Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau

In this episode we chat: Why we keep saying "let's see how it goes", what it costs is to ignore the GLARING red flag when something feels.... off, and how to start thinking and moving differently. You'll hear how to spot where you're taking on unnecessary misery and CONFUSION and how to make decisions that actually serve you—without going back and forth, without the noise, and with a whole lot of clarity. What You'll Learn in This Episode: "Let's see how it goes" can be costly—learn to notice the red flags before they cost you. Focus on what you can control: your actions, your standards, and your energy-- and invite God into the process Make a departure with self-negotiation and begin to lead with choices that protect your time, peace, and future. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode we chat: An HONEST conversation about how delivery MATTERS when it comes to honesty inasmuchas the message itself and how it can either strengthen or erode trust when it comes to relationships both romantic and platonic What You'll Learn in This Episode: Navigating "I was just being honest" conversations Honesty that controls and manages vs. the honesty that edifies Stewarding and sharpening your own relationship with honesty- both in how you give it and how you receive it from the people you trust IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode we chat: Stewarding your voice when it comes to handling conflict, frustration, and points of contention with people without stepping out of YOUR character and simultaneously, without being a doormat. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How to handle situations where you're frustrated with someone and even tempted to lash out at them without giving into your ego/into your flesh Where you might be getting into God's business when it comes to handling people in confrontation and points of contention Being "nice" vs. being kind and why being nice does NOT work in boundary setting How to set boundaries with people who are frequently defensive, offended, and inflamed in conversation. IG: @clearernotlouder

Welcome to the FIRST epsiode of Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau (formerly known as the Self Love Fix Podcast)! In this episode we chat: The difference between presence and performance—and why leaning into presence can cause effortlessly shift your ability to connect to others in everyday conversation and in relationship EASILY and in a RELAXED manner. Think dropping the act of APPEARING a certain way and being HYPERVIGILANT to how others are perceiving you. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How God slowed me down and showed me the power of presence-- inadvertently-- through two hobbies I picked up during my year-long hiatus: baking and gardening. The difference between how people experience you and how you experience others depending on whether you are oriented in presence or performance How presence vs. performance shows up in everyday life (in ways you might not even notice or think about!) Practical- and easy- steps to start cultivating presence in your life IG: @clearernotlouder

Hi friend! It's been... a while. I know. Forgive me, girl. We're back but get this... we're coming back with a NEW name, NEW vision, same voice, same vibes 3.12.26. Tune in to this trailor to find out the new podcast name and find out: The new vision for the podcast, where we're headed What we've learned from the Self Love Fix Podcast and what we're taking as we're moving forwards A mini riff giving a peek into the new podcast! The new name! See you in the FIRST episode of the new podcast 3.12.26 xx Beatrice

In this episode we chat: Leaning on God's wisdom and not your own understanding What's going to be happening hear on the pod for the next 2 months! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join the FREE Valued Woman challenge 10 day challenge below to enjoy 10 EASY to apply tips to start VALUING yourself STRAIGHT to your inbox! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE VALUED WOMAN CHALLENGE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat: The Proverbs 31 woman and how she demonstrated how she VALUES herself FINDING time to maintain and care for yourself even with a busy schedule-- it's there I promise!! How the way you carry yourself INFLUENCES how people treat you WORK WITH BEATRICE: I'm running a free 10 day email challenge called The Valued Woman challenge eek!! Over a 10 day period I will be sharing 10 EASY to apply tips to start VALUING yourself STRAIGHT to your inbox... for FREE! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE VALUED WOMAN CHALLENGE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat: The 30 things I've learned since turning 30! I promise these are non-generic and totally worth the listen! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to catch the valued masterclass at $19.95 ONLY through midnight 1/23/25 in honor of my 30th birthday! Valued is:a powerful, 52 minute masterclass that takes you from EFFORTING your way into SCRAPS of attention from INCONSISTENT MEN to attracting the types of men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU through their actions CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat: What I'm doing different in 2025 vs 2024 when it comes to goal setting and why 2024 was quite... directionless. My yearly goal setting + executing process (and why vision is KING when it comes to goal setting) Actionable tips all along the way on how to set, execute, AND ACHIEVE ALL your 2025 goals WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass at $77 where I teach you how to go from being a SLAVE TO ATTENTION from a man (aka WAITING ANXIOUSLY next to your phone and putting it on DND to avoid seeing zero notifications, hinting at him to do more even though you know he won't, and feeling CONFUSED ABOUT HOW HE FEELS because he doesn't make you feel SECURE by TELLING you how he feels about you... to stepping into the SOFT, RELAXED feminine woman who attracts men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU with your actions. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat: The Personal Development to Spirituality to "My Truth" Pipeline Manifestation and what they DON'T tell you about the spiritual world God, the Truth, + the Spiritual Realm WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass at $77 where I teach you how to go from being a SLAVE TO ATTENTION from a man (aka feeling CONFUSED ABOUT HOW HE FEELS because he doesn't make you feel SECURE by TELLING you how he feels about you... to stepping into the SOFT, RELAXED feminine woman who attracts men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU with your actions. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why it's VERY HARMFUL to "see" how things are going and "wait it out" when you KNOW he is a walking dealbreaker How to STOP undermining your dealbreakers when you come across the "nice guy" the guy that seems like "the one" What it looks like to have dating/the marriage thing/the man thing be an IDOL in your life The dangers of IDOLIZING a man and therefore putting him in God's place WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass at $77 where I teach you how to go from being a SLAVE TO ATTENTION from a man (aka feeling CONFUSED ABOUT HOW HE FEELS because he doesn't make you feel SECURE by TELLING you how he feels about you... to stepping into the SOFT, RELAXED feminine woman who attracts men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU with your actions. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Letting go of OVER-EXPLAINING or JUSTIFYING yourself + your decisions How talking TOO MUCH can actually be a sign of a LACK of confidence Why confident people say LESS WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era CLICK HERE TO ENROLL IN THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Confidence vs. FAKE confidence and how to tell the difference Ways insecurity masks itself through FAKE confidence How walking in FAKE confidence is actually incredibly manipulative WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Confidence vs. FAKE confidence and how to tell the difference Ways insecurity masks itself through FAKE confidence How walking in FAKE confidence is actually incredibly manipulative WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... That feeling of OBSESSION with him wanting you back and what to do about it The surprising reason behind the OBSESSION that I guarantee you are not aware of Leaning on God during this time for strength and the ability to LET GO WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... The ONE wounded feminine trait you have that keeps causing you to get FRUSTRATED and EXHAUSTED by dating The dangers of being unequally yoked mentally and emotionally with a man Why dating a man who is operating on a mental and emotional level that is underdeveloped is a destiny KILLER for YOU.... AND HIM. WORK WITH BEATRICE: CLICK HERE TO CATCH THE SCHOOL OF RELAXED DATING™: THE FOUNDATIONS The School of Relaxed Dating™ is a foundational, one-of-a-kind school that teaches you how to effortlessly elevate your love life through skyrocketing your confidence around men and calling forward masculine, provider men who adore, cherish, and VALUE you through their ACTIONS. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... How to navigate doubting the romantic connection you're in whether you're single or in a relationship The two types of doubt that exist in dating and relationships Walking in God's best for you WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text back or you don't experience the PROTECTIVE, provisional, I'm-gonna-treat-you-soft vibes from men or in your relationship Click here to sign up to the Dating Confidential for FREE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... How the patriarchy has distorted your view on your relationship status + what it means about you The privilege in being single that most do not SEE How to THRIVE in your singleness WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text back or you don't experience the PROTECTIVE, provisional, I'm-gonna-treat-you-soft vibes from men or in your relationship Click here to sign up to the Dating Confidential for FREE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... How I was able to bounce back after my break up SO QUICKLY How to RESTORE your belief in love and ability to love after a break up or after someone betrayed your trust Forgiveness after a relationship or betrayal WORK WITH BEATRICE: I am running a FREE love + dating masterclass event called The Dating Confidential. This is for you if you... can barely get a text back or you don't experience the PROTECTIVE, provisional, I'm-gonna-treat-you-soft vibes from men or in your relationship Click here to sign up to the Dating Confidential for FREE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why it is that the wrong men will waste your time for months, years even and think nothing of it. How boys-- NOT masculine men!-- will waste your time if you're not careful and how masculine men will approach you much MUCH differently. The case for celibacy, why I'm such an advocate for it-- and why I VERY MUCH BELIEVE masculine men will gladly WAIT! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why your STATE of peace + rest should be HIGHLY REGARDED and why the RIGHT MAN would do anything in his power to MAINTAIN your state of rest/peace The consequences of being around people who CONTINUALLY disturb your state of rest How to become someone that LISTENS TO ACTIONS more than words WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why every single person on this planet has VISION + an ASSIGNMENT from God The importance of keeping the RIGHT COMPANY and knowing when to zip it when it comes to the vision you have for yourself for MORE out of life How God has a plan + a vision for you and why you should know it! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Why MEN are providers and BOYS are not The difference between BOYS and MEN and spotting it in dating How the RIGHT man actually will invite EASE + make you 100x the woman you already ARE WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... The influence of spirituality in the online and personal development space Naiveté around spirituality and my relationship to it The spirituality that WORKS WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... A life update! What does it mean to be ON ASSIGNMENT/in your purpose and the impact of it on your dating life What happens to your assignment/purpose when you deal with WOUNDED masculine energy WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... The 4 controversial dating beliefs I have including ONE I used to be FULLY AGAINST-- Tune in to find out what it is! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the FREE 6 day email challenge In Your Feminine Era Click here to purchase dating apps 101 CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... Wounded feminine vs. Balanced feminine when it comes to what she's LOOKING FOR in dating Why his ATTENTION shouldn't be impressive The difference between ATTENTION and being VALUED WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to purchase dating apps 101 If you're ready to go from SITUATIONSHIP to RELATIONSHIP, snag the FREE 5-day email bootcamp by clicking here CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

In this episode we chat.... The difference between the WOUNDED feminine and BALANCED feminine and how BOTH impact your dating life How to shift from SCARCITY to ABUNDANCE in dating What IS relaxed dating and why dating was NEVER meant to be frantic or have you anxious and on TEN checking your phone every couple of minutes WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to purchase dating apps 101 If you're ready to go from SITUATIONSHIP to RELATIONSHIP, snag the FREE 5-day email bootcamp by clicking here CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to share this with someone who needs it!

Listen to this to.... REMEMBER who God designed you to be and to understand the VALUE of a woman To STOP holding on for dear life for someone who doesn't put in any EFFORT TO EARN YOU To understand WHY the feminine is meant to be in a position of CHOOSING who is worthy of her heart not for her to be GIVING it to any old anybody WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to get access to Dating Apps 101 the masterclass shhhh it hasn't been released to the public yet but i'm quietly dropping it here (Save $10 through 4/18 ONLY) If you're ready to go from SITUATIONSHIP to RELATIONSHIP, snag the FREE 5-day email bootcamp by clicking here CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to share this with someone who needs it!

It's... been a while hasn't it bestie?! Well I have an AMAZING episode for you ALL about why it's been so hard for you to "know your worth" and why you should focus on knowing your VALUE instead. Your VALUE in general AND your VALUE in dating, relationships, marriage, work, your business etc, Tell a friend to tell a friend that i'm back!! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to apply for 1:1 coaching on dating/relationships If you're ready to go from SITUATIONSHIP to RELATIONSHIP, snag the FREE 5-day email bootcamp by clicking here CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were.

There's a THIN LINE between EXPECTATIONS and STANDARDS and knowing which is which is the difference between experiencing DISAPPOINTMENT in dating and actually experiencing what you WANT in dating. Listen in to this week's episode to find out more! CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR FREE FOR THE 4 DAY LIVE ONLINE EVENT ELEVATED IN LOVE where you learn how to go from confused about your love life to navigating love and dating with maturity and confidence WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to apply for 1:1 personal coaching and-- BIRTHDAY MONTH SPECIAL--enjoy BONUS month of coaching calls + voxer access when you begin coaching by January 31st! CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were.

If you've found yourself landing in situationship after situationship... Or if you've felt the need to SPEED the dating process up or have felt anxious about "where things are going" this episode is FOR YOU! CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR FREE FOR THE 4 DAY LIVE ONLINE EVENT ELEVATED IN LOVE where you learn how to go from confused about your love life to navigating love and dating with maturity and confidence WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to apply for 1:1 personal coaching and-- BIRTHDAY MONTH SPECIAL--enjoy BONUS month of coaching calls + voxer access when you begin coaching by January 31st! CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were.

Dating is NOT supposed to be hard. It gets to be EASY. Tune in to find out what 5 things I would be doing if I were single in 2024 and looking for a SERIOUS, committed relationship. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR FREE FOR THE 4 DAY LIVE ONLINE EVENT ELEVATED IN LOVE where you learn how to go from confused about your love life to navigating love and dating with maturity and confidence WORK WITH BEATRICE: Head over to my website to apply for 1:1 personal or business coaching CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were.

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What if feelings of unworthiness aren't really your problem when it comes to actually experiencing the kind of relationship you desire? What if there's something TOTALLY different to consider instead? Tune into this week's episode to find out what exactly that is... CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE WAITLIST AND GET ACCESS TO THE BIGGEST SALE OF THE YEAR: BEATRICE'S CHRISTMAS BLOWOUT SALE WORK WITH BEATRICE: Head over to my website to apply for 1:1 personal or business coaching Listen to OFF THE RECORD, a deep-dive into some of the most intimate parts of my own relationship and how we handle arguments, disagreements, the masculine + feminine dynamic in our relationship and MORE: https://beatricekamau.com/otr CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau

If you've ever felt like something is wrong with YOU because you keep attracting the SAME types of men over and over again... Men who are emotionally unavailable... Men who are not interested in commitment... Men who are unfaithful... etc. There's actually something DEEPER to the story. It's not that you're doomed. Or that something is wrong with you. It's that you may have an UNCONSCIOUS dating pattern running the show and you don't even know it. Tune into this episode to learn more. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Head over to my website to apply for 1:1 personal or business coaching Listen to OFF THE RECORD, a deep-dive into some of the most intimate parts of my own relationship and how we handle arguments, disagreements, the masculine + feminine dynamic in our relationship and MORE: https://beatricekamau.com/otr CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau

There is... a lot of immaturity in dating that shows up in the form of thinking EVERYTHING is a red flag. Not everything is a red flag. MATURITY in dating is understanding 1. That not everything is a red flag and 2. HOW to discern what IS from what ISN'T a red flag. 3. You'll have to listen to the rest of the episode to find out! ;) WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join the Woman of Desire waitlist (Save 50% off enrollment when the pre-sale begins the week of Nov 20) Head over to my website to apply for 1:1 personal or business coaching Listen to OFF THE RECORD, a deep-dive into some of the most intimate parts of my own relationship and how we handle arguments, disagreements, the masculine + feminine dynamic in our relationship and MORE: https://beatricekamau.com/otr CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau

If you're hunched over your phone with your magnifying glass out, organizing a conference call with ten of your girlfriends at once, and desperately trying to untangle whether the person you're "talking to" wants to be in a relationship with you… He doesn't. I say this with so much love: if you have to do this, you aren't actually confused at all about how he feels. You know he isn't interested in having a relationship…you just don't like that answer. Desire is not ambiguous. Desire is CLEAR. Desire is BOLD. Desire doesn't dither in the background waiting its turn. When a man desires you, you'll know. So let's talk about what it actually means when you're "confused" about what "he wants." WORK WITH BEATRICE: Listen to OFF THE RECORD, a deep-dive into some of the most intimate parts of my own relationship: https://beatricekamau.com/otr CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

If you've given up on dating…this episode is for you. I'm not talking about the people who truly do not desire a relationship. I'm talking to the people who have a soul-deep desire for a relationship, but have gotten so discouraged that they're ready to throw in the towel entirely. Listen to me–I don't care what your situation is. I don't care if you're in your late 20s, 30s, 40s, etc. I don't care if you've been divorced four times and can't imagine a relationship ever working out. I don't care if you've never been in a healthy relationship and are struggling to believe they even exist. A relationship IS possible for you–yes, YOU. And if you're walking around with your head down, living in defeat, certain it's never going to happen for you…let me give you some hope today. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Listen to OFF THE RECORD, a deep-dive into some of the most intimate parts of my own relationship: https://beatricekamau.com/otr CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your majortakeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

If you believe it's IMPOSSIBLE to attract the type of man that has ambition, makes plans, and takes charge in your relationship…I may have an idea why that is. And you're probably not going to like hearing it. Once upon a time, I was in the same shoes as you: fed up with attracting men who wouldn't so much as initiate a phone call, sick of having to do ALL the work in every relationship, and wondering where all the ambitious men were. But you know what else I believed? That men were dumb as rocks. No, really. I genuinely, wholeheartedly believed that men were inferior to me, that they couldn't do anything right, and they needed my guidance in everything… But if that was true, well…why on earth would I want to have one of them leading me? It doesn't matter what you consciously say you want. If your unconscious mind believes men are inferior, the unconscious will win over the conscious every time. Let's talk about why this superiority is actually sabotaging our dating lives. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

There's one stage of new relationships that no one talks about. We try to pretend it doesn't happen. In fact, we do one better (or worse): we usually dip out of the relationship the second we enter this phase. The first phase of any new relationship is the honeymoon phase…and it is POWERFUL. That cocktail of hormones hits HARD. We're floating on cloud nine. All we see in front of us is our perfect, amazing partner. Everything they do is so cute and sweet and amazing… Until it isn't. Until one day, we wake up and notice every little thing about them that actually annoys us. Welcome to the DOUBTING PHASE: the phase of relationships where we suddenly see the reality of our partner, not our hormone hopped-up perception of them. The comedown hits even harder than the high. And unfortunately, this is where most people decide it's time to end the relationship, because "the magic" is gone. This phase is normal. Everyone has it. But we need to change the way we approach the doubting phase…because if we bide our time and make it to the other side, what's waiting for us is a phase of love unlike any other. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Sign up to receive daily tips over a period of 5 days on how to attract men who desire COMMITMENT–because they DO exist: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101 Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

If you're walking around telling yourself "I DESERVE a relationship…" Sit down for a second. Let's talk. I say this because I love you: you do not "deserve" a relationship. You don't deserve anything from another individual just because you want it. Imagine if you walked into a job interview. You did no prep. You did no research. You wore your sweats. And when they start asking you questions, you just go, "What do you mean? Why are you asking me this? I deserve this job. Just give it to me." They would look at you like you were FUCKING DELUSIONAL…because you'd have to be in order to act that way. We all know we can't act like that in most areas of our lives. But when it comes to dating…all that goes flying out the window, and suddenly we're deep in our entitled princess energy, believing we deserve something we didn't put in the work for. If dating feels like it's too hard, it's probably because you're approaching it with a heavy vibe of entitlement and need. But I promise you this: if you just shift this perspective, your dating life will be completely transformed. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Sign up to receive daily tips over a period of 5 days on how to attract men who desire COMMITMENT–because they DO exist: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101 Want to get to know the woman behind the podcast? Find me in these TikTok streets: https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeatricekamau Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

"God must be out to get me." "This must be some kind of cosmic joke." "You know what? Fine. I don't want a relationship anyway." "I'm focusing on my career. I don't need a man." If any of these sound familiar, then this episode is for you. If you're the kind of person who truly enjoys being single…good for you! But if you're saying you're fine with being single, then absolutely SEETHING with anger and bitterness every time you see a happy couple… I don't think you're being honest with yourself. If you say you don't want a relationship when you actually do, you become the thing that's sabotaging you. Because when you decide you don't want something…God's going to listen. And pretending you don't care isn't going to trick him into giving you what you want. This might be a confronting episode for you, but as someone who's been where you are…trust me. Once you come face to face with the truth of your desires, your dating life will NEVER be the same. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Get access to the replay of OBSESSION, a TRANSFORMATIONAL masterclass on how to transcend out of comparing yourself to EVERYONE and into feeling MORE THAN SECURE + IN LOVE with where you are currently at in life, love, and business: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/obsession-masterclass/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Sign up to receive daily tips over a period of 5 days on how to attract men who desire COMMITMENT–because they DO exist: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/2ee1aa3101 Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea

I love delving into the shadowy parts of ourselves that no one likes to talk about…comparison being one of them. We all compare ourselves to others. We all feel envious of someone else's successes, both in business and in relationships…especially when they're in the same industry as us. And I don't think these experiences are wrong…but when we lie about it to ourselves and refuse to OWN what we're thinking and feeling, that's when it becomes a problem. When we try to pretend we aren't playing the comparison game, we actually end up unconsciously letting it steal it the driver's seat…and before we know it, our businesses are being run by our perceptions of what others have achieved and what we think we're doing "wrong." There are ways to quit the comparison game…and it starts with looking for places where we might be acting a liiittle entitled. Let's examine this together. WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join OBSESSION, a TRANSFORMATIONAL masterclass on how to transcend out of comparing yourself to EVERYONE and into feeling MORE THAN SECURE + IN LOVE with where you are currently at in life, love, and business: https://beatricekamau.thrivecart.com/obsession-masterclass/ CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Head over to my website to learn more about how we can work together to shift your energy & transform your life. Sign up for Indulgent and Balanced™, a guilty-pleasure, FREE monthly newsletter filled with tips, honey, and sweetness designed to help you experience a delicious and pleasure-filled life FIRST so that you can take action from an aligned place: https://bold-hill-3643.ck.page/87dcb0b30c Join The Shameless Societea, where luxe bitches get together and learn to hold themselves to a higher standard, to be celebrated, to be supported, and to expand through community and vulnerability. This is where you come home to yourself. Welcome HOME. https://www.facebook.com/groups/theshamelesssocietea