The Porn Addict's Wife

In this episode my husband, Rob, joins me for a discussion about what our spiritual side of this has been. What our religious beliefs were growing up, how that influenced how we faced his pornography addiction, what it was like for him to feel the guilt and shame and still attend church, what spiritual tools helped us both and what didn't...there is so much in this one! We hope that you enjoy it and find it helpful! If you or your spouse are looking for a coach to help you through this, please reach out! Rob and I both coach and we would love to guide you through this.

The way you tell your story matters. We often like to dramatize our story because it justifies our feelings. But adding the drama only adds more emotional weight and heaviness to an already emotional and heavy situation. Your story is already dramatic enough. You don't need to keep adding to it. Today I am going to talk about why we do this, why it's important to recognize it and how to change it. Join me for a week-long virtual event "Healing the Hallowed Heart". This will be a week dedicated to spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical healing and I am so excited to be talking about how to forgive after betrayal. Click here for all the details and mark your calendars for April 20!!! Sign up for a free consultation call with me today and we will get you moving forward once and for all!

Do you do things so that people will like you? Or so that you don't hurt their feelings? Do you act in a way that isn't true to who you really are so that others aren't put out? That's people pleasing. And it doesn't lead to anything except an outfit that you don't really want, that you regret purchasing, when you'd rather have something else. (Trust me, I share a shopping story in this episode that makes that make sense!) Join me today as I talk about what people pleasing is, why we do it, and why we should stop. Join me for a week-long live event about healing! I am so honored to be part of the "Healing the Hallowed Heart" virtual event from April 19-24. Click here for all the information and details and come join me! I will be speaking on how to forgive after betrayal. If you still have things that pop up about your husband's addiction that you just can't get past, come coach with me. I can teach you all the tools to help you work through it and put it behind you once and for all. Schedule a free consultation call with me today to talk about it.

Am I always going to worry that my husband will relapse and watch pornography again? Short answer? Not if you don't want to. I know it seems crazy because that fear is so real, constantly running our thoughts or determining whether or not we go on vacation without our spouse. But join me today as I dissect our fear of relapses, why worrying about them seems important but is unnecessary, and how you can get to a place where you never fear them again. It IS possible to get to a place where your husband's pornography addiction is no longer controlling your life. Listen in and I'll tell you the secret. Are you ready to stop letting your husband's pornography addiction control your life? Schedule a free consultation call with me today and we will talk about one on one coaching. I can teach you all the tools you need in order to learn how to stop worrying and start living.

Rob joined me on the podcast today to talk about our sex life and how it was affected by his pornography addiction. We hope that you will look at what we share with compassion and understanding and hope. In this episode I talk about one of the biggest tools that I used and teach to help women work through how their sex life is affected by their husband's addiction. The best way to work through this is to join my program and get one on one coaching. Click here to schedule a free consultation call with me today so we can talk all about it.

Today is a special episode. I interviewed one of my clients! I wanted to give you guys a better idea of what life coaching is like and what is possible with it. I wanted to give you an example of a real client who has gotten real results and how her life has transformed as a result of coaching. She is so relatable and so fun to listen to, I know you all are going to love her as much as I do! Thank you to my sweet client for being brave enough to share her story with all of you! Click here to sign up for your free coaching consultation today. We will talk all about what coaching is like and how it can transform your life.

If you have a spouse struggling with pornography addiction and you want to talk about how it is affecting your sexual relationship, this is the episode for you. In this episode, I talked with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. She is an LDS psychotherapist who specializes in sexual and relationship therapy for couples. She and I talked about why women feel like their husband's pornography addiction is somehow their fault and why that's not true, what role sexual fantasies have in the marital relationship when pornography addiction is involved, and how the marital sexual relationship is affected when men are addicted to pornography. This is one you do not want to skip! If you are ready to move past your husband's pornography addiction, I want to invite you to sign up for a free consultation call with me today. We will talk about where you are, where you want to go, and how you can there starting today. Sign up by clicking here. For more information about me, click here to be sent to my website! For more information about Dr. Finlayson-Fife, click here.

Most of the time, we split our life up into two categories: the things we "want" to do and the things we "have" to do. But notice how much more miserable that makes completing tasks when we think that we don't want to do them. Today I'm going to talk about why we do this, why it's not serving us, AND how to change it. Plus, I'm going to dive into WHY it's so important that we change this AND the secret to making it easy. Yeah, it's a good one! p.s. I am now taking on new one on one clients! If you are interested in working with me, schedule a free consultation call today! If you want to know more about me and sign up for my email list to get notified of the free group calls I am doing, be sure to head to my website to sign up!

My husband Rob joined me on this episode as part of a bonus series where he and I talk about various aspects of this journey. Today, we're talking about what it was like (for both of us) when he told me he was addicted to pornography. He shares what he felt beforehand, the emotions he felt when he first confessed, what it was like telling me about relapses, and I share what my part felt like as well. We hope this helps y'all as you go through your own journey. Don't miss out on the FREE coaching calls I'm doing! Head to my website and enter your email so you can get added to the zoom calls! Come anonymously and get your questions answered. If you are ready to start moving forward and coach with me one on one, schedule a free consultation call today to get started! We will talk about where you are now, where you want to be, and what it will take to get you there. It's 100% doable! For more information about coaching, head to my website! If your husband is struggling with his pornography addiction and is ready to eliminate his desire for pornography for good, have him click here to schedule a consult with Rob for one on one coaching.

The opposite of having a victim mentality is taking 100% responsibility. But that does NOT mean taking the blame or judging ourselves. It means accepting where we are and acknowledging what is within our power to control. It means we stop using outside circumstances as the reason for what we feel, the actions we are (and are not) taking, and the results we have in our life. THIS is how you begin to take complete control of your life and begin making the changes you so desperately want. Don't forget to head to my website to sign up for my emails so you can get the zoom links for the FREE live coaching calls!

This is a special series of episodes where my husband Rob is joining me on the podcast! We are going to dive into a variety of topics about pornography addiction and how it affected both of us in our marriage, how we handled it, and, of course, tips for you. We are excited to give you both sides of the story and some insight that will hopefully help you in your own marriage as well. Don't forget to subscribe so you don't miss any of these bonus episodes! Don't forget to sign up for my email list to be notified of my FREE group coaching calls! This is your chance to get coached, watch others get coached, and satisfy your curiosity as to what coaching is truly like. Sign up here via my website! If you're looking for more one on one help, sign up for a free consultation call with me today. We will talk about what coaching looks like and how it can get you where you want to go. Rob is a life coach for men who struggle with an addiction to pornography. If your husband is interested in looking into getting help, sign up for a free coaching call with Rob here.

What is a victim mentality? Why do we have it? How do we get rid of it? Why is it such a problem? Today, I'm going to tackle all of these questions with a little tough-lough truth about having a victim mentality. If you are feeling stuck, feeling like you are at the mercy of your husband's pornography addiction, this is the episode for you! If you want to start moving forward today, sign up for a free consultation call with me. We will talk about what coaching looks like, how it can change your life, and get you started right away. Simply click here to schedule your free call with me today.

My biggest piece of advice that I share for women who have a spouse addicted to pornography is that you should be talking to 3 people: 1: Your spouse. 2: A professional 3: One confidant. But the problem is secrets. Our brain comes up with lots of very important-sounding reasons for us NOT to talk about this, to keep it a secret (from our spouse, our friends, our family, and from a professional). But secrecy breeds distrust, anxiety, and isolation. Today I'm going to share what I learned about secrets by doing it the wrong way. Learn from my mistakes :) Don't forget to sign up for my email list so you can be notified about my FREE coaching calls! Head to www.jolenewinn.com to enter you email address and come get coached!

We have these ideas for how people in our lives ought to behave. Things they "should" and "shouldn't" do. But the problem with this is that then we are constantly comparing the way people show up in our lives with this subconscious list that we've created over the years-and they rarely measure up. This is even true for ourselves. Today, I'm going to teach you about manuals that we've created for ourselves and others, why we've done this, what this is doing, and why it's so important to become aware of all of it. Don't forget to sign up for a free coaching consultation! We will talk one on one about where you are, where you want to be, and what's preventing you from getting there. Plus we will see if coaching is a good fit for you! Simply click here to sign up for a free call today. I can't wait to talk to you!

We are really good at resisting emotion. But it isn't helpful. All it does is keep that emotion right below the surface. Learning how to work through your emotions is crucial if you want something in your life to change because our emotions are the reason behind all of our action. It's so important that we learn how to conquer this resistance. So join me today as I teach you why we do this, how to recognize if you are doing it, and how to stop it. Don't forget to sign up for your free consultation call with me today! In this call, we get to chat one on one about where you are, where you want to be, and what's preventing you from getting there. Sign up today via my website! Don't miss this week's FREE live coaching call! Sign up for my email list today so that you get notified of when these happen so you can get a chance for some individual coaching and attention from me.

Self-pity is what I call an "indulgent" emotion. It feels really good to sit in it. The problem with allowing ourselves to live our lives in self-pity is that it keeps us stuck. We go nowhere. Because we give credit for everything in our lives to things outside of our control. Self-pity keeps us a victim, which never allows us to progress. Join me today as I talk more about this and give you tips on how you can identify your self-pity thoughts and how to change them. Don't forget to sign up for my emails so you can be notified about my FREE public coaching calls! These have been so fun to do so don't miss your chance to get coached!

We think that having expectations is a good thing. We think it is what inspires people to rise up and improve and become who we know they can be. Right? But what happens if they don't live up to our expectations? Then what? Join me today as I dive into the expectations we have for others, and for ourselves and why it's important to let one of those go. Don't forget to sign up for my email list so you don't miss my FREE live coaching calls! Simply head to my website and add your email to the list! I offer free consultation calls to anyone that wants one :) On these calls you and I talk one on one about where you are, where you want to go, and what's in your way. Come talk with me for an hour and you'll not only finally feel like you're not alone, you will leave the call with clarity and confidence to make the next step forward in your life. Sign up today. I can't wait to talk to you!

Today I am diving into the difference between Confidence and Self-Confidence. Learning the difference between these two attributes changed my life and I am so excited to share this today! I'm going to teach you the difference between the two, why it is so important to understand, and HOW to develop more self-confidence. Don't forget to sign up for my email list so that you can get notified when I do my FREE coaching calls! This is your chance to see what coaching is like and get coached yourself! Head to my website www.jolenewinn.com to sign up for my email list today!

Alright ladies, let's have some tough love. If you really want 2021 to be different than 2020, then you are going to need to invest in yourself. Not just time. Not just energy. But money. And purpose. And intention. Not just into your physical health but into your mental health. Getting where you want to go doesn't just happen passively. It happens on purpose when you step out of your comfort zone, take action, and become fully invested in yourself. Today I'm talking all about it, the objections that come up within us, and I'm sharing my personal journey and what I've invested in order to get where I am today. Are you ready to invest in yourself? Sign up for a free consultation call today to discuss coaching and how it can help you get where you want to go.

There are so many moments where we face so much emotion that it seems overwhelming-the moment we find out about our husband's pornography addiction, or the moment we find out about his relapse, or when we find out details about his addiction that we didn't know before. Today I'm going to walk you through what is happening inside our brains during these moments, why it's happening, and what to do about it. Plus, you'll get a little bonus in the beginning about how I set resolutions so that you can follow the pattern to finally keep your resolutions this year! Start 2021 off with a dedication to become your best self and come coach with me. I would be honored to coach with you 1 on 1 to get you past your struggles, overcome your obstacles and become exactly who you want to be. Schedule a free call with me today and we will get you started. I can't wait to work with you!

How do we show up as our best selves when we don't know what is in our future? How do we plan our lives if we don't know what is going to happen? How are we supposed to think about our future when we don't know what will happen in our future? Today I'm going to talk all about HOW you can shift your focus to change how you think about yourself and how it can completely change your future. Don't forget to get access to my free gift to you! It's my class "How To Be Free From Betrayal Trauma" and you can sign up for it on my website! Just head to www.jolenewinn.com and enter your email address and I'll send it to you!

Do you want to change something in your life or something about yourself? Do you want to lose weight or be more confident or be a better mom? THIS is how you do it! Acting from your future self allows you to become the person you want to be. On the podcast today I'm going to be telling you the 5 steps to follow to think about yourself from your future self and HOW to step into that role! Don't forget to find the 2 podcast episodes I was on this week! Check out the interview my husband and I did on the Choose Recovery podcast! And then check out the interview I did on the Certain Woman podcast!

We define ourselves by our past-what we've done, the things we've already accomplished, habits we've had, where we have lived-but all that does is perpetuate our present. If you want anything in your life to change, it is going to require that you start thinking of yourself from your future instead of your past. If you continue in the same patters, you will get the same results. Let's change it! Don't forget to sign up for my weekly emails through my website! And schedule a free call with me today to talk more about how to work with me one on one!

We have a lot of things we believe. And we also have little exceptions to those beliefs. For example, "I believe I'm smart...except with math". These little exceptions to our beliefs seem harmless and factual but they can be extremely detrimental to our belief system if we don't become aware of them. Today I'm going to explain what these are, why it's so important to become aware of them, and how to change them. Don't forget that I'm running a LIMITED TIME OFFER on my coaching program! Join before Christmas and get $500 off when you pay in full! Let's get you started on 2021 on the right foot! Schedule a free call with me today to talk more about it and to discuss if this would be the right thing for you. Join my email list today by heading to my website! You'll get coaching tips right to your inbox and be the first to know of deals and webinars!

We often try to resist the emotional pain in our lives because we don't want to feel it and we think that if we accept it, it will make our lives worse. What we don't realize is that we actually make our lives worse already by trying to resist it. Crazy, right? Join me on the podcast today and I'll talk all about it. Don't worry, I have some great analogies to help you visualize it! Come join my FREE 14 day "Love Your Selfie" challenge in my FB group! Each day I am teaching on a different self concept that will completely change the way you see yourself in less than 10 minutes a day. Just request to join my FB group here and join in! You can still join even if you're late! Sign up for my emails here so that you will be the first to know about my upcoming webinar schedule! Don't forget that I have a limited time offer-$500 off my coaching program for anyone who joins before Christmas 2020 when it is paid in full! Let's get you started today! Ask for coaching for Christmas and schedule a free consultation call today to talk all about it!

Alright, we've all experienced this: we "know" in our minds one thing but we don't "feel" that way. Am I right? Perhaps we "know" that our husband's pornography addiction doesn't have anything to do with us but it doesn't "feel" that way. Sound familiar? Today I'm going to dive into why this happens AND how to change it! Coaching SALE! Because I love shopping and sales and Christmas, I'm giving anyone who joins my coaching program before Christmas $500 off their paid in full total. Put coaching on your Christmas list and start today! Schedule a free consultation call with me today and we will talk all about it!

Let's talk about anxiety-we all feel it. But sometimes, we get a little too accustomed to it and we start to identify ourselves by what we are feeling. I know, it sounds crazy. But join me today and I'll explain it all. Plus, I'll give you the 4 easy steps to help you manage the anxiety you feel on a day to day basis. Trust me, you can do it. Don't forget to join my FB group by clicking here! This is where you can get coached and join me live! Want more one on one help with the emotions you are feeling? That's exactly why I am here. I've designed a coaching program that will teach you every tool I know so that you can work through every emotional curveball you've been thrown. And I'll be with you every step of the way. Sign up today for a free consultation call or enroll right away on my website.

Communicating with your spouse about his addiction isn't easy. It is natural for us to want to lean forward, to share, to explain, to fix and to try to help. But, most of the time, all that does is create a pressure that doesn't resolve the situation and makes things tense and uneasy. What we need to do is learn how to lean back, to open the space between us and our spouse and to allow an opportunity for honest and intimacy to come through. Join me today and I will tell you how you can shift into this today. Come join my FB group! Click here and join so that you can get coaching, watch me live, and get a chance to get your questions and concerns answered by me. If you are still unsure how to work through the distrust, lack of communication, and lack of self worth you feel, I want to invite you to coach with me. Helping my clients work through all of this is my privilege and I know how to do it because I did it myself. Find all the details on my website and schedule a free call today to talk more about if this would be a right fit for you.

When we face resistance or difficulties in our lives, we have two options: 1: surrender or 2: use that resistance to get stronger. Just like building muscle, building our emotional and mental strength requires resistance. We cannot get stronger if we do not USE the resistance we face to do so. Join me today as I dive into this so that you can start using the challenges you face to create the life you want. Come join my FB group! This is where you can get your questions answered by me and where you can get some coaching! Click here to join! Not on facebook but still want help working through your husband's pornography addiction? That's exactly why I am here! I have designed a coaching program specifically for women who have a husband addicted to pornography. I will teach you all the tools I used to work through my own husband's addiction and I will be with you every step of the way. See all the details on my website or schedule a free call with me to talk more about it. I'll see you soon!

The default setting of our brain is what shapes how we see our world. Today I'm going to go into what our default settings are, why they are that way, how to change them, and why it is so important that we do so. I will be discussing my own personal examples of how I did this as a frustrated mother as well as how this helped in the intimate relationship I have with my husband. This is one you do NOT want to skip! Head to www.jolenewinn.com today to sign up for my email list so you can be the first to be notified for my FREE public calls! They will be once a month and will be your chance to get coached and learn from others even if you are not a part of my coaching program. If you are ready to make changes in your life and in your marriage, there is no better time to join my coaching program. I will teach you what to do with all the thoughts and feelings you are having, how to navigate trust, improve physical intimacy, overcome triggers and improve your self esteem. Sign up today directly on my website or schedule a free coaching call to talk more about it!

Our brains like to think of the world as black and white. Our brains like it when everything is placed in a "right" box or a "wrong" box. But that's just because our brains are lazy. If we open up the space to allow things to be neutral, then we can choose our reactions to them on purpose rather than being on autopilot. Join me today as I talk more about it! If your husband is struggling with pornography, you need to join my coaching program. It is everything I wish I had known but didn't even know I needed. Get all the details at www.jolenewinn.com and join today. Or schedule a free call to talk more about it. I can't wait to see you in class!

Forgiveness is a process. A journey. And learning to forgive my husband for his pornography addiction was not something that happened overnight. But I did have one powerful experience one weekend that shifted me forever. It was a profoundly spiritual experience that I am grateful to share with you in hopes that it will help you navigate your own journey of forgiveness as well. As always, if you are struggling with the side effects of your husband's pornography addiction in your life, if you are feeling stuck, I would love to help you. You can sign up for my individual coaching program today via my website or schedule a free consultation call to get started.

Do you feel like you are struggling to find purpose in the roles you find yourself in? Maybe you feel like you are "just a mom" and don't know how to feel more fulfilled? This episode is for you. Join me today and I will give you a new way to approach this in your life and be sure to do the exercise at the end! *Now until October 12, anyone who joins my coaching program will be getting a FREE ticket to the All In virtual Women's faith conference! Sign up today directly on my website or schedule a free consultation call with me to talk more about it. Come here me speak LIVE at the All In virtual women's faith conference October 12-17! Get your ticket using code "Jolene" for $20 off at www.allinwithgod.com !

Do you feel stuck? Like your life is on a loop and the same thoughts and feelings keep coming up? Do you feel like you are going nowhere and have no control or direction over your life? This episode is for you. Join me today as I go over the 4 most common reasons why you are feeling stuck in your own life. Don't stay stuck. Let's get you moving. Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode! If you are struggling with feeling like your life is out of control, I want to invite you to join my coaching program. In it you will get the one on one attention you need and the tools you've been searching for in order to gain back your control. Find all the details at www.jolenewinn.com Come hear me speak LIVE! I am speaking at the All In Women's Faith Conference - October 12-17. Get your ticket today at www.allinwithgod.com and use code "Jolene" for $20 off your ticket!

It is one thing for emotions to be part of the reason we do something and another for us to use them as the EXCUSE for what we do. It is important to learn to tell the difference because when we blame our actions on the emotions we are feeling, it leaves us powerless and stuck, unable to change what is happening in our life because it feels beyond our control. And that is simply not true. Join me today on the podcast to learn what emotional excuses look like, why they are so important to become aware of, and how to start changing them. Don't forget to sign up for my emails! You can do that on my website www.jolenewinn.com and you can find all the information for my one on one coaching program and get signed up right away! Get your ticket to the All In Women's Faith conference from October 12-17! I will be speaking on Choosing to Thrive in Unexpected Circumstances (aka the year 2020) and it is an entire week of powerhouse women teaching about faith! I know I need more of God's help in my life! Use code "jolene" at checkout to get $20 off your ticket.

Fear feels really important. Like we should listen to it and stop doing whatever it is we are afraid of. But the truth is, fear is just an emotion. And our primitive brain likes to convince us that what we are afraid of will kill us. But it won't. Not usually. And yet, we miss out on SO much of our own life because we stop ourselves when we feel fear. Join me today as I talk about the 3 biggest lies we believe about fear and why it is so important to feel the fear and do it all anyway. Get all the information about my one on one coaching program at my website! And sign up for a free consultation call today. Come hear me speak live! Get your ticket today for the All In Women's Faith Conference and use code "Jolene" for $20 off your ticket! Hurry! The conference runs from October 12-17!

I know. That sounds crazy. Why would we want to stay hurt? Hear me out: Our brains like to stay hurt because being hurt means that we were wronged by the other person. Basically, it means that we are right and the other person is wrong. And being right feels really good. So our brain wants to stay there. But in order to stay feeling "right", we also have to keep that hurt. And trust me ladies, it's not worth it. Join me on this episode to learn why our brains like to keep us in the hurt and why we can choose to let it go. Don't forget to get your tickets to hear me speak LIVE at the All In Women's Faith Conference! Tickets are on SALE until midnight 9.7 so don't hesitate! Use code "Halfoff" at checkout and get all the details at www.allinwithgod.com Curious about what coaching with me looks like? Set up a free consultation call online and let's chat about it! Head to www.jolenewinn.com for more details and to set up a call today.

Is pornography use an addiction or a compulsive behavior? Does it matter? What's the difference? Join me today as I talk about the difference between the two and share some statistics that will shed some light on pornography use. The takeaway today is this: YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Come here me speak live at the All In Women's Faith Conference! www.allinwithgod.com Schedule a free call today and let's get you the help you need: www.jolenewinn.com

Sometimes we make our lives more emotional than they need to be by adding layers of emotions unintentionally. Today I am going show you how we do this, why we do this, and how to stop doing it so that you can drop all the drama and overwhelm in your life and just feel emotions as they come up. I promise this is exactly what you need to learn! If you're having trouble with all the emotional turmoil that comes up around your husband's addiction, I want to invite you to join my coaching program. This is where we take a deep dive into your emotions, teach you how to process them, learn how to overcome triggers and establish boundaries, and where you get the one on one help you need. See all the details on my website www.jolenewinn.com and set up a free consultation call today. Get your tickets for the All In Women's Faith Conference in October and hear me speak live! Find out all the info at www.allinwithgod.com !

Boundaries are one of the most common concerns for my clients and for the wives of porn addicts. It's also one of the most misunderstood. Join me today as I discuss the difference between boundaries and consequences, why one of them works and one doesn't, and clarify why setting consequences for your husband's behavior will never make him change. p.s. if you want to leave me a birthday gift, please leave a review on iTunes! You can leave it anonymous and it will help iTunes put the podcast in front of other women who are searching for help. Thank you!! If you are struggling with boundaries, I would love to help you. I highly recommend joining my coaching program where we deep dive into boundaries, what a proper boundary looks like, how to set one, and if you need one. Plus, my program comes with one on one coaching sessions where I can help you adjust the boundaries in your life according to your unique situation. Sign up for a free consultation on my website today.

Just like physical pain tolerance, we have emotional pain tolerance. And the things that we experience in our life usually result in us having a high tolerance for emotional pain. Listen in today as I talk about what that looks like, why it happens, and why it is completely unnecessary. Find out information about the All In Women's Faith Conference at www.allinwithgod.com Find out how to coach with me one on one at www.jolenewinn.com and schedule a free consultation with me today!

Do you worry about the future? Do you worry that your husband will relapse or have an affair or that you are being deceived? When we have anxiety about the future we think it will make us more prepared for our "what ifs". But it doesn't. Join me today on the podcast as I talk about why you should let go of your future anxiety right now. Sign up for a free mini coaching session today on my website! Don't forget to leave an anonymous review on iTunes so other women can find the podcast!

That's the question, right? Do I trust my husband? Do I NOT trust my husband? Does it make me a bad wife if I don't? Does it make me a doormat if I do? I want to take a deep look at what trusting can look like if you see it as a choice. Follow me on IG @jolenewinncoaching All my coaching program details can be found on my website at www.jolenewinn.com

There are so many decisions we have to make that are difficult. But when we think about each one of them as if there is a "right" or "wrong" answer, that doesn't always serve us and, more often than not, leads us to make no decision at all. Join me today on the podcast as I talk about what this looks like, why this is something we need to become aware of, and how to make choices in a better way moving forward. Follow me on IG @jolenewinncoaching For all my coaching information, please see my website: www.jolenewinn.com

We think that we know why we do things. Our brain offers us answers that seem logical. But those are often just surface level answers that don't show us the true reason underneath. Join me on the podcast today to learn how I learned to ask myself why and the reason this is so important to learn how to do! I share real examples of how I've applied this in my own life and outline how you can start TODAY to begin this in your own. Enjoy!! Find all my life coaching information on my website! And don't forget to sign up for my email list via www.jolenewinn.com

My husband Rob joined me on this episode today so that he and I could share our story with y'all. We talk about what our marriage used to look like, what his addiction looked like in our marriage, what was the core of his addiction, how we both overcame his addiction and where we are now. We share this with the hope that it inspires you to know that wherever you are on your journey, wherever your spouse is on his journey, it is not the end. Your story is just beginning. Find all my coaching info at www.jolenewinn.com

We spend so much of our life thinking that what happens around us, or outside of us, is what causes us to feel a certain way. This is never the case. Your husband's addiction is not causing the feelings inside of you. Your weight, your mother in law, the things someone said on FB-none of those are causing your feelings. Your feelings are caused by your thoughts. Always. Join me today as I go through examples and teach this to you so and tell you why this is such an important truth to learn! For more coaching info and to sign up for my email list head to jolenewinn.com!

We aren't taught how to feel our emotions. We are taught how to resist them, react to them, or avoid them. But none of that is going to allow you to process anything in a healthy way or improve the way your life is going. Today I will introduce you to how you can process emotions in a healthy way and why it is so important to do so. Find all my coaching info at jolenewinn.com!

Confession: I've gotten so wrapped up in the "how" of starting a life coaching business that I forgot about the "why". I became a life coach because the tools I learned along the way have transformed my life and I am now a completely different person. And I feel a responsibility and a privilege to share that knowledge with as many women as I possibly can. Today I'm going to give you a taste of what tools I teach, what life coaching truly looks like, and give you an example of how it changed my life. I know it can change yours too. I'd love for you to join my coaching program! See full details on my website!

There are 4 main stages of progression that women tend to go through as the wife of the porn addict. In this episode I lay out what those are, what the difference is between all of them, and the last stage that you may not even know about yet. Join me today to hear more about it! Don't forget to sign up for my class: How To Set Boundaries! Register here! In case you missed it, I wrote an article in Leading Saints that was published! It details a little bit of what my journey was like in the LDS framework. You can find it here!