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You’ve been let down, put down, you’ve failed, and you’ve had your heart broken. Once we reach a certain age, it’s a given that we will have dealt with lots of life’s challenges. But then what do we do? Do we move forward with bitterness, or do we choose to use our experiences for good? We discuss Elizabeth Gilbert’s Facebook post about “innocent happiness” and “weathering happiness” – one we are given at birth, and one we fight for. A listener’s son gives her a hard time because she didn’t “make him” play piano when he was young, and she feels bad. We offer her a different way to look at it. Other Resources Parent/Daughter date night!!! Next in is our ZPR community screenings is a documentary called The Empowerment Project. This film documents ordinary women doing extraordinary things. It’s on Monday, May 18th @ York Theater in Elmhurst. Click here for tickets. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JTIogIwn8U0 Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

On today’s show we discuss Interruption Science, the study of the effects of interruptions on job performance. Not only do interruptions challenge our job performance, but they challenge our parenting skills and our ability to feel calm and happy. We also discuss Lean In Together, an organization that demonstrates that when men lean in for equality, they win, and so does everybody else. We answer listener questions about dealing with a child’s anger and what to do when our child wants to quit an activity. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C3GN9LRUzsc#t=24 Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

We speak with Dr. John Duffy the author of The Available Parent– Radical Optimism For Raising Teens and Tweens. He talks to us about how to minimize conflict and maximize satisfaction in your relationship with your child. We have a tendency today to over-parent, micro-manage, and under-appreciate our adolescents. Dr. John Duffy’s The Available Parent is a revolutionary approach to taking care of teens and tweens. Teenagers are often left feeling unheard and misunderstood, and parents are left feeling bewildered by the changes in their child at adolescence and their sudden lack of effectiveness as parents. The parent has become unavailable, the teen responds in kind, and a negative, often destructive cycle of communication begins. The available parent of a teenager is open to discussion, offering advice and solutions, but not insisting on them. He allows his child to make some mistakes, setting limits, primarily where health and safety are concerned. He never lectures — he is available but not controlling. He is neither cruel nor dismissive, ever. The available parent is fun and funny, and can bring levity to the most stressful situation. All of that is to say, there are no conditions to his availability — it is absolute. Dr. Duffy is a highly sought-after clinical psychologist, certified life coach, parenting expert, and proud parent. He has been working with teens, tweens, and their families for more than fifteen years. He has provided the critical intervention and support needed to help hundreds of families find their footing. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Cathy and Todd discuss why boys and men can experience emotional isolation and loneliness due to a lack of meaningful relationships with male friends. The inspiration of the discussion comes from a blog written by Mark Greene titled Why Do We Murder The Beautiful Friendship Of Boys. They also discuss the movie Whiplash and why it’s a perfect example of teaching from a place of fear and ego. They pay tribute to John Denver, a man ahead of his time, who understood the importance of self awareness, protecting the environment, and having compassion for all people. Other Resources We are bring the documentary “The Mask You Live In” to Elmhurst @ 7:00 on Wednesday, March 11th @ York Theater. The trailer is below. To order tickets, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

Agression. British theoretical physicist and cosmologist Stephen Hawking believes that the greatest threat facing us today is our inability to “correct our aggression”. We no longer require the amount of aggression that was useful hundreds of years ago, so it’s time to trust that empathy and compassion can be our new change agents. We also discuss The Four Agreements (specifically Agreement #2 – Don’t Take Anything Personally), why mindfulness is essential, and what you can say to a toddler when she sticks her tongue out at you. Other Resources We are bring the documentary “The Mask You Live In” to Elmhurst @ 7:00 on Wednesday, March 11th @ York Theater. The trailer is below. To order tickets, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

We discuss the book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success – How We Can Learn to Fulfill Our Potential, specifically the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset by Carol Dweck. Understanding the difference will make an impact on how your relate to yourself and your kids, and it will impact how your kids learn. We also discuss how to help kids trust themselves, how we can help kids make decisions, and how to “soften the edges” around our kids worry. We also answer a listener’s question regarding how to midify screen time for our kids. We mention an earlier podcast we did addressing this topic. It was called iPad, Throwing Snowballs at Cars, & “Roadhouse” as well as listen to our friend Hunter Clarke Fields explain how her partner has her back. She has a Daily Practice resourcse for moms that can be found @ http://hunteryoga.com/daily/start.php Other Resources We are bring the documentary “The Mask You Live In” to Elmhurst @ 7:00 on Wednesday, March 11th @ York Theater. The trailer is below. To order tickets, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

We speak with Author Annie Burnside about her book “From Role to Soul: 15 Shifts on the Awakening Journey” From her work with many who have awakened, Annie has learned that what it takes for us to finally quit trying to awaken, and simply awaken, is highly individualized. In her own life, she detected the 15 shifts that occurred within her. Yet, as she spoke with others, it becomes increasingly apparent that those shifts are pretty much common to the experience of awakening. In FROM ROLE TO SOUL, she takes us into the everyday nitty-gritty of what awakening is-what it looks like, what it feels like, and how it comes about. As you experience the shifts in your own life, you’ll find a new joy arising in you, a deep love of life flooding through you, and the kind of meaning and fulfillment for which you’ve always longed. Other Resources We are bring the documentary “The Mask You Live In” to Elmhurst @ 7:00 on Wednesday, March 11th @ York Theater. The trailer is below. To order tickets, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Cathy and Todd discuss the Oscars, specifically all of the amazing speeches and shout-outs for social change. They answer a listener’s question about a son that doesn’t want to be involved in extracurricular activities, and another question about how to parent together with different philosophies. They discuss why it’s important to discuss what we really want for our kids (emotional safety and self confidence so they feel connected to themselves and the world) and then use this as the basis of our decision making. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ukhLHK608PA https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A1jOuqhtluU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sy2WPtARfqU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=29GIiTP4-WY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xlW-aHC8KdI Other Resources We are bring the documentary “The Mask You Live In” to Elmhurst @ 7:00 on Wednesday, March 11th @ York Theater. The trailer is below. To order tickets, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

We discuss Cindy Crawford’s non-photoshopped picture that went viral and how women were normalized by its authenticity. We also discuss how to see situations from a child’s perspective and why it made sense when our youngest daughter ate a sleeve of Hershey kisses – instead of insisting that our kids listen to us, we can make sure we are listening to them. A listener appreciates how his partner tells him the truth, and we discuss the importance of being thoughtful when offering feedback to someone you love. Other Resources We are bring the documentary “The Mask You Live In” to Elmhurst @ 7:00 on Wednesday, March 11th @ York Theater. The trailer is below. To order tickets, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Cathy and Todd talk to Tara Mohr, an expert on women’s leadership and well-being. She is the author of Playing Big: Find Your Voice, Your Mission, Your Message, and she’s the creator of the Playing Big leadership program for women. Cathy first heard Tara Mohr at an Emerging Women conference, and she fell in love with her message and book. Listen as Tara talks about why women get blamed for not playing big, the two kinds of fear that hold us back, and why our inner mentor is our greatest guide. Find Tara at http://www.taramohr.com/ and read her viral blog post, 10 Rules for Brilliant Women. Other Resources We are bring the documentary “The Mask You Live In” to Elmhurst @ 7:00 on Wednesday, March 11th @ York Theater. The trailer is below. To order tickets, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Today we discuss our workshop with Dr. Daniel Siegel, Psychiatrist and Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute, where we learned more about mindfulness and how it can change every aspect of our lives AND our children’s lives. We also talk about our contribution to Kids in the House, a video parenting resource where experts address all of your parenting issues. A listener shares how her partner had her back, and we give you a sneak peek of our interview with Tara Mohr (on Conversations with People We Love) that will air Friday. President Obama made a surprise appearance at the Grammy’s last night talking about the It’s On Us campaign. The foundation of It’s On Us is: To RECOGNIZE that non-consensual sex is sexual assault. To IDENTIFY situations in which sexual assault may occur. To INTERVENE in situations where consent has not or cannot be given. To CREATE an environment in which sexual assault is unacceptable and survivors are supported. Did you take the pledge? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NEx-qyZAmqs Other Resources We are bring the documentary “The Mask You Live In” to Elmhurst @ 7:00 on Wednesday, March 11th @ York Theater. The trailer is below. To order tickets, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Todd and Cathy discuss a blog that offers 5 ways to raise kind children. They also talk about “dementia of the pre-occupied”, not a true diagnosis, but a great description of what it feels like when you begin forgetting why you walked into a room or what you planned to say next. They talk about why the teenage brain is different than ours, how to develop trust when communicating with your kids, and why the end of Parenthood was so good. Other Resources We are bring the documentary “The Mask You Live In” to Elmhurst @ 7:00 on Wednesday, March 11th @ York Theater. The trailer is below. To order tickets, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Do you ever hear (or say) things like this: Life is hard. Being good at school means you will be good at work. Don’t expect too much, then you won’t be disappointed. You can’t do it that way. Do you ever question whether or not these things are really true? This week Todd and Cathy bust open these so-called “facts” to recognize how these negative belief systems slow us down or keep us stuck. They also discuss “mini freedoms” and why they are so important to busy parents. Other Resources We are bring the documentary “The Mask You Live In” to Elmhurst @ 7:00 on Wednesday, March 11th @ York Theater. The trailer is below. To order tickets, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

We speak with Darius A. Loghmanee, MD Attending Physician, Sleep Medicine; Assistant Professor of Pediatrics, Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine. We cover all the bases from infants to adults. Is a sleep routine good, and if so what’s the best way of going about it. Dr. Darius shares with us why it’s not okay to tell your child to “go to sleep” and what you should say instead. You can learn more about Dr. Darius by going to https://www.luriechildrens.org/en-us/care-services/find-a-doctor/Pages/Loghmanee_Darius_2699.aspx Other Resources We are bring the documentary “The Mask You Live In” to Elmhurst @ 7:00 on Wednesday, March 11th @ York Theater. The trailer is below. To order tickets, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Todd and Cathy discuss why our actions dictate our priorities (a Gandhi quote), and how investigation into our priorities tells us a lot about what we think and believe. They also discuss Rob Bell’s new podcast (The Robcast) and his teaching about why “good can be the detriment of best”. They discuss the most recent country music mash up, and Todd shares his favorite scene from The is 40 when the dad (played by Paul Rudd) tries to introduce his wife and daughters to his music. They also share a listener’s audio clip about how her partner has her back, and they share a tournament of bad AND good. We also discuss the upcoming screening of The Mask You Live In at York Theater in Elmhurst, IL. It’s on Wednesday, March 11th and tickets are limited. Click here to reserve your seats – http://cathycassaniadams.com/product/the-mask-you-live-in/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FY8SwIvxj8o#t=204 Other Resources We are bring the documentary “The Mask You Live In” to Elmhurst @ 7:00 on Wednesday, March 11th @ York Theater. The trailer is below. To order tickets, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

On today’s show Cathy and Todd talk about why connection is essential if we want our children to listen and cooperate. If we are seeking changes in our children’s behavior, we need to we focus our attention on deepening the relationship and creating daily connection. We have to be willing to make consistent deposits in the emotional bank accounts of our loved ones – then we take withdrawls (disappointments, challenges, disagreements) without too much drama. Instead of focusing solely on how to change our children’s behavior, we can focus how to connect and communicate with our kids effectively – not just in times of crisis, but in everyday situations as well. The more we focus on connection, validating, listening, the better our children will be able to tolerate imposed limits. Cathy and Todd also take a listener’s question, play a touching audio clip about a listener’s wife had his back, and share why the song “Happy” is in the tournament of bad. We also discuss the upcoming screening of The Mask You Live In at York Theater in Elmhurst, IL. It’s on Wednesday, March 11th and tickets are limited. Click here to reserve your seats – http://cathycassaniadams.com/product/the-mask-you-live-in/ Other Resources We are bring the documentary “The Mask You Live In” to Elmhurst @ 7:00 on Wednesday, March 11th @ York Theater. The trailer is below. To order tickets, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

A listener shares how her husband has her back – he tells the kids that he loves them, but he loves their mom the most. We also discuss how negative behavior from your children is a method of communication – instead of yelling or punishing, consider asking questions and offering some attention. This will offer your child what he needs, and you may feel less frustrated. Do you have a short story of how your partner has your back? Share it with us! Go to zenpopparenting.com and click “send us a voice message”. Todd talks about managing his grief after the loss of his mom, and we discuss a listener question about how to talk to a spouse about authoritarian parenting. It takes compassion and kindness, but it can be done! We also discuss the upcoming screening of The Mask You Live In at York Theater in Elmhurst, IL. It’s on Wednesday, March 11th and tickets are limited. Click here to reserve your seats – http://cathycassaniadams.com/product/the-mask-you-live-in/ Other Resources We are bring the documentary “The Mask You Live In” to Elmhurst @ 7:00 on Wednesday, March 11th @ York Theater. The trailer is below. To order tickets, please click here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hc45-ptHMxo Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

They sound the same, but there is a distinct difference between detachment (giving up) and non attachment (opening up). If you learn the difference, forgiveness will become easier and you will inevitably experience more love in your life. Do your kids play “Dumb Ways to Die”? It sounds harsh, but it was actually created to prevent train/pedestrian accidents. Todd talks about the science behind spanking, and he shares more financial wisdom – this time about our national deficit. specifically an exercise showing the difference between a million, a billion, and a trillion. Best wishes for a wonderful 2015! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IJNR2EpS0jw The science of spanking- What Happens To Spanked Kids When They Grow Up? http://www.upworthy.com/the-science-of-spanking-what-happens-to-spanked-kids-when-they-grow-up?c=upw1 Previous podcasts on spanking can be found @ https://zenpopparenting.com/193/ and https://zenpopparenting.com/74/ money- do you know the difference between 1 million, 1 billion, and 1 trillion? Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It’s winter time which means it’s time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don’t you owe it to your ears to keep ’em warm? Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Cathy and Todd talk relationships and discuss and article (link below) from The Atlantic called “Masters of Love” In the article, it talks about the most current research about “master” and “disaster” partnerships. The biggest take away? If your partner sees a bird and points to it, look at the bird and acknowledge you’ve seen it. This is a metaphor for aspects of your relationship! Also, do you scan your relationship for kindness or for contempt? Be conscious of what you are looking for, because what you focus on grows. Todd shares some money tips (he loves money tips!), they play some clips from Frosty the Snowman, they laugh a lot, and they ask listeners to comment on how their partner showed up for them. Go to the Zen Parenting Radio website and click “send us a voice message” – share a brief story about why your partner has your back. “Masters of Love” Article by Emily Esfahani Smith Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Today we talk different parenting styles from a blog by Denise Stirk, Malala’s Nobel Peace Prize speech, and Todd shares more money tips. We also talk about why the best choices are made responsibly (rather than just running away or pretending something isn’t happening), and we answer a question about whether sleep training is practical option for a 3 year old. The link to hear a snapshot of Malala’s speech can be found below… http://www.upworthy.com/shes-known-as-malala-but-when-she-revealed-her-other-names-i-got-teary?c=upw1 Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Why are girls going through puberty early? Cathy and Todd discuss a recent NPR interview with the authors Julianna Deardorff and Louise Greenspan of The New Puberty. The book looks at the percentage of girls who are going through early puberty and the environmental, biological and socioeconomic factors that influence when puberty begins. They also discuss why sexuality is an ongoing communication, not a one-time conversation. Todd talks about Tony Robbins new book (Money: Master the Game), 401K’s, and why everybody needs to know more about money. The website Todd referred to that compared 401K plans can be found here. Cathy also shares some Zen wisdom that’s set the stage for her own self awareness. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Do you let others grow and expand or do you keep pulling them back down into the pot? When you try to crawl out and try something new, do family/friends/co-workers pull you down or deter you? When you change or grow it can be quite uncomfortable for the people around you. Just like crabs in a pot, we pull back the ones who are crawling out because change can feel risky and unpredictable. We also discuss how Billy Corgan reacted to Anderson Cooper’s slight. How would you handle public ridicule? We play some clips from our discussion with Dr. Darius, sleep expert who we interviewed for our next Conversations with People We Love, and Todd brings back Tournament of Bad because he’s got some bubble wrap issues. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0e5dB5BkxI Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Todd & Cathy share a marriage challenge where Cathy was able to speak up (not easy), and Todd was able to really listen (also not easy). In couplehood- Can we allow our partner to share their pain without taking it personally? Are we brave enough to ask for what we really want? Instead of preaching to others, can we begin to offer what we want to receive, love instead of fear, and BE the change we want to see in the world? Today Cathy and Todd talk about the challenges of today’s culture, but also the signs of meaningful change. They also talk about why we should trust our children to make good decisions rather than worry or “freak out”. Todd shares clips from Planes Trains and Automobiles because it’s Thanksgiving! We are grateful for you! Other Resources Receive Cathy’s new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st. Click here for more details. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6OS_AZt6pds&list=UUvdNYzqMwvAcwP0alEyHfPw Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

We talk with Mary Ellen Young & Sandra McDonnell about their book, Elements for Girls: A Fun and Engaging Self-Discovery Project. This book supports preadolescent and teenage girls on their journey of self awareness, and offers them a sense of acceptance and empowerment as they grow. We shared their book with our Be U girls, and have gotten tremendous feedback. Listen as we discuss the challenges faced by young girls and how to support them, and why this book may be the first step toward meaningful discussions. Other Resources Receive Cathy’s new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st. Click here for more details. Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Todd & Cathy discuss the “two wolves” parable and how we can use this when we are teaching our kids. An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life… “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. “One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego. “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. “This same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.” The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?” The old chief simply replied, “The one you feed.” Do you let your children surprise you or do you plan everything for them? Do you tell them how to compete, or do you let them figure out what competition means to them? Is true competition based on internal goals (doing the best of your ability) or external validation (being first/being better than others)? This week Cathy and Todd discuss these things and share how their children have been developing their own interests from a place of self understanding rather than obligation. Other Resources Receive Cathy’s new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st. Click here for more details. Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. In person workshop focusing on Sleep Strategies, Symptoms, and Solutions for your Child. Click here for more info… Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

On today’s show we discuss why it’s important to support children’s dreams, and why it’s important to do what you love. We talk about Dave Grohl, Jim Morrison, Billy Corgan, and other famous people who realized their dream regardless of what they were told. Parents can redefine what it means for their children to be successful, and they can focus their energy on acceptance and belonging. This results in children who are intrinsically motivated and who have a sense of self worth. Michael Jordan’s view of failure. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JA7G7AV-LT8 Alan Watts- What if money was no object? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KSyHWMdH9gk Other Resources Receive Cathy’s new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st. Click here for more details. Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. In person workshop focusing on Sleep Strategies, Symptoms, and Solutions for your Child. Click here for more info… Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

We interview Matt Theodores who is the director of Maine Boys To Men. Boys To Men supports the happy, healthy, non-violent development of boys and those who help raise them. By working with parents, teachers, coaches, boys and girls, Boys to Men challenges the pervasive messaging that defines masculinity in terms of violence, harassment, apathy and sexual conquest. Their programs support empathy, tolerance, respect, leadership, and critical thinking. In the interview, we discuss the focus of their program: Mission The Mission of Boys to Men is to reduce interpersonal violence, specifically male violence against women and girls, and support the development of emotionally fluent, civically engaged boys. Boys to Men will: • Provide assistance and educational resources to boys and those who help raise them. • Provide programming to students which challenge traditional gender stereotypes and sexism. • Increase community awareness about the challenges facing boys and the corresponding bias and violence against girls and women. Vision Boys to Men envisions a world in which: • Boys and men are loved and valued for who they intrinsically are without regard to arbitrary cultural stereotypes of masculinity, femininity, and gender roles. • All boys have the opportunity to develop into healthy men, supported by adult mentors who model healthy masculinity and respectful, nonviolent relationships. • The absence of violence and fear frees all people to be caring and productive members of society. Core Values Community Responsibility for Raising Healthy Boys: • It is the responsibility of the entire community to raise healthy, happy, non violent boys. • Adult male investment in the raising of boys is an indispensable component of transforming boys into men. Non-violence: • Violence is not the solution to any problem or conflict. • Violence prevention is an important responsibility of boys and men. • Every person has the right to live free of threats or acts of violence or abuse. Gender Justice: • Traditional media and cultural representations of masculinity and femininity are too narrowly defined and contribute to destructive and damaging behavior towards individuals of all genders and ages. • We are committed to eliminating the inequalities and institutional injustices that result from these traditional media and cultural representations of masculinity. Respect: • The ability to honor all people regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity and/or religion is essential to healthy development. • Respecting differences is a learned skill/ability and therefore young people must be taught to accept and value themselves, others, and the world around them. Other Resources Receive Cathy’s new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st. Click here for more details. Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

We’ve made it to 200! We celebrate by hearing from our listeners and by listening to some of our “greatest hits”. We also talk about the intention of Zen Parenting and why self awareness leads to more connected families and eventually, a more connected world. Thanks for listening, we appreciate you! We announce the release of Cathy’s new book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting as well as our two week Self-Aware Virtual Retreat. Information can be found below. Other Resources Receive Cathy’s new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st. Click here for more details. Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

Do you get annoyed by your fear? Are you tired of being afraid? We discuss how to shift the way we look at fear. Pema Chodron said, Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth, so maybe our fear is trying to help us, heal us, push us closer to who really are. We never stop being afraid, but we can begin to have a gentler relationship with the discomfort. We discuss how to talk to your kids about hitting – punishment and consequences may not be working, but how about a down-to-earth meaningful discussion. What is your child hoping to achieve by hitting? How you can support your children when they feel like hitting? What tools can your children use instead of hitting? Instead of using fear or shame, we can shift the focus to the feelings behind the hitting. Todd shares his weekend retreat experience with The Mankind Project. He was awakened to a whole different definition of masculinity. Other Resources Receive Cathy’s new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st. Click here for more details. Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men’s Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

Our guest Alfie Kohn, author of The Myth of the Spoiled Child, says that the negativity thrown at parents and the supposedly narcissistic kids they are raising is unfounded. Kohn says parents should work to raise kids with high self esteem, and that the fashionable belief that kids must develop grit and self-discipline through failure and suffering is unproven and often counterproductive. A few of the topics we discuss with Alfie: Warm responsive parenting is often confused with over indulgent and permissive parenting Punishment and rewards don’t work Competition is uniquely counterproductive We want to raise “reflective rebels” Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

We are always told to avoid “toxic” people, but sometimes it’s difficult to completely cut ties. This is when we learn to set boundaries. Cathy shares a metaphor she found in Glennon Melton’s latest blog – the reason we can see the beauty of a tiger behind bars is that we are safe from being devoured. If we don’t set up our own boundaries (bars), then we risk allowing others to take advantage of us (and we miss their beauty!). We also share the website worldpulse.com – it allows women from all over the world to communicate with each other and transform their circumstances. At 22:00, we interview Todd’s good friend Rick Williams. Rick shares the story of his wife Trish – for the last 19 months she has been dealing with Hydrocephalus. Rick has persevered to support Trish in unbelievable ways, but they have reached an impass – recovery is possible, but insurance has run out. To learn more and donate, please visit Trish’s fund raising page here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VM-MH0b6w44&feature=youtu.be Other Resources We invite you to attend a live webinar with us titled How is your Child Sleeping? It’s on Wednesday, October 22nd @ 8:00 Central. The discussion revolves around assessing your child’s sleep behavior and the effects on overall development. Register by clicking here. $15.00 to register. An inspirational story related to this workshop can be found below. It’s called “Finding Connor Deegan” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

Are you supporting your partner instead of listening to your own internal knowing? Are you choosing to support rather than voice your opinion? Supporting your partner and kids is important, but if you do it by hurting yourself, it can create resentment and disconnection. Cathy and Todd go deep on this one (think Zen Parenting grad school) and ask listeners to practice extreme self awareness. If you take care of yourself first, and do what feels right, it may create an environment for others to do the same. Cathy talks about Emerging Women, the conference she attended in New York this weekend. There were so many amazing speakers, and they all shared a similar message. Success comes from the inside, find your joy, and make a life, not a living. It’s time to bring female leadership into the workplace and into the world – it will lead to greater strength, compassion, forgiveness, creativity, and balance. Other Resources We invite you to attend a live webinar with us titled How is your Child Sleeping? It’s on Wednesday, October 22nd @ 8:00 Central. The discussion revolves around assessing your child’s sleep behavior and the effects on overall development. Register by clicking here. $15.00 to register. An inspirational story related to this workshop can be found below. It’s called “Finding Connor Deegan” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE Shameless plug for Cathy’s sister’s S.O.S. Pads campaign- Who knew? http://www.sosclorox.com/ Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

Our friend Shawn Bowen tells her story about her son Matthew who was diagnosed with down syndrome in the hospital 4 days after he was born. Matthew is now 7 and is amazing as he was when he showed up seven years ago. Shawn talks about her initial reaction to Matthew’s diagnoses, advocating for her son in a school system, Matthew’s health challenges, and how the perception of down syndrome has changed for the better as time goes by. Hope you enjoy… Other Resources We invite you to attend a live webinar with us titled How is your Child Sleeping? The discussion revolves around assessing your child’s sleep behavior and the effects on overall development. Register by clicking here. $15.00 to register. An inspirational story related to this workshop can be found below. It’s called “Finding Connor Deegan” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE Shameless plug for Cathy’s sister’s S.O.S. Pads campaign- Who knew? http://www.sosclorox.com/ Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

Do your kids love to dance, or play sports, or be artistic at home? Do you keep insisting that they need to take a class? We all want what is “best” for our kids, and that often means getting them into the “best” class with the “best” teacher at the “best” facility The intention is based in love, but what if your kid doesn’t want to take a class? Maybe he/she just wants to enjoy the creative process without being told what to do. We can always offer a class or opportunity for growth, but our kids know when they are ready to know more, and sometimes they don’t need as much guidance as we think they do. A few examples are Ballerina Mindy Copeland who didn’t start dancing until she was 13, and Saturday Night Live comedians Fred Armisen and Kristen Wiig who didn’t start their life in comedy until their early 20’s https://screen.yahoo.com/weekend-garth-kat-mothers-day-000000363.html We also answer two questions from our listeners – one who’s husband is displeased with his work and allows his feelings to affect the family, and the other is a mom who feels that time-outs are helping her son – she questions herself after listening to last week’s podcast on time-outs. We invite you to attend a live webinar with us titled How is your Child Sleeping? The discussion revolves around assessing your child’s sleep behavior and the effects on overall development. Register by clicking here. $15.00 to register Other Resources Shameless plug for Cathy’s sister’s S.O.S. Pads campaign- Who knew? http://vimeopro.com/bottlerocket/sos-pads-who-knew If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

Time-outs are typically viewed as an effective parenting technique, but the latest brain research suggests that they may be making things worse. Instead of using time-outs as a break, parents have used them as punishment. This isolates the child and eliminates the possibility for connection and compassion at a time when they need it most. We discuss the blog written by Dr. Daniel Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, where they share how the latest brain research have proved time-outs ineffective. We share an update about Erin and Aaron Kreiger – they shared their journey of grief and infant loss back in June – (click here for Part 1 and Part 2 ), as well as a blog titled 25 ways to ask your kids “So how was school today?” Other Resources If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Have you heard of He for She? This campaign, headed by the UN, is asking men to stand up and support gender equality – not just for the sake of women, but also for their own freedoms and for the welfare of our nation. Emma Watson is the Ambassador for He for She, and she gave an amazing speech yesterday in front of the UN. She was given a well-deserved standing ovation. Click here to check out HeForShe. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c9SUAcNlVQ4 Todd reads a few questions from listeners about childhood anxiety. Cathy talks about the importance of being self aware, practicing self care, and why finding our calm can create calm in our kids. She also suggests that we ask kids how we can support them – if kids are met with understanding and compassion rather than fear and shame, they can usually offer their own solutions for change. Todd brings back “Tournament of Bad” and explains why he is frustrated with Sharon Osbourne. Other Resources If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

In this “special edition” episode of ZPR, we discuss spanking and hitting, especially how it relates to the Adrian Peterson case. Three-fourths of our country still believes in spanking as an appropriate method of discipline, so instead of pointing fingers and demonizing, let’s discuss, understand, and pay attention to why and how this became acceptable. Emotions, outbursts, and negative behavior are all messages; our children’s way of communicating needs and challenges. Is causing them physical pain the best way to handle their self expression? Instead, can we take responsibility for the energy we bring, pay attention to our ability to listen and empathize, and focus on creating a connected and trusting relationship with our kids? In 1989 the United Nations proposed The Rights of a Child , this identified the human rights of a child, and made corporal punishment illegal. 38 countries ratified this resolution – the only two countries who did not were Somalia and the United States. As people and as parents we are supposed to grow and evolve, we are supposed to learn new ways of being. When it comes to spanking or harming a child in a physical way, we can break the cycle and wake up to a new way of relating to our kids. We posted a previous podcast on spanking which can be found here. Other Resources Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

as they try to change their worlds….are immune to your consultations, they’re quite aware of what they’re going through – David Bowie’s famous line from the song “Changes” sums up our misunderstanding of children today. Todd is sick of hearing people say kids are more spoiled than ever or kids are narcissistic, it was never like that when I was young….“The Myth of The Spoiled Child“, a book by Alfie Kohn, proves that these assertions are simply not true. We play a few clips from the documentary “Moving Forward” – it helps us understand and respect the impact we have on our children. More specifically we discuss the importance of two things that go wrong in childhood- things that should not happen, but do (abuse, neglect, etc.) and things that should happen, but don’t (have you ever heard of the term proximal abandonment?) The full feature can be found on Netflix, but you can watch a 30 minute clip by clicking here. We also discuss some improvements we have made to Be U, Inc, and how Cathy and I scared our kids by coming home an hour later than we promised – listen to how we navigated this challenging situation. Other Resources If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.

Our daughter was struggling to get out of bed this morning – struggling to get dressed, struggling to eat breakfast. The trick to dealing with a scenario like this is to check yourself before responding (even if you have to fake that you are not frustrated). If we meet this situation with a sense of calm and trust natural consequences, we may be able to sidestep some possible landmines. We discuss how to support your loved ones when they are grieving. Todd shares his insights after losing his mother last week. Power School is an on-line resource that monitors our daughter’s progress at her school on a daily basis. We must balance out the positives and negatives of such a resource and figure out what works best for both parent and child. We also discuss the best way to create change in your life. The answer is more simple than you think. Sometimes it’s as easy as “do something different.” Other resources If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Field School PTA are sponsoring a FREE screening of Race to Nowhere, The Dark Side of America’s Achievement Culture on Sept. 11th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.      

Instead of posting a new podcast, we are reposting one of our favorites, the one where we interview our moms. Unfortunately, Todd’s mom passed away last weekend, and we wanted to share this to honor her. We share some great stories, have some great laughs, and near the end, Sharon (we call her GG) shares how at peace she is with her family. Please listen and enjoy – and even more important, be good to each other. In honor of Mother’s Day, we invited our moms to talk about what we were like as kids. We also talk about the changes that have taken place from the time they were kids (a.k.a. the olden days) to raising us in the 70’s – we also discuss how their grandchildren are being raised. We get nostalgic and we have a lot of laughs. We love our moms! Other resources If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Field School PTA are sponsoring a FREE screening of Race to Nowhere, The Dark Side of America’s Achievement Culture on Sept. 11th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

We lost our “Zen Bunny” Greeley last week and it was a shock to our family. How do we deal with the grieving process, and how do we help our children deal with their sadness? As parents we need to allow our children to grieve, and respect that it’s an individual process. We also discuss how to handle “disrespect” from our children – are they trying to be mean, or are they trying to communicate something? If we can do our best to not be offended and communicate in a productive way, it will keep our relationships healthy. Have you seen the movie “Boyhood“? It’s a special movie and we give a quick review of this incredible film. We also answer a listener’s question about how to deal with energy vampires. Other resources https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IiDztHS3Wos Donate to Red Door Shelter If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Field School PTA are sponsoring a FREE screening of Race to Nowhere, The Dark Side of America’s Achievement Culture on Sept. 11th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

We discuss the newly revised version of “Stop Teaching Our Kids To Kill” a book written by Lt. Dave Grossman and Gloria DeGateano, Founder and CEO of the Parent Coaching Institute. Originally published in 1999, the book is updated and includes even more indisputable research that demonstrates the affects of violence on the child and adolescent brain. We also talk about the “Ignore No More” app created by a mom who wanted her son to respond to her texts/calls, and also Cathy’s blog titled , “Want Change, Then Rethink“. We also discuss why mini-breakdowns are the key to a healthy marriage (or any other relationship!). Other resources: If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Field School PTA are sponsoring a FREE screening of Race to Nowhere, The Dark Side of America’s Achievement Culture on Sept. 11th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

Robin Williams’ death prompts a discussion about mental illness and depression. We play some clips from his most meaningful roles as well as some of his stand-up. Mental illness carries a stigma that makes asking for help difficult. We support a group called NAMI (National Association of Mental Illness) and we discuss the importance of removing the stigma from mental illness. A few other clips discussed in the show: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C3yqXeLJ0Kg&list=PLZPBiTEeqgyqoiyay3UOAQoEwJO3r3tEI ****Warning- the clip below has explicit language https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wi-JlvBCl3A We also discuss Cathy’s blog about back to school anxiety – she suggests feeling it rather than avoiding it – this helps you process your feelings so you can be more available to your children. Other resources: Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

Sometimes we make decisions based on old patterns from childhood, even though they are unnecessary or unhelpful today. The first step toward understanding why we make certain decisions is to become more self aware and introspective. It also necessitates listening to other viewpoints and being conscious of our own defensiveness. Our children, spouse, and friends can all act as mirrors – allow them to help you see yourself better. For example, when Todd was younger he always asked friends to come over/join his family get-togethers because it reduced the possibility of family chaos (everyone was on their best behavior). But as a father in a calmer household, he still feels a “need” to have others around rather than just be present with his family. This “need” is based in an old pattern, an outdated method of protection that is no longer necessary. But it takes self awareness to recognize this – what are your outdated patterns? We also discuss an amazing blog written by Lea Grover called “This Is What Sex-Positive Parenting Really Looks Like” . We open up about how best to treat the topic of sexuality with your children. It starts by finding a sense of comfort with the topic, and deciding what values you would like to impart. Other resources: Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  

The NFL and Comissioner Roger Goodell handed down a punishment to NFL player Ray Rice for allegedly knocking out his fiance in an Atlantic City Casino. Some players have been suspended for 5 games for memorabilia violations, others 4 games for violating the league’s drug policy. Ray Rice received a suspension of ….. wait for it ….. 2 games! We discuss the inconsistencies of this decision and why this sends the wrong message to players and society. Two other resources supplied by one of our listeners can be found @ http://www.ncadv.org/need-help/what-is-domestic-violence and http://www.injuryclaimcoach.com/domestic-violence-help.html We also role play a conversation Cathy and I overheard during breakfast – a little girl wanted to share a story with her grandma, but Grandma was in “teaching” mode and missed a big opportunity for connection. We discuss how to listen and communicate with your children so you can both feel heard and appreciated. The Aspire App for victims of domestic abuse as presented by Dr. Phil. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qooHj4QLh3s Other resources: Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Is there a difference between a happy life and a meaningful life? We explore the subtle differences and why this understanding can change your life. We discuss a blog by Jed Diamond (Founder of the health program “Men Alive”) titled How the Science of a Meaningful Life Can Help Us Live Joyfully and Well: Happy people satisfy their wants and needs, but that seems largely irrelevant to a meaningful life. Happiness involves being focused on the present, whereas meaningfulness involves thinking more about the past, present, and future—and the relationship between them. Meaningfulness is derived from giving to other people; happiness comes from what they give to you. Meaningful lives involve stress and challenges. Self-expression is important to meaning but not happiness. In a recent New York Magazine article they summarize a study that concludes Men Would Rather Give Themselves Electric Shocks Than Sit Alone With Their Thoughts. We discuss why we’re so uncomfortable with our minds. In this week’s Hit ‘N Run Topic we discuss the new development regarding Archie’s Comic Digest. Other resources: Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

The topic of contraception and women’s rights can be so emotionally charged, it often leads to to yelling and judgment. But our listener, Charles, left us a respectful and informative message sharing his viewpoint. Can we disagree but still listen to each other in a respectful manner? It takes awareness and compassion, but it’s always possible. We also talk about listening with an “Empty Cup”: Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era, received a university professor who came to inquire about Zen. Nan-in served tea. He poured his visitor’s cup full, and then kept on pouring.The professor watched the overflow until he no longer could restrain himself. “It is overfull. No more will go in!”“Like this cup,” Nan-in said, “you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?” Sometimes we think it’s easier to complain about the perceived “shortcomings” of our loved ones rather than deal with the problem. In the long run, this can be the tougher way to go – communication breaks down and resentment builds up. We share some of our personal stories of discussing the difficult stuff, big or small (i.e. Todd makes an annoying sound when biting his nails) Other resources: Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

Have you ever heard of Kawasaki Disease? Chris and Monisha Lozier’s daughter Mae was a healthy and happy 4 year old until she got swollen glands and a fever. They found themselves living in a hospital for the next 9 days and eventually discovered their daughter had Kawasaki Disease. This is is an immune disease in which the medium-sized blood vessels throughout the body become inflamed. It’s cause is unknown, and it’s largely seen in children under five years of age. It affects many organ systems, and it’s rarest and most serious effects are on the heart – it can cause fatal coronary artery aneurysms in untreated children. Chris and Monisha takes us through their experience with Mae and how they eventually arrived at this diagnosis. They talk about advocating for your child in a hospital, misdiagnoses, and the blessings that can arise from such a challenging experience. No worries listeners, the story ends well (Mae just received a completely clear heart scan, she’s doing great!), but it is an important and interesting story that will keep us better informed. We hope you enjoy. Other resources: Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

We discuss a blog by Gayle Allen and Deborah Farmer Kris called “Why It’s Important To Teach Empathy To Boys”. They define empathy as the ability to sense other people’s emotions coupled with the ability to imagine what someone else might be thinking or feeling. How does this relate to parenting? We discuss three benefits of raising an empathetic child: It breeds courage- this will help your child stand up for those in need of help. It breeds happiness- it gives our children the ability to have stronger interpersonal connections, and are more eager to collaborate, effectively negotiate, demonstrate compassion, and offer support. It breeds thoughtful problem solving. Empathic problem solvers put themselves in others’ shoes in a way that allows them to design solutions to problems that will help us evolve. We follow up on our talk from last week’s podcast about the Hobby Lobby Supreme Court decision. Todd also shares a few “tricks” or “reminders” to reduce the possibility of forgetting your child in the back of a car during the warm summer months. Cathy also shares 3 things that content people do: Differentiating between feelings, thoughts, and me Practice what you want instead of talking about what you want Live in present time We also refer to a previous podcast titled, “She was cut from her soccer team (what she did next might surprise you)” which is a wonderful example of how our children are here to teach us. Do you know any parents that are polite and gentle with you while at the same time are nasty and cruel towards their children? We ask the question- why is this okay? We refer to this podcast – “Speaking down to children and lessons from “Frozen” Finally we answer a listener’s question about how to get started on a more conscious path. Other resources: Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.

We discuss Hobby Lobby and the supreme court decision affecting contraception and women’s rights. Cathy gets all riled up, so watch out! We also remind you to put that bathing suit on and get in the pool – your children are watching you! Cathy explains what it means to be an empath, and we also answer a listener question about bossiness and bullying. At the end we have a conversation with The Joyful Mother Sigrid Kjeldsen. We discuss a blog called “Moms, Put on that swimsuit” Many moms out there have self-image issues and are unconsciously passing them down to their children. We are not meant to look like the women on the magazine covers and yet we cover up our bodies because we don’t look like them. The message that is being conveyed is we don’t love our bodies. We need to show our kids our whole selves so they can embrace their whole selves. Dads- you’re not off the hook – Todd challenges the dads to “show up” in a different way – by being vulnerable. An emapth is a person that is hypersensitive to the emotions and energy of people and animals, and they have the ability to physically feel what others are feeling. Cathy is an empath and this has its share of challenges – we discuss how it impacts her and our relationship. We chat with Sigrid Kjeldsen from “The Joyful Mother” . Sigrid speaks our language and is on a mission to support moms. One of her resources is the “Mommy Meltdown Cure” which is an 8-week self-study on-line coaching program. To find out more, click here. We are bringing “Race To Nowhere” to Field School in Elmhurst. This documentary exposes the negative affect of constantly pushing our children to “succeed”. The showing is Septemebr 11th and it’s FREE. Click here to reserve your seat. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y Other resources Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men’s Group. Email me @ [email protected] Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ [email protected] You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.