Her Best Self ~ Eating Disorder Recovery, Anorexia, Bulimia & Food Freedom

If you've been fighting eating disorder recovery for 10, 20, or even 40+ years, this episode is specifically for you. You've probably been to therapy, worked with dietitians, read all the books, and know more about nutrition than most professionals - but you're still struggling. Why? In this deeply personal episode, I'm sharing real stories from women who've been in this battle for decades and revealing the missing piece that most traditional treatment approaches overlook. Plus, I'm introducing something I've been dreaming about for months that goes beyond individual therapy to address what your recovery journey might actually need. If you've ever thought "I should be over this by now" or "I can't keep doing this alone," this episode will remind you that you're not broken - you just might need a different approach. What You'll Learn: Why traditional therapy alone often isn't enough for lasting recovery Real testimonials from women who've fought this battle for 20-40+ years The missing component that research shows predicts recovery success Why your recovery journey needs both professional support AND peer community What to do when you feel stuck despite having all the "right" tools A new approach that addresses the isolation eating disorders create This Episode is For You If: You've been struggling with disordered eating for 10+ years You've done therapy but still feel stuck in patterns You feel like you "should be better by now" You're tired of fighting this battle alone You want to try a community-based approach to recovery You're ready to go beyond traditional treatment methods You feel isolated in your recovery journey Key Quotes from This Episode: "You probably know more about nutrition than most dietitians. The missing piece isn't more information - it's support and community." "Isolation is eating disorder fuel, and support and community is recovery fuel." "Research shows us that peer support - connecting with others who truly understand your experience - is one of the most powerful predictors of lasting recovery." "You were never meant to do recovery alone." Client Stories Featured: The mom who's been fighting anorexia for years and wants to model recovery for her daughter The woman who's been in "remission" before but found herself back in the "mental prison" The client who said "I cannot do this alone" and rated her urgency for change as 10/10 What's Announced in This Episode: The Recovery Collective - A bi-weekly virtual support group for women in eating disorder recovery What it includes: Bi-weekly 60-minute Zoom calls with 10-15 women maximum Safe space to share wins, challenges, and real recovery life Professional guidance combined with peer support Optional check-in prompts and private community chat For women at ANY stage of recovery Founding Member Special: Only 10 founding member spots available Special pricing: $47/month for first 6 months (less than $1.50/day) Regular pricing: $97/month after founding period First session: Early October 2025 Help shape the community from the beginning Why This Goes Beyond Therapy: Therapy focuses on individual healing - community provides ongoing support Therapy happens weekly - community offers real-time encouragement Therapy addresses past trauma - community helps navigate daily recovery Therapy is professional support - community offers peer understanding Therapy has an end date - community provides long-term connection Note: The Recovery Collective is designed to complement, not replace, professional treatment. Take Action: Ready to find your recovery family? Apply to become a founding member of The Recovery Collective at www.herbestself.co/recoverycollective The process just takes a few minutes and could be the step that changes everything for your recovery journey. Connect with Lindsey Website: www.herbestself.co Private Facebook Community: Her Best Self Society www.herbestselfsociety.com 1:1 Client Applications: HBS Co. Recovery Coaching - Client Application - Google Forms About the Host Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She understands how core beliefs formed in childhood can create and maintain eating disorder patterns, and she's passionate about helping women identify and transform these beliefs to find lasting freedom. If this episode helped you feel hopeful again and remember your worth isn't found in your body or on your plate, please share it with someone who needs to hear this message. Your support helps more women break the chains of limiting beliefs. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

If you've been struggling with feeling like you're not good enough, constantly falling short, or carrying the weight of perfectionism on your shoulders, this episode is your gentle reminder that you are already enough. Host Lindsey Nichol shares a heartfelt message about breaking free from the shame cycle that keeps us trapped in eating disorder patterns and perfectionist thinking. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why the "never enough" feeling is a common trap in eating disorder recovery How to identify where your perfectionist beliefs originated The difference between feelings and facts when it comes to self-worth Why getting thinner will never make you feel "enough" Practical steps to challenge your "not enough" beliefs How to find evidence of your inherent worth Key Takeaways: ✨ You don't need to weigh yourself to determine your worth ✨ Feelings aren't facts - the fact is you are enough ✨ You can't hate yourself into a version you'll love ✨ Stop trying to be enough - you already are Action Steps: Dig into the why: When did you first start feeling "not enough"? Label the evidence: What data proves you ARE enough? Define enough: What would "enough" actually look like in your life? Challenge the belief: Is perfectionism actually helping you? Connect with Lindsey Website: www.herbestself.co Private Facebook Community: Her Best Self Society www.herbestselfsociety.com Client Applications: HBS Co. Recovery Coaching - Client Application - Google Forms About the Host Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She understands how core beliefs formed in childhood can create and maintain eating disorder patterns, and she's passionate about helping women identify and transform these beliefs to find lasting freedom. If this episode helped you feel hopeful again and remember your worth isn't found in your body or on your plate, please share it with someone who needs to hear this message. Your support helps more women break the chains of limiting beliefs. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

In this powerful episode, Lindsey gets vulnerable about the connection between trauma and eating disorders, sharing why sometimes it's okay to look at our past to catapult us into our future. If you've experienced trauma and are wondering how it connects to your eating disorder, this episode will provide hope, healing insights, and practical steps forward. Discover the 6 essential things to remember about your past that can transform your recovery journey and help you move from survival to thriving. Note: This episode addresses sensitive topics around trauma. Lindsey emphasizes that as a recovery coach, she focuses on the here and now of recovery, while encouraging professional therapy support for trauma processing. Key Topics Covered: 💔 The trauma-eating disorder connection: Why 81% of people with eating disorders have experienced trauma 🧠 Understanding trauma types: Acute vs. chronic trauma and how it relates to ED development 🛡️ Eating disorders as coping mechanisms: How restriction becomes a false sense of control 🌅 6 powerful reminders about your past that can transform your recovery journey 🕊️ The role of forgiveness in healing and moving forward 💪 Why your deepest pain can become your greatest triumph Shocking Statistics Revealed: 📊 25% of those with eating disorders also meet criteria for PTSD 📊 81% of people with eating disorders had at least one traumatic experience 📊 68% experienced trauma before any eating disorder symptoms appeared These numbers show you're not alone and that the connection between trauma and eating disorders is real and valid. Common Traumas Associated with Eating Disorders: ⚡ Childhood abuse (physical, emotional, sexual) ⚡ Bullying or social ostracism ⚡ Body shaming and weight stigma ⚡ Loss and grief experiences ⚡ Accidents or medical trauma ⚡ Intergenerational or cultural traumatic events Remember: Trauma is subjective - what's traumatic for one person may not be for another, and that's completely valid. 6 Things to Remember About Your Past: 1. Your Past Doesn't Exist Anymore Healing isn't linear - good and bad days are normal Some days it may feel real, but it's no longer your current reality Progress includes setbacks, and that's part of the process 2. Your Past Doesn't Define You Your experiences shape you but don't determine your worth You hold the power to grow, evolve, and change Only you have the key to become who you want to be 3. Your Past Can Only Serve as a Teacher All emotions about your past are valid There's no "right way" to feel about past experiences What matters is what you do next with that knowledge 4. Your Past Doesn't Have to Block Your Future Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness You can reinvent and recreate yourself No matter how many times you've tried recovery, you can start again 5. Holding On May Lead to Reliving Your wound is not your fault, but your healing is your responsibility Memories can be imperfect, especially trauma memories Holding on keeps you stuck in the struggle 6. Your Past Self Deserves Love and Forgiveness You did the best you could at the time Don't judge your past self with current wisdom You're not damaged or broken - you're worthy of healing Key Insights About Trauma and Eating Disorders: 🔍 Eating disorders as control: When the world feels chaotic, restricting food can feel like the one thing you can control 🔍 Numbing mechanism: ED behaviors often serve to numb overwhelming emotions from traumatic experiences 🔍 False sense of safety: The eating disorder creates an illusion of control and perfection 🔍 Survival strategy: You turned to these behaviors because you needed to survive in that moment Powerful Quotes from This Episode: 💭 "The deepest, hardest, darkest pain you've been through is most often what's going to catapult you into your highest, best, and truest version of yourself." 💭 "Your wound is not your fault, but your healing is most certainly your responsibility." 💭 "You do not need to judge your past self with your current wisdom." 💭 "You now know better, so you can now do better." 💭 "You aren't damaged. You're not broken. Nothing needs to be fixed, including your body." Important Reminders: ✨ Trauma-informed care is crucial for eating disorder recovery ✨ Professional therapy support is essential for processing trauma ✨ Recovery coaching focuses on the here and now, not digging up past trauma ✨ Forgiveness is part of the healing equation ✨ You're worthy of a life free from pain, regardless of your past Questions for Self-Reflection: 🤔 What am I holding onto and why? 🤔 What can be released from my past? 🤔 What needs to be forgiven? 🤔 How can my past serve as a teacher rather than a prison? 🤔 What version of myself am I ready to let go of? Ready for Support? Work with Lindsey: If you're ready for accountability, support, and freedom from your eating disorder, and you're done playing small, Lindsey would love to connect with you. Next Steps: Visit www.herbestself.co to fill out a client

Are you experiencing intense hunger in recovery and wondering if something is wrong? Feeling like you can't get full no matter how much you eat? In this essential episode, Lindsey breaks down everything you need to know about extreme hunger in eating disorder recovery - why it happens, what it looks like, and most importantly, that it's completely normal and necessary for healing. Whether you're early in recovery or experiencing hunger waves after years of healing, this episode will help you understand your body's wisdom and navigate this phase with self-compassion instead of fear. Today's Truth: Extreme hunger is your body's way of healing and honoring it is one of the bravest things you can do in recovery. Key Topics Covered: 🍽️ What extreme hunger actually is - The different types and what they feel like in your body 🧠 Why extreme hunger happens - The science behind your body's need for extra nourishment ⏰ When it can occur - Early recovery, years later, or anytime your body needs healing 🚫 Myth-busting - Why extreme hunger isn't binge eating and doesn't mean you'll "blow up" 💪 Practical coping strategies - How to navigate extreme hunger with confidence and self-compassion 🤝 Dealing with others - How to handle comments from people who don't understand recovery Types of Extreme Hunger Explained: 🔹 Mechanical Hunger: Physical growling, gnawing sensations, feeling like a bottomless pit 🔹 Mental Hunger: Obsessive food thoughts, inability to concentrate on anything but eating 🔹 Reactive Eating: Eating large amounts quickly, especially previously restricted foods 🔹 Primal Hunger: Desperate, urgent need to eat that feels impossible to ignore What this might look like: Eating a full meal and feeling hungry immediately after Waking up hungry in the middle of the night Needing snacks every hour Intense cravings for calorie-dense foods Remember: All of this is your body's wisdom in action. Why Extreme Hunger Happens: ✅ Metabolic restoration - Your metabolism needs extra energy to speed back up to normal levels ✅ Physical repair - Your body is repairing damage to organs, bones, hair, skin, and tissues ✅ Replenishing stores - Restoring depleted fat stores, glycogen, and energy reserves ✅ Trust building - Your body needs to learn that food will be consistently available Key insight: Extreme hunger can happen at ANY stage of recovery - sometimes years later when your body feels safe enough to ask for what it really needs. Myths About Extreme Hunger (DEBUNKED): ❌ Myth: "Everyone experiences extreme hunger in recovery" ✅ Truth: Not everyone does, and that's okay - every body is different ❌ Myth: "Extreme hunger is bad or means something is wrong" ✅ Truth: It's your body's intelligence and healing in action ❌ Myth: "Extreme hunger means you're binge eating" ✅ Truth: This is biological necessity, not psychological binge eating ❌ Myth: "If you honor it, you'll gain too much weight" ✅ Truth: Your body will settle at its natural weight when fully nourished Practical Coping Strategies: 🌟 Honor Your Hunger - Eat when hungry, as much as you're hungry for, whatever you're craving 🌟 Challenge ED Voice - Replace "This is too much" with "My body is healing" 🌟 Don't Compensate - No extra exercise, meal skipping, or restricting the next day 🌟 Include All Foods - Your body often craves calorie-dense foods for important reasons 🌟 Practice Self-Compassion - Remember your "why" and thank your body for its wisdom 🌟 Handle Outside Comments - You don't owe explanations for nourishing your body 🌟 Remember It's Temporary - Extreme hunger normalizes as your body heals and trusts Signs Hunger Is Normalizing: ✨ Hunger cues become more predictable ✨ You can go longer between meals comfortably ✨ Food thoughts become less obsessive ✨ You naturally desire a variety of foods ✨ Physical hunger matches mental satisfaction Key Takeaways: 💝 Your hunger is not your enemy - It's your body's wisdom guiding your healing 💝 This is normal and necessary - Extreme hunger is part of recovery, not a sign of failure 💝 Trust your body - It knows exactly what it needs to heal, even when it feels scary 💝 You're not binge eating - This is biological necessity driven by your body's needs 💝 It's temporary - Hunger will normalize as your body heals and learns to trust 💝 You don't need to justify nourishing yourself - To anyone, ever For Those Supporting Someone in Recovery: What NOT to say: "Are you sure you're still hungry?" "That seems like a lot of food" "You just ate an hour ago" What TO say: "I'm proud of you for nourishing your body" "Your body knows what it needs" "I'm here to support you" Ready for Community Support? Join The Recovery Collective! Finally, a recovery community that normalizes experiences like extreme hunger. If this episode resonated with you, you're exactly who The Recovery Collective was created for. This is where women in all phases of eating disorder recovery come together every other week to normalize confusing experiences

Have you ever felt completely alone in your eating disorder recovery? Like you're the only one dealing with food thoughts, body image struggles, and the exhaustion of pretending you're "fine"? In this vulnerable episode, Lindsey shares her personal story of trying to recover mostly in isolation and why she's now passionate about creating healing communities for women. Discover the research-backed reasons why community isn't just nice to have in recovery—it's essential. Plus, learn about The Recovery Collective, a new support group launching in October 2025 specifically for women in eating disorder recovery. Today's Truth: You were never meant to heal alone, and community isn't just nice to have in recovery - it's essential. Key Topics Covered: 🤝 Lindsey's personal story: What it felt like to recover mostly alone with limited community support 🧠 The science behind community healing: Research-backed evidence of why support groups transform recovery 💔 The isolation trap: How eating disorders thrive in secrecy and why healing alone is harder than it needs to be ✨ What community provides: Normalization, accountability, shared wisdom, and hope 🌟 The Recovery Collective: A new support group launching October 2024 for women in all phases of recovery Research Highlights: 📊 Support groups reduce symptoms: Studies show support groups helped reduce post-meal distress in young people with anorexia and can prevent disordered eating 📊 Connection drives recovery: Research confirms that eating disorder recovery is largely influenced by the individual's sense of connection to self and others 📊 Isolation increases struggle: When socially isolated, you lack the support and connection that can help protect against negative self-perception and low self-esteem 📊 Community decreases stigma: Eating disorder support groups offer safe spaces that decrease isolation and stigma while increasing engagement and motivation 📊 29 million affected: Nearly 30 million Americans will experience an eating disorder at some point during their lifetime What Community Provides in Recovery: 💬 Language for your experience - Finally having words for what you're going through instead of feeling "crazy" 🔍 Perspective and reality checks - Others who can distinguish between your eating disorder voice and your true self 💕 Accountability that feels like love - Gentle support that comes from care, not judgment 🌈 Proof that recovery is possible - Seeing women further along in recovery living free, vibrant lives 🛡️ Protection against isolation - Regular connection that prevents the dangerous spiral of being alone with ED thoughts 🎯 Practical wisdom - Real-life strategies from women who've faced similar challenges Key Takeaways: ✨ You don't have to heal alone - Recovery was never meant to be a solo journey ✨ Community isn't replacement for therapy - It's the ongoing support that helps you live your recovery, not just survive it ✨ The right kind of community matters - Led by someone with lived experience who understands both clinical and personal aspects ✨ Consistency is crucial - Regular, ongoing support rather than crisis-only intervention ✨ Isolation fuels eating disorders - Breaking the cycle of secrecy and shame is essential for healing Introducing The Recovery Collective (Launching October 2025!) Finally, a recovery community that truly gets it. The Recovery Collective is where women in all phases of eating disorder recovery come together every other week to lock arms, share real struggles, and heal together in a safe, supportive environment. What You Get: Bi-weekly 60-minute group coaching calls via Zoom Intimate community of 10-15 women maximum Real, honest conversations that create actual change Support for navigating triggers, celebrating wins, and handling difficult days Led by someone who's walked this path and understands the lived experience Ongoing support to help you live your recovery, not just survive it What Makes This Different: Led by someone with personal eating disorder recovery experience Focus on practical, real-life recovery challenges Community of women who truly understand the struggle Consistent, ongoing support (not just crisis intervention) Safe space free from judgment or competition Special Founding Member Pricing: First 10 members: $47/month for 6 months (over 50% off!) Regular membership: $97/month Less than what you spend on takeout for bi-weekly coaching and community support Who This Is For: Women in all phases of eating disorder recovery Those tired of feeling alone in their healing journey Anyone seeking understanding from others who've been there Women ready for ongoing support, not just weekly therapy appointments Recovery is possible, and it's so much sweeter when you're not doing it alone. Ready to learn more? www.herbestself.co/recoverycollective Connect with Lindsey Website: www.herbestself.co Private Facebook Community: Her Best Self Society www.herbestselfsociety.com Client Applications: HBS Co. Recov

What does recovery actually look like years later? Do bad body image days ever completely disappear? In this vulnerable episode, Lindsey pulls back the curtain on her life after eating disorder recovery and shares exactly what she does when difficult body image moments show up - because yes, they still do sometimes. If you've ever wondered what to expect from recovery or you're struggling with perfectionism around your healing journey, this episode will give you hope and practical tools you can use today. Today's Truth: Recovery doesn't mean perfection - it means having the tools to navigate difficult moments with love instead of war. Key Topics Covered: 🌟 The reality check: Do bad body image days ever completely stop? 🌟 Why having difficult moments doesn't mean you're "not recovered enough" 🌟 The difference between struggling in active eating disorder vs. recovery 🌟 8 practical tools for navigating bad body image days 🌟 How thoughts about your body directly impact how you feel in your body Lindsey's 8-Step Bad Body Image Day Toolkit: ✨ Give Yourself Grace Upon Grace Permission to feel without judgment Talk to yourself like your best friend Remember: recovery isn't about never struggling ✨ Throw on Comfy, Baggy Clothes Remove physical discomfort that amplifies emotional discomfort Focus on how you feel, not how clothes fit This isn't hiding - it's self-care ✨ Get to the Root: What Am I Trying to Control? Ask: "What's really going on here?" Often body image struggles are about something else entirely Address the actual issue, not just the symptom ✨ Resist Mirror-Checking Temptation Avoid body-checking and analyzing Body-checking always makes things worse Redirect energy toward things that serve you ✨ Honor Yourself with Mindful Eating Eat normally despite difficult feelings Choose nourishing foods that taste good Don't punish your body for emotional discomfort ✨ Notice Exercise Compulsions and Pause Ask: "Am I moving from love or punishment?" Choose gentle movement over intense workouts It's okay to rest when you're struggling ✨ No Social Media Scrolling Stay off platforms that trigger comparison Protect your mental space fiercely Choose books, friends, or creative activities instead ✨ Ask "How Do I Want to Feel?" Shift from "How do I look?" to "How do I want to feel?" Focus on strength, comfort, connection, gratitude Research shows this actually changes body image in real-time Key Takeaways: 💝 Recovery isn't about never struggling - it's about struggling with love instead of war 💝 Bad days don't mean bad weeks or months - you have tools now 💝 Your humanity doesn't disqualify your recovery - difficult moments are normal 💝 Progress over perfection, always - you're exactly where you need to be 💝 You can do hard things - including sitting with uncomfortable feelings Research Highlight: Studies show that when we focus on how we want to feel in our bodies rather than how we think we look, it directly impacts our actual body image experience. Our thoughts about our bodies influence how we experience being in our bodies - which means we have more power than we realize! Ready for Community Support? Join The Recovery Collective! Finally, a recovery community that gets it. If this episode resonated with you, you're exactly who The Recovery Collective was created for. This is where women in all phases of eating disorder recovery come together every other week to normalize the messy parts of healing, celebrate victories, and support each other with practical tools and genuine understanding. What You Get: Bi-weekly 60-minute group coaching calls via Zoom Safe, judgment-free space with 10-15 women maximum Real-time support for your current recovery challenges Community of women who understand what it's like to navigate recovery in real life Coaching insights that help you move forward with practical strategies Special Founding Member Pricing: First 10 members: $47/month for 6 months (over 50% off!) Regular membership: $97/month Less than $1.50/day for bi-weekly coaching and community support Imagine having a safe space where you could share that you're having a difficult body image day and receive understanding, practical support, and gentle reminders of your worth instead of judgment. Recovery is possible right now, and it's so much more beautiful when we do it together. Ready to sign up? www.herbestself.co/recoverycollective Ready for Support? 📧 Email Lindsey: [email protected] 🌐 Apply for Recovery Coaching: www.herbestself.co 💕 Join the Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com Limited spots available for fall coaching - only 2 slots remaining Connect with Lindsey: 🌟 Website: www.herbestself.co 🌟 Instagram: @thelindseynichol 🌟 Client Application: HBS Co. Recovery Coaching - Client Application - Google Forms Love this episode? Here's how you can support the show: 💕 Share it with a woman who might need to hear this message 💕 Leave a review on Apple Podcasts - it helps other women find the show 💕 Scree

Are you tired of self-help books that sound good but don't create real change in your recovery journey? In this episode, Lindsey shares 7 current book recommendations that she's actively using with clients and in her own healing - books that will meet you right where you are and support your next brave step toward freedom. Whether you're just beginning to question your relationship with food and your body, or you're years into recovery and ready for that next level of freedom, there's something here for you. Today's Truth: You deserve resources that support your healing, and recovery is possible right now....but sometimes you just need an extra boost of belief! Books Featured in This Episode: 📚 "Feed Yourself" by Leslie Schilling Perfect for healing your relationship with food from the inside out Teaches intuitive eating and food freedom beyond diet culture 📚 "You're Not Enough (And That's Okay)" by Allie Stuckey Challenges toxic positivity and "be your own everything" mentality Offers permission to need support in your recovery journey 📚 "Goodbye Perfect" by Homaira Kabir Essential reading for recovering people-pleasers and perfectionists Subtitle: "How to Stop Pleasing, Proving, and Pushing for Others and Live for Yourself" 📚 "Already Enough: A Path to Self-Acceptance" by Lisa Olivera Medicine for anyone struggling with self-worth in recovery Focuses on genuine self-acceptance, not fake confidence 📚 "Don't Believe Everything You Think" by Joseph Nguyen Game-changer for dealing with loud eating disorder thoughts Teaches you that you are not your thoughts and don't have to believe them all 📚 "A Crown That Lasts: You Are Not Your Label" by Demi Tebow Powerful reminder that you are more than your eating disorder or diagnosis Perfect for finding identity beyond your struggles 📚 "The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brené Brown Life-changing research on shame, vulnerability, and wholehearted living Essential for anyone who's used perfectionism as armor Key Takeaways: ✨ Recovery is possible right now - You don't have to wait until you're "ready enough" ✨ You are not your eating disorder - Your thoughts and diagnosis don't define your worth ✨ Progress over perfection - Healing isn't linear, and that's completely normal ✨ You can do hard things - And you don't have to do them alone ✨ Your journey is unique - What works for others might look different for you, and that's okay Exciting News: The Recovery Collective is Launching October 2025! Finally, a recovery community that gets it. The Recovery Collective is where women in all phases of eating disorder recovery come together bi-weekly to share wins, navigate challenges, and build lasting freedom in a safe, supportive community. What You Get: Bi-weekly 60-minute group coaching calls via Zoom Safe, judgment-free space with 10-15 women maximum Real-time support for your current recovery challenges Optional check-in prompts and VIP offers Coaching insights that help you move forward, not backward Special Founding Member Pricing: First 10 members: $47/month (over 50% off!) Regular membership: $97/month Less than $1.50/day for bi-weekly coaching and community support Recovery isn't a destination - it's a journey best taken together. www.herbestself.co/recoverycollective Connect with Lindsey: 🌟 Website: www.herbestself.co 🌟 Instagram: @thelindseynichol 🌟 Client Application: HBS Co. Recovery Coaching - Client Application - Google Forms Love this episode? Here's how you can support the show: 💕 Share it with a woman who might need to hear this message 💕 Leave a review on Apple Podcasts - it helps other women find the show 💕 Screenshot and tag @thelindseynichol if you're reading any of these books! Remember, beautiful: Your worth is not measured by how perfectly you do recovery. Healing isn't linear, progress over perfection always, and you are exactly where you need to be right now. Her Best Self with Lindsey Nichol is a podcast for women in eating disorder recovery who are ready to break free from perfectionism, people-pleasing, and diet culture to live authentically and wholeheartedly. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Core beliefs are the fundamental, deeply held beliefs we develop in early childhood that shape how we see ourselves, others, and the world around us. In this eye-opening episode, Lindsey breaks down how eating disorders stem from and reinforce negative core beliefs that can take years to heal from. Learn about the three types of core beliefs that are secretly feeding your disordered eating patterns and discover how to identify and transform these beliefs to break free from the cycle keeping you stuck. Key Takeaways Core beliefs are fundamental truths you've made into idols that need to be challenged Eating disorders stem from and reinforce negative core beliefs developed in childhood There are 3 types of core beliefs: how you see yourself, others, and the world You are becoming someone you've never been before - be patient with that process "You either quit or keep going - they both hurt. Choose your hurt wisely." The 3 Types of Core Beliefs Type 1: How You See Yourself What It Includes: Self-worth and personal value Self-competence, skills, and abilities Self-identity - who you are at your core Beliefs shaped by caretakers, feedback, and criticisms over your lifetime How It Feeds EDs: "I'm not good enough" leads to perfectionism, restriction, and rigidity False identity created by the eating disorder becomes your truth Tying worth and value to performance instead of inherent value How to Change It: Build self-compassion through recovery inspiration Embrace your identity as "daughter of the most high, warrior, queen" Recognize the voice in your head is a false narrative Understand you don't have to earn, restrict, or compensate for nourishment Type 2: How You View Other People What It Includes: Trustworthiness and reliability of others Beliefs about goodwill and kindness in people Prejudices and stereotypes Safety mechanisms developed from rejection or inconsistent caregiving How It Feeds EDs: "If I can just be perfect, I'll have less rejection" Using food and exercise to control how others perceive you "If I gain weight, will my husband/boyfriend still want me?" How to Change It: Stop comparing yourself to other people Understand most people don't actually care about your recovery journey Set boundaries with people who aren't in your corner Accept support from those who truly want what's best for you Type 3: Your Perception of the World What It Includes: Beliefs about safety vs. danger in your environment Abundance vs. scarcity mindset Beliefs about available resources and opportunities Level of control you have over your life and world events How It Feeds EDs: "The world is unsafe, so I must perform to prove my value" Searching for control and stability through food/body management Fear-based restriction during uncertain times How to Change It: Challenge wellness culture and societal body image messages Create personal meaning and purpose beyond the disorder "Stay away from processed bodies rather than processed foods" How Core Beliefs Create ED Cycles The Connection: Core beliefs affect your motivations, goals, life choices, and desires for freedom Negative self-perception breeds perfectionism and restriction Fear of others' judgment results in using food and exercise for control Worldview of unsafety heightens need to prove value through performance Powerful Quotes from This Episode "You are becoming someone you've never met before - and that's what I want you to take with you today." "What other people think of you is not your business." "No one truly cares what you are doing in your recovery outside of those closest to you." "You either quit or you get to keep going, and they both hurt. Choose your hurt wisely." "We have to stop living and breeding a culture where our daughters feel wrong for being in their own body." The Core Belief Transformation Process Step 1: Identification Recognize which of the 3 types of core beliefs are impacting your ED Identify the "fundamental truths" you've made into idols Understand these beliefs reinforce unhealthy coping mechanisms Step 2: Challenge Question beliefs about yourself, others, and the world Recognize many beliefs aren't even yours - they were inherited Challenge wellness culture and societal messages Step 3: Rebuild Build self-compassion and embrace your true identity Set boundaries and stop caring about bystanders' opinions Create meaning and purpose beyond the disorder Warning Signs Your Core Beliefs Are Feeding Your ED Tying your worth to your performance or appearance Believing you must be perfect to avoid rejection Using food/exercise to control how others see you Feeling unsafe in the world and needing control through restriction Believing you're "not good enough" or "unlovable" The Recovery Mindset Shifts From: "I'm not good enough" To: "I am a warrior becoming someone I've never been before" From: "I must be perfect to be loved" To: "I am worthy of love exactly as I am" From: "The world is unsafe" To: "I can create meaning and purpose beyond my fea

What if the fear you feel about getting help for your eating disorder isn't a warning to stay away - but actually your internal compass pointing toward freedom? In this powerful episode, Lindsey shares wisdom from her 7-year-old son who said, "When I feel those flutters in my tummy, I just know I'm about to do something really brave." If you're feeling afraid to ask for help, scared to gain weight, or terrified of actually getting better, this tough-love episode will show you why those butterflies are your invitation to do the bravest thing you've ever done. Key Takeaways Fear isn't a stop sign - it's a compass pointing toward your breakthrough If you could recover on your own, you already would have Those flutters aren't warning you away from help - they're pointing you toward it You don't feel brave first and then act brave - you act brave while feeling scared Ready is a feeling that comes AFTER you take action, not before Main Topics Covered The 7-Year-Old's Wisdom Lindsey's son facing his first day of second grade without his big brother "When I feel those flutters in my tummy, I just know I'm about to do something really brave" How children understand fear differently than adults Kids feel scared and do the thing anyway - adults build cases for why they should wait The Real Fears Keeping You Prisoner Fear of asking for help (admitting you can't do this alone) Fear of gaining weight (worth tied to a number on the scale) Fear of actually getting better (losing your eating disorder identity) Fear of investing in yourself (what if you spend money and don't change?) The Lie You've Been Believing About Fear If something feels scary, it must be wrong for you Heart racing when thinking about help = "not the right time" Anxiety about meal plans = "body not ready" Terror about recovery = "maybe not meant for me" Truth: Fear means it matters, it's important, you're about to grow Why Recovery Feels More Terrifying Than Staying Sick The "Safety" Illusion: Staying sick feels familiar = brain labels as "safe" Recovery feels unknown = brain labels as "dangerous" Reality Check - How "Safe" Is: Spending every moment thinking about food Missing life because you're afraid of restaurants Measuring worth by what you ate yesterday Living in constant body anxiety Isolating because eating around others feels impossible What Bravery Looks Like in Recovery Admitting you need help when you want to prove independence Following someone's guidance who has been there and recovered when ED voice screams it's too much Gaining weight when diet culture says smaller is better Investing money in recovery when you've never felt worth it Showing up to therapy and being honest instead of pretending you're fine The Wisdom Gap: Children vs. Adults Children: Feel scared → Do the thing anyway Adults: Feel scared → Analyze, overthink, research, wait Adult Excuses: "I'm not ready yet" "I need to think about this more" "I should try on my own one more time" "What if it doesn't work?" "I can't afford it right now" Fear as Your GPS System Sick feeling about calling a coach = "This way to freedom" Anxiety about meals = "This way to healing" Terror about recovering = compass pointing toward the life you've been dreaming about Powerful Quotes from This Episode "Fear isn't a stop sign. Fear is a compass pointing you toward your breakthrough." "If you could recover on your own, you already would have." "Fear doesn't mean it's wrong. Fear means it matters." "Those flutters aren't telling you to run from recovery - they're telling you you're about to do something incredibly brave." "You don't feel brave first and then do brave things. You do brave things while feeling scared." The Cost of Playing It Safe Questions to Consider: How's playing it safe working out for you? How's trying to manage this ED on your own been going? How's waiting until you feel "ready" been serving your recovery? The Reality: Everything you're afraid of losing by being brave, you'll replace with something infinitely better Playing it safe = staying in a familiar prison Taking action despite fear = walking toward freedom What Going All In Actually Means Not perfection, but: Being willing to be imperfect in the direction of healing Reaching out for professional help despite vulnerability Following meal plans despite ED resistance Gaining weight despite diet culture programming Investing in yourself despite never feeling worth it Showing up to therapy even when you want to cancel The Decision Point Two Choices: Let fear drive your bus (stay stuck in eating disorder) Feel the fear and drive anyway (choose recovery despite butterflies) The Truth: Butterflies aren't telling you to turn around They're telling you you're at the edge of your comfort zone All growth happens outside your comfort zone Signs This Episode Is For You You feel afraid to ask for help with your eating disorder You're waiting to feel "ready" before taking action You've been trying to recover on your own without success

"I'm fine." "I don't have a problem." "Everyone else is overreacting." Sound familiar? If people around you are expressing concern about your relationship with food but you genuinely feel okay, this episode is essential listening. Recovery coach Lindsey Nichol gets raw about the difference between denial and anosognosia—and why your malnourished brain might literally be unable to recognize the problem. She shares her own story of feeling "on top of the world" while struggling with anorexia, and introduces one powerful question that can break through the fog of eating disorder denial. This episode is for you if: Others say you have a problem but you feel fine You're questioning whether you're "sick enough" You feel like you just have more willpower than others You're confused about whether your eating patterns are normal You've been told you need help but don't understand why What You'll Discover ✨ The difference between denial and anosognosia (and why it matters for your recovery) ✨ Why malnourishment literally impairs your ability to recognize disordered eating patterns ✨ Lindsey's personal story: How she felt superior and in control while her body was failing ✨ The science behind eating disorder awareness and brain function ✨ One crucial question that can shatter the illusion and start your healing journey ✨ How to tell if your eating patterns are actually normal or adopted behaviors Understanding Eating Disorder Denial Anosognosia vs. Denial Anosognosia: "Without knowledge" - physiological brain damage that creates complete unawareness of the problem. You literally cannot perceive your disordered behaviors. Denial: Knowing you have a problem but refusing to address it. Using defense mechanisms to avoid facing the truth. Signs Your Brain Might Be Lying to You Feeling "on top of the world" while restricting food Superiority complex about your "willpower" Believing everyone else is jealous or crazy Wearing restrictive eating like a "badge of honor" Feeling energized despite severe calorie restriction Complete confusion when others express concern Lindsey's Personal Story "When I was struggling with anorexia, I felt like I was on top of the world. I had this superiority complex, like everyone else was just jealous that they didn't have the willpower that I had. The more I restricted, the more satisfaction I achieved and the more in control I felt." The One Question That Changes Everything "How are you? No, but how are you REALLY?" Why This Question Works Challenges automatic "I'm fine" responses Forces honest self-assessment Breaks through subconscious denial Reveals underlying unsureness and hesitancy How to Use This Question Sit with yourself honestly - don't give the surface-level answer Challenge your patterns - are these behaviors you've always had or recently adopted? Listen to trusted voices - if people you love are concerned, investigate why Assess your daily reality - survival mode isn't the same as thriving Red Flags to Consider 🚩 Constantly telling yourself you don't need to eat 🚩 Never feeling hungry (when you used to) 🚩 Bargaining and finding ways to restrict 🚩 Terror of weight gain controlling decisions 🚩 Rigid food rules that feel like "identity" 🚩 Behaviors that started as dieting but intensified Powerful Moments from This Episode "That voice is not you. With a healthy brain, you can assume positive intent from your internal voice. When you have a malnourished brain, it's important to challenge your mind with every tiny little thing." "You can't change something you can't name. You can't change patterns and behaviors that you can't accept are patterns and behaviors." "You are not a failure for getting help and support. The only way you fail is if you quit." Your Next Steps If You Recognize Yourself in This Episode: Answer the question honestly: How are you really? Look at your patterns: Are these normal behaviors or adopted restrictions? Listen to loved ones: If trusted people are concerned, investigate their perspective Seek professional support: You don't have to figure this out alone Ready for Support? 📧 Email Lindsey: [email protected] 🌐 Apply for Recovery Coaching: www.herbestself.co 💕 Join the Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com Limited spots available for fall coaching - only 2 slots remaining Key Takeaways 💡 Malnourishment literally impairs your ability to recognize eating disorder symptoms 💡 "I'm fine" often masks underlying confusion and unsureness 💡 Eating disorders progress gradually - you didn't wake up sick overnight 💡 Trusted voices matter - if loved ones are concerned, listen 💡 Awareness is the first step - you can't change what you won't acknowledge If this episode helped you recognize patterns you hadn't seen before, please leave a 5-star rating and review. Your support helps more women break through denial and find the help they deserve.

Feeling stuck in the "waiting room" of recovery? You're not alone. If you've been telling yourself you'll start living your life "when you're better," this episode is for you. Recovery coach Lindsey Nichol gets real about why your eating disorder wants you to wait—and why you don't have to. In this intimate 10-minute conversation, she shares three concrete steps you can take today to start pursuing your dreams, even in the messy middle of healing your relationship with food. This episode is for you if: You've put dreams on hold until you're "recovered enough" Recovery feels like two steps forward, four steps back You're tired of life passing you by while you struggle in secret You need hope that recovery is possible, even when it feels impossible What You'll Discover ✨ Why waiting for "perfect recovery" is just another way your eating disorder controls your life ✨ The mindset shift from "waiting to recover" to "living your recovery" ✨ Real client story: How one woman realized she was using recovery as an excuse to stay small ✨ 3 immediate steps you can take today to start making life happen instead of waiting for it ✨ Permission to pursue your purpose even when healing isn't linear The 3 Steps to Start Living While Healing Step 1: Name One Dream You've Put on Hold Get honest about one thing you've been telling yourself you'll do "when you're better." Don't judge it—just name it. Step 2: Take the Smallest Possible Step Not the perfect step, not the biggest step—the smallest step. The eating disorder wants all-or-nothing; recovery is built on tiny, consistent actions. Step 3: Remind Yourself: "I Am Living My Recovery" Shift from waiting to live until recovery is complete to understanding that living IS part of your recovery. Powerful Moments from This Episode "Your eating disorder wants you to wait. It wants you to believe that you need to be 'fixed' before you're worthy of pursuing your dreams." "Life doesn't pause while you figure out your relationship with food. Your dreams don't go on hold. Your purpose doesn't wait." "You don't have to wait until those hard days are gone to start living. You don't have to have it all figured out to take up space in this world." "Your eating disorder is not your whole story. It's not even the most interesting part of your story." Client Spotlight Hear from one of Lindsey's current clients who had a breakthrough realization: "I keep thinking I need to wait until I'm 'recovered enough' to apply for that role, to book that trip with my friends. But I'm realizing that waiting for perfect recovery is just another way the eating disorder is controlling my life." Key Takeaways 💫 Recovery isn't linear—and that's okay. Four steps forward, two steps back is still progress. 💫 Living your life IS part of recovery, not something you do after recovery. 💫 You're allowed to want things, dream, and take up space even in the middle of healing. 💫 Struggling doesn't mean you're doing recovery wrong—it means you're human and doing something brave. 💫 Your life is happening right now, not when you're thinner or "better." Your Reflection Prompt "What is one dream I've put on hold, and what's the smallest step I can take toward it today—not when I'm 'recovered enough,' but right now?" Take Action Today Ready to stop waiting and start living? Here's how to connect: 📧 Email Lindsey: [email protected] 🌐 Apply for Recovery Coaching: HBS Co. Recovery Coaching - Client Application - Google Forms 💕 Get Support: www.herbestself.co & FB: www.herbestselfsociety.com If this episode gave you hope or helped you take that first small step, please leave a 5-star rating and review. Your support helps more women discover that they don't have to wait for permission to start living. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Struggling with exercise addiction? You're not alone. If you're working out every single day, feeling intense guilt when you miss a session, or using exercise to compensate for food intake, this episode is your roadmap to freedom. Recovery coach Lindsey Nichol, who overcame her own compulsive exercise patterns (working out twice daily at her worst), shares the exact 5-step framework that helped her and countless clients break free from exercise addiction and develop a healthy relationship with movement. This episode is essential if you: Exercise daily without rest days Feel anxiety or panic when you can't work out Alter vacations or skip social events for workouts Restrict food on days you exercise less Use fitness to "earn" your meals Experience guilt when missing planned workouts What You'll Learn About Exercise Addiction Recovery ✅ The Hidden Connection between eating disorders and compulsive exercise patterns ✅ Lindsey's Recovery Story: From cardio queen doing 2-hour daily sessions to finding movement freedom ✅ Real Client Success: How one woman reduced her routine from 7 days/week (1 hour 45 minutes daily) to just 3 days (30 minutes each) ✅ The Science Behind Exercise Addiction and why it's so common in eating disorder recovery ✅ 5 Proven Steps to Overcome Exercise Addiction (detailed action plan included) The 5-Step Framework to Healthy Movement Step 1: Assess Your Current Exercise Routine Document frequency, duration, and intensity Track emotional responses to missed workouts Identify compulsive exercise patterns Recognize anxiety triggers around rest days Step 2: Master the Power of Permission Grant yourself permission to rest Challenge exercise-related guilt Reframe rest as essential for recovery Practice self-compassion during routine changes Step 3: Visualize Your Future Recovered Self Imagine life beyond daily workouts Consider enjoyable movement alternatives Identify non-exercise activities you're missing Question whether current exercise brings joy or obligation Step 4: Set Small, Tangible Goals Start with 5-minute workout reductions Replace one workout with restful activities Schedule rest days in advance Plan alternative self-care activities Step 5: Embrace Progress Over Perfection Expect setbacks as part of recovery Practice self-forgiveness for "slip-ups" Recognize growth in small changes Challenge diet culture messaging about exercise Powerful Recovery Insights "Rest is required in recovery—it's non-negotiable." "We don't even realize we're doing this to our body because we get so trapped in the cycle." "I didn't start working out two times a day overnight. It was the disorder that came on over time." "If you're listening to me and you're on the treadmill, get off of it." Client Transformation Spotlight Hear from Sabina, Lindsey's client who worked together for over a year to overcome people-pleasing, perfectionism, and exercise compulsion. Her powerful testimony demonstrates that recovery from exercise addiction is possible with proper support and guidance. Sabina's words: "Lindsey gave me feedback on how to reframe with positive intent rather than staying stuck in negativity... Since working with Lindsey, a new concept of myself is emerging, one free from deprivation and restraint." Exercise Addiction Warning Signs Physical Signs: Working out despite injury or illness Exercising multiple times daily Inability to take rest days Fatigue from overtraining Emotional Signs: Anxiety when missing workouts Guilt after rest days Exercise-based self-worth Social isolation for workout time Behavioral Signs: Rigid exercise schedules Compensatory exercise after eating Vacation planning around gym access Prioritizing workouts over relationships Recovery Resources & Next Steps Ready to Break Free from Exercise Addiction? 📧 Email Lindsey: [email protected] 🌐 Apply for Recovery Coaching: www.herbestself.co 👥 Join the Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com Your Permission Slip for Today: Choose one workout to skip this week. Use that time for: Coffee with a friend Journaling or meditation Reading a book Simply resting without guilt Key Takeaways for Exercise Addiction Recovery Exercise addiction is common in eating disorder recovery due to learned restriction patterns Cold turkey approach may be necessary for some individuals Gradual reduction works for others - find your approach Rest days are essential for physical and mental recovery Professional support accelerates the healing process If this episode expanded your vision of what's possible, please share it with someone who needs to make peace with exercise. Your support helps more women discover the abundant life waiting beyond their eating disorder. *While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an

Tired of being held hostage by thoughts like "When can I eat next?" or "I need to work this off"? In this game-changing episode, Lindsey introduces her signature Triple Threat Tool that stops ED thoughts from spiraling and puts YOU back in control of your mind. Learn the exact 3-step framework to go from being controlled by eating disorder thoughts to being completely in control of your recovery. Key Takeaways You can't fight what you don't acknowledge, and you can't change what you don't challenge Your ED thoughts aren't actually YOUR thoughts - they're learned responses The Triple Threat Tool threatens the lies, the spiral, and the ED's power over your choices You're allowed to have the thought - but you don't have to believe it or act on it Deciding your comeback in advance stops spirals before they start The Triple Threat Tool Breakdown Step 1: NAME IT - Who's Really Talking Here? Purpose: Identify whether this is your ED voice or your authentic voice How to Do It: Give your ED voice an actual name (Restriction Rachel, Control Freak Carla, Body Critic Betty) Separate the ED voice from who you really are Recognize these aren't YOUR thoughts - they're learned responses from diet culture Example: ED Thought: "I shouldn't eat this cookie" Name It: "That's Restriction Rachel trying to control my food choices" Step 2: TAME IT - Take Your Power Back Purpose: Acknowledge the thought without giving it power How to Do It: Refuse to let the ED voice drive the bus Thank the voice but decline to take orders Set boundaries with your ED thoughts like you would with a demanding person Example: Tame It: "Thanks for sharing, Restriction Rachel, but I'm not taking orders from you today" Lindsey's Example: "Rachel, you've been fired. I'm in charge of my nourishment now" Step 3: FRAME IT - Create Your New Truth Purpose: Replace ED lies with recovery-aligned thoughts How to Do It: Create thoughts that feel true and move you toward recovery Not fake positive affirmations - authentic recovery truths Choose thoughts that serve your healing journey Example: Frame It: "My body needs consistent fuel throughout the day, and this cookie is part of my recovery" Real-Life Triple Threat Examples Food Thought Scenario: ED Thought: "I need to work out extra today because I ate something different last night" Name It: "That's Control Freak Carla" Tame It: "Carla, exercise isn't punishment for eating" Frame It: "I move my body because it feels good, not to earn or burn off food" Body Image Scenario: ED Thought: "I look disgusting in this dress" Name It: "That's Body Critic Betty" Tame It: "Betty, your harsh comments aren't welcome here" Frame It: "My body deserves to be treated with respect, and I choose clothes that make me feel comfortable" ED Voice vs. Authentic Voice Guide Your ED Voice: Is harsh, critical, and demanding Uses words like "should," "can't," "need to," "have to" Makes you feel anxious, guilty, or ashamed Wants you to be smaller, eat less, control more Your Authentic Voice: Is kind, curious, and flexible Uses words like "I choose," "I want," "I deserve" Makes you feel peaceful, empowered, or hopeful Wants you to be nourished, rested, and free Common ED Thoughts to Practice With Food Thoughts: "When can I eat next?" "What am I allowed to eat?" "How can I avoid eating?" "I need to work this off" "I shouldn't eat this" Body Image Thoughts: "I look huge in this outfit" "If I eat that, I'll gain weight" "I'm bigger than everyone else" "People are judging my body" "I'm disgusting" Powerful Quotes from This Episode "You can't fight what you don't acknowledge, and you can't change what you don't challenge." "Your eating disorder thoughts aren't actually YOUR thoughts." "You're allowed to have the thought. There's no judgment in having an ED thought pop up." "You are not your thoughts. You are the thinker of your thoughts." "Your ED voice is loud, but your authentic voice is stronger." When to Use the Triple Threat Tool In front of the mirror when body image thoughts attack At meal times when food anxiety kicks in The moment any ED thought enters your mind - don't wait for it to spiral During social eating situations When getting dressed or shopping for clothes Before, during, and after exercise This Week's Homework Give your ED voice a name (make it specific to your struggles) Identify your 3 most common ED thoughts Write out your Triple Threat response for each one Practice your comebacks - decide in advance what you'll say Use the tool immediately when any ED thought pops up Lindsey's Personal Example Situation: Standing in front of closet, choosing what to wear ED Thought: "You can't wear that dress, you look huge, everyone will notice how much weight you've gained" Name It: "That's Gina trying to make me hide my body" Tame It: "Gina, you don't get to dictate my wardrobe choices anymore" Frame It: "I'm choosing clothes that make me feel comfortable and confident in my recovery" Result: Wore the dress, had an amazing day, realiz

Are you tired of living small? Of missing out on life because your mind is consumed with food thoughts, calorie calculations, and body obsession? In this expansion-focused episode, Lindsey paints a vivid picture of what your life looks like when you stop settling for the crumbs of existence and start feasting on the fullness of freedom. If you've been thinking this eating disorder life is just "how things are" for you, prepare to have your world expanded as Lindsey shows you what abundant recovery actually looks like. Key Takeaways You've been settling for surviving when you were made for thriving When you focus on less, you get more of less; when you focus on more, you get more Sometimes you have to make peace with what is to grab onto what's waiting The abundant life is waiting for you on the other side of food thoughts "So what?" is the question that changes everything about weight gain fears Main Topics Covered 💔 What You've Been Settling For (The Small Life) Saying no to dinner with friends because you can't control the menu Missing conversations because you're calculating calories in your head Choosing the gym over your daughter's soccer game because you "have to" work out Canceling date nights because restaurants feel too scary Living in sweatpants because nothing else feels "safe" Spending vacations obsessing over food instead of making memories ✨ What MORE Looks Like (Lindsey's Personal Examples) More Presence: Actually being THERE at dinner instead of calculating what everyone's eating Laughing at husband's jokes and listening to boys' stories Present in your own life instead of held hostage by food thoughts More Energy: Not exhausted from mental gymnastics of restriction and over-exercise Energy to play with kids and show up fully in business Living FOR something instead of managing against something More Purpose: When your brain isn't consumed 24/7, you discover what you're passionate about Remembering what brings you joy beyond food and body control More Authentic Relationships: Ordering what you actually want at dinner Traveling without packing your entire kitchen Being fully present because you're not monitoring every bite 🧠 The Mindset Shift That Changes Everything From Scarcity to Abundance Thinking: ED Focus: Less food, less calories, less space, less needs Recovery Focus: More nourishment, more rest, more joy, more presence Maya Angelou Quote: "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude." 😰 The Fear That Keeps You Small The Weight Gain Terror + The "So What?" Breakthrough: What are you really afraid of if you gain weight? "So what if you gain weight? So what if people have opinions?" "I'd rather be 20 pounds heavier and present at my son's birthday party than be the 'perfect' weight and miss the joy" "I'd rather wear a size 8 and go on adventures than fit in tiny clothes and live a tiny life" 🚀 Expansion Thoughts for Daily Life 1. Expand Your Food Choices Instead of: "I can only eat these 5 safe foods" Expansion: "I'm exploring what my body actually craves and enjoys" 2. Expand Your Social Life Instead of: "I can't go out to eat because I won't know the calories" Expansion: "I'm choosing connection over control" 3. Expand Your Self-Talk Instead of: "I need to exercise to earn this food" Expansion: "I'm nourishing my body because I deserve to feel good" 4. Expand Your Identity Instead of: "I'm the girl who always orders salad" Expansion: "I'm the woman who chooses what sounds good to her" Powerful Quotes from This Episode "That's not living. That's surviving." "Sometimes we have to make peace with what is so that we can grab onto what's waiting for us." "When we focus on less, we get more of less. When we focus on more, we get more." "So what if you gain weight? I'd rather be 20 pounds heavier and actually present." "Your life - your REAL life - is waiting for you on the other side of these food and body thoughts." Scripture Reference John 10:10: "I have come that they may have life, and have it abundantly." - Not restricted, controlled, or conditional life, but ABUNDANT life. The Two Ways Happiness Comes Change your circumstances (choose recovery, expand your life) Change the way you think about your circumstances (reframe fears, focus on abundance) The Three Steps to Start Settling for More Step 1: Notice Where You're Playing Small Catch yourself choosing the eating disorder option over the life option Are you skipping work happy hours? Avoiding family barbecues? Step 2: Ask "What Would More Look Like?" Before automatically choosing restriction, ask: "If I were living in abundance instead of scarcity, what would I choose?" Step 3: Take One Expansion Action Daily Order the sandwich instead of the salad Say yes to the invitation Take the rest day your body is asking for The Vision of Your Future Self One year from now: Your first thought isn't about food or your body You're planning weekend trips excited about adventure, not anxious about resta

Ready to break the lies that have kept you trapped in disordered eating? In this fire-filled episode, Lindsey delivers one golden nugget that could change everything: it's time to evaluate your agreement. The direction of your life is based on agreements you've made along the way - and if you're still stuck, you're standing in agreement with lies that no longer serve you. Learn how to fall out of agreement with false beliefs and make the most powerful commitment you'll ever make: putting yourself first and choosing recovery. Key Takeaways The direction of your life is based on agreements you've made along the way You must fall out of agreement with lies that keep you trapped No one's coming to save you - this agreement is yours to make The goal of life is living in agreement with who you were made to be You must give yourself permission to succeed instead of searching for evidence of failure Main Topics Covered 🤝 What an Agreement Actually Is Definition: A meeting of the mind, acceptance and action of future commitment The most powerful commitment: putting yourself first A transaction of trust and faith from where you are to where you want to be The difference between silent self-agreements and shared commitments 💔 The Problem with Eating Disorders and Agreements You're not living in agreement with who you are - you're believing lies about who you need to be The division between heart (wanting freedom) and mind (feeling unable to give up control) Living at war with yourself instead of in alignment How lies about perfection, size, and worth create false agreements 🚫 Lies You Need to Fall Out of Agreement With "You're not good enough" "You have to be perfect" "You have to be the smallest" "You're going to gain all this weight and hate your life" "You're just not ever going to change" ✨ The Power of Making THE Agreement Choosing to stand in agreement in both heart and mind Rebuking the division between what you want and what you believe is possible The courage required to step forward with hope and trust Making the choice to follow through no matter what it takes 🔥 The Reality Check Section "No one's coming to save you" - hard truth about personal responsibility No one will give you a permission slip to freedom This life is yours and yours alone When you accept 100% responsibility, you gain your power back ⚔️ The Fighting Questions Lindsey challenges you to ask: Are you fighting FOR yourself or AGAINST yourself? Are you fighting FOR recovery or against it? Are you fighting FOR your future or against it? Are you standing in your truth or believing the enemy's lies? Which side are you agreeing with? 🙏 The Biblical Foundation Matthew 18:19: "If two of you agree here on Earth about anything you ask for, it will be done" Lindsey stands in agreement with listeners (1 + 1 = 2) The enemy wants to kill, steal, and destroy - but you can stand against it Your obligation to stand no matter what opposition comes Powerful Quotes from This Episode "Life is too short, sister, to spend it at war with you." "The goal of this life is living in agreement with who you are." "No one's coming to save you. No one has got a life vest for you." "You must give yourself permission to succeed instead of searching for evidence of why you're going to fail." "It is my duty. It is my destiny. It is in my design to become the woman I was created to be." The Agreement Declarations Declaration #1: "Even though I don't know what it's like yet to break free from this disordered relationship that I have with food and myself, I can rebuke the lies that I've been believing. Today I deeply choose to love and accept and honor myself and my body. Today I choose to stand in agreement." Declaration #2: "It is my duty. It is my destiny. It is in my design to become the woman I was created to be. I break the agreement of lies that I've been believing for so long. I break them because I'm free to be me. This is my time and today is my day to honor me." Journal Prompts for Your Agreement "What lies am I believing that I need to fall out of agreement with?" "What must I give up in order to heal my life?" "Who am I standing in agreement with?" "What do I truly want for my future self?" "What evidence am I searching for that I'll fail, and how can I redirect this?" The Agreement Process Step 1: Identify what you truly want (or start with what you no longer want) Step 2: List the lies and beliefs that are keeping you trapped Step 3: Fall out of agreement with these false beliefs Step 4: Make your personal treaty with your future self Step 5: Stand in agreement daily, even when opposition comes Signs You Need to Make This Agreement You feel divided between wanting freedom and feeling unable to change You're searching for evidence of why recovery won't work for you You're still believing lies about your worth, body, or ability to heal You're waiting for someone else to give you permission to recover You're fighting against yourself instead of for yourself What

Feeling exhausted from fighting the same eating disorder thoughts every single day? Tired of trying to navigate recovery alone while swimming against what feels like an impossible current? In this hope-filled episode, Lindsey uses powerful ocean metaphors to help you understand why recovery feels so hard and why you don't have to do it alone. If you're in the thick of the hard season and desperately want to stop carrying this burden by yourself, this episode will speak directly to your heart and give you the one step you need to finally say yes to support. Key Takeaways Recovery feels like swimming against the current because you're fighting it alone You're not broken - you're a seashell in the making, getting stronger through the storms You're not actually in control right now - your eating disorder is Putting yourself first isn't selfish - it's putting on your oxygen mask The hardest thing isn't doing recovery perfectly - it's admitting you can't do it alone Main Topics Covered 🌊 The Ocean Current Metaphor Why recovery feels like swimming against an impossible current The eating disorder voice as the force pushing you backward How every woman who found freedom had to swim this same current The difference between fighting the waves and learning to ride them 🐚 The Seashell Wisdom How seashells become beautiful through pressure and storms Every hard day in recovery is forming another layer of strength You're not broken in the storm - you're becoming a treasure The process of becoming beautiful requires surviving the tumbling 😨 The Fear That Keeps You Swimming in Circles The illusion of control that your eating disorder provides Why holding onto your ED is actually keeping you drowning Fear of weight gain, losing control, and trusting the process Reality check: You're not in control right now anyway 🙏 What Stepping Into Faith Actually Looks Like Faith as taking one stroke toward shore instead of treading water Practical faith actions in recovery (meal plans, rest, support) Trusting the process instead of controlling the outcome 💪 The Hard Things You're Trying to Carry Alone The exhaustion of managing everything by yourself Why "I should be stronger" thinking keeps you stuck The difference between being strong and being wise Even the strongest swimmers need a lifeguard ✨ What Putting Yourself First Really Means Why "putting yourself first" feels selfish but isn't The oxygen tank analogy Setting boundaries that support your recovery You can't pour from an empty cup 🌟 The Ripple Effect of Your Recovery How your healing impacts everyone around you Becoming a lighthouse for other women in the storm Modeling freedom for daughters, friends, and coworkers Your recovery story creates ripples of hope Powerful Quotes from This Episode "You think holding onto your eating disorder is keeping you safe, but it's actually keeping you drowning." "You're not broken because you're in the storm right now. You're in the process of becoming the treasure." "The hardest thing isn't doing recovery perfectly. The hardest thing is admitting you can't do it alone." "You don't have to figure out how to become a beautiful seashell while you're still in the middle of the storm." "The current is strong, but you are stronger." The Reality Check What feels like control vs. What's actually happening: You think you're controlling your food → Your ED is controlling when/what/how much you eat You think you're managing your body → Your ED is dictating your clothes, activities, social events You think you're staying safe → Your ED is keeping you drowning in the same spot Signs You're Swimming in Circles Waking up fighting the same thoughts every day Trying to manage recovery completely alone Exhausted from "being stronger" all the time Making the same promises to yourself that you can't keep Feeling like you're treading water instead of moving toward freedom The One Step That Changes Everything Stop swimming in circles and reach out your hand for help. Not tomorrow. Not next week. TODAY. Because when you reach out for support: The current doesn't disappear, but you stop fighting it alone You learn to ride the waves instead of being crushed by them You get a guide who knows the way to freedom What Professional Support Looks Like Having a guide who's already made it to the shore Learning to work with the current instead of fighting against it Getting a map for territory you've been trying to navigate alone Having someone protect you while you're forming your strength (like the seashell in deeper water) Action Step Go to herbestself.co and fill out an application to partner with Lindsey in your recovery journey. This is your moment to: Stop doing the hard things alone Say yes to the support you deserve Take one brave step toward freedom Let someone help you swim to shore Ready to Stop Swimming Alone? You don't have to earn support. You don't have to be perfect first. You just have to be brave enough to reach out your hand. Connect with Lindsey W

Ready for some tough love, sis? If you've been walking around asking "Why me? Why do I have to struggle with this eating disorder? Why do I even bother trying to recover?" - this episode is your wake-up call. Lindsey delivers the reality check you need to stop playing victim in your own recovery story and start asking the question that changes everything: WHY NOT YOU? With 60-70% of women recovering from eating disorders, it's time to stop making yourself the exception and start making yourself the example. Key Takeaways You are the author of your own story - stop writing yourself as the victim 60-70% of women with eating disorders make a full recovery Your past thinking is driving your current reality - change your thoughts, change your story You're not too broken, too far gone, or too different to recover Recovery Warriors ask "Why NOT me?" instead of "Why me?" Main Topics Covered 🎭 The Story You're Telling Yourself How you've become the main character in a story you hate Why victim questions keep you stuck in the disorder cycle The difference between facts and the meaning you assign to facts How your current identity as "Woman with Eating Disorder" drives your thoughts 📊 The Recovery Statistics That Should Wake You Up 60-70% of people with eating disorders make full recovery 80% recovery rates with proper treatment (Journal of Clinical Medicine) 85% of people who complete treatment maintain long-term recovery People who believe in recovery are 3x more likely to achieve it 🚫 Stop Making Yourself the Exception Why "my eating disorder is different" keeps you stuck How victim identity protects you from scary recovery work The uncomfortable truth about avoiding weight gain fears Why playing small feels safer than playing powerful ⚡ The Identity Shift from Victim to Recovery Warrior Changing your default brain setting from ED thoughts to recovery thoughts How Recovery Warriors think vs. how victims think The power of deciding your recovery in advance New identity statement: "I am a Recovery Warrior" 🔄 The "Why NOT You" Reframe Old Questions → New Questions: "Why me?" → "Why NOT me?" "Why can't I be normal?" → "Why NOT me to have complete food freedom?" "Why do I even bother?" → "Why NOT me to inspire others with my recovery?" "What if I'm too broken?" → "Why NOT me to be fully recovered by next year?" Powerful Quotes from This Episode "You are literally writing yourself as the victim in your own life story, and then getting mad that you're playing the victim role." "Your past and current thinking is driving your entire life. How's that working for you, sis?" "Stop making yourself special in all the wrong ways." "You are one decision away from changing your entire life trajectory." "You are not a victim of your eating disorder. You are a Recovery Warrior." Scripture References 1 Corinthians 10:13: "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind." Romans 8:37: "We are more than conquerors." The Come-to-Jesus Reality Check You have been playing small in your own life You're not too broken, too far gone, or the exception The women who recover aren't special - they just decided to stop being the victim You are one decision away from changing everything Recovery is not just possible for you - it's PROBABLE Your New Power Statement "I am not a victim of my eating disorder. I am a Recovery Warrior who is actively choosing healing over hiding, growth over staying small, and freedom over fear. If 60-70% of women recover, then I choose to be in that majority. Why? Because WHY NOT ME?" Homework & Action Steps Write down: "I am a Recovery Warrior, and recovery is my new identity" Memorize and repeat the Power Statement daily Replace every "Why me?" with "WHY NOT ME?" Decide in advance that you WILL recover (not hope, not maybe - WILL) Apply to work with Lindsey at herbestself.co Signs This Episode is For You You've been struggling with ED thoughts for years but are ready for real support Your biggest fear about recovery is weight gain You catch yourself asking "Why me?" or "Why do I even bother?" You feel like you might be "too far gone" or "too broken" You're tired of being the victim in your own life story The Direct Challenge Stop asking: "Why me? Why can't I recover? Why do I even bother?" Start declaring: "Why NOT me? Why NOT full recovery? Why NOT complete food freedom?" Ready to Stop Playing Victim? If this episode hit you right in the heart and you're ready to shift from "Why me?" to "WHY NOT ME?" - it's time to take action. Head to www.herbestself.co right now and fill out a client application to work with Lindsey personally. Stop doing this alone and let her help you rewrite your story from victim to Recovery Warrior. Connect with Lindsey Website: www.herbestself.co Private Facebook Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com Client Applications: www.herbestself.co About the Host Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She spe

Ready to make the hardest shift in eating disorder recovery? In this powerful episode, Lindsey tackles the most challenging aspect of healing: letting go of weight loss goals completely. If you're a high achiever who's built your identity around being "weight conscious," this episode will challenge everything you thought you knew about recovery. Learn why you can't truly recover while still wanting to lose weight and get practical steps to shift your primary goal from weight loss to recovery freedom. Key Takeaways You cannot recover while still holding onto weight loss as a goal Recovery requires complete surrender and a total shift in perspective Weight loss goals keep you stuck in eating disorder behaviors Your identity isn't based on a number - it's based on who you choose to become Action before belief: You must act differently before you feel differently Main Topics Covered 🔄 The Identity Shift That Changes Everything Why high achievers struggle to let go of weight loss goals The difference between false self (diet culture) vs. true self (recovery) How "thin = win" mentality keeps you trapped Moving from weight loss as primary mission to recovery as primary goal 💔 Why Weight Loss Goals Sabotage Recovery The programming of diet culture: "You can't trust yourself with food" How before/after photos and diet products reinforce harmful beliefs Why "maintenance mode" is still diet culture thinking The slippery slope of counting macros, calories, and measuring 🧠 The Three-Step Process to Surrender Weight Loss Step 1: Self-Compassion Recognizing you've been programmed by diet culture Understanding you're not like other people - and that's okay Giving yourself grace for past beliefs about weight Step 2: Acceptance Accepting that weight loss may be okay for some, but not for you Understanding your eating disorder history changes the rules Believing you can never diet again - and that's your strength Step 3: Strategic Planning Making concrete changes to support your new mindset Discarding clothes that don't fit your natural body Setting boundaries with diet culture influences 🚫 What Has to Go (The Boundary List) Stop following diet culture social media accounts Eliminate body checking behaviors Remove scales, step trackers, and calorie counting apps Distance yourself from people who talk about restricting calories Stop contributing to wellness culture that harms women ✅ What to Focus on Instead Health and happiness as primary goals Nourishing your body to function at its highest level Getting your body to its natural state through adequate nutrition Building trust between you and your body Surrounding yourself with supportive recovery community Powerful Quotes from This Episode "You have to shift perspective of your goal... recovery requires complete surrender." "Weight loss isn't good at all costs and weight gain isn't bad." "When you give trust to your body, your body learns to trust you." "It's okay for them, but not for me." "Your identity is not based on a number, a metric, a step count, or a calorie." Expert Quote Featured Dr. Maria Rego, President of the National Eating Disorder Association: "When you no longer value the eating disorder, you don't buy in to the idea that you should be engaging in weight loss or unhealthy eating patterns." The Reality Check Questions Do you identify as someone who is super weight conscious constantly? Are you only allowing yourself to recover up to a certain weight? Are you terrified of gaining over your "maintenance zone"? Why is it okay for others to eat freely but not you? Journal Prompts for This Week "What am I so scared of when I think about not trying to lose weight?" "Where have I not been giving myself compassion and grace?" "What beliefs about weight loss am I holding onto that aren't serving me?" "How would my life change if I made health and happiness my primary goals?" "What boundaries do I need to set to support my recovery mindset?" Action Steps to Take This Week Choose ONE and go all in: Unfollow all diet culture social media accounts Throw away your scale Donate clothes that don't fit your natural body size Stop tracking calories, macros, or steps Have an honest conversation with someone about your recovery needs Join a supportive recovery community The Mindset Reframes Old Thinking → New Thinking "I need to lose weight" → "My body needs nourishment to function" "Weight gain is bad" → "Weight restoration is healing" "I can't trust myself with food" → "I'm learning to trust my body's wisdom" "I need rules around food" → "Rules have kept me trapped" "Thin = successful" → "Healthy and happy = successful" Signs You're Ready for This Shift You're tired of the constant mental chatter about weight You recognize that weight loss goals keep you stuck You're willing to challenge beliefs that no longer serve you You want freedom more than you want to be thin You're ready to take action even when it feels scary Community Support Join other women on the same journey

Struggling with watching your husband grab a banana and head out for his 5-mile run while you're sitting with your full breakfast? Feeling guilty about eating meals when your friend skips lunch because she's "too busy"? This episode tackles the comparison trap that's keeping you stuck in eating disorder recovery. Lindsey gets raw and real about why other people's food and exercise choices have absolutely nothing to do with your healing journey. Key Takeaways Other people's food and exercise choices have nothing to do with your recovery You're not comparing apples to apples - you're comparing apples to pineapples Comparison is literally increasing your risk of ED relapse Your recovery is not up for a vote Stop giving mental energy to other people's plates and start celebrating your own healing 🧠 The Hidden Truth About Why You Compare The science behind your comparison brain (Social Comparison Theory) How your ED voice hijacks normal brain processes Why comparison feels logical but leads you away from healing The difference between recovering and "normal" relationships with food 🔍 The Three Comparison Traps Exercise Comparison: "Why does he get to run when I need rest?" Food Comparison: "She only ate half her meal and I finished mine" Body Comparison: "They look amazing and barely work out" ⚡ The Real Cost of Comparison 2020 study: Social comparison = strongest predictor of ED relapse How comparison steals your present moment Why shame keeps you stuck in the disorder cycle The difference between shame vs. grace in recovery 🛠️ Practical Tools to Break Free Tool #1: The Reality Check Questions "Am I comparing my recovery to someone's normal?" "What would I tell my best friend thinking this?" "Is this thought moving me toward or away from healing?" Tool #2: The Information Gathering Technique Get curious instead of assuming Remember you don't see the full picture Challenge your assumptions about "normal" Tool #3: The Redirect and Refocus Name it: "I'm comparing again" Redirect: "My recovery is about MY healing" Refocus: "What does MY body need right now?" Powerful Quotes from This Episode "You're not comparing apples to apples - you're comparing apples to trauma recovery." "Your recovery is not a democracy. It's not up for a vote." "Comparison is the thief of joy, but it's also the thief of recovery progress." "The most rebellious thing you can do against your eating disorder is to stop caring what everyone else is doing." Scripture References Proverbs 14:12: "There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death." Isaiah 43:19: "See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?" Research & Studies Mentioned 2019 Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology: Limiting social comparison reduced depression/anxiety in one week 2020 International Journal of Eating Disorders: Social comparison as strongest predictor of ED relapse Dr. Leon Festinger's Social Comparison Theory Journal Prompts "When I compare myself to others, what am I really afraid of?" "What lies is my eating disorder voice telling me when I compare?" "If I stopped caring about what others ate or exercised, what would change?" "What would I do differently if I truly believed my recovery was worth prioritizing?" "How is comparison serving my eating disorder rather than my healing?" New Identity Statement "I am not my husband. I am not my friend. I am not social media. I am a woman in recovery, and my healing journey is sacred. Other people's choices have nothing to do with my recovery needs. I choose progress over comparison, healing over hiding, and my recovery over everyone else's opinion." The Opposite Action Challenge This Week's Homework: Compare to your PAST self, not others When you catch comparison: Thank your brain → Remind yourself comparison doesn't help → Take one recovery action → Celebrate that action Practice the new identity statement daily What Recovery Really Looks Like Your meal plan matters more than what's on anyone else's plate Rest days are as important as workout days Your healing journey takes priority over fitting in Doing what YOUR body needs, regardless of others Connect with Lindsey Website: www.herbestself.co Private Facebook Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com Client Application: Client Application About the Host Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. After finding freedom from her own eating disorder, she now helps women break free from obsessive food thoughts and comparison traps to live their best lives in recovery. If this episode called you out (in the best way), please leave a rating and review! Your support helps more women break free from the comparison trap that's keeping them stuck. * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & b

If you exercise too much but can't stop, if rest days fill you with anxiety, if you've convinced yourself that constant movement equals worthiness—this episode is your permission slip to finally rest. Lindsey shares her personal journey from exercise addiction to freedom, revealing the powerful 4-letter word and method that saved her life: REST. You'll discover why your brain equates rest with laziness, learn the REST acronym that breaks the compulsive exercise cycle, and understand why rest isn't a reward for work—it's part of the recovery work itself. What You'll Learn ✨ Why exercise addiction is common in eating disorders (and how to recognize it) ✨ The false beliefs that keep you trapped in compulsive exercise patterns ✨ How "dedicated" becomes destructive (and when to be concerned) ✨ The REST method: A practical 4-step approach to breaking exercise addiction ✨ Why rest days anxiety is normal in recovery (and how to manage it) ✨ Biblical perspective on rest and recovery (Matthew 11:28) Exercise Addiction Warning Signs Do you recognize yourself in these patterns? Exercising every single day, multiple times per day Eating while standing to "burn more calories" Doing random exercises throughout the day (crunches, etc.) Believing rest makes you lazy or weak Feeling anxious or guilty about missing workouts Exercising even when injured or exhausted Viewing movement solely through a calorie-burning lens Isolating from friends/activities that involve sitting The REST Method Breakdown R - RELAX Surrender and give up control Pause, pray, stop, step away Let go of the bondage to constant movement Practice: Try stopping your workout 1 minute earlier each day E - EVALUATE Get in tune with your feelings and emotions Reframe emotions with facts Challenge thoughts: "Will I really 'blow up' if I don't go to the gym?" Ask: "Am I actually going to heal my disordered relationship with exercise?" S - SET AN INTENTION Define what your best self means to you Plan and pre-decide your actions Ask: "What's one thing I can do to step in her direction?" Focus on who you want to become, not what you want to avoid T - TAKE ACTION Put that step in motion and practice The hardest part: actually doing what you've been thinking about Don't wait for your eating disorder to give permission Remember: The action here IS resting Key Mindset Shifts Rest Isn't Laziness—It's Living "You aren't lazy, you're living. You're allowed rest." Rest Is Part of Recovery Work "Resting isn't a reward for work. It's part of the work. It's part of the recovery work." Your Body Needs Repair "If you don't rest, you can't repair. If you don't rest, you can't restore. If you don't rest, you can't reflect." Cultural Lies vs. Recovery Truth Culture says: Hustle and go, go, go Recovery truth: Two rest days in a row is exactly what you need to heal The Deeper Issue: Fear of Self Why Rest Feels Impossible Fear of sitting with yourself Not knowing who you are without constant motion Anxiety about having more time to think about food Fear of "losing control" around food when home longer The Weekend Challenge Weekends felt harder because more time at home More food available = more food thoughts Fear of "going off the rails" Solution: Learning to sit with discomfort Biblical Foundation for Rest Matthew 11:28: "Come to me, all you who feel weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." God himself rested after creation Rest is divinely designed, not humanly weak Weariness and burden are invitations to rest Rest is both physical and spiritual restoration Practical Steps to Implement This Week Start Small One Minute Method: Stop your workout 1 minute earlier each day Sitting Practice: Sit for 5 minutes without doing anything productive Weekend Rest: Allow yourself one full rest day this weekend Challenge the Thoughts When you think "I'm being lazy": Remind yourself "I'm healing" When you feel guilty: Remember "Rest is part of recovery work" When you fear weight gain: Focus on "My body needs repair" Find Your Rest Activities Rest isn't just napping—it's anything that makes your nervous system feel safe: Yoga or gentle stretching Meditation or prayer Reading for pleasure Warm baths Nature walks (for joy, not calorie burn) Professional Support Recommendations Lindsey emphasizes the importance of working with qualified professionals: Clinicians: For DBT therapy and emotion management Dietitians: For nutrition guidance during recovery Coaches: For lived experience and practical support "The best thing you can do is give yourself permission and work with someone who has lived experience." Recovery Encouragement You're Not Alone Exercise addiction is common in eating disorders Your struggle with rest is valid and normal Recovery is possible, even from severe exercise addiction Permission Granted You have permission to rest You deserve to discover who you are without constant motion Your worth isn't determined by calories burned The Promise "If I can have an addiction with exercis

If you're trapped in the exhausting cycle of all-or-nothing thinking around food and recovery, this episode will revolutionize your entire approach. Fresh back from vacation, Lindsey shares the powerful "Both/And Recovery" strategy that finally breaks you free from black-and-white extremes and helps you find the beautiful gray area where real healing happens. You'll discover why perfectionist recovery keeps you stuck, learn specific Both/And reframes for common recovery struggles, and walk away with a tangible 3-step practice to implement this week. This isn't about being perfect at recovery—it's about being human while healing. What You'll Learn ✨ Why all-or-nothing thinking keeps you trapped in recovery cycles ✨ The revolutionary Both/And approach that changes everything ✨ Specific reframes for "good vs. bad" food thinking ✨ How to hold space for fear AND commitment simultaneously ✨ Why the "gray area" is where your freedom actually lives ✨ A practical 3-step method to implement Both/And thinking this week Key Takeaways The All-or-Nothing Prison Your brain categorizes everything as perfect or disaster, on-track or off-track, good foods or bad foods. This binary thinking keeps you swinging between extremes and never experiencing the freedom you crave. The space between extremes isn't the danger zone—it's where all the magic happens. The Both/And Revolution You can hold two seemingly opposite truths simultaneously, and this is where real healing occurs. Recovery isn't about choosing sides—it's about embracing complexity and being beautifully, imperfectly human. Why This Changes Everything The Both/And approach removes the pressure that keeps you stuck. When you stop trying to be perfect at recovery, you actually start recovering. Recovery isn't about eliminating difficult thoughts—it's about learning to hold space for all of it. Powerful Both/And Recovery Examples Fear & Courage Instead of: "I have to be brave to start recovery" Both/And: "I can be both scared of recovery AND committed to it" Restriction & Nourishment Instead of: "I either restrict or I'm out of control" Both/And: "I can both want to restrict AND choose to nourish myself" Body Image Struggles Instead of: "I have to love my body all the time" Both/And: "I can both love my body AND have days when I struggle with it" Food Morality Instead of: "Foods are either good or bad" Both/And: "I can be both 'good' at eating AND have chaotic food days" Recovery Process Instead of: "I'm either perfect at recovery or failing" Both/And: "I can be both in recovery AND not perfect at it" Weight & Health Instead of: "I'm either fat or skinny" Both/And: "I can both be my natural weight AND not love every inch every day" Structure & Flexibility Instead of: "I need rigid routine or I'm lost" Both/And: "I can both crave routine AND need flexibility" Your Both/And Recovery Practice (This Week) Step 1: Notice Your All-or-Nothing Thoughts Catch yourself thinking in extremes about food, body, or recovery. Examples: "I ruined the day" "I'm either on track or off track" "I have to be perfect at this" Step 2: Practice the Both/And Reframe Transform extreme thoughts with "both/and" language: "I both had a challenging food day AND I can nourish myself at my next meal" "I both struggled today AND I'm still committed to my healing" Step 3: Choose Your Next Right Action From this Both/And space, take one small step toward recovery: Eat your next planned meal Call a friend for support Practice self-compassion instead of self-criticism Revolutionary Quotes to Remember "The gray area you've been afraid of? That's not the danger zone—that's where your freedom lives." "Recovery isn't about eliminating all the difficult thoughts and feelings. Recovery is about learning to hold space for all of it—the fear AND the courage, the struggle AND the strength." "The moment you stop trying to be perfect at recovery is the moment you actually start recovering." "You can both feel uncertain about this approach AND try it anyway. You can both be scared of letting go of control AND take one small step toward freedom." "Your recovery doesn't have to be perfect to be powerful. Your healing doesn't have to be linear to be real." Personal Story: Post-Vacation Recovery Evolution Lindsey shares her transformation from post-vacation restriction panic to flexible re-entry into routine. Learn how the Both/And approach allows you to both crave structure AND ease back into real life without rigidity—a perfect metaphor for recovery itself. The Science Behind Both/And Thinking Why All-or-Nothing Thinking Develops Eating disorders thrive on binary thinking Perfectionism creates impossible standards Black-and-white thoughts feel "safer" but create more suffering How Both/And Thinking Heals Reduces perfectionist pressure Allows for human complexity Creates space for growth and mistakes Normalizes the recovery process Ready to Live the Both/And Approach? If this episode resonated but you're unsu

On this MUST listen episode I share a listener question that will probably resonate with you: "I want to nourish my body more, but I save my calories until the end of the day. Why do I do this? Is this part of my eating disorder or just who I am?" If you find yourself waiting to eat certain foods until later, saving up calories for dinner, or only allowing treats at specific times, this episode is for you. Lindsey breaks down the psychology behind this behavior and gives you 7 concrete steps to break free from the scarcity mindset that's keeping you stuck. What You'll Learn The real reason you save calories (hint: it's not about hunger) Why this is classic eating disorder behavior rooted in scarcity mindset The difference between scarcity and abundance thinking with food 7 practical steps to start eating earlier and honoring your body How to challenge the rules you've created around "worthy" foods The "Best First Rule" - why you should tackle the hardest thing first Key Concepts Explained Scarcity Mindset vs. Abundance Mindset Scarcity: Living from lack, believing you don't deserve abundance Abundance: Allowing food in and out like energy/currency The Truth: You were created to have all things abundantly Why You Save Calories Classic eating disorder tactic based on scarcity Underlying belief that you don't deserve good things now Fear of overeating if you have something earlier Coping mechanism that turned sour 7 Steps to Stop Saving Calories 1. Honor Your Mornings Make a new rule: "Why wait for later what I can nourish now?" Question where your restrictions came from Pre-decide the night before to challenge morning rules 2. Eat Consciously Every 1-2 Hours Start with every 2 hours if needed Eat even when not hungry to create consistent patterns Break the "save up for later" cycle 3. Address Negative Emotions Ask "why" repeatedly to get to root fears Challenge illogical thoughts ("Will toast really make me gain weight?") Lean into uncomfortable feelings to change them 4. Honor Yourself - Act Now If you're dreaming of food freedom, act on it NOW Don't procrastinate on things you want Apply the "hardest thing first" principle 5. Remove All Rules Mentally Ask: "If all foods were zero calories and my rules didn't exist, what would I choose?" Give yourself permission to want things Make that choice without guilt 6. Switch Up Meal Times Try "breakfast for dinner" or eating 2 hours earlier Make it a game with small, achievable goals Focus on one goal at a time 7. Daily Reflection Journal each evening about restriction patterns Identify when unpleasant emotions came up Look for opportunities to do the opposite Powerful Episode Quotes "Stop fooling yourself into thinking that you aren't worthy. This is a classic eating disorder tactic based on a scarcity mindset." "The way to experience life is living life in abundance. We were made to have all things abundantly." "No amount of food can fill an emotional void. And no amount of food restriction can fill it either." "You are deserving of the now. You are deserving of a now life." "Put the salad later in the day. Start with the hard thing first." The Best First Rule Core Concept: Put the thing that will help you become your best self FIRST in your day. Don't save the challenging foods for later - tackle them first thing in the morning. Mindset Shifts Old Thinking: "I need to save calories for later when I really want them" New Thinking: "I deserve abundance now, not later" Old Thinking: "I'll overeat if I have this earlier" New Thinking: "Food is energy that flows in and out naturally" Old Thinking: "I'm not allowed to have carbs in the morning" New Thinking: "Who made this rule? I'm making a new one." Resources Mentioned Private Facebook Community: www.herbestselfesociety.com Submit Questions: [email protected] for Coaching Over Coffee episodes One-on-One Coaching: www.herbestself.co (currently accepting waitlist applications) Share the Revolution If this episode revolutionized your perspective on belonging and worthiness, please: ✨ Leave a 5-star review - Your words help this message reach more women who need to hear it ✨ Share with a friend - Tag someone who needs permission to stop earning their worth xo, lindsey Coach with Me -＞Client Application * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Summer schedules, vacations, and seasonal changes can trigger intense anxiety for those in eating disorder recovery. Host Lindsey Nichol shares how to navigate BBQs, beach trips, bathing suit season, and schedule disruptions while prioritizing your healing journey. Learn practical tools used in private coaching sessions to "armor up" for summer recovery success. Key Takeaways Your eating disorder doesn't take a vacation, so your recovery can't either Summer is actually the PERFECT time to prioritize recovery and put yourself first The brain feels unsafe with change - use this knowledge to your advantage Create structure that supports recovery, not rigid control Practice "doing the opposite" of what your ED voice demands Main Topics Covered 🌞 Why Summer Triggers Eating Disorders Schedule changes and routine disruptions Cultural pressure around "bikini bodies" Increased social eating situations Vacation anxiety and food fears The restrict-before-and-after-vacation cycle 🛡️ Your Summer Recovery Armor Creating a flexible summer schedule that supports healing Pre-planning and pre-deciding for events and vacations Setting boundaries with family and friends Packing recovery essentials for travel Choosing comfort over societal expectations 🎯 Practical Recovery Tools The Opposite Action Strategy: Do the opposite of what your ED voice tells you Truth-Telling Conversations: Being honest with friends about your recovery needs Comfort-First Approach: Choosing clothing and activities that honor your body Permission and Grace: Allowing flexibility without shame Powerful Quotes from This Episode "Your eating disorder doesn't take a vacation, so your recovery can't either." "We wouldn't go into battle without armor - we're not gonna do that in recovery either." "You're allowed to put your recovery first." "There is never shame in standing against the version of you that isn't serving you anymore." Lindsey's Personal Story Lindsey shares her recent experience at her brother-in-law's wedding, contrasting her current freedom with past wedding anxiety. She also tells the powerful story of ordering pizza after a weekend away - choosing recovery over restriction. Action Steps for Listeners Map out your summer schedule and identify potential trigger situations Practice the opposite action when your ED voice speaks up Create your summer recovery toolkit (snacks, journal, comfortable clothes) Set boundaries and communicate your needs to loved ones Remember your why - where do you want to be next summer? Questions for Reflection What am I waiting for in my recovery journey? How can I prepare for upcoming events in a way that supports my healing? What boundaries do I need to set this summer? What would freedom look like in my summer experience? Connect with Lindsey Website: www.herbestself.co Private Facebook Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com Client Applications: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSejRMF7DKM5Zf9pGFDqA9crfSHD2y0UGjvvbkuTfuxTsR8lrg/viewform About the Host Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. After finding freedom from her own eating disorder, she now helps women break free from obsessive food thoughts and disordered behaviors to live their best lives. If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating and review! Your support helps more women find freedom from food and body struggles. xo, Lindsey Coach with Me -＞Client Application * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Happy Independence Day! In this inspiring episode, Lindsey connects the spirit of American independence to your personal freedom from disordered eating. Drawing from Stephen Covey's "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People," she breaks down the four human endowments that give us ultimate freedom: self-awareness, conscience, independent will, and creative imagination. If you're tired of living for everyone else's approval and ready to declare independence from your eating disorder, this episode will show you exactly how to break free using the power you already have within you. What You'll Learn The 4 human endowments that create ultimate freedom (from Stephen Covey) How your eating disorder hijacks your internal guidance system Why you get stuck in the "capacity to act" phase of recovery How to reconnect with your creative imagination and dreams The power of asking "What's the best that could happen?" How to put on your "full armor" against disordered eating The 4 Keys to Ultimate Human Freedom 1. Self-Awareness Allows you to think about your thoughts Key to taking responsibility for where you are and where you want to go Action Step: Write your Best Self Statement (Episode 51 reference) 2. Conscience Your internal guidance system for right and wrong Connects actions to your highest values (your "True North Compass") Gets jaded when eating disorder is in the driver's seat 3. Independent Will Your capacity to act and break patterns Where many people get stuck in recovery The part of you that's "starving for independence" 4. Creative Imagination Gives you purpose and dreams beyond current reality Hard to access when living "chained in the disorder" When attached to willpower, makes you unstoppable Key Questions to Ask Yourself "What's the best that could happen if..." I surrender control? I sit with my dreams and imagine life without unhealthy behaviors? I stop counting calories or weighing myself? I become the natural version of me I'm supposed to be? Powerful Episode Quotes "Independence is freedom from the need of everyone else's approval." "You have the key. No one else. Freedom isn't really free - it's won by you, but you don't have to go at it alone." "When your willpower is attached to your creative imagination, nothing can stop you." "Fears keep us stuck. The fear of weight gain is real... but it kept me stuck for so long. These are the handcuffs around you, and you have the key." Biblical Foundation - Ephesians 6:10-18 Lindsey references putting on the "full armor of God" to stand against the eating disorder, including: Belt of truth Breastplate of righteousness Shield of faith Helmet of salvation Sword of the Spirit Resources Mentioned Best Self Statement: Pinned in Her Best Self Society Facebook community Episode 51: "Why Some Find Freedom from Disordered Eating and Others Don't" Stephen Covey: "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" Private Facebook Community: www.herbestselfesociety.com Ready for Recovery Coaching? Lindsey offers personalized recovery coaching for women ready to do the work. If you're in the "messy middle" and feel stuck despite listening to inspirational content, working with someone who's walked the path could be your game changer. Next Steps: Visit www.herbestself.co Fill out the client application See if you're a good fit for coaching If not the right match, Lindsey will connect you with other qualified coaches on her team or additional resources to support you along your journey to freedom Take Action This Week Practice self-awareness - Reflect on what you truly want vs. what your ED wants Honor your True North - Connect with your real values and conscience Exercise your independent will - Make one choice that goes against ED thoughts Use creative imagination - Dream about life without obsessive food thoughts Ask the key question: "What's the best that could happen?" Connect & Share Love this episode? Rate and review on Apple Podcasts Share with someone who needs to hear this message Join the private Facebook community for ongoing support Tag @thelindseynichol on social media with your independence declaration Independence Challenge: This week, declare independence from one ED behavior or thought pattern. Share your declaration in the Facebook community for support and accountability! xo, lindsey Coach with Me -＞Client Application * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

In this raw and vulnerable episode, Lindsay shares the one truth about eating disorder recovery that no one wants to discuss: it gets harder before it gets easier. She opens up her personal recovery journal from 2007 to give you an unfiltered look at what the healing journey really looks like. If you're struggling with disordered eating or an eating disorder, this episode will prepare you for the reality of recovery while giving you the encouragement to keep fighting for your freedom. What You'll Learn The #1 thing about eating disorder recovery that no one talks about Why your eating disorder voice gets louder when you start healing What to expect during the "stuck" phase of recovery How to push through when recovery feels impossible Why zero women who've recovered live with regret The difference between existing and truly living your life Key Takeaways "If it's hard, it's working. If it's hard, it's worth it." "Things tend to scream before they die." - Your eating disorder will fight harder as you get stronger "Maybe life isn't about avoiding the bruises. Maybe life is actually about collecting the scars to prove that you showed up for it." Raw Recovery Journal Entry Lindsey reads from her November 13, 2007 journal entry, revealing her internal struggle with: Trying to restrict while knowing it's harmful Feeling guilty for even thinking about food rules The exhaustion of analyzing every meal and calorie The confusion between hunger and forced eating The obsession with control and letting go Resources Mentioned Her Best Self Society: www.herbestselfesociety.com One-on-One Recovery Coaching: Limited slots available at www.herbestself.co Connect with Lindsey Ready to start your recovery journey? Lindsey has two one-on-one coaching slots available. Fill out the client application at herbestself.co to discuss what personalized recovery support looks like for you. Love This Episode? If this episode resonated with you: Rate and review on Apple Podcasts (85+ five-star reviews help other women find the show!) Share with someone who needs to hear this message Join the private Facebook community for ongoing support Episode Quotes "The world isn't gonna stop for your unhealthy relationship with food. People are going to still experience life - the beauty, the fear, the joy of it all - and maybe you'll be 40 or 50 or 30 or 60 or 89 and you will have just existed. Is that what you want?" "While it may be painful for a while, you are a conqueror, you are a warrior. Hold on one more second, one more day." "The hard is temporary and what you experience on the other side of recovery - that my friend, that's permanent." Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological treatment. If you're struggling with an eating disorder, please seek help from qualified healthcare professionals.

If you're a high-achieving woman who has built an empire of accomplishments but still feels like an outsider looking in, this episode will revolutionize everything you thought you knew about your relationship with food and your body. Today we're exposing the truth behind the staggering statistic that 91% of women diet to belong, and why your weight obsession is actually a belonging crisis in disguise. You'll discover the research-backed connection between restriction and worthiness, learn why your "disciplined" identity is actually a prison, and walk away with 4 revolutionary strategies to reclaim your power this summer. This isn't just another episode about food freedom—this is your call to revolution. What You'll Discover ✨ Why 91% of women use dieting as a belonging strategy (and why it backfires) ✨ The Harvard research that proves relationships matter 10x more than weight for happiness ✨ How your "disciplined identity" around food is actually keeping you small ✨ Why validation addiction through restriction is sabotaging your authentic connections ✨ The revolutionary truth about weight, worth, and belonging that changes everything ✨ 3 power practices you can implement this week to break free from the cycle Shocking Statistics Revealed The Belonging Crisis Numbers 91% of women surveyed on college campuses had attempted to control their weight through dieting 22% of women diet "often" or "always" (National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders) 95% of people struggling with food restriction report feeling "different" or "misunderstood" (Center for Mindful Eating) The Research That Changes Everything Harvard's Study of Adult Development: Quality of relationships determines happiness and health more than any other factor—not dress size, not workout routine 95% of diets fail long-term, yet women continue the cycle of restriction 85% of eating disorders start as "normal" dieting behavior Key Revelations The Belonging Wound Your obsession with weight has nothing to do with your weight and everything to do with your wounded belief that you don't belong. You've convinced yourself that belonging is conditional—requiring the right size, perfect discipline, most controlled relationship with food. The Identity Prison You've made restriction your religion and your body your altar. The identity keeping you "safe" from rejection is the same identity keeping you small. When you define yourself as "the disciplined one," you're not building strength—you're building a prison with bars made of other people's opinions. The Validation Addiction Every compliment about your discipline gives you a temporary hit, but validation addiction works like any other addiction—the highs get shorter and the lows get deeper. You need more external approval to feel momentarily worthy. Powerful Quotes to Remember "True belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world." - Brené Brown "The belonging you're seeking through their approval will never be sustainable because it's not real. Real belonging comes from the inside out, not the outside in." Your Belonging Revolution Toolkit: 3 Power Practices Practice 1: The Belonging Mirror Method Every morning before checking your phone, stand in front of your mirror and say: "I belong here. In this body, in this life, in this world. Not because of what I weigh, but because of who I am." Then name three things you're grateful your body can do. This rewires your brain from criticism to celebration. Practice 2: The Summer Freedom Food Challenge This week, choose one food you've been restricting and eat it mindfully in a social setting. Maybe it's ice cream on a date, bread at dinner with friends. The goal isn't the food—it's practicing belonging while nourishing yourself. Notice how no one cares what you're eating as much as you think they do. Practice 3: The Energy Reclaim Ritual Instead of over-exercising to earn belonging, move your body in ways that make you feel powerful. Dance in your living room. Walk in nature. Stretch on your porch. Ask: "How does my body want to move today?" then honor that answer. Transform movement from obligation to celebration. Bonus Practice: The Validation Redirect When you catch yourself seeking approval about food choices, body, or discipline—pause and ask: "What validation do I need to give myself right now?" Then give it to yourself. Out loud. With conviction. The Summer Revolution Challenge This summer, stage a revolution for your body, not against it. For freedom, not restriction. For your soul, not your size. Ask Yourself: What would it look like to show up to summer gatherings as the woman who belongs because she's claimed it through courage? What would it feel like to order what you want because you want it, not because you've "earned" it? What would it mean to wear the swimsuit because you realize your body was always perfect for living your life? Research Sources Brené Brown's belonging and vulnerability resea

If you're the woman everyone sees as "having it all together" but you secretly battle food thoughts every day, this episode is for you. Today we're exposing the lies high-achieving women tell themselves about carbs and revealing why your fear of bread, pasta, and fruit has nothing to do with discipline and everything to do with identity. You'll discover the science behind why your brain needs carbohydrates to function, hear a powerful client transformation story, and walk away with 3 tangible strategies you can implement this week to start eating freely this summer. What You'll Learn ✨ Why your identity as "the disciplined one" might actually be keeping you trapped ✨ The scientific truth about carbs and brain function that diet culture doesn't want you to know ✨ How restriction is literally impacting your cognitive performance and mood ✨ Why the most successful women struggle most with food freedom ✨ 3 immediate action steps to break free from carb fear this summer Key Takeaways The Identity Trap Your fear of carbs isn't really about carbs—it's about who you think you'll become if you eat them Being "the woman who doesn't need carbs" has become a prison disguised as discipline True discipline looks like nourishing your body, not restricting it The Science You Need to Know Your brain uses 120 grams of glucose daily (480 calories worth of carbohydrates) Glucose is the primary fuel source for your prefrontal cortex (decision-making center) Low-carb diets can impair cognitive performance and mood regulation Carbs are essential for serotonin production (your happiness neurotransmitter) The Summer Shift This summer can be different, but it requires challenging the identity you've built around restriction and embracing a new definition of what it means to be disciplined and successful. 3 Strategies to Break Free From Fear Foods This Summer Strategy 1: The Summer Food Dare Choose one carb you've been avoiding and eat it mindfully this week. Notice how your body feels and remind yourself: "I am safe. I am nourished. I am worthy of enjoyment." Strategy 2: The Identity Reframe Journal Practice Every morning write: "I am a woman who nourishes herself well." List what you WILL eat to fuel your life instead of what you WON'T eat. Strategy 3: The Carb Curiosity Experiment For one week, approach carbs with curiosity instead of fear. When the voice says "you don't need that," respond with "I'm curious how this will make me feel." Featured Client Story Hear how Lindsey's client, a doctor by trade and marathon runner, went from being unable to eat a bagel without spiraling to enjoying pizza with her kids and pasta on date nights—while actually improving her energy and work performance. Research Mentioned American Journal of Clinical Nutrition: Brain glucose requirements Journal of Nutrition: Cognitive performance and carb intake MIT Research: Carbohydrates and serotonin synthesis International Journal of Eating Disorders: Flexible vs. rigid eating patterns Quotes to Remember "Your fear of carbs isn't about the carbs—it's about losing control of an identity built on restriction." "The only bad thing about carbs is the people who tell you not to eat them." "Your brain runs on glucose, not willpower." "You don't earn carbs. You deserve them because you're alive." Ready to Go Deeper? If this episode hit you right in the chest and you're ready to break free from food fear this summer, you don't have to do this alone. Take the Next Step: Fill out a client application at www.herbestself.co to learn about partnering with Lindsey through her Breakthrough Experience or Freedom Formula programs. These aren't quick fixes—they're deep identity work that helps you become the woman who eats freely while living fully. Your future self—the one eating pasta at sunset dinners and ice cream with your kids—is waiting for you to take the first step. Connect With Lindsey 🎙️ Website: www.herbestself.co 📱 Instagram: @thelindseynichol 💌 Email: [email protected] 👥 Private Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com Leave a Review If this episode resonated with you, I'd be so grateful if you'd leave a rating and review. Your words help this podcast reach more women who need to hear that food freedom is possible. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear that she's worthy of nourishment and that breaking free from food rules is the most disciplined thing she can do. xo, Lindsey Coach with Me -＞Client Application * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

In this deeply personal and transformative episode, Lindsey shares a powerful message that came to her during her morning devotions: "It is possible to miss who you've been called to be because you're addicted and attached to who you've settled to be." If you've been settling for a life controlled by your eating disorder, this episode will open your eyes to the incredible life waiting for you on the other side of recovery. What You'll Learn: The powerful devotional quote that sparked this entire episode Why settling for your eating disorder is actually addiction in disguise 8 specific ways life becomes dramatically better in recovery The shocking statistics about eating disorders and relationships that no one talks about How to identify where you're settling vs. truly living Why your brain chooses "guaranteed misery" over uncertain freedom The exact moment Lindsey knew she had to stop pretending and start living The 8 Things Better Than Settling for Disordered Eating: 1. ENERGY ☕ Energy to tackle today with cream in your coffee No more "I don't drink my calories" badge of honor True nourishment vs. running on empty 2. CARBS & FREEDOM 🥞 Pancake breakfasts without guilt Snacks on snacks on snacks Being known as the "snack queen" instead of the restriction queen 3. PRESENCE WITH YOUR PEOPLE 👥 Breaking the isolation cycle Showing up fully for those who matter most No more avoiding social situations due to food fear 4. HEALTHY HAIR & YOUTHFUL SKIN ✨ Trading thin, brassy hair for healthy locks Getting your glow back through proper nourishment Looking younger, not older, through recovery 5. SAYING YES TO LIFE 🎉 Ice cream with your kids just because Dinner with friends without menu anxiety Breaking rigid rules and embracing spontaneity 6. INTIMACY & CONNECTION 💕 Restored libido and energy for relationships No longer too tired for life's pleasures 80% higher sexual satisfaction in recovery 7. CAPACITY FOR PEACE 🕊️ Mental freedom from obsessive food thoughts Learning to distinguish your voice from ED voice Getting out of your own way 8. FREEDOM FROM METRICS 📊 Walking without counting steps Grocery shopping without reading every label Eating dinner without pre-checking menus Cooking without calorie counting Key Takeaways: ✨ "Settling for crumbs doesn't keep you fed - it keeps you starving" ✨ "At any given second, you have the power to say 'this is not the life that I want'" ✨ "We prefer 100% certainty of something, even when it doesn't benefit us" ✨ "You're not alone and you don't have to live like this" Episode Highlights: [Opening] The devotional quote that changed everything [Energy Section] Why "I don't drink my calories" was a lie Lindsey told herself [Presence Section] How eating disorders create dangerous isolation [Intimacy Section] The 80% statistic about sexual health and eating disorders [Peace Section] Learning to distinguish your voice from your eating disorder voice [Certainty Effect] Why our brains choose guaranteed $30 over potential $45 Powerful Statistics Mentioned: Women with eating disorders have 80% fewer sexual encounters than those without According to the certainty effect, people choose guaranteed lesser gains over potential greater gains Research shows our brains constantly search for comfort and certainty, even when it harms us Reflection Questions: Where are you settling in your life right now? Are you living or just surviving? What would you tell your best friend if she shared your settling list with you? Are you missing who you've been called to be because you're attached to who you've settled to be? Action Steps: Make your settling list - Write down all the areas where you're settling for less Respond with compassion - Answer as if advising your best friend Choose one area to stop settling in today Take radical responsibility for the life you want to create Rate & Review: If this episode resonated with your athletic experience and gave you hope that freedom is possible, please rate and review the show on Apple Podcasts. Your review helps other former athletes find the specialized support they need to reclaim their lives. xo, lindsey Coach with Me -＞Client Application * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

In this powerful episode, Lindsey breaks down why former athletes face unique challenges in eating disorder recovery that go far beyond what most people understand. If you're a former athlete struggling with an eating disorder and wondering why freedom feels so impossible, this episode will finally give you the answers you've been searching for - plus a roadmap to use your competitive edge as your greatest recovery asset. What You'll Learn: The shocking statistics about eating disorders in former athletes that no one talks about Why your athletic training is actually making your eating disorder stronger (and how to reverse this) The 4 specific reasons freedom feels impossible when you have an athletic background How your perfectionism became your eating disorder's best friend (and worst enemy) The strength misconception that's keeping you trapped in restriction Why asking for help feels like admitting weakness (and why that's actually your eating disorder talking) How to turn your competitive edge into your recovery superpower The ultimate game plan for athletic-minded recovery Key Takeaways: ✨ "You're not failing at recovery. You're just applying the wrong strategy." ✨ "Your eating disorder isn't your perfectionism. Your eating disorder is a counterfeit version of perfectionism." ✨ "The strongest thing you can do is feel scared about gaining weight and eat the meal anyway because you value your freedom more than your fear." ✨ "Breaking free from an eating disorder requires more mental toughness than any sport you've ever played." Episode Highlights: [1:30] The International Skating Company moment that changed everything [4:30] Why former athletes are 60% less likely to seek treatment [7:00] The perfectionist's paradox in eating disorder recovery [9:00] What real strength looks like vs. what your ED tells you [11:00] How to compete against your eating disorder instead of other women [12:30] Your step-by-step game plan for freedom Powerful Statistics Mentioned: Athletes are 2-3 times more likely to develop eating disorders than non-athletes Former athletes are 60% less likely to seek treatment for eating disorders 89% of elite athletes score high on perfectionism scales vs. 32% of general population 78% of former athletes fear recovery will make them "soft" or "undisciplined" Athletes who reframe competitive drive toward recovery have 73% higher success rates Action Steps: Redefine strength - Strength isn't restriction, it's resilience Reframe your competition - You're competing against your ED, not other women Apply athletic goal-setting to recovery milestones Embrace the training mindset - expect good days and challenging days Stop trying to recover perfectly - aim for freedom, not perfection Resources Mentioned: Best Self Breakthrough Program - Apply at www.herbestself.co/services National Eating Disorders Association statistics Journal of Clinical Sport Psychology research Stanford University eating disorder studies Perfect For: Former competitive athletes struggling with eating disorders High-achievers who feel like they "should be able to handle this alone" Women whose perfectionism feels like both their biggest asset and biggest problem Anyone who's been told they're "too disciplined" to have an eating disorder Former athletes afraid that recovery will make them weak or undisciplined About the Host: Lindsey Nichol is an eating disorder recovery coach, former professional figure skater, and founder of Her Best Self Co. After her own journey from elite athletic performance to eating disorder struggle to complete freedom, she now specializes in helping former athletes and high-achieving women break free from eating disorders using strategic, results-driven approaches. She understands the unique challenges former athletes face because she's lived them. Rate & Review: If this episode resonated with your athletic experience and gave you hope that freedom is possible, please rate and review the show on Apple Podcasts. Your review helps other former athletes find the specialized support they need to reclaim their lives. xo, lindsey Coach with Me -＞Client Application * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

In this no-holds-barred episode, Lindsey shares the shocking moment that forced her to stop making excuses and take radical responsibility for her eating disorder recovery. If you're terrified of gaining weight this summer and tired of blaming everyone except yourself, this episode will give you the wake-up call you need to reclaim your power and choose freedom. What You'll Learn: The life-changing moment when Lindsey had her "come to Jesus" wake-up call Why playing victim keeps you stuck in your eating disorder cycle The hard truth about who's really responsible for your recovery (spoiler: it's you) How to stop blaming external factors and start making empowering choices Why "radical responsibility" is the key to breakthrough in recovery Specific action steps to take control of your recovery journey today Key Takeaways: ✨ "Your eating disorder is not happening TO you. It's happening BECAUSE of choices you're making every single day." ✨ "Either get help or don't. But stop pretending this is okay." ✨ "You will never feel ready. There will never be a perfect time. You will always have excuses available to you." ✨ "Recovered women don't wait for perfect timing. They take action despite the fear." Episode Highlights: [02:30] The shower incident that changed everything [05:15] How I blamed everyone except myself for my eating disorder [08:45] The victim mentality that keeps you stuck [11:20] What radical responsibility actually looks like [13:10] The choice you have to make today Resources Mentioned: Best Self Breakthrough Summer Intensive - Apply at Her Best Self Co. here: Client Application National Eating Disorders Association recovery statistics Her Best Self Society Facebook Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com Action Steps: Stop the blame game - Write down who/what you've been blaming for your eating disorder Take radical responsibility - Admit where you're choosing your ED over recovery Make one different choice today - Even if it's scary, even if you don't feel ready Apply for the Best Self Breakthrough - If you're ready to stop making excuses Connect with Lindsey: Website: www.herbestself.co Email: [email protected] About the Host: Lindsey Nichol is an eating disorder recovery coach, former competitive figure skater, and the founder of Her Best Self Co. After her own journey from restriction and perfectionism to freedom, she now helps women break the chains of their eating disorders and step into their best lives. She's passionate about helping high-achieving women realize that recovery is possible - even when they're terrified to gain weight. Rate & Review: If this episode gave you the breakthrough you needed, please rate and review the show on Apple Podcasts. Your review helps other women find the support they need to start their own recovery journey. xo, lindsey Coach with Me -＞Client Application * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

In this essential episode, Lindsey breaks down the 10 distinct phases of eating disorder recovery, drawing from Carolyn Costin's research while adding her own spiritual and practical insights. From the initial denial phase of "I don't think I have a problem" all the way to complete recovery, this roadmap helps you identify exactly where you are in your journey and what comes next. If you've ever felt confused about your progress or wondered if you're "doing recovery right," this episode provides the clarity you've been searching for. The 10 Phases of Recovery (Quick Reference) Phase 1: "I don't think I have a problem" - Complete denial, "this is just who I am" Phase 2: "I might have a problem, but it's not that bad" - The "I'm fine" and "not sick enough" phase Phase 3: "I have a problem but I don't care" - Awareness without motivation to change Phase 4: "I want to change but don't know how and I'm terrified" - The breakthrough moment Phase 5: "I tried to change but couldn't" - Previous attempts didn't work, feeling hopeless Phase 6: "I can stop some behaviors but not all" - Partial progress, selective recovery Phase 7: "I can stop behaviors but thoughts remain" - Actions changing, mindset lagging Phase 8: "Often free from behaviors and thoughts, but something feels missing" - The spiritual component gap Phase 9: "Free from behaviors and thoughts, surrendered control" - Nearly complete freedom Phase 10: "I am recovered" - 6+ months of complete freedom, helping others Key Insights You'll Gain On Recovery Reality (4:00-5:00) "The secret to recovery isn't forgetting the pain existed or diminishing the damage that occurred. It's allowing it to be there, but that pain and damage no longer controls and defines every ounce of who you are." On Getting Stuck in Phases (18:00-19:00) "We can get trapped in wanting recovery to go perfectly, that we stay in one of these phases too long because we're not sure that we've mastered it yet. Every single day is an opportunity to grow and move forward." On the Missing Ingredient (13:00-15:00) "There's gonna be days where your promise to yourself, your commitment to yourself is just not enough... There's gonna be days where you need a higher motivator." On Progress Over Perfection "These different phases of recovery are all about progression over perfection. You don't have to master each phase - you just have to keep moving through them." Why This Framework Changes Everything Eliminates confusion about where you are in recovery Normalizes the non-linear nature of healing Provides hope when you feel stuck or lost Identifies specific support needs for each phase Prevents perfectionist paralysis in recovery Highlights the importance of spiritual/soul work in lasting freedom Perfect for Women Who: Feel confused about their recovery progress Wonder if they're "doing recovery right" Have tried recovery before and want to understand what went wrong Are considering getting professional help but aren't sure they're "ready" Want to understand the long-term recovery journey Need hope that complete freedom is actually possible Are supporting someone else in recovery Throughout this episode, Lindsey weaves in her own experience spending extended time in various phases, particularly Phase 3 ("I have a problem but I don't care") and Phase 8 (feeling like something was missing until she incorporated spiritual surrender). Her vulnerability about getting stuck and her insights about the soul component of recovery make this more than just clinical information. Ready to Move to Your Next Phase? If you're in Phases 4-5 (wanting change but scared or having tried before), this is the perfect time to get personalized support. Lindsey specializes in meeting women exactly where they are and creating a path forward that honors your unique situation and fears. Apply for coaching: www.herbestself.co/services Personalized recovery roadmap based on your current phase Support through the scary transitions between phases Tools to accelerate your progress without perfectionist paralysis Spiritual integration if that resonates with your journey Connect & Continue Your Journey Her Best Self Society: Join our private Facebook community at www.herbestselfsociety.com Instagram: @thelindseynichol Website: www.herbestself.co If This Replay Helped You Please rate, review, and share this episode. Many women have told us this single episode provided the clarity that shifted their entire recovery journey. Your review helps more women discover this roadmap when they're feeling lost and confused about their progress. Tag a friend who needs to hear this framework - sometimes knowing exactly where you are is the first step to moving forward. Remember: You don't repeat what you repair. Identifying your phase isn't about judgment - it's about empowerment. Every phase serves a purpose, and every phase leads to the next when you're ready to move forward. Your recovery is possible. Your freedom is waiting. And now you know exac

In this powerful episode, Lindsey explores how eating disorders and food obsession act as "time thieves" and "energy vampires," stealing your presence from the moments and people that matter most. She shares the life-changing realization that when we don't sacrifice for what we ultimately want, we become the ultimate sacrifice - and our relationships pay the price. Key Takeaways 🎯 The Real Cost of Food Obsession Eating disorders aren't just about food - they're mental energy drains that steal your presence from your own life The constant mental chatter about food planning, guilt, and rules exhausts you before your day even begins Your pursuit of food perfection is sacrificing your ability to be fully present with the people you love 💡 The Sacrifice Revelation "If you don't sacrifice for what you ultimately want, then you become the ultimate sacrifice." What you ultimately want: Connection, presence, energy for what matters, peace of mind What's actually being sacrificed: Time with your spouse, conversations with your kids, your ability to be fully present in your own life 🔄 The Present Over Perfect Shift Your family doesn't need a perfect you - they need a present you. Stop waiting to be worthy of love when you "figure out" the food thing. You're worth loving right now, struggles and all. 4 Practical Strategies to Reclaim Your Presence Strategy #1: The 3-Second Check-In Throughout your day, pause and ask: "Where is my mind right now?" If caught in food thoughts during important moments, simply notice without judgment Ask: "What would it look like to be fully here right now?" Strategy #2: The Energy Audit Track for one day how often you catch yourself in food-related thoughts Make a mark on your phone each time you're planning, worrying, calculating, or obsessing about food Count them at day's end - this is how much life force is being redirected from what matters Strategy #3: The Presence Practice Choose one meal/snack daily to eat with complete presence Put phone away, don't plan next meal, ignore calorie counting Focus on taste, texture, satisfaction - practice being fully there Strategy #4: The Connection Redirect When spiraling into food thoughts, immediately reach out to someone you love Text your teenager, call your spouse, hug your pet Redirect mental energy toward connection instead of obsession Real-Life Application: The Dinner Table Revolution Make dinner time device-free AND food-rule-free for your mind: No mental calorie counting or meal planning during family time Ask about everyone's day and really listen Share something about your day unrelated to food Practice being completely present with your family This Week's Homework Choose one person in your life and commit to being fully present with them for at least 10 minutes every day: Morning coffee with your spouse After-school time with your child Phone call with a friend or family member No phone, no food thoughts, no mental planning - just you, fully there Episode Quotes "Every moment you spend obsessing about food is a moment you're not fully living your life." "Your kids don't need a perfect mom. Your spouse doesn't need a perfect partner. They need YOU. Present, engaged, fully there YOU." "You are not your thoughts about food. You are a woman with purpose, with love to give, with a life that's happening right now." Resources & Next Steps Join Our Community Her Best Self Society - Our private community where women support each other in choosing present over perfect every day. Stay Connected Visit www.herbestself.co to join our email list and be the first to know about upcoming events and services. Remember Stop sacrificing your presence for the pursuit of perfection. Your people need you here. Your life needs you here. You deserve to be fully present for your own beautiful, imperfect, real life. If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend who needs to hear this message. Together, we're choosing presence over perfection, one moment at a time. xo, lindsey Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Are you stuck in the cycle of starting and stopping recovery? Always "trying" but never fully committing? In this game-changing episode, Lindsey reveals how one simple phrase is sabotaging your progress and keeping you trapped in what she calls "decision defaulting." Learn the neuroscience behind why "I'm trying" programs your brain for failure, and discover the powerful mindset shift that transforms chronic restarters into recovery success stories. If you're tired of living in the "maybe someday" space and ready to make decisions that stick, this episode will revolutionize your approach to healing. What You'll Learn in This Episode The psychology behind "decision defaulting" and why your brain prefers it How the phrase "I'm trying" creates neural pathways for partial commitment The difference between illusion of control vs. real personal power Specific language shifts that activate "implementation intention" Why your eating disorder wants you to stay in "trying" mode A concrete challenge to break the decision defaulting cycle this week How to know when you're ready for professional support vs. continued self-help Key Moments & Timestamps Opening CTA for Consultation (0:30-2:00) Lindsey speaks directly to chronic restarters and those hesitant to start recovery What is Decision Defaulting? (2:00-5:00) "'Trying' is just a socially acceptable way of avoiding responsibility for your choices." Client Story: Emma's 3-Year Trying Cycle (3:30-4:30) How one client's language shift changed everything in recovery The Neuroscience of Decision Defaulting (5:00-8:30) Why undernourished brains default to tentative language and how trauma responses play a role From Trying to Deciding: The Power Shift (8:30-12:00) Specific examples of language that creates commitment vs. escape routes Your Decision-Making Challenge (12:00-14:00) Two concrete options to practice decisive action this week Powerful Quotes from This Episode On Decision Defaulting: "Decision defaulting is when you avoid making definitive choices because not deciding feels safer than deciding 'wrong.'" On the Trying Trap: "When you say 'I'm trying,' you're leaving yourself an escape route. You're keeping one foot out the door. You're protecting yourself from the vulnerability of full commitment." On Neural Pathways: "Every time you make a definitive choice and follow through, you strengthen the neural pathways associated with self-efficacy and personal agency. Every time you default on a decision, you reinforce the pathways associated with helplessness." On Eating Disorder Strategy: "Your eating disorder wants you to keep 'trying.' It wants you to stay in that wishy-washy space where you're sort of committed but not really. Because as long as you're just trying, you're not a real threat to its control over your life." On Real Power: "The power isn't in making perfect decisions. The power is in making decisions and sticking with them long enough to see what happens." Language Shifts That Change Everything Instead of: "I'm trying to eat regular meals" Decide: "I'm deciding to eat breakfast at 8am, lunch at 1pm, and dinner at 6pm, regardless of how I feel about it" Instead of: "I'm trying to be less active" Decide: "I'm deciding to take three complete rest days this week and limit exercise to 30 minutes on active days" Instead of: "I'm trying to stop weighing myself" Decide: "I'm deciding to remove the scale from my house and ask my roommate to hide it" Instead of: "I'm thinking about getting help" Decide: "I'm deciding to schedule consultation calls with three recovery coaches this week" This Week's Decision Challenge Option 1: The Immediate Action Decision Choose ONE thing you've been "trying" to do in recovery and make a definitive decision about it today. Write it down: "I am deciding to _______." Take one concrete action within 24 hours. Option 2: The Support Decision If you've been "thinking about" getting help, either decide you're going to take action and schedule consultations or decide you're not ready and stop the maybe-someday torture. Scientific Research Referenced Dr. Carol Dweck's studies on language and behavior creating neural pathways Dr. Peter Gollwitzer's research on implementation intentions (2-3x more likely to follow through) Dr. Kristin Neff's research on self-compassion and decision-making fear Ready to Stop Decision Defaulting? Free Consultation with Lindsey If you're ready to stop the cycle of starting and stopping recovery, or finally take that first real step into healing, Lindsey is offering complimentary consultation calls. During your call, you'll get clarity on: Where you are vs. where you want to be in recovery What kind of support would best serve your specific situation Whether working together makes sense for your journey Your next right step forward (with no pressure or obligation) Schedule your call: www.herbestself.co Lindsey personally responds to every application within 48 hours Connect With Lindsey Instagram: @thelinds

In this episode, Lindsey speaks directly to the exhausted high-achieving woman, who's spent decades restricting food and over-exercising while trying to lead in every area of life. Drawing from her personal recovery from anorexia and years of coaching experience, Lindsey helps you understand how your "body story" - those deep-rooted messages about what your body should look like and what it means about your worth - was written by diet culture, not by you. Learn how to identify the costly messages you've been carrying and discover a framework for rewriting your relationship with your body from shame to self-compassion. What You'll Learn in This Episode How to identify the specific cultural messages that shaped your relationship with your body The hidden costs of carrying shame-based body stories (energy, presence, relationships, dreams) Why your body became a "project to control" rather than a "home to inhabit" The difference between health and size (and why conflating them keeps you trapped) A practical framework for rewriting your body story starting this week Specific daily practices to shift from body criticism to body appreciation Key Moments & Timestamps Opening (0:30-2:00) Lindsey speaks directly to exhausted high-achievers ready to break the restrict-exercise cycle The Body Story Begins (2:00-5:00) "When did you first learn that your body was a problem to be solved? You didn't start out hating your body. You learned to." Cultural Messages That Shaped You (5:00-8:00) "Good girls don't take up too much space" "Your body is your responsibility to control" "Thin equals healthy, healthy equals worthy" "Successful women have it all together, including their bodies" The True Cost of Body Shame (8:00-10:30) What carrying these stories has cost you in energy, presence, authentic self, health, relationships, and dreams Rewriting Your New Story (10:30-13:30) "Your body is not a problem to be solved. It's a miracle to be appreciated." Powerful Quotes from This Episode On Learning Body Shame: "You didn't start out hating your body. You learned to. You learned from a culture that profits from your insecurity." On the Prison of Control: "That same control that felt like freedom was actually building your prison, brick by brick, year by year." On Exhaustion: "You're successful in every other area of your life. You lead teams, you manage budgets, you solve complex problems... But when it comes to your body, you still feel like that confused young girl who learned that her worth was tied to her weight." On True Health: "True health includes your mental well-being, your energy levels, your ability to do the things you love, your hormonal balance, your sleep quality, your stress management. None of these things require you to be a certain weight or size." On Taking Up Space: "As a leader, as a woman, as a human being - you are allowed to have needs, to have desires, to exist fully in your body without apologizing for it." This Week's Body Story Rewrite Actions Morning Body Appreciation: Thank your body for something it did for you yesterday instead of immediately focusing on what you don't like Intuitive Nourishment: Ask "What would feel good and nourishing right now?" instead of "What should I eat according to my rules?" Joyful Movement: Choose movement based on how you want to feel, not calories you want to burn Compassionate Self-Talk: When you catch body criticism, ask "Would I talk to my best friend this way?" Your New Body Story Framework Old Story: "My body is a problem to be solved through restriction and exercise" New Story: "My body is a miracle to be appreciated and cared for with compassion" Old Story: "My worth depends on my size and what I eat" New Story: "My worth exists because I exist - my body is the vehicle for my life, not the determiner of my value" Old Story: "I must control my body to be successful" New Story: "I honor my body's wisdom and treat it as I would treat a dear friend's body" Ready for Personalized Support? One-on-One Coaching with Lindsey If you're a high-achieving woman ready to break free from the restrict-exercise cycle and rewrite your body story with expert guidance, apply for Lindsey's coaching program at www.herbestself.co This intensive program is specifically designed for women who: Are exhausted from decades of fighting their bodies Lead successfully in other areas but struggle with food and body image Want to reclaim the energy they're spending on food rules and exercise obsession Are ready to model body peace for their families and teams Connect & Continue Your Journey Join Our Community Her Best Self Society Facebook Group: Connect with hundreds of women rewriting their body stories www.herbestselfsociety.com Email List: Sign up at www.herbestself.co for exclusive resources, workshops, and offers for women breaking free from diet culture Follow Lindsay Instagram: @thelindseynichol Website: www.herbestself.co Email: [email protected] If This Episode Resonated W

In this powerful episode, Lindsey shares a weekend experience with her son that completely reframes what recovery success looks like. Using the analogy of a terrifying roller coaster ride, she challenges the myth that recovery should feel comfortable and reveals why the hardest moments might actually be where the most important healing happens. If you've been beating yourself up because parts of recovery still feel impossible, or if you're waiting for healing to feel "good" before you fully commit, this episode will shift your entire perspective on courage, progress, and what it truly means to succeed in recovery. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why recovery doesn't have to feel good to be working effectively How to redefine recovery success beyond comfort and ease The difference between courage and confidence (and why courage is enough) Why the struggle IS the work, not a sign that you're failing Practical ways to honor your bravery even when recovery feels terrifying How to stay committed to healing when every instinct tells you to quit Key Takeaways & Quotes On Recovery Not Feeling Good (4:30) "You don't have to enjoy recovery for it to be changing your life... What if the victory isn't in loving the process, but in staying on the ride anyway?" On Redefining Success (8:45) "Every time you eat when your eating disorder says restrict - that's courage, even if it feels awful. Every time you choose rest over compulsive exercise - that's strength, even if your anxiety is through the roof." On Courage vs. Comfort (10:15) "Recovery success isn't never having eating disorder thoughts again. It's learning to recognize those thoughts and choosing not to act on them, even when they're loud and persistent." On The Hardest Moments (11:30) "When you're struggling the most, when recovery feels impossible, when every instinct is telling you to go back to your eating disorder - that's when you're doing the deepest healing work." This Week's Recovery Challenge Find one moment this week where you chose recovery despite it feeling hard. Instead of minimizing that moment or focusing on how uncomfortable it felt, say out loud: "I am proud of myself for doing that hard thing." Remember: You don't have to love recovery to be succeeding at it. You just have to keep showing up. Real Talk Recovery Reminders The struggle isn't a sign that recovery isn't working - the struggle IS the work You can be proud of your courage even when recovery doesn't feel good Discomfort doesn't equal danger - it often equals growth Your difficult recovery experience doesn't mean you're doing it wrong Building emotional strength happens in the uncomfortable moments Ready for support on your recovery roller coaster? If you're tired of navigating recovery alone and want someone to remind you of your strength when you can't see it yourself, Lindsey's one-on-one coaching program is designed for women ready to redefine what recovery success looks like. Apply for coaching: www.herbestself.co Instagram: @thelindseynichol Email: [email protected] or [email protected] Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com If This Episode Helped You Please rate, review, and subscribe to the Her Best Self podcast. Your support helps more women discover that they don't have to wait for recovery to feel comfortable before they can be proud of their incredible courage. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear that their bravery in recovery - even when it's terrifying - is building the foundation for their freedom. Remember: Your bravery in this moment is building the foundation for your freedom tomorrow. You've got this, beautiful soul. xo, lindsey Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Recovery isn't one-size-fits-all, and neither are you! Just like animals in the wild, each of us has a unique way of navigating challenges and finding strength. In today's episode, I share how discovering my spirit animal (hello, turtle energy!) transformed my approach to recovery and gave me the hope I desperately needed. Take the FREE Recovery Spirit Animal Quiz at www.herbestself.co/resources to discover whether you're a fierce lion pushing through obstacles, a steady turtle taking life one step at a time, or another powerful animal guide. Your results will reveal personalized insights about your recovery style and help you stop second-guessing your journey. Ready to find the hope, peace, and freedom you've been searching for? Your spirit animal is waiting to guide you home to yourself. xo, lindsey Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

In this powerful episode of the Her Best Self podcast, Lindsey explores what it truly means to go ALL IN on your recovery journey. Inspired by a church sermon on faith, she unpacks the different levels of commitment in recovery—from ankle-deep hesitation to full blown surrender—and challenges you to identify where you're holding back. If you're tired of partial results and ready to experience true freedom from disordered eating, this episode offers both inspiration and practical next steps for going ALL IN on yourself and your healing. What You'll Learn The four levels of commitment in recovery: ankle-deep, knee-deep, waist-deep, and ALL IN How staying in your comfort zone blocks your healing progress The exhausting reality of wearing the "eating disorder mask" and the freedom that comes from removing it Practical examples of what going ALL IN looks like in everyday recovery Biblical wisdom that supports full surrender in the recovery process One tangible action step to move toward going ALL IN this week Highlights From This Episode On Partial Commitment (3:12) "Partial commitment yields partial results. To experience the full freedom that recovery offers, you have to go ALL IN. That means complete surrender. Complete trust. Complete willingness to feel ALL of your feelings without using food or exercise to numb them." On Getting Out of Your Own Way (5:45) "How often are YOU getting in the way of your own recovery? How often are you blocking your own healing because you're trying to control everything? Because you're not willing to trust the process? Because you're holding onto the false comfort of your eating disorder?" On Removing the Mask (8:30) "The eating disorder has pulled a mask over you - a false identity that you might have worn for years or even decades... Going ALL IN means pulling away that mask and saying, 'This is who I really am. This is what I'm really struggling with. This is what I really need.'" On Redirecting Energy (10:15) "When you go ALL IN on recovery, you get to redirect all that energy toward actually living your life. Toward your relationships, your passions, your purpose. Toward the woman God created you to be." Scripture Referenced Romans 12:2 – "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind." Proverbs 3:5-6 – "Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight." Psalm 139:14 – "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." Your Recovery Action Step Identify ONE area where you've been holding back in recovery, and take ONE step toward going ALL IN in that area this week. Write it down, share it with someone who will hold you accountable, and commit to taking that step even when it feels uncomfortable. Connect With Lindsey Ready to go ALL IN on your recovery with professional support? Visit www.herbestself.co to apply for one-on-one coaching. Follow on Instagram: @thelindseynichol Email: [email protected] Join our community: www.herbestselfsociety.com Subscribe to Her Best Self Podcast If this episode resonated with you, please rate, review, and subscribe on your favorite podcast platform. Your support helps more women find the courage to go ALL IN on their recovery journey. xo, lindsey Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

In this powerful episode of Her Best SELF podcast, Lindsey shares why the messy, difficult moments in eating disorder recovery aren't signs of failure—they're actually where the deepest healing happens. If you've been beating yourself up for struggling, if recovery feels impossibly hard, or if you're wondering why you're not "further along," this episode offers the permission and compassion you need to keep going. What You'll Discover: Why the myth of "perfect recovery" sets us up for unnecessary shame The three dimensions where it's normal to struggle: body, mind, and soul How to distinguish between normal recovery challenges and actual setbacks Practical tools for embracing difficult moments without giving up Why self-compassion accelerates healing more than perfectionism ever could Featured Quotes: "Recovery isn't about becoming perfect. It's about reclaiming your voice in a world that tried to silence you with impossible standards." - Geneen Roth Key Moments: [00:03:45] Lindsey shares a personal breakthrough moment from her anorexia recovery [00:06:30] The science behind why recovery feels chaotic (and why that's normal!) [00:09:15] Understanding the body, mind, and soul dimensions of healing [00:12:00] Five practical strategies for embracing "not okay" moments [00:14:00] How to know you're still making progress even when it doesn't feel like it Practical Tools Mentioned: Creating a personal "comfort menu" for difficult moments The "pause and breathe" technique for interrupting shame spirals Documentation practices to recognize non-scale victories Community-building strategies for authentic recovery support Listener Action Step: The next time you feel like you're failing at recovery because it feels so hard, place a hand on your heart and say: "This is really hard right now, and that's okay. I'm doing my best." Notice how giving yourself permission to struggle actually creates space for healing. Ready for personalized recovery support? Lindsey's Freedom Formula Experience offers 1:1 coaching designed to help you break free from food rules through healing body, mind, and soul. Limited spots available each month – learn more and apply at www.herbestself.co xo, lindsey ______ Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Sister, I literally cannot wait to share with you the 5 "D's".... What am I talking about? The 5 "D's" are what I believe are the BIGGEST challenges you will ever face as you navigate freedom from food & that 'crazy thinking' controlling your every day. ~ In today's replay, I discuss these 5 pitfalls, so that you can recognize where you may be stuck in them...not to shame game you, but to push you to overcome! Let's rewind for a minute as I take you back to my own struggle with disordered eating... I was lost. Exhausted. Constantly thinking about what I could eat next & when I could eat it. I was miserable. & I spent years in the same wonky cycle trying to convince myself that everything was fine & I was fine....I was far from fine. Fast Forward to my "ah-ha"....I hated life & I craved a better way. But in the process of creating more for myself I came across these 5 biggest challenges. The only way out girl, was through. & the same goes for you. But the good news is, if you are in the "doldrums" right now, maybe not sure where to turn to next because your mind is constantly filled with thoughts around food & your body, then today's podcast episode will speak straight to your soul. But before you go listen, here is a quote to help you hold on to hope today: "Remember not to dig up in doubt what you planted in faith." You deserve more sis! ~ Ready to escape the 5 biggest challenges? Don't worry girl, I got you! Listen in to discover what these 5 pitfalls are & let me show you the way out to find the true & real you...the BEST you yet! xo, lindsey Find All the Things -＞ wwww.herbestself.co ______ Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

In this powerful episode of Her Best SELF podcast, we dismantle the widely misused BMI scale and reveal why this outdated measurement has no place in your recovery journey. Learn the problematic origins of BMI, the scientific evidence against its validity, and discover more meaningful ways to understand health and healing while navigating eating disorder recovery. What You'll Learn: The surprising origin story of BMI (it wasn't created by health professionals!) Scientific studies proving BMI is an inaccurate measure of individual health Why BMI disproportionately harms certain populations and body types Better alternatives for understanding your body's health during recovery Practical tips for responding when healthcare providers focus on BMI How releasing attachment to numbers supports lasting recovery Research Mentioned: International Journal of Obesity study on metabolic health markers Journal of the American Medical Association research on BMI and mortality rates University of Pennsylvania research on ethnic differences in body composition Quotes from the Episode: "Your body is not a math problem to be solved. Your worth is not determined by where you fall on a chart created for 19th-century population statistics." "True health is about how your body functions, not how you measure against an arbitrary mathematical formula." Recovery Action Step: The next time someone tries to reduce your health to a BMI number, remember the science backing why this measurement is fundamentally flawed. Practice responding with confidence about your commitment to more meaningful health markers in your recovery. I hope you enjoy today's show! xo, lindsey Find All the Things -＞ wwww.herbestself.co ______ Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, "Well behaved women rarely make history". Sis, it's time you make history! It's time to lay down those nagging thoughts about food that are controlling your life once & for all. In today’s of the podcast, I share with you many of the food rules I struggled with in my own personal path to freedom. I share how you can identify the rules no longer serving you that are keeping you stuck. & I discuss how you can introduce food exposures to challenge your current rules living you trapped. ~ Each time you make a new scary choice to go agaisnt one of your food rules, your brain becomes less terrified & more accepting. This is HUGE in recovery! Rules are meant to keep us safe, but disordered rules actually generate harm. You are meant for MORE. You are meant to live a life without chains of food rules. Let me show you the way! ~ Ready to break those rules? share today's episode with someone you love! & remember that you are made for a life FREE from the chains of disordered eating. xo, lindsey Find All the Things -＞ wwww.herbestself.co ______ Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

In this heartfelt episode, we tackle the complicated emotions that arise when someone says "you look healthy" during eating disorder recovery. Drawing from personal experience, Lindsey provides compassionate guidance and practical strategies to process these well-intentioned comments without letting them derail your recovery journey. In This Episode: [00:00] Introduction: Why "you look healthy" can feel triggering in recovery [02:15] The powerful quote that reframes what "healthy" truly means [04:30] Understanding our emotional reaction to appearance comments [06:45] Strategy #1: The Pause and Reframe [08:30] Strategy #2: The Curiosity Approach [10:15] Strategy #3: The Gratitude Pivot [12:00] Strategy #4: The Feeling Validation [13:45] Strategy #5: The Recovery Identity Reminder [15:30] The reality of progress: It's not linear, but it is possible [17:00] This week's challenge: Creating your personal definition of health [18:30] Closing thoughts and resources Key Takeaways: "Healthy" isn't a code word for weight gain—it encompasses mental clarity, emotional presence, and overall vitality Learning to separate appearance comments from your self-worth is a crucial recovery skill Practical techniques like curiosity, reframing, and validation can help manage triggering moments Recovery progress isn't about never feeling triggered—it's about developing new response patterns Your authentic self-returning is what people are often really noticing and celebrating xo, lindsey Find All the Things -＞ wwww.herbestself.co ______ Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

In this deeply personal episode, Lindsey explores how shadow work can help those struggling with eating disorders, particularly anorexia and restrictive eating patterns. This episode provides a guided assignment for listeners to explore the deeper emotional roots of their disordered eating, designed to be completed in a quiet, private space. Through 11 powerful questions, Lindsey invites you to shine light on the shadows that may be manifesting through your relationship with food and your body. In This Episode Lindsey's personal story about living with anorexia and the hidden emotional pain it masked Introduction to shadow work as a complementary practice to professional eating disorder treatment 11 reflective questions to help identify the deeper wounds and needs behind disordered eating Guidance on approaching this work with self-compassion and patience The Shadow Work Questions What is the biggest lie I tell myself constantly? What is the story I tell myself about this lie? When am I the hardest on myself and why? When have I felt rejected, betrayed, or broken? What would I say to the person that hurt me? What makes me feel the most jealous? What do I wish I had that I don't? What traits do/did my parents have that I hope I don't have? What are my toxic traits? How do I push those on others? When I think about my future, what am I most afraid of? When was the last time that I forgave myself? What does happiness mean to me? Resources Mentioned Journaling supplies (recommended for completing the shadow work assignment) Finding a quiet, private space like a park bench for reflection Important Note This episode is meant to complement, not replace, professional treatment for eating disorders. If you're struggling with an eating disorder, please reach out to a healthcare professional for support. Resources Mentioned: www.herbestself.co - Work with Lindsey one-on-one www.herbestselfsociety.com - Join our supportive community xo, lindsey Find All the Things -＞ wwww.herbestself.co ______ Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

In this eye-opening episode, Lindsey Nichol tackles Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) and its significant overlap with eating disorders. Learn how to recognize BDD patterns, understand its impact on your daily life, and discover practical strategies to break free from appearance obsessions and reclaim your joy. In this episode, you'll discover: What Body Dysmorphic Disorder really is and how it differs from normal insecurity The surprising statistics: 25-39% of those with eating disorders also experience BDD Ella's inspiring journey from daily mirror checking to finding freedom and presence in the things that matter most to her 6 powerful, actionable strategies to begin healing from BDD today Why your body was never meant to be your life's work, but to champion you in doing your life's work Transformative quotes: "Your body was never meant to be your life's work. It was meant to champion you in doing your life's work." - Lindsey Nichol "Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself." - Coco Chanel "You can't hate yourself happy. You can't criticize yourself thin. You can't shame yourself worthy. Real change begins with self-love and self-care." - Jessica Ortner The 6 Practical Strategies Covered: Practice Mindful Awareness Challenge Distorted Thinking Reduce Social Media Comparison Redirect Your Focus Practice Body Neutrality Seek Professional Support Resources Mentioned: www.herbestself.co - Work with Lindsey one-on-one herbestselfsociety.com - Join our supportive community If you're tired of obsessing over perceived flaws that others don't notice, constantly checking your appearance, or avoiding social situations because of body image concerns, this episode provides the compassionate guidance and practical tools you need to begin healing. Subscribe now and take the first step toward freedom from appearance obsessions! 💕 #BodyDysmorphicDisorder #BodyImage #EatingDisorderRecovery #MentalHealthAwareness #SelfLove Remember, you are NOT your eating disorder and you are worthy of a life that is FREE from it. xo, lindsey Find All the Things -＞ wwww.herbestself.co ______ Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Hey there! Did you know that there are only 2 emotions that impact every choice you make & ever action you take? Wild right?! So what are they? Well...without giving away all the goods, I'll encourage you to listen in to Episode 211, which is one of my favorite episodes that I wanted to replay for you on the Her Best Self Podcast so that you can hear for yourself! If you are tired of doing the same thing & you find yourself stuck in confusion, or terrified of the "what-ifs", then today's show is perfect for you! In this episode I discuss the power of understanding which emotion is leading your current reality, so that you can CHANGE the game & start living as the best version of you. ~ Emotion is energy IN MOTION.... you actually create what you fear. Let that one sink in! & come join us on the show! xo, lindsey Find All the Things -＞ wwww.herbestself.co ______ Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

If you're feeling stuck in your recovery journey, Episode 210.5, shares the top hidden barriers that might be keeping you chained to eating disorder patterns - and how to break free once and for all. IN THIS EPISODE Things to Stop Doing: Stop Assuming You Always Know What's Best Eating disorders thrive on the illusion of expertise "I know what's best" is often the disorder speaking, not your wisdom Recovery requires challenging your own assumptions Professional guidance provides perspective you can't see from within Stop Believing the Lie That You Aren't Doing Enough to Recover Recovery isn't about doing more; it's about being more "Never enough" mentality leads to recovery perfectionism The essential ingredient isn't more tasks—it's self-compassion Ask: "How can I bring more compassion to this moment?" Stop Avoiding Discomfort The only way out is through Eating disorders themselves are systems for avoiding discomfort Recovery requires moving toward discomfort, not away from it Each time you face discomfort, you build resilience Stop Thinking the Worst Possible Scenario Is Gaining Weight The real worst-case scenario is never experiencing freedom As long as weight gain remains your greatest fear, the disorder retains power Recovery may include body changes, but they aren't the catastrophe predicted There is no wrong choice in recovery—only refusing to make a choice ACTION STEPS Identify which of these 10 patterns is most holding you back Choose one pattern to focus on disrupting this week Practice moving toward discomfort rather than away from it Revisit your recovery priorities and realign your energy accordingly Consider whether professional support could help you break these patterns Remember, you are NOT your eating disorder and you are worthy of a life that is FREE from it. xo, lindsey Find All the Things -＞ wwww.herbestself.co ______ Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

If you're feeling stuck in your recovery journey, this part 1 of a 2 part episode shares the top hidden barriers that might be keeping you chained to eating disorder patterns - and how to break free once and for all. IN THIS EPISODE Things to Stop Doing: Stop Waiting for Perfect Circumstances There will never be a "perfect time" to heal Recovery happens IN life, not separate from it The waiting game is another form of control and perfectionism Recovery requires a decision, not ideal conditions Stop Spending Time and Energy on Things That Aren't Recovery Priorities Your time and energy are your most precious recovery resources Identify where you're "leaking energy" through triggering activities Ask yourself: Does this support my healing or undermine it? Recovery requires intentional redirection of your resources Stop Comparing Yourself to Everyone Else Comparison is a recovery killer You're comparing your behind-the-scenes to others' highlight reels Your recovery journey is unique to your body and history The only valuable comparison is to your yesterday self Stop Changing Course - Results Take Time and Commitment Recovery isn't a race; it's a journey "Recovery whiplash" prevents momentum and lasting change Recovery tools are like muscles - they get stronger with consistent use Before abandoning your approach, ask if you've given it a fair chance Stop Thinking You're So Out of the Ordinary You are not the only person who has ever navigated this The core patterns of eating disorders are remarkably consistent Feeling "uniquely broken" becomes an excuse to stay stuck Connection to others with shared experiences is powerful medicine Stop Thinking Short Term You deserve lasting freedom, not just getting through the next meal Short-term focus can lead to decisions that undermine long-term healing Recovery requires balancing daily work with a vision of what you're working toward Think in terms of years, not just days Remember, you are NOT your eating disorder and you are worthy of a life that is FREE from it. Come back on Friday, to listen to the 2nd part of Episode 210, where I unravel the remaining 4 things for you to stop doing today! Until then, sending recovery hugs. xo, lindsey Find All the Things -＞ wwww.herbestself.co ______ Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

In this episode, I discuss the importance of making yourself the priority in recovery and I introduce the powerful RAIN method. This method can be used just 5 minutes a day for practicing mindfulness and self-compassion during difficult moments in your eating disorder recovery journey. Your Assignment is YOU This season is about planting seeds for your own growth and healing You need permission to make your recovery the priority Self-care isn't self-indulgence—it's essential recovery work Recovery takes root when you commit to "watering your garden first" The Seasons of Recovery We expect constant productivity from ourselves but don't apply the same standards to nature There are natural seasons for growth, rest, and transformation The eating disorder thrives when you're depleted and exhausted Rest and self-nurturing create the conditions for healing What It Means to "Water Yourself" Providing consistent, adequate nourishment without food rules Hydration—both literal and metaphorical waters of connection Exposure to things that bring joy and remind you who you are Rest periods where you're simply being, not producing The RAIN Method Breakdown Recognize what's happening in the moment without judgment Notice triggers, urges, thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations Name what you're experiencing to create space between you and the experience Allow the experience to be there without trying to fix or change it Stop fighting against difficult emotions or thoughts Break the cycle of shame by acknowledging "this is what's happening right now" Investigate with kindness and curiosity Ask gentle questions: "What triggered this?" "What am I really needing?" Notice where you feel sensations in your body Identify the stories you're telling yourself Nurture yourself with self-compassion Offer yourself what you truly need in the moment Speak to yourself as you would to a dear friend Remember that difficult feelings will pass I hope Episode 209 blesses you & that you share it with someone else who may benefit! xo, lindsey Find All the Things -＞ wwww.herbestself.co ______ Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

Hey there sister friend! I am so ready to embrace this new week. The boys & I are on spring break & we are loving it! We are enjoying getting away from the usual routines & mundane schedules. This week we are surrendering all control & embracing spontaneous adventures. Which at one point, would have been my controlling nature, which had me thinking about CONTROL. So I knew I must revisit a previous episode & bring it back to the top of your pod listens! in Episode 208.5 of the podcast, I share what you need to know about control. I discuss the Restrict/Emotional Eating Cycle & how you can start today to break the habit loop in your life. ~ Here is what you need to know: in order to let go of control, you must release the fight within you. The battle in your mind is REAL! & it's the hardest one you will ever conquer. But the good news is, you have the power right now inside of you to surrender your desire to control food, so that you can gain freedom from what is actually controlling you. Freedom from ED 🎉 I believe in you! Now go out & listen to Episode 132 to help you do the same. xo, lindsey Find All the Things -＞ wwww.herbestself.co ______ Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.

In this powerful episode, we tackle one of the biggest barriers to eating disorder recovery: waiting to feel "ready." Statistics show the average person waits seven years between eating disorder onset and seeking treatment—seven years of suffering that could be avoided sis! In Episode 208, we explore why "ready" isn't a feeling that magically appears but a decision you make despite fear and uncertainty. Through client stories, expert insights, and practical steps, you'll discover how to move forward in your recovery journey without waiting for the perfect moment. Whether you're struggling with anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, or disordered eating patterns, this episode offers the perspective shift and motivation you need to take that crucial first step toward healing. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: Why the eating disorder voice will never tell you it's time to recover The myth of "feeling ready" and how it keeps you trapped in the cycle How to make the decision to start recovery even while feeling afraid Small, manageable steps you can take today, regardless of your "readiness" The life that awaits on the other side of this crucial decision KEY QUOTES "Ready isn't when the fear disappears. Ready is when you decide to move forward despite the fear." "You don't have to be ready for the whole journey. You just have to be ready for the next step." "Recovery doesn't happen in one giant leap. It happens in thousands of small decisions." hope you enjoy this one friend! xo, lindsey Find All the Things -＞ www.herbestself.co ______ Coach with Me -＞Client Application ______ Email me directly -> [email protected] ______ Join the free FB community -> www.herbestselfsociety.com ______ Need a helping hand guiding you girl!? You don’t have to do this alone! Step 1: Go all IN! Decide to commit to yourself & your future! Do it scared girlfriend. Just do it! Step 2: Apply for limited 1:1 & let’s work together -> Client Application Step 3: Leverage the FB community for support & stay tuned for all the resources up & coming to help serve you! YOU TOTALLY GOT THIS! * While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.