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Adreanna Limbach is a head-teacher at MNDFL Meditation Studios in New York City. Adreanna’s work has been featured in the New York Times, Women’s Health, Refinery 29, and Yoga Journal. Her new book is, Tea and Cake with Demons: A Buddhist Guide to Feeling Worthy. In this episode, Adreanna and Eric talk about how to be more skillful in the ways in which we relate to our “demons” – in other words, how we can go about befriending difficult feelings. You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Adreanna Limbach and I discuss Befriending our Difficult Feelings and… Her book, Tea and Cake with Demons: A Buddhist Guide to Feeling Worthy How difficult it was for her to write her book How hard it is to create anything The value of tenacity The story her book is based on How our demons, or difficult feelings, can be very personal but they all look a lot alike The unskillful ways that we deal with our difficult feelings Asking our demons “what do you have to teach me?” How questions open things while answers shut them down Identifying your “exit” when you’re feeling uncomfortable in your own skin The 4 Noble Truths of Buddhism Adreanna Limbach Links: adreannalimbach.com Facebook Instagram Seed: Scientifically validated, next-generation probiotics. Their mission: to bring much-needed precision, efficacy, and education to the global probiotics market. Go to www.seed.com/wolf or use promo code WOLF for 15% off your first month of The Daily Symbiotic. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So many of us are feeling angry for a myriad of reasons amidst the COVID-19 pandemic. To help us better understand and work with our anger, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for a special edition of The One You Feed Podcast about anger. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode featuring 4 “mini-interviews” is the result. These are all new conversations with previous guests, Rick Hanson, Hilary Jacobs Hendel, Ruth King, and David Richo. You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help In This Episode, We discuss How to Work with Anger and… That anger is a natural and normal response Utilizing anger rather than letting anger utilize us How anger can feel good in the moment but it corrodes over time Finding peace when confronted with the truth of uncertainty Mindfully noticing and naming our anger Anger being triggered by perceived danger and it readies us for a fight The danger of blocking our anger That we feel anger as energy that wants to get out Using fantasy to release the energy of anger When calm, making a list of “state-changers” for yourself Noticing our coping strategies in the face of things we can’t control The critical choice of what to do with the energy of anger Being informed by our anger instead of reacting out of it Channeling the energy in constructive ways rather than damaging ways Getting curious about what the anger is trying to tell us – rather than focusing on what it’s saying about other people Getting fiercely clear about rather than ablaze in the fire of our anger When we’re in the anger, we lose touch with how it’s impacting our bodies Setting the intention of doing no harm That fear is often underneath anger Not acting out of anger because it can be abusive Links to Other Episodes: Rick Hanson Hilary Jacobs Hendel Ruth King David Richo See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help As the COVID-19 pandemic intensified earlier this week, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for two special edition episodes of The One You Feed Podcast. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode is the second of those two episodes. These mini-interviews are with 6 leaders in the realms of mental health and spirituality. Eric talks with each of them about how to deal with difficult thoughts and offers practical strategies for emotional health during these challenging times. These are all new conversations with previous guests, Parker Palmer, Mirabai Starr, Lewis Howes, Steven C. Hayes, Scott Stabile, and Sharon Salzberg. In This Special Episode, We discuss Strategies for Emotional Health and… Turning our attention to those who are vulnerable and need our help The connection between anxiety and uncertainty Accepting the truth that there are many things we cannot control Being attentive to what we can control How reflecting on and learning from suffering can be therapeutic That dissolution is a good thing: You’ve lost an illusion and you’re that much closer to reality How to abide in a space of not knowing The paradox of actively helping the situation by doing less, staying put and slowing down Reorienting to what we really need vs. our tendencies towards overconsumption How to be mindful and Feed Our Good Wolf during a time of crisis That constantly seeing crisis media alerts is like seeing a car crash every 2 minutes – we benefit from placing boundaries on how often we consume media coverage Creating meaning amidst suffering How psychological flexibility can help us move through difficulty How to move through a crisis so that you come out of it with post-traumatic growth Ways to work with your anger towards others during this crisis Ways to work with your fear about this crisis The helpful pillars of self-care that can really support us in crisis Looking for ourself in others to bring empathy What it means to connect to our hearts and souls The importance of giving yourself grace and forgiveness during a crisis How loving-kindness meditation can help us How staying home can mimic the effects of a reflective retreat A guided meditation from Sharon Salzberg Calm App The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you're looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com Laurel Springs: An accredited online private school for students K-12. Personalize the learning program and learning schedule for your unique child with Laurel Springs' diverse and enriched curriculum. Register your child at www.laurelsprings.com/wolf and receive a waived registration fee. Links to Other Episodes: Parker J. Palmer Mirabai Starr Lewis Howes Steven C. Hayes Scott Stabile Sharon Salzberg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As the COVID-19 pandemic intensified earlier this week, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for a special edition of The One You Feed Podcast. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode is the result. These mini-interviews are with 4 experts on the subject of human behavior and Eric talks with each of them about how we might go about structuring our time, environment and mindset on living and working from home. These are all new conversations with previous guests, David Kadavy Charlie Gilkey, Chris Bailey, and Liz Fosslien You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/help In This Episode, We discuss… How to set boundaries for yourself in your time, space, and mind The Pomodoro Method Ways to divide your physical space for work Setting up mental boundaries to get into and out of a work mindset Misdiagnosing distractions when they’re actually challenges of competing priorities Pre-work, lunchtime, and post-work routines Making your environment work for you That your environment matters more than your willpower over the long term How to be productive while in crisis mode Replacing your commute-to-work time with self-care activities Best practices for consuming the news while working from home How it’s ok to feel feelings during this difficult time Best practices for managing people Deciding the next day’s priorities at the end of the previous day Not letting praise be something that gets lost while working virtually Emotionally proof-reading your messages before sending See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor at The University of Texas at Austin’s Department of Educational Psychology. With her partner Chris Germer, she has developed an empirically-supported training program called Mindful Self-Compassion that is taught by thousands of teachers worldwide. She co-authored The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook as well as the book, Teaching the Mindful Self Compassion Program: A Guide For Professionals. In this episode, Kristin and Eric dive into the topic of self-compassion and discuss what it is and isn’t. Kristin also shares how to practice self compassion as well as leads listerns through a self-compassion practice. The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Kristin Neff and I discuss Self Compassion and… Her book, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook That what we practice grows stronger The science of contemplative practice What self-compassion is Treating yourself with the same kindness you’d show to a dear friend Starting with mindfulness The connectedness of compassion The fact that we suffer unites us as human beings Quintessential question, “What do I need?” Myths of self-compassion and how it is a powerful antidote to shame The Inner Ally vs. Inner Enemy Constructive self-criticism How to practice and the physiology of self compassion. The self-compassion break Why and how self-criticism harms us Kristin Neff Links: selfcompassion.org Twitter Facebook Daily Harvest delivers delicious organic, carefully sourced, and chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box, go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for free shipping and a 60-day risk-free trial. If you enjoyed this conversation with Kristin Neff, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Kristin Neff (2015) Guy Winch Elisha Goldstein See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Eric talks about how to best deal with fear during these uncertain times See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Norman Fischer is a poet, author, Zen Buddhist teacher and priest. He’s a graduate of Iowa’s Writer’s Workshop and he’s been publishing poetry since 1979. He’s the author of 17 books of poetry, 6 books of prose on Zen and religion as well as numerous articles and essays. In this episode, Eric and Norman discuss his book, The World Could Be Otherwise: Imagination and the Bodhisattva Path. If you are interested in learning more about how to integrate and embody spiritual principles into the moments of your daily life, Eric teaches people how to do just that in his 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. Click here to learn more. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Norman Fischer and I discuss Spiritual Growth through Imagination and… His book, The World Could Be Otherwise: Imagination and the Bodhisattva Path Redefining imagination and discovering it’s prevalence and role in life The role of imagination in spiritual paths How we don’t see the world exactly as it is, but rather through filters Loosening our grasp on what we think of as absolute reality Constructing useful stories in our mind rather than living by our default stories The essential ways in which imagination enriches the experience of our lives When we realize we are making our lives for ourselves, we have the power to make it differently The Bodhisattva: A Buddha in training Compassion, Love and Service for the benefit of others The Bodhisattva Path The myth of separateness and the truth of interconnection and love That holding two (seemingly contradictory) ideas in our mind at one time offers us depth perception How ideals can inspire us rather than put pressure on us The disease of perfectionism How to engage in “Joyful Effort” when you don’t feel very joyful and don’t have much effort to spare Patience: Just keep going and be of benefit to others Turning toward what’s arising: facing it, embracing it, breathing into it and going forward with it The problematic nature of favoring one’s own suffering over the suffering of others Norman Fischer Links: normanfischer.org Poems by Norman Fischer Essays by Norman Fischer Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Blinkist: Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less (audio available too!) go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7-day free trial and then save 25% off your new subscription if you decide to sign up! Talkspace: the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month. If you enjoyed this conversation with Norman Fischer on Spiritual Growth through Imagination, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Shinzen Young Robert Wright Benjamin Shalva See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kamla Kapur is an award winning author, poet and playwright. She was born and raised in India and studied in the United States. Kamla now divides her time between living in the remote Indian Himalayas and in San Diego, California with her husband. She holds a Master’s Degree in Literature from Kent State University in Ohio and she studied Creative Writing at the University of Iowa. Kamla was on the faculty of Grossmont College in San Diego for 18 years and her stories, poems, and plays have been published in many prestigious Indian and American journals. In this episode, she and Eric use her new book, Rumi: Tales of the Spirit: A Journey to Healing the Heart, as a jumping off point to discuss the transformative powers we experience through various life experiences. If you are interested in learning more about how to integrate and embody spiritual principles into the moments of your daily life, Eric teaches people how to do just that in his 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. Click here to learn more. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Kamla Kapur and I discuss Transformative Powers in Life and… Her book, Rumi: Tales of the Spirit: A Journey to Healing the Heart The deep wound to Rumi’s heart that transformed him and brought forth his treasured body of work that we now know and love How suffering can be our greatest tutor and guide in life The idea of expansion and contraction in our lives That when your heart breaks, it breaks open How suffering can open us up to being more aware and connected to our higher selves That those who transform as a result of their suffering are open to a different way of thinking as a result of the difficult things that happen to them The transformative powers of hope, joy, and love Rumi’s stories of characters embracing suffering How all suffering has the power to awaken us The transformative power of suffering The transformative power of acceptance How Rumi says, “When the candle of your youth dims, you have to light the candle of the spirit.” Actively ascending to our aging The awe and wonder of existence and the mystery of life that we as humans can perceive Kamla Kapur Links: kamlakkapur.com Twitter Instagram Facebook If you enjoyed this conversation with Kamla Kapur on Transformative Powers in Life, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Stephen Mitchell Mary O’Malley See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ryan Oelke is the co-founder of Buddhist Geeks and is the founder of Awakening In Life. Ryan is a meditation teacher with an MS.Ed. in Counseling Psychology and has 18 years of experience in meditation. He is also a certified teacher in Judith Blackstone’s Realization Process. In this episode, Ryan and Eric discuss using Radical Curiosity and embodying our experiences to Awaken In Life. If you are interested in learning more about how to integrate and embody spiritual principles into the moments of your daily life, Eric teaches people how to do just that in his 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. Click here to learn more. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Ryan Oelke and I discuss Awakening in Life and… Practicing Radical Curiosity Coming home to yourself as you are in this moment Being radically open to what is happening to fully see it How nothing collapses consciousness faster than judgment How being curious implies being engaged with the subject matter Awakening in Life Life as the opportunity to awaken Ways to integrate spiritual principles into the moments of our life Cultivating capacity through formal practice How to use the little moments that might otherwise be “thrown away” during the day That focusing on embodying our experience enables it to become more deeply our own How awakening in life is a responsive, integral path A prescriptive path/model vs. a responsive path/model Having a deep trust in your own experience Metta Dharma That the entire point of waking up in life could be to have an appropriate response. Ryan Oelke Links: ryanoelke.com Twitter Instagram Facebook Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial. Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Calm App The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation with Ryan Oelke on Awakening in Life, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Judith Blackstone Mary O’Malley Amoda Maa See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stephen Mitchell is an author and translator who has dedicated much of his life to Zen practice. Eric and Stephen have an in depth discussion about the questioning mind as well as his work of translating many famous texts, including the Tao Te Ching, Bhagavad Gita, and Rilke’s “Letters To a Young Poet”. Stephen has also co-authored many books with his wife, Byron Katie, who is a former guest on the show. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Stephen Mitchell and I Discuss the Questioning Mind and… The parable: how reality cannot be broken into good or bad, it’s just what is. When authentic action that is true to yourself becomes second nature, it’s an expression of your own reality. His wife Katie’s words, “when we believe our thoughts, we suffer; when we question our thoughts, we don’t.” Suffering can end when we awaken to the truth Distinguishing between pain, a physical phenomenon, and suffering, a mental phenomenon Suffering often comes from being stuck in an imagined past or imagined future His translation of the Heart Sutra that is about openness rather than emptiness The “don’t know” or questioning mind and how it doesn’t get stuck in judgement Being immersed in an intense formal Zen practice for 7 years His Koan studies that helped him get to a state of stillness and learn to hold the questioning mind without any content. Defining Koan studies as an existential problem meant to catapult the student into a space of questioning. If you can rest in that space of not knowing, the answer will present itself to you. The mind’s relationship with it’s contents Difference between the mind and what it thinks. We don’t suffer because of what happens to us, but rather how we think about what happens to us. Self inquiry and asking yourself the question, “Is it true”? How he learns the language of the text he’s translating. His work of translating is more than just learning the meaning of words, but also the music of the words. When translating text, his allegiance is to the spirit of the text and not just the literal meaning of the text. Joseph and the Way of Forgiveness: A Biblical Tale Retold is discussed in the post show conversation. Stephen Mitchell Links: stephenmitchellbooks.com Feals is premium CBD delivered to your doorstep that can help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolf Daily Harvest delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED Indeed: Millions of great candidates use Indeed every day to find their next opportunity. You can post a job in minutes and use screener questions to create your shortlist of qualified applicants fast. Skills tests for applicants are just one way Indeed helps you make smart hiring decisions quickly. Post your job today at www.indeed.com/wolf and get a free sponsored job upgrade on your first posting. If you enjoyed this conversation with Stephen Mitchell on the Questioning Mind, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Byron Katie Loch Kelly See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gretchen Rubin is one of today’s most influential and thought-provoking observers of happiness and human nature. Gretchen is known for her ability to distill and convey complex ideas with humor and clarity in a way that’s accessible to a wide audience. She is the author of many books which have sold over 3.5 million copies worldwide in more than 30 languages. She also has an award-winning podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin. In this episode, Eric and Gretchen talk about how being strategic and smart about the ways we approach our habits and behavior can radically impact our likelihood of success. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Gretchen Rubin and I Discuss Living Skillfully and… How feeding our bad wolf can feel easier sometimes How not eating sugar actually makes her feel better Abstainers and Moderators Trying different approaches until you find the one that works for you Decision fatigue The 4 Tendencies Model: the way people respond to expectations Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, Rebel Knowing your tendency type can help your tailor your approach and be more successful at living skillfully. Where personality comes from How much people can realistically change in life What and how much is really in our control The 21 Strategies of Habit Change How cravings inevitably come and go (rather than the myth that they build and build until they overwhelm us) Accepting yourself AND expecting more from yourself Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed Remrise is a personalized sleep solution that uses natural, plant-based formulas to help calm the mind, relax the body and get your circadian rhythm back on track. It’s drug-free and has no groggy side effects in the morning. To get 25% off your first month, go to www.getremrise.com/wolf and take their sleep quiz to determine which formulation is right for you. Phlur: Get a luxurious scent made with transparent, clean ingredients. Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first Phlur sampler set at www.phlur.com/wolf Gretchen Rubin Links: gretchenrubin.com Twitter Instagram Facebook If you enjoyed this conversation with Gretchen Rubin on Living Skillfully, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Ruth Whippman Jonathan Rauch See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fleet Maull is an author, consultant, trainer, meditation teacher and executive coach who facilitates deep transformation for individuals and organizations through his philosophy and program of Radical Responsibility. Fleet is a senior mindfulness meditation teacher in 2 highly respected traditions and is also a Roshi, or Zen Master, and dharma successor of Roshi Bernie Glassman of The Zen Peacemakers Community. In this episode, Eric and Fleet discuss his book, Radical Responsibility: How to Move Beyond Blame, Fearlessly Live Your Highest Purpose and Become An Unstoppable Force For Good. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Fleet Maull and I Discuss Radical Responsibility and… His book, Radical Responsibility: How to Move Beyond Blame, Fearlessly Live Your Highest Purpose and Become An Unstoppable Force For Good Our decision about whether or not to let fear set in Fear and Survival Based Reaction Getting into your body to become more grounded, heart-centered and responsive Fear is an intelligent, natural human emotion How to become more resilient Strategies and approaches that people can use to be less afraid The sympathetic and parasympathetic responses within us Breath awareness in addition to breathing techniques Neurosomatic mindfulness Default Mode Network and the Task-Positive Network in the brain How blame gives away our power Letting go of the agenda of trying to control the people in your life The difference between blame, fault, and ownership Moving from victim to survivor and how we can choose the attitude we bring to any situation Mindful self-compassion Fleet Maull Links: fleetmaull.com Twitter Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial. SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf Free shipping and a 60-day risk-free trial. Bombas: “The most comfortable socks on the planet” – Eric Zimmer www.bombas.com/wolf offer code wolf save 20% See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I love Mark Manson's weekly newsletter called "Motherf*ckin’ Monday" where he discusses three ideas about the mind, life or the world. This weeks episode had three important ideas that I wanted to discuss and debate to some degree with Mark. They are: 1. Your next big breakthrough is already here 2. Is the growth mindset just another fad? 3. Breakthroughs rarely feel good As someone who focuses on breakthroughs, transformations and slow changes over the time and someone who has gotten some mileage out of the growth mindset, I wanted to add my two cents to the discussion. I hope you enjoy. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sarah Wilson is a New York Times Bestselling author, journalist and founder of iquitsugar.com. She has published 15 I Quit Sugar books in 46 countries and in 2017 and 2018, she was ranked as one of the Top 200 Most Influential Authors In The World. At 29, Sarah was the Editor and Chief of Cosmopolitan Magazine Australia and she has also been the host of Master Chef Australia. Her newest book is, First, We Make the Beast Beautiful: A New Journey Through Anxiety and it is this that she and Eric discuss in this episode. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Sarah Wilson and I Discuss Anxiety and… Her book, First, We Make The Beast Beautiful: A New Journey Through Anxiety Where the mind goes, energy flows The idea of disconnection and reconnection in mental health How to know when the line into disordered anxiety has been crossed Understanding the role of medicine for anxiety, depression and other mental illnesses as well as the role of struggle in our inner life. The importance and role of therapy while also taking medication for mental disorders The dynamic, changing nature of actively supporting mental wellness Stopping the cycle of getting anxious about being anxious Sitting in your suffering and ride it out rather than trying to beat or escape it The slow approach for dealing with Anxiety How walking can help Anxiety Ways handwriting can help Anxiety Ways space can help Anxiety Spiritual idea of contraction vs expansion Asking yourself “Will this enlarge or contract my life?” Sarah Wilson Links: sarahwilson.com Twitter Instagram Facebook Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Indeed: Millions of great candidates use Indeed every day to find their next opportunity. You can post a job in minutes and use screener questions to create your shortlist of qualified applicants fast. Skills tests for applicants are just one way Indeed helps you make smart hiring decisions quickly. Post your job today at www.indeed.com/wolf and get a free sponsored job upgrade on your first posting. Calm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation with Sarah Wilson on Anxiety, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Dr. Ellen Hendriksen Matthew Quick See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Steven C. Hayes is one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and this is his second time on the show. This time, he and Eric discuss his new book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters. Dr. Hayes is a Professor of Psychology at The University of Nevada Reno. He’s the author of 43 books and more than 600 scientific articles. He’s served as the President of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapy and The Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. He is one of the most cited psychologists in the world. In this episode, Dr. Hayes teaches what psychological flexibility is, how to cultivate it, and the ways in which it can improve your life. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Steven C. Hayes and I Discuss Psychological Flexibility and… His book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters Asking “What is the problem we’re trying to solve?” Understanding what you really care about. Take what you’re really struggling with and flip it over, therefore allowing your pain to speak to you The lengths we go to in order to protect ourselves from hurt “Psychological Flexibility” vs “Psychological Rigidity” 6 processes or pivots that promote Psychological Flexibility The masks we put on to try and connect with others and belong in addition to our true belonging Pivoting from cognitive fusion to diffusion Thoughts as ongoing attempts at meaning-making The ability to think multiple things and be guided by what is useful Living according to your values as well as the qualities of being and doing Response Ability – deciding what this is about for you Accepting what we feel and committing to act according to our values Steven C. Hayes Links: stevenchayes.com Twitter Facebook Feals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolf Daily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED Phlur: Get a luxurious scent made with transparent, clean ingredients. Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first Phlur sampler set at www.phlur.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pete Holmes is an American comedian, actor, writer, producer, and podcaster. He is both a hilarious comedian and a deeply contemplative, spiritual person. In this episode, Eric and Pete discuss his book, Comedy Sex God where they go into detail about how Pete views and experiences the world. From how he has learned to deal with frustrations to the way he returns to the present moment and experiences God in his daily life, this interview explores his direct experience with so much spiritual wisdom. You will laugh and also be deeply touched and inspired by this engaging, thoughtful conversation about discovering spiritual truths. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Pete Holmes and I Discuss Spiritual Truths and… His book, Comedy Sex God The nature of life Lighting up our pleasure centers can dull the rest of life How sin is about being unconscious The consequences of our behavior are not waiting for us in the afterlife – they’re with us in the here and now The tension between being and doing Maintaining your center while doing a task When Ram Dass told him, “don’t do funny, BE funny” The mistake of postponing your happiness until things are going your way His favorite mantra That being here and saying yes to the present moment is the kingdom of heaven Being present even while you’re planning in addition to non-resistance The story of you, your ego and how it likes to exist How he connects with his wife when he’s rushed The role of curiosity When in doubt, zoom out How God is a metaphor for a mystery Pete Holmes Links: peteholmes.com Twitter Facebook Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial. Remrise is a personalized sleep solution that uses natural, plant-based formulas to help calm the mind, relax the body and get your circadian rhythm back on track. It’s drug-free and has no groggy side effects in the morning. To get your first week FREE, go to www.getremrise.com/wolf and take their sleep quiz to determine which formulation is right for you. Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Linda Graham is a licensed marriage and family therapist and her work focuses on helping people strengthen capacities to cope with the challenges and crises of their lives. She also helps people recover an authentic sense of self, deepen into healthy relationships and engage with the world through meaningful, purposeful work. Her book is Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster. In this episode, she and Eric talk about the neuroscience of resilience and specific ways to strengthen our resilience, no matter our starting point. When life gets difficult, this episode will teach you how to cultivate your resilience, bounce back and grow stronger. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Linda Graham and I Discuss Strengthening our Resilience and… Her book, Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster The neuroscience of resilience All emotions are signals to pay attention and take wise action How emotions run through our nervous system in about 20 seconds, unless we feed them with stories and with habitual patterns of response If we can allow difficult emotions and have compassion for ourselves for feeling them, we can shift the patterns in our brain away from that contracted state and into a more open state – the outcome is resilience What resilience is Response flexibility How you respond to the issue, IS the issue The severity of the stressor and the strength of our external resources Our own internal resources Differentiating between our perception and our response How our attitude is a filter that our perception goes through Cultivating a resilience mindset The factors that influence our brain’s response flexibility. as well as how we can re-wire our brain’s response flexibility How to create new patterns of responding to difficulty The default mode network Practices that people can use to strengthen their resilience A practice that will calm a panic attack in under 1 minute The things that accelerate brain change Changing every “should” to a “could” That “should” creates contraction in the brain whereas “could” creates openness and possibility in the brain Pausing to remember that we can be resilient and asking yourself “What story am I believing now?” How triggers become trailheads Linda Graham Links: lindagraham-mft.net Twitter Facebook Calm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf Daily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED If you enjoyed this conversation with Linda Graham on Strengthening our Resilience, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Elissa Epel Rick Hanson See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

BJ Fogg teaches innovators about human behavior. He has a doctorate from Stanford and founded the Stanford Persuasive Tech Lab – now called the Stanford Behavior Design Lab – in 1988. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything. There is so much practical, applicable wisdom in this episode. If you have any changes you want to make, any habits you’d like to start in your life, this episode could be a game-changer for you. In it, you’ll learn the “how-to” when it comes to the science of behavior change. It is a skill you can learn, even if you’ve struggled to make changes in your life before. And the best news? It’s incredibly do-able – if you know how. Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, BJ Fogg and I Discuss Tiny Habits for Behavior Change and… His book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything That people change best by feeling good, not feeling bad The Tiny Habits Method The technique of Celebration Learning to be a friend to yourself and treat yourself accordingly When it comes to changing your behavior, looking at yourself as a baby who is learning to walk The 3 things you should do to set yourself up to succeed when changing a behavior Stop judging yourself Take your aspirations and break them down into tiny behaviors Embrace mistakes as discoveries and use them to move forward Golden behaviors The problem of “all or nothing thinking” The problem of expecting perfection from yourself when it comes to habits That when it comes to habits, context is as important as the behavior itself. Change the context, it’s a different habit. The Fogg Behavioral Model: Motivation, Ability and a Prompt Troubleshooting a behavior change problem The danger in assuming you know someone else’s motivation Trying to motivate someone vs. taking away a de-motivator Ways we can make a behavior easy to do That we can plant a tiny seed in a good spot and it will grow without coaxing BJ Fogg Links: bjfogg.com Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed If you enjoyed this conversation with BJ Fogg on Tiny Habits for Behavior Change, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Michelle Segar James Clear (Part 1) James Clear (Part 2) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! Michelle Segar, PhD, is a motivation scientist and author of critically acclaimed “No Sweat! How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness” . She is also the Director of the Sport, Health, and Activity Research and Policy Center (SHARP) at the University of Michigan, and Chair of the U.S. National Physical Activity Plan’s Communications Committee. Her evidence-based ideas about what motivates people to choose and maintain healthy behaviors is changing the conversation across fields. She consults with global organizations on these issues and delivers keynotes and sustainable behavior change trainings. She ran with the Olympic Torch at the 1992 Olympic Games in Barcelona. In This Interview, Michelle Segar and I Discuss… The One You Feed parable Her book, No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness How considering a different “why” for starting to be more physically active can be helpful That why we engage in physical activity and what it is that we do are critical when it comes to us sticking with it How too many “whys” dilute their positive effect on us Intrinsic vs Extrinsic goals How answering the question, “What kind of physical activity did you enjoy doing as a kid?” can be important That we should start doing what makes us feel good and stop doing what makes us feel bad when it comes to physical activity That any physical movement is better than none at all – Everything counts! That flexibility is a strategy for success when it comes to sustained physical activity in your life The vicious cycle of failure The sustainable cycle of self-care That it’s important to focus one complicated behavior change at a time The self-care hierarchy Michelle Segar Links Homepage Twitter LinkedIn See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! Tim Pychyl is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Carlton University and hosts a podcast called I Procrastinate. We discuss how to go from being a procrastinator to someone who gets things done. His book that we discuss in this episode is on that very topic – it’s called Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change In This Interview, Tim Pychyl and I Discuss Being a Procrastinator and… His book, Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change How it’s in the getting on in life that makes a life Being a procrastinator can be an existential matter What he tells his children: I didn’t ask what you want to do or how you feel, I told you it’s time to make your bed. When we are procrastinators we delay getting on with our lives Being an active member or your own life The two ways being a procrastinator compromises our health Stress Fewer wellness behaviors Treatment delay “I’ll look after that later” Being a Procrastinator is a problem of self-regulated behavior I won’t give in to feel good Goal Intentions and Implementation intentions When….then… Giving the monkey something to do What’s the next action? Keeping it small Hacks to work around our irrational thinking Motivation and then Action or Action and then Motivation The meaning behind our goals Meaning and Manageability Asking what will this cost me if I put it off? Being a Procrastinator Prefer tomorrow over today Thinking “I’ll feel like doing it tomorrow” Affect forecasting Thinking of your future self as a stranger Developing empathy for future self Self-handicap to preserve self-esteem Tim Pychyl Procrastinator Episode Links Homepage Twitter Tim’s Psychology Today Page See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part series, he talks more about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. You’ll learn some really specific, easy and flat out “why didn’t I think of that” genius methods to apply to your life and habits. In this Interview, James Clear and I Discuss… His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones Habits are a response to the physical cues in our environment Increasing the friction it takes to complete the task The more you increase the steps between you and the bad behavior or decrease the steps between you and the good behavior the better Habit stacking/Anchoring “After _____ I will _____” The more specific the better Social environment and habits You want to join groups where your desired behavior is the normal behavior Make it easy The two-minute rule A habit must be established before it can be improved Optimize for the starting line rather than the finish line Make it satisfying Feel successful at the end Bring the long-term consequences into the short term James Clear Links Homepage Instagram Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 1 of a 2 part series, he talks about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. It’s a fascinating and educational discussion surrounding how to work with yourself and your habits to set yourself up for short and long-term success when it comes to behavior change. Everyone can benefit from listening to the wisdom in this episode. Enjoy. In This Interview, James Clear and I Discuss… His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones How habits can compound for you or against you That small changes don’t seem to matter much in the moment The 4 Laws of Behavior Change Your outcomes are a lagging measure of your efforts How bamboo is like habits You need to build a foundation to see results How work isn’t wasted, it’s stored Focusing on systems rather than goals How the outcome is a natural consequence of habits That goals restrict your happiness The role of identity in behavior change How you choose to act is a vote towards the kind of person you want to be Putting your identity on the back burner while you accrue some evidence Growth vs Fixed Mindset How humans are learning machines The 4 Stages of Habits How you interpret the cues in your life determines how you respond to them The toolbox for breaking and building habits James Clear Links Homepage Instagram Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

David Christian is a Distinguished Professor of History at Macquarie University and director of the school’s Big History Institute, which he founded with Bill Gates. David has delivered keynotes at conferences around the world including the Davos World Economic Forum and his TedTalk has been viewed more than 7 million times. He’s the author of numerous books and articles including the book we discuss in this episode, Origin Story: A Big History of Everything. This episode is truly awe-inspiring, fascinating and mind-blowing. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, David Christian and I Discuss A Big History of Everything and… His book, Origin Story: A Big History of Everything Looking for the balance in dualities What an origin story means to him as well as the guidance it offers How modern society has lost touch with origin stories Linking knowledge together as well as telling an ancient origin story using modern science Knowing who you are, where you are and what challenges you face Having a deep sense of awe for how things are as well as The story line of increasing complexity What we know & don’t know about The Big Bang Pure potentiality becoming energy and matter Everything that has ever been came from something that started 13.8 billion years ago, and was a million times smaller than the period at the end of a sentence. Emergence of stars, planets, and life happened Cells acting with purpose and preference and how collaboration and specialization is inherent. The origin of life and the appearance of humans, as well as the unique contribution that human beings that make the emergence of our species are all transformative events on the planet Earth. The impact of our utilization of fossil fuels David Christian Links: www.mq.edu.au/bighistory Twitter Ted Talk Feals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolf Calm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf Phlur: Get a luxurious scent made with transparent, clean ingredients. Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first Phlur sampler set at www.phlur.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cal Newport is a computer science professor at Georgetown University. In addition to his academic research, he writes about the intersection of digital technology and culture. He is the author of 6 books, his most recent being the New York Times bestseller, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World. In this interview, Eric and Cal discuss how to optimize the role of tech in our lives so that it supports us in the life we want to live., rather than depleting us and causing us to feel like we are giving it too much of our time and energy. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Cal Newport and I Discuss Digital Minimalism and… His book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World The concerns about our digital lifestyle The mixture of harm and benefit with social media The costs of our digital lifestyle Digital Maximalist vs Digital Minimalist Starting with your values as a guide to decide what tech you use to maximize the time you can spend on things you value How to think about the role of tech in your life Deploying tech to support you in living life according to your values Having a philosophy surrounding the use of tech in your life How clutter is costly Adding up the cost and value of something The importance of optimization in addition to the role of tech in our lives Intentionality is satisfying The 3 step process for implementing digital minimalism Cal Newport Links: calnewport.com Daily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED The Great Courses Plus: Are you a life long learner? A perpetually curious person? The Great Courses Plus is an on-demand streaming service that offers courses taught by professors on a whole host of topics such as Human Behavior, Money Management Skills, Astronomy, Cooking and so much more. Listeners of the show get a full month of unlimited access to their library for FREE by signing up at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Remrise is a personalized sleep solution that uses natural, plant-based formulas to help calm the mind, relax the body and get your circadian rhythm back on track. It’s drug-free and has no groggy side effects in the morning. To get your first week FREE, go to www.getremrise.com/wolf and take their sleep quiz to determine which formulation is right for you. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Liz Fosslien is the Head of Content and Editorial at Humu, a company that uses behavioral science to make work better. She leads interactive scientifically-backed workshops about how to create a culture of belonging to help remote workers avoid burnout, navigate different work styles, and effectively harness emotion as a leader. Her work has been featured by The New York Times, The Economist, and NPR. Liz is the co-author and illustrator of the book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work. In this episode, she and Eric dive into the important and fascinating topic of the role of emotions in the workplace. You may think being “cool, calm and collected” at work is the right way to be but after listening to this episode, you will likely think differently. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Liz Fosslien and I Embracing Emotions at Work and … Her book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work. How we underestimate the emotions we bring to work Tools to help with embracing emotions in the workplace How we make really bad decisions when we don’t reference our emotions The danger of being a “feelings fire hose” at work The “Skill Swap” exercise at work The New Rules of Emotion Caring about yourself more than you care about your work Your Support Network and your Challenge Network at work Communicating what you need in the moment to another person Social Distancing Why we lack motivation at work Relevant Emotions vs Irrelevant Emotions Liz Fosslien Links: fosslien.com Twitter Instagram The Great Courses Plus: Are you a life long learner? A perpetually curious person? The Great Courses Plus is an on-demand streaming service that offers courses taught by professors on a whole host of topics such as Human Behavior, Money Management Skills, Black Holes, the History of England and so much more. Listeners of the show get a full month of unlimited access to their library for FREE by signing up at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial. SoFi Invest: A platform that makes investing easy by offering stocks, stock bits, crypto & automated investing all in one. With access to their financial advisors to answer any questions you have at no cost. Go to www.sofi.com/wolf, create an account, and they will give you $25 of free stock just for signing up. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Greg Marcus is a practitioner, facilitator, and innovator of American Mussar which is a 21st-century spiritual practice for an authentic and meaningful life. He has a B.A. in Biology from Cornell University and earned his Ph.D. in Biology from MIT. He worked for 10 years as a marketer in the Silicon Valley genomics industry, after which he became a stay at home dad, writer, life balance coach, and biotech consultant. His latest book is called The Spiritual Practice of Good Actions: Finding Balance Through the Soul Traits of Mussar. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Greg Marcus and I Discuss Spiritual Practice of Good Actions and … His book, The Spiritual Practice of Good Actions: Finding Balance Through the Soul Traits of Mussar The Jewish Spiritual Practice of Mussar Taking mindful action in everyday life The Soul Trait of Enthusiasm Too much of a Soul Trait vs not enough of a Soul Trait The middle way as it relates to Soul Traits Focusing on a Soul Trait for 2 weeks How to move head knowledge into heart knowledge The Morning Mantra Picking 1 specific action to take Journaling The Great Wall of Mussar – and how to overcome it Handling significant emotional disruption How our free will isn’t always accessible to us How to slow the train of emotional disruption Shadow Soul Traits Inverting the Shadow Trait: What is the light that’s casting the shadow? Greg Marcus Links: americanmussar.com Twitter Facebook FabFitFun: A women’s lifestyle subscription box filled with full-size premium items that you will love. Give yourself (or someone special in your life!) this gift – use the promo code FEED for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com Calm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription. Talkspace: the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. John Norcross is an internationally recognized expert on behavior change. He is Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of Scranton and a board-certified psychologist. He is the author of the acclaimed self-help book, Changeology: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Goals and Resolutions, has authored over 400 publications and has co-written and edited 22 books, principally in the areas of psychotherapy, clinical psychology, professional training, and self-change. In this episode, he and Eric discuss what the science of behavior change tells us when it comes to the do’s and don’t’s of creating new behaviors and putting an end to problematic ones. This episode is full of practical wisdom and is a must-listen for anyone looking to create meaningful, lasting change in their lives. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Dr. John Norcross and I discuss Behavior Change and… His book, Changeology: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Goals and Resolutions One of the colossal mistakes people make when trying to change their behavior Motivation & willpower versus learnable skills Harnessing the power of the science of behavior change as well as the 5 stages of behavior change The power of doing the right things at the right time Preparing to follow a behavior change program The 90-day commitment for lasting behavior change Chronic Contemplation as well as what to do when you slip up The findings from the New Years Resolutions Study Energy sources The importance of a “change team” or a “support team” The common “countering” methods using “healthy opposites” How to apply the “healthy opposites” approach to emotional eating The truth: what is measured, improves Dealing with urges as well as cravings Dr. John Norcross Links: changeologybook.org Twitter Facebook Blinkist: Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less (audio available too!) go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7-day free trial and then save 25% off your new subscription if you decide to sign up! Nimble: Get great electronics you can feel really good about. Nimble makes premium, everyday tech products (like portable chargers, wireless chargers, protective phone cases and more). They use only sustainable materials, work with ethical factories, and ship in 100% plastic-free packaging. They’ll recycle your old electronics, too. To get 25% off your first Nimble order, go to www.gonimble.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF Phlur: Get a luxurious scent made with transparent, clean ingredients. Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your Phlur sampler set at Phlur.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Loch Kelly is an author, meditation teacher, psychotherapist, and the founder of The Open-Hearted Awareness Institute. Loch works to help people access awakening as the next natural stage of human development. by offering in-person retreats, workshops, and online video and audio courses. He has served on the New York Insight Teachers Council and has collaborated with neuroscientists at Yale, U Penn and NYU in the study of how awareness training can enhance compassion and well being. Loch also studied extensively with Mingyur Rinpoche and was invited to teach direct realization by Adyashanti. As a licensed psychotherapist, Loch has been teaching seminars, supervising clinicians and practicing awareness psychotherapy in New York City for 30 years. His latest book is called, The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Loch Kelly and I discuss Effortless Mindfulness and… His book, The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life The good wolf & the bad wolf: how there are no “bad” parts of us Feed the one who is aware of the two wolves How he defines “effortless mindfulness” Flow consciousness Deliberate mindfulness vs effortless mindfulness Objects of consciousness vs the space that objects are in Mindfulness is about awakening rather than it just being about stress management Relieving suffering at it’s root Small glimpses, many times and the practice of the “small glimpses” techniques. Dropping from head mind to heart mind Non-dual awareness How to practice the "small glimpses techniques Awareness-based knowing Loch Kelly Links: lochkelly.org Twitter Facebook Instagram Daily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box, go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED SoFi Invest: A platform that makes investing easy by offering stocks, crypto & automated investing all in one. With access to their financial advisors to answer any questions you have at no cost. Go to www.sofi.com/wolf, create an account, and they will give you $25 of free stock just for signing up. Netsuite by Oracle: Netsuite by Oracle: the world’s #1 cloud business system. Netsuite is a business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Judith Blackstone is an innovative and experienced teacher in the contemporary fields of non-dual realization and spiritual, relational, and somatic psychotherapy. She developed The Realization Process, which is a direct path for realizing fundamental consciousness. She also teaches the application of non-dual realization for psychological, relational, and physical healing. Judith has taught The Realization Process for over 35 years throughout the United States and Europe. She currently has 6 books in publication including her latest book, Trauma and the Unbound Body: The Healing Power of Fundamental Consciousness. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Judith Blackstone and I discuss Healing Trauma through Consciousness and … Her book, Trauma and the Unbound Body: The Healing Power of Fundamental Consciousness Uncovering fundamental consciousness Attuning to the 3 components of fundamental consciousness: awareness, emotion, and physical sensation Defining trauma The way we hold back things that won’t be met with approval How traumatic events cause us to be divided – driving us out of our fundamental nature of wholeness, which is fundamental consciousness Inhabiting our body vs scanning our body Releasing trauma through our bodies Healing trauma through consciousness Psychological healing in addition to spiritual awakening The role of memory in healing trauma Accessing memories through somatic connections Healing trauma in relation to other people as well as with other people Judith Blackstone Links: realizationprocess.org Facebook The Great Courses Plus: Are you a life long learner? A perpetually curious person? The Great Courses Plus is an on-demand streaming service that offers courses taught by professors on a whole host of topics such as Human Behavior, Money Management Skills, Black Holes, the History of England and so much more. Eric is currently enrolled in their course called, The Hidden Factor: Why Thinking Differently is Your Greatest Asset. Listeners of the show get a full month of unlimited access to their library for FREE by signing up at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf EverlyWell: Offers more than 35 at-home lab tests with super easy to follow instructions. Results are processed in a certified lab and reviewed by board-certified physicians and are then sent directly to you within days. The EverlyWell digital platform helps break down exactly what your results mean for you plus you can also set up a free discussion with a healthcare professional to discuss them. To start learning more about your health, go to everlywell.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF for 15% off your test FabFitFun – A women’s lifestyle subscription box filled with full-size premium items that you will love. Give yourself (or someone special in your life!) this gift – use the promo code FEED for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com If you enjoyed this conversation with Judith Blackstone on Healing Trauma through Consciousness, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Hilary Jacobs Hendel Mary O’Malley See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

David Richo, PhD is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader and writer who works in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, CA. He combines Jungian, poetic and mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. His books and workshops include attention to Buddhist and Christian spiritual practices. He is the author of the classic book, How To Be An Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration and his latest book, 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big Challenges, is the focus of the conversation in this episode. If you’ve experienced difficulty in life – and who hasn’t? -then this episode on navigating the 5 givens in life is for you. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, David Richo and I Discuss Navigating the Five Givens in Life and… His latest book 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big Challenges That perfection is not a human option How a “given” can be looked at as an immutable fact or something that we’ve been granted Navigating the 5 givens in life that are the ingredients of a life with meaning, character, depth, and compassion Life is not always fair and that pain is part of everyone’s life The importance of saying yes to these givens as it brings more equanimity and serenity into our life Accepting the things we cannot change, while trusting that if life is like this, these “givens” aren’t penalties – rather, they have gift dimensions How we create our own suffering through our saying “no” to what is His words, “Anything that crosses swords with our entitled ego is a powerful source of transformation and inner evolution.” The ego tries to control the givens That love is accepting someone as they are, knowing that everyone comes with these 5 givens How the opposite of yes is not no, but rather it is control Building the inner resources that make me strong enough to handle whatever givens come my way as well as the importance of becoming skilled at grief His words, “A spiritually evolved adult seeks not an answer, but a significance.” Live with the questions and notice where they take us Act with loving-kindness in addition to holding difficulty with mindfulness Spirituality is the intersection of 3 paths: letting go of ego, “yes” to the conditions of human experience, and compassion Happiness is not a reward and suffering is not a punishment David Richo Links: davericho.com The Great Courses Plus: Are you a life long learner? A perpetually curious person? The Great Courses Plus is an on-demand streaming service that offers courses taught by professors on a whole host of topics such as Human Behavior, Money Management Skills, Black Holes, the History of England and so much more. Eric is currently enrolled in their course called, The Hidden Factor: Why Thinking Differently is Your Greatest Asset. Listeners of the show get a full month of unlimited access to their library for FREE by signing up at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Calm: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription Talkspace: the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tony Wrighton is a regular on Sky Sports News, the author of 3 books, and the creator and host of the Zestology podcast. In this episode, Eric and Tony talk about managing and optimizing your energy, ways to build fun into your day, techniques from Neurolinguistic Programming to help with anxiety and a lot more. This conversation is all about being intentional and smart about how you structure your days in order to support and promote your own well being. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Tony Wrighton and I Discuss Managing your Energy and … Trying to meditate with a 4-month-old How there’s not a good and evil wolf – rather, many different wolves His training in NLP The role of control in our lives Parenting Why he named his podcast Zestology – and what it means to him The idea of managing energy – without it, you can’t do anything. With a lot of it, you feel you can conquer the world The thing that helps with energy and well being as well as what counts as a “fun” activity for him. Meditating, sleep, good food, intermittent fasting, exercise The thing that, when he didn’t do it, caused his daily energy level to decrease by 30% How he tracks the variables that contribute to his energy levels His books: Confidence in a Minute, Persuade in a Minute, and Relax in a Minute The NLP technique of anchoring in addition to managing your inner voice. How we get used to anything in life so it’s important to switch things up Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) Authenticity Tony Wrighton Links: tonywrighton.org Twitter Facebook Instagram Netsuite by Oracle: the world’s #1 cloud business system. Netsuite is a business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolf Nimble: Get great electronics you can feel really good about. Nimble makes premium, everyday tech products (like portable chargers, wireless chargers, protective phone cases and more). They use only sustainable materials, work with ethical factories, and ship in 100% plastic-free packaging. They’ll recycle your old electronics, too. To get 25% off your first Nimble order, go to www.gonimble.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF Phlur: Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first 3 Phlur samples at Phlur.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James Finley is a contemplative practitioner, clinical psychologist and faculty member of The Living School for Action and Contemplation. Drawing from his experience as a former monk and spiritual directee of Thomas Merton, James helps seekers who desire to live a contemplative, whole life. In this episode, he and Eric discuss many of his works and concepts pertaining to contemplation, awakening to our true nature, truth that transcends religions, love and wisdom. We think you will be struck (as we are!) by how expansive, inclusive and edifying James’ words and teachings are when it comes to helping you to connect with that which is loving and true and always present. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, James Finley and I Discuss Contemplation, Awakening, and … The question: In this moment, what’s the most loving thing I can do? How it’s love that feeds the good wolf His book, Merton’s Palace of Nowhere His violent, abusive alcoholic father and how that facilitated his seeking a place in a monastery with Thomas Merton Merton’s message that we are one with the infinite love that is God and that is our deepest identity and it is our destiny is to realize that That we subsist in a relationship with God as light subsists in flame How truth transcends religions The True Self and False Self The lie that the ego is all that we are Identity: The discovery of the true self is the process of dying to our dreaded and cherished illusion that anything less than infinite union with infinite love has the authority to name who we are. The acts that hurt ourselves and others is the acting out of a mistaken identity His book, The Contemplative Heart To contemplate means to pay attention, to observe carefully Contemplation is sustained attentiveness infused with love His book, Christian Meditation Taking the stance of least resistance when it comes to awakening The welling up of that which sustains us in the brokenness Removing complexities and distractions to be present in stillness The mystic teacher is one whose words awaken your heart to the desire for “the great way” and offers trustworthy guidance in it. The mystic teacher uses language in the service of helping a person to let go of their dependency on the kind of language that stops short at explanations to find the language that is a kind of a cry from the heart, from our true self. The true self embraces both solitude and communion with others The metaphor of a high jumper and a very high bar and God’s mercy or compassion then placing it on the ground where we then trip over it and fall into God’s loving arms Being sustained by a mystery that then brings us to itself – and that is wisdom James Finley Links: jamesfinley.org Calm: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription Daily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEED FabFitFun – A women’s lifestyle subscription box filled with full-size premium items that you will love. Give yourself (or someone special in your life!) this gift – use the promo code FEED for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Reba Riley is a blogger, artist, and healer. She travels the world speaking about transformation, courage, health, and healing. Her book, Post Traumatic Church Syndrome: A Memoir of Humor and Healing, is the topic of discussion in this episode. You will be moved and inspired by Reba’s story. As it turns out, kindness, love, and bravery really are some of the most powerful forces to harness for healing and hope and that’s what she discovered as she explored 30 religions before she turned 30 and battled a deep depression in the years following. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Reba Riley and I Discuss Post Traumatic Church Syndrome, and … Her book, Post Traumatic Church Syndrome: A Memoir of Humor and Healing Her chronic illness Facing her anger and bitterness 30 religions before she turned 30 Life being grey when religions answers are often black and white That love is bigger than everything Love healing us and bringing us together Her mothers love through her journey That wherever she found love (in the 30 religions) she found God How love and forgiveness have to start in each of us Looking past beliefs and differences and judgments to find the love that exists If love rolled up her sleeves and put on her work boots, kindness is what would happen Kindness is the action, the outpouring, the verb – of love Kindness is love made visible Her battle with dark, debilitating depression Feeling like she had no reason to do anything, no will to live Using kindness to battle depression How she did 5000 random acts of kindness over 18 months and it saved her life The story she hasn’t told anywhere else about her relapse of depression The alchemy of kindness to transform your pain Couraging = brave as a verb Reba Riley Links: rebariley.com twitter Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial. Nimble: Get great electronics you can feel really good about. Nimble makes premium, everyday tech products (like portable chargers, wireless chargers, protective phone cases and more). They use only sustainable materials, work with ethical factories, and ship in 100% plastic-free packaging. They’ll recycle your old electronics, too. To get 25% off your first Nimble order, go to www.gonimble.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF The Great Courses Plus: Learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get one month for free at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Robin Hanson is an Associate Professor of Economics at George Mason University and a Research Associate at the Future of Humanity Institute of Oxford University. His book, The Elephant In The Brain: Hidden Motives In Everyday Life, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. They explore topics like motives, perspective, the left brain interpreter and so much more as it relates to human behavior. This episode will give you a lot of insight into yourself and others. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Robin Hanson and I Discuss Motives, Human Behavior, and … His book, The Elephant In The Brain: Hidden Motives In Everyday Life How often, we keep our true motives hidden from others That we also keep our true motives hidden from ourselves Modularity The things happening at a conscious as well as an unconscious level The left brain interpreter being like a press secretary Needing to tell a story about our motives Questioning whether or not you know the motives of others That we have multiple motives for doing things Understand others and then assume you’re a lot like them Cynicism and Misanthropy Perspective The evolution to protect ourselves from each other The need to have others like us and think well of us Obliviation What if others couldn’t see what you bought – that their opinion of you wouldn’t change because of what you bought – how would that change what you’d buy? That we pay a lot for variety Proximate and distal causes That evolution designed us to be relatively unaware of our motives – so why is it good to know about them? Robin Hanson Links: elephantinthebrain.com overcomingbias.com Twitter Ted Talk Westin – their reason for being is to help you travel well – eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.com The Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get one month for free at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Talkspace: the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $65 off your first month. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Charlie Gilkey is the author of Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done. An Army veteran and near Ph.D. in philosophy, Charlie is the founder of Productive Flourishing, a company that helps professional creatives, leaders, and change-makers take meaningful action on work matters. He’s widely cited in outlets such as Inc. Magazine, Time, Forbes, The Guardian, Life Hacker and more and his work will help you discover the path from the ideas in your head to the actions you take in your daily life and the way you live out your values – and most importantly how to go about getting things done. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Charlie Gilkey and I Discuss Getting Things Done and … His book, Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done How kindness towards others often brings out the best in everyone The Tao Te Ching Focusing on your input and letting go of the results Why finishing is so important That we only get mastery from finishing things, not halfway doing them We don’t just improve by thinking about things, we improve by doing them Creative constipation breeds toxicity We’re either creating something or destroying something We don’t do ideas, we do projects How it feels good to think about our ideas How doing our best work is often really hard The myth: if it’s meant to be for us, it’s supposed to be easy That when you start something you’re not as good at it as you want to be and it takes time to and effort to get better The myth that if it doesn’t come easy for you, you shouldn’t do it Doing something until you’re good enough at it to decide whether or not you want to continue doing it The 5 things that get in the way of doing our best work Head Trash: Doesn’t matter if a thought is true or not – it matters if we believe it or not The problem with automatically believing our thoughts How discipline limits decision fatigue Action expresses priority Being sick isn’t a character defect – how you respond to it matters That big life changes take life force and energy in order for us to respond to and deal with them and that’s life force that we can’t put towards other things – and that’s ok Charlie Gilkey Links: productiveflourishing.com Twitter Facebook EverlyWell: Offers more than 35 at-home lab tests with super easy to follow instructions. Results are processed in a certified lab and reviewed by board-certified physicians and are then sent directly to you within days. The EverlyWell digital platform helps break down exactly what your results mean for you plus you can also set up a free discussion with a healthcare professional to discuss them. To start learning more about your health, go to everlywell.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF for 15% off your test Phlur – Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first 3 Phlur samples at Phlur.com/wolf Calm: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription If you enjoyed this conversation with Charlie Gilkey on getting things done, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Chris Bailey David Kadavy Tim Pychyl See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mark Henick has appeared in hundreds of television segments and countless more radio, print and online features about mental health. Mark’s TedTalk, “Why We Choose Suicide”, is among the most-watched in the world with over 6 million views. In this episode, he tells Eric about his experience with attempts at suicide, relapsing depression and getting skillful with finding meaning and living his life. This isn’t just a broad discussion on suicide and depression – there are real, practical techniques and approaches that can be applied to life today, no matter your circumstances, to create meaning, fulfillment, and yes, even joy. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Mark Henick and I Discuss Suicide, Depression, and… The duality of life and death Mental Health and Suicide His suicidality at 12 years old The message he got that he couldn’t talk about suicide The complete stranger who saved him from jumping from a bridge at night – physically holding on to him His realization that he didn’t have to be the suffering boy he was, he could be the stranger that helped him…that his life could be different The myth that if you talk about suicide it will give people the idea to do it The right way and wrong way to talk about suicide and depression How freeing it is to talk about something When others told him they could relate to his story of suicide and depression His recovery through a newfound sense of purpose The healthier relationships he pursued Getting clear about boundaries The toxic masculinity he was surrounded by as a child Not having the language to express the feelings he had The perceptual field and increasing your options by getting uncomfortable. How depression limits the options you can see Broadening of perception and expansion as a part of awakening Something good can come from most painful situations; It’s in the lens you take and the work that you do. His depression and social anxiety disorder The danger in an avoidant coping strategy as well as the flaws of perfectionism. Realizing the cross you bear can change into meaning and how to turn your struggle into something good. Getting good at re-lapsing with his depression His misguided thought that he was failing at getting better Learning to trust himself AND learning not to believe every one of his thoughts The truth: This too shall pass (the more you cling to it the longer it takes to pass) How depression hates a moving target Mark Henick Links: markhenick.com Ted Talk: “Why We Choose Suicide” Twitter Facebook Talkspace: the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get 65% off your first month. Daily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code: FEED See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Sarah Shockley is a multiple award-winning producer and director of educational films including Dancing From the Inside Out, a highly acclaimed documentary on disabled dance. Sarah is the author of a number of books on living with chronic pain, including the one discussed in this episode, The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Sarah Shockley and I Discuss Living with Chronic Pain and… Her book, The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain How it’s hard for us to heal when we’re in a battle with pain The good wolf aspect of pain Feeding into healing vs feeding in living with chronic pain Her experience with debilitating pain The many components of chronic pain – in addition to the physical component How isolating chronic pain can be Chronic emotional pain Seeing pain differently Turning towards pain and asking it, “What could positively be your positive purpose here?” What you resist persists Becoming partners with your pain Thinking of pain as the voice of something within you that wants to be healed Creating a different relationship with pain We lock pain in place when we get into a resistant mode Giving pain a lot of space Breathing into the pain The messages that pain brought her Asking pain, “What do you need?” How her life has been transformed by changing her relationship and experience with chronic pain That she wrote the book she wished she had been given in the midst of her struggle with pain That being seen in your pain can be the beginning of healing Living with chronic pain and what she imagined her pain looking like Sarah Shockley Links: thepaincompanion.com Facebook YouTube DoorDash – Don’t worry about dinner, let dinner come to you with DoorDash. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code WOLF The Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get 3 months of unlimited access to their entire library for just $30. www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation with Sarah Shockley on living with chronic pain, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Toni Bernhard Michael Galinsky See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Eric Kaufmann guides leaders to make better decisions and achieve better results. He has consulted for hundreds of leaders including executives and team leaders at Sony, TMobile, Genentec and Alcon Labs just to name a few. He is the founder of Sagatica Inc and he serves on the board of the San Diego Zen Center. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his work of teaching conscious leadership in the workplace. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Eric Kaufmann and I Discuss… How he interacts with his shadow side The key to not making a situation worse His practice of refrain and return Conscious leadership Unrelenting commitment to results with an unwavering regard for spirit What someone says they want vs what they need The courage it takes to say no The 3 building blocks of our egoic state The 3 pillars of being a conscious person Wisdom = mistakes + time Wisdom = Seeing below the surface and beyond the obvious That being wise means being present and aware How cultivating wisdom is a practice and how humor cultivates wisdom. Courage is walking toward what you want to walk away from Have the courage to Speak Up, Care, Commit How sarcasm can be a mask of fear Bringing the weird How it takes energy to withhold Love is wanting to do well for others Love is expansive, inclusive, and connective The things that get in the way of love Eric Kaufmann Links: sagatica.com Facebook Instagram YouTube Calm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription The Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get 3 months of unlimited access to their entire library for just $30. www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brent Williams suffered for a long time from depression and anxiety and during that time he kept a journal about his thoughts, feelings, and experiences. That journal has now been turned in to a beautiful graphic novel called, Out Of The Woods: A Journey Through Depression and Anxiety. In this episode, Brent and Eric use his story as a jumping-off point to discuss how depression can show up in your life and how you can realistically, practically, and effectively find your way out of it. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Brent Williams and I Discuss… His book, Out Of The Woods: A Journey Through Depression and Anxiety How subtle depression can be in your life – permeating everything All the things he went to as a diagnosis before he admitted it was depression he was suffering from His resistance to taking depression medication How he watched his father take medication for anxiety and how it changed him His resistance to taking help from others His experience in therapy The metaphor of depression medication being a life preserver but you still have to swim back to shore The components of self-care: eat well, exercise, be with people, be outside, get support, stop ruminating, proper sleep How fundamental good nutrition is when it comes to mental well being Doing small and manageable things when you’re depressed How the reward mechanism in your brain isn’t working properly when you’re depressed How it took him a while to find the right therapist The potential danger of meditating when depressed That mindfulness meditation was the form of meditating that helped him most The impact of keeping a mood chart – seeing a pattern that you can’t see at the time That sometimes you just have to push yourself over the hurdle of doing things that are good for you when you don’t feel like doing them Looking at your activities to assess your mental wellbeing Depression showing up as irritability in men Brent Williams Links: outofthewoods.co.nz **Special Offer** for The One You Feed listeners! Buy 1 Book, Get 1 Free to give to a friend, family member or a community center! Facebook Twitter Phlur – Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first 3 Phlur samples at Phlur.com/wolf FabFitFun – A women’s lifestyle subscription box filled with full-size premium items that you will love. Eric’s girlfriend is honestly obsessed because the items in this box are just so good. Give yourself this gift – use the promo code FEED for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Sue Johnson is an author, clinical psychologist, researcher, and an internationally recognized leader in the field of couple interventions. She is founding Director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) and Distinguished Research Professor at Alliant University in San Diego, California, as well as Professor Emeritus, Clinical Psychology, at the University of Ottawa, Canada. In this interview, Dr. Sue Johnson discuss her best selling book, “Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” and her groundbreaking research of helping couples to enhance, repair, and keep their relationship. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Dr. Sue Johnson and I Discuss… Her book, Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love The wolf parable and how therapists act as the third wolf for couples. Relationships are often stuck in fear and anger Emotional disconnection causes distress in relationships. Humans are wired for close connection with others. Attachment needs continue into adulthood, most notably in romantic relationships. Common conversations in distressed relationships are known as “demon dialogues”. Relationships stuck in predictable patterns is referred to as the “Protest Polka”. “Freeze and Flee” means one person gives up on the relationship. “Find the Bad Guy” in other words, "It’s not me, it’s you” Understanding the circle of criticism, or the “dance” you’re stuck in. Learning to blame this “dance” rather than each other. The “hold me tight conversation” that creates safety in the relationship. Understanding the negative cycle that causes disconnection. Creating a positive cycle by creating a secure bond “ARE” – Accessibility, Responsiveness, and Engagement. Talking about fears rather than acting on them leads to bonding. Emotional connection in a relationship is a source of joy and strength. Dr. Sue Johnson Links: drsuejohnson.com Twitter Facebook TalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get 65% off your first month. DoorDash – Don’t worry about dinner, let dinner come to you with DoorDash. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code WOLF Westin – their reason for being is to help you travel well – eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gabe Howard is an award-winning writer, speaker, and host of the weekly Psych Central show who lives with bipolar and anxiety disorders. His new book, Mental Illness Is an A-Hole – And Other Observations, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. You’ll be captivated by Gabe’s story as he tells it – it’s compelling, relatable, inspiring, and educational. Whether or not you have bipolar disorder or another mental illness, chances are you know someone or some people who do and so this is an important episode to listen to – you’ll deepen your understanding of what it means to live with mental illness. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Gabe Howard and I Discuss… His book, Mental Illness Is an A-Hole – And Other Observations What bipolar disorder is (and isn’t) and how it shows up in his life His compelling story The myth that people with mental illness come from bad families When he went to the ER because of suicidal thoughts How he defines recovery: spending more time living life than managing his bipolar disorder The 4 years he spent in a battle with his mental illness How you have to learn what works for you – and how that takes time The role of medication in the treatment of mental illness How it stings when your body lets you down Eric’s experience taking and not taking medication for his depression Whole health wellness Suicide Don’t choose a permanent solution to a temporary problem How suicide doesn’t end the pain – it transfers it to someone else Gabe Howard Links: gabehoward.com Twitter Facebook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Lauren Zander is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker and co-founder and chairwoman of The Handel Group. Her book, Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life is what she and Eric discuss in this episode. Lauren has an incredibly useful approach to uncovering your limiting inner dialogue so that you can truly catapult yourself forward in life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait - there's more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It's that simple and we'll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Lauren Zander and I Discuss... Her book, Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life. Getting conscious of the unconscious parts of yourself Her life-changing moment at 19 How much of what is plaguing a person is in their inner dialogue The strategist in your head That over 80% of our thoughts are negative and repeating from the day before The chicken, the brat, the weather reporter Keeping promises to yourself Integrity and spirituality Consequences Accountability Lauren Zander Links: handelgroup.com Twitter Facebook FabFitFun: FabFitFun is a seasonal subscription box delivered 4 times a year with full-sized beauty, fashion, home, fitness, and wellness products for just $49.99 a box - though the box is valued at more than $200. Eric's girlfriend is honestly obsessed. You don't want to miss the upcoming fall box. Use the code FEED to get $10 off your first box www.fabfitfun.com Westin - their reason for being is to help you travel well - eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Father Richard Rohr is a globally recognized ecumenical teacher bearing witness to the universal awakening within Christian mysticism and the Perennial Tradition. He’s a Franciscan priest in the New Mexico Provence and the founder of the Center for Action and Contemplation in Albuquerque. In this episode, Eric and Father Richard discuss his most recent book, The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Father Richard Rohr and I Discuss… His book, The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe What the word “Christ” means for him How God loves things by becoming them, by uniting with them That a mature Christian sees Christ in everything and everyone else The notion of God IN all things vs God IS all things How Christ is a stand-in for everything Focusing on the death of Christ and missing the life of Christ When God hides his face The difference between spiritual darkness and depression A loss of the feeling of faith in God isn’t the same thing as a loss of faith in God How distraction doesn’t make you happy God uses 3 things to draw us out of ourselves: goodness, truth and beauty Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful How God uses evil for your transformation That Jesus punishes nobody When you return in kind – like Michael and the dragon – you become the dragon The 2 virtues you need to move forward on the spiritual path: humility and honesty Father Richard Rohr Links: Center for Action and Contemplation Twitter Facebook Westin – their reason for being is to help you travel well – eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.com Phlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com/wolf and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set DoorDash – Don’t worry about dinner, let dinner come to you with DoorDash. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code WOLF If you liked this episode with Father Richard Rohr, you might also enjoy listening to these earlier interviews: Richard Rohr – Part 1 (2017) Richard Rohr – Part 2 (2017) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Maia Szalavitz is an American reporter and author who has focused much of her work on the topic of addiction. She is the co-author of Born for Love and The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, both with Dr. Bruce D. Perry. Her latest book is Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction In this paradigm-shifting interview, Maia Szalavitz explains that addiction is a learning disorder, a developmental disorder, which is a different way of thinking of addiction than it being a disease or a moral failing. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Maia Szalavitz and I Discuss… Her book, Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction That your brain becomes what it does – that the more you repeat an activity, the easier it becomes How addiction is a developmental disorder and how learning is critical to addiction The problems with discussion about addiction as a disease Arguing that addiction is a disease and then treating it like a moral failing Addiction resets your priorities and causes one to make different decisions Addiction = compulsive behavior that continues despite negative consequences How illogical it is then to try and address addiction by focusing on implementing additional negative consequences The complexity of addiction, genes + culture + timing The developmental history that gets you to addiction How the drug isn’t the problem and our efforts to get rid of it isn’t a helpful solution Addiction as a learning disorder that is characterized by a resistance to punishment The problem with “rock bottom” is it’s not helpful scientifically, and it implies a moral component of having to reach a point of extreme degradation before you can stop. What the motivation is that turns people to recovery How addicts keep using because they can’t see how they can survive any other way Recovery begins when you start to see that there are other options People with addiction are living at a point of learned helplessness The role of hope and other ways of managing their life Addiction as a coping mechanism The pleasures of the hunt vs the pleasures of the feast Wanting vs Liking Different motivational states Addiction as escalating wanting Stimulants and chasing that satisfaction The effectiveness and usefulness of 12 Step Programs The role of medicine in a developmental disorder Looking at addicts as students who need to learn better coping skills rather than sinners who need to be forced to repent. Maia Szalavitz Links: maiasz.com Twitter Calm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription Peloton – Looking for a new way to get your cardio in? The Peloton bike will make you rethink the way you look at cycling classes! Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with purchase of a bike. Westin – Westin resorts have wellness offerings that are curated just for you to help you eat, move and sleep well. Explore at westin.com If you enjoyed this conversation with Maia Szalavitz, you might also enjoy these other episodes! Dr. Gabor Mate’ Judson Brewer See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hal Gregersen is the Executive Director of the Leadership Center at MIT. He is a prolific author and motivational speaker recognized by Thinkers 500 as one of the World’s 50 Most Innovative Minds. In this episode, Eric and Hal discuss his book, Questions are the Answer: A Breakthrough Approach to Your Most Vexing Problems at Work and in Life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Hal Gregersen and I Discuss… His book, Questions are the Answer: A Breakthrough Approach to Your Most Vexing Problems at Work and in Life That whether we know it or not, we’re all living questions Keystone questions Shadow questions How he discovered his questions The heart attack that changed his life His shadow questions Asking better questions Competing Commitments Underlying assumptions Alexander Papaderos How if you want better answers, you’ve got to ask better questions That if you feel stuck you’re probably asking the wrong question Brainstorming questions without answering them Why we don’t ask good questions Catalytic questions that challenge false assumptions How wanting to be right and smart stops us from getting to better questions What if you woke up and asked, what am I dead wrong about today? That if you’re not making big enough mistakes, you’re not trying hard enough The danger of moving into smaller and smaller tribes that are founded on being right Actively seeking passive data – observing and listening The power of the pause Listening to understand vs listening to defend How can I find and reflect the light in you? Hal Gregersen Links: halgregersen.com Twitter Daily Harvest – they deliver absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more to get 3 cups free in your first box. Visit www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code: FEED TalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get 65% off your first month. The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial If you enjoyed this conversation with Hal Gregersen, you might also enjoy these other episodes! John Zertasky Skip Prichard See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Eric Tivers is a licensed clinical social worker, coach, podcaster, speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He specializes in ADHD and has worked extensively with individuals on the autism spectrum. His podcast is ADHD reWired and in this episode, Eric and Eric talk about the experience of being an Adult with ADHD. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Eric Tivers and I Discuss… How he separates “mind” and “brain” ADHD in Adults Impulsivity and Hyperactivity Inattention and Distractability How people with ADHD aren’t lazy – according to brain scans The diagnostic criteria for ADHD The multimodal treatment approach for ADHD His experience with Adderall The lie of “I’ll remember that” Time wisdom The importance of Exercise, Sleep Separate decision from action The wisdom in flipping a coin A disorder of self-regulation Accountability The anatomy of a to-do list Vision verbing Why cue Life on hard mode – but we can do hard things Eric Tivers Links: ADHDreWired.com Twitter Facebook YouTube Blinkist – Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7-day free trial. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cindy Stulberg is an internationally respected psychologist and is the Director of The Institute of Interpersonal Psychotherapy which provides psychological assessment and counseling for individuals and couples, groups and families and has done so for the past 35 years. In this episode, Cindy and Eric discuss her book, Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Cindy Stulberg and I Discuss… Her book, Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy That your relationships hold the key to your happiness Interpersonal Psychotherapy The areas of life that trigger a depressive episode Drawing your social circle and asking questions about them How to build your social circle Conversation starters The difference between feelings and moods Questions for emotional enlightenment Getting input from others when looking to do things differently for them to make things better Paying attention to how you feel The question: What’s the best, worst and most likely outcome? Linking rigid expectations to happiness How you can’t expect 1 person to meet all your needs Cindy Stulberg Links: The Institute of Interpersonal Psychotherapy Twitter Facebook Phlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.com/wolf and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set Quip – Comes in an easy carrying case making it a great portable electric toothbrush – with timed settings to make brushing easy. It starts at just $25. Go to www.getquip.com/wolf to get your first refill pack for free The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Amy Banks Eric Maisel See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Claire Booth is an entrepreneur, author, and speaker. She’s the founder and CEO of the market research firm Lux Insights with two decades of experience serving some of the worlds most recognized brands. In this episode, Eric and Claire discuss her book, The Achiever Fever Cure: How I Learned to Stop Striving Myself Crazy. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Claire Booth and I Discuss… Her book, The Achiever Fever Cure: How I Learned to Stop Striving Myself Crazy Her experience of learning to love her bad wolf Keeping her inner house clean The anxiety, depression, and insomnia that came with her constant achieving The difference between achiever fever and achieving I’ll be happy when… The craving mindset of achieving How every leader in her business has a coach The importance of a coach The questions we ask ourselves, the stories we tell ourselves – that we need someone to poke holes in them Her inner critic – the judge The left brain interpreter Checking your thoughts for truth Asking if your thought could be defended 100% in a court of law Asking yourself, who would I be without that thought? Cognitive Bias Asking yourself “Would my life be better if I wasn’t drinking?” The feeling of worry How she is able to let go of worry Claire Booth Links: www.clairebooth.com Twitter Facebook Goodreads Calm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription. Peloton – Looking for a new way to get your cardio in? The Peloton bike will make you rethink the way you look at cycling classes! Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with purchase of a bike. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices