The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair

Today's episode is an absolute gem, especially if you've ever felt that nagging feeling that something just isn't quite right, but you can't put your finger on it. You know, those moments when everything seems okay on the surface, but deep down, you feel uneasy? Well, you're not alone, and we've got an expert to shed some light on this! We're thrilled to welcome Dr. Meg Arroll to the show. Dr. Arroll is a psychologist, scientist, and the brilliant author of "Tiny Traumas: When You Don't Know What's Wrong but Nothing Feels Quite Right." In our chat, she dives deep into the concept of "tiny traumas" — those small, often overlooked experiences that accumulate over time and can significantly impact our mental and physical health. Listen in to learn the significance of these tiny traumas and what you can do about it. In this episode, you will hear: The connection between trauma and conditions like IBS, anxiety, and depression. Examination of high-functioning anxiety and its manifestations, such as emotional blunting and sleep problems. The stigma around health issues like urinary incontinence and menopause and the importance of open conversations. Techniques for nervous system regulation and grounding to address underlying anxiety. The prevalence of imposter syndrome, especially among women and marginalized groups, and its link to microaggressions in the workplace. Emphasis on the mind-body connection and the role of psychological treatments in improving physical conditions. Resources from this Episode Dr. Meg Arroll Drmegarroll.com MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

In this episode, I sit down with Ross Rosenberg, a global thought leader in codependency, narcissism, and trauma treatment. We discuss how traditional approaches often missed the mark and led to stigmatization. Understanding the roots of these behaviors — often linked to childhood trauma — is crucial for breaking free from unhealthy relationship patterns. Ross also introduces his innovative Human Magnet Syndrome, explaining why certain personality types are irresistibly drawn to narcissistic partners. It's a hopeful and eye-opening discussion for anyone struggling with codependency. I talk about overcoming my own codependent tendencies in my marriage, demonstrating that change is possible with mutual growth and self-love. We touch on Ross's Relationship Compatibility Theory, and by the end of the episode, you'll have a new perspective on codependency and be equipped with actionable insights for your own self-love and recovery journey! In this episode, you will hear: The concept of Self-Love Deficit Disorder and the inadequacies of traditional codependency treatments. Early misinterpretations and the role of childhood attachment trauma in developing codependent behaviors. Why certain personality types are drawn to narcissistic partners and how this impacts relationships. How to transform codependent tendencies into balanced partnerships. Tips on resolving core shame, supporting each other, and maintaining fulfilling relationships through the Relationship Compatibility Theory. The importance of understanding and addressing the deep-seated trauma that underlies codependency for effective healing. Resources from this Episode Green Chef. Greenchef.com/adult50 and use code adult50 to get 50% off, plus 20% off your next two months. elfloverecovery.com [email protected] MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

There's someone in your life you love, but the relationship just isn't working. Despite your best efforts to communicate and try to work things out, nothing is changing. This person seems totally uninterested in listening to you or working on the relationship. You've hit a wall, and the relationship feels stuck. This can be so maddening, frustrating, disappointing and painful! You wouldn't be trying to make it work if you didn't care for this person, but you can't make them change…and you're hurting in the meantime. I hear from listeners all the time who find themselves in this situation, with a romantic partner, a friend, a family member or a colleague. They want to know: How do you approach this with an Adult Chair perspective…not just for the relationship, but for yourself? In this episode, I'm giving you five steps to take when you feel stuck or at an impasse with someone in your life. These are all things YOU have the power to do, no matter the other person's response, and they will help you find new clarity, perspective and ideas for navigating this situation. Listen to discover: A higher perspective on why relationships come and go Five steps to working through a relationship dead end or stalemate The power of acceptance and letting go How to control what you can and release what you can't How to take care of yourself no matter what happens in the relationship Relationships can be beautiful, hard and everything in between. It's ok – and even expected – that certain people will come and go throughout our lives. Perhaps you've learned what you're meant to learn and it's time to let go, or perhaps there's something for your soul to learn by working through this difficult process together. Whether you want to keep fighting for a relationship or you know it's time to end it, the steps in this episode will help you stay in your Adult Chair, control what you can, let go of what you can't and take care of YOU, so you can live with peace and hope no matter what happens with the relationship. "Have you considered that the reason that you're with this person…is because you needed to learn, grow, transform or find something about yourself?" - Michelle Chalfant "Acceptance and liking are two very different things." - Michelle Chalfant "When you're able to accept somebody for who they are, there's almost like a release that happens. There's a detachment that happens." - Michelle Chalfant "People are not going to change until they're ready and willing to change." - Michelle Chalfant "Just because the relationship needs to be shifted, it doesn't mean it has to end." - Michelle Chalfant "We cannot go around our pain. We go through our pain, and we are stronger on the other side." - Michelle Chalfant "Emotions are meant to be experienced, felt and processed, or metabolized, through the body and the energy field. And if we don't build a story around what we're feeling…those emotions move through us." - Michelle Chalfant "Boundaries are not confrontational." - Michelle Chalfant "To let go is to truly detach from [the] outcome, and we let go of our expectations as well." - Michelle Chalfant "It's beautiful when we are able to look at our lives and ask, 'What do I need?'" - Michelle Chalfant "Relationships can be beautiful, but they can also be really hard…and they can also be somewhere in the middle." - Michelle Chalfant MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Have you ever wondered what it truly means to live a soul-driven life? In this episode, join me and my son, Blake Chalfant, as we dive into the world of soul alignment, self-discovery, and embracing your unique path. We'll explore the ancient wisdom of indigenous cultures, the power of rites of passage, and how modern societal pressures often lead us away from our true essence. Together, Blake and I address the global mental health crisis, discussing the critical link between emotional and physical well-being. We'll share how aligning with your soul's purpose can bring profound peace and fulfillment. Learn to interpret life's signals and navigate various forms of resistance to foster a more meaningful existence. We also touch on the balance of masculine and feminine energies within us, the importance of creating spaces for voicing needs, and the role of parents in nurturing their children's unique paths. Whether you're seeking to reconnect with your soul's purpose or find inspiration to live authentically, this episode provides nuggets of wisdom. In this episode, you will hear: Exploring self-discovery and finding one's unique life path. Discussing the global mental health crisis and the link between emotional and physical well-being. The importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies within individuals and society. Creating space for individuals to voice their needs and the role of parents in supporting children's unique paths. Nurturing self-trust and aliveness in children through diverse experiences and positive male role models. Reigniting passion and finding purpose, especially in the mid to later stages of life. The power of rites of passage and indigenous wisdom in uncovering true essence. Blake Chalfant Website https://www.blakechalfant.com/ The Human Experience Podcast https://www.blakechalfant.com/podcast Greenchef.com/adult50 Use ADULT50 to get 50% off your order + 20% off your next two months! Use Promo code: Adultchair for 20% at Aquatru.com. MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

What happens when we cross over to the other side? In this episode, spiritual medium and healer Kristen Numen shares her near-death experience, detailing her vivid encounters with the afterlife. Join us as we uncover Kristen's emotionally charged journey into what many describe as heaven, offering comfort and understanding to those curious about the afterlife and the spiritual realm. Kristen recounts her life review, where she saw the ripple effect of her actions on others and experienced a moving reunion with her spiritual family. Her miraculous return to life, the sheer joy of waking up in the hospital, and the subsequent challenges of memory recovery are shared and will leave your mind racing. This leads to exploring themes of self-love, personal growth, and overcoming life's challenges. Kristen's opinions on intentional thinking, the law of attraction, and the beauty of being true to oneself are deeply inspiring. In this episode, you will hear: A vivid recount of Kristin's crossing over and experiences such as visiting the Akashic Records. Themes of self-love, intentional thinking, and embracing one's authentic self. A discussion on planning lifetimes, reuniting with spiritual family, and the role of divine beings. About overcoming life's obstacles, the significance of self-awareness, and channeling messages from divine beings. An emphasis on gratitude, living in the present, and the power of spirituality in personal growth. The power of mind, body, and spirit interconnectedness through near-death and spiritual experiences. MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

In this episode, we're having a conversation with the inspiring Elyse Archer, founder of Super Human Selling. This isn't your everyday chat; we're peeling back the layers to uncover the raw and real magic of embracing your authentic gifts. Forget chasing someone else's dream – it's all about shining in your unique light, and Elyse is here to show us how. Elyse takes us on her personal journey, swapping the relentless pursuit of external success for a life rich with genuine talent and passion. It's about getting real with yourself and recognizing those innate strengths that make you, well, you. We tackle the often tricky task of accepting compliments and owning our talents without an ounce of guilt. We also chat about facing fears, embracing change, and the exhilarating journey towards a life that resonates with your truest self. Feeling stuck or blocked creatively? We dissect the difference between ego-driven and soul-inspired ideas and share strategies to navigate inspiration and overcome those pesky mental roadblocks. This isn't just about tapping into your gifts; it's a journey to living a life that's undeniably yours. If you're ready to unlock your potential and live out loud, this is your sign. Hit play, and let's get this transformation party started! In this episode, you will hear: The journey from external success to aligning with authentic talents and passions. Creative pursuits as a path to personal and professional fulfillment and success. Overcoming societal pressures and learning to receive compliments and recognize personal talents authentically. Embracing discomfort and initiations for self-discovery and personal growth. Shifting mindset and self-worth to break through financial limitations and achieve greater income. Differentiating between ego-driven and soul-inspired ideas. Resources from this Episode www.elysearcher.com/moneymindsetlive https://elysearcher.com/4quadrants/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Hey everyone, today we're hanging out with Dr. Katie Deming, an oncologist with a whole new take on cancer care. Forget the usual clinical jargon – we're going deep into the world of conscious medicine. Dr. Deming has this incredible story about how she moved from traditional to integrative oncology, bringing a holistic approach to well-being into her practice. We chat about how crucial things like diet, grounding, sunlight, and emotional work are in fighting cancer. If you're up for a chat about aligning your emotional, mental, and spiritual health to face illness, you're in the right place. We also touch on the stresses of daily life and how to avoid them. Dr. Deming gives some tips like wearing blue blocker glasses and using grounding pads to improve your well-being. Lastly, we chat about handling emotions during treatment and the importance of having the right people in your corner. Dr. Deming shares some powerful stories about visualization, the power of mindful communication in healthcare, and more. This isn't just for people affected by cancer but anyone looking for a more conscious approach to health and life. So, if you're interested in a fresh look at medicine that puts patient independence and holistic healing front and center, give this a listen. In this episode, you will hear: Dr. Katie Deming's journey from traditional oncology to advocating for integrative and conscious medicine. How holistic well-being, including emotional, mental, and spiritual health, helps with cancer prevention and recovery. Strategies to mitigate stress from modern living and boost mental health. The role of emotional management, supportive environments, and empowering communication during cancer treatment. Rethinking healthcare to prioritize patient independence and self-reliance in the healing journey. Resources from this Episode Katie's website: katiedeming.com MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

In episode 408, I explore the transformative world of healing ancestral trauma, limiting beliefs, and patterns with the incredible Alyse Bacine. Alyse is a spiritual mentor and breathwork practitioner whose journey into the realms of deep healing and spiritual growth is both inspiring and profound. She shares her profound insights on recognizing and dealing with trauma, understanding childhood wounds, and connecting with one's higher self through breathwork. Listen to discover: Why addressing trauma isn't about actively seeking it out but rather dealing with it as it presents itself in your life. How triggers, especially within relationships, are opportunities for healing and growth. The importance of understanding your birth story and early experiences to uncover core beliefs and childhood wounds. Practical breathwork tips including a demonstration. Insights into the fears women face and how to overcome these fears by following intuition and understanding trauma. Felt called to start business, thrived despite COVID. Embracing soul alignment, following your heart. Overcoming fear of judgment and loss. Taking steps forward, overcoming fear, feeling momentum. Ancestral and familial trauma affect energetic imprints. Recreating childhood trauma in romantic relationships for healing. Recognize triggers as opportunities for growth. Impact of early relationships on adult dynamics. Reconnect by understanding, shifting energy, and contributing. Partners should grow, see each other's potential. Creating intentional breath work for healing and guidance. Find rhythm, body breathes, just go. Healing mother wounds impacts relationship with money. Breathwork clears blocks and enhances intuition. Receiving wisdom through breath work for clarity. To reduce dizziness, slow down and breathe. Promoting Instagram, podcast, Facebook, website, freebie. LINKS & RESOURCES https://wwww.aquatru.com Promo code: Adultchair for 20% off Alyse Bacine Website: https://www.alysebreathes.com/ Download Alyse's free resource, The Metamorphosis Method: 5 Ways to use Breathwork: https://alyse.myflodesk.com/5waystousebreathwork The Adult Chair® Website: https://theadultchair.com Download the 5 Myths Keeping You Disconnected From Your Partner: https://courses.theadultchair.com/myths Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Did you know that your physical health directly impacts your emotional state — and vice versa? Think about it: when you're not in a good place emotionally, how does your body feel? Full of aches and pains, stomach issues, or other not-so-comfortable symptoms? In today's episode, Dr. Tom O'Bryan, an internationally recognized speaker on food sensitivities, environmental toxins, and the development of autoimmune diseases, joins me to discuss the intricate link between physical and emotional health. You may be surprised to know that everyday substances like gluten in modified food, toxins in the environment, and even electromagnetic waves can trigger an immune response that leads to inflammation and a range of health issues, including serious conditions like Alzheimer's. Dr. Tom shares startling insights into how certain foods, especially those altered chemically to enhance taste, can adversely affect our body's defense mechanisms and even lead to addiction. We'll also explore the crucial differences in the prevalence of chemicals allowed in food and household products across different regions, like the US and the European Union. Of course, we also talk about small lifestyle adjustments that you can do right now to dramatically improve your health, such as opting for glass Tupperware or incorporating more organic products into your diet. Listen to discover: The link between emotional and physical health. How unresolved emotional issues can manifest physically. Why inflammation is at the core of most health issues. The significant impact of our diet on our health, focusing on common culprits like gluten. Why small lifestyle changes can make massive impacts on your overall health. Listen to continue your wellness journey with us and understand how to take charge of your health in today's complex world. Quotes to Remember: "If there's any area that people don't want to talk about, it's their emotions. And anytime I have a patient that says, 'I've been everywhere, and I've tried everything, and I'm still not better,' it almost always is emotional baggage that's buried so deep, they don't know it's there." - Tom "We're born and raised in this world to think that when you have a symptom, you take whatever they tell you to take, and the symptom goes away. Now you're healthy. No, you're not. You didn't have a deficiency of the medicine." - Tom "So many people are walking around with trauma, and they don't know it; it's either they haven't touched it, they haven't looked at it, or they're walking around with anger, they're walking around with unprocessed grief, sadness, whatever it might be. And it's contributing physically." - Michelle Connecting with Dr. Tom O'Bryan: For those looking to dive deeper into the relationship between chronic inflammation and various health disorders, explore Dr. O'Bryan's resources. His insights into the effects of diet and environment on health are transformative and can be explored further through his published works and his website. As we wrap up this enlightening discussion, consider how your own physical health could be influencing your emotional well-being. Remember, it's not just about treating symptoms but addressing the root causes that intertwine our mental and physical states. And if you'd like to join Dr. Tom O'Bryan's upcoming summit, just click here. LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Tom O'Bryan Website https://thedr.com/ The Inflammation Equation Summit theinflammationequation.com/adult Dr. Tom O'Bryan Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thedrtomobryan Dr. Tom O'Bryan Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedr.com.english/ Dr. Tom O'Bryan YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzlefeGh3JA-Nm0jtf9iYoQ FLFE https://www.flfe.net/ Air Doctor airdoctorpro.com/AdultChair MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Today's episode was inspired by a conversation with a dear friend who was seeking relationship advice. The truth is that many relationships face similar challenges — even relationships that aren't romantic. As I explained the significance of self-awareness in her relationship, the role of her childhood wounds in shaping her interactions, and how to effectively repair and improve the communication in her relationship, I realized that the conversation was something everyone could benefit from. If you would like to start improving your relationship today, stop what you're doing and listen to this week's episode. In this episode, I share the three strategies you can use to improve your relationship: Self-reflection and ownership Healthy communication Effective repair strategies I also include actionable tips centered on understanding yourself better to improve the dynamics of your interactions with others. Listen to discover: The importance of self-awareness in relationships How your childhood impacts your relationships The power of direct questions in communication Techniques for expressing needs and wants effectively to partners. What "stonewalling" is and how it affects your relationships How to manage your and your partner's emotional needs If your relationship isn't as healthy as you'd like it to be, the tips and strategies in this episode will help you take the first step to creating a healthier, happier relationship. And we all have to start somewhere! Quotes to Remember: "Healthy relationships require healthy communication. It's probably one of the most important things that we can do." - Michelle "The way to improve any relationship is to look in the mirror and actually look at yourself." - Michelle "Instead of why is this happening to me, we ask the question, why is this happening for me?" - Michelle "If you want to be with this person long term, you've got to come up with a repair plan." - Michelle "You've got to be willing to sit in whatever's going on with you, journal it out, call your coach, call a therapist, call a friend, process it, whatever you need to do in order to help yourself to work through that." - Michelle Connect with Michelle: For more insights and tools to help you navigate your relationships, visit my website and check out the free resource on "Five Healthy Relationship Myths That Keep You Disconnected From Your Partner" at The Adult Chair Website. LINKS & RESOURCES https://www.airdoctorpro.com Promo code: adultchair for $300 off plus a 3 year warranty. MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Hello, beautiful souls! I'm thrilled to welcome you back to "The Adult Chair" where we explore the paths to emotional maturity and healthier relationships. Today, we're diving into a fascinating discussion with the wonderful Barbara Ireland, author of "How to Stop Negative Thoughts: What My Near-Death Experience Taught Me About Mind Loops, Neuroscience, and Happiness." Listen to discover: Barbara's Near-Death Experience and Its Impact: Barbara shares her powerful near-death experience that profoundly shifted her perspective on life, emotional health, and the power of our thoughts. This extraordinary event led her to develop techniques to overcome negative mental loops that influence our emotional well-being. The Concept of Mind Loops: We delve into what mind loops are and how they can trap us in cycles of negative thinking. Barbara explains how these loops not only affect our mental health but can also manifest physically and disrupt our lives. Strategies to Break Free from Negative Thinking: Barbara introduces her method for breaking free from destructive thought patterns, which includes recognizing and renaming thoughts to detach from their negative impacts. This process helps shift perspective and regain control over one's mental state. Applying Barbara's Insights in Everyday Life: Practical tips from Barbara's book and methodologies are discussed, giving listeners actionable strategies to apply in their daily lives to improve mental clarity and emotional resilience. Quotes to Remember: "We come here with these brains, these minds, but no one teaches us how to use them. And they're so powerful, continually creating our existence." - Barbara "Everyone says this loosely: We are spiritual beings in human form... But did you really think about that?... I love that you brought that up." - Michelle "If we get into unconscious negative habits of thinking, we are unconsciously creating negative outcomes." - Barbara "We need to be looking at what the heck we're thinking. That seems to be the root of everything. That's the taproot to everything else." - Michelle "Every question [in my life review] was about my thoughts. What does that tell you about the potency of our thoughts?" - Barbara "Who is God? What is God? I was born and raised Catholic, but it never resonated as deeply as what I felt my whole life already. I felt this deep connection with God, source, universe, whatever you want to call it." - Michelle "Once you clean your thoughts and you've cleaned your emotions and you don't have to wait till it's all gone, but once that process is up, you're being unblocked there to start creating from a conscious level." - Barbara Connect with Barbara: For those inspired by today's discussion and eager to learn more about managing mind loops, Barbara's insights and techniques can be explored further through her book and at How to Stop Negative Thoughts. Additionally, keep an eye out for her upcoming workshops and group sessions, which promise to be enriching. LINKS & RESOURCES Barbara Ireland Website https://www.howtostopnegativethoughts.com Barbara Ireland Instagram https://www.instagram.com/authorbarbaraireland Barbara Ireland Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MindLoopsMentor/ Barbara Ireland YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/barbaraireland MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Hello, my beautiful Adult Chair family! It's Michelle Chalfant, and I'm thrilled to be back with you after a few months away. These months have been a transformative journey for me, one filled with deep introspection and change, not just personally but also for our beloved podcast. In this episode, I'm joined by someone very special, Jennifer Dawn, who has been a guide, mentor, and friend to me through this incredible period of growth. Jennifer has a profound connection to energy and healing, and she generously shared her insights on self-discovery and the transformative power of embracing our true selves. Listen to discover: The Journey of Coming Back: I open up about my break from the podcast and what it meant for my personal growth. Jennifer Dawn's Impact: Jennifer talks about her life's work, dedicated to awakening consciousness and guiding others to remember their true nature. Embracing the Cycles of Life: We delve into how personal and global transformations are akin to the natural cycles of the seasons—necessary and rejuvenating. Navigating Personal Transformations: Jennifer and I discuss how to find peace and direction during challenging times by connecting more deeply with our true selves. Quotes to Remember: "Who we think we are, is not really who we are. We are so much more." — Michelle "In the darkness of our hard moments, we find the seeds of our true becoming." — Jennifer Dawn "Each step in our journey, no matter how small, leads us closer to the essence of who we truly are." — Michelle This episode is a heartfelt reminder that the challenges we face are not just obstacles but opportunities for profound growth and self-discovery. Jennifer's perspective on embracing the cycles of life offers a refreshing viewpoint on how to approach our personal evolutions. As we discuss the importance of reconnecting with ourselves, I encourage you to consider how you can tune in more deeply to your own inner wisdom. Connect with Jennifer Dawn: To learn more about Jennifer's work and access the resources she offers, please visit her website linked in our show notes. Her insights and tools, like the "Illuminated Love Oracle," are wonderful aids in the journey toward self-discovery. Use the code MICHELLE10 for 10% of her oracle deck. LINKS & RESOURCES Jennifer Dawn Website https://www.jenniferdawn.love/ Jennifer Dawn Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jenniferdawn.love Jennifer Dawn Facebook https://www.facebook.com/jenniferdawn.love MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Lately, there's been something stirring in my soul. I don't know exactly what it is yet, but I feel like it's going to be BIG – like something new is coming, and I need to go inward and listen for what it is. Have you ever felt this way? When this happens, I believe it's our soul tugging at us, trying to tell us something about our mission and purpose on the planet. And I have made it my intention to always listen when the soul calls. It's something I like to call "soul alignment" — a practice of going within and listening to the soul to get clarity on who we are and our illuminated path. In this episode, I'm teaching you how to tune into the voice of your soul (the part of you that is seated squarely in the Adult Chair), why this is so important and how to clear the blocks that stand between us and our souls. The five simple practices I share in today's podcast will help you hear your soul's whispers and nudges, know and feel the next steps on your path and take aligned action — not from the Adolescent Chair but from the Adult Chair. Listen to discover: The power of "soul alignment" The importance of "deep listening" How the ego gets in the way of listening 5 steps to listen to your soul How to unlock greater passion, purpose and peace The ego is rooted in fear, lives in the past and future and often screams at us in a loud voice. The soul lives in the present moment and speaks to us in a whisper, which is why we have to get still to hear it. This episode will help you get out of your mind and into your heart, go inward and listen deeply to find your true purpose and guidance from within. "When we align with our soul, we are guided." - Michelle Chalfant "When you're aligned with your soul, even the things that feel – to the ego – bad, what we find is that these things are the most beautiful gifts that we could have ever received." - Michelle Chalfant "What your soul has in store for you is unlike anyone else on the entire planet." - Michelle Chalfant "Meditation is simply a practice that brings you into the present moment." - Michelle Chalfant "You're going to feel nudges or feel pulled or moved to do things. That's your soul. Pay attention." - Michelle Chalfant "Your soul's not going to talk to you from your head. Your soul's going to talk to you through your heart." - Michelle Chalfant "Ego lives in past and future only. Soul lives in present moment only." - Michelle Chalfant MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

What if the secret to better sleep, less inflammation and reduced pain was as simple as walking barefoot in the grass? Both the earth and our bodies have an electrical charge, and "grounding" (or "earthing") refers to the practice of connecting our bodies to the earth – keeping the body's charge at an optimal balance and unlocking tremendous health benefits. If you think this sounds like something made up by a crunchy tree hugger, think again: the father of grounding, Clint Ober, is actually a cable guy. Clint had a strong connection with nature from growing up on a ranch out West and great knowledge about how electrical currents work from his career in the cable industry. One day, he saw a group of tourists all wearing thick rubber-soled shoes (a non-conductive material), and it hit him: Could our modern lifestyle be keeping us from grounding into the earth? This has led to a new frontier of health research, with very promising findings about the impact of grounding on inflammation, stress, autoimmune disease and more. It's the real deal! I had the chance to talk to the man himself, Clint Ober, about how grounding works in the body, why our society is so ungrounded, the many, many health benefits of grounding and how anyone can start grounding – for FREE and today. Listen to discover: What earthing and grounding is Why our bodies need to be connected to the earth's electrical charge How grounding works in our immune system The positive effect grounding can have on pain and chronic disease How you can start grounding today Grounding is so simple – it literally just requires going outside with bare feet (or conductive shoes). And unlike so many health hacks or miracle cures on the market, this isn't something to be added to your health…instead, it's a return. A return to nature, our design and the natural harmony that occurs when we're connected to our bodies and the earth. "The earth is basically electrical." - Clint Ober "We can heal these illnesses we're walking around with by grounding." - Michelle Chalfant "We've totally insulated ourselves from the earth when we're wearing shoes." - Clint Ober "You can't have inflammation in a grounded object." - Clint Ober "As soon as you get grounded, then you have the earth's energy all around your body, and it pushes away all of this environmental stuff." - Clint Ober "If you want to take 10 years off your [age], just go outdoors and stick your bare feet on the grass." - Clint Ober "The body is always striving to heal itself. Always. We are in the way." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Clint Ober Earthing and Grounding Products https://www.earthing.com/ Earthing Studies https://earthinginstitute.net/ Earthing Movie https://www.earthingmovie.com/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Have you ever gotten a "gut feeling" that something was going to happen…and then it did? Or sensed that someone wasn't trustworthy or that you shouldn't move forward with a decision? This is your intuition at work! Intuition is something we all possess, and something we've all undeniably experienced, but how it works remains largely a mystery. Is it something spiritual? Psychological? Biological? Laura Day grew up feeling like her brain was "different" in some way. She knew she had ADD and a number of head injuries, but she didn't know she had an uncanny intuition until one day, she saw a television program about ESP research. She immediately related to it, picked up the phone, called the researchers and said, "I can do that." For years, she participated in research studies about intuition and how it works. Since then, Laura has built a high-profile career using her intuition for large companies and organizations and teaching others how to develop and tap into their innate intuition. A math, science and data nerd, Laura had no preconceived notions about intuition, which has given her a practical, grounded approach to learning and teaching about this ability. In this episode, Laura shares her insights into what intuition actually is, how to tell the difference between intuition and fear, how to enhance your intuition and why intuition alone isn't enough – we must direct it towards action. If you've ever been curious about how those gut feelings and seemingly "sixth senses" work, you're going to love this episode! Listen to discover: Whether or not we're all born intuitive How to tell the difference between intuition and fear Why we all need to learn how to use our intuition How to enhance and direct your intuition The power of moving from intuition to action Laura believes intuition is less a sixth sense and more an extension of the five senses we already have. But like a muscle, we have to exercise it and develop it. When we learn to connect more deeply with ourselves and pay attention to what's going on around us using all five senses, it's amazing what we can uncover – and how that can help us direct our lives and relationships towards greater wisdom and wellbeing. "We are all born intuitive." - Laura Day "If it's a persistent fear, it's not intuition. Intuition is accurate, immediate and actionable." - Laura Day "It's a misnomer that intuition is a sixth sense. It's not. It's an extension of all of your senses in time and in space." - Laura Day "So many people stay stuck, and they don't realize that they are powerful creators and that they can get their way out of it." - Michelle Chalfant "The first thing you do to open your intuition or direct it effectively is you have goals." - Laura Day "Intuition will show it to you, but it won't fix it for you." - Laura Day LINKS & RESOURCES Laura Day Website https://lauraday.com/ Laura Day Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lauradayintuit/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

2023 is behind us, and 2024 is here! The new year represents a clean slate and new chapter where you can begin manifesting the year – the life – you want. I believe that, as creative beings, we are always in "creation mode." Like gravity, we can't turn the laws of manifestation on and off – they just are. So, then the question becomes: What do you really want? And what is it that you are creating with every thought you have and word you speak? In this episode, I'm giving you everything you need to get more intentional with your creations this year, whether you have a dream you're finally ready to manifest or there's something you want to change in your current reality, beginning with the words you're telling yourself. We're covering four keys for POWERFUL manifestation, how to tune your "energetic dial" into the "radio frequency" of your deepest desires and a 10-step process to help you clear the unconscious beliefs that are blocking your creations…this is the missing piece to manifestation that no one talks about but makes ALL the difference! Listen to discover: How manifestation works Getting clear on what it is you truly want Why things aren't manifesting in your life The missing piece of manifestation that no one talks about A 10-step process to clear blocks and barriers to manifesting Four powerful keys to manifestation You're going to want to get pen and paper out for this one, because I'm giving you all the details, all the nuances and all the secrets to manifestation that I've learned over the years – with real-life examples to help you begin applying these principles today. Whatever it is you want in 2024 (and even if you're still figuring that out), this episode is step 1 to finding freedom from limiting beliefs, clearing unconscious blocks and changing the trajectory of your life this year. "We are beings that are able to create. And we create our reality with every thought we have." - Michelle Chalfant "Once you clear your unconscious blocks, then you can attract in your creation." - Michelle Chalfant "We have to have what I call a 'consistent manifesting mindset.'" - Michelle Chalfant "Everything is possible – everything and anything. You just have to line up with it." - Michelle Chalfant "The more you focus and expect and live as if this creation is coming in and already here, the faster it will come to you." - Michelle Chalfant "I promise you can get and create the life that you want. Your thoughts and your spoken words are powerful. So, be really mindful of what you're saying." - Michelle Chalfant "We're always in creation mode. It does not turn itself on and off, just like gravity. So, if you don't like your reality, you do have the power to change it with your thoughts." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES 2024 The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Close January 5! https://theadultchair.com/certification MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Kute Blackson is no stranger to miracles. Growing up the son of a spiritual leader in Ghana, Africa, Kute witnessed healings and transformation that were nothing short of awe-inspiring. But when he realized it wasn't his calling to take over his father's ministry in the way his family expected, it led him on a challenging and transformational journey of his own: one in which he discovered the magic of surrender and how it can heal our lives. In this episode, Kute delivers so much wisdom about what surrender really is (it's not passive like you might think), the role of the ego in our lives, why the challenges we face are an essential part of our soul's journey and how to let go and live open to the possibilities – the miracles – life holds for us. Listen to discover: Kute's story of courageously following his calling even in the face of adversity Why challenging experiences are essential to our soul's growth What surrender actually is and why it's so powerful How to tell when we're in the flow What to do when you feel stuck and are struggling to surrender Where resistance comes from Why surrender requires grieving what we think we know and how it opens us up to more love and joy Each of us is here with a purpose, and even the difficult moments in our lives hold something important for our growth. When we can relinquish control and what we think our lives should look like, we discover that there are divine possibilities beyond what our mind can even think of or dream up…and what a truly exciting, miraculous journey that is! "Those challenges [don't] mean you're on the wrong path. It sometimes means you're on the right path; you just have to go through, on a human level, the soul test." - Kute Blackson "Forgiveness frees you." - Michelle Chalfant "It doesn't mean that when something difficult is in your path, it's not God-inspired, soul-inspired." - Michelle Chalfant "Life is a university for our soul's evolution…We're always succeeding when we're learning the lessons, even if it's difficult." - Kute Blackson "In our culture, we have this misconception that surrender is weak." - Kute Blackson "In true surrender and letting go, what if you actually got more than you could have intended and planned with the limited concept of your own mind?" - Kute Blackson "Surrender is when we stop trying to force life to fit into our limited idea of what we think it should look like." - Kute Blackson "Many of our goals are often projections of unmet needs from our childhood." - Kute Blackson "The mind is constantly seeking to understand why…which is another form of control." - Kute Blackson "It's the journey that brings us the happiness." - Michelle Chalfant "Many times people think that they're feeling the feeling, but they're actually thinking about the feeling." - Kute Blackson "To truly surrender requires the willingness to move through the portal of grieving." - Kute Blackson LINKS & RESOURCES Kute Blackson Website https://kuteblackson.com/ Kute Blackson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kuteblackson/ "The Magic of Surrender" (Kute Blackson Book) https://www.amazon.com/Magic-Surrender-Finding-Courage-Let/dp/0593189094 2024 The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Close January 5! https://theadultchair.com/certification MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Whether it's eating healthier, getting exercise, starting a meditation practice or staying socially connected, figuring out what to do to be happy might be simple – but actually doing these things and living in a way that lets us experience happiness is much harder. When we know there are things we can do that will make us healthier and happier, why do we struggle to actually do them? Why do we get caught in a cycle of chasing happiness instead of choosing joy, even when we know better? This is what Gretchen Rubin wanted to understand when she began studying happiness and why people form the habits they do. It turns out that it has everything to do with how we relate to expectations. Gretchen discovered that there are four different "tendencies" that tell us how different people approach habits and expectations – whether we question expectations, comply with expectations, rebel against expectations or uphold them from within. We are born with our tendency and there's no right or wrong way to be, but our ability to pursue happiness and form habits is directly connected to which tendency we're wired with. In this episode, Gretchen describes each of the four tendencies in detail and ways to work with your type to go after the life you want. She also talks about habit formation and the different approaches to starting a new habit, so you can figure out which one works best for you! This is so fascinating and has major implications for how we structure our lives, how we work with each other in business and relationships and so much more! Listen to discover: Concrete steps we can take to start boosting our happiness The "four tendencies" personality framework The Upholder, The Obliger, The Questioner and The Rebel – four different ways we all respond to inner and outer expectations How your tendency impacts how you form habits How to overcome resistance and work with your tendency to be as successful and happy as possible Misconceptions about happiness and techniques to form better habits Though it's true that everyone is different in terms of what makes us happy, we're also all different in how we get to the things that make us happy. When we understand our wiring, we can overcome resistance and set ourselves up to achieve the life we want, in a way that is uniquely ours. "Our physical experience is always going to color our emotional experience." - Gretchen Rubin "The key to happiness is relationships." - Gretchen Rubin "Don't suit other people. Suit yourself." - Gretchen Rubin "I'm a big believer in the genetic roots of personality." - Gretchen Rubin "We can work with each other to help us all achieve our aims, but sometimes we have to provide a different way from what would work for us." - Gretchen Rubin "Your communication style would change once you know this." - Michelle Chalfant "Happier people are more interested in the problems of the world." - Gretchen Rubin "You have to take care of yourself. You have to put yourself first." - Michelle Chalfant "When you're not indulging in a temptation, it goes away." - Gretchen Rubin LINKS & RESOURCES Gretchen Rubin Website https://gretchenrubin.com/ Happier Podcast (Gretchen Rubin podcast) https://gretchenrubin.com/podcasts/ Gretchen Rubin Books https://gretchenrubin.com/books/ The Four Tendencies Quiz https://gretchenrubin.com/fourtendencies The Happier App https://the-happiness-project.com/pages/happier-app Gretchen Rubin Facebook https://www.facebook.com/GretchenRubin Gretchen Rubin Instagram https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin/ Gretchen Rubin LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/gretchenrubin 2024 The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Close January 5! https://theadultchair.com/certification MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification Tanasi https://tanasi.com/ Code ADULT to get 25% off your first order STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

For too many years, mental health came with a stigma. It was treated as something "wrong" in the mind, with the psychological and physical looked at entirely separately. It's almost as if we forgot that the brain is part of the body – a physical organ that needs care just like our heart, our gut or any other part of our body. And when we support our brain health, it can have BIG impacts on our mental and emotional health. Dr. Bisleen Attli is a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy-certified naturopath, which is a fancy way of saying she bridges the world of psychology and physiology to promote mental health and brain health. She is a wealth of knowledge on how our physical health and our brains are connected, and she digs down to find the root causes of common mental health challenges like depression and anxiety. In this episode, Dr. Attli breaks down the science behind how food, sleep and even limiting beliefs affect our brain health, why mental health symptoms are often our bodies warning us about a physical imbalance and what you can do to feel better fast. Listen to discover: The #1 negative mindset that can affect brain health The common physiological roots of disease How blood sugar is related to brain health and the symptoms of blood sugar dysregulation Why the gut is considered "the second brain" How the liver, your hormones, inflammation and even your mitochondria can affect your mental health There are certainly times where we need more support, and medication might be the right treatment for depression, anxiety or other mental health symptoms. But when you see your brain as more than just your mind, but also part of your body – something that you listen to, care for and support – you will be able to make informed choices to support both your physical and mental health. Because you are more than a diagnosis. You are a whole, connected being – mind, body and spirit – and you have more power over how you feel than you might have ever realized. "A lot of people don't realize how they feel in their bodies has a direct impact on how they feel and think." - Dr. Bisleen Attli "Your body and your mental health can truly be changed with effort." - Michelle Chalfant "Something that I'm really big on emphasizing is addressing the root cause of brain health challenges...My big thing is, 'What the heck is happening in your body that is causing you to feel this way?'" - Dr. Bisleen Attli "When it comes to the mindset piece of things, the number one thing I work on helping women uncover are their limiting beliefs." - Dr. Bisleen Attli "I cannot tell you how many people have gone to therapists and then come to one of my coaches, and they're like, 'I got more out of this one session than in my therapy for 10 years'" - Michelle Chalfant "Whether someone comes to me for anxiety, depression, whatever it is, not only is there stuff happening in the mind, but we also have to understand that there are dysfunctions happening in the body that are causing you to feel how you feel. It's not all in your head." - Dr. Bisleen Attli "If your blood sugar is all over the place, guess what's following? Your emotions." - Dr. Bisleen Attli "Eating in a certain way affects your mood. You will find that you are less anxious, you're less moody, less depressed, less sad when you monitor blood sugar." - Michelle Chalfant "Your gut impacts everything." - Dr. Bisleen Attli "Good health isn't magical. It's just doing the simple things consistently on a daily basis and making sure you are prioritizing them." - Dr. Bisleen Attli "It's not selfish to put yourself first. It's actually self-loving...You're going to be a better person if you're healthier – mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually – first. You can help so many more people. You can connect with more people." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Bisleen Attli Website https://www.wbhclinic.ca/ Dr. Bisleen Attli Instagram https://www.instagram.com/holisticbraindoctor/ Free 3-Day Adult Chair® Coach Fest https://theadultchair.com/lifecoaching 2024 The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Now Open! https://theadultchair.com/certification Tanasi https://tanasi.com/ Code ADULT to get 25% off your first order Green Chef http://greenchef.com/60adult Use code 60Adult to get 60% off + 20% off next two months MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

As you think about your life, do you ever wish your story was different? You wish you more of this, less of that, that an event had never happened, that you had done the thing you will always regret not doing. But what if the story you tell yourself about your life is just as important as the story of what happened to you? And what if you could change your entire life by consciously changing how you think about your past? LaShonda Walker is a Certified Adult Chair® Coach who has created an incredible healing process called "A New Life Story," inspired by her training in The Adult Chair® model. Based on the idea that the challenges we face in our present reality are always connected to something from our past, LaShonda helps people identify the limiting beliefs they carry with them, edit the stories they tell themselves using fact and truth and, as a result, rewrite their entire future…and the futures of the people around them. Using this process, LaShonda has seen clients get unstuck and make HUGE life changes in just 20 minutes, and I can't get over how powerful it is. In fact, I asked LaShonda to coach me using her process on air, and she dropped an insight about my life so mind-blowing that it left me speechless! In this episode, LaShonda breaks down her process step-by-step so you can try this powerful work and begin writing a new story for yourself and your family today. Listen to discover: TAC Coach LaShonda Walker's "A New Life Story" process Why your past determines your present How to replace old stories and limiting beliefs with fact and truth How to edit and rewrite your life story based on who you are today 5 "W" questions to ask yourself when rewriting your story Why doing your work transforms generations A huge takeaway from what LaShonda shared is that we aren't just products of our pasts; we're products of our entire family's pasts. Sometimes the limiting beliefs and challenges we struggle with aren't even ours…but they are ours to heal. When we step up and do this work, we can change the legacy of our family for generations to come. You are the author of your own story, no matter what has happened in your life. What new story do you want to write for yourself today? "I'm finding with my clients that when things are coming up in their present, it is connected to the past. And as we begin to look at that, we discover limiting beliefs that are there." - LaShonda Walker "We don't realize how much we bring from our past." - LaShonda Walker "As you're doing that work of healing the present – your emotions, your triggers, working with those Adolescent stories – as you heal, that healing then begins to transform your legacy." - LaShonda Walker "It's all limiting beliefs from childhood. They're just sitting in there, inside of us. That's why we get so triggered." - Michelle Chalfant "The work is worth it." - LaShonda Walker "You are absolutely asking the right questions and cracking them open for fast transformation and relief from their pain, their emotional disturbance, their limiting beliefs, all of these things." - Michelle Chalfant "When you are in your power, I truly believe you are in overflow. And when you are in overflow, you are able to then feed and provide and share and help build up others." - LaShonda Walker "We don't just heal as individuals. We heal in community." - LaShonda Walker LINKS & RESOURCES LaShonda Walker Website https://www.anewlifestorycoaching.com/ LaShonda Walker Instagram https://www.instagram.com/anewlifestorycoach/ A New Life Story Podcast (LaShonda Walker Podcast) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-new-life-story-consciously-uncovering-your/id1701481844 Free 3-Day Adult Chair® Coach Fest https://theadultchair.com/lifecoaching 2024 The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Open December 11 https://theadultchair.com/certification Tanasi https://tanasi.com/ Use code ADULT to get 25% off your first order MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

'Tis the season…for triggers! At the holidays, stress, drinking, spending money and spending time with others all increase. And with that, comes a decrease in patience, sleep, time for self and all the things that make us more resilient to stress. Add in the fact that we tend to be around people we aren't normally around for longer periods of time, and it's a landmine for triggers. But as you know, I love triggers because they are such a powerful opportunity to look at and work on our limiting beliefs. So, I invite you to view this year's triggers as a holiday gift…a chance to not only learn about yourself but eradicate triggers for good. Don't worry: I'm not sending you out there without a plan. I'm giving you 10 steps to work with a trigger so you can be prepared for whatever comes your way this holiday season. The first four steps will help you regulate your nervous system, calm down and come back into balance when triggered. These are a lifesaver if you're at a gathering where you need to keep your cool until you can work on the trigger! Then the last six steps will teach you exactly how to work with your triggers so you can heal the limiting beliefs beneath them, get unstuck and get triggered a whole lot less in the future. Listen to discover: Why the holidays are a prime time for triggers What a trigger is and where they come from Why triggers are an amazing opportunity to work with limiting beliefs The difference between a trigger and a true emotion 10 steps to work with a trigger Sure, maybe triggers are like finding a pair of socks wrapped up under the tree – not what you wanted, but what you needed. They're still a gift! I hope you discover so much about yourself this holiday season and transform those triggers so you can live with more peace all year long! "That is what a trigger is: it is a belief that I have about myself." - Michelle Chalfant "Triggers are a way to help us to find and identify limiting beliefs that we have about ourselves." - Michelle Chalfant "A trigger is something that we carry with us…When you can move on from something, it's not a trigger." - Michelle Chalfant "More than likely, most of these beliefs – crazy enough – are from the age of zero to six. And Carl Jung says the average age is actually three, where these beliefs have been planted into the unconscious mind." - Michelle Chalfant "Your breath is your savior because it will help you to stay present. It helps to keep you slow. It helps to rebalance the nervous system." - Michelle Chalfant "The way out of our pain, the way out of our triggers is to go through." - Michelle Chalfant "​​Energy does not stay constant, my friends. So, if you allow it to do whatever it needs to do, it will start to move through you." - Michelle Chalfant "You will find [with] this tool [that] you're gonna be able to use it not just at the holidays but the rest of your life. It is empowering." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Join The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification Waitlist - Doors Open December 1! https://theadultchair.com/certification Tanasi https://tanasi.com/ Use code ADULT to get 25% off your first order MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

The holidays are a time where it feels like everything is a bit magnified: there is so much joy and brightness in the world but also space for sadness, loneliness and grief to be amplified. It's a touchy time of year where whatever we're feeling gets underscored by parties, gatherings and traditions. But the holidays don't create these feelings. In fact, according to my guest on the podcast today, WE don't even create most of these feelings. Rather, we pick them up from our parents and the world around us, and the key to overcoming loneliness and sadness is to understand where it all began. In this episode, I'm bringing back one of my favorite people, Dr. Dain Heer, to talk about loneliness, how to identify what is ours and what is not, how to clear what's not ours, how to get out of victim and so many more important, empowering topics! Dr. Dain also shares tools and techniques you can use immediately to start clearing negative emotions – one of the reasons I love his work so much! Listen to discover: What loneliness is and where it comes from Why 98% of our thoughts and feeling aren't actually ours – and where they come from How to get out of negative emotions What to do if you're experiencing loneliness in life The true root of victimhood The "clearing statement" for fast transformation Dr. Dain's work with Access Consciousness is all about realizing the power you have within you to change. When you're able to get rid of what is not yours, it gives you the space and energy to work on what IS yours and create your life instead of falling victim to it. I hope the tools in this episode help you find your inner power, no matter what you're feeling this holiday season – or any time of the year! "Your point of view creates your reality. Your reality doesn't create your point of view." - Dr. Dain Heer "It's as simple as redirecting that energy out of your energy field." - Michelle Chalfant "It starts to undo the foundation of limitation." - Dr. Dain Heer "We don't have to be limited by the world around us." - Dr. Dain Heer "When we open the door for possibilities, it makes that available to everybody else on the planet." - Dr. Dain Heer "People who do victim have learned it." - Dr. Dain Heer "Victims are actually victimizing others and controlling them with their victimhood." - Dr. Dain Heer "If we can just sit in someone else's energy field that's healthy, we become more like them." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Dain Heer Website https://drdainheer.com/ Dr. Dain Heer YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/drdainheer Dr. Dain Heer Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DrDainHeer Dr. Dain Heer Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dainheer/ Who Does This Belong To App https://www.accessconsciousness.com/en/shop-catalog/apps/who-does-this-belong-to-app/ The Clearing Statement https://theclearingstatement.com/ "Body Whispering" (Dr. Dain Heer Book) https://www.amazon.com/Body-Whispering-Dr-Heer/dp/1634934873 Join The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification Waitlist - Doors Open December 1! https://theadultchair.com/certification MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

What image comes to mind when you think about self-care? A massage or bubble bath? A fancy dinner? Being all zenned out in lotus pose? Though these things can be wonderful, I also think they can give self-care a bad name by portraying it as something fun, frivolous and even a little selfish. In reality, true self-care – or what I like to call "therapeutic self-care" – is absolutely essential to our well-being and our ability to show up for those around us. Therapeutic self-care is about meeting your core needs as a human – mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. It's an inside job first and foremost, and it doesn't have to be time-consuming or expensive to do WONDERS for your nervous system, stress levels and overall balance in life. As we go into the holidays where schedules are extra packed and stress is high, we need to become even more mindful of our self-care. To send you into this season with empowering self-care practices, I tapped Adult Chair® Master Coach and self-care guru, Theresa Steighner, to share her advice for self-care at the holidays (and year round!) with us. Theresa shares the four pillars of true self-care, plus five fast and free things you can do daily to keep your nervous system in balance…this is self-care like you've never heard it talked about before! Listen to discover: ● Why self-care is so important ● What "therapeutic self-care" is ● The four pillars of true self-care ● 5 quick ways to regulate your nervous system ● How to prioritize yourself and your self-care I promise you, if you do what Theresa recommends in this episode, you'll feel less stress, less overwhelm, more presence and more peace this holiday season. Tidings of comfort and joy, indeed. "Our self-care is more than the bubble baths, the massages, the getting the pedicures. Self-care is really about taking care of our needs on that physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level." - Theresa Steighner "A big part of self-care is being able to set those boundaries, but we really have to know who we are first." - Theresa Steighner "When somebody compliments you, it's a reflection of you back to you." - Theresa Steighner "Awareness is key. We cannot change what we are not aware of." - Theresa Steighner "You can't grab what's happening in the moment and raise your self-awareness if you're constantly in the future or the past. Make sure you're slowing down." - Michelle Chalfant "Women have a really hard time putting ourselves first." - Michelle Chalfant "Nature regulates our nervous system." - Theresa Steighner "Yoga helps us to repattern those habitual response patterns and brings awareness so that we can show up in a healthier way, in that healthy adult." - Theresa Steighner "You've got to make sure you're asking for what you need. You're worth it." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Theresa Steighner Website https://www.peacefulwellbeing.com/ Join The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification Waitlist - Doors Open December 1! https://theadultchair.com/certification Green Chef http://greenchef.com/adult250 Use code ADULT250 to get $250 off Tanasi https://tanasi.com/ Use code ADULT to get 25% off your first order MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Have you ever felt stuck in life, like you dislike where you are but think you have no other options? This is one of my least favorite places to be (and I've been there many times). Being unhappy feels bad enough…but what truly feels terrible is thinking there's no way out. And when we believe there's no way out, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. That's because it's not our circumstances that keep us stuck, but our thoughts and beliefs. Stuck thoughts lead to stuck energy, which paralyzes us. To get unstuck, we have to interrupt this thought pattern and shift our energy so we can move forward! In this episode, I'm giving you six of my favorite ways to do that. These are the tools I turn to when I'm feeling stuck…and if you know me, you know I like things that I can start applying right away. So, if you're ready to get unstuck and start seeing transformation TODAY, this is the show for you! Listen to discover: 6 practical tools to get unstuck The power of acceptance How to manifest your future reality today Why complaining keeps us stuck How to practice gratitude for true transformation Why journaling is such a powerful tool for moving energy The #1 way to change your life I've realized over the years that the way we change our lives is through the small choices we make every day. These small steps – things like gratitude, watching our thoughts, being honest with ourselves – done with consistency transform us over time. If you're feeling stuck and discouraged, I've been there, and I get it. But I KNOW you can change your life, because I've changed mine using the tools in this episode…and if I can do it, you can too! Which of these tools will you choose today to start moving toward the life you want? ​​"You've got to own what's in your life." - Michelle Chalfant "Acceptance starts to move our energy out of a stuck place." - Michelle Chalfant "In order to really get unstuck and create change, you've got to get really, really clear about what you want instead." - Michelle Chalfant "We can manifest anything – anything at all. But you've got to use your mind…to get out of the place that you are in." - Michelle Chalfant "Your thoughts are very powerful, but the spoken word is even more powerful. When you speak about your limitations, you're anchoring into your current reality your limitations." - Michelle Chalfant "Think about how much energy you're giving the thing that you don't want anymore…We want to talk about what's coming." - Michelle Chalfant "Many studies have even shown that journaling can be similar or feel similar to going to a therapist or coach. Because what happens is, when we're journaling, we're purging." - Michelle Chalfant "Life, my friends, is a choice. What are you going to choose for yourself? Are you going to choose to go into that victim seat or are you going to choose to feel more empowered?" - Michelle Chalfant "The way we change our lives is to be intentional with all of our choices." - Michelle Chalfant "You're the only one that can transform your life. You just have to take time and choose to put yourself first and get unstuck and change your life. You can do this." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Share the Love - Review The Adult Chair® Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634 Join The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification Waitlist - Doors Open December 1! https://theadultchair.com/certification Tanasi https://tanasi.com/ Use code ADULT to get 25% off your first order MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

We all have a "true self" – the essence of who we were before the world told us who to be. We're born with this essence, but over time, we start reacting to the world around us and create a false self out of our wounds, our experiences and our attempts to get our needs met. The false self isn't bad, but it isn't who we really are – and a lot of the challenges we experience in life, like anxiety and depression, come from living out of alignment with our true self. Any sort of healing work must begin with cracking open the false self and discovering who we really are. This all might sound very philosophical, but the good news is that accessing our true selves is shockingly practical. By using simple tools that we all have access to, we can begin to reconnect with who we really are and live with the peace, balance, happiness and fulfillment that comes from showing up authentically in the world. In this episode, I'm giving you five simple ways to start living more from your true self. These are all tools that are totally free and available right now, wherever you are! Listen to discover: What we mean when we talk about the "true self" Why we develop a "false self" 5 ways to connect with and live from your true self How to feel your emotions Practical self-care ideas How journaling can help you tap into a deeper part of self This is a process, but make sure you're taking time to notice even the little wins. As you experiment with these tools, really sit with that wonderful feeling of rediscovering a tiny piece of yourself. Start paying attention and validating yourself for who you really are. Over time, I think you're going to be really surprised (in a lovely way) when you begin to not only rediscover aspects of your true self, but also start claiming those aspects and living from that place more each day. "Some of us have a much thicker layer of the false self, and some of us have a thinner layer of the false self. The good news is [that] anyone can learn how to penetrate that false self and rediscover and live from their true self." - Michelle Chalfant "Getting in touch with our emotions is such a magical thing." - Michelle Chalfant "We have a lot more emotions than happy, sad, mad, ashamed and glad." - Michelle Chalfant "When we put ourselves first and practice what we need as far as taking care of ourselves, it's really, really healthy." - Michelle Chalfant "Self-care is tuning in and asking, 'What do I need right now in order to make myself feel more comfortable, safe, relaxed and de-stressed?'" - Michelle Chalfant "Self-care activities will promote and help with self-love and self-worth." - Michelle Chalfant "Breathwork takes you deeper into yourself. It can truly crack you open and help you to get in touch with some emotions that have been trapped or stuck." - Michelle Chalfant "Journaling takes you on a journey to the depths of your soul." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Join the 30-Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30days Share the Love - Review The Adult Chair® Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634 MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Everyone seems to have an opinion about psychedelics these days. Doctors and therapists see them as potential treatments for things like anxiety, depression and PTSD. Spiritual communities believe they open us up to the divine. Politicians debate whether they should be legal or illegal. I have to admit that when I first heard people talking about them, I was scared. I'm not a big fan of substance use of any kind, and the idea of a "drug" becoming mainstream concerned me. But when some respected psychologists and colleagues of mine started talking about the healing power of psychedelics — people who were far from the 1960s "Summer of Love" stereotype — I knew the topic at least deserved my honest research. As I dug deeper into the science behind psychedelics and understood how they worked in the mind, I began to realize they weren't about escaping but about going deeper into oneself by quieting the ego and opening the door to new parts of our consciousness. But, I wanted to make sure my opinion was backed up by accurate, science-based, factual research. And there are few people who I've found better informed on this topic than Matt Zemon. Matt was once a fellow skeptic like me who also became convinced through research and experience that psychedelics can play a positive role in therapeutic and medical settings. He is one of the most grounded, scientific voices I've heard on this topic — perfect for anyone who simply wants to learn more and see what you think for yourself — and I am thrilled to have him share his wealth of knowledge in this episode. Listen to discover: Matt's story of opening his mind to psychedelics – and how they changed his life Safety considerations for psychedelic use Whether or not psychedelics are addictive (and how they can help treat addiction) The different types of psychedelics and how they work in the mind How and why psychedelics can help us change our thought patterns The importance of therapeutic integration after a psychedelic experience Resources for doing your own research and safe psychedelic use The choice to have a psychedelic experience is very personal, and I would never tell someone they should or should not try a powerful substance like these. But I do think we should all do our due diligence to research new breakthroughs in healing with an open mind — which I hope this episode helps you do. Because whether you get there through a psychedelic or not, allowing yourself to see new perspectives and change your mind is how you grow as a human…and that's always a path worth pursuing. "In that first six- or seven-hour [psychedelic] journey, the entire way I look and interact with the world shifted." - Matt Zemon "Physically, these substances are relatively safe." - Matt Zemon "Not all psychedelics are the same, and you don't want to be on certain medications and taking a psychedelic." - Matt Zemon "The psychedelic process can help us remember a way that we used to think, maybe before we had adopted those behaviors...and from that rememberance, we can then start to take the steps to change our life." - Matt Zemon "It's not so much that [psychedelics are] a cure...they're really catalysts for change." - Matt Zemon "It's not a magic pill. None of them are a magic pill." - Michelle Chalfant "I felt like I was sitting with God each and every time. It was the most beautiful thing I've ever done." - Michelle Chalfant "The most important thing was the integration. What do you do after you've had this experience and then how do you integrate that into your life?" - Michelle Chalfant "In the psychedelic experience, a few things are going to happen. Your default mode network...is going to quiet down...Neurons fire together that haven't fired together in a long time...In this process, it's common that you will then feel connected to all things and all people. You'll feel loved. You'll feel enough. And that is, in my opinion, the reclaiming of your true self." - Matt Zemon "When you know you're enough and you know you're loved, you're starting to take away the masks you've put on and have been put on you." - Matt Zemon LINKS & RESOURCES Join the 30-Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30days Tanasi https://tanasi.com/ Use code ADULT to get 25% off your first order Matt Zemon Website https://mattzemon.com/ "Psychedelics for Everyone" (Matt Zemon Book) https://www.amazon.com/Psychedelics-Everyone-Beginners-Depression-Consciousness/dp/B0BCS7NM9H Matt Zemon Instagram https://www.instagram.com/matt.zemon/ "How to Change Your Mind" Book https://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Mind-Consciousness-Transcendence/dp/0735224153 Spirit Pharmacist Psychedelic Consultations/Education https://www.spiritpharmacist.com/ "A Really Good Day" Book https://www.amazon.com/Really-Good-Day-Microdosing-Difference-ebook/dp/B01FPH0IUO/ Safe Drug Testing https://drugsdata.org/ https://dancesafe.org/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification

Triggers are a gift. Yes, you heard that right (and if you've been here for a while, you've heard me say it before) – I LOVE being triggered! That's not to say it's fun being triggered, but working with triggers has led to some of the most transformational moments of my life. See, triggers reveal unknown, unconscious beliefs we hold about ourselves – limiting beliefs that cause us pain and hold back in life. When these beliefs rise to the surface in the form of a trigger, we get the beautiful opportunity to work with them and transform them…not only healing the trigger but helping us get unstuck and change our lives. One of my Adult Chair® Coaches, Angela, recently had an experience working with a trigger that was so transformational that even she has jumped on the "triggers are a gift" bandwagon. A tiff with her husband led to a HUGE moment of self-discovery and deeper connection in their relationship, thanks to the trigger tools Angela learned through The Adult Chair®. I was so proud of the work she did that I invited her to come on the show and share exactly how she took ownership of the trigger (instead of blaming her husband) and then worked with the trigger to discover and heal the surprising belief underneath it — one she would have never recognized without the trigger Listen to discover: How Angela used The Adult Chair (TAC) to work through a trigger and repair a relationship The surprising root of Angela's trigger that she was able to uncover How TAC has completely changed the way Angela responds when triggered Why triggers are the gateway to freedom How triggers work through the lens of the Child, Adolescent and Adult Chairs Steps for working through a trigger Why doing our work and healing can make us less vulnerable to triggers When we work on our triggers, it is true freedom. We not only heal the limiting beliefs that hold us back but also find that we get triggered less with time. This is one of my favorite conversations because it shows this work in action and breaks it down for you in a powerful way. You will discover exactly how triggers work through the lens of The Adult Chair, how to stay regulated and grounded next time you're triggered and steps to work through and heal your triggers for good. "When we work with ourselves and work on our own healing of our old wounds…it affects so many people around us." - Michelle Chalfant "Like you said, triggers are a gift. You say it. I don't want it to be true. But I'm learning that it is." - Angela Johnson "[Triggers] are a gift...You will learn something about a part of you that's been buried for a very long time. And it is an opportunity to look at that and actually transform and bring that part into the light, and then it doesn't trigger you anymore." - Michelle Chalfant "What we don't understand about this work sometimes, because it feels scary, is that on the other side of it is freedom." - Angela Johnson "I've lived in that space of letting [triggers] disrupt my life and relationships for long enough that I just don't want to live that way anymore." - Angela Johnson "When we're in our Adult Chair...we remember that life is a choice, and everything in life is a choice. And we get to choose, "Do I want to stay in victim seat?" or, "Do I want to reach over and be in my empowerment seat?'" - Michelle Chalfant "Our perspective when we're triggered shrinks way down...what we want to do is broaden your perspective, and then you have all these different choices and options." - Michelle Chalfant "In the Adult, we live in the moment. We don't drag things from the past into the moment." - Michelle Chalfant "Freedom is not a quick little pill. It does take a little bit of work. But it's long lasting. This is not a band-aid approach." - Michelle Chalfant "You don't get activated the same way after you do that work. That's the miracle." - Angela Johnson LINKS & RESOURCES Angela Johnson Website https://openhandscoaching.com/ Use code TRIGGER for $25 off a session Find an Adult Chair® Coach https://theadultchair.com/coaches/ Join the 30-Day Journaling Challenge https://theadultchair.com/30days Tanasi https://tanasi.com/ Code ADULT to get 25% off your first order MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Do you ever wonder why you do what you do…and if it's just you who does it? Your gifts, your life's mission, how much energy you have, what you need in relationships, how you view money – these are all unique to you. And according to Human Design, you are the way you are for a special reason. Unlike personality typing systems based on mental or behavioral patterns, Human Design is a system based on energy and what was going on in the universe when you were born. Though there are five main "types" within Human Design, it's a very dynamic system that will help you understand what makes you you and what you need to thrive. I've been hearing tons of buzz about Human Design recently, and in this episode, I talk with Human Design coach (and overall delightful human), Emma Dunwoody, about what Human Design is and how it can help us better embrace our true selves. Not only does Emma answer all my questions about Human Design, but she also helped me decode my chart, and let me tell you – I felt so seen, validated and free to be myself once I understood I'm exactly who I'm meant to be (and you are too!). Listen to discover: What Human Design is The difference between Human Design and other personality systems How Human Design can change your life How to decode your own Human Design chart The five Human Design types What "functional burnout" is How Human Design can help us in dating and relationships What Human Design teaches us about money As you know from The Adult Chair®, we are all a kaleidoscope of parts, talents and experiences. Human Design is a fun, insightful tool to help us understand a little bit more about who we are — not to put us in a box but to give us permission to embrace and be our true selves. Because all those things that only you do? They make you uniquely lovable YOU, and the world wouldn't be the same without you. "With Human Design, we don't go via the mind. We actually go via the energy…It gives us this energetic blueprint. I love to think of it as a treasure map to our authenticity." - Emma Dunwoody "You don't go into future with this at all. It really is just about who I am today." - Michelle Chalfant "So many people spend all this time trying to change themselves...With Human Design, it ultimately gives you a permission slip to be you." - Emma Dunwoody "We think we need to become who other people tell us that we should become...but with Human Design, you really help people to touch their true self." - Michelle Chalfant "Human Design teaches us that there are actually two different types of burnout...but what we don't talk about is this 'functional burnout.'" - Emma Dunwoody "There's so many ways that Human Design can really amplify and improve relationships." - Emma Dunwoody "Actually, what money is all about is being in alignment to your authenticity…When we are free to be ourselves, then we can't help but make money." - Emma Dunwoody "Our profile really helps us understand how we do life, what people want from us, how we learn." - Emma Dunwoody "Human Design is basically the science of being unique." - Emma Dunwoody LINKS & RESOURCES Emma Dunwoody Website (Get a Free Human Design Chart) https://www.emmadunwoody.com/ "The Human Design Podcast" (Emma Dunwoody Podcast) https://www.emmadunwoody.com/the-human-design-podcast Emma Dunwoody Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_human_design_coach/ Tanasi https://tanasi.com/ Code ADULT to get 25% off your first order MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

When we think of trust in a relationship, most of us think of broken trust and big betrayals – things like infidelity, addiction and secrets. But true trust is about the small actions that we take every day. Trust isn't something we have by default unless it's broken; it's something we have to build. With every interaction, we're either building or whittling away trust – and sometimes the things that break trust are so subtle, we don't even know we're doing them! In this episode, I'm giving you six ways to build trust so you can grow your relationship with your partner. These are small, simple actions, but they require awareness, intention and being in your Adult Chair to do consistently. If you want a long-lasting, deeper connection with your partner, this episode is a must listen! Listen to discover: What trust in a relationship is and why it's so important How trust deepens the bond in a committed relationship 6 steps to build trust today The importance of being true to your word How to own and apologize for mistakes and move forward How to show up with presence and prioritize your relationship Without trust, we can't have healthy, connected relationships. Trust is an energetic bond that creates safety and allows us to open up, be vulnerable and grow together. The good news is that it's not about perfection. All of us – including myself – don't get these right all the time. What's important is what we do when we mess up. Honesty, presence and the ability to own our mistakes are the ways we as imperfect humans create deep bonds with other imperfect humans and the key to getting the love you want – not the perfect fairy tale, but a beautiful journey of learning and growing together. "Trust is one of the essential components to a healthy, committed relationship." - Michelle Chalfant "If we're going to speak something and promise something to our partner, we want to make sure that we are able to line up behind what we're saying." - Michelle Chalfant "If you are going to speak something into existence, you have to speak it with your full energy and with you behind it…Your actions need to match your words." - Michelle Chalfant "Owning it does not mean that you're a bad person. You're a human person, and mistakes are gonna happen." - Michelle Chalfant "If you want to build trust and you're in a committed relationship, apologizing is powerful. It helps to build a connection." - Michelle Chalfant "When we have important people in our lives, we need to put the phone down, not look at the television, not get distracted by the dog or the cat or the animal in your house. We want to make sure that we're prioritizing our person and giving them our full attention." - Michelle Chalfant "We need to give our person eye contact when we're listening. Because then they're going to feel seen and they're gonna feel heard, they feel important." - Michelle Chalfant "You can't put the relationship on the back burner and your person on the back burner and expect [the relationship] to grow and flourish." - Michelle Chalfant "If you've got friends that are...acting in a way that's disrespectful to your partner, it's your job to defend your partner." - Michelle Chalfant "Even if the truth hurts, it's better than lying." - Michelle Chalfant "It feels so good to know that your person has you and you've got them. That's that bond of trust. Trust is like this energetic bond that we form with our partner." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES DOORS OPEN: "The Relationship Reset" Course https://resources.michellechalfant.com/relationships/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

For millennia, cultures around the globe have known that there's more to us than meets the eye and that our family trees really are a map to ourselves — an energetic portrait of our lives. Today, epigenetics has proven that what our ancestors experienced can imprint on our genes and impact our lives today in unexpected ways. That depression, anxiety, stress or limiting belief? It might be from long ago. And the field of psychology is finally catching up with this. A new methodology I just discovered (and got the chance to try as a client) is called Family Constellation work. In this method, we find unconscious experiences and beliefs that we're carrying from our ancestors — including those who we never knew — and work to transform them through awareness and compassion. On the podcast this week, I talked with my Family Constellation practitioner, Emily Blefeld, about what Family Constellation work is, how our family history affects our lives today and how we can clear blocks and dismantle generational cycles by being bold and brave enough to look at what happened before we were even here. It's not that different from what we do with parts work in The Adult Chair®, except instead of working with parts of ourselves we're working with parts of our family tree! It's SO freaking cool! Listen to discover: How our family history impacts our present reality The way our ancestors' patterns create patterns for us today What Family Constellation work is and how it works How to heal trauma and clear blocks through Family Constellation work Using Family Constellation work for business, non-biological relatives and more The cool thing about epigenetics is that it describes a tendency, not a fate. These experiences don't change our DNA; they change the way our genes express themselves. That means we get a choice in how these generational traumas will manifest in our lives. We don't have to agree with the beliefs and experiences of our ancestors. We can look them in the face and decide they stop with us. And there's no transformation more powerful than that – for ourselves and generations to come. "We are victim to our lineage." - Michelle Chalfant "What's unconscious will continue to permeate our lives until it's made conscious." - Emily Blefeld "We actually carry the victims and the perpetrators in our inherited lineage." - Emily Blefeld "[Family Constellation work] is predominantly a therapy that looks at the system that we walk around with." - Emily Blefeld "Constellation work is less interested in what is causing the symptom, and they're more interested in who is the symptom." - Emily Blefeld "I like to think of it as a family soul on some level." - Emily Blefeld "There's so much more to us than meets the eye." - Michelle Chalfant "There are so many different ways to clear our blocks. There's so many different ways to relieve anxiety, depression, feeling not good enough, our inner fraud, all of those things." - Michelle Chalfant "You'll feel the generations behind heal and the generations following." - Emily Blefeld "What an awesome thing to hear as a parent, your child thanking you for doing your work. Because it can stop with you." - Emily Blefeld LINKS & RESOURCES Emily Blefeld Website https://seeingwithyourheart.com/ FREE MASTERCLASS: How To Heal Your Relationship To Get the Love You Want https://theadultchair.com/healing MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

What if everything you do in your life is actually driven by one question – a question that is unconscious to you but acts as the command center for how you show up in the world? That question is what Mike Foster calls your "primal question," and let me tell you, when I discovered mine, it was like my whole life made sense. Mike developed The Seven Primal Questions system based on his research and work as a coach. The idea is that we all have a question – like, "Am I safe?" or, "Am I loved?" – that we didn't get answered in childhood and that we continue to ask as adults. When the answer to this question is "yes," we feel good and become our best selves. When it's "no," we start scrambling. Our emotional reactions, compulsions, unhelpful behaviors and survival strategies (things like perfectionism and people pleasing) are all attempts to get this question answered in the way we want. The cool thing? When we understand our primal question and the question of our loved ones, we can change everything about our relationships by healing our wounds, connecting to our gifts and intentionally answering each others' question with a "yes!" I LOVE this system, and I'm thrilled to have Mike on this show giving us a crash course in it as he breaks down the seven questions, their corresponding "primal truths" and "primal gifts" and how these questions can show up in our lives in different ways. Listen to discover: The Seven Primal Questions and what they mean for your life How to replace your primal question with a primal truth Why the flipside of your primal question is your superpower How you can stop letting your child self run your life and live from your healthy adult self How to apply your primal question in business and relationships I have a feeling you'll have some lightbulb moments during this show. I also have a link below to help you find your primal question if you're having trouble figuring it out. This tool is a GAME CHANGER for more consciously relating to ourselves and others, and I'm thrilled to share it with you! It gets down to the core of what makes us tick and shows us how to love ourselves and the people in our life better…and who doesn't want that? "In our early childhood, we get imprinted with a primal question…The primal question just represents our highest...emotional need." - Mike Foster "'Am I safe?' is really about survival…where security is really about, 'Am I resourced appropriately to be able to protect myself and sustain myself?'" - Mike Foster "[That's] what children do, we perceive the world we're in and then we make conclusions about it." - Mike Foster "The other side of the question is what I call your primal gift, and it's this superpower that every question has." - Mike Foster "[During the first six years of life] we don't have discernment...we take it on as, 'It's my fault. I did something wrong.'" - Michelle Chalfant "When we start attuning to our team members' primal question, we can really become a very effective leader with them." - Mike Foster "What we need the most is what we want to give away to others." - Mike Foster "Under every behavior is an emotional or feeling driving that behavior. But under every emotion and feeling is an unmet need driving that emotion or feeling." - Mike Foster "A question being imprinted by trauma is just gonna carry a lot more weight to it than a question just imprinted through confusion." - Mike Foster "I just see this as such an empowering tool that can help any relationship." - Michelle Chalfant "I need to be really aware of how my question is showing up in my life." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Mike Foster Website https://www.mikefoster.tv/ Seven Primal Questions Assessment https://mikefostercoaching.outgrow.us/mikefostercoaching-2 "The Seven Primal Questions" (Mike Foster Book) https://shop.mikefoster.tv/products/seven-primal-questions-book Mike Foster Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mikefoster2000/ FREE DOWNLOAD: 5 Healthy Relationship Myths https://theadultchair.com/myths Green Chef https://www.greenchef.com/60adult Use code 60ADULT for 60% off + free shipping MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Grief is a messy, complicated emotion, and very few of us know what to do with it. We don't want to (or know how to) feel it, and when we're around others who are grieving, most of us freeze. We feel uncomfortable, so we say nothing or say the wrong thing or stay away, all of which just adds to the pain. That was me in my 20s and 30s. But when I lost my father, I could no longer avoid grief. He taught me how to grieve…and I found that grief, as painful as it was, connected me to the deeper parts of my soul and made me a more whole-hearted person. In this episode, I was fortunate to connect with a new soul sister, Kris Carr, about her own journey with grief following the loss of her father. She experienced a lot of loss — including 20 years of living with Stage 4 cancer — but like me, she had spent her life shoving grief down until her dad passed away. As she walked with him from diagnosis until his death, she experienced heartbreaking moments, precious moments, joyful moments and spiritual moments that taught her more about being human and opened her up to life. We talk about how grief can show up in many different ways (not just death), what happens in our bodies when we don't process it, how to support each other through this universal human experience and how to find joy even in a world where pain is part of our reality. Listen to discover: Kris's story of learning to live with both grief and hope What to say and not say to someone who is grieving What happens when we don't process grief Healthy ways to process grief Taking a "joy inventory" of your life This conversation is raw, real and beautiful — it's wisdom earned by being in the trenches, and I hope it helps you get a little more comfortable with the discomfort of grief. There is no formula for grief. It's something we simply have to be there with. And when we learn to be there with each other and hold space for it, it can become a sacred moment of deeper connection to ourselves and to each other. "Grief is such a touchy topic, and sometimes it can be hard to even approach the idea of learning more about it." - Kris Carr "In many ways, grief is a master healer." - Kris Carr "I couldn't hold [grief] in any longer and expect to be whole." - Kris Carr "We don't want to feel [grief]. We don't want to go into the negative emotion zone. If emotions are on that spectrum of love to fear, we don't want to go on that side of the spectrum at all. And grief is sitting right there glaring at all of us." - Michelle Chalfant "None of us are going to get out this life scratch free and stain resistant." - Kris Carr "I want to welcome all the parts of me and all the emotions to the table." - Kris Carr "I don't think the [stages of grief] were ever intended to be linear." - Kris Carr "There's nothing you can do to make my pain go away. So, it's not your responsibility to fix it. It's your responsibility to be present." - Kris Carr "There's nothing anybody can say or do to make the grief go away...but showing up with presence is one the best things we can do...As a human being, to feel witnessed is such a healing experience for us." - Michelle Chalfant "Not only are [our emotions] information, but they're energy. [Crying] is just letting that energy out." - Kris Carr "While you have the chance to be alive, how can you live as fully as possible, even though you've experienced enormous heartache?" - Kris Carr LINKS & RESOURCES Kris Carr Website https://kriscarr.com/ "I'm Not a Mourning Person" (Kris Carr Book) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401970060 FREE DOWNLOAD: 5 Healthy Relationship Myths https://theadultchair.com/myths MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

You're here today, doing the work, living from your Adult Chair, becoming who you want to become. It feels really good. But as we live and grow and transform, it can sometimes bring up negative feelings about our past. Whether we made mistakes, missed opportunities, were hurt by someone or experienced a life-altering loss, every one of us has something about our past we wish we could change. Regret can cut deep – into our very souls – and bring a lot of pain, shame and blame with it. But whenever we live in regret, it causes us to miss another opportunity: the chance to make the most of the moment we have right now. In this show, I'm giving you three common reasons we get stuck in the past and six ways to make peace with your past and start living in the present moment. You will gain a new perspective on your past and learn to reframe it so you can rewire your brain to live without regret. Listen to discover: 3 reasons we get stuck in the past (and what to do about them) Why living in present reality is so much better than past reality How to reframe how you think about your past 6 ways to make peace with your past Remember, today will soon become your past. Will you look back and wish you hadn't spent it stuck in regret? Or will you make the most of the moment and use the power you have right now to be who you want to be today? The present moment is such a powerful reality to live in. It's here that we find peace and joy. It's here that we have the ability to make this moment one we won't regret. "The decision that we made in that moment, I don't care how old you were…the person that we were in that moment, we were showing up the very, very best that we could." - Michelle Chalfant "97% of the time, our assumptions are incorrect." - Michelle Chalfant "Things that happened in our past, no matter if it's a death or someone has done something to us or we made mistakes, it can be difficult to move on, but it's possible." - Michelle Chalfant "When we live in the moment, it's a much different reality. It's almost as if the world opens up." - Michelle Chalfant "Living in the past is like having an anchor tied around our waist trying to move forward." - Michelle Chalfant "What I'm giving you today are ways to move you forward into the moment." - Michelle Chalfant "When we don't feel our emotions around something, guess what? It keeps us stuck." - Michelle Chalfant "When we block our emotions, we're blocking ourselves." - Michelle Chalfant "Forgiveness releases the hold that the past has on you." - Michelle Chalfant "When we get in the habit of going back and beating up on ourselves or being mad about someone else…what we do is we form these neural pathways, and they are not healthy. It's like we set the roadmap in our brains to go back and beat up on self." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Podcast #381: Summer Series: How To Get Rid of Negative Emotions https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/381/ A Guided Meditation for Cleansing Relationships and Cutting Cords https://theadultchair.com/portfolio_page/a-guided-meditation-for-cleansing-relationships-and-cutting-cords/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Codependency is one of those issues that can often come across as selfless to those around us...in fact, it might even earn us praise because we seem so nice and helpful (although at our own expense). But what if I told you that codependency was actually a form of control? This episode today was inspired by a very insightful question from one of our listeners who shared his realization that in his codependency, he was being unintentionally manipulative and controlling. He was showing up as the ever-helpful husband, but he was often doing this from a place of trying to get his own needs met (earning his wife's love, support, etc.). Of course, this was not conscious, and once he had his awakening, he wanted to know how to move forward and learn how to be genuinely helpful and healthy. Codependency is one of my favorite topics to talk about, and in this episode, I'm giving you five simple steps for what to do next when you find yourself asking, "I'm codependent. Now what?" Listen to discover: How we improve our relationships with others when we're codependent Why this is different than intentional or abusive control Five steps to break the pattern of codependency Why realizing you're codependent isn't a bad thing If this is you, the first step is to drop the blame and shame. You weren't trying to be manipulative; you were trying to survive based on what your programming told you to do. Once you realize this, you can step into a whole new chapter in your life...one filled with healthier relationships and a healthier connection to self! "We're controlling and being manipulative from an unconscious place." - Michelle Chalfant "We betray ourselves and change who we are in order to make sure other people outside of us are happy and peaceful. That's how it's manipulative and controlling." - Michelle Chalfant "We need someone who can fact check us." - Michelle Chalfant "That's why so many codependents are so exhausted, because our energy is going out to others all day, every day." - Michelle Chalfant MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Grief, anger, sadness, fear…YUCK! I don't know anyone who likes to feel these emotions. I get emails from you guys all the time asking how to get rid of "negative" emotions like these. But are these emotions really negative? Or do they serve a purpose in our lives? While some emotions might feel more unpleasant than others, I personally don't believe any emotion is negative. All emotions are part of the human experience and carry information for us. However, they can create negative experiences in life when we get stuck in them. The problem isn't the emotions; it's that we don't know what to do with them! In this show, I'm teaching you how to work through the full range of emotions you were designed to experience as a human and how to get unstuck if you find yourself lost in anger, grief or fear. You'll discover practical steps for feeling your emotions in a way that allows them to move through you, no matter how you saw emotions modeled growing up. Listen to discover: Why "negative" emotions serve a purpose in life The messages we receive about emotions as children What causes emotions to get stuck Practical steps to feel emotions and move them through you Emotions are simply energy that moves through our body and creates sensation. And on the spectrum of emotions from love to fear, some feel better than others…but because they are energy, they can ALL move through us (and move through us quickly). Problems arise when emotions come up that we don't want to feel. We avoid them and shut them down, which makes us more likely to get stuck in these "negative" experiences. That's why we have to start going INTO our emotions, no matter how uncomfortable it might feel. When you do this, you'll be surprised how quickly they move through you...and what powerful insights they might hold for you. ​​"We're human, and humans were created to have emotions. We were created to have a range of emotions." - Michelle Chalfant "There's an energy to emotions that rises up and passes through us." - Michelle Chalfant "I don't even like to call emotions on the fear end of the spectrum 'negative.'" - Michelle Chalfant "Anger propels us forward." - Michelle Chalfant "Energy is always in motion, and emotions are energy." - Michelle Chalfant "Something that keeps emotions stuck is a story." - Michelle Chalfant "Just let it go and be present with whatever is coming up." - Michelle Chalfant "When you put pen to paper, you're tapping into your unconscious world." - Michelle Chalfant "There's power when someone is witnessing what's going on in our inner world." - Michelle Chalfant "If you feel the energy of peace, it's neutral." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Green Chef https://www.greenchef.com/adult50 Use code ADULT50 for 50% off + free shipping MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Our society today is facing an epidemic of anxiety. Despite technology that promises to make our lives faster and easier, it seems that we're more anxious than ever. In 2020, Google searches for "anxiety" reached an all-time high. We have to look beyond the diagnosis of anxiety and seek to find the root cause of why so many people are living with such high stress and dysregulation that are creating anxiety. There is something bigger going on here. And since we're whole humans, we need to look at the whole picture – mind, body and spirit – when thinking about how we heal and manage anxiety. My guest on this show, Dr. Ellen Vora, is a psychiatrist who takes a functional medicine approach to anxiety, looking at mental health factors and physical health factors, such as sleep, digestion and blood sugar, that can add up to throw us out of balance and contribute to feelings of anxiety. She also helps us to distinguish between feelings of anxiety that come from a physical imbalance vs. true anxiety, which comes from our inner compass telling us something truly isn't ok. Listen to discover: What's causing our current epidemic of anxiety The connection between sleep and anxiety Why blood sugar imbalances can cause "false anxiety" The difference between true anxiety and false anxiety The many reasons for cell phone-induced anxiety Spirituality and anxiety management A psychiatrist's honest opinion about psychedelics, medications and anxiety We need to start taking a "layered" approach to treating and managing anxiety by looking at the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual elements of our lives and how they work together to create stress or health. This hopeful approach to anxiety empowers us all to make choices that support our well-being, even in the face of real personal and mental health challenges. "I was sort of taking the temperature of our society, and the temperature right now is anxiety." - Dr. Ellen Vora "False anxiety is anxiety that is not our true essence." - Dr. Ellen Vora "It's not just one thing that we have to look at." - Michelle Chalfant "Genes plays a role, but that keeps a lot of us feeling stuck and feeling destined to be anxious....it's more dynamic than we appreciate." - Dr. Ellen Vora "Our problems, our stressors are still valid. It's just that if we had a snack and our blood sugar was more stable in that moment, we would be more resilient in the face of our stressors." - Dr. Ellen Vora "Our mind is the consummate meaning maker." - Dr. Ellen Vora "It's not like we have to dramatically change everything that we do, but we just want to make informed choices." - Dr. Ellen Vora "We don't get to gluten free or decaf coffee our way out of our true anxiety." - Dr. Ellen Vora "I would have my clients sit in their bodies and feel what was going on, and their physical symptoms would start to change." - Michelle Chalfant "[Anxiety] is the physical manifestation of unfelt emotions." - Michelle Chalfant "It's our body that's able to listen and really dial in and tap into a deeper knowing." - Dr. Ellen Vora "It's turning toward the anxiety instead of turning away from." - Michelle Chalfant "We reach outside of ourselves to 'fix us'…and it doesn't end it. We've gotta get to the root." - Michelle Chalfant "We need to change our narrative of what is materially possible." - Dr. Ellen Vora "We're never stuck. We are never broken." - Dr. Ellen Vora LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Ellen Vora Website https://ellenvora.com/ Dr. Ellen Vora Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ellenvoramd/ "The Anatomy of Anxiety" (Dr. Ellen Vora book) https://www.amazon.com/Anatomy-Anxiety-Understanding-Overcoming-Response/dp/0063075091 The Self-Worth Meditation Bundle https://theadultchair.com/worthy MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Do you ever feel like you're being disloyal to your family for having your own life? Or do you feel like you're second fiddle to your partner's parents? If so, you or your partner might come from an enmeshed family: a system of relating to each other that is based on dependency, guilt, obligation and too much closeness (yes, that can be a thing!). In today's episode, I'm bringing back one of your favorite guests, Dr. Ken Adams, to talk about the important topic of enmeshment – and let me tell you, he is SUCH a wealth of knowledge! When I knew we were bringing Dr. Adams back, I asked The Adult Chair® community what you wanted to know about enmeshment, and I was flooded with questions! So, I used this time with Dr. Adams to ask him YOUR questions – everything from the difference between codependency and enmeshment to what to do if your spouse is enmeshed with his or her family to how to let go as an enmeshed parent. I know you guys are so excited to have Dr. Adams back and to get your questions answered, and I am too! Listen to discover: The line between being caring and enmeshment The difference between codependency and enmeshment What to do if you come from an enmeshed family or your spouse's family is enmeshed How to manage guilt when stepping out of an enmeshed system What a healthy family looks like How different cultural norms can foster enmeshment Tips for enmeshed parents who want to change their pattern of relating to their children or who are struggling with letting go The key to recognizing enmeshment is to understand that it's a connection bound by guilt. It goes beyond being caring and even beyond being codependent to the point of obligation, anger and being accused of disloyalty if you don't follow the family system. These feelings of guilt can make it difficult to set boundaries, but if you stay in your Adult, sit with your emotions and hold those boundaries, freedom – and possibly a much healthier family overall – is waiting for you on the other side. "In those enmeshed systems, dependency is built on obligation and loyalty is driven by guilt." - Dr. Ken Adams "Autonomy and separateness feel like disloyalty." - Dr. Ken Adams "Sometimes outsiders are viewed suspiciously, which includes your spouse." - Dr. Ken Adams "Both partners are responsible for keeping out intrusions". - Dr. Ken Adams "Sometimes the guilt is a representation that you're doing the right thing." - Dr. Ken Adams "You don't let the guilt stop you from continuing the boundaries in that relationship." - Michelle Chalfant "It's really building up self-worth around who am I now…who am I really underneath these masks that my parents put on me." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Ken Adams Website https://www.overcomingenmeshment.com/ Episode #256: Understanding Enmeshment with Dr. Ken Adams https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/256/ Episode #276: Raising Teens from The Adult Chair® with Dr. Pam Staples https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/276/ Find an Adult Chair® Coach https://theadultchair.com/coaches/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Rejection is one of the greatest fears we have as humans. Even simple rejections like not making the team or being chosen for a job – things we know aren't personal – still sting deeply. Why does rejection seem to hit at the core of who we are? Susan Anderson began asking this question when she went through a personal experience of abandonment. The love of her life left her suddenly for another woman, and although she was a practicing psychotherapist with immense knowledge of the human mind, she still found herself in emotional crisis and doubting herself and her worthiness. As she dug more into this topic, she discovered that we as humans have a primal abandonment wound – a universal experience that begins when we are born and go from deep union and connection with our mother to a feeling of being separate. This creates deep shame and causes us to search for belonging and worthiness throughout our lives. And this is why rejection hurts so much: it triggers this deep fear that we might not belong and we might not be worthy. In this fascinating and important episode, Susan shares her discoveries on the topic of abandonment, why we experience it the ways we do and how a whole host of other issues in our lives can stem from this wound. We discussed why healing abandonment trauma looks different from healing other traumas, the five stages of healing and the tools (all of which are part of The Adult Chair® model) that can heal it. Listen to discover: The hidden shame we all have and the root of it The different defenses we put up against shame How to raise our awareness to our abandonment wounds Why healing from abandonment looks different from other forms of trauma healing Steps to healing abandonment wounding How working with abandonment wounding can help with people pleasing, codependency and self-sabotage 5 stages of processing abandonment hurt The primal wound of abandonment is also an opportunity for primal healing. When we learn to love and accept ourselves as worthy and recognize how deeply connected we truly are, we not only heal our abandonment wound, but we can change almost anything in our lives. "The loneliness is sort of a secondary feeling. The primary is the primal fear and the shame of maybe never being worthy of keeping someone." - Susan Anderson "The personality itself is a defense against the shame." - Susan Anderson "When we look at a relationship that ends, it is a retraumatization of what we experienced as a child." - Michelle Chalfant "The history that leads to a strong reaction in adulthood to abandonment could be very subtle." - Susan Anderson "You have to take this step, and you go through it...The pain is there, but you go through it, and you get to the other side." - Michelle Chalfant "Your adult self can now develop an intense, loving, reassuring relationship with your inner child." - Susan Anderson "It turns this awful emotional crisis that's so painful into an opportunity for something that's probably long overdue, which is self-love." - Susan Anderson "Doing these steps, you will become an even better, stronger, more self-loving person on the other side of it...even stronger than you were prior to this abandonment wound." - Michelle Chalfant "The kind of self-love that we're developing is deeper, more mature self-love...the kind of love you give yourself because you respect yourself so much." - Susan Anderson "We have to stop looking outside of self and turn our attention inward. That's where healing, that's where love, that's where hope, that's where peace, that's where all the things are that we're looking for outside of ourselves." - Michelle Chalfant "When the adult gets strong and is in command, it limits all of this self-sabotage." - Susan Anderson LINKS & RESOURCES Susan Anderson Website https://www.abandonment.net/ https://abandonmentrecovery.com "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing" (Susan Anderson book) https://www.amazon.com/Journey-Abandonment-Healing-Surviving-Recovering/dp/0425273539 Green Chef https://www.greenchef.com/adult50 Use code ADULT50 for 50% off + free shipping MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

In my 25 years of private practice, the #1 issue I worked on with clients was feeling their emotions. Whether someone was anxious, reactive and raging or numb to the world, the question they were all asking was, "What the heck do I do with these emotions?" I've been there too. And it breaks my heart, because experiencing emotions is one of the gifts of being human. But the good news is that all of us can reclaim this part of ourselves and learn to feel our emotions. And when we do, it unlocks all kinds of possibilities in life! In this episode, I'm breaking down why it's so important that we learn to feel our emotions and some practical ways to do that. I'm also addressing some of the common fears and discomfort around feeling emotions (like, "What if I get stuck in this emotion?") and helping you understand why this is your birthright – and how it can improve your relationships, your intuition and your life! Listen to discover: Why it's so important to feel your emotions Why most humans struggle with this Four practical ways to feel your emotions How to connect with your inner child How to overcome blocks in feeling emotions No one is born without emotions, but along the way, we learn to suppress them – and in turn, disconnect from who we really are. Feeling emotions is the key to connecting back to yourself and one of the foundational pillars of being a healthy adult. I hope this episode helps guide you back to this essential part of you. "We'd have a completely different world if we were all able to tune into what our emotions are." - Michelle Chalfant "We become whole humans when we feel our emotions." - Michelle Chalfant "We're all born to feel emotions." - Michelle Chalfant "When we feel our emotions, it is a gateway into our intuition. We have enhanced intuition when we are in tune with and know what we are feeling emotionally." - Michelle Chalfant "Instead of asking yourself, 'What do I think?" ask yourself, "What do I feel?'" - Michelle Chalfant "Empathy is when we're able to tune into another person and feel what they're feeling. It's a beautiful skill to have." - Michelle Chalfant "Connecting with the inner child is simply activating an energy." - Michelle Chalfant "There's so much power in feeling our emotions." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Free Inner Child Resource https://theadultchair.com/innerchild MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

You landed the dream gig, got the promotion, submitted your book for publishing, had an amazing first date. So, why do you feel so insecure, unsure and even unworthy? Hello, imposter syndrome! Imposter syndrome, or feeling like a fraud, is something that everyone struggles with from time to time — yep, even those super successful people you look up to. It's that feeling that you don't really deserve the recognition or opportunities you've earned or you worry you're not really good enough for them. It often sounds like, "If they only knew…" Imposter syndrome can pop up when something good happens in our life or it can hold us back from ever going after our dreams. In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly what imposter syndrome is, where it comes from and the concrete steps you can take to work through it and overcome it! Listen to discover: What imposter syndrome is Where it comes from Practical steps to stop feeling like a fraud or an imposter Feeling like a fraud is part of the human experience. But because this feeling causes us shame, we hide it and then end up thinking we're the only ones. It's time we talk about it openly — and talk about what you can do so it doesn't hold you back any longer! I hope the steps in this episode are steps you can turn to anytime you feel imposter syndrome creep up. "If you feel this way, don't feel like you're the only one." - Michelle Chalfant "It's the feeling that you're a fraud, that you don't deserve compliments, praise or success that you rightfully earned." - Michelle Chalfant "When we have imposter syndrome, we feel like our success happened by chance or by luck." - Michelle Chalfant "It's like we're carrying around this big, dark secret that we want no one to know about." - Michelle Chalfant "It's critical to have self-worth. This is one of the ways that we work ourselves out of feeling like a fraud or an imposter." - Michelle Chalfant "When we can become witness to it, we give ourselves another perspective." - Michelle Chalfant "Don't let your rouge thoughts run your life." - Michelle Chalfant "When we change our thoughts into positive, conscious thoughts about who we are, it feels better." - Michelle Chalfant "What we're not great at doing is accepting and owning our accomplishments." - Michelle Chalfant "These are your accomplishments. They're yours. Claim them. Be proud of them." - Michelle Chalfant "Self-worth is key to changing your mindset about being a fraud." - Michelle Chalfant "Self-worth is all about value." - Michelle Chalfant "Imposter syndrome is much more common than you would think." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Green Chef https://www.greenchef.com/adult60 Use code ADULT60 for 60% off + free shipping The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ \ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Cheers. Salud. Skol. Wherever you are in the world, it seems like alcohol punctuates every celebration. But have we stopped to ask if alcohol is really good for us? Or have we paused to get curious about why we drink – and when it moves from genuine enjoyment to unhealthy numbing out? Recently, I've noticed more people having conversations about sobriety, from giving up drinking entirely to swapping a few cocktails for mocktails, and I thought it was time we talked about alcohol through the lens of The Adult Chair®. In this episode, I'm chatting with Laura McKowen, who has written extensively about getting sober and runs a global sobriety support community. She openly and vulnerably shares her story of using alcohol to numb her emotions, why and how she got sober and what her life looks like now. We talked about how our culture normalizes excessive drinking, all the emotions that come up when getting sober and ways to tell if you might have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. If you're at all "sober curious," you're going to love hearing her perspective! Listen to discover: Laura's story of getting sober and why she chose to stop drinking How drinking culture normalizes excessive drinking Busting health myths about alcohol The connection between alcohol and anxiety How Laura's life got better when she got sober The way we use alcohol to numb our emotions How to develop a healthier relationship with alcohol, whether you choose to cut it out completely or enjoy it in moderation Like everything in The Adult Chair, we aren't talking in terms of "do" or "don't" or "good" or "bad," but about bringing consciousness into the decisions we make. My goal for this show is not to tell you to stop drinking, but to encourage you to take a closer look at when you drink, why you drink and how you drink so you can truly live life to the fullest: present, awake and alive! "I knew I liked to drink a little too much. I loved it a little too much." - Laura McKowen [When offered a drink after a bad day] "I don't want a glass of wine. I would like to come talk to you about my emotions though." - Michelle Chalfant "We end up recreating our life in a way that decenters alcohol...my life is still my life." - Laura McKowen "When you are drinking even a little more than you want to, it keeps you from facing the truth." - Laura McKowen "Alcohol provides a really great shield to just sort of skim across the top of life." - Laura McKowen "I was in a lot of emotional pain. I know that's exactly why I reached for alcohol." - Michelle Chalfant "We don't get away with not feeling things. It goes somewhere." - Laura McKowen "Shame disconnects us from our humanity and the humanity in other people." - Laura McKowen "The not drinking wasn't the cure....it was actually connecting with other people in a meaningful way and healing in relationship with people that allowed me to heal." - Laura McKowen LINKS & RESOURCES Laura McKowen Website https://www.lauramckowen.com/ Laura McKowen Instagram https://www.instagram.com/laura_mckowen/ "Push Off From Here" (Laura McKowen Book) https://www.lauramckowen.com/books The Self-Worth Meditation Bundle https://theadultchair.com/worthy MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

There are so many different aspects of being an emotionally healthy adult. We're complex, connected beings, and our bodies, our minds, our emotions, our spiritual lives…they all play a role in how we feel every day. It all matters! One of the areas we don't talk about enough is our hormones. Hormones impact SO many of our bodily and mental functions, and we've been kept in the dark about them for too long! Everyone deserves to understand this part of themselves! In this episode, I talk to hormone health educator Candace Burch to help us understand all things hormones…and wow, is she a WEALTH of information! We talk about how hormones impact our lives from our teenage years all the way through menopause, the symptoms of hormonal imbalances and all the related topics when it comes to hormones: birth control, fertility, anxiety, acne, PCOS, stress and SO much more. You will walk away with a much better understanding of the role of each hormone in your body and the empowered choices you have when it comes to balancing your hormones. Listen to discover: The classic signs and symptoms of hormone imbalances Some of the things that can contribute to hormone balance Hormonal changes you can expect in each stage of life The key female hormones and the importance of adrenal health How to approach hormone testing and replenishment/supplementation The root cause of PCOS This show focuses on female hormones since they are so complex, but I hope it is helpful for all of us to recognize that our internal chemistry and the cyclical nature of our bodies are not to be ignored. When we learn to work with our bodies, trust our intuitions and get support when we're feeling out of balance, we can take more ownership of our health through every stage of life. "Painful periods are not normal." - Candace Burch "So many women are not aware of the symptoms or they become their symptoms." - Candace Burch "The whole concept of hormone imbalance is relatively new." - Candace Burch "Ovulation disruption is one of the big reasons people become hormonally imbalanced." - Candace Burch "When you talk about health or hormonal health in any case, it's always about nutrient dense proteins, good nutrition." - Candace Burch "That's key: keeping blood sugar stable." - Candace Burch "There's this inevitable road to hormones shifting, but they shouldn't be shifting like a roller coaster." - Candace Burch "I think a lot of people don't even know how to relax anymore." - Candace Burch "The adrenals are key to everything really." - Candace Burch "There are not a lot of studies with intermittent fasting with women." - Michelle Chalfant "Progesterone is the great balancing hormone." - Candace Burch "Estrogen has so many functions. We need it." - Candace Burch "I'm a fan of hormone replenishment when testing takes place first, in measured doses." - Candace Burch "High cortisol at night is really problematic." - Candace Burch "I think most PCOS is very much linked to insulin resistance and an imbalance of blood sugar." - Candace Burch "Anyone that has PCOS doesn't need to feel helpless and hopeless." - Candace Burch "I think women have to trust their intuition." - Candace Burch LINKS & RESOURCES Candace Burch Website https://www.yourhormonebalance.com/ Your Hormone Balance Instagram https://www.instagram.com/yourhormonebalance The Self-Worth Meditation Bundle https://theadultchair.com/worthy Build Your Own Rebalancing Package https://www.yourhormonebalance.com/b-y-o-rebalancing-package?ref=48199-The-Adult-Chair-Podcast Use code ADULTCHAIR50 for $50 off MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

You see their name pop up on your phone, and you immediately notice yourself feeling stressed. It's that friend who always seems to be in crisis, who always calls to gossip or vent. We all know that person…many of us ARE that person. It's called drama addiction, and there's a part in all of us that is drawn towards chaos and stress. Sometimes this shows up in big, dramatic ways, and other times, it's subtler, like our need to always be busy, doom scroll through the news or argue with someone on social media. My brilliant guest today, Dr. Scott Lyons, is a trauma expert who has studied what is really going on in the brain and body when we're addicted to drama. He breaks down what trauma does in our body, why addiction forms in response and what exactly is happening in our nervous system when we seek out stress, busyness and drama. Dr. Lyons also helps us navigate situations where others are pulling us into their drama (including news and social media), explaining why we do this, how it affects our nervous systems and the boundaries we can put in place to protect ourselves. This episode is full of major "aha" moments that will help you better understand trauma and how stress affects you, whether you are addicted to drama or know someone who is. Listen to discover: What exactly "drama" is The connection between addiction and trauma Why drama addiction forms and its relationship with the nervous system How social media and 24-hour news has changed our brains and made us more prone to drama addiction How drama addiction affects those around us — and how others' drama affects our nervous system Steps you can take today to minimize addiction to drama We all unconsciously do the things that make us feel safe, accepted, loved and alive. If we grew up in a chaotic or dysregulating environment, drama feels safe to us, and that's why we seek it out. Understanding your nervous system and how your experiences have shaped it is so empowering and will greatly increase your compassion for yourself and others. This show is a must listen! "We all know someone addicted to drama." - Dr. Scott Lyons "The first part of a stress response is a release of endorphins, is a release of pain relief…So, we become attached, dependent on wanting hits of things that give us essentially that constant stream of pain relief." - Dr. Scott Lyons "In our nervous systems, our exaggerated responses are justified if we're addicted to drama." - Dr. Scott Lyons "Self-regulation is the ability to know how much energy, attention and emotion to utilize in our system to properly adapt to a stimulus." - Dr. Scott Lyons "An addiction to drama looks different on the outside than what it feels like on the inside." - Dr. Scott Lyons "I've noticed with people in my life that are chronically busy, when there's a space of downtime, boom, it's filled right away." - Michelle Chalfant "That tornado of chaos that we all know so well, that we've either created ourselves or been pulled into, that is a sad cry for a sense of connection." - Dr. Scott Lyons "I would think as soon as the internet was created that [drama addiction] became a bigger addiction for most people." - Michelle Chalfant "The ways in which media, and social media specifically, operate have replicated the conditions of an addiction to drama, but on an endemic scale." - Dr. Scott Lyons "We live in a stress economy." - Dr. Scott Lyons "Negative information — fear, anger, sadness — will be more capturing of our attention than positive news…We are more likely in watching the news to believe bad things will happen to us." - Dr. Scott Lyons "The most contagious state is a stress state." - Dr. Scott Lyons "We want the drama." - Michelle Chalfant "I did so much nervous system work with myself for so many years, and I'm finally in this place of much more balance…now I protect myself from drama." - Michelle Chalfant "That is the curative to an addiction, and it is belonging. And when we belong to ourselves, we can start to lower the drawbridge and feel intimacy, the safety for intimacy and belonging to other people." - Dr. Scott Lyons LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Scott Lyons Website https://www.drscottlyons.com/ Dr. Scott Lyons Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drscottlyons/ "The Gently Used Human" (Dr. Scott Lyons Podcast) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-gently-used-human-with-dr-scott-lyons/id1685789759 "Addicted to Drama" (Dr. Scott Lyons Book) https://www.amazon.com/Addicted-Drama-Healing-Dependency-Yourself/dp/0306925834 The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thea

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses topics such as exercise, relationship with food and body image. Though the intent is to promote a conscious and healthy mindset around these topics, please use caution in listening if you have a history of an eating disorder or body image disorder. Summer is here…and with it, thousands of messages about diets, weight loss and fitness. There is so much pressure from society to look a certain way, and these messages can be so harmful to our mental and emotional health. At the same time, movement and nourishment are vital parts of both physical and mental health, and many people have positive fitness goals for themselves: being able to participate in a sport they love, having more energy to play with their kids or staying active as they get older. We need a more conscious approach to the conversation around fitness and nutrition – one where we learn to tune out the voices of our society and tune into ourselves instead: our why, what we really want and what we uniquely need to be healthy. Brian Keane is a personal trainer who helps his clients approach fitness from a more holistic perspective, bringing mindset, motivation and emotional well-being into the fitness journey. He realized that clients would come to him saying they wanted their bodies to look a certain way, but what they really wanted was to feel a certain way: secure, confident, peaceful. Now as part of his training, he helps people identify their why, connect to their emotions, evaluate their relationship with food and exercise and look at the whole picture of well-being – sleep, stress, connection, etc. In this episode, Brian breaks down his holistic approach to fitness, walking us through how to navigate diet claims, find inner strength while remaining self-compassionate, tap into the power of motivation and make small, lasting changes in any area of life. Listen to discover: What exactly a holistic approach to fitness is How to tell the difference between physical hunger and emotional hunger Sorting through diet culture and the millions of claims about the "best" way to eat Building mental toughness while staying self-compassionate How to find motivation Why trying to make too many changes over time is counterproductive Our bodies are part of the self, and all parts of us are interconnected. Our emotional health impacts how we treat ourselves physically, and how we care for ourselves physically impacts our emotional well-being. The key is to find a balanced approach to fitness that incorporates the whole self. Whether you're someone who can't wait to get to the gym, someone who wants to start exercising more or someone learning to treat your body more kindly, it's all about tuning out the noise, the pressure and the cookie cutter images of beauty and doing what works for YOU! "I help [clients] rewire their relationship with food and rewire their relationship with fitness so that they can take that holistic approach so that it's serving their life and not taking from it." - Brian Keane "Everything that happens to us happens to us for a reason. What's meant for you won't pass you as long as you listen." - Brian Keane "In their mind, they think that if they look this specific way, it will remove this feeling that they have." - Brian Keane "When you take a holistic approach to fitness, all those other areas of your life can improve." - Brian Keane "It's always an internal job." - Michelle Chalfant "So many of us, we use food to numb out our emotions." - Michelle Chalfant "With food being 'good' and 'bad,' that's more a projection that we as humans are putting on the food." - Brian Keane "Your body knows what it wants you to eat." - Michelle Chalfant "It's all about balance." - Michelle Chalfant "Motivation is just a state change." - Brian Keane "Everything is difficult when you try to change it first. But...if you persevere and you're consistent with it and you make it a daily habit, eventually it becomes your new normal, and then it becomes easy." - Brian Keane "Too many changes too soon is a recipe for failure." - Brian Keane "The small things done consistently well lead to extraordinary results over time." - Brian Keane "I don't like that word, 'diet,' but I do like having this goal of just being healthy." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Brian Keane Website https://briankeanefitness.com/ "The Fitness Mindset" (Brian Keane book) https://briankeanefitness.com/fitness-mindset/ "Rewire Your Mindset" (Brian Keane book) https://briankeanefitness.com/rewire-your-mindset/ Crisis Text Line for Eating Disorders https://www.crisistextline.org/topics/eating-disorders/#what-is-an-eating-disorder-1 The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: http

There's someone in your life you love, but the relationship just isn't working. Despite your best efforts to communicate and try to work things out, nothing is changing. This person seems totally uninterested in listening to you or working on the relationship. You've hit a wall, and the relationship feels stuck. This can be so maddening, frustrating, disappointing and painful! You wouldn't be trying to make it work if you didn't care for this person, but you can't make them change…and you're hurting in the meantime. I hear from listeners all the time who find themselves in this situation, with a romantic partner, a friend, a family member or a colleague. They want to know: How do you approach this with an Adult Chair perspective…not just for the relationship, but for yourself? In this episode, I'm giving you five steps to take when you feel stuck or at an impasse with someone in your life. These are all things YOU have the power to do, no matter the other person's response, and they will help you find new clarity, perspective and ideas for navigating this situation. Listen to discover: A higher perspective on why relationships come and go Five steps to working through a relationship dead end or stalemate The power of acceptance and letting go How to control what you can and release what you can't How to take care of yourself no matter what happens in the relationship Relationships can be beautiful, hard and everything in between. It's ok – and even expected – that certain people will come and go throughout our lives. Perhaps you've learned what you're meant to learn and it's time to let go, or perhaps there's something for your soul to learn by working through this difficult process together. Whether you want to keep fighting for a relationship or you know it's time to end it, the steps in this episode will help you stay in your Adult Chair, control what you can, let go of what you can't and take care of YOU, so you can live with peace and hope no matter what happens with the relationship. "Have you considered that the reason that you're with this person…is because you needed to learn, grow, transform or find something about yourself?" - Michelle Chalfant "Acceptance and liking are two very different things." - Michelle Chalfant "When you're able to accept somebody for who they are, there's almost like a release that happens. There's a detachment that happens." - Michelle Chalfant "People are not going to change until they're ready and willing to change." - Michelle Chalfant "Just because the relationship needs to be shifted, it doesn't mean it has to end." - Michelle Chalfant "We cannot go around our pain. We go through our pain, and we are stronger on the other side." - Michelle Chalfant "Emotions are meant to be experienced, felt and processed, or metabolized, through the body and the energy field. And if we don't build a story around what we're feeling…those emotions move through us." - Michelle Chalfant "Boundaries are not confrontational." - Michelle Chalfant "To let go is to truly detach from [the] outcome, and we let go of our expectations as well." - Michelle Chalfant "It's beautiful when we are able to look at our lives and ask, 'What do I need?'" - Michelle Chalfant "Relationships can be beautiful, but they can also be really hard…and they can also be somewhere in the middle." - Michelle Chalfant MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

"I'm such a horrible person." "I can't believe I did that…I'm so stupid." "I'm not good enough." Do these types of thoughts sound familiar? If so, you're not alone. As humans, we can be so mean to ourselves. We make a mistake and beat ourselves up for hours. We look in the mirror and are met with a barrage of negative self-talk. Sometimes these thoughts come at us relentlessly, like a flood. But these thoughts are not the truth about who we are. They come from an inner part or voice inside of us that is actually trying to keep us safe. And when we have the tools to work with these parts of self, we can stop these critical and ruminating thoughts in their tracks – and transform so many of the struggles that come with them, like depression, low self-worth and overwhelm. In this episode, I'm sharing the story of a friend who came to me for help with critical thoughts that she couldn't shake. I walk you step-by-step through the parts work method I used with her and the process she went through that stopped those thoughts almost instantly. Then, I explain why parts work is so powerful, how it works in our unconscious mind and exactly how you can use it to work with your own critical parts – or any other part of yourself for that matter! Listen to discover: How to stop ruminating and negative self-talk in its tracks The process I used with a friend to help her quiet her critical, ruminating thoughts My own experience using parts work to transform a ruminating thought I was having How to use parts work to transform any part of yourself A step-by-step parts work process you can use anytime, anywhere The amazing thing about parts work is that you don't have to spend years working with a part or even be in a coaching or therapy session to do this work. My friend's transformation happened during a casual conversation we had after work. And as I share in this episode, I use parts work when I'm out for a walk or in the middle of the day. This is an empowering tool we ALL need in our toolbox! At the heart of parts work is giving ourselves what we needed but didn't get when we were young. As a healthy adult, you now get to be that strong, caring adult for your younger self – and when you do, you will be amazed at the deep inner healing that takes place. "I started doing parts work when I was 30 years old, and I changed my life." - Michelle Chalfant "Not everybody's visual, so please don't think there's something wrong if you [don't visualize a part]." - Michelle Chalfant "I always thank these parts because they are doing such a good job at keeping me safe." - Michelle Chalfant "This is what I love about the unconscious mind…they pull things out of left field." - Michelle Chalfant "When you are hearing these voices in your head, the ruminating thoughts, the beating up on self…start asking yourself this question: 'Who is saying that?'" - Michelle Chalfant "I really think you are going to be amazed at the different parts of yourself that you will start to discover." - Michelle Chalfant "This is how we really experience more of who we are, and this is the journey we are on in order to rediscover and live from our true self." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Share Your Love: Review The Adult Chair® Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634 The Adult Chair® Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

As humans, we all have needs. From the time we're babies, when we literally need someone to feed us and take care of us, to adults who need connection, safety and belonging, our wants and needs are part of our inner world and part of ourselves. But somewhere along the way we start to feel ashamed of these needs, believing we're "too much" or "weak" or too "needy." But I believe being able to acknowledge and ask for what we need is actually a superpower! My guest today, Mara Glatzel, is a coach who helps people stop self-abandoning and start taking ownership of their needs. She digs into the many different dynamics of what it means to be a human who has needs and how we can better take care of ourselves as we navigate this world. We talk about the most common human needs, why we tend to judge and suppress our own needs and how it's when we suppress them that our needs come out sideways (as anger, resentment, unrealistic expectations or disconnecting from self). Mara shares how to build a practice of connecting with self to check in with your needs on a regular basis, how to reclaim your sense of self if you've lost it and how to start validating and taking care of your needs…the true definition of self-care. Listen to discover: Why having needs isn't weakness The two most common reasons people struggle with their needs Some of the most common human needs The difference between having needs and being "needy" What real self-care looks like When and how to check in with self to learn what you need What "self-partnership" is and how you can take responsibility for your needs The Child Chair (or inner child) is where we are connected to our true needs – physical, emotional and spiritual. As healthy adults, we know how to advocate for our needs by using the power of choice and boundaries to protect ourselves, as well as asking for what we need while honoring others' boundaries. I hope this episode helps you start owning your needs as a strength, so instead of shaming ourselves for having needs, we can become people who support ourselves and others in healthy ways. "The reality is that our needs are a fact and not a flaw." - Mara Glatzel "A need is whatever it is that you require in order to exist and survive." - Mara Glatzel "I think we need training to tap into ourselves so we can identify what our needs are." - Michelle Chalfant "So many of us are working so hard to belong to the world around us at the cost of belonging to ourselves." - Mara Glatzel "Taking responsibility for your own needs is an essential part of self-leadership." - Mara Glatzel "The self-care that we often see and that we're often sold is prescriptive in nature...I have a lot of clients who come to me burnt out on self-care." - Mara Glatzel "When you take a moment and slow down and really tune in and ask yourself, 'What do I need?'...it changes things." - Michelle Chalfant "It's a beautiful form of self-care to just check in with self." - Michelle Chalfant "If we don't check in, then we might be living our lives on autopilot in so many ways." - Mara Glatzel "I think anything other than a full-throated acceptance of your needs is self-abandonment." - Mara Glatzel "To learn how to be our best advocate and ask for what we need is powerful." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Mara Glatzel Website https://www.maraglatzel.com/ "Needy" (Mara Glatzel Book) https://www.maraglatzel.com/book/ Mara Glatzel Instagram https://www.instagram.com/maraglatzel/ Free Inner Child Resource https://theadultchair.com/innerchild MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Watch any rom-com or fairy tale and they'd have you believe relationships are as simple as meeting someone and falling in love. But is love really all it takes to have a healthy relationship? Though we often think of relationships as a matter of the heart, the truth is there's a whole world of chemistry happening in your body and brain that has more impact on your relationship than you realize, such as: What partner you pick How you bond and attach What you perceive as threat in a relationship How you respond to stress The way your mind stores memories How you view your partner And ultimately whether your connection grows or dissolves over time Dr. Stan Tatkin, who looks at relationships through a biological and psychological lens, is back on the podcast this week talking about the relationship essentials that lead to not just long-lasting relationships but happy relationships. He breaks down what's really going on under the surface in different relationship situations (like conflict or betrayal), the critical role our threat response plays in building or damaging connection and how to consciously create more secure functioning based on principles like fairness, justice and mutuality. Listen to discover: The two things that cause relationships to dissolve How our stress and threat response systems impact our relationships Why our brains "automate" and how to stop taking your partner for granted The difference between attachment and love The importance of "quick repair" in a relationship How to build more secure functioning in your partnership The dangers of loneliness and isolation We must have safety in order to have connection. Dr. Tatkin says the goal is to learn how to remove interpersonal stress and feelings of threat in relationships, which lead to not just relationship health but mental, emotional and physical health for everyone in and around the relationship. The next time you meet a new love interest or the next time you and your beloved are having a conversation, don't just ask how you feel about the situation – also pay attention to how your nervous system is reacting and what your body is telling you. This awareness is key to picking the right partner, creating more emotional safety and building more life-giving, long-term partnerships. "[One reason relationships fail is] the manner in which all of us will interact when one or both of us is under stress. And this has to do with threat...where our brain changes and we start to, on some level, believe that the other person is not an ally." - Dr. Stan Tatkin "Everything is about relationships and how we navigate our way in those relationships." - Michelle Chalfant "Learning about ourselves is intertwined with learning about another person." - Dr. Stan Tatkin "The only remedy to automation...is presence and attention. We have to build things in that ensure we're in love or in respect." - Dr. Stan Tatkin "When we are in an argument with our beloved, it's so important to give them something while we are in process." - Michelle Chalfant "Quick repair actually saves us downstream...the smart thing to do is to fix things now so that we don't end up spending all of our time in the junkyard, not living life but sorting out everything we did wrong." - Dr. Stan Tatkin "The main problem with most issues around affairs, cheating is the lying...the biggest damage is the reveal of information that, if I had known, would have changed everything for me." - Dr. Stan Tatkin "Everybody has a different way of determining what is happy for them." - Dr. Stan Tatkin "It goes back to open, honest, raw communication, no matter what kind of relationship you're in." - Michelle Chalfant "This whole thing about, 'I can't quit you,' isn't a rational drive, but it is powerful as hell." - Dr. Stan Tatkin "The secret to longevity, happiness, mental health, physical health is the presence of at least one secure functioning relationship in your life." - Dr. Stan Tatkin "I think we need to start taking some risks of just inviting people over for dinner or out to coffee or go to lunch...start taking that risk and be brave and start connecting more. We need in-person connection." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Dr. Stan Tatkin Website https://www.thepactinstitute.com/ "In Each Other's Care" (Dr. Stan Tatkin Book) https://www.amazon.com/Each-Others-Care-Relationship-Conflicts-ebook/dp/B0B19FWBXL Episode #328: Understanding And Improving Your Relationship With Dr. Stan Tatkin https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/328/ Find an Adult Chair® Coach https://theadultchair.com/coach Share Your Love: Review The Adult Chair® Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634 Headspace Try it free for 30 days https://www.headspace.com/adult30 MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: h

There's something in your life you want to change. Where do you start? My friend, business coach and wildly successful entrepreneur, Michael Hyatt, says there's one thing we can change that transforms everything else: our minds. Our thoughts drive our actions, and our actions drive our results, which is why if we want different outcomes in life – whether in our relationships, our business, our finances or our happiness – we have to start by looking within. In this episode, Michael explains the inner narrator we all have, a part of us that seeks to make meaning of our lives by interpreting and telling stories about the things that happen to us. The problem? These stories are often untrue or rooted in fear, which creates limiting beliefs that hold us back. Michael shares his three steps for working with the inner narrator and how to choose a more empowering mindset that leads to a life of agency, choice and power. We talk about how to get out of victim, why adversity can open up new possibilities in our lives and how to avoid getting sidetracked by triggers, fear and grief while still being radically honest about our emotions and reality. Listen to discover: ● Why mindset affects everything about our lives ● How to reframe our stories and choose more empowering thoughts ● Michael's three steps to challenging our inner narrator ● How adversity can open up new possibilities in our lives ● Understanding intuition vs. fear ● What triggers are and how not to get sidetracked by them ● The power of taking breaks ● Choosing imagination over worry ● Why failure can be our greatest teacher One of the pillars of being a healthy adult is busting stories and living in fact and truth, which is the key to an empowered mindset. And as Michael shares, even when we have a challenging set of facts, we can still choose the most empowering story for ourselves, reframing adversity and believing in possibilities – and ultimately, in ourselves. "Success begins with your thinking…Getting your thinking right is about 90% of anything. If you have the right thinking, you'll eventually take the right actions that lead to better results." - Michael Hyatt "If you don't like your reality, you have to look at your thinking." - Michelle Chalfant "As long as I was the victim, I was powerless. Once I could stop being defensive and accept the fact that I had agency in the midst of this situation...all the power came back, and it gave me a whole range of options." - Michael Hyatt "Our brains are meaning-seeking machines. We can't live without meaning." - Michael Hyatt "Everything that's happened to you is in the past. You can't change any of it. All you can change is how you interpret it." - Michael Hyatt "The greatest advances in my life have been on the heels of some adversity. I had to have a breakdown to have a breakthrough." - Michael Hyatt "I realized that nothing can trigger me. Only I can trigger me." - Michael Hyatt "Triggers are a gift, because when we're triggered, it's a way for us to uncover an unconscious limiting belief that we have about ourselves." - Michelle Chalfant "Stress is antithetical to good creative thinking." - Michael Hyatt "To take a break can be life changing." - Michelle Chalfant "Worry is basically a distortion of imagination." - Michael Hyatt "Experience is our greatest teacher." - Michelle Chalfant "There's no failure. There's only feedback." - Michael Hyatt LINKS & RESOURCES Michael Hyatt Website https://fullfocus.co/ "Mind Your Mindset" (Michael Hyatt Book) https://mindyourmindsetbook.com/ Full Focus Planner https://fullfocus.co/planner/ Michael Hyatt Instagram https://www.instagram.com/michaelhyatt/ Michael Hyatt LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelhyatt Find an Adult Chair® Coach https://theadultchair.com/coaches/ Share Your Love: Review The Adult Chair® Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634 MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

It's easy to think everyone processes the world the same way we do. After all, we're all born with a mind that is here to help us make sense of our human experience. But what if there is actually a huge range of ways we each make sense of reality – and superpowers to be found in our ways of processing the world? Empaths are people whose nervous systems are wired with the ability to mirror others around them; in other words, they can actually feel the experiences of others in their own bodies. This is a beautiful gift to offer the world – and it can also present its challenges for empaths who might find themselves exhausted or disconnected from self because of the environment around them. In this episode, the ever-wise Sarah Weiss breaks down what an empath is, signs you might be an empath and steps you can take to find grounding and peace as an empath. We also explore why our culture needs to do a better job nurturing these types of abilities in people and the clues that reality is bigger than just the physical world we can see – from fascinating stories about near-death experiences to the path of a soul's spiritual growth. Listen to discover: What an empath is The difference between an empath and a highly sensitive person Why being an empath is a superpower Signs a child might an empath Why we should be cultivating these types of abilities in people How to find more peace if you're an empath The story of Sarah's near-death experience What near-death experiences, dark nights of the soul and plant medicines can teach us As we learn more about consciousness and the complexity of the mind, it's an invitation into the sacred. Mind-expanding experiences, whether a near-death experience or the way your empathetic brain is naturally wired, give us the opportunity to ask bigger questions about God, soul, the universe and our purpose. The fact that we have the consciousness to ask these questions is a gift – a gift that points to a reality bigger than ourselves. Let this episode expand your mind and take you on an adventure of asking big questions to understand yourself and the world better! "You're usually born an empath, and then from the very beginning, you don't understand that you are processing the world in a completely different way than most other people are." - Sarah Weiss "An empath is someone whose nervous system and brain have a certain physiological configuration...that makes us able to mirror how someone else feels physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually." - Sarah Weiss "I really believe that empaths are a preview of the future human...it's actually an advanced spiritual quality." - Sarah Weiss "You do have to learn how to ground yourself and find the definition of your being so you actually have a clear understanding of who you are." - Sarah Weiss "I just don't see how people can really develop their boundaries without learning about energy." - Sarah Weiss "There is a wounded child inside most empaths." - Sarah Weiss "It's not a matter of...'I didn't protect myself enough. I was too overly empathetic.'...Is it just that we just need that alone time to recharge?" - Michelle Chalfant "I really think that we are severely lacking in the understanding around birth and death and...how important it is to understand, to frame this lifetime, to put it in context." - Sarah Weiss "There's documented research on [near-death experiences] that's out there." - Michelle Chalfant "As we develop as human beings, we go through natural initiations...If we were living in a culture that honored and recognized these, then we would derive tremendous meaning from them." - Sarah Weiss "[The dark night of the soul] is there for a reason, and there are lessons to learn and always something to gain. It's hard though, when you're in the middle of it." - Michelle Chalfant "I have seen profound healing [through plant medicine]. I've witnessed it... But what's so important is that you do it with a skilled practitioner…The integration is where the greatest healing happens." - Michelle Chalfant "I think being an empath takes you into the sacred. I think the deep meaning of life gets felt by an empath." - Sarah Weiss LINKS & RESOURCES Sarah Weiss Website https://www.spirithealonline.com/ Episode #21: Grounding and the Energy of the Earth with Sarah Weiss https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/21-grounding-and-the-energy-of-the-earth-with-sarah-weiss/ Episode #135: The Enlightened Empath with Sarah Weiss https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/135-the-enlightened-empath-with-sarah-weiss/ MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechal