FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal

The shame of being the betrayed partner can be stifling, making us feel unworthy, afraid, or like we were to blame. Living in a state of fear, shame, and judgment cuts us off from our resources and keeps us locked in a cycle of despair. Even though getting help is hard, even though it’s risky to try to mend marriages or understand relationships, unless we take risks, the only thing that’s guaranteed is that we’ll never get what we want. Might now be the time to break free? Top take-a-ways The Power of Taking That First Step: Discover how taking a leap of faith can lead to life-changing results, even if you are afraid. Rebuilding Trust and Healing Wounds: How to protect your heart and navigate your doubts about affair recovery, saving your marriage, or your partner’s ability to change. Overcoming Shame on the Journey to Healing: Gain insight about the power of shame in holding you back, keeping you small and afraid, and get inspired to shed shame and embrace vulnerability as part of your healing process Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

The recent Barbie movie brought to light the impossible situation that many women face when dealing with a patriarchal society. Namely, the system is rigged and there’s no way women can win. Unless they stop playing the old game, and create a new one instead! Dealing with people who are bound and determined to create conflict and misunderstand or hurt you is maddening! It brings up a sense of self-righteous, yet totally justified, anger leading us to defend ourselves and our position, explain why their toxic behavior is hurtful, and work ourselves into even more frustration because we are never able to get our needs met. The sad truth is, some people are so wounded they will protect themselves at any cost, and you can never win. Here’s how to respond to the madness in a way that allows you to reclaim your power, set boundaries, and prioritize your peace of mind. Top take-a-ways Learn effective communication strategies by using "I" statements and setting boundaries. This will help you navigate challenging conversations and protect your emotional wellbeing. Recognize the importance of acknowledging and processing emotions. By taking time to validate your feelings, you can unhook from the drama and take action that has the potential to create lasting change. Discover the power of disengaging from negative situations and creating a new game for yourself in situations where you know you can’t otherwise win. How to let go of the pressure women face to please, perform, and conform, challenge societal norms, and focus on personal fulfillment instead. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what’s possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after.

What’s the difference between coaching and counseling after infidelity? I couples counseling the way to go, or is coaching a better option? Why is it so difficult to recover from an affair? What does affair recovery even mean, and what should I look for when I’m looking for help? Learn the difference between coaching counseling, and a variety of modalities and recovery techniques here! Top take-a-ways Learn the difference between coaching and counseling so you can determine which one is right for you. Explore a variety of techniques and modalities that can be used in affair recovery and best practices for selecting a practitioner to help you on your recovery journey. Experience what it’s like to be in a coaching session as Lora shares some of her favorite coaching questions for you to ponder. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

How to find balance and equilibrium after the rug has been pulled out from under you? Like a teeter totter, what goes down, must come up. This episode explores three practices for finding your footing again after infidelity, betrayal, or any kind of disappointment. Top take-a-ways Find balance between grief and positivity. Grieving is a normal process that allows negativity to leave your body and keeps you healthy and happy for the long run. Although it can be uncomfortable, learning how to grieve is vital to our wellbeing. Counting your blessings reminds you that grief is not permanent and that there are many other parts of your life that are still going well. Alternate between taking control and letting it go. When we feel victimized, it’s healthy for us to take control of something and reestablish us as a powerful force in our own lives. But it’s also important to practice the art of letting it go, and learning to release the illusion of control. Understand the tendency to glorify or catastrophize what “might have been.” No situation is all good or all bad. When we don’t get what we want, we have a tendency to either glorify or catastrophize what we think it “should” have been. Remind yourself to be rational! Even if you had gotten what you wanted, it would have been neither all good or all bad. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

In this episode, Lora dives into the fragile male ego and its impact on navigating relationships affected by infidelity. She shares insights on societal expectations and upbringing that contribute to men hiding their pain and emotions and shares the signs of a fragile ego. Additionally, she explains why the affair partner likely suffered from a fragile ego, and talks about the difference between having your ego take a hit because of a difficult circumstance, and living with a chronically fragile ego. Top Take-a-Ways Understanding the fragility of the male ego is essential for building deeper connections and fostering healthy relationships, especially after betrayal. Recognizing the unique challenges men face in expressing their emotions is a crucial step toward your own healing. Why “like attracts like” and those with fragile (and artificially overinflated) egos tend to attract each other, creating and perpetuating a false world and relationship. Tips for strengthening and supporting your own ego, which may have taken a hit after learning about your partner’s infidelity. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT Submit a Comm

Listen to "Grow Up, Queen! How to Have Difficult Conversations" on FLAUNT! Create A Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal with Lora Cheadle. In this episode, Lora share communication strategies for overcoming betrayal and rebuilding relationships. She provides insight about how to move from the archetype of Princess to the archetype of Queen so as ruler of your own Queendom, you can more easily get the outcome you desire. She takes a deep-dive into the nuts and bolts of having difficult conversations, whether those conversations are about finances, divorce, or infidelity. Top Take-a-ways 👑 Preparation is key: Collect information and set a mutually agreed-upon time to have a conversation. When you ask for permission and prepare beforehand, you set yourself up for a productive and respectful conversation. 👑 Build in a definitive ending time: It's important to give yourself and the person you are talking to the safety of a pre-arranged ending time. Conversations tend to devolve the longer they go. Give yourselves a break and agree to do something fun together at the conclusion of the conversation. 👑 Don't keep talking about it: When the conversation is done, let it go! Avoid talking about difficult topics outside of the agreed-upon conversation time, as it doesn't create a sense of safety or trust in the relationship. Remember, being a queen means taking care of yourself and those around you with elegance and grace. Growing up means learning how to hard things, such as having difficult conversations in service of creating a stronger bond. Listen to the entire episode to get more insights from the speaker and let us know your thoughts! 🎧 Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what’s possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT #FLAUNT #GrowUpQueen #LoraCheadle #infidelity #betrayal #selfcare #relationships #podcasttips #podcastrecommendations #flauntyourfire #podcastersofinstagram #podcastinglife

Special Seven Year Podcast Anniversary Series -with guest Shawn Cheadle, Lora’s husband, and betraying partner Tune in to the third and final interview Shawn Cheadle, Lora’s husband and the man who betrayed her. In this final episode, Shawn shares his personal journey of taking full accountability for his actions after initially blaming Lora for his behavior. Shawn candidly discusses his struggles with effective communication and acknowledges the need for personal growth to improve his marriage. Throughout the conversation, Shawn highlights the underlying vulnerabilities that contributed to his affairs and the importance of exploring and addressing them in order to heal. He emphasizes the importance of getting back to one’s core and doing the necessary work, even if the relationship doesn’t work out, because it leads to personal growth, self-empowerment, and authentic living. In addition, Shawn and Lora delve into the deepening of their relationship as they come to a greater understanding of themselves individually. They discuss how their growth as individuals and as a couple is leading to a stronger foundation in their marriage. They explore how to navigate the opinions and judgments of others, as well as dealing with shame and fear. Lora Cheadle, an attorney and betrayal recovery coach, guides the conversation and shares her own insights on forgiveness and the importance of focusing on oneself in the journey of recovery. This episode is part of a 3-part interview series with Lora’s husband, Shawn, who betrayed her. They have previously discussed Shawn’s mindset before and during the affairs, and now focus on his healing journey, redemption, and facing what he did. Join us on this powerful episode of FLAUNT!! as we dive deeper into the complexities of healing and redemption after infidelity or betrayal. Hear firsthand how a couple navigates the challenges of rebuilding trust and finding personal growth in the aftermath of betrayal. Top Take-a-ways Take accountability: Shawn initially placed blame on Lora for his actions, but he eventually realized that he had to take full ownership of what he had done. It’s vital to acknowledge our mistakes and take responsibility for our actions after betrayal or infidelity. Resolve conflicts & work through pain: Shawn emphasized the importance of addressing conflicts and working through the pain in relationships. It’s not always easy, but doing the necessary work leads to personal growth and a stronger foundation in the relationship. Come home to oneself: Shawn discovered the importance of returning to his core and doing the inner work to address shame, guilt, and lack of ability to communicate. By exploring vulnerabilities and addressing them head-on, he was able to grow as an individual and become a better partner. This interview series with Lora and her husband Shawn – the man who betrayed her – is a raw, vulnerable, and very real conversation about Shawn’s state of mind and understanding of what happened before, during and after his multiple affairs. These conversations are intended to serve two purposes: First, to provide an understanding of what goes on in the heart and the mind of someone who cheats, and to shed light on some of confusing and irrational behaviors surrounding affairs, and Second, to provide you, the betrayed partner, with something to share with the person who cheated on you, to facilitate conversation and bridge some of the gaps in your collective understanding. Especially if you are trying to reconcile or need to amicably coparent with them. While the circumstance of everyone’s situation is different, surprisingly, there are many similarities. Affairs tend to be born out of pain and an inability to express one’s feelings. Quite often, even though an affair causes more pain, more shame, and more guilt, the cheating partner irrationally believes that cheating is a viable option to lower their pain, and then find themselves stuck in a situation they don’t know how to get out of. It is our joint intention to step bravely into the truth of our situation. To shine a light on a subject that, while shockingly common, is still judged and stigmatized and to do our part in moving the conversation out of the shadows and into the light. May these shows provide you with more answers and understanding than you had before. It is important to note that while nothing excuses the choices made by the cheating partner, and the blame for the affairs lies squarely on the one who cheats, it is our hope that these conversations inspire a deeper level of awareness and compassion for the plight of the betraying partner. Not to let them off the hook or to mitigate the damage and pain caused by their actions, but to help you in your journey to forgiveness, by way of understanding and acceptance. After all, Life is hard, hurt people hurt people, and it is only when we reach out and try to understand another’s perspective are we able to rise above the collective traumas of the

Intimate Conversations with the Betraying Partner Part 2 – What Happened During the Affair? Chasing Validation in All the Wrong Places -with guest Shawn Cheadle, Lora’s husband, and betraying partner In this particular episode, Lora interviews her husband, Shawn Cheadle, about his experience with infidelity in their marriage. Shawn opens up about seeking emotional validation from someone other than his spouse, the challenges of keeping his affairs secret, and his struggle to understand his own actions. The episode explores various aspects of infidelity, communication, compartmentalization, personal growth, and the importance of addressing difficult topics. Through their candid conversation, Lora and Shawn aim to provide insight for both those who have been betrayed and those who have betrayed others, guiding listeners towards creating lives they love after betrayal. Top takeaways: 1. Compartmentalization and Communication: Shawn discusses how he compartmentalized different aspects of life and how communication is key in addressing emotional needs and desires. He reflects on his own struggles with articulating his feelings and how it led to infidelity in his marriage. 2. Understanding Betrayal: The episode explores the complexities of betrayal and the disconnect that it can cause in relationships. Shawn shares his own experience of seeking validation through other relationships but ultimately realizing that it did not fulfill his needs, and only caused him more pain and shame. He emphasizes the need for open conversation and understanding between both parties involved. 3. Personal Growth and Redemption: Shawn acknowledges his own personal growth journey and the ongoing process of understanding and expressing his needs and emotions. The episode highlights the importance of addressing difficult topics like betrayal, abuse, and mental health, and finding a path towards redemption and healing after making significant mistakes. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com, a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what’s possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

Part 1 – Behind the Scenes of an Affair: Insight from a Cheating Partner: What Led to the Affair? In this episode, Lora interviews Shawn, her husband and the man who betrayed her to find out what led to his multiple affairs. Shawn delves deep into the impact of growing up in rough neighborhoods and facing financial struggles, and how these vulnerabilities manifested in difficulty managing stressful situations in hiss own life such as finances, buying a home, and providing for his family. He also shares how his past traumas and fears led to emotional triggers, This episode emphasizes the importance of understanding how our childhood experiences can impact our behavior in relationships and that unresolved past trauma or vulnerabilities end up affecting our partners and children. Top Take-a-ways: 1. Trauma and past experiences can make expressing vulnerability and having conversations around difficult topics challenging, and lead to unexplained emotional triggers. 2. Affairs often come from the intersection of opportunity and validation, highlighting the importance of understanding and communicating with our partners. 3. Childhood experiences impact our wiring and can lead to difficulties in expressing emotions and resolving conflicts in relationships. This interview series with Lora and her husband Shawn – the man who betrayed her – is a raw, vulnerable, and very real conversation about Shawn’s state of mind and understanding of what happened before, during and after his multiple affairs. These conversations are intended to serve two purposes: First, to provide an understanding of what goes on in the heart and the mind of someone who cheats, and to shed light on some of confusing and irrational behaviors surrounding affairs, and Second, to provide you, the betrayed partner, with something to share with the person who cheated on you, to facilitate conversation and bridge some of the gaps in your collective understanding. Especially if you are trying to reconcile or need to amicably coparent with them. While the circumstance of everyone’s situation is different, surprisingly, there are many similarities. Affairs tend to be born out of pain and an inability to express one’s feelings. Quite often, even though an affair causes more pain, more shame, and more guilt, the cheating partner irrationally believes that cheating is a viable option to lower their pain, and then find themselves stuck in a situation they don’t know how to get out of. It is our joint intention to step bravely into the truth of our situation. To shine a light on a subject that, while shockingly common, is still judged and stigmatized and to do our part in moving the conversation out of the shadows and into the light. May these shows provide you with more answers and understanding than you had before. It is important to note that while nothing excuses the choices made by the cheating partner, and the blame for the affairs lies squarely on the one who cheats, it is our hope that these conversations inspire a deeper level of awareness and compassion for the plight of the betraying partner. Not to let them off the hook or to mitigate the damage and pain caused by their actions, but to help you in your journey to forgiveness, by way of understanding and acceptance. After all, Life is hard, hurt people hurt people, and it is only when we reach out and try to understand another’s perspective are we able to rise above the collective traumas of the past and create a better, healthier world for all. Part 1 is very raw, emotional, and intense. The angst in Shawn’s voice is reflective of his emotions at the time he first chose to have an affair. Parts 2 and 3 are clear and powerful as they reflect Shawn’s growth in understanding about his journey. Get your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide and FREE hypnotic meditation, Embody Yourself when you sign up for my newsletter at www.BetrayalRecoveryCoach.com About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn More & Apply Here! www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Part 2 – What Happened During the Affair? Released June 21, 2023 Part 3 – What Happened After the Affair? Released June 28, 2023 Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

Being betrayed sends you into a tailspin of shock, heartbreak, pain, and grief. Worse, it inspires a sense of shame, secrecy, and fear of judgement or blame from others. But the truth is, betrayal is not just a personal problem, it’s a societal one. Not only due to affairs that occur in the workplace, but because those struggling emotionally with the fall out of infidelity are disengaged and ineffective at work. Since 40% of relationships experience infidelity, at any given time the number of employees who are struggling has the potential to be high. Top take-a-ways: Why betrayal is a societal and mental health problem, not a personal fault, that is a reflection of the betrayer's issues, not your own. How being open about your experiences and seeking help is key to no longer feeling like a victim and setting yourself free. Deconstructing the impact of Infidelity and betrayal in the workplace and what to do to combat the stigma and shame. It’s time to break down the stigma and shame around betrayal, (of any sort) get honest, and start talking about betrayal and its impact both professionally and personally. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com a guide designed to help you take the first steps in feeling better, so you can reclaim your power, own your worth, and start putting yourself, and your life, back together again. About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what’s possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

Learn the ABC’s of self-defense and how to keep yourself safe. Whether things have been volatile since learning of your partner’s affair and you fear for your safety, you are concerned about navigating the dating world and meeting new people, or you just want to feel more confident, empowered, and less like a victim in your everyday life, then this is the show for you! Additionally, we have a BONUS self-defense video where Chris walks you through three basic self-defense strategies. CHECK OUT CHRIS’S SELF-DEFENSE VIDEO HERE: https://youtu.be/pR12GUofuJ8 Top take-a-ways: Understanding and managing the adrenal response in scary or potentially scary situations. How to use your voice, awareness, and intuition to establish boundaries and keep yourself safe. A basic, 1,2,3 sequence of combative self-defense moves that anyone can learn. The importance of mindset and energy in personal safety. Get your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide and FREE hypnotic meditation, Embody Yourself when you sign up for my newsletter at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

Infidelity and betrayal leave you heartbroken, shattered, and wondering if you will ever be healed, happy, or whole again. This show takes you beyond healing and catapults you into a vision for what’s possible when you embrace next-level, multidimensional healing. In it, we will explore channeling, spirituality, and the empath/narcissist relationship dynamic so you can find the clarity, peace, and progress you deserve and desire. Top take-a-ways: Grief as “the great transformer” and how dark nights of the soul can inspire you to work through the layers of human wounding and find healing, boundaries, and personal power. The power of the heart, and why heartbreak does not actually come from the heart, which lives in the present, but the head, which is replaying stories from the past. How to trust yourself, spirit, and intuition again after you have been betrayed by others and understanding the process of spirituality so you can open yourself up to the possibility of what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Understanding “the abandoned self” and how to differentiate between unhealthy power and power that is rounded, grounded, and kind so you can find and create satisfying relationships. FREE BONUS! Get a free healing practice that helps you to get everything that is not yours out of your body, so you can be free to embody yourself as you are. FREE when you sign up for my newsletter at www.BetrayalRecoveryCoach.com About Lee: Lee Harris is the author of Awaken Your Multidimensional Soul, which is the second book in his Conversations with the Z’s series, and Energy Speaks. A gifted energy intuitive and channeler, he leads a vibrant online community that reaches 1 million people every month. His acclaimed online events, members community The Portal, and top 50 spirituality podcast Impact the World are adventures into the deepest aspects of living, loving, and awakening. Lee is also an accomplished music producer and singer-songwriter whose acclaimed albums have charted as high as No. 1 on the iTunes and Amazon New Age charts. For more information visit http://www.LeeHarrisEnergy.com. Join Lee Harris on June 14-26 for Soul Magic, an immersive journey online where channeled messages are integrated with the transcendent music of composer Davor Bozic to create a rare transformative collaboration - channeled teachings and customized musical performances. The music, created in real time in direct response to the teaching, is tuned to 528 Hz, the Love Frequency, to deepen the experience, promote healing and expand our consciousness. This online experience includes 7 sessions, each lasting about 60-90 minutes, from June 14th - 26th. This will include live broadcasts from Lee, unique sessions with Lee & Davor creating magic in the room together, audience Q&A with Lee and an exclusive live performance from Grammy-nominated music mantra artists Deva Premal & Miten. www.LeeHarrisEnergy.com About Lora: Attorney, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle believes that betrayal uncovers the truth of what’s possible when we stop focusing on what was done to us and start showing up unapologetically for ourselves. She helps women rebuild their identity and self-worth after infidelity so they can reclaim (or find for the very first time) their confidence, clarity, and connection to source and create their own kind of happily ever after. Get your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide and FREE hypnotic meditation, Embody Yourself when you sign up for my newsletter at www.BetrayalRecoveryCoach.com Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

A guided meditation to ground, center, and anchor yourself in your body. How being broken gives the pain a place to seep out, leaving you healthier and happier than before. How to BE IN your body, even when you aren't sure you want to be there, or when it feels to scary or painful to be you. Here's how to relax, drop in, reconnect to your intuition and start to heal.

Infidelity and betrayal shatter your soul and leave you feeling broken, empty, and confused. But what if this shattering was an opportunity for the pain, toxicity, and everything that is not yours to escape your body? What if it was an opportunity for us to define who we were, and to come home to ourselves as we most authentically are? This show will shift your heart and your mind and will set you free from the pain, drama, and ruination of your partner’s affair so you can be free to live life your way. FREE BONUS! Get a free healing practice that helps you to get everything that is not yours out of your body, so you can be free to embody yourself as you are. FREE when you sign up for my newsletter at www.BetrayalRecoveryCoach.com Top take-a-ways: How do you come home to yourself when you don’t know who you are? Learn to define yourself authentically. Why a dark night of the soul is often the precursor to transformation and how to use your feelings of being broken as a bridge to grounded presence. The power of losing yourself so you can find yourself anew. How to be free from whatever it is that’s holding you back, so you can be free to do whatever is you most desperately want to do! Get your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide and FREE hypnotic meditation, Embody Yourself when you sign up for my newsletter at www.BetrayalRecoveryCoach.com About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT Transcript available at www.loracheadle.com/pdocasts

Nobody can be prepared for what is unexpected, and betrayal is typically unexpected. Discovering your partner’s infidelity leaves you with a multitude of decisions that you suddenly have to make, even when you are unprepared. Here’s a 5-step process that you can follow whenever you feel stuck and don’t know what to do next. Top take-a-ways: Using the 5-step FLAUNT! process to figure out your most immediate next steps – even when you feel completely at a loss. The power of curiosity, trying new things, and doing what you have never done before, in order to get what you have never gotten before. How to not get caught up in the idea of “doing it right” or “doing it wrong” and to instead be in the ever-changing present moment. About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

Why do I feel guilty, like I somehow caused my partner’s affair? This question is one of the most perplexing aspects of betrayal recovery. While the answer is NO, you did not cause your partner’s affair, EVER, it’s also appropriate to be able to self-reflect on the relationship, realize what you know now that you didn’t know then, see where you can do better going forward, and take steps to get healthy and clean up your side of the street. So that going forward, you are clear, strong, empowered, and confident enough to manage any situation with grace. Top take-a-ways: The rush of clarity and empowerment that comes from owning your so-called mistakes, and choosing to heal and grow so you can live differently and make healthier choices going forward. A guided practice to release yourself from any guilt that you may feel for things you did that contributed to the break-down of the relationship. Why your partner is minimizing the affair, refusing to take responsibility for his actions, and is blaming you for his choices. About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

Gary Chapman’s “Five Love Languages” explain our conscious associations and desires around love. But what about our subconscious associations and desires around love? Whether you had a functional or dysfunctional childhood, all children are hardwired to love their parents – which means they interpret everything their parents do as love. Even when it’s not! That means that as an adult you and your partner can have faulty associations when it comes to love. And because they are subconscious, neither of you are even aware of those associations, let alone know how to change them! Top take-a-ways: Is your partner critical and negative? It’s possible that because of the way they were raised, they think that love equals criticism and riding someone’s case in order to “make them better.” Here’s how to understand and combat negative associations around love. Discover your love associations (and your partner’s love associations) and how they have translated into your adult life and relationships. Unhook from toxic emotions around unhealthy ways that you or your partner show love. About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

Finding out that your partner had an affair is devastating. Not only do you have to navigate the shock, grief, and emotional trauma of finding out that the person you loved cheated on you and betrayed you, but you must also figure out whether you want a divorce, how to divide assets, and how to manage financially for yourself and your children going forward. Which is overwhelming! Lisa Zeiderman is an attorney, CFL, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who can help you understand and navigate the process with grace. Top take-a-ways: Understand the steps in the divorce process so you can best prepare for what’s to come. Get a handle on your finances, assets, and what you can (and cannot) expect in divorce. Why one of the most important things you can do to protect and preserve your assets is to be mindful of what you say, write, and do. About Lisa Zeiderman: Lisa Zeiderman is Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, based in New York. A matrimonial attorney, CFL and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, she regularly handles complex financial and custody divorce matters, as well as pre- and post-nuptial agreements for high-net-worth individuals. Named to the Crain’s New York list of Notable Woman Attorneys for 2022, as well as a Crain’s New York Notable Diverse Lawyer for 2022, a Hudson Valley Best Lawyer in 2023, a Super Lawyer in Metro New York since 2019, a 2021 Best Family Law Attorney for Client Satisfaction by the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys, among many other awards, Lisa is a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators and a member of the panel for Attorneys for Children. Lisa is also a member of the Forbes Business Council. In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody,” Ms. Zeiderman is regularly published in Financial Advisor Magazine, the New York Law Journal, and Forbes. She is also regularly interviewed on issues ranging from financial empowerment to complex tax issues and child custody, and has been featured in a host of media from The Wall Street Journal to Kiplinger’s, as well as on a multitude of podcasts. Ms. Zeiderman, a Fordham University of Law graduate, also serves as the Vice President of the executive board of Savvy Ladies, Inc., the board of Family Legal Care (formerly known as LIFT, Legal Information for Families Today), and as President of the Justice Brandeis Law Society. About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

Eclipses were terrifying to ancient peoples who didn't understand what they were. So too can we feel terrified when we are creating new lives for ourselves, or ushering in a new phase of evolution. Use this meditation during partial or full eclipses to feel calm during your dark night, and to usher in a fresh new start.

Use this short meditation every time there's a New Moon so you can get comfortable showing your dark side, setting intentions, and creating a new beginning for yourself.

If you are anything like most of the women I work with, you are an amazing woman who tries hard to do things right. You’ve done the heavy lifting in your relationship, responsibly taken care of everyone and everything that needs taking care of, and you’ve always done your best. On the outside, you probably appear to be confident too. But are you worthy of messing up? Do you feel worthy of being a hot mess, making mistakes, and being angry, ugly, and a wreck? Shocking as it seems, that’s what true self-worth is about. Unconditionally loving and accepting yourself in the bad, dark, ugly times. After all, it’s easy to appreciate and love the good. Can you appreciate and love yourself in the bad? Top take-a-ways: The false construct of success, perfection, and achievement and how believing that “Because I’m worth it” is empowering, when it really keeps you locked in perfectionism. Understanding why so many of us seek to make others happy and aren’t even aware of who we are and what we want. How to “be the cake” instead of the “icing” and learn to validate and appreciate yourself instead of seeking to please others or making everyone else happy – and not you. Why other people’s opinions of you are none of your business. About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

Affairs rock your world and change your life. But they also help you understand deeper truths such as why you love the way you love, how family history and epigenetics impact relationships and separations, and how to resolve conflict – sometimes without even talking about it, but by dealing with your family imprint instead! It all has to do with subconscious patterning and dismantling destructive or unhealthy family patterns. Top take-a-ways: Unpacking what led to the affair, what was swept under the rug, and what was missed – so you can wake up to everything that was missed and never be caught off guard again. Understanding your “Love Blueprint,” how you love, who you love, and why you are attracted to the people you are attracted to. Why “It isn’t about forgiveness” and “Blame is the cheapest hit of power going.” About Johanna Lynn: Johanna is a highly trained systemic therapist who offers resolutions from long standing issues in online classes or private sessions with a focus on restoring relationships and cultivating resilient boundaries by dismantling family patterns. Learn more at www.JohannaLynn.com About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

This week we’re bringing you a very different show! We’re bringing you a full hour of universal, channeled, wisdom to help you on your betrayal recovery journey. Lora channels a group of entities known as “The Librarians.” The Librarians are keepers of universal wisdom for the earth plane and their messages are meant for seekers of light. Take it slow, pause when you need to pause, and if you like what you hear, follow Lora on Facebook or YouTube where she goes live every Tuesday, with a new, live channel. Dec.13, 2022 Truth lives inside of us all. And while none of us share the exact same truth, we all share the knowledge that our truth is important. Which is where things get difficult! While it’s important for us to share what’s going on inside with others, to validate our experience and to create the kinds of close relationships that we want, communication is difficult! Words are limited and cannot explain our unique perspectives, textures, and feelings. Therefore, trying to explain what’s going on inside in a way that others can understand is impossible! Yes we try. And we get angry when others don’t understand… Oneness comes from the shared understanding that we are all alone in our unique perspectives. That we are all unable to communicate our feelings, wisdom, and knowingness adequately. Oneness comes from being aware and honoring that we are all “right” and we are all centered in our own hearts, and that we are all alone with our own insides, and that our connection is through our unique aloneness. Dec. 20, 2022 A piece for peace! This week’s message is about the deeper meaning and message behind Winter Solstice and darkness. While reaching outside of ourselves for light is fine because we all need inspiration at times, the task of becoming spirit Actually awakened is about cultivating the light that’s within, not seeking external light During Winter Solstice we are in the dark for a reason and that reason is so we can find our own light. And the key is not stressing about being “good enough” or “enlightened enough” either. All we need is a PIECE of our light to find PEACE! We don’t need to illuminate the whole world, we just need to illuminate and sustain ourselves. Because Peace on Earth is attained when everyone on the planet illuminates their own hearts! Dec. 27, 2022 Go in Grace. Go with the Flow. Allow Yourself to Receive. This week’s message is about EASE and how we like to make things harder than they are. Ease is our birthright. Worlds (and humans!) are created with ease. Yes, there is the occasional cataclysmic event, but the process flows with ease, always. And when difficulties arise, life flows around those difficulties. Worthiness is not a part of it. We like to make things more difficult to prove to ourselves that we are worthy of being chosen, of receiving, of enjoying. and if you WANT to keep playing that game, you can. Just know that it is a game, and you don’t have to play it. You can just flow. That’s what GRACE is. It’s the right to receive without being worthy. It’s the right to love and live and enjoy even though you don’t “deserve” to love and live and enjoy. Because the Truth (capitol T truth!) is that everyone deserves it. Nothing is conditional. Nothing is separate from God/Goddess. *Post-channel message: Look at our language around God. In the channel, Lora said he/she referring to God, and then typed God/Goddess. God/Goddess is the whole. Humans have created the separation of the whole into two-God and Goddess. Then humans stress out around gender! Life is genderless. Life is whole and complete. Life is without division. Ease and flow and grace are without division. Struggle and strife are division. Look around, it’s everywhere! We love to struggle and overcome and fight and declare ourselves “right” so we can prove our own worth. Just know that it’s not necessary. That’s why GRACE was given to humans. We only need to receive this one gift if we want to live like Jesus/God/Goddess. Jan. 3, 2023 When we realize the inevitability of “bad things,” it allows us to partake fully in the sweetness of life. This week the Librarians want us to become aware of the cloud of fear that surrounds our hearts and planet, and instead of continuing to build up our defenses to protect against bad things that might (or might not) happen, to realize that “bad things” happening is inevitable. Not to traumatize or scare us, but to realize that protecting ourselves fully is impossible. We have limited control. Yes, we can plan and save or be safe and take precautions and that is good, but we cannot prevent, anticipate, or protect against everything When we realize the inevitability of “bad things” happening in our lives, we become more able to partake in the sweetness of life and we enjoy ourselves more. Jan 10, 2023 Feeling our feelings is what living is all about. It doesn’t matter if they are good feelings, bad feelings, or anything in between. The act of feeling is “fun” and is what being a

Like 9-11 and COVID, survivors of infidelity mark time with “before D-day” or “after D-day.”. Yet unlike 9-11 or COVID, you are profoundly alone in your D-day trauma. Which it makes it vitally important to create your own anniversary “celebration” or way to mark and memorialize all that you have been through. No matter how many D-days you have had, no matter if you are happily married to your cheating partner, are still struggling, or are divorced and done, it is still a moment in your life that needs to be remembered with care, honor, and compassion. Here’s how. Top take-a-ways: Attachment styles and how the way you were raised impacts the way you feel in your body, especially during traumatic events and anniversaries such as D-day. The art of giving yourself now what you needed most then, and re-parenting and re-patterning yourself after upsetting events. How to create space, time, and healing by “being responsive” to yourself and learning how to meet your own needs. Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

So often we hear about healing after infidelity, affair recovery, or healing from betrayal. But do you want to heal, or do you want to transform? Healing means getting back to how you were before, and most of the women I work with want something better than what they had before. Something more honest, more real, and intimate. Interestingly, the most difficult part of “transforming your life” is typically disrupting the status quo and unraveling what is. Which is the gift of betrayal. Betrayal disrupts the status quo and unravels what is, for you. So all that’s left is for you to come back home to who you are and rebuild your life, your way. Top take-a-ways: The process of knowing yourself and showing yourself authentically for who you are so you can transform into the person you were meant to be. How to set, communicate, and enforce effective boundaries that uphold your highest vision of who you are and what you deserve. Finding the courage to rise, thrive, and overcome life’s challenges. About Lora: Author, speaker and Burnout & Betrayal Recovery Coach, Lora Cheadle help women rebuild their identity and self-worth so they can find the courage to claim what’s possible on the other side of betrayal. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

Life is unpredictable, and while there are steps you can take to protect yourself, none of us can prepare for what’s to come perfectly. We will get hurt. We will make mistakes. Bad things happen to good people. Which is where self-empowerment comes in. Not in a buzz-wordy way, but in deeply powerful type of way. Being fully self-empowered means being okay with what is as well as what will be, because you know that no matter what happens, you can manage yourself. No matter what life brings, you know that you are protected by something greater, and that you will always be okay. Top take-a-ways: Steps you can take to legally, financially, and practically protect yourself and your interests after betrayal (or any time at all) What “bad things happening” to your or in your life says about you How to find the courage to rise, thrive, and overcome life’s challenges. Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who helps women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT #infidelity #cheating #betrayal #cheaters #cheatingspouse #Divorce #love #sacrifice #groupcoaching #newyearsameme #hollidaysupport #marriage #healing #supportgroup #infidelityrecovery #adultery #affair #cheatinghusband #2023 #newyear #relationships #affairrecovery #selflove #selfbetrayal #Affairs #infidelityhurts #betrayed #unfaithful #relationshipgoals #selflove #youareenough #youareworthy #youarebeautiful #selflovejourney#recovery #trauma #betrayaltrauma #infidelitysurvivor #doublelife #immoral #growth #growthmindset

Betrayal takes many forms, but its impact remains significant. And even the seemingly “old traumas” and incidents from childhood have an effect on our present lives and relationships. Today’s guest is a spunky young woman who is wiser than women twice her age and is not afraid to do the hard and often times messy work of loving herself while daring to live from a place of joy. Top take-a-ways: Leaning into abundance and joy even when life has flipped you sideways and you need time to stop and heal The power of asking yourself questions and journaling the response as a means of gaining clarity on yourself and your life. What it means to feel sexy while also respecting yourself and your body, and giving yourself grace to make mistakes. About Jolie Dawn: Jolie Dawn is the author of Empowered, Sexy, and Free and creator of the Dare to Prosper Challenge, the largest women’s prosperity meditation gathering online, attended by women in more than fifty countries. She specializes in helping women awaken their prosperity consciousness, embody their deepest truth, and reclaim personal freedom and creativity. An intuitive business coach and writer, she currently contributes to Entrepreneur magazine, and she has written six bestselling self-published books. Visit her online at http://www.joliedawn.com. Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

ave you ever felt like your cheating partner “ruined” your idea of love and relationship, leaving you bitter and hardened? Whether it’s unpacking your own childhood trauma or processing the impact of your partner’s childhood trauma (that then impacted you) the good news is that whatever you learned, you can unlearn. Top take-a-ways: Why unhealthy patterns from childhood get replicated in adult relationships How the familiar (even when it’s not something you want) feels safe and lures you in Consciously making the decision to unlearn unhealthy behaviors or attitudes about love so you can find and keep the love you want and deserve – without drama. About Dr. Thomas Jordan: Dr. Jordan is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst in private practice in New York City. He is on the faculty of NYU’s Postdoctoral Program in Psychoanalysis, author of Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life and founder of LoveLifeLearningCenter.com. Dr. Jordan specializes in the treatment of unhealthy love lives and has been studying them for over 30 years. Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor and Betrayal Recovery Coach who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can untangle from the past, overcome obsessive thoughts, and learn to trust themselves again so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn More & Apply Here! www.AffairRecoveryForWomen.com Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

Have you ever wished you could sit down with a cheater (whether your partner or somebody else) and ask them what the heck was going on in their minds when they cheated? Why they did it, what they thought, or what it said about them or you? Now you can. In this mind-blowing interview you will learn why men cheat, especially when they love their partners. Using a sample collected from the online dating service Ashley Madison, Alicia M. Walker interviewed men about their experiences and perceptions regarding their participation in infidelity. What she found was as fascinating as it was unexpected! Contrary to gendered social scripts, the men in this study described their motivations for outside partnerships that were not rooted in the desire for sexual pleasure or variety, but rather as an outlet to soothe their bruised egos, receive attention and validation and to fight their feelings of emasculation. Top take-a-ways: Deconstructing why men who want to stay married and keep their primary partnership, seek out affairs. How even the best primary partnerships sow seeds of self-doubt and feelings of emasculation in men. Relationship management, and why men perceive partners who aren’t helping them understand and process their emotions as rejection. The secret needs of men, and why they are “bottomless pits of need” who need their egos pumped up more often than anyone might imagine! Alicia M. Walker, PhD is an associate professor of sociology at Missouri State University. Like many sociologists, her educational background is varied. Before receiving her PhD in sociology at the University of Kentucky, Walker earned a MEd in educational leadership from Texas State University, and a BA in English from the University of Tampa. She appreciates an interdisciplinary focus and collaboration. Walker is a microsociologist, whose work focuses on intimate sexual relationships, sexual identity and behavior, and gender. Specifically, her work looks at the social construction of the sexual self, the ways we make sense of ourselves as sexual beings, the ways we navigate our sexual worlds, and our lived experiences as sexual beings. Walker has particular interest in closeted sexual behaviors and online initiation of sexual relationships. She is credited with creating a sociology of infidelity. Walker’s second book focuses on men’s experiences with infidelity called Chasing Masculinity: Men, Validation, and Infidelity published by Palgrave-Macmillan. This book examines men’s experiences with participation in outside partnerships. Chasing Masculinity has been discussed in The Sun, Vice, The Globe and Mail, and Medium, among others. Her debut monograph, The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife: Power, Pragmatism, and Pleasure in Women’s Infidelity, is available in hardcover now. The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife is about women’s navigation of outside partnerships alongside primary partnerships, and gives voices to women’s lived experiences. The book has been discussed in articles published in The New York Times and CNN, among others. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her family (adult children, husband, and mother) with whom she is close, and her beloved rescue dog, Harvey, whom she and her daughter found abandoned at a gas station as a puppy. (Adopt, don’t shop!) She also enjoys traveling, great movies, playing cards, and collecting statues of the goddesses of love, marriage, and fertility of various cultures (as they relate to her work). Learn more at: https://www.alicia-walker.com/ Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor and Betrayal Recovery Coach who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can untangle from the past, overcome obsessive thoughts, and learn to trust themselves again so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

Are you having trouble deciding whether you should stay or go? Is part of that indecision because you are afraid of what divorce might do to your kids? Then this is the show for you! As Kate says, “Do not let the promises be the things that keep you in the relationship. Let the actions be the things that bring you back.” Top take-a-ways: Excavating yourself and getting back in the front seat of your own live, so you can determine who you are and what you want. Looking at the relationship objectively and seeing where it’s in alignment, and out of alignment, with who you are and what you want. The definition of love, and what “But I love him!” really means for you and your relationship journey. Understanding emotional abuse and coercion. Love this show and want some more? Check out Kate’s interview with Lora on her podcast, Your Divorce Survival Guide! https://kateanthony.com/podcast/life-after-betrayal-with-lora-cheadle/ Kate Anthony is the host of the New York Times recommended podcast, The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast, and a certified coach with over a decade’s worth of experience helping women (with children in particular) make the most difficult decision of their lives: should I stay or should I go? She also helps divorcing moms recover from toxic, emotionally abusive marriages in the most collaborative way possible, always putting their children at the center — never in the middle — of all their decisions. Learn more about Kate at: https://kateanthony.com/ and continue the goodness by checking out Lora’s interview on Kate’s podcast too! https://kateanthony.com/podcast/ Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

Are you afraid that you are too broken to recover from your partner’s infidelity? You are not alone, and although the journey is arduous to be sure, the truth is, you can recover and thrive after infidelity. In fact, your life and relationships can be better than ever before. Top take-a-ways: Identifying and healing shattered expectations. Uncovering how your worldview was ruptured and rebuilding trust in others. Understanding identity and how to rebuild your identity and self-worth after infidelity. Watch this episode on YouTube @ https://youtu.be/4yZSh3rhdMM Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT

Recovering from infidelity and betrayal requires you to get all of your needs met. Affair recovery is brutal, on many different levels, and if you are going to survive and thrive, then you must take care of yourself first. Two weeks ago we talked about setting your intention for recovery. Last week we talked about mapping out your journey on how to get where you want to go. This week we are talking about props, which art the things you will need along the journey, and costumes, which are what you will need when you arrive. Top take-a-ways: Identifying what you will need along the betrayal recovery journey, including resources, food, nutrition, physical wellness, and the ability to feel beautiful, powerful, and strong. Giving yourself permission to “prop” yourself up with whatever props you deem necessary, so you can get to the other side of the affair recovery journey quickly and efficiently. Pondering what the kind of person you desire to be – healed, healthy, calm, or loved – might wear, and structuring your “costume” accordingly. Revenge Life Retreat & Photo-Shoot! Don’t just make a Vision Board, become a living Vision Board! Join Lora for her annual “Fall (Back) in Love with YOU!” retreat where you will create and embody a vision of exactly who and how you want to be in 2023. Be the first to know when registration opens by signing up at www.FLAUNTStudios.com Are you resentful over how much you have done, or sacrificed, for others? Do you feel let down by your career, life, and relationships? Have you ever thrown yourself into a self-help program, been determined to “fix yourself,” or promised that this was going to your year, only to have the same problems knock you down again? You are not alone! For years, that’s what I did too. And until this, nothing worked for me either. After my husband’s infidelity, I wanted, Not just a Revenge Body, Not just a Revenge Relationship, I wanted a Revenge Life! Not to show him, but to show myself that I was worth it, and that no matter what life brought my way, I would never betray myself again. This is how I did it. Let me show you how! In this glorious two-day retreat and photo shoot you will spend deep, delicious time figuring out and embodying exactly who you want to be next year. Then, the talented Jiang Photography will capture that version of you in a stunning black and white photograph so no matter what comes your way, no matter how you are judged from others, and no matter how broken you feel, you will have proof – photographic evidence – of who you most authentically are and what you are capable of. You will get: A safe place to connect with others who are going through the same kinds of challenges you are going through, Customized meditation, journaling, and time to create yourself as a living vision board, and your future, Lessons on incorporating and using indigenous wisdom to bring peace, healing and prosperity in everyday life, Your very own piece of movement/performance art that will reconnect you to your heart and your body, Lessons in embodied, sensual movement, The ability to ask questions, receive one-on-one coaching, and get feedback and insight from a trained professional who has been there too and has come successfully out the outer side. For more information and to register for the Revenge Life Retreat & Photo-Shoot, go to: www.FLAUNTStudios.com Spots are limited and if you register before January 31st, you get everything for only $397! Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt.

Happy 2023! While I’m not big on New Year’s Resolutions (because statistically speaking, only 9% of resolutions are successful) I am big on manifesting and setting intentions. Top take-a-ways: A Resolution is about being resolute, firm, and decisive. The energy around resolutions is harsh and you either succeed or you fail. There is no middle ground. An Intention is a plan, something that you aim for. The energy around intention is softer. There is room for so-called “error” and as long as you are facing in the right direction, aiming towards the target, still wanting the thing that you intend, you are on track. Manifesting means to make evident or certain by showing or displaying. Contrary to popular believe, this is not about magic-ing red corvettes our of thin air. Manifesting is about making something evident by showing or displaying yourself in a certain state of being. If you want to manifest peace and joy, your task is to display or show yourself as peaceful and joyful. If you want to find healing, your task is to display or show yourself as healed. If you want to find love, abundance, or success, your task is to display or show yourself as love, abundance, or success. Not by masking up and pretending. Not by being pretentious or lying about how you feel. Not by Resolving to feel differently than you do. That’s false positivity or spiritual bypassing and it doesn’t work. But by intending to be peaceful and joyful in the midst of chaos. By intending to be healed and whole in the midst of being broken. By intending to be love, abundance, and successful in the midst of heartbreak, poverty, and failure. It’s a subtle but powerful shift that moves mountains! This year I am going to give myself the gift of seeing myself as successful in every circumstance. Because if I can’t see myself as I intend to be, how can I expect others to? How can I expect it to be? What are you going to be in 2023? Fall (Back) in Love with YOU February Retreat! Don’t just make a Vision Board, become a living Vision Board! Join Lora for her annual “Fall (Back) in Love with YOU!” retreat where you will create and embody a vision of exactly who and how you want to be in 2023. Be the first to know when registration opens by signing up at www.life-choreography.com Tune in all of January, where you will learn: 1) How to set an intention for yourself in 2023, so you can overcome heartbreak, untangle from the pain and thrive! 2) The art of mapping out your journey instead of merely claiming what you want and then not knowing how to get there, and how music can keep you engaged. 3) Using costumes, props, and play to keep you motivated throughout the difficult times and remind you of what it is you are seeking to become. 4) How to choreograph the next chapter of your life, your way, with enthusiasm and joy, even when you feel like you are too broken and can never be happy or successful again. BONUS! Grab a copy of your Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit, with a chapter of Lora’s book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, and Spiritual Self on re-writing the screenplay of your life, a beautiful, downloadable journal, and a guided meditation. All for $19.99. Snap it up here! https://loracheadle.com/product/infidelity/ Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt.

Intentions are powerful, but without a map of how to get where you want to go, chances are, you won’t! Whether it’s healing from betrayal on your own, building a new relationship, or saving your marriage, you need a solid plan that strikes a balance between giving yourself enough time to process, while still holding yourself accountable. Top take-a-ways: Identifying and executing your most immediate next steps so you can get to where you want to go without spinning in circles or taking two steps forward, one step back. Thinking of the route to who you want to be as a song, that consists of chorus, verse, and musical interlude. Understanding how the verse, the section of the song that moves the story forward, is done in small chunks, with plenty of time for the chorus (repetition) and musical interludes (relaxation)! Using the cycle of the seasons to create the perfect, intuitive Map for your journey into 2023 and beyond. Don’t just make a Vision Board, become a living Vision Board! Join Lora for her annual “Fall (Back) in Love with YOU!” retreat where you will create and embody a vision of exactly who and how you want to be in 2023. Be the first to know when registration opens by signing up at www.FLAUNTStudios.com Revenge Life Retreat & Photo-Shoot! Are you resentful over how much you have done, or sacrificed, for others? Do you feel let down by your career, life, and relationships? Have you ever thrown yourself into a self-help program, been determined to “fix yourself,” or promised that this was going to your year, only to have the same problems knock you down again? You are not alone! For years, that’s what I did too. And until this, nothing worked for me either. After my husband’s infidelity, I wanted, Not just a Revenge Body, Not just a Revenge Relationship, I wanted a Revenge Life! Not to show him, but to show myself that I was worth it, and that no matter what life brought my way, I would never betray myself again. This is how I did it. Let me show you how! In this glorious two-day retreat and photo shoot you will spend deep, delicious time figuring out and embodying exactly who you want to be next year. Then, the talented Jiang Photography will capture that version of you in a stunning black and white photograph so no matter what comes your way, no matter how you are judged from others, and no matter how broken you feel, you will have proof – photographic evidence – of who you most authentically are and what you are capable of. You will get: A safe place to connect with others who are going through the same kinds of challenges you are going through, Customized meditation, journaling, and time to create yourself as a living vision board, and your future, Lessons on incorporating and using indigenous wisdom to bring peace, healing and prosperity in everyday life, Your very own piece of movement/performance art that will reconnect you to your heart and your body, Lessons in embodied, sensual movement, The ability to ask questions, receive one-on-one coaching, and get feedback and insight from a trained professional who has been there too and has come successfully out the outer side. For more information and to register for the Revenge Life Retreat & Photo-Shoot, go to: www.FLAUNTStudios.com Spots are limited and if you register before January 31st, you get everything for only $397! Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt.

Intentions are powerful, but without a map of how to get where you want to go, chances are, you won’t! Whether it’s healing from betrayal on your own, building a new relationship, or saving your marriage, you need a solid plan that strikes a balance between giving yourself enough time to process, while still holding yourself accountable. Top take-a-ways: Identifying and executing your most immediate next steps so you can get to where you want to go without spinning in circles or taking two steps forward, one step back. Thinking of the route to who you want to beas a song, that consists of chorus, verse, and musical interlude. Understanding how the verse, the section of the song that moves the story forward, is done in small chunks, with plenty of time for the chorus (repetition) and musical interludes (relaxation)! Using the cycle of the seasons to create the perfect, intuitive Map for your journey into 2023 and beyond. Revenge Life Retreat & Photo-Shoot! Don’t just make a Vision Board, become a living Vision Board! Join Lora for her annual “Fall (Back) in Love with YOU!” retreat where you will create and embody a vision of exactly who and how you want to be in 2023. Be the first to know when registration opens by signing up at www.FLAUNTStudios.com Are you resentful over how much you have done, or sacrificed, for others? Do you feel let down by your career, life, and relationships? Have you ever thrown yourself into a self-help program, been determined to “fix yourself,” or promised that this was going to your year, only to have the same problems knock you down again? You are not alone! For years, that’s what I did too. And until this, nothing worked for me either. After my husband’s infidelity, I wanted, Not just a Revenge Body, Not just a Revenge Relationship, I wanted a Revenge Life! Not to show him, but to show myself that I was worth it, and that no matter what life brought my way, I would never betray myself again. This is how I did it. Let me show you how! In this glorious two-day retreat and photo shoot you will spend deep, delicious time figuring out and embodying exactly who you want to be next year. Then, the talented Jiang Photography will capture that version of you in a stunning black and white photograph so no matter what comes your way, no matter how you are judged from others, and no matter how broken you feel, you will have proof – photographic evidence – of who you most authentically are and what you are capable of. You will get: A safe place to connect with others who are going through the same kinds of challenges you are going through, Customized meditation, journaling, and time to create yourself as a living vision board, and your future, Lessons on incorporating and using indigenous wisdom to bring peace, healing and prosperity in everyday life, Your very own piece of movement/performance art that will reconnect you to your heart and your body, Lessons in embodied, sensual movement, The ability to ask questions, receive one-on-one coaching, and get feedback and insight from a trained professional who has been there too and has come successfully out the outer side. For more information and to register for the Revenge Life Retreat & Photo-Shoot, go to: www.FLAUNTStudios.com Spots are limited and if you register before January 31st, you get everything for only $397! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve set, and then failed at, a New Year’s Resolution before. Whether it’s an attempt to manifest your way out of debt or pain, or into a new car or relationship, too many people fail when they really want to succeed. Contrary to popular belief, sticking to your resolutions or manifesting your dream life is not hard! The steps you read about online and in books are not wrong. It’s just that they leave out the Number One Most Important First Step. Which you will learn about in this show! Top take-a-ways: The Number One most important thing to do in manifesting or setting a New Year’s Resolution. Why manifesting is a process instead of an action and how to use that process. The power of being and embodying how you want to be in 2023. Don’t just make a Vision Board, become a living Vision Board! Join Lora for her annual “Fall (Back) in Love with YOU!” retreat where you will create and embody a vision of exactly who and how you want to be in 2023. Be the first to know when registration opens by signing up at www.life-choreography.com Tune in all of January, where you will learn: 1) How to set an intention for yourself in 2023, so you can overcome heartbreak, untangle from the pain and thrive! 2) The art of mapping out your journey instead of merely claiming what you want and then not knowing how to get there, and how music can keep you engaged. 3) Using costumes, props, and play to keep you motivated throughout the difficult times and remind you of what it is you are seeking to become. 4) How to choreograph the next chapter of your life, your way, with enthusiasm and joy, even when you feel like you are too broken and can never be happy or successful again. Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor and Betrayal Recovery Coach who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can untangle from the past, overcome obsessive thoughts, and learn to trust themselves again so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt.

We live in a culture that is afraid of the dark, both literally and metaphorically. We celebrate beauty, success, and power and we cover and hide that which is inconvenient, painful, or weak. We don’t like things that are ugly or messy and we tend to shame ourselves and others for not being able to put on a happy face or be perfect all the time. Especially when we are facing infidelity or betrayal. Facing the dark night of the soul is where things get real. Because when faced with darkness, we have two choices: Search for the light outside ourselves, or Search for the light within. Top take-a-ways: The balance of light and dark, good and evil, and how to honor both so you can accept in and embrace the all. How the cycle of the seasons is a reflection of our journey through life. Witnessing, being seen, and sharing your grief authentically. Embracing the Peruvian wisdom of the snake, puma, and condor. Deciding if you are cultivating your own light, or relying too heavily on others to do it for you? How finding a PIECE of our own light will bring us PEACE! Why you don’t need to illuminate the whole world; you just need to illuminate yourself. Read this year’s Winter Solstice message in full at https://loracheadle.com/spirit/a-piece-for-peace-winter-solstice-2022/ It comes straight from The Librarians, a group of entities that bring wisdom to humanity. If you’d like more of their wisdom, join me for Coffee with the Librarians every Tuesday on Facebook or YouTube. https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLByVsi5zB-PqoN2dMdbCOVqt3MZee_WLQ About Lora: Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor and Betrayal Recovery Coach who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can untangle from the past, overcome obsessive thoughts, and learn to trust themselves again so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! BONUS! Grab a copy of your Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit, with a chapter of Lora’s book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, and Spiritual Self on re-writing the screenplay of your life, a beautiful, downloadable journal, and a guided meditation. All for $19.99. Snap it up here! https://loracheadle.com/product/infidelity/ Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like-minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt

Betrayal pulls the rug out from under you and makes you question yourself and your reality. Things that you relied on as true, you find out were not, leaving you ungrounded, grieving, and wondering where you can turn to for safety and rest. Which can be especially painful around the holidays, where tradition reigns supreme, and you find yourself in unfamiliar territory with the outside pressure to be jolly. Top Take-a-ways: Creating traditions post-betrayal, for yourself and others. Reflecting on holidays past, and learning to acknowledge, receive, and grieve the joy and loss of what was. Tradition as a way of marking time, increasing your sense of belonging, making meaning in a chaotic and unpredictable world. How to revisit the values and beliefs connected to holidays, examine what is important to you now, and reestablish an identity in accordance with your deepest values. Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Untangle yourself from the past, release judgment, and uncover the power, beauty, and joy that’s been inside you all along. All with a wink and a smile! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Untangle yourself from the past, reclaim your power, and own your worth so you can create a future you love on your own terms. All with a wink and a smile! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like-minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt

What do you want to know about infidelity, betrayal, and affair recovery but are afraid to ask? Join Lora for an intimate deep dive into the truth about affairs, infidelity, and betrayal. Better yet, if your question was not answered, email Lora at [email protected] and she will answer your questions during her next Q&A show! Questions Answered in this episode: Is there hope? Is it always going to hurt so badly and feel like this? Is this normal? Am I normal? How do I find normal again? Should I have sex with my partner? Did I cause this? What did I do wrong, and why didn’t I know? Why should I try to make this work? BONUS! Grab a copy of your Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit, with a chapter of Lora’s book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, and Spiritual Self on re-writing the screenplay of your life, a beautiful, downloadable journal, and a guided meditation. All for $19.99. Snap it up here! https://loracheadle.com/product/infidelity/ Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt.

I channel a group of entities called "The Librarians." The librarians provide wisdom for all of humanity, regardless of what each individual is going through or experiencing. Every Tuesday on Facebook and YouTube I go live with a five minute channel. This show is a compilation of those channels for the last month. They are unedited, and even though they were channeled in weeks past, the information contained in them is timeless. Follow me LIVE, ever Tuesday on YouTube, @LoraCheadleLifeChoreographer or on Facebook @LoraPlankChedle. Remember to share what you take away from this episode, and next week I'll be back with my regularly scheduled program.

All cheaters cheat for one reason and one reason alone. Because they have a hole inside of themselves that they can’t fill. And because they also can’t identify or describe what’s wrong inside of them, they make excuses, I need time to figure myself out. I don’t know what’s wrong with me… and they have affairs. Instead of looking within, they search for answers outside of themselves and they make a mess of everybody’s lives. Come learn why betrayal exposes the truth. Not only about the person who cheated on you, but about the wound within you. Top take-a-ways: The one thing your cheating partner must do to guarantee he will not cheat again. Midlife crises, insecurity , confusion, and why talking to your partner about how you feel prevents affairs. Shame and the male psyche – why men had a harder time processing shame than women and what that means for recovery. Healing your own wound and why the most important wound to heal is not the betrayal wound. BONUS! Grab a copy of your Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit, with a chapter of Lora’s book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, and Spiritual Self on re-writing the screenplay of your life, a beautiful, downloadable journal, and a guided meditation. All for $19.99. Snap it up here! https://loracheadle.com/product/infidelity/ Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt

Infidelity creates turmoil both personally and financially. Not only must you make decisions about yourself and your marriage, but you also must face some very real financial realities. As overwhelming as it may seem, you can learn to make, manage, and grow your money regardless of your marital or motherhood status. Top take-a-ways: Three simple steps to becoming financially literate. The connection between money and power, and why doing the internal work of knowing who you are and what you want is the key to happiness and success. Achieving sacred success and the difference between survival, stability, and affluence. Consciously creating your financial legacy. You can find out more about Barbara, her work, coaching, and books at https://www.barbara-huson.com/ Consider joining Barbara’s Wealth Connection, a Virtual Community of Women Supporting Women! Because Wealth Building isn’t just about the money. It’s about becoming the powerful woman you were meant to be. The #1 reason women don’t invest is lack of confidence. The Wealth Connection is not like any other program out there. It offers coaching, group support, expert advice, and financial education. If you’re ready to become a Financially Savvy Wealth Builder this community is for you. Only $47 a month! Learn more at: https://www.barbara-huson.com/the-wealth-connection/ Helpful Resources: HerMoney Newsletter: https://hermoney.com/ ElleVest Newsletter: https://www.ellevest.com/newsletter About Barbara: Barbara Huson, formerly known as Barbara Stanny, is a wealth coach who wants to teach you the secret wisdom of creating wealth and asserting power, as a woman… wisdom that took her over 40 years to figure out. She grew up relying on her father (the “R” of H&R Block), then her husband, to manage her inheritance. But early in her marriage, she found out her husband was a compulsive gambler. And here’s the insane part — she continued to let him handle all their finances because that’s how scared and intimidated she was by money. That didn’t change until a devastating financial crisis became a personal wake-up call. She got tax bills for over $1m for illegal deals her ex got them into. He’d left the country. She didn’t have anywhere close to $1m. And her father wouldn’t lend her the money. She had three daughters — one just a baby, and she was not going to raise them on the street. That’s when she knew she had to get smart. And she did. Join me and Barbara as she shares her journey to financial independence in hopes of inspiring, and even better, motivating YOU to become smart (or smarter) with money… to earn more than you’re making now, and to create the legacy that you desire! It’s much simpler and more in your control than you may realize. She is the author of Prince Charming Isn’t Coming: How Women Get Smart About Money (Penguin) Secrets of Six Figure Women: Surprising Strategies to Up Your Earnings and Change Your Life (HarperCollins) Overcoming Underearning® A Five Step Plan to a Richer Life, and Sacred Success — pursuing your soul’s purpose, for your own bliss and the benefit of others, while being richly rewarded. Download Rewire for Wealth: Three Steps Any Woman to Program Her Brain For Financial Success, for free on her website@ https://www.barbara-huson.com/ Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Gratitude during trauma, grace during rage, and experiencing the full range of our emotions is what living is all about. Join Lora for an hour of heart-felt wisdom on how to sprinkle gratitude, like an all-purpose seasoning, on everything good or bad in your life, and how to give and live with grace. Not for anyone else’s benefit, but for your own. Top take-a-ways: Integrating gratitude during difficult times and how the practice of noticing five things a day to be grateful for can be transformative to your wellbeing. Why resistance is the signal that you are on the cusp of a major breakthrough. What it means to offer grace to yourself and others, being “childlike” in life, and how grace opens up humility. The intersection of gratitude and grace in everyday life and why Grace is a combination of compassion, love and understanding. Enjoy your free copy of Gratitude ABC’s. Play it with your family this Thanksgiving or keep a copy where you will see it to remind yourself of all you have to be grateful for! BONUS! Grab a copy of your Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit, with a chapter of Lora’s book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, and Spiritual Self on re-writing the screenplay of your life, a beautiful, downloadable journal, and a guided meditation. All for $19.99. Snap it up here! https://loracheadle.com/product/infidelity/ Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt.

A 10-minuted guided meditation for balance & peace this holiday season. Join my 4-week group coaching and community and get the love, support, and balance you need this season and beyond! Learn more and sign up at www.sparkleallseason.com

Men and women are different. Regardless of gender dynamics, gender roles, or the fact that all humans embody both masculine and feminine energies, (and hormones) the push-pull dynamic of relationships can be confusing, hurtful, and infuriating. Especially when there’s been infidelity. Top take-a-ways: How our hormones, biology, and brain impact our relationships and what we can and cannot control about ourselves and our partners. Why men leave, and the importance of appreciation, acceptance, and finding true meaning in life. The golden relationship rule for women: Never please a man. Instead, seek to be pleased by a man. Sex, attraction, and how the wounds from our past can lead us to the wrong partners – and how to find the right partner going forward. John Gray is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter century. In hardcover, it was the #1 bestselling book of the 1990s. Dr. Gray’s books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continues to be a bestseller. Dr. Gray has written over 20 books. His most recent book is Beyond Mars and Venus. His Mars/Venus book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships. John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. His approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy, nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness and romance. His many books, blogs and free online workshops at MarsVenus.com provide practical insights to improve relationships at all stages of life and love. An advocate of health and optimal brain function, he also provides natural solutions for overcoming depression, anxiety and stress to support increased energy, libido, hormonal balance and better sleep. He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People. He was also the subject of a three-hour special hosted by Barbara Walters. John Gray lives in Northern California, where for 34 years he happily shared his life with his beautiful wife, Bonnie, until her passing in 2018. They have three grown daughters and four grandchildren. He is an avid follower of his own health and relationship advice. Get your free course, “How to get Everything You Want in Relationships For Women, Men, Couples, & Singles” at https://marsvenus.com/gift BONUS! Grab a copy of your Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit, with a chapter of Lora’s book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, and Spiritual Self on re-writing the screenplay of your life, a beautiful, downloadable journal, and a guided meditation. All for $19.99. Snap it up here! https://loracheadle.com/product/infidelity/ Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt.

What’s the difference between healthy sacrifice and over-sacrificing? Did you know that sacrificing too much for your partner can actually damage your relationship? New research out of the Netherlands points to four key components that can help you learn the difference between healthy and unhealthy levels of sacrifice. Not only for the benefit of your relationship, but for your own self-love, self-understanding, and self-worth. This show looks not only at the sacrifices made by the betrayed partner, but also at the sacrifices of the betrayer. Top take-a-ways: Willingness to Sacrifice: Being willing to sacrifice sometimes matters more than actually making the sacrifice. The Act of Sacrifice: Why your partner’s validation and acknowledgement of sacrifices made is paramount to relationship satisfaction. Satisfaction with Sacrifice: The importance of knowing what you want and what matters most to you in life, so you only make sacrifices that keep you internally satisfied. Cost of Sacrifice: When the sacrifices we make are too significant, they build resentment in us and our partner and damage the relationship going forward. BONUS! Grab a copy of your Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit, with a chapter of Lora’s book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, and Spiritual Self on re-writing the screenplay of your life, a beautiful, downloadable journal, and a guided meditation. All for $19.99. Snap it up here! https://loracheadle.com/product/infidelity/ Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today!

Everyone loves a good story. The intensity of the drama, humor, and love keeps us in rapt attention as the story unfolds. Throughout history humans have told stories, learned through stories, and lived through stories more unbelievable and fantastic than anything that could have been imagined. When we are knee-deep in the middle of our own story, it's easy to lose perspective. Especially when that story is the story of infidelity and betrayal. But here’s the thing - while infidelity or betrayal may be a chapter in the story of your life, it is only a chapter! It is not the complete story. It's up to you to take control of the narrative and rewrite your betrayal story. How? Begin by asking yourself is: Who is writing my betrayal story? When something devastating happens, it causes you to feel victimized, because let’s face it, you were victimized! When that happens, it’s easy to turn the story over to the villain and let them take the lead. But in reality, your story is not about the villain, it's about you! What would it be like to take back control and start telling your betrayal story, your way? Let me show you how! Top take-a-ways: Framing your betrayal story in a way that serves you instead of limits or brings you down. Identifying the characters, plot, setting, and main lesson learned from your betrayal story and using those elements to launch into the next chapter of your life. Using the “choose your own adventure” framework for making your affair story a catalyst for something good instead of something terrible. Why writing and then closing the chapter on your infidelity story moves you powerfully into the rest of your life. BONUS! Grab a copy of your Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit, with a chapter of Lora’s book, FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, and Spiritual Self on re-writing the screenplay of your life, a beautiful, downloadable journal, and a guided meditation. All for $19.99. Snap it up here! https://loracheadle.com/product/infidelity/ Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt.

Everyone loves to get pumped up and excited about how great they and their lives will be after infidelity or divorce. But "You Go Girl!" spirit isn't always healthy. Sometimes, when life returns to “normal,” you feel like you have failed. While bursting through the pain of infidelity and shining brightly on the other side sounds great, what does success look like for you? If you sometimes feel the pressure to be a certain way, or act like you have it all together after betrayal, then this is the show for you. No, you do have to do something spectacular after infidelity, you just need to be true to who you are and what you want. For you, finding quiet and calm might be more than enough. Or not… Join Lora as she unpacks what it really means to reclaim yourself and take back your life after infidelity. Step One – Stop Doing & Start Being: Unhook, unplug, and spend a day quiet and alone with nothing to do. Let your mind wander, let thoughts come up, and just allow yourself to be. If it feels right, make gently inquiries into the masks you wear and all the ways you have been seeking to please, conform, and perform for others instead of being who you are. Step Two – Remove the Mask & Reveal Yourself: Take slow steps to reveal yourself without your mask. Whether it’s going to the grocery store without makeup or hair done, telling someone no, or choosing a different route for yourself, begin searching within for the answer that suits you best. Place one hand on your heart, one on your solar plexus, take a few breaths, and tune into what you really want in each moment. Honor the wisdom of your body and soul. Step Three – Practice Being You!: While it might seem self-evident, your life is about you and you deserve to make yourself happy. You deserve to learn new relationship skills, you deserve to give, take, and flow in your relationships and in your life. Will you get it perfect every time? NO! And that’s okay. That’s why we practice. Continue to self-reflect, learn, feel, and most importantly trust in yourself, your intuition, and the perfection of your crazy, imperfect life! Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor and Betrayal Recovery Coach who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can untangle from the past, overcome obsessive thoughts, and learn to trust themselves again so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! BONUS! What makes you feel amazing? Whether it’s serious or silly, I want to know! Let’s put together a list of the top ways we feel most like ourselves, and what we do to reconnect o our own hearts and souls. Who knows, you might make some new friends or learn some new trick and activities that bring you joy and make your heart sparkle! Share your ideas at [email protected] and you might be one of our lucky winners who wins a copy of Lora’s award-winning book! Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt.

Have you thought about couple’s therapy? Or, perhaps you have tried therapy but it really wasn’t a fit. In this episode we will talk about the couples’ therapy experience and what you can expect, receive, and gain from a good couple’s therapist. Top Take-A-Ways: The difference between normal and healthy and what it means to be in a healthy relationship. Empowerment, self-worth, and “other based” esteem and why having a foundation of value is the essential first step in relationships. Understanding “carried emotions” from one’s past versus present-day emotions and operating from the “wise adult self” instead of the wounded child Why relationships are a choice – for both partners – and why therapy will only work when both partners are willing to do the work. Shane Birkel is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who sparks change in people’s lives and relationships. He helps individuals and couples who want to feel satisfied in their connection with their partner but feel like no matter what they do it just leads to stress and frustration. He supports them in exploring their history and uncovering patterns they may not even be aware of so that they can begin to have more control of their emotions and be excited about their relationship again. In his years of experience working with individuals and couples with relationship issues, he knows that you have the ability to make big changes in your life. If you are ready to do the work, you will be amazed at how capable you are to explore parts of yourself you never knew existed. The process of therapy can allow you to grow more quickly than you ever have before. If you are ready to explore what is getting in your way and figure out what to do next, then give Shane a call at 603-852-3654 or drop me an email at [email protected]. His office is in Dover, NH. You can learn more at https://shanebirkel.com or check out his podcast at https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com. Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt.

Oftentimes women confide to me that they feel angrier at the other woman than they do their cheating spouse. They say that even though it was their partner who broke their wedding vow, they have more rage against the other woman than they do their spouse, and they don’t understand why. This show explains why this very common phenomenon happens, and helps you to deal with it so going forward you can have peace and trust other women again. Top Take-A-Ways: Why the innocent spouse, who is still operating in “partnership mode,” will naturally defend her partner against threats and may be more upset at the other woman than she is at her partner. How learning about the affair partner triggers a woman’s insecurities, reopens old wounds, and sends her into a comparison game that she perceives as being against the other woman instead of against her partner. How violation of “the woman code” and being betrayed by another woman, often feels like a worse betrayal than being betrayed by a man, but is rarely addressed in betrayal recovery programs. The truth about why your partner was attracted to the other woman, and what it says about you. Lora Cheadle is an infidelity survivor who uses the concepts in burlesque to help women reclaim their identity and self-worth after betrayal so they can move forward with confidence, embrace their sexy, and create a life they love! Download your Sparkle After Betrayal Recovery Guide at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and start reclaiming yourself and your life today! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this podcast! Take charge of your mental health and get 10% off your first month of therapy at https://BetterHelp.com/FLAUNT FLAUNT! is brought to you by Revel the new kind of social platform built exclusively for women over 40. Members make connections at virtual and in-real-life events, start conversations from super serious to silly, and learn from experts on topics from financial wellness for women, managing menopause, and dozens more. Explore our community of like minded, smart, fabulous, and fun women at hellorevel.com/flaunt.