Better Than Happy

Most people are living their lives unconscious of what is creating their emotions and a portion of this includes mirroring the emotions of others. We get mad that our husbands are mad about something. We worry about our children when they are worried. We feel negative about our sisters' negativity. This is a tool I use with my clients to gain awareness which is the first step to creating a more peaceful life. When you recognize your brain is just mirroring emotions, you can choose a different emotion. The post Ep 119. Mirroring Emotions appeared first on Jody Moore.

We have so much knowledge about how to take care of ourselves physically. We teach our kids about nutrition and we understand the value of exercise. We brush our teeth even when we don't have a toothache. All of this in the name of physical hygiene. But when it comes to our mental and emotional health most people have no idea where to begin with hygiene. Today I'm going to help you get started. The post Ep 118. Mental Hygiene appeared first on Jody Moore.

It's common in a marriage for one person to take a one-up position and the other a one-down. This dynamic can easily get reinforced over time and ultimately causes problems in the marriage. Today I'm taking you on a deeper dive of what each looks like so you can identify where you place yourself in your marriage. Then I'm talking you through the main problems created with this type of inequality in your mind. The goal for each of us should be equality in our marriage. The post Ep 117. Equal Partners in Marriage appeared first on Jody Moore.

How do you know if you should have another baby or you're done? And what if you feel you should have more but your husband is done? How do we know what Heavenly Father wants for us and how can we find peace about such a big decision? The post Ep 116. Should You Have More Babies? appeared first on Jody Moore.

When you're in an emergency situation your brain knows to laser focus in on what's happening right here right now. It's one of the amazing functions of the amygdala. But when we're in the midst of a trial or challenge, zooming in to have a more short-term focus can be useful. The post Ep 115. Zoom In or Zoom Out appeared first on Jody Moore.

Circumstances are neutral. Always. Our brains don't always want to embrace this and often don't remember it, but it's still true. Today I'm teaching you three things that prevent us from really understanding this. Number one, we have memorized thought loops that have to be retrained in our brains or the feeling we have about circumstances happens instantly. Secondly, if everyone around us has the same opinion we do about our circumstance, we have a hard time recognizing that all of this is optional. The post Ep 114. Circumstances Are Neutral appeared first on Jody Moore.

When we operate from gratitude and abundance, we attract more goodness into our lives. We get to experience the world differently. We get to feel what we desire to feel right here and right now even without anything changing or without having anything different. Today I'm teaching you about appreciation (which I like to utilize to build confidence and recognize my own value which comes from Heavenly Father who created me) as well as gratitude and abundance and how to experience more. The post Ep 113. Appreciation, Gratitude, Abundance and Desire appeared first on Jody Moore.

I have an amazing mom. Seriously. The best. She's been on my mind a lot lately as she is battling some health issues and my heart is hurting for her. Today I want to share with you 20 things I learned from her so as to share her with all of you and pay tribute to this woman I love. The post Ep 112. I Learned This From My Mama appeared first on Jody Moore.

In the LDS Church we're counseled to stay away from pornography and taught that it can have a negative impact on relationships and on the home and family. Today I want to teach you more about what goes on in the brain with pornography and my goal is to minimize the damage that pornography can cause in your home and your life if you or someone you love struggles with it. The post Ep 111. Pornography appeared first on Jody Moore.

Last week I did a Q/A call. You showed up and brought amazing questions! I loved answering them from you and wanted everyone who couldn't be there to benefit from hearing them. It's the real life application of this work that makes it life altering. Check it out here. Real questions. Real answers. The post Bonus Episode. Real Questions & Real Answers appeared first on Jody Moore.

There are three types of people operating in this world. The first type of person doesn't realize that they are the cause of all of their emotions and outcomes in life. They believe that outside forces are the reason and they delegate the responsibility to them leaving themselves powerless in their lives. The second type of person doesn't sit back and remain a victim. Instead they step up and change their circumstances to make things better. The post Ep 110. Three Types of People appeared first on Jody Moore.

Anxiety is defined as a form of worry, fear or stress but if you've ever experienced anxiety, you know it's much more than that. Anxiety is a secondary emotion and it's caused by resisting the primary emotion which is likely worry, stress or fear. Today I'm going to teach you what to do with the primary emotion to keep it from escalating. I'm also going to help you know what to do when (despite your best efforts) you find yourself experiencing anxiety anyway. The post Ep 109. Anxiety appeared first on Jody Moore.

Dr. Deb Butler is a Master Certified Life and Weight Coach and today she's sharing with us some of her most valuable tools. First we'll learn about the hunger scale and why most of us have lost touch with our bodies. When you learn to eat when you're just slightly hungry and stop when you're just slightly full, your body will be your guide and you get back in touch with what food should be… fuel for your body. The post Ep 108. Stop Counting Points and Start Losing Weight appeared first on Jody Moore.

There are three types of business. Your business, other people's business and God's business. Your brain wants to spend a lot of time in God's business and even more in other people's business because it believes that if you can get the things outside of you to do what you want, then you can have the life you want. This is a waste of your mind juice. Today I am going to teach you how to stay in your business and why doing so will give you freedom and peace. The post Ep 107. Stay in Your Own Business appeared first on Jody Moore.

The way you think about money will determine what your result with money looks like in your life. So many people are struggling with the drama of money and today I want to give you some insight to help you gain some leverage on it. Money is neutral. It is just simple math. The post Ep 106. Money Beliefs appeared first on Jody Moore.

This is a question I get asked a lot so I thought today I would answer it for you. If you're interested in learning more about how to become a Life Coach, OR you're considering hiring a coach, there are some things I want you to understand and consider. The post Ep 105. How To Become a Life Coach appeared first on Jody Moore.

Judgement never serves us. It's small minded and fear based and toxic for our Spirits in the long run. Discernment on the other hand is wise and loving and useful to help us feel more love, protect ourselves, and deliberately create the lives we want. Check out today's episode to minimize judgement and increase discernment. The post Ep 104. Discernment appeared first on Jody Moore.

You know that feeling. Your lip starts quivering and despite your best effort you're unable to stop the waterworks. Crying is an automated response to intense emotion and it's a part of our humanness. It's nothing we need to apologize for. Our natural response is to begin worrying about what other people think or to tell ourselves to stop but neither of these is going to be helpful. Instead, just give yourself a moment. Pause. Breathe. Remind yourself that you are just feeling an emotion intensely. The post Ep 103. Why We Cry appeared first on Jody Moore.

What makes us feel The Spirit? Is it doing things like reading our scriptures, saying prayers or going to the temple? If we don't feel it does it mean we aren't allowing it or that it's just not there? What if I'm doing all the right things but I'm not feeling close to God? Today I'm going to teach you what creates that feeling and I hope to correct the way we talk and think about this important part of our experience here on Earth. The post Ep 102. When You're Not Feeling the Spirit appeared first on Jody Moore.

After working with hundreds of women on improving themselves and their lives I find that there is a lot of confusion about self compassion and self pity. Self pity keeps you stuck and is extremely disempowering and generally leaves us overwhelmed and hopeless. Self compassion on the other hand gets us moving in the right direction, brings us out of hiding and helps us redirect in a useful way. The post Ep 101. Self Compassion vs. Self Pity appeared first on Jody Moore.

Did you know that when you take some time to retrain your brain to think loving, kind, compassionate thoughts about yourself, you end up thinking about yourself less often? Today I'm talking to you about choosing your thoughts about yourself on purpose. The post Ep 100. 100 Things to Love About You appeared first on Jody Moore.

Today I'm talking with fellow LDS Life Coach Kim Giles of Clarity Point Coaching. Kim's teachings were one of the first I discovered when I began my own journey as a coach and I am thrilled to get to share her with you today. We dive into the idea that life is a test and Kim explains that while doctrinally this is correct, in reality life is actually a classroom. The post Ep 99. Individual Worth with Kim Giles appeared first on Jody Moore.

Today I want to reframe the way you think about failure. I want to clear up the misunderstanding most people have about what it is, what causes it and what it means about us and our lives. I also want to talk to you specifically about the question many moms have, "What if I am failing at being a mom?"; I am all for doing better but I want you to make those changes from a place of empowerment rather than from a place of shame. The post Ep 98. When You Feel Like A Failure appeared first on Jody Moore.

I've got a bonus episode for you today and it's going to teach you 3 reasons why emotions matter. Listen up and then make sure you sign up for my monthly coaching program Be Bold before June 1st as doors close and we get started mastering emotions on June 2nd. The post Bonus Episode. Why Emotions Matter appeared first on Jody Moore.

Let's face it. Most of us are approval addicts. When other people adore us we give ourselves permission to believe we are worthy of adoration. This is only a problem when someone doesn't adore us or is mad at us. Today I want to give you some tools and knowledge about why this is a challenge and what to do to find some relief from that tricky part of your brain that wants to tell you that this is a huge problem. The post Ep 97. When Someone Is Mad At You appeared first on Jody Moore.

Your marriage is the most prevalent relationship in your life. When you are happy in it, your life feels happy. When it's difficult, your life feels difficult. Human nature is to believe that what's preventing happiness in our marriages has to do with how our spouse behaves or feels or treats us. This is never true. It is always up to us what we want to experience and the feelings driving us will create our marriage. The post Ep 96. 5 Secrets to a Happy Marriage appeared first on Jody Moore.

Today I'd like to introduce you to a fellow coach and dear friend of mine Molly Claire. She's a phenomenal coach and she has some great insight to offer to us about some of the traps we fall into as mothers. With the best of intentions, many parents are not deliberately conscious of what is our responsibility and what is not. We are taking on our kids' success and emotions in a way that is harmful to us and our children. The post Ep 95. Avoiding the Mom Traps with Molly Claire appeared first on Jody Moore.

I'm so excited to teach you a little bit about Byron Katie and what she calls "The Work." These four questions followed by turnarounds give you a new perspective on any problem you are facing. Katie is one of the most inspirational and truly peaceful people I've observed and I know you will love learning about some of the wisdom she shares. The post Ep 94. Teachings of Byron Katie appeared first on Jody Moore.

I've pulled some of the questions sent in by listeners and I'm answering them for you on today's episode. These questions were selected because of the relevance I know they'll have for so many of you listening. I'll answer questions such as: "Where should I begin when I need a complete life make-over? How do I deal with the challenge of living with my parents? How do I forgive myself and my Bishop?" and "How do I let go of the need to be in control?" The post Ep 93. Questions and Answers appeared first on Jody Moore.

Today I'm sharing another real coaching call with a real client. Danielle is having trouble maintaining the schedule she outlined for herself and to make matters worse she feels pressure from her husband to do a better job. She's overwhelmed, feeling guilty and ready to do something about it. The post Ep 92. Jody Coaches Danielle on Maintaining Her Routine appeared first on Jody Moore.

If you've been listening to the podcast you know logically that other people do not have the control over our emotions that we tend to believe they do. But why is it so difficult to remember this? Why does it feel like they absolutely do make us feel things? Today we're taking a closer look at "difficult people" in particular and I'm giving you some specific examples and concrete steps to try out to minimize the impact of any difficult people in your life. The post Ep 91. Difficult People appeared first on Jody Moore.

Today I'm coaching another member of the Be Bold Community. This time Kassie talks to us about the roller coaster many of us know well when it comes to our health and weight. Do I keep trying to lose the weight or do I just be kind and compassionate toward myself and accept my body as is. Listen as I coach her on how to keep working on her goal without creating more shame and overwhelm around this challenging topic. The post Ep 90. Jody Coaches Kassie on Body Image and Weight Tools appeared first on Jody Moore.

Today I'm talking to you about the action that you take in your life. When there is a problem to solve or a goal you want to reach, I'm all for taking action…but first I want you to pay attention to the emotions that are fueling your action. The emotions fueling you will determine how effective your action is and what the result is that you get from that action. I want your fuel to be as empowering as possible. Tune in today for more explanation and specific examples. The post Ep 89. What's Fueling Your Action? appeared first on Jody Moore.

We're told that when we do what we're commanded, we are blessed. Today I'm sharing with you how the way the human brain functions and what we know about human behavior is a solid case for these blessings being automated when God created us. We'll talk about scripture study, prayer, forgiveness, service and tithing. The post Ep 88. Automated Blessings From God appeared first on Jody Moore.

I have 3 reasons why you shouldn't listen to me and I'm sharing them with you today. I'm also answering the most common questions I've been getting about the Be Bold Membership Program since there are just a couple days to get in! The post Bonus Episode: Why You Shouldn't Listen to Me appeared first on Jody Moore.

If you're new to the podcast this is a great first episode to introduce you to this work. These are the 5 lies about how the world works that most people don't realize are lies. Most people operate under the assumption these things are true and it causes a lot of unnecessary suffering, frustration, resentment and keeps us from reaching our full potential. The post Ep 87. New Listener? Start Here: 5 Lies About How the World Works appeared first on Jody Moore.

I'm so excited for you to listen to this coaching session. I believe listening to coaching will help you take what you're learning here on this podcast to the next level. It's the direct application of this work. Many of you will relate to what April has to say in some way but even if you don't, plug your own struggle in and see if you can gain some awareness for yourself as well. The post Ep 86. Jody Coaches April Who Wants to Be the Favorite appeared first on Jody Moore.

Today I'm going to begin by sharing a bit about my journey to becoming a Life Coach. Then we're going to learn about self-actualization. This term, coined by Abraham Maslow, is one most people have heard of but few understand. Today we're breaking down the 12 characteristics of a self-actualized person. The post Ep 85. Self Actualization appeared first on Jody Moore.

Today I'm delighted to welcome back Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. We're talking about how to teach our kids about their sexuality and the law of chastity without inviting shame. Dr. Finlayson-Fife touches on topics such as masturbation and pornography and helps us understand now to navigate these topics with children from babies through teenaged and young adult years. You won't want to miss this episode. The post Ep 84. The Law of Chastity Shame Free, with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife appeared first on Jody Moore.

Love and hate are powerful emotions. Many of us don't experience them at their extremes very often. But they have relatives known as like and dislike and many others. Today I'm challenging you to think about what you are creating in the world. Are you creating more love or more hate? The post Ep 83. Love and Hate appeared first on Jody Moore.

Today I am so thrilled to have Brooke Castillo join me on the podcast to talk about connection in your marriage. Brooke teaches us more about connection and love, what creates them in our minds, and how to feel more of both in our marriages. She explains how to feel whatever you want even if your husband doesn't do what you wish he would do. Brooke is an amazing teacher and dear friend and I can't wait for you to hear her thoughts on this topic. The post Ep 82. Brooke Castillo on Connection in Your Marriage appeared first on Jody Moore.

Your brain thinks that the things that happen in your life should be filtered through the lense, "How does this affect me?" This self interested position is not only unnecessary, it keeps us stuck, inhibits our relationships, limits our parenting and causes many other problems. But when we remember to tell ourselves, "It's not about you," we get to live the higher, more fulfilled life we are meant for. The post Ep 81. It's Not About You appeared first on Jody Moore.

Do you have a goal? I'm not talking about the to do list or the things you wish were habits but aren't yet. I mean a big, scary goal or a dream. If you believe you will do it someday…I want to help you make that someday be today. The post Ep 78. How to Get Started on Your Goals appeared first on Jody Moore.

Confidence requires ongoing work. It's not a checkbox that we're done with. Today I'm coaching a member from the Be Bold Community on how to quiet the voice in her head that tells her she's not enough and decide for herself exactly what enough means. The post Ep 80. Jody Coaches Amanda on Fostering Confidence appeared first on Jody Moore.

All of us have moments when we feel like a victim. A part of us finds some relief or validation in identifying this way. But for some people, victim mentality becomes a dominant personality trait leaving them constantly delegating responsibility for their emotional lives to people and things outside of them. The post Ep 79. Victim Mentality appeared first on Jody Moore.

If you describe yourself as someone who avoids conflict and is uncomfortable having a difficult conversation then I have good news for you. You just haven't been taught the skill of having difficult conversations and I'm going to teach it to you on today's episode. If you prepare yourself properly and utilize the tips I'm providing you today, then no matter what the outcome of the conversation you will feel good and you will take yourself and your relationships to the next level. The post Ep 77. How to Have a Difficult Conversation appeared first on Jody Moore.

To be vulnerable means to expose your weaknesses in such a way that you risk being harmed. No wonder we don't like it. We didn't get this far as a species by being vulnerable. But the truth is allowing ourselves to be vulnerable is how we truly connect with one another and as Brene Brown teaches, connection is what we are here for. Today I'm teaching you more about vulnerability and how to get more comfortable letting your representative take a back seat when it's appropriate. The post Ep 76. Vulnerability appeared first on Jody Moore.

I'm so excited about this episode. I have some great content for you dealing with why it's so difficult to change the results in our lives. If you find that you sometimes do better at your health goals or financial goals or being patient with your kids… but then you revert back to your old ways… there is a reason and there is a way to break the cycle. Today I'm teaching you the why and introducing a brand new program for 2017 where we will do the work together to help you conquer yourself. The post Ep 75. Changing Your Results and an Announcement appeared first on Jody Moore.

Ever feel like there isn't enough time? Like you're too busy? Like you missed a deadline? Time is like money in that it's easy to develop a scarcity mindset around. But being in a rush and worrying about what comes next robs us of enjoying the present moment and living our fullest lives. The post Ep 74. Perfect Timing appeared first on Jody Moore.

Do you have that voice in your head that cares about what other people think? Ever wish you didn't? Well, the truth is it's human nature and not caring at all isn't actually healthy. It's the part of you that makes you compassionate, empathetic and kind. Today I'm giving you some scenarios to consider and teaching you how to quiet that voice and feel more confident. The post Ep 73. What Other People Think appeared first on Jody Moore.