The Mating Grounds Podcast

If your girlfriend is intimidated by your female friends, it's something you need to address. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain how to bring up the topic with your girlfriend, find out what aspects of your friendships she's intimidated by, and what to do to make her comfortable.

While some women like hairy guys, others don't. If you're trying to tailor your look to get the most interest, the less hair the better. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin tell you how to determine what your partner likes, and give you some simple grooming tips to maximize how attractive you are to women.

Improving your physical health is one of the easiest things you can do to become more attractive to women, all it takes is some simple diet changes and a little exercise. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff explain some misconceptions about health and fitness, what type of body women find most attractive, and what you need to do to get that body.

There are ways to meet women at the gym, but you need to pick the right situations. In this episode, Tucker, Nils, and Charlie tell you which women to talk to and which to avoid, how to make women feel safe, and the best ways to meet women at the gym.

If you're narcissistic and you want to have good relationships, you need to constantly be aware of your behavior. It's hard to change your attitudes, but you can change how you express them. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain how to figure out what specific problems you have, how to fix those problems, the importance of therapy, and Tucker and Geoff share how they have dealt with their own narcissism.

The problem with monogamous relationships is that the instinctive male desire for sexual variety isn't fulfilled, but there are things you can do to fulfill it to some degree. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin tell you what you can do to make your sex life more interesting, keep your relationship exciting, and some deeper questions to consider if you're getting bored in a relationship.

If women assume you're a player because of how attractive you are, you can have lots of success with both short-term and long-term relationships. For long-term relationships, you just need to signal romantic interest, and for short-term relationships, you're already in the perfect position. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain how to signal interest for long-term relationships and how to be more confident and effective in short-term mating.

To have relationships with women, it's important to show that you're interested, and there's a right way to do this and a wrong way. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff tell you how to display romantic proof to attract women, how to avoid being creepy, and how being honest will help you get laid.

Most guys use Tinder completely wrong. In this episode, Charlie Hoehn joins Tucker and Nils to explain what most guys do wrong on Tinder, how to optimize your profile, and how to easily meet up with your matches.

Sometimes a girl will lose interest, it happens to everybody. When this happens, the first thing you need to do is evaluate your behavior to see if you did anything wrong, and if you can't find a reason, you need to move on. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils tell you some potential reasons why a girl will lose interest, how to learn from your mistakes, and when to move on and find a different girl.

If you've been rejected by lots of women, it's natural to feel bitter. But ultimately, bitterness will only hurt you, no one else. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils explain how to reframe your experiences in a way that will help you feel more positive about yourself, and give you tips on how you can better evaluate where you are and what you need to do to attract the women you want.

As a younger guy, you have a lot to offer to older women. They may be skeptical about you being younger, but there are things you can do to reduce that skepticism. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils explain what you have to offer older women, what you need to do to reduce any skepticism about dating a younger guy, how to have short-term and long term relationships with older women, and some things you need to be careful about.

Everyone knows that women are attracted to men with high social status, but what most guys don't understand is that it's possible to display high social status in many different ways, namely through what psychologists call "social proof." Social proof is what people think of you, and your social proof is a key part of your ability to attract women. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff explain why social proof is important, how to raise your social proof by improving your social skills, making friends, adding value to those friendships, and how to utilize those friendships to meet women.

In part two of her interview, Dr. Nicole Prause, Tucker, and Geoff tell you what you need to know about orgasms, the g-spot, the clitoris, the current state of sex research, and what we don't know about sexual physiology.

The street harassment video has caused a lot of controversy, and it's important to understand why. In this video, a woman is recorded walking through New York, and is shown being approached by random men. Why are women offended by how the men in this video act? Is it ever okay to talk to a woman you don't know on the street? If so, how do you do it? In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin answer all of these questions and more, and Carin gives a valuable perspective of what it's like to be constantly approached by men as an attractive woman.

Increasing your willpower and conscientiousness is one of the best ways to become more attractive to women. This means being ambitious, reliable, a hard worker, planning ahead, having self-control, and being able to get things done. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff explain why willpower and conscientiousness are so attractive, how to increase them, and how to display them in ways that attract women.

Our guest today is Dr. Nicole Prause, a sex researcher from UCLA. In this episode, Dr. Prause, Tucker, and Geoff discuss penis size preferences, what traits are more important than penis size, what traits are less important, and female orgasms.

Having Asperger's or autism can be hard as a teenager, but it does get better. It won't cripple your social life, you just need to address it. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain how get better at communication and find women that will appreciate you, and Geoff gives some tips that helped him deal with his own Asperger's and have successful relationships.

A huge percentage of erectile dysfunction is psychological, and if you deal with the underlying issues, you'll be fine. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils tell you how to deal with the underlying issues of erectile dysfunction, and give some general tips for fixing the problem.

If you're a narcissist, it's still possible to have quality relationships--you just need to think about other people. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils tell you how to minimize the negatives that come with narcissism, how to go from narcissism to true self confidence, and how to connect with people to have quality relationships.

Women find intelligence attractive, but the only way they know about your intelligence is if you show them in ways they appreciate. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff discuss education credentials, signaling intelligence, and how to use your intelligence in ways that women find attractive.

If you're an older guy, you have qualities that younger guys lack, and by displaying those qualities, you can attract younger women. You need to understand what a younger woman wants when she dates an older guy, and act accordingly -- this doesn't mean you need to act younger, but you also don't want to remind her of her father. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain the importance of style and being in shape, where to meet younger women, how to approach them, and how to show them what you offer that younger guys can't.

If you're bothered by your girlfriends sexual past, relax. It's a normal reaction, and to deal with it you first need to examine why it bothers you, and then either change the way you think about it, or break up with her. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin tell you how to know if you should break up with her or not, how to find out why her sexual past bothers you, and how to reframe it and feel better.

If you failed with women in college, don't get down on yourself; most guys don't actually have much success with women until after college. In college, mating success is mostly determined by social popularity, whereas after college it's determined by other things, like your ability to be a good partner, how motivated you are, and what you're doing with your life. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin tell you how to increase your mate value, find women who are a good match for you, and have successful relationships after college.

Lots of guys have issues with self-esteem, and there are many ways to improve. The best way to feel better about yourself is to do things that make your life better. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff cover most of the major ways to improve your self-esteem, like building relationships, improving your health, doing work you're proud of, and overcoming negative thoughts.

One of the traits that women find most attractive in men is intelligence. There's a huge amount of untapped intelligence potential in almost every guy, and unlocking this potential will make you significantly more attractive. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff tell you some myths about intelligence, why intelligence is attractive, and how you can become more intelligent.

All guys can become more successful with women, they just need to focus on the right things. Charlie Hoehn had some very limiting beliefs early in life that didn't help him with women. In this episode, Charlie tells us about his limiting beliefs and his failures and successes in dating, and through that, Tucker and Charlie explain how to be funny, how to develop confidence, and how to become the most attractive version of yourself.

If the women you find most attractive aren't into you, then the likely explanation is that your mate value is too low for them, or you aren't properly displaying your mate value to them. The good news for guys is that we can raise our mate value pretty easily. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils tell you how and when to initiate contact with attractive women, and how to raise your mate value so that you can attract the women that you want.

Is she busy, or not interested? It's important to be able to tell the difference, and the way to do this is by looking at things from her perspective. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils give you some tips on understanding how women think, explain how to know if a woman's attracted to you, and tell you the next steps to take if she isn't.

It may seem hard to meet women in a new city, but even if you're a busy grad student, there are plenty of opportunities. You need to take advantage of being in school and find ways to be around other students, including undergrads. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin tell you how to build a social circle, find new mating markets, and meet more women.

One of the least attractive things a guy can be is crazy. While most guys are not crazy, very few guys pay much attention to their mental health, and they should. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff discuss why mental health matters, what the indicators of mental health are, and how you can improve in these areas to display the traits that women find attractive.

This week, we talk to Rachael Grazioplene, a PhD student at the University of Minnesota who's research focuses on individual differences, primarily openness traits related to creativity and intelligence, and the effects of environmental and genetic factors on this. In this episode we discuss what guys do wrong in dating, what guys do right, what traits women find attractive, and how you can develop those traits.

Friendly conversation with a woman is not that different than flirting with her; flirting is just a subtle extension of normal conversation to gauge sexual interest. Once you have the right perspective, you can start flirting with any woman you are interested in. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain how to flirt with a woman, and give lots of tips for how you can improve at flirting.

Guys often have the wrong idea about what's attractive to women. Women aren't exclusively attracted to masculine traits, and are generally attracted to more feminine faces than guys think they are, especially for longer term relationships. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain how psychology research is often misunderstood by journalists, bloggers, and the manosphere, leading to incorrect views about what women what, and also give some advice on dealing with whatever physical flaws you think you have.

Shame can be crippling, and if you want to form relationships, you need to be comfortable with who you are. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils tell you what you need to know to deal with shame, transform the way you view yourself, and become more comfortable in social situations.

Women care a lot about style and aesthetics because it signals other important traits such as intelligence, social ability, and resources. It's very easy to become better than most guys in this area, and in this episode Tucker and Geoff tell you some simple things you can do to improve your aesthetic sense and become more attractive to women.

Our guest today is Jake Seliger, novelist and writer. Jake has gone from being very unsuccessful with women to very successful, and has lots of actionable advice. In this episode, Tucker and Jake discuss where to find women, how to ask them out, how to know when a girl likes you, and what you can do to make yourself more attractive to women.

Relationships with co-workers can succeed, you just need to approach it correctly. The key thing is to avoid reputational damage and legal disaster. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils tell you everything you need to know to intelligently and effectively pursue a relationship with a co-worker.

Tinder is a great way to match up with interested girls, but what do you do after the match? You meet the woman in person, and the best first date is meeting is a social situation that is low stress with a short time commitment. Tucker, Geoff, and Nils explain the best way to go about this, and also tell you how to find girls who are looking for the same thing you are on Tinder.

Falling in love too fast is a common issue guys have, but if you have this problem and don't fix it, eventually you'll end up in a toxic relationship. In today's episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils explain the exact steps you need to take to have healthy relationships, starting with recognizing you have a problem, managing your emotions, and building intimate non-romantic relationships.

How much money do you need to be attractive to women? This is a question lots of guys ask, because they think having money is what women want, and for a good reason: consumerist culture has taught you that your value, your identity as a person, and your sexual ability is tied to the things you buy. The problem is that all of the actual empirical data says the opposite--women don't actually care that much about wealth (and when they do, it's in only specific situations). In today's episode, Tucker and Geoff discuss how much money you really need, and what actually matters to women.

Today’s guest is Dr. Heather Berlin, acclaimed researcher and neuroscientist, and Dr. Berlin and Tucker discuss exactly how guys can develop and retain good habits both in dating and in life. Dr. Berlin also talks about what it’s like to be an intelligent, beautiful, successful woman dating in New York City and the things she sees that guys do right and wrong.

A lot of guys think that once they have a girlfriend, all other women must immediately become unattractive to them, or they're morally bankrupt. That's not only silly, it's unnatural and unhealthy--for both partners. But on the other hand, if you have an intense desire to actually be with other women, you should examine whether your relationship is right for you. In this Q&A, Geoff, Nils & Tucker unpack all the issues that surround the "flirting with other women while in a relationship" question.

What's the difference between being assertive and aggressive? Assertiveness is attractive to women, aggressiveness is repellent to them, and it's extremely important to understand where the line is. In today’s Q&A, Tucker, Nils, and Carin explain what the difference is and what you need to know to find the right assertiveness balance to be attractive to girls.

Guys often think "small talk" is a meaningless waste of their time and don't understand why women want to engage in it. Small talk is not meaningless; like many things in mating, the real purpose is not what the surface meaning appears to be. Small talk is actually a critical part of a woman's assessment of a man, and in today’s Q&A, Tucker, Nils, and Carin explain why small talk is important, and give some tips to get better at it.

Should you be a nice guy or an asshole? This is the eternal question, and not only does the conventional wisdom (be the nice guy) get it wrong, but so does the contrarian position (just be an asshole). In this episode, Tucker and Geoff explain the science behind nice guy vs. asshole, what you should do, what women actually respond to, and how to do it in your life.

Our guest today is one of the manosphere's most influential and prominent thinkers: Jack Donovan, author of "The Way of Men." Most of our interviews are about how men can do better with women; this one is not like that at all. In this episode, we talk about his (excellent) book, about masculinity, and about other male-centered issues. If you’re interested in that stuff, you’ll love this discussion, but if you just want actionable information relating to women, you probably want to skip this one.

This is a question lots of young guys have: how do you turn a casual relationship into something more? Tucker, Nils, and Carin walk you through the steps to take a girl from casual to serious relationship.

You cannot change anyone, and trying to do that is a recipe for disaster. In this Q&A, a guy asks for advice on a specific situation, but instead, Tucker, Nils & Carin identify the larger issue--a guy trying to change a girl--and explain why this doesn't work, and how to avoid it, and what you should do if you find yourself trying to do this.

Male bisexuality is hard to deal with; both for men, and women. In this episode, a Mating Grounds listener asks how and when to be open about being bisexual, and Tucker, Geoff, and Carin talk through what options he has for addressing this fact with women.