The Mark Groves Podcast

Themes: Relationships, Connection, Health, Mental Health, Transformation, Belonging, Purpose Summary: Today I’m nerding out with Dr. Robert Waldinger, professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and co-author of The Good Life: Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness. Dr. Waldinger is also a Zen master (Roshi) who teaches meditation worldwide. In this episode, we explore Dr. Waldinger’s fascinating research on what makes a “good life” based on the longest study of adult life that has ever been done - the Harvard Study of Adult Development. He shares his insights on the power of relationships and how they affect our mental and physical health, practical tips for improving our happiness, and how to create and nurture thriving relationships. This is a pod you won’t want to miss! Discover: The power of relationships and how they affect our mental and physical health The types of relationships we need to thrive The impact of conflict and how to use it to nurture relationships How to improve the quality of our relationships Ways to build resilience and cope with conflict 00:00 Intro 01:55 What is the happiness study? 04:34 Relationships help us live longer 09:26 Impacts of life events 11:03 High-conflict relationships 12:27 Stress and the body 14:11 Attachment styles and relationship longevity 17:21 Relationships and the body 19:26 Social fitness 21:20 Be curious 24:30 Stratifying the data 27:42 Effects of the study on participants 31:39 Being in Zen 33:28 Religion and spiritual practice 36:39 Rituals and habits 38:38 Study results and expanding the research Links: Website | Harvard Study of Adult Development Book | The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Self Worth, Self-Love, Health, Sustainability, Rituals, Human Behaviour, Wellness, Rituals, Purpose Summary: Join me in this captivating, gem-filled conversation with Chervin Jafarieh, founder of Cymbiotika and one of the most respected and influential health experts in the world. Chervin combines studies in Eastern and Western medicine, orthomolecular medicine, epigenetics, physiology, nutrition, detoxification, biodynamic agriculture, and philosophy to wake people up to their highest potential. He is committed to seeking knowledge, revealing the truth, and exercising keen discernment in all areas of life. In this episode, Chervin guides us on an engaging journey that touches all of these topics and opens our eyes to the symbiotic states of being that our minds, bodies, and souls are craving right now. Discover: Current energies of the collective of humanity and how it affects our wellbeing The importance of grounding, hydration, and finding equilibrium for optimal health Technology today and how it’s affecting the health of our community The importance of discipline and rituals in achieving wellness, and the value of being part of growth-minded communities Important foods and supplements and designing a food & fitness system that fits your lifestyle 00:00 Intro 01:23 Where is humanity at this time? 04:45 Social media is the ultimate paradox of our time 10:28 AI vs. epigenetics 20:02 The internet of eyes - AI and surveillance hidden in plain sight 24:28 Technology’s effect on our health and nature 33:00 The power of discipline 36:11 Programming and energy exchange on a cellular level 39:19 What humans desire most 39:52 Our body is an ecosystem with a specific set of instructions 50:50 The greatest source of addiction 53:02 What we all crave the most 1:02:43 Victim mentality & virtuosity 1:09:19 It’s time to reconnect to our intuition and our body 1:11:08 Practical supplementing of food and vitamins for better health 1:14:31 Tend the garden 1:18:43 Food is a merging of worlds 1:24:50 Follow the synchronicities Links: Website | cymbiotika.com - use code GROVES for 15% off sitewide! Instagram | @chervin333 + @cymbiotika TikTok | @realcymbiotika Podcast | Wake The Fake Up (listen to my episode with Mark here!) Sponsors: Open | Try Open for 30 days free! Go to withopen.com/createthelove and use code CREATETHELOVE to sign up. Cymbiotika | Use code GROVES at checkout for 15% off your first purchase at cymbiotika.com. (Save up to 45% off when you buy a bundle!) Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Parenting, Ego, Social Media, Child Development Summary: Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Shefali to the podcast. I have been a longtime fan of her work, and as I step into parenthood myself, this episode comes at the perfect time! In it, we dive into concepts from her most recent book, The Parenting Map, and explore the traditional parenting paradigm (and why it’s not working anymore), plus how to develop awareness around your behaviours to foster a deeper connection with your kids. Dr. Shefali received her doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia University. Specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, she brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books, The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. Discover: The traditional parenting paradigm and why it’s not working anymore Why shifting from control to connection is key in conscious parenting How to nurture your child’s essence, so they develop resilience and self-worth Why our children trigger us (hint: it’s about you, not them) How your past pain influences the way you parent How social media impacts your child’s self-worth and self-image How to identify your child’s ego pattern 00:00 Intro 01:05 The traditional parenting paradigm 05:28 Conscious parenting 11:28 It’s not your kid; it’s you 12:52 Parents are not aware that their love is conditional 16:43 Parenting from ego & parenting as spiritual growth 26:08 Recognizing your ego patterns 28:56 Projecting onto your kids 34:40 The impact of social media on parents and kids 42:37 Repairing parenting mistakes 44:13 Dismantling the ego 48:40 It’s a difficult time to raise children Links: Website | drshefali.com Instagram | @doctorshefali Book | The Parenting Map Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Freedom of Speech, Censorship, Social Media, Cancel Culture, Mental Health Summary: Join me for an insightful conversation with Greg Lukianoff: attorney, New York Times best-selling author, and President and CEO of the Foundation for Individual Rights and Expression (FIRE). Greg co-authored one of my all-time favourite books, The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure, with Jonathan Haidt. This New York Times best-seller expands on their September 2015 Atlantic cover story of the same name and is an absolute MUST read. In this episode, we discuss some main themes from the book, including free speech, why it matters, the dangers of censorship, and more. Discover: The importance of free speech and why diverse viewpoints are essential for growth, peace and a thriving democracy The dangers of censorship and why diverse thought, even when offensive, is necessary to develop critical thinking Why society tends to put someone in a box based on an opinion or belief (and why it’s lazy) 00:00 Intro 01:09 Why Greg is passionate about free speech 05:10 When is censorship okay? 08:15 Handling pushback to free speech 13:08 Being placed in a box for your beliefs 17:39 Moral certitude 19:54 Free speech and private companies 24:59 The noble lie 27:21 Lack of viewpoint diversity on campuses 29:52 The benefits of free speech 37:40 Disagreement and diverse thought 42:45 Biases in mainstream media 47:31 Conservative = evil? 53:38 Group polarization 56:39 Talking back to the voices in your head 1:00:34 Interpersonal trust 1:02:56 Conflicts and disagreements in relationships 1:08:01 How to be advocates of free speech Links: Website | thefire.org Book | The Coddling of the American Mind Instagram | @thefireorg Sponsors: Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Childhood Wounds, Family Systems, People-Pleasing, Relationships, Self-Worth Summary: I think it’s safe to say that none of us had a perfect childhood, and we all carry around behaviours and unhealed pain that doesn’t serve us. But it doesn’t have to be that way: our past may have created our patterns, but we can change them with some self-awareness and the right tools. Join my bestie Vienna Pharaon and me as we dive into understanding and overcoming wounds from our Family of Origin, so you can move beyond your frustrating patterns in life and love and into a more liberated way of being. Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought-after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for more than fifteen years and is the founder and owner of the group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. Her first book, The Origins of You, hits shelves on February 21st, 2023. Discover: How unhealed pain or “wounds” from our Family of Origin manifest in our adult behaviours Why it’s so difficult to hold the paradox of being both disappointed with and grateful for our upbringing Five common “origin wounds” and how they show up in our adult lives How to identify and start to heal the origin wounds that hold you back 00:00 Intro 02:10 How childhood wounds impact us today 13:57 You don’t need to have a traumatic childhood to have wounds 18:19 Being both disappointed with and grateful for aspects of your upbringing 29:23 Examples of origin wounds 32:35 The belonging wound 36:53 The prioritization wound 45:15 Safety and trust wounds 55:42 How to begin healing Links: Website | viennapharaon.com Instagram | @mindfulmft Book | The Origins of You 6 Week LIVE Coaching Experience with Vienna Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Open | Try Open for 30 days free! Go to withopen.com/createthelove and use code CREATETHELOVE to sign up Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Career, Purpose, Media, Divorce, Breakups, Parenting Summary: This week I’m honoured to welcome the master mechanic himself, Ant Anstead, to the show. Ant and I met serendipitously a few years back when he took my Breakup Recovery Course, and I’ve been blessed to call him a friend ever since. Ant is the CEO and co-founder of Radford Motors and is responsible for overseeing the build process of every single bespoke, hand-made vehicle to meet exacting customer specifications. For many years, Ant built bespoke cars for elite clients and collectors all over the world and is best known for hosting car-centric television shows such as Celebrity IOU: Joyride, Radford Returns, For the Love of Cars and Wheeler Dealers, the number one most distributed show on The Discovery Channel. Join us as we chat about Ant’s career journey, life (and divorce) in the public eye, parenthood, and more. Discover: How Ant transitioned from being a police officer to playing football to building cars How he turned his passion for cars into a career His journey into television How he deals with the media, clickbait and life in the public eye Ant’s perspective on parenting in the social media generation and his top advice for fathers 00:00 Intro 02:31 Ant’s police career 11:13 Flipping and building cars 16:05 Turning your passion into a career 21:19 Starring on a television show 27:27 Being in the public eye 31:34 Clickbait & the media 35:02 Getting hate for hosting Wheeler Dealers 43:01 Social media trolls 47:30 Divorce 54:50 Fatherhood 1:03:55 Upcoming works 1:06:48 Radford Racing School 1:12:29 Mark as a father-to-be Links: Website | ant-anstead.com + radford.co Instagram | @ant_anstead + @radfordmotors Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Boundaries, Regret, Awareness, Appreciation, Self-Love, Victim Mentality, Community Summary: Today I’m comin’ at ya with a short but sweet solo episode and sharing some things I’ve read lately that have blown my mind and brought some newfound awareness to my behaviour. I hope sharing these reflections offers insight into your own circumstances, behaviours and ways of being in the world so we can all move together towards creating a more loving, open, boundaried and secure space! Discover: Boundaries: how they’re medicine for both you and those around you Having reverence and appreciation for new awarenesses instead of feeling shame and regret for past decisions Saying no (and sitting in the discomfort of a no) in order to make space for your yes Appreciation for our parents and their struggles The grief of not having the village Creating what you crave 00:00 Intro 00:57 Boundaries 03:17 Awareness and regret 05:50 The tension of our no 08:42 Appreciating our parents 11:05 Medicalization of birth 13:29 Presence 16:49 Removing martyr energy Links: Join me on Mine’d! Sign up for my newsletter here Follow me on Substack here Instagram | @createthelove Facebook | @createthelove ReBloom: Archetypal Trauma Resolution For Personal & Collective Healing by Rachael Maddox The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief by Francis Weller Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Grief, Loss, Transformation, Resilience, Anger Summary: Today I’m chatting with Dr. Neeta Bhushan, a world-renowned emotional health advocate and expert in the areas of grit and resilience. In this episode, we talk about her new book That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess, embracing the suck, and how to get back up after life inevitably knocks us down. Neeta has shared her thought leadership on international stages, is the host of her popular podcast The Brave Table, and has authored best-selling books such as Emotional GRIT: 8 Steps to Master Your Emotions, Transform Your Thoughts, and Change Your World. She’s also been featured on Forbes, Entrepreneur, NBC, Verve, Tatler Magazine and more. Talk about a powerhouse! Discover: The stoic practice of Amor Fati and how it changed Neeta’s perspective on the hardships she experienced as a young woman Using the pain of a rock bottom as fuel for transformation Actionable tools for building resilience 00:00 Intro 01:09 Neeta’s story of loss and grief 13:30 Finding magic in the mess 18:00 Amor Fati 26:00 Moving beyond the suck 37:20 The pain of a breakup 39:18 Taking action 44:01 Validation 46:11 Integrating all parts of yourself 54:03 Big ignite vs. small ignite moments 56:25 Spend time with a child 1:02:25 Healthy anger Links: Website | neetabhushan.com Instagram | @neetabhushan Book | That Sucked, Now What? Podcast | The Brave Table Sponsors: Open | Try Open for 30 days free! Go to withopen.com/createthelove and use code CREATETHELOVE to sign up. Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Masculinity, Emotions, Vulnerability, Relationships, Men’s Work, Self-Worth, Purpose, Pornography Summary: Today I’m chatting with one of my good friends, Connor Beaton. Connor is the founder of ManTalks, an international organization dedicated to men's wellness, success, and fulfillment. Connor is a coach, facilitator, teacher, podcast host, and speaker who helps men from all over the world find purpose, healthy love, a joy-filled life, and fulfilling sexual connection. His teachings draw from an in-depth apprenticeship in Jungian psychology, Gestalt, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, and both Buddhist and Taoist traditions. Known for his no-nonsense approach and compassionate understanding of human limitations, Connor has coached thousands of men through private coaching, group work, workshops, retreats, and masterminds. He has also shared the stage with renowned speakers like Gary Vaynerchuk, Lewis Howes, and Danielle LaPorte. Tune in for a free-flowing conversation where we jam on the challenges men face today, masculinity, turning towards our pain, and his new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom. Discover: Our thoughts on why toxic masculinity manifests Why emotional suppression is so common for men in our culture today The healing that is being asked of men right now The value of an initiatory process as young men Why turning towards your pain is necessary in order to find freedom and be the man you want to be Why porn has become an addiction for many and its effect on relationships 00:00 Intro 04:12 The men’s movement 06:10 Emotionality in men 12:00 Toxic masculinity 16:28 Hurt people hurt people 25:41 Men and vulnerability 33:44 Healing the divide between men and women 49:09 Men’s work 54:42 A relationship with something bigger than yourself 59:20 “I don’t trust men…” 1:05:19 You don’t need to hit rock bottom to change 1:13:53 There’s more to it than vulnerability 1:22:51 What fulfilling relationships require 1:28:00 Being present 1:31:27 Pornography 1:42:49 Impact of pornography on relationships 1:46:18 Healing a porn addiction Links: Website | mantalks.com Instagram | @mantalks Book | Men's Work, A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom Podcast | ManTalks Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Pain, Mental Health Summary: Join me for a thoughtful conversation with Megan Devine: best-selling author, psychotherapist, and grief advocate. With over 20 years in the field - and deep personal experience of grief - she is the go-to authority for grievers, supporters, and industry professionals. Her pioneering work provides a professional, inclusive, and realistic approach to grief, one that goes beyond pathology-based, reductive models. If you’re currently feeling the deep pain of loss or are looking for ways to support someone who is, this episode is for you. Megan’s book It’s OK that You’re Not OK has sold over 250K copies and is available in 16 languages. New York magazine’s The Strategist named the book in their “Top 16 Grief Books Recommended by Psychologists in 2021.” Her animated short, “How to Help a Grieving Friend,” has been viewed over 70 million times and is used in training programs worldwide. She’s been published in Psychology Today, The New York Times, and The Washington Post and has served as a grief expert for major media outlets, including NPR, iHeartRadio, and the PBS documentary, Speaking Grief. Discover: Megan’s personal experience with grief What not to say to someone who is grieving and how to be truly supportive instead The problematic way society responds to pain and grief and how this contributes to rising loneliness, substance abuse and suicide rates Why looking for the silver lining in a painful experience, while well-intentioned, isn’t helpful 00:00 Intro 01:20 Megan’s story 07:09 How society responds to grief 09:11 You don’t need to find the silver lining 13:03 Movies modeling the happy ending 15:17 The fallacy of suffering as punishment 20:25 The “nobility” of suffering 24:33 The history of dealing with pain 31:21 How medicine handles grief 36:43 Timeline of grief 38:16 Why do we avoid sadness? 43:54 How to actually support someone who’s grieving 47:46 Expanding your idea of what grief is Links: Website | refugeingrief.com & megandevine.co Instagram | @refugeingrief Facebook | @refugeingrief Book | It’s OK That You’re Not OK Podcast | Here After with Megan Devine Sponsors: LMNT | Get a FREE LMNT sample pack with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Attachment Theory, Child Development, Trauma, the Mind-Body Connection, Authenticity, Boundaries, Illness, Health Summary: It is such an honour to welcome renowned speaker and bestselling author Dr. Gabor Maté to the podcast this week. Dr. Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on various topics, including addiction, stress, and childhood development. He has written several bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection, and Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It, and has coauthored Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. His works have been published internationally in nearly thirty languages. In this illuminating episode, we discuss his incredible new book, The Myth of Normal, and how much of what we deem the norm in today’s culture is neither healthy nor natural. Join us as we explore a range of topics, including trauma and its effects, attachment theory, the mind-body connection, the cost of repressing emotions, and more. Discover: How much of what we deem ‘normal’ in today’s culture is neither healthy nor natural and is actually responsible for a lot of illness in both mind and body. How to differentiate trauma from a stressful experience The impacts of trauma on mental and physical health and how normalized trauma is in our culture Why the medical system ignores the mind-body connection The cost of repressing your emotions and people-pleasing How to heal in the toxicity of modern culture 00:00 Intro 00:47 The Myth of Normal 03:26 The idea of normal 05:28 The toxicity of modern culture 09:38 How our childhood wounds show up in the present day 12:43 Trauma 17:16 Why medicine ignores the mind-body connection 23:46 When does an experience become trauma? 26:16 Importance of attuned caregivers 34:15 The cost of suppressing your emotions 39:00 The cost of people pleasing & no boundaries 43:42 Choosing your pain - authenticity vs. belonging 50:00 Exercises for self-understanding 55:00 Healing a toxic culture Links: Website | drgabormate.com & wholehearted.org Book | The Myth of Normal - Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture Instagram | @gabormatemd Facebook | @drgabormate Twitter | @drgabormate Neurobiology and the Development of Human Morality by Dr. Darcia Narvaez The Evolved Nest: Natures Way of Raising Children and Creating Connected Communities by Dr. Darcia Narvaez Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Parenting, Safetyism, Fragility, Resilience, Childhood Independence, Autonomy, Technology Summary: After her newspaper column “Why I Let My 9-Year-Old Ride the Subway Alone” created a media firestorm, Lenore Skenazy got the nickname “America’s Worst Mom.” Nice. She went on to write Free-Range Kids, the book-turned-movement. (Second Edition just out!) She has been profiled in The New Yorker and lectured everywhere, from DreamWorks to Microsoft HQ to schools across America. On TV, you may have seen her on The Today Show, The Daily Show or her own reality show, World’s Worst Mom. Now Lenore is co-founder and president of Let Grow, the national nonprofit promoting childhood independence. I was struck by Lenore’s story, and as I step into fatherhood this year, I knew I had to have her on the podcast. Tune in to learn how parenting has changed over the past few decades, why safety has become a top priority for parents nowadays, and how unsupervised play and letting go a little are key in raising resilient, confident and independent children. Discover: Why Lenore let her nine-year-old son ride the subway alone in NYC Why the degree of independence and autonomy parents give their kids has changed drastically over the past couple of decades Safetyism: what it is and how it contributes to fragility in our kids The massive benefits of unsupervised play & tech-free play Why tracking your kids erodes trust and can actually cause more harm than good How to overcome parental anxiety 00:00 Intro 00:31 Parenting then vs. now 03:00 Letting her son ride the subway alone 06:43 Why are we so afraid for our kids? 10:52 The problem with prioritizing safety 24:09 Tech-free play 37:23 Why keeping kids safe has become a top priority 44:00 Is tracking your kids worth it? 51:21 How to overcome parental anxiety Links: Website | letgrow.org Book | Free-Range Kids: How Parents and Teachers Can Let Go and Let Grow Twitter | @freerangekids Facebook | Raising Independent Kids The Coddling of the American Mind Sponsors: Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Virtuosity, Self-Love, Self-Awareness, Virtue Signaling, Cancel Culture, Transformation, Boundaries, Forgiveness, Narcissism Summary: Back for the second time is my good friend, Danielle Laporte. Danielle is an author, speaker, podcaster and a member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100, a group who, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” In this episode, Danielle and I chat about allll the things, including true, embodied virtuosity, virtue signaling, cancel culture, boundaries, narcissism and how to be loving in a world that’s waking up. Danielle is the author of The Fire Starter Sessions, The Desire Map, White Hot Truth, and producer of dozens of meditation kits and online programs for spiritual support. Her most recent book, How To Be Loving…when your heart is breaking open and the world is waking up, is also an Audiobook + ebook, with a companion deck and journal. Danielle is the creator of the Heart Centered Membership and the Heart Centered Leadership Program with 400+ leaders in 30 countries hosting conversation circles, retreats, and workshops in all kinds of communities and businesses. Her podcast, With Love, Danielle, often ranks in iTunes’ top 10 for wellness. Most of her offerings—from the Heart Centered Membership to her online classes—are on a pay what you choose basis. Named one of the Top 100 Websites for Women by Forbes, millions of people a month visit DanielleLaPorte.com. Discover: Having reverence for your shadow and the parts of yourself you dislike Our thoughts on virtue signaling and what it truly means to be virtuous The absurdity of cancel culture A theory on why there’s tyranny and evil in the world Setting boundaries from a loving and healed place Forgiving yourself and others (even if you feel like they’re unforgivable) Things to reflect on if you’ve been with a narcissist 00:00 Intro 03:45 The turning point in Danielle’s work 07:51 Loving what you hate about yourself 11:52 Psychological virtue 15:04 Virtue signaling 22:08 Cancel culture 27:07 Theory about tyranny 31:57 How To Be Loving 37:59 Boundaries 43:18 Forgiving the unforgivable 46:27 Narcissism 48:28 Overidentification 51:22 Becoming radiant Links: Website | daniellelaporte.com Instagram | @daniellelaporte Book | How To Be Loving... when your heart is breaking open and the world is waking up Podcast | With Love, Danielle Sponsors: LMNT | LMNT is a tasty electrolyte drink mix that replaces vital electrolytes without sugars and dodgy ingredients found in conventional sports drinks. Get a FREE LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Health, Relationships, Boundaries, Mental Health, Nutrition, Gut-Brain Axis Summary: Is there a connection between the foods we eat and how we feel? How does the quality of our relationships and our boundaries (or lack thereof) impact our gut health? Does trauma affect the microbiome? In this episode, I’m chatting with leading functional-medicine expert Dr. Will Cole to explore the connection between our relationships, the food we eat, and our overall mental and physical health. Dr. Cole consults people around the globe and started one of the first functional medicine telehealth centers in the world over a decade ago. Named one of the top 50 functional and integrative doctors in the nation, he specializes in clinically investigating underlying factors of chronic disease and customizing a functional medicine approach for thyroid issues, autoimmune conditions, hormonal imbalances, digestive disorders, and brain problems. Dr. Will is also the host of the popular The Art Of Being Well podcast and was the co-host of Gwyneth Paltrow's lifestyle brand goop's first spinoff podcast, the goopfellas podcast. He is the bestselling author of Ketotarian, The Inflammation Spectrum, and the New York Times bestseller Intuitive Fasting. His upcoming book, Gut Feelings, will hit shelves in March 2023. Discover: How our relationships influence our physical health The gut-brain axis and how the foods we eat impact our mental health How trauma affects gut health Why we’re seeing an explosion of mental health issues and autoimmune diseases right now Four inflammatory foods to avoid for optimal health (plus what to eat more of) One thing to cut out of your diet if you want to move the needle 00:00 Intro 00:24 How do our relationships impact our health? 02:26 Boundaries are medicine 04:10 The gut-brain axis 07:14 The food & mood connection 09:08 Taking inventory in all areas of our lives 12:37 How trauma impacts the gut 17:06 The explosion of mental health issues and autoimmune diseases 18:52 The parallels between our internal and external world 21:45 Glyphosate 23:17 Effecting change as consumers 33:25 The four core inflammatory foods 35:23 What to eat more of 36:12 The problem with seed oils 38:37 The truth about fat & cholesterol 46:33 Healthy fats 49:19 Cut this food out to move the needle Links: Website | drwillcole.com Instagram | @drwillcole Podcast | The Art of Being Well with Dr. Will Cole Book | Gut Feelings by Dr. Will Cole Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off sitewide at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Alignment, Codependency, Family Dynamics, Gender Roles, Transitions, Trust Summary: For the last episode of the year 2022, Kylie and I are here to share an exciting milestone in our lives. We are so excited for what’s to come and to finally share this part of our journey with you. Big love and happy holidays to you and yours! Discover: What it means to live in alignment Trusting your choices and inner knowing Mature love and how to recognize it A special announcement from Kylie and me! Our thoughts on the provider role and societal expectations 00:00 Intro 01:10 The past two years 02:33 Making hard decisions 08:02 Alignment 11:40 Returning to the soul 13:36 Contrast is a beautiful teacher 15:12 Trusting your choices 18:52 Love and grief 22:25 Mature love 26:45 Community support 27:58 A special announcement 34:49 Stewarding a new life 44:31 Biggest fears 47:07 Shift in family dynamics 49:40 The role of the provider 1:00:53 Feeling safe and assured 1:03:33 Creating space for both sides of the experience 1:07:25 Raising and growing your consciousness Links: Join me on Mine’d! Sign up for my newsletter here Watch this episode on Youtube Instagram | @createthelove & @beingisbeautiful Facebook | @createthelove Sponsors: LMNT | Get a FREE LMNT sample pack with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/createthelove Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Etheric Medicine, Health, Spirituality, Clairvoyance, Purpose Summary: Bobbi Vogel is the founder of the Center for Etheric Medicine. She is a spirit taught clairvoyant healer, medical intuitive and medium to the soul, mind and body. She ascertains what is out of alignment creating vibrational dis-ease in the etheric body, both before and after it duplicates as a physical body illness. Light, intention and reverence are the tools used as an architect of vibrational anatomy. She brings into alignment the soul, mind and body to create the environment for intrinsic healing and release. Bobbi teaches that we must have compassion for our humanity as we consciously collaborate with our soul on the journey to health and healing. It all begins with faith. She currently collaborates with doctors as this is the now of medicine. Discover: How the etheric body differs from our physical body Bobbi’s thoughts on why anxiety and depression manifest The soul’s journey, why we’re here and the purpose of our wounds How disease relates to false beliefs and emotional wounds and why healing on a soul level is essential for physical recovery Why you don’t need to “find” your purpose 00:00 Intro 01:54 What is etheric medicine? 08:45 We are disconnected from the truth of who we are 15:05 Power of victimization 17:02 Purpose 21:20 The soul’s journey 29:02 Not being connected with your etheric self 32:33 Inflammation translates to density 43:32 The first step to healing 54:57 Vibrational medicine 58:34 Download about the broken heart Links: Website | ethericmedicine.com Instagram | @ethericmedicine.bobbi Youtube | @bobbivogel Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off your next order at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Uncertainty, Trust, Transformation, Alignment, Surrender Summary: I truly believe life always works out — even when it feels like nothing is going to plan. But this idea, of course, can be a challenging one to accept. It’s so hard for us to see the magic of what’s unfolding and trust the timing of the universe when we’re still in love with a previous story of what could have been. Imprisoned by the idea of how things were supposed to work out. We so often get stuck in the moment we were wishing for that we don’t allow the beauty of this moment to unfold. Join me in the special solo episode as I expand on what it means to trust life’s timing, embrace the uncertainty and walk the path as it appears. Discover: The magic in embracing the way things are instead of forcing outcomes Why we get stuck in frustrating patterns, and what holds us back from creating the life and relationships we desire The profound benefits of understanding your triggers, learning from past wounds and integrating that knowledge How the universe conspires to make your dreams come true when you’re brave enough to trust your intuition and leap into the unknown Why you can’t rush the knowing and gotta embrace uncertainty 00:00 Intro 01:20 Life update 03:07 When things don’t work out 05:10 Protective mechanisms 07:14 Growing from your triggers 09:32 Leap, and the universe will catch you 19:00 Stepping into your fullest self-expression 22:45 You’re the one who designs your life 25:16 You’re always in the perfect place Links: Join me on Mine’d! Sign up for my newsletter here Watch this episode on Youtube Instagram | @createthelove Facebook | @createthelove Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Children, Child Education, Mental Health, Self-Worth, Self-Love, Growth Mindset Summary: Today’s guest, Donovan Taylor Hall, is the teacher I think we all wished we had growing up. Dubbed the ‘Modern Day Mr. Rogers,’ Donovan is a youth advocate and educator on a mission to teach children how to build positive self-identity, self-worth and determination. His work aims to help kids of all ages create a solid relationship with themselves and learn the skills they need to take care of themselves both mentally and emotionally. Slow. Clap. Donovan has been featured on the Today Show, NowThis and several podcasts for his important work in positive youth development. Although his work started with kids, he has recently shifted into helping adults take care of themselves as well, using the same skills and inner child work. Join us as we discuss Donovan’s story, the current education system, how it’s affecting kids' mental well-being, and the value of an alternative system that focuses more on emotional, relational and mental health. Discover: How Donovan’s personal mental health struggles inspired him to work with kids Why teaching kids about their inherent self-worth is so important The reality of putting too many expectations and too much pressure on kids How the current education system is affecting kids' mental health How Donovan uses Twitch to connect with and teach important skills to his students The moment that made him leave the classroom, what made him come back, and the importance of self-love 00:00 Intro 00:23 Being the modern-day Mr. Rogers 02:03 Passion for teaching kids 06:12 Self-worth is inherent 12:18 Putting expectations on kids 15:20 The main struggles middle schoolers face today 31:09 Creating a safe space for kids 43:10 Rethinking the education system 48:03 Meeting kids where they’re at 53:14 Leaving the classroom 1:00:12 Creating content & performative social media 1:09:48 Future plans Links: Website | donovantaylorhall.com Twitch | twitch.tv/donofriend Instagram | @donofriend Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com LMNT | Get a FREE LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Toxic Positivity, Social Media, Authenticity, Parenting, Mental Health Summary: Meet Whitney Goodman, LMFT — a radically honest psychotherapist behind the hugely popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit, author, and the owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center, a virtual therapy practice in Florida. Whitney's debut book, Toxic Positivity: Keeping it Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy, shows readers how to shift the goal from being happy to being authentic in order to live fully. In this episode, we discuss toxic positivity and how a “good vibes only” mentality, while good-intentioned, can actually backfire when we’re denying and dismissing the hardships of life. Discover: What the term toxic positivity means, and why constantly striving to maintain a positive outlook isn’t actually helpful or realistic when it comes to mental health How social media perpetuates toxic positivity and shame through an absence of realness How to avoid the anxiety and comparison that comes with the constant positivity on social media Why keeping it real and not forcing positivity leads to deeper, more sincere connections The best way you can show up for someone who’s going through a hard time 00:00 Intro 01:01 Toxic positivity 02:51 Cultural gaslighting 03:24 Gratitude, toxic positivity & the internet 04:47 History of toxic positivity 08:06 The absence of realness on social media 10:53 Social media boundaries 12:59 The cultural shift beyond constant positivity 15:00 The effects of toxic positivity on connection 21:14 Connection between cancel culture and toxic positivity 24:18 Toxic positivity in relationships 28:01 Stop trying to save people 31:51 Relationships with parents 37:00 Gender roles in parenting 38:42 Life without a smartphone and the internet 41:42 Living in alignment with your values Links: Website | sitwithwhit.com Book | Toxic Positivity Instagram | @sitwithwhit Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off your next order at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Relationships, Attachment Theory, Conflict, Interdependency Summary: Today I’m honoured to be joined by Stan Tatkin: PsyD, MFT, clinician, author, researcher, co-founder of the PACT Institute and all-around relational ninja. Stan’s ability to help couples navigate the often tricky waters of relationships is truly unparalleled, and in this episode, you’ll understand why. Join us as we discuss attachment theory, the leading causes of breakups and, ultimately, how to co-create a thriving, lasting relationship. Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author of We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships, and the upcoming, In Each Other’s Care. Discover: Why we choose the partners we do, and why we default to certain behaviors while in a relationship Two main reasons relationships don’t last The non-negotiable habits of couples in strong, healthy relationships The mindset shift couples need to make for their relationship to survive and thrive 00:00 Intro 01:10 Stan’s background 02:57 Why we choose who we choose 10:30 Two main reasons relationships don’t last 18:02 Attachment theory & why we stay 23:24 Interdependency 26:29 Purpose-centered love 34:42 Creating a relationship that survives and thrives 41:32 Relationships are a team sport 48:16 Prioritizing repair 54:10 Avoid working on each other; only the problem Links: Website | thepactinstitute.com Instagram | @drstantatkin Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Politics, Spirituality, Health, Transformation, Self-Love, Unity Summary: Join me for a thought-provoking discussion with bestselling author, political activist and spiritual thought leader, Marianne Williamson. For more than three decades, Marianne has been a leader in spiritual and religiously progressive circles. She is the author of 14 books, four of which have been #1 New York Times best sellers, and ran for the Democratic nomination for president in 2020. In this episode we discuss self-love, spirituality and our best shot at healing the divide we are experiencing in society right now. Discover: How love and healing our own shadows first can help heal the political divide we are experiencing now in the world Non-violence political resistance and why it’s one of the most effective ways to spark political change The best way to start your day if you want to be your best self, live in integrity and radiate positive energy (hint: it’s not scrolling the gram) Taking control of how you show up in the world through a commitment to spiritual exercises and rituals Why mindfulness and meditation are crucial for effecting social change 00:00 Intro 00:43 Healing the divide 03:59 The government is gaslighting the people 06:44 Looking at ourselves first 08:58 Non-violent politics 13:08 We are meant to collaborate 16:21 Social media, individualism and narcissism 20:43 Impulse control 22:41 Living a more integrous life 28:52 Do this first thing in the morning 35:46 God and religion 43:03 Being committed to difference 46:42 Why are we scared of unity? 49:29 The urgent invitation to awakening 53:41 You don’t need the majority 55:48 The purpose of relationships Links: Website | marianne.com Twitter | @marwilliamson Instagram | @mariannewilliamson Substack | mariannewilliamson.substack.com Sponsors: LMNT | LMNT is a tasty electrolyte drink mix that replaces vital electrolytes without sugars and dodgy ingredients found in conventional sports drinks. Get a FREE LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off your next order at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trigger Warning: This episode may be emotionally challenging and contains discussions of child trafficking and exploitation. Listener discretion is advised. Themes: Child & Human Trafficking, Child Exploitation, Pornography, Sex Education, Online Grooming Summary: You probably know by now that I’m all about having difficult yet necessary conversations, and this episode with Tim Ballard is no exception. Tim is an anti-human trafficking activist, author, and the founder and CEO of Operation Underground Railroad. His work has both inspired me and made me feel incredibly naive about what goes on under our noses in most communities across the country and the world. Tim spent over a decade working as a Special Agent for the Department of Homeland Security, where he was assigned to the Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force and was deployed as an undercover operative for the U.S. Child Sex Tourism Jump Team. He has worked every type of case imaginable in the fight to dismantle child trafficking rings, both in the United States and in multiple foreign countries. He has successfully dismantled dozens of these organizations and rescued children from slavery and exploitation. While working for the government, Tim saw how much more needed to be done in the fight against child trafficking and exploitation across the world. In 2013, Tim and a team of former government operatives left the security of their careers to go about the work of rescuing children as a private foundation - Operation Underground Railroad. At O.U.R., Tim envisioned a team that could work in any jurisdiction and work with law enforcement to rescue children directly. That team exists today all over the world. Discover: The shocking number of human trafficking victims in the US each year and how much money this horrific industry is worth Real life stories and tactics of how children & teens are being lured into trafficking and being exploited right here in developed countries and good homes Why most people are afraid to take action or learn the truth about this industry The number one thing you can do to help protect children The impacts of porn on the brain and how an over-sexualized society is a key factor in child exploitation and trafficking 00:00 Intro 01:46 The effects of the pandemic on child abuse 03:44 Child trafficking 12:38 Educational grooming 15:14 Sex education 20:00 Teenagers should be able to talk with professionals 24:43 How does human trafficking commonly happen? 31:16 Greatest challenge in fighting the issue 34:19 Not wanting to know the truth 37:21 How you can protect the children 38:43 Is it happening everywhere? 40:28 Impact of pornography Links: Website | ourrescue.org Facebook | @OURrescue Twitter | @ourrescue Instagram | @ourrescue TikTok | @ourrescue Youtube | @ourrescue Documentary | Operation Toussaint Fight the New Drug | fightthenewdrug.org Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Integrity, Truth, Alignment, Religion, Liberation, People Pleasing, Authority Summary: It is my great honor to welcome Dr. Martha Beck, New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker to the podcast this week. Her newest book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller and felt like a journey home for me — one of those books where I found myself yelling “EFF YES!” out loud while reading. You know the kind. Martha holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” She is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. In this episode we cover navigating the internal split when you’re out of alignment or integrity and the magic that awaits when you have the courage to walk your truth — away from your socialization and towards the call of your soul. Discover: Why choosing and being in harmony with yourself is the key to a joyful and meaningful life Staying true to yourself despite other people’s opinions and expectations Navigating the internal split when out of integrity and having the courage to answer the call of your soul Suffering as the key to liberation How flipping your negative thoughts can give you peace of mind 00:00 Intro 01:24 Journey to getting her integrity back 06:48 Gaining authority over your own life 08:34 Psychic experiences 14:31 Coming home to your truth 18:39 Meditation for liberation 21:24 Questioning systems 24:31 The internal split 29:06 Going back to your true self 33:01 Flipping your negative thoughts 35:48 Integrity is contagious 42:05 Following your internal compass 44:34 Fear is the greatest challenge 47:10 The left hemisphere of our brain 50:05 The living dead 51:52 Returning to the right side of the brain Links: Watch this episode on Youtube Website | marthabeck.com Instagram | @themarthabeck Book | The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self by Martha Beck Book | Leaving the Saints by Martha Beck Episode with Byron Katie, listen to it here! Sponsors: Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Health, Sustainability, Permaculture, Regenerative Agriculture, Nutrition, Food Systems Summary: Is Glyphosate really that bad? Does buying local produce actually make a difference? Why should we care about soil — it’s just dirt, right? WRONG! So pumped to bring you this conversation with environmental filmmaker, citizen journalist, and musical activist, Rob Herring. Rob is the director and producer of the award-winning film The Need to GROW, which explores the opportunity we have to help regenerate our planet’s dying soils and participate in the restoration of earth. Join us for a fascinating chat on the importance of restoring our connection to nature, rethinking our food system and regenerating our most precious natural resource: soil. Discover: Why using the herbicide Glyphosate has become common-practice for farmers around the world and its detrimental effects on our soil, food and health Why soil biodiversity is so freaking important and why we should care as consumers What regenerative agriculture is and why it’s the key to a healthy planet and people The simplest and most powerful steps you can take to mitigate the effects of destructive/conventional agricultural practices on your health and that of the environment The health benefits of gardening, getting your hands dirty and eating fresh food 00:00 Intro 00:36 The Need to GROW 08:07 Why destructive agriculture is the norm 23:42 How you can help 31:15 Connecting with nature and the positive health effects 40:17 The environmental cost of corruption 48:56 What could happen if we let nature regenerate 52:03 Returning to nature Links: Watch this episode on Youtube Watch The Need to GROW for free here! Farmacy of Light | farmacyoflight.com Earth Conscious Life | EarthConsciousLife.org Tip News | Tip.News Make Soil | makesoil.org This Is Your Brain on Food by Dr Uma Naidoo The Biggest Little Farm Documentary Sponsors: ION* | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 15% off sitewide at intelligenceofnature.com (Offer only available to US based residents. Coupon applies to all one-time purchases, excludes bundles and subscription purchases) Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Consumerism, Humanity, Biodiversity, Health, Sustainability, Natural Law, the Microbiome Summary: Dr. Zach Bush is back for the third time for a deep dive into the health and future of both humanity and our planet. Zach is a renowned, multi-disciplinary physician of internal medicine, endocrinology, and hospice care and is an internationally recognized educator on the microbiome as it relates to human health, soil health, food systems, and a regenerative future. In this episode, we dive into the planet's vulnerability and how it’s demanding a massive change in our current systems. We also explore the responsibility we all have to reimagine humanity as a system of coherence with nature instead of fighting against natural law. Discover: Why the world is in a state of tumultuous transformation and what is possible for humanity and the earth if we’re able to develop a cohesive vision for the future How over time, humanity has shifted from a mindset of sharing, reverence and abundance to one of ownership, extraction and competition, and the negative consequences this is having on planet earth The importance of diversity on ALL levels, from bacteria to crops to thoughts and opinions Natural law and how we can use nature’s ancient wisdom as a template for a new, more coherent human society 00:00 Intro 00:43 Consumerism & outsourcing everything 4:30 The future of humanity 08:29 As above, so below 17:15 Diversity vs. monoculture 24:00 Cancel culture 25:25 The control of information to reduce panic 31:52 Natural law 40:17 Being afraid of change 54:04 Gut health & ION* Links: Watch this episode on Youtube Zach’s Website | zachbushmd.com Natural Law | naturallawandgov.org Journey of Intrinsic Health | journeyofintrinsichealth.com Farmer’s Footprint | farmersfootprint.us Instagram | @zachbushmd Zach’s First Episode | Regenerating Health with Dr. Zach Bush Zach’s Second Episode | Engineering Our Future with Dr. Zach Bush Sponsors: ION* | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 15% off sitewide at intelligenceofnature.com (Offer only available to US based residents. Coupon applies to all one-time purchases, excludes bundles and subscription purchases) Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Alignment, Authenticity, Transformation, Self-Love, Values Summary: Feel like there’s something more to life? Like you’re not quite reaching your potential? Perhaps you want a more fulfilling career, a better relationship, to heal your relationship with money, your body, social media, or your family. Whatever it may be, this split — the space between what you say you want, who you say you are and who you’re actually being and what you’re choosing — is one of the most significant sources of our pain, our addictions, and our emotional, mental, and physical health issues. I know this firsthand. Join me as I explore how to merge the gap between where you are now and what is possible for your life. Will you move toward your soul’s calling? Can you say yes to yourself? Can you claim your potential? Consider this your invitation. Discover: The wisdom of negative emotions and why life shouldn’t always feel good The difference between orienting your life around what your soul desires vs. your wounds, around expansion instead of defensiveness How to decide what to do when you don’t know what to do What happens when you commit to honouring yourself 00:00 Intro 00:26 The universe has your back 01:09 Life isn’t about feeling good all the time 02:08 The space between what you have and what you want 04:33 Orienting to your soul, not your wounds 09:26 Words don’t teach; actions do 12:41 Be mindful of your choices 13:15 You’re weird, but all the best people are 15:01 Stepping away can also be healing 17:03 When you stop running from who you are 18:30 Learning to say yes to yourself Links: Watch this episode on Youtube Join me on Mine’d! Sign up for my newsletter here Instagram | @createthelove Facebook | @createthelove Sponsors: Open | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 30 days free at withopen.com/createthelove Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Social Media, Self Love, Self Worth, Hollywood, Trauma, Mental Health Summary: This week I’m joined by one of the most versatile actors in Hollywood, Zachary Levi, with critically acclaimed roles in TV, film, and on Broadway. You may recognize him from his career catapulting role as Chuck Bartowski in the hit NBC series, Chuck, from his recurring role on Amazon Studios’ Emmy winning series, The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, or from his recent roles in American Underdog, the Kurt Warner Story and the 2019 blockbuster hit, Shazam!. In this episode we jam on the addictive nature of social media, the problems Hollywood and reality TV perpetuate, plus Zachary’s emotional journey through a lifetime of crippling anxiety and depression and how a breakdown led him to ultimately find joy, gratitude, self-love and acceptance. Discover: The irony of social media and how it’s both one of the biggest contributors to mental illness today AND a useful platform for amplifying awareness for such conditions The profit over people model of Hollywood and how it’s affecting the mental health of those working in the industry as well as viewers How reality TV is modeling an unhealthy approach to relationships and body image Zachary’s mental, emotional and spiritual breakdown and how it ultimately led him to find joy, gratitude, acceptance and purpose The beautiful ripple effect that comes with doing the inner work, facing what you’re most afraid of and integrating your wounds 00:00 Intro 00:37 The irony of social media 02:02 Being a parent now 05:38 Is social media safe for kids? 10:02 Media is designed to be addictive 15:18 The problem with Hollywood & reality TV 22:30 Altering your appearance 29:51 Money is not the root of evil 33:16 The breakdown 46:34 Getting the role of Shazam 55:39 Healthy love not being modeled 1:03:44 Therapy Links: Instagram | @zacharylevi Twitter | @zacharylevi Book | Radical Love: Learning to Accept Yourself and Others Sponsors: Open | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 30 days free at withopen.com/createthelove Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Relationships, Transformation, Acceptance, Infidelity, Authenticity, Codependency Summary: In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with power couple Rainier Wylde and Kristi Born as they share the intimate details of how their relationship has evolved through infidelity. We discuss relational pain as a potent catalyst for transformation, the beauty in being honest with ourselves and our partner, and viewing ruptures as an invitation to truth. About Rainier & Kristi: Rainier Wylde is an author, teacher, and speaker. He has embraced life for all it is, celebrating its highs and learning from its lows. Rainier has managed a Fortune 500 company and built businesses; he has also elegantly blown them up, burned them down, and started over from scratch. Studying with Zen masters and Sufi mystics, Rainier founded and participated in neo-monastic communities for many years, becoming a spiritual director to both individuals and groups. Through the various positions he has held, Rainier discovered that life must be claimed to hold any worth. His work is to inspire others to live, fully and deeply, in the here and now. Kristi Born is a marriage and family therapist, relationship coach and teacher. She has worked with diverse populations and a wide variety of age groups. As a graduate school professor and popular educator, Kristi thrills in bringing people together to discuss topics that unleash their power and minimize their shame. Kristi specializes in the art of couple’s therapy and relationship healing. Through this work, she helps couples create their own designer relationships; conscious and wholehearted partnerships. She finds joy in partnering with Rainier Wylde to use their personal relational journey to help any and every person accept and step into their own power, telling a beautiful story of their own. Together they host the podcast Love Like Hell, exploring the modern landscape of intimacy and union. Discover: Love and relational pain as a potent catalyst for transformation Why we sometimes hide our past from our current partners Why we often jump into relationships too fast The beauty of being honest with ourselves and our partner and where to begin when you have a history of tiptoeing around the truth Viewing ruptures in relationship as an invitation to truth and an opportunity really see and understand each other The importance of holding onto yourself and your identity while in relationship The impact of relationship transformation on kids and what they can learn from seeing a marriage with a foundation of truth 00:00 Intro 03:28 Entering into relationships unconsciously 05:00 When dysfunction is normalized 08:16 Love as a catalyst for transformation 14:23 Fear of knowing your partner’s past 20:45 Why we often jump from relationship to relationship 23:36 Liberation through truth 28:38 Talking about things as they arise vs. burying them 30:10 Ruptures are an opportunity 40:04 How did the community react to the truth? 46:31 Wanting the best for your partner 49:57 Relationships are not risk-free 58:50 Impact of relationship transformation on kids Links: Instagram | @rainierwylde & @kristimarieborn Podcast | Love Like Hell Book | As You Are: Meditations on Self and Other Check out my first episode with Rainier | The Complexities of Being Alive with Rainier Wylde Sponsors: Open | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 30 days free at withopen.com/createthelove Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Anger, Emotions, Mindfulness, Meditation, Breathwork, Self-Awareness Summary: “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” I’ve loved this quote from Viktor E. Frankl for a long time, and it speaks directly to the topic of today’s episode: mindfulness. Tune in as I explore with returning guest Manoj Dias what is possible when we commit to a practice of loving self-awareness. Born and raised in the Theravada Buddhist tradition, Manoj Dias is an animated speaker, humble teacher and always a friend. Once tethered to a life of self-management, instead of self-awareness, he now intimately understands what it means to be healed from the inside out. Through mindfulness and meditation, Manoj has helped thousands of people around the world trade mania for pause, so that they may live fearlessly in honor of a happier and more meaningful life. Discover: Mindfulness and how developing a practice can quite literally change your life and relationships The beauty of anger (and what’s often beneath this emotion) Meditation as a tool for self-awareness and why we may resist it Somatic mindfulness and how it can help you become more present and grounded Breathwork as a powerful tool to cultivate more presence, connection and peace 00:00 Intro 01:38 Reconciling our feelings through wisdom 04:49 Choosing how we react 08:56 Why we continue to operate in unhelpful patterns 11:01 The beauty of anger & what’s often beneath it 20:06 Observing your mind 24:21 Somatic mindfulness 33:41 Developing a mindfulness practice 36:59 Breathwork Links: Try Open free for 30 days at withopen.com/createthelove and use code CREATETHELOVE at checkout! Instagram | @manojdias_ & @op_e___n Website | manojdias.com.au Book | Still Together: Connection through meditation Sponsors: Open | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 30 days free at withopen.com/createthelove Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Food Systems, Nutrition, Health, Superfoods, Sovereignty, Environmental Health Summary: Join me for an epic chat with Darin Olien: co-host of the Emmy® award-winning docuseries, Down to Earth with Zac Efron, NYT best-selling author, chart-topping podcast host and passionate advocate for human and environmental health. For over 20 years, Darin has traveled the globe in search of ways to holistically heal our society through food, exercise, and mental health and I’m pumped to have had the opportunity to pick his brain in this episode. Discover: How Down to Earth with Zac Efron serendipitously came to be The dire reality and consequences of ultra-processed foods and chemical agriculture Why we need to return to ancient and indigenous agricultural practices for the health of ourselves and the planet A strong argument for growing your own food Darin’s tips for healthy living in a modern world 00:00 Intro 01:38 Down To Earth with Zac Efron 07:07 Hunting superfoods 13:27 Lack of integrity in the food industry 19:54 We’ve divorced nature 30:40 Lab-made foods 37:16 Food switches to make now 43:28 What’s really in your tap water 49:51 Why you should know about Barukas nuts Links: Website | darinolien.com & barukas.com Instagram | @darinolien Podcast | The Darin Olien Show Book | Superlife: The 5 Simple Fixes That Will Make You Healthy, Fit and Eternally Awesome Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Mental Health, Social Media, Self-Help, Breakups Summary: Meet Aaron Albert: my buddy, co-founder and the CEO of Mine'd — a digital platform we co-created to connect you with top emotional wellness experts and community through daily live and on-demand classes. Tune in as we explore the landscape of social media as it pertains to mental health for both consumers and creators, plus our idea to create a different way of orienting towards mental, relational and emotional health challenges. A former child actor on the Disney Channel and Nickelodeon, Aaron has spent the adult part of his career in the health and wellness space, working with companies to build products and experiences that make people's lives better. As the co-creator of the largest chain of boutique spin studios in Southeast Asia, Absolute Cycle, Aaron was able to merge together two of his personal passions: fitness and motivation. Over the past four years specifically, Aaron really honed in on creating communities and products at multiple consumer, wellness, and tech companies, including Journey Live, Shine Text, Wave Meditation, Sweat with Studio, and Julianne Hough’s KINRGY. Discover: Why we felt it necessary to create a new way for people to engage in mental health content outside of the social media platforms that already exist Why it’s hard for us to get motivated to take care of our mental health How we can be narcissistic in our pain when the truth is: you’re not alone! 00:00 Intro 01:00 Impact of the pandemic on mental health 02:33 Why don’t we treat mental health like physical health? 06:10 Mental health content on social media 14:06 People want accessibility 21:32 Heartbreak & the birth of Mine’d 27:48 Creating authentic content 34:26 You are not alone 41:05 Narcissism in our pain 43:23 What is Mine’d? Links: Check out Mine'd here! If you’re an expert and interested in joining Mine’d, go here to apply! Instagram | @doyoumined & @asalbert LinkedIn | Aaron Albert Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Health, Nutrition, Diet, Transformation, Mindset Summary: This week I’m joined Shawn Stevenson, author of the USA Today National bestseller Eat Smarter and the international bestselling book Sleep Smarter. In this episode Shawn shares how he was able to heal himself from chronic illness and turn a dire diagnosis around through simple mindset and nutrition changes. Shawn is also creator of The Model Health Show, featured as the number #1 health podcast in the U.S. with millions of listener downloads each year. A graduate of the University of Missouri–St. Louis, Shawn studied business, biology, and nutritional science and became the cofounder of Advanced Integrative Health Alliance. Shawn has been featured in Forbes, Fast Company, The New York Times, Muscle & Fitness, ABC News, ESPN, and many other major media outlets. Discover: How changing his internal narrative from “why me?” to “what can I do?” shifted his mindset and ultimately, his health outcomes What’s happening in the body when you get a craving Food as information Why as a society we are more sick than ever, even though technology is advancing 00:00 Intro 01:17 Writing Eat Smarter 07:00 The link between diet and chronic disease 19:27 From "why me?" to "what can I do?" 23:31 Pain is a great teacher 25:00 Having someone who believes in you 31:43 What is epigenetics? 37:14 Post-ingestive feedback & cravings 40:41 Processed and artificial foods 47:15 Connection between food and relationships 53:47 Food is information 55:47 Eating sacred 1:00:24 Effect of innovation to our health Links: Podcast | The Model Health Show Instagram | @shawnmodel Book | Eat Smarter How to Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind with Bruce Lipton, Ph.D Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Entrepreneurship, Career, Transformation, Purpose Summary: If you’re a therapist, practitioner, naturopath or healer looking to build your biz online and cultivate more meaning, abundance and freedom in your life, then this episode is for you! Tune in for an insightful conversation with Dan Harrison; former certified financial planner turned course creator and online business mentor who specializes in authentic selling, relationship-based marketing and transformational leadership. Discover: The beauty of entrepreneurship and starting before you’re ready The best place you can focus your time and energy as an entrepreneur Selling the transformation vs. your time Some of the most common challenges when stepping into entrepreneurship 00:00 Intro 02:14 Soulful Sales 07:25 From sales rep to empowering people 10:37 The beauty of entrepreneurship 21:10 Being of service 25:00 Sell the transformation 32:26 Free vs. paid information 36:52 Biggest challenges in entrepreneurship 43:46 Fall in love with the process Links: Book a free 15 minute insight coaching call with Dan here and be sure to mention that I sent you! Instagram | @thedanharrison Facebook | Private Practice Rebels Website | Soulful Sales Co. Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Perfectionism, Excellence, Career, Authenticity, Self-Compassion, Self-Worth Summary: This week I’m pumped to be joined by my good friend, Vitale Buford Hardin who is a top leadership consultant, driver of leadership excellence, and CEO of The Hardin Group, a leadership consulting firm. Tune in as we unpack perfectionism, why it manifests, how it affects us in the workplace and within our relationships, and ultimately how to actually heal from it. Vitale believes that “who we are is how we lead,” so the real leadership work begins with ourselves. Vitale brings her training and concepts to life in a fun and relatable way, empowering teams and companies to transform the way they work, produce, and relate. She is an iPEC-certified executive coach, trainer, award-winning speaker, and author. Featured in The New York Times, she is the author of the book, Addicted to Perfect, detailing her struggle with perfectionism and how she overcame it. Discover: What perfectionism is and the different ways in which it can manifest The root cause of perfectionism The first step in detaching from the need to be perfect How companies and leaders can actually benefit from addressing and healing perfectionism in the workplace 00:00 Intro 00:46 What is perfectionism? 02:55 Why we chase perfection 05:30 Detaching from perfectionism 07:37 Perfectionism in the workplace 12:06 How it affects innovation 17:47 Are men or women more prone to perfectionism? 21:27 Perfectionism in relationships 28:00 Compassion and perfectionism can’t coexist 30:34 Excellence instead of perfectionism 32:23 Vitale’s struggle with perfectionism Links: Book | Addicted to Perfect: A Journey Out of the Grips of Adderall Website | The Hardin Group LinkedIn | Vitale Buford Hardin Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Self Inquiry, Ego, Liberation, Awareness, Mental Health, Spirituality Summary: This week I’m SO excited to be joined by a trailblazer and icon whose work has deeply impacted my life: Byron Katie. Tune in to discover the powerful method of inquiry born directly out of Byron Katie’s experience that allows you to release yourself from suffering and access the wisdom that always exists within you. In 1986, at the bottom of a ten-year spiral into depression and self-loathing, Byron Katie woke up one morning in a state of joy. She realized that when she believed her stressful thoughts, she suffered, but that when she questioned them, she didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Her simple yet powerful process of self-inquiry, which she calls The Work, consists of four questions and the turnaround, which is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe. Byron Katie has been bringing The Work to millions of people for more than thirty years. Her books include the bestselling Loving What Is, now in a revised edition, I Need Your Love—Is That True?, A Thousand Names for Joy, and A Mind at Home with Itself. Discover: Four questions that, when applied to a specific problem, enable you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light A powerful way to handle and reframe criticism A simple tool to identify the cause of your stress and suffering The profound freedom that comes with questioning and turning around your thoughts 00:00 Intro 00:56 What is “The Work”? 03:48 The four questions 09:05 Ego 13:54 Is it true? 22:19 The world is divided 24:58 Stop thinking 32:07 Self-realization, until it’s lived, has no power 34:12 It’s all perfect 36:04 Defensiveness 39:25 Judge your neighbor worksheet 50:46 Turning around your thoughts Links: Instagram | @byron.katie Facebook | @theworkofbyronkatie YouTube | @theworkofbk Podcast | The Work Worksheet | Judge Your Neighbour Join her for At Home with BK on Zoom every Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday from 9-10 a.m. Pacific Time. Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Attachment Theory, Conflict, Relationships, Intimacy, Parenthood Summary: Today I’m joined by John Kim and Vanessa Bennett for a wonderful conversation discussing the core themes from their new book, “It’s Not Me, It’s You,” including how to navigate differences in your relationship. John Kim (aka The Angry Therapist) and Vanessa Bennett are not only licensed therapists and relationship coaches but master plate spinners. Writing books, hosting podcasts, creating mental health content, and raising their toddler are just a few of those spinning plates. Before their worlds collided, they each experienced the painful expiration of long term relationships which thrust them into their inner journeys, personal therapy, therapy school, and helping thousands of people relationship better. As a couple, they are committed to being transparent about their baggage, bullsh*t, and the slippery knots of their own imperfect relationship to help illuminate the surprising issues that hinder all of us from finding, enjoying, and sustaining love. Discover: How to navigate different love languages Framing your differences as opportunities Tips for navigating conflict with your partner The difference between doing life with someone vs. doing life at or around them 00:00 Intro 04:00 Therapists are human too 07:20 Writing a book with your partner 10:03 Different love languages 16:55 The anxious/avoidant dance 19:07 Differences in relationship 23:33 It’s in the small moments 28:20 Handling conflict 35:11 Past relationships vs. now 39:00 Softness & vulnerability in relationship 41:00 Greatest challenges in couples 47:22 Being transactional 53:47 Clean anger is necessary Links: Instagram: @vanessasbennett + @theangrytherapist TikTok: @thecodayoga + @theangrytherapist Pre-order Vanessa and John's new book, It’s Not Me It’s You, here. Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Relationships, Conflict, Relationship Coaching, Intimacy, Emotional Intelligence Summary: In today’s episode I’m joined once again by the insightful Jayson Gaddis. Tune in as we discuss some of the most common relational challenges we both encounter and how Jayson helps others both better understand relationships AND teach relational skills themselves through The Relationship School. Jayson Gaddis, author, podcaster, speaker, and “personal trainer for relationships”, is a global leader on interpersonal conflict and connection. He got tired of complaining that street-level relationship skills are not taught in school, so he founded The Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping individuals, couples and teams work out their differences in order to have indestructible relationships. His new book Getting to Zero: How to work Through Conflict In Your High Stakes Relationships was voted Editors Choice, Best non-fiction, and Best Leadership and Business book in 2021 on Amazon. Discover: The most common relationship challenges we both see A common root cause of unavailability One question to ask yourself when you don’t know whether to stay or go The advantages of being a coach vs. a therapist How Relationship School differs from other trainings Our thoughts on why relationship skills aren’t taught in school 00:00 Intro 01:42 The problem of not having mutual partnership 03:28 The most common relationship challenges 05:10 Dating unavailability 06:35 Should you stay or go? 08:07 Ghosting 08:52 People transform their lives around their relationship pain 11:18 Becoming a therapist 16:45 Group beliefs influencing individual beliefs 20:21 Breaking out of old systems 23:22 Challenging the client 29:18 Hearing feedback 33:46 Teaching how to handle conflict 35:19 Success of a relationship shouldn’t be measured by length 36:59 Movies modeling real life 40:02 Apologizing & conflict repair Links: Instagram | @jaysongaddis Website | relationshipschool.com Relationship Coach Certification Program | Visit this link to apply! Jayson's team interviews everyone that comes into the program. Once accepted, you will get a massive discount of $1000 at checkout when you use the promo code CREATETHELOVE Book | Getting to Zero I’m Sorry: How to Apologize and Why It Matters with Dr. Harriet Lerner | Part 1 | Part 2 Embracing Conflict with Jayson Gaddis - The Mark Groves Podcast Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Relationships, Dating, Red Flags, Infidelity, Forgiveness, Attachment Theory Summary: I’m super pumped to be joined by Jeff Guenther, aka @therapyjeff for today’s episode. I’ve been watching Jeff distill complex information and break down relational challenges online in such a consumable and digestible way for some time now, so to sit down with him today and go deeper into allllll things romantic relationships is an honour. Jeff Guenther is a licensed professional counselor in Portland, Oregon. He’s been a therapist since 2005 and his practice focuses on both couples and individuals. These days, he spends most of his spare time making one-minute videos for TikTok and Instagram, and more in-depth content on Patreon. Consider following him on all the platforms for relationship advice, tips, pep talks and other resources to maximize your mental health. Discover: Green flags to look for on a date Why knowing your own red flags is essential for a healthy relationship The best time to ask “what are we?” When it’s okay (and can actually benefit your relationship) to crush on someone else Red flags to watch for when you crush on someone else 00:00 Intro 01:48 Starting an online presence 05:05 Back to (relationship) basics 06:08 Blaming your parents 08:00 Do you need to forgive in order to heal? 11:30 Stop talking shit about your ex 13:15 Know your own red flags 16:44 Assuming good intent 20:20 Asking for reassurance 26:56 Actions vs. words 30:45 Having needs is sexy 35:21 Anxious/avoidant attachment 37:54 Having a crush on someone while in a relationship 51:07 Red flags when you have a crush 53:10 Thinking relationally Links: Website | therapyjeff.com & therapyden.com Instagram | @therapyjeff TikTok | @therapyjeff Patreon | @therapyjeff Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Self-Worth, Anxiety, Self-Esteem, Emotions, Boundaries Summary: In 2015, having worked in the world of TV for eight years, Sophie Dear was signed off work due to anxiety and insomnia. Feeling pretty broken, she retrained as a yoga teacher and started a journey of inner work. Then, very suddenly at the end of 2019, Sophie's 10 year relationship and marriage broke down. She jumped on a plane to Bali in March 2020 with a plan to work out what she truly wanted. After stumbling across my work on Instagram, she took my Become a Boundaries Badass and Crushing Codependency courses, both of which had a huge impact on her relationships and self-worth. Sophie now works as a self-worth empowerment coach and is very much enjoying her best life. As she explains in this episode, re-discovering her self-worth has been her biggest journey and I'm honored to have played a part in it! Discover: Tangible tips for building self-worth How having boundaries will change your life in the best way Having compassion for your old patterns and survival strategies 00:00 Intro 01:21 Sophie's story 05:25 Allopathic medicine being symptom oriented 08:32 Effects of being unkind to yourself 10:30 Yoga and self-worth 17:03 Seeking your true self 18:26 Feeling seen for the first time 21:32 Growing up with a sick parent 23:41 When you become what you’ve been seeking 25:07 Every feeling you feel is valid 27:02 Boundaries and codependency 31:26 Survival strategies as superpowers 33:11 Having space for difficult and vulnerable conversations 38:42 Focusing on expansion rather than your limitations 39:27 Change starts when you start seeing your self-worth 42:48 We are wired to survive, not for happiness 46:04 Rituals for self-worth Links: Website | www.sophiedear.com Instagram | @_sophiedear, @move.and.inspire Move & Inspire: Get $35 off here using the code CREATETHELOVE Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Overcoming Fear, Speaking Your Truth, Authenticity, Alignment, Integrity Summary: So often, we allow the human in us - the part that has fears and limiting beliefs - talk us out of what feels right on a soul level. We talk ourselves out of taking courageous action, starting something new, laying a boundary, having a conversation, moving in a new direction… because stepping into the unknown is scary AF. It’s much easier (and more comfortable) to stay in the spaces, cycles and patterns that are already working and familiar. But the reality is this: when we know we can become more and we don’t answer the call, the pain of misalignment will eventually catch up. Which brings me to where I am today: realizing I have not been fully liberated and in integrity on @createthelove for some time. I’ve been holding back my full expression on social media, afraid of how I might be received — but I realize that in doing so, I don’t get to be all of me and you don’t get to know all of me. I came here to speak what is true for me, and be committed to building bridges. But one cannot build bridges when ones does not have a bridge between the parts of themselves they are afraid of expressing. So here I am: expressing. Join me for this special solo episode as I dive deeper into what has sparked this evolution and what to expect from me going forward as I step into a more aligned, more expressed, and more liberated version of myself. Thank you for being on this journey with me! Discover: Why committing to telling the truth changes everything An intimate letter to you, my community, on how my platform is evolving My thoughts on cancel culture, nuance and discussion How to step into a space of curiosity when you disagree with someone’s beliefs 00:00 Intro 01:31 Fearing the unknown 03:37 Don’t listen to the human in you 06:20 Let the truth that lives within you also live outside of you 09:12 Committing to telling the truth 12:16 Creating the love 17:34 Don’t get stuck in someone else’s expectations 19:59 Be curious about anything you’re not allowed to criticize 21:37 Cancel culture 27:20 Tolerating different beliefs 30:09 Stop wasting your time focusing on other people Links: Watch this episode on Youtube Sign up for my newsletter here Watch my recent IG Live on this topic The Impacts of Lockdowns with Dr. Jay Bhattacharya Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Health, Personal Responsibility, Mindset, Food Systems, Resilience, Medical Autonomy, Longevity Summary: They say when the student is ready the teacher arrives, and that was exactly the case with today’s guest, Dr. Tyna Moore. With nearly three decades of experience in the medical world, Dr. Tyna Moore, ND, DC is a leading expert in holistic regenerative medicine and resilient health. Traditionally and alternatively trained in science and medicine as both a Naturopathic Physician and Chiropractor, she brings a unique perspective to those wishing to build a more robust foundation in their health and well-being. She is a podcast host, author, speaker, kettlebell devotee and mother as well as a fierce advocate for health autonomy and personal responsibility, which she helps others improve through her many offerings at drtyna.com and on her podcast, The Dr Tyna Show. Join us as we talk about the importance of metabolic health in our overall wellbeing, how we ended up in the sea of metabolic dysfunction we see today, plus Dr. Tyna’s top strategies for improving your health and resilience. Discover: Dr. Tyna’s journey from chronic illness as a young adult to thriving in her forties Simple strategies to improve your metabolic health and see noticeable shifts in your mood, energy levels and inflammation levels The role of mindset and personal responsibility in building optimal health How to build resilience against chronic and acute disease 00:00 Intro 01:07 Importance of presenting data and the truth 06:57 Pain and vanity 10:45 Information is empowering 13:09 Microbiomes are contagious 17:19 Unrealized food disorder 21:06 Strength training and its benefits 28:38 How to work on metabolic health 31:27 The food supply is adulterated 35:51 Sugar is satan 38:22 Making things conducive to longevity 39:45 Canceling and vilifying information rather than understanding the discomfort 43:45 There are demons among us 47:44 Easily influenced 56:16 The metabolic revamp Links: Instagram | @drtyna The Metabolic Revamp Challenge The Dr. Tyna Show Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Liberation, Masculinity, Patriarchy, Karma, Relationships, Self-Awareness Summary: John Wineland is a renowned author, teacher and speaker who guides both men and women in the realms of life purpose, relational communication, sexual intimacy and embodiment. I’ve admired John’s work for years, incorporating many of his teachings into my own journey. Join us for this episode where we explore a new vision of awakened masculinity — one rooted in conscious awareness, unflinching responsibility and true leadership. One that invites men to feel deeply, disavow numbness and turn away from ego-driven dogma that has harmed women, the planet, and men themselves. John's embodiment-driven teaching draws from not only over 30 years of experience of his own Buddhist meditative practice but from 13 years of intensive study and practice with renowned Yogic Intimacy teacher, David Deida. Drawing from Deida's revolutionary framework, as well as the deep lineages of Vajrayana, Tantra, Kundalini yoga, Taoist and Iron Shirt Qigong traditions, John seeks to create a profound experience for men and women longing to express their deepest desires with open, fierce and loving hearts. His new book, From The Core, shares a practical guide to redefine, heal and re-embrace masculinity in our world. Discover: How masculinity and what it means to be a valuable male within a relationship, community and society — is being redefined The value of integrating the masculine and the feminine within Simple practices to invite more presence, awareness and depth to your relationships 00:00 Intro 00:38 A new paradigm of masculinity 04:44 What is a liberated man? 08:36 Integrating the masculine and feminine within 10:35 Liberate yourself from patterns 13:58 The myth of the good husband 17:31 Why we resist liberation 19:42 Changing your karma 24:40 Make space for your inner self 26:57 Men want depth 30:28 Grief and anger 32:00 Beauty and awe 34:09 Love is not transactional 39:27 Killing the teacher 41:35 Internal patriarchy 43:24 Having a partner who challenges you 46:19 How to relate to the feminine 47:11 Toxic masculinity Links: Instagram | @john_wineland Workshop | The Virtual Workshop Series by John Wineland Book | From the Core: A New Masculine Paradigm for Leading with Love, Living Your Truth & Healing the World by John Wineland What Femininity Wants with John Wineland | The Mark Groves Podcast Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Healing, Health, Holistic Health, Emotions, Self-Expression, Authenticity Summary: I often talk about the deep impact both our relationships and emotional health have on our physical health, so this week I’m thrilled to be diving deeper into the subject with the one and only Dr. Christian Gonzalez. Join us for a beautiful conversation about why authentic self-expression and releasing suppressed emotions is so important for the health of your body, mind and spirit. Dr. G took an interest in many fields of medicine, but it wasn’t until his mother passed of cancer that he decided to shift his focus to oncology. There he found a passion for helping people optimize their health by preventing chronic disease and he soon realized that cancer was not simply nutritional or exercise-based, it was much more than that. As he studied this concept more, Dr. G became passionate about environmental medicine as well as the mind, body, and spirit connection. Everything is connected, from the foods we eat to the way we think and interact with the world and the people in our lives. These seemingly small factors all play a large part when it comes to our health and longevity. Because of this, Dr. G has shifted from working with patients to focusing his energy on mass education. He is the host of the excellent Heal Thy Self podcast, which focuses on giving people the tools they need to truly heal from the inside out and highlights some of the top medical professionals in the industry. Discover: How the relationships we have with our home, the environment, and the people in our lives all play a role in the development of chronic disease The deep impact your emotional health has on your physical health Why authentic self-expression is so important The pathway to healing suppressed emotions and unhooking from unhelpful protective mechanisms 00:00 Intro 02:26 How Dr. G got started in the medical field 06:15 Pivoting into Naturopathic Medicine 11:06 Healing from suppressed emotions and trauma 17:34 The cost of resisting your true emotions 25:15 Letting yourself feel “negative” & “unlovable” emotions 32:06 The role of nutrition and supplementation 37:04 Authentic self expression can protect you from toxic environments Links: Instagram | @doctor.gonzalez Website | docgonzalez.com Podcast | Heal Thy Self with Dr. G Mark Groves on Heal Thy Self with Dr. G Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Birth, Birth Control, Reproductive Health, Body Autonomy, Informed Consent Summary: This week I’m joined by powerhouse Ricki Lake to discuss her fascinating new documentary, The Business of Birth Control. Sixty years after the pill revolutionized women's emancipation, this new documentary examines the complex relationship between hormonal birth control and women’s health and liberation. Weaving together the stories of bereaved parents, body literacy activists and femtech innovators, the film reveals a new generation seeking holistic and ecological alternatives to the pill. In this episode we explore the risks and side effects of the pill your doctor probably didn’t tell you about, unethical drug trials, the advantages of being in tune with your body and cycle, holistic alternatives to the pill, and so much more! Discover: The risks and side effects of the pill your doctor probably didn’t tell you about Real stories of people who have experienced harmful side effects from birth control The problem with labeling and lack of informed consent when it comes to the pill 00:00 Intro 01:51 What motivated Ricki to educate in the reproductive space 04:30 Home birth 07:04 Re-education about birth control 11:04 Side effects of birth control 17:23 Tragic stories from birth control use 19:43 Labeling and information 21:44 Understanding your rights and choices 23:01 Tracking menstrual cycle 25:44 How to navigate through this 28:03 Christianity and sexual abstinence 30:27 Importance of sex education 33:20 What Ricki’s most proud of in terms of the film 34:57 Challenging & questioning other people’s beliefs 41:37 Hypocrisy in religion 43:46 People hate it when we question the status quo 45:33 Giving birth on your own terms 47:52 Finding love Links: Stream The Business of Birth Control in the US & Canada - use code CREATETHELOVE for 50% off! International Audiences: Join the waitlist to watch The Business of Birth Control Watch The Business of Being Born Business of Birth Control | Instagram Ricki Lake | Instagram Cured Nutrition's Joseph Sheehey on the Mark Groves Podcast Check out my course Dating 101! Sweetening the Pilll with Holly Grigg Spall The War on Nature with Dr. Nathan Riley Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Spirituality, Spiritual Awakening, Clairvoyance, Channeling, Medium Summary: This week I’m joined by one of the foremost spiritual channels working today — Paul Selig. Described as “a medium for the living,” Paul has the unique ability to step into and “become” the people his clients ask about, often taking on their personalities and physical characteristics as he “hears” them telepathically. In this episode, we discuss Paul’s backstory, how he discovered his clairvoyance and some of the wisdom he has channeled using his unique gift. Paul was born in New York City and received his master’s degree from Yale. A spiritual experience in 1987 left him clairvoyant. In his nine breakthrough works of channeled literature, including I Am the Word, The Book of Mastery, and the Beyond the Known Trilogy: Realization, Alchemy, and The Kingdom author and medium Paul Selig has recorded an extraordinary program for personal and planetary evolution as humankind awakens to its own divine nature. Discover: Life as an expression of divinity What it really means to “be of service” A unique way to look at forgiveness Messages to all of us from the guides 00:00 Intro 01:25 How it all started 05:01 Understanding the voices he hears 07:41 Evolution of the guide’s messages 10:14 Knowing who you are, what you are, and what you serve 18:57 Forgiveness is important 20:06 Everything hidden will be found 22:47 When you reject something, you can’t change it 25:56 The guides 30:16 Feeling energy 35:05 How transmission of messages happens 38:59 A message from the guides 43:36 Books and energies Links: Paul’s Instagram Paul’s Website The Kingdom - A Channeled Text by Paul Selig Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Self-Love, Self-Expression, Shame, Self-Care, Acceptance, Authenticity Summary: This week I'm joined by yoga teacher, author and my friend, Jennifer Pastiloff. In this episode we discuss how to live from a place of love, accepting and being true to yourself, self-compassion, finding beauty in unexpected places and so much more. Jen Pastiloff offers a unique style of teaching through her workshop “On Being Human”, which is based on her bestselling book of the same name. She describes these workshops as “a hybrid of yoga related movement, writing, sharing out loud, letting the snot fly, and the occasional dance party.” She has been featured on Good Morning America, New York Magazine, Health Magazine, CBS News and more for her unique teachings which she has taught to thousands of women in sold-out workshops all over the world. Discover: One simple way to open yourself up to more beauty, miracles and love A morning prayer to help set yourself up for success each day Why inspired action needs to follow awareness in order to make meaningful change Each new day as an opportunity to begin again Owning your flaws and showing up anyway 00:00 Intro 00:59 Are you who you say you are? 02:36 Operating from love 06:31 Talk to more strangers 09:54 Don’t lose the child in you 13:31 Create your morning prayer 19:27 Make mistakes and begin again 22:22 Owning your messiness 24:34 Taking inspired action 26:27 Surround yourself with people who inspire you 29:22 Don’t take yourself too seriously 32:35 Choose your struggle 37:14 Jen’s experience of going deaf 42:44 Cancel culture 44:51 Social hierarchy 48:26 Shame 51:00 Seeking validation vs. being true to yourself 56:03 Give yourself permission Links: Jennifer’s Instagram Jennifer’s Website Jennifer’s Book: On Being Human: A Memoir of Waking Up, Living Real, and Listening Hard Join us on the Mine’d app! Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at https://www.curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at http://organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at http://createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Propaganda, Media Literacy, News, Persuasion, Social Media Summary: Today I’m joined by Renee Hobbs, who is an expert in digital and media literacy education. She's the author of Mind Over Media: Propaganda Education for a Digital Age and for 30 years has helped educators across four contents integrate digital and media literacy into all subject areas and grade levels. In this episode, Renee unpacks what propaganda is, why we should be aware of it, and how it really affects and influences us. A topic as timely as ever these days! Discover: How propaganda works and why developing critical thinking skills around all types of media is so important How media messages shape our culture and society How powerful language is as a persuasive tool The importance of curiosity and seeking out divergent perspectives Increasing your capacity for complexity and critical thinking 00:00 Intro 00:49 Information in today’s era 02:35 Propaganda is everywhere 04:19 News and facts 06:03 Definition of propaganda 09:02 The power of language 15:29 Media’s role in society 19:36 Conspiracy theories 20:25 Stereotypes vs. embracing complexity 23:55 Self-interest is inescapable 27:02 Manage your rage 29:57 Propaganda is in the eye of the beholder 31:54 Searching for opposing beliefs 34:55 The learning journey with podcasts 37:50 Learning by creating media Links: Mind Over Media Website Contemporary Propaganda Gallery Set Your Motivation Media Education Lab Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at https://www.curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at http://organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at http://createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Mental Health, Purpose, Career, Self-Awareness, Reflection Summary: Today I’m joined by best-selling author, podcast host and mental fitness strategist Marc Champagne. In Mark’s book, Personal Socrates, he explored the pointed questions that stimulate our mental fitness and teach us how to direct our internal narrative to work for us instead of against us. Marc studied the prompts and practices of legends such as Kobe Bryant, Maya Angelou, Robin Williams, James Clear, Coco Chanel, Stephen Hawking, and many others to bring clarity, intentionality, and possibility to every aspect of reader’s lives. In this episode, Marc unpacks what he’s learnt about the mental fitness practices and reflective questions shaping the lives of some of the most successful and brilliant thinkers in the world. Discover: The simple daily practice almost all successful/impactful people have in common Staying motivated, even at your lowest moments How journaling can help you understand yourself better Questions for increased self-awareness 00:00 Intro 00:50 Leaving a secure job 06:11 Failing and starting again 11:40 Micro-moments of motivation 14:34 Top 3 mental fitness habits 16:42 One question away from a different mindset 18:41 Importance of self-reflection 20:15 Journaling 25:42 What we’re pretending not to know 27:22 Why we’re afraid of slowing down 32:08 The hard to answer questions 35:51 Personal Socrates 40:53 Definition of mental fitness 45:39 Be in a state of possibility Links: Marc Champagne’s Instagram Behind The Human Podcast Behind The Human Website Personal Socrates: Questions That Will Upgrade Your Life from Legends & World-Class Performers Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at https://www.curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at http://organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at http://createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Inner Peace, Mental Health, Purpose, Belonging, Self-Expression Summary: Today I'm joined by my friend and the host of The Mental Wealth Podcast, Kaylor Betts. In this episode, Kaylor shares what it means to be both mentally healthy and wealthy, and how to cultivate inner peace in an increasingly chaotic world. Kaylor Betts is a rising star in the mental health space; with a growing following and a hard hitting, buzzworthy podcast, The Mental Wealth Podcast. Kaylor is a contrarian and holds no punches when speaking out against mainstream opinion. He faced his mental health head-on, tackled his long history with anxiety and depression and has since taken a deep dive into studying human optimization to create a brand around what he calls ‘Mental Wealth’. Working with clients around the world, he is relentless in his passion to change lives and help us all understand how to live life beyond what we thought was possible. Discover: What mental wealth is and how to create it Creating purpose in your life vs. discovering your purpose What to do when self-expression threatens belonging Getting comfortable with facing the uncomfortable 00:00 Intro 00:40 Having mental wealth 03:07 Discovering purpose 08:58 Belonging and being accepted 12:53 Handling hate and having inner peace 15:49 Beliefs you had as a kid affect you as an adult 19:17 Allowing people to accept a new version of you 27:26 Importance of humility 30:11 Becoming mentally healthy and wealthy 36:24 Living consciously 42:13 Be the observer of your thoughts 44:20 Dealing with procrastination 48:12 Danger vs. fear Links: Kaylor Betts Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/thekaylorbetts/?hl=en The Mental Wealth Podcast | https://www.mentalwealthpodcast.co/ The Mental Wealth Academy | https://buildmentalwealth.co/ Why the Past 10 Years of American Life Have Been Uniquely Stupid by Jonathan Haidt | https://bit.ly/3tSbgDw Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at https://www.curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at http://organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at http://createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Themes: Human Biases, Victimhood, Cancel Culture, Virtue Signaling, Morality Summary: Lately I’ve been feeling motivated to explore my own (and what seems to be the world in general’s) edge around having hard conversations. What shapes binary/black and white thinking, and what has created the inability to speak about subjects that have become so hypersensitive? How can can we disagree with love and curiosity? It seems that more often than not, we cease talking about certain things altogether because it’s easier to avoid cancellation, the possibility of being critized, and conflict. But whenever we do this, we don’t actually serve our communities, our society, or the world as a whole. I’m so excited for you to hear this conversation with Cory Clark and was blown away by the research she shares about human biases, victim mentality, and more. It gave me the opportunity to explore my own personal biases and to bring light to the things that I don’t even see about myself and the way I see the world. I hope it does the same for you. Cory Clark is the Director of the Adversarial Collaboration Project at University of Pennsylvania and a Visiting Scholar in the Psychology Department. She received her PhD in Social and Personality Psychology and Quantitative Methods from University of California, Irvine and formerly worked as an Assistant Professor of Social Psychology at Durham University in the United Kingdom and the Director of Academic Engagement for Heterodox Academy. Among other things, she studies political biases (on both the left and right) and how moral and political concerns influence evaluations of science among everyday people and scientists alike. She writes a Psychology Today blog called The AntiSocial Psychologist and occasionally co-hosts the YouTube channel and podcast, Antisocial Psychologists. Discover: How victimhood can be used for manipulation/to gain very real benefits Why we tend to cancel other people for having different opinions How research shows that being perceived as a victim can justify immoral behavior 00:00 Intro 01:27 Social media reinforces our beliefs 03:46 Competition in research 06:34 Being biased is human nature 11:14 The bias blindspot 12:52 Vicitmhood and the evolutionary benefits of playing victim 21:26 Justification of immoral behaviors 26:24 Emotional manipulation & victim playing 33:57 Victim and virtue signaling 39:46 Obsessive passions versus harmonious passions 41:56 Having a different opinion 43:32 Verbal versus physical violence 46:40 Extremist people 56:47 Participating in canceling by refusing to talk about it 1:00:50 Taking things to social media instead of talking about things privately 1:04:25 Being held accountable for what we say 1:07:20 Self-censorship Links: Cory’s Website | https://www.coryjclark.com/ Cory Clark’s Twitter | https://twitter.com/ImHardcory Psyphilopod Podcast | https://bit.ly/3mUpeAP The Antisocial Psychologist Youtube | https://bit.ly/3HsCgyY The AntiSocial Psychologist Blog | https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-antisocial-psychologist Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at https://www.curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at http://organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at http://createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices