Your Anxiety Toolkit - Practical Skills for Anxiety, Panic & Depression

SUMMARY: In This Episode: What to do what your chronic illness causes anxiety The Difference between POTS and anxiety. How to manage POTS related anxiety What is an "Adrenaline Surge"? The Treatment for POTS and Anxiety POTS AWARENESS MONTH Links To Things I Talk About http://www.dysautonomiainternational.org/page.php?ID=30 Overcoming Anxiety and Panic https://www.cbtschool.com/overcominganxiety ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 307. Welcome back, everybody. I am so thrilled to be here with you today. As most of you may know, it is OCD Awareness Month or Awareness Week. It's just passed, and that's something I'm so passionate about advocating for. But in addition to that, it's also Postural Orthostatic Tachycardic Syndrome Awareness Month. For those of you who don't know, I suffer from postural orthostatic tachycardic syndrome. We call it POTS for short. I've had multiple people ask me to do an episode about when chronic illnesses cause anxiety, and I thought this is probably the best week to do it. Not only is it awareness week or awareness month for POTS, but I actually have had a little blip in my own recovery in my POTS. So, I wanted to share with you my story and share with you how I'm handling the anxiety and health anxiety and stress and grief of that, and also just address some tools that have worked for me and that I'm hoping will work for you as well. If you have a chronic illness or even if you don't, I think that these are really core skills that we need to practice just in regards of managing daily stress as well. You know what, before we do that, let's go and do the "I did a hard thing" because this one is actually really touching and I would really like to feature. This was actually an email we received. I love getting your emails. If you guys are not on our newsletter list, please do go and sign up for our newsletter. We do give you access to the whole series. I created a whole website for the six-part mental compulsion series. It will be private just for people who sign up for the newsletter, and it's got some amazing additional resources, PDFs, links that you really should check out. So, if you want to sign up for that, head on over to CBTSchool.com and you can sign up for our newsletter. This person said: "I took a big leap of leaving my family and moving to China on my own." Now, I totally resonate with this because I am in America on my own, even though I have my family. Leaving your home country is a big deal. It's a huge deal. They go on to say, "The only thing, I haven't been home to see my family in over three years, and I've been struggling so much. We hadn't had a holiday in over two years, and I had been stuck in our complex for months. It was really, really hard. We finally were allowed out of our city, so we decided to go to Yunnan Province." Hopefully, I pronounce that okay. "I was so worried that my OCD would come in hard and stop me from enjoying this amazing holiday we had planned for. I was strong and I did the hard things, thanks to you. I did a six-day hike at the start of the Himalayas, and I'm like, 'Holy moly, that is amazing.' I got engaged on Tiger Leaping Gorge. I ran down a bear and wolf-infested forest, and I slept in a tiny house next to pigs and cows." What an adventure. "Kimberley, thank you. You have given me strength I needed. You are my inspiration." This is what I mean by why I love the "I did a hard thing" because sometimes the hard thing is getting out of bed. Sometimes the hard thing is facing a fear that you know is in your daily life. But sometimes your fear is like living a life according to your values and doing some pretty huge, openhearted things. And so, I absolutely love this "I did a hard thing." Thank you so much, Leanne, for submitting this because there was something about it that just made me giggle like, holy moly, you really packed in some adventure into a short period of time, and well-deserved after being in a complex for so many months and years. Thank you so much for leaving that here in my inbox. Real quick, let's do the review of the week so that we can head on over. This one is from Young Math Mama and they said: "BEST podcast for a daily mindset reset. This podcast was recommended to me by my therapist, and it is one of my favorite 'homework assignments' to help me have a good mindset and feel in

In This Episode: The difference between Reassurance seeking vs. holding in emotions Why Reassurance seeking OCD is problematic and keeps you stuch What tools you can use to help you manage emotions with OCD Links To Things I Talk About: ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp https://kimberleyquinlan-lmft.com/32-reduce-reassurance-seeking-behaviorscompulsions/ Newsletter https://www.cbtschool.com/newsletter Chatter Book:https://www.amazon.com/Chatter-Voice-Head-Matters-Harness/dp/0525575235 Episode Sponsor:This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety...If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 306. Welcome back, everybody. We are well and truly into OCD Awareness Week, and I have been so excited to be a part of some amazing awareness projects, being an advocate for the International OCD Foundation, doing a lot of social media on self-compassion this week. It's been such a treat. This week, I actually wanted to discuss a concept that I-- actually, I say this often these days, but I get asked this question a lot in some various forms by my clients, so I wanted to address this question that I got with you. This is actually a question from one of the people in ERP School, which is our online course for OCD. If you click the link here in the bio or you can go to CBTSchool.com, we have a course called ERP School where we teach, or I teach step by steps that I take with my patients on how to set up an ERP plan so that you can slowly face your fear and reduce your compulsions and take your life back from OCD. Reassurance Vs Holding In Emotions One of the members asked a question, and there's a whole portal in there where you can ask questions to me directly, and they asked: "I have a question to you regarding reassurance seeking." They said, "I've been trying to stop doing my compulsions and my go-to is reassurance seeking." "What is the difference between Reassurance vs holding in emotions?" Reassurance Seeking OCD Reassurance seeking is a type of compulsion where you usually go to Google or you go to a loved one or another person and you ask for reassurance on your fear or your uncertainty. They go on to say, "One thing I do understand about is why it's bad and how it keeps the cycle going." So, they do understand that reassurance seeking OCD is a problem. They do understand how it keeps the OCD cycle going. We talk a lot in ERP School about this OCD cycle. It's a huge component of the treatment. We have to first understand the cycle so that we can then know how to stop the cycle. And they go on to say, "I know that I have to learn to rely on myself to manage my anxiety and seeking reassurance makes me dependent on others for my relief, which can increase my anxiety when they're not around. But I've always been told by friends and family that talking about things that are bothering you is healthy because that way you get it out as opposed to bottling it in. When I don't seek reassurance, I worry that I'm bottling it in and that the only way to feel better is to let it out by talking to others. How do I join these two seemingly healthy ideas?" This is such a core component of all the work that we do. And so, I really want to go deep into this with you here in just a sec. Now, before we move on, if you aren't quite sure about reassurance seeking yet, you can go back and listen to a previous podcast we did, Number 32, which is called How to Reduce Reassurance Seeking Behaviors. It's an amazing podcast episode that really goes deep into what is a reassurance compulsion. You can click that there. But let's talk more about this specific question. Before we do that, let's quickly do the review of the week. This is from Isha.Isha and they said: "An invaluable resource. I have read many books on anxiety and OCD, and yet I am continuously surprised to learn new things with this podcast. It is thought-provoking and brings forward new, helpful, and interesting content." She went on to say: "Kimberly, your 6 Part series on Mental Compulsions has truly been life-changing for me. Despite reading dozens of books on OCD and Anxiety, including yours, I was astounded to realize how many mental compulsions I actually have. The approaches to dealing with them, suggested by a few of the guests (thank you, Hershfield, Nicely, and Reid), have been nothing short of miraculous for me. Thank you for your hard work here! It is deeply appreciated!" Again, you guys, if you go to CBT School and you sign up for our newsl

In This Episode: We talk about how the ton of your voice really matters when it comes to self-compassion practices USING SELF-COMPASSION TO INCREASE MOTIVATION USING SELF-COMPASSION TO BETTER APPRAISE EVENTS How you can improve your self-compassion practices to include a warm nurturing voice. How you can practice a kind coach voice in your daily life. Links To Things I Talk About: Self-Compassion Workbook for OCD: https://www.amazon.com/dp/168403776X/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_2JG8H4VWFSBMBJVQ4AD8 ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety...If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit – Episode 305. You guys, 305. That sounds like a lot of episodes to me. Oh my goodness. So exciting. All right. I am really feeling so connected to the message that I have with you today. It has been an ongoing lesson I have learned in my life. It has been something that I have had to fine-tune in my own self-compassion practice. And I know I've spoken about this before, but I wanted to come on and do a quick reminder of why the tone of your voice matters more than anything. When I say the tone of your voice, I mean like how you speak to yourself, and that would also include how you speak to other people. That both. Both are very, very important. I'm sure you know this from experience of talking to other people. When your tone is a little off, it tends to create some problems. Am I right? I definitely have some stories to tell you on that one. But there have been so many times over the summer and going now into the fall where I have had to really keep reminding my patients and myself. And I'm going to tell you a couple of stories here about my family where this has gotten so, so important. Why the tone of your voice matters more than anything? Because tone sets a scene for how things land. Here is an example. If I said to you-- let's use last week's example, we did a podcast on what does it actually mean to sit with your emotions. Now, as I talked about how frustrated I was about how-- sometimes we use this term and we don't explain what it actually means. If the tone of my voice, as I said that, was like, "Oh my gosh, it's so important that you use it in the right way," I was saying those actual words. But if I'm using a tone that's like, "You have to use it this way because you can't use it this way!" that's going to create inside a massive degree of anxiety and defensiveness and rejection from you guys. We can all agree. In fact, if you have read any of Dan Siegel's work, he's an amazing researcher, an amazing author – he talks about how the word "no" and how we say the word "no" can actually create a massive emotional approach or a response in people than if you were to say "yes" very kindly. Just a one-word difference. What I want to talk about here with you is tone and why tone needs to be a major part of your recovery. Let me tell you a story. The other day, for those of you who don't know, I have this beautiful, young daughter who just started middle school. Yeah, get ready for the ups and the downs. It's been a total ride since she started. But my husband was actually at the end of the day reflecting to me in a very compassionate way and he was saying, "Isn't it interesting how you can say to her, 'Get your bags, let's go,' and that can land so different than 'Get your bags, let's go!'" Same words, different tone. Five words, same five words, but those five words and the tone that we use can shift their experience and the way we feel as we express it. We were talking about-- and he was actually giving me a little bit. I'm not going to lie, he was giving me a little bit of feedback that my tone could be a little calmer. In the morning, things are stressful. I know I have some work to do. I'm not going to lie. I was like, "Okay. Yeah, you're so right." Coincidentally, I was already going to record this podcast, because so much of how we talk to ourselves is about motivating. I'm motivating her to "Get your bags, let's go, come on. We're going to move to the next step. We're going to be late for school." And it's about how do we motivate ourselves. I've got some examples for you here and I want you to think about them and how they apply to you. These are personal examples, but I'm pretty certain you may or may not resonate with most of them. So, here we go. Using Self-Compassion To Increase Motivation The first one is how we motivate ourselves to get things

In This Episode: We talk about how the ton of your voice really matters when it comes to self-compassion practices USING SELF-COMPASSION TO INCREASE MOTIVATION USING SELF-COMPASSION TO BETTER APPRAISE EVENTS How you can improve your self-compassion practices to include a warm nurturing voice. How you can practice a kind coach voice in your daily life. Links To Things I Talk About: Self-Compassion Workbook for OCD: https://www.amazon.com/dp/168403776X/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_2JG8H4VWFSBMBJVQ4AD8 ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety...If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit – Episode 305. You guys, 305. That sounds like a lot of episodes to me. Oh my goodness. So exciting. All right. I am really feeling so connected to the message that I have with you today. It has been an ongoing lesson I have learned in my life. It has been something that I have had to fine-tune in my own self-compassion practice. And I know I've spoken about this before, but I wanted to come on and do a quick reminder of why the tone of your voice matters more than anything. When I say the tone of your voice, I mean like how you speak to yourself, and that would also include how you speak to other people. That both. Both are very, very important. I'm sure you know this from experience of talking to other people. When your tone is a little off, it tends to create some problems. Am I right? I definitely have some stories to tell you on that one. But there have been so many times over the summer and going now into the fall where I have had to really keep reminding my patients and myself. And I'm going to tell you a couple of stories here about my family where this has gotten so, so important. Why the tone of your voice matters more than anything? Because tone sets a scene for how things land. Here is an example. If I said to you-- let's use last week's example, we did a podcast on what does it actually mean to sit with your emotions. Now, as I talked about how frustrated I was about how-- sometimes we use this term and we don't explain what it actually means. If the tone of my voice, as I said that, was like, "Oh my gosh, it's so important that you use it in the right way," I was saying those actual words. But if I'm using a tone that's like, "You have to use it this way because you can't use it this way!" that's going to create inside a massive degree of anxiety and defensiveness and rejection from you guys. We can all agree. In fact, if you have read any of Dan Siegel's work, he's an amazing researcher, an amazing author – he talks about how the word "no" and how we say the word "no" can actually create a massive emotional approach or a response in people than if you were to say "yes" very kindly. Just a one-word difference. What I want to talk about here with you is tone and why tone needs to be a major part of your recovery. Let me tell you a story. The other day, for those of you who don't know, I have this beautiful, young daughter who just started middle school. Yeah, get ready for the ups and the downs. It's been a total ride since she started. But my husband was actually at the end of the day reflecting to me in a very compassionate way and he was saying, "Isn't it interesting how you can say to her, 'Get your bags, let's go,' and that can land so different than 'Get your bags, let's go!'" Same words, different tone. Five words, same five words, but those five words and the tone that we use can shift their experience and the way we feel as we express it. We were talking about-- and he was actually giving me a little bit. I'm not going to lie, he was giving me a little bit of feedback that my tone could be a little calmer. In the morning, things are stressful. I know I have some work to do. I'm not going to lie. I was like, "Okay. Yeah, you're so right." Coincidentally, I was already going to record this podcast, because so much of how we talk to ourselves is about motivating. I'm motivating her to "Get your bags, let's go, come on. We're going to move to the next step. We're going to be late for school." And it's about how do we motivate ourselves. I've got some examples for you here and I want you to think about them and how they apply to you. These are personal examples, but I'm pretty certain you may or may not resonate with most of them. So, here we go. Using Self-Compassion To Increase Motivation The first one is how we motivate ourselves to get things

SUMMARY: Today we have Natasha Daniels, an OCD specialist, talking all about how to help children and teens with OCD and phobias. In this conversation, we talk all about how to motivate our children and teens to manage their OCD, phobias, and anxiety using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), and other treatments such as self-compassion, mindfulness, and ACT. We also address what OCD treatment for children entails and what changes need to be made in OCD treatment for teens. In this episode, Natasha and Kimberley share their experiences of parenting children with phobias and OCD. In This Episode: What does sitting with emotions mean? How to sit with difficult feelings How to sit with your sadness How to sit with uncomfortable feelings, Sit with the feelings Links To Things I Talk About: ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety...If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 304. Welcome back, everybody. It's a delight to have you here with me today. Oh, I've got so much I want to talk to you about and this is actually coming from an emotion of frustration, this episode, which every time I check in and I begin a podcast, I try to come from a place of fun. And am I feeling calm? And am I feeling completely connected to you, the listener? But today, just for fun, I'm coming to you from a place of frustration. And the frustration, promise, this is not going to be a vent episode – it's actually a frustration in that I caught an error that I've made, and I think a lot of clinicians are making. And it's not an error in that it's bad or wrong or problematic. It's just that I caught something in my own practice, and I was like, "Oh, hold up, we have to talk about this." So, saddle in, get your cup of tea, settle in, because we're going to have to have a conversation about wording. It might be really nuanced and I want you to take what's helpful and leave the rest. I want you to think about it with an open, curious mind, and decide what's best for you. So, before we get into the show, as always, let's start with the "I did a hard thing." Let's do it. This one is actually from someone that says-- the handle name is GottaCatchEmAll, and they said: "Thank you so much for your recent series on mental compulsions. Your podcast is truly a godsend and I've been listening nonstop ever since my friend shared it with me last month." Now, for those of you who don't know, the mental compulsion series was a six-part series that we created here on the podcast. It had so many amazing clinicians on. If you want access to that series, you can go back and listen to previous podcasts. Or, if you sign up for our newsletter, you'll go to CBTSchool.com/newsletter. I will actually send you an amazing webpage, just one link where all the episodes are there, all the PDFs are there. It's so pretty. I have to say it is so pretty, and it's like a one-stop shop for that series. So, go over to the newsletter, CBTSchool.com/newsletter. Sign up for the newsletter. You'll get an email from me every week. But on the front end, you will receive that link. I'm so proud of it. I love it. So, I digress, sorry. They went on to say: "I suffer from a plethora of different anxieties, OCD, scrupulosity, hoarding, body dysmorphia, perfectionism. So, basically a bunch of normal human things, right? Exactly. The other day, I told my therapist that dealing with all of these issues felt like playing a game of whack-a-mole in my head, except that instead of the typical game, the mole would pop up and then a zebra and a giraffe, and so on, in a quick succession throughout the course of the day. While sobbing, I told my therapist that I didn't want to have a zoo in my head and I didn't know how to treat so many issues simultaneously. Imagine my surprise when I heard a recent episode called Whack-a-mole Obsessions, it was a relief to discover that I wasn't alone and weird or broken as I thought. I realized, instead of trying to resist or whack the zoo in my head, I could approach my anxieties and compulsions like they were different Pokemons that I could catch and train and carry around with me while I live the rest of my best life. Thank you, Kimberley, for putting on such an incredible content and for helping me and so many others navigate this difficult thing." That is so good. Look at you working through that whack-a-mole ongoing struggle with dif

SUMMARY: In this episode, I addressed a question that was asked of me by a loyal follower. They asked, "What do I do if the present moment totally sucks? Like, what if I have a migraine , nausea , chills , pain? Any suggestions ?!" This is such a great question and one we probably have all asked ourselves or our therapist at some point. Links To Things I Talk About: ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor:This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety...If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 303. Welcome back, everybody. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being here with me. Thank you for listening. Thank you for supporting me. I know how valuable your time is, and I know there are so many people that you could spend your time with, especially out on the podcast field. So, I am so, so grateful to have you here with me. Really, really, really I am. I hope that you find these episodes incredibly helpful. My hope is to give you bite-size tools so that you can get on with your life and live your best life. I hope this podcast is everything that you wanted to learn. This week's episode, I am totally, totally amped for. The reason being is, it was actually a response to a previous podcast where we talked about being present. Somebody had written back because they subscribe to my newsletter. If you haven't subscribed to my newsletter, please do so. I will leave a link in the show notes, or you can go over to CBTSchool.com and sign up there. They had responded and said, "But Kimberley, what do I do if the present moment totally sucks?" And they went on to say, "I have a migraine or nausea or chills or pains." And they said, "What are your suggestions?" I figured, this is probably the question you all have for me. I come on, I share with you tools. And then you guys are probably always going to have a question and this is a really common one. WHAT TO DO IF THE PRESENT MOMENT TOTALLY SUCKS Today, I want to talk about what to do when the present moment totally sucks. Before we do that, let's first do the "I did a hard thing" segment. This one is from Rachel and they said: "My thoughts get the best of me. I recently started teaching and I needed to stay long after the students go home. And I decided it just needs to be a busy time to distract me. I use your book to help me with any meditations and I just let my thoughts come and go. It was scary the first time, but now I'm used to it." Thank you so much, Rachel. I'm so grateful my book can be of assistance. I think you're doing some really, really hard work there. So, congratulations on that. And then last of all, before we get into the bulk of the episode, let's first share a review of the week and this is from Meldevs and they said: "I am so thankful to have found this podcast! Kimberley is such a compassionate, warm, honest, and insightful person for those struggling with anxiety disorders as I do. I have learned more listening to her than I have in my years of therapy. The way that she presents each and every podcast episode so that I feel challenged and understood. Thank you, thank you, thank you for being there for people struggling with anxiety!" Thank you, Meldevs. That is such a beautiful review, really. That brings me so much joy and I really, really appreciate all your reviews on the podcast, because it helps me to reach more and more people. Meldevs and Rachel, thank you so much for being a part of my community. Let's get into the episode. What do we do when the present moment totally sucks? Let's break it down. When we talk about being present, one of the biggest mistakes we make, and I talk with my patients about this all the time, is we assume that being present means everything feels great. I think we have in our mind that being present is when we are most mindful, when we are most at peace, when we're most compassionate. And I'll tell you honestly, that has not been my experience. Oh no. HOW TO BE PRESENT WHEN ANXIOUS Being present, the art of being present, the practice of being present in your most mindful sense has never meant being comfortable in my experience, especially as my experience with it as a clinician, especially as my experience of having my own mental illnesses and my own medical illnesses. No, it's not that. Most of the time, when we need to be present are the times when things totally suck, when we're in a great deal of distress. Because otherwise, if you're not in distress, usually, you

In This Episode: What is the difference between a Panic Attack and an Anxiety attack? What is the prevalence of Panic Disorder? Are anxiety attacks dangerous? Are Panic Attacks dangerous? How does anxiety affect the body? What anxiety does to your body when expereincing a panic attack? What is the best treatment for panic disorder Links To Things I Talk About: Overcoming Anxiety and Panic Online Course Natasha's Parenting Survival Online Program www.ATparentingsurvivalschool.com Natasha's instagram @atparentingsurvival ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 302. Welcome back, everybody. Today, we are talking about a question I get asked very commonly: Are panic attacks dangerous? Now I get this question a lot from clients who are just starting treatment. However, I will say I do get this question a lot on social media. People like doing the last-minute panic DM. What's happened usually is they've experienced a panic attack or an anxiety attack, and then they have the thought, what if this panic attack is dangerous? What if this panic attack creates some illness in my body or is unhealthy for my body or unhealthy for my baby, if they're pregnant. And so, from there, now they're having anxiety about their anxiety and, as you guys know, then anxiety just takes off from there. So, I wanted to address this with you first. I've got a series of questions that I want to go through here with you. I will be looking a little bit at my notes because I wanted to make sure I got everything today. Before we do that, let's first do the "I did a hard thing" segment. This is a segment where you guys write into me and tell me the hard things that you've been doing – facing your fears, staring your fear in the face, or maybe it's something not related to fear. It's just something that you've been going through. So, go ahead and submit those to me anytime you would like. Let's go over. This one is amazing. It says: "Honestly, Kimberley, you have changed my life in the last two weeks. I was in such a low place and coming across your podcast gave me so much power. I even faced my fear of heights last weekend and I went bungee jumping." Love it. "That was frightening. And as I was falling, I screamed F-U-C-K," but they said it in real life, excuse the language. "And I just thought, if I can do this, which is honestly terrifying, I can stop my mental rituals that are just so hard and scary." This message is so good and it's exactly the epitome of the work that we do and you do, which is when we face our fear, we realize how strong we actually are. And then we go on to face our fears again, which helps us to feel even more strong and courageous, which makes us do even harder things. And from there, our life turns away from getting smaller and smaller to getting bigger and bigger. So, I love this. All right, let's get to the show. So, we really want to pull apart, are panic attacks dangerous? But what's interesting about this is, often when we talk about panic attacks, people start to talk about what's called an anxiety attack. So, let's first just pause and really talk about what is what. So, what is the difference between a panic attack and an anxiety attack? Let's just go through that first so that we all know we're talking about the same thing. What Is The Difference Between A Panic Attack And An Anxiety Attack? A panic attack or panic disorder is a disorder that is in the DSM, which is the Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. That's what we use to diagnose people. It usually involves a sudden onset of panic. It can last for minutes, sometimes longer than that or hours. For some people who are really struggling, it usually involves shaking or trembling or it may be heat flashing, hot flashes through your body. Some people experience a sense of detachment from their body. They may experience dizziness, sweating, heart pounding, maybe depersonalization and derealization, which we have episodes on if you want to go back and listen, trembling, sweating, weakness, feeling of extreme terror. Some people have numbness in their hands and feet, again, which is why they then question, is this dangerous? You can imagine, if you're having any of these symptoms, it's terrifying. It's terrifying. But once we really get educated about what that is, then we can actually work with it. Now, as I said, when it comes to having

This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 301. Managing OCD Relapse (with Jazzmin Johnson) Welcome back, everybody. I am covered in goosebumps. I literally, as we speak, just finished the recording of this episode. I wanted to come on and do the intro right away just because I'm so moved by this week's guest. This week, we had Jazzmin Johnson. She's a mental health advocate and she came on to talk about something she felt really, really passionate about, which is relapse, particularly related to relapse with anxiety disorders, even more particular and specific is with OCD. And she brought to the conversation the same struggles that I have seen my patients have over and over with relapse and how hard we can be on ourselves when we relapse and how difficult it can be to pull ourselves out of relapse. It's a topic that I haven't touched on nearly enough. And so, I'm just so grateful for her to come on and share her story and the steps she took to overcome any kind of relapse that she was experiencing, and identifying the difference between a lapse and a relapse I thought was really profound. I'm just so excited to share this episode with you. I actually had scheduled it to be out much later and I'm like, "No, no, no, we just have to get this out. This is so, so important." So, I'm so thrilled. I'm not even going to do an "I did a hard thing" because this whole episode is Jazzmin explaining to us how to do hard things. So, I'm again impressed with how she's handled it. So, let's get straight to the show. I love you guys. I hope you can squeeze every ounce of goodness out of this episode. I think the main real message we took away is it's a beautiful day to do hard things. So, enjoy the show. Kimberley: Welcome, everybody. I am so excited to have a special guest on the show that I've actually been wanting. We've been talking back and forth. I'm so excited to have Jazzmin Johnson on today. Thank you for being here, Jazzmin. Jazzmin: Thank you so much. I'm absolutely honored and really, really excited to chat. Can OCD Relapse? Kimberley: Yeah. So, let's dive in. We are going to talk about relapse, which is a topic I think you brought to my attention. I have not covered barely at all. So, let's dive into that. But before we do that, can you give us a little background and fill us in up to where we're at with relapse? Can OCD Relapse? Jazzmin: Yeah, absolutely. So, my name is Jazzmin. I'm 28 years old. I was diagnosed with OCD when I was just freshly 23. So, it's been a while. Looking back on my life, I've had OCD for a very long time, long before I was 23. So, definitely fun to look back on your life and the moments and say, "Oh, that was an interesting behavior and no one really caught that." My story is I always love to tell it, but it started off with a really simple night of not sleeping, something that we think we've all experienced. And up until that point, I had assumed I was this rock-solid girl who was tough and I skateboarded on the weekends and just knew that nothing could touch me. And I remember having a hard night of sleep one night and my heart was beating really fast and I just felt really panicky. It was such a bizarre feeling for me. I remember at the time reaching out to my sister who also struggles with anxiety and OCD as well, and I just said, "Hey, have you ever dealt with this weird heart palpitation thing at night and you can't relax?" And she just sent me a text in all caps and was like, "Yes, that's anxiety." And I think it was just this bonding moment where we were just like, "Oh, okay, I guess I'm like you like. Let's do this." But with that I think came a lot of fear too, because as someone who was assuming I was this rock-solid gal, who was tough and never stressed about anything, to have that identity switch that happened when I was told that I might have anxiety. As all of us know, listen to this, anxiety is a terrible feeling and it's even harder when it really sticks around for a long time. I remember feeling like my body was buzzing all the time and I remember trying to explain it to my boyfriend and he was just like, "That's really strange." And I'm like, "You don't understand. My whole body feels like it's vibrating all the time and I just couldn't sleep at night." And so, I ended up reaching out to my mom and she helped me find a therapist, which I'm really grateful that my family is really pro helping people with mental health disorders. So, they knew exactly how to help me. So, I popped in with a therapist and was just like, "I don't have anxiety. Why am I having anxiety? What's going on?" And she just asked me if there were things that made me anxious. And I just remember telling her, "No, there's no reason. My life is really good. I really enjoy where I'm at and I love my job and I love my boyfriend and I love my life. So, why am I feeling this way?" And she just said, "Well, have you talked to anybody about it?" And I remember telling her, "Yeah, my mom and my sister, and the

Welcome back, everybody. I am so excited to be here. This is my first recording since returning back from Australia, after having five and a half weeks in Australia with my family and I could not be more thrilled. I had the most incredible time. I tell you, my cup was overflowing by the time I left. My heart was full. I didn't realize that my heart was very empty, even though I have so much love in my life and joy in my life, and in many areas of my life, my cup was so full. But I didn't realize how much my heart needed to go home and actually just live in Australia for five and a half weeks and let my kids learn what it's like to live in Australia and be in Australia. It was so wonderful. I'm just so incredibly grateful to have had that opportunity. That being said, I'm really also very, very sad to be back. However, I am making a choice to love-- how can I say it? Like love all of the parts of my life – the hard parts, the good parts, the easy parts, the parts that still don't make sense to me. I'm making a point to love all the parts and feel all the parts and be gentle with all those parts. And I'm guessing you have some-- well, it may not be that exact experience. I'm guessing there's some part of your life that you have to practice that with as well. And I strongly encourage it because it just opens up an opportunity for compassion and kindness and no more fighting in your mind. It's just like, yes, it's hard being an adult or a human. It's hard, right? But again, it's a beautiful day to do hard things. This week on this episode, I've actually been wanting to do this episode since I left, because this was one that I was almost going to record before I left and I just ran out of time. It's funny, I do a lot of Googling for my job, not for reassurance reasons, but often will type in a keyword just to see who's talking about certain topics and how I can talk about it better with my clients. And often when I type in "intrusive thoughts," you know how in Google, it auto-populates what it thinks you're going to ask? It often asks, is intrusive thoughts normal? Are they normal? And the other one that often comes up is, are intrusive thoughts dangerous? And so, I wanted to talk about that because if that's one of the most Googled questions, well, let's talk about it. Okay, let's talk about it because it's another common. It's the question that we get asked with my staff. I have a private practice. We have 10 amazing therapists. It's probably one of the most common questions people ask on their first session. So, let's talk about it. Okay. So, the first question is, are intrusive thoughts normal? Well, let's first get a feel for what is an intrusive thought. Now an intrusive thought is a thought that is intrusive. Meaning you don't want it. It happens automatically. It just pops into your mind. It's usually repetitive. It's usually distressing. Often it will go completely against your values, but not always. Sometimes it could just be a random benign thought, like if you know, we call them "earwigs" here in America. I don't know what we call them in Australia, but it's like where a commercial or a song just goes over and over in your mind. That's actually technically an intrusive thought as well, even though it may not have the presence of anxiety. But that's what an intrusive thought is, and all humans have intrusive thoughts. They're completely normal. Everyone has them. Even, you may have asked a close friend or a parent or somebody and say, "Hey, I have these intrusive thoughts sometimes, or really bizarre and strange. Do you have them?" And if they say no, I actually don't believe them. What I'm guessing they're actually saying is they have them, but they don't distress them. But they do have them. We all have these thoughts that just randomly pop up in our mind that make absolutely no sense, that have absolutely no relation to what we're doing. So, as you're out to lunch with your friends, you might have this most bizarre thought. That's what our brains do. They come up with some bizarre things, just like sometimes our brains have bizarre dreams. So, when we're talking about this question – the question being, are intrusive thoughts normal – the answer is yes. They're very, very common. Now, the next question that often gets asked is a variation of this question, which is, what intrusive thoughts are normal? And I'm here to tell you all of them, every single one of them. When we talk about normal, we're talking about what is average, what the average human experience is, and all of them are. Now let's actually get straight to the weirdness, shall we? You'll most likely find that you have these intrusive thoughts during the most peculiar times, like when you're making love to somebody or having sexual relations with someone, while you're making a phone call to talk to, or when you're making eye contact with someone. Maybe it's someone your boss, or someone who you normally wouldn't have these thoughts abo

This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 299. Welcome back, everybody. 299, wow. That is amazing. I am so excited. I don't know what it is about the word 99 that just makes me so joyful. One of my favorite episodes is actually number 99, which was the only episode and the only time where I actually have a full conversation with my husband on the podcast, and we talked all about agoraphobia and panic disorder specifically related to flying. So, if you want to hear me and my husband have a good conversation about his experience, that was one of my favorite episodes of all time. But here we are, Episode 299, 200 episodes later, and we're still going strong. No need to slow down. If anything, let's speed it up a little. Shall we? Before we get started on this week's episode, I am going to do the two segments that we do every week. First, I want to give you a little bit of a peek into where we're going today. So, what we're talking about is a question I get all the time, particularly when I'm talking about having a chronic illness. Specifically for those of you who have a chronic illness and have a mental illness as well, but also, this could be just for anyone because this is a human problem, this is not a mental health problem. We're talking about balancing exhaustion and when you have to "push through" and what do you choose? This has been a huge part of the work for me in my recovery from having postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome. I feel like I've nailed this. To be honest, this is an area that I have learned very, very well, and it has saved my life literally in terms of I would be crashing and burning with tears and a major tantrum if it weren't for my ability to balance, rest and push through. So, let's talk about that in a second. First of all, we're going to do the review of the week. This is from Carsoccer27, and they say: "There are a lot of things that this podcast has helped me with. It's a great toolbox in many of my anxiety triggers. I never knew where to start to help my anxiety. This podcast has helped me find my starting place and has helped me find my self-identity. Highly recommended!" Thank you, Carsoccer27. What a beautiful thing to say. To be honest, for someone to say that I've helped them find their self-identity, that is an amazing compliment. That sounds amazing to me. So, I'm so happy I've been able to walk along you in the journey of that. That's just so cool. Okay. We now have an "I did a hard thing" from Anonymous. Anonymous said: "I did an exposure exercise. I get anxiety when I'm around people. So, it was hard for me to get groceries at the store, but I conquered my fear and got the groceries. And another important one is that I graduated college dealing with what I deal with." Anonymous, I love this. What I love about this the most is you talk about your struggle to get the groceries while also adding graduating college. Two massive things. Two major accomplishments. And I'm so grateful for you that you shared that because I think some people have said to me like, "Groceries, everybody's getting the groceries. I should be able to do that." But I love that you're celebrating how hard that was for you. We all need to do a better job of celebrating when we face a hard thing, whether bigger and small. Okay. So, let's get into the episode. All right. Thank you first for Carsoccer27 and Anonymous. Let's talk about balancing this push and rest. This balance between push and rest. If you could listen to me right now, you could see me. I'm swaying back and forth like a teeter-totter or a seesaw. It is a balancing act. So, let's just get the truth out. Having a mental illness or a medical illness is the most exhausting thing, and people will not get it. They will not get it until they've been through it. They don't understand the degree of exhaustion that you are experiencing. So, I first want to just straight up validate you. It's okay that they don't get it. It doesn't mean that you're not validated and that you aren't as exhausted as you are, because you do have to go through it to get it. So, let's just be real about that. Now, even though you are exhausted, you still are going to have to have times in your life where you have to push through to get stuff done. Anonymous is a great example of this. They push through despite going through anxiety the whole time, just push through, got through college. But what we have to be careful of here is this push through mentality. I'm actually right now reading a book by Ed Mylett and it's called Max Out Your Life. I personally love it. It's so inspirational. And as I'm listening to it on Audible, I'm like, "Yeah, let's max out our life." It's so empowering and I just want to flex my muscles until I'm like, "Wait." The anxious workaholic in me and the perfectionist in me wants to take that literally. And in the past, I have where I'm like, "Yeah, let's max out our life. Let's just push through and just push and push and push." And then as I

This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 299. Welcome back, everybody. 299, wow. That is amazing. I am so excited. I don't know what it is about the word 99 that just makes me so joyful. One of my favorite episodes is actually number 99, which was the only episode and the only time where I actually have a full conversation with my husband on the podcast, and we talked all about agoraphobia and panic disorder specifically related to flying. So, if you want to hear me and my husband have a good conversation about his experience, that was one of my favorite episodes of all time. But here we are, Episode 299, 200 episodes later, and we're still going strong. No need to slow down. If anything, let's speed it up a little. Shall we? Before we get started on this week's episode, I am going to do the two segments that we do every week. First, I want to give you a little bit of a peek into where we're going today. So, what we're talking about is a question I get all the time, particularly when I'm talking about having a chronic illness. Specifically for those of you who have a chronic illness and have a mental illness as well, but also, this could be just for anyone because this is a human problem, this is not a mental health problem. We're talking about balancing exhaustion and when you have to "push through" and what do you choose? This has been a huge part of the work for me in my recovery from having postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome. I feel like I've nailed this. To be honest, this is an area that I have learned very, very well, and it has saved my life literally in terms of I would be crashing and burning with tears and a major tantrum if it weren't for my ability to balance, rest and push through. So, let's talk about that in a second. First of all, we're going to do the review of the week. This is from Carsoccer27, and they say: "There are a lot of things that this podcast has helped me with. It's a great toolbox in many of my anxiety triggers. I never knew where to start to help my anxiety. This podcast has helped me find my starting place and has helped me find my self-identity. Highly recommended!" Thank you, Carsoccer27. What a beautiful thing to say. To be honest, for someone to say that I've helped them find their self-identity, that is an amazing compliment. That sounds amazing to me. So, I'm so happy I've been able to walk along you in the journey of that. That's just so cool. Okay. We now have an "I did a hard thing" from Anonymous. Anonymous said: "I did an exposure exercise. I get anxiety when I'm around people. So, it was hard for me to get groceries at the store, but I conquered my fear and got the groceries. And another important one is that I graduated college dealing with what I deal with." Anonymous, I love this. What I love about this the most is you talk about your struggle to get the groceries while also adding graduating college. Two massive things. Two major accomplishments. And I'm so grateful for you that you shared that because I think some people have said to me like, "Groceries, everybody's getting the groceries. I should be able to do that." But I love that you're celebrating how hard that was for you. We all need to do a better job of celebrating when we face a hard thing, whether bigger and small. Okay. So, let's get into the episode. All right. Thank you first for Carsoccer27 and Anonymous. Let's talk about balancing this push and rest. This balance between push and rest. If you could listen to me right now, you could see me. I'm swaying back and forth like a teeter-totter or a seesaw. It is a balancing act. So, let's just get the truth out. Having a mental illness or a medical illness is the most exhausting thing, and people will not get it. They will not get it until they've been through it. They don't understand the degree of exhaustion that you are experiencing. So, I first want to just straight up validate you. It's okay that they don't get it. It doesn't mean that you're not validated and that you aren't as exhausted as you are, because you do have to go through it to get it. So, let's just be real about that. Now, even though you are exhausted, you still are going to have to have times in your life where you have to push through to get stuff done. Anonymous is a great example of this. They push through despite going through anxiety the whole time, just push through, got through college. But what we have to be careful of here is this push through mentality. I'm actually right now reading a book by Ed Mylett and it's called Max Out Your Life. I personally love it. It's so inspirational. And as I'm listening to it on Audible, I'm like, "Yeah, let's max out our life." It's so empowering and I just want to flex my muscles until I'm like, "Wait." The anxious workaholic in me and the perfectionist in me wants to take that literally. And in the past, I have where I'm like, "Yeah, let's max out our life. Let's just push through and just push and push and push." And then as I

This is Your Anxiety Toolkit – Episode 298. Welcome back, everybody. How are you? It is a beautiful summer day here in California. I love summer. It is very hot, but so happy to be here with you. I'm sitting in my office. I have a cup of tea. I have my little flowers next to me, and I'm just so grateful to have you here with me as well. Thank you for letting me be a part of your journey. I'm so honored. Really, I am. I know you have many options. It's just an honor to be walking in this journey with you. Today, I want to talk to you about seven questions you can ask yourself every day. It doesn't mean you have to ask all of them. They're just my favorite seven questions. They're questions I ask myself all the time, the questions I ask my patients all the time. They're not groundbreaking in that they're going to change your life, but they will definitely keep you on track. 100%. They're what I call guidance questions. They're questions that prompt you to go in the next best direction, take the next best step. So, I can't wait to share those with you. Before I do, let's do the review of the week. This is from Kendall Wetzel. She said: "Listening to her podcast and following her on Insta--" if you don't follow me on Instagram, head over to Your Anxiety Toolkit on Instagram. She's saying, "Following her on Insta has been so great for keeping me in check with my OCD. She's gentle, positive, and awesome." Thank you. "So thankful for this free resource." Thank you so much, Kendall, for your amazing review. I love your reviews. Thank you for putting in the time to do that for me. It's a gift. Thank you. All right. Before we get into the episode, let's do the "I did a hard thing." This is from Joy. Joy said today: "I told my boss I was resigning. It was a hard conversation to have and I overthought everything leading up to it." Joy, I love that you shared that. We are human beings. We're doing the best we can with what we have. But Joy goes on to say: "But I did it and it went well. This morning I woke up and I said it is a beautiful day to do hard things and that helped me to get through the day. Thank you." Wow, Joy, love it. I mean, such a totally human response. Even though we overthink things, you still did it and that is all that matters. That is all that matters. That is all that matters. So amazing. All right. Let's get into these seven questions. Shall we? All right. I'm actually going to do this pretty quickly, folks. I will leave the questions in the show notes. I strongly encourage you if you're not driving to sit down and write them out and take some time today to journal on them. Again, it doesn't have to be all of them. You can make it into a pretty PDF. You could print it out. You could make it into a daily journal, prompts. But these questions, I just sat down and I looked at my computer and I was like, "Okay, what are the questions I commonly ask my patients?" Now, of course, I always ask my patients, how are you doing? I also ask my patients like, how was your week? I didn't include those questions. Of course, I ask the questions again as guiding questions that lead us towards the whole reason you're here, which is to live the life you want to live and compassionately. Alrighty. So, here we go. Question #1: Does does this behavior line up with my values? So important. Often, I'll just speak for myself, but I'm going to probably assume that you are just like me, given that we're both human beings, but maybe not. Maybe you're way more evolved than me. But often I find myself doing things that don't line up with my values, because either society told me to do it or I'm on autopilot and I'm doing what I've just always done. And so, therefore, I just keep doing it and I catch myself doing it or I'm trying to avoid some emotion or some fear. So, the question is, does it line up with my values? Often it doesn't. So, this is a question that guides me. I want you to think of it like your north star or your compass. These are compass questions as they guide you back on track. Does this line up with my values? If it's a yes, proceed. If it's a no, we might move our way down the other questions, or you might just want to reflect on that. Question #2: Does this behavior line up with my long-term goals? The thing around values is sometimes values will contradict each other. I really value being a good mom, but I also really value being a really good therapist. And sometimes I can't meet both those values. I can't be a really good therapist and a really good mom every single day. I can just do the best I can, but sometimes I have to go to work instead of being with my kids. Sometimes I have to be with my kids and I have to cancel a client. So, it's hard. So, the question I ask myself is, does it line up with my long-term goals? Long-term goals. And I'm talking specifically here in regards to recovery. The last few weeks' episodes are just about this, is getting clear on your goal, holding yourself accountable. D

This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 297. Welcome back, everybody. How are you really? Just doing a quick check-in. I love the quick check-in, the drop down into your chest, the drop down into whatever discomfort you may be having. And just take it a minute to actually check-in. So important. How often are you doing this? Hopefully, multiple times every day. All right. Today, we are talking about accountability, and this actually came, I was listening to something. I can't remember even what it was, but someone was having a strong reaction to the word "accountability," which words matter. They really, really do. But what I think is more important is the meaning in which we place on words. It's a huge part of diffusing from what we tell ourselves all day. So, the whole point of today is to talk about this important treatment concept or recovery concept. And I'll come back to why. But it's so important. It's so, so important. I've got a couple of different views about certain things, so you'll have to hang with me each. Everyone is so important, but hang with me. Before we do that, let's first do the review of the week. This is from Maggie Paulson. Maggie wrote: "I love this podcast. I've never been diagnosed with OCD, but I recognize that I have anxiety. This podcast has helped me to learn more about how my brain works, and her gentle and loving approach to treatment has helped me learn to handle my intrusive thoughts and my anxiety. To say that has improved the quality of my life is an understatement. I'm very grateful for Kimberley and her podcast." Thank you, Maggie. You fill up my heart. Thank you so much for your reviews. All of you, even if you just click the five-star review or however many stars you think it deserves. You don't even have to write a review. You can just give it stars, and that helps me. So, thank you so much. All right, drum roll. We have the "I did a hard thing" segment. This is from Anonymous. Anonymous said: "Today, I manage not to lapse into a behavioral addiction that I've been struggling with for over a year. It's very easy for me to use this addiction as a coping strategy for the stresses in my life. But I realized today that a good life free of this addiction is better than a good feeling that only lasts momentarily." Oh my gosh, Anonymous, I want to give you a standing applause right now. "Although every day is going to be challenging when it comes to not lapsing into addiction, if I take each day as it comes and have the attitude that it's a beautiful day to do hard things, I know I can live addiction free." So good. So good, Anonymous. Oh my gosh, lLet me read this line again. It says, "I realized today that a good life free of this addiction is better than a good feeling that only last momentarily." So much wisdom in that sentence. Amazing. So much wisdom. That is true for all of us. Isn't it? So true for all of us in that we just-- the real living we want, the real pieces on the other side of that hard thing. So, so true. Thank you so much, Anonymous, and thank you so much to Maggie Paulson for that amazing review. All right, folks, here is something I want to first start with. So, we're talking about, can you hold yourself accountable without being self-critical? That's a really important question because, and the reason it's so important for recovery is, unless you're in an intensive treatment center, where you have services 24/7, chances are, you're doing a lot of this hard work. You're doing a lot of these "hard things" on your own. And in order to do a hard thing, you do have to be accountable. You have to generate. If you could see me, you can see me like my arms are moving like cogs are turning. You have to generate motivation to do these hard things, because the truth is, no one wants to do these hard things. That's why they're hard. I don't blame you if you don't want to do hard things today because hard things suck. I keep saying that lately and I mean it. It's hard. I don't want to discount and make this podcast out to be like, "Oh, it's just easy. Just do these five mindful things and you're going to be fine." No, it's hard work. You have to generate motivation and you have to generate accountability. The accountability is what gets you to do it, even though you don't want to do it. And here is the point I want you to really take from this episode. Hopefully, this is a shorter episode, because I know I've been going a little longer lately. I'm a bit chatty. I'm chattier lately. I don't know why. Here is the point. Being accountable is not synonymous with blame and harsh treatment. So, let me put that same concept into different words. Holding yourself accountable doesn't mean the same as blaming yourself, beating yourself into doing the thing that you said you were going to do. That's not accountability. Accountability is just holding yourself accountable to do the thing. Saying have some accountability doesn't mean treat yourself terribly. And as I was sayi

In This Episode: The importance of having a specific recovery goal Why you need a recovery goal in order to gain traction with OCD and other anxiety disorders What does your "recovery dream" look like? What is getting in the way of your recovery goal? Learn to live your life "as if" you had already reached your recovery goal. Links To Things I Talk About: https://www.cbtschool.com/overcominganxiety ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 296. Welcome back, everybody. I am so fired up for this episode. Oh, I just love this stuff. I love it. I love it. I love it. Okay. Let's get started. First of all, let's do an "I did a hard thing." This one is epic. This one is from Fisher and they said: "I have OCD, health anxiety, and panic disorder. And last year, I was diagnosed with POTS," which is postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome. That is the chronic illness that I have also. And they've said: "This was very overwhelming for me. I was petrified of exercising because of the exercise intolerance that comes with POTS and worrying that it was a life-threatening cardiac issue." Oh, I am with you, Fisher. So, for those of you who don't know what exercise intolerance is, it's like it's almost impossible to do exercise. When you stand up, you pass out. And when I've been triggered by POTS, it's hard to even do a block around, walk around the block of my house. "My doctor did all the cardiac tests to rule out any underlying issues before diagnosing me with POTS and recommended cardiac reconditioning to help me get started with recovery. My first barrier to overcome this was to trust in my physician and their diagnosis and follow their recommendation for exercise therapy. My second barrier was facing my fear of exercising. I can now say that I'm in my last week of the program after going twice a week for three months, along with exercising on my own at home. It's been a struggle. There are some days where I flare up." I hear you, Fisher. I totally get you. "And it seems impossible, but accessing self-compassion, budgeting spoon usage for the day, and moving things around to allow myself to rest have been invaluable tools to help me with the experience. A wise person told me after my diagnosis, the only predictable thing about living with a chronic illness is that it is unpredictable. So, I try to accept that uncertainty as a part of my life, living with anxiety and POTS." Fisher, I just love you. You're killing it here. "I have a lot of work to do in learning to live with my chronic illness and my OCD and health anxiety recovery, but I make a little progress each and every day. P.S. Would you consider doing an episode on coping with chronic illness that mirror anxiety symptoms like POTS? I'd love to hear the skills that have helped you and some of you recommend coping strategies. Thanks for all the hard work that you do on this podcast." Fisher, I would love to have you on the podcast. I am going to write it in my notes to reach out to you because I think this is such an important topic, one that I myself have gone through, and thank you for writing this. You are doing badass, amazing hard work. So, yay. Thank you. You will hear from me. If you don't hear from me, reach out, because I think that would be wonderful. Okay. Let's take a breath because that brought up a lot for me. I just feel such deep compassion for Fisher and all of you who are just doing the hard thing. So, so cool. All right. Quickly, review of the week from Mosley23. They said: "I've been listening for several years and can say that this podcast has helped immensely to understand my OCD and anxiety. Kim and her guests have provided very helpful ideas, strategies, and encouragement that have been so key in helping me to get to a good place with my mental health. Could not recommend it more highly if you or someone you love have an anxiety disorder." Thank you so much, Mosley23. Your reviews mean the world to me. The world really. Really, it's so helpful. And again, if you give a review, and I know specifically what episode you're talking about or what specific thing, it means then I can do more of that and help more people. So, yay. All right. Let's talk about recovery. It's taking all of my energy not to bang my hands down on the table and be like, "Let's do it." All right. So, I take walks every morning and I often list

SUMMARY: Today we talk all about how to manage when your fears appear in your dreams. This was a heavily requested topic, so I hope it was helpful for you. In This Episode: Why our fears and obsessions show up in our dreams What to do when your fears appear in your dreams How to manage the distress when dreams feel "real" Links To Things I Talk About: ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 295. Welcome back, everybody. It is Episode 295, which sounds like a whole lot of episodes. It really, really does. Actually, it shocked me when I saw that number. Today, we are talking about when your fears show up in your dreams. I would say quite regularly, actually, a client, particularly morning clients will often say like-- I'll be like, "How are you? How was your week?" And they'll say, "Well, I'm just feeling really overwhelmed. I had the most bizarre dream last night and it's hard to shake it off." And so, I'm wondering, I'm guessing. I've had this experience, I'm guessing you have too. And I wanted to talk this episode about how we might respond to that situation and what we need to look out for when we have this situation, particularly if you have anxiety. That's really the specific group of humans we're speaking to today. And I'll share a little bit more about that as we get going. All right, before we do that, let's do the review of the week. This one is from FullWalrus and they said: "I found this podcast by Googling an issue I was having, and this just popped up." FullWalrus, this makes me so happy. Thank you so much for Googling this and finding me because that means we're doing a good job at being on the internet and helping people in that way. "I had kept away from podcasts about mental health in fear of being triggered or being told I was crazy after all, and that didn't happen obviously. Kimberley is a gifted presenter and a therapist who introduced me to Buddhism and mindfulness in a way I'd never thought of before. For the first time, I feel like I actually have the tools to help me manage OCD, and this show is sure a beautiful compliment to any therapy you should be currently undergoing because we all need therapy. Thank you for everything, Kimberley. My life is forever changed and I am forever grateful." Thank you, FullWalrus. What a wonderful, wonderful review. I just love hearing how I'm helpful. I love hearing what episodes are helpful and it's really cool that I'm a really-- I love Buddhism. I find it to be exactly what I need every time I'm in a hard time. So, I'm so glad that I'm bringing that in a way that isn't overwhelming or overpowering. So wonderful, wonderful, wonderful. This week's "I did a hard thing" is coming to you from Holly. Holly says: "Last week, I went to court to obtain full custody of my son since his father has become a threat to him. This was extremely difficult seeing as we have been in an abusive past. My anxiety was the highest it's been in a very long time, but ultimately, I knew I had to take action. I did my hard thing and I couldn't be more proud of standing my ground and not succumbing to so many fears." Holly, sending you so much love. This is 100% doing the hard thing. It's so hard, because often we're talking about irrational fears and so forth, but I love that you brought like I'm doing this real thing. This real thing. And I love when you guys share with me both you're facing your fears related to your disorder, but also just facing fear about showing up and living according to your values and showing up for your family. And Holly, just so good. Thank you so much for submitting that "I did a hard thing" for our "I did a hard thing" segment. Okay. Let's talk about dreams. So, again, often people will bring to my attention like, what do I do if my fears show up in my dreams, or even fears you didn't have right. Like fears that you never considered during the day, but once you go to sleep, it gives it to you, sucks it to you, and whatnot. So, what do we do in this situation? Most people will report they wake up in a massive ball of sweat, high heart rate. It feels so real. It feels like it actually happened. And it takes some time for that to burn off. It really, really does. Some people say it even takes the whole day to burn off. And so, if that's the case for you, you're definitely not alone. Now, one thing to think about when we

SUMMARY: Correcting thoughts can but a very helpful tool to use when you notice that you have lots of thought errors. However, in some cases, correcting thoughts can become a compulsion. In this episode, ask the question, "Can correcting thoughts become a compulsion?" And review what you can do to make sure you are not engaging too much in the content of your thoughts. In This Episode: How to correct your thoughts and how this can help people who have errors in their thinking How to determine when it is helpful to correct your thoughts How to determine when correcting thoughts is becoming a compulsion Links To Things I Talk About: Overcoming Anxiety and Panic https://www.cbtschool.com/overcominganxiety ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 294. Welcome back, everybody. What a special treat to have you here with me today. Today, we are talking about when correcting your thoughts, we call it cognitive restructuring in therapy – when you correct your thoughts, when does that become compulsive? Or we could also say problematic. And so, we're actually going to go into this today, and then I'm going to let you decide for yourself what is helpful and what's not. But I hope today is really helpful. It's a very, very, very important topic. It's often one of the biggest mistakes therapists make, particularly those who are not trained in anxiety disorders and OCD, and ERP. It's probably one of the biggest mistakes that they make. So, I want to really review this so that you can have the information in your back pocket and you can make the decisions for yourself. Before we do that, let's first do the review of the week. This is from Cynthia Safell and Cynthia said: "I first was introduced to Kimberley's clear and compassionate teaching style when I took the ERP school course for therapists." This is wonderful, Cynthia. So, for those of you who don't know, we have ERP School, which is a course where I teach you exactly how I would do ERP if you were my client. And then it turned out that a lot of therapists were taking this course. And so, we duplicated the course and I added a whole bunch of modules for therapists, so they can become excellent therapists for people with OCD as well. So, I am so delighted that Cynthia has written this review. She goes on to say: "In the past 3 weeks since taking the course, I recommended both the course and podcasts to my clients. So helpful. Thank you, Kimberley." Wow, Cynthia, literally, that is the biggest compliment. Really, it is. If a therapist can trust me so much that they would recommend it to their clients, that is the biggest gift to me. And thank you so much for telling me that, because it just brings me so much joy and so much pride. So, thank you so much, Cynthia, for that amazing review. Alright, before we move on to the bulk of the content of this episode, we also want to do the "I did our hard thing" segment. This is from Abby and Abby is over here doing some hard things. So cool. Let's go. It says: "I have come on holiday. I'm terrified of flying. My anxiety was high. My thoughts were racing, but I did it." So good, Abby. "I got on the plane and I got on holiday. It was scary, but I did it and I'm proud. Now to commit to the holiday first two days have been hard, but sitting with it and not letting it ruin my time." Abby, this is so good. Not only did you get on a plane, but you're doing all the hard things in addition, and that's so good. What a treat for you. What a reward for you. You did the hard thing and now you're on vacation. Isn't that so cool? Thank you so much, Abby. And thank you so much, Cynthia, for being an amazing part of our community. Alright. So, let's get down to it, shall we? So, I am a cognitive behavioral therapist. I love cognitive behavioral therapy. If you haven't heard what that is, I'm assuming you have, but basically what that means is there is a cognitive component to treatment, which is focusing on your thoughts, and there is a behavioral component to treatment, which is where we focus on changing behaviors. Now, in some disorders, we spend a little more time on cognitions and a little less time on behaviors. And in other disorders, we spend a little more time on behaviors and much less time on cognitions. So, I think it's important for you to know that it depends on your disorder on how much cognitive restr

This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 293. You guys, I've totally screwed up. Oh my God, it's going to be one of those episodes where I laugh a lot. Maybe not. Who knows? Alright, I totally screwed up. It's funny because I have for months been thinking about doing an episode and reminding you guys mostly so I could remind myself that I'm a human being, that I'm going to make mistakes, and it's one of the biggest lessons that I have had to learn over and over and over and over again. It's really frustrating, you guys. I'm so frustrated by this fact that humans make mistakes. I don't like it. It makes me mad. If only we could figure out a way where we don't and we don't disappoint people and we don't screw up. If anyone has figured this out, let me know. Just shoot me an email, tell me your special secret, because I haven't figured it out yet. So funny. Okay. Before we get into it, this is actually pretty much a coincidence and I love when big coincidences happen, but the review of the week is actually from Flashcork. They're writing a specific review on Episode 193, which I think is really cool because this is by coincidence 293. And they said: "This episode 193 is just what I needed to hear today. I'm stressed and anxious about my upcoming trip and experiencing racing thoughts. This will help me to manage those feelings and practice by shortening the leash." Now, if you haven't listened to this episode, it is probably one of my most favorite episodes. A lot of my patients and clients have said that this concept has helped them a lot. And so, really go back and listen to 193. If you want to practice being able to be in a place where you can manage those thoughts a little better, go back and check that out. It's just a metaphor. Flashcork says: "It makes sense because it has worked for me walking Sally, my Golden Retriever." I make a reference to thoughts being like a dog on a leash. So, you can go back and listen to that anytime. That's the review of the week. Thank you, Flashcork. So happy to have you join us. The "I did a hard thing" is from Allison. Allison says: "I'm going to go on a job interview next week after applying to a different job, going through the grueling interviewing process and at the end not being successful. I'm working really hard to believe in myself, screw up my courage to attend this interview and be open-hearted about the new possibilities. It's hard to pick yourself up and try again, but I'm doing the hard thing of trying again. I'm scared, but I'm proud of myself." Allison, you are doing the work. And I'm actually going to take your advice today, Allison, because this is so perfect for the topic of today, which is like, yeah, sometimes we do screw up and we just have to get up and we have to try again. It's so important. I'm so, so I'm impressed. I'm just so impressed with your courage and thank you so much for sharing that because I think we've all experienced it. So, Allison, let me tell you my hard thing. I want to preface this with, I think in my-- if I'm being completely authentic with you guys, I think that I've somehow, for many years of my adulthood, without me realizing, and in not a super severe way either, it was a very secret underlying compulsion I think I've been doing for years that I didn't even know I was doing until the last couple of years is I was trying to find a way, constantly striving to find a way that I could live in a world where I didn't make a mistake. Now I understand I'm a human. I don't think I'm a superwoman. But in my mind, I think I've had-- well, I know I have, let's be honest. I think in my effort to control my emotions that I've engaged in these little nuanced secretive behaviors of constantly trying to find the formula where I don't upset people and I don't screw up. Let's just take a minute because it's funny for me to say that because how many times during the week with my clients and with you guys and everything I do is about self-compassion and letting go of control. And all along there was this nuanced little secret slither going through my life. And I think that number one, a part of this is true for a lot of people who have anxiety and are high functioning. Because I spoke to a couple of friends about this and they were like, "Yeah, to be--" when you have anxiety, to be high functioning, you have to put in place systems and procedures and routines to keep you going. And it makes sense that we often engage in other little behaviors that make us feel like we're getting control when we don't. Everybody knows, I even spoke about it a couple of sessions ago, that I am so in love with calendaring. My life has changed since I've been more intentional about my calendar. I'm not compulsive about it at all. Because I'm managing two children and two businesses and a chronic illness, if I can be really intentional and effective with my schedule, I can go into the day. I never worry about what I have to get done anymore. Really, I don't. It was th

SUMMARY: In this episode, we explore how to manage uncomfortable sensations. Many people do not struggle with intrusive thoughts and intrusive images, but instead, struggle to manage intrusive sensations. My hope is that this will give you some tools to manage these uncomfortable sensations and help you reduce how many compulsions you do to reduce or remove these feelings. In This Episode: What is an intrusive sensation? What is the difference between an uncomfortable sensation and an intrusive sensation. How to manage uncomfortable sensations such as rapid heartbeat, tingling limbs, numbness, lightheadedness, chest pain, etc. Links To Things I Talk About: ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 292. Welcome back, everybody. Today, we are talking about something that I very rarely talk about that I should be talking about more because it's like 20% of the conversations I have with clients. And I'll explain to you why in just a second. First, I'm going to do the review of the week. This one is from Linelulu. And they said: "Grateful. I am so grateful that I stumbled onto your podcasts. Your soothing voice enhances your messages as I am trying to understand more about anxiety, and panic attacks to be a better support for someone very close to me. Thank you!" You are so welcome, Linelulu. Thank you for that beautiful review. Please, I know I ask you every single episode. If you benefit from this podcast, this is one way that you can help me. So, if for any reason you feel like you have a few spare minutes, please do go and leave a review. The last thing before we get talking about sensations is to do the "I did a hard thing" of the week, and this one is from Camille. Camille says: "I've been managing my dermatillomania," which we also know is compulsive skin picking, "very well. However, I had a very stressful day and picked my skin pretty bad, in my opinion. I had a party to go to that night with a bunch of people. I didn't know. And I almost didn't go. But I pushed myself to go and no one said one thing about my skin. I'm so glad I went and got over the fact that my skin needs to be perfect in that instance." Camille, this is so good on so many levels, that you showed up and you did the thing that you wanted to do. And ugh, it's so good. And how wonderful that you had supportive friends. Again, we sometimes were really hard on ourselves and we think people notice everything about us, every flow, but how wonderful that they embraced you and no one said anything. So, thank you so much for Camille for putting in that "I did a hard thing." I just love hearing you guys doing all the hard things. Now, why do we do this segment? Let's just go back and look at that. So, most of you know that the thing I say all the time is "It's a beautiful day to do hard things." Our brains naturally default to this idea of like, "No, I shouldn't do the hard thing. I should do the easy thing." Marketing keeps telling us don't do the hard thing, do the easy thing. Commercial advertising is always sharing the easy five-step way to do something. And we want to flip the script because while it's good to have things be easy, when it comes to anxiety and these kind of conditions that we're often talking about, it's often important that you stare that scary, hard thing in the face. Now, that is the perfect segue into this week's episode about sensations. Now, at the beginning of the episode, I said it's crazy that I haven't done a lot of these episodes because sensations is 20% of the work. Now, why did I say that? In total, the clients that I see and that my staff see in our private practice, they're coming to us for one of five reasons usually. They either have an intrusive thought that they don't know what to do with, they have an intrusive feeling that they don't know what to do with, they have an intrusive urge that they don't know what to do with, they have an intrusive image that they don't know what to do with, or they have an intrusive sensation that they don't know what to do with. Five things. 99.9% of our patients and of the people that we help come with one of those five problems. It doesn't matter what you call it. They're coming with, "This is the experience that I'm having." That's so overwhelming and difficult and hard that then they go on to do behaviors to try and manage it, and we teach the

SUMMARY: A few months ago, I posted on social media and asked "What are your best tips for depression" and the response was incredible. Hundreds of people weighed in and shared their best tips for managing depression with OCD and other anxiety disorders. In This Episode: Hundreds of people with depression shared what skills they use to manage OCD and depression What skills can become compulsions How to manage day-to-day depression when you are feeling hopeless (OCD hopelessness) Links To Things I Talk About: Kimberley's Instagram Page https://www.instagram.com/youranxietytoolkit ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit Episode 291. Welcome back, everybody. So, I want to set the scene here because things are shifting. Things have shifted. So, I am right now sitting in my office, which is in Southern California, in the United States. But as this launches and goes live, I will be in Australia for the summer. I think I've talked to you guys about this in previous episodes, but my husband and I made a decision that the children and I will go to Australia to see our family for the entire summer. Oh my goodness, what a huge undertaking, but we're doing it and I am so excited. So, really, I've had to batch 10 episodes ahead of time. Now, what I've done is I've done my best to make these the best episodes I can batch for you, like the things that seem to be coming up the most for my clients, the questions my staff seem to be asking the most, and the things that everyone seem to be really, really liking and appreciating on social media. And so, in preparation for today, I was thinking about what's one of the most helpful, most enjoyed, and engaged posts on social media, because I do spend a lot of time over on Instagram. And by far, interestingly by far, my most popular post I have ever made in the whole history of me being on social media is tips on managing depression. What? I'm an OCD and an Anxiety Specialist, but yet my most popular post in the whole time I've been there is on managing depression. So, that's what we're talking about today. Now, in order for me to do 10 posts, 10 podcasts, excuse me, in order, I've had to manage my time down to the minute because right now we are leaving in 18-- no, what is it? Not 18 days. It's like 15 days. So, we're leaving in 15 days. I have all of this in addition to the work because I usually just do these here and there. I've had to manage my time, and what I have relied on the most is managing my time using what we call "calendaring." I talk a lot about this on my online course. If you go to CBT School, we have a whole course on managing time. But the reason I also share that with you is as we talk about skills today, we're going to be talking about cognitive skills and behavioral skills. And if you have depression, I strongly encourage you to go and sign up for that course. It's not an expensive course. It's jam-packed with how to schedule your time so that you can lessen the heavy load that you're carrying or the time about the lists of things you have to do and get done. So, I do recommend you go check that out. Go to CBTSchool.com and I think it's /time management. Yes, it is. We're about to get into the show. First of all, let's do the "I did a hard thing." This one is from Anonymous and it says: "I stopped driving and spending time with children because of OCD. But yesterday, I drove my little sister to school. I was scared, but I'm so proud of myself. Thank you, Kimberley." This is so good. I can't tell you how many people when they're anxious, they stop driving. It's actually a really common question I get on social media. It actually surprised me at first in that how common it is. It's one of the first things people stop doing, is driving. So, Anonymous, amazing. You are just all for the correct courage and all for the bravery and I'm celebrating you right now. That is so, so amazing. Great, great job. And one more thing, let's do quickly a review of the week. This is from Robin. Robin says: "I'm not sure how to condense all of my happiness and thanks, but I'll try. Was recommended to listen to your podcast by my therapist (who is just superb and I'm grateful she exists) and I instantly fell in love with your genuine desire to help which seeps through the sound waves. I am hooked on the real-life stories that I can connect to my own experience a

In This Episode, we discuss: Is it important that you stop doing all your compulsions? How can I practice Self-Compassion as you move through recovery? How can you balance facing fears and also being gentle on yourself? Links To Things I Talk About: ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 290. Welcome back, everybody. 290, that sounds like a lot of podcast episodes. It's funny. Sometimes I don't think of it. If you have asked me on the street, I'd say, "Yeah, I'd have about maybe 110 in the can." But 290, that is a lot of episodes. I do encourage you to go back and listen to them, especially the earlier ones. They're my favorite. But no, go back, play around, check out the ones that you love. There's probably some things there that you could probably go back and have a good giggle at. All right. We today are talking about a question that came from a student in one of my courses. I've found this question to be so important. I wanted to bring it in and have it be a podcast episode because I think this is a very important question and I think it's something we can all ponder for ourselves. Now, before we go into it, I would like to give you the "I did a hard thing." This is a segment where someone shares a hard thing that they've done. And I love the "I did a hard thing" segment probably as much as anything. This one is from anonymous and they said: "I have contamination OCD. And one thing I've avoided for a very long time is raw meat and eggs. Over the winter, I discovered that ERP is so much EASIER (and I use this term very loosely in capital letters) if my exposures are value-based." This is so good, Anonymous. "So I decided that I wanted to be the mom that baked with her kids, anxiety be darned. I wanted my kids to have warm memories baking in the kitchen with their mom as the snow fell. So each week over the winter, we picked a new recipe, and over the weekend we made it as a family. The first time I cracked an egg, my husband took out his phone and took a picture. He was so proud. The exposure was still hard and I didn't feel calmer at least while baking, but I tried my best to present and enjoy the time with my kiddos. Later, my son brought home A Joy Is book made at his school. Each page had something on it that brought him joy – fishing with dad, some are vacations. And there on the page." Oh my God, Anonymous, I'm getting goosebumps. "There on a page was 'making cookies from scratch with mom.'" Oh my God, I think I'm crying. Oh my goodness. I have goosebumps everywhere. "It is so hard to measure success with ERP sometimes, but that gets real, tangible evidence that I had accomplished something and it felt so good." Holy my stars, Anonymous. This is incredible. Wow. This is what it's all about, you guys. This is what it's all about. For those of you who are listening, I don't read these before the episode. I literally read them as just I pull them up and I read them. This one has taken my breath away. I just need a second. Oh my goodness, that is so beautiful. So beautiful. Thank you for sharing that. Oh my gosh, that is so perfect for this week's episode. All right, here we go. This week's episode is about a question, like I said, is it okay to keep doing some of my compulsions? Again, this came from one of the courses that we have. We have two signature courses for OCD. One is ERP School, and then the other one is this Mindfulness School for OCD that teaches mindfulness skills. Now, the reason I love this question is, they're asking me as if I am the expert of all things, OCD. And I want to let you in on a little truth here – I am not. You're probably like, "What is happening? She's been telling us that she's an OCD specialist all this time. And now she's telling me she's not the expert." I am not the expert of you. And I want to really make sure that is clear. Anytime someone says, "What should I do? What's the right thing to do for me?" I try my best not to tell them that is best for them because I'm only telling them what I think is best for them. That doesn't mean it's the facts. So, I want to be very clear. I am not the expert in you. You are. You do get to make choices of your own. That being said-- and I'll talk more about that here in a second. But that being said, let's look at the question and just look at it from a perspective of just general concepts of OCD.

In This Episode: What is whack-a-mole obsessions? Why do my obsessions keep changing? What is the treatment for fears that keep changing? Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 289. Welcome back, everybody. I am so happy to be with you again. I won't lie. I'm still on a high (that rhymed) from the managing mental compulsion series. Oh my gosh, you guys, I am so proud of that series, that six-part series. If you didn't listen to it, please do go back. I'll probably tell you that for the next several podcasts, just because I am really still floating on the coattails of how amazingly, so wonderful that was. And it really seemed to help a ton of people, which is so fulfilling. I do love-- it's not because of the ego piece of it, I just do love when I know I'm making an impact. It's really quite helpful to feel like you're making an impact. And sometimes when I'm putting out episodes, I really don't know whether they're helpful or not. That's the thing about podcasts compared to social media, is with social media, if you follow me on Instagram @youranxietytoolkit or Facebook, I can get a feel based on how many comments or how many likes or how many shares. But with podcast, it's hard to know how helpful it is. And the feedback has been amazing. Thank you, everyone who's left reviews. What a joy, what a joy. What the cool thing is, since then, it's actually created this really wonderful conversation between me and my therapist. So, for those of you who don't know, in addition to me owning CBT School, I also own a private practice where myself and nine of my therapists were actually, now 10 extra therapists, in the process of hiring a new person. We meet once a week or more to discuss cases. And the cool thing about the mental compulsion series is it brought the coolest questions and conversations and pondering, what would this help this client? How would it help that client? These are the struggles my clients are having. Because as I kept saying, not every tool is for everybody. Some you'll be like, "Yes, this is exactly what I needed," and there'll be other things where they might not resonate with you. And that's totally fine. It doesn't mean anything is wrong. That's because we're all different. But it's really brought up a lot of questions. And so, now I'm actually going to hopefully answer some of those questions in the upcoming podcasts. Today, we're actually talking about what to do when your obsessions keep changing. Because we're talking about mental compulsions and reducing those, and that's actually the response prevention part of treatment, what's hard to know, like what exposures do you do for somebody whose obsessions keep changing or their fears keep flip flopping from one to the other? One week, it's this. Next week, it's that. And then it's funny because a lot of clients will say, "What was a 10 out of 10 for me last week is nothing now. And now all I can think about is this other thing. I was really worried about what I said to this one person. Now, all I can think about is this rash on my arm. And the week before that, I was really upset that maybe I had sinned," or there was another obsession. Again, it's just what we call Whack-A-Mole. We're going to talk about that today. But before we do that, we are going to do the "I did a hard thing" segment. This one is from Marisa. And Marisa is at the @renewpodcast. I think that might be her Instagram or their Instagram. Marisa said: "Last week I submitted my dietetic internship applications. It was a long, stressful process and anxiety definitely came up during it. And I was able to move through and do the hard thing. I kept reminding myself that the short-term discomfort of submitting the application was worth the long-term reward of hopefully getting a step closer to my goal of becoming a registered dietician through completing the internship. Even though there is still uncertainty and the outcome that I have to sit with while I wait to find out the results of my application, I have learned through my ERP work that I can sit with the discomfort and uncertainty. Thank you, Kimberley, for reminding me that it is a beautiful day to do hard things." Marisa, I hope that you get in. I hope that you get all of the things that you're applying for. This is so exciting. And yeah, you really walked the walk. This is exactly what we're talking about when we do the "I did a hard thi

SUMMARY: Today, I share what to do when you get "bad" news. This episode will share a recent situation I got into where I had to use all of my mindfulness and self-compassion tools. Check it out! Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 288. Welcome back, everybody. We literally just finished the six-week series on managing mental compulsions. My heart is full, as full as full can be. I am sitting here looking into my microphone and I just have a big, fat smile on my face. I'm just so excited for what we did together, and I felt like it was so huge. I have so many ideas of how I want to do something similar in the future with different areas. And I will. Thank you so much for your feedback and your reviews. I hope it was as helpful as it was for me, even as a clinician. I found it to be incredibly helpful, even as a supervisor, supervising my staff. I have nine incredible staff who are therapists, who help treat my clients and we constantly keep referring back during supervision of like, "Do you remember what Lisa said? Do you remember what Reid said? Listen, let's consider what Jon said or Jon Hershfield said, or Shala Nicely said." It was just so beautiful. I'm so grateful. If you haven't listened, go back and listen to it. It's a six-week series and ugh, it was just so wonderful. I keep saying it was just so wonderful. So, if you go back, I did an introduction, Episode 282. And then from there, it was these amazing, amazing experts who just dropped amazing truth bomb after amazing truth bomb. So, that's that. Today, I am going back to the roots of this podcast. And I'm sharing with you-- for those of you who have been listening for a while, we usually start the episode with a segment called the "I did a hard thing" segment. This is where people write in and tell me a hard thing that they've done. If you go to my website, which is KimberleyQuinlan-lmft.com. There on the podcast page is a place to submit your "I did a hard thing." And today's "I did a hard thing" is from yours truly. I just had to share this story with you. I feel like it's an important story to tell you guys, and I wanted to share with you that I'm not just talking the talk over here, I'm walking the walk. So, today's episode is called When You Get Bad News. I'm just going to leave it at that. Before we get started, I would love to leave you and share with you the review of the week. This is from hannabanana3131, and they said: "Fantastic mental health podcast. Such an amazing podcast. I have learned so many useful tools for dealing with my anxiety and OCD. And Kimberley is such a loving, compassionate coach - I feel like she's rooting for me every step of my healing journey," and she's left a heart emoji. Thank you so much, hannabanana. I love, love, love getting your reviews. It does help me so much. So, if you have a moment of time and the podcasts are helpful for you, that is the most helpful thing you can do back. When we get reviews, then when people who are new come over and see it, it actually makes them feel like they can trust the information we're giving. And in today's world, trust is important. There is so much noise and so many people talking about OCD and anxiety, and it's easy to get caught up in nonsense stuff. And so, I really want to build a trust factor with the listeners that I have. So, thank you so much for doing that. Okay. It's funny that hannabanana says, "I feel like she's rooting for me," because the "I did hard thing" is me talking about my recent experience of having a root canal. Worse than a root canal. So, let me tell you a story now. I'm not just telling you this story to tell you a story. I'm telling you this story because I want to sometimes-- when we do the "I did a hard thing" segment, it's usually very, very short and to the point, but I'd actually like to walk you through how I got through getting some really bad news. So, let's talk about it. And I'll share. I'm not perfect. So, there were times when I was doing well and there was times when I won't. So, for those of you who don't know, which I'm guessing is all of you, I have very bad gums. My gums, I inherited bad gums. It comes in my family. I go in every three months for a gum routine where they do a deep cleaning or they really check my gums to make sure there's not receding too much. And because of that, I take really good care of my teeth. And because of that, I us

SUMMARY: In this episode, we talk with Lisa Coyne about ACT For mental compulsions. Lisa Coyne addressed how to use Acceptance and Commitment therapy for overcoming mental compulsions. We cover how to identify your values using a fun little trick! In This Episode: How to use Acceptance & Commitment Therapy to manage mental compulsions How to practice Willingness in regards to reducing mental rituals and mental rumination A fun little Value Based tool for identifying your values. How to be curious instead of thinking in a limited way. Links To Things I Talk About: Stuff thats Loud Stop Avoiding Stuff https://www.newenglandocd.org/ ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 287. Welcome back, everybody. I am so excited. We are at Episode 6 of this six-part series of how to manage mental compulsions. You guys, we could not end this series with anyone better than Dr. Lisa Coyne. I don't know if you've heard of Lisa Coyne. I bet you, you probably have. She is the most wonderful human being. I have met Lisa, Dr. Lisa Coyne multiple times online, never in person, and just loved her. And this was my first time of actually getting to spend some really precious time with her. And, oh my gosh, my heart exploded like a million times. And you will hear in this episode, you will hear my heart exploding at some point, I'm sure. I am so honored to finish out the six-part series with Lisa. This series, let me just share with you how joyful it has felt to be able to deliver this as a series, as a back-to-back piece of hope. I'm hoping it has been a piece of hope for you in managing something really, really difficult, which is managing mental compulsions. Now, as we finish this series up, I may or may not want to do a recap. I'm not sure yet. I'm going to just see where my heart falls, but I want to just really first, as we move into this final part of the series, to remind you, take what you need. You've been given literally back-to-back some of the best advice I have ever heard in regards to managing mental compulsions. We've got world-renowned experts on this series. You might have either found it so, so educational and so, so helpful while also feeling sometimes a little bit like, "Oh my goodness, there's so many tools, which one do I use?" And I really want to emphasize to you, as we finish this out, again, so beautiful. What a beautiful ending. I almost feel like crying. As we finish it out, I really want to remind you, take what you need, take what's helpful, or – well, I should say and – try all of them out. Practice with each of the skills and the concepts and the tools. See what happens when you do. Use them as little experiments. Just keep plugging away with these skills and tools. Because number one, they're all evidence-based. I very carefully picked the experts on this series to make sure that we are bringing you evidence-based, really gold standard treatment. So, that's been a priority. Just practice with them. Don't be hard on yourself as you practice them. Remind yourself, this is a long-term journey. These are skills I still practice. I'm sure everyone who's come on the show, they are still practicing them. And so, I really want to send you off with a sense of hope that you get to play around with these. Be playful with them. Some of them will be we've giggled and we've laughed and we've cried. So, I want you to just be gentle as you proceed and you practice and remind yourself this is a process and a journey. That being said, I am going to take you right into this next part of the six-part series with Dr. Lisa Coyne. This is where we bring it home and boy, does she bring it home. I feel like she beautifully ties it all up in a ribbon. And I hope it has been so helpful for you. Really, I do. I want this to be a resource that you share with other people who are struggling. I want to be a resource that you return to when you're struggling. I want it to be a place where you feel understood and validated. And so, thank you so much for being a part of this amazing series. That being said, let's get over onto the show, and here is Dr. Lisa Coyne. ------ Kimberley: I literally feel like I'm almost in tears because I know this is going to be the last of the series and I'm so excited. I had just said this is going to bring it home. I'm so excited to have Dr. Lisa Coyne. Welcome. Lisa: Thank

SUMMARY: In this week's podcast, we talk with Dr. Reid Wilson. Reid discussed how to get the theme out of the way and play the moment-by moment game. Reid shares his specific strategies for managing mental compulsion. You are not going to want to miss one minute of this episode. Covered in This Episode: Getting your Theme out of the way The importance of shifting your additude Balancing "being aggressive" and implementing mindfulness and acceptance How to play the "moment by moment" game Using strategy to achieve success in recovery OCD and the 6-moment Game Other tactics for Mental compulsions Links To Things I Talk About: Reid's Website anxieties.com https://www.youtube.com/user/ReidWilsonPhD?app=desktop DOWNLOAD REID's WORKBOOK HERE Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 286. Welcome back, everybody. I am so excited. You guys, we are on number five of this six-part series, and this six-part series on Managing Mental Compulsions literally has been one of the highlights of my career. I am not just saying that. I'm just flooded with honor and pride and appreciation and excitement for you. All the feedback has been incredible. So many of you have emailed me or reached out to me on social media just to let me know that this is helping you. And to be honest with you, I can't thank you enough because this has been something I've wanted to do for so long and I've really felt that it's so needed. And it's just been so wonderful to get that feedback from you. So, thank you so much. The other plus people I want to be so grateful for are the guests. Each person has brought their special magic to how to manage mental compulsions. And you guys, the thing to remember here is managing mental compulsions is hard work, like the hardest of hard work. And I want to just honor that it is so hard and it is so confusing and it's such a difficult thing to navigate. And so, to have Jon talking about mental compulsions and mindfulness and Shala talking about her lived experience and flooding, and Dr. Jonathan Grayson talking about acceptance last week. And now, we have the amazing Reid Wilson coming on and sharing his amazing strategies and tools that he uses with his patients with mental rumination, mental compulsions, mental rituals. Literally, I can't even explain it. It's just joy. It's just pure joy that I get to do this with you and be on this journey with you. I'm going to do this quick. So, I'll just do a quick introduction. We do have Dr. Reid Wilson here. Now we've had Reid on before. Every single guest here, I just consider such a dear friend. You're going to love this episode. He brings the mic drops. I'm not going to lie. And so, I do hope that you squeeze every little bit of juice out of this episode. Bring your notepad, get your pen, you're going to need it, and enjoy. Again, have a beautiful day. As I always say, it is a beautiful day to do hard things. Let's get onto the show. Kimberley: I am thrilled to have you, Dr. Reid Wilson. Reid: Thanks. Glad to be here. Kimberley: Oh my goodness. Okay. I have been so excited to ask you these questions. I am just jumping out of my skin. I'm so really quite interested to hear your approach to mental compulsions. Before we get started, do you call them mental compulsions, mental rituals, mental rumination? How do you-- Reid: Sure. All of the above doesn't matter to me. I just don't call it "pure obsessions, pure obsessionals" because I think that's a misnomer, but we can't seem to get away from that. Kimberley: Can you maybe quickly share why you don't think we can get away from that? Do you want to maybe-- we'd love to hear your thoughts on that. We haven't addressed that yet in the podcast. Reid: Well, typically, we would call-- people write to me all the time and probably do that too, say, "I'm a pure obsessional." Well, that's ridiculous. Nobody's a pure obsessional. What it really is, is I have obsessions and then I have mental compulsions. And so, it's such a misnomer to be using that term. But what I mean is, how we can't get away from it is it's just gotten so completely in the lexicon that it would take a lot of effort to try to expel the term. Getting the theme out of the way Kimberley: Okay. Thank you for clearing that up, because that's like not something we've actually addressed up until this time. So, I'm so grateful you brought that up. So, I have read a bunch of your staff. I've h

SUMMARY: In this weeks podcast, we talk with Dr Jon Grayson about managing mental compulsions. Jon talks about how to use Acceptance to manage strong intrusive thoughts and other obsessions. Jon addressed how to use acceptance with OCD, GAD and other Anxiety disorders. Covered in This Episode: What is a Mental Compulsion? What is the difference between Mental Rumination and Mental Compulsions? How to use Acceptance for Mental Compulsions How to practice acceptance when the intrusive thoughts are so strong. Links To Things I Talk About: Jon's Book Freedom from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder: A Personalized Recovery Program for Living with Uncertainty Jon's Website https://www.laocdtreatment.com/ ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit Episode - 285. Welcome back, everybody. We are on episode three of the six-part series. And if you have listened to the previous episodes, I am sure you are just full of information, but hopefully ready to hear some more. Today, we have Dr. Jonathan Grayson. He's here to talk about his specific way of managing mental compulsions. As you may know, if you've listened before, I strongly urge you to start and go in order. So, first, we started with Mental Compulsions 101. That was with yours truly, myself. Then Jon Hershfield came in. He talked about mindfulness and really went in, gave some incredible tools. Shala Nicely, again, gave some lived experience and really the tools that worked for her. And I have just been mind-blown with both of their expertise. And it doesn't stop there. We have amazing Dr. Jonathan Grayson today talking about all of the ways that he manages mental compulsions and how he brings specific concepts to help a client be motivated and lean into that response prevention and to reduce those mental compulsions. I am again blown away with how amazing and respectful and kind and knowledgeable these experts are. I just am overwhelmed with joy to share this with you. Again, please remember this should not replace professional mental health care. We are here at CBT School, who is the host of this series. We're here to provide you skills and tools, and resources specifically if you don't have access to those resources. That is a huge part of our mission. So, even though we have ERP School – and that is an online course, you can take it from your home – we wanted to offer this freely because so many people are seeming to be misunderstanding mental compulsions, and it's an area I really have been excited to share with you in this free series. So, I'm not going to yammer on anymore. I'm going to let you hear the amazing wisdom of Jonathan Grayson. Have a wonderful day. Kimberley: Welcome. I am so honored to have you here, Jon Grayson. Jonathan: It is always a pleasure. Kimberley: Okay. So, I actually am really, really interested to hear your point of view. As we go through a different episode, I actually am learning things. I thought I knew it all, but I'm learning and learning. So, I'm so excited to get your view on managing mental compulsions or how you address them. My first question is, do you call them mental compulsions, mental rituals, rumination? How do you frame it? Jonathan: I'm never really too big on jargony, but mental compulsions are mental rituals. And I think that's trying to-- and I think the thing about mental rituals is some people don't know they have them. I mean, some people know, but some people will describe it as, "I just obsess, I don't have rituals." but then when you listen, they do. And the ritual part is trying to reassure themselves or convince themselves that whatever it is they're worrying about isn't. So, they have both the fear part like, "Oh my God, what if this is true? But wait, here's why it's not true. Now I know that's not really true. But what if it is true?" So, that is what I would call mental compulsion or rituals. Kimberley: Right. How do you-- let's say you're sitting across from a patient or a client they are doing either predominantly mental compulsions or that's a huge part of the symptoms that they have. How would you address in your own way, teaching somebody how to manage mental compulsions? Jonathan: I think there's two answers to the question because I never have, and one has to do with what is the content, because I believe every set of mental rituals – I believe it for all forms of OCD, whether

SUMMARY: In this weeks podcast, we have my dearest friend Shala Nicely talking about how she manages mental compulsions. In this episode, Shala shares her lived experience with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and how she overcomes mental rituals. In This Episode: How to reduce mental compulsions for OCD and GAD. How to use Flooding Techniques with Mental Compulsions Magical Thinking and Mental Compulsions BDD and Mental Compulsions Links To Things I Talk About: Shalanicely.com Book: Is Fred in the Refridgerator? Book: Everyday Mindfulness for OCD ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 284. Welcome back, everybody. We are on the third video or the third part of this six-part series on how to manage mental compulsions. Last week's episode with Jon Hershfield was bomb, like so good. And I will say that we, this week, have Shala Nicely, and she goes for it as well. So, I am so honored to have these amazing experts talking about mental compulsions, talking about what specific tools they use. So, I'm not going to take too much time of the intro this time, because I know you just want to get to the content. Again, I just want to put a disclaimer. This should not replace professional mental health care. This series is for educational purposes only. My job at CBT School is to give you as much education as I can, knowing that you may or may not have access to care or treatment in your own home. So, I'm hoping that this fills in a gap that maybe we've missed in the past in terms of we have ERP School, that's an online course teaching you everything about ERP to get you started if you're doing that on your own. But this is a bigger topic. This is an area that I'd need to make a complete new course. But instead of making a course, I'm bringing these experts to you for free, hopefully giving you the tools that you need. If you're wanting additional information about ERP School, please go to CBTSchool.com. With that being said, let's go straight over to this episode with Shala Nicely. Kimberley: Welcome, Shala. I am so happy to have you here. Shala: I am so happy to be here. Thank you for having me. Kimberley: Okay. So, I have heard a little bit of your views on this, but I am actually so excited now to get into the juicy details of how you address mental compulsions or mental rituals. First, I want to check in with you, do you call them mental compulsions, rituals, rumination? How do you address them? Shala: Yeah. All those things. I also sometimes call it mental gymnastics up in your head, it's all sorts of things you're doing in your head to try to get some relief from anxiety. Kimberley: Right. So, if you had a patient or a client who really was struggling with mental compulsions, whether or not they were doing other compulsions as well, how might you address that particular part of their symptomology? Shala: So, let me answer that by stepping back a little bit and telling you about my own experience with this, because a lot of the way I do it is based on what I learned, trying to manage my own mental rituals. I've had OCD probably since I was five or six, untreated until I was 39. Stumbled upon the right treatment when I went to the IOCDF Conference and started doing exposure mostly on my own. I went to Reid Wilson's two-day group, where I learned how to do it. But the rest of the time, I was implementing on my own. And even though I had quite a few physical compulsions, I would've considered myself a primary mental ritualizer, meaning if we look at the majority, my compulsions were up in my head. And the way I think about this is I think that sometimes if you have OCD for long enough, and you've got to go out and keep functioning in the world and you can't do all these rituals so that people could see, because then people will be like, "What's wrong with you? What are you doing?" you take them inward. And some mental compulsions can take the place of physical compulsions that you're not able to do for whatever reason because you're trying to function. And I'd had untreated OCD for so long that most of my rituals were up in my head, not all, but the great majority of them. Exposure & Response Prevention for Mental Compulsions So, when I started to do exposure, what I found was I could do exposure therapy, straight up going and facing my fears, like going and being around things that might

SUMMARY: In this weeks podcast, we have my dearest friend Shala Nicely talking about how she manages mental compulsions. In this episode, Shala shares her lived experience with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and how she overcomes mental rituals. In This Episode: How to reduce mental compulsions for OCD and GAD. How to use Flooding Techniques with Mental Compulsions Magical Thinking and Mental Compulsions BDD and Mental Compulsions Links To Things I Talk About: Shalanicely.com Book: Is Fred in the Refridgerator? Book: Everyday Mindfulness for OCD ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 284. Welcome back, everybody. We are on the third video or the third part of this six-part series on how to manage mental compulsions. Last week's episode with Jon Hershfield was bomb, like so good. And I will say that we, this week, have Shala Nicely, and she goes for it as well. So, I am so honored to have these amazing experts talking about mental compulsions, talking about what specific tools they use. So, I'm not going to take too much time of the intro this time, because I know you just want to get to the content. Again, I just want to put a disclaimer. This should not replace professional mental health care. This series is for educational purposes only. My job at CBT School is to give you as much education as I can, knowing that you may or may not have access to care or treatment in your own home. So, I'm hoping that this fills in a gap that maybe we've missed in the past in terms of we have ERP School, that's an online course teaching you everything about ERP to get you started if you're doing that on your own. But this is a bigger topic. This is an area that I'd need to make a complete new course. But instead of making a course, I'm bringing these experts to you for free, hopefully giving you the tools that you need. If you're wanting additional information about ERP School, please go to CBTSchool.com. With that being said, let's go straight over to this episode with Shala Nicely. Kimberley: Welcome, Shala. I am so happy to have you here. Shala: I am so happy to be here. Thank you for having me. Kimberley: Okay. So, I have heard a little bit of your views on this, but I am actually so excited now to get into the juicy details of how you address mental compulsions or mental rituals. First, I want to check in with you, do you call them mental compulsions, rituals, rumination? How do you address them? Shala: Yeah. All those things. I also sometimes call it mental gymnastics up in your head, it's all sorts of things you're doing in your head to try to get some relief from anxiety. Kimberley: Right. So, if you had a patient or a client who really was struggling with mental compulsions, whether or not they were doing other compulsions as well, how might you address that particular part of their symptomology? Shala: So, let me answer that by stepping back a little bit and telling you about my own experience with this, because a lot of the way I do it is based on what I learned, trying to manage my own mental rituals. I've had OCD probably since I was five or six, untreated until I was 39. Stumbled upon the right treatment when I went to the IOCDF Conference and started doing exposure mostly on my own. I went to Reid Wilson's two-day group, where I learned how to do it. But the rest of the time, I was implementing on my own. And even though I had quite a few physical compulsions, I would've considered myself a primary mental ritualizer, meaning if we look at the majority, my compulsions were up in my head. And the way I think about this is I think that sometimes if you have OCD for long enough, and you've got to go out and keep functioning in the world and you can't do all these rituals so that people could see, because then people will be like, "What's wrong with you? What are you doing?" you take them inward. And some mental compulsions can take the place of physical compulsions that you're not able to do for whatever reason because you're trying to function. And I'd had untreated OCD for so long that most of my rituals were up in my head, not all, but the great majority of them. Exposure & Response Prevention for Mental Compulsions So, when I started to do exposure, what I found was I could do exposure therapy, straight up going and facing my fears, like going and being around things that might

SUMMARY: In this weeks podcast, we have my dearest friend Shala Nicely talking about how she manages mental compulsions. In this episode, Shala shares her lived experience with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and how she overcomes mental rituals. In This Episode: How to reduce mental compulsions for OCD and GAD. How to use Flooding Techniques with Mental Compulsions Magical Thinking and Mental Compulsions BDD and Mental Compulsions Links To Things I Talk About: Shalanicely.com Book: Is Fred in the Refridgerator? Book: Everyday Mindfulness for OCD ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 284. Welcome back, everybody. We are on the third video or the third part of this six-part series on how to manage mental compulsions. Last week's episode with Jon Hershfield was bomb, like so good. And I will say that we, this week, have Shala Nicely, and she goes for it as well. So, I am so honored to have these amazing experts talking about mental compulsions, talking about what specific tools they use. So, I'm not going to take too much time of the intro this time, because I know you just want to get to the content. Again, I just want to put a disclaimer. This should not replace professional mental health care. This series is for educational purposes only. My job at CBT School is to give you as much education as I can, knowing that you may or may not have access to care or treatment in your own home. So, I'm hoping that this fills in a gap that maybe we've missed in the past in terms of we have ERP School, that's an online course teaching you everything about ERP to get you started if you're doing that on your own. But this is a bigger topic. This is an area that I'd need to make a complete new course. But instead of making a course, I'm bringing these experts to you for free, hopefully giving you the tools that you need. If you're wanting additional information about ERP School, please go to CBTSchool.com. With that being said, let's go straight over to this episode with Shala Nicely. Kimberley: Welcome, Shala. I am so happy to have you here. Shala: I am so happy to be here. Thank you for having me. Kimberley: Okay. So, I have heard a little bit of your views on this, but I am actually so excited now to get into the juicy details of how you address mental compulsions or mental rituals. First, I want to check in with you, do you call them mental compulsions, rituals, rumination? How do you address them? Shala: Yeah. All those things. I also sometimes call it mental gymnastics up in your head, it's all sorts of things you're doing in your head to try to get some relief from anxiety. Kimberley: Right. So, if you had a patient or a client who really was struggling with mental compulsions, whether or not they were doing other compulsions as well, how might you address that particular part of their symptomology? Shala: So, let me answer that by stepping back a little bit and telling you about my own experience with this, because a lot of the way I do it is based on what I learned, trying to manage my own mental rituals. I've had OCD probably since I was five or six, untreated until I was 39. Stumbled upon the right treatment when I went to the IOCDF Conference and started doing exposure mostly on my own. I went to Reid Wilson's two-day group, where I learned how to do it. But the rest of the time, I was implementing on my own. And even though I had quite a few physical compulsions, I would've considered myself a primary mental ritualizer, meaning if we look at the majority, my compulsions were up in my head. And the way I think about this is I think that sometimes if you have OCD for long enough, and you've got to go out and keep functioning in the world and you can't do all these rituals so that people could see, because then people will be like, "What's wrong with you? What are you doing?" you take them inward. And some mental compulsions can take the place of physical compulsions that you're not able to do for whatever reason because you're trying to function. And I'd had untreated OCD for so long that most of my rituals were up in my head, not all, but the great majority of them. Exposure & Response Prevention for Mental Compulsions So, when I started to do exposure, what I found was I could do exposure therapy, straight up going and facing my fears, like going and being around things that might

SUMMARY: In this weeks podcast, we have my dearest friend Shala Nicely talking about how she manages mental compulsions. In this episode, Shala shares her lived experience with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and how she overcomes mental rituals. In This Episode: How to reduce mental compulsions for OCD and GAD. How to use Flooding Techniques with Mental Compulsions Magical Thinking and Mental Compulsions BDD and Mental Compulsions Links To Things I Talk About: Shalanicely.com Book: Is Fred in the Refridgerator? Book: Everyday Mindfulness for OCD ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 284. Welcome back, everybody. We are on the third video or the third part of this six-part series on how to manage mental compulsions. Last week's episode with Jon Hershfield was bomb, like so good. And I will say that we, this week, have Shala Nicely, and she goes for it as well. So, I am so honored to have these amazing experts talking about mental compulsions, talking about what specific tools they use. So, I'm not going to take too much time of the intro this time, because I know you just want to get to the content. Again, I just want to put a disclaimer. This should not replace professional mental health care. This series is for educational purposes only. My job at CBT School is to give you as much education as I can, knowing that you may or may not have access to care or treatment in your own home. So, I'm hoping that this fills in a gap that maybe we've missed in the past in terms of we have ERP School, that's an online course teaching you everything about ERP to get you started if you're doing that on your own. But this is a bigger topic. This is an area that I'd need to make a complete new course. But instead of making a course, I'm bringing these experts to you for free, hopefully giving you the tools that you need. If you're wanting additional information about ERP School, please go to CBTSchool.com. With that being said, let's go straight over to this episode with Shala Nicely. Kimberley: Welcome, Shala. I am so happy to have you here. Shala: I am so happy to be here. Thank you for having me. Kimberley: Okay. So, I have heard a little bit of your views on this, but I am actually so excited now to get into the juicy details of how you address mental compulsions or mental rituals. First, I want to check in with you, do you call them mental compulsions, rituals, rumination? How do you address them? Shala: Yeah. All those things. I also sometimes call it mental gymnastics up in your head, it's all sorts of things you're doing in your head to try to get some relief from anxiety. Kimberley: Right. So, if you had a patient or a client who really was struggling with mental compulsions, whether or not they were doing other compulsions as well, how might you address that particular part of their symptomology? Shala: So, let me answer that by stepping back a little bit and telling you about my own experience with this, because a lot of the way I do it is based on what I learned, trying to manage my own mental rituals. I've had OCD probably since I was five or six, untreated until I was 39. Stumbled upon the right treatment when I went to the IOCDF Conference and started doing exposure mostly on my own. I went to Reid Wilson's two-day group, where I learned how to do it. But the rest of the time, I was implementing on my own. And even though I had quite a few physical compulsions, I would've considered myself a primary mental ritualizer, meaning if we look at the majority, my compulsions were up in my head. And the way I think about this is I think that sometimes if you have OCD for long enough, and you've got to go out and keep functioning in the world and you can't do all these rituals so that people could see, because then people will be like, "What's wrong with you? What are you doing?" you take them inward. And some mental compulsions can take the place of physical compulsions that you're not able to do for whatever reason because you're trying to function. And I'd had untreated OCD for so long that most of my rituals were up in my head, not all, but the great majority of them. Exposure & Response Prevention for Mental Compulsions So, when I started to do exposure, what I found was I could do exposure therapy, straight up going and facing my fears, like going and being around things that might

SUMMARY: Covered in This Episode: What is a Mental Compulsion? What is the difference between Mental Rumination and Mental Compulsions? How to use Mindfulness for Mental Compulsions How to "Label and Abandon" intrusive thoughts and mental compulsions How to use Awareness logs to help reduce mental rituals and mental rumination Links To Things I Talk About: Links to Jon's Books https://www.amazon.com/ Work with Jon https://www.sheppardpratt.org/care-finder/ocd-anxiety-center/ Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. To learn about our Online Course for OCD, visit https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free, and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION I want you to go back and listen to that. That is where I walk you through Mental Compulsions 101. What is a mental compulsion, the types of mental compulsions, things to be looking out for. The reason I stress that you start there is there may be things you're doing that are mental compulsions and you didn't realize. So, you want to know those things before you go in and listen to the skills that you're about to receive. Oh my goodness. This is just so, so exciting. I'm mind-blown with how exciting this is all for me. First of all, let's introduce the guest for today. Today, we have the amazing Jon Hershfield. Jon has been on the episode before, even talking about mental compulsions. However, I wanted him to status off. He was so brave. He jumped in, and I wanted him to give his ideas around what is a mental compulsion, how he uses mental compulsion treatment with his clients, what skills he uses. Little thing to know here, he taught me something I myself didn't know and have now since implemented with our patients over at my clinic of people who struggle with mental compulsions. I've also uploaded that and added a little bit of that concept into ERP School, which is our course for OCD, called ERP School. You can get it at CBTSchool.com. Jon is amazing. So, you're going to really feel solid moving into this. He gives some solid advice. Of course, he's always so lovely and wise. And so, I am just so excited to share this with you. Let's just get to the show because I know you're here to learn. This is episode two of the series. Next week we will be talking with Shala Nicely and she will be dropping major truth bombs and major skills as well, as will all of the people on the series. So, I am so, so excited. One thing to know as you move into it is there will be some things that really work for you and some that won't. So, I'm going to say this in every episode intro. So, all of these skills are top-notch science-based skills. Each person is going to give their own specific nuanced way of managing it. So, I want you to go in knowing that you can take what you need. Some things will really be like, yes, that's exactly what I needed to hear. Some may not. So, I want you to go in with an open mind knowing that the whole purpose of this six-part series is to give you many different approaches so that you can try on what works for you. That's my main agenda here, is that you can feel like you've gotten all the ideas and then you can start to put together a plan for yourself. Let's go over to the show. I'm so happy you're here. ----- Kimberley: Welcome, Jon. I'm so happy to have you back. Jon: Hi, Kimberley. Thanks for having me back. Difference Between Mental Compulsions and Mental Rumination Kimberley: Okay. So, you're first in line and I purposely had you first in line. I know we've had episodes similar to this in the past, but I just wanted to really get your view on how you're dealing with mental compulsions. First, I want to check in, do you call them "mental compulsions" or do you call it "mental rumination"? Do you want to clarify your own idea? Jon: Yeah. I say mental compulsions or mental rituals. I use the terms pretty interchangeably. It comes up at the first, usually in the assessment, if not then in the first post-assessment session, when I'm explaining how OCD works and I get to the part we say, and then there's this thing called compulsions. And what I do is I describe compulsions as anything that you do physically or mentally to reduce distress, and this is the important part, specifically by trying to increase certainty about the content of the obsession. Why that's important is I think we need to get rid of this myth that sometimes shows up in the OCD community that when you do exposures or when you're triggered, you're just supposed to freak out and deal wit

SUMMARY: Welcome to the first week of this 6-part series on Mental Compulsions. This week is an introduction to mental compulsions. Ove the next 6 weeks, we will hear from many of the leaders in our feild on how to manage mental compulsions using many different strategies and CBT techniques. Next week, we will have Jon Hershfield to talk about how he using mindfulness to help with mental compulsions and mental rituals. In This Episode: What is a mental compulsion? Is there a different between a mental compulsion and mental rumination and mental rituals? What is a compulsion? Types of Mental Compulsions Links To Things I Talk About: How to reach Jon https://www.sheppardpratt.org/care-finder/ocd-anxiety-center/ ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 282 and the first part of a six-part series that I am overwhelmed and honored to share with you – all on mental compulsions. I have wanted to provide a free resource on mental compulsions for years, and I don't know why, but I finally got enough energy under my wings and I pulled it off and I could not be more excited. Let me tell you why. This is a six-part series. The next six episodes will be dedicated to managing mental compulsions, mental rituals, mental rumination. I will be presenting today the first part of the training, which is what we call Mental Compulsions 101. It will talk to you about all the different types of mental compulsions, give you a little bit of starter training. And then from there, it gets exciting. We have the most incredible experts in the field, all bringing their own approach to the same topic, which is how do we manage mental compulsions? We don't talk about mental compulsions enough. Often, it's not addressed enough in treatment. It's usually very, very difficult to reduce or stop mental compulsion. I thought I would bring all of the leaders, not all of them, the ones I could get and the ones that I had the time to squeeze into this six-part series, the ones that I have found the most beneficial for my training and my education for me and my stuff. I asked very similar questions, all with the main goal of getting their specific way of managing it, their little take, their little nuance, fairy tale magic because they do work magic. These people are volunteering their time to provide this amazing resource. Welcome to number one of a six-part series on mental compulsions. I hope you get every amazing tool from it. I hope it changes your life. I hope you get out your journal and you write down everything that you think will help you and you put it together and you try it and you experiment with it and you practice and you practice because these amazing humans are so good and they bring such wisdom. I'm going to stop there because I don't want to go on too much. Of course, I will be starting. And then from there, every week for the next five weeks after this one, you will get a new take, a new set of tools, a new way of approaching it. Hopefully, it's enough to really get you moving in managing your mental compulsion so you can go and live the life that you deserve, so that you can go and do the things you want without fear and anxiety and mental compulsions taking over your time. Let's do this. I have not once been more excited, so let's do this together. It is a beautiful day to do hard things and so let's do it together. Welcome, everybody. Welcome to Mental Compulsions 101. This is where I set the scene and teach you everything you need to know to get you started on understanding mental compulsions, understanding what they are, different kinds, what to do, and then we're going to move over and let the experts talk about how they personally manage mental compulsions. But before they shared their amazing knowledge and wisdom, I wanted to make sure you all had a good understanding of what a mental compulsion is and really get to know your own mental compulsions so you can catch little, maybe nuanced ways that maybe you're doing mental compulsions. I'm going to do this in a slideshow format. If you're listening to this audio, there will be a video format that you can access as well here very soon. I will let you know about that. But for right now, let's go straight into the content. Who is Kimberley Quinlan? First of all, who am I? My name is Kimberley Quinlan. A lot of you know who I am already. If you don

SUMMARY: This episode addresses some common questions people have about anxiety and arousal. Oftentimes, we are too afraid to talk about anxiety and arousal, so I thought I would take this opportunity to address some of the questions you may have and take some of the stigma and shame out of discussing anxiety and how it impacts arousal, orgasm, intimacy, and sexual interactions. In This Episode: How anxiety and arousal impact each other (its a cycle) Arousal Non-Concordance and how it impacts people with anxiety and OCD How to take the shame out of arousal struggles Understanding why anxiety impacts orgasms and general intimacy Links To Things I Talk About: Article I wrote about OCD and Arousal Non-Concordance https://www.madeofmillions.com/articles/whats-going-ocd-arousal Come as You are By Emily Nagoski, PhD Come as You Are Workbook By Emily Nagoski, PhD ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to CBTschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 281. Welcome back, everybody. How are you? It is a beautiful sunny day here in California. We're actually in the middle of a heatwave. It is April when I'm recording this and it is crazy how hard it is, but I'm totally here for it. I'm liking it because I love summer. Talking about heat, let's talk about anxiety and arousal today. Shall we? Did you get that little pun? I'm just kidding really. Today, we're talking about anxiety and arousal. I don't know why, but lately, I'm in the mood to talk about things that no one really wants to talk about or that we all want to talk about and we're too afraid to talk about. I'm just going to go there. For some reason, I'm having this strong urge with the podcast to just talk about the things that I feel we're not talking about enough. And several of my clients actually were asking like, "What resources do you have?" And I have a lot of books and things that I can give people. I was like, "All right, I'm going to talk about it more." So, let's do it together. Before we do that, let's quickly do the review of the week. This one is from, let's see, Jessrabon621. They said: "Amazing podcast. I absolutely love everything about this podcast. I could listen to Kimberley talk all day and her advice is absolutely amazing. I highly recommend this podcast to anyone struggling with anxiety or any other mental health professional that wants to learn more." Thank you so much, Jess. This week's "I did a hard thing" is from Anonymous and they say: "I learned it's okay to fulfill my emotions and just allow my thoughts and it gave me a sense of peace. Learning self-compassion is my hard thing and I'm learning to face OCD and realize that it's not my fault. I'm learning to manage and live my life for me like I deserve, and I refuse to let this take away my happiness." This is just so good. I talk about heat. This is seriously on fire right here. I love it so much. The truth is self-compassion practice is probably my hard thing too. I think that me really learning how to stand up for myself, be there for myself, be tender with myself was just as hard as my eating disorder recovery and my anxiety recovery. I really appreciate Anonymous and how they've used self-compassion as their hard thing. Let's get into the episode. Let me preface the episode by we're talking about anxiety and arousal. If I could have one person on the podcast, it would be Emily Nagoski. I have been trying to get her on the podcast for a while. We will get her on eventually. However, she's off doing amazing things. Amazing things. Netflix specials, podcasts, documentaries. She's doing amazing things. So, hopefully, one day. But until then, I want to really highlight her as the genius behind a lot of these concepts. Emily Nagoski is a doctor, a psychology doctor. She is a sex educator. She has written two amazing books. Well, actually, three or four. But the one I'm referring to today is Come as You Are. It's an amazing book. But I'm actually in my hand holding the Come as You Are Workbook. I strongly encourage you after you listen to this podcast episode to go and order that book. It is amazing. It's got tons of activities. It might feel weird to have the book. You can get it on Kindle if you want to have it be hidden, but it's so filled with amazing information. I'm going to try and give you the pieces that I really want you to take away. If you want more, by all means, go and get the workbook. Th

SUMMARY: This episode addresses some common questions people have about anxiety and arousal. Oftentimes, we are too afraid to talk about anxiety and arousal, so I thought I would take this opportunity to address some of the questions you may have and take some of the stigma and shame out of discussing anxiety and how it impacts arousal, orgasm, intimacy, and sexual interactions. In This Episode: How anxiety and arousal impact each other (its a cycle) Arousal Non-Concordance and how it impacts people with anxiety and OCD How to take the shame out of arousal struggles Understanding why anxiety impacts orgasms and general intimacy Links To Things I Talk About: Article I wrote about OCD and Arousal Non-Concordance https://www.madeofmillions.com/articles/whats-going-ocd-arousal Come as You are By Emily Nagoski, PhD Come as You Are Workbook By Emily Nagoski, PhD ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 281. Welcome back, everybody. How are you? It is a beautiful sunny day here in California. We're actually in the middle of a heatwave. It is April when I'm recording this and it is crazy how hard it is, but I'm totally here for it. I'm liking it because I love summer. Talking about heat, let's talk about anxiety and arousal today. Shall we? Did you get that little pun? I'm just kidding really. Today, we're talking about anxiety and arousal. I don't know why, but lately, I'm in the mood to talk about things that no one really wants to talk about or that we all want to talk about and we're too afraid to talk about. I'm just going to go there. For some reason, I'm having this strong urge with the podcast to just talk about the things that I feel we're not talking about enough. And several of my clients actually were asking like, "What resources do you have?" And I have a lot of books and things that I can give people. I was like, "All right, I'm going to talk about it more." So, let's do it together. Before we do that, let's quickly do the review of the week. This one is from, let's see, Jessrabon621. They said: "Amazing podcast. I absolutely love everything about this podcast. I could listen to Kimberley talk all day and her advice is absolutely amazing. I highly recommend this podcast to anyone struggling with anxiety or any other mental health professional that wants to learn more." Thank you so much, Jess. This week's "I did a hard thing" is from Anonymous and they say: "I learned it's okay to fulfill my emotions and just allow my thoughts and it gave me a sense of peace. Learning self-compassion is my hard thing and I'm learning to face OCD and realize that it's not my fault. I'm learning to manage and live my life for me like I deserve, and I refuse to let this take away my happiness." This is just so good. I talk about heat. This is seriously on fire right here. I love it so much. The truth is self-compassion practice is probably my hard thing too. I think that me really learning how to stand up for myself, be there for myself, be tender with myself was just as hard as my eating disorder recovery and my anxiety recovery. I really appreciate Anonymous and how they've used self-compassion as their hard thing. Let's get into the episode. Let me preface the episode by we're talking about anxiety and arousal. If I could have one person on the podcast, it would be Emily Nagoski. I have been trying to get her on the podcast for a while. We will get her on eventually. However, she's off doing amazing things. Amazing things. Netflix specials, podcasts, documentaries. She's doing amazing things. So, hopefully, one day. But until then, I want to really highlight her as the genius behind a lot of these concepts. Emily Nagoski is a doctor, a psychology doctor. She is a sex educator. She has written two amazing books. Well, actually, three or four. But the one I'm referring to today is Come as You Are. It's an amazing book. But I'm actually in my hand holding the Come as You Are Workbook. I strongly encourage you after you listen to this podcast episode to go and order that book. It is amazing. It's got tons of activities. It might feel weird to have the book. You can get it on Kindle if you want to have it be hidden, but it's so filled with amazing information. I'm going to try and give you the pieces that I really want you to take away. If you want more, by all means, go and get the workbook. Th

SUMMARY: This episode addresses some common questions people have about anxiety and arousal. Oftentimes, we are too afraid to talk about anxiety and arousal, so I thought I would take this opportunity to address some of the questions you may have and take some of the stigma and shame out of discussing anxiety and how it impacts arousal, orgasm, intimacy, and sexual interactions. In This Episode: How anxiety and arousal impact each other (its a cycle) Arousal Non-Concordance and how it impacts people with anxiety and OCD How to take the shame out of arousal struggles Understanding why anxiety impacts orgasms and general intimacy Links To Things I Talk About: Article I wrote about OCD and Arousal Non-Concordance https://www.madeofmillions.com/articles/whats-going-ocd-arousal Come as You are By Emily Nagoski, PhD Come as You Are Workbook By Emily Nagoski, PhD ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 281. Welcome back, everybody. How are you? It is a beautiful sunny day here in California. We're actually in the middle of a heatwave. It is April when I'm recording this and it is crazy how hard it is, but I'm totally here for it. I'm liking it because I love summer. Talking about heat, let's talk about anxiety and arousal today. Shall we? Did you get that little pun? I'm just kidding really. Today, we're talking about anxiety and arousal. I don't know why, but lately, I'm in the mood to talk about things that no one really wants to talk about or that we all want to talk about and we're too afraid to talk about. I'm just going to go there. For some reason, I'm having this strong urge with the podcast to just talk about the things that I feel we're not talking about enough. And several of my clients actually were asking like, "What resources do you have?" And I have a lot of books and things that I can give people. I was like, "All right, I'm going to talk about it more." So, let's do it together. Before we do that, let's quickly do the review of the week. This one is from, let's see, Jessrabon621. They said: "Amazing podcast. I absolutely love everything about this podcast. I could listen to Kimberley talk all day and her advice is absolutely amazing. I highly recommend this podcast to anyone struggling with anxiety or any other mental health professional that wants to learn more." Thank you so much, Jess. This week's "I did a hard thing" is from Anonymous and they say: "I learned it's okay to fulfill my emotions and just allow my thoughts and it gave me a sense of peace. Learning self-compassion is my hard thing and I'm learning to face OCD and realize that it's not my fault. I'm learning to manage and live my life for me like I deserve, and I refuse to let this take away my happiness." This is just so good. I talk about heat. This is seriously on fire right here. I love it so much. The truth is self-compassion practice is probably my hard thing too. I think that me really learning how to stand up for myself, be there for myself, be tender with myself was just as hard as my eating disorder recovery and my anxiety recovery. I really appreciate Anonymous and how they've used self-compassion as their hard thing. Let's get into the episode. Let me preface the episode by we're talking about anxiety and arousal. If I could have one person on the podcast, it would be Emily Nagoski. I have been trying to get her on the podcast for a while. We will get her on eventually. However, she's off doing amazing things. Amazing things. Netflix specials, podcasts, documentaries. She's doing amazing things. So, hopefully, one day. But until then, I want to really highlight her as the genius behind a lot of these concepts. Emily Nagoski is a doctor, a psychology doctor. She is a sex educator. She has written two amazing books. Well, actually, three or four. But the one I'm referring to today is Come as You Are. It's an amazing book. But I'm actually in my hand holding the Come as You Are Workbook. I strongly encourage you after you listen to this podcast episode to go and order that book. It is amazing. It's got tons of activities. It might feel weird to have the book. You can get it on Kindle if you want to have it be hidden, but it's so filled with amazing information. I'm going to try and give you the pieces that I really want you to take away. If you want more, by all means, go and get the workbook. Th

In this week's podcast episode, we are reflecting on the question, "Does anxiety make you need to pee or poop? Yes, you read that right! Today, we are talking ALL about how anxiety can cause frequent urination and the fear of peeing your pants. Have you found yourself getting anxious you might need to pee or poop in public which, in turn, makes you need to pee or poop in public? Bathroom emergencies are way more common than you think. I even share a story of how I, myself, had to handle the urgency to 🏃🏼‍♀️🏃🏿‍♂️ to the restroom. In This Episode: Why do we need to pee and poop when we are anxious? What causes the psychological need to urinate or defecate when anxious? How to stop anxiety Urination How to manage a fear of peeing your pants or pooping your pants How to use mindfulness and self-compassion when experiencing nervous pee syndrome Links To Things I Talk About: Overcoming Anxiety and Panic https://www.cbtschool.com/overcominganxiety ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 280. Welcome back, everybody. I am so thrilled to have you here with me again today. Today's format is going to be a little different. I have fused the "I did the hard thing" with the question that we're going to address today. Usually, I sit down to the microphone and I look at my screen and I think about what I want to talk about, and I just start talking about it. To be honest, that is how this show goes. It has always been how this show has gone. But a follower on Instagram reached out to me this week and posed a really great question. So, with her permission, I will anonymously invite you to listen to the question, and then we're going to talk about some solutions. The reason I wanted to go word for word is I think you're probably going to get what she's saying, because I've been in this position. I know most of my clients have been in this position. It's not the funniest thing to talk about. I mean, I love talking about it, but it's not the funniest thing for you to talk about, or often people have a lot of shame and embarrassment around this topic. So, I wanted to just, let's just talk about it. Now, the reason I say I love to talk about it is, you know probably from previous episodes, I commonly ask my clients pretty personal questions. And often questions are like, are you prioritizing time to pee and poop? Are you holding your pee and poop? My job is to ask the questions that people are often too afraid to bring up. I often ask some personal questions about sexual arousal and things like that, again, because I have been trained to understand there's a lot of stigma and shame, and embarrassment around these topics. And so I try to de-stigmatize them and take the shame out of them by just addressing them because they're normal human struggles that we have. As you may imagine, today, we're talking about anxiety and pee and poop, and how anxiety can often make us feel like we urgently need to pee or/and poop. That's the topic of today. I'm going to read you this. It's a two-part question. I'm going to address them separately, but all from the same situation. It said: "Kim, I hope you are well. I was reading your post yesterday about the hardest part of facing your fear." To give you some backstory, I did a post on what the hardest things about facing fears are. I posed this question to Instagram and everyone wrote in. And using the results of what everyone wrote in, I created a post. And number seven was physical symptoms, especially bowel issues, and it really resonated with me. Why do we need to pee and poop when we are anxious? "You have said before that when you get feelings of discomfort, to just sit with it and do nothing." That's a common theme I talk about, is if you have discomfort, do nothing at all. You just sit with it. "But when it comes to bowel issues or needing to urinate due to anxiety, I get confused at what to do. Should I be sitting with it or going to the loo because that's what my body needs? There are sort of two parts to my anxiety. With this, I'll give you an example." She said, "This weekend, I'm going to a christening and I get anxious for these types of events, like christenings, weddings, theater, anywhere where there is lots of people and they sit together in a certain way. I feel anxious about needing to go to the bathroom. It's almost like I'm anxious of the sym

In todays podcast episode, together we do a self-compassion check in. First, we address what is self-compassion and then, we check in on our needs. Mindful Self-Compassion involves first, being aware of what we need and what needs tending to. In this episode, we also walk through a self-compassion meditation together. In This Episode: What is Self-Compassion? What do I need? How can I give myself self-compassion right now? Self-compassion meditation. Links To Things I Talk About: https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B08WGW9XCZ&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_XSDYJ2MCRJBYEFCPS5NF&tag=cbtschool-20 ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 279. Welcome back, everybody. Today on Your Anxiety Toolkit podcast, we are talking about self-compassion. We're doing a self-compassion check-in. It's been a little while since we've checked in on how are you doing with your self-compassion practice. Now, today, we have added a little meditation for you just to supercharge your self-compassion practice. That is my agenda for today. We haven't done a ton of check-ins lately because life just seems to get away from us. For those of you who do not know, in 2020, I wrote a book called The Self-Compassion Workbook For OCD. It was the joy of life and the biggest challenge of my life business-wise. It was such a huge agenda to have on my plate just as 2020 and COVID breakthrough, but I'm so grateful it's out. When it was released, I had a lot of stuff out about self-compassion. And then I haven't checked in with you guys on how you're doing. So that's what today is about. Now, before we get into the episode, let's do the "I did a hard thing" for the week. We always check-in and someone submits the thing that they've done that is hard, because what we like to say is "It's a beautiful day to do hard things." And today's is from Anonymous. They said: "I've recently been diagnosed with OCD and struggled my whole life with anxiety. Unfortunately, until now I was never properly diagnosed until I was 45. I have started working with a new therapist and we are focusing on ERP. At first, I couldn't even tell her about my fears and intrusive thoughts. I have harm OCD among other various categories. Now, we are doing imaginals around some of the things I never thought I could even address, and I'm so proud of myself." I'm proud of you too. "It is changing my life. I cannot tell you how important it is to get a proper diagnosis and never give up. You will get better. You just have to get the right help and be willing to do the hard things." Anonymous, you are giving me the chills. Now, for those of you who don't have access – anonymous has access to a therapist – if you don't have access to a therapist, we do have an online course called ERP School. An ERP School is an online course that will teach you how to practice ERP at home, in your pajamas, all the skills that you need to get you started. Now, it does require you to be self-motivated. But if you are self-motivated and you are ready to learn, head on over to CBTSchool.com and you can get all the information there. All right, let's go over to the show. It's self-compassion check-in time. WHAT IS SELF-COMPASSION? What is Self-Compassion? It means how have you been treating yourself? Remember, self-compassion is ultimately treating yourself with the same that you would treat somebody else. So, if somebody else came to you and said, "I'm struggling with A, B, and C," what would you say to them? How would you treat them? How would you respond to them? How would your body language change? Would your voice lower? Would your voice soften? Would you give them a hug if that was appropriate? Would you soften your eyes and let them know that everything was going to be okay, and that you had their back unconditionally? That is how you would treat yourself. So my question is, how are you doing with this? I want you to check in regularly, way more regularly than we are here today. But I want you to check in with yourself preferably every day or multiple times a day and ask yourself, how am I doing? And then we're going to move into, and I know a lot of you remember this from previous episodes, but I want you to ask yourself the golden self-compassion question, which is, what do I need right now? What do I need? Let's do this together. I want you to find a comf

In this week's episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, I share what I learned from my 3-day silent meditation retreat. This 3-day silent meditation retreat was rough, I won't lie. I had to ride many highs and lows, so I wanted to share them with you. Links To Things I Talk About: Tara Brach Silent Meditation Retreat home schedule https://www.tarabrach.com/create-home-retreat/ Mindfulness Book https://www.amazon.com/ ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 178. Welcome back, everybody. I am so thrilled to be here with you today. I recently got back from a three-day silent retreat. I was by myself for the entire three days. It was a three-day silent retreat. I have done silent retreats in the past at Buddhist monasteries and Buddhist retreat centers. This is the first time I've done it on my own, and I followed the Tara Brach self-retreat website. I will leave the notes in the show notes so that you can check that out. It was amazing. I can't lie. I had so many mind-blowing moments and I want to share with you each and every single one. I'm going to give you the cliff notes version. Otherwise, I would have you here for days on end. But I am so excited to share that with you. Before we do that, of course, you know we always do the "I did a hard thing." This is a segment where someone can write in, submit the hard thing they've done. This one is by Mgwolfie1992, and they've said: "I have OCD and ASD. Certain shirts do not feel right. Before starting ERP, when I put on a shirt that's uncomfortable, I immediately take it off, which was making me late for work. After starting ERP, I have slowly worked my way up to wearing and keeping that uncomfortable shirt on for 12 minutes." Mgwolfie1992, this is just you doing the work. I'm so, so impressed. This is exactly what it's like for everybody listening or watching today, is it is about just small baby increments and getting yourself higher and higher and a little more difficult, a little more difficult. I'm so impressed with the work that you're doing. This is just so incredibly powerful and rewarding, and I hope that you keep going. Let's talk about what I learned from my three-day silent retreat. Just to give you a setup, I rented through Airbnb a small little cabin in the depths of Topanga, which is very close to where I live in Los Angeles. I was following the Tara Brach home retreat that she created at the beginning of COVID. Now, when COVID hit, I so desperately wanted to do this, but I was in the middle of writing The Self-Compassion Workbook For OCD, and so I did not have time or the bandwidth to really go and really be with myself. I just had so much going on. As you probably remember, the world just felt so scary and no one knew what was happening. So I definitely wasn't ready to do something at that time. After several years or even months at this point where I feel like I've really, really prioritized my mental health and my medical health, I was finally in a place where I just felt like I needed some time to really go and let go of some things. I could be doing this at home. I could do this every day and I have since I returned, but I really felt that I needed these three days to do a deep dive into really some things that I had been working through having a medical illness, a chronic illness. I have postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome, really coming down out of the pandemic and so forth. So, I really felt like I just needed this time to really not have the kids around and just drop down in and do that really hard work. I took with me a journal. I took with me a book called Mindfulness by Joseph Goldstein. I strongly recommend that you try it. It is very heavy on Buddhist philosophy, but it is such an important book about mindfulness. And so to start off, the thing that I learned the most was I needed so desperately to go back to basics. Everything felt so complex – everything I was teaching, everything I was doing in therapy, the practices of my own. It just felt like there were so many spinning parts. When I got there, I just dropped down to like, "Kimberley, let's go back to the basics." So I wanted to share with you what those basics were. Number one, I went right back to the core of mindfulness, which was mostly me. The main agenda was to observe what showed up instead of being in reaction to it. Here, when life i

Common treatment of derealization and depersonalization Kimberley Quinlan SUMMARY: Derealization & depersonalization are common experiences of anxiety. In this episode, we take a look at the definition of derealization and depersonalization. We also explore the common symptoms of derealization and depersonalization and the treatment of derealization and depersonalization. I also explore mindfulness and CBT skills to help you manage your discomfort and anxiety. In This Episode: The definition of derealization The definition of depersonalization Explore the symptoms of derealization Explore the symptoms of depersonalization Comparing derealization vs depersonalization Common treatment of derealization and depersonalization Links To Things I Talk About: ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 227. Welcome back, everybody. I am so grateful to have this time with you. As you know, I promised this year would be the year I doubled down and get really into the nitty-gritty of some of the topics that people don't talk enough about regarding anxiety. Today is so in line with that value Today, we are talking about what is derealization and depersonalization. These are two what I would consider symptoms of anxiety. I see it all the time in my practice. I see it reported and commented all the time on Instagram. If you follow me on Instagram, we put out tons of free information there as well. This is such an important topic. And for some reason, we aren't talking about these two topics enough. My goal today is actually to give you a 101 on derealization and a 101 on depersonalization. We can touch upon derealization disorder and depersonalization disorder as well, but at the end, I want to give you as many tools as I can to point you in the right direction. Before we do that, let's do the "I did a hard thing," because we love that, right? The "I did a hard thing" is a segment where people submit the hard things they're doing. The main reason I do this is because, number one, you're my family. We're all in this together. But number two, often people, many years ago when I started the podcast, people were like, when I started saying it's a beautiful day to do hard things, which I say all the time, a lot of people were saying, "But how hard does it have to be? And how do I handle the hard things? Can you give me an example?" And so, these have been just such a wonderful way to share how other people are doing hard things. This one was submitted anonymously, and they said: "I've struggled with suicidal ideation for a very long time. And after years of therapy, self-discovery, and lots of hard work, I'm finally accepting that I am better off in the world than out of it." Now I just have to take a deep breath and nearly cry because this is seriously the hard work. Sometimes when we're talking about "I did a hard thing," we're talking about facing one small thing or one large thing, but I really want to honor Anonymous here and all of you who are doing this really long-term work and deep, deep work around really acknowledging how important you are and how much the world needs you in it and on it. So anonymous, I love you. You are amazing. I have such respect for the work that you've done and are doing, and thank you. Again. I think we don't talk about suicidal ideation enough either. In fact, I should really do an episode on that as well. I respect you and I'm so grateful you submitted this week. Okay, here we go. I have some notes, which I rarely use notes for episodes, but I didn't want to miss anything. I've got so much I want to share. I will do my best to break this down into, like I said, a 101, small bite-size helpful tools. You will hear me, as I talk, taking little deep breaths and that's because I have to practice slowing down. Just a little off-topic, when I'm doing podcasts, I get so geeked out that my brain races, and I'm all over the place and I'm talking fast and I have to slow down, "Kimberley, pump the breaks, lady." Let's together take a breath... and let's just be together. First let's talk about derealization. The definition of derealization is that derealization is a mental state or a psychological experience, it could also be a physiological experience, where things feel unreal. Not like, "Oh, that's totally unreal, man. Amazing." I'm talking where they don't feel real. When yo

SUMMARY: Overcoming Health Anxiety is possible! Today, we interview Ken Goodman and his client Maria on overcoming hpyochondria using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. In this episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, you will learn key concepts of health anxiety and how to overcome their health anxiety. In This Episode: What it is like to have health anxiety The key concepts of treating Hypochondria Tips for managing fears of death and cancer. A step-by-step approach to overcoming health anxiety. Links To Things I Talk About: https://www.kengoodmantherapy.com/ Quiet Mind Solutions ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 226. Welcome back, everybody. If you have health anxiety, hypochondria, health anxiety disorder, or you know of somebody who has health anxiety, you are going to love this episode. I mean, love, love, love this episode. Today, we have Ken Goodman, who's on the show. He's a clinician who's here with his patient and they're sharing a success story, a recovery story of health anxiety, and it is so good. I am so honored to have both of them on. It was so fun to actually interview other people and the way they're doing it, and look at the steps that were taken in order to overcome health anxiety. And this is the overcoming health anxiety story of all stories. It is so, so good. I'm not going to waste your time going and telling you how good it is. I'm just going to let you listen to it because I know you're here to get the good stuff. Before we do that, I wanted to do the "I did a hard thing" and this one is from Dave. It says: "I've been trying to get back into meditating regularly. I was sitting at a desk this morning, reviewing my work emails. And I told myself, before I get even further in my day, I need to meditate. I did a guided meditation, even though I felt a strong pull inside to go back to work. I kept getting caught up in my thoughts, but I just kept telling myself it doesn't need to be a perfect meditation. I said the goal today is just to be able to sit without being busy for three minutes. Nothing more. It was hard, but I did it." Dave, thank you so much for the submission of the "I did a hard thing" segment, because I think that meditation is so important. In fact, I keep promising myself I'm going to implement it more into this podcast. And Dave has really looked at some of the struggles people have with meditation. And look at him, go, it's so amazing. Totally did it. So amazing. Dave, thank you so, so, so much. I love it. If you want to submit, you may submit your "I did a hard thing" by going to KimberleyQuinlan-lmft.com. If you go to the podcast page, there is a submission page right on the website. And from there, let's just go straight to the show. I hope you enjoy it. Kimberley: Welcome. I am so excited for this episode. Welcome, Ken and welcome, Maria. Ken: Thank you for having me. Maria: Hi, Kimberley. Kimberley: So, as you guys, we've already chatted, but I really want to hear. This is really quite unique and we get to see the perspective of a client and the therapist. If I could do one of these every single week, I would. I think it's so cool. So, thank you so much for coming on and sharing. We're going to talk about health anxiety. And so, Maria, we're going to go back and forth here, but do you want to share a little bit about your experience with health anxiety? Maria: Yes. I think I've had health anxiety probably for like 15, 20 years and not known about it. Looking back now, everything comes clear when you see the multiple pictures that you've taken of certain lumps and whatever five years ago. I'm like, "Oh my gosh, I have so many pictures that I've taken and so many different things." But yeah, I've been struggling for a while I think, and had multiple doctor's appointments. Until I realized that I had health anxiety, it was an everyday struggle, I think. Ken: Well, you came to me and you were mostly worried at the time about ticks and Lyme disease and skin cancer, but you told me that for the previous 15 years or so, you were worried about other things. What are those things? Maria: Well, I was mostly completely obsessed with moles on my skin and them being cancerous. And I was scared of ticks. I would not be able to walk through any grass or go hiking. I was scared that I would have to check my whole body to make sure that there were n

SUMMARY: Many people ask me, "Why do I have anxiety?" and the truth is, there is no clear-cut answer. However, in this week's episode, I give you nine possible causes of anxiety and what you can do to manage anxiety in your daily life. Some causes are in your control, and some are not. Either way, it is important that you are super gentle with yourself as you explore some of the reasons for anxiety in your life. In This Episode: NINE possible causes of anxiety for you in your life What you can do to manage your anxiety How to overcome anxiety by changing small behaviors Reasons you experience anxiety may include Genetics Caffeine Distorted Thoughts Behaviors Trauma Environment Stress Management Lack of Tools Isolation (lack of community) Links To Things I Talk About: Time Management for Optimum Mental Health https://www.cbtschool.com/timemanagement ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 225. Welcome back, everybody. Today, we are talking about the causes of anxiety, why you are anxious and what you can do about it. This is a topic I feel like keeps coming up with my clients like, "But why? Why is this happening?" And I totally get it. Now, a lot of the times, I encourage my patients the end goal, jump straight to the end goal is we don't want to spend too much time trying to solve why we're anxious. That in and of itself can become a compulsive problematic behavior. But I wanted to just address it because I don't think I have addressed it yet in the podcast. I thought now is a good time to really just look at some of the reasons we humans are anxious. I'm an anxious person, my guess that the fact that you're listening to Your Anxiety Toolkit means you or someone you love is an anxious person. So, let's talk about why we're anxious. What are the causes of anxiety and what are some of the reasons we are anxious. Now before we do that, we want to, of course, do our "I did our hard thing" segment, and this one is for Bradley. Bradley wrote: "I was at a family event and had to see a family member I haven't seen in four years. I said a firm, no contact boundary with her since she was so toxic. And as much as I tried, I knew I could not control whether she came or not. Seeing her was very hard, but I gave myself loads of self-compassion and allowed that moment to be very difficult." Oh, Bradley, this is so good. "I was pleasant to her, but I did not engage beyond what was necessary. I took multiple moments throughout the event to check in with myself and see what my body needed." This is so good and this is such great modeling of how we can regulate and monitor ourselves, giving ourselves kindness as we do hard things. I love this. Thank you so much for sharing it. This is really super inspiring. I think we all need to practice this one a little better, myself included. I hope that that brings you some inspiration before we move on into the episode. Thank you again, Bradley, for submitting that. I love hearing the "I did a hard thing." Let's talk about why you and I, and we might be anxious. 1. Genetics Reason number one is genetics. I think that if I'm with a client and they ask me, this is usually the spiel I would give them, which is, genetically, a lot of us are set up to have anxiety. What that means is somewhere in our lineage, our parent, our grandparent, someone had anxiety and it is quite a genetic trait to have. As we go through these, I'm really wanting you, just as a side note, to think about these things, but we don't want to use these as an opportunity to blame other people. We don't want to blame, of course, our parents or our grandparents. It wasn't their fault. Obviously, they probably had it passed down from somebody else as well. But as we move through some of these, I also don't want you to displace blame onto yourself, and we can talk about that as we go. But genetics is a reason that some of us are anxious. I'll give you a little bit of a piece of my personal experience here, is I often-- I mean, I know every anxiety tool in the book and there's been many times where I've visited doctors or psychiatrists and they ask me about anxiety and I'll say, "Yes, I have anxiety." They'll say, "Well have you had therapy? Have you tried medicine?" "Yeah, I've tried all of those things and I'm highly functioning and I have a wonderful life." But I also have to accept that som

SUMMARY: In today's podcast episode, we have Dean Stott from DLC Anxiety talking about his experience with Panic Disorder and Overcoming Panic Disorder. In his upcoming book, Greater Than Panic, Dean talks about what it was like for him to experience agoraphobia, panic disorder, and other struggles after the death of his father. Dean spread an inspiring story about overcoming panic and how he is Greater than Panic. In This Episode: What it was like for Dean Stott to have Panic Disorder How he overcame panic disorder using CBT and Mindfulness How Dean created DLC Anxiety, an online platform that helps millions with panic, anxiety and other mental illnesses. Tools that he found helpful to manage his Panic Disorder while also grieving the loss of his father. Links To Things I Talk About: DEANS BOOK GREATER THAN PANIC Amazon link Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 224. Welcome back, everybody. We have an amazing guest, a very, very sweet friend of mine. I am so excited to have on with us Dean Stott from DLC Anxiety. He is a true legend. Dean is on the episode today to tell his story about going from having a fairly severe panic disorder to then creating a mental health platform with over 1 million followers. He's now all about creating mental health awareness sharing with people. He's such a cool human being. And I'm so honored to have him on today. We talk about his recovery, which you will get a lot of hope from because, like everyone who comes on the podcast, he really did the work, which is so cool. But then we also talk about the role that social media can play in mental health recovery, things to look out for, how to handle trolls, the benefits of being online, especially social media. If you have a mental illness, we go through it all. And it's such a great episode. So, I'm so excited to have Dean on today. Before we get into the episode, I want to give you the "I did a hard thing" for the week. This is from Nicole, from the Netherlands, and she said: "I did a hard thing and I get very anxious when I have to call my doctor. My heart rate goes up and I get all trembly. So, I tend to avoid calling the doctor. But because I had been feeling dizzy, I had to get my blood checked. Afterwards I would have to call the doctors for the results, except I didn't. I told myself if there was anything serious, surely they would call me. I kept this up for almost two weeks and then I suddenly thought I really should call for the result. So I pushed in the numbers to the doctor's office, feeling all kinds of nervous. I was very tempted to just hang up. While I was waiting, I thought, why did I do this? What if I get bad news? But then I had another thought, if it's bad news, all the more reason to hear it. So I hung on and I faced my fears. Turns out I have a vitamin D deficiency. It's not very worrisome, but important to fix. I'm so glad I phoned the doctor, even though I REALLY DIDN'T WANT TO. Nicole from the Netherlands." Nichole, I love this story. And the thing I love the most, and for those of you who want to submit for this, please do go. I'll leave a link in the show notes. But Nicole, I love that you detailed what got you to do it, how you did it, what thoughts you had to shift up to get yourself to do the hard thing. You walked us through step by step and it makes my heart want to explode with joy. Thank you so much for sharing it. Amazing, amazing, amazing, amazing, amazing work. I am so, so impressed. So, thank you, Nicole. I love it. Let's get over to the show where we can hear all about Dean's recovery. ----- Kimberley: Welcome, Dean. I am so happy to have more-- actually, as much as I'm happy to have you on the podcast, I'm just happy to have chats with you. Welcome. Dean: Thank you so much. Thank you for inviting me, Kim. Kimberley: Yeah. So, I feel like I know you and your story pretty well. But I would love for you to share your story with my listeners because I think you have some really great stuff to share. So, can you share whatever you're comfortable about your recovery? Dean: Yeah, sure. So, basically, once upon a time, I was going through a panic disorder. So, dealing with four panic attacks, maybe four or five panic attacks every single day, where I get the worst period. And yeah, I went through a panic disorder, did my own research, a lot of science research, CBT research, mindfulness meditation, and curated my

SUMMARY: We all know that self-compassion is am important tool for anxiety recovery. In this weeks episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit podcast, I address a common concern; "What if I dont deserve self-compassion?" This is such a common reason people do not provide themselves with compassion. In this episode, review the reasons YOU DO DESERVE SELF-COMPASSION and some key concepts and self-compassion mediations to help you practice self-compassion. In This Episode, we cover: Self-Compassion Definition Reasons people feel they do not deserve self-compassion Ways to manage feeling unworthy of self-compassion How to practice Mindful Self-Compassion Links To Things I Talk About: Self-compassion Mediation: Here is a link to several self-compassion meditations from previous episodes. https://kimberleyquinlan-lmft.com/episode-2-lovingkindness-meditation/ https://kimberleyquinlan-lmft.com/ep-134-giving-and-receiving-meditation/ https://kimberleyquinlan-lmft.com/ep-110-this-compassion-practice-tonglen-meditation-for-anxiety-will-change-your-life/ Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 223. Welcome back, everybody. It is a joy to be with you again. Thank you so much for being here with me. Thank you so much for putting aside your valuable time to spend it with me. I feel so honored. Today, we are talking about a question. And in effort for us to respond to this question, we're actually going to ask ourselves some questions and I'm going to have some questions for you, and you're going to think about them, hopefully, and then make some changes if you think that is what you need. The big question of the week is: What if I do not deserve self-compassion? Now, one of the most common questions I get is this question, particularly when I'm with patients and we're discussing the idea of practicing self-compassion or kindness towards themselves. Often, that is a question they ask, what if I don't deserve it, or they may even make a statement like, "I don't deserve self-compassion." Now, this is particularly true for those who are very self-critical and blame themselves for certain things that have happened either to them or that they have done. Like I'm saying, it's like things that were accidental, things that they didn't have control over, or maybe some things and mistakes that they did make. This is a really important question for us to explore. I'm going to hopefully get to explore it with you. Before we do that, I would like to do the "I did a hard thing" for the week. This one is from Sophia. Thank you, Sophia, for writing in and telling us your hard thing. Sophia said: "I suffered from OCD starting when I was 19. My hard thing I did was I reported my stepfather in for sexual abuse that occurred when I was nine when I found out I wasn't the last victim. It took me 28 years to get to this place. And let me tell you, OCD really played into my intrusive thoughts. It made the process so much harder. But I did it and I feel like I'm out of the web of manipulation from my stepdad. This podcast helps so much and the book for self-compassion and fear workbook my OCD therapist recommended to me. I saw your podcast listed in the first few pages. Thank you for being a part of my support system without even knowing." Wow, that was an amazing "I did a hard thing." Thank you so much, Sophia, for sharing that amazing hard thing. You are showing up and facing fear and pulling your shoulders back and living your life according to your values. That is impressive. I'm so honored to have you share that with us and really do wish you the best. You are doing amazing things. Okay. So, let's move into the bulk of the podcast in terms of let's talk about what if I don't deserve self-compassion. This is so important. I'm going to first pose to you the first question I have for you, which is, who actually deserves self-compassion? If someone says to me, "Well, I don't deserve it." I'll say, "Well, who does? What do you have to do to be warranted of compassion? Who does deserve it?" I really pose this question. I really hope you answer it. I would like actually you to sit down and ask yourself, "Well, then who does?" And you will begin to see very quickly, I'm guessing, the rules in which you have for yourself that keep you stuck. Oh, the people who don't have these thoughts, the people who don't make mistakes, the people who are perfect, the people who look like they're ha

SUMMARY: This week's episode is incredibly inspiring, with Lora Dudek talking all about getting real about OCD recovery. Lora shares her experience of having harm obsessions and harm OCD and how she managed being a mom during ERP. Lora also shared some wonderful ERP activities she did to help her keep track of her exposures. In This Episode: What OCD Recovery looks like for Lora Her experience with Harm OCD What kind of Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) Lora used for harm OCD How she used ERP and recovery to decide what her values were (starting a career in ERP) Links To Things I Talk About: ​​Lora Dudek OCD Contact info: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/lora-dudek-lockport-il/935049 https://www.graceandgratitudecounseling.com/ourtherapists ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 222. Welcome back, everybody. I am so happy to be with you today. Oh my goodness, I'm going to tell you a story, totally off-topic. But today's episode is number 222, and coincidentally, it's coming out just by coincidence the week of February 22, 2022. The reason that that is special for me isn't because I have any kind of affiliation with numbers, it's that I have this amazing memory of when I was very young. It was the 9th of the 9th, 1999. My mom, who is the most amazing human being in the whole world, had a 9/9/99 party, and everyone had to bring nine of something, nine flowers, nine chocolates. You could bring whatever you wanted. Nine of... We had nine of everything – nine shrimp on the plate, nine prawns. In Australia, we call them prawns. It was such an amazing memory. I told my children that we were going to do something similar because I just feel like that was such a beautiful memory. And so, I feel like I'm beginning that whole celebration with you because coincidentally, it's episode 222 on the week of 2/22/2022. Oh my goodness. I'm sorry. I know that has nothing to do with the episode, but it is a story that is so near and dear to my heart and I just wanted to share it. It isn't actually an off-talk topic because I really do want to bring some more joy to this episode and I really do want to slow down and enjoy with you all. It is a huge part of my goal for this year. So, thank you for sitting in that joyful story with me. If you would like, I hope you do something with twos, if you can, on that day, something fun. Buy yourself 22 flowers, say 22 nice things to yourself, whatever it may be, because these are very much once in a lifetime experiences and memories. Today, we have Lora Dudek with us on the podcast. Now, to say that I am a Lora Dudek fan is an understatement. I love this human being. She is such a shining light, especially for people who have OCD and want to feel like there is hope. She has such a beautiful story, such a hard, but beautiful story, and a real authentic, genuine story to share. I am honored to have her on the show like I am to have so many people come on who have a recovery story to tell. I particularly love when I can be a part of it and I was a part of their story, or CBT School was a part of their story or ERP School was a part of their story. And so, it is just such an honor to have Lora on here. She's talking about what recovery looks like for her. The reason I love this idea is, recovery is different for everybody. I really wanted you to get an experience of what it looks like for someone who has really done the work. Like I said, so many of our podcast guests have done the work and Lora is no exception. So, I'm going to head over and let you guys listen to that. Before we do that, I first want to do the "I did a hard thing." This week's "I did a hard thing" is from Fabian, and they said: "Hi, Kimberley. First of all, thanks for creating the room to write about my anxiety. I am recovering from OCD, and today I was at the dentist for a tooth filling. I don't like it because my mouth is blocked and I'm scared of getting enough air. And moreover, I do not like to get injections." Oh my goodness, Fabian, I feel you on this one. "I was able to face both and stay very present with the body sensations like cold hands, many, many thoughts, high heartbeats. It was a hard thing to finish the week and I'm happy that I did it. I will have to face it again in February 🙂. All the best to you and your team." Amazing, Fabian. I feel you on so many level

SUMMARY: Today, we are going to talk with you about the 7 common struggle you have with time management. Do you find yourself constantly looking at the clock? Or, wishing time would go faster? Do you feel like your to-do list is so long that you will never get them done? Or, do you feel like you never have time to prioritize yourself? In today's, podcast, we talk all about your relationship with time and why it is a HUGE part of managing anxiety, depression, and stress. In This Episode, we address the 7 common struggles you have with time management. "I don't have enough time" "I have so much to do" "I have so much I want to do" "I struggle to start and stop activities" "I don't a good understanding of how long things take" "I don't like structure" "I hate being told what to do with my time" Links To Things I Talk About: ONLINE COURSE Time Management for Optimum Mental Health https://www.cbtschool.com/timemanagement Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 221. Welcome back, everybody. I am so thrilled to have you here with me today for Episode 221. Oh my, how is that possible? We are getting so much feedback, such amazing feedback from last week's episode. I wanted to additionally offer you one more bonus piece of content from our new course, which is called Time Management for Optimum Mental Health. You can check it out at CBTSchool.com/TimeManagement. It is a course. We have it for $27. It's a mini-course, so it shouldn't take up a ton of your time, and it's me showing you exactly how I manage time. Now, the reason I created that course was because so many people were reporting to me – clients, followers, listeners – that COVID has destroyed the rhythm and the routines that they had, and that they really want to find a way to implement during their day time to do their therapy homework, do get exercise, maybe have more pleasure in your life, maybe reduce overwhelm, a lot of overwhelm because the to-do list is always so long. Am I right? The to-do lists are always so long. There seems to be a never-ending list of things to do. So, I added all that in, showed you exactly how I did that. Again, you can go and check that, or you can click the link below in the show notes. But as a bonus to that course, I did a Q and A where people submitted their questions. I have addressed that in that bonus, and I'm today giving it to you free in today's podcast episode. If you want to get a feel for what we're covering, you will have some reference to the course throughout, but you don't need to purchase the course to get benefit out of this episode today. However, together they would be really beneficial, I'm sure. Today, we're going to cover a couple of main topics. Here I'm going to give you some overview. Some of the questions people or the concerns or roadblocks they had around time management were things like, "I don't have enough time. I have so much to do on my to-do list." Another question we will cover in today's episode is, "I have so much I want to do. I just can't, again, find time." Someone brought up-- multiple people, forgive me, brought up that they struggle to start and stop activities. They struggle to get the motivation to get going. And then once they're going, they have a hard time transitioning into other activities. We address that as well. Someone posted in that they struggle with having a good understanding of how long things take. This is one of the reasons I have myself had to use a lot of time management, is I was underestimating how long things were taking and I was leading to a lot of anxiety and overwhelm. We also address people who don't like a lot of structure in their life and we also address people who don't like scheduling and don't like time management because they don't like being told what to do with their time. We're going to address all of that today, but we also go much deeper into that in the time management course. You can run over there if you want to take a look at that. Before we get into the show, let's do today's review of the week. This one is from Sheffie, and they said: "Wonderful resource! You can't help but love Kimberley." Oh, that's so kind. Thank you, Sheffie. "She has such warmth and sincerity, is positive and funny, and spreads so much good into the world. On top of all that, she's a gifted clinician who does a great job sharing her knowledge with others. And she does all this with a lo

SUMMARY: In this episode, we review how important it is to address procrastination, as it impacts so many people in so many ways. We also will review how procrastination is the same thing as avoidance and how people can work towards implementing time management skills to help them build a routine that helps them get the things they want to get done. In This Episode: We outline procrastination definition and procrastination pros and cons. How procrastination is simply an avoidance safety behavior. How to manage procrastination in , Anxiety, OCD and OCD recovery Our new course called Time Management for Optimum Mental Health Links To Things I Talk About: ONLINE COURSE Time Management for Optimum Mental Health https://www.cbtschool.com/timemanagement Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 220. Welcome back, everybody. How are you? Really, really, how are you? How is your heart? How is your mind? What's showing up for you? How are you? I really want you to check in, in case you haven't checked in for a while. How are you doing? It's important. Let's make sure we check in. Today, we're talking about procrastination. It's one of the most common questions I get when I'm doing live calls on Instagram and Facebook, like how do I manage procrastination? A lot of you are also managing perfectionism and it's getting in the way of you doing the things you want to do or doing the things you have to do. Because I get asked this so much, I actually wanted to show people how I do it. So what I did is I created a whole mini-course, it's called Time Management For Optimum Mental Health. You can get it if you go to CBTSchool.com/TimeManagement, or you can click the link in the show notes below. It's a full course of showing you how I manage time and why I manage my time to help manage my mental health and my medical health. A lot of you know I have struggled with a chronic illness. Time management has been huge in me staying functioning and managing mental overwhelm and a lot of procrastination. In the course, it's only $27, it's a mini-course and it shows you exactly-- I have recorded the screen as I'm showing you exactly how I do it. If you're interested, go over and check it out. I'd love to have you take the course and put it into practice. Now, one of the things about this episode is this is actually me giving you a sneak peek into the course because it's one of the bonuses of the course to talk about procrastination. So I wanted to share it with you here on the podcast as well. You will hear me refer to the other parts of the course as you listen. That doesn't matter. You'll still get everything you need to know about procrastination and how to manage it today. But yes, if you've already taken the course, you probably have already listened to this bonus. But for today, let's talk about procrastination. Before we head over into the episode, I wanted to do the review of the week. This is a review from Sadbing, and they've said: "Desperately needed. I am an LICSW that has searched high & low for a podcast that delivers quality content. I felt relieved to finally find one! This podcast provides an honest depiction of how anxiety shows up in people's lives & gives you effective feedback on how to live with it. Thank you!" Thank you, Sadbing. Thank you so much for that amazing review. I do ask that anyone who's listening, please, the one thing you can do, this is what I offer freely to you all. If you get a second, just click below, in whatever app you're listening to, and leave a review. It helps me so much reach all the people. The more reviews we have, the more people will trust the podcast and continue listening to this free resource. So, yay. All right. Let's get over to this episode about managing procrastination. I hope you find it helpful. If you want to learn more about time management, head on over to CBTSchool.com/TimeManagement, and you can get a mini-course for 27 bucks. It's amazing value for a short period of time and a short amount of money. So, yeah. All right. So happy to have you here with me today. Thank you for giving your time to me and trusting me with your precious time. I will see you after the show. Welcome. You wouldn't have a time management course without really addressing procrastination. Procrastination is, number one, the biggest question I get, which is another reason why I wanted to make this course, is because it'

SUMMARY: Today we have Amanda White, an amazing therapist who treats anxiety, eating disorders and substance use. Amanda is coming onto the podcast today to talk about her book, Not Drinking Tonight and how we can all have a healthy relationship with alcohol. Amanda White talks about ways you can address your relationship with alcohol, in addition to drugs, social media and other vices. Amanda White also shares her own experience with alcohol use and abuse and her lived-experience with sobriety. In This Episode: Do you have a healthy relationship with alcohol Why we use alcohol and substances to manage anxiety and other strong emotions How to build a healthy relationship with alcohol. How to manage substance abuse, anxiety and substance use in recovery. Tools and tips to manage alcohol use and abuse Links To Things I Talk About: Easiest place to get Amanda's book with all links amandaewhite.com/book Instagram @therapyforwomen My therapy practice therapyforwomencenter.com ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). Episode Transcription This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 219. Welcome back, everybody. I am thrilled to have you here with me today. You may notice that the podcast looks a little different. That is on purpose. We have decided to update the cover of the podcast. It now has my face on it. There were a lot of people who had reached out and said that the old podcast cover art looked like a gardening podcast. And I thought it was probably time I updated it. So, that was something that I had created years and years and years ago. And I'm so thrilled to have now a very beautiful new cover art. Okay. This episode is so, so important. I cannot stress to you how overjoyed I was to have the amazing Amanda White on the podcast. She's a psychotherapist. She's on Instagram, under the handle Therapy For Women. She's so empowering. And she talks a lot about your relationship with substance use, particularly alcohol. But in this episode, we talk about many substances. And this is a conversation I feel we need to have more of because there are a lot of people who are trying to manage their anxiety and they end up using alcohol to cope. Now, this is a complete shame-free episode. In fact, one of the things I love about Amanda is she really does not subscribe to having to do a 100% sobriety method. She really talks about how you can create a relationship with alcohol based on whatever you think is right. And she has a new book out, which I am so excited that she's going to share with you all about. Before we get into the episode, I'd first like to do the review of the week. Here we go. We have this one from Epic 5000 Cloud 9, and they said: "This podcast has absolutely changed my life and made my recovery journey feel possible. After completing ERP, I felt lost and confused as to why I did not feel 'better'. Kimberley has given me so many tools to build my self-compassion, grow my mindfulness skills, manage OCD, and do all the hard things." So amazing. I'm so grateful to have you in our community. Epic 5000 Cloud 9. So happy to have you be a part of our little wonderful group of badass human beings. I love it. Let's go right over to the show and so you can learn all about Amanda and this beautiful, beautiful conversation. Have a wonderful day, everybody. Kimberley: Okay. Well, thank you, Amanda, for being here. I'm actually so grateful for you because you've actually brought to my attention a topic I've never talked about. And so, I'm so happy to have you here. Welcome. Amanda: Thank you so much for having me, Kimberley. I'm excited to chat with you. Kimberley: Okay. So, tell me a little bit about you first. Like, who are you? What do you do? What's your mission? Amanda: Yeah. So, my name is Amanda White. I am a licensed therapist. You might know me on Instagram from Therapy For Women as my handle. I'm also sober and I'm really on a mission to destigmatize sobriety and destigmatize the idea that you can question your relationship with alcohol. And it's really why my Instagram page and everything I do isn't sober only focused because I want it to be something where people who maybe aren't necessarily sober or haven't thought about it can, in a safe unstigmatized, unpressured way, also explore their relationship with alcohol. And that is what led me to write a book. And my book is called Not Drink Tonight. Kimberley: So good. So, I already have so m

In today's episode, Kimberley Quinlan talks about the importance of identifying catastrophic thinking. The reason this is so important is that this type of cognitive distortion or cognitive error can increase one's experience of anxiety and panic, making it harder to manage it at the moment. Kimberley talks about the importance of mindfulness and self-compassion when responding to catastrophization also. In This Episode: What is Catastrophization? Why is it important that we catch how we catastrophize? How to manage Catastrophization? How correcting our thoughts can help, sometimes..but not always. Links To Things I Talk About: ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 218. Welcome back, everybody. How are you doing? How are you really? Just wanted to check in with you first, see how you're doing. We're friends, so it's my job to check in on you and see how you are. Thank you for being here with me again. I do know how important your time is, and I am so grateful that you spend it with me. Thank you. That is such a joy and it's such a wonderful experience to know that I am spending time with you each week. This week, we are talking about the danger of catastrophization. Now, I'll talk with you a little bit more about what that means here in a second, but basically what I want to do in this episode is really to take off from the very first episode of this year, which was the things I'd learned in 2021. One of the points that I made there was to really take responsibility for your thought errors, right? And I wanted to pick one of the thought errors that I see the most in my clients. In fact, in the last couple of weeks, it's been an ongoing piece of the work we do. It's not all of the work, but it's a piece of the work, is for me just to be, I'm still doing teletherapy. So, we're sitting across from the screen and just reflecting and modeling back to them some of the ways in which they speak to themselves and really looking at how helpful that is and how that impacts them. So, before we get into that episode, I want to offer to you guys to submit your "I did a hard thing." Today, as I went to prepare for this episode, I checked the link and we'd actually used up all of the ones that were submitted probably in August of 2021. And so I'm going to encourage you guys to submit your "I did a hard thing" so I can feature you on the podcast. When we first submitted, we had like 70 submissions, and I've used all of them up. And I would love to get new ones to share with you and have you be featured on the show. So, if you want to go over, you can click on the show notes for the link, or if you want, you can go to kimberleyquinlan-lmft.com. So, that's Kimberley Quinlan - L for License, M for Marriage, F for Family, T for Therapy.com. Click on the podcast link, which is where we hold all of our podcasts, and you could submit your "I did a hard thing." And I'd love to have you on the show. It actually is probably my favorite part. I could easily just have a whole show called "I did a hard thing" and it could be just that. All right. So, let's get into the episode. Today, I want to talk with you about the danger of catastrophization, and let me share with you how this shows up. So, I want to be clear that you cannot control your thoughts, your intrusive thoughts that repetitively show up, and you can't show your fear up. You cannot change your feelings. So, you can't tell yourself not to be sad if you're sad and you can't tell yourself not to be anxious if you're anxious and you can't not panic if you're panicking. But you can change how you react and how you behave. That is a common CBT rule. Now often, when you have an intrusive thought, a lot of my patients or clients will report having anxiety or having a thought or having a feeling or having an urge or having an image that shows up in your head – because that's what I do, right? People come to me with a problem. The problem is usually a thought, feeling, sensation, urge, or image. That's what I do. And what I try to do is change the way they respond. That is my job, right? Now, what often happens is, there is a thought or a feeling or a sensation or urge, impulse, whatever it may be that shows up, and they often will respond to that by framing it in a way that is catastrophic. I'll give you some examples. So, when they have the presence o

SUMMARY: Today we have Windsor Flynn talking about how she realized the benefits of meditation for anxiety and OCD in her recovery. Winsdor brought her lived experience and training to the conversation and addressed how meditation has helped her in many ways, not just with her OCD and mental health. In This Episode: The benefits of meditation for general anxiety The benefits of meditation for OCD The roadblocks to practicing meditation How Mindfulness and mediation help with daily stress (especially through COVID-19) Links To Things I Talk About: Instagram: @windsormeditates Instagram: @Windsor.Flynn Website: www.windsorflynn.com (Windsor is certified to teach the 1 Giant Mind 3 Day Learn Meditation course). ERP School: https://www.cbtschool.com/erp-school-lp Episode Sponsor: This episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit is brought to you by CBTschool.com. CBTschool.com is a psychoeducation platform that provides courses and other online resources for people with anxiety, OCD, and Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors. Go to cbtschool.com to learn more. Spread the love! Everyone needs tools for anxiety... If you like Your Anxiety Toolkit Podcast, visit YOUR ANXIETY TOOLKIT PODCAST to subscribe free and you'll never miss an episode. And if you really like Your Anxiety Toolkit, I'd appreciate you telling a friend (maybe even two). EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION This is Your Anxiety Toolkit - Episode 217. You guys, 217. That's a lot of episodes. I'm very excited about that. Today, we have with us the amazing Windsor Flynn. I cannot tell you how incredibly by inspired I am with Windsor. She is very cool and has so much wisdom and so much kindness to share. Today, we have her on to talk about having anxiety and learning the importance of meditation. Now, Windsor speaks specifically about having OCD and how much it has helped her to take up a meditation practice. She goes over the couple of main key points, which is number one, anyone can meditate. And that meditation can be user-friendly for people, even with OCD. And she said, "Especially for people with OCD." And she actually gives us the amazing gift of a guided meditation at the end, that just helps you bring your attention to the present and learn to drop down into your compassion and your body. And then the third point she makes is that meditation can be integrated into your life, even if you feel like you don't have time, or even if it's really uncomfortable. And she shares some amazing experiences and examples of where she really struggled and how she got through those difficulties. So, I'm going to quickly first do the "I did a hard thing" and then I'm going to let you guys get right into the amazing conversation with Windsor Flynn. So, today's "I did a hard thing" is from Anonymous, and they said: "I wear a dress that has been sitting in my closet for months. I was always scared to show my skin since breaking out in hives over my social anxiety. I felt proud for the first time in a long time." This is so cool. You guys, I love this so much. They're really talking about showing up imperfect and all, or letting people judge them and going and doing what you want to do anyway. And that is what this podcast is about. It's about living the life that you want, not the life that anxiety wants you to have. And often, anxiety will keep your life very small if you only listen to it and only follow its rules. And so, anonymous is doing this work, walking the walk, not just talking the talk. So, yes, I'm so, so in love with this. Now you guys, you can go over to my private practice website, which is where the podcast lives. It's Kimberley Quinlan - L for License, M for Marriage, F for Family, and T for Therapist – I had to think there – .com. So, KimberleyQuinlan-lmft.com. And then you can click on the podcast and right there is a link for you to submit your "I did a hard thing" and you can be featured on the show. So, go do that, but not right away. First, I want you to listen to this amazing, amazing episode. Kimberley: Welcome. I am so excited for this episode. I have a reason for being so excited, which I'll share with you in a second, but first, I want to introduce to you Windsor Flynn. She is incredible. I have watched you grow over the last what? A year or two years since I've known you. It is so wonderful to have you on, so thank you for coming. Windsor: Yeah. Thank you for inviting me. This is so cool because I've spent a lot of time listening to your podcast and, I don't know, just hoping to be on Monday, but I didn't know for what. So, this is really cool for me. Kimberley: Yeah, this is so cool. So, you're coming on to talk about meditation. And the reason that this is so exciting for me is that is actually what this podcast was originally for – was to bring mindfulness and meditation practice to people who have anxiety. And I did a lot of meditations at the beginning and then I lost my way. So, I feel like you coming here is full circle. We're going back to the roots of th