The Hook Up

We deep dive into the world of tradwives with author, content creator and kinky historian Esme Louise James to find out whether this trend is a dangerous fantasy that no one can live up to.

You told us you're feeling confused, angry, scared and worried about the current gender violence crisis, so how do you even date right now?We chat to clinical psychologist and men's mental health expert Dr Zac Seidler about the important conversations we need to be having and how to have them.Support numbers:1800 RESPECT: 1800 737 732LIFELINE: 13 11 14

Struggling to know what to say on a first date? Whether you’re socially anxious and need some ice breakers, or you want to suss if this person is compatible and on the same page.We’ve put together the ultimate list of your favourite first date questions.

If you feel extreme sadness, anxiety, irritability, breast tenderness and bloating before you get your period, you might have Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD).PMDD is a severe form of PMS and it can completely impact your work and relationships. In this episode Dr Theresa Larkin explains PMDD and what to do if you think you might have it.

Taking a break from dating, sex and relationships? TikTok's calling it 'boy/girl sober' and it's become a huge trend to delete the apps, reset and go celibate.We find out why you're going sober and some of the benefits.

If you or your partner can only cum using sex toys and you're worried about it, well you shouldn't be.Sexologist Lauren French is here to tell you why, and what to do about it.

Did you ever experiment when you were first learning to get off? Maybe you used an electric toothbrush, humped a pillow or stuck your dick into an orange.There's a lot of shame around masturbation, so in this ep we're here to normalise your creative nut techniques.

The impact of cheating can last for years, stopping you from trusting people even if they give you no reason to doubt them.

Do you think if someone's cheated, they'll cheat again? Or can people change?We hash it out with your hot takes.

It’s hard to know when a relationship has run it’s course - so when there’s nothing really wrong or really right, how can you trust your gut on what to do?

How many years should you be in a relationship before knowing it’s going to be long term or for life? We get your hot takes on whether it's time wasted if you date without knowing what your future holds - or if time isn’t a good measurement at all.

We catch up with comedian Blake Pavey to chat about how his girlfriend soft launched him, the awkward experience of getting his sperm checked and his advice to anyone thinking of dating a comedian (just don’t).

When you start seeing someone, do you suss who they’re following on their socials? We debate if lists full of insta baddies is a red flag, or if that's your insecurity talking.

Are you and your partner joined at hip, to the point where you can’t stand to be apart? Maybe you’re in the thick in the honeymoon stage or maybe you’re in a co-dependent relationship.

There's always a friend who wants to bring their partner to everything, but what are the rules around when it's ok and when it's crossing the line?

‘Aftercare’ has become a bit of a buzzword the past few years, but sexologist Lauren French is here to tell you why practising post-sex aftercare is just as important as foreplay.

Is break up sex healing or harmful? Will you get closure or just make it harder to move on?We hear your hot takes and find out why it was the hottest sex of your life.

If you tear, break or snap your penile frenulum (aka the banjo string) it can be a big painful bloody mess, so here’s everything you need to know with triple j’s Dave Woodhead and sex coach Cam Fraser. (And yes we will be chatting about blood and pain and breaking your penis in this ep so if you get queasy you’ve been warned).

Term 2 has begun for the horny SLTS of Heartbreak High, so we catch up with our favourite couple from the show - Ca$h and Darren - aka Will McDonald and James Majoos.

If your roomie’s partner is over every night, eating your food, hogging the shower and never contributing financially or to the general house ~vibes~, you might need to set some boundaries. You tell us your rules to keep the peace, plus we hear your horror stories from when a partner overstays their welcome.

Feel like your sex life is kinda meh? Sex and relationship professor Dr Tara is here to help!With 2 million followers, you’ve probably seen her in your TikTok feed, with her snappy sex tips. In this ep, she jumps on with Dee to give advice on how to build your sexual confidence.

If you don’t know each other’s passcodes does that mean there’s trust issues?We hear your hot takes about privacy and going through your partner’s phone.

Dee catches up with neuroscientist and host of the Do You Fucking Mind podcast Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa to get all the expert advice on how to heal after a breakup and build your self-love and confidence up again.

We all know RuPaul’s classic line ‘if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?’ – but how true is it really? Or is self-love something that can grow through being in a relationship and loving someone else?

You told us that you cry, laugh, get the zoomies, sneeze and get blocked ears, or itchy noses when you orgasm. So in this ep we chat to sexologist Lauren French and Dr Theresa Larkin about why it might be happening to you.

You’ve heard of post nut clarity, but what about post nut reactions?We hear your weird and wonderful reactions post orgasm, from crying and laughing, to blocked ears, hyperactivity, sleepiness and cravings.

A class action lawsuit has been filed in the US which claims dating apps are created to make people addicted and keep using them. Dee chats to Clinical Psych and researcher from UTS Anastasia Hronis about how dating apps can keep us hooked.

If someone has a crush on their friend, is the friendship actually platonic? Or does it completely change the dynamic? In this ep, we debate attraction, crushes, feelings in friendships and when it blurs the line.

We catch up with the world’s biggest porn stars Angela White and she answers your questions about the adult industry, how to give good head, feminism in porn and whether bigger is better.

In our last ep we met some findoms, and a paypig, but what actually makes someone get off on giving money and gifts for no sexual favours in return? Dee chats to psychologist Dr Sarah Ashton about why someone might be into financial domination.

A paypig is someone who gets off on giving you gifts, cash, paying your bills - but they don’t want any physical sexual favours in return. Sounds too good to be true right? We find out how findomming works and what’s in it for the pigs.

We live, laugh, love comedian, presenter, and writer Louis Hanson.As your 2024 Mardi Gras host - he’s got your pride survival guide for your gay christmas.

You told us about how you've self sabotaged your way out of healthy, secure relationships with green flags - but how can you stop this pattern from ruining a good thing?Psychologist and author Chris Cheers joins Dee to chat about why we get addicted to red flags and how you can rewire your brain.

If you've been in a toxic relationship or you only date red flags, do you find it hard when someone healthy, secure and safe comes along? You tell us your experience of what it's like dating from problematic to perfect, from feeling boredom, picking fights to self sabotage.

She’s the founder and CEO of Cheek Media, author of Bite Back, and podcast host of Big Small Talk - Hannah Ferguson put the ultimate group date to the test, and says it was the best date she’s ever been on.So here’s how she pulled it off and why she thinks group dates are going to make dating apps fun again.

If you’re living with your parents (maybe you’re studying, or for cultural reasons, or just coz cost of living is fkd) you might be struggling to have any kind of sex life. We hear your horror stories of getting caught, getting creative and getting off.

We yappa yappered about timing, but now it’s time to hear from an actual expert.Dee chats to couples therapist Megan Kozak about how much timing actually matters in relationships, and how to deal if you’re going through a break up because of it.

Have you ever met someone who ticks all the boxes, you have great chemistry, you could honestly see a future with them… but the timing isn’t right? Like maybe they’re about to move overseas for work/study, maybe they’re not over their ex - or sometimes it’s just a case of “I need time to work on myself”. So how much does timing really matter? - and is it something you can overcome if you actually wanna be with someone.

If you wanna start using your backdoor in the bedroom but don't know where to start, we got chu. Sex coach Georgia Grace and founder of sexual wellness brand NORMAL Lucy Wark chat to us about all the basics of butt play.

83% of you reckon we live in a low effort dating culture. Where people never put in effort and everyone just bails or ghosts each other. So are Australians just lazy or have dating apps made everyone burnt out?Also is it actually a bad thing? Should you expect so much effort at the start of getting to know someone? Dee and Pip hear your hot takes and chat it out.

It’s finally happened, The Imperfects are on The Hook Up <3 If you don’t know - The Imperfects are a hugely popular podcast where some of the most well-known guests jump on to share their insecurities and all the ways they feel imperfect. Comedian Ryan Shelton and Josh Van Cuylenburg chat to Dee and Pip about the power of vulnerability and what they’ve learnt from hearing so many people’s incredible stories.

She’s one of our favourite brains in the whole wide world - historian, writer and TikTokker Esme Louise James is back with some more kinky history for you.

We chat to author and cartoonist Lily O’Farrell – you might know her as Vulga Drawings on Instagram, and she’s just released a podcast about how internet culture is shaping dating, sex, pleasure and the patriarchy.

Dylan Buckley is an ex AFL player now turned podcaster - who you’d probs know from Dyl & Friends - a podcast where (mainly AFL players) are open, vulnerable and share their stories. Dee chat’s to him about masculinity, social pressure, his AFL career, vulnerability, being an emotional guy, embracing your insecurities, and the importance of male role models.

Did you know if you’re on the disability support pension it might stop you from taking your relationship to the next level? Award winning writer, stand up comedian and disability advocate Madeleine Stewart joins Pip to chat about what’s going on.

Every Sunday on our insta @triplejthehookup we get your raunchiest secrets, honestly they leave us gooped, gagged and gazumped. In this special ep - you’ll hear some of the most cooked Sunday Secrets from 2023, from a missing butt plug, a sneaky rideshare hook up, and getting caught mid dildo.

It’s been a hell of a year. From Jonah Hill's therapy speak, the orchestra orgasm, and Sam Levinson's controversial show The Idol and Anna Paul's break up that rocked world – we take wrap 2023's biggest moments in love, dating, sex and relationships.

A lot of guys still associate vulnerability with weakness. But you told us that it’s messing with your mental health and your relationships - as you suffer in silence.

Dee chat's to clinical psychologist and men's mental health expert Dr Zac Seidler about the spotlight on masculinity at the moment, why so many young guys are obsessed with Andrew Tate and the importance of male friendships for men's mental health.

A lot of guys have told us they’re feeling super confused atm about how to act and what it means to be ‘a man’.