The Mark Groves Podcast

This week I've been thinking a lot about the practice of being present, sitting in stillness and really uncovering your true self. What happens when we allow ourselves to really feel? When we don't blanket our emotions, we can try to learn and grow from our sadness. We have been so dominated by a culture that praises the highs, but what would happen if we began to rejoice our setbacks and embrace the opportunity to learn from them. ~ Discover: Why our soul gets depleted How to witness the miraculous Start thinking about what you think In the stillness you find more of you "Silence is who you are" Why we need to come back to the connection of the earth Why grief is the path to answers Why presence gets us there faster Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week I am joined by Human Design Guide and Leadership Coach Erin Claire Jones. Human Design is a synthesis of ancient wisdom and modern science that sheds light on a person’s energetic makeup, as well as specific tools they can use to live at their happiest, healthiest, highest potential. It teaches people about themselves so they can have a better understanding of why they are the way they are. In this episode, Erin walks us through the different types of Human Design and the concepts and characteristics of each type. We also review my personal Human Design and my emotional, psychological and energetic makeup. What is human design? The beautiful ways humans function The difference between a generator & manifesting generator What is a projector? Understanding the different ways we make decisions Identity, emotions, processing, and holding on to things The shadow side of human design What is at the core of it all You can find Erin on Instagram or head to her website to book a session or look up your design www.erinclairejones.com. To get access to your own Blueprint head here and use code CREATETHELOVE for 10% off. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Giacomo Gianniotti is an actor, writer, director, and philanthropist most recently known for his role as Dr. Deluca on Greys Anatomy. In this episode Giacomo and I have an encompassing conversation on humility, relationships, and conflict. Giacomo walks us through his relational experiences, and his personal growth from therapy and vulnerability. We touch on sincerity, the art of apologizing, and the importance of asking for what you need. ~ Discover: The power of vulnerability, listening, sincerity and humility in relationships When you finally learn how to listen, your conversations will change Owning our sh*t will take us further than we realize The stages of relationship and becoming a better human The hard realizations of "recovering defenders" Why can't people apologize and the connection to worth The five love languages Toxic shame and divorce Find Giacomo on instagram at @giacomo_gianniotti and in his 1st feature film entitled “Acquainted” on Apple TV. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Navigating heartbreak can often feel insurmountable. But what if we used it as fuel to become our highest self? What if in each heartbreak we asked ourselves "how do I learn from the lesson that broke my heart?" Learning how to open our hearts in a space that feels safe after heartbreak is one of the biggest lessons we can learn. If we continue to ask ourselves "how can I be better?" Then when we begin to implement those changes, we begin to curate a life aligned in integrity and our highest values. ~ Discover: Do not shrink. The world needs you fully alive. A closed heart is broken, and a broken heart is open Why we need to stay in the space of feeling it all Who do you want to be? What legacy do you want to leave? What are your top 3 values you want to live by? Don't wait until you have to, do it because you choose to Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited and honoured to welcome one of my absolute dream guests - the incredible Dr. Harriet Lerner this week. Dr Lerner is best known for her scholarly work on the psychology of women and family relationships and is also a best selling author, speaker and teacher. Her incredible books including The Dance of Anger, The Dance of Intimacy and Why Won't You Apologize have completely transformed my life and the way I relate. In this episode, Dr. Lerner walks us through the 7 steps on how to find courage and use your voice. Each step arms us with the tools to converse effectively and to distinguish between real feelings and our pure anxiety driven reactivity. You won't want to miss this! ~ Discover: Why do we self-abandon? Difficult conversations with difficult people How to have courage and make life changing moves in relationships What over-explaining yourself means and what to do about it Strike while the iron is COLD Defensiveness, stonewalling, criticism and shutting down Self-worth and the connection to apology LDD - Listening Deficit Disorder What is defensive listening? Respect for differences vs. right or wrong Boundaries vs. bottom line position You can learn more about Dr. Lerner on her website https://www.harrietlerner.com/ and on Instagram and Facebook. You can also find her TED talk here: http://www.tedxkc.org/harriet-lerner/. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week I have the honour of speaking with the brilliant Allyson Byrd. In this episode, we dive into all things entrepreneurship, personal and professional expansion, spirituality, and how it pertains to our growth, success, and goals. Words don't do this one justice - listen in! Allyson Byrd is also known as the “Profit Accelerator™ and she is celebrated as one of the world's most trusted leadership advisors and sales experts for entrepreneurs and small business owners. Learn more about Allyson at www.allysonbyrd.com or on Instagram @iamallysonbyrd. You can also find more about Allyson's journey to success in her latest collaboration with Amazon Prime called SpeakUP. ~ Discover: What are you DONE doing? What are you ready to give birth to? Our spirit loves the "bounce back" Why we need to focus on return me vs. change me We came here to be an answer The cult of "average" What is survivor's remorse? What are you tolerating in your life? When you know you have to say yes Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, one of my favourite people and dear friends Sheleana Aiyana joins us for a super juicy conversation on all things relationships. Shay is the founder and visionary of Rising Woman. Through a traumatic childhood, addiction and abuse, Shay found her way to the inner-work and Rising Woman was born. Rising Woman is a reflection of her mission to support others in embracing their shadows and finding their light within. This week we chat about how relationships are never really the fairytale that Hollywood has portrayed them to be... Shay explains that healthy conscious relationships require work, healing of our inner child and that we must enter into them knowing that we are complete on our own. We talk about what a healthy relationship truly looks like, and how we can rise up from the rock bottom of heartbreak and ask, "how did I get here and what has it taught me?" ~ Discover: Taking responsibility for our pain and how it shows up in relationships If your wounding occurs in relationship, that's where you must heal it Why we keep repeating our patterns along our journey What happens when you create more love and safety within yourself If you don't recognize your wholeness you will seek someone else to complete you The choice of fracturing vs. deepening the relationship Find Shay and her community on Instagram @risingwoman or online at www.risingwoman.com. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My dear friend Jules Webber is back this week for a deep dive into the concepts of codependence, over-functioning and under-functioning. Jules walks us through what it means to be an over-functioner, and gives concrete examples from her own journey through life to help us understand this complex topic. Jules arms us with the tools to heal and move forward more balanced. Jules teaches us to embrace rather than ignore our triggers, and learn how we can better parent those reactions and condition ourselves to respond in a healthier way. ~ Discover: Signs you're over-functioning Why we make excuses to justify someone not texting us back What would happen if we left someone love us? Where does over-functioning come from? Over-functioning is a tool for manipulation What over-functioning looks like in marriage and dating The history and economic purpose of marriage The impact social media has on our mental health What happens when you choose yourself at the cost of belonging Rage is a call to justice. Anger is there to give you the energy you need to honor your boundaries Jules Webber is an Intimacy and Life Coach who helps women go within, nurture an intimate and loving relationship with themselves, and experience true Wholeness and belonging. Find her on instagram @jules.webber or on her website at www.juleswebber.com. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Caroline Leaf is a neuroscientist specializing in cognitive and metacognitive neuropsychology. Since the early 1980s, she has researched the mind-brain connection, the nature of mental health, and the formation of memory. She was one of the first in her field to study how the brain can change (neuroplasticity) with directed mind input. This week we chat about what is actually happening in the brain with relation to memories, relationships, and life experiences, and how to use mind-directed techniques to help relieve intrusive thoughts. ~ Discover: The brain, mind and the difference between them Suppression is a reinforcement process Positive thinking is a band-aid to the wound Make the process work for you, discover wisdom and responsibility Depression is not an illness, it's a signal Conscious and non-conscious mind How to create the shift Awareness brings autonomy How to dismantle "The toxic tree" The connection to suppressing emotions and disease The "switch" technique Going beyond mindfulness Find Dr. Leaf online at www.drleaf.com or on Instagram @drcarolineleaf. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stand-up Comedians Corinne Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson are the hosts of the popular podcast "Guys We F****d." This podcast is most known for changing the way society thinks about female sexuality through a merging of humor and expansion. This week I am so delighted to have these two ladies on to lead us through their experience hosting a podcast with such controversial topics, and their own personal journeys of self discovery, boundary setting, and challenging the stigmas related to female sexuality. Buckle in for a no bullsh*t, straight to the truth episode. Find Kystyna and Corinne's podcast on the Luminary App and on instagram @sorryaboutlastnight. ~ Discover: Why do we fear sexual freedom and sexual exploration? The beliefs and systems we grew up learning that go against our human design Why we should get curious about our shitty qualities Cancel culture and why we push our pain onto others Learning what to keep to yourself The difference between oversharing and vulnerability The pain of self-actualization and breakups The best advice in relationships What self-confidence feels like Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In an ever-changing and unpredictable world, it is so easy to get swept up in the chaos and anxiety that come with it. This week, the incredible Manoj Dias talks us through how we can find pause, compassion and solitude through mindfulness and meditation. We discuss what is involved in a meditation practice, how it informs how we show up in the world, and what happens when we allow our minds to be calm. Manoj is the co-founder of Open, a modern meditation studio based in California and EVRYMAN, a men's emotional intelligence movement. Whether he’s teaching through words or the silence between them, Manoj’s great love for Buddhist wisdom and contemporary science is present in every encounter. Discover: The three jewels of liberation The healing power of community "If you don't have 10 minutes to mediate you need 2 hours" How mediation helps us see clearly, stay calm, and hold space Mediation and reactivity Why are we afraid to be present and just be? What 10 days of meditation can do to your life Find Manoj on Instagram @manojdias_ and check out some classes at www.o-p-e-n.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week I welcome Embodiment Coach and Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Tami Amanda to the podcast. Tami walks us through her own experience with therapy and the ways she still felt stuck in her shame after therapy. This led Tami to the realization that something deeper may have been missing. After working with immigrant and refugee children in somatic therapy, she saw children heal deep childhood trauma without ever talking about what happened. This led Tami to ask the question, how do we look inside for our healing? This week, we dive into the complexities and benefits of somatic therapy and we get curious about some of the limits of talk therapy. Discover: How to move through triggers and activation How to embody and integrate the work How to actually change and be a self healer Follow your own breadcrumbs Thoughts, mistakes, instagram and victim blaming The greatest source of pain from childhood You cannot trauma your way out of trauma Why it's about the small steps and little moments first The magic sauce: It's all about the 5 senses The mirrors to our own "check list" Find Tami on Instagram @tamisasson_ or on her website at www.tamiamandawellness.com. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so thrilled to have one of my best friends Christine Chang join me this week. Christine is a Celebrity and Lifestyle photographer, and best-selling author of the book "SHOW UP: Finding Love for Independent Women." In this episode we discuss some of the themes in Christine's book, and her own personal journey navigating the dating world as a strong and successful woman. We dive into the complexities of different relationship dynamics, and the importance of cultivating and nurturing a strong sense of self outside of a relationship. For Christine, the ideal relationship came out of showing up as her authentic true self and getting to the core of her own emotional needs. ~ Discover: What is the definition of a strong woman? What is underneath an independent woman? The top qualities woman want in recent studies Where we think our worth lies The shadow side of independence The reality of reality The feeling of home vs. butterflies How to have a functioning, healthy, sexy relationship You can find Christines book here and follow her on instagram at @cchangandco or find her on her website at www.christinechang.com. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This topic is so important and yet so rarely discussed. That’s why I’m so appreciative that Holly Grigg-Spall has joined me this week to discuss the contraceptive pill. The Pill has long been associated with sexual freedom and liberation, but Holly talks us through her journey of discovering the impact that it had upon her mental and physical health. In doing so, Holly walks us through the research that is often overlooked and the various reasons we avoid having these conversations. I’m so honoured to have this discussion because I know it is so important that this topic is brought to light. You can find out more about Holly and her book at http://sweeteningthepill.com ~ Discover: The side effects of birth control you many not know about Alternatives to the birth control pill Why do women feel like they have to hide their periods? Patriarchy, pharmaceuticals, and sexual liberation How birth control can disconnect you from yourself Ways to track fertility naturally Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week is a big one, so I want to start with a note that this conversation is deep, complex and not for the faint of heart. Dr. Zach Bush is a triple board certified physician who specialises in internal medicine, endocrinology and hospice care but who is also incredibly passionate about the ecological health of the Earth. We cover it all this week — birth, death, disease, the human microbiome, the genome, immunity, and the health of the Earth’s ecosystems. Dr Bush has been outspoken about some of the ways the medical system is failing with Covid-19 but this episode is so much more than that, our discussion goes beyond controversy and into the depth of how health and illness relate to spirituality, psychology and philosophy. Dr. Zach Bush presents a model of health that is regenerative and centres the health of humans within the health of the Earth. You can find out more about Dr Zach Bush at https://zachbushmd.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the most popular videos I’ve ever recorded was ‘why do men follow Instagram models?’ So I wanted to dive deeper into a topic that is so complex and often controversial. This week I introduce my good friend Dr. Laura McNally who is a psychologist that has been writing on this topic for some years. We discuss the entire life cycle — how children are socialized and shaped by their environments, how this impacts young adults and their ideas about beauty and sex, how sexual arousal changes the way we think and how monitoring our body image shifts our cognitive function. Why is it that sex and porn addiction most often impact men, while body image and eating disorders almost exclusively impact women? It turns out this isn't a coincidence. Importantly, this is not a discussion that aims to tell anyone what they should or shouldn’t do with their Instagram or social media, it is an exploration of the research that will hopefully leave you feeling better informed about what works for you. ~ Discover: You can't change anything you don't take responsibility for The root of the problem Porn, triggers and responses Dissecting the questions that come up around IG models Where does it all start? Growing up on the apps and the issues they create for children Anti-sex vs. anti-women Sexuality and religion How we cheat ourselves out of connection How we buy into "you'll never be hot enough" You can find Laura’s work on Instagram @actualpsychology https://www.instagram.com/actualpsychology/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is our 100th episode together, so to celebrate this special episode I want to offer my gratitude and more insights about myself. Hosting this podcast has been such a learning journey. I have been able to witness myself soften, open and grow throughout these episodes. My solo episodes are always met with so much grace from you all, so I want to humbly thank you all for witnessing my evolution and allowing me the space to do this. I look forward to what the next 100 episodes will bring us. ~ Discover: A very special 100th episode! What Mark has learned in 100 podcasts Heartbreak is the gateway and the lessons are in the pain Why we repeat our patterns What is abandoning me? The beautiful invitations inside expansion Falling in love vs. being in love vs. rising in love How we change the world within ourselves What would it feel like to welcome all the parts of you Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My dear friend Mikaela Reuben joins me this week and I am so excited to introduce you to this celebrity chef and all-around superstar human. Mikaela takes us through a journey that many of us can relate to — building a life with *no* boundaries. For Mikaela, this meant giving up everything for her career including her own health. For Mikaela, being a chef meant constantly nourishing and caring for other people with nutritious meals, while sacrificing her own needs — skipping her own meals and feeding everyone except herself. Mikaela talks us through the terrifying process of beginning to set boundaries, the fear that washes over us when we try to say ‘no’ to someone else’s request for the first time. For Mikaela, resetting her boundaries meant starting to nourish herself first. Mikaela explains that the opportunity to nourish yourself is both a gift and a responsibility. I invite you to learn the gift of nourishing yourself by joining us this week. Learn more about Mikaela’s work and her weekly scoops at https://www.instagram.com/mikaelareuben/ ~ Discover: Our relationship to food is directly connected to the relationship with ourselves Why we lose ourselves in the service of others How we do one thing is how we do everything Food and the connection to worthiness, boundaries and self-love The power of slowness What is the real nutrition that truly feeds us? How cooking for yourself is healing (beyond the kitchen) Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

LeAnn Rimes has been in the spotlight since her early childhood. Behind the media representations and projections of her celebrity image, LeAnn has worked hard to find her true self. In this episode, LeAnn shares with us some of her insights from her journey into self-inquiry. Through deep betrayal, depression and judgment, LeAnn began to tap into her repressed pain and anger. While few of us grow up as celebrities, all of us share the common experience of needing to find ourselves and our voices, often in situations where we are not fully supported. You can read more of LeAnn's story at https://www.soulofeverle.com/ ~ Discover: When we are in presence, time moves a lot slower LeAnn's experience in the public eye Why we have to access our "f*ck this" LeAnn's journey of anxiety, depression, shame and breath work The road back into wholeness Accessing anger and rage "Miracles are a way of reminding us we have no clue" - Ram Dass LeAnn's new path Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week I welcome my old friend Vasavi Kumar, who works as a therapist and business strategist. It won’t take you long to get a feel for Vassi’s incredible capacity for speaking candidly, her energy is infectious. She’s authentically herself, refreshingly honest and straight speaking. All this leads to a powerful conversation on her upbringing, cultural background, cocaine, relationships, mental health and so much more. Seriously, we cover a lot of ground in this one. I’m so grateful I can bring you her story which is ultimately one of incredible growth and self-awareness that we can all draw inspiration from. This one is a MUST Listen. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited to have Terri Cole back to dive deeper into codependency. I very much identify as recovering codependent, so there is no judgement at all when I say that so many of us have codependent traits that are holding us back from life and love. So many of us think we are helping others and that we would be selfish if we stopped caretaking other people’s needs. It’s human to want to care for others, it’s human to have deep empathy, but we cannot save people from themselves. We often don’t realise that our trying to save others means we are robbing another person of their own ability to take care of themselves or to become who they truly are. In all of the years I have been doing this work and the thousands and thousands of messages I receive, codependency is by far one of the biggest issues I see. That’s why I am so pumped to bring you ‘Crushing Codependency’ with Terri Cole. A 6-week interactive deep dive to free yourself from people-pleasing forever. Just us at http://crushcodependency.com/ I can’t wait to see you there! ~ Discover: Myths about codependency What is a high-functioning codependent? How to unlearn codependency The biggest signs you are putting everyone else first The correlation between codependency, autoimmune and leaky gut Boundaries start with this How we rob each other from self-love and accountability What's below the escape? What's under "I just love big, that's all" How to have amazing outcomes in life and relationships Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After the murder of George Floyd and the protests across the globe that have followed, I have received hundreds of questions on the topic. The question that so many of you asked is ‘how do I have hard conversations about race?’ For many of us, we need to find ways to engage with our partners, family, friends and colleagues on issues that might be completely outside of our previous experience. Now is the time to step into the work of not only educating ourselves on racism but also leading these conversations effectively so that we can take others on the journey toward anti-racism too. That’s why I am bringing you an extended episode with Dr. Alexandra Solomon to answer this question in great detail. Dr. Solomon talks us through the 7 steps required to have conversations on racism that will help us build deeper connection, empathy and trust and ultimately help us in building a more loving society. Follow Rachel Rodgers https://www.instagram.com/rachrodgersesq/ Find Professor Ibram X Kendi at https://www.ibramxkendi.com/ Read Dr. Alexandra Solomon’s article here https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/loving-bravely/202006/how-talk-your-white-male-partner-about-race Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week in a special episode I wanted to discuss some really challenging and common questions I receive. To make the “right” decisions in love is challenging. There are so many layers of conditioning which not only shape our fears, but also limit what we think we’re capable of. First, we look at whether we should leave when the passion dies, and why is it that passion often fades in long term relationships?! Next, we dive further into the subject of emotional unavailability. We explore the deeper levels of “friends with benefits”, as well as the fear of asking about our relationship status. And finally, we chat about inconsistent texting and what a lack of someone replying can mean. These are some of the most important questions that so many of us struggle with, join me! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so grateful that my main man Sylvester McNutt took the time to talk us through this incredibly difficult topic—as it is happening right now in the United States. I cannot think of a more generous, loving and insightful soul to begin this conversation with. Sylvester walks us through his life in so many ways, the history, the suffering, the love and the connections. He calls us forward to do the work required to truly connect. There are so many gaps in our awareness and so many complications that we must step toward to resolve. I hope you will all answer this call with me and join us as we dive deeper in coming weeks. Join Sylvester’s text community at 310 340 1677 and his website at https://www.sylvestermcnutt.net/ The Willy Lynch letter http://www.finalcall.com/artman/publish/Perspectives_1/Willie_Lynch_letter_The_Making_of_a_Slave.shtml The Tulsa Race Riots https://www.tulsahistory.org/exhibit/1921-tulsa-race-massacre/ The Tuskegee Airmen in segregated armed forces https://www.history.com/topics/world-war-ii/tuskegee-airmen Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to this short stream of consciousness. No guest, Just me sharing some thoughts on awareness that have been living in me lately. We must turn into the truth and build compassion for ourselves as a basis for building compassion for others. The audio quality on this isn’t great but in the spirit of letting things flow I knew I couldn’t re-record. I hope this episode finds you well. ~ Discover: What will you do with the truths inside of you? What happens when you believe you are the beautiful advisor of your life? What is better? Uncomfortable truths or comfortable lies? The beautiful invitation back to ourselves, kindness, grace and love Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When people ask what I’ve studied, I immediately think of my dear friend, Louis Alloro. Louis is an incredible person who teaches, leads and trains others in positive psychology and change management. In this episode Louis helps us breakdown some of the fundamentals of positive psychology and change. What is it about change that is so difficult for us as humans? Why do we find change so confronting and disruptive? How can we make space for joy amidst uncertainty and confusion? As Louis says “Live your life with the knowing that at least one of the pillars of your major belief systems—most likely the one you cling to the most fiercely—is dead wrong.” ~ Discover What is so challenging about change? The 5 core pillars of our belief system Why we should never cling to one thing When you stay open to the way you see the world, you're free Well being is ______ How can we create positive change? We are not automatrons. Find your rituals. Find out more about Louis and his work here https://louisalloro.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Money is one of the top reasons for conflict in relationships and that is why the amazing Selina Gray is back this week. Selina is here to help us unpack our money story. That is, the beliefs we hold about money that shape the way we feel about ourselves. So many of us have unhealthy patterns with money, it could be overspending, or not feeling worthy of spending, or relying on money for a sense of self. While most of us understand that money can be a stressor and reason for conflict, few of us will have the chance to understand our money wounds and work to heal them. I hope this episode helps you begin on this journey. And if you want to go further you can join Selina and I, in our new deep dive money course 'Relationship To Money'. Find it at createthemoola.com! ~ Discover: Our relationship to money is directly connected with sense of self As soon as it feels hard and scary, roll up your sleeves What do we actually want with money? Family wiring around money and wealth Money just amplifies who we really are Wealth is a state of being Having courage and belief in yourself pays off No-name labels, luxury brands, shame, and the masks we wear Addiction, money, and proving yourself for worth As you change things, everything changes Join the Richness Revolution (formerly Money Boss) Facebook here! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week in a special episode I wanted to discuss a few issues that live below the surface of our relationships and lives. First, why do we only have “crazy chemistry” with people that aren’t good for us? And why, when we start setting boundaries do we sometimes start to lose that “spark” we once felt? We go deeper in this by discussing a question about how to end a trauma bond, if you haven’t heard about trauma bonding then this question is for you. We also discuss how to begin to set healthy boundaries in a relationship where there is a lack of trust or lack of emotional safety. And finally, the difficult question of whether to stay or go. These are some of the most important questions that so many of us struggle with, join me! ~ Discover Can we feel love if we feel whole and don't need anyone? Why do we find ourselves less attractive to our partners once we've done the work? Choosing ourselves and holding space for something new Men who stand up and what it means to women How to end a trauma bond Why are we obsessed with people who need to be fixed? Enabling and discovering the reward in patterns we choose Why we shrink in our relationships How do we know to stay or go? Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited to bring a double dose of Mark this week as I welcome best selling author Mark Manson. Mark Manson has been an influential figure in my life and I’m sure many of you are also followers of his work — I mean who hasn’t read his book “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck”? Mark and I jam on some common challenges we both saw in our relationship coaching work. We also reflect on the idea of “doing the work” and how this can really become a sticking point for people in opening up to change. So often, the challenges we face and the things that we get stuck on are the same. We are all living different experiences, but so many of our biggest problems are the same. If you haven't already seen his work you will want to check it out https://markmanson.net/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is especially vulnerable for me. I recognize that we are all coping with an incredibly difficult time in different ways right now. There is so much fear, uncertainty and distress that makes compassion and connection so much more difficult. Today I ask if you can hold space too? Holding space does not mean we must agree or arrive at a consensus, it means we still have compassion even when we feel differently than one another. So I ask not how are we different, but how we are similar? ~ Discover: When you're open to the way you see the world, you're free Can you hold space for other people's beliefs? What if you just stayed open? Why we should agree to the right to see things differently How to create harmony within yourself during challenging times What life is here to teach us Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m so excited to bring you Professor of Management and Organizational Psychologist Payal Sharma to the podcast. Payal is an expert on politics and power in the workplace and today she takes us on a journey through her incredible work in understanding how power relations impact us at work. We get into the tricky business of how gender intersects with power at work, and nerd out on the research around what makes a good leader. We also dive into her research around music video models. If you have ever wanted to understand more about leadership and power, do not miss this episode! Find out more about Payal’s work at http://power.faculty.unlv.edu/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m so excited to bring you the story of my friend, author and chef Yoda Olinyk. Yoda walks us through the story of her past. How food and her love for cooking saved her from the most dark and trying moments. How suffering opened up a new world of wisdom for her. How a unaligned relationship slowly turned into a cycle of emotional abuse and how she ultimately rose from the ashes, finding her love and commitment to herself and her cooking again. Find her online at https://instagram.com/yodaswords?igshid=2kwq76b3l10c Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we are facing disconnection in our relationships, we often perceive major barriers blocking us from communicating. Often, we preempt the other person's negative response. We assume the other person is unable or unwilling to hear us, and as a result, we become defensive, withdrawn or over-express ourselves. What if instead, we trusted that other people have the capacity to really listen? What if we communicated our needs without preempting their response? What if we claimed our voice and used it regardless of anyone else’s ability to show up. What if we showed up for ourselves first? ~ Discover: How to know when you have unhealthy programs running What beliefs are still lingering that keep you in your old story? What is the most important quality in relationship? Why we need to stop subcontracting our healing The victory is always in the process not the outcome Speaking your truth, having courage, and being everything you want Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me as I bring you a grounding meditation. This is all about getting in touch with the anchors and the ground that forms the foundation below our feet. In times of crisis or upheaval, it's natural that we feel like we lose touch with the ground. This week's episode is all about getting us back in touch with the ground. Back into flow state and authenticity. It's so difficult to do right now, but it's so important that we take the time to do this. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special episode I answer your recent questions around boundaries, feeling disconnected, deal breakers, betrayal and loss. Through these questions we dive into open relationships, having ‘one foot out the door’ and facing hard truths. I also walk you through my recent thoughts on coping with Covid-19, how we can stay grounded and how we can support one another during this crisis. ~ Discover: Covid, isolation, dating, and why a collective pause is good for us Relationship Q&A with Mark Walls vs. dealbreakers Fate doesn't work unless you do Emotional cheating with friends Worthiness, boundaries, and speaking your truth Why integrity should be our #1 Betrayal, infidelity and repair Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m so happy to bring you my dear friend Dr. Robert Graham to discuss the Covid-19 pandemic. Rob is a Harvard trained Physician and doctor of integrative medicine. In this episode, Rob skillfully breaks down the myths and misconceptions about coronavirus. He walks us through some key principles to stay safe and his fresh medicine perspective to stay physically and mentally well during this pandemic. Find Dr Rob Graham on his website https://www.freshmednyc.com/ and his Instagram https://www.instagram.com/freshmednyc/ Dr. Graham is a Harvard trained physician, Board Certified in both Internal and Integrative Medicine and has over 15 years of clinical experience. Dr. Graham received his medical degree from the School of Medicine at Stony Brook University Medical Center, Stony Brook, NY and completed his residency in Internal Medicine at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City, where he received the Community Service Award and subsequently the prestigious “Attending of the Year” award. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans,” John Lennon’s famous lyrics are so apt for the uncertainty we are facing in the world. So much of what we thought, planned, or hoped for has been quashed by the reality that nothing is ever truly certain. This epidemic has brought up so many fears, anxieties and responses. I want this episode to explore our humanness but also acknowledge that jumping into spiritualizing can be a bypass of the uncomfortable reality that this pandemic is doing real harm to so many people. While we are both physically distanced and living with this uncertainty, our community and our connections are so important. I hope this episode leaves you feeling more connected. ~ Discover: Why increasing our tolerance for uncertainty is part of our expansion and growth When we are stripped of everything, what matters most? Where else do we run from discomfort? The domino effect of disconnection and control The 5 most common regrets The greatest gift of facing death You never lose love Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like your dating life is stale, or even toxic? Today’s guest is going to be a breath of fresh air for you. Michelle Herzog is a relationship expert, sex therapist and LMFT who is here to break down exactly what toxic dating culture means. In this episode we work through Tinder dating, gender roles, paying for first dates, to casual sex, and how to be ethical in dating. Most importantly, we break down how we can shift to take the lead in our dating life, declare our own needs, and end connections with kindness. Ultimately, we can turn a toxic dating culture into a healing one. This episode will show you how! Michelle Herzog, LMFT, CST is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist with advanced training from Northwestern University and the University of Michigan. She is an ethical dating advocate and utilizes a no BS approach towards educating and empowering people to craft values-based dating, relationship, and sexual experiences. Michelle is a true believer in the power of therapy and its ability to transform people's relationships with themselves and the ones they love. Michelle is the owner of the Center for Mindful Living, a relationship and sex therapy practice based in Chicago. Her specialized work is rooted in her personal belief system that everyone deserves a healthy and deeply pleasurable sex life. She can be contacted at: Website: www.liveandlovemindfully.com Instagram: @chicagosextherapy ~ Discover: Will you hold for the things you want? The modern times of "flea-bagging" "zombie-ing," "ghosting", and "bread crumbing" Where we are losing accountability on dating apps The connection between tolerating behaviors and the worth you hold Paying on the first date dilemma The power of feeling seen in relationship Why is need to text like a drug?! If you loved yourself in this situation, what would you do? The deep truths hidden inside grief How do we take control of our dating experience? Ignoring the truth and self-abandonment Communication and expectations around your needs What is healthy shame? Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Come on in, make yourself at home in my head and heart and listen. This week it is me sharing some feels that have been flowing through me, no other guests... Just a big dose of Mark Groves in the feels. We're going to talk about ending with grace, the space between and holding space when it hurts. Welcome! ~ Discover: What it means to hold when it hurts Are you who you say you are? How to be the observer of your thoughts What do you tolerate? What do you settle for? When you change the way you go about the world, the world changes Do you avoid hard conversations? Do you let the world tell you how to live? How to truly find love Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so honoured to have Diego Perez, the writer and philosophical genius behind the pen name Yung Pueblo on the show. Diego and I discuss all the delicious ways that life is an array of constant change. As individuals, couples and communities we are in constant flux. The ways we either embrace or avoid change say so much about the way we find peace and grace during change. How can we embrace the messiness that is inherent to the constant change of life—while protecting our boundaries and having an open heart? There is so much to unpack on both the global and individual level. Let’s dive into it. diego perez is the writer behind the pen name yung pueblo. the name yung pueblo means “young people.” it serves to remind him of his ecuadorian roots, his experiences in activism, and that the collective of humanity is in the midst of important growth. his favorite word, liberation, took on a deeper meaning once he started meditating vipassana. through writing and speaking, he aims to support the healing of the individual, realizing that when we release our personal burdens, we contribute to a global peace. ~ Discover: Change is the fabric of the universe How to not make change your enemy Understanding "woundology" Every time you get activated, you're invited to some sort of mastery Cancel culture, shame, holding space for people and humanity What living without the relationship really means The monogomatron! Don't make it about you Find him on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/yung_pueblo/ Check out his book here https://www.amazon.com/Inward-Yung-Pueblo/dp/1449495753 Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jasmine Rose, holistic fertility expert joins me this week for a look at her journey and her work with fertility in the emerging holistic health movement. With an emphasis on coming back to self, we uncover the stigmas associated with women embarking on their fertility journey. We unpack the deep emotional work that brought Jasmine to healing her health in an unexpected way. I can’t thank Jasmine enough for bringing this topic to light and am honoured to partake in such a vulnerable discussion with her. Whichever life stage you are at, this is a must-listen. Jasmine Rose is a Holistic Fertility Specialist + Womb Connector. She focused on bringing heart into the fertility journey + accessing the WHY when discovering dis-ease within the womb space. Jasmine believes that play, pleasure + desire are the golden keys to life. You can find her at @humblewildwellness on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/humblewildwellness/?hl=en Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So many of us struggle with addiction of some kind. But the topic is still shrouded in secrecy and shame, leaving so many people feeling alone or lost in how to begin their healing. This week, I have my dear friend and human behaviour expert, Jaime Jenkins to join me on the show. Jaime and I walk through the relationship between shame, trauma and addiction. We unpack how we can move from feeling alone and detached from our experiences, toward feeling connected and in control of our journey. And, how we can shift from avoidance and denial of our pain, toward feeling and owning our own journey. Jaime Booth Jenkins BSW MAPP is a human behaviour change specialist and addictions researcher. She is currently completing her MSc Psychology and Neuroscience of Mental Health focusing on the experience of flourishing after addiction. Her work focuses on helping people to overcome internal obstacles that are preventing them from achieving their ultimate goals and dreams. She sits as the Chair of the Board of Directors for Make Music Matter - and believes in the power of music to change the world. She lives in Nova Scotia Canada with her husband, dog, two daughters, and quite a few chickens. IG: @practicallyawesome TikTok: @mamajenkins Website (Make Music Matter): www.makemusicmatter.org ~ Discover: The power of song and healing with addiction, ptsd, mental health Addiction is a distraction from presence Our world is created by the questions we ask Breaking up with your breakup How we let go of trauma identity Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when you wake up and realize you aren’t happy in your relationship? What if you feel like you’re outgrowing your partner? What if you’re outgrowing your old life? As we go deeper in our journey toward our inner truth we often find that our old patterns, habits and relationships need to shift. This can bring up a lot of anxiety and tension especially if we have had codependent patterns. Part of our healing is learning how to honour our growth while navigating our relationship with others. Part of our healing is leaning into the discomfort and uncertainty that comes up when we let our relationships shift, change and maybe even end. ~ Discover: Emotion is the currency of the future The success of your life will be determined by the quality of your relationships What does it mean to be a real man? How do you stay when enough is enough? Are you willing to dismantle your identity? Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People often say “don’t quit your day job”, but what if you do? This week I am joined by the wonderful Makenzie Chilton to talk about how we can stop dreading the work week and start loving our Mondays. Makenzie’s mission is all about discovering what you want in life—thinking bigger, thinking outside of the box, engaging the imaginative inner child within you that is still awaiting their chance to live their dreams. Makenzie walks us through her process to uncover what it is you need to do to start loving your Mondays. Find Mackenzie @loveyourmondays and loveyourmondays.co Makenzie Chilton is an ex prison counsellor turned career coach and the founder of Love Your Mondays. Since 2013 she has been helping people all over the world find their dream careers and start businesses with her signature program the WTF?! Sessions. Using her education in psychology and her background in business she strives to give her clients (and pretty much anyone that will listen) strategic advice that gets people where they want to go. Believing that society would be a happier healthier place if people were in alignment with their careers, she has made it her mission to help people get there. Coffee is Makenzie's main food group and she lives in the mountains with her dog Bruce, who is very clearly the real boss. ~ Discover: The 4 step process to loving your Mondays Listening to "the nudge" How to quit your job Using the system to invest in your dreams Maybe it's not your job, maybe it's you The real roadmap you should trust Why alignment and self-worth will give you everything Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We have all been treated badly to some extent—by our parents, our partners, our exes, our old friends, by the narcissists of the world. But once we’ve identified where we’ve been victimized, our job is to step beyond being a victim of the world and reclaim our power. Our work is to look within and enquire into what it is within us that allows painful dynamics to continue in our lives. What is it that stops us from setting boundaries, from saying ‘no’ to things that make us feel unloved, from claiming our right to be fully worthy? This week we explore all aspects of waking up to our worth and importantly how healed people heal people. ~ Discover: The disease of unworthiness Looking for worthiness is a moving target Why we need to turn towards our pain Truthful answers require us to become someone else The connection between boundaries and worth Resentment is a sign you need to choose yourself Why are we a match to poor behavior? Why do we make excuses? Are you the match for what you want? What you attract is what you need need to learn What are you afraid to find in the space of silence? What unrealized potential are you not stepping into? Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sylvester McNutt III is an 8x best selling author and his passion for living a life of freedom and truth is contagious. Join us as we roll through the experiences that shaped his work as a writer, from his childhood to teen life, to today where he is now expecting a child of his own. Sylvester tells all about where his fire for self-expression comes from and how he lives that today. After listening to this podcast you’ll understand why his work has been so popular, he drops some gems on authenticity and shows us how to truly walk the talk. ~ Discover: Why do we do the things we know we don't want to do? Understanding the family tree of trauma Don't wait for people to be ready We are all students and no one has it all figured out Parenting, childhood, pain, fear and the mirror it gives us Find Sylvester on Instagram here https://www.instagram.com/sylvestermcnutt/?hl=en and his Website https://www.sylvestermcnutt.net/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the new "All About You" series, I am reading your letters and diving deep into tough questions from you about your relationships, love, and what you really want from life. To begin I touch on my current journey—how I am learning to let go of the future I thought I would have and give space to the new and unknown in my life. I then cover some challenging and common situations that you have written to me about: the ex that promises to change, the new partner that is still seeing their ex, the partner that works too much, and not feeling the same about marriage and kids as our partner. I so appreciate the opportunity to know what is on your heart and I thank you for sharing this with me and everyone who will benefit from hearing your story. I'm really excited about this new format, so please share with me your thoughts and feelings on how this resonated for you. If you have a letter for a podcast you can share it via the 'Ask Mark' tab at the link in my Instagram bio. Big love to you! ~ Discover: What do you want most out of this life? What are you not willing to give up? We cannot experience true love until we model it What to do when someone wants to change after we leave The real reason for resentment Repairing after workaholism and affairs Perfectionism, high achievers, and worthiness How to work with a "recovering defender" How to know if your needs didn't get met as a child Repair and atonement after betrayal Our core beliefs are always mirrored by the lowest choice we make Alone vs. lonely Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This moment isn’t an obstacle—however hard it is, this moment is always the path and the opportunity to come home to yourself. We are all spiritual beings in human being bodies. So who are you when the masks are dropped? Who are you underneath the roles, jobs, stories and busyness of life? Who are you when you really sit in the truth of your existence? If we just sit in this moment we can finally rejoin our inner stillness—the silence that contains all the answers, the truth, the essence of who we are. I recorded this as an invitation for you to stop running, to be still and rejoin your soul on this journey home. ~ Discover: Why we shrink around our friends and family What does your life stand for? Who do you want to be? Why do we do the thing we don't want to do? When it's hysterical it's historical Why does rejection trigger us? Why you should get curious every time you get triggered When you become more connected to who you are, you experience deep reverence for yourself and other people Why we need to get sober from distractions Stillness is where you find yourself, silence is where you hear yourself Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Okay, “girlfriend” might be a strong term…but either way, I am so grateful that Michelle Dow, the first woman I “dated”, agreed to come on my podcast and share her story. Michelle and I go way back to childhood and I’d like to say we were both each other's first love and heartbreak, but I think I that story lives a little more on my side than hers. Last year, I shared some of my feelings about our breakup, and today Michelle calls me out for not contacting her first to discuss it. So this episode is as real as they come. This is about Michelle’s story, how she experienced me and our breakup and how she feels about it all today. I super appreciate her being open to having this conversation, it was a lot of fun and I think you’ll enjoy it too. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Amazing Terri Cole is back talking all things codependency. Think you’re not codependent? Perhaps you're an empath? Terri introduces the concept of the ‘High Functioning Codependent’ to break down what exactly codependency is and what factors are underlying it. We get very clear on the signs and symptoms of codependency, and the consequences of codependency throughout childhood, single life and long term relationships. I cannot speak highly enough of Terri's expertise in this space and I could not wait to have her back on the show to dive deeper into this incredibly important topic. If you have ever wondered whether you are empathic or perhaps have some traits of codependency, you cannot miss this show! ~ Discover: The signs and symptoms of codependency Why this behavioural pattern manifests The consequences of codependency throughout childhood, single life and long term relationships Plus as a bonus Terri is offering listeners the More Love Meditation Challenge for a limited time - head to https://terricole.com/LOVEMG Find out all about Terri's wonderful work here https://www.terricole.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices