73. Enforcing Boundaries with a "Narcissist"
How Not To Suck At Divorce · Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport
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Show Notes
Can you have boundaries with your narcissitic ex??? The million dollar question, right??
The answer is that boudaries live within YOU. You don't need someone else's cooperation or approval- you just need to enforce the boundaries you set (which is the hard part)
So today we are chatting with Katherine McNichol, a Ontario based therapist who's here to teach us about setting and enforcing boundaries. You might know Katherine from her hilarious IG account (http://www.instagram.com/katherinemcnichol.com) ! If you haven't checked out her account yet- GO! Her memes are so damn funny.
So what's the process for setting boundaries with a narc??
1) Set the boundary by telling them "This conversation is to discuss _______________"
2) When they attempt to change the subject (even if it's by throwing a jab at your expense) you can say, "I hear the you want to discuss ________________ and we can do that at another time, but right now we are talking about ___________.
3) Set the boundary. "This conversation is to talk about ______________. If you keep bringing up ___________,I'm going to need to end this conversation."
4) When that boundary that you just set is crossed- END THE CONVERSATION.
The boundary does not exisit unless you enforce it.
If you're interested with working with Katherine, please visit: http://www.kiruwellness.com and remember to check out her IG page for daily tips!!
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