I mean Mortgage Mike on IG @mortgage_mike As always we're keeping it real and keeping the levity because this process is tough enough. But you are never alone. You got this and we got you. *** If you need support with coparenting- or maybe you just want some extra insight into what coparenting will look for you- look no further than Our Family Wizard. You can get specialized information that WE created with OFW just for our listeners here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck And don't worry, we are back with fresh episodes in just a few weeks!!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

If you haven't been living under a rock, you saw the movie: The Wolf of Wall Street. Now you're going to hear about the real life experience of being married to infamous character in which the movie was written about. So what was it like being married to the Wolf of Wall Street?? Wel, their eight-year marriage began as a fairytale, filled with romantic dinners, expensive gifts, and lavish parties. But once they were bonded, Jordan’s ‘mask’ began to slip and acts of infidelity, narcissistic abuse, insatiable greed, and uncontrollable drug addiction became Nadine’s living nightmare. Nadine naively believed that their connection was real, and that her love could save him, so she remained trauma-bonded until the pain of their relationship became too much to bear. It would be decades before she realized her story resembled thousands of other women’s relational experiences. At the age of 30, Dr Nadine, or Dr Nae as she's often referred, packed up her curtains and kids and relocated to Los Angeles. She began a transformative process of intensive therapy and deep self-reflection, which required facing her pain, admitting, and owning her mistakes, and reconnecting with the authentic self she’d lost due to Jordan’s abuse. Through her own healing, a passion for helping others was born. She returned to school at 39 to become a psychotherapist, and ten years later, graduated with a PhD in Counseling and Somatic Psychology. You’re also going to hear find out the hell can you do so that you're not carrying around this weight and this storm cloud for the rest of your life. To learn more about how YOU can work directly with Dr Nae (and we know you want to), check her out here: https://drnae.com/about-dr-nadine-macaluso/# AND, grab her book, Run Like Hell here: https://drnae.com/run-like-hell-book/ So tune in as we chat with Dr. Nadine Macaluso, a clinical expert and ex-wife of the real-life Wolf of Wall Street, Jordan Belfort. If you're in need of coparenting support- look no further than Our Family Wizard. We LOVE them. Head here for more information: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck And finally, if Dr Nae's story sound at all like yours...you NEED the Divorce Crash Course, get it here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-courseMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Okay, let’s face it- if you’re listening to this podcast you know that (& if you’re a new listener you will soon find out) community, and support during divorce, is SO IMPORTANT. When you can't decide whether you need to scream in your car/bathroom/ or random aisle at Target, you need to know who you can turn to who will comfort you, make you laugh, and remind you that this horrible phase that you're in will not be your forever. Today on the show we’re talking to our good friend, and dad of three: Rob Roseman. Rob is also the founder of WTF Divorce. We adore Rob and on this episode he shares his journey of realizing the significance of finding support through online communities after going through a divorce of his own. In this episode, we talk: -Challenges of isolation -Benefits of relatable humor -Critical advice for engaging with credentialed professionals -Rob's book "WTF Divorce" and all of the joy it can bring to your life!! Check out the book here: amazon link! Follow Rob on IG- 139K already do!! http://www.instagram.com/wtfdivorce Listen to this episode to learn how community helps make a difficult process more bearable and even bring some much-needed laughter into your life! If you're starting your divorce process, you NEED the DCC, check that out here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Our Family Wizard is here to help you with your coparenting journey! Visit our special landing page for them to learn more about why are one of the MUST HAVES for your divorce. http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

We know - it sounds pretty daunting and impossible. This episode is full of actionable steps for you to take. In this episode, we chat again with forensic psychotherapist guest, Micaela Van Dine https://mvdpsychotherapy.com/, about how to prepare to leave your abusive marriage. You're going to hear about: -Setting a timeline for leaving (we know- sounds impossible) -Understanding your/your spouse's financial situation -Securing sentimental belongings -Safely exiting the marriage -Making sure you're doing things "by the law" in your state -Be SUPER mindful of the kids Our Divorce Crash Course was help you out here- BIG TIME- please, go check it out. It's $97 and will give you an actionable plan that will help save THOUSANDS and avoid major mistakes. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Friends, you can reach out to Micaela directly on her website if you want her consulting advice. As always it’s recommended to consult with legal professionals and therapists specific to the listener's jurisdiction to ensure appropriate and personalized advice. If you need support in finding someone in your area, shoot us over an email at [email protected] Our Family Wizard is here to help you with your coparenting journey. http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Soberlink is here for you if you're concerned about alcohol usage during parenting time. Go to: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck to get $50 off your device.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This episode is your high conflict divorce survival guide. We are going to cover the steps you should take to help maintain your sanity and stamina needed to survive high conflict divorce process. On this episode, we talk with forensic psychotherapist, Micaela Van Dine, https://mvdpsychotherapy.com , who shares her professional insights and personal experiences related to high-conflict divorces in the courtroom. Do you have our Divorce Crash Course?? If you are navigating a high conflict divorce, this crash course will potentially help you save THOUSANDS of dollars. Find it here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course As ALWAYS, this episode offers several action steps and practical advice, like: -Maintaining silence amid provocation -Building a support system -Choosing the right legal and mental health professionals to guide you through the difficult process One of the most helpful tools available to you is Our Family Wizard. Used in many high conflict cases, Our Family Wizard is our top recommendation for organizing communication between coparents. http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck And don't forget about Soberlink! Soberlink to our go-to tool for those who suspect an alcohol issue during parenting times. Visit: http://www.soberlink.com/not to receive $50 off your device. Hit play & feel a little less alone! Please reach out to us should you want more support! Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Listen to this episode BEFORE you go into mediation. It IS possible to have a positive outcome from mediation, even if you feel like your soon to be ex spouse agree on NOTHING. And before we get into the nitty gritty: Do you have our Divorce Crash Course? It literally holds your hand through ALL major divorce decisions! Get it here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course Here are 3 EXPERT tips, (from a mediator herself- Joy Rosenthal-https://www.joyrosenthal.com/), to help you reframe your mind before entering mediation: 1) You don't have to RESPECT your soon to be ex, but you still need to have some DIGNITY for them. In other words, treat them like a human who also has wants and needs (even if their wants and needs are questionable and they're acting like a total tool) 2)Start to think of the problem as something that's outside of you and your soon to be ex. Meaning, the issue is "who gets the kids this Christmas?" or "who gets the lake house?" or "who's going to get the collection of ketchup bottles?" (yes, that was an actual issue for one of Morgan's cases). The issue is not about YOU, and it's not about you soon to be ex, it's simply a "problem" that needs to be "solved". 3)Think about why you want what you say you want. This one is kinda about checking ego, and also just gaining some perspective on the situation. It's important to keep in mind that everyone loses something in a divorce. You're not gonna come of this thing with EVERYTHING you want, it just doesn't work like that. In fact, the old divorce joke goes, "if both parties are unhappy and feel they got cheated, then the attorneys did their job" I (Andrea) HATE that joke and it makes me want to scream, but that's the way it goes! And remember, mediation, divorce- all of this mess-is just going to be ONE event that happened in your life. It's not your life, you have a lot more life to live when this is all behind you. Our Family Wizard is here to help you though your coparenting journey. Learn more about them here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Summer’s almost here folks, and you know what that means...camps, vacations..and your divorce, oh my! Not to mention: the DREADED parenting agreements. One of Andrea’s least favorite topics but something we HAVE to talk about. We talk about the significance of communication and flexibility in establishing summer parenting schedules, and the legal implications of these changes. We also dive into the complexities of co-parenting during summer, including summer camps, child support, and travel logistics. In this episode you’ll learn: *The challenges of balancing work and children's needs during the summer, especially for working and single parents *Suggestions for getting help with childcare during the summer *The importance of creativity and flexibility *Examples of creative modifications to summer parenting schedules and the importance of communication between parents *Practical approaches to managing summer activities, like summer camps, co-parenting logistics, and managing expectation *Strategies for initiating conversations with co-parents about travel plans and managing summer camp choices. And friend that barely scratches this surface in this jam packed mini episode! Don't forget to check out the DCC, honey, you need this! : https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course And, go sign up for Our Family Wizard's free newsletter! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck And finally, join our private community! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Alright, here's one of Andrea's least favorite topics...but probably the most important: the parenting agreement. Below are the show notes for a special re air episode, all about the parenitng agreement. Remember, our Divorce Crash Course holds your hand through ALL of the important decisions you make during your divorce process. Grab you DCC, right here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course for only $97, you can save up to THOUSANDS and avoid making MAJOR mistakes. The cost of our crash course includes 5 short videos, which are wildly informative and entertaining (if we do say so ourselves) AND includes a printable guidebook, that has mental health break exercises built in! *********** We're getting into some real, REAL stuff in this episode. This is one of the biggest concerns our listeners have so we wanted to dedicate an entire episode to how to put your kids first in your parenting agreement. Today, we have therapist Dr. Malissa Tigges with us to talk about how to create a parenting agreement that prioritizes the welfare of your kids. Dr. Tigges is a licensed clinical and forensics psychologist with over 10 years of experience working as a psychotherapist and an evaluator. She helps people make the best decisions possible when developing their parenting agreements. Dr. Tigges, Morgan and Andrea answer: What do divorcing couples need to understand when putting together their parenting agreement? How to design the parenting agreement so it's appropriate at each age of the children. The biggest mistake divorcing couples make when creating their parenting agreement. What is the main difference of a parenting plan that involves a younger child vs. a teenager? Can you modify a parenting agreement? Who should you consult with to ensure your parenting agreement is the best for your child? Should you open the parenting agreement email after having a few drinks? What is co-parenting therapy and is it necessary? What do you do when your rights are being violated during the divorce process when you're drafting the parenting agreement? What's the best schedule for co-parenting? 50/50? Week on, week off? Every other weekend? The answer may upset you, but it's important to understand. Is there wiggle room in a parenting agreement if there's a special trip or long weekend planned? Dr. Tigges also shares her absolute "must-dos". Here is where you can connect with Dr. Tigges: @drmalissatigges on instagram, tiktok and facebook Dr. Tigges is licensed in Florida but if you're not in Florida, your state may allow you to do telehealth with Dr. Tigges so if you need guidance, reach out! Also- Our Family Wizard is here to help make your coparenting journey a whole lot easier. To learn more about them and to get access to an article that we cowrote, visit them at: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today’s episode is about something we get asked about A LOT - recording your ex. The truth of the matter is there are some major things you MUST think about before hitting that record button, and yes, EVEN if your attorney suggests it. However, there is a time & a place for capturing what you need to help your divorce proceeding. We answer: What legally admissible means and how it applies to you When we would recommend you recording your ex What does it mean in your state? Is it legal? And what does it mean? When would it be appropriate to record and when would it not be? And, why we LOVE Ring doorbells (not sponsored...yet..hit us up, Ring!) This episode is not only insightful but a resource for you that you may need at some point & we want to equip you with the information you need. And remember, Our Family Wizard is here to help you with your coparenting journey. To learn more about Our Family Wizard, please go check them out, you'll also get access to a special (and funny) article we co wrote with them!! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Do you have the Divorce Crash Course??? It's going to help you- BIG TIME. https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course You've got this, friends, and we've got you!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Friend, let’s be real, we know that you're tired of pretending that everything is okay. We know that your gut is telling you that your marriage is not going to work. So, now what??? If you have EVER wondered: "What do I do if I think I want a divorce?" - this episode is for you. If you're considering divorce but don't know where to begin, this episode is for you. If you're just miserable in your marriage, but feel stuck, this episode is for you. Don't forget: The DCC is here to help you save up to THOUSANDS on your divorce AND help you avoid making MAJOR mistakes. Get The Divorce Crash Course HERE! Join our private community: Here! And remember, Our Family Wizard is here to help you make coparenting easier. Believe us, you want to check them out: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck This podcast was designed to give you information, entertainment and empathy as you embark on the divorce process. We know that divorce is hard. We know that it's a long and draining process. We also know that life is so much better on the other side. Don't give up. Everyone deserves to be happy. You've got this and we've got you. Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

With divorce, there are things that you might feel you have zero control over, right? Maybe you’ve thought before, “My attorney's not fighting me.” OR maybe you're frustrated that your attorney's bills are insanely high and you wish there was SOMETHING you could do so save money. Friend: I hope you listen to this episode with an open mind because we are going to give you very concrete steps that you can take to help your attorney help YOU so that you can make the most out of your attorney. And, if you haven't grabbed our DCC yet, go get it here. DCC = Divorce Crash Course Divorce Crash Course In today’s episode, we cover- -Saving money -Getting your attorney to fight for you -Supplying your attorney with the necessary information to really get the best outcome for your case -Why it’s important to pay your bill on time -Why it’s important to stick to the FACTS and leave your emotions out of it -A clear example of what it looks like to HELP your attorney HELP you Andrea asks some JUICY questions to Morgan, that you don’t want to miss! And remember, Soberlink is here to help you if you're concerned about a coparent's alcohol use. Save $50 off your device and learn more here: https://www.soberlink.com/notsuck Join our private community, we'd love to have! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunityMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In today’s episode, boooooy did we shed some light on the top asked questions when navigating a divorce. From the quirky laws about eavesdropping, (did you know in Illinois recording someone on the phone without consent is a no-go but in public, it’s fair game?), to seeking multiple opinions like you would for a tricky medical condition – this episode has it all. And here's your place to grab access to the DCC: The Divorce Crash Course, yes, you need this! :The Divorce Crash Course And hey, for those wondering about GALs and child representatives in custody battles, we've got the lowdown right here. In this episode we answer: HOW to tell your spouse you want a divorce (and the big reason why we suggest NOT doing it on a weekend) What to do when you feel like your spouse has been hiding finances and is it worth it to continue digging? Trial separations before filing! Doing the right thing or putting off the inevitable? GAL - what it is and the role that it serves How do you know if a GAL is going to help or hurt your case? When do you advocate that you want one? Do you say “I want one”, or is it something that you wait for a judge to slap on to your case? Difference between GAL child rep - How would you know when you need one and not the other? Who does a GAL speak to and who does a GAL not speak to? And is a GAL the same thing as a custody evaluator? Are they going to come into my home and see what my home looks like? What does parental alienation actually mean? What happens if your ex records your conversations? Are they allowed to do this? How late is too late is too switch attorneys? Experience requesting an order from the judge I promise we’re in your corner and here for you and remember, you’ve got this and we’ve got you! **And remember, if alcohol use is a concern with safe parenting time, then Soberlink is a tool you need in your toolbox. Learn more and save $50 off your device here: https://www.soberlink.com/notsuck *** To join our private community, head here: The How Not to Suck at Divorce Community Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Oooooh friend - today you are in for an absolute TREAT. We (Andrea & Morgan) uncover the 5 BIGGEST MISTAKES that we see happening when it comes to getting divorced. AND, to put the cherry on top, you can get even more access to these topics and so much more "hands on help" with: The Divorce Crash Course. Literally - this will be your divorce playbook. You want this crash course, you need this crash course. And, like we said in the show, we priced this guide at a low pricepoint so it's accessable to everyone. Most divorce "courses" are hundreds of dollars and take HOURS to complete. Our crash course is different. We also made sure that your privacy is protected. The credit card charge shows up as "DCC150", so nothing about divorce is mentioned. There's also an Afterpay option, so you can pay in installments. And if you're on the fence about getting divorced: This course will help you. Okay, here's the link: ➡️ https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course ⬅️ In this episode, we cover some of the goods inside of the The Divorce Crash Course including: Hiring a divorce attorney Kids and the mistakes that people make when it comes to kids If you should sell your house Communication with your ex (Andrea’s personal fav) How to NOT rush through signing those important documents ************* And if you're concered about your coparent's alcohol use, Soberlink can help: https://www.soberlink.com/notsuck. This link will give you more information and a coupon for $50 off your device. And please join our private community for more support! http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunityMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In today’s episode, we have a very first for this podcast & an incredibly special guest - Retired Los Angeles Judge Dianna Gould-Saltman. That’s right - a VERY recently retired divorce judge! (who BTW, has divorced several celebrity couples) Let's face it- nobody wants to go to court. It’s just not a fun experience. If you're navigating the divorce process, going before the judge is likely a step that you are trying to avoid for several reasons. But for one reason or another, it happens for a lot of divorcing couples. So, what do you do you to get the judge "on your side"??? In this episode you’ll learn: * An easy thing you can do to help yourself get in the right headspace for court * What do to and not to do when you’re actually in front of the judge in court * Does it matter if the judge *knows* the attorney who’s representing you or your spouse * What are some mistakes that Judge Dianna saw in her courtroom over and over *What's a "private divorce"?? If you’re going through this nasty thing called divorce and ready to learn how to prepare for court in the eyes of a retired divorce judge…this epiosode is for YOU. AND! If you're wanting to hire Judge Dianna Gould- Saltman as your mediator or your private judge...guess what? You can do that! Find her here: https://signatureresolution.com/neutral-CPT/hon-dianna-gould-saltman-ret/ And friends, if your case is going into court then you likely need some more emotional support. Look no futher than our private community. You can find it right here: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity ********** Do you know about Our Family Wizard?? Because if not, you really need to go sign up for their newsletter. Our Family Wizard makes coparenting A LOT easier by helping you organize your calenders, expenses, AND monitor communications : and best part, it's looked upon HIGHLY in the courts as a way to help families do divorce better. To learn more, go to: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In today’s episode, as crappy as it is - we talk about when the abuse gets worse during divorce. It’s not a fun topic, but we would be doing you a disservice if we didn’t talk about it. We bring in Katharine Rupp, a family law attorney based in California, who shares insights on the legal process of divorce, the significance of being organized and prepared for legal battles, and the usefulness of tools like Our Family Wizard app (hollaaa!) in co-parenting and divorce documentation. Expect to hear strategies for dealing with emotional abuse and conflict, learn the importance of communication and documentation in divorce proceedings, and get practical advice for navigating the divorce process more effectively - as per usual! Main Takeaways: *Importance of Our Family Wizard - (OFW) is a valuable tool for organizing divorce-related information in one platform *Responding to Attacks (so hard- but DON'T attack back) *Avoid Escalation and Emotional Response (again, so hard) *Documenting and Communicating *Seek Support and Guidance If you want some more information on how to respond to your POS ex, (hee hee) head here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Ask your attorney if Our Family Wizard would be right for your case. In our opinion, it can only help give you the boundaries you deserve. Join our private community for more support. http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Friends. Listen up. You need to make sure that your divorce attorney is going to GUIDE you through the long, winding road that is divorce. Take a listen to the dynamic duo, Sarah Jacobs and Jamie Berger, family law attorneys and owners of Jacobs/Berger LLC, located in Morristown, New Jersey. Their mission is making the divorce process less nerve-wracking by focusing on the human side, rather than getting caught up in legal battles. Isn’t that what we all want?! (Yes, it is..) Sarah and Jamie express why it's so importatnt to find a relatable attorney who communicates well, knows your goals, and speaks your language. Episode highlights: *Jacobs and Bergers’ approach to making divorce less stressful *The concept of redefining the family through non-aggressive strategies *The importance of a divorce attorney understanding and addressing your needs and goals *The necessity for attorneys to be relatable and communicative *Positive outlook on divorce as a new beginning *Being a divorce "tour guide" *A Real Housewives of New Jersey divorce story....(this sh$t is GOOD) If you are in the NJ area and looking for representation- reach out to Sarah & Jamie. Here's the site again : http://www.jacobsberger.com Aaaaaannnndddd, ya'll - you KNOW you want some glowing skin, who doesn't?? Andrea and Morgan are LOVING their results from Dermamade, and we know that you will, too. This skincare line is so effective and not super $$$. For a limited time, you can save 50% off (which is INSANE) with code AMY50. Head to http://www.dermamade.com And don't forget: Our Family Wizard is here to help make coparenting easier. And if you want some tips on how to communicate in a more effective way that won't make you want to pull out your hair extentions...go to http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck - pop in your email address and you'll get an article from US that maps out a plan for you! Join our private community: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity We love you, we're here for you, you can do this. Go get yourself a good attorney. Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Okay, real talk. Getting your head straight for divorce is NECESSARY.It’s crucial to seek the proper legal and emotional help when going through a divorce. In this episode, we chat with Dr. Ashley Southard and she has you covered! Straight from a licensed marriage and family therapist, you’ll learn in this episode: * Professional guidance during divorce* Defining worst and best-case scenarios* Managing emotions during divorce* Focusing on children, career, and supportive relationships* Addressing the struggle of over-functioning individuals to seek help or delegate responsibilities* Importance of seeking therapy before starting the divorce process* Over-functioning women in unfulfilling relationships* Identifying emotional and practical needs during challenging timesThis episode is for you if you’re ready and determined to get your head on straight when it comes to divorce! (Trust us, you can do this!)You can find Dr Ashley on her viral IG account: http://www.instagram.com/drashleysouthardAnd friends, remember, Our Family Wizard is here to help with you all of your coparenting issues. Go read our co written article! It's funny and really helpful! http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckAnd keeping with the real talk. Ya'll. Your skin takes a BEATING when you're stressed, and that just plain SUCKS. However, we have a way to help you! Dr Amy Brodsky developed an amazing line of EFFECTIVE skincare- and guess what?? She's giving our listeners 50% off for a limited time. Take a sec right now and go check out Dermamade. Use code AMY50 at checkout. http://www.dermamade.com(Morgan loves the anti aging set and Andrea is digging the Vitamin C serum, as well as the Retinol serum. )We're here for you. Join our private community http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunityPlease DM us with any questions!http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorceMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Okay, let's hash out everything you need to do BEFORE you file for divorce, sounds like fun, huh? Listen, let us start by saying: mental preparation is crucial and there is NO perfect time for divorce, and every case is different! And before we forget, go join our private communities: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadytodivorce This episode helps you get your head straight if you’re thinking about divorce. You’re going to hear: *The Importance of timing in divorce decisions *Consideration of length of marriage for potential alimony or maintenance *Permanent support after around 20 years of marriage *Setting up for success in the next chapter of life after divorce *Tools for Organizing Expenses and Communication During Divorce *Impact of job loss or significant career advancement on divorce filing and financial implications *Retirement and its impact on support and financial division in divorces later in life *Discussion of prenups, children's ages, length of marriage, employment, and retirement for awareness and discussion with an attorney *Confidential ways to consult a divorce lawyer, such as through advance consultation fees or using a separate credit card *Emotional Support During the Divorce Process *Encouragement to seek professional advice from a divorce attorney to address individual concerns This episode is for you if you are ready to get your head on straight if you are considering or currently navigating the complexities of divorce and seeking expert advice, support, and camaraderie during this challenging time. And remember: Soberlink is THE tool you need if you suspect alcohol is going to be an issue with safe parenting time. Get $50 off your device by visiting: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting EASIER. To their FREE newsletter AND an article that we cowrote to help you not suck at communicating with your ex, visit: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck Follow us on IG! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorceMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Andrea and Morgan answer the question that you’re probably wondering if you’re going through (or about to go through) a divorce: Will the kids be okay?! *******To get FREE tips on coparenting communication (believe us, you'll want this) head to:http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck - pop in your email and you'll get access to BONUS tips, direct from Andrea & Morgan.We get real about the impact of divorce on children and invite: Meg, and sisters Eden & Larissa on the show.  They share their personal stories of coming from divorced households, navigating blended families, and the challenges of balancing different parenting styles.This episode gives you insight if you’re contemplating divorce or worried about the effects on your kids.Expect to hear:*Tips on communicating with challenging co-parents and using "Our Family Wizard" for organized co-parenting, including expenses and messaging.* The importance of prioritizing the well-being of the children involved and creating a supportive environment for them.* The challenges and misconceptions of parenting during and after a divorce** The impact on children and the importance of parental happiness for the well-being of children***The answer you all want to hear: Will the kids be okay? Answer might suprise you. **and BONUS !!! What can you do to give your skin that glow you had before your life turned upside down!! (hint: it's Morgan's obsession)Get up to 50% off (which is INSANE!) If you go to www.dermamade.com and enter in code: AMY50This episode is filled with real stories, hope, and honesty to help answer your question: are your kids going to be okay? You can do this. We've got you.Join our private community:http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunityFollow us on IG:http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorceWe'll see ya next week. Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In this episode: Andrea, Morgan, and James Quigley dive into the world of divorce and family law, AND contempt of court. Listen to get some strategies for dealing with violations of court orders, and the emotional toll of navigating divorce. * Examples of non-willful violations of court orders and the importance of making reasonable efforts to comply * Situations where pursuing contempt charges for financial issues in divorce cases may be warranted, and the process of filing a petition for the court to consider contempt charges * Assessing the teamwork of law firms, understanding lawyer agreements, and maintaining credibility with the court * Communication strategies with challenging co-parents, using co-parenting apps, and documenting interactions. * Acknowledgment of the emotional toll of divorce, abuse, and gaslighting, and the recommendation to seek mental health support. * Stressing the importance of addressing emotional issues with support, as lawyers are not therapists. This conversation is filled with real-life anecdotes, practical advice, and a touch of humor, all aimed at providing support and guidance for those going through a divorce. Join us as we tackle these complex issues and share resources, all while navigating the intricacies of divorce with honesty and levity. To find James Quigley online, head to: https://www.beermannlaw.com/team/james-m-quigley/ and follow the guy on IG, it'll make his day. https://www.instagram.com/quigleyondivorce/ And remember: If you're concerned about your children's safety during your co parent's parenting time becuase of alcohol, Soberlink is here to help. To learn more visit: http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck and get $50 off your device. Our Family Wizard is here to my coparenting EASIER, how awesome is that??!! To get FREE access to an article that we co wrote with the Our Family Wizard team that gives action steps on how you can better communicate with you ex, go to: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck We have private communities, don't forget!! Join us. We're helpful and, like, way fun: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadytodivorce http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorceMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In this episode, Andrea and Morgan give advice on creating parenting schedules and what you need to keep in mind to ensure the best interests of the children are at the forefront. We dive into some of the most common custody issues: *50/50 arrangment *right of first refusal *asking for more than 50% custody *difference between custodial custody and parenting time *best parenting time schedules for younger kids *more creative parenting time schedules And speaking of kids, Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting easier! And trust us, you want Our Family Wizard as a tool in your divorce toolbox. Head to: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuck to get access to a FREE article that we co-wrote with Our Family Wizard on how to best communicate with a challenging ex spouse! And remember, our private community is here to support you. Join us at: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity And if you have not yet filed for divorce and would prefer to listen to our episodes privately, you can do so here: https://www.patreon.com/NotQuiteReadyForDivorce. Our entire library of episodes can be listened to discreetly for $4.99 a month. Follow us on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce See you next week, friends!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In today’s episode, Andrea and Morgan discuss what happens AFTER you’ve been served with a petition for divorce…aka “dissolution of marriage”. So if you’ve wondered: How do I choose the right 🤷🏻‍♀️divorce attorney? How do I manage 🤦🏼‍♂️ divorce stress? Who can help me understand 🙅🏻‍♀️ divorce documents? Then this episode is for YOU. You deserve the right guidance and mindset is CRUCIAL. Divorce is a journey that can be navigated with resilience and grace, and we’re here to support you every step of the way. How Not to Suck at Divorce offers you practical advice, and a much-needed dose of humor. ********** If alcohol is an issue and you’re concerned about your kids’ safety during your co-parent's parenting time, please check out Soberlink. http://www.soberlink.com/notsuck Vist the link to get $50 off your device. And if you want more guidance and support in regards to co-parenting, head over to Our Family Wizard. Our Family Wizard is here to make co-parenting EASIER. Click on this → link ← to get free access to communication tips that will save you time, money, and a big fat headache! Please visit our private communities for more. http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadyfordivorce And follow us on IG! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorceMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

You gotta hear this episode. The end of Moncia's marriage involved betrayal, alcohol abuse, and porn addiction. What's fascinating about her experience is not what she went through, but how she CHOSE to heal. When Monica and her now ex husband entered couples therapy, they also did individual therapy, and Monica join a support group. In that support group, she found perspective and reflection. With that, she was able to see that there was a role that SHE PLAYED in the breakdown of the marriage. Now, it's not to say that anything that Monica did or didn't do caused her husband to make his choices. Rather, Monica was able to see that some of her behavior came from a strong desire to control a situation, what wasn't helping anything. Once she was able to let go and accept her husband for who he was, everthing changed. Yes, their divorce process began, but so did Monica's beautiful healing process. Fast forward to the present day: Monica is sharing her dinner table with her exhusband, their children, AND her new boyfriend. You can see for yourself on her IG: https://www.instagram.com/monicaleighblog/ She now hosts her own podcast: Choosing to Heal with Monica Leigh She also runs her own support community for other women looking to heal! Check it out! https://monicaleighblog.com/community This episode should give you hope and inspiration. Please visit our private communities for more. http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity http://www.patreon.com/notquitereadyfordivorce And follow us on IG! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorceMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

if you are not quite ready for divorce and want to listen to this episode without downloading it to your device, you are welcome to subscribe to our Patreon channel, where, for $4.99 a month, you can access our entire library of episodes Trauma makes a home in our bodies. Recent studies have shown that traditional talk therapy might not be enough to help people recover from trauma. (eye roll) Great. So, now what?? This episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce features Dr Melissa Kalt. Dr Melissa is a triple board certified physician turned trauma healer. Dr Melissa offers group programs and 1:1 services for people wanting to heal from their trauma. She even met with Andrea in December. Be sure to listen to Andrea's experience and how Dr Melissa was able to pinpoint her pain and help her release it. Something to note is that the trauma lives in our bodies because of the story we told ourselves about the traumatic event, not so much the event itself....food for thought. (Poor Morgan found this topic to get a little too "woo woo" for her at times...what do you think??) The takeaway here is that if you are suffering, you deserve not to suffer. If trauma healing can help you, why wouldn't you try it? You can access Dr Melissa's FREE 5-part masterclass, "Hack the Confidence Rollercoaster" at confidencerollercoaster.com Join Antifragile Rebels at antifragilerebels.com **Remember to use coupon code NOTSUCK50 for 50% off each month! Learn more on her website at melissakaltmd.com You can also find Dr Melissa at the below sites: https://www.quora.com/profile/Dr-Melissa-Kalt-MD https://antifragilenarcissistsurvivorswithdrmelissa.quora.com/ https://medium.com/@MelissaKalt https://www.facebook.com/melissakaltmd/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-kalt-md/ https://www.pinterest.com/melissakaltmd/ https://twitter.com/melissakaltmd https://www.instagram.com/melissakaltmd/ And remember, our private FB community is here to support you. Please join! Join FB Group Here You can do this, friends. It won't be easy, but we'll help you through it. You've got this. And we've got you. Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

For many people getting divorced, it's inevitable that you're going to be stuck for a certain period of time, living with your ex. And yes, that's going to suck. Luckily, we have some insight on the situation that we want to share with you. This episode is a re air from a few seasons ago. We are coming to you with a FRESH, BRAND NEW episode next week! So take a listen to "When You're Stuck Living with Your Ex" to get your questions answered. Questions like: Can I date other people before I get divorced? Can I spend money on myself and going out if I'm still living with my ex? How will my ex and I figure out kid time? How do I make sure my ex and I are splitting household chores evenly? And friends, we know that divorce is hard. We know it's long and draining. We are here to help guide you, offer you information, entertainment, and empathy and ultimately, help you not SUCK at getting divorced. Please rate and reivew our show!! And message us on social, we would love to hear from you!! http://www.instagram.com/hownottosuckatdivorce And join our private communities! https://www.patreon.com/NotQuiteReadyForDivorce - for those needing to listen to our private library http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity - for those looking for community and a place to ask quesitons!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce is sponspored by Better Help. Give online therapy a try at http://www.betterhelp.com/notsuck and get on your way to being your best self. We want to help you survive the next few weeks. The holiday season is a stressful time, in the BEST of situations. But if you're also navigating a divorce or considering divorce, then you're managing and extra set of stress and unhappiness that's likely making the next few weeks a really tough time. Here's how we can help. Here are 6 pro tips from Morgan and Andrea. You ready for them? Let's go! Set some realistic expectations. Surprises make for more unhappiness. Keep busy. Prep your family on how to handle themselves around you (tell Aunt Beatrice to not ask you questions) and possibly your ex. Watch the cheesy holiday movies, we're talking the REALLY cheesy ones, Hallmark channel style. Nothing bad happens in these movies and it makes for great background noise Just say no to parties you don't want to attend. Nobody really cares. Move your body. It's so damn important. If it's really cold where you live, walk around the mall, or even around a Target. And please, join our private communites for extra support! Here are the links: http://www.facebook.com/thehownottosuckatdivorcecommunity And if you need to listen to our episodes discreetly (for those of you who aren't ready to file for divorce and don't want this show popping up on your subscription list) https://www.patreon.com/NotQuiteReadyForDivorce FYI: it’s a private community that does have a small fee. $4.99 a month to get all of the episodes discreetly. Ideal for if you don’t want your spouse seeing that you’re listening to the show. We’re adding to this channel everyday- so soon there will videos there too. The charge shows up as “Patreon” which is just a platform for additional podcasts. Also! Our Family Wizard is here to make coparenting EASIER. AND, you can get free information on coparenting and handling sticky situations! Head here: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/notsuckMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles