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Help your kids have a great Summer! 7 tips for parents who want to see their children experience more independent play in a way that is both safe and fun. In today's episode: Healthy kids need to be playing, taking risks, and involved in independent activity Peter Gray - Children today are suffering a severe deficit of play | Aeon Essays Decline in mental health Resilience and happiness Kylie and Justin share childhood experience of independent play and activities - risk, adventure, danger, exciting, noise, freedom, fun Learning risk assessment Helicopter parenting Kids need to feel capable, competent, and a sense of autonomy Exploring boundaries Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] Find out more about becoming a Happy Families member at our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The inconvenience you can feel when a child asks to play a boring game or upon finding their clothes on the floor (again) is real. In these moments of frustration, dig deep and have compassion for your child, seeing life from their perspective. THIS is the real game-changer for a happier family. Topics in this episode: Playing board games when you hate them Should we let our children win? Teaching through play, verbalising strategy Nagging The importance of having compassion for our children Our children want us to listen to them! 7-day Miss-connection challenge - a Happy Families online program (free!) Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] Find out more about becoming a Happy Families member at our website.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The books that have meant the most to Justin and Kylie this year. Kylie's top 3 books of 2023: The One Hundred Years of Lenni and Margot by Marianne Cronin "A beautiful story about friendship." Homecoming by Kate Morton "Riveting!" Better Than Happy - Jodi Moore "Enlightening and powerful" Justin's 5 star reads of 2023: Silas Marner by George Eliot "The perfect story - sublime, utterly absorbing" The Case Against the Sexual Revolution by Louise Perry Testosterone: The Story of the Hormone that Dominates and Divides Us | Carole Hooven "Brilliant" Everyone In My Family Has Killed Someone by Benjamin Stevenson "A rip-roaring read." The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel Siegel & Tina Payne-Bryson Saving our kids - Madonna King "Vitally important" Generations by Jean M. Twenge "Compelling." Winners Take All by Anand Giridharadas Guns, Germs and Steel by Jared Diamond Happier Hour by Cassie Holmes Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski "Gives people info that really matters." The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents by Lisa Damour "Solid book, easy to read." Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Justin looks at how 2023 has been for him, both personally and professionally, and shares insights and ideas that will inspire you to improve family living in your own home. It will be Kylie's turn for reflection next Tuesday! What has gone well? What hasn't gone so well? Lessons learnt in 2023. What can be done better, moving forward? You Don't Just Lose Someone Once – Donna Ashworth “You are precisely as big as what you love and precisely as small as what you allow to annoy you.” ― Robert Anton Wilson Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] Find out more about becoming a Happy Families member at our website.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's almost the end of the year so we thought we'd look back at the top 5 Happy Families episodes that you listened to in 2023. Here's how it played out: #721 - Defusing Explosive Children #679 - Managing Fatigue as a Parent #674 - The Power of Habit #673 - Family Goal Setting #706 - Gentle Parenting: Is It a Fad or Fabulous? We're so glad that so many people are listening to the podcast and finding value in the information that's being provided! Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] Find out more about becoming a Happy Families member at our website.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Controversial parenting, a growing problem with school attendance (or lack thereof!), a video game the whole family can get excited about, and why every new dad should be taking parental leave. In this episode: Story 1: 60 Minutes Australia: Hidden anxiety epidemic jeopardising ‘a generation’ of Australian schoolchildren School refusal/anxiety - also referred to as "school can't" THE LITTLE BOY By Helen E. Buckley Story 2: ‘I put coal in my kids’ Christmas stockings to teach them a lesson’ | Townsville Bulletin Controversial parenting techniques Punishing kids at Christmas "Every child needs..." (Bronfenbrenner quote) Happy Families | Facebook Be your child's safe place and provide them with unconditional love Story 3: How Paternity Leave Helps Dads’ Brains Adapt to Parenting Paternity leave is a gift to families. Improving father-baby bonding, baby development, relationship between parents Story 4: The creators of Bluey: The Videogame on making a kids’ game that’s also about parenting | The Guardian Playing video games as a family The right kind of screen time (Connecting and/or Creating vs Consuming) Story 5: Four in five parents turn to social media for parenting advice Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Whether family life feels messy and hard right now or you are in a season of smooth sailing, there's one thing that matters more than anything: loving your kids - and making sure they know it! In this episode we cover: Struggles and challenges with food Picky eating Autonomy, structure, and competence Conversations to have with children about what they eat Supporting and loving our kids - No Matter What Wet towels, empty fridge, dirty dishes, messy rooms Empty nesters and change in family dynamics Connection - a Happy Families article Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Problematic screen-use spans from toddlers through to teenagers (especially when love is in the air!) and can affect mental health, sleep, wellbeing and behaviour. There are some simple steps parents can take to ensure your child lives a healthy, balanced life - without having to confiscate the screen! Topics from 'The Doctor's Desk': The effects of screens on teenagers Teens as consumers of content Mental health and mental illness are two different things - see "dual continuum of mental wellbeing" diagram Boredom The importance of strong parent-child relationship Toddlers and screens Screen limits and being intentional Love in the teenage years Delaying romantic relationships Study 1: How Parenting and Self-control Mediate the Link Between Social Media Use and Youth Mental Health Study 2: Toddlers and Tablets: Being Purposeful About Your Child’s Technology Use Study 3: Romantic relationships linked to disturbed sleep patterns in adolescents Helping your child through their first big breakup - a Happy Families article 3 Simple Tips for Managing Screen Time for the Whole Family - a Happy Families article Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kristen Jenson (founder of Defend Young Minds) shares how, when and why to talk to your child about pornography. [Replay] Topics in this episode: Educating children to reject pornography The ways that pornography harms children 3 basic steps to having this conversation: 1. Define 2. Warn 3. Plan Advice for parents who have found their child viewing pornography Love your child No Matter What Good Pictures Bad Pictures | Books | Defend Young Minds™️ Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr. | Books | Defend Young Minds™️ Defend Young Minds - free guide "How to Talk to Kids About Pornography" Curriculum for children aged 8-12 - Brain Defense Digital Safety Step-by-step SMART plan- "My Kid Saw Porn - Now What?" Bringing Up Boys Summit - Happy Families Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Navigating the complexities of tween and teen friendships can be challenging, especially in the age of social media. Here are some insights and tips to help your child run towards wonderful friendships rather than living in fear of exclusion. Topics in this episode: Sleepovers Bulling and teasing Snapchat and social media Structured activities and finite time for teenage get-togethers Miss Connection: Why your teenage daughter "hates" you, expects the world, and needs to talk by Dr Justin Coulson What teenage girls worry about most Conversations to have with your child BMX - Be More Exceptional Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's that time of year when school awards nights are in full swing, celebrating academic and sporting prowess. But are awards nights actually helpful? And how can you help your child cope with the disappointment of missing out on recognition? Some of the things discussed in this episode: Awards by their nature are exclusive, so they can be a punishment for the majority. Relationships between kids, parents and teachers being damaged. Rewards and awards are ignoring reasons. Is it OK to acknowledge excellence? Should parents care more about grades or character? Teaching your kids to sit with disappointment. Reminding kids that everyone has different talents, and schools recognise only a few of those talents. Status and recognition. Check out the Happy Families Mega Sale | Black Friday to Cyber Monday Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Build stronger and lasting connections with those you love. Three game-changing ideas to help you focus on what really matters most in life. Topics in this episode: William Martin - 'The Wonders of an Ordinary Life' Household chaos in a time of grief and upheaval Expecting immediate compliance from children Force creates resistance Autonomy The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson (currently 25% off + free course!) People vs 'stuff' Investing in extended family relationships Black Friday Sales start today - Happy Families Mega Sale | Black Friday to Cyber Monday Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Three conversations you really need to be having with your teens BEFORE they head off to Schoolies. Topics in this episode: Parents - it's ok to say no to Schoolies Creative and healthier alternatives Rite of passages Peer pressure, drugs and alcohol, fights, unsafe/risky behaviour Safe and healthy beats right and wrong Understanding consent Ensure your kids know you will always have their back #886 Get Set for Schoolies with Paul Dillon - a Happy Families podcast Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dive into the enchanting land of 'Mine!' and the intricate world of kiddie diplomacy. Justin and Kylie unpack the challenges of sharing, with some big ideas to unlock the magic of cooperation - one shared toy at a time! Topics in today's episode: Special toys Sharing with siblings Learning cooperation, negotiation, and fairness through sharing Scarcity mentality vs abundance mentality Three basic psychological needs Self-determination / regulation Theory of Mind Power dynamics Developmental Milestones - a Happy Families article Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Part 2 of a conversation on perfectionism with Professor Thomas Curran from the London School of Economics. Rather than expecting perfection from your child try modelling making mistakes - embrace failure and setbacks when they arise. This (not perfectionism) is what leads to success! Topics in this episode: Feeling that you are not enough The rise of perfectionism – and the harm it’s doing us all | Mental health | The Guardian Link between perfectionism and psychological distress Parental/societal expectations Increased competition and excessive pressure "Doing your best" - is this helpful? Self-sabotage, procrastination and avoidance of failure What is success? The Perfection Trap Thomas Curran's new book Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Professor Thomas Curran is (among many impressive titles) a 'perfectionist expert'. He unpacks the 'what, why, where, who, and how' of perfectionism in part 1 of this compelling discussion with Dr Justin Coulson. Part 2 of this conversation can be found here. Today's conversation covers: What is perfectionism? The link between mental health challenges and perfectionism Perfectionism in children - genetics or environmental? The 3 types of perfectionism Intergenerational transmission of perfectionistic tendencies The challenging cycle of self-defeat The Perfection Trap Thomas Curran's new book TEDMED - Our dangerous obsession with perfectionism is getting worse Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There are some simple yet profound ways to let your family know that they are loved, irreversibly and unconditionally. "How do you feel loved?" Being together as a family The power of names Joy and gratitude Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning: mature themes - listener discretion advised* How do you talk to your kids when they are touched by the profound loss of a loved one through a suicide? These hard conversations must be had openly with your children - with kindness, compassion, and empathy. Your job is NOT to tell them everything, but to answer their questions honestly, in an age-appropriate way. Topics in this episode: Protecting children from pain Limited evidence for how to have these conversations Keep your reactions level National Centre for Childhood Grief Keep the conversation age/developmentally appropriate Young Children and Middle Childhood: Keep it simple Operate on the principle of 'the fire hose' Answer questions honestly (to the degree with which they are curious) - the more general you can be, the more protected your child will be Offer empathy Talking helps to dispel misinformation and stigma and creates a safe space to ask questions Encourage questions about anything, and at any time Ensure they understand what "dead" means. Give concrete answers, not idioms or euphemisms Expect and accept a range of emotions (and behaviours!) from your child, which will change daily. Let them feel safe to let it all out Picture Books for Helping Children Navigate Grief Elergy for an Elephant by Ryan Abramowitz Death Is Stupid by Anastasia Higginbotham Luna's Red Hat by Emmi Smid Red Chocolate Elephants by Diana C. Sands Forever Connected by Jessica Correnti For help: Lifeline: 13 11 14 Suicide Callback Service: 1300 659 467 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 987 Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800 Standby - Support After Suicide 1300 727 247 In Memory of Logan - Happy Families Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning: mature themes - listener discretion advised* When someone is grieving the death of a loved one, it can be difficult to know how to approach them and what to say. How do you convey your compassion, your awareness of their enormous loss? What words and actions are helpful to the person grieving, and what is unhelpful or perhaps even harmful? Colin Campbell, author of 'Finding the words', shares a practical and helpful approach to supporting someone in their grief, how to move through sorrow and profound loss with hope and purpose, and why there is a vital need for community during the grieving process. Topics in this episode: The loss of a child Suicide How to support someone in their deep sorrow - what to say, what not to say "I have no words" ends any chance of a dialogue about grief. Find the words. The evolution of grief, and of the grieving person's identity within that sorrow The importance of engaging with and accepting grief, rather than avoiding it Grief as a sensitive, taboo subject further isolates those in mourning Why trying to comfort a grieving person is not helpful Different societal/religious responses to grief, traditional mourning processes, and cultural tools and rules for managing grief in community. Of particular note: Jewish mourning traditions: Mourning Kaddish, Shiva ,and Ending Shiva Māori mourning ceremony - Tangihanga What Losing My Two Children Taught Me About Grief - The Atlantic Viktor Frankl 'Mans Search for Meaning' Adoption (and the trauma and grief that can accompany it) In Memory of Logan For help: Lifeline: 13 11 14 Suicide Callback Service: 1300 659 467 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 987 Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800 Standby - Support After Suicide 1300 727 247 Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As many of you would be aware, Justin's nephew Logan died at the age of 20 after taking his own life. Craig Bruce is the executive producer of the Happy Families Podcast, and provides a quick update on Justin and Kylie and what the podcast will look like over the next few days. Justin and Kylie will be taking a break to spend time with family, before we return on Wednesday, November 15th with a timely conversation with Colin Campbell. After the death of his two teenage children in a car accident, Colin wrote the book 'Finding the Words', a powerful account of how he navigated through unimaginable grief. From everyone at Happy Families, thank you so much for all of your comments, thoughts and messages at this difficult time, If you or anyone you know needs help, reach out to the following services: Lifeline on 13 11 14, Suicide Callback Service on 1300 659 467, Mensline Australia on 1300 789 987or Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

*Content warning - parental discretion advised* Detective Superintendent Jayne Crossling from ACCCE outlines the critical role parents and carers play in keeping children safe online. Learn how to have important conversations with your children - education is the key to prevention! Topics in this episode: What is capping? The work of ACCCE Teenagers at risk How in-game chat functions move to encrypted environments or video chat Red flags that are often missed The role of parents and carers in keeping children safe online Supervision and rules for screens Teaching children how to respond Laws regarding child self-generated material Advice for parents Some previous interviews with Detective Superintendent Jayne Crossling from ACCCE: #699 Jayne Crossling on Safe Photo Sharing #731 Kids and Grooming - What You Need to Know #748 Are Paedophiles Really Looking at Your Kids Online? Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode Justin speaks to Paul Dillon from Drug and Alcohol Research Training Australia about getting ready for the schoolies season. Find out more about Paul Dillon at the Drug and Alcohol Research Training Australia website. Topics discussed in this episode: The cons of letting your kids celebrate schoolies abroad How safe are organised schoolies events? Why schoolies is the last opportunity for parents to talk safety with their kids before they are legally adults Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

With the silly season just around the corner we share some simple tips to help navigate (or avoid entirely!) a meaty "Christmas Conundrum" - when disappointed children and disgruntled gift-givers collide. Topics in this episode: Justin's history of dodgy gift giving Being disappointed AND grateful The thought is important Having conversations before Christmas events How to do difficult conversations with extended family Forewarned is forearmed If you have a Christmas Conundrum you would like Justin and Kylie to solve, you can email your question to [email protected] Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Worms, scooters and buckets, oh my! Today we share some personal stories of "nailing it and failing it" to help you be more intentional with your family. Topics in this episode: Connection before direction Flexible intention Homeschooling Worm farming Justin has a no good, very bad, terrible day and gets HANGRY Filling relationship buckets "People matter, things don't" Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

With only 54 days left until Christmas are you beginning to feel a little anxious about expenses? You can have honest conversations with your children about budgets and presents - and still keep the Magic of Christmas alive! Topics in this episode: The joys and stress of shopping for gifts Materialism Giving and receiving Anxiety over money Expectations and values Wants or needs? Santa Three E's of Effective Discipline Giving in fantasy what they can't have in reality Easing parental guilt at Christmas Some Happy Families Christmas Articles: Take Back Christmas 10 Easy Traditions That Can Make Christmas Meaningful For Your Family 16 Gifts our Children Need For Christmas Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Raising teenagers can be hard even at the best of times. Trying to support our teens when they are struggling can feel like a dead-end street. Dr Jo Prendergast shares the most important thing you can do that will make a difference for your teen when life just sucks. Topics in this episode: When Life Sucks - Jo's new book Parents and self-regulation Emotions are contagious Deep breathing Being self-aware of your own triggers 'Ghosts in the nursery' Neurodiversity When does life suck for teens? 'The Three Rs of Great Parenting' Connected interactions Learn more about The Teenage Brain in our FREE Happy Families Article. Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Worried that your low-achieving, school-hating, stressed and struggling child is ruining every chance of their future success? Learn how to kindle the flame of curiosity in your child - and hear Justin share a poet's definition of success that will encourage and inspire any worried parent. Topics in this episode: Curiosity Flaws of our educational system Lifelong learning Exams and stress Living up to expectations Anxiety and perfectionism in our kids Resilience External vs internal worth "Success is..." by Anonymous Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Every young person needs to have a close, significant adult to talk to when they experience challenges in life. Sadly, new research has revealed that far too many adolescents do not feel listened to and aren’t speaking to anyone when they’re worried. Dr Katrina Lines (CEO of Act for Kids, and registered psychologist) shares some simple ways to connect with your child that will encourage them to share their problems with you. Topics in this episode: Speaking to a professional Act for Kids Campaign "Get Comfy Switching ON by Switching OFF" - all the research stats, tip sheets and an animation Incidental conversation or "small talk" Being present Connection Pressures of school, friendships, social media 3 basic psychological needs Mental health issues - anxiety, depression, poor sleep Fear of parental criticism or dismissal, or not being listened to Enough: Overcoming Anxiety, Perfectionism, & Self Loathing - a Happy Families article Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Education is important. Completing high school is important. And yes, final exams are also important. But they are not MORE important than other things - like connection, resilience, hope, and wellbeing. Nigel Howard is a Research associate at Flinders University, a former Secondary Principal, and currently studying for his PhD. As someone who sees the importance of education and knows the terrain of senior school/final exams both practically and academically, Nigel gives some terrific advice to parents and students currently facing the pressure of HSC exams. Topics in this episode: Gap in school completion rates between city/country and high/low socioeconomic backgrounds Entry-level jobs and apprenticeships Why do kids stay at school? Why do others leave? The importance of listening to our children Specialised/alternative education Learning to pass exams vs learning how to apply knowledge National Study of Mental Health and Wellbeing, 2020-2022 | Australian Bureau of Statistics (abs.gov.au) Neurodiversity Responsiveness of schools to struggling students How important is the ATAR system? What does it mean for schools? Resilience and success Articles in The Conversation written by Nigel Howard - Parents have just started their own school in Sydney – this is part of a long tradition in Australia 20% of Australian students don't finish high school: non-mainstream schools have a lot to teach us about helping kids stay School attendance rates are dropping. We need to ask students why Are flexible learning options giving schools a convenient way out of taking responsibility for 'difficult' students? Listen to our “Failed at School, Successful at Life” series: #875 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Ian Steel #876 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Cam Barber #877 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Susan Rogers #878 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Tom O’Brien Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

School matters, and education is important... but they are not "the be-all and end-all". Your graduating child can look forward to their future with excitement and positivity irrespective of grades or academic outcomes. From humble beginnings growing up in the west of Ireland, to retiring at 41 years of age, Tom O'Brien shares his powerful story of how life can play out regardless of your level of formal education. Topics in this episode: Work ethic and motivation Do kids today need the 'safety net' of a university degree to get a good job? Opportunities - where and how to find them? Tools for success in life Chasing your passion When decisions need to be made - taking chances or playing it safe? When your child decides to drop out of school or university Opportunity, effort, and doing hard things How do we measure failure or success? Listen to more from our “Failed at School, Successful at Life” series: #875 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Ian Steel #876 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Cam Barber #877 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Susan Rogers #879 Why School Matters with Nigel Howard Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is your child experiencing exam pressure, final year stress, or feeling burdened by expectations? Are they worried about their future? It's time to reassure them that it is going to be ok - THEY are going to be ok - regardless of academic results. Listen in for fantastic advice and encouragement from Dr Susan Rogers, who graduated from high school at the age of 44 and then obtained a PhD in Music and Psychology (after working as Sound Engineer for Prince!). Topics in this episode: Difficulties in youth when parents are unwell Bright kids, challenging circumstances Pursuing passions The Guardian - Prince's sound engineer, Susan Rogers: 'He needed to be the alpha male to get things done' "Lightbulb moments" Stepping into the world of the unknown after school Learning to listen to the voice within Mature-aged students Parental expectations Dr Susan Rogers' book - This is what it sounds like: What the music you love says about you Questions to ask your child - helping to figure out what success looks like for them Listen to more from our “Failed at School, Successful at Life” series: #875 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Ian Steel #876 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Cam Barber #878 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Tom O’Brien #879 Why School Matters with Nigel Howard Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Education is important - but how it looks differs for every child. The messages around education that we are delivering to our children need to develop their initiative, their character and their thinking skills - especially when it comes to their education. These conversations matter, because education matters to us all. Today's guest is Cam Barber, who started as a public speaking coach, and then broadened out to leadership skills/marketing messages. His clients include Paramount Pictures and Hawthorn Football Club. Topics in this episode: Cam Barber's story, and his bestselling book "What's Your Message". Homework and self-discipline The change from Primary School to Highschool in structure, routine, and overall ease Exchange Student Program, Tertiary/Tafe programs, work experience Deferring University Twice gifted children Getting an education outside of the educational system "Vivid" messages - valuable, customisable parenting messages How to Help when School Sucks - a Happy Families article Listen to more from our “Failed at School, Successful at Life” series: #875 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Ian Steel #877 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Susan Rogers #878 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Tom O’Brien #879 Why School Matters with Nigel Howard Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Educational successes and failures, high school dropouts, the pressure of HSC exams, and finding your passion in life... these are BIG and pressing issues for our graduating kids! Learn how to have conversations with your children about educational outcomes and choices, and what being successful in school (and in life) looks like to them. Today we're talking with Ian Steel, who despite being a high school dropout, has gone on to run a string of successful businesses, and is the founder of the South Australian charity Kickstart for Kids. Topics in this episode: Why school can be so hard ADHD, dyslexia How the school experience differs for girls vs boys Research report: Understanding the non-completion of apprentices (ncver.edu.au) The importance of education School, trade/apprenticeship, or paid employment? Kickstart for Kids - supporting at-risk children Breaking the cycle of unemployment and poverty Relationship between hunger and classroom behaviours Do exams matter? The teenage brain - a Happy Families article How to Help when School Sucks - a Happy Families article Listen to more from our “Failed at School, Successful at Life” series: #876 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Cam Barber #877 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Susan Rogers #878 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Tom O’Brien #879 Why School Matters with Nigel Howard Last day to register for the 'Supporting Autistic Children: Nurturing Neurodiversity' course hosted by Dr Justin Coulson & Dr Joey Lawrence Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week's "I'll Do Better Tomorrow" Kylie shares the pros and cons of unschooling, and Justin cooks the best omelet EVER as he strives to make Every Second Count. And a sneak-peak into next week's lineup of comforting conversations for any parent raising kids who are struggling with school or experiencing HSC pressure. Topics in this episode: HSC stress School dropouts Outcomes of kids who do finish school, and those who don't Reflecting on how to be more intentional with parenting Homeschooling / unschooling in the Coulson household The challenge of finding rhythm in change Child-initiated conversations Sibling rivalry / connection 'The Bear' receives a rave review from Justin Every second counts! Last chance to register for the BRAND-NEW 'Supporting Autistic Children: Nurturing Neurodiversity' course hosted by Dr Justin Coulson & Dr Joey Lawrence Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is being a mindful and present parent really that important? How does household chaos impact on family communication? Should corporal punishment be banned in Australia? In this week's 'From the Doctor's Desk' Justin and Kylie unpack these questions and more - sharing the science that will help make you a better parent. Topics in this episode: Mindful parenting Positive parenting and childhood stress The hippocampus, memory and learning The impact of household chaos on healthy family communication (particularly adolescent disclosure) Smacking/corporal punishment Mindfulness in schools Joan Grusec - 'Mindful Parents, Mindful Children' Jamie Hansen - Positive parenting can help protect against the effects of stress in childhood and adolescence Professor Daryl Higgins - Corporal punishment of children in Australia: The evidence-based case for legislative reform Why It's Not Ok To Smack Your Kids - a Happy Families article Jackie Nelson - A Hidden Source of Disconnection Between Teens and Parents The MYRIAD project - Mindfulness in schools Register for the BRAND-NEW 'Supporting Autistic Children: Nurturing Neurodiversity' course hosted by Dr Justin Coulson & Dr Joey Lawrence Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Journalist, broadcaster and TV host Amanda Keller has just won the Commercial Radio Australia Award for Best On-air Team with her co-host Brendan Jones. To celebrate we are re-playing her Lightning Round interview with Justin - a series of short, sharp questions about parenting life. (Replay) Topics in this episode: IVF Can you have a favourite child? Parental expectations Benefits of tag-team parenting Teaching children to drive The ultimate joy of parenthood Why Amanda would be happy to go into Witness Protection with her kids Amanda's biggest parenting win Register for the BRAND-NEW 'Supporting Autistic Children: Nurturing Neurodiversity' course hosted by Dr Justin Coulson & Dr Joey Lawrence Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The meltdown out of nowhere, an angry and aggressive child, the emotionally flooded teen - kids of all ages have BIG emotions, and experience emotional dysregulation! Discover the tools and skills that will help you respond to your child with compassion and kindness - and build emotional awareness and regulation for you both. Topics in this episode: No Matter What Emotion regulation The magic of Nature Moving forward, finding solutions Responding with compassion and gentleness Emotion Coaching- a Happy Families article Little People, Big Feelings - a Happy Families webinar The Secret to Regulating Emotions - a Happy Families article Register for the BRAND-NEW 'Supporting Autistic Children: Nurturing Neurodiversity' course hosted by Dr Justin Coulson & Dr Joey Lawrence Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Parent behaviour at children's sporting events can directly impact the child's experience. Thankfully the majority of parents do seem to encourage having fun over putting the pressure on their child to be the best. Journalist Shona Hendley unpacks why sports parents get a bad rap - but are in fact the angels of society. Topics in this episode - Competitive parents coaching from the side Shona Hedley's article - Taking kids to sport all the time Dedication - time, money, energy Training, competitions, camps, social events, volunteering & more! Why do children drop out of sports early? "Doing your best" vs winning vs simply loving the experience Competence & connection Report cards: grades vs effort The current mental health crisis with young people Government policies and decisions re sport Register for tonight's webinar 'Enough: Helping our children overcome anxiety, perfectionism & self-loathing' Register for the BRAND-NEW 'Supporting Autistic Children: Nurturing Neurodiversity' course hosted by Dr Justin Coulson & Dr Joey Lawrence Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Family life can be hard, particularly after a long day when everyone is tired! We share 3 things you can do to overcome the challenges of Witching Hour - helping you move forward when you really just want to run away. Topics in this episode - Arsenic hour The challenges younger kids face in the late afternoon Emotional regulation HALTS - "Justin-isms" Digital Phone Wallpapers When the working parent gets home! The power of recognising 'hard' Outsource help Register for the BRAND-NEW 'Supporting Autistic Children: Nurturing Neurodiversity' course hosted by Dr Justin Coulson & Dr Joey Lawrence Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Time-crunch moments to get through the challenges of lunch, because the need for food is never ending! Listen in for 5 time-tested ideas to help you deal with the challenges of knowing what food to pack so that your child will actually eat at school. Topics in this episode: Tuck shop is awesome... but expensive Canteen pricelists from the 1980's Weekend baking Leftovers Taking the pressure off! Home menus Podcast episode #862 - Solving Lunch Box Headaches with Deb Blakley Register for this month's webinar 'Enough: Helping our children overcome anxiety, perfectionism & self-loathing' Register for the BRAND-NEW 'Supporting Autistic Children: Nurturing Neurodiversity' course hosted by Dr Justin Coulson & Dr Joey Lawrence Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How can you do it all - AND still be a good parent? 5 ideas for 'Creating Margin' that will make all the difference when it comes to an over scheduled, over-busy life! Topics discussed in this episode: Creating order from chaos Household tasks Connection Parental exhaustion Washing machine analogy Stephen Covey - 'Big Rocks' Structure and routine Poet Annie Dillard - 'How We Spend Our Days' Chores You can purchase early bird tickets for the new course 'Supporting Autistic Children: Nurturing Neurodiversity' at the Happy Families website Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Become a Happy Families member today - Happy Families Membership Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

"What's for dinner?" This has to be the most frustrating question that any parent deals with on a daily basis. Listen in for 8 solutions to help you overcome the dreaded dinner dilemma! Topics in this episode - Summer Fit by Sally Fitzgibbons – Book Review Themed nights Rotating roster The cognitive tax of cooking and planning Involving the kids Adam Liaw Sharing the load Register for this month's webinar 'Enough: Helping our children overcome anxiety, perfectionism & self-loathing' Register for the BRAND-NEW 'Supporting Autistic Children: Nurturing Neurodiversity' course hosted by Dr Justin Coulson & Dr Joey Lawrence Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We all have Time Crunch Moments - where the pressure is on, time is limited, and our kids are NOT being compliant! Mornings can be tough, right? But they don't have to be! Whether you have young kids or sleepy teenagers, there are 4 things you can do ahead of time to slow things right down - even when you need to go fast! Topics discussed in this episode: A change in the 'Making Mornings Magic'' formula! Teenagers vs young children Back to school Routine and structure Deadlines, fast-paced living Being present Kids and transitions Every family is different 'Fast is slow and slow is fast' - a Happy Families article You can purchase early bird tickets for the new course 'Supporting Autistic Children: Nurturing Neurodiversity' at the Happy Families website Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Become a Happy Families member today - Happy Families Membership Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When moving homes means changing schools again, and again... and again(!!) it can be hard for children to feel a true sense of belonging within a school community. With this being an ongoing experience for some of the Coulson kids, a momentous decision has been made to break away from mainstream education! And on this path to new beginnings, Justin experiences a break of a different kind - rather more painful, and nothing short of miraculous! Topic's discussed in this episode: Australia's educational system The 3 basic psychological needs of every child - what happens when these are not being met at school? Educational lessons learned during the Covid lockdowns Homeschooling When children struggle with emotional regulation and attention at school Becoming grandparents Holidays, surfing, and the power of slowing down Challenging days and changing direction Moving? How to help your child settle into a new school - a Happy Families article School refusal - a Happy Families article Register for the Happy Families October Webinar - "Enough: Helping our children overcome anxiety, perfectionism & self-loathing" Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Become a Happy Families member today - Happy Families Membership Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Who doesn't love a good book? October's Book Club includes: a storyline that will consume your life and keep you guessing right up to the last page, a blistering critique on the elite and political classes, learning to be comfortable in solitude, the heroes fighting online predators, unpacking generational differences, and a first-aid manual for supporting your teen’s mental health! Kylie's reading: 'Homecoming' by Kate Morton 'The Secret Life of You' by Kerry Sackville Both these titles are on the Birds of a Feather Book Club 2023 reading list. Check it out for some great suggestions for children, teens and adults. Justin's reading: 'Winners Take All: The Elite Charade of Changing the World' by Anand Giridharadas 'The Ideas Industry' Daniel Drezner 'Saving Our Kids' by Madonna King 'When Life Sucks' by Dr Jo Prendergast 'Generations' by Dr Jean Twenge Register for the Happy Families October Webinar - "Enough: Helping our children overcome anxiety, perfectionism & self-loathing" Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Become a Happy Families member today - Happy Families Membership Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Does your child whine and moan about what you pack in their lunchbox? Are you sick of preparing healthy lunchboxes only to have it come home untouched? Knowing what food to send to school with your child can be so challenging! Deb Blakely shares tips and tricks for making lunch time easier, and why you CAN give your child quick and easy food that they will actually eat - guilt free! (Replay) Topics included in this episode - Investigating things that can impact your child's ability to eat at school How to support kids with special needs Problem-solve together Should white bread sandwiches, chip packets, cheese sticks and juice be demonized? School is not the time to be stretching our kids Food safety Why foods that look, smell and taste good ARE good (yes - even carbohydrates and sugar!) Communicating with teachers Learn more about Deb Blakley from Kids Dig Food To access the Feed Your Picky Eater [without going crazy] evergreen online course for parents: https://kidsdigfood.com.au/resources/ Book an appointment with an APD from the Kids Dig Food team: https://kidsdigfood.com.au/appointments/ Register for the BRAND-NEW 'Supporting Autistic Children: Nurturing Neurodiversity' course hosted by Dr Justin Coulson & Dr Joey Lawrence Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is your child stressed out, apprehensive or just feeling like life is too hard? Does anxiety or perfectionism cause them to feel they are not enough? All hope is not lost! Three ways you can BUILD HOPE in your child's life - helping them to do well and feel well as they experience the power of hope. Research by Rick Snyder, Shane Lopez Science of Hope TikTok video series by @insearchofbobcat Failure, anxiety, resilience Our children need to feel hopeful before they can feel they are enough What does the research say about hopeful people? What is hope, and why are our youth feeling hopeless? How to be a hope-builder Enough: Overcoming Anxiety, Perfectionism, & Self Loathing - a Happy Families article Register for the Happy Families October Webinar - "Enough: Helping our children overcome anxiety, perfectionism & self-loathing" Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Become a Happy Families member today - Happy Families Membership. Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A late-night phone call, unexpected tears, and a sneaky case of stealth-mode to see a special someone. The miracle of birth An emotional journey after a sudden change of mind Grandparents - navigating boundaries, roles, and visiting rights? A cautionary tale Trickiness of in-law relationships Watching your adult child grow into parenthood Dad’s Guide to Pregnancy For Dummies - by Dr Justin Coulson What to Do When Parents and Grandparents Disagree - a Happy Families Article Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Become a Happy Families member today - Happy Families Membership. Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Managing the home-work-life juggle can sometimes feel impossible! Sorry parents - there is no "easy fix" for the balancing act of life, BUT you can have routine, prioritise connection and create a network of support when times get tough! (Replay) Topics included in this episode - The increasing cost of living Justin & Kylie share a personal story about their past financial struggles Get creative Routine, predictability Give them in fantasy what they can't have in reality Helping others I work full-time. How do I connect with my kids? - a Happy Families article Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Become a Happy Families member today - Happy Families Membership. Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Part 2 of Justin speaking with author & associate Professor Katie Davis about her new book Topics discussed in this episode - Technology's Child by Katie Davis Justin asks Katie some rapid fire questions about her own family life Using technology to reinforce technology rules Finding a balance Video games aren't all bad The impact of social media Further reading/watching: Screens And Our Boys - a Happy Families Article 5 Better Conversations To Have About Screens - a Happy Families Article Keeping your child focused on study and away from social media - a Happy Families Article Tweens, Teens & Screens - a Happy Families Webinar Digital Kids - a Happy Families Article Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families Email us your questions and comments at [email protected] omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.