Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Cultivating personal and relational well-being can be a challenging task, especially when faced with negative communication patterns and misunderstandings. However, it is essential for individuals to prioritize their innate mental health and create a bond of love and connection with their partners. In this episode, Dr. Kalen Hammann and Dr. Jessica Higgins delve into the intricate challenges that couples face while building and sustaining lasting intimacy. They provide valuable insights into transforming negative communication patterns into connected communication. They also shed light on the different phases of therapy, the significance of building positive energy, and the importance of recognizing fear and learning to calm down through relaxation techniques. After getting a Ph.D. in Social Psychology, working as a psychotherapist, and teaching business executives in over 50 Fortune 500 companies on five continents how to get along better, Dr. Kalen Hammann discovered that NONE of that helped him save his own marriage! He's here to tell us what HAS helped him and his wife and now is helping other couples get off the Road to Divorce and find their way to "Happily Ever After." Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 05:43 From corporate America to intimate relationships: Journey of personal and professional growth. 09:09 Finding hope in the Modello approach: A story of overcoming marriage problems. 12:58 Roger Mills' success story in improving Florida's housing project. 19:02 Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde: Our positive qualities obscured by negative emotions. 24:26 A guide to cultivating personal and relational well-being. 26:01 Settling the conflict and finding insights: A mindful approach to disagreements. 33:26 The power of Long exhales: Calming the nervous system and cultivating inner peace. 35:59 Building positive energy: Turning towards bids and small actions in relationships. 39:55 Recognizing our fear: Understanding the root cause of negative emotions. 46:41 Rediscovering love: Finding your way back to love and happily ever after. Mentioned Date Your Mate: How to Save Your Marriage from "The Blahs" and Live Happily Ever After (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Modello: A Story of Hope for the Inner City and Beyond: An Inside-Out Model of Prevention and Resiliency in Action (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Kalen Hammann Websites: lessfightingmoreloving.com Calendly: TalkWithKalen.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Relationships are beautiful, intricate webs of connection and understanding, but they can also be challenging to navigate, especially when gender differences come into play. In this episode, we delved into the complexities of how gender dynamics can impact our interactions with our partners. From the importance of attunement and nurturing attitudes to recognizing and addressing each other's needs, we explored valuable insights that can help foster healthier and more fulfilling relationships. One of the key takeaways from this discussion was the significance of being in service of the greater good within a relationship. Rather than getting caught up in defending opposing views or trying to win arguments, it's essential to shift our focus towards understanding and supporting each other's deeper needs and desires. By harnessing this nurturing attitude and seeking to understand our partners on a deeper level, we can build stronger foundations of support and care. Dr. Ricky Arenson is a highly regarded Endocrinologist specializing in hormones and Geriatrician. He has been happily married to Katherine, an ER specialist and medical inventor, for two decades. Together with their four children, they live in Perth, Western Australia. Dr. Arenson is a multi-award-winning medical leader, holding the esteemed position of Head of the Department of Geriatric Medicine at Royal Perth Hospital, where he also serves as a Hospital Director. Additionally, he has authored the thought-provoking book, "Women are Superior to Men," and showcases his comedic talents as a freelance comedian. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:39 Hormone-related issues can cause relationship problems. 11:38 From teaching doctors to writing a book: The journey of Dr. Ricky Arenson 15:27 Common gender differences that affect relationships and strategies for negotiating conflicts. 22:19 Challenging stereotypes: Embracing individuality within gender differences. 25:57 Fluidity and diverse aspects of gender: Recognizing the masculine and feminine within. 29:58 Evolutionary perspectives and gender roles: Exploring differences and complementary attributes. 35:34 The importance of taking care of each other. 41:40 The importance of timing and understanding what you want. 45:18 Bringing humor and enjoyment into the relationship space. Mentioned Women Are Superior to Men: The Real Secret to a Fantastic Marriage, Joyful Parenting & Better Sex! (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Type Of Relationship Support (survey) Connect with Dr. Ricky Arenson Websites: drrickyarenson.com Facebook: facebook.com/drrickyarenson Podcast: open.spotify.com/show/1IYdw1kwt8l7CKUaERFiC0 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

In today's fast-paced and overwhelming world, it's no surprise that emotions often become a tangled web, hindering our ability to authentically connect with ourselves and others. With a staggering 90% of people never receiving regular counseling or therapy, the need for accessible tools that can reach a wider audience becomes paramount. Join us in this thought-provoking episode as we delve into the vital topic of processing emotions for greater clarity and connection. This conversation uncovers the common obstacles individuals face when attempting to navigate their emotions effectively. More importantly, we explore an innovative approach to emotional processing that aims to bridge this gap, allowing individuals to tap into their innate capacity for connection. Don't miss out—tune in and unlock the keys to processing emotions for a more fulfilling and connected existence. Drs. Glenn and Phyllis Hill spent the first 30 years of marriage living disconnected. Dr. Glenn was so determined to find out what went wrong that he went back to school and became a Marriage and Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. It wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation that he discovered the source of their disconnect. From there, Dr. Glenn & Phyllis created The Connection Codes which is a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their 4-minute tool. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:10 The journey to unveiling The Connection Codes Framework. 12:07 The power of vulnerability: Unveiling deeper layers of understanding. 17:22 Glenn and Phyllis' individual journeys within their relationship. 22:06 The importance of emotional breakthroughs. 26:40 The birth of the Core Motion Wheel and its transformative impact. 34:48 The breakthrough: Reversing disconnection to foster connection. 37:53 Real-life application and global impact of emotional tools. 44:37 The importance of processing emotions for regulation and well-being. Mentioned Connection Codes (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Type Of Relationship Support (survey) Connect with Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill Websites: https://www.connectioncodes.co/ Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520 (*Apple podcast) Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Intimacy in a relationship is a beautiful and fulfilling experience, but finding harmony between a deep connection and maintaining a sense of self is a delicate dance that many couples strive to master. It's a journey of self-discovery and growth that requires navigating the fine line between connection and autonomy. In this thought-provoking conversation, relationship experts Amber Price and Dr. Jessica Higgins, unravel the complexities of this subject, offering valuable insights and practical advice for individuals seeking to preserve their individuality while fostering a deep bond with their partner. The discussion delved into the concept of emotional fusion, sharing personal stories and exploring strategies to break free from its grip. With a focus on open communication, self-awareness, and conscious decision-making, this conversation provides a roadmap for cultivating a strong sense of self within the context of a loving and intimate relationship. Amber Price is a relationship expert, educator, and researcher who teaches people to build better relationships without losing who they are. She is currently finishing a PhD in Marriage, Family, and Human Development, and she's also a mom to four boys and wife to a chemistry professor who loves baking and eating cookies and drinking hot chocolate. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:32 Amber's journey of self-discovery and personal growth. 9:07 Unpacking grumpiness: Overwhelm, exhaustion, and the need for self-care. 10:51 Balancing relatedness and autonomy. 14:23 The role of relationship security in developing autonomy. 17:07 Challenging cultural expectations particularly among women or individuals who identify as women. 19:34 The fine line between conscious choice and unhealthy pressure in caregiving. 23:32 Accessing conscious choice: Stepping back and examining priorities. 25:26 Recognizing and challenging unconscious patterns for personal growth. 30:40 Rediscovering authenticity: Exploring personal values and joy. 37:21 Connecting through shared experiences: The power of authenticity. 41:14 Finding balance and cultivating emotional autonomy. Mentioned Reclaiming ME (mini-course) Authentically YOU (course) Type Of Relationship Support (survey) Connect with Amber Price Websites: amberaprice.com Facebook: facebook.com/amber.a.price.authenticallyyou Instagram: instagram.com/amber.a.price Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Military couples face a unique set of challenges that can put their relationships to the test. From long deployments and frequent relocations to the emotional toll of separation and the weight of responsibility, they often find themselves in situations where maintaining connection and emotional well-being become paramount. But despite the extraordinary circumstances they face, military couples exemplify unwavering strength, commitment, and love. In this episode, Bree Carroll and Dr. Jessica Higgins explored how to maintain a healthy relationship amidst the demands and stress levels experienced by these couples, highlighting the remarkable resilience, intentional efforts, and unwavering commitment demonstrated in their quest to nurture love and sustain a thriving partnership. Bree Carroll, military spouse, event strategist, and speaker, transforms spaces and hearts through experience design and purposeful planning. As a voice in the military community, she holds the title as 2020-2021 AFI Air Force Spouse of the Year and advocates to strengthen military marriages. Bree is the founder of Military Marriage Day, a national holiday celebrated annually on August 14th. More than a holiday, this movement supports military families with resources through its app, insight with the Hearts & Stripes Podcast, and connection through its annual events and virtual programming. Bree's mission is to encourage and equip couples, especially our service couples, so that they may intentionally thrive in their marriage relationship. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 8:31 Understanding the unique challenges of military couples. 16:47 The importance of strengthening military marriages and supporting service families. 25:07 Proactive approach to strengthening military marriages and providing resources. 30:11 The power of storytelling and proactive support in military marriages. 35:59 Insights from a military marriage study: Challenges and hope. 42:35 The power of celebration: Elevating Military Marriage Day. 49:52 Taking action and spreading hope. Mentioned Military Marriage Day (*Apple Appstore) (app) Type Of Relationship Support (survey) Connect with Bree Carroll Websites: militarymarriageday.com Facebook: facebook.com/militarymarriageday YouTube: youtube.com/@militarymarriageday Instagram: instagram.com/militarymarriageday Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Relationships often confront us with moments of uncertainty, where conflicting emotions and wavering decisions leave us feeling overwhelmed. But, what if we could view ambivalence as an opportunity for personal growth, self-discovery, and empowered decision-making? In this enlightening discussion with relationship expert Rachel Zamore and Dr. Jessica Higgins, we explored profound insights into navigating the intricate landscape of ambivalence in relationships. From recognizing the significance of self-care to cultivating compassion, this episode provides a roadmap for embracing ambivalence and making impactful relationship choices with clarity and confidence. If you currently stand at the crossroads of a significant relationship decision, unsure of which path to choose, join us on this transformative journey. Together, we will uncover empowering principles that guide you towards embracing ambivalence and making choices that honor your personal growth, authenticity, and overall well-being. Rachel Zamore is a leading practitioner in discernment counseling, a process that helps couples on the brink gain confidence and clarity about the next best steps for their marriage. Rachel's compassionate, nonjudgmental approach empowers honest self-reflection and welcomes each person right where they are. Drawing from 15 years as an integrative psychotherapist, relationship guide (Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy & Discernment Counseling) and trainer, Rachel coaches individuals and couples online and at private retreats worldwide. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:55 Igniting a passion: Rachel Zamore's journey to empower couples in ambiguous relationships 10:19 Rachel's revolutionary approach to couples in crisis. 12:31 Common mistakes in couples therapy unveiled. 16:51 Appreciating ambivalence and embracing complexity in relationship dynamics. 20:39 The transformative power of providing a supportive container for couples grappling with difficult and anxiety-provoking issues. 25:05 Unpacking the cumulative effect of ambivalence in relationships. 30:26 Discernment counseling: Differentiating hard and soft reasons, and individual growth. 35:59 About Rachel's intensive sessions and retreats, individual and relational growth. 39:49 Outcomes and statistics of discernment counseling. 45:11 Encouragement and advice for finding clarity and well-being. Mentioned Type Of Relationship Support (survey) Connect with Rachel Zamore Websites: relationshipcrossroads.com | innerwell.org LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/rachelzamore Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Building a strong and secure connection within a romantic relationship is a goal shared by many. We strive for harmony, understanding, and a deep bond that withstands the test of time. But with human nature being what it is - aggressive, warlike, moody, and easily influenced - it can be a challenging task. So, how do we achieve this level of connection? Is it about finding the perfect partner or following a set of rules? In this episode, Dr. Stan Tatkin and Dr. Jessica Higgins embark on an enlightening exploration of human behavior within relationships shedding light on key elements that foster a strong and secure connection. Join us as we delve into the strategies and insights that can help you and your partner work together to create a solid foundation of love, trust, and mutual support. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, and co-founder of the PACT Institute. Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author of We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships, and the upcoming, In Each Other's Care. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:01 In Each Other's Care: Practical Guidance on Applying the Principles of Secure Functioning 10:56 Normalizing stressful situations and creating purpose-centered relationships. 15:36 Preserving relationships through proactive engagement. 26:05 Creating purposeful relationships: moving beyond psycho-biology to action. 30:37 Embracing a collaborative stance: Exploring partner's needs and approaching conversations with mutual interest. Mentioned Type Of Relationship Support (survey) In Each Other's Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Learn How to Interact When Conflicts Arise (excerpt) We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Your Brain on Love: The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Rx (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Love and War in Intimate Relationships: Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 291: How "Love Is Not Enough" – An Interview with Dr. Stan Tatkin Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Stan Tatkin Websites: thepactinstitute.com Facebook: facebook.com/drstantatkin Twitter: twitter.com/DrStanTatkin LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/stan-tatkin Instagram: instagram.com/drstantatkin Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

You've probably heard the well-meaning relationship advice to "learn to compromise." It seems like a reasonable solution to navigate differences and find middle ground. But what if I told you that this popular advice might be doing more harm than good? In this thought-provoking discussion with Dr. Jessica Higgins and Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, we explore why the conventional wisdom of compromise may not be the ultimate solution for relationship harmony. If you're tired of settling for less and yearn for a relationship that thrives on passion, understanding, and unwavering closeness, then this episode is an absolute must-listen. Prepare to embark on a journey towards uncompromising intimacy, where compromise takes a backseat, and authentic connection takes center stage. Known as "The Intimacy Doctor," Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is an Intimate Marriage Expert who specializes in coaching ambitious, successful couples to build beautiful, long-lasting, passionate relationships. She is the bestselling author of "Uncompromising Intimacy," host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, and creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program. Dr. Alexandra has been featured in the Huffington Post, Rolling Stone, USAToday, Cosmopolitan, Business Insider, Thriveglobal, Mindbodygreen, FOX NEWS, and many more. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:17 Dr. Stockwell's personal journey that led her to focus on relationships and intimacy. 12:46 The significance of personal transformation and setting positive examples for others in fostering healthy relationships and self-discovery. 17:21 Challenging the notion of compromise in marriage: Discovering a vibrant and satisfying intimacy. 27:41 Uncompromising intimacy: The Key to vibrant and fulfilling relationships. 32:53 The impact of unspoken compromises: Nurturing vulnerable honesty for deeper connection. 38:40 Embracing authenticity and empowering relationships through uncompromising intimacy. 51:11 Cultivating sensory awareness and unleashing the power of pleasure in intimacy. 56:07 Connect with Dr. Stockwell and learn more about the tools and principles for a committed partnership and creating lasting and fulfilling connections. Mentioned Uncompromising Intimacy: Turn Your Unfulfilling Marriage into a Deeply Satisfying, Passionate Partnership (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Intimate Marriage Podcast (*Spotify link) (podcast) Aligned and Hot Marriage (program) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell Websites: alexandrastockwell.com TikTok: tiktok.com/@intimacydoctor YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UC_NFfwXTz2n6C_2QdmrfEVg Instagram: instagram.com/intimacydoctor LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Are you feeling like your relationship has hit a plateau? Perhaps you and your partner have been together for a while and things just don't seem to be moving forward. Don't worry, you're not alone. Maintaining a healthy and happy relationship can be a challenging task, even for the most committed couples. Over time, relationships can hit a stagnant point where both partners feel disconnected, bored, or unfulfilled. Fortunately, there are steps that can be taken to avoid that. In this episode, Abi Singh and Dr. Jessica Higgins shares valuable insights and tips on how to reignite the spark in a relationship and prevent it from fading away. From effective communication to prioritizing self-care, these tips can help bring your relationship back to life. So if you're ready to take action and bring some excitement back into your love life, listen to the full episode. Abi Singh is a life coach and relationship expert. Abi helps couples find balance and prioritize intimacy so that they can effectively make key decisions that will positively impact their relationships. Abi and her husband live on the beautiful island of Grenada and run their restaurant business, which they co-founded in 2017. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:52 Abby's personal experience in an intercultural marriage. 8:58 How to overcome stagnation in relationships after the honeymoon phase. 12:12 The importance of communication and intentionality in relationships: Avoiding the faux pas of relationship. 16:23 Overcoming misunderstandings and building a stronger connection. 21:53 The importance of communication and comprehension in relationships. 25:21 Creating happy habits to strengthen relationships. 30:13 Strategies for having difficult conversations in relationships. 36:34 Nurturing lasting love: Building strong relationships through relational skills and practices. 41:29 Upcoming workshop for couples to rebuild their connection. Mentioned Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Abi Singh LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/abi-singh-73572a41 Instagram: instagram.com/coachabisingh Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Developing secure attachment skills in a relationship is crucial for creating a strong and lasting bond with your partner. In this fast-paced world, it can be easy to neglect your relationship and fail to prioritize the emotional safety that comes with a secure attachment. However, neglecting your relationship can have long-term consequences and negatively impact both you and your partner. In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins, EJ, and Tarah Kerwin discuss the skills needed to develop secure attachments in relationships. They provide actionable steps to help you strengthen your attachment style and create a more loving and fulfilling partnership. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, listen to this episode to discover how you can develop secure attachment skills in your relationships. EJ and Tarah Kerwin are the hosts of The Relationship Renovation Podcast. They are two licensed therapists, a married couple raising a blended family with four children, and owners of a couples counseling center in Tucson, AZ. They have created a couples counseling program that has supported thousands of couples in creating more secure, loving, and intimate relationships. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:31 The birth of the couples counseling center. 11:43 Creating emotional safety and support: Understanding secure attachment in couples therapy. 17:07 Recognizing negative core beliefs and learning from conflict. 23:33 Creating emotional safety in heterosexual relationships: Understanding triggers, developing compassion, and managing conflict. 27:56 Improving relationships through self-reflection and shared responsibility. 34:30 The importance of holding hope and creating a secure, loving, and more deeply intimate connection with one's partner. 39:15 Building safe and strong relationships through somatic work. Mentioned Relationship Renovation Counselling Centre Relationship Renovation at Home Program Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 291: How "Love Is Not Enough" – An Interview with Dr. Stan Tatkin Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with EJ & Tarah Kerwin Websites: relationshiprenovation.com Facebook: relationshiprenovationcounseling TikTok: tiktok.com/@relationshiprenovation YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCfb8I3evBi7aZcVnmvN_yPw Instagram: instagram.com/relationship_renovation Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Communication is the foundation of any healthy and fulfilling relationship, but expressing yourself in a way that fosters love and connection can be difficult, especially when conflicts arise. In this interview, Dr. Jessica Higgins and Laura Doyle, a relationship coach, discuss six essential skills for building intimacy and connection with your partner. From taking care of yourself to relinquishing control, showing respect, receiving graciously, embracing vulnerability, and using positive affirmations, Laura offers practical tools that can transform your relationship, even in seemingly hopeless situations. If you're looking to deepen your connection and create a more fulfilling relationship, listen to this episode to discover expert advice on how to express yourself in ways that inspire love and connection. New York Times bestselling author Laura Doyle was the perfect wife...until she actually got married. She is the founder of the international relationship coach training school Laura Doyle Connect, the star of Empowered Wives on Amazon Prime, the Creator of The Ridiculously Happy Wife program, the host of The Empowered Wife Podcast. She has helped over 15,000 women fix their relationships--even the hopeless ones-- without their husband's effort. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:19 Laura shares how her personal experience led her to develop a coaching model and framework that supports women in heterosexual relationships. 10:24 How a women's support group turned into a movement to end divorce. 19:49 Two "cheat phrases" that can help improve communication in a relationship. 25:43 The power of intimacy skills, receptivity, and manifesting desires. 41:09 Take charge of your own happiness: The power of self-care and positive cycles in relationships. 44:54 Building positive relationships through fundamental cues and intimacy skills: Insights from "The Empowered Wife" 51:36 Laura reveals the 6 intimacy skills that can improve your marriage, even in seemingly hopeless situations. Mentioned The Empowered Wife, Updated and Expanded Edition: Six Surprising Secrets for Attracting Your Husband's Time, Attention, and Affection (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Empowered Wife Podcast with Laura Doyle Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Laura Doyle Websites: lauradoyle.org Facebook: facebook.com/lauradoyle.org Twitter: twitter.com/lauramdoyle YouTube: youtube.com/user/lauradoyleauthor LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/lauramdoyle Podcast: lauradoyle.org/podcasts Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Is your relationship constantly fraught with emotional arguments? When things get tough, do you resort to emotional weapons like anger, blame, or shutting down? It's time to take a step back and examine the role these emotional weapons play in your relationship. In this episode, Dr. Shawn Haywood and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss the ways in which people use emotional weapons to protect themselves, the negative impacts of using these weapons, and how to identify and disarm them. Dr. Haywood shares valuable insights and practical tips for gaining awareness of our emotional weapons, asking for what we need, and finding healthier ways to meet our needs in relationships. Through deep devotion and commitment to her evolving spiritual path, author, speaker, and life and relationship coach for 24 years, Shawn Haywood, Ph.D., continues to transform toward increasing unconditional love and joy for the whole of her life, while teaching her clients and team to do the same so that their lives, marriages, health, and businesses can thrive in unimaginable ways. If you're interested in improving your relationships and creating deeper connections with your partner, this interview is a must-listen. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 2:57 Dr. Shawn Haywood shares insights on laying down emotional weapons and achieving fight-free marriages and relationships. 8:48 Emotional weapons and surrender techniques for relationship success. 13:10 How to overcome disempowering effects caused by blaming oneself or others. 16:00 How to work with the body, mind, and spirit to resolve conflict. 22:08 How to break old habits and replace them with new ones. 27:27 Identifying and understanding emotional weapons: The importance of laying down emotional weapons and cultivating vulnerability in relationships. 40:30 A guide to disarming emotional weapons. Mentioned Living For Love: Set Yourself Free from the Daily Stress, Worry & Hurry that Wears You Down (Amazon affiliate link*) (book) Reroute Your Relationship (free guide link) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Shawn Haywood Websites: reimaginelove.com Facebook: facebook.com/shawn.ashley.haywood Instagram: instagram.com/drshawnhaywood LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drshawnhaywood Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

In today's fast-paced world, we often hear about the importance of maintaining a healthy relationship, but how do we actually assess the health of our connection? In this episode, Dr. Réne Vázquez del Valle, a psychotherapist, and author of "Head Heart Crotch Connections: How Not to Fail in Search of Your Perfect" shares his simple yet profound formula for evaluating the head, heart, and sexual connection in our relationships and provides tips for identifying areas of weakness and working on them. Dr. Vázquez del Valle breaks down his technique and offers a free connection scale on his website, allowing individuals to assess their level of connection and identify areas that need improvement. Join us in this insightful conversation as we explore the importance of connection and how to maintain its health. Dr. René G. Vázquez del Valle, DSW, received his MSW at Columbia University and his Doctorate at the CUNY Graduate School. He was an Adjunct Professor at Long Island University; guest speaker at both the NYU School of Medicine, Dept. of Psychiatry and CUNY Law School. He retired from the NYS Office of Mental Health after 30 years of clinical practice. He currently resides in NYC and East Hampton, NY, and works as a private practice therapist. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 3:44 How to assess success or failure in a relationship and the different factors that contribute to it. 13:16 The importance of descriptive language and mutual connection in relationships. 17:26 The importance of different types of connections in a relationship. 23:40 Understanding your partner's needs: Enhancing connection in relationships through emotional, sexual, and intellectual fulfillment 28:52 Analyzing the fight-or-flight response to improve connection in relationships. 31:07 Understanding attachment style and types of connections. 33:25 Defense mechanisms and their impact on an individual's ability to connect with others 39:56 Understanding marianismo and the effects of shame on connection and wellbeing. 44:00 Dr. René Vázquez del Valle talks about his book and explains how the simple formula of assessing head, heart, and crotch connections can have profound effects on people's lives. Mentioned Head, Heart, Crotch Connections: How Not to Fail In Search of Your Perfect Union (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connection Rating Scale Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. René Vázquez del Valle Websites: renev.authorchannel.co Facebook: facebook.com/reneleo2 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/rené-vázquez-del-valle-dsw-lcsw-r-71484563 Instagram: instagram.com/rene_vdelv Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

With the changing dynamics of society, the traditional definition of masculinity is being redefined, and there is a growing need for men to develop new skills and behaviors to thrive in today's world. In this episode, we will explore actionable steps that men can take to develop these traits, enhance their personal growth, and succeed in both their personal and professional lives. Join us as we dive into this fascinating topic and discover how you can develop modern, high-value, masculine traits. Kristal DeSantis is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with specializations in trauma, sex therapy, couples, and men's mental health issues. Creator of the STRONG Relationship Therapy Model of trauma-informed couples therapy. Certified clinical trauma professional with training in EMDR, complex PTSD, and relational trauma in first responders, LEOs, and veterans. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:32 Kristal Desantis' background and interest in working with men, emphasizing the importance of normalizing therapy and emotional intelligence as part of strength building. 9:06 Redefining masculinity: moving beyond traditional roles and finding new ways to be a "high value" man. 16:33 Relationship field guide for the modern man: emphasizing safety and self-awareness. 20:05 The four key components of building a healthy relationship 27:07 Importance of self-regulation and trust in building healthy relationships. 30:35 The importance of Strong model for healthy and thriving relationships. 37:15 The importance of nurturing connection in relationships and expanding the definition of pleasure beyond just sex and increasing and expanding examples of pleasure. 40:30 A personal story and insights on true generosity and self-care. Mentioned Strong: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Kristal DeSantis Websites: strong.love Twitter: twitter.com/atxtherapist Instagram: instagram.com/atxtherapist LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kristal-desantis Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Relationships can be a beautiful source of joy and growth, but they can also be incredibly challenging. Every person enters into a relationship with their own experiences, beliefs, and patterns of behavior. These can either support or hinder the connection we are trying to build with our partner. To create a healthy and fulfilling relationship, it's crucial to recognize that we have work to do on ourselves. The question is -- what does "your work" within a relationship really mean? In this episode, we'll explore actionable steps you can take to cultivate a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner, and create a more harmonious and loving relationship. Madhur-Nain Webster is a licensed marriage and family therapist, specializing in the integration of eastern and western philosophies for mental health for individuals and couples. Her first book, The Stressless Brain (2018), makes a scientific argument for the positive influence meditation has on the psyche; she is currently working on her second book. In addition to releasing over 60 meditation singles, Madhur-Nain maintains international outreach by appearing on podcasts and holding meditation workshops. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:33 The importance of transparency and collaboration in couples therapy: Navigating individual and couples work and addressing behavioral change 11:46 Individual therapy: The importance of doing your own work to benefit your relationships. 17:15 A discussion on adjusting lenses and coping mechanisms towards relationship longevity. 22:26 The importance of self-reflection in relationships. 29:03 The Importance of Continuous Personal Growth and Therapy in Building Healthy Self-Esteem and Self-Worth. 34:29 Cultivating the wise self and soul self. Mentioned Soul-Self & the Emotional Facets of Your Personality (workshop) The Stressless Brain (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Madhur-Nain Webster Websites: madhurnain.com Facebook: facebook.com/madhurnainwebster Spotify: open.spotify.com/artist/5wvZFb0E0Ybc4oSdlDSn0h YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCOof1-ACJXP9SufPBHbQeQw Instagram: instagram.com/madhurnain Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Are you feeling stressed out and overwhelmed? Do you find yourself struggling to manage the demands of everyday life? If so, you're not alone. Stress is a common experience for many people, and it can have a significant impact on your health and well-being. But what if you could learn how to master your stress and reset your health? In this episode, we explore how to do just that with Dr. Doni Wilson, a leading expert in stress and health optimization. She shares insights from her book, "Master Your Stress, Reset Your Health," as well as practical tips and strategies for recovering from stress and building resilience. Dr. Doni Wilson is a Naturopathic Doctor, certified professional midwife, certified nutrition specialist, and bestselling author of Master Your Stress, Reset Your Health. Dr. Doni suffered from migraines, and in the process of solving them, she developed her Stress Recovery Protocol. Dr. Doni brings awareness to the impact of stress and trauma on our health and how it is possible to recover and become resilient to stress. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:50 Naturopathic doctor shares insights on root causes of health issues and the power of addressing stress. 12:08 Understanding cortisol and managing stress: Finding the right herbs for optimal cortisol levels. 17:18 The importance of cortisol: Understanding the benefits of regulating this powerful hormone. 23:00 Navigating the limitations of health insurance and investing in preventive care. 25:18 Identifying and understanding the five common stress types. 29:47 A case study of a couple's journey to optimum cortisol and adrenaline levels. 35:29 A guide to resetting your health. 40:21 The care approach and the role of relationships in stress recovery. Mentioned Master Your Stress, Reset Your Health: The Personalized Program to Calm Anxiety, Boost Energy, and Beat Burnout (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Dr. Doni's Stress Type Quiz Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Doni Wilson Websites: doctordoni.com Facebook: facebook.com/drdoniwilson Twitter: twitter.com/glutenfreedoc YouTube: youtube.com/user/DoniWilsonND Instagram: instagram.com/drdoniwilson Pinterest: pinterest.com/DoctorDoni Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ho-humans-heal/id1509561919 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Human sexuality is a complex and fascinating topic that has intrigued people for centuries. Sexual desire, in particular, is an essential aspect of our sexuality, yet many people struggle to understand and increase it. In this episode, we delved into the intricacies of sexual desire, exploring the factors that can impact it and the techniques that can help boost it. From exploring the impact of stress and lifestyle factors to discussing the benefits of mindfulness and communication, we uncovered a wealth of insights that can help individuals enhance their sexual desire and improve their overall sexual experiences. Whether you're struggling with a low sex drive or simply looking to deepen your connection with your partner, the insights shared in this conversation offer valuable guidance for anyone seeking to understand and increase their sexual desire. Dr. Lori Brotto is a Professor in the UBC Department of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, a Registered Psychologist in Vancouver, Canada and the Executive Director of the Women's Health Research Institute of BC. Dr. Brotto holds a Canada Research Chair in Women's Sexual Health. Her book, Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire (2018) is a knowledge translation product aimed at sharing the science of sexual desire with a broad audience, and the accompanying Workbook will be published by Greystone in October 2022. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 7:16 From volunteering with rats to researching female sexual dysfunction: A journey of unexpected discoveries. 12:40 Causes and factors contributing to low desire in women. 18:44 A paradigm shift in cultivating desire for long-term relationships. 24:25 Understanding the impact of low desire on relationships and cultivating arousal. 26:55 Tips for reframing sexual experiences in a more positive light. 33:45 The importance of mindfulness in enhancing sexual response. Mentioned The Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook: A Guide to Cultivating Desire (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Lori Brotto Websites: loribrotto.com | brottolab.com Twitter: twitter.com/DrLoriBrotto | twitter.com/ubcshr Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Do you find yourself constantly drawn to partners who are emotionally unavailable or abusive? If so, it's time to hit the reset button on your attachment system and break free from the cycle of toxic relationships. In this age of self-help and personal growth, there are countless resources available to help you navigate the complex world of relationships. One such resource is Mark Sholes' book, "Reset Your Romantic GPS: The Journey to Self-Discovery and Healthy Relationships." Through his extensive experience as a therapist and his own personal journey, Sholes offers practical guidance on how to rewire your attachment system and establish healthier patterns in your relationships. So if you're ready to take control of your love life and build fulfilling, sustainable relationships, tune in to this episode to learn more about how to reset your attachment system for a healthy relationship. Marc is a New York City psychotherapist with 35+ years of experience working with individuals and couples. He is a board member, faculty, and supervisor at the National Institute for Psychotherapies, a leading training institute for psychotherapists. He is also the author of the popular book Reset Your Romantic GPS: Why You Steer Toward the Wrong Partners and How to Change for the Better. Marc lives in Manhattan with his wife and three children. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 7:33 Attachment and its impact on relationships. 15:36 The impact of insecure attachment on a child's development and how it affects their adult life. 20:57 The benefits of taking risks and standing up for oneself, even if it may not result in a positive outcome. 23:40 Motivators for change and overcoming hindrances in developing healthy habits and relationships. 29:03 Overcoming fear and loneliness from childhood trauma. 32:07 Overcoming challenges to make healthy choices and improve mental health. 38:00 Understanding the avoidant style in relationships and navigating healthy patterns with "Reset Your Romantic GPS" Mentioned Reset Your Romantic GPS: Why You Steer Toward The Wrong Partners, And How To Change Direction For The Better ****(*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Ana Marc Sholes Websites: arcsholeslcsw.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Being difficult in relationships is a topic that is often misunderstood and shunned as the term "difficult" is usually associated with negativity, but what if it could be a catalyst for growth and development in our relationships? In this episode, we'll challenge the common notion that smooth sailing is the ideal in relationships, and instead, explore how speaking up, having honest conversations, and being vulnerable can lead to deeper emotional intimacy and stronger relationships. Join us as we dive into the power of being "difficult" and how it can assist in the growth and development of our relationships. Tonya Lester is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, private psychotherapist, Psychology Today contributor and author. For over 16 years, Tonya has taught couples and individuals how to manage their minds and emotions, develop relationships that are mutually respectful and supportive and approach decision-making and communication with clarity and courage. She believes in starting where you are, experimenting with new ways of being and focusing all of your attention on what you can do now, as opposed to fixating on what is currently out of reach. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's In this episode 04:55 Understanding how unspoken resentment impacts long-term relationships. 8:35 What is good about being difficult? 14:13 How to navigate difficult conversations in relationships. 20:18 Tonya encourages co-creation and mindfulness in relationships. 25:34 Communicating effectively in relationships and overcoming gender roles and expectations. 28:57 Honesty, vulnerability, and setting boundaries in relationships. 34:13 Overcoming gendered paradigms in relationships through assertiveness. 39:46 Three key elements to navigating difficult conversations in relationships. 45:40 Finding the middle ground between shame and grandiosity. 51:27 Tonya's vision for society: Building a world of collaborators. Mentioned Are you the Good Kind of Difficult? (*quiz) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Tonya Lester Websites: tonyalester.com TikTok: tiktok.com/@tonyalesterlcsw Instagram: instagram.com/tonyalesterpsychotherapy Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

The definition of masculinity has been undergoing a significant change in recent years, with a growing realization that the traditional model of masculinity has been harmful and limiting for men. In this episode, we delve into the uncharted territories of masculinity and the challenges men face in today's society. Our guest, Trevor, shares his journey and the lessons he has learned along the way, including his latest project, "Behind the Masks of Men," a three-month program aimed at helping men delve deeper into the topics of anger, relationships, sex, and desire. Join us as we explore the false initiation of sexuality through porn and the importance of tackling these taboo topics for the betterment of not just men, but society as a whole. Traver Boehm is the author of the books Today I Rise and Man UNcivilized. He's a two time TEDx speaker, men's coach, and the founder of the UNcivilized Men's Movement. He's helped men all over the world to become UNcivilized as they wake up to meditate, train their bodies, and blaze their own path by uniquely blending both the primal and the divine within them. He is dedicated to doing his part to help end the suffering in men, and the suffering caused by men, by guiding them through their own journey into an actualized version of masculinity. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 2:46 Traver Boehm's personal journey of self-discovery and growth after a series of events in his life that led to a destabilization of his sense of identity and purpose. 12:12 A new paradigm of masculinity proposed amidst epidemic of pain in the male population. 18:23 Breaking down gender stereotypes: The negative impact of narrow masculine emotional expression. 20:17 Understanding masculinity in today's society. 26:08 Exploring the importance of balancing masculine and emotional intelligence in relationships. 32:37 Integrating masculine and feminine: Moving beyond limiting identities. 38:26 The importance of integrity in relationships and life. 41:31 Understanding the pain of "nice guys" and practical solutions. 47:53 The power of embracing the primal and divine within. 53:46 Behind the masks of men: A three-month program to explore emotional and sexual issues. Mentioned Behind the Masks of Men Man UNcivilized (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Today I Rise: How To Overcome The Gut-Wrenching Pain Of Your Breakup Or Divorce & Reclaim Your Life (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Traver Boehm Websites: manuncivilized.com Podcast: The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm Instagram: instagram.com/traverboehm/?hl=en Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

In relationships, it's not uncommon to experience difficulties and obstacles that can strain even the strongest of bonds. However, with the right tools and approach, it's possible to not only heal from past hurts but also continue to grow and develop as individuals and as a couple.In this episode, renowned relationship expert Gary De Rodriguez shares his insights and wisdom on how to achieve healing and development while in a relationship. From taking ownership of our thoughts and emotions to speaking with kindness and drawing appropriate boundaries, Gary provides actionable steps and practical advice to help individuals and couples navigate the ups and downs of relationships with ease.Gary De Rodriguez known as the People Mechanic is an internationally acclaimed expert in the science of human excellence with over a 35-year career in designing and integrating influential models of psychology-based systems of success in leadership, human behavior, relationships, communication, team dynamics.He is the CEO of Peopleistic LLC USA, Associate Professor at the Business Education Institute, Master Trainer in Humanistic Neuro-Linguistic Psychology, a licensed Executive Coach, and Published Author on the topic of Humanistic Business. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:17 An overview of Gary de Rodriguez's 35-year career in human excellence. 14:28 The importance of relationships and the role they play in personal growth and evolution. 20:24 Exploring the concept of psychological safety and its impact on relationships and team dynamics 24:44 The importance of understanding the impact of our emotions and behavior on the culture and energy in our home and environment. 30:03 The importance of boundaries and relationships in personal evolution and growth. 34:37 Key to improved relationships and overcoming trauma. 40:28 Understanding the impact of past traumas and the urgency to develop mental and emotional skills to live a fulfilling life. 46:07 The realization that made Gary break away from his addiction and start a journey of self-improvement. 51:59 The one thing that creates psychological safety is our ability to manage our own minds. Mentioned Creating Incredible Relationships (*Gary's course) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Gary De Rodriguez Websites: peopleistic.com Facebook: facebook.com/peopleistic Twitter: twitter.com/garyderodriguez YouTube: youtube.com/user/peopleistic LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/garyderodriguez Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Are you constantly checking your phone while spending time with your partner? Do you find yourself spending more time on social media than connecting with your significant other? Technology has drastically changed the way we interact and communicate in our relationships. From social media to dating apps, technology has greatly impacted the way we form and maintain intimacy in our relationships. But what exactly are the effects of technology on intimacy?In this episode, we will dive into the research and explore the positive and negative impacts of technology on intimacy in relationships, from how it can enhance connection and communication to how it can lead to feelings of disconnection and dissatisfaction.Join us as we uncover the truth about how technology is shaping the way we connect with our loved ones. Tim Johnson is the founder and CEO of Couply, which is an app for couples. Couply has helped over 250,000 people build better relationships.Prior to that, he was with Wattpad, which was an app that helped writers share their books, which grew to 100 million monthly users and was acquired by Naver for 660 million.Tim also spent 10x years in the Red Cross, in various programs from, helping reunite families separated by war and conflict, to supporting bullying prevention in youth. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:16 An app that helps people navigate and sustain healthy relationships inspired by his personal experience and heartache. 12:49 How technology is impacting the relationship space: Insights from a study of 1500 couples. 21:07 Social media algorithms and their psychological impact, including the infinite scroll feature and how it can lead to people becoming distracted and spending more time on their phones than intended. 26:05 The conversation of trust and boundaries in the digital age. 35:44 The pressure of presenting a perfect relationship on social media and its negative effects on mental health. 41:52 How technology can be helpful for relationships and self-discovery: the importance of discussing both the positive and negative aspects. 44:30 Virtual reality and long-distance relationships. 51:03 The power of the enneagram app. 57:30 Tim explains how the Kupple app gamifies the relationship-building process and makes it more convenient for couples to connect. Mentioned EEP 255: How to Deal with Problems Related to Social Media in Relationship – An Interview with Dr. Marisa T. Cohen Sharing Resources (*Google form) Connect with Tim Johnson Websites: couply.io Instagram: instagram.com/tigertimj/?hl=en | instagram.com/couplyapp/?hl=en Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Sexual intimacy is a vital component of any healthy relationship, but for many couples, it can be a challenge to maintain. Whether it's due to changes in your body, stress, or other obstacles, it can be difficult to keep the passion alive. However, there is hope. With a little bit of self-awareness and some open communication with your partner, you can reignite the spark and nurture sexual intimacy in your relationship. In this episode, we'll explore some tips and strategies for overcoming obstacles and reigniting the passion in your relationship. So, if you're ready to take your intimacy to the next level, listen to this episode to learn more. Dr. Liz is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Relationship Coach with over 35 years and 75,000+ hours of expertise working with women and couples to reignite relationships so they can prevent divorce, infidelity, and dissatisfaction and navigate huge life transitions. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 4:09 Nurturing intimacy and passion: The importance of "redos" in order to address mistakes in relationships and improve communication and connection. 10:52 Myths and realities of sexual intimacy in long-term relationships: How life stages and circumstances impact couples. 20:19 Navigating life stages and overcoming challenges to maintain intimacy in relationships. 26:07 The challenges and opportunities in building and maintaining a sexual connection. 31:41 The Importance of Self-Awareness and Relaxation. 36:16 The importance of self-care, mindfulness, and communication in the bedroom. 42:05 Misperceptions and fears in sexual intimacy: How to address and communicate to maintain passion and connection. 47:29 The unconscious strategies to avoid intimacy. Mentioned Free Connection Call with Dr. Liz (*Calendly) Weekend Reconnect Coaching Program FREE Gift Couple's Connection Checklist Sharing Resources (*Google form) Connect with Dr. Liz Jenkins Websites: drlizjenkins.com Facebook: facebook.com/DrLizJenkins Instagram: instagram.com/dr_liz_jenkins Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Are you tired of feeling unheard and unseen in your relationships? Do you struggle with finding a shared reality with your partner? If so, you're not alone. Many of us struggle to navigate the complexities of human interaction and connection. But the good news is, with the right tools and mindset, you can improve your relationships and create a deeper sense of connection and understanding with those around you. In this episode, Dr. Heather Browne shares some actionable steps and practical advice for creating a shared reality in your relationship and improving communication and connection with your loved ones. From identifying and expressing your needs to holding boundaries and creating space for growth and healing, this episode is packed with valuable insights and strategies for building stronger, more fulfilling relationships. As a relationship expert, Dr. Heather Browne has worked with thousands of individuals and couples in psychotherapy. She is published in hundreds of journals, has an active YouTube channel, has been featured on ABC-7 news, was the relationship expert on KDOC Daybreak OC, and is published in Inc., The Toronto Sun, Thriving Family Magazine, Light + Life, and Psychology Today. She is a regular guest blogger for both Links for Shrinks and for Marriage Friendly Therapists. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 7:36 Dr. Browne's personal experience that inspired her to help couples. 11:33 Relationship: A place for growth and learning. 19:18 Ownership of ourselves and how we choose to perceive things. 24:25 Navigating difficult conversations in relationships. 31:23 Navigating differences and maintaining connection: The art of empathy and holding multiple truths. 34:21 The importance of curiosity in a healthy relationship. 39:26 Navigating the balance of self-care and caring for others. 44:29 The process of growth and transformation in relationships, emphasizing the importance of communication, curiosity, and compassion. 53:00 Where to find a variety of resources and learn more about her and her work. Mentioned Sharing Resources (*Google form) Connect with Dr. Heather Browne Websites: drheatherbrowne.com Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063801931581 TikTok: tiktok.com/t/ZTd7b3xEh Instagram: instagram.com/dr.heatherbrowne YouTube: youtu.be/ulYsgmXJmdc LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drheatherbrowne Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Our personal history can shape the way we perceive and react to the behavior of others and the types of relationships we form. If we have experienced neglect or abuse in the past, it may be more difficult for us to trust others and form close relationships. We may also be more prone to anxiety or depression. On the other hand, if we had a supportive and nurturing upbringing, we may be more confident and able to form healthy, positive relationships. In this episode, Ana Gabriel Mann discusses the use of neurofeedback as a treatment for trauma and other issues such as PTSD, brain injury, and processing disorders. They describe the process of neurofeedback and how it can be used to specifically target and address specific areas of the brain that may be over or understimulated. She also emphasizes the importance of self-care and the role it plays in healing and personal growth. Ana Gabriel Mann earned her Master's degree in clinical psychology before going on to serve as an educator, therapist, and corporate trainer. She currently coaches Go-Giver Marriage clients and leads the Go-Giver Marriage Coaches Training Program. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:45 Exploring the use of authentic movement in processing and healing trauma. 11:57 The importance of boundaries in therapy, particularly in couples therapy. 22:47 Understanding and managing flooding and multigenerational PTSD with EEG neurofeedback therapy. 29:03 The Benefits of Neurofeedback Therapy for Managing Trauma and Overaroused Nervous Systems. 37:12 Neurofeedback for trauma, brain injury, and processing disorders: How EEG therapy can help regulate brain function and promote healing. 48:46 The importance of prioritizing self-care in trauma healing and personal growth. 51:42 How they're helping individuals and couples. Mentioned The Go-Giver Marriage: A Little Story About the Five Secrets to Lasting Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Sharing Resources (*Google form) ERP 270: How to Resolve Relational Trauma in the Body through Dance & Movement – An Interview with Orit Krug Connect with Ana Gabriel Mann Websites: gogivermarriage.com Facebook: facebook.com/anagabrielmann Twitter: twitter.com/AnaGabrielMann Instagram: instagram.com/AnaGabrielMann Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Death is a natural and inevitable part of life. It is a reminder of our own mortality and the impermanence of things. While it can be a difficult and painful experience, it is believed that consciousness about death brings people closer to each other. In this episode, Dr. Jordana Jacobs talks about the importance of mortality awareness and how denial of this fundamental human experience can lead to greater suffering and isolation. This awareness can also inspire us to prioritize our relationships, make the most of the time we have together, and find a deeper sense of purpose and meaning in life. Dr. Jordana Jacobs is a clinical psychologist in private practice in New York City. Her approach is integrative, combining psychodynamic and existential therapy in her treatment of patients. Dr. Jacobs' training at Memorial Sloan Kettering working with terminally ill cancer patients, her studies in Northern India, and her Vipassana meditation practice inspired her work exploring the complex relationship between death and love. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 10:31 Dr. Jacobs' unwavering faith in the power of love and connection to bring meaning and resilience in the face of trauma and loss. 14:09 Exploring the complex interplay between love and death in long-term relationships. 16:56 How the power of mortality awareness can deepen love and meaning in life. 25:56 How denying or avoiding this fundamental human experience can lead to greater suffering and isolation. 35:27 How surrendering to difficult emotions and experiences can help us move forward. 37:33 Actionable steps you can take to gently bring mortality into awareness. Mentioned Ram Dass Fierce Grace (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Love & Death Meditation (*Youtube video) Love & Letting Go Meditation (*Youtube video) WeCroak Sharing Resources (*Google form) Connect with Dr. Jordana Jacobs Websites: drjordanajacobs.com Instagram: instagram.com/drjordanajacobs/?hl=en Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Do you find yourself constantly overreacting to your partner's words and actions, or do you often overthink simple things and always assume the worst? Everyone faces challenges and struggles in life, and it's natural to feel overwhelmed or uncertain at times, but it's important to remember that there are ways to reduce overthinking so you can be your best self and enjoy life. In this episode, Alicia Munoz discusses the five rumination cycles that destroy relationships and four simple ways to break these cycles. Alicia Muñoz, LPC, is a certified couples therapist, and author of four books, most recently "Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nourish Love, Trust, and Connection With Your Partner" (New Harbinger Publications, 2022). Muñoz currently works as a Senior Writer at Psychotherapy Networker and as a couples therapist in private practice. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 3:17 How overthinking obstructs connection and relationships. 13:56 What rumination in relationships looks like. 18:08 The five rumination cycles. 27:41 How attachment styles influence rumination. 31:16 Four simple ways to reduce the amount of overthinking. 41:22 The significance of having direct contact with oneself. 47:25 How to break the cycle of anxious rumination in your relationship. Mentioned Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nurture Love, Trust, and Connection with Your Partner (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The 7 Hidden Relationship-Wreckers (free mini course) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Alicia Muñoz Websites: aliciamunoz.com Facebook: facebook.com/aliciamunozlpc Twitter: twitter.com/aliciamunozlpc LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/aliciamunozlpc Instagram: instagram.com/aliciamunozcouples Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Although emotional intelligence is important in developing positive relationships, it is only one piece of the puzzle. Some of the factors that contribute to long-lasting relationships are establishing rapport, developing trust, and embracing inclusivity or diversity. In this episode, Dr. Adam C. Bandelli talks about his research on the pros and cons of emotional intelligence and how this can make or break your relationships. He then introduces the concept of relational intelligence, going through each of its five essential skills. Relational intelligence, sometimes referred to as social intelligence, is the capacity to perceive, understand, and navigate emotions in oneself and others, and to use this awareness to effectively communicate and interact with others. Dr. Bandelli, emphasizes that by developing your relational intelligence, you can improve your communication skills, build strong relationships, and effectively navigate social situations. Founder and Managing Director of Bandelli & Associates, Dr. Adam C. Bandelli is an organizational psychologist and seasoned leadership advisor with over twenty years of corporate consulting experience. In his latest book, "Relational Intelligence," he details the five essential skills he has found to create life-changing relationships. Adam received his Ph.D. and master's degree from the University of South Florida and now runs Bandelli & Associates, where he and his consultants help their clients unleash their true leadership potential. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 7:14 Guest introduction: An athlete turned psychologist/leadership advisor. 10:12 Emotional intelligence plays a role in creating strong relationships. 12:30 Define relational intelligence and the five essential skills for developing life-changing relationships. 12:50 Building rapport: The ability to use energy to make a positive first impression on others. 18:04 Investing in deepening relationships through time and effort. 22:07 Celebrating diversity and inclusion. 19:08 Understanding and connecting with others. 40:56 Information on how listeners can access resources to support them in improving their communication and negotiating skills in relationships. Mentioned Relational Intelligence; The Five Essential Skills You Need to Build Life-Changing Relationships (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Facilitating Communication and Effective Interpersonal Relationships at Work: A Theoretical Model of Socio-Affective Competence (dissertation) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication ERP 336: Strengthen Your Relationship with 5 Daily Practices — An Interview with John David & Ana Gabriel Mann Connect with Dr. Adam C. Bandelli Websites: bandelliandassociates.com Twitter: twitter.com/abandelli YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCDhhamF26lfFqe8UAsEFv4g/featured Instagram: instagram.com/adambandelli LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/adambandelli Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Have you ever felt like you were trying to fit into someone else's shoes? Maybe you've wanted to do something that you know will make you happy but have been holding back out of concern for what people will think of you. Well, you are not alone. Many people around the world are afraid to be who they truly are because they are scared of being rejected and abandoned. As a result, they hide and carry on living lives that are dictated by society, family, or friends. But how would you like to live your life if there were no rules or judgment? In this episode, Keely and Dani, the founders of Coming Out Happy, talk about their journey from their early struggles with sexuality and confidence to living the most authentic lives that they want to share with the world. They discuss overcoming insecurities and fears, self-love, and creating a safe space for queer adults so that they can grow closer as a community. Dani and Keely created the world's leading holistic mental wellness platform for queer adults. They help you achieve better relationship skills, healthier habits, and greater well-being. Instantly, you will find mind-body wellness tools, courses, and intentionally-designed exercises to help one increase their peace, happiness, and balance in life as a queer adult. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:39 Dani's inspiration for supporting the LGBTQ+ community: struggles with sexuality and confidence. 7:37 How Keely's inability to express herself negatively affected her relationships. 8:21 Dani's decision to quit her corporate job and start a membership for the LGBTQ+ community. 14:00 How the inner work of self-care and self-love can help you move into the world in a way that feels more true to you. 17:21 Making a safe space for the LGBTQ+ community? 31:03 How to work with insecurity and fears that will emerge in relationships 36:05 The importance of community and community-building. 45:49 How they resolve conflicts or when either feels triggered. Mentioned Pride Amplified Program Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love ERP 349: Navigating Cultural Differences in Relationship — An Interview with Dr. Kathrine Bejanyan Connect with Keely & Dani Website: comingouthappy.com TikTok: tiktok.com/@comingouthappyteam?lang=en Facebook: facebook.com/comingouthappy YouTube: youtube.com/c/ComingOutHappy Instagram: instagram.com/comingouthappy Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Childhood, environment, culture, religion, and background all have an impact on who we become and how we perceive ourselves. These factors also influence how we present ourselves in relationships. Most relationships start out with the lovely phase of courting and falling in love. Up until differences arise, everything seems to be perfect. These differences can be significant life choices like having children, purchasing a home, moving to a different country or city, or even something as basic as eating habits. Dealing with cross-cultural differences makes this even more challenging. Dr. Kathrine Bejanyan discusses the typical issues that couples from various cultures encounter. She acknowledges that some sacrifices are necessary for the relationships to work, but she also expresses caution, saying that some sacrifices are not worthwhile. In this episode, she discusses how to resolve disagreements with your partner or get yourself ready for a successful relationship with someone from a different background. Dr. Kathrine Bejanyan is a practicing therapist specializing in the areas of dating, relationships, and cross-cultural topics. Her practice focuses on working with individuals and couples on love, dating, and relationship issues, with an emphasis on building deeper intimacy, connection, and authenticity in their love lives. Outside of her private practice, Kathrine is a speaker, consultant, and lecturer in psychology. She holds a Ph.D. in social psychology and a Master's in counseling psychology. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:31 Dr. Kathrine Bejanyan's keen interest in understanding cultural dynamics. 11:34 How overcoming struggles fosters relationships and individual growth. 13:50 Defining the problem before solving it. 17:38 Typical issues that cross-cultural couples face. 20:04 The importance of curiosity in a healthy relationship. 26:33 How to handle cultural differences in relationships. 36:29 Cultural identity is dynamic rather than static. 48:42 How to connect with Kathrine. Mentioned Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Dr. Kathrine Bejanyan Websites: kathrinebejanyan.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dr-kathrine-bejanyan Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

The separate self is a lie. Contrary to modern culture's idea of the solo self or individualism, which emphasizes the need to look out for and take care of oneself above all else, indigenous people believe that everything is interconnected. There has always been a connection between us and the rest of the world. Although it originated in Western culture, individualism is a global phenomenon that prevents us from living in greater balance and harmony. In today's society, self-reliance is highly stressed and valued, which gives the impression that we are on our own and leaves a lot of people experiencing feelings of worthlessness, loneliness, and desperation. In this episode, Dr. Dan Siegel aims to shift that mindset into a more relational approach. He places a strong emphasis on how crucial it is to understand how connected we all are. He believes that by understanding and embracing this ancient message, we can find solutions to more significant problems like public health and planetary health, in addition to our relationships with other people. Let's dive in. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:38 The inspiration of the book: the deep desire to let go of the idea of the "solo self" and discover how to lead a more balanced, harmonious life. 17:33 The flimsy fantasy of certainty. 20:59 How our culture encourages us to see ourselves as separate, independent beings. 28:34 How the word "me" can be a limiting word and the origin of the word "MWe." 36:08 The ineffective use of the word "self" in the field of mental health. 41:54 The solo self is a lie: a broader understanding of who we are and the realities of our entangled lives. 48:41 How the idea of intraconnectedness, or MWe, can change romantic relationships. Mentioned IntraConnected: MWe (Me + We) as the Integration of Self, Identity, and Belonging (book) Wheel of Awareness by Dr. Dan Siegel Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence--The Groundbreaking Meditation Practice (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Noosphere by Pierre Teilhard de Chardin (*Wikipedia) ERP 216: What to Know about Loneliness and Relationship ERP 219: The Human Need for Belonging ERP 215: How to Deal With Being "Alone Together" ERP 208: How to Find Balance and Direction Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Dan Siegel Websites: DrDanSiegel.com | mindsightinstitute.com Facebook: facebook.com/drdansiegel Twitter: twitter.com/DrDanSiegel YouTube: youtube.com/user/mindsightinstitute Instagram: instagram.com/drdansiegel Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Do you find yourself easily triggered by your partner's actions or tone? Perhaps he or she really did something offensive, or maybe that's just how you perceived it. Sometimes, you don't even understand why you're upset.As you've probably heard a lot of times, relationships aren't always glitz and glamour. It's more of an attraction that, once you've established safety and gone a little deeper, differences begin to surface. At this point, many would presume that their love for their partner has waned or that they made the wrong decision. Although discomfort in intimate relationships just flies in your face, these relationships also serve a deeper purpose: emotional healing and spiritual development. You learn so much more about yourself in a relationship than you could on your own. In this episode, Dr. Susan Campbell discusses triggers, including how they manifest, the reasons behind our emotions, and—most importantly—the five steps to trigger mastery that she outlined in her most recent book. Susan is a best-selling author of 12 books and is the creator and publisher of three entertaining and educational card games for couples, families, work teams, and singles. Susan's work with couples has been featured on national television, including CNN's News Night, Good Morning America, and The Dr. Dean Edel Show, and she has been widely published in popular magazines. In 2003–2004, she was the couple therapist on the reality TV show, Truth in Love, which aired on UPN, an ABC affiliate network. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:23 The couple's journey and how it can be an opportunity for healing. 12:04 How to work with triggers in a way that is inviting. 13:05 Getting more comfortable with emotional discomfort. 33:23 How to deal with triggers that will inevitably arise in a relationship: co-triggering vs. co-regulation. 41:48 Dr. Campbell's five-step trigger mastery: from triggered to tranquil. 46:30 Why is it in your best interest to make your partner feel secure? 49:18 Your inner good mother archetype. Mentioned From Triggered to Tranquil: How Self-Compassion and Mindful Presence Can Transform Relationship Conflicts and Heal Childhood Wounds (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Five-Minute Relationship Repair: Quickly Heal Upsets, Deepen Intimacy, and Use Differences to Strengthen Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Getting Real: Ten Truth Skills You Need to Live an Authentic Life (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Couple's Journey: Intimacy As a Path to Wholeness (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 305: The Surprising & Powerful Benefits of Learning to Tolerate Discomfort — An Interview with Dr. Anna Lembke Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Susan Campbell Websites: susancampbell.com Facebook: facebook.com/drsusan99 Twitter: twitter.com/drsusan99 YouTube: youtube.com/user/drsusan95472?themeRefresh=1 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Most modern people are unaware of the extent to which the human nervous system is dissociated because there are so many forces—technology, social media, politics, and a whole host of other things—vying for our attention.In this episode, Gabriel Kram talks about how these dissociative tendencies are becoming more prevalent in modern culture and how authority has robbed us of our sacred connection to the earth. Gabriel emphasizes the value of real human connection to one's overall well-being and shares their unconventional strategy to reestablish this connection.Natureza Gabriel is a connection phenomenologist. For 25 years, he has studied connection and what gets in its way. He attended Yale and Stanford universities but has been shaped more by sitting in teepees and circles than in classrooms. He has been blessed with many remarkable mentors. He is the founder and CEO of Hearth Science, Inc., convener of the Restorative Practices Alliance, and co-founder of the Academy of Applied Social Medicine. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:55 Gabriel's personal healing journey that inspired him to specialize in connection phenomenology. 11:29 Gabriel defines relatedness. 15:29 Differences between how indigenous people and Western culture conceptualize intelligence. 21:21 How dissociative tendencies are being normalized in modern society. 23:46 How our relatedness to the earth has been obliterated from our language. 39:45 How interoception can improve general wellbeing. 46:40 Gabriel defines social engagement physiology as a physical system. 54:06 A diagnostic and intervention system they've built to strengthen access to the hearts, intuition, and relatedness. Mentioned Restorative Practices of Wellbeing (Connection Phenomenology) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Polyvagal Theory Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Gabriel Kram Websites: restorativepractices.com | hearthscience.io | aasm.io Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

In response to criticism or complaints, people frequently resort to becoming defensive as a coping strategy. It's natural for people to defend themselves when they feel harmed or unfairly attacked. While defensiveness is designed to keep us out of danger, it is also one of the major relationship busters. Women commonly complain about their partner's defensiveness and how they feel disconnected. On the other hand, men are perplexed. They have no idea what to do when their partner is upset. And when the nervous system detects a threat, the mind springs into action with a variety of escape strategies or ways to ease the discomfort of anxiety. The mind then intervenes with stories, projections, and defenses. Couples will never truly connect if one partner is in an emotional space and the other responds with information to try to talk him or her out of being upset. In this episode, GS Youngblood introduces embodiment. He differentiates it from the type of meditation that most people are familiar with—noticing your thoughts and then deciding to let them go. He describes how concentrating on specific bodily sensations can help to control the nervous system. He also stresses the significant impact that this kind of awareness can have on how you show up in your relationships. GS coaches men in relationships on how to live, love, and lead from their masculine core. He is the author of the acclaimed books The Masculine in Relationship and The Art of Embodiment for Men, both of which are written to help men build more masculine capacity. His work in this domain of masculine leadership pulls in principles from a variety of fields: psychology, spirituality, martial arts, tango, meditation, and BDSM. Although GS primarily coaches men in relationships, women would equally benefit from practicing being embodied, too. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:03 Embodiment vs. meditation: focusing on specific bodily sensations rather than your thoughts. 8:51 Benefits of embodiment in terms of intimate relationships: consciously choosing how one will respond or react. 21:15 How he helps people have more of this embodiment. 41:24 How is being physical different from being embodied? 45:42 Examples of how people can confront their tendencies to escape in this more embodied way. 53:10 Sexual leadership: how to bring some leadership to the bedroom so that your partner can, if she chooses, can surrender to your lead. 56:28 Discover more information about GS and his work, including his website, books, workshops, and social media handles. Mentioned The Art of Embodiment for Men (Affiliate link to GS's course) The Art of Embodiment for Men: Using the ANI Framework and Daily Practices to Tame Anxiety, Heal Trauma, and Conquer Your Nice Guy Tendencies (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 263: How to Develop Three Key Qualities of Your Positive Masculine Leadership — An Interview with GS Youngblood Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with GS Youngblood Websites: gsyoungblood.com Facebook: facebook.com/gsyoungblood1/groups Instagram: instagram.com/gsyoungbloodmir/?hl=en Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Have you ever been in a situation where you just can't find the words to express how you are feeling, and then all of a sudden you come across a word that perfectly captures how you feel? Isn't it empowering to finally have a name for that feeling or experience so you can share it with others? Language is an incredibly effective tool for communication and expression. It not only helps you understand who you are, but it also alters the way you see the world. There are simply not enough words to adequately describe the various kinds of emotions and relationships that people are capable of experiencing, which is why communities, such as the LGBTQ and polyamory, are developing new vocabulary. In this episode, Dr. Georgi Gardiner discusses some new vocabulary words that she covers in her essay, We Forge the Conditions of Love, in an effort to raise awareness. In the aforementioned essay, the author discusses how people's conceptions of love impact their romantic relationships and offers suggestions for how to direct and mold them. Dr. Georgi Gardiner is an Assistant Professor of Philosophy and a fellow of the American Council for Learned Societies (ACLS). She previously held the Andrew Fraser Junior Research Fellowship at St. John's College, Oxford University. Georgi received her doctorate from Rutgers University and Undergraduate and Masters degrees from Edinburgh University. Her research interests include the philosophy of love, sexuality, and sex work. She also researches beliefs about trauma and rape. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:22 What is linguistic luck and how can it affect your romantic relationship? 8:17 Love has a very permissive flexibility of meaning. 13:27 An example of social forging: holiday romance or a summer fling. 18:51 How can trying on various interpretive frames of oneself be an empowering cognitive skill? 23:15 How to switch between being disempowered and being empowered. 27:12 What influences societal constructs, and how are communities broadening the vocabulary they use to describe their relationships? 30:42 What is limerence, and how might it influence how people perceive love and romantic relationships? 34:22 Are you really experiencing falling in love or is it just limerence? 44:21 How can people utilize this knowledge more in their daily lives? 47:42 Find out more about Dr. Georgi Gardiner and her work. Mentioned We Forge the Conditions of Love (essay) Living with Limerence (book) ERP 286: How to Know if You Experience Limerence & What to Do About It – An Interview With Dr. L Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Georgi Gardiner Website: georgigardiner.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Marriage is one of the most significant decisions one has to make. It is designed to foster a partnership, a lifelong commitment, and a sense of shared success and happiness between two people. Nobody enters into a marriage expecting it to end in divorce, but as couples spend more time together and get to know one another better, conflicts may arise, responsibilities and priorities may change, and if couples can't work it out, it may result in divorce. There are marriage and couple's therapists who can assist couples in working through conflicts, but if the relationship is beyond saving, you might want to speak with a divorce lawyer who can guide you through the legal process. Have you heard of a divorce attorney that helps couples stay in their marriage? That sounds ironic. While most divorce lawyers focus on getting the best settlement offer their clients can get, even if that means adding fuel to the fire, David Erdman approaches his cases differently. David has been happily married for 38 years and has practiced divorce law for over 40 years. He is a graduate of Duke University and the Georgetown University Law Center. David is an advocate and ally for clients who are working to save their marriages with a focus on children. He is also a veteran of over 5,000 marriage-related legal consultations, which inspired him to write the book, The Ten Commandments of Marriage: Secrets of a Divorce Lawyer. In this episode, David discusses his unique approach to handling divorce cases. We'll discover how he is shifting the emphasis from the impending separation to making your marriage the way you want it to be by asking the right questions. Furthermore, he outlines what is in his book while focusing on the most important rules and delivering some insightful advice. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 4:54 David's motivation for writing The Ten Commandments of Marriage: A compilation of what he discovered from more than 5000 other marriages over the course of 40 years. 13:28 Asking clients probing questions to help them prepare for negotiations. 19:12 What is unforgivable? 25:29 Thou shalt learn to resolve differences. 28:34 What happens in a relationship when there is equality. 35:35 Top reasons for divorce: the percentage of women who are more likely to initiate divorce. 38:36 How to make sex satisfying for both you and your partner. 42:49 Spouses' superpowers that you should not neglect. 44:47 Thou shall NOT allow children to obstruct your marriage 49:04 Golden nuggets of advice Mentioned The Ten Commandments of Marriage: Secrets of a Divorce Lawyer (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with David Erdman Website: tencommandmentsofmarriage.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Relationships are the best mirror for our deepest fears and emotions. Although you may have been able to suppress these feelings as an adult, getting into a committed relationship can bring them to the surface. Can love transform our nervous system and mend these wounds? The short answer is yes. In this episode, Jessica Baum discusses core wounds and the emotional charge associated with that narrative. She also discusses co-regulation and interdependency and how they can be used to better understand your own and your partner's behavior. Jessica Baum, LMHC, is the founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, providing couples therapy, family counseling, and addiction therapy in South Florida for over 10 years. She has helped thousands of clients with her unique approach to healing, the Self-full® Method. Through her sister company, Be Self-full (beselffull.com), Jessica offers transformational courses and online coaching services that support individuals and couples to form healthy, long-term relationships. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:36 Breaking the anxious-avoidant dance in relationships: How Jessica's fascination with energy and system issues evolved. 8:01 Understanding Core Wounds: The underlying story and the energetic charge associated with it. 13:47 Understanding how your nervous system affects your relationships. 20:24 Patterns and themes: Distinguishing what is happening in the relationship from possible feelings you may have had before you met that partner. 24:50 How the nervous system responds to cues of stress and how co-regulation helps create a calm environment. 35:55 How to go from being anxious or avoidant to feeling secure. 48:12 Connect with Dr. Baum and learn more about her work. Mentioned Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Jessica Baum Websites: beselffull.com/anxiouslyattached Facebook: facebook.com/beselffull Instagram: instagram.com/jessicabaumlmhc Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

​​You become what you consistently tell yourself, whether it is positive or negative, according to the adage "You are who you say you are." This tells us that the thoughts that you feed your mind matter because, unwittingly, they serve as the road map for both your interpersonal relationships and your individual self. You can't really rewrite the past, but having the awareness of how it can impact your life, you give yourself the power to write a new story, a new beginning. In this episode, Dr. Skerrett explains the concept of couples' resilience and the advantages it has for relationships and elaborates on how couples can develop and nurture their resilience. Karen Skerrett, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and registered nurse with over 40 years of experience as a clinician, academic, and author who specializes in strength-based approaches to healing and change across the lifecycle. She is the author of Growing Married, co-author of Positive Couple Therapy, co-editor of Couple Resilience, and author of the memoir Tell Me Again How I Know You? Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:06 Karen's transition from nursing to psychology: Targeting towards and focusing on couple's resilience. 11:14 What is couples' resilience and what makes it a source of positive energy for couple life? 13:24 The importance of the stories we tell our narrative. 18:59 The distinction between a story and a "we-story". 25:31 The seven elements of we-ness. 34:50 Transforming individualistic cultures and behavior into an empowering story. 41:39 Karen's advice and resources to help people build a couple's resiliency. Mentioned Growing Married: Creating Stories for a Lifetime of Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Couple Resilience: Emerging Perspectives (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Positive Couple Therapy: Using We-Stories to Enhance Resilience (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Strengths-based Resilience (SBR) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Karen Skerrett Websites: karenskerrettphd.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/karen-skerrett-7a185024 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

When your partner or someone else calls you out or you feel attacked, it's natural to go into defense mode. Humans are simply wired that way. Defensiveness, however, can hinder your ability to relate to others and damage your relationships. Aperture awareness is an essential skill for open, honest, and healthy communication. While our brains are built to instantly read an aperture, not everyone is aware of this, so they fail to recognize the signs. The good news is that it's a skill that can be acquired. In this episode, Dr. Kathryn Ford elaborates on aperture awareness and its significance in relationships. You'll learn how to read body language as a sign of awareness, as well as some highly structured exercises to help people slow down. Kathryn Ford, M.D. is a relationship expert and creator of the couples therapy model, Aperture Awareness™ — the felt sensation of availability for connection. She's been practicing psychotherapy for over 20 years in private practice and through workshops at Stanford University. She received her M.D. from Brown University Medical School and did her psychiatry residency at The Stanford School of Medicine. In addition to her traditional training, both her yoga practice and her life-long meditation practice have informed her life and her work. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 8:02 What sparked Kathryn's interest in mindfulness and relationships? 15:42 Understanding aperture awareness and why it's often disregarded. 21:18 Body language as a sign of responsiveness and awareness. 30:27 Fostering trust by rewarding risk-taking. 32:49 Pumping the brakes and riding the waves. 41:52 How to sift through your partner's words for the kernel of truth. 54:50 The power of slowing down. 58:34 How to connect with Dr. Kathryn Ford. Mentioned About Kathryn Ford M.D. (*Psychology Today) Stanford Continuing Studies Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Dr. Kathryn Ford Website: kathrynfordmd.com Facebook: facebook.com/KathrynFordMD Instagram: instagram.com/KathrynFordMD LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kathryn-ford-m-d-1a675b2b Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Keeping your emotions at bay to maintain the harmony in your relationship may seem like a better option than engaging in a conversation that might result in an argument. On the other hand, suppressing your feelings can eventually do serious damage to your relationship. When you spend a lot of time with someone, you may begin to believe that you know everything about them. Starting a conversation may feel terrifying because you anticipate your partner's response and how the conversation will go, but you may or may not be right. In this episode, Susan Scott discusses the causes of relationship plateaus, common misconceptions about love, the effects of poor communication or lack thereof, and the characteristics of a fierce conversation. You'd be surprised at how refreshing that would be if you knew how to approach these conversations in a courageous, loving, and skillful way. Susan Scott is a bestselling author and leadership development architect who has enabled top executives worldwide to engage in vibrant dialogue with one another, with their employees, and with their customers for two decades. In her latest book, "Fierce Love – Creating a Love that Lasts, One Conversation at a Time," Susan Scott guides couples through eight must-have conversations to create a fierce love that stands the test of time and grows stronger over the years. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:19 Gradually and then suddenly: Understanding how lack of communication can ruin a relationship. 16:53 Post-romance stage: Recognizing the causes of a relationship plateau. 23:07 What a fierce conversation looks like. 33:21 Susan's own description of what she considers to be a safe place for meaningful conversations. 40:00 Myths about love that can destroy you and your relationship. Mentioned Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts---One Conversation at a Time (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Susan Scott Website: susanscott.io | fierceinc.com/fierce-conversations Facebook: facebook.com/SusanScottFierce | linkedin.com/company/fierce-inc- LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/susan-scott-1b63388 | linkedin.com/company/fierce-inc- Twitter: twitter.com/fierce_inc YouTube: youtube.com/user/fierceinc Instagram: instagram.com/fierceconversations_ Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

The majority of women due far more housework than men (in heterosexual relationships). According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, women spend 47 minutes more on housework on average than men each day. This translates to roughly 5 ½ more hours each week, which doesn't include childcare, grocery shopping or errands (which women do more of as well). This gender gap has an effect on everyone. In this episode, Dr. Kate Mangino discusses what she learned from interviewing 40 men in equal relationships to show how gender norms can restrict one or both partners in a relationship compared to what it looks like in equal relationships. Kate Mangino, PhD is a gender expert who works with international organizations to promote positive social change. She has written and delivered curricula in over 20 countries about issues such as: gender equality, women's empowerment, healthy masculinity, HIV prevention, and early and forced childhood marriage. She brings her lens of social change to her debut book, Equal Partners, which addresses gender roles in the American household. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:51 Promoting social change as an expert and a parent. 9:14 Taking the gender equality conversation into the community. 14:02: How gender norms create inequity and limit the potential of one or both partners. 23:29 An illustration of how partners' tasks are typically divided. 37:42 What exactly is the EP40, and what did Dr. Mangino learn from them? Mentioned Equal Partners: Improving Gender Equality at Home (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Connect with Dr. Kate Mangino Websites: katemangino.com Twitter: twitter.com/manginokate Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:00 The increased domestic violence during the pandemic. 7:02 Dr. Kelley's "aha!" moment that got her interested in helping people who have experienced trauma. 9:49 Why do people react differently to trauma? 14:38 Signs of a potentially abusive person. 28:50 Significant reasons why people are unable to confront or exit this situation. 38:52 Why highly sensitive people struggle more with decision making. 42:41 How to discern whether or not you should end the relationship and where someone in an abusive relationship can find support. Mentioned What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Internal Family Systems Model (*Wikipedia) Connect with Amelia Kelley Websites: ameliakelley.com — insighttimer.com/kelleycounseling Facebook: facebook.com/DrAmeliaKelley/ Twitter: twitter.com/DrAmeliaKelley Instagram: instagram.com/drameliakelley/ Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

When ADHD has not been identified, a person with ADHD is often doing the best they can to function. However, they will likely struggle with aspects of executive functioning skills in life. Being in a relationship with someone with ADHD can pose extra challenges in working together as a team, especially when it comes to domestic responsibilities, tasks, and decision making. In this episode, Dr. Ari Tuckman provides some insight into how ADHD manifests differently in adult men and women, particularly how it affects a couple's sex life. Additionally, he discusses approaches for resolving conflicts as well as tools and resources that both partners with ADHD and those without can utilize. Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST, is a psychologist, international speaker, and ADHD expert. He is the author of four books on ADHD, including his most recent book, ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship. He volunteers as the conference co-chair for CHADD, the national ADHD advocacy organization. He is in private practice in West Chester, PA. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 8:11 How Dr. Tuckman became passionate about helping adults with ADHD. 11:52 How each person's experience with ADHD differs. 14:17 ADHD in women vs. men. 18:12 How does ADHD manifest itself in romantic relationships? 22:41 How to make a relationship between people with ADHD work. 29:47 Dr. Tuckman's approach to assisting people with ADHD. 36:03 ADHD and sexual intimacy: effects, tips, and recommendations. 49:04 Tools and resources. Mentioned ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Children and Adults with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (CHADD) Attention Deficit Disorder Association (ADDA) ADHD Coaches Organization Sex needs a new metaphor. Here's one … (*TED Talks) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Dr. Ari Tuckman Websites: adultadhdbook.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Although co-dependence is often referred to as being unhealthy, to some extent, it is beneficial in marriages. Deeper connections are made when partners lean on one another and give and receive as acts of generosity rather than as acts of service. In this episode, John David and Ana Gabriel Mann discuss conflict resolution using their five secrets to success, which are condensed versions of their own experiences and expertise and are found in the book they co-authored. John David Mann is the coauthor of over 30 books, including nine New York Times and national bestsellers. His writing has earned the 2017 Living Now Book Award's "Evergreen Medal" for its "contribution to positive global change." Ana Gabriel Mann earned her Master's degree in clinical psychology before going on to serve as an educator, therapist, and corporate trainer. She currently coaches Go-Giver Marriage clients and leads the Go-Giver Marriage Coaches Training Program. John and Ana have been dreaming about writing "The Go-Giver Marriage" together for two decades. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 4:29 John and Ana's love letter to the world. 5:49 What does it mean to be a part of the "us"? 12:59 A description of the book's two main parts. 29:07 Frequently asked questions that Ana poses to couples. 30:50 Replacing criticism with appreciation. 45:21 The distinction between allowing and controlling. 52:01 How the opposing negative patterns prevent you from growing personally. 55:53 Go-Giver's couples-focused courses and programs. Mentioned The Go-Giver Marriage: A Little Story About the Five Secrets to Lasting Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with John David & Ana Gabriel Mann Website: gogivermarriage.com Facebook: facebook.com/johndavidmann | facebook.com/anagabrielmann Twitter: twitter.com/JohnDavidMann | twitter.com/anagabrielMann LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/johndavidmann | linkedin.com/in/ana-gabriel-mann-a2aa6011 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. No matter how great your relationship with your partner is, conflicts are inevitable, and that is not always a bad thing. Depending on how well you manage them, they can either weaken or strengthen your relationship. Most people don't even realize that they are responding to conflicts out of fear. When a problem arises, they automatically arm up to protect themselves, which leaves it unresolved and eventually breeds resentment. In this episode, Tami Kiekhaefer discusses how fear manifests itself in conflict situations through physical cues and an illustration. Most importantly, she explains how you can apply this knowledge to resolve conflicts in a constructive manner. Tamara Kiekhaefer, LCSW, has operated her psychotherapy practice since 2002. She provides individual, family, and couple therapy around anxiety, depression, domestic violence, trauma, relationships, and empowerment. Tami is a certified yoga instructor and weaves concepts of holistic therapy into her clinical work. Her first book provides hands-on tools required to work through the past, stabilize the present, and prepare for a loving relationship. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 4:56 How her divorce equipped Tami help other people even more. 9:40 How she confronted the criticism about her failed relationship while working as a couple's therapist. 14:34 How fear manifest itself during conflict. 18:29 Physical signs of fear. 24:38 The roots of anxiety. 29:00 The Cone of Fear—a visual representation of the fear of rejection and fear of abandonment. 38:58 How to overcome the fear of rejection and abandonment. 42:33 An overview of her book, Preparing for the Jungle: Avoiding Snakes and Pitfalls on the Path to Healthy Love. 46:56 Learn more about the services she is offering. Mentioned Preparing for the Jungle: Avoiding Snakes and Pitfalls on the Path to Healthy Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Cone of Fear Prepare for the Jungle (online self-paced course) Shifting Criticism into Connected Communication Connect with Tami Kiekhaefer Websites: healthyhealing.net Facebook: facebook.com/groups/womensempowermenttoolkit | facebook.com/tamikieklcsw TikTok: tiktok.com/@tamikiek_lcsw Twitter: twitter.com/tamikiek Pinterest: pinterest.com/tamikiek/_created Instagram: instagram.com/tamikieklcsw LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tami-kiekhaefer-32298a8 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Every one of us struggles with something that impacts our relationships. We were raised to believe that whatever we struggle with—be it self-worth, emotions, or body image—is a flaw. Despite the fact that we are heavily influenced by our society, we are taught that we are all unique individuals who have the power to make our own decisions. In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus discusses how to recognize our thoughts, beliefs, and emotions as well as how to practice being mindful of them. She urges everyone to venture a little further outside of their comfort zones and develop their mental and emotional fortitude so they can begin to make decisions they never had before. Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, is a sociologist, international intimacy speaker, and relationship and communication coach, and the author of From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women. Dr. Jenn has presented two TEDx Talks, co-hosts the podcast Sex Talk with Clint & the Doc, and she has collaborated on projects with Planned Parenthood, the Global YPO Spouse/Partner Network, Erica Lust films, and Dr. Ruth's Sex for Dummies book. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:50 How Dr. Jen became interested in sexuality and mindfulness. 7:49 Why is mindful intimacy so crucial? 20:43 Obstacles to profound intimacy and how mindfulness overcomes them. 47:48 A practical step you can take to begin engaging in mindful intimacy. Mentioned From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Sex Talk with Clint & the Doc Podcast American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors and Therapists (AASECT) Sex, Consent, & Gender - A Personal Story about Consent Violation - Sex & the Price of Masculinity Female sexual shame hurts us all | Jennifer Gunsaullus | TEDx Phoenixville Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus Website: drjennsden.com Facebook: facebook.com/jennifer.gunsaullus Twitter: twitter.com/drjennsden YouTube: youtube.com/user/drjennsden Instagram: instagram.com/drjennsden LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drjenn Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Marriage entails a commitment to support one another through both good and bad times. The traditional vow goes along the lines of, "For better or for worse, in sickness and in health, until death do us part," which means the couple stays together no matter what. The truth is that most couples hope for a bright future and a long-lasting romantic relationship, but they don't expect or prepare to go through the worse and sickness parts. In reality, it's not always convenient and easy. The hormones and attraction wear off, and other problems arise. In this episode, Dr. George and Vanessa Naum sit down and talk about some significant topics that every couple should consider before getting married; how health issues can affect the relationship; and some doable steps couples can take to strengthen their relationship. Best Friends Again is a physician marriage coaching company helping physicians and healthcare professionals reignite their marriage through a customized approach based on the unique needs of physician and healthcare professional families. Dr. George and Vanessa Naum's own battle-tested physician marriage, generational physician family heritage, and expertise from coaching hundreds of marriages off the ledge have paved the way for their revolutionary program: 90 Days to Clarity and Connection, a blueprint for guiding healers in healing their own relationships, saving their families, and enjoying their careers. They believe that you really can have it all. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 6:30 What Dr. George and Vanessa Naum learned from their own experiences and the inspiration behind their desire to help other couples. 12:37 Things that are significant but rarely discussed before getting married. 34:24 Compassionate intuition as an important ingredient in a healthy marriage. 38:33 How acceptance and suppression of emotions affect a relationship and how Dr. George and Vanessa help couples deal with it. 42:39 The 4 R's of a committed relationship. 45:36 How health issues can affect relationships. 50:13 Programs and resources for cultivating healthy relationships. Mentioned What's Forever For? A Physician's Guide to Everlasting Love and Success in Marriage (FREE chapter of Dr. Jeep's book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Dr. George and Vanessa Naum Website: BestFriendsAgain.com Facebook: facebook.com/askdrjeepandvanessa Twitter: twitter.com/@askdrjeep LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drgeorgenaum Instagram: instagram.com/bestfriendsagain Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Making the choice to leave an abusive relationship can be one of the most difficult things a person has to do. Without the right resources and support, it would be hard to move on even after you have cut your ties with your abuser. Being in an abusive relationship causes you to constantly pay more attention to your surroundings than is necessary. So, in this episode, Dr. Amelia Kelley discusses some useful techniques for managing feelings of anxiety, depression, and hypervigilance, as well as how to retrain your body to feel secure in any situation. Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist who has conducted research on the effects of exercise on ADHD symptoms as well as the effects of resiliency on PTSD. She is a trained hypnotherapist, art therapist, HSP Therapist, EMDR-informed therapist, and meditation and yoga teacher. She is a presenter and writer in the "science-help" field, focusing on relationships, highly sensitive people, trauma, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD. She is a guest podcast presenter focusing on women's issues and coping with the trauma of unhealthy relationships, as well as a coach and trainer for SAS's Work/Life Program in Cary, NC, and a resident trainer for the NC Art Therapy Institute. Her practice is also currently part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 7:18 How to rediscover yourself and rebuild your self-confidence after an abusive relationship. 20:32 Managing feelings of anxiety, stress, and hypervigilance. 40:43 Useful strategies for beginning self-healing. 43:04 A summary of her book, What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship and the narrative that inspired it. Mentioned What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship (*Instagram) High Heels and Heartache Podcast (*Apple podcast) ERP 321: How to Tell the Difference Between an Abusive Relationship & a Toxic Dynamic — An Interview with Dr. Amelia Kelley Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Amelia Kelley Websites: ameliakelley.com — insighttimer.com/kelleycounseling Facebook: facebook.com/DrAmeliaKelley/ Twitter: twitter.com/DrAmeliaKelley Instagram: instagram.com/drameliakelley/ Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

It is incredible and worth celebrating that this generation is actually the first in all of human history to make an attempt to establish equality in marriage. However, we simply lacked the skills necessary to successfully navigate the terrain of long-lasting intimacy, which led to fights over fairness. While the traditional marriage was wildly unfair, it is worth recognizing that couples were more in partnership, working toward a shared goal. In this episode, Nate and Kaley Klemp share their insights on various marriage structures and introduce the 80/80 model, a brand-new marriage framework designed to support radical generosity in relationships. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 3:49 Nate and Kaley's conflict over fairness and the larger sociological point of our generation to establish equality in marriage. 6:22 Recognizing the value of the conventional marriage structure. 11:19 How your mindset and expectations greatly affect our decision-making or how we perceive the other. 14:00 The three components of mindset. 18:35 The 50/50 model and why it is unsustainable. 29:05 How the 80/80 model was developed and how it changed Nate and Kaley's marriage. 37:51 Easing into radical generosity while minimizing discomfort. Mentioned Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Marriage (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) Free Epic Date Night Guide 80/80 Marriage self-guided retreats 80/80 Marriage Newsletter Start Here: Master the Lifelong Habit of Wellbeing (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) The Drama-Free Office (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) 13 Guidelines for Effective Teams (*Amazon affiliate link) (book) Connect with Kaley Klemp Websites: 8080marriage.com Facebook: facebook.com/8080Marriage YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCpncjN_woj6Xrth0i-bGp7w Instagram: instagram.com/8080marriage Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

A strong relationship requires human connection. Ironically, though, when you seek connection from a place of scarcity, the universe tends to take it away from you. Enrique Delgadillo asserts that the only way to get it is to first find the connection within yourself. In this episode, Enrique discusses how our thoughts manifest in different areas of our lives. As the law of attraction suggests, where the focus goes, energy flows. We'll take a deep dive into 5D consciousness and discuss how you can change your mindset and apply it to strengthen your relationships. Enrique is a world-leading specialist in transcendental psychology and is the founder and CEO of Vive Incredible, with a mission to awaken mankind's ability to live in complete abundance and wealth, beginning from our inner world of thoughts. With over 100 million views on YouTube and 4 million followers across his social platforms, he aims to elevate the consciousness and wealth of individuals by understanding their unique frequency value, or "Secret Sauce," that helps them play a bigger game in life and feel more fulfilled as they continue to evolve. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode 5:26 Enrique's incredibly difficult journey of self-evolution. 12:47 Recognizing 5D consciousness or energy and how to use it to determine what you truly need from a romantic partner or relationship. 16:12 Shifting one's perspective to 5D consciousness. 22:18 Distinctions between the need that comes from lack versus preferring those things as experience. 31:21 Various approaches to reaching your higher self. 38:06 Cultivating connection from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset. 42:41 Understanding the three levels of connection. 47:51 Words of wisdom. Mentioned Navegar En Tiempos de Tormentas (Spanish Edition) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Enrique Delgadillo Website: go.enriquedelgadillo.com/home Facebook: facebook.com/viveincreibleintl YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UC-hjRfCoajsJvMKeSGVtDwA Instagram: instagram.com/kikedelgadillo/?hl=en Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: [email protected] If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

If you've been listening to the Empowered Relationship Podcast, you've probably heard Dr. Jessica Higgins talk about criticism and how it affects relationships. The goal here is to collaborate with your partner to co-create a fulfilling and passionate relationship. However, leading with criticism can make you or your partner feel defensive or attacked, diverting the entire communication to this criticism defensive loop. In this episode, Dr. Higgins answers some listener and reader questions about criticism, along with some illustrations to help explain it further. As with many of these podcasts, these are not comprehensive responses, but they do provide some food for thought. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Listeners' questions: 8:44 "I'd be interested if you have any thoughts or perhaps a podcast around how we listen with or for criticism. I think we sometimes hear what we are feeling in ourselves. Just a thought." 15:21 "I appreciate this content—it is helpful. However, I am confused about whether you should not help your partner become a better person. Please address this." 25:28 "I am critical of a part of my girlfriend's body that cannot be changed and don't want to end the relationship, but it causes me great anxiety. [I] don't want to leave the relationship, but it is something that may never go away for me internally and it's making me very unhappy. I really like her in so many other ways and [I] hate this. Do I stay or do I go?" 28:24 "Dr. Higgins. My wife is constantly criticizing me. She never has anything nice to say to me or any praise for anything I do to try and make her happy. Never says thank you or shows any sign of affection to me. It is to a point where I wish I could stop treating her with love and dish out the same stuff she gives me, but I just can't be like that. I have tried to tell her I would like it ever so often if she could reciprocate the kindness and love I show her, but it is like she doesn't care about my feelings. We are both in our sixties, and I just don't think I have the energy to leave this marriage and find someone I can build a new, better relationship with. Plus, I really love her and leaving would be a hard blow to our family. How far do I go?" 35:05 "I have read a lot of articles over the years about this particular issue – criticism, as there is a lot of conflict over this issue in my marriage of 30 years. I feel that I have had to try to exist in a bit of a dysfunctional vacuum, where the fact that her father was an alcoholic, was not allowed to be discussed or acted upon in a way that was healthy for our own family which we were establishing together. If I raised the issue of her father's behaviour (who is a very charming but also a very manipulative man), or how that might have affected the way she and I relate and communicate, my efforts were labelled as "critical". I tried over the years, many different approaches to these communications, but they generally ended in the same way, namely in an argument, resulting in her withdrawing herself from me, for a few days, then her cooling off and eventually her acknowledging the problem and apologising, but only so that the conflict could end. Unfortunately, this apology was forgotten a week later, and we often found ourselves in the same place a month or two later. I called it Groundhog Day, because of the familiar cycle. My wife appeared to be prepared to do anything to avoid the accountability of acknowledging, communicating about and addressing the dysfunctional behaviour within her own family, and with it, avoiding accountability for her own denial of her own behaviour. This repetitive cycle eventually became a power struggle, in which her final weapon was to doubt our marriage, and my character, and whether she could remain in the marriage. It was an ultimatum that if I chose to raise these 'uncomfortable" issues, I would have to face that I was not important enough to her, for her to authentically discuss or address these issues. Part of the behaviour I have consistently observed is her extreme avoidance of conflict (which was the same way her father avoided any scrutiny for his own behaviour). My question is, when there is a problematic (dysfunctional) behaviour, that needs to be addressed between a couple, and despite every effort to raise the issue constructively, empathetically, gently, using I words etc etc the communication seems to deteriorate, because the real motivation is to avoid the issue altogether and hope it disappears into "fantasy land". The excuse is that the avoidance is justified because the communication is critical in nature, and while I know that some people view all criticism as problematic, surely there is necessary constructive criticism that is not directed as a "character flaw" of another person?" Mentioned Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication (free guide) Shifting Criticism – Empowered Relationship (course) How to Know If You Are