"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)

This is the first episode in my 8 part series for April (4 of the episodes are Patreon bonus episodes) called Little Life Resets. This one is about Self-Atunement. Basically it means starting your morning, and checking in during the day to quickly acknowledge any feelings instead of zoning out. I walk you through exactly how I check in with myself (yes, I literally say "hi Jen") and how this helps with overwhelm, dissociation, and fear of feelings. Weekly bonus episodes, video episodes, ad-free episodes, full archive on Patreon $7.99 monthly or pay annually for a big discount. Show Notes: Get support in Jen's "We Are A Lot" online community - 24/7 hub. Stop being the only neurodivergent person that you know! Subscription to daily body double sessions with Jen & others - try it free! Shop to Support the Show: Jen's Favorite ADHD Supports (with Discounts) Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports your local independent bookstore, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN.

In this episode, I'm talking about the "laziness lie" from Dr. Devon Price's book Laziness Does Not Exist and how believing you're lazy if you don't help people can quietly destroy your boundaries. I get into why some relationships leave you exhausted, how over-helping actually keeps people stuck, and what it looks like to start pulling back in small, realistic ways. Get support in Jen's "We Are A Lot" online community. An interactive (yet self-paced, no forced socializing) group giving you 24/7 peer to peer support. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD humans that need connection and gentle accountability with taking action, so you're not doing it all alone. You get daily body doubling sessions with Jen, weekly check-in progress meetings, extras like live Q&A's with Jen, book club meetings, journaling sessions with Jen, instructional videos for nervous system regulation, a private chat community, free worksheets, guides and printables, journal prompts, as well as all of the podcast episodes early and ad-free, video versions with transcripts, and four audio bonus episodes per month. This monthly membership supports learning things at your own pace so that you can act like your own ADHD/AuDHD coach whenever you want. Join the "We Are A Lot" Community for $24.99/month, or I am offering over 3 months free if you join annually and check it out no pressure with a one-week free trial! Quick Links To Things Mentioned in This Episode: Episode 40: How to Set Boundaries as an Adult with ADHD Episode 41: The ADHD and People Pleasing Connection Laziness Does Not Exist by Dr. Devon Price (20% off with this link) Unmasking Autism by Dr. Devon Price (20% off with this link) Unmasking For Life by Dr. Devon Price (20% off with this link) Unlearning Shame by Dr. Devon Price (20% off with this link) Send an email to the show at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com For ad-free episodes, weekly bonus episodes, the video version and transcripts join the Patreon for $7.99 per month. [Jen to create this link when adding the new paid version] Shop to Support the Show: Jen's Favorite ADHD Supports (with Discounts) Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports your local independent bookstore, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products. Their faux fur weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20.

In this episode, I talk about the emerging idea of ADHD and hyper-curiosity - the intense urge to explore, research, and learn everything right now. Hyper-curiosity can fuel creativity and discovery, but it can make modern life harder to manage. Check out Dr. Anne-Laure Le Cunff's book Tiny Experiments, (20% off with my link) which can help the hyper-curious mind figure out how to live in a goal obsessed world. Get support in Jen's "We Are A Lot" online community. An interactive (yet self-paced, no forced socializing) group giving you 24/7 peer to peer support. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD humans that need connection and gentle accountability with taking action, so you're not doing it all alone. You get daily body doubling sessions with Jen, weekly check-in progress meetings, extras like live Q&A's with Jen, book club meetings, journaling sessions with Jen, instructional videos for nervous system regulation, a private chat community, free worksheets, guides and printables, journal prompts, as well as all of the podcast episodes early and ad-free, video versions with transcripts, and four audio bonus episodes per month. This monthly membership supports learning things at your own pace so that you can act like your own ADHD/AuDHD coach whenever you want. Join the "We Are A Lot" Community for $24.99/month, or I am offering over 3 months free if you join annually and check it out no pressure with a one-week free trial! Things Related To This Episode: Episode 18 of "You Are A LOT" podcast; Early ADHD Humans Kept the Species Alive Tiny Experiments by Dr. Anne-Laure Le Cunff ADHD: A Hunter in a Farmer's World by Thom Hartmann Find Jen on: jenkirkman.com Instagram Pinterest Threads Substack Cameo Send an email to the show at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Shop to Support the Show: Jen's Favorite ADHD Supports (with Discounts) Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports your local independent bookstore, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products. Their faux fur weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20. Research Referenced In This Episode: Hypercuriosity Theory - Substack article Hypercuriosity; Underappreciated Advantage - Science News How Therapists Can Support Hypercuriosity - Contextual Consulting

In this episode, I'm talking about ADHD understimulation: what it is, why it feels so much bigger than boredom, and how it can leave you feeling physically stuck, mentally foggy, restless, or exhausted. I compare understimulation to procrastination and depression and I've got some solutions to stay stimulated. Get support in Jen's "We Are A Lot" online community. An interactive (yet self-paced, no forced socializing) group giving you 24/7 peer to peer support. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD humans that need connection and support with taking action, so you're not doing it all alone. You get daily body doubling sessions with Jen, weekly check-in progress meetings, extras like live Q&A's with Jen, book club meetings, journaling sessions with Jen, instructional videos for nervous system regulation, a private chat community, free worksheets, guides and printables, journal prompts, as well as all of the podcast episodes early and ad-free, video versions with transcripts, and four audio bonus episodes per month. This monthly membership supports learning things at your own pace so that you can act like your own ADHD/AuDHD coach whenever you want. Join the "We Are A Lot" Community for $24.99/month, or I am offering over 3 months free if you join annually and check it out no pressure with a one-week free trial! Things Mentioned in This Episode: My fave productivity tools BrainFM (30 day free trial) and The Time Timer. Find Jen on: jenkirkman.com Instagram Pinterest Threads Substack Cameo Send an email to the show at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Shop to Support the Show: Jen's Favorite ADHD Supports (with discounts!) Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports your local independent bookstore, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products. Their faux fur weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20. Research Referenced In This Episode: A Guide To Understimulated ADHD: ADD Org Website ADHD Can Cause Overstimulation and Understimulation: Health Hero Website

Why is it so hard to do something we say we want to do—like meditation? In this episode, Jen responds to a listener from her Patreon community who says she knows meditation is good for her but can't get herself to do it consistently. The conversation quickly turns into a bigger question: do you actually want to do the thing, or do you just think you're supposed to? Get support in Jen's "We Are A Lot" online community. An interactive (yet self-paced, no forced socializing) group giving you 24/7 peer to peer support. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD humans that need connection and gentle accountability with taking action, so you're not doing it all alone. You get daily body doubling sessions with Jen, weekly check-in progress meetings, extras like live Q&A's with Jen, book club meetings, journaling sessions with Jen, instructional videos for nervous system regulation, a private chat community, free worksheets, guides and printables, journal prompts, as well as all of the podcast episodes early and ad-free, video versions with transcripts, and four audio bonus episodes per month. This monthly membership supports learning things at your own pace so that you can act like your own ADHD/AuDHD coach whenever you want. Join the "We Are A Lot" Community for $24.99/month, or I am offering over 3 months free if you join annually and check it out no pressure with a one-week free trial! Things Mentioned In This Episode: Progressive Muscle Relxation and EFT Tapping Find Jen on: jenkirkman.com Instagram Pinterest Threads Substack Cameo Send an email to the show at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Shop to Support the Show: Jen's Favorite ADHD Supports (with discounts!) Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports your local independent bookstore, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products. Their faux fur weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20.

Why do your feelings change so fast with ADHD or AuDHD? How can you go from crying to fine in ten minutes? Why does it feel like the first feeling never even happened once it's gone? In episode #72 Why Do My Feelings Change So Fast With ADHD & AuDHD? I get into how ADHD affects tracking feelings over time, how attention changes what feels most true in the moment, and why it can be hard to recall how intense a feeling was once it passes. Get support in Jen's "We Are A Lot" online community. An interactive (yet self-paced, no forced socializing) group giving you 24/7 peer to peer support. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD humans that need connection and gentle accountability with taking action, so you're not doing it all alone. You get daily body doubling sessions with Jen, weekly check-in progress meetings, extras like live Q&A's with Jen, book club meetings, journaling sessions with Jen, instructional videos for nervous system regulation, a private chat community, free worksheets, guides and printables, journal prompts, as well as all of the podcast episodes early and ad-free, video versions with transcripts, and four audio bonus episodes per month. This monthly membership supports learning things at your own pace so that you can act like your own ADHD/AuDHD coach whenever you want. Join the "We Are A Lot" Community for $24.99/month, or I am offering over 3 months free if you join annually and check it out no pressure with a one-week free trial! Find Jen on: jenkirkman.com Instagram Pinterest Threads Substack Cameo Send an email to the show at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Shop to Support the Show: Jen's Favorite ADHD Supports (with Discounts) Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports your local independent bookstore, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products. Their faux fur weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20. Research Referenced In This Episode: Learning Meta Cognition Skills: ADDitude Magazine You Tube Leveraging Meta Cognition: Pub Med Central The Brown Model of Executive Function Impairments in ADHD: Brown Clinic Website Understanding Girls With ADHD (Book): 20% off with my link

Why do you feel excited and dread at the same time? Why do you want something and also don't? In this episode, I talk about when you feel two opposite feelings at the same time. Don't worry. You're not unstable! You're emotionally complex. Listen if you want to learn how we process multiple feelings at the same time and how relationships and situations can influence our mixed feelings. Get support in Jen's "We Are A Lot" online community. An interactive (yet self-paced, no forced socializing) group giving you 24/7 peer to peer support. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD humans that need connection and gentle accountability with taking action, so you're not doing it all alone. You get daily body doubling sessions with Jen, weekly check-in progress meetings, extras like live Q&A's with Jen, book club meetings, journaling sessions with Jen, instructional videos for nervous system regulation, a private chat community, free worksheets, guides and printables, journal prompts, as well as all of the podcast episodes early and ad-free, video versions with transcripts, and four audio bonus episodes per month. This monthly membership supports learning things at your own pace so that you can act like your own ADHD/AuDHD coach whenever you want. Join the "We Are A Lot" Community for $24.99/month, or I am offering over 3 months free if you join annually and check it out no pressure with a one-week free trial! Find Jen on: jenkirkman.com Instagram Pinterest Threads Substack Cameo Send an email to the show at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Shop to Support the Show: Jen's Favorite ADHD Supports (with Discounts) Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports your local independent bookstore, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products. Their faux fur weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20. Research Referenced In This Episode: How Our Brain Navigates Complex Feelings: Psychology Today Two Truths Can Exist At The Same Time: Psychology Today Can You Feel Two Emotions At Once: Psychology Today What Does It Mean To Have Mixed Feelings: Psychology Today

Why does it feel like the emotion you're in right now is going to last forever? In episode #70 ADHD and AuDHD: Why Feelings Feel Permanent, I explore why we struggle to hold onto the idea that feelings change because when one shows up, our attention locks onto it, making it feel permanent and all-encompassing. I'll help you make sense of why feelings feel so intense, and convincing. Get support in Jen's "We Are A Lot" online community. An interactive (yet self-paced, no forced socializing) group giving you 24/7 peer to peer support. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD humans that need connection and gentle accountability with taking action, so you're not doing it all alone. You get daily body doubling sessions with Jen, weekly check-in progress meetings, extras like live Q&A's with Jen, book club meetings, journaling sessions with Jen, instructional videos for nervous system regulation, a private chat community, free worksheets, guides and printables, journal prompts, as well as all of the podcast episodes early and ad-free, video versions with transcripts, and four audio bonus episodes per month. This monthly membership supports learning things at your own pace so that you can act like your own ADHD/AuDHD coach whenever you want. Join the "We Are A Lot" Community for $24.99/month, or I am offering over 3 months free if you join annually and check it out no pressure with a one-week free trial! Find Jen on: jenkirkman.com Instagram Pinterest Threads Substack Cameo Send an email to the show at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Shop to Support the Show: Jen's Favorite ADHD Supports (with Discounts) Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports your local independent bookstore, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products. Their faux fur weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20. Research Referenced In This Episode: Affective Forecasting: Psychology Today Understanding the Ways We Think About Our Future Emotions: Lawyer Well Being Impact Bias: The Decision Lab Deficient Emotional Self-Regulation: Russell Barkley ADDitude Magazine/You-Tube

It's Feelings February, on the "You Are A LOT" podcast, and I'm starting the first episode of the month with a basic question: what's the difference between an emotion and a feeling? Emotions are real-time body signals—racing heart, tight chest, clenched jaw, shallow breathing. Feelings are what you become aware of and can name after your brain interprets those body signals. For ADHD and AuDHD humans, there's often a lag between the emotion happening and the feeling "forming," (due to our issues with interoception) which can make it hard to answer a simple question like "What's wrong?" I explain how to use a Feelings Wheel and why naming the body state can sometimes ground you more than naming a feeling too fast. Show Notes: Join Jen's Accountability Club! A highly interactive monthly membership where you meet with me live every week for accountability, body-double sessions, journaling, and monthly Q&A. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD brains that need connection and support taking action — so you're not doing it all alone. Membership is $19.99/month, with an annual option currently available at 31% off (that's over three months free) with code 2AD87. Offer expires 2/1/26. Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day It's not music, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made for ADHD brains and it's genius! I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in, no distractions. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! No catch. Cancel anytime. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to — I buy my spiral notebooks and Le Pen pens from them and use them daily for lists, journaling, and planning. You can get notebooks monogrammed and save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports independent bookstores, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products — their vegan weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming, especially if you're neurodivergent and soothed by gentle weight and cozy textures. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day. I have a pink one from the MOD collection. I use it to help me visualize time during work blocks, breaks, and completing tasks. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. Sources Used: The Difference Between Feelings And Emotions: Wake Forest University The Feelings Wheel: The New Happy Blog Toxic Positivity: Book, Whitney Goodman (20% off)

In this episode, I share how I use accountability as a practical tool for ADHD without it feeling punishing or pressured. If you've got ADHD (or AuDHD), deal with time blindness, procrastination loops, or resistance like PDA / demand avoidance, this approach can help you stay present, reduce overwhelm, and actually follow through. I break down the three types of accountability (personal, public, and community), explain why body doubling works so well for ADHD brains, and show how simple check-ins can turn "I'm stuck" into momentum—plus why celebrating small wins rewires motivation over time. You'll also hear about my Patreon Accountability Club (including daily body-doubling sessions and weekly check-ins), and I'm offering a free month for listeners for a limited time. Click here and claim your one free month to the Tier A Plus Patreon Community. Show Notes: Join Jen's Accountability Club! A highly interactive monthly membership where you meet with me live every week for accountability, body-double sessions, journaling, and monthly Q&A. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD brains that need connection and support taking action — so you're not doing it all alone. Click here and claim your one free month to the Tier A Plus Patreon Community. Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day It's not music, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made for ADHD brains and it's genius! I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in, no distractions. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! No catch. Cancel anytime. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to — I buy my spiral notebooks and Le Pen pens from them and use them daily for lists, journaling, and planning. You can get notebooks monogrammed and save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports independent bookstores, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products — their vegan weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming, especially if you're neurodivergent and soothed by gentle weight and cozy textures. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day. I have a pink one from the MOD collection. I use it to help me visualize time during work blocks, breaks, and completing tasks. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast.

In this episode, I'm talking about capacity and why so many ADHD/AuDHD humans feel blocked from doing the things they genuinely care about. It covers the Fresh Start Effect, and how dopamine spikes when we look forward to things more than when we're actually doing them, which is why January motivation fades so quickly. I get into the difference between wanting to create, connect, or rest, and having the space, energy, or setup to actually do it. This year, I'm still figuring out daily goal-setting, realistic planning, and building to-do lists, because what no one really ever tells us is that planning and researching drain our battery — and we have to work with that reality. Show Notes: My podcast webpage is another place to listen, along with an easy-to-read blog that expands on ADHD/AuDHD topics from the show — with pins you can save to Pinterest. Read my FAQ page if you want to access diagnostic tests for ADHD/AuDHD, find a therapist or coach in your area, and get info from ADHD organizations. Join Jen's Accountability Club! - A highly interactive monthly membership where you meet with me live every week for accountability, body-double sessions, journaling, and monthly Q&A. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD brains that need connection and support taking action — so you're not doing it all alone. Membership is $19.99/month, with an annual option currently available at 31% off (that's over three months free) with code 2AD87. Offer expires 2/1/26. Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day - It's not music, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made for ADHD brains and it's genius! I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in, no distractions. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! No catch. Cancel anytime. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults - I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires) Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods - Appointed notebooks are my go-to — I buy my spiral notebooks and Le Pen pens from them and use them daily for lists, journaling, and planning. You can get notebooks monogrammed and save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend - I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports independent bookstores, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort - I love UnHide's products — their vegan weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming, especially if you're neurodivergent and soothed by gentle weight and cozy textures. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! - I use my Time Timer every single day. I have a pink one from the MOD collection. I use it to help me visualize time during work blocks, breaks, and completing tasks. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast.

This January I'm not making resolutions, I'm making space in my life. In this episode, I talk about what happened when I realized my 2025 ideas weren't sustainable, why I canceled projects I'd been grinding on for months, how I'm re-thinking my goal-setting and as an AuDHD human, what I refuse to carry into 2026. To listen to this episode without ads, try the ad-free version (of all episode) on Patreon for 7 days just by clicking here. Show Notes My podcast webpage is another place to listen, along with an easy-to-read blog that expands on ADHD/AuDHD topics from the show — with pins you can save to Pinterest. Join Jen's Accountability Club! A highly interactive monthly membership where you meet with me live every week for accountability, body-double sessions, journaling, and monthly Q&A. It's designed for ADHD/AuDHD brains that need connection and support taking action — so you're not doing it all alone. Membership is $19.99/month, with an annual option currently available at 31% off (that's over three months free) with code 2AD87. Offer expires 2/1/26. Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day It's not music, or binaural beats. Brain.fm is science-backed sound made for ADHD brains and it's genius! I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in, no distractions. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! No catch. Cancel anytime. Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids & Adults I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Appointed — Planners, Notebooks & Desk Goods Appointed notebooks are my go-to — I buy my spiral notebooks and Le Pen pens from them and use them daily for lists, journaling, and planning. You can get notebooks monogrammed and save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. Bookshop.org — Books I Recommend I love Bookshop.org because every purchase supports independent bookstores, not Amazon, while still shipping directly to you. I've curated book lists on ADHD/AuDHD and mental health, and you can get 20% off everything when you shop using my link. UnHide — Soft, Weighted Comfort I love UnHide's products — their vegan weighted blankets, pillows, robes, and socks are incredibly soft and calming, especially if you're neurodivergent and soothed by gentle weight and cozy textures. You can get 20% off with my link and code JEN20. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day. I have a pink one from the MOD collection. I use it to help me visualize time during work blocks, breaks, and completing tasks. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast.

In This Out From The Paywall Episode: I chat with my ADHD coach Paula Engebretson, host of the I'm Busy Being Awesome Podcast. Take Paula's free quiz to find out your overwhelm response type! We talk about the realities of navigating ADHD through different "seasons of life," why rigid systems rarely work, and how values, energy levels, and self-understanding need to guide how we build routines. I share my own ADHD "rock bottom" and what shifted when I stopped chasing the "perfect planner" and instead worked with Paula to design flexible systems that support my unique brain and my very random life. The conversation is equal parts personal insight and practical wisdom, offering you a candid look at why learning how your brain works is more powerful than any one productivity tool. Get Paula's great online course Overwhelm to Action right here! SHOW NOTES Online Course - Overwhelm to Action Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website & Blog Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest "You Are A Lot" Black Tote Bag "You Are A Lot" coffee mug & travel mug "You Are A Lot" black long-sleeved tee 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Favorite & Highly Recommended ADHD/AuDHD Items Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com

It's an ADHD trait that people are starting to talk about as something uniquely part of our executive functioning difficulties. It refers to throwing out our DOOM (Didn't Organize, Only Moved) piles or any amount of clutter because starting or planning the large task of organizing is causing us to be too overwhelmed. Experts agree that this is not the best way to handle our clutter and recommend other strategies which I'll list below. I tell a personal story about when I had to "toss" and how it was a hugely emotional experience but I believe that sometimes, despite knowing intellectually how to get rid of things perfectly, that we have to accept that we have a developmental disorder and allow ourselves this reset if we truly know that we aren't planning to handle things that way again. Show Notes: Click to Get Jen's Free Guide How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website & Blog Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" "You Are A Lot" Black Tote Bag "You Are A Lot" coffee mug & travel mug "You Are A Lot" black long-sleeved tee 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Sources Used: ADHD & Tossing: Private ADHD UK Tossing. A Potential Sign of ADHD: Huffington Post Tossing The Doom Pile: Global ADHD

In this episode I talk about the constant cycle of burnout, clutter, and resentment that comes with our brain, from tossing bags on the table, leaving yesterday's project out, and then facing the chaos that feels like the FBI searched your home. I talk about why putting things away feels boring, impossible, or like it will take ten hours, and why I get mad at "Past Me" for leaving messes for "Future Me." I share how I stumbled onto something called Clutter Check, a 10–15 minute daily routine that keeps things from piling up. I teach you how to trick your brain into making peace with this ritual by looking at it through a non-neurotypical lens. 🎁❄️ Happy Holidays! Please take me up on this GIFT of one FREE month of Patreon (did I mention FREE?) at Tier 1 giving you access to the entire archive, video episodes, 4 extra episodes per month, body double sessions, and more!

Rest can feel confusing, uncomfortable, or even stressful when you're neurodivergent. In this episode, I talk about how rest shows up differently for ADHD, autistic, and AuDHD brains, why typical advice doesn't always work, and how to stop treating rest like a reward. I walk through the difference between rest and isolation, how to rest with people, and offer 27 quick, micro break ideas. If rest makes you feel guilty, or restless, I hope this episode will help you rethink what rest can look like on your terms. Show Notes: Click to Get Jen's Free Guide How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks Click to Get On The Waitlist For Jen's Panic Course Feb 2026 Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website & Blog Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" "You Are A Lot" Black Tote Bag "You Are A Lot" coffee mug & travel mug "You Are A Lot" black long-sleeved tee 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Bookshop.org Gift Guide (books, bags, games, more) 20% Off Jen's Sensory Seeking Gift Guide From Kitsch 15% Discount Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Sources Used: The Power of Micro Breaks For Well-Being 7 Types of Rest How Sleep Affects Your Immune System Rest Is Resistance The Nap Ministry Laziness Does Not Exist 20% Off

If holiday gift-giving stresses you out, you need to listen to this one. In this episode, I talk about why gifting can be so overwhelming (executive dysfunction, decision fatigue, social pressure) and how to make it easier. I share simple ways to lower the mental load, like using gift categories, anchoring to one idea, and giving yourself permission to give late (or not at all). I also created a few curated, neurodivergent-friendly gift guides to help you shop with less stress. Listen now and take some pressure off your season! Gift Guide Links: Kitsch, Bookshop, Appointed Jen's Gift Guide Affiliate Links: Kitsch Bookshop Appointed Hugimals UnHide Sources Used: The Psychology of Gift Giving A Quick Guide to Gifting With ADHD Understanding the Brain Science Behind Giving/Receiving Gifts The Art & Science of Gift Giving

Using shopping for a quick hit of dopamine is definitely an emotional regulation issue, and trying to fill any empty hole in our soul with stuff is a very deep situation. BUT that's not what this episode is about. Sometimes, being organized about how we spend money can bring us into reality where we can clearly see how much we spend (if we overspend) or how quickly we make decisions to spend (if we are impulsive with spending) and from there we can make changes. But we have to get organized first so that we can analyze our habits. I'm giving some very easy and quick tips for staying organized and accountable to yourself so that you can spend in a way that won't end up causing you stress or debt. 🎁❄️ Happy Holidays! Please take me up on this GIFT of one FREE month of Patreon (did I mention FREE?) at Tier 1 giving you access to the entire archive, video episodes, 4 extra episodes per month, body double sessions, and more! To get on the waitlist for the lowest price for jen's How to R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks course click here: Get on the Panic Attack Waitlist Show Notes: Click to Get Jen's Free Guide How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website & Blog Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" "You Are A Lot" Black Tote Bag "You Are A Lot" coffee mug & travel mug "You Are A Lot" black long-sleeved tee 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Sources Used: 16 Ways To Better Manage Your Money: ADDitude Magazine ADHD Overspending & Impulsivity: ADHD Specialist Managing Money & ADHD: CHADD Org

Feeling drained, foggy, or emotionally tapped out during the holidays? You're not alone. In this episode, you'll learn what empathic burnout is, how it shows up in your body, and why certain times like the holiday season can increase the risk due to higher emotional exposure, shifting routines, and layered relational dynamics. Whether you're neurodivergent, highly sensitive, or just carrying too much, this episode will help you understand why self-compassion is the most powerful (and most misunderstood) tool for recovery. I'll walk you through specific self-compassion strategies like "in for me, out for you" breathing, micro-movements, grounding touch, and internal phrases to help you stay steady especially when you don't have the option to step away. Mindful Self-Compassion For Burnout: Kristen Neff (20% off with this link to Bookshop dot org) SHOW NOTES: Mindful Self-Compassion For Burnout: Kristen Neff (20% off with my link to Bookshop) Click to Get Jen's Free Guide How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website & Blog Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" "You Are A Lot" Black Tote Bag "You Are A Lot" coffee mug & travel mug "You Are A Lot" black long-sleeved tee 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 20% off everything on Jen's Holiday Gift Guide Bookshop dot org Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED: Mindful Self-Compassion For Burnout: Kristen Neff (20% off with this link to Bookshop dot org) The Mindful Self Compassion Workbook: Kristen Neff

Have you ever thought: "Why am I so tired all the time? Why do I feel disconnected, like I'm watching life happen but not really in it?" You probably thought something was wrong with you and didn't consider that it could be a nervous system thing. In this episode: what your nervous system actually does, what "regulation" really means (without cold plunges), and why feeling tired or foggy sometimes is normal even if it's not ideal. And how if you're neurodivergent, your nervous system may function in a more intense way. Get The Nervous System Workbook: by Deb Dana and get 20% off with this link while you support independent bookstores all over America by shopping on Bookshop dot org. Show Notes: The Nervous System Workbook: Deb Dana (20% off with this link to Bookshop dot org) Click to Get Jen's Free Guide How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website & Blog Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" "You Are A Lot" Black Tote Bag "You Are A Lot" coffee mug & travel mug "You Are A Lot" black long-sleeved tee 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Sources Used: The Autistic & ADHD Nervous System: Article by Dr. Kristen Neff Heal Your Nervous System: Dr. Linnea Passaler (20% off with this link to Bookshop dot org ) Polyvagal Prompts: Deb Dana (20% off with this link to Bookshop dot org ) The Nervous System Workbook: Deb Dana (20% off with this link to Bookshop dot org ) Glimmers Journal: Deb Dana (20% off with this link to Bookshop dot org )

Panic attacks and autistic meltdowns share some common symptoms but happen for different reasons. A panic attack is a short circuit in the nervous system and not a total sensory overload, while an autistic meltdown isn't out of nowhere — it's a total nervous system overload based on external triggers. If you are AuDHD and have panic attacks, being able to tell the difference between these two experiences is important because they need different responses. I talk about how to respond to both in this episode. If you want to learn how to handle panic attacks so that they no longer control your life, I'm teaching a three-session webinar in January 2026 about how to R.I.D.E. out panic attacks. Get on the waitlist so that you'll get the first chance to sign up at a huge discount. https://www.jenkirkman.com/waitlist/ SHOW NOTES Click to Get Jen's Free Guide How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks Get on the Waitlist For Jen's How To R.I.D.E. Out Panic Course Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Hope & Help For Your Nerves by Dr. Claire Weekes 20% off this book Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES FOR THIS EPISODE: Coping With Panic Attacks Rula: Treating Anxiety Disorders Rula: Autism/Overstimulation Inertia, Meltdown, Autism - NIH Reduce Sensory Overstimulation - Science Direct Emotional Flashback Management - Pete Walker Hope & Help For Your Nerves by Dr. Claire Weekes

Morning and night are the two times of day that do more to stabilize an ADHD brain than any productivity hack ever could. In this final Organize October episode, I talk about the science of how morning routines provide dopamine stabilization and evening routines need sensory cues to train our nervous system to power down. Get the ad-free and video version of this episode and more organize bonus episodes on Patreon - click here for a 7 day free trial. Show Notes: Get On The Waitlist for Jen's Online Course "How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks" Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Self Care For People with ADHD - 20% Off This Book The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit - 20% Off This Book The Ultimate ADHD Workbook For Women - 20% Off This Book Sources Used: Cortisol & Other Stress Responses in ADHD How Dopamine Influences ADHD Symptoms Taming The Molecule Of More - 20% Off This Book

In this Organize October episode, I talk about organizing how to clean your home in a way that hopefully works for you without having to "binge deep clean", how to think of cleaning as functional and make it fun, my new laundry system that helps with our impulsivity and my new obsession: the House Purse. Get the ad-free and video version of this episode and more organize bonus episodes on Patreon - click here for a 7 day free trial. Show Notes: Get On The Waitlist for Jen's Online Course "How To R.I.D.E Out Panic Attacks" Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Order From Chaos - 20% off this book How To Keep House While Drowning - 20% off this book Dirty Laundry - 20% off this book Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Sources Used: ADHD & Chores - The Mini ADHD Coach How To Keep House While Drowning - 20% off this book

It's Organize October here on the podcast! In this episode, I'm getting into the time management, scheduling & planning methods that I've finally figured out and that actually work for me. I'll be taking you through my notebook system, time tracking, index card daily and weekly planning, time blocking method, notes app organizing and idea capturing. It's a LOT. If you want to join the Patreon at 31% off an annual or monthly membership click here and use code: 14B85 Show Notes: 15% Off Appointed Notebooks/Planners/Pens use code JENKIRKMAN at checkout 20% off Fierce Self Compassion by Kristen Neff 20% off Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman 20% off Essentialism by Greg McKeown 15% off Weighted Eye Mask from Kitsch Jen's Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Sources Used: ADHD Time Mgmt Tips - Exceptional Individuals Time Trackers For ADHD - Reddit Benefits of Time Tracking - Timing Blog Understanding The Science of Time - Ari Tuckman Video

In a special Patreon Only Episode of the podcast, I chat with my ADHD coach Paula Engebretson, host of the I'm Busy Being Awesome Podcast. To listen to or watch this episode ad-free and in full - jump on over to Patreon and with this link you can get a 7-day-free-trial. We talk about the realities of navigating ADHD through different "seasons of life," why rigid systems rarely work, and how values, energy levels, and self-understanding need to guide how we build routines. I share my own ADHD "rock bottom" and what shifted when I stopped chasing the "perfect planner" and instead worked with Paula to design flexible systems that actually fit my brain and my life. The conversation is equal parts personal insight and practical wisdom, offering you a candid look at why learning how your brain works is more powerful than any one productivity tool. Take Paula's What's Your Overwhelm Response Type? Quiz to find out what gets you in a state of overwhelm and how to help yourself out! Show Notes: Jen's Membership the Monthly Action Club Just $19.99 You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off You Are A Lot Podcast Website Guest Show Notes: Paula Engebretson I'm Busy Being Awesome Podcast Take Paula's Quiz "What's Your Overwhelm Response Type?" Take Paula's Course "Overwhelm To Action!" Paula's You Tube Channel

This episode started with a simple question I asked on social media: "What's a weird habit of yours that you wonder if it's tied to your ADHD/AuDHD?" Hundreds of responses came in. This is part 3 of this three part series. In this episode the themes explored are systems and rituals around time tricks, sorting, and hyperfocus. SHOW NOTES You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN You Are A Lot Podcast Website SOURCES USED: Visual Thinking by Temple Grandin 20% off Unmasking Autism by Devon Price 20% off Smart But Stuck by Dr. Thomas Brown 20% off Autism in Polyvagal Terms 20% off this book The ADHD Productivity Manual by Ari Tuckman 20% off this book Laziness Does Not Exist By Devon Price 20% off this book TLC Foundation For BFRB's Dr. Kieran Rose, autistic educator & advocate Stephen Porges, Polyvagal Theory Dr. Aimee Daramus, Clinical psychologist/specialist in neurodivergent sensory issues

This episode started with a simple question I asked on social media: "What's a weird habit of yours that you wonder if it's tied to your ADHD/AuDHD?" Hundreds of responses came in. This is part 2 of this three part series. In this episode the theme is the body-based side of ADHD and AuDHD—the textures we can't stand, the stims that keep us grounded, rituals around food, the need for symmetry, and all the little physical quirks that help us regulate. SHOW NOTES 'This Is A Lot' Resources: You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial You Are A Lot Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com More Neurodivergent Friendly Resources: 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Sources: Visual Thinking by Temple Grandin 20% off Unmasking Autism by Devon Price 20% off Smart But Stuck by Dr. Thomas Brown 20% off Autism in Polyvagal Terms 20% off this book The ADHD Productivity Manual by Ari Tuckman 20% off this book Laziness Does Not Exist By Devon Price 20% off this book TLC Foundation For BFRB's Dr. Kieran Rose, autistic educator & advocate Stephen Porges, Polyvagal Theory Dr. Aimee Daramus, Clinical psychologist/specialist in neurodivergent sensory issues

For the ad-free audio and video version of this episode - join me over on Patreon by clicking here for a 7-day-free trial. This episode started with a simple question I asked on social media: "What's a weird habit of yours that you wonder if it's tied to your ADHD/AuDHD?" Hundreds of responses came in. The traits or quirks that I read were hilarious, heartbreaking, and a lot were relatable to me. While these behaviors might sound random or odd, or overly specific to a neurotypical, they're loaded meaning once you understand how a neurodivergent brain works. This is part 1 of a three part series. In this episode the themes are having trouble with TV shows ending, wanting spoilers for books and movies, and an intolerance of awkward moments Show Notes: 'This Is A Lot' Resources: You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Follow Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Tips on Pinterest Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" You Are A Lot Podcast Website Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com More Neurodivergent Friendly Resources: 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Sources: TLC Foundation For BFRB's Dr. Kieran Rose, autistic educator & advocate Stephen Porges, Polyvagal Theory Dr. Aimee Daramus, Clinical psychologist/specialist in neurodivergent sensory issues Visual Thinking by Temple Grandin Unmasking Autism: Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity by Devon Price Smart But Stuck by Thomas E Brown, PhD

In this Patreon Only episode: I give advice (and information backed by neuroscience and trauma informed experts) to a Patreon subscriber who wrote a question in the chat community. The themes in this question are so relatable to us ADHD/AuDHD humans like; feeling overwhelmed when we finally have time to ourselves, freezing when it's time to make a decision, struggling to know what we actually want in the short-term and long-term; feeling ashamed about all of that, and having trouble asking for help. SHOW NOTES: You Are A Lot Podcast On Patreon 7 Day Free Trial 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off SOURCES USED: Dr. Russell Barkley - ADHD researcher and author Pete Walker - CPTSD expert/psychologist Dr. Sharon Saline Leanne Maskell – ADHD coach and author Dr. William Dodson – Psychiatrist and ADHD expert Psychology Today: "Why Some People With ADHD Refuse To Ask For Help" 20% Off Book: Smart But Stuck by Dr. Thomas E. Brown 20% Off Book: The ADHD Productivity Manual, by Ari Tuckman 20% Off Book: The Joy Reset: 6 Ways Trauma Steals Happiness & How To Win It Back by Mary Catherine McDonald, PhD 20% Off Book: Self-Compassion by Kristen Neff, PhD 20% Off Book: Healing the Shame That Binds You, by John Bradshaw

In this episode, I am talking about an article in Psychology Today called Why Autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD Students Are Stressed at School that shines a light on a new study that shows that schools place double emotional burdens on neurodivergent students. I talk about how so many of us were overlooked for diagnosis as kids and how our emotional needs weren't being met and how we carried that emotional neglect from the world into adulthood. This show exists because of my Patreon members — and I'm pushing hard to reach my first milestone: 750 subscribers by the end of the year. For $12/month (with a 7-day free trial), you'll get the video version, bonus episodes, and the satisfaction of knowing you're helping me keep creating. Click here to join. Show Notes: 'This Is A Lot' Resources: Sign up for my 'This Is A Lot' Newsletter: - sent every 10 days Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com More Neurodivergent Friendly Resources: 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN Jen's Book Recommendations With 20% Off Sources: Why Autistic, ADHD and AuDHD Students Are Stressed at School, Psychology Today

Autistic & AuDHD Humans Do Not "Understand" Hierarchy This month's Out From Behind The Paywall Episode is a Little Pod bonus episode that until today was on Patreon only. I'm talking about the AuDHD and Autistic tendency to not be motivated by social climbing and not wanting to cooperate with workplace hierarchies. I know what it's like to feel alone with your brain. That's why I make this show—and most of the deep-dive, honest stuff lives on Patreon. This episode is just a taste. If it helped you feel seen, come hang out with us. I'm giving listeners 50% off of their first month right now! You get bonus episodes, videos, and access to a private chat community where we all talk about our challenges being neurodivergent. Click this link https://www.patreon.com/c/ALOTADHDPOD to pay just $6 right now and use CODE C1782

In this episode: It's all about letting go of self-esteem as a goal. It's vague, unmeasurable, and often just makes things worse—especially for people with ADHD/AuDHD. But self-efficacy is EVERYTHING. Simply put: it's the realistic belief that you have the skills to do a task or handle a situation. Your self-efficacy can be improved (thanks to neuroplasticity) and there is irrefutable science and studies that support its life-changing results. I'll explain more about the findings on self-efficacy, how it works, and give you some ways to start focusing on your self-efficacy today so that you can start projects, and actually follow through. Let's go! SHOW NOTES "This is A Lot" Resources Sign up for my "This Is A Lot" Newsletter: sent every 10 days Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com More Neurodivergent Friendly Resources 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks with code JENKIRKMAN Sources Why Self-Efficacy Is More Important Than Self-Esteem; YouTube Dr. Albert Bandura Quotes Self-Efficacy Theory Of Motivation Explained; YouTube Self-Efficacy and Agentic Positive Psychology Self-Efficacy And Why Believing In Yourself Matters; VeryWell Mind

In this episode: Most people don't associate ADHD with hope — but they should. This episode explores the science behind hope as a cognitive process. Drawing on research I look at how hope is built, how it functions in the brain, and how it can get eroded by chronic adversity — especially for people with ADHD and AuDHD. If you've been struggling with follow-through, feeling stuck, or wondering why things feel harder than they "should," this is an episode that explains why — and how you can cultivate hope! SHOW NOTES Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks with code JENKIRKMAN SOURCES Build Resilience By Learning To Hope; ADDitude Magazine Promoting Hope in ADHD; Dr. Hallowell The Gift of Hope; Dig Coaching The Science And Power Of Hope; Dr. Chan Hellman

EPISODE 49: An ADHD Guide To Cortisol + 13 Tips To Lower Your Cortisol Levels In this episode: Exhaustion during the day, racing thoughts at night, sleep problems, anxiety, and unexplained inflammation can all be signs of a nervous system stuck in high-alert mode. While dopamine gets most of the attention in ADHD conversations, cortisol — the body's primary stress hormone — plays a major role in how energy, focus, and fatigue are regulated. High cortisol, not low, is often behind chronic stress patterns in people with ADHD and AuDHD. I give tips on how to interrupt your long-term stress loop in ways your nervous system can actually handle. SOURCES The Intersection of ADHD and Hormones, CHADD The WorkOut Witch The Complex PTSD Workbook SHOW NOTES "You Are A LOT" Podcast on Patreon "You Are A LOT" Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! $50 Group ADHD Coaching (Jen's Coach) 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN

In this special Out From The Paywall Episode - you're getting a Little Pod Patreon only bonus episode that originally aired on June 22nd, 2025. I have a special offer for you. You can join Patreon for FREE right now by clicking here. You'll get one month FREE of "You Are A LOT" on Patreon at Tier 1 which gives you access to all of the archives, video episodes, AMA's, bonus episodes, transcripts, a private chat community and more! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR MONTH! No commitment required after the month is up. (Offer expires 8/1) OUT FROM THE PAYWALL: "And Just Like That" When A TV Show Fails ADHD" Permission to rant? Thank you. On this Little Pod which is available to Tier #1 and Tier #2, I'm criticizing the TV show "And Just Like That" for its bizarre portrayal of the ADHD medication shortage and how to handle a troubled teenager with ADHD. SHOW NOTES "You Are A LOT" Podcast on Patreon "You Are A LOT" Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! $50 Group ADHD Coaching (Jen's Coach) 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN

In this special Out From The Paywall Episode - you're getting a full Patreon only episode that originally aired on May 18th, 2025. I have a special offer for you. You can join Patreon for FREE right now by clicking here. You'll get one month FREE of "You Are A LOT" on Patreon at Tier 1 which gives you access to all of the archives, video episodes, AMA's, bonus episodes, transcripts, a private chat community and more! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR MONTH! No commitment required after the month is up. (Offer expires 7/31) OUT FROM THE PAYWALL: "Future Fantasy Is Not A Plan" In this episode: Jen explains a thought-provoking concept she recently learned—the difference between having a real plan of action for a life goal versus being stuck in a future fantasy about that goal. She walks through how being in a future fantasy is a habitual way to regulate our emotions, while actually making a plan would require being present—which can trigger dysregulation. So we avoid it. Mind. Blown. You Don't Lack "Follow Through" - Heidi Priebe, YouTube "You Are A LOT" Podcast on Patreon "You Are A LOT" Podcast Website Jen's Every 10 Day Newsletter: "This Is A Lot" Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! $50 Group ADHD Coaching (Jen's Coach) 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals with code JENKIRKMAN

In this episode: I unpack (get it?) what it means to travel as a neurodivergent person, especially when you've internalized a bunch of rigid "rules" about what travel is supposed to look like. For a long time, I thought travel had to mean a picture-perfect vacation, and I put pressure on myself to pack light, leave comforts behind, and plan for an idealized version of my destination—rather than the reality of my actual needs. Plus, I'm creating a digital course about neurodivergent travel, and your input can help me make sure I'm covering what actually matters to people like us. Send an email with your thoughts and experiences around travel to alotadhdpod at gmail dot com or call the "A Lot Line" and leave a voicemail (347) 674-2201. SHOW NOTES: Special Patreon Offer! 25% off of your first month OR an entire annual membership! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM and use code: 90FFB. Offer expires June 30th, 2025. For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community, and more! 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks $50 off Jen's ADHD Coach Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201

In this episode: Have you ever felt completely frozen, staring at your project, knowing exactly what needs to get done — but physically unable to begin? It's not procrastination — it's ADHD Paralysis — and there are three kinds: mental paralysis, analysis paralysis, and task paralysis, all of which can lead to shutdowns. It's a neurological issue (executive functions not functioning) as well as an emotional one (a trauma response). Whether you're ADHD or AuDHD, this episode helps you understand that you don't need more willpower — you need more compassion. You're overwhelmed, and you deserve support. Special Patreon Offer! 25% off of your first month OR an entire annual membership! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM and use code: 90FFB. SHOW NOTES: Special Patreon Offer! 25% off of your first month OR an entire annual membership! CLICK HERE TO CLAIM and use code: 90FFB. For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more! Take the ACE test here (Adverse Childhood Experiences) 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks $50 off Jen's ADHD Coach Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: ADHD Paralysis: Mental Health ADHD Paralysis is Real: ADDA What is ADHD Shutdown? Calm Understanding ADHD Paralysis: The Dorm Complex PTSD Pete Walker

In this episode: Jen talks about how ADHD shows up at work — from time blindness to burnout — and breaks down what your rights are under the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). She walks you through real-world accommodations that can make a huge difference (including remote work), how to actually ask for them without overexplaining, and also rethinks the whole concept of why we even have to ask for things like this on our own in the first place. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Link to Bearaby for Knot Pillow, Lounger Warmable, Weighted Blankets 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Call The "A Lot" Line at (347) 674-2201 SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Why "Workplace Accommodations" Are Archaic - Lindsey Mackereth How People Can Ask For Accommodations At Work - ChADD How Protected Are People Under The ADA? - ADDitude Magazine The Trump Admin Demands Returning To Office Profile Of The 2023 Workforce Rights Under the ADA Explained - ACLU Signs Of A Neurodivergent Inclusive Workplace - ADDitude Magazine ADHD Accommodations At Work - The ADDA The ADHD Guide To Asserting Yourself Head Heart Hands Check-In Method

🎧 This is the first five minutes of this month's Patreon-only episode. Jen explains a thought-provoking concept she recently learned—the difference between having a real plan of action for a life goal versus being stuck in a future fantasy about that goal. She walks through how being in a future fantasy is a habitual way to regulate our emotions, while actually making a plan would require being present—which can trigger dysregulation. So we avoid it. Mind. Blown. Click this link to join Patreon at 70% off of your first month and use CODE 38E07. Offer ends 5/31/25 SHOW NOTES: Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: You Don't Lack "Follow Through" - Heidi Priebe, YouTube

In this episode: Jen opens up about her surprising Autism diagnosis last summer, which added AuDHD to her identity alongside ADHD. She shares how this revelation unexpectedly tied together all the loose ends of what she'd felt was "wrong" her entire life. Jen also reflects on how many therapists missed what now seems like an obvious diagnosis, and why so many professionals still struggle to understand this complex neurotype. 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Embrace Autism is a website that has many diagnostic tests to assess Autism - click here. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Embrace Autism is a website that has many diagnostic tests to assess Autism - click here. ADDitude Magazine: A Living Contradiction; the AuDHD Experience Lindsey Mackereth Substack

In this episode: Jen talks about her frustration and anger at the gravely irresponsible and chock full of what seems like willful disinformation spreading article in the Sunday New York Times Magazine titled "Have We Been Thinking About ADHD All Wrong?" Jen let's the experts speak for her and she reads the intelligent analysis done by Dr. Russell Barkley and the editors of ADDitude Magazine. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day free trial at any level, and when you join, take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & Pillows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: ADDitude Magazine: Setting The Record Straight Dr. Russell Barkley On YouTube

This week's episode is Patreon only. This was a long one so I am sharing 15 minutes of the episode and I highly recommend joining the Patreon and getting this episode. In this episode: Ever heard of limerence? It's not quite love, not quite lust—but something way more intense, obsessive, and irrational. I'm taking a close look at this state of deep distress that starts with euphoric highs. I reference Dr. Dorothy Tennov's original research, what modern psychologists are debating now, and how hyperfocus, rejection sensitivity, and impulsivity all play a role in this heartbreaking, confusing experience. SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Dr. Tom Living With Limerence Blog Dr. Tom Purposeful Living Psychology Today Who Is Vulnerable To Limerence Healthline ADHD Limerence Dr. Dorothy Tennov "Love and Limerence" Book

In this episode: Did anyone ever tell you that being a PEOPLE PLEASER is a core trait in ADHD/AuDHD Humans? In this episode, I'll tell you all about it. Spoiler Alert: It has to do with our coping mechanisms that we developed early on in order to avoid rejection and seeking validation from others due to our feelings of inadequacy because of our (especially undiagnosed) ADHD/AuDHD. And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, video classes, AMA's, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the "You Are a LOT" podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Subscribe to the "This Is A Lot" Newsletter 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows 30 FREE DAYS to BRAIN FM Wire Your Brain For Focus! Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Why ADHD Makes You Feel So Much How Can I Stop People Pleasing At Work? Are You A People Pleaser? ADHD & People Pleasing: What's The Correalation? Set Boundaries Find Peace

In this episode: ADHD/AuDHD humans often struggle with boundaries—whether it's setting them with others or even recognizing our own internal limits. We might not realize a boundary needs to be set until it's already been crossed, leaving us overwhelmed, resentful, and frustrated. In this episode, I talk about how impulsivity, time management challenges, and emotional regulation difficulties all play a role in why boundary-setting can be so hard for us. 👉 Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy SHOW NOTES: And get Set Boundaries Find Peace for 20% off with my unique link to Bookshop Dot Org - click here for your copy Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the "You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Jen's Unique Link For 15% Off HUGIMALS weighted stuffed animals Jen's Unique Link for 15% off APPOINTED planners & notebooks Jen's Unique Link for 20% off UnHide Weighted Blankets & PIllows Jen's Unique LInk for 20% off Books at Bookshop Dot Org Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Poor Boundaries and ADHD - Sachs Center How To Create Healthy Boundaries When You Have ADHD Focused Mind: Boundaries and ADHD Focused Mind: Learning To Say No With Adult ADHD Why Is It So Difficult To Set Boundaries? Set Boundaries Find Peace - Nedra Glover Tawwab