Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

You CAN be a "good-enough" digital parent! Two questions every parent needs to ask when choosing apps or games for their child PLUS learn how to guide your child's relationship with screens in the best direction - guilt free! (Replay) Topics discussed in this episode - Technology's Child: Digital Media’s Role in the Ages and Stages of Growing Up - by Katie Davis What are the risks for children under 3? Why are screens so compelling to kids? Using screens as the default "fix" when your child is upset or you just need a break Why screens are such an effective regulator (emotionally and behaviorally) Executive functioning and self-regulation 'Bottom-up' vs top-down' process of attention "Educational" apps Sign up for Katie's newsletter here Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Girls can really struggle with friendship issues, particularly when lacking the maturity and skills to properly navigate these tricky situations. These powerful ideas and practical solutions will help you support your child when they encounter friend troubles - giving them options and building resilience without trying to jump in and "fix it". Topics included in this episode - The difference between boy & girl play Boys use their bodies, girls use their words Optionality equals resilience Autonomy, and feeling seen, heard and valued When should the school get involved? Avoidance reinforces anxiety Things you can you do to help your daughter Why Your Kids Need a Tribe - a Happy Families article Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

To praise, or not to praise? That is the question! Is praise actually decreasing your child's intrinsic motivation, and encouraging comparison and competition? Learn the science of how to praise a child - and why you really shouldn't! (Replay) Topics included in this episode - The way we give feedback to our children matters Why do people use praise? 'Podcast Episode #150 "Unconditional Parenting, with Alfie Kohn" What is the right way to praise a child? Why we should end the praise craze - a Happy Families webinar The Most Important Words We Can Say To Our Children - a Happy Families article Asking questions How to help our kids listen to - and express - their inner voice The paradoxical effects of praise & criticism on perceived ability' - Meyer "That's Not Just Beautiful-That's Incredibly Beautiful!" - Brummelman 'The effects of praise on children's intrinsic motivation' - Henderlong & Lepper Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Daniel H. Pink is the author of five New York Times bestsellers, including his latest, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward. His other books include the New York Times bestsellers When and A Whole New Mind — as well as the #1 New York Times bestsellers Drive and To Sell is Human. Dan’s books have won multiple awards, have been translated into 42 languages, and have sold millions of copies around the world. He lives in Washington, DC, with his family. Today on the podcast, Justin talks to Dan about his parenting style, parenting tips and thoughts on family life in a Happy Families Lightning Round. Hear more from Dan in Episode #629 as he talks with Justin about The Power of Regret To become a Happy Families member, find out more here, Happy Families Membership. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Motherhood can often be accompanied by an overwhelming loss of identity. So how do you "find yourself" again? Three things every mum should do in their quest to develop a sense of self; how to rewrite the script, and the art of finding satisfaction and joy in life again. (Replay) Topics included in this episode - Kylie shares a recent article from Kylie's Corner (monthly articles written by Kylie exclusively for our Happy Families Premium Members). Adult friendships Sense of identity - feeling lost or stuck? When life feels all-consuming Embracing discomfort Some big questions to ask yourself! Job satisfaction Who and what lights you up? Looking after yourself - a Happy Families article Become a member of the Happy Families family Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you constantly rushing your child? Is the "Mum guilt" creeping in? Practical solutions to building relationships, maintaining the fun AND learning how to slow life down a little. (Replay) Intentional parenting Emotional regulation The importance of routine & structure Breathing techniques Fast is Slow and Slow is Fast - a Happy Families article Transitions - a Happy Families article Creating margin - a Happy Families podcast What to do When Kids Won't Listen - a Happy Families article Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you feel like you are doing it all? Are you spent with nothing more to give? And what is the secret to actually showing up, in whatever capacity that may look like? Learn how to make "a plan of kindness" to ensure your partnership works - sharing the load together. (Replay) What is a partnership? Brene Brown suggests marriage and relationships are never 50/50 in terms of energy, patience and kindness. Should we always strive to give 100%? Communication is key Compassion and kindness How focusing on the division of labour can doom a relationship! Plan for and communicate when you have nothing more to give 3 questions to ask your partner To become a Happy Families member, find out more here: Happy Families Membership. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Struggling to implement structure whilst still giving your child some freedom? Three things every parent needs to know to successfully set rules, limits and boundaries in a way that supports your child's autonomy rather than detracting from it. (Replay) 3 basic psychological needs Structure & boundary setting Autonomy Competence Creating a sense of predictability Swimming pool analogy Command, control and conquer? Justin shares a story from his new book The Parenting Revolution Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A super-fast "How I Parent Lightning Round" with Dr Amantha Imber, founder of Inventium, host of the How I Work podcast. and author of Time Wise. (Replay) To become a Happy Families member, find out more here, Happy Families Membership. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

With holidays just around the corner, we've dug out Justin and Kylie's massive family movie list - some fun inspiration for when you just need to put your feet up and have some family bonding time. (R) Find the complete list of Kylie & Justin's favourite movies, including ones for teenagers here! Movies & Kids: When is it ok for them to watch that? - A Happy Families Article Monster's Inc Brother Bear Finding Nemo Mulan Brave Moana The Lego Movie Wreck It Ralph Tarzan Pocahontas The Princess Bride The Greatest Showman The Sandlot Kids The Sound of Music Mary Poppins Spirit Toy Story How To Train a Dragon Cheaper By The Dozen National Treasure The Slipper & The Rose The King & I The Scarlet Pimpernel Today is the Smells Like Teen Spirit Summit! Purchase The Do's & Don'ts of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We teach our kids to be safe, kind and respectful online - but are we taking our own advice? Shona Hendley unpacks the negative repercussions of frequent sharing, oversharing and inappropriate sharing - and the steps Online School Parent Forums can take to set a good example for the next generation. The School Carpark Mafia has moved to WhatsApp! Shona Hendley's article: "Help! My school WhatsApp group is making me hate other parents! Follow Kirra Pendergast at Safe on Social Be a role model for your children What are the legal issues surrounding online defamation and bullying? Is airing grievances about other parents/students/teachers ever appropriate? Advice for helping your child become a discerning digital citizen 3 Simple Tips for Managing Screen Time for the Whole Family - A Happy Families Article Purchase your ticket for the Smells Like Teen Spirit Summit at the Happy Families website. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families. Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Frustrated by fibs and "tall stories"? Understand the WHY behind the LIE and learn how to respond honestly to your child's dishonesty - without rupturing relationships. (R) Topics included in this episode - Why do we lie? Why do kids lie? Lying is a developmental achievement Theory of mind Focus on the relationship What to do when your child lies to you You can purchase tickets for the Smells Like Teen Summit at the Happy Families website. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are smartphones dumbing down relationships and making your marriage miserable? Four easy ways to help parents quit the phubbing and increase relationship satisfaction - without blame or judgement! "Phubbing" 'More Scrolling, More Marital Problems' - from the Insitute for Families Studies 'How relationships come to an end and the scourge of the smartphone' - Andrew Sofin What have phones and screens actually replaced? The very real impacts of excessive phone usage How screentime analysis can be helpful Boundaries around screens for adults - how and why You can purchase tickets for the “Smells Like Teen Spirit” Summit at the Happy Families website. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families. Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hard to stay calm when your child is in fight or flight mode? Listen in for some emotion-regulating tools to add to your parenting tool kit - and discover why slowing down actually speeds things up! Anxiety in kids Mixing logic and emotions Fight/ flight mode Emotional intelligence Slow down to go fast Facing our own childhood experiences You can purchase tickets for the “Smells Like Teen Spirit” Summit at the Happy Families website. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families. Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is pranking your kids ever ok? And why are girls dropping out of sport? The big issue these two questions have in common is something every parent needs to talk about! The egg-crack challenge Kellie Scott's ABC Everyday interview with Kristyn Sommer Long-term ramifications of pranks Consent Women's World Cup and the unwanted kiss Girls, sport and the importance of female representation in higher levels Body Image You can purchase tickets for the Smells Like Teen Spirit Summit at the Happy Families website. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families. Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Parenting teens is like a kickass 90's playlist. Wild transitions, raw angst, and unexpected moments of reverberating depth. Find out how you can have more Nirvana, less drama... AND the actual kickass playlist! The Happy Families Team has put together a "Smells Like Teen Spirit" Summit playlist! Meet a world-class lineup of speakers Play along with us - guess the song! Get the low down on Summit topics including friendships, sex, and neurodiversity in adolescents Follow Justin on TikTok Last day to purchase early bird tickets for the Smells Like Teen Spirit Summit Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families. Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is there tension and disagreement in your home when it comes to parenting? Improve your family life with three simple questions! We hear from a listener who has started right from the beginning Weekly couple's meeting Creating the space Daily habits Getting your systems right Creating alignment Parenting on the Same Page - A Happy Families webinar Purchase early bird tickets for the Smells Like Teen Spirit Summit at the Happy Families website. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Living in chaos and feeling the pressure? Four steps to reducing household havoc and replacing chaos with calm and connection. 'Household chaos and mother–adolescent communication' led by Jackie Nelson of the University of Texas Spontaneous disclosure vs parental questioning Routine (James Clear) Creating margin Making mornings magic Digging deeper into our emotional self-barometer Rebellious, angry teenagers - but are they really? Register for tonight's Webinar 'Fatherhood Redefined' at the Happy Families website. Purchase early bird tickets for the Smells Like Teen Spirit Summit at the Happy Families website. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families. Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are fears and challenges limiting ability? Learn how you (or your child!) can overcome fears and get comfortable with failure. The Resilient Kids Conference is in Adelaide this weekend An update on the grandbaby! Life-changing adventure for Kylie Leading by example Food fight at the Coulson table Why are Dads so important? The (starchy) secret to a happy family Register for the Father's Day Webinar 'Fatherhood Redefined' at the Happy Familie's website. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families. Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Father's Day is just around the corner! Listen in for practical ways you can show up to be an involved, present and connected Dad. A conversation with Lucy and Kel from The Light FM. Parenting is a humbling (and exhausting) experience Lessons learned in lock-down The unique relationship between child and father Why intention matters Incredible benefits of Dad being present (according to science!) Justin's exciting news! Register for the Father's Day Webinar 'Fatherhood Redefined' at the Happy Familie's website. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning. Topics discussed are not intended for young children* Do you know how to protect your children from online predators? A must-not miss episode with guest Madonna King. Sextortion and our kids Horrifying statistics Learn how girls and boys are targeted online in very different ways Why kids won't share their online experiences with you Children, smart phones and social media How to have the conversation with our children "Saving our children: The inside story of Taskforce Argos, Detective Inspector Jon Rouse and their mission to protect our children online" by Madonna King Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is body image a big issue in your home? You're not alone! Listen in for simple ways to help your children have positive body image! "Beauty Sick" by Renee Engeln Astonishing statistics Body image and teenage girls Nature vs society's ideal Peer vs parental influence What determines our innate worth? What to focus on instead of body image "I like myself" by Karen Beaumont "Misconnection: Why your teenage daughter "hates" you, expects the world, and needs to talk" by Justin Coulson Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin & Kylie discuss the right age for certain milestones Staying at home alone The laws in QLD Mobile phones Kids need smart parents, not smart phones Smart parents give their kids dumb phones Boyfriends & girlfriends #816 Tween Relationships: How Young is Too Young? Sleepovers Walking to school or the shops alone Ear piercing Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is there a Monopoly on Energy? It's a controversial topic in the Coulson home! Holisitic, alternative therapies Psychologist vs kinesiologist Emotional intelligence "No Matter What" by Kristen Crowhurst Justin has a new book! "Being a Great Dad for Dummies" Justin destroys the kids in Monopoly You can purchase early bird tickets for the Smells Like Teen Summit at the Happy Families website. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin shares a sneak peek into the free webinar Teenage Dirtbag Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin speaks with Deb about picky eaters The origins of picky eaters What kids used to eat Age to expect pickiness When it gets better Neurodiversity Biggest mistakes parents make When the joy goes out of eating, nutrition suffers How can we help? Learn more about Deb Blakley from Kids Dig Food To access the Feed Your Picky Eater [without going crazy] evergreen online course for parents: https://kidsdigfood.com.au/resources/ Book an appointment with an APD from the Kids Dig Food team: https://kidsdigfood.com.au/appointments/ Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin and Kylie respond to a listener question about choosing the right school Fun, Friends & Fit Results, Resources & Reputation NAPLAN Sending your children to more than one school Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sneak peek into tonight's webinar We Need to Talk About Parent Wellbeing Mental health vs mental illness How screens affect mental health Brains aren't designed to optimise our wellbeing Doing hard things What we can do to feel good Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin & Kylie reflect on their week and determine what they can do better next time Happy birthday to Justin's Dad! Kylie's going away Justin's spending time with the kids The power of intention Kylie meets her eldest daughter's new friends The village Building connections We Need to Talk About Parent Wellbeing Free webinar - Teenage Dirtbag Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning. Topics discussed are not intended for children* Online roulette: the popular chat sites that are drawing in children and horrifying parents The dark side of Omegle Parental Guidance episode 1, season 2 Knowledge is power Be engaged Develop processes together Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Emotional Lives of Teenagers by Dr Lisa Damour Shame vs guilt Criticism Social awareness Teens & friends Cold & hot reasoning Perspective The ladder of life Lisa answers some rapid fire questions The reality of girls & boys maturing at different rates Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin and Kylie respond to a listener question about emotional volcanoes Name it to tame it Emotional regulation High emotions - low intelligence Tunnel vision/rigid thinking Seen, heard & valued Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Should we be allowing our kids to drink non alcoholic drinks? Justin tries his first non-alcoholic beer What to know before giving your teen non-alcoholic beer or wine Providing Alcohol for Underage Youth: What Messages Should We Be Sending Parents? An acquired taste The Mediterranean Effect Parental endorsement of consumption Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning. Topics discussed are not intended for children* Justin & Kylie reflect on their week and determine what they can do better next time Internet safety Unsolicited Instagram messages Rotten Tomatoes A conversation about calories Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Discussing criticisms of Gentle Parenting Permissiveness The emotional toll on parents Building emotional intelligence Building an expansive emotional vocabulary Empathy for the child vs other people around them Supporting our child's autonomy Needs supportive parenting Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are we taking emotion coaching too far? The Emotional Lives of Teenagers by Dr Lisa Damour Emotion coaching Start with empathy Shielding children from emotions Internal board of directors Trauma Regulating emotions Good coping brings relief and does no harm Dosing The value in kids experiencing pain Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin and Kylie respond to a listener question about learning to parent after a childhood with a parent who was mentally unwell Justin reads some 5 star reviews from their listeners Focusing on our strengths Individual differences Single parenthood Absent parents The importance of relationships outside of the home Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin & Kylie speak about the importance of The Village Neighbours Teachers Friends Community leaders Medical professionals Surrogate Aunts & Uncles Surrogate Grandparents Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin & Kylie reflect on their week and determine what they can do better next time Discussing the response to the Barbie podcast Justin recycles Kylie has a moment with each of her 3 youngest daughters Highs & lows Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin and Kylie give their reviews of the Barbie & Oppenheimer movies Topics discussed: Justin was not keen for the movie The recommended age to watch the movie The Patriarchy Femininity & masculinity Being the main character of your own story Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning - This episode is not intended for children* Justin speaks with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about sex & intimacy Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife How parenting impacts your sex life Creating a space of rejuvination What to do when your child walks in on you What more people need to understand about sex Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin and Kylie respond to a listener question regarding their daughter having a boyfriend at the age of 10. Topics discussed: Minimising access to smart phones Talking to our kids about relationships early and often Listening to anxiety and following that to stay safe Knowing that delaying relationships is in general a good idea Teaching kids to know their worth Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin & Kylie speak about whether or not children need to be bored Providing an environment that encourages learning Justin & Kylie confess what they got up to when they were bored as children What the data shows A boredom experiement What DO kids need? Being in relationship with others Change things up Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin & Kylie reflect on their week and determine what they can do better next time A gender reveal in the Coulson family Kylie's listening to all the old podcasts The Coulson's need to slow down Getting on the same page Purchase a ticket to Parenting ADHD [The Course] Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning - This episode contains topics that are not intended for children* Justin & Kylie share what's happening this week in parenting Controversial sex book pulled from Big W shelves after staff abused Psychiatrist claims parents should be allowed to give kids a 'little smack' Longitudinal study of kindergarteners suggests spanking is harmful for children’s social competence Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning - This episode is not intended for children* Justin speaks with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about sex & intimacy Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Shared responsibilities in the home Cognitive load Division of labour High/low desire Men vs women's sexual desires Justin shares a recent study about being mindfully present Virtue of desire & pleasure Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin & Kylie answer a listener's question about favouritism Do Justin & Kylie have a favourite child? Unconditional love Kylie shares an analogy about treating everyone the same What the research says about favouritism Being seen, heard & valued Explore, explain, empower Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin and Kylie discuss a hot topic on social media Justin reads a listener's email about The Parenting Revolution Structure & boundary setting Competence Creating a sense of predictability Justin shares a story from his new book Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin & Kylie reflect on their week and determine what they can do better next time Justin takes too much on and ends up crashing and burning The Coulson's go on a holiday without Justin Justin's washing machine analogy The Coulson's create a new game Time confetti Purchase a ticket to Parenting ADHD [The Course] Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin & Kylie share their list of favourite books they're reading at the moment Justin's reading Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir The Emotional Lives of Teenagers by Dr Lisa Damour Parenting Like an Australian by Damien Cave Just Kids by Patty Smith The Whole Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson Kylie's reading The Parenting Revolution - Dr Justin Coulson Grace Where You Are & Grace To Beome by Emily Belle Freeman The Drover's Wife by Leah Purcell The Dictionary of Lost Words & The Bookbinder of Jericho Pip Williams Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.