Dear Shandy

It's that time of year again... Dear Shandy is officially 3 years old! And what better way to celebrate than to answer YOUR questions! We polled you over on Instagram and received quite the selection of Qs about us, our relationship, the podcast, and of course, the random stuff in between! Thank you, Shandies, for another year of laughs, rabbit holes, and analogies. We deeply appreciate you and the community we've built. Come join us in our living room to chat!Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack!- Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today!- Go to https://www.hellotushy.com /SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY for 10% off your first order!- Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off!1 Year Anniversary Q&A: https://pdst.fm/e/chrt.fm/track/38G817/traffic.megaphone.fm/BOOJE9711623600.mp3?updated=16946174112 Year Anniversary Q&A: https://pdst.fm/e/chrt.fm/track/38G817/traffic.megaphone.fm/BOOJE8112889855.mp3?updated=1694627652Time Stamps:0:00 - Introduction2:15 - What Is Your Favorite Feature On Each Other’s Bodies?5:39 - Did Sharleen Always See Herself Moving To The US?6:35 - Does Shandy Have Plans To Move To A Bigger Apartment?8:50 - Are You More Or Less Goofy In Real Life?9:42 - How Many White V-Necks Does Andy Own?11:00 - Is Sharleen Embarrassed By Andy’s White V-Necks?11:12 - How Does Shandy Fight?15:57 - Why Can’t We Know What Andy Does For A Living?17:11 - Do You Think Your Relationship Would Be What It Is If You’d Met Younger?19:32 - What Are The Hardest And Easiest Parts Of Being A Public Figure Couple? 24:45 - Do You Ever Get Annoyed When Recording With Each Other? 28:26 - How Many Couples Have Declined Or Ignored Love Fest Requests?29:16 - How Do You Feel When Love Fest Couples Break Up?30:28 - Has There Been A Reaction To An Episode That Has Been Challenging To Reckon With?39:09 - If You Knew Then What You Know Now, Would You Still Have Started Dear Shandy? 40:31 - Who Would Be Dream Moderators For Your Own Love Fest? 41:28 - Can We Get A Refresher On The Correct/Incorrect Use Of “You’re Welcome”?46:12 - If You Could Monologue About One Topic Of Your Choice For 30 Minutes, What Would It Be? 46:31 - Based On Your Experience, What Advice Do You Have On Things To Look For In A Partner?51:47 - If You Were A Cat, What Kind, Color, And Personality Of A Cat Would You Be? 53:29 - Power Rank (Least Favorite To Favorite): Chicken, Beef, Pork, Tofu, Fish 57:23 - Why Doesn’t Shandy Eat Meat?57:45 - Would You Rather a) Every Night For The Rest Of Your Life Have To Watch Your Parents Have Sex, Or b) You Can Avoid That By Joining In One Time 58:30 - No Wine Ever Again, Or No Charcuterie Boards Ever Again?58:57 - Power Rank: Amelia Earhart, Massages, Soup Dumplings, MLK, Contact Lenses, The Color GreenIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it weird if your partner wants a private, locked room in your shared home? What are Shandy's thoughts on "Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater"? Is there a "right" way to break up with someone? And let's help a Shandy find friends in her new city! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions the easy way!- Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save 55% off your subscription!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!Time Stamps:0:00 - Q1: Are My Boyfriend’s Friendships Weird?7:30 - Q2: My Boyfriend Wants A Private, Locked Room In Our Shared Home—Thoughts?20:14 - Q3: I’ve Moved Cities And Am Having A Hard Time Making Friends—Help!28:28 - Q4: I’ve Been The Cheater—What Are Shandy’s Thoughts On “Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater”?41:27 - Q5: I Just Learned About My Boyfriend’s Cheating History—Is This A Dealbreaker?1:05:38 - Q6: I Know I Need To End It But Am Dreading It—Tips On Breaking Up?If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevinePrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today Shandy is joined AT HOME for their third ever in-person Love Fest, by a couple whose relationship Shandy got to witness firsthand when Sharleen hosted Bachelor In Paradise Canada! Last Summer Chelsea Vaughn (Bachelor S25 & BIP S7) and Austin Tinsley (Bachelorette S17) met on Canadian soil and left as a couple in love. Because the season didn't air until a near year later, Chelsea and Austin had to keep their relationship under wraps for a whopping 13 MONTHS! Needless to say, they've learned a thing or two about each other in the interim!Today Chelsea and Austin join Shandy to share fun Paradise Canada #BTS, how they complement each other, what it felt like learning to text each other (yes, really!), and of course, how they fight! Finally, a kooky Newlyweds Game with answers you will not see coming! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription plus free shipping!- Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order!- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE!- Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/50SHANDY and use code 50SHANDY for 50% off plus free shipping!More Chelsea:https://www.instagram.com/chelseavaughnhttps://linktr.ee/vaughnerableMore Austin:https://www.instagram.com/austinsleyShandy on Vaughnerable: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/vaughnerable-with-chelsea-vaughn/id1654415005?i=1000612139370Austin on Vaughnerable, P1: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/vaughnerable-with-chelsea-vaughn/id1654415005?i=1000621364510Auston on Vaughnerable, P2: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/vaughnerable-with-chelsea-vaughn/id1654415005?i=1000622115759Referenced Hot Cheetos Reel: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CsXB9Q5NnoPTime Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Chelsea & Austin!6:50 - Shandy’s Appearance On Chelsea’s Podcast, Vaughnerable7:41 - Did They Feel A Cultural Difference In Canada?9:29 - First Impressions21:40 - Being “In Hiding” For 13 Months (!)26:21 - How They Complement Each Other30:33 - How They’re Different Than Expected34:26 - How Austin’s Different Than What Chelsea Imagined For Herself36:44 - Early Hurdle42:47 - How They Fight48:15 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed51:53 - The Newlyweds Game1:06:48 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Kelly. Kelly's cousin's choices in her relationship have had a ripple effect in their shared friend circle and Kelly has wound up more involved than she ever intended to be or would have liked. When is someone else's infidelity your information to share, and in Kelly's case, should she have done anything differently? Listen on for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.fabfitfun.com/DEARSHANDY and get 20% off your new membership!- Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off plus free shipping!Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Caller Kelly!36:48 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down the grand finale!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/SHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase!- Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com/SHANDY NOW to get FIFTEEN PERCENT OFF your entire order!- Head to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!Our Word Watch sponsor!- https://www.alianaroseeyewear.com - use code SHANDY15 for 15% off! (expires Sept 5)Time Stamps:1:04 - Finale Kick Off2:10 - Aaron B’s Return3:45 - Rose Ceremony9:43 - Live: Aaron B10:44 - Charity With Her Family12:43 - Joey Meets Charity’s Family13:49 - Live14:29 - Dotun Meets Charity’s Family19:18 - Charity Seeks Clarity22:45 - Joey’s Final Date24:58 - Live26:00 - Dotun’s Final Date28:47 - Neil Lane31:34 - Proposal Day33:17 - Joey36:23 - Live: Joey 37:30 - Live: Charity Joins39:19 - Dotun41:32 - Live42:27 - Live: Charity & Dotun45:34 - Bachelor Reveal48:42 - Overall Thoughts On Charity’s Season49:45 - Shandy Word Watch50:37 - Reviewing Night One PredictionsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today's the day, Shandies! We've been wanting to tackle the ever-relevant topic of NARCISSISM since Dear Shandy's inception, however, we insisted on waiting until we could get the best of the best to join us. Our patience paid off as today we're joined by the acclaimed, unparalleled expert on narcissism, the one and only Dr. Ramani. Trust us, she does NOT disappoint!Today Dr. Ramani sets the record straight on the definition on narcissism, how social media has changed the narcissist landscape, and how many of us fall on the narcissism spectrum. She gives us insight on how aware of their own narcissism narcissists are, whether or not they have a moral compass or can improve, and whether or not you can "win" in your battle against a narcissist. We wrap with actionable tips for those healing from their relationship with narcissists, those who have no choice but to live or work with narcissists, and what "red flags" to look out for.Our minds were blown multiple times during this conversation and this is easily one of our all-time favorite Hot Topics to date. We promise you will learn something new (and useful) to apply to your most challenging relationships. Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%!More Dr. Ramani:- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani- Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/navigatingnarcissismpod- Website & Healing Program: https://doctor-ramani.comTime Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Ramani!2:59 - The Clinical Definition of Narcissism (So We’re All On The Same Page)4:35 - Is There A Point On The Spectrum Where A Personality Style Becomes A Personality Disorder?8:27 - Nature And Nurture13:09 - How Wrong Is It To Throw The Term “Narcissist” Around?15:41 - What Percentage Of People Fall On The Narcissism Spectrum?17:40 - Social Media22:56 - Can A Person Be Narcissistic In Some Ways But Not In Others?23:58 - Can They Help It?27:52 - When Narcissists Are Acting Out, Are They Drinking Their Own Kool-Aid?30:25 - Do Narcissists Have A Moral Compass?32:31 - Shame33:54 - Can Narcissists Know They’re Narcissists?35:06 - Has She Ever Seen Narcissists Improve?38:59 - Is There A Correlation Between Narcissism And Enormous Wealth?39:50 - Is There A Way To “Win” With Narcissists?42:39 - When Dating Someone New, What Are Red Flags To Look Out For?47:46 - Are People Raised By Narcissists More Likely To End Up In A Relationship With One?48:47 - For People Who Have Fallen For Narcissists, What Questions Should They Ask Themselves?51:45 - What Do Narcissists Truly Want In A Partner?54:53 - Navigating Narcissism In The Workplace58:04 - When Your Colleagues Are Drinking The Narcisisst’s Kool-Aid, Can You Make Them See The Light?1:01:52 - The Basic Rules For Handling A Narcissist1:04:51 - How Can One Tell If *They* Are A Narcissist? 1:06:21 - Are There Benevolent Narcisissts?1:09:22 - First Steps Victims Of Narcissists Should Take Towards Healing1:12:34 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down Men Tell All!Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off!- Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!Our Word Watch sponsor!- https://www.alianaroseeyewear.com - use code SHANDY15 for 15% off! (expires Sept 5)Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:35 - Men Tell All Kickoff7:35 - A Guy Named Peter10:43 - Brayden’s Hot Seat17:02 - Xavier20:28 - Charity Arrives27:16 - Xavier’s Hot Seat37:13 - Unseen Footage40:04 - Captain Tom40:45 - Former Bachelorettes41:22 - Gerry, Our Golden Bachelor45:18 - Credits45:44 - Andy’s A-Game46:37 - Shandy Word Watch49:37 - Overall ThoughtsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it a red flag if your date leads with compliments about your physical appearance? If your mother's wedding gift is a check that seems to be missing a "0", is it worth bringing up? And if your brother has created a web of lies so big you're forced to play a part in the charade, when is enough enough? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off!- Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today!- Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order!Time Stamps:0:00 - Introduction2:48 - Q1: Don’t Tell Me I’m Pretty… Yet13:57 - Q2: My Boyfriend Lacks Initiative—Should I Be Concerned?26:04 - Q3: My Mother Gifted Us A Surprisingly Low Amount Of Money For Our Wedding—Can I Say Something?44:34 - Q4: My LDR Is Rocky But We’re So In Love—When Is It Too Much To Overcome?54:14 - Q5: My Boyfriend Didn't Do Anything For My Birthday :(1:07:39 - Q6: My Brother Can’t Keep It In His Pants—Help!If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevinePrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 7, aka Fantasy Suite Week!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription plus free shipping!- Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save 55% off your subscription!- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE!- Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com/SHANDY NOW to get FIFTEEN PERCENT OFF your entire order!Our Word Watch sponsor!- https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first purchase!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping0:44 - Episode 7 Kick Off3:34 - Xavier’s Overnight35:31 - Joey’s Overnight40:55 - Flashpoint46:21 - Dotun’s Overnight55:11 - Aaron B58:40 - Credits1:01:16 - Andy’s A-Game1:02:12 - Shandy Word Watch1:05:59 - Shandy’s PredictionsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Bachelor Nation's favorite "dolphin", Alexis Waters (Bachelor S21) and her fiancé, Tyler Fernandez! We knew going into this Love Fest that the "fun meter" would not be a concern, but we did not expect our cheeks to hurt as much as they did from laughing so hard!Today Alexis and Tyler join Shandy to share how they were introduced by former Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay, how they went from party acquaintances to lovebirds, what it feels like to receive pressure to get engaged, and of course, how they fight! Finally, an absolutely hilarious Newlyweds Game that we promise will have you in stitches. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!More Alexis:https://www.instagram.com/alexiswaters_https://www.tiktok.com/@alexiswaters244https://www.instagram.com/girlsnighthangouthttps://www.instagram.com/hoopnationbyalexisMore Tyler:https://www.instagram.com/tylerfernandezTime Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Alexis & Tyler!2:54 - True Or False: Rachel Lindsay Introduced Them6:03 - Did Tyler Watch Alexis On The Bachelor?9:08 - How Did They Go From Party Acquaintances To Serious Couple?10:06 - First Impressions14:57 - How They Complement Each Other17:52 - Early Hurdle20:47 - How They Fight24:46 - The Pressure To Get Engaged28:02 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed32:00 - True Or False32:55 - The Newlyweds Game49:29 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 6!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!- Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off plus free shipping!Our Word Watch sponsors!- https://www.cozy.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for up to 40% offTime Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:24 - Aaron’s Hometown9:55 - Joey’s Hometown19:20 - Xavier’s Hometown27:11 - Dotun’s Hometown30:41 - Los Angeles32:14 - Rose Ceremony36:13 - Credits36:36 - Andy’s A-Game37:11 - Shandy Word Watch39:14 - Shandy’s PredictionsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Cierrah. Cierrah lives in the basement suite of her parents' house but they haven't been displaying the most role model-esque behavior of late. Is she within her right to pick a side and get involved, or is her parents' dynamic their business and no one else's? Should what happens between our parents STAY between our parents?Listen on for the Shandy take!Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Caller Cierrah!31:27 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 5!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.fabfitfun.com/DEARSHANDY and get 20% off your new membership!- Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off plus free shipping!- Go to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75!- Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order!Our Word Watch sponsor!- Go to https://www.skims.comAndy’s Official Bachelor Instagram Repost: https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cu3LiITOncvTime Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:29 - Episode 5 Kick Off3:51 - Joey’s 1-On-17:28 - Evening15:48 - 2-On-1 Date20:04 - Evening27:12 - Dotun’s 1-On-129:54 - Evening36:24 - Sean 38:51 - Group Date47:06 - Evening51:26 - Credits53:07 - Andy’s A-Game53:46 - Shandy Word Watch56:10 - Shandy’s PredictionsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you ever found yourself wondering "where are they now?" when listening to our caller episodes and Q&As? Well... drumroll, please... UPDATES ARE BACK, BABY! This is our second ever installment of what we hope to make a biannual tradition.We called out for updates from our question-asking Shandies and many were kind enough to provide their subsequent chapters, good or bad! Come join us in the living room where we're on the edge of our seats!Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!Time Stamps:0:00 - Introduction0:55 - Episode 32: Q3, from Gabby - https://youtu.be/GvYfIlViSnk5:40 - Episode 40: Q1, from Claire - https://youtu.be/GLK2kbK78j411:05 - Episode 80: Q5, from Aria - https://youtu.be/550ahd6ZtF424:42 - Episode 95: Q3, from Christina - https://youtu.be/JjSsIJaFGzI28:28 - Episode 107: Caller 2, Danielle - https://youtu.be/pFIEaZXDV5031:03 - Episode 125: Q2, from H - https://youtu.be/Y0GLNYRq2qo33:27 - Episode 125: Q5, from S - https://youtu.be/Y0GLNYRq2qo35:20 - Episode 129: Q5, from Lisa - https://youtu.be/0HD8P34ITQI38:54 - Episode 140: Q1, from Danielle - https://youtu.be/Et2s0pt-7lI42:25 - Episode 146: Q3, from C - https://youtu.be/ygmeFYPyYMk47:04 - Episode 166: Caller 1, Ray - https://youtu.be/JWaxbrWEwMw48:24 - Episode 182: Q1, from Roni - https://youtu.be/FgJZYlWYlos54:07 - Episode 182: Q4, from Anonymous - https://youtu.be/FgJZYlWYlos1:00:56 - Episode 184: Q3, from Bass - https://youtu.be/5G1JlNLmwLE1:04:48 - Episode 197: Q4, from Snooty - https://youtu.be/dtHws_MFWho1:09:47 - Episode 197: Q5, from The Mistress - https://youtu.be/dtHws_MFWho1:14:37 - Episode 214: Q5, from Mrs Missus - https://youtu.be/LDTzewx3uQUIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevinePrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 4!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription!- Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box!- Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!Our Word Watch sponsor!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 40%!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping 1:32 - Episode 4 Kick Off3:38 - Dotun’s 1-On-111:33 - Evening25:11 - Group Date34:30 - Evening48:16 - Xavier’s 1-On-150:30 - Evening1:00:32 - The Next Day/Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party1:02:36 - Brayden Returns1:17:32 - Rose Ceremony1:21:08 - Credits1:21:24 - Andy’s A-Game1:23:05 - Shandy Word Watch1:25:15 - Shandy’s PredictionsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your boyfriend still has "favorited" photos of his ex on his phone, is that cause for concern? Are you shallow if you'd like your partner to make a cosmetic change? If your mother-in-law's perfume stays in the house long after she's gone, is it worth saying something? And whatever happened to taking things slow? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 40%!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping (Sort Of?)1:39 - Q1: My Boyfriend Still Has Photos Of His Ex On His Phone—Is This A Red Flag?6:09 - Q2: My Brother’s Girlfriend Is Sensitive That He Used To Date My Friend—Should I Distance Myself In The Friendship To Support My Future Sister-In-Law?9:45 - Q3: Is “Taking Things Slowly” A Lost Art?21:38 - Q4: I Love My Husband Except For One Cosmetic “Flaw”—Should I Bring It Up Or Am I Just Shallow?36:47 - Q5: A Friend Called Me By The Wrong Name—Should I Correct Him Or Is This A Fluke?41:03 - Q6: At What Point Do You Weigh Stability Against Happiness?59:35 - Q7: My Mother-In-Law’s Perfume Is Stinking Up Our House—Help!If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevinePrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 40%!- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE!- Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off!Our Word Watch sponsor!- Go to https://www.drinkLMNT.comTime Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:29 - Episode 3 Kick Off5:41 - Brayden’s 1-On-113:42 - Evening21:54 - Group Date34:09 - Evening41:53 - Warwick’s 1-On-146:50 - The Next Day47:12 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party1:10:28 - Rose Ceremony1:11:13 - Credits1:12:01 - Andy’s A-Game1:11:25 - Shandy Word Watch1:15:43 - Shandy’s PredictionsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Riley who is calling about her 6 year relationship. Riley made some poor financial decisions in the past which has caused her boyfriend to pull back and distrust her. Can he get over this, what does this mean for their partnership, and how long is too long to be punished for past mistakes? Listen on for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Caller Riley!50:33 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.hellotushy.com /SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY for 10% off your first order!- Head to https://www.manukora.com/SHANDY or use code SHANDY to get a free pack of honey sticks with your order - a $15 value!- Head to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75!- Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription!Our Word Watch sponsor!- Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:20 - Episode 2 Kick Off4:36 - Aaron B’s 1-On-19:50 - Evening19:02 - 1st Group Date26:40 - Evening41:03 - 2nd Group Date43:56 - Evening51:18 - Joey’s Hard Earned 1-On-1 52:57 - BBQ1:03:12 - Rose Ceremony1:07:07 - Credits1:07:14 - Andy’s A-Game1:09:23 - Shandy Word Watch1:12:30 - Shandy’s PredictionsCharity’s 2 piece set from the Group Date: https://bit.ly/44tVpe1Charity’s leather double breasted blazer: https://bit.ly/44vYNW2 // look for less: https://bit.ly/3rawb6aIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today is our second ever in-person Love Fest and an absolutely epic one! You watched them meet and get engaged on Paradise S7, and now 2 years later, Bachelor Power Couple® Joe Amabile and Serena Pitt join us in the living room to dissect the ins and outs of their relationship.Today Joe and Serena share their honest first impressions of each other—in Serena's eyes, was Joe in fact the "George Clooney" of Bachelor Nation we described him to be? They get specific with adjectives about each other (yay!), discuss how and when the 11 year age difference rears its head, unpack the early hurdle that took time to overcome, and of course, describe how they fight! This episode is loaded with goodies including Serena and Sharleen's biggest City Hall regret and the surprising ways in which the native Chicagoan and native New Yorker are similar. Finally, a Newlyweds Game that is heavy on "OR"s but not remotely lacking on fun! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!Thanks To Our Sponsors!- Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off!- Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 for 16 free meals plus free shipping!- Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 40%!More Joe & Serena:https://www.youtube.com/@JoeandSerenaMore Joe:https://www.instagram.com/joeamabile1https://www.instagram.com/sundaywithjoehttps://www.tiktok.com/@joe_amabile1More Serena:https://www.instagram.com/serena_pitthttps://www.tiktok.com/@serenapittTime Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Joe & Serena!3:03 - Their City Hall Wedding8:47 - Serena & Sharleen’s City Hall Regret10:53 - How Familiar Were They With Each Other? (Was Joe “George Clooney” As Shandy Described In Their Recaps?)17:09 - First Impressions27:47 - Specificity!38:22 - The 11 Year Gap40:08 - How They Complement Each Other43:07 - Early Hurdle53:45 - How They Fight59:56 - Why New York + How We All Feel About East Vs West Coasts1:07:26 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed1:12:15 - The Newlyweds Game1:28:20 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 1, aka the big Premiere!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com/SHANDY NOW to get FIFTEEN PERCENT OFF your entire order!- Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack!- Try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free at https://www.warbyparker.com/shandy! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off!Our Word Watch sponsor!- Go to https://furanostudio.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping2:01 - Overall Thoughts On The Premiere2:17 - Episode 1 Kick Off4:03 - Charity’s Dress5:45 - Limo Exit Wins/Fails12:43 - Charity’s Speech13:06 - Notable 1-On-1 Time20:45 - Nehemiah22:02 - Notable 1-On-1 Time, Continued32:46 - Nehemiah’s Reveal/Nehemiah Reports To Charity42:40 - Brayden46:13 - Rose Ceremony47:38 - Credits49:48 - Andy’s A-Game50:34 - Shandy Word Watch53:01 - Shandy’s Predictions56:34 - Wild CardsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today's Hot Topic conversation is great for just about anybody, but *especially* those who have considered therapy but haven't pulled the trigger for whatever reason (accessibility, cost, finding the right match...)! Our guest, Owen O'Kane, is an acclaimed London-based psychotherapist and the best selling author of Ten Times Happier, Ten to Zen, and most recently, How To Be Your Own Therapist. But that's not all! Before pursuing psychotherapy, Owen spent a decade working with the dying as a Clinical Nurse Specialist in Palliative Care, which we think adds a unique dimension to his perspective. Needless to say, he is abundantly qualified to help us tackle the journey of self-therapy today!Today, beyond sharing his own personal story of self acceptance, Owen discusses what drives us, victim mentality, gratitude, tips for handling our anxious episodes, what 10 minutes of self therapy a day looks like, and what "The Goal" of therapy even is (happiness? meaning??). Last but not least, Andy picks Owen's brain after his experience working in Palliative Care—what did caring for the dying on a daily basis teach him? This episode has a little something for everyone and even includes a peek into Andy's own thoughts and fears. Whether you consider "therapy" a dirty word or part of your regular vernacular, you won't want to miss this chat!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription!- Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50!- Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription!- Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order!More Owen O'Kane:- The Book "How To Be Your Own Therapist": https://amzn.to/3NnIpzS- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/owenokaneten- TEDX Talk: https://youtu.be/SenbZnxn_N8- Website: https://www.owenokane.comTime Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Owen O’Kane!1:54 - Is The UK Behind The US In Terms Of Therapy “Taboo”?4:32 - Owen’s Story, Part 17:10 - What’s “The Goal”? Happiness?8:49 - What Drives Us?11:09 - Owen's Story, Part 216:24 - Our Thought Process25:35 - Where Does One Begin With Self Therapy?28:35 - Do Some Personality Types Struggle More With Self Therapy Than Others?31:23 - Victim Mentality33:42 - What Does 10 Minutes A Day Of Self Therapy Look Like?36:51 - Gratitude And Fear Of Loss43:18 - Advice For Anyone Who’s Been in Therapy For A Long Time And Isn’t Seeing A Difference49:05 - Tips For Those Who Experience Anxious Episodes55:50 - Our Phones1:00:07 - Andy Asks Owen For His Takeaways After A Decade Spent In Palliative Care1:07:09 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your long distance relationship is at a standstill because he doesn't have a passport, how long is too long to wait? If you and a friend are each passionate about vastly different beliefs, has the friendship run its course? What to do when "Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind" isn't an option? And finally, Shandy gives a backup plan for a particularly amusing fetish. Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE!Time Stamps:0:00 - Q1: How Can “Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind” Work When We WORK Together??10:10 - Q2: He’s My First And The Sex Is Uncomfortable—Any Guidance?27:31 - Q3: My Long Distance Relationship Is At A Standstill Because He Doesn’t Have A Passport—How Long Is Too Long To Wait?37:03 - Q4: My Friend And I Have Differing Beliefs—Is It Against My Values To Stay Friends With Her?46:27 - Q5: My Friend Keeps Sending Unwelcome Messages To My Wife—Should I Say Something?1:01:00 - Q6: Do I Have A Right To Be Annoyed That My Friends Don’t Attend My Performances?1:10:14 - Q7: My Husband Is Perfect But His Fetish Makes Me Squirm—Help!If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevinePrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Bennett Jordan (Bachelorette S16) and his lovely fiancée, renowned yoga instructor Emily Chen. This Love Fest came about rather unexpectedly; Bennett and Emily were kind enough to jump in last minute when our previously planned couple cancelled. We're so happy we spontaneously got to meet and hang out with these two!Today Bennett and Emily join Shandy to share how persistence paid off, how they're the yin to the other's yang, and of course, how they fight! (Do yogis fight??) Finally, a Newlyweds Game with a twist ending that Shandy decides perfectly sums up this couple. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!Thanks To Our Sponsors!- Go to https://www.jennikayne.com/DEARSHANDY and use code DEARSHANDY at checkout to get 15% off your first order!- Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%!- Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today!More Bennett:https://www.instagram.com/bennettandrewjordanhttps://www.instagram.com/litneypartnershttps://www.tiktok.com/@bennettandrewjordanMore Emily:https://www.instagram.com/emilykchenhttps://www.instagram.com/joinlila/https://www.tiktok.com/@emilykchenTime Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Bennett & Emily!4:38 - How They Met9:59 - Had Emily Seen Bennett’s Season?11:44 - First Impressions16:54 - Defining The Relationship23:51 - How They Complement Each Other26:56 - How They Fight34:52 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed40:30 - True Or False41:19 - The Newlyweds Game1:03:41 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Caller Day and today we're joined by not one but TWO lovely callers! First we're joined by Megan, who has been wrestling with her dating requirements and being labeled a "gold digger" by friends. Are professional and fiscal success too superficial to put in the "needs" column? Next we're joined by Sarah, who's been scratching her head over pre-first-date etiquette. Is it a bad chess move to send a check-in text before the first date, and if so, where's the line between being pursued and simply getting logistical information? Listen on for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.manukora.com/SHANDY or use code SHANDY to get a free pack of honey sticks with your order - a $15 value!- For Hello Tushy, the sale is actually 40% OFF ALL BIDETS through 6/9! (It was just updated after recorded this!) Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for a whopping 40% off your purchase!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Caller Megan!18:31 - Shandy Speaks30:08 - Shandy Debrief36:47 - Welcome To Caller Sarah!44:19 - Shandy Speaks54:13 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you know you have no future with a person, is it still worth a potentially great hookup? Is it wrong to feel envious when your friends are all getting engaged? And is secretly chatting with an ex on the regular emotional cheating? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription!- Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!- Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off!Time Stamps:0:00 - Q1: Without A Future, Is It Still Worth The Hookup?16:22 - Q2: I’m Green With Engagement Envy!27:48 - Q3: Two Weddings, One Weekend—Help Us Decide!36:45 - Q4: I’m Secretly Chatting With My Ex Every Day—Am I Emotionally Cheating?52:30 - Q5: My Husband’s Friend’s Wife Is Coming Onto Him—What Should He Do?If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevinePrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Caller Day and today we're joined by two lovely callers! We're joined by our first ever caller COUPLE (!), Barbie and Ken. They plan to secretly elope even though Ken's mother has explicitly asked them not to. Should they alter their plans to avoid future friction, or do what feels true to them and let the chips fall where they may? Caller Elana a very relatable Am-I-The-Asshole question involving her best friend. Where's the middle ground when you both think you're in the right? Listen on for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order!- Try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free at https://www.warbyparker.com/SHANDY- Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 for 16 free meals plus free shipping!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Callers Barbie & Ken!12:09 - Shandy Speaks31:27 - Shandy Debrief40:21 - Welcome To Caller Elana!59:51 - Shandy Speaks1:09:41- Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This Hot Topic episode has been one of THE! MOST! hotly requested conversations to date! Ask and you shall receive, Shandies, because today we are joined by professor and therapist Dr. Kirk Honda, aka @PsychologyInSeattle, famed for his reaction videos and analyses of reality TV relationship dynamics.Today Dr. Honda has answers to our personal musings about the psychological aspects of falling in love on TV. We also cover the manipulation, the aftermath, the audience, and last but not least, the ethics. Sharleen shares several experiences from her Bachelor days and Dr. Honda helps break them down. Frankly, this conversation is overdue and probably one of the most quintessential "Shandy" conversations to date. Come and listen to why we call this the elusive and final collector's card of Dear Shandy Hot Topic episodes!Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY40 and use code SHANDY40 to get 40% off your first box!- Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50!- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE!- Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order!More Dr Honda:- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@PsychologyInSeattle- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle- Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/psychology-in-seattle-podcast/id767626637- Website: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comTime Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Kirk Honda!1:19 - What’s His Favorite & Least Favorite Aspects Of Watching Reality Dating Shows?4:41 - Does Feeling “Chosen” On These Shows Amplify Romantic Feelings?8:45 - Can A Desire For Money And/Or Fame Result In Chemical Love?20:56 - Sensory Deprivation And Behavioral Shaping27:43 - Contestant Autonomy And Learned Helplessness32:14 - Can Trauma Expedite A Relationship?35:07 - If He Had Met His Wife On A Reality Show, Would Their Relationship Have Progressed In The Same Way?36:46 - The Ethics Of Producing Reality TV46:04 - What Has He Learned About The Reality TV Audience?53:58 - Do Reality TV And Social Media Reward Narcissism?58:48 - His Favorite Shows1:04:13 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is there an age where never having been married or engaged is a red flag? If your car is towed while your first date is making a move on you, who pays? And if you don't particularly like your coworker but she's a hugger, to hug or not to hug? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com/SHANDY to get 15% off your entire order!- Go to https://www.prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!Time Stamps:0:00 - Q1: When is Never Having Been Married a Red Flag?10:06 - Q2: My Car Was Towed At His Place—Should He Have Paid For It?27:39 - Q3: My Fiancé’s Friends Are Taking Advantage Of His Generosity—Help!41:32 - Q4: Can I Expect A Partner To Move With Me?47:29- Q5: When Single And Dating, Is It Ok To Keep Photos Of My Late Spouse On Social Media?56:54 - Q6: My Coworker Keeps Forcing Me To Hug Her—Help!1:10:18 - Q7: I’m 4 Years In And The Thrill Is Gone—Is It Over?If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevinePrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down the Finale and Reunion!Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.manukora.com/SHANDY or use code SHANDY to get a free pack of honey sticks with your order - a $15 value!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%!- Head to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:02 - Finale27:44 - Reunion1:05:18 - Best Dressed1:07:13 - Overall ThoughtsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today's Hot Topic tackles a recurring theme among our Shandies' questions: MONEY, BABY!! 💵💵💵 We're joined by superstar Ramit Sethi, who not only wrote 2009's megahit and NYT bestseller "I Will Teach You To Be Rich", but whose very own Netflix show, "How To Get Rich" just premiered on April 18th!Today Ramit begins by helping us define what our own individual "Rich Life" looks like. But he goes even further with the clearest, most concise, direct answers to your most burning relationship-meets-money questions: When one partner has a significantly higher income, should that be reflected in the bills? When and how should you bring up your debt with your partner? Is there a "gold standard" when it comes to shared and separate bank accounts? And what about PRENUPS?? What bank accounts and credit cards does Ramit himself use? (Oh yeah, we go there!) Listen on for your lesson in getting RICH.Thanks to our sponsor!- Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off plus free shipping!More Ramit:- The Book, 'I Will Teach You To Be Rich', 2nd edition (2019): https://amzn.to/3NhoRi1- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ramit- Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-will-teach-you-to-be-rich/id1577864998- Website: https://ramitsethi.com- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ramitsethiTime Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Ramit Sethi!2:22 - What Is A “Rich Life”?3:38 - How Can One Change From Being A Spender To A Saver?9:38 - Join Sharleen In An Exercise: Define Your “Rich Life”18:42 - How Can You Design Your Rich Life When You Feel Like You’re Struggling To Get By?22:30 - Investing And Saving 10127:49 - Ramit’s Picks For Bank Accounts & Credits Cards (WITH ACTUAL ANSWERS)31:02 - How Should You Divvy Up Finances When One Partner Makes More $$$?37:31 - Is The A Certain Number You Should Have In The Bank Before Starting A Family?39:24 - Prenups44:59 - When Should One Broach The Topic Of Money And/Or Debt In A New Relationship?49:50 - Have Debt Or Bad Credit? These Are Your First Steps53:38 - Andy’s Selfish Question56:55 - What Would Ramit Like Your Takeaway To Be?1:01:22 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down episodes 9-11, aka Seattle Part 2.Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://bumpinblends.com and use the promo code SHANDY to get 25% off your first order!- Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription!- Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription!- Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:55 - Episode 929:04 - Episode 1055:21 - Episode 111:08:02 - Predictions1:10:45 - Who We Would Go ForIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you have a history of staying in relationships longer than you should, what are Shandy's tips on knowing it's time to break up? (Don't miss Andy's tips on the post-breakup withdrawal!) Is it a red flag if your boyfriend of 6 months didn't get you a birthday gift? And when it comes to adult friendships, where's the line between blind loyalty and pursuing the relationships that might fulfill us? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsor!- Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today!Time Stamps:0:00 - Q1: How Do I Know It’s Really Over & We Shouldn’t Get Back Together?17:12 - Q2: My Friend Group Imploded Over Pickleball—Help!31:37 - Q3: My Long Distance Boyfriend Didn’t Get Me A Birthday Gift—Is This A Red Flag?42:22 - Q4: I’d Like To Befriend My Friend’s Ex-Husband’s New Girlfriend—Would This Make Me Disloyal?49:46 - Q5: I’ve Been In An Arranged Marriage For 13 Years & Missed Out On Romance—Help!If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevinePrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down episodes 6-8, aka Seattle Part 1.Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!- Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping3:50 - Episode 630:14 - Episode 743:48 - Episode 81:11:33 - Predictions1:13:33 - Who We Would Go For1:13:56 - A Request From ShandyIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by engineer Ivan Hall (Bachelorette S16 & Bachelor in Paradise S7) and his fiancée, anesthesiologist Tailour Robison. These two *just* got engaged and Tailour has never done a public interview to date, so we're thrilled to get the exclusive on this legit power couple.Today Ivan and Tailour share how young love can be mature love as well, how they complement each other, how they fight, and they even prove Shandy wrong on the adage "you break up because it's broken"! Finally, a hilariously academic Newlyweds Game that has Andy on the edge of his seat even more than usual. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!Thanks To Our Sponsors!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%!- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE!More Ivan:https://www.instagram.com/ivanbhallhttps://www.tiktok.com/@ivanbhallMore Tailour:Nice try!Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Ivan And Tailour!3:50 - How They Met8:49 - Did Tailour Watch Ivan On TV?11:18 - Considering Their History, What Are Their Thoughts On “You Broke Up Because It was Broken”13:25 - First Impressions20:43 - How They Complement Each Other25:10 - Did Going On The Show Bring Ivan Out Of His Shell?27:15 - Early Hurdle29:53 - How They Fight36:18 - Was There A Moment When They “Knew”? Do They Believe In “The One”?41:06 - Any Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed44:42 - Is The Plane Ivan Is Working On The Plane From ‘Top Gun: Maverick’?49:50 - The Newlyweds Game1:07:20 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down episodes 4 and 5, aka MEXICO.Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75!- Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box!- Try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free at https://www.warbyparker.com/SHANDY- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE!Time Stamps:0:00 - Intro0:46 - Episode 439:34 - Episode 51:14:53 - PredictionsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today's Hot Topic will likely resonate with many a Shandy. If you struggle with perfectionism, your inner critic, feeling the need to prove yourself, and/or analysis paralysis, this conversation is a must. We're joined by Homaira Kabir, author of ‘Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’, whose career is built on the research of how you (yes, you!) can flourish. Today we cover everything from the difference between being a perfectionist and just having high standards, how to not grow resentful when others can't live up to your "perfect" ideals, whether or not perfectionism equates to competitiveness, how not to raise perfectionist children, and how our purpose ties into all of the above. This one really tugged on Sharleen's heart strings and she thinks it will speak to you, too. Listen on for a lesson in letting go...Thanks to our sponsor!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%!More Homaira:- The Book, 'Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’: https://amzn.to/3KcGcpq- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir- Website: https://homairakabir.com- Podcast: Life Is A Highway Podcast: https://homairakabir.com/podcast/Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Homaira Kabir!3:48 - What Are Optimal Confidence and Fragile Confidence?6:42 - Can We Have Fragile Confidence In Some Parts Of Our Lives And Optimal Confidence In Others?9:30 - Since So Much Is Programmed Into Us As Infants, How Much Free Will Do We Even Have?13:35 - What Are We Looking For When We Put So Much Out There And Are Disappointed By The Response?16:05 - Is To Desire Perfection To Live In The Past?19:30 - Is Perfectionism a Result Of Nature Or Nurture?21:42 - How To Avoid Passing On This Trait To Children22:58 - Are Perfectionists Trapped In The Wrong Gear?26:53 - Is To Be A Perfectionist To Either Competitive Or Envious?28:23 - Is It Possible To Keep The Benefits Of Perfectionism While Letting Go Of The Rest Or Is It All Or Nothing?31:07 - What’s The Difference Between Perfectionism And High Standards?33:22 - How Can One a) Not Put Their Perfect Ideals On Their Partner, and b) Not Resent Them For It38:43 - What’s The Driving Force Behind Perfectionism? (Including Another Discussion About Shame!) 44:20 - Advice For Those Who Logically Know Perfectionism Isn’t Their Friend But Still Feel It’s Part Of Their Identity 48:33 - Tips For Those Who Suffer From Analysis Paralysis55:07 - How Does One’s “Purpose” Play Into All This?1:00:03 - What Would She Like Your Takeaway From This Conversation To Be?1:02:27 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with something new! By very popular demand, Shandy is testing the waters with recapping the 4th season of the hit show Love Is Blind. Today, in addition to a recap, we're also sharing our first impressions of the show. Listen on for episodes 1-3 (+ a few minutes), aka THE PODS.Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%!- Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:44 - Episode 133:04 - Episode 21:00:15 - Episode 3If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by caller Sarah, whose ex broke things off around 6 months ago. While things ended with a lot of question marks on Sarah's end, he did tell her he'd like to remain friends. Should Sarah take his recent text as a sign to embark on a platonic friendship? Listen on for the Shandy take!Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Caller Sarah!11:32 - Shandy Sleuthing37:06 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down the grand finale!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today!- Go to https://www.dailyharvest.com/SHANDY to get up to $40 off your first box!- Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off!Our Word Watch sponsor!- Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping2:09 - Finale Kick Off2:59 - Live: Ariel5:42 - Back In Thailand7:26 - Gabi Meets Zach’s Family11:31 - Kaity Meets Zach’s Family13:57 - Kaity’s Last Chance Date21:10 - Evening24:08 - Gabi’s Last Chance Date27:23 - Evening29:53 - Live: It’s Sean Lowe Time32:24 - Back In Thailand33:06 - Proposal Day: Gabi40:54 - Live: Gabi44:29 - Zach Joins49:58 - Proposal Day: Kaity50:49 - Live: Zach & Kaity56:29 - Reviewing Night One Predictions57:56 - Charity’s Season Preview59:23 - Shandy Word Watch1:00:13 - Special Announcement1:01:15 - Special SurpriseIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you've had a missed connection with someone who no longer seems to check the dating app, is it creepy to reach out on an outside platform? Is it ever OK to ask a single friend to be their plus-one to a mutual friend's wedding? And is tickling your partner a form of endearment or a form of torture? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription!- Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY60 and use code SHANDY60 for 60% off plus free shipping!Time Stamps:0:00 - Q1: My Match Isn’t Checking The Dating App—What’s The Least Creepy Way to Reach Out?5:38 - Q2: Is It OK To Ask A Single Friend To Be Their Plus-One To A Mutual Friend’s Wedding?19:16 - Q3: His List Of Wants In The First 1.5 Months Of Dating Have Me Wondering: Is He A Risk?26:39 - Q4: Did We Accidentally Schedule An Orgy? 34:30 - Q5: I Love My Boyfriend But Not His Male Pattern Baldness—How Can I Get Him To Shave His Head?45:18 - Q6: My Ex-Husband Is My Best Friend—Is This Holding Me Back From Finding A New Romantic Connection?53:18 - Q7: Shandy Weighs In On The Ethics Of TicklingIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevinePrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 9, aka Fantasy Suite Week!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.hellotushy.com /SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY for 10% off your first order!- Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY60 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box!- Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!Our Word Watch sponsor!- Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off!- Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:20 - Episode 9 Kick Off4:36 - Ariel’s Overnight7:37 - Evening12:26 - The Next Day12:42 - Gabi’s Overnight20:37 - Evening25:02 - The Next Day26:53 - Zach Is Honest36:52 - Kaity’s Overnight52:06 - Evening54:13 - Rose Ceremony59:43 - Credits1:00:37 - Andy’s A Game1:01:46 - Shandy Word Watch1:05:43 - PredictionsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Bachelor Franchise power couple Danielle Maltby (Bachelor S21) and Michael Allio (Bachelorette S17), whom you watched meet on Bachelor In Paradise S8! We're happy to report that not only is this a Love Fest of legend, but our producer Gabby even called it one of her ALL TIME favorites (and trust us, she's picky!)Today Danielle and Michael join Shandy to share how and why their relationship has blossomed post-show, how they complement each other, and of course, how they fight! There are also countless tangent gems covering everything from imposter syndrome to thoughts on what *really* matters in life. Finally, a Newlyweds Game that is flagrantly disrespected by its players to the point where Shandy has no choice but to show them who's boss. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!Thanks To Our Sponsors!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%!- Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE!More Danielle:https://www.instagram.com/dmmaltbyhttps://www.instagram.com/nursedaestheticshttps://www.womedpodcast.comMore Michael:https://www.instagram.com/michael_alliol4Reference WoMed episodes:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-womed/id1464767919?i=1000592844163https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-womed/id1464767919?i=1000594247788Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Danielle & Michael!14:54 - Was There Anything They Think Viewers Missed Out On With Their Love Story20:37 - Traits They’ve Learned About One Another Post-Show25:26 - How Their First Impressions Have Changed30:17 - How They Complement Each Other40:03 - When Did Michael “Know”46:15 - Early Hurdle53:14 - How They Fight1:06:53 - The Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game1:22:22 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down Women Tell All!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping0:42 - Women Tell All Kick Off4:19 - Christina Mandrell7:53 - Anastasia vs Everyone10:57 - Katherine vs Brooklyn14:33 - Jess’ Hot Seat18:04 - Greer’s Hot Seat22:24 - Katherine’s Hot Seat24:37 - Charity’s Hot Seat27:05 - Unseen Footage29:34 - Zach32:09 - Bloopers34:36 - Bachelorette AnnouncementIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 8, aka Hometown Week!Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50!- Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order!- Try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free at https://www.warbyparker.com/shandy!- Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off!Our Word Watch sponsor!- Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping1:05 - Episode 8 Kick Off2:14 - Gabi’s Hometown5:11 - Evening9:23 - Ariel’s Hometown20:30 - Evening25:07 - Charity’s Hometown30:00 - Evening30:57 - Katie’s Hometown35:51 - Evening44:26 - Sean Lowe47:17 - Rose Ceremony50:40 - Credits52:29 - Andy’s A-Game53:12 - Shandy Word Watch56:24 - PredictionsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by caller Nina who has found herself in the early stages of a situationship and wants to "suss out" her next move. Is there a potential future here or is she just wearing a pretty pair of rose-colored glasses? Listen on for the Shandy take!Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Caller Nina!15:12 - Shandy Sleuthing38:45 - Shandy DebriefIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyListen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunesMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 7.Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order!- Go to https://www.dailyharvest.com/SHANDY to get up to $40 off your first box!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!- Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%!Our Word Watch sponsor!- Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping2:58 - Episode 7 Kick Off4:27 - Kaity’s 1-On-17:35 - Evening11:26 - Group Date22:00 - Evening29:57 - Greer Time39:13 - Brooklyn’s 1-On-146:58 - Evening50:36 - Rose Ceremony1:02:26 - Credits1:02:33 - Andy’s A-Game1:03:10 - Shandy Word Watch1:05:13 - PredictionsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today's Hot Topic dives deep into the world of open relationships! We're joined by author and ghostwriter Emily Gindlesparger, who not only opened her own relationship years ago but discovered her own bisexuality throughout the process. Her new memoir, "Please Make Me Love Me", describes her journey from traditional, straight monogamist to becoming polyamorous with multiple serious girlfriends. Today she shares how she shed her jealousy once and for all, the impact an open relationship had on her primary partnership, the challenges of logistics, and her advice to couples interested in non-monogamy. Emily manages to answer a TON of questions thoughtfully and succinctly, so if you've ever been curious about exploring polyamory—or are just curious how others manage it!—this conversation is for you.More Emily:- The Book, "Please Make Me Love Me": https://amzn.to/3Zwrhfz- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilygindle- Website: https://www.emilygindlesparger.comReferenced Links And Books:More Than Two - https://www.morethantwo.comEsther Perel’s “The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity” - https://amzn.to/3SDhO43Jessica Fern’s “Polysecure” - https://amzn.to/3ZuwKU5Time Stamps:0:00 - Welcome To Emily Gindlesparger!1:47 - What Do People Most Commonly Ask When They Learn She’s Written A Memoir About Open Relationships And Discovering She’s Queer3:27 - Was There A Moment Where She Went From Jealous To Non-Jealous7:06 - Would She Say The More She Leaned Into What Was Making Her Jealous, The Less Jealous She Became8:16 - Did Jealous Get Flipped On Its Head To Where She Found It Enjoyable10:43 - What Made Her And Her Partner Decide To Disclose Everything To Each Other (Versus “I Don’t Want To Know”)14:02 - Did They Ever Fight About This15:06 - How Much Of Her Decision To Open The Relationship Stemmed From A Desire To Live Life To The Fullest Versus Wanting To Explore Her Sexuality19:42 - What Does She Think Is The Most Common Misconception About Open Relationships22:41 - Is It Worth Bringing Up That You Want An Open Relationship If You Know Your Partner Is Deeply Monogamous24:33 - Does She Believe One-Way Open Relationships Can Work26:59 - What Advice Would She Give To Someone Whose Partner Wants To Open The Relationship28:27 - Would She Have Ever Opened Her Relationship Had She Been In A Different Community30:47 - Is A “Logistical Toll” Part And Parcel With Maintaining Open Relationships33:06 - What’s Easier: Monogamy Or Polyamory34:54 - Let’s Say A Couple Wants To Open Things Up—Where To Start39:43 - When Did She Realize She Wasn’t 100% Straight43:31 - What Advice Would She Give Her Younger Self On The Topic Of Her Sexuality45:31 - Does She Consider It A Shame To *Not* Explore One’s Bisexuality48:32 - Would She And Her Partner Even Open Things Up Again51:17 - Did She Tell Her Family And If So, Why54:41 - What Self Work Does She Recommend For Those Contemplating Opening Their Relationship58:05 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6.Thanks to our sponsors!- Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack!- Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars!- Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today!Our Word Watch sponsor!- Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off!Time Stamps:0:00 - Housekeeping2:23 - Episode 6 Kick Off7:45 - Charity’s 1-On-119:10 - Evening22:54 - Group Date Card24:05 - The Next Day24:17 - Group Date27:19 - Evening40:19 - Flashpoint46:37 - Ariel’s 1-On-151:58 - Afternoon54:56 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party1:00:34 - Rose Ceremony1:01:36 - Credits1:02:30 - Andy’s A-Game1:02:49 - Shandy Word Watch1:04:29 - PredictionsIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyMore Dear ShandyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandyFacebook - https://fb.me/dearshandyMore SharleenInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntBlog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.comMore AndyInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineProduced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillionSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your romantic proposal was underwhelming at best, is there any way to fix it? Is what feels like a Hallmark Love Story to good to be true? And, as The Mistress, just how long is too long to wait for him? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors!- Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription!- Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY60 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box!- Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain!Time Stamps:0:00 - Q1: I Never Got My Romantic Proposal—How Can I Fix This?9:11 - Q2: Am I The (Oblivious) Asshole?19:36 - Q3: Am I Crazy To Consider Moving For This Hallmark Christmas Love Story?32:40 - Q4: I’m Seeking Advice On How To End A Friendship42:43 - Q5: I’m The Mistress—How Long Should I Wait For Him?If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donationsSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevinePrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacySupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.