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Sarah Wilson is a New York Times Bestselling author, journalist and founder of iquitsugar.com. She has published 15 I Quit Sugar books in 46 countries and in 2017 and 2018, she was ranked as one of the Top 200 Most Influential Authors In The World. At 29, Sarah was the Editor and Chief of Cosmopolitan Magazine Australia and she has also been the host of Master Chef Australia. Her newest book is, First, We Make the Beast Beautiful: A New Journey Through Anxiety and it is this that she and Eric discuss in this episode. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Sarah Wilson and I Discuss Anxiety and… Her book, First, We Make The Beast Beautiful: A New Journey Through Anxiety Where the mind goes, energy flows The idea of disconnection and reconnection in mental health How to know when the line into disordered anxiety has been crossed Understanding the role of medicine for anxiety, depression and other mental illnesses as well as the role of struggle in our inner life. The importance and role of therapy while also taking medication for mental disorders The dynamic, changing nature of actively supporting mental wellness Stopping the cycle of getting anxious about being anxious Sitting in your suffering and ride it out rather than trying to beat or escape it The slow approach for dealing with Anxiety How walking can help Anxiety Ways handwriting can help Anxiety Ways space can help Anxiety Spiritual idea of contraction vs expansion Asking yourself “Will this enlarge or contract my life?” Sarah Wilson Links: sarahwilson.com Twitter Instagram Facebook Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Indeed: Millions of great candidates use Indeed every day to find their next opportunity. You can post a job in minutes and use screener questions to create your shortlist of qualified applicants fast. Skills tests for applicants are just one way Indeed helps you make smart hiring decisions quickly. Post your job today at www.indeed.com/wolf and get a free sponsored job upgrade on your first posting. Calm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation with Sarah Wilson on Anxiety, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Dr. Ellen Hendriksen Matthew Quick See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Steven C. Hayes is one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and this is his second time on the show. This time, he and Eric discuss his new book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters. Dr. Hayes is a Professor of Psychology at The University of Nevada Reno. He’s the author of 43 books and more than 600 scientific articles. He’s served as the President of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapy and The Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. He is one of the most cited psychologists in the world. In this episode, Dr. Hayes teaches what psychological flexibility is, how to cultivate it, and the ways in which it can improve your life. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Steven C. Hayes and I Discuss Psychological Flexibility and… His book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters Asking “What is the problem we’re trying to solve?” Understanding what you really care about. Take what you’re really struggling with and flip it over, therefore allowing your pain to speak to you The lengths we go to in order to protect ourselves from hurt “Psychological Flexibility” vs “Psychological Rigidity” 6 processes or pivots that promote Psychological Flexibility The masks we put on to try and connect with others and belong in addition to our true belonging Pivoting from cognitive fusion to diffusion Thoughts as ongoing attempts at meaning-making The ability to think multiple things and be guided by what is useful Living according to your values as well as the qualities of being and doing Response Ability – deciding what this is about for you Accepting what we feel and committing to act according to our values Steven C. Hayes Links: stevenchayes.com Twitter Facebook Feals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolf Daily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED Phlur: Get a luxurious scent made with transparent, clean ingredients. Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first Phlur sampler set at www.phlur.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pete Holmes is an American comedian, actor, writer, producer, and podcaster. He is both a hilarious comedian and a deeply contemplative, spiritual person. In this episode, Eric and Pete discuss his book, Comedy Sex God where they go into detail about how Pete views and experiences the world. From how he has learned to deal with frustrations to the way he returns to the present moment and experiences God in his daily life, this interview explores his direct experience with so much spiritual wisdom. You will laugh and also be deeply touched and inspired by this engaging, thoughtful conversation about discovering spiritual truths. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Pete Holmes and I Discuss Spiritual Truths and… His book, Comedy Sex God The nature of life Lighting up our pleasure centers can dull the rest of life How sin is about being unconscious The consequences of our behavior are not waiting for us in the afterlife – they’re with us in the here and now The tension between being and doing Maintaining your center while doing a task When Ram Dass told him, “don’t do funny, BE funny” The mistake of postponing your happiness until things are going your way His favorite mantra That being here and saying yes to the present moment is the kingdom of heaven Being present even while you’re planning in addition to non-resistance The story of you, your ego and how it likes to exist How he connects with his wife when he’s rushed The role of curiosity When in doubt, zoom out How God is a metaphor for a mystery Pete Holmes Links: peteholmes.com Twitter Facebook Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial. Remrise is a personalized sleep solution that uses natural, plant-based formulas to help calm the mind, relax the body and get your circadian rhythm back on track. It’s drug-free and has no groggy side effects in the morning. To get your first week FREE, go to www.getremrise.com/wolf and take their sleep quiz to determine which formulation is right for you. Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Linda Graham is a licensed marriage and family therapist and her work focuses on helping people strengthen capacities to cope with the challenges and crises of their lives. She also helps people recover an authentic sense of self, deepen into healthy relationships and engage with the world through meaningful, purposeful work. Her book is Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster. In this episode, she and Eric talk about the neuroscience of resilience and specific ways to strengthen our resilience, no matter our starting point. When life gets difficult, this episode will teach you how to cultivate your resilience, bounce back and grow stronger. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Linda Graham and I Discuss Strengthening our Resilience and… Her book, Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster The neuroscience of resilience All emotions are signals to pay attention and take wise action How emotions run through our nervous system in about 20 seconds, unless we feed them with stories and with habitual patterns of response If we can allow difficult emotions and have compassion for ourselves for feeling them, we can shift the patterns in our brain away from that contracted state and into a more open state – the outcome is resilience What resilience is Response flexibility How you respond to the issue, IS the issue The severity of the stressor and the strength of our external resources Our own internal resources Differentiating between our perception and our response How our attitude is a filter that our perception goes through Cultivating a resilience mindset The factors that influence our brain’s response flexibility. as well as how we can re-wire our brain’s response flexibility How to create new patterns of responding to difficulty The default mode network Practices that people can use to strengthen their resilience A practice that will calm a panic attack in under 1 minute The things that accelerate brain change Changing every “should” to a “could” That “should” creates contraction in the brain whereas “could” creates openness and possibility in the brain Pausing to remember that we can be resilient and asking yourself “What story am I believing now?” How triggers become trailheads Linda Graham Links: lindagraham-mft.net Twitter Facebook Calm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf Daily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED If you enjoyed this conversation with Linda Graham on Strengthening our Resilience, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Elissa Epel Rick Hanson See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

BJ Fogg teaches innovators about human behavior. He has a doctorate from Stanford and founded the Stanford Persuasive Tech Lab – now called the Stanford Behavior Design Lab – in 1988. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything. There is so much practical, applicable wisdom in this episode. If you have any changes you want to make, any habits you’d like to start in your life, this episode could be a game-changer for you. In it, you’ll learn the “how-to” when it comes to the science of behavior change. It is a skill you can learn, even if you’ve struggled to make changes in your life before. And the best news? It’s incredibly do-able – if you know how. Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, BJ Fogg and I Discuss Tiny Habits for Behavior Change and… His book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything That people change best by feeling good, not feeling bad The Tiny Habits Method The technique of Celebration Learning to be a friend to yourself and treat yourself accordingly When it comes to changing your behavior, looking at yourself as a baby who is learning to walk The 3 things you should do to set yourself up to succeed when changing a behavior Stop judging yourself Take your aspirations and break them down into tiny behaviors Embrace mistakes as discoveries and use them to move forward Golden behaviors The problem of “all or nothing thinking” The problem of expecting perfection from yourself when it comes to habits That when it comes to habits, context is as important as the behavior itself. Change the context, it’s a different habit. The Fogg Behavioral Model: Motivation, Ability and a Prompt Troubleshooting a behavior change problem The danger in assuming you know someone else’s motivation Trying to motivate someone vs. taking away a de-motivator Ways we can make a behavior easy to do That we can plant a tiny seed in a good spot and it will grow without coaxing BJ Fogg Links: bjfogg.com Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed If you enjoyed this conversation with BJ Fogg on Tiny Habits for Behavior Change, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Michelle Segar James Clear (Part 1) James Clear (Part 2) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! Michelle Segar, PhD, is a motivation scientist and author of critically acclaimed “No Sweat! How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness” . She is also the Director of the Sport, Health, and Activity Research and Policy Center (SHARP) at the University of Michigan, and Chair of the U.S. National Physical Activity Plan’s Communications Committee. Her evidence-based ideas about what motivates people to choose and maintain healthy behaviors is changing the conversation across fields. She consults with global organizations on these issues and delivers keynotes and sustainable behavior change trainings. She ran with the Olympic Torch at the 1992 Olympic Games in Barcelona. In This Interview, Michelle Segar and I Discuss… The One You Feed parable Her book, No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness How considering a different “why” for starting to be more physically active can be helpful That why we engage in physical activity and what it is that we do are critical when it comes to us sticking with it How too many “whys” dilute their positive effect on us Intrinsic vs Extrinsic goals How answering the question, “What kind of physical activity did you enjoy doing as a kid?” can be important That we should start doing what makes us feel good and stop doing what makes us feel bad when it comes to physical activity That any physical movement is better than none at all – Everything counts! That flexibility is a strategy for success when it comes to sustained physical activity in your life The vicious cycle of failure The sustainable cycle of self-care That it’s important to focus one complicated behavior change at a time The self-care hierarchy Michelle Segar Links Homepage Twitter LinkedIn See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! Tim Pychyl is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Carlton University and hosts a podcast called I Procrastinate. We discuss how to go from being a procrastinator to someone who gets things done. His book that we discuss in this episode is on that very topic – it’s called Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change In This Interview, Tim Pychyl and I Discuss Being a Procrastinator and… His book, Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change How it’s in the getting on in life that makes a life Being a procrastinator can be an existential matter What he tells his children: I didn’t ask what you want to do or how you feel, I told you it’s time to make your bed. When we are procrastinators we delay getting on with our lives Being an active member or your own life The two ways being a procrastinator compromises our health Stress Fewer wellness behaviors Treatment delay “I’ll look after that later” Being a Procrastinator is a problem of self-regulated behavior I won’t give in to feel good Goal Intentions and Implementation intentions When….then… Giving the monkey something to do What’s the next action? Keeping it small Hacks to work around our irrational thinking Motivation and then Action or Action and then Motivation The meaning behind our goals Meaning and Manageability Asking what will this cost me if I put it off? Being a Procrastinator Prefer tomorrow over today Thinking “I’ll feel like doing it tomorrow” Affect forecasting Thinking of your future self as a stranger Developing empathy for future self Self-handicap to preserve self-esteem Tim Pychyl Procrastinator Episode Links Homepage Twitter Tim’s Psychology Today Page See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part series, he talks more about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. You’ll learn some really specific, easy and flat out “why didn’t I think of that” genius methods to apply to your life and habits. In this Interview, James Clear and I Discuss… His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones Habits are a response to the physical cues in our environment Increasing the friction it takes to complete the task The more you increase the steps between you and the bad behavior or decrease the steps between you and the good behavior the better Habit stacking/Anchoring “After _____ I will _____” The more specific the better Social environment and habits You want to join groups where your desired behavior is the normal behavior Make it easy The two-minute rule A habit must be established before it can be improved Optimize for the starting line rather than the finish line Make it satisfying Feel successful at the end Bring the long-term consequences into the short term James Clear Links Homepage Instagram Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 1 of a 2 part series, he talks about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. It’s a fascinating and educational discussion surrounding how to work with yourself and your habits to set yourself up for short and long-term success when it comes to behavior change. Everyone can benefit from listening to the wisdom in this episode. Enjoy. In This Interview, James Clear and I Discuss… His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones How habits can compound for you or against you That small changes don’t seem to matter much in the moment The 4 Laws of Behavior Change Your outcomes are a lagging measure of your efforts How bamboo is like habits You need to build a foundation to see results How work isn’t wasted, it’s stored Focusing on systems rather than goals How the outcome is a natural consequence of habits That goals restrict your happiness The role of identity in behavior change How you choose to act is a vote towards the kind of person you want to be Putting your identity on the back burner while you accrue some evidence Growth vs Fixed Mindset How humans are learning machines The 4 Stages of Habits How you interpret the cues in your life determines how you respond to them The toolbox for breaking and building habits James Clear Links Homepage Instagram Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

David Christian is a Distinguished Professor of History at Macquarie University and director of the school’s Big History Institute, which he founded with Bill Gates. David has delivered keynotes at conferences around the world including the Davos World Economic Forum and his TedTalk has been viewed more than 7 million times. He’s the author of numerous books and articles including the book we discuss in this episode, Origin Story: A Big History of Everything. This episode is truly awe-inspiring, fascinating and mind-blowing. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, David Christian and I Discuss A Big History of Everything and… His book, Origin Story: A Big History of Everything Looking for the balance in dualities What an origin story means to him as well as the guidance it offers How modern society has lost touch with origin stories Linking knowledge together as well as telling an ancient origin story using modern science Knowing who you are, where you are and what challenges you face Having a deep sense of awe for how things are as well as The story line of increasing complexity What we know & don’t know about The Big Bang Pure potentiality becoming energy and matter Everything that has ever been came from something that started 13.8 billion years ago, and was a million times smaller than the period at the end of a sentence. Emergence of stars, planets, and life happened Cells acting with purpose and preference and how collaboration and specialization is inherent. The origin of life and the appearance of humans, as well as the unique contribution that human beings that make the emergence of our species are all transformative events on the planet Earth. The impact of our utilization of fossil fuels David Christian Links: www.mq.edu.au/bighistory Twitter Ted Talk Feals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolf Calm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf Phlur: Get a luxurious scent made with transparent, clean ingredients. Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first Phlur sampler set at www.phlur.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cal Newport is a computer science professor at Georgetown University. In addition to his academic research, he writes about the intersection of digital technology and culture. He is the author of 6 books, his most recent being the New York Times bestseller, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World. In this interview, Eric and Cal discuss how to optimize the role of tech in our lives so that it supports us in the life we want to live., rather than depleting us and causing us to feel like we are giving it too much of our time and energy. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Cal Newport and I Discuss Digital Minimalism and… His book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World The concerns about our digital lifestyle The mixture of harm and benefit with social media The costs of our digital lifestyle Digital Maximalist vs Digital Minimalist Starting with your values as a guide to decide what tech you use to maximize the time you can spend on things you value How to think about the role of tech in your life Deploying tech to support you in living life according to your values Having a philosophy surrounding the use of tech in your life How clutter is costly Adding up the cost and value of something The importance of optimization in addition to the role of tech in our lives Intentionality is satisfying The 3 step process for implementing digital minimalism Cal Newport Links: calnewport.com Daily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED The Great Courses Plus: Are you a life long learner? A perpetually curious person? The Great Courses Plus is an on-demand streaming service that offers courses taught by professors on a whole host of topics such as Human Behavior, Money Management Skills, Astronomy, Cooking and so much more. Listeners of the show get a full month of unlimited access to their library for FREE by signing up at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Remrise is a personalized sleep solution that uses natural, plant-based formulas to help calm the mind, relax the body and get your circadian rhythm back on track. It’s drug-free and has no groggy side effects in the morning. To get your first week FREE, go to www.getremrise.com/wolf and take their sleep quiz to determine which formulation is right for you. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Liz Fosslien is the Head of Content and Editorial at Humu, a company that uses behavioral science to make work better. She leads interactive scientifically-backed workshops about how to create a culture of belonging to help remote workers avoid burnout, navigate different work styles, and effectively harness emotion as a leader. Her work has been featured by The New York Times, The Economist, and NPR. Liz is the co-author and illustrator of the book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work. In this episode, she and Eric dive into the important and fascinating topic of the role of emotions in the workplace. You may think being “cool, calm and collected” at work is the right way to be but after listening to this episode, you will likely think differently. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Liz Fosslien and I Embracing Emotions at Work and … Her book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work. How we underestimate the emotions we bring to work Tools to help with embracing emotions in the workplace How we make really bad decisions when we don’t reference our emotions The danger of being a “feelings fire hose” at work The “Skill Swap” exercise at work The New Rules of Emotion Caring about yourself more than you care about your work Your Support Network and your Challenge Network at work Communicating what you need in the moment to another person Social Distancing Why we lack motivation at work Relevant Emotions vs Irrelevant Emotions Liz Fosslien Links: fosslien.com Twitter Instagram The Great Courses Plus: Are you a life long learner? A perpetually curious person? The Great Courses Plus is an on-demand streaming service that offers courses taught by professors on a whole host of topics such as Human Behavior, Money Management Skills, Black Holes, the History of England and so much more. Listeners of the show get a full month of unlimited access to their library for FREE by signing up at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial. SoFi Invest: A platform that makes investing easy by offering stocks, stock bits, crypto & automated investing all in one. With access to their financial advisors to answer any questions you have at no cost. Go to www.sofi.com/wolf, create an account, and they will give you $25 of free stock just for signing up. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Greg Marcus is a practitioner, facilitator, and innovator of American Mussar which is a 21st-century spiritual practice for an authentic and meaningful life. He has a B.A. in Biology from Cornell University and earned his Ph.D. in Biology from MIT. He worked for 10 years as a marketer in the Silicon Valley genomics industry, after which he became a stay at home dad, writer, life balance coach, and biotech consultant. His latest book is called The Spiritual Practice of Good Actions: Finding Balance Through the Soul Traits of Mussar. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Greg Marcus and I Discuss Spiritual Practice of Good Actions and … His book, The Spiritual Practice of Good Actions: Finding Balance Through the Soul Traits of Mussar The Jewish Spiritual Practice of Mussar Taking mindful action in everyday life The Soul Trait of Enthusiasm Too much of a Soul Trait vs not enough of a Soul Trait The middle way as it relates to Soul Traits Focusing on a Soul Trait for 2 weeks How to move head knowledge into heart knowledge The Morning Mantra Picking 1 specific action to take Journaling The Great Wall of Mussar – and how to overcome it Handling significant emotional disruption How our free will isn’t always accessible to us How to slow the train of emotional disruption Shadow Soul Traits Inverting the Shadow Trait: What is the light that’s casting the shadow? Greg Marcus Links: americanmussar.com Twitter Facebook FabFitFun: A women’s lifestyle subscription box filled with full-size premium items that you will love. Give yourself (or someone special in your life!) this gift – use the promo code FEED for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com Calm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription. Talkspace: the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. John Norcross is an internationally recognized expert on behavior change. He is Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of Scranton and a board-certified psychologist. He is the author of the acclaimed self-help book, Changeology: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Goals and Resolutions, has authored over 400 publications and has co-written and edited 22 books, principally in the areas of psychotherapy, clinical psychology, professional training, and self-change. In this episode, he and Eric discuss what the science of behavior change tells us when it comes to the do’s and don’t’s of creating new behaviors and putting an end to problematic ones. This episode is full of practical wisdom and is a must-listen for anyone looking to create meaningful, lasting change in their lives. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Dr. John Norcross and I discuss Behavior Change and… His book, Changeology: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Goals and Resolutions One of the colossal mistakes people make when trying to change their behavior Motivation & willpower versus learnable skills Harnessing the power of the science of behavior change as well as the 5 stages of behavior change The power of doing the right things at the right time Preparing to follow a behavior change program The 90-day commitment for lasting behavior change Chronic Contemplation as well as what to do when you slip up The findings from the New Years Resolutions Study Energy sources The importance of a “change team” or a “support team” The common “countering” methods using “healthy opposites” How to apply the “healthy opposites” approach to emotional eating The truth: what is measured, improves Dealing with urges as well as cravings Dr. John Norcross Links: changeologybook.org Twitter Facebook Blinkist: Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less (audio available too!) go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7-day free trial and then save 25% off your new subscription if you decide to sign up! Nimble: Get great electronics you can feel really good about. Nimble makes premium, everyday tech products (like portable chargers, wireless chargers, protective phone cases and more). They use only sustainable materials, work with ethical factories, and ship in 100% plastic-free packaging. They’ll recycle your old electronics, too. To get 25% off your first Nimble order, go to www.gonimble.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF Phlur: Get a luxurious scent made with transparent, clean ingredients. Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your Phlur sampler set at Phlur.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Loch Kelly is an author, meditation teacher, psychotherapist, and the founder of The Open-Hearted Awareness Institute. Loch works to help people access awakening as the next natural stage of human development. by offering in-person retreats, workshops, and online video and audio courses. He has served on the New York Insight Teachers Council and has collaborated with neuroscientists at Yale, U Penn and NYU in the study of how awareness training can enhance compassion and well being. Loch also studied extensively with Mingyur Rinpoche and was invited to teach direct realization by Adyashanti. As a licensed psychotherapist, Loch has been teaching seminars, supervising clinicians and practicing awareness psychotherapy in New York City for 30 years. His latest book is called, The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Loch Kelly and I discuss Effortless Mindfulness and… His book, The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life The good wolf & the bad wolf: how there are no “bad” parts of us Feed the one who is aware of the two wolves How he defines “effortless mindfulness” Flow consciousness Deliberate mindfulness vs effortless mindfulness Objects of consciousness vs the space that objects are in Mindfulness is about awakening rather than it just being about stress management Relieving suffering at it’s root Small glimpses, many times and the practice of the “small glimpses” techniques. Dropping from head mind to heart mind Non-dual awareness How to practice the "small glimpses techniques Awareness-based knowing Loch Kelly Links: lochkelly.org Twitter Facebook Instagram Daily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box, go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED SoFi Invest: A platform that makes investing easy by offering stocks, crypto & automated investing all in one. With access to their financial advisors to answer any questions you have at no cost. Go to www.sofi.com/wolf, create an account, and they will give you $25 of free stock just for signing up. Netsuite by Oracle: Netsuite by Oracle: the world’s #1 cloud business system. Netsuite is a business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Judith Blackstone is an innovative and experienced teacher in the contemporary fields of non-dual realization and spiritual, relational, and somatic psychotherapy. She developed The Realization Process, which is a direct path for realizing fundamental consciousness. She also teaches the application of non-dual realization for psychological, relational, and physical healing. Judith has taught The Realization Process for over 35 years throughout the United States and Europe. She currently has 6 books in publication including her latest book, Trauma and the Unbound Body: The Healing Power of Fundamental Consciousness. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Judith Blackstone and I discuss Healing Trauma through Consciousness and … Her book, Trauma and the Unbound Body: The Healing Power of Fundamental Consciousness Uncovering fundamental consciousness Attuning to the 3 components of fundamental consciousness: awareness, emotion, and physical sensation Defining trauma The way we hold back things that won’t be met with approval How traumatic events cause us to be divided – driving us out of our fundamental nature of wholeness, which is fundamental consciousness Inhabiting our body vs scanning our body Releasing trauma through our bodies Healing trauma through consciousness Psychological healing in addition to spiritual awakening The role of memory in healing trauma Accessing memories through somatic connections Healing trauma in relation to other people as well as with other people Judith Blackstone Links: realizationprocess.org Facebook The Great Courses Plus: Are you a life long learner? A perpetually curious person? The Great Courses Plus is an on-demand streaming service that offers courses taught by professors on a whole host of topics such as Human Behavior, Money Management Skills, Black Holes, the History of England and so much more. Eric is currently enrolled in their course called, The Hidden Factor: Why Thinking Differently is Your Greatest Asset. Listeners of the show get a full month of unlimited access to their library for FREE by signing up at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf EverlyWell: Offers more than 35 at-home lab tests with super easy to follow instructions. Results are processed in a certified lab and reviewed by board-certified physicians and are then sent directly to you within days. The EverlyWell digital platform helps break down exactly what your results mean for you plus you can also set up a free discussion with a healthcare professional to discuss them. To start learning more about your health, go to everlywell.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF for 15% off your test FabFitFun – A women’s lifestyle subscription box filled with full-size premium items that you will love. Give yourself (or someone special in your life!) this gift – use the promo code FEED for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com If you enjoyed this conversation with Judith Blackstone on Healing Trauma through Consciousness, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Hilary Jacobs Hendel Mary O’Malley See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

David Richo, PhD is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader and writer who works in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, CA. He combines Jungian, poetic and mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. His books and workshops include attention to Buddhist and Christian spiritual practices. He is the author of the classic book, How To Be An Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration and his latest book, 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big Challenges, is the focus of the conversation in this episode. If you’ve experienced difficulty in life – and who hasn’t? -then this episode on navigating the 5 givens in life is for you. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, David Richo and I Discuss Navigating the Five Givens in Life and… His latest book 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big Challenges That perfection is not a human option How a “given” can be looked at as an immutable fact or something that we’ve been granted Navigating the 5 givens in life that are the ingredients of a life with meaning, character, depth, and compassion Life is not always fair and that pain is part of everyone’s life The importance of saying yes to these givens as it brings more equanimity and serenity into our life Accepting the things we cannot change, while trusting that if life is like this, these “givens” aren’t penalties – rather, they have gift dimensions How we create our own suffering through our saying “no” to what is His words, “Anything that crosses swords with our entitled ego is a powerful source of transformation and inner evolution.” The ego tries to control the givens That love is accepting someone as they are, knowing that everyone comes with these 5 givens How the opposite of yes is not no, but rather it is control Building the inner resources that make me strong enough to handle whatever givens come my way as well as the importance of becoming skilled at grief His words, “A spiritually evolved adult seeks not an answer, but a significance.” Live with the questions and notice where they take us Act with loving-kindness in addition to holding difficulty with mindfulness Spirituality is the intersection of 3 paths: letting go of ego, “yes” to the conditions of human experience, and compassion Happiness is not a reward and suffering is not a punishment David Richo Links: davericho.com The Great Courses Plus: Are you a life long learner? A perpetually curious person? The Great Courses Plus is an on-demand streaming service that offers courses taught by professors on a whole host of topics such as Human Behavior, Money Management Skills, Black Holes, the History of England and so much more. Eric is currently enrolled in their course called, The Hidden Factor: Why Thinking Differently is Your Greatest Asset. Listeners of the show get a full month of unlimited access to their library for FREE by signing up at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Calm: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription Talkspace: the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tony Wrighton is a regular on Sky Sports News, the author of 3 books, and the creator and host of the Zestology podcast. In this episode, Eric and Tony talk about managing and optimizing your energy, ways to build fun into your day, techniques from Neurolinguistic Programming to help with anxiety and a lot more. This conversation is all about being intentional and smart about how you structure your days in order to support and promote your own well being. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Tony Wrighton and I Discuss Managing your Energy and … Trying to meditate with a 4-month-old How there’s not a good and evil wolf – rather, many different wolves His training in NLP The role of control in our lives Parenting Why he named his podcast Zestology – and what it means to him The idea of managing energy – without it, you can’t do anything. With a lot of it, you feel you can conquer the world The thing that helps with energy and well being as well as what counts as a “fun” activity for him. Meditating, sleep, good food, intermittent fasting, exercise The thing that, when he didn’t do it, caused his daily energy level to decrease by 30% How he tracks the variables that contribute to his energy levels His books: Confidence in a Minute, Persuade in a Minute, and Relax in a Minute The NLP technique of anchoring in addition to managing your inner voice. How we get used to anything in life so it’s important to switch things up Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) Authenticity Tony Wrighton Links: tonywrighton.org Twitter Facebook Instagram Netsuite by Oracle: the world’s #1 cloud business system. Netsuite is a business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolf Nimble: Get great electronics you can feel really good about. Nimble makes premium, everyday tech products (like portable chargers, wireless chargers, protective phone cases and more). They use only sustainable materials, work with ethical factories, and ship in 100% plastic-free packaging. They’ll recycle your old electronics, too. To get 25% off your first Nimble order, go to www.gonimble.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF Phlur: Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first 3 Phlur samples at Phlur.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James Finley is a contemplative practitioner, clinical psychologist and faculty member of The Living School for Action and Contemplation. Drawing from his experience as a former monk and spiritual directee of Thomas Merton, James helps seekers who desire to live a contemplative, whole life. In this episode, he and Eric discuss many of his works and concepts pertaining to contemplation, awakening to our true nature, truth that transcends religions, love and wisdom. We think you will be struck (as we are!) by how expansive, inclusive and edifying James’ words and teachings are when it comes to helping you to connect with that which is loving and true and always present. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, James Finley and I Discuss Contemplation, Awakening, and … The question: In this moment, what’s the most loving thing I can do? How it’s love that feeds the good wolf His book, Merton’s Palace of Nowhere His violent, abusive alcoholic father and how that facilitated his seeking a place in a monastery with Thomas Merton Merton’s message that we are one with the infinite love that is God and that is our deepest identity and it is our destiny is to realize that That we subsist in a relationship with God as light subsists in flame How truth transcends religions The True Self and False Self The lie that the ego is all that we are Identity: The discovery of the true self is the process of dying to our dreaded and cherished illusion that anything less than infinite union with infinite love has the authority to name who we are. The acts that hurt ourselves and others is the acting out of a mistaken identity His book, The Contemplative Heart To contemplate means to pay attention, to observe carefully Contemplation is sustained attentiveness infused with love His book, Christian Meditation Taking the stance of least resistance when it comes to awakening The welling up of that which sustains us in the brokenness Removing complexities and distractions to be present in stillness The mystic teacher is one whose words awaken your heart to the desire for “the great way” and offers trustworthy guidance in it. The mystic teacher uses language in the service of helping a person to let go of their dependency on the kind of language that stops short at explanations to find the language that is a kind of a cry from the heart, from our true self. The true self embraces both solitude and communion with others The metaphor of a high jumper and a very high bar and God’s mercy or compassion then placing it on the ground where we then trip over it and fall into God’s loving arms Being sustained by a mystery that then brings us to itself – and that is wisdom James Finley Links: jamesfinley.org Calm: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription Daily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED FabFitFun – A women’s lifestyle subscription box filled with full-size premium items that you will love. Give yourself (or someone special in your life!) this gift – use the promo code FEED for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Reba Riley is a blogger, artist, and healer. She travels the world speaking about transformation, courage, health, and healing. Her book, Post Traumatic Church Syndrome: A Memoir of Humor and Healing, is the topic of discussion in this episode. You will be moved and inspired by Reba’s story. As it turns out, kindness, love, and bravery really are some of the most powerful forces to harness for healing and hope and that’s what she discovered as she explored 30 religions before she turned 30 and battled a deep depression in the years following. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Reba Riley and I Discuss Post Traumatic Church Syndrome, and … Her book, Post Traumatic Church Syndrome: A Memoir of Humor and Healing Her chronic illness Facing her anger and bitterness 30 religions before she turned 30 Life being grey when religions answers are often black and white That love is bigger than everything Love healing us and bringing us together Her mothers love through her journey That wherever she found love (in the 30 religions) she found God How love and forgiveness have to start in each of us Looking past beliefs and differences and judgments to find the love that exists If love rolled up her sleeves and put on her work boots, kindness is what would happen Kindness is the action, the outpouring, the verb – of love Kindness is love made visible Her battle with dark, debilitating depression Feeling like she had no reason to do anything, no will to live Using kindness to battle depression How she did 5000 random acts of kindness over 18 months and it saved her life The story she hasn’t told anywhere else about her relapse of depression The alchemy of kindness to transform your pain Couraging = brave as a verb Reba Riley Links: rebariley.com twitter Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial. Nimble: Get great electronics you can feel really good about. Nimble makes premium, everyday tech products (like portable chargers, wireless chargers, protective phone cases and more). They use only sustainable materials, work with ethical factories, and ship in 100% plastic-free packaging. They’ll recycle your old electronics, too. To get 25% off your first Nimble order, go to www.gonimble.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF The Great Courses Plus: Learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get one month for free at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Robin Hanson is an Associate Professor of Economics at George Mason University and a Research Associate at the Future of Humanity Institute of Oxford University. His book, The Elephant In The Brain: Hidden Motives In Everyday Life, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. They explore topics like motives, perspective, the left brain interpreter and so much more as it relates to human behavior. This episode will give you a lot of insight into yourself and others. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Robin Hanson and I Discuss Motives, Human Behavior, and … His book, The Elephant In The Brain: Hidden Motives In Everyday Life How often, we keep our true motives hidden from others That we also keep our true motives hidden from ourselves Modularity The things happening at a conscious as well as an unconscious level The left brain interpreter being like a press secretary Needing to tell a story about our motives Questioning whether or not you know the motives of others That we have multiple motives for doing things Understand others and then assume you’re a lot like them Cynicism and Misanthropy Perspective The evolution to protect ourselves from each other The need to have others like us and think well of us Obliviation What if others couldn’t see what you bought – that their opinion of you wouldn’t change because of what you bought – how would that change what you’d buy? That we pay a lot for variety Proximate and distal causes That evolution designed us to be relatively unaware of our motives – so why is it good to know about them? Robin Hanson Links: elephantinthebrain.com overcomingbias.com Twitter Ted Talk Westin – their reason for being is to help you travel well – eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.com The Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get one month for free at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Talkspace: the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $65 off your first month. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Charlie Gilkey is the author of Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done. An Army veteran and near Ph.D. in philosophy, Charlie is the founder of Productive Flourishing, a company that helps professional creatives, leaders, and change-makers take meaningful action on work matters. He’s widely cited in outlets such as Inc. Magazine, Time, Forbes, The Guardian, Life Hacker and more and his work will help you discover the path from the ideas in your head to the actions you take in your daily life and the way you live out your values – and most importantly how to go about getting things done. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Charlie Gilkey and I Discuss Getting Things Done and … His book, Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done How kindness towards others often brings out the best in everyone The Tao Te Ching Focusing on your input and letting go of the results Why finishing is so important That we only get mastery from finishing things, not halfway doing them We don’t just improve by thinking about things, we improve by doing them Creative constipation breeds toxicity We’re either creating something or destroying something We don’t do ideas, we do projects How it feels good to think about our ideas How doing our best work is often really hard The myth: if it’s meant to be for us, it’s supposed to be easy That when you start something you’re not as good at it as you want to be and it takes time to and effort to get better The myth that if it doesn’t come easy for you, you shouldn’t do it Doing something until you’re good enough at it to decide whether or not you want to continue doing it The 5 things that get in the way of doing our best work Head Trash: Doesn’t matter if a thought is true or not – it matters if we believe it or not The problem with automatically believing our thoughts How discipline limits decision fatigue Action expresses priority Being sick isn’t a character defect – how you respond to it matters That big life changes take life force and energy in order for us to respond to and deal with them and that’s life force that we can’t put towards other things – and that’s ok Charlie Gilkey Links: productiveflourishing.com Twitter Facebook EverlyWell: Offers more than 35 at-home lab tests with super easy to follow instructions. Results are processed in a certified lab and reviewed by board-certified physicians and are then sent directly to you within days. The EverlyWell digital platform helps break down exactly what your results mean for you plus you can also set up a free discussion with a healthcare professional to discuss them. To start learning more about your health, go to everlywell.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF for 15% off your test Phlur – Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first 3 Phlur samples at Phlur.com/wolf Calm: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription If you enjoyed this conversation with Charlie Gilkey on getting things done, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Chris Bailey David Kadavy Tim Pychyl See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mark Henick has appeared in hundreds of television segments and countless more radio, print and online features about mental health. Mark’s TedTalk, “Why We Choose Suicide”, is among the most-watched in the world with over 6 million views. In this episode, he tells Eric about his experience with attempts at suicide, relapsing depression and getting skillful with finding meaning and living his life. This isn’t just a broad discussion on suicide and depression – there are real, practical techniques and approaches that can be applied to life today, no matter your circumstances, to create meaning, fulfillment, and yes, even joy. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Mark Henick and I Discuss Suicide, Depression, and… The duality of life and death Mental Health and Suicide His suicidality at 12 years old The message he got that he couldn’t talk about suicide The complete stranger who saved him from jumping from a bridge at night – physically holding on to him His realization that he didn’t have to be the suffering boy he was, he could be the stranger that helped him…that his life could be different The myth that if you talk about suicide it will give people the idea to do it The right way and wrong way to talk about suicide and depression How freeing it is to talk about something When others told him they could relate to his story of suicide and depression His recovery through a newfound sense of purpose The healthier relationships he pursued Getting clear about boundaries The toxic masculinity he was surrounded by as a child Not having the language to express the feelings he had The perceptual field and increasing your options by getting uncomfortable. How depression limits the options you can see Broadening of perception and expansion as a part of awakening Something good can come from most painful situations; It’s in the lens you take and the work that you do. His depression and social anxiety disorder The danger in an avoidant coping strategy as well as the flaws of perfectionism. Realizing the cross you bear can change into meaning and how to turn your struggle into something good. Getting good at re-lapsing with his depression His misguided thought that he was failing at getting better Learning to trust himself AND learning not to believe every one of his thoughts The truth: This too shall pass (the more you cling to it the longer it takes to pass) How depression hates a moving target Mark Henick Links: markhenick.com Ted Talk: “Why We Choose Suicide” Twitter Facebook Talkspace: the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get 65% off your first month. Daily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code: FEED See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Sarah Shockley is a multiple award-winning producer and director of educational films including Dancing From the Inside Out, a highly acclaimed documentary on disabled dance. Sarah is the author of a number of books on living with chronic pain, including the one discussed in this episode, The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Sarah Shockley and I Discuss Living with Chronic Pain and… Her book, The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain How it’s hard for us to heal when we’re in a battle with pain The good wolf aspect of pain Feeding into healing vs feeding in living with chronic pain Her experience with debilitating pain The many components of chronic pain – in addition to the physical component How isolating chronic pain can be Chronic emotional pain Seeing pain differently Turning towards pain and asking it, “What could positively be your positive purpose here?” What you resist persists Becoming partners with your pain Thinking of pain as the voice of something within you that wants to be healed Creating a different relationship with pain We lock pain in place when we get into a resistant mode Giving pain a lot of space Breathing into the pain The messages that pain brought her Asking pain, “What do you need?” How her life has been transformed by changing her relationship and experience with chronic pain That she wrote the book she wished she had been given in the midst of her struggle with pain That being seen in your pain can be the beginning of healing Living with chronic pain and what she imagined her pain looking like Sarah Shockley Links: thepaincompanion.com Facebook YouTube DoorDash – Don’t worry about dinner, let dinner come to you with DoorDash. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code WOLF The Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get 3 months of unlimited access to their entire library for just $30. www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation with Sarah Shockley on living with chronic pain, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Toni Bernhard Michael Galinsky See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Eric Kaufmann guides leaders to make better decisions and achieve better results. He has consulted for hundreds of leaders including executives and team leaders at Sony, TMobile, Genentec and Alcon Labs just to name a few. He is the founder of Sagatica Inc and he serves on the board of the San Diego Zen Center. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his work of teaching conscious leadership in the workplace. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Eric Kaufmann and I Discuss… How he interacts with his shadow side The key to not making a situation worse His practice of refrain and return Conscious leadership Unrelenting commitment to results with an unwavering regard for spirit What someone says they want vs what they need The courage it takes to say no The 3 building blocks of our egoic state The 3 pillars of being a conscious person Wisdom = mistakes + time Wisdom = Seeing below the surface and beyond the obvious That being wise means being present and aware How cultivating wisdom is a practice and how humor cultivates wisdom. Courage is walking toward what you want to walk away from Have the courage to Speak Up, Care, Commit How sarcasm can be a mask of fear Bringing the weird How it takes energy to withhold Love is wanting to do well for others Love is expansive, inclusive, and connective The things that get in the way of love Eric Kaufmann Links: sagatica.com Facebook Instagram YouTube Calm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription The Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get 3 months of unlimited access to their entire library for just $30. www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brent Williams suffered for a long time from depression and anxiety and during that time he kept a journal about his thoughts, feelings, and experiences. That journal has now been turned in to a beautiful graphic novel called, Out Of The Woods: A Journey Through Depression and Anxiety. In this episode, Brent and Eric use his story as a jumping-off point to discuss how depression can show up in your life and how you can realistically, practically, and effectively find your way out of it. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Brent Williams and I Discuss… His book, Out Of The Woods: A Journey Through Depression and Anxiety How subtle depression can be in your life – permeating everything All the things he went to as a diagnosis before he admitted it was depression he was suffering from His resistance to taking depression medication How he watched his father take medication for anxiety and how it changed him His resistance to taking help from others His experience in therapy The metaphor of depression medication being a life preserver but you still have to swim back to shore The components of self-care: eat well, exercise, be with people, be outside, get support, stop ruminating, proper sleep How fundamental good nutrition is when it comes to mental well being Doing small and manageable things when you’re depressed How the reward mechanism in your brain isn’t working properly when you’re depressed How it took him a while to find the right therapist The potential danger of meditating when depressed That mindfulness meditation was the form of meditating that helped him most The impact of keeping a mood chart – seeing a pattern that you can’t see at the time That sometimes you just have to push yourself over the hurdle of doing things that are good for you when you don’t feel like doing them Looking at your activities to assess your mental wellbeing Depression showing up as irritability in men Brent Williams Links: outofthewoods.co.nz **Special Offer** for The One You Feed listeners! Buy 1 Book, Get 1 Free to give to a friend, family member or a community center! Facebook Twitter Phlur – Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first 3 Phlur samples at Phlur.com/wolf FabFitFun – A women’s lifestyle subscription box filled with full-size premium items that you will love. Eric’s girlfriend is honestly obsessed because the items in this box are just so good. Give yourself this gift – use the promo code FEED for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Sue Johnson is an author, clinical psychologist, researcher, and an internationally recognized leader in the field of couple interventions. She is founding Director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) and Distinguished Research Professor at Alliant University in San Diego, California, as well as Professor Emeritus, Clinical Psychology, at the University of Ottawa, Canada. In this interview, Dr. Sue Johnson discuss her best selling book, “Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” and her groundbreaking research of helping couples to enhance, repair, and keep their relationship. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Dr. Sue Johnson and I Discuss… Her book, Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love The wolf parable and how therapists act as the third wolf for couples. Relationships are often stuck in fear and anger Emotional disconnection causes distress in relationships. Humans are wired for close connection with others. Attachment needs continue into adulthood, most notably in romantic relationships. Common conversations in distressed relationships are known as “demon dialogues”. Relationships stuck in predictable patterns is referred to as the “Protest Polka”. “Freeze and Flee” means one person gives up on the relationship. “Find the Bad Guy” in other words, "It’s not me, it’s you” Understanding the circle of criticism, or the “dance” you’re stuck in. Learning to blame this “dance” rather than each other. The “hold me tight conversation” that creates safety in the relationship. Understanding the negative cycle that causes disconnection. Creating a positive cycle by creating a secure bond “ARE” – Accessibility, Responsiveness, and Engagement. Talking about fears rather than acting on them leads to bonding. Emotional connection in a relationship is a source of joy and strength. Dr. Sue Johnson Links: drsuejohnson.com Twitter Facebook TalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get 65% off your first month. DoorDash – Don’t worry about dinner, let dinner come to you with DoorDash. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code WOLF Westin – their reason for being is to help you travel well – eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gabe Howard is an award-winning writer, speaker, and host of the weekly Psych Central show who lives with bipolar and anxiety disorders. His new book, Mental Illness Is an A-Hole – And Other Observations, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. You’ll be captivated by Gabe’s story as he tells it – it’s compelling, relatable, inspiring, and educational. Whether or not you have bipolar disorder or another mental illness, chances are you know someone or some people who do and so this is an important episode to listen to – you’ll deepen your understanding of what it means to live with mental illness. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Gabe Howard and I Discuss… His book, Mental Illness Is an A-Hole – And Other Observations What bipolar disorder is (and isn’t) and how it shows up in his life His compelling story The myth that people with mental illness come from bad families When he went to the ER because of suicidal thoughts How he defines recovery: spending more time living life than managing his bipolar disorder The 4 years he spent in a battle with his mental illness How you have to learn what works for you – and how that takes time The role of medication in the treatment of mental illness How it stings when your body lets you down Eric’s experience taking and not taking medication for his depression Whole health wellness Suicide Don’t choose a permanent solution to a temporary problem How suicide doesn’t end the pain – it transfers it to someone else Gabe Howard Links: gabehoward.com Twitter Facebook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Lauren Zander is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker and co-founder and chairwoman of The Handel Group. Her book, Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life is what she and Eric discuss in this episode. Lauren has an incredibly useful approach to uncovering your limiting inner dialogue so that you can truly catapult yourself forward in life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait - there's more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It's that simple and we'll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Lauren Zander and I Discuss... Her book, Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life. Getting conscious of the unconscious parts of yourself Her life-changing moment at 19 How much of what is plaguing a person is in their inner dialogue The strategist in your head That over 80% of our thoughts are negative and repeating from the day before The chicken, the brat, the weather reporter Keeping promises to yourself Integrity and spirituality Consequences Accountability Lauren Zander Links: handelgroup.com Twitter Facebook FabFitFun: FabFitFun is a seasonal subscription box delivered 4 times a year with full-sized beauty, fashion, home, fitness, and wellness products for just $49.99 a box - though the box is valued at more than $200. Eric's girlfriend is honestly obsessed. You don't want to miss the upcoming fall box. Use the code FEED to get $10 off your first box www.fabfitfun.com Westin - their reason for being is to help you travel well - eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Father Richard Rohr is a globally recognized ecumenical teacher bearing witness to the universal awakening within Christian mysticism and the Perennial Tradition. He’s a Franciscan priest in the New Mexico Provence and the founder of the Center for Action and Contemplation in Albuquerque. In this episode, Eric and Father Richard discuss his most recent book, The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Father Richard Rohr and I Discuss… His book, The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe What the word “Christ” means for him How God loves things by becoming them, by uniting with them That a mature Christian sees Christ in everything and everyone else The notion of God IN all things vs God IS all things How Christ is a stand-in for everything Focusing on the death of Christ and missing the life of Christ When God hides his face The difference between spiritual darkness and depression A loss of the feeling of faith in God isn’t the same thing as a loss of faith in God How distraction doesn’t make you happy God uses 3 things to draw us out of ourselves: goodness, truth and beauty Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful How God uses evil for your transformation That Jesus punishes nobody When you return in kind – like Michael and the dragon – you become the dragon The 2 virtues you need to move forward on the spiritual path: humility and honesty Father Richard Rohr Links: Center for Action and Contemplation Twitter Facebook Westin – their reason for being is to help you travel well – eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.com Phlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com/wolf and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set DoorDash – Don’t worry about dinner, let dinner come to you with DoorDash. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code WOLF If you liked this episode with Father Richard Rohr, you might also enjoy listening to these earlier interviews: Richard Rohr – Part 1 (2017) Richard Rohr – Part 2 (2017) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Maia Szalavitz is an American reporter and author who has focused much of her work on the topic of addiction. She is the co-author of Born for Love and The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, both with Dr. Bruce D. Perry. Her latest book is Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction In this paradigm-shifting interview, Maia Szalavitz explains that addiction is a learning disorder, a developmental disorder, which is a different way of thinking of addiction than it being a disease or a moral failing. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Maia Szalavitz and I Discuss… Her book, Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction That your brain becomes what it does – that the more you repeat an activity, the easier it becomes How addiction is a developmental disorder and how learning is critical to addiction The problems with discussion about addiction as a disease Arguing that addiction is a disease and then treating it like a moral failing Addiction resets your priorities and causes one to make different decisions Addiction = compulsive behavior that continues despite negative consequences How illogical it is then to try and address addiction by focusing on implementing additional negative consequences The complexity of addiction, genes + culture + timing The developmental history that gets you to addiction How the drug isn’t the problem and our efforts to get rid of it isn’t a helpful solution Addiction as a learning disorder that is characterized by a resistance to punishment The problem with “rock bottom” is it’s not helpful scientifically, and it implies a moral component of having to reach a point of extreme degradation before you can stop. What the motivation is that turns people to recovery How addicts keep using because they can’t see how they can survive any other way Recovery begins when you start to see that there are other options People with addiction are living at a point of learned helplessness The role of hope and other ways of managing their life Addiction as a coping mechanism The pleasures of the hunt vs the pleasures of the feast Wanting vs Liking Different motivational states Addiction as escalating wanting Stimulants and chasing that satisfaction The effectiveness and usefulness of 12 Step Programs The role of medicine in a developmental disorder Looking at addicts as students who need to learn better coping skills rather than sinners who need to be forced to repent. Maia Szalavitz Links: maiasz.com Twitter Calm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription Peloton – Looking for a new way to get your cardio in? The Peloton bike will make you rethink the way you look at cycling classes! Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with purchase of a bike. Westin – Westin resorts have wellness offerings that are curated just for you to help you eat, move and sleep well. Explore at westin.com If you enjoyed this conversation with Maia Szalavitz, you might also enjoy these other episodes! Dr. Gabor Mate’ Judson Brewer See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hal Gregersen is the Executive Director of the Leadership Center at MIT. He is a prolific author and motivational speaker recognized by Thinkers 500 as one of the World’s 50 Most Innovative Minds. In this episode, Eric and Hal discuss his book, Questions are the Answer: A Breakthrough Approach to Your Most Vexing Problems at Work and in Life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Hal Gregersen and I Discuss… His book, Questions are the Answer: A Breakthrough Approach to Your Most Vexing Problems at Work and in Life That whether we know it or not, we’re all living questions Keystone questions Shadow questions How he discovered his questions The heart attack that changed his life His shadow questions Asking better questions Competing Commitments Underlying assumptions Alexander Papaderos How if you want better answers, you’ve got to ask better questions That if you feel stuck you’re probably asking the wrong question Brainstorming questions without answering them Why we don’t ask good questions Catalytic questions that challenge false assumptions How wanting to be right and smart stops us from getting to better questions What if you woke up and asked, what am I dead wrong about today? That if you’re not making big enough mistakes, you’re not trying hard enough The danger of moving into smaller and smaller tribes that are founded on being right Actively seeking passive data – observing and listening The power of the pause Listening to understand vs listening to defend How can I find and reflect the light in you? Hal Gregersen Links: halgregersen.com Twitter Daily Harvest – they deliver absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more to get 3 cups free in your first box. Visit www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code: FEED TalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get 65% off your first month. The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial If you enjoyed this conversation with Hal Gregersen, you might also enjoy these other episodes! John Zertasky Skip Prichard See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Eric Tivers is a licensed clinical social worker, coach, podcaster, speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He specializes in ADHD and has worked extensively with individuals on the autism spectrum. His podcast is ADHD reWired and in this episode, Eric and Eric talk about the experience of being an Adult with ADHD. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Eric Tivers and I Discuss… How he separates “mind” and “brain” ADHD in Adults Impulsivity and Hyperactivity Inattention and Distractability How people with ADHD aren’t lazy – according to brain scans The diagnostic criteria for ADHD The multimodal treatment approach for ADHD His experience with Adderall The lie of “I’ll remember that” Time wisdom The importance of Exercise, Sleep Separate decision from action The wisdom in flipping a coin A disorder of self-regulation Accountability The anatomy of a to-do list Vision verbing Why cue Life on hard mode – but we can do hard things Eric Tivers Links: ADHDreWired.com Twitter Facebook YouTube Blinkist – Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7-day free trial. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cindy Stulberg is an internationally respected psychologist and is the Director of The Institute of Interpersonal Psychotherapy which provides psychological assessment and counseling for individuals and couples, groups and families and has done so for the past 35 years. In this episode, Cindy and Eric discuss her book, Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Cindy Stulberg and I Discuss… Her book, Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy That your relationships hold the key to your happiness Interpersonal Psychotherapy The areas of life that trigger a depressive episode Drawing your social circle and asking questions about them How to build your social circle Conversation starters The difference between feelings and moods Questions for emotional enlightenment Getting input from others when looking to do things differently for them to make things better Paying attention to how you feel The question: What’s the best, worst and most likely outcome? Linking rigid expectations to happiness How you can’t expect 1 person to meet all your needs Cindy Stulberg Links: The Institute of Interpersonal Psychotherapy Twitter Facebook Phlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.com/wolf and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set Quip – Comes in an easy carrying case making it a great portable electric toothbrush – with timed settings to make brushing easy. It starts at just $25. Go to www.getquip.com/wolf to get your first refill pack for free The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Amy Banks Eric Maisel See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Claire Booth is an entrepreneur, author, and speaker. She’s the founder and CEO of the market research firm Lux Insights with two decades of experience serving some of the worlds most recognized brands. In this episode, Eric and Claire discuss her book, The Achiever Fever Cure: How I Learned to Stop Striving Myself Crazy. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Claire Booth and I Discuss… Her book, The Achiever Fever Cure: How I Learned to Stop Striving Myself Crazy Her experience of learning to love her bad wolf Keeping her inner house clean The anxiety, depression, and insomnia that came with her constant achieving The difference between achiever fever and achieving I’ll be happy when… The craving mindset of achieving How every leader in her business has a coach The importance of a coach The questions we ask ourselves, the stories we tell ourselves – that we need someone to poke holes in them Her inner critic – the judge The left brain interpreter Checking your thoughts for truth Asking if your thought could be defended 100% in a court of law Asking yourself, who would I be without that thought? Cognitive Bias Asking yourself “Would my life be better if I wasn’t drinking?” The feeling of worry How she is able to let go of worry Claire Booth Links: www.clairebooth.com Twitter Facebook Goodreads Calm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription. Peloton – Looking for a new way to get your cardio in? The Peloton bike will make you rethink the way you look at cycling classes! Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with purchase of a bike. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adyashanti is an American born spiritual teacher devoted to serving the awakening of all beings. His teachings are an open invitation to stop, inquire and recognize what is true and liberating at the core of all existence. Adyashanti also runs the Omega retreat which Eric has taken part in many times. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part interview, Eric and Adya continue their conversation about his latest book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss… How his relationship to his wife has become more of a mystery over their 23 years together The role of play and being silly How our spiritual striving can get in the way – in meditation, specifically How meditation is the relinquishing of an agenda The way we engage with the mystery of being The curiosity that was sparked when he realized he was a mystery unto himself That spirituality is an experiential encounter with the unknown The paradox we’re embracing with meditation Start meditation by listening to the quiet spaces inside, let go of trying to control what’s happening in your mind When you realize you’re lost in thought during meditation, kindly and gently encourage your attention back to your meditation anchor or listening Observe your relationship with failure – or things going some other way than the way you want them to – during meditation Gratitude for popping out of the dream or trance state Encountering life attitudes during meditation Spiritual insight during real life – what do you value at any given moment? Chasing a spiritual high Asking “what am I in service to?” Not having to have the feeling in order to engage in right action Adyshanti Links: adyashanti.org Twitter Facebook Instagram The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial TalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get your first week free! If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Adyashanti (Part 1) 2018 Adyashanti (Part 2) 2018 Adyashanti (2017) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adyashanti is an American born spiritual teacher devoted to serving the awakening of all beings. His teachings are an open invitation to stop, inquire and recognize what is true and liberating at the core of all existence. Adyashanti also runs the Omega retreat which Eric has taken part in many times. In this episode, Eric and Adya talk about his latest book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss… His book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life Attention and Intention The inquiry at any given time: Where are we giving our attention to? Considering the question: What is worthwhile orienting your life around? The limitations that come with aging How the definition of happiness changes as we age Wholeness of being Life as it is rather than the image of life Two interpretations of the fact that sometimes those who are the most unhappy tend to be seeking happiness the most Shooting for meaning rather than happiness How meaning is an experience of being The inquiry: What am I in service to? That we don’t seem to do well as human beings when we live exclusively for ourselves What does it mean to really serve what you realize (rather than trying to realize more and more) The mistaken thinking that an act of service must be grand in scale or scope or must be visible to really count or matter How it’s easy to be noble when you are noticed but in most of our lives that’s not what’s taking place That giving time and attention when someone needs it can make for transformative moments Seeing the importance of the things you do in your life now that are in service That you can’t make yourself awaken but what you do DOES have an impact – it’s just indirect The yearning itself comes from the very thing we’re yearning for (in terms of awakening) Adyshanti Links: adyashanti.org Twitter Facebook Instagram Daily Harvest – they deliver absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more! To get 3 cups free in your first box, visit www.daily-harvest.com and enter promo code: FEED FabFitFun is a seasonal subscription box delivered 4 times a year with full-sized beauty, fashion, home, fitness, and wellness products for just $49.99 a box – though the box is valued at more than $200. The summer box is valued at over $400! Eric’s girlfriend absolutely loved the box they sent and has already signed up to receive their fall box. Use the code FEED to get $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com Phlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Adyashanti (Part 1) 2018 Adyashanti (Part 2) 2018 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Donna Hylton is a women’s rights activist and criminal justice reform advocate. Donna speaks publicly about the issues facing incarcerated women and girls and the significant impact the significant increase in the female prison population is having on families, children and our communities. Her book, “A Little Piece of Light: A Memoir of Hope, Prison, and a Life Unbound” tells the story of the childhood abuse she endured, the spiral of events that lead to her incarceration and how she learned to live, love and trust all over again. In this episode, Donna shares some deeply personal stories of her traumatic past and how she found her voice to help other victims of violence and abuse. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Donna Hylton and I Discuss… Her book, “A Little Piece of Light: A Memoir of Hope, Prison, and a Life Unbound” Navigating the good times and bad times of her early childhood. Finding the courage to ask for help. How she ran track in high school as a way to “run away” How we must talk about these painful stories to get to the root causes. How dealing with trauma does something to our psyche. Believing we don’t have value can be reinforced by those around you. Dealing with the difficult relationship with her daughter, who was the result of rape Years of therapy and healing helped find that place of light inside herself. How talking about the trauma releases the pain instead of holding on to it. How we need to face the trauma, try to understand it and then try to stop it. When you’re young, you believe that what happens around you is your fault and therefore often make the same mistakes because you don’t know how to rationalize what is happening. How she became a wounded healer. How she started healing and forgiving herself when she went to prison. How she became an advocate for the sick women in prison after losing a close friend. Realizing she could no longer stand by or stay silent when something bad happened to others. How she helped bring counseling, educational and other care programs into the prison system. Saying goodbye to the little girl inside who was silent Embracing the little girl inside who found her voice We are not the worst moment in our lives, we’re not our mistakes We are human beings who have been through something Being part of the newly passed Domestic Violence Survivors Justice Act (DVSJA) which considers alternative sentencing or intervention for those convicted who have been victims of severe abuse. When a body is put under pressure, it’s going to react and do whatever it takes to survive Her source of unconditional love and truth, Sister Mary, who helped her to become the activist she is today. How “we can connect deeply with humanity if we look through the eyes of love and compassion” We were created in love and beauty is all around us if we can just recognize it. Peloton – Looking for a new way to get in your cardio? The Peloton bike will make you rethink the way you look at cycling classes! Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with purchase of a bike! The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

David Kadavy is a best selling author, blogger, podcaster and speaker. Through his blogging and podcasting, he helps people find satisfaction through following their crafts even if it takes them down an unconventional path. His book, The Heart to Start: Stop Procrastinating and Start Creating, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. If you ever struggle with procrastination, you’ll find this episode helpful, informative, inspiring and empowering. There’s some real, practical wisdom here that will enable you to get started with whatever it is that you want to do in your life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, David Kadavy and I Discuss… His book, The Heart to Start: Stop Procrastinating and Start Creating How to get started The things that stand in the way of us starting What it means to be creative, or to create The resistance that comes from the ego surrounding getting started Motivational Judo Tricks to get yourself to just get started Give yourself permission to suck You can’t do good work without doing bad work first Perfection paralysis What happens when the scale of a creative project is too big Fortress fallacy The role of curiosity in getting started Balancing exploitation and exploration Following your curiosities David Kadavy Links: davidkadavy.net Facebook Twitter Calm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription Capterra – find the right software for your business – read thousands of real software reviews. Capterra is the leading free online resource to find the tools to make an informed software decision for your business. Software selection simplified. Go to www.capterra.com/wolf for free today Quip – looking for a gift for a dad or a grad? Give them the gift of good oral hygiene made automatic, affordable and easy. Go to www.getquip.com/wolf and get your refill pack for free If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Tim Pychyl Tim Urban See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alan Castel, Ph.D. is a professor in the Department of Psychology at The University of California Los Angeles. His research focuses on how cognition changes with age and how people selectively remember important events. His work has been supported by the National Institute on Aging and has been featured in The New York Times and Time Magazine. In this episode, Eric and Alan discuss his book, Better with Age: The Psychology of Successful Aging. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Alan Castel, Ph.D. and I Discuss… His book, Better with Age: The Psychology of Successful Aging How mindset matters in aging Role models in successful aging That life can get better with ageSocio-Emotional Selectivity Theory The realization that time is finite The ways that life can get better the older we get What helps prevent cognitive decline That older adults often have less regret than younger adult How we’re better at focusing on what’s important as we age Walking or getting physical exercise (getting blood flow to the brain) is key in preventing cognitive decline The importance of balance training when it comes to healthy aging How illuminating it is to test your balance How helpful it is to be around people who do the things that we’re looking to do in our lives The challenges that come with retirement – and how to overcome them The middle way as it applies to retirement The two most important things in life Alan Castel, Ph.D. Links: memory & lifespan cognition lab google scholar Netsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolf Phlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial. If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Jonathan Rauch Parker J. Palmer See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mary O’Malley is an author, teacher, and counselor whose work awakens others to the joy of being fully alive. Her inspired and transformative approach to compulsions offers a way to replace fear, hopelessness, and struggle with ease, well-being, and joy. Through her individual counseling and coaching, books, classes, retreats, and ongoing groups, Mary invites people to experience the miracle of awakening. Acknowledged as a leader in the field of Awakening by many Mary clearly sees both the big picture and the details of human patterns and conditioning. She possesses an extraordinary ability to understand and connect with people. And she is skilled in empowering people to work with difficult mind states resulting in greater inner awareness and presence and a greater capacity for joy. Eckhart Tolle says, “Thank you, Mary, for your contribution to the evolution of human consciousness.” Her latest book is called What’s In the Way, Is the Way: A Practical Guide to Awakening. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Mary O’Malley and I Discuss… The intertwining of good and bad, the yin and yang Dealing with eating problems How what we fight, we empower Creating a relationship with the dark side The impact of the early years of our lives The conditioned self How we are addicted to struggle Being present to life instead of thinking our way through life The “low-grade suffering” that permeates our lives The storyteller in our minds The Four Lets Learning to not listen so closely to the storyteller in our mind The difference between being here for life and being in a conversation about life The power of curiosity The 8 core spells that we tell ourselves Look to Unhook The power of human attention to heal Sticking with these practices even when it seems to be going slow Watching for tightness in yourself as a trigger to let go Learning to be here for whatever life presents The gift of our compulsions Having a set of beliefs that empower us versus take our power away Life is set up to bring up what is bound up so we can open up to be freed up so can show up for life Not being the victim of life Having the ability to come back to the heart Mary O’Malley Links: maryomalley.com twitter facebook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ruth Whippman is a regular contributor to radio shows, television, and podcasts, having made appearances on shows including NPR’s Brian Lehrer Show, To the Point, CBS news and Morning Edition amongst many others. She is also a regular speaker and has given talks at Google, Princeton University and UC Berkeley as well as many other venues. Her book is, America the Anxious: How Our Pursuit of Happiness is Creating a Nation of Nervous Wrecks and it is this – along with the flaws of the self help that she and Eric talk about in this episode. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Ruth Whippman and I Discuss... Her book, America the Anxious: How Our Pursuit of Happiness is Creating a Nation of Nervous Wrecks How many people in the self-help industry are trying to sell easy answers and life is incredibly complex Sitting with a certain amount of complexity in life The flaws with studies The one thing consistent across all research and people’s experience about happiness The American tradition of self-reliance The victim blaming myth that we’re completely responsible for how we feel That circumstances absolutely play a role in our degree of happiness What’s behind the positive psychology movement How we need to think of well being as a shared responsibility That it’s easy to lose compassion when you go too far down the road of “your happiness is completely within your control and completely your responsibility” The flaws in The Law of Attraction theory How to cope with the anxiety-producing stuff going on in the news The importance of social support, community, and connection The challenges of social media Ruth Whippman Links: ruthwhippman.com twitter facebook instagram The Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get a free trial with access to their entire library at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Netsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolf If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Jonathan Rauch Paul Dolan Michelle Gielan See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Skip Prichard is the fifth president of OCLC, a global library cooperative that supports thousands of libraries in making information more accessible and more useful to people around the world. Among Skip’s many passions is his leadership insights blog where he interviews authors and thought leaders and shares his views on a number of topics. His new book is The Book of Mistakes: 9 Secrets to Creating a Successful Future. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Skip Prichard and I Discuss… His book, The Book of Mistakes: 9 Secrets to Creating a Successful Future How what you focus on grows That he looks at everybody as a teacher The riddle that’s perplexed him throughout his life Success is when you’re filled with ambition and peace in equal measure at the same time The mistake of accepting excuses Built-in personal accountability How nobody but you can work on your healing Ok, that happened – what are you going to do about it The microphone in our mind Allowing temporary setbacks to become permanent failures Having Grit The very real pain of failure How do you keep going through despair, failure, depression – it’s resilience Are you showing up to the people in the room intentionally? Skip Prichard Links: www.skipprichard.com twitter facebook Calm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription The Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get a free trial with access to their entire library at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Quip – Check out the new kid’s Quip! Now the whole family can brush using an affordable and effective Quip toothbrush Go to www.getquip.com/wolf to get your refill pack for free If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Sam Weinman Emma Seppala Carol Dweck See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist who helps millions calm their anxiety and be their authentic selves through her award-winning podcast, The Savvy Psychologist, and in the clinic at Boston University’s Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders. In this episode, she and Eric discuss her debut book is, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. If you suffer from social anxiety, you will learn a lot of practical tools to use to help you overcome it and suffer less. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen and I Discuss… Her book, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety The positive qualities that often accompany social anxiety in a person That the opposite of social anxiety is actually psychopathy The neuroscience of social anxiety How if you face your fears you can change your brain The problematic nature of avoidance when it comes to social anxiety Overt avoidance Covert avoidance Thinking that the worst case scenario is a foregone conclusion Avoidance means we never see what actually happens The inner critic The buckets that the Inner Critic likes to attack: Appearance, the Signs of Anxiety Themselves, Social Skills, One’s Entire Personality Social Anxiety Mad Libs: When I ______, it will become obvious that I _______ The tool, Replace Anxiety is vague – ask, what particular thing are you afraid of? 4 Magic Questions: What’s the worst that can happen? How bad is that? What are the odds that the worst case scenario will actually happen? How will I cope?/What will I do? The tool, Embrace The role of mindfulness in anxiety Making your inner world a kinder, more hospitable environment Self-compassion Creating structure in our social situations – giving yourself a mission to fulfill, a purpose, a goal Dr. Ellen Hendrisken Links: ellenhendriksen.com twitter Netsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolf Phlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.com. Enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off your first custom sampler set. The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Johann Hari Matthew Quick Eric Maisel See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sister Joan Chittister is a Benedictine Sister of Erie, Pennsylvania. She is the author of over 50 books and is the winner of 14 Catholic Press Association Awards. Sister Joan is an international speaker who inspires both her audience and readers with her passion for justice, equality, and peace – especially for women, in both society and the church. In this episode, Eric and Sister Joan discuss her book, Radical Spirit: 12 Ways to Live a Free and Authentic Life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Sister Joan Chittister and I Discuss… Her book, Radical Spirit: 12 Ways to Live a Free and Authentic Life How words matter That experiences matter Humility as the cornerstone of spirituality The sanctification of the humble spirit Self-superiority in American culture Be who you are, know who you are, respect others around you and take your place in the human race Humility is having an accurate picture of who you are Her take on AA How holiness is the same everywhere That narcissism is a disease in our culture Being willing to face yourself How self-deprecation and self-aggrandizement are really the same things Not thinking about yourself all the time The burden of self That we’re looking for freedom Obedience as she defines it – it doesn’t mean we submit our souls to an authority figure. It’s grounded in the Latin word which means “to listen” How each of us grows into the ability to listen Endurance and Stability That you can’t rush your own development We become to be of service to others How nothing of value spiritually comes overnight The role of community in one’s great breakdowns in life Sister Joan Chittister Links: joanchittister.org Capterra – find the right software for your business – read thousands of real software reviews. Capterra is the leading free online resource to find the tools to make an informed software decision for your business. Software selection simplified. Go to www.capterra.com/wolf for free today For Hers makes convenient, affordable access to birth control available for all women. You get access to licensed doctors online who can evaluate you and if appropriate, prescribe you birth control that can be delivered directly to your door. The One You Feed listeners get their first month of For Hers birth control for just $5 (see website for full details) www.forhers.com/wolf TalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code WOLF to get your first week free See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Donna Cameron has spent her career working with non-profit organizations and causes as an executive, consultant, a trainer and a volunteer. She’s the recipient of multiple awards an has published numerous articles. In 2011 she co-authored a book with Kristen Leathers called One Hill, Many Voices: Stories of Hope and Healing. In this interview, Donna and Eric discuss her book, A Year of Living Kindly: Choices That Will Change Your Life and the World Around You. You’ll hear insights into what it means, feels like and looks like to live kindly and your perspective on kindness will be broadened and enriched – possibly even changed – as a result. **Spiritual Habits Workshop – Enrollment ends 4/21/19! There’s still time to discover how spiritual habits connect you back to your deepest, truest self. Learn how to put personalized Spiritual Habits to work in your life in a special, one-time program with Eric and a small group of listeners. Click here for more information: thespiritualhabit.com Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Donna Cameron and I Discuss… Her book, A Year of Living Kindly: Choices That Will Change Your Life and the World Around You That incivility is contagious That kindness is contagious Listening for the missed note instead of the music Playing “Gotcha” in the way you look at life The negativity bias The power of kindness The difference between nice and kind Her year of living kindly and blogging about it Quantifying the benefits of kindness Being indifferent and still being nice How you can’t be indifferent and still be kind That it takes courage to be kind, it doesn’t take courage to be nice Extending yourself beyond what is comfortable Caring, making an effort without worrying about getting anything in return The chasm between kindness and unkindness Not being unkind doesn’t mean that you are being kind Keeping score and being kind That when we say yes to one thing means we’re saying no to something else The health business of kindness How kindness alleviates social anxiety Employing curiosity instead of judging people – “I wonder what’s going on in their lives?” Various kindness practices Practicing a pause Asking yourself “What is the kind response here?” Receiving graciously as an act of kindness Donna Cameron Links: ayearoflivingkindly.com Facebook Twitter Robinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options, and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, you can get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to youfeed.robinhood.com Quip has guiding features that are a built-in support system for better brushing and it’s an affordable $25 www.getquip.com/wolf get your first refill pack for free The Great Courses Plus offers thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere. Get a FREE trial and lock into their lowest price of $10 per month (50% off the regular price!) when you sign up for a 3-month plan thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Johann Berlin Barbara Bonner See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is the co-founder of the Center for Mindful Living in West Los Angeles and is the creator of the 6-month Coaching and Mentorship Program: A Course in Mindful Living. He's a psychologist and international speaker and mindfulness educator. He's written many books and in this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self Compassion. There are so many practical approaches and new perspectives in this episode. We think you'll get a lot of useful information out of the conversation. Spiritual Habits connect you back to your deepest, truest self. Learn how to put personalized Spiritual Habits to work in your life in a special, one-time program with Eric and a small group of listeners. Learn more here: thespiritualhabit.com Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Elisha Goldstein and I Discuss… His book, Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self Compassion That what you practice and repeat is what you get Depression Triggers and Depression Cures Thoughts, Emotions, Sensations, and Behaviors The triangle of awareness Procedural memory The habit loop being like a traffic circle with 4 entry points The way our brain associates things The way our nervous system is overwhelmed when we’re experiencing depression Avoidance and depression How naming something gives us a little space and perspective How naming something actually changes the activity in our brain Perspective-making tools The way journaling objectifies your experiences Natural anti-depressants Mindfulness: a state of engaged curiosity Relating to your experience differently through mindfulness, self-compassion, play, compassion, purpose, and mastery The growth mindset and the fixed mindset Practicing being curious in your daily life to cultivate a growth mindset How a learning mindset is related to a growth mindset The importance of play How to discover what kind of play you might enjoy as an adult Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Links: Mindful Living Collective Facebook Twitter YouTube Channel See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices