The Kevin Miller Podcast

In the last episode we talked about grace. I want to give focus to judgment, and I mean towards people. The word in today’s culture has a negative connotation. “Who are you to judge!” is often thrown out. And yet I experience our culture as more judgmental than ever. I know I have been for much of my life, and I don’t see that it improved my life or anyone else’s. What interests me is, what drives judgment in us? What is fueling it? My muse for the topic is Julia Baird, journalist, broadcaster, author and host of the Not Stupid podcast. Her brand new book is, bright shining: how grace changes everything, and I want to ponder this idea of judgment with you. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth. You hit me, I hit you back. You disrespect me, I disrespect you. That would be the opposite of grace. Grace is generally considered offering a kindness, anyways. When it’s undeserved. I don’t feel the culture gives much value to the idea anymore. We are afraid that letting a wrong go unpunished will enable others. But as our mental health continues to decline and we find more people in more relational conflict than ever, I wanted to dig into the lost art of grace. So I sat down with Julia Baird. Julia is an Australian journalist, broadcaster, and internationally bestselling author who contributes to the New York Times and the Sydney Morning Herald and is a cohost of the Not Stupid podcast. She has a brand new book out, titled bright shining: how grace changes everything. I dug into the hard questions around grace and ultimately came away asking myself, what kind of person do I want to be? What behavior will add the most to my life? One who errors on the side of grace? Or tit for tat? Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As a guy, the concept of compassion has little place in my life. Especially as an athlete, there was no value in compassion. You ignore any pain and keep going. It reminds me of the depiction of the army sergeant yelling at the soldier to suck it up and march on. As a culture, I think we still put more value on sucking it up and keeping going and being indifferent to ourselves, than having compassion. Though we miss that we can still keep going when the circumstances demand it, and have some needed compassion. Compassion is having concern for others and ourselves and the opposite of concern is indifference. I can’t find value in indifference to self, in normal life, outside of maybe sports and the battlefield. Seven years ago I sat down and had a conversation with Dr. Kristin Neff about it. Kristin received her doctorate from the University of California at Berkeley, studying moral development. At the time she had done a TED talk with millions of views, and published a book, “Self Compassion”, The Proven Power of Being kind to yourself. I talked with her, as I perceived the value of self-compassion. But in truth, it’s taken me a long time to let it actually integrate into my life. I wish I’d stuck with it then. But, better late than never. I spent some time recently discussing self-compassion with my own therapist, and am bringing this conversation back to benefit us both. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imaging waking tomorrow for Thanksgiving. You are in a jail cell. You look out the one, small window of your cell where you can see a perfect, Norman Rockwell scene of the holidays. Kids outside sledding, people ice skating. People cooking. Eating. Laughing. And loving. A voice comes over an intercom and tells you to give thanks for all you see outside. You reply and say, OK, but can I please just go out and be a part of it all?” The voice says, “Yes!” So you say, “Well, who is going to let me out of here?” The voice responds, “You can, as soon as you are thankful for yourself.” I think this is how many people go about trying to give thanks. Drive with me a moment. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My recent show with Upworthy VP Lucia Knell and head of content and innovation Gabriel Reilich about the book they put together called, GOOD PEOPLE: Stories From the Best of Humanity, has me continually thinking about how much good programming I put in my head. In reading the book which is a compilation of great stories of humanity, I got to considering how much I fill my mind with uplifting messages. The news and most of media focus on bad news. Problems. Drama. Most movies and shows are the same. What I realized is that while I spend a lot of time taking in great messages of personal and spiritual development and human potential, I don’t really take in many, truly uplifting messages, and I am missing out on a vital ingredient to be and feel my best and improve my mental health. Let’s look at what we may be missing and what we stand to gain with intentionally taking in good news. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is a worldview? AI defines it as a person's or society's fundamental way of thinking about the world, and it's made up of their values, beliefs, and expectations. I take this one step further to say your worldview ends up being your experience of life. People by far and large think reality makes up their life experience. A reality would be the latest presidential election, but as we all know, the experience people had of it is vastly different. I submit their experience of it is their worldview, as it can’t be reality. And people will debate this based upon two things - Faith & Prediction. Let’s break it down. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You may well have heard of Upworthy. Upworthy is a media brand that focuses on positive storytelling. They have millions of followers on social media and email subscribers, who tune in to hear good news. Upworthy recently came out with a book, that focused on key areas of human goodness, and it is just stories. Just incredible stories of the best of humanity that people share with them each and every day, at a great amount. The book is called Good People and I was really curious as to what led the authors to sift through the stories and land on certain categories, such as chapter one which is, "The Kindness of Strangers." They shared how many stories came in of what we generally call, random acts of kindness. Following is my conversation with the authors, Lucia Knell who is Vice President of Upworthy, and Gabriel Reilich who is head of content and innovation. I think you'll find a really uplifting, inspiring and honestly, equipping discussion here. It really bolstered my faith, which bolsters...everything. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The topic of expectations continues to come up as I talk with people in the human potential movement. As an aspiring person who would be listening to a podcast like this, of course you have some positive expectations for yourself. And yet I’d say the enemy of expectations is disappointment. So how do we have high expectations but not set ourselves up for disappointment? I’m bringing back a podcast from when I did The Ziglar Show, with Christine Hassler. Christine made expectations a focus and wrote a book called, Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change your Present and Get What you Really Want. Right off the bat you’ll hear Christine say, “Managing your expectations is not about lowering your standards.” Christine Hassler is the best-selling author of multiple books. She left her successful job as a Hollywood agent to pursue a life she could be passionate about. She is a keynote speaker, retreat facilitator, spiritual psychologist and life coach, and host of the top-rated podcast “Over it and On With It”, www.christinehassler.com Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wrapping up this series on productivity that started with my conversation with Israa Nasir about the message in her book, Toxic Productivity: Reclaim Your Time and Emotional Energy in a World That Always Demands More, I’m looking at un-productive activities. But it’s not just idle time and entertainment. Think of it more like play, which may be a foreign term for you at this point in life. I want to look at activities that aren’t necessarily producing anything, you are just doing them to do them and for the joy and energy they give you. And looking at how they can fuel to be actually be more productive overall. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I continue to ponder the message from Israa Nasir in her book, Toxic Productivity: Reclaim Your Time and Emotional Energy in a World That Always Demands More. And I’m thinking about the people in and around my life and what attracts me to some and not others. And I’m realizing that the really busy people, even if they might seem important, don’t inspire me to pursue them. And the people that are more available, I innately have more respect and desire for. Which has me looking at myself and considering how I come off to others and how I’m probably limiting my opportunities for relationships and connection. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In my previous episode with Israa Nasir we talked about the message in her book, Toxic Productivity: Reclaim Your Time and Emotional Energy in a World That Always Demands More. Looking at being addicted to productivity and busyness, I want to look at our motives. To a degree, I feel we are often trying to prove ourselves. Prove our worth. Why? Well, our self-worth must be in question. And who are we trying to prove it to? Others, or ultimately, ourselves? Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I think we’re all well aware that our culture has fallen into the idea of being busy is being important. But I’ll admit that even in trying to shed this, I still find myself busy. I just agree to things without counting the cost. But then I find myself struggling mentally with bitterness and burnout and I just want to escape. So when this book, Toxic Productivity: Reclaim Your Time and Emotional Energy in a World That Always Demands More, came across my desk, I was eager to have the author on. Israa Nasir is a New York City-based psychotherapist, writer, and the founder of WellGuide—a digital community for mental health awareness. She has a big following on Instagram at well.guide. In her focus on Toxic Productivity she tries to dismantle the myth that “doing more makes you more worthy,” and this is where I dig in with her in this show. My primary interest was how we associate our identity with what we do, and Israa and I really landed a lot on intention, asking ourselves why we do all we do? What is the outcome we are expecting and what need of our own are we trying to fulfill. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I pay attention to shows people refer to, and often in talking about spending money on our personal growth, people will ask me, “What was it your Dad used to say? What percent should you spend on your personal growth?” The answer is 3-5%. My Dad was Dan Miller, famed author of 48 Days To The Work & Life You Love. In 2017 he published a blog at 48days.com titled, ““Your Success is Guaranteed – If You Do This.” In it he cited Brian Tracy who turned him on to the idea, saying that successful people we all listen to and follow habitually invest at least 3-5% of their income directly toward their personal growth. Many spend far more. And as you’ll hear, what follows is your income generally increases as a result and you’re able to spend more and more each year. I greatly appreciate the tangible metric. If you make $7,000 per month, you can be looking for $350 to spend on your personal growth every month. So I’ve brought back this episode with my Dad, back from when I hosted The Ziglar Show, which you’ll hear us reference. You can still find all the gold my Dad has to offer at 48days.com Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anxiety is a feeling of fear, dread, or uneasiness that can be a normal reaction to stress. So, what is stress? Stress is a natural response to a perceived threat or challenge that can cause mental or physical tension. The only reason we would feel stress and anxiety is because we feel a threat. Threat is when we feel an intention to inflict pain, injury, damage, or other hostile action. I’ve been looking at myself for a while and asking why I feel threatened? I expect that very few people listening to this are often, if ever, in physical threat. When you are, anxiety is a wonderful and appropriate signal to act in self-protection. However. What about when the threat is not physical? When it’s psychological? What is being threatened? I was recently given some insight on this by a therapist, which I’ll share next. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I believe this world and this life is at the core, truly beautiful and glorious. And, we have some very concerning trends to address. Health care is the number one GNP in America. We spend more money, not on our health, but our unhealth, than on anything else. Why? Lifestyle. Just do the research. It’s not happening to it, we are doing it to ourselves. A very unpopular perspective, but in truth, isn’t that the best news? You have power, otherwise you are claiming victimhood. Healthcare in America has become sick-management. And we address the symptoms. Even cancer, which my Dad just died of, is a symptom. We try to beat cancer and don’t ask…what is causing cancer. We create a new drug to treat every growing problem, without asking why the problem exists and keeps growing. Let’s ask. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s take a quick look at foods in regards to anxiety. And I’ll admit up front, I don’t like the messages that put the food and drink I like in their cross hairs. Food is just about my favorite drug. I love loving it. And I don’t abstain from the foods I like. But I might moderate the amounts or the timing. Let’s take a quick look at some food and drink issues I’ve experienced causing issues with anxiety. My muse is from the conversation in the last episode with MD, holistic psychiatrist, acupuncturist, and yoga teacher Ellen Vora, and her new book, The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body's Fear Response. Find the book anywhere and find her on IG @ellenvoramd Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anxiety is the new norm, and conventional medicine tends to view anxiety as a “neck-up” problem - that is, one of brain chemistry and psychology. So all the treatments are focused there. At the mind. At calming our minds. Getting calm. I agree with those, as part of the treatment. But what about our overall health? How does it factor in? My guest cites that the origins of anxiety are rooted in the body. Ellen Vora is an MD with her B.A. from Yale, a holistic psychiatrist, acupuncturist, and yoga teacher. She takes a functional medicine approach to mental health, considering the whole person and addressing imbalance at the root. Ellen offers a paradigm shift in our understanding of anxiety and mental health, suggesting that anxiety is not simply a brain disorder but a whole-body condition. It’s coming just as much from what we eat and how much we move and what we watch, as a neck up chemical imbalance. More actually. She has a book titled The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body's Fear Response, which is my initial muse for this conversation. Find the book anywhere and find Ellen at instagram.com/ellenvoramd/ Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We begin life with built in accountability. We have our caregivers, maybe siblings, then we go to school and have teachers. Hopefully we have close friends. Eventually we have bosses. We may have a spouse or significant other. Even our children can be a source of accountability to how we behave and how we live our lives. But at the core, the greatest source of accountability is from ourselves. If the only thing holding us in line is those in our lives, it’s somewhat artificial. Twenty years ago John Miller wrote a book called QBQ! The Question Behind the Question: Practicing Personal Accountability at Work and in Life. It literally became a classic in the business world, but the message is for all of us as individuals. I sat down with John some years back, along with Tom Ziglar, and we dug into what had made the message so popular and equipping. John said QBQ gets to the core of success: ourselves. Our actions and behaviors and responsibility. You can connect with John at QBQ.com. This conversation will give you insight into a core accountability you haven’t fully grasped and leveraged. The accountability with yourself. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When I wrote my book, What Drives You, I initially impressed myself with the width and depth of my knowledge, drawing on the messages and resources of the 250 leaders in human development I’d had on this show. This is my 1500th episode. I’d gotten exposed to more incredible information that most will in 5 lifetimes. Then it also dawned on me that with so many of the great messages and insights…I hadn’t done anything with them. It was wisdom I hadn’t implemented. I hadn’t changed. Working with a client the other day I was referencing a book I was rereading, seeing my notes from a couple years ago, and told her, “I see my notes, and the message obviously resonated with me, but I didn’t integrate it into my life. Let’s talk about this for a moment. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every Friday I meet with three guys at a coffee shop to talk about life. Our lives. Last week we were talking about our values. I asked, “If you were videotaped for a week, would it show you were supporting what you say you value?" A couple of the guys were really impacted by the concept. I've heard aspects of this idea before and you normally follow it with questioning if your values are really what you say they are. But, I think our values are generally solid, we just often fail to make supporting them a true priority. Let's walk through the Ziglar Wheel of Life and consider what values we are and are not supporting. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the last show I talked with licensed therapist and renowned relationship expert, Nedra Glover Tawwab. Her new book is called, Consider This: Reflections For Finding Peace. As I chew on the message, I’m wondering if “finding peace” is honestly attractive to people. Before my mid forties, if you’d tried to entice me with the hope of finding peace, I’m not sure I would have given you much attention. The prior 25 years I spent going full tilt. Anxiety was fine. I think I thought it was even fun. And yet it was in my mid 40s that I started experiencing the consequences of a lack of peace. The question is then, what is your relationship with peace? And it’s opposite, anxiety? Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nedra Glover Tawwab is the author of the New York Times bestsellers Drama Free and Set Boundaries, Find Peace and I’ve had her on this show to talk about the messages in both of those books. Boundaries specifically is an area I greatly struggle with. Nedra is a licensed therapist and renowned relationship expert and has appeared as an expert on The Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS This Morning, to name a few. She has a popular Instagram account @nedratawwab with over 1.8 million followers and recently spent a year posting what she called, daily nuggets, with the goal of uplifting, supporting and guiding her audience deeper into themselves. But what she revealed was that her primary muse was herself. These writings were what she needed to hear and hold onto for herself. She created a book from the entire year called, Consider This: Reflections For Finding Peace. The book has no chapters and is more like a daily devotional for peace. As you’ll hear at the top of our discussion, I feel like the book is an antidote for anxiety. I literally started at the first page and just started pulling out topics that resonated with me. We covered topics such as being aware of the energy we feel from others and guarding ourselves against negative energy. The benefit of making new friends and questioning some of our old friends. Paying attention to the signs when our peace is eroding and Nedra talked about an eye twitch she gets that’s a tell tale sign for her.. When it's appropriate to share about yourself. The difference between a grudge and a boundary. When is anxiety warranted? I think you’ll be inspired and equipped. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Love & Respect. This is a book that first published in 2004. 20 years ago. I just looked at Amazon and it’s ranked at #885 in all books right now. All. Why is the book so popular? Because it resonates so much with so many people. This week we’ve talked about peacemaking and respect and I thought it relevant to bring this episode back where I talked with the one and only, Dr Emmerson Eggrichs, author of Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs. Please don’t get hung up on the gender aspects. We all desire levels of love and respect. The point Emmerson makes in the book is how they are different and you’ll find some people who feel and speak more towards love or respect and recognizing this will help you understand and connect with people better, especially those closest to you. In this episode I was joined by Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar and son of Zig Ziglar, as we questioned and learned from the master…Dr Emmerson Eggerichs. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m sure you’re aware that the online world is working to get your attention and cater to your desires. But I don’t think many are aware how far the online world is going to cater to your bias and desires. When you type into google or a search engine, it’s feeding you information that is altered to cater to you. When you go look at the news, it may be including or omitting content based on your interests and history. At the end of the day, any online source makes money by catering to you. This is their job. I don’t see it as a conspiracy but just a reality that money leads business. And I don’t see it as a terrible thing in and of itself, but what it ends up doing is feeding us what we want. Not the truth, but what we want. And this skews our lives by having our biases constantly confirmed, and to be truly educated, we need our perspectives questioned and challenged. Let’s look at how. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As a guy who has focused too much of his life on doing and producing, I am acutely aware that everything I say yes to, everything I give attention to, has a cost. Something else doesn’t get done. Something else doesn’t get attention. There is only so much time in a day and so much space in my brain. In my recent show with Steven T. Collis, law professor at the University of Texas-Austin and one of the nation’s leading thought leaders on the First Amendment and civil discourse, he hits on this in the first chapter of his book, Habits of a Peacemaker: 10 Habits to Change Our Potentially Toxic Conversations into Healthy Dialogues. Habit One in his book is, Intellectual Humility and Reframing and the first sentence of the chapter says, “Most of us need to recognize that, most of the time, we don’t know what we’re talking about.” I’m giving focus to all the issues in our culture. All the front page headlines and stories. All the social media topics. All the current political topics. How on earth are we expected to be on top of them all, and know enough to have a staunch opinion and stance? Let’s look at giving ourselves permission to not know so much about everything. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the last episode I talked with Steven T. Collis, law professor at the University of Texas-Austin and one of the nation’s leading thought leaders on the First Amendment and civil discourse. He just wrote a book, Habits of a Peacemaker: 10 Habits to Change Our Potentially Toxic Conversations into Healthy Dialogues. Steven’s focus is not upholding people’s rights and enforcing law. It’s helping people connect, and remain connected even when they disagree. At the end of the day I felt Steven leading us to the benefit for ourselves and others, or being respectful no matter what. Notice I didn’t say “giving respect,” but being respectful. It’s about you, not them. If I ask most religious people, under what condition would they renounce their beliefs, many would adamantly state, “None! I’d never do it!” Or if I asked many people in America under what conditions would they vote for the other party, they’d say, “Never!” So let me ask, “Under what conditions should you not give respect?” I’m afraid most everyone has a list. Let’s talk about it. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The First Amendment. Freedom of religion, speech, press, assembly, and petition. It is meant to protect our freedom of religion, speech, press, assembly, and petition. On this show I sit down with Steven T. Collis. Steven is a law professor at the University of Texas-Austin. He’s a former research fellow at Stanford Law School and is the founding faculty director of the Bech-Loughlin First Amendment Center and is one of the nation’s leading thought leaders on the First Amendment and civil discourse. When there are issues and conflict around First Amendment rights, Steven is one of the first people called in by our nation. He recently wrote a book and the title itself reveals something profound to me. The title of the book is Habits of a Peacemaker: 10 Habits to Change Our Potentially Toxic Conversations into Healthy Dialogues. What does it say about how our culture is treating the First Amendment when one of it’s leading experts doesn’t write a book about what the First Amendment is or how to follow it, but instead speaks instead to the heart of human conflict around people’s conflict with each other? Steven takes his expertise and platform to address what he feels is more important than legalities and right, and goes to where he feels the most hope is. The heart. Habit One in his book is titled, Intellectual Humility and Reframing, and starts off with this statement, “Most of us need to recognize that, most of the time, we don’t know what we’re talking about.” It just gets better. I’m having all my kids listen to this so we can discuss it together. I’d like everyone to hear this before the next election, and I’d recommend giving Steven’s new book, Habits of a Peacemaker: 10 Habits to Change Our Potentially Toxic Conversations into Healthy Dialogues to everyone for Christmas. Actually, give it to them before Thanksgiving and reduce the family tensions by 95%. We argue and make things worse instead of making a difference. Let’s you and I be different. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Think about that statement - Your Future Success Equals The Size Of Your Hope. First, how do we define hope? The most common definition is: a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. Do you expect good things? The opposite of hope is despair. And I’d say, pessimism. Cynicism. And expectation of poor outcomes. It’s what I think of when you complain about something and someone responds with, “Right?!” As if to confirm negative outcomes. Where are you on the scale from complete despair to complete hope? So now imagine if someone offered you $1,000 for every percentage of hope you had inside you. And today you’re at, say 25%. A cool $25,000. You can take that all the way up to 89% and $89,000. But if you hit 90%, you get a million. How would you conduct your life and steer your mental trajectory? What you’re about to hear is a 13 minute clip from Zig Ziglar. One of the most hopeful people I’ve ever encountered. He was possibly the world’s greatest purveyor of hope. A few episodes ago you heard me have a conversation with Seth Godin, who cites Zig as one of his greatest mentors ever, and I felt it was a good time to give Zig some airtime. I believe the following 13 minutes with Zig is worth its weight in gold. Following Zig’s talk I’m joined by his son and longtime CEO of Ziglar, Tom Ziglar, to discuss hope further. I’m bringing back this recording from one of my first podcasts when I was host of The Ziglar Show, from 2016. It still remains one of the most downloaded episodes we ever had on The Ziglar Show. This is an absolute classic. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To wrap up this series on strategy, there is no need for a strategy and systems and improvement unless there is something that we want. In my conversation with Seth Godin talking through the messages in his new book, This Is Strategy: Make Better Plans, as he focused on marketing, he said there are 3 things people want. Which means, they are the same three things we want. I found it to be a needed reminder as I try to serve an audience, and…I am an audience, for the world. I’ll take you through them in a moment. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Two episodes ago I talked with renowned influencer, Seth Godin about the message in his new book, This Is Strategy: Make Better Plans. In it he tells a story that points out two options for changing our strategy. I've added a third that I feel he would agree with. Let me tell you a story Seth shared and we'll contemplate what options suit us best in the key areas of life we want to improve. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like you, I’ve worked hard to gain more knowledge. Create healthy habits. And I’ve seen results. From this, I really want to wake up, have a good day, and have everything in my life progress. I get healthier. I get wealthier. My relationships just get richer. I feel spiritually connected. My work is more fulfilling. I'm more peaceful and joyful. What I find however, is that things plateau. Maybe stagnate, or even start eroding. Changing systems in my life often created good change and progress. Until they didn’t. And as I hold on to them, I live out the definition of insanity; doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. W. Edwards Deming famously stated, “Every system is perfectly designed to get the result that it does.” Even if a system gave positive results, if it’s not now, then…it’s not. And “it” won’t change until we change. What does that look like? Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’ve grown up in the human potential movement and world of entrepreneurship. Having a goal, which I refer to as a destination, is paramount, as if we don’t know where we are going, we can never get there. However, to get there, you need a strategy. We generally think we have one, but we very often misinterpret what a real, effective strategy is. So I have for you…the expert. Seth Godin. Seth is known as one of the most pervasive voices in the business world, but just as many people follow him for personal insight. I know so many people who have read his daily blog for well over a decade. Seth has a discerning perspective on a meaningful life and a business that matters and succeeds.. Seth was one of my first guests when I hosted The Ziglar Show, as he cites Zig Ziglar as one of the most influential mentors of his life, again, personally and professionally. I recently sat down with Seth to talk about strategy and as usually, he popped a lot of myths about what is and isn’t strategy. He has culminated it in a new book called, This Is Strategy: Make Better Plans. As you’re about to hear, he asks as many great questions as he makes great statements. He asks, “If we don't have a strategy, what do we have?” He says, “A strategy isn’t a map—it’s a compass,” and I think you’ll want to hear how he clarifies this. I asked him where we most miss out on what an actual strategy is. And while the topic is headlined as strategy, Seth gives a lot of focus to systems that work. Again, in our personal lives and in our work. Again, the brand new book is This Is Strategy: Make Better Plans, and you’re going to hear some of the headline topics I wanted to learn more about. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To wrap up this focus on doing too much and how we run ourselves ragged, I’m looking at our relationships, from family to friends and in our work, with a focus on how we tend to be all things for all people and we do a disservice to ourselves and others. So I’m sharing a show I did with Laura Tremaine. Laura is host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. Laura worked in film and television production for many years at MTV, VH1, Fox, and Paramount Pictures before pursuing writing full time. She writes primarily to women about friendship, anxiety, motherhood, and marriage. But her book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, got my attention a couple years ago and I refer to it often. She focused on the niche for women but I resonated completely as a guy. In it she profiles different friend styles and the benefit of having friends for specific needs. It hit a chord for me as I had become concerned with our growing cultural isolation and tendency to look at one friend or family member or our spouse to fulfill all our relational needs. And conversely, how others will look to us to fulfill all their relational needs. And we can’t. And we shouldn’t. And we not only end up doing too much, but fulfilling roles in the relationships in our lives that drain us and aren’t even serving those we care about that well. I think you’ll get great value from this talk with Laura Tremaine as you address you may be doing too much in your life. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As I wrap up this series on doing too much, I’m looking at the issue of responsibility. I was a superhero of responsibility. I did it all. No limits. No excuses. People were awed at how much I took care of. Until…I couldn’t. It reminds me of the attribute of being able to hold your liquor. It was a sign of strength, how many shots or beers you can have and still function. Which mainly means you’ve built up a tolerance to a toxin. How is that something to be proud of? This is what I did with responsibility and I’m thinking many of you can relate. I’ve got a concept to walk you through that I think will give you freedom from and a desire to divest yourself of some responsibilities. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine meeting someone new and them asking, “So, who are you?” Instead of, “What do you do?” How would you even answer? Famed author Donald Miller writes about attending a therapy retreat and for the first three days nobody could share what they did vocationally. He said it was excruciating not to be able to tell people he was a successful author, and he realized how much his identity was wrapped around his roles. I never knew myself outside of what I did, until…far too recently. Here I’m going to unpack some thoughts around this concept. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After my conversation with renowned therapist Terri Cole in the last episode, I continue to consider my history of doing too much. That is the title of her new book,Too Much: A Guide To Breaking The Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. With my nine kids and business and pursuit of personal growth and experiences, many, many people, my kids included, often come to me apologizing for taking my time, as they know I’m “so busy.” And it’s because they have seen me for so long, being too busy. And what I now realize is that I am, primarily because of poor choices. I’ve wanted my cake and to eat it too. I prided myself on being able to do too much because I’m stronger and more capable. How arrogant is that? I’m not promoting shame, but just posing the question that today I view being super busy as a badge of poor choices more than being important or valuable. And I’m pointing fingers. At myself. And there are always exceptions with people victimized and very busy that I have great compassion for. I have some further thoughts on the issue. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Friends, I have discovered…I am a flag flying, High Functioning Codependant. Or rather, I have been living as one. And I’m more than ready to be done. HFC is a new term and a new look at codependency, the concept and term is coined by renowned psychotherapist, Terri Cole, who I have with me in this episode. I believe this discussion will hit many of you, as it did me, who have been living the life of overdoing it. Doing too much. With a good heart and even strong threads from religious backgrounds that ingrained in us the idea of valiantly striving to selflessly give and serve until there is nothing left of you. I bought into it as a kid and lived the life of a hero until I finally hit burnout and bitterness. I’ve been working to crawl out and then Terri comes along with a new message and book, Too Much: A Guide To Breaking The Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. We get deep and very personal here, and see evidence of HFC in so, so many people I know and respect. And I see it slowly eroding their peace. This is my story as well. Terri has a free toolkit on HFC you can get at terricole.com/hfc and she has some free gifts when you buy the book at hfcbook.com. And you can tune in now to her podcast at The Terri Cole Show. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Outer Banks Fans…my guest here is in the new season 4, just to name drop and grab your attention. One of my daughters is a fan and wanted me to watch it with her, which I have. So the fact I had someone on my podcast that is in Outer Banks, my Dad cred went way up. My guest is Brianna Brown Keen and I’m reposting this show I did with her because the topic of art in your work and manifesting keeps repeating itself in my life. Brianna has a new podcast called Manifesting Your Mission and this week I was her guest. While Brianna is a successful Hollywood Actress, for years now she’s been using her platform to help people define their goals and bring art and self expression into all they do. She realizes the power and dangers of self-expression and dealing with both rejection and acclaim. This is the secret sauce of Hollywood and she’s known the good, bad and the ugly. But I see the most successful people I know, in life overall, being people who have gotten clear on who and how they are and they bring their full self-expression into all facets of life. I find it beautiful and continue striving for more authenticity in my own life. I’d encourage you to search for Manifesting Your Mission in your chosen podcast platform. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the last episode I walked you through X# of chapters in Michael Pollan’s Food Rules, which is a fairly short, fast, and humorous map showcasing what I am most Functional Medicine experts feel is a brilliant showcase of how to eat. What to eat and what not to eat, told by a journalist who has done extensive research and testing and become one of most influential leaders in wellness. This is meant to be brief and profound and leave you with some memorable zingers to improve your diet and share with others. As part of this show, Pendulum is offering 20% off your first probiotic membership, you can get it by ordering it at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of my favorite nutritional guides of all time was not written by a doctor or nutritionist, but by journalist Michael Pollan. The book is called Food Rules and you can read it in about 30 minutes. It’s a distillation of much of Michael’s research into what foods actually give us life and sustain us. To me it’s so blunt you can’t miss it, it’s humorous and it’s profound. The tagline for the book is, “Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.” Some chapters are merely a headline, such as rule #2: Don’t eat anything your great-grandmother wouldn’t recognize as food. Rule 19: If it came from a plant, eat it; if it was made in a plant, don’t. Rule 20: It’s not food if it arrived through the window of your car. So as we’ve been on the topic of supplements and the previous episode where we discussed what we’re putting in our body that it doesn’t need and what are aren’t giving our body that it does need, I’m going to give you a run down of Michael Pollan’s Food Rules, as I find it so helpful for myself and others in giving easily digestible perspective to what foods to eat and now eat. As part of this show, Pendulum is offering 20% off your first probiotic membership, you can get it by ordering it at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the previous episode I talked with Dr Adam Perlman, former Mayo clinic and Stanford doc who is not Chief Medical Officer at Pendulum, where they provide the only akkermansia supplement. I referenced the story of Dr Mark Hyman being ill and finding he had no akkermansia bacteria in him. This is a foundation of Functional Medicine, that so much of our wellness or lack thereof is a result of what we are putting in our body that it doesn’t want, and what we aren’t putting in that it needs. And our propensity is to name and claim what everyone should and shouldn’t put in their body, and this is where we run into trouble. The nutritional supplement and functional medicine industries I’m a fan of is often a culprit here and I want to call out some key issues. As part of this show, Pendulum is offering 20% off your first probiotic membership, you can get it by ordering it at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I saw a video recently from Dr Mark Hyman, the most well known name in Functional Medicine. He was struggling with an aspect of his health, took a test and found he was missing a vital bacteria in his gut called akkermansia. He found no available supplement that provided it so he went to work doing the best he could with a mix of different foods. He was able to improve his levels. However the video I saw was with him and the founder of a biotech company, Pendulum, who is now providing the first akkermansia supplement. I right away asked my friend and doctor, Randy James about this, and he said yes, it’s an exciting new product. So, I’m now taking it. On this show then, I’ve brought on Pendulum’s Chief Medical Officer, Dr Adam Perlman. I’ve known of Dr Perlman before from his work as Director of Integrative Health and Wellbeing at Mayo Clinic, Florida, and as Associate Vice President for Health and Wellness for the Duke University Health System, overseeing Duke Integrative Medicine and the Duke Diet Center. I started off curious about Adam’s personal health journey that led him from working as a medical doctor in traditional medicine to a functional and integrative medicine focus. We hit on some key issues around wellness in America, then I quizzed him about some new supplements that actress Halle Berry is saying are her anchors for health, and doctors I follow and respect like Mark Hyman and Peter Attia are attesting to. Along with my focus on akkermansia, Pendulum also has a GLP-1 probiotic that is having significant results with abating hunger, instead of the new pharma options. We actually didn’t spend too much time on it but they are running ads for it on the show. As part of this show, Pendulum is offering 20% off your first probiotic membership, you can get it by ordering it at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The topic of regrets has come up in multiple conversations recently, so I’m reposting a show I often reference. “No regrets” is an American slogan along with “No Fear” and “Just Do It.” Yet more often than not we don’t, just do it. Nor should we. And having no fear is psychopathic. To me, having no regrets means you have no sorrow for ever hurting anyone or making a mistake. Even if you learned a lot and redeemed some things, I’ve felt regret has a purpose. Regret is simply recognizing sadness or disappointment about something we did that we wish we hadn’t, or we didn’t do and wish we had, and Dan Pink’s research showcases it’s a massive power if we’ll recognize your regrets and learn from them. Not as he says, reject them or wallow in them. This was my second time having Dan on the show. He’s a multi-best selling author, and when I say best selling, I don’t mean one day on an obscure Amazon book category like Amish Romance, but the actual New York Times bestseller list. You’ll likely recognize his books such as A Whole New Mind, Drive, To Sell Is Human, and When. His books have sold millions of copies, have been translated into forty-two languages. He also has a TED talk titled “The Puzzle of Motivation” which has somewhere north of 30 million views. Dan is an author like Brene’ Brown who leads with research, and my muse in this episode is his book, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward. I asked him back on the show the moment I saw the book title and you’re about to hear me dig in with him on how we can harness regret for our progress, not suffer or run from it. Find The Power of Regret anywhere you get books and connect with Dan at danpink.com Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In my talk a few episodes ago with Alexis Fernandez-Prieksa on changing our mindset we discussed the issue of our beliefs, which is a big topic for me. On one hand, we want things to believe in, as it helps guide and anchor our lives. But on the other hand, I feel beliefs can be incredibly dangerous when we aren’t fully clear and aware of why we have them, why, and if we hold on to them blindly. This isn’t a discourse on religion or theology, but a look at considering our mindset. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m continuing on with some key points I got from my talk with Alexis Fernandez-Prieksa, author of the new audio book, How To Chase Change: 30 Days to Master Your Mindset, two episodes ago. A point I pulled out and we dug into was the idea of our limitations. We often hear we’re unlimited, we can do and be anything! I disagree, and so does Alexis who gives great research on how our limitations are a benefit. In her book she has a section on limitations and fears and says, “It’s important to know your limitations.” She has a segment titled, “Work with what you’ve got so you’ve got more to work with.” I’ll break it down for you. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the last episode I talked with neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez-Prieksa, author of the new audio book, How To Chase Change: 30 Days to Master Your Mindset. We hit on the concept made popular by Malcolm Gladwell in his book, Outliers, of how the world’s masters generally put in 10,000 hours. Now, I really appreciate Malcolm and the concept. And, Alexis brought up a point I not only agree with, but I’ve experienced. Simply putting in the hours does not a master make. It’s the kind of hours that matter, and if you put in the right ones you can achieve some mastery far quicker than 10,000 hours. I have a couple personal stories and let’s take a look at Hollywood actors to help make the point. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A 30-Day Guide To Changing Your Mindset. In my search for relevant messages on human potential, I have the top publishers send me their lists of new books. In a list from Simon & Schuster I saw, How To Chase Change: 30 Days to Master Your Mindset, and the title alone was worth a look. What I found intrigued me, starting with the author’s story. If you see Alexis Fernandez-Prieksa on social media, to me she looks more like an actress or social media starlet than a mindset expert. And that’s part of what hooked me. Her personal story of drive I find really interesting. She actually intended to be an actress. But kept coming back to neuroscience and how the brain works, and ultimately got her Masters in neuroanatomy. I think you’ll really enjoy the story at the beginning of our talk. But in this new audio book of her’s, How To Chase Change, she walks us through 30 concepts, and I found some I’d pondered and never heard anyone give focus to. Such as Malcolm Gladwell’s 10,000 hours concept. Alexis points out that just putting the time into something doesn’t guarantee mastery. Absolutely. And the idea of our limitations. We often hear we’re unlimited, we can do and be anything! I disagree, and so does Alexis who gives great research on how our limitations are a benefit. We got into talking about the concept of having an alter ego, which I’d read about but hadn’t really dug into. This is one of those conversations where I wasn’t quite sure what I’d get, and what I got was some great insight into how to change and upgrade our mind and some big paradigm shifts. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As I wrap up our current discussion on purpose, calling, and destiny, I want to discuss a perspective I see derailing many people. The idea that you need to forge on alone. And be a leader calling others to you. In our social media culture it can feel like everyone is chasing the spotlight. Everyone wants to be, or feels they need to be, the superstar, in order to succeed. To have a platform and followers and an audience. Write a book, star in social media, start a podcast, and get enough attention create an audience and pay your bills. But one, not everyone can be in the spotlight, and two, does being on stage really give you the best odds for success and fulfillment? On this topic I’m bringing back a conversation I had with Tim Schurrer author of, The Secret Society of Success: Stop Chasing The Spotlight And Learn To Enjoy Your Work [And Life] Again. He spent a decade working as COO with Donald Miller and launching Storybrand and then Business Made Simple, and while Don had the spotlight, Tim ran the business and built and led the team that made it all possible. Before that Tim worked at TOMS as well as Apple Inc. He is the host of the Build a Winning Team podcast, where he offers listeners actionable advice as he interviews some of the top leaders in business. We talk about the far greater opportunity for success and fulfillment, outside the spotlight and off the stage. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I feel it can be very daunting to feel that finding your destiny is this epic, solo quest. In some ways I’d say much of the discovery is, as the answer is ultimately somewhere within you, not “out there” somewhere. But the living it out in your day to day world does not need to be a solo venture. You may not to be the leader of the quest of your life. It may be part of a group or organization you get to be a part of. I continue this week’s discussion on purpose, calling, interests and destiny with some stories and then some fun resources to recommend; a few books and some entertaining and thought provoking movies. And I’ll end by sharing an adventure I embark on in a couple days as I continue to evolve in my own destiny. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In looking at our interests, another way of considering our purpose and calling, a key resource is connecting with other people. So we look at conferences, seminars and many types of networking events. Which are geared towards…extroverts. That’s who often hosts them and I find that’s who they tend to benefit most. Which leaves us introverts out in the wind. So what do you do? I feel it’s best to suck it up and you’ll need to make some social efforts, but you can do some things to lessen the challenge and increase your odds. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices