How Not To Suck At Divorce

You read that correctly. I Bought My Husband's Mistress Lingerie. It's a brand new, emotional tell-all memoir, written by Stacey Freeman. This is a TRUE STORY, and yes, it's juicy. But it's also packed with hope and persceptive. PRE ORDER THIS BOOK HERE: Amazon This episode will leave you with your mouth and your heart open. Stacey's candor and transparency are inspiring. She waded her way through the nauesous feelings that come with a marriage that ends in infidelity. Have you wondered: How to get along with my ex husband's new girlfriend? How to help my kids get along their stepmother? How to heal from an affair? If so, this episode and book is EXACTLY what you've been looking for! And on OBSESSED: Skinny Pop Popcorn. Yes, Morgan is obsessed. And Andrea is currently eating out of bag of one right now...likely. Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

What happens if you die during your divorce process?? What happens to your children? What happens to your money? We are talking with Lauren Wolven, she’s a partner in Trusts and Estates with Levenfeld Pearlstein in Chicago, IL. Here’s the good news: There are several steps you can take to ensure that you’ve covered all of your bases, just in case you die during or soon after your divorce. We cover a lot of ground on this episode, including: 1. How do I change my power of medical attorney during a divorce? 2. How do I change my Life Insurance policy when going through a divorce? 3. How do I change my Will when I'm going through a divorce? **How Not to Suck at Divorce Pro Tip**: Don’t buy your Will template from Etsy. (this started as a joke, until we realized that it's actually possible) And remember, all roads lead back to hiring the RIGHT team to support you during your divorce process. The RIGHT divorce attorney, the RIGHT estate attorney, and the RIGHT podcast to help you along the way! Make sure you listen all the way to the end of the episode to hear some crazy stories about what some people leave as their final wishes! To get in touch with Lauren Wolven, please visit her at: LP Chicago Oh, and our OBESSION this week?? Andrea tells us all about her obsession with Mark and Graham! Their monogramed handbags are to die fo... nope, not gonna use that expression today! We love hearing from you! Email us at [email protected] or dm us at: @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago WE'RE ON YOUTUBE NOW! Check us out: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMSvrn9lrdJt8mY1i_1tFwg You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com Please rate and review so our little show can reach more people xo Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Parental Alienation is not a fun topic but it's an important one for everyone who is considering or going through a divorce to understand so they can avoid it. Because it harms children and none of us want that. It also harms both parents and their relationships with their kids, not just the parent being alienated. Dr. Malissa Tigges is back. If you missed episode 37, Dr. Tigges is a licensed clinical and forensics psychologist with over 10 years of experience working as a psychotherapist and an evaluator. Parental Alienation is a buzzword thrown around in family court but today Dr. Tigges, Andrea and Morgan are going to break it all down. They will answer: 1. What is parental alienation? 2. How can we avoid parental alienation? 3. What are the two different types of alienation and how are they different? 4. What are the three levels of alienation? 5. What are the 17 strategies of alienation? 6. How parental alienation harms the kids (if you're the one alienating the other parent, trust us...you don't want to miss this part) 7. How can I help my child heal from parental alienation? 8. How parental alienation harms both parents 9. Can kids be taken away from a parent who is committing parental alienation? Morgan also shares advice she gives her own clients who are on both sides of parental alienation. *************** Special Segments Obsessed: Now onto something a little more comfortable. This week Morgan is obsessed with OnePiece at onepiece.com. It's a one-piece sweatsuit for women, men and kids. It's so cozy and makes the best gift. It's like a luxury adult onesie. We're not affiliated with OnePiece, Morgan is just obsessed and has been wearing them for years. Let's Be Positive: Andrea shares some things you can do with your children to reconnect and strengthen your relationship. **************** Here is where you can connect with Dr. Tigges: @drmalissatigges on instagram, tiktok and facebook Dr. Tigges is licensed in Florida but if you're not in Florida, your state may allow you to do telehealth with Dr. Tigges so if you need guidance, reach out! We love hearing from you! Email us at [email protected] or dm us at: @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago WE'RE ON YOUTUBE NOW! Check us out: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMSvrn9lrdJt8mY1i_1tFwg You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com Please rate and review so our little show can reach more people xo The Podcast does not contain legal advice. The information provided on the Podcast and the resources available for download through the Podcast and/or in show notes is not intended as, and shall not be understood or construed as, legal advice.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today we have fan favorite Dr. Randy Heller to discuss how to heal from infidelity. Betrayal often has a huge impact on the divorce process because it adds fuel to an already raging fire. We want to help you move through the anger so you can make good decisions during your divorce. This is a heavy issue but we promise, by the end of the episode, you will feel better. If you're new here, Dr. Randy Heller is a licensed marriage and family therapist, licensed mental health counselor, certified Supreme Court family mediator, credentialed collaborative divorce family specialist and facilitator, parenting coordinator, certified hypnotherapist, and the founder and Clinical Director of The Family Network. Like, wow. Dr. Randy talks about the different types of infidelity. It's not just cheating. Infidelity can also be lying, stealing, and hiding money. Infidelity can be any type of betrayal. We talk about: Triggers after the betrayal How to trust your attorney after having your trust broken by your spouse How to deal with the pain of infidelity How to heal Because levity is important, we didn't skip our obsessed segment today. This week Morgan is obsessed with Meyers hand soap. Her fave scents are Rosemary, Rain, and Daisy (it doesn't smell like flowers). Post-pandemic Morgan is especially appreciative of how well it lathers and cleans. We're not affiliated with Meyers but if they want to slide into our dms, we won't be sad. You can find Dr. Randy Heller here: [email protected] 646-717-6718 mycollaborativeteam.com No matter what you're going through, we're here for you. We love hearing from you so don't be shy. Slide into our dms: @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago If you're liking our little show, it would mean the world to us if you rated and reviewed us right in your Apple podcast app or wherever you listen XOMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This is no episode for babies (no offense, babies). We're getting into some real, REAL stuff in this episode. This is one of the biggest concerns our listeners have so we wanted to dedicate an entire episode to how to put your kiddos first in your parenting agreement. Today, we have therapist Dr. Malissa Tigges with us to talk about how to create a parenting agreement that prioritizes the welfare of your kids. Dr. Tigges is a licensed clinical and forensics psychologist with over 10 years of experience working as a psychotherapist and an evaluator. She helps people make the best decisions possible when developing their parenting agreements. Dr. Tigges, Morgan and Andrea answer: What do divorcing couples need to understand when putting together their parenting agreement? How to design the parenting agreement so it's appropriate at each age of the children. The biggest mistake divorcing couples make when creating their parenting agreement. What is the main difference of a parenting plan that involves a younger child vs. a teenager? Can you modify a parenting agreement? Who should you consult with to ensure your parenting agreement is the best for your child? Should you open the parenting agreement email after having a few drinks? What is co-parenting therapy and is it necessary? What do you do when your rights are being violated during the divorce process when you're drafting the parenting agreement? What's the best schedule for co-parenting? 50/50? Week on, week off? Every other weekend? The answer may upset you, but it's important to understand. Is there wiggle room in a parenting agreement if there's a special trip or long weekend planned? Dr. Tigges also shares her absolute "must-dos". Here is where you can connect with Dr. Tigges: @drmalissatigges on instagram, tiktok and facebook Dr. Tigges is licensed in Florida but if you're not in Florida, your state may allow you to do telehealth with Dr. Tigges so if you need guidance, reach out! OBSESSED: This week Andrea is obsessed with a non-medicated inhaler that has been scientifically proven to calm anxiety. It's called CalmiGo. It measures how much air you exhale and will vibrate when you exhale properly to help you regulate your breathing. It helps Andrea feel more grounded and has made her realize how shallow she typically breathes during the day. It's genius. CalmiGo sent the inhaler to Andrea after she posted the instagram reel of the time she was in the hospital for a panic attack. But please know, we do not recommend products just because we got one free. We will only recommend products we truly love and use. And this is one of those, for sure. If you go to Andrea's IG and click the link in her bio, you'll get a $30 off coupon. Don't miss the very end of the episode because we talk about how it has just been discovered that honey bee venom can kill breast cancer cells. Amazing! There's also a new study on a possible cure for lupus and other autoimmune diseases AND, new developments on slowing the progression of Alzheimer's. We love ending the show with some positivity :) To our one listener in Honduras, we see you and adore you. Thank you for being here with us. xo We'd love to know what you think of the show! Please email us at [email protected] or dm us at: @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com We read every message and reply personally because our community means the world to us and we want you to know we're here for you. You got this and we got you.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Andrea and Morgan are back with best friend of the podcast and fan fave Rob Roseman! Rob is the host of the popular podcast WTF Divorce and a single dad who felt the very common feeling of isolation when he went through his own divorce 2.5 years ago. Rob shares his story and the three discuss how to avoid isolation and find your community so you can not just survive, but thrive. Morgan, Andrea and Rob discuss: Is it helpful to find others who are going through a divorce or does that make it even more difficult? Trauma bonding during divorce. How Rob and Andrea met. How finding divorce friends is like dating. How Andrea's painful divorce and isolation led her to the podcast and our wonderful community with the absolute best listeners. Why Morgan started this podcast with Andrea and what surprised Rob about her reason. *** Be sure to listen until the end because Andrea and Morgan get real about friendships during a divorce. If you're not already listening to Rob's podcast, following him on IG, and all over his website taking advantage of all his free resources (including a search tool to find divorce attorneys and therapists in your area), we highly recommend you do so now! Here is where you can find Rob: @wtfdivorce www.wtfdivorce.com WTF Divorce Podcast If you're struggling to find your community, please reach out to us and we will be here for you. Email us at [email protected] or dm us at: @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com By the way, we love that you love our new OBSESSED segment, because we love it too! This week Morgan is obsessed with Sand and Fog candles. If you like candles that actually do what they're supposed to, smell up your house and last, these are for you. They're pretty, smell incredible and they won't break the bank. They even have candles that are meant to clean up pet smell. This week Morgan is burning Juniper Mint, yum. She also highly recommends Clean Linen. We're not affiliated with Sand and Fog and they didn't pay us to review them...Morgan just truly adores them and wants to share the love. Sand and Fog website That's all for this week, friends. Don't forget, you got this and we got you xo.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This week we're talking about how to find the right divorce lawyer. It's like Tinder for Attorneys! To break it all down, we have Max Leinoff on the pod. Max is a family law attorney in Miami, Florida with Leinoff and Lemos, P.A. His firm was voted one of the Best Law Firms by U.S. News and World Report for 2021 and 2022. Max answers: What three things you must hear from your divorce attorney What should you do if your divorce lawyer disagrees with you? The importance of expressing your goals honestly with your divorce lawyer Who will you be working for when you hire an attorney? Is it a bad sign if they have other associates helping you? What questions should you ask divorce lawyers before deciding who to hire? These may surprise you. What is a no fault state when it comes to divorce? How can you work with your divorce attorney to move things along swiftly and smoothly? "When you're looking for an attorney, you don't want a yes man or a yes woman." - Max Leinoff If you're in Florida, here is where you can find Max Leinoff: [email protected] www.llpa.com (305) 661-1556 - office Also, Max shouts out his lovely wife, Katy, who is an incredibly talented, professional artist who has worked with Vans and was recenly featured on the Ralph Lauren website. You can see Katy's work on instagram @katyilana. We checked her out and now we're obsessed with her, too! We had so much fun with Max, we made him participate in Spin the Wheel, Andrea's favorite segment (Morgan hates it). What embarrassing thing will Max have to do? Stay to the end to find out. Don't missed our OBSESSED segment: This week, Morgan is obsessed with Portillos. We ordered Portillos during the photoshoot for this season, because Morgan and Andrea love nothing more than a great cheeseburger. The photographer kept shooting because watching the us chow on Portillos in fancy dresses was too good to miss. If you're not from Chicago, you may not know how amazing Portillos is. They are iconic. They're best known for hot dogs, burgers and Italian beef (and cheese fries and chocolate cake shakes). If you're not in Chicago, you can have their food shipped to your door. Life-changing. We're not affiliated (yet)....we're just obsessed. We'd love to know what you think of the show! Please email us at [email protected] or dm us at: @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago You can also reach out to us through our website: www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com We read every message and reply personally, because our community means the world to us and we want you to know we're here for you. You got this and we got you.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Oh friends, you won't want to miss this episode. Morgan and Andrea are back this week with top Dallas family law attorney, Rebecca Armstong, talking about the things you SHOULD and SHOULDN'T do after you file for divorce. Rebecca, Morgan and Andrea answer: What 3 things should you do after you file for divorce? What 3 things should you absolutely NOT do after you file for divorce? Do I need a therapist if I'm going through a divorce? Can being in therapy be used against me if I'm going through a divorce? Why should I go to an annual checkup at the doctor during a divorce? Can I record my spouse during an argument and use it during divorce proceedings? Will my spending habits be scrutinized during a divorce? What advice did Oprah give Andrea about her own divorce? Texas friends! You can reach our fabulous guest Rebecca at: www.armstronglawtexas.com 214-741-9906 As always, we love hearing from you so feel free to slide into our dms: @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago You got this and we got you xoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Would you benefit from Discernment Counseling? This week, we find out. The founder of discernment counseling, Dr. Bill Doherty, joins us on the podcast. Not only did Dr. Doherty develop a specific type of counseling for couples where one is considering divorce, he's also been on Oprah not just once, but twice! From Harpo to How Not To Suck At Divorce, Dr. Doherty is moving up in the world, that's for sure. Discernment counseling is when one person is leaning OUT of the relationship and considering divorce and the other person is leaning IN and wants to try to make things work. This type of counseling gives people clarity and confidence based on a deeper understanding of what has happened in the marriage. Dr. Doherty answers the questions: What is discernment counseling? Does discernment counseling solve problems in the marriage? What are the differences between couples therapy and discernment counseling? How long is discernment counseling? What are the three paths of discernment counseling? How do I know if we should try couples therapy or discernment counseling? Stay until the end because Dr. Doherty blows the lid off traditional therapy and tells us he favorite type of wine (you won't believe his answer). You can find Dr. Bill Doherty and search for a local discernment counselor at discernmentcounselors.com. Please hit the 5 stars in your podcast app, we need the external validation, but more importantly, it helps our podcast show up in searches so we can help those who are struggling through the divorce process. Remember, you got this and we got you. Slide into our dms, we love hearing from you! @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Divorce and prenuptial agreements go together like champagne and charcuterie. The prenup queen Katie Post joins us. Katie is a family law attorney, like Morgan, and an expert on prenup agreements. Prenups can play a huge role in divorce settlements. But they are often a total mystery so we decided to break it all down for you. Katie answers: What are the three things EVERYONE needs to know about their prenuptial agreement? Should I get a prenup? Do I qualify for a prenup? Is it true only wealthy people get prenups? Does getting a prenup make me a gold digger? What does a prenup cover? Can a prenup impact my business? What is maintenance? How can I get a prenup thrown out? We'll also discuss the one huge mistake you should not make when writing up your prenup, divorce and prenup law in Illinois and other states, and the type of attorney you should use to draw up a prenup. Also, Andrea will share some wild prenup stories. Be sure to stay until the end for a really sweet story that will make your day. You can find the Prenup Queen, Katie Post, here: [email protected] You can also contact Katie at 312-621-9700 As always, we love hearing from you! Slide into our dms with questions, comments, grievances or love here: Morgan on IG @divorceattorneychicago Andrea on IG @theandrearappaport And don't forget to follow our show's new IG for more tips and divorce humor: @hownottosuckatdivorce You got this and we got you xoxo Please tag us on social, and send us your fave photos of Kanye West!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today we're talking about divorce when alcohol addiction is involved, with Soberlink's Chris Beck. Alcohol addiction is on the rise and it can exacerbate the already difficult process of divorce. We know how delicate and important this issue is so we want to remove the stigma and speak openly about how it impacts both parties and how to make navigating divorce with alcohol addiction a little easier. We talk about a device called Soberlink that Morgan has been using for several years in her family law practice. Soberlink combines a breathalyzer with facial recognition software and wireless connectivity to produce a confirmation report of sobriety that can be sent to anyone who is a part of the monitoring agreement (lawyers, coparent, rehab facilities, etc). This reduces conflict and gives the coparent assurance that their child is being cared for by a sober parent. It also gives the parent with the alcohol addition the opportunity to be in their child's life. It's truly a wonderful device for all involved. We loved our conversation with Chris because it's so clear how much he cares about keeping families together during divorce when one person struggles with alcohol addiction. Keeping families together during and after divorce is our mission as well so his words really resonated with us. Plus Chris made us laugh, and he made Andrea cry so it's very well-rounded just as we like it. Thank you, Chris! Tap here to go to soberlink.com to learn more about their tech, programs and examples of family law orders. You can also check out soberlink on: Twitter @soberlink Facebook @soberlink We'd love to hear from you! Are you divorcing someone with an alcohol addiction? Do you have an alcohol addiction and you're worried how it will play out? Have you used Soberlink? @hownottosuckatdivorce @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago Remember, you got this and we got you.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Listener fave Dr. Randy Heller is back with us today to discuss one of the most common questions we get: Is it my marriage that's making me miserable? Dr. Heller shares what people should do if they're feeling depressed, stressed and overwhelmed and an easy exercise to do to determine if it's the marriage that is the root of the problem. We also talk about how to start to feel better, regardless of the decision we make in our marriage. You can find Dr. Randy Heller here: [email protected] 646-717-6718 mycollaborativeteam.com No matter what you decide, you got this and we got you. We love hearing from you so don't be shy. Slide into our dms: @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicago Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

We're back with Season 3! We thought we'd kick off the best season yet by starting at the beginning of the end . . . when you know it's over. We welcome guest and retired husband Mike Draper to the show as he shares his story of when he knew it was over and what life after divorce is really like for a single dad. Check out Magic Mike, I'm sorry, I mean Mortgage Mike on IG @mortgage_mike As always we're keeping it real and keeping the levity because this process is tough enough. But you are never alone. You got this and we got you. We MISSED you and love when you slide into our dms so reach out! @theandrearappaport @divorceattorneychicagoMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Season 3 drops next week! And it's so good. To get everyone back in the divorce game, we've decided to drop some of our most popular episodes from Season 1. (cue time travel music) Today we're talking about the parenting agreement. You won't want to miss this one. This is one of the toughest parts of divorce and Andrea gets really real and almost didn't want to record this episode. Anna helps make sense of this agreement and how to get through it in one piece. We'll talk about: What is a parenting agreement? What should I include in the parenting agreement? Should we get a mediator? Holidays during and after divorce Visitation during and after divorce Who pays for the kids' things when you get divorced Cohabitating during divorce We make it easy to understand. Be sure to stay until the end for our favorite segment: Wild divorce stories that are a lesson in what NOT to do. Hopefully we'll make you laugh and feel less alone. Remember, you got this and we got you. See you next week for an epic Season 3! Be sure to catch our little sneak peaks on IG: @divorceattorneychicago @theandrearappaport Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Season 3 drops in a few short weeks! To get everyone back in the divorce game, we've decided to drop some of our most popular episodes from Season 1. (cue time travel music) Today, we're talking about how to find a divorce lawyer. Andrea shares how it all went down when they decided to file and what it was like to find an attorney. It's overwhelming and emotional but we can help and make it less scary. What we talk about in this episode: How to find a divorce attorney What questions to ask a divorce attorney or a divorce lawyer Where do you find a divorce lawyer or attorney Should you google "tough divorce lawyer" How do you vet a divorce lawyer or divorce attorney What steps do you need to take if you don't have a financial advisor How much do divorce lawyers charge and what's included What is a divorce mediator This is a lot but we promise you, we make it easy to digest and we'll make you laugh. Be sure to stay until the end for our favorite segment - wild divorce stories that are a hilarious lesson on what NOT to do. Be sure to hit follow so you don't miss Season 3!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

We are ending season 2 with the beloved Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and continuing our discussion of high conflict divorces. Bill teaches us a simple tool that has the power to not only change the whole vibe of your high conflict divorce and how you deal with conflict with literally anyone....but we think it could heal the whole damn world. We are hard at work planning Season 3 and it's going to be a big one! Stay tuned, we'll be back soon. In the meantime, please slide into our dms and let us know what topics you'd like us to highlight in S3: @theandrearappaport Morgan's IG was hacked (she didn't leave law to sell "cloths") so send her an email here: [email protected] You can learn more about Bill Eddy and his work on high conflict divorce at www.highconflictinstitute.com and www.conflictplaybook.com where you'll find a parenting class and other resources for parents who are going through divorce. You can buy Bill's book "Calming Upset People with EAR" here: www.amazon.comMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today on How Not To Suck At Divorce, Morgan is recording from a beach, Andrea is learning kung foo, it's a typical day over here. We are so excited to have the legendary Bill Eddy on the show. Bill is a lawyer, therapist, mediator, keynote speaker and the author of over 16 books on divorce. Not only does he specialize in high-conflict divorces that involve people with personality disorders like narcissistic, borderline, anti-social, and histrionic, he has also trained over 500,000 professionals on managing high conflict disputes. Morgan is fan-girling big time. Today we're going to dive deep into high conflict divorce with the master himself and learn how to use Bill's BIFF technique if you're going through one of these messy divorces. Order Bill's books on Amazon here and here or at your favorite independent bookstore. His latest book has been #1 in the divorce category the last 18 months. It's a must-read-now. Connect with Bill at www.highconflictinstitute.com If you'd like to see a reel of Andrea doing her kung foo moves please flood her dms: @theandrearappaport Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today we're back with Dr. Meaghan Boston Daly to discuss if divorce can kill you. We'll talk about the impact of long term and short term stress when going through a divorce and what sex, drugs and tacos have to do with it. If this sounds heavy, don't worry, we know how to bring the levity. Be sure to stay until the end because we have roped Dr. Meg into playing the game you all love (we hope), Decline to Comment. Bonus...Morgan shares what your lawyers talk about when they go out for drinks together ;) You can find Dr. Daly here: www.harper-health.com And you can slide into our dms here: @divorceattorneychicago @theandrearappaportMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Andrea is in pain and Morgan got pooped on by an iguana in a palm tree. It's been quite an exciting week. But today all is right with the world because we're here with Dr. Meaghan Boston Daly to talk about divorce and physical wellness. Dr. Meg is a concierge internal medicine doctor in Chicago and has quite the resume. We're so excited to be able to pick her beautiful brain. We'll discuss how being in an unhappy marriage really wears us down. Dr. Meg will tell us all about the subtle physical symptoms of emotional stress, Morgan will answer if your spouse can find out if you're on medication for your mental health during the divorce process, and Andrea will share about the connection between her body pain and being in a toxic marriage. By the way, we're scouting closets across the world. If you have a closet we can record our podcast in AND you live in a climate with predictably warm weather patterns, please invite us to your home. We've had it up to here with Chicago "spring". We love you Wyoming, thanks for telling your friends! Where to find Dr. Meg: www.harper-health.com Friends, slide into our dms, we love love love hearing from you. We are always here to listen and help in any way we can. You've got this and we've got you. @divorceattorneychicago @theandrearappaport Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today, a dear listener is sharing her divorce story with us. Welcome to the show, Zoe! Zoe talks about how she stayed in her deteriorating marriage for 6 years. She recalls the control her ex had over her, how finances and religion played a role in her staying, and the moment she knew it was finally over. Morgan shares some great tips if you're overwhelmed by all the paperwork and Andrea talks about finding the humor in a family therapy session over zoom with her ex-husband. We know divorce is hard and draining, and that’s exactly why we are here. We are a part of your community now, and we got you. DM us your stories and questions, we are here to help you. @divorceattorneychicago @theandrearappaport Check out our shiny new website and let us know what you think! https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.comMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This week on How Not To Suck At Divorce, we're having wine at 2:00. We're also listening to you, the best audience ever. Many of you have asked us to break down the steps to get a divorce so today we are diving in. Listen in to find out about the 10 main steps needed to get divorced. We will answer: How many lawyers should you meet with before deciding to move forward with one? What information do you need for the financial affidavit? Who should you consult when filling out the parenting agreement? What's it like that final day in court when your divorce is finalized? Plus, Andrea shares her own story of getting divorced over zoom during the pandemic with her kids e-learning in the next room. Spoiler...it was bizarre. We LOVE hearing from you so please dm us with your questions, stories or if you just need to be seen and heard. Morgan on Instagram Andrea on Instagram You can also reach us on hownottosuckatdivorce.com You got this, and we got you.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Out of all the podcasts in all the world, we’re in the top 5%! What?! How did this happen?! Thank you so much to all of our listeners, especially the 6 of you in Wyoming. Today's episode is like divorce meets CSI as we welcome Tracy Coenen. You may have seen her on CNBC On the Money, CBS, NBC, and in the Wall Street Journal. Tracy is a certified public accountant, certified in financial forensics, a master analyst and fraud investigator. If you're wondering what all this means, Tracy finds money. Money that has disappeared that you want back. Tracy breaks down: -When is hiring a fraud investigator or forensics accountant necessary? -Common red flags like when a spouse is having an affair. -How to trust your gut during your divorce. -What to do if your spouse is telling you “we have no money”. -If you should be concerned about the spouse who is quiet about finances or has changed passwords. -If you should you confront your spouse about missing money or being suddenly locked out of accounts. -What is a lifestyle analysis? -Would Tracy rather wave a red flaeg or a white flaeg? You will also hear Tracy's story about the infamous Instagram investigation. This is a don't-miss episode for sure. Tracy knows not everyone can afford to hire a private forensic accountant or investigator so she has developed a tool people can use to do it themselves. Be sure to sign up to be notified when Tracy’s tool launches at sequenceinc.com You can also connect with Tracy on LinkedIn Slide into our dms and tell us what you thought of today's episode! Have you found red flags with your finances? @theandrearappapport @divorceattorneychicago Hownottosuckatdivorce.com I know anything having to do with finances during a divorce is scary, but remember, you got this and we got you.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today we’re doing something a little different; we’re answering listener questions. And they are good. This podcast is for you and so we love when you dm us your questions and stories. Thank you for being vulnerable with us. Just a few of the questions we answer are: How do you support a friend who is going through a divorce when you’re happily married? What’s the best way to organize your documents for divorce? How do you answer the dreaded question from acquaintances “how are you”? We’ll also hear one more way Andrea sucked at her divorce. Learn from her mistake-this is a don’t miss episode. Wyoming, are you out there? Slide into our dms! @divorceattorneychicago @theandrearappaportMentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

We are back with part two with the fabulous Dr. Randy Heller. If you missed part one, you'll definitely want to listen to last week's episode first. Today we're talking about how to co-parent effectively and why co-parenting should be viewed as a business relationship. Dr. Heller answers: How is a family therapist different than a regular therapist? How can we co-parent effectively? How can we protect kids during a divorce? Will kids be ok if we get divorced? How can I get my spouse or ex to agree to family therapy? What if my spouse or ex is a narcissist or has bipolar disorder? How to find a family therapist in your area. The best ways to manage the business of co-parenting. We love hearing from you so slip into our dms! Andrea Rappaport Morgan L. Stogsdill Where you can find Dr. Randy Heller: familynetworkflorida.com familynetworknewyork.com 646-717-6718 (NY) 954-236-4490 (FL and CT)Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This week we are excited to welcome Dr. Randy Heller to the show. Dr. Heller is a licensed mental health therapist, collaborative divorce therapist and a mediator. A true unicorn. Today we're discussing the three conversations Dr. Heller recommends people have before filing for a divorce. We'll also be addressing the biggest concern parents have, "will the kids be ok?" We love hearing from you so feel free to slide into our dms @theandrearappaport and @divorceattorneychicago Where you can find Dr. Randy Heller: familynetworkflorida.com familynetworknewyork.com 646-717-6718 (NY) 954-236-4490 (FL and CT)Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Thank you for 10k downloads (11.8k to be exact)! Your support means the world to us. Today Morgan and Andrea are stuck in a snowstorm talking to wealth advisor Franco La Marca. Earlier this week Andrea posted on Instagram about financial abuse in a marriage and throughout the divorce process. So many people reached out sharing similar stories and many women said they didn't realize what they were experiencing was actually financial abuse. So they decided to have the financial expert himself, Franco La Marca, join in on the conversation and share 3 essential things everyone should be doing to protect their finances. We would love to hear from you after today's episode. Please feel free to message Morgan @divorceattorneychicago and Andrea @theandrearappaport. You can find Franco La Marca at: www.bernstein.com [email protected] in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Warning: Our favorite F bomb is dropped at 8:52 (thanks Rob!) Just in time for Valentine's Day, Andrea and Morgan are talking love! The love you had, the love for your kids, the excitement of future love and the love for dress shirt on top/pjs on bottom. We are so excited to welcome our special guest Rob Roseman from the popular podcast WTF Divorce. Rob gets really real with us as he talks about his own divorce. Rob hasn't spoken publicly about his experience and we're so honored he chose to share his story with us. Morgan, Andrea and Rob discuss how you decide if you should stick it out for the kids, how checking your ego at the door can help you have an amicable divorce where the kids thrive and the truth about what dating is like in the aftermath. Where to find Rob: WTF Divorce podcast Insta: @wtfdivorce https://www.wtfdivorce.com/ Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

From the floor of Morgan's son's closet, Andrea and Morgan toast Andrea's grandma, talk olive martinis, and how not to suck at divorce. This week they're discussing the importance of taking your time when you're going through the divorce process so you're not reacting from an amped up mental space. You are going to hit a point where you just want to wrap it up because you're exhausted, but there are parts of a divorce that are irreversible and you don't want to make mistakes. So take a breath. Don't forget the SUCK acronym: Set aside an hour before you respond. Don't react. Utilize help. You don't have to go this alone. Lean on your lawyer, your therapist, your friend. Calm yourself. You will make the best strategic decisions when you are level-headed. Knowledge, get it. Don't be afraid to ask your lawyer if there is something you don't understand. Ok friends, tell us what you want to know about Morgan and Andrea and maybe we'll include it in "Decline to Comment" on a future episode! Email your questions to [email protected] Remember, you got this and we got you. And Morgan has Enrique Iglesias. Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

We're so excited to be back for Season 2! Today we have a very special guest, Michelle Dempsey-Multack, author of Moms Moving On, divorced mom, certified divorce specialist and coach and podcast host. If you're not yet following Michelle on Instagram, you'll definitely want to check her out @themichelledempsey Join the Moms Moving On community for free here. When you preorder Michelle's book, you'll receive access to a live summit with Michelle and other divorce experts. Be sure to stay until the end for our fun new segment "Decline to Comment". As always, our dms are open. You got this and we got you (unless you need someone to pump your gas, then you're on your own). Morgan Andrea Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Join us for our 1st annual holiday party and season 1 finale! From the floor of Morgan's son's closet. We play divorce "would you rather", discuss family dynamics, covid hangovers, and regular hangovers and Andrea sings. Make sure you're subscribed because season 2 drops in January!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This week we're talking about how not to annoy your attorney. We're kidding! Kind of. You want to make the most of your time with your legal counsel because, as we're sure you've guessed by now, divorce is a bit pricey. We discuss divorce concierge service, texting your attorney, the importance of a strategy call, why your attorney has junior associates helping on your case and how to best communicate with your legal team. We will also get very real about how much a typical retainer fee will run you, and the broad range of hourly rates. Stay tuned because our holiday party is coming up. Will Cardi B be there? We'll see. Be sure to subscribe, rate and review!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

On today's episode we're talking about the documents you need for divorce, why they're important to get right and all the feelings you may be feeling as you work through them. We'll walk you through each document so you don't feel overwhelmed. Andrea opens up about her own experience getting divorced during the pandemic and Morgan gets real about how long the whole process can take. As we mention in today's episode, please feel free to DM us on Instagram (unless your name is Chad). We're here to help and support you! @divorceattorneychicago and @theandrearappaport Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today we're talking about how to prevent things from spiraling out of control. We'll discuss high conflict divorce and the steps to take to maintain your sanity and your safety. Morgan and Andrea will walk you through how to communicate and through which methods, what BIFF means, if a judge can read your emails, how to respond when the other person gets nasty and the hilarious/immature Seth Rogen gifs NOT to send to your soon-to-be ex.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

This week we’re talking about maintenance (aka alimony). Spoiler alert - high maintenance is a good thing here. This is a topic everyone wants to know about but is afraid to ask so we're breaking it all down. We'll answer your burning questions: How is alimony (or maintenance) different than child support? Who gets maintenance? How do you qualify for maintenance? How easy it is to qualify for maintenance? How much alimony will I get? We'll also discuss the top factors a judge will consider when determining if you’ll get maintenance and how mediation can help both parties get creative to meet the needs of the family. If you're enjoying our podcast, we would love it if you rated and reviewed.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today we're talking about how to cope with stress while you're going through a divorce. Going through this process is a marathon, not a sprint, and we're here to coach you through it. We'll discuss the importance of optimal cognitive function, and if watching Japanese bug fighting on youtube will help you feel better. Spoiler alert: It will. Maybe.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today we're talking all about the notorious financial affidavit. This is a really important document you'll want to be prepared for so this is an episode you do not want to miss. We'll discuss spending shame, being judged by the judge (does she/he care about your monthly root touchup?), do you need to hire someone to help figure out your finances, how to fill out the financial affidavit, do you include your dog's masseuse as well as our favorite crazy divorce stories. It's a daunting document but we're here to help you not suck at it. Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

On today’s episode, we’re talking about the different types of divorce. Who knew there was more than one?! We’ll discuss collaborative divorce, mediation and litigation and how they differ, pros and cons of each and which may be the right fit for you. If you’re wondering how to get a divorce, should I file for divorce, how can I suck less at divorce and if you should saw your house in half like one couple did, this is the podcast for you.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today we're talking about the parenting agreement. You won't want to miss this one. This is one of the toughest parts of divorce and Andrea gets really real and almost didn't want to record this episode. Anna helps make sense of this agreement and how to get through it in one piece. We'll talk about: What is a parenting agreement? What should I include in the parenting agreement? Should we get a mediator? Holidays during and after divorce Visitation during and after divorce Who pays for the kids' things when you get divorced Cohabitating during divorce We make it easy to understand. Be sure to stay until the end for our favorite segment: Wild divorce stories that are a lesson in what NOT to do. Hopefully we'll make you laugh and feel less alone.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

On today's episode we're talking about moving out. This part of the process isn't easy but we're here to help you through it. We discuss how to handle this moment with children, if you should hire a divorce coach, therapist or mediator and the difference between the three and the role the attorney plays. We also talk about the differences between low conflict and high conflict divorces when it comes to this decision. People typically don't talk about all the nuances that go into moving out of the shared home. That's why we're here. We would love it if you followed, rated and reviewed our show on Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

Today, we're talking about how to find a divorce lawyer. Andrea shares how it all went down when they decided to file and what it was like to find an attorney. It's overwhelming and emotional but we can help and make it less scary. What we talk about in this episode: How to find a divorce attorney What questions to ask a divorce attorney or a divorce lawyer Where do you find a divorce lawyer or attorney Should you google "tough divorce lawyer" How do you vet a divorce lawyer or divorce attorney What steps do you need to take if you don't have a financial advisor How much do divorce lawyers charge and what's included What is a divorce mediator This is a lot but we promise you, we make it easy to digest and we'll make you laugh. Be sure to stay until the end for our favorite segment - wild divorce stories that are a hilarious lesson on what NOT to do.Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles

In today's episode, Morgan and Andrea talk about how they got here. Here being the place where they decided to launch a podcast about divorce and all the good, bad, ugly, and hilarious things you need to know so you don't suck at yours. Help us help others going through the divorce process by following, rating, and reviewing our show!Mentioned in this episode:Natural Cycles When your body feels unpredictable, your decisions shouldn’t have to be. Get insight and clarity with NC° Perimenopause. Visit Naturalcycles.app/divorce to learn more and save on a subscription and wearable.Natural Cycles